JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023


Women are not GOOD LISTENERS


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

209.04189

Word Count

1,848

Sentence Count

93

Hate Speech Sentences

20


Summary

In this episode, we discuss whether or not women are better leaders than men when it comes to leadership and why this is a good or bad thing. We also talk about the benefits of having a female-led society and why women should be given the same opportunities as men.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I see your logic, but where it's flawed is that,
00:00:03.480 and this is from, you can read,
00:00:05.040 you know, have you heard the book Sapiens by Yovano Harari?
00:00:07.440 This is out of Sapiens.
00:00:08.480 So in that book, he talks about why female-led societies
00:00:13.420 didn't do as well as they should have done
00:00:15.720 if your examples were correct.
00:00:17.760 And he said that when it comes to organising groups,
00:00:21.580 men are better when it comes to large scale,
00:00:23.540 whilst women are better when it comes to small.
00:00:25.020 So small social factions, where it's like mothers and the children,
00:00:30.000 when it's large scale, you need to be able to unite people.
00:00:36.320 And men are much better at providing that myth than women are.
00:00:38.500 So by that same logic, men are still better at leadership
00:00:42.380 than women will, because women are better in small scales,
00:00:44.600 not large scales.
00:00:45.100 I understand what you're saying.
00:00:46.300 One second, let me move this down.
00:00:48.580 But I feel like what you're saying applies to all genders.
00:00:52.480 So when you're with a large group of people,
00:00:55.460 you need a common myth.
00:00:56.880 And I don't think that's like,
00:00:58.000 I don't think that's dependent on gender.
00:01:00.420 And like Pearl said before,
00:01:01.620 History tells us it is, though.
00:01:02.960 Because again,
00:01:04.080 what that book depicts is that
00:01:05.660 what the best, the most optimal function in society
00:01:08.160 is what lives the tell-to-tale.
00:01:09.560 So if women were just as good at providing myth,
00:01:12.280 then there would be massive female-led societies
00:01:14.040 that had their own, let's just say,
00:01:15.920 had their own continent
00:01:16.720 that would be doing their thing,
00:01:17.880 but they don't.
00:01:18.700 And they had the opportunity to do so.
00:01:20.440 I'm quoting the same book as you.
00:01:22.360 I'm quoting the same example,
00:01:24.060 a similar example from this book.
00:01:25.440 And it says there's a cognitive dissonance
00:01:27.300 where women have the skills to lead,
00:01:30.560 but they're just not put in that leadership role.
00:01:33.100 And men have the typical still.
00:01:34.940 But then wouldn't you say they're not good at it?
00:01:37.600 I didn't say they weren't good at it.
00:01:38.900 I'm just saying that women also have the quality.
00:01:41.000 No, but I'm saying like,
00:01:42.960 okay,
00:01:44.160 I could say,
00:01:45.440 oh, I'm really good at volleyball.
00:01:47.200 But if I never played
00:01:48.440 and never did it well,
00:01:50.000 then like,
00:01:50.420 okay,
00:01:50.820 I could say redheads are better at volleyball.
00:01:53.800 But then if redheads never play volleyball
00:01:55.920 and never do it well,
00:01:57.300 you can't say redheads are better at volleyball.
00:01:59.100 So saying like women are better leaders,
00:02:00.680 but if they don't.
00:02:01.640 If you use the example,
00:02:03.500 okay,
00:02:04.400 I'm going to be good at volleyball,
00:02:07.540 but you've never played.
00:02:08.760 And I say,
00:02:09.160 but Pearl's a good athlete.
00:02:10.440 She'd probably be good at volleyball.
00:02:11.820 That's probably what I'm trying to say
00:02:13.460 is that women have the capacity
00:02:15.820 to do these things
00:02:16.720 because they have these skills
00:02:18.780 from other places.
00:02:20.180 So they have people skills.
00:02:21.340 They have listening skills.
00:02:22.460 They can be quite organized.
00:02:23.660 They have a lot of stamina for certain things.
00:02:24.760 I don't know
00:02:25.100 because I think the best leaders are better.
00:02:26.860 They're not really the best listeners.
00:02:28.460 They tell you what to do.
00:02:30.240 I think the best leader
00:02:31.440 is someone that can,
00:02:32.860 is that respected by other people
00:02:34.320 but can also understand
00:02:35.440 what needs to be done now.
00:02:36.820 They can prioritize.
00:02:37.780 This is a super chat.
00:02:38.780 It says,
00:02:39.020 the best leaders are those
00:02:40.180 who are not only good with people,
00:02:42.560 but they must be able
00:02:44.360 to have an arbitrary
00:02:46.840 or an impartial view
00:02:48.060 on any given topic in conflict
00:02:49.800 which best facilitates
00:02:51.400 the larger good.
00:02:52.280 Men are more logical
00:02:53.120 and empirical versus women.
00:02:55.640 So it's just like,
00:02:56.740 yeah.
00:02:56.940 I feel like women can prioritize
00:02:58.220 as well.
00:03:00.000 And I feel like that's a key.
00:03:01.120 Nah.
00:03:01.280 You keep feeling it.
00:03:02.060 Nah.
00:03:02.280 You keep feeling it.
00:03:03.320 I feel like,
00:03:03.900 I feel like,
00:03:04.360 I feel like,
00:03:04.800 it's all feelings.
00:03:05.220 Because it's a subjective opinion.
00:03:07.160 It's my opinion.
00:03:07.720 Well, I know,
00:03:08.200 but I just think like every,
00:03:09.700 I've always preferred like male bosses
00:03:11.400 because we get emotional.
00:03:12.540 We get in our feelings with stuff.
00:03:14.040 You know,
00:03:14.200 yeah,
00:03:14.540 women and women,
00:03:15.580 women.
00:03:16.100 Okay,
00:03:16.380 that is true.
00:03:17.160 That is true.
00:03:17.900 I don't really get on
00:03:18.700 with the women bosses.
00:03:20.020 But you know what?
00:03:20.980 When things are hard,
00:03:25.040 you want a man beside you
00:03:27.180 that can make
00:03:27.900 all the hard decisions.
00:03:29.320 Obviously,
00:03:29.820 women can as well.
00:03:31.040 Both,
00:03:31.440 both can do whatever.
00:03:32.820 It just depends on you.
00:03:33.900 But,
00:03:34.420 large scale.
00:03:35.820 Yeah.
00:03:36.400 I feel like what you're saying
00:03:37.240 is like really correlational.
00:03:38.320 But it's been studies to prove it.
00:03:40.940 They didn't do the Scandinavian study
00:03:42.560 on what women do
00:03:43.880 when given more opportunity
00:03:45.360 to pick what they want.
00:03:46.760 And it turns out that
00:03:47.360 when women are given opportunity
00:03:48.460 to become...
00:03:48.860 They don't really pick stamps.
00:03:49.740 I've seen those studies.
00:03:50.860 I'm just saying that women
00:03:51.700 have the capacity to...
00:03:52.320 They also did a TV show
00:03:55.680 where they put like 15 men
00:03:57.160 and 15 women
00:03:57.980 on like two islands
00:03:59.140 and they had to like figure out
00:04:00.180 how to survive.
00:04:01.460 And like by the first day,
00:04:02.560 like the men had figured out
00:04:03.440 how to get water,
00:04:04.140 how to hunt for food.
00:04:04.920 They'd given everybody roles
00:04:05.980 and like the women
00:04:06.840 almost died three times
00:04:08.060 and the producers
00:04:08.680 had to come in and help them.
00:04:11.220 The women are probably
00:04:12.140 just talking about
00:04:12.800 what they're going to do.
00:04:13.680 Yeah.
00:04:14.040 The men are probably just like,
00:04:15.440 right, I'm going to do this.
00:04:16.440 Stacey keeps telling me
00:04:17.580 what to do, that bitch.
00:04:19.720 No, but it shows
00:04:20.560 that the more primitive
00:04:21.740 the society,
00:04:22.820 the more gender roles
00:04:23.740 that they are.
00:04:24.860 It's easily assigned.
00:04:25.860 So the more primitive
00:04:26.420 the society,
00:04:27.140 men do this
00:04:27.720 and women do that.
00:04:28.560 It's plain and simple.
00:04:29.140 But like we're talking
00:04:29.780 about society like
00:04:30.760 you've read the book Sapiens
00:04:32.040 after the agriculture revolution.
00:04:34.120 So let's talk like
00:04:34.800 if we were hunter-gatherers
00:04:36.520 right now,
00:04:37.200 do you really think
00:04:37.940 we'd be so gender?
00:04:39.760 100%.
00:04:40.320 You really think so?
00:04:41.300 We'd go back to that
00:04:41.820 because we'd go for
00:04:42.580 what's most optimal
00:04:43.300 for survival.
00:04:44.080 And it's not for you
00:04:44.660 to go out and hunt,
00:04:45.300 it's me.
00:04:45.840 No, but like
00:04:46.360 wouldn't it be optimal
00:04:47.120 that we're both
00:04:47.760 huntering and gathering?
00:04:49.020 It's most optimal
00:04:49.740 that you're at home
00:04:50.840 pregnant with the babies
00:04:52.080 preparing the new generation
00:04:53.860 whilst I'm out there
00:04:55.360 being expendable
00:04:56.020 bringing home the bacon.
00:04:57.340 Yeah, like listen,
00:04:58.220 when I'm going to bed
00:05:00.160 my man has to go on
00:05:01.880 I would naturally expect him
00:05:03.100 to sleep on the side
00:05:03.920 of the door
00:05:04.420 and me closest to the room.
00:05:05.960 That doesn't mean
00:05:06.560 something's going to happen
00:05:07.580 or even just things like
00:05:09.300 putting me to the side
00:05:11.180 of the pavement
00:05:11.700 and him walking
00:05:13.200 on the side of the road.
00:05:14.980 It's not like
00:05:15.580 men are not important
00:05:17.980 but I don't know
00:05:18.920 as a gentleman
00:05:19.720 It's the first line
00:05:21.360 of protection.
00:05:22.120 Yeah, I would just expect
00:05:23.160 that anyway naturally
00:05:24.000 things like that
00:05:24.820 just seem appealing to me
00:05:26.100 because it's just like
00:05:26.700 if somebody breaks in
00:05:29.220 at 3am
00:05:30.040 who would naturally go
00:05:31.460 and who would
00:05:32.040 naturally cower away?
00:05:33.540 Not that it's a bad thing.
00:05:34.720 I'm going to hide in the bed
00:05:35.520 and expect a woman
00:05:36.280 to come and say
00:05:37.940 babes go get that.
00:05:38.960 But the thing is
00:05:39.580 my point is
00:05:40.480 usually
00:05:40.800 usually in a time of crisis
00:05:43.420 that's when
00:05:44.120 our natural selves
00:05:45.360 come out
00:05:45.740 because when it's
00:05:46.580 everything stable
00:05:47.180 and calm
00:05:47.580 or whatever
00:05:47.880 we can have the privilege
00:05:49.160 of saying hypothetically
00:05:50.080 I would do this
00:05:50.800 or this or this
00:05:51.200 or this.
00:05:51.480 I could take on a man
00:05:52.300 sure
00:05:52.600 and when it actually happens
00:05:53.920 but Ukraine's a perfect example
00:05:55.380 Ukraine is a perfect
00:05:56.380 we live in the modern age
00:05:57.660 people saw Ukraine
00:05:58.760 and if you saw TikTok
00:05:59.540 when that was going off
00:06:00.480 every single feminist
00:06:02.060 was like
00:06:02.500 listen
00:06:02.960 I'm in the kitchen
00:06:04.060 I do not want to go to war
00:06:05.640 literally
00:06:06.980 No, I agree with you
00:06:09.220 I would never want to
00:06:10.480 actually engage in a fight
00:06:11.860 on purpose
00:06:12.360 even if I was trained
00:06:14.060 to the top level
00:06:15.160 or martial arts
00:06:16.160 because I do train martial arts
00:06:17.200 I still wouldn't want
00:06:18.560 to pick a fight
00:06:19.240 I would still always go
00:06:20.600 because why would I choose
00:06:22.020 to put myself in danger
00:06:23.000 well that's like a martial art
00:06:24.580 like principle
00:06:25.200 wouldn't it
00:06:25.680 like to not deliberately
00:06:27.240 go out
00:06:27.800 exactly
00:06:28.340 but the average woman
00:06:29.580 just minding your own business
00:06:30.960 I wish I could find this video
00:06:32.360 but it was a video
00:06:33.020 that they showed
00:06:34.060 they just went around
00:06:35.360 recording random people
00:06:36.320 and they asked the men
00:06:37.800 they asked the women first
00:06:39.600 if you had to pick
00:06:40.620 between you
00:06:41.620 or your husband to die
00:06:42.460 who would you pick
00:06:43.300 and all the women said him
00:06:45.160 and then they asked all the men
00:06:46.660 and all the men said me
00:06:47.920 is this husband and wife?
00:06:50.300 the husband and wife
00:06:51.020 yeah
00:06:51.300 ouch
00:06:52.000 so that's just the perfect example
00:06:53.880 of society
00:06:54.380 and like how women think
00:06:55.620 because it was their
00:06:56.600 random selection
00:06:57.360 not everyone though
00:06:59.180 I mean
00:06:59.600 I don't think everyone
00:07:00.240 there's some women
00:07:00.800 that would be like
00:07:01.220 no like take me
00:07:02.520 not you
00:07:03.440 my mum would say
00:07:04.520 that my mum would say
00:07:05.520 rather her than me
00:07:06.520 yeah but you're her child
00:07:07.740 I've got any mother
00:07:08.760 but most women are saying
00:07:10.180 take the guy
00:07:11.580 I mean it's the same thing
00:07:13.260 in the Titanic
00:07:13.940 it was women and children
00:07:15.140 but I think that's like
00:07:16.480 a premise that they used
00:07:17.420 to have in the past
00:07:18.200 that they wanted to say
00:07:19.160 I think that's natural
00:07:20.960 like I think
00:07:21.660 I think men feel
00:07:23.080 the innate instinct
00:07:24.380 to protect women
00:07:25.280 the same way women
00:07:26.080 have the innate instinct
00:07:27.160 to protect children
00:07:28.180 when
00:07:28.780 why is there violence
00:07:29.860 towards women
00:07:30.560 what?
00:07:31.260 if they have an innate instinct
00:07:32.480 to protect them
00:07:32.800 it's actually
00:07:33.520 one-sided domestic abuse
00:07:36.060 is more common
00:07:36.940 for the woman
00:07:37.460 to be hitting the man
00:07:38.360 than the man
00:07:38.800 to be hitting the woman
00:07:39.540 most domestic abuse situations
00:07:41.240 they're hitting each other
00:07:42.160 so you can't
00:07:42.920 yeah like
00:07:43.240 because a lot of girls do that
00:07:44.240 they'll say
00:07:44.580 I was abused
00:07:45.240 I was hit
00:07:45.740 I was whatever
00:07:46.260 but they
00:07:47.080 wait hold on
00:07:47.720 let me finish
00:07:48.420 but they'll forget about
00:07:49.260 the part where they're
00:07:50.060 like they're hitting back
00:07:51.200 and so
00:07:52.080 like
00:07:52.720 like there is
00:07:53.720 violence against women
00:07:54.840 but it's not
00:07:55.500 it's not the norm
00:07:56.360 but doesn't that go against
00:07:58.540 like the intrinsic
00:07:59.300 thing to protect women
00:08:00.880 wouldn't that
00:08:01.640 I don't know
00:08:02.640 go against the laws
00:08:03.500 of evolution
00:08:04.060 for them to want to do that
00:08:05.240 I would say yeah
00:08:06.960 it probably does
00:08:07.840 but that's why
00:08:09.200 it's not normal
00:08:09.980 even when
00:08:11.920 even when
00:08:13.240 you know
00:08:13.600 from
00:08:14.320 holy books
00:08:16.440 they say
00:08:17.200 you know
00:08:17.560 a woman was made
00:08:18.560 from Adam's
00:08:19.800 Eve was made
00:08:20.340 from Adam's rib
00:08:21.540 that's literally
00:08:22.240 it's not literal
00:08:23.300 it literally means
00:08:24.200 a man needs to keep
00:08:26.140 a woman
00:08:26.600 under his arm
00:08:27.800 for protection
00:08:28.460 and close to his heart
00:08:29.860 like it's not literal
00:08:31.320 so this is from
00:08:32.920 way back
00:08:33.660 as many of you know
00:08:35.200 I was just banned
00:08:36.440 on TikTok
00:08:37.340 and we are demonetized
00:08:39.060 on a daily basis
00:08:40.280 on this platform
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