JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023


You Won't Believe What He Did


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12 minutes

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2,742

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00:00:00.000 All right, men, if you want to say, how do I, one, are any of you with a good woman?
00:00:06.060 Like, anyone married? Anyone married?
00:00:08.120 We're not married yet.
00:00:08.940 No, no, no married. Okay, I just wanted to get, okay.
00:00:11.660 How do you find a good woman?
00:00:13.140 How do I find one?
00:00:14.240 Yeah, identify one.
00:00:16.280 I think a good woman, I can't tell a good woman straight away.
00:00:21.520 It has to be along the course of time.
00:00:23.620 She needs to be how I want, when I want, when I need her to be.
00:00:28.120 And I won't get that from the first look basis, you know what I mean?
00:00:32.580 So I think a first, a good woman to me is a woman that has good family values,
00:00:40.080 that know how to be around her family, that has a good relationship with her dad,
00:00:45.480 submissive, caring, nurturing, healthy.
00:00:58.120 That's about it.
00:01:00.340 All right, caring.
00:01:01.520 That's about it for me.
00:01:02.900 And how do you know a good one?
00:01:04.460 So right now, this is what you have to do.
00:01:06.240 You have to see her for three months.
00:01:08.040 Yeah.
00:01:08.380 Ask her to make you a coffee.
00:01:10.080 No, I'm free.
00:01:11.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, go for it.
00:01:11.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:11.980 That three month thing.
00:01:13.140 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:13.680 Three months.
00:01:14.460 Okay.
00:01:14.940 This is for the woman you pick to marry, so like, okay.
00:01:19.620 And you can make edits, so it's okay.
00:01:22.300 Take on a coffee date for a first date, okay?
00:01:26.100 Date as many women as possible to tell the difference.
00:01:29.900 Make sure she's not on birth control.
00:01:33.000 And figure out what her relationship's like with her family and her dad.
00:01:37.080 What do you agree with, disagree with, and what would you like to add?
00:01:39.740 Um, there's loads I need to add to that, man.
00:01:47.760 It's not that simple.
00:01:49.960 No, I'm free, man.
00:01:51.220 Start again.
00:01:52.060 Yeah, start that again.
00:01:52.960 Tell me that.
00:01:53.580 We can keep going.
00:01:56.120 So you got to see her for three months.
00:01:58.560 So what are you guys thinking?
00:01:59.080 For three months?
00:01:59.660 Yeah, yeah.
00:02:00.220 Cool, cool.
00:02:00.860 I think three months.
00:02:01.440 That's enough.
00:02:02.320 You can marry a girl three months?
00:02:03.700 No.
00:02:04.020 No, you can't.
00:02:04.980 Oh, okay.
00:02:05.360 Three months.
00:02:06.700 But you know why you come here?
00:02:08.080 A lot of women are chameleons.
00:02:09.260 No, 100%.
00:02:10.160 Yeah, trust me they can shapeshift.
00:02:13.700 Have you ever dated a girl for three months and she changes completely?
00:02:16.780 Yes, yes.
00:02:18.060 You know when the biggest change of a woman happens?
00:02:21.460 What?
00:02:21.760 When she has a baby.
00:02:22.880 For me, that's when I see the biggest change in a woman.
00:02:25.760 So you won't even really know your woman until she has a child properly.
00:02:28.960 That's what I believe.
00:02:29.580 So in order to find a good woman, you have to get her pregnant?
00:02:32.280 No, you don't have to, but I'm saying.
00:02:33.740 Don't worry about that.
00:02:36.480 No, you don't have to, because there's certain things you'll see.
00:02:38.500 But I'm saying, from my experience, I have three kids in it.
00:02:41.800 So I saw the biggest change when the woman had a child.
00:02:45.440 Okay.
00:02:46.220 So how long should you see her before you marry her, knock her up, whatever?
00:02:50.620 I don't know about marry or knock her up.
00:02:52.200 Three months is a good time to determine whether she's being genuine, if she's wearing a mask or not.
00:02:56.320 So you got to see her for three months in order to date her?
00:02:59.420 Like, what's the...
00:03:00.120 I mean, I don't think, as he said, you can't really determine anyone as the true person, as they're being genuine, as they say they are, for like the first three months, January.
00:03:08.760 If you've lived with someone, that's different.
00:03:11.160 If you move in with someone, you can see the truth a lot quicker.
00:03:13.300 Actually, can I, can I, I'm sorry.
00:03:15.800 I'm a little ADD sometimes.
00:03:17.100 No, go on.
00:03:17.460 When, when do you guys expect to sleep with her?
00:03:21.020 You know what?
00:03:22.120 That's subjective.
00:03:23.360 You see that question there, yeah?
00:03:24.820 It is very subjective, yeah?
00:03:27.140 In general.
00:03:28.020 Are you saying expect to?
00:03:28.980 Yeah, expectation is a big word.
00:03:30.300 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:31.100 I don't have an expectation.
00:03:32.120 They expect straight away.
00:03:33.400 You know what it is?
00:03:34.720 Fourth date.
00:03:35.200 Fourth date.
00:03:35.400 I'll be honest, yeah?
00:03:36.520 I don't think there's too much of, it's not a problem if you sleep with a woman the first night or you sleep with a woman two months down the line.
00:03:43.120 Because man can move different.
00:03:44.140 Man can wait, like a woman.
00:03:45.740 With her as soon as you can.
00:03:47.680 Yeah, but, you know what it is?
00:03:49.340 Because you can, you can sleep with a woman straight away and have a great connection and a great relationship with her.
00:03:54.140 Or you can, a woman can hold out for six months and whatever.
00:03:57.580 And there's man out here that will sit there for six months.
00:03:59.540 How myriad.
00:04:00.080 Clark and bust out.
00:04:01.020 Did you get on that?
00:04:01.840 All right.
00:04:02.240 How long is too long?
00:04:03.820 I'm just going to, I need hands.
00:04:05.400 Okay.
00:04:05.840 How long is too long?
00:04:07.400 No matter how good the girl is, you ain't waiting.
00:04:09.880 Like, this is ridiculous.
00:04:10.540 I think three months is the max to wait.
00:04:13.080 I just want, I want hands for the max.
00:04:15.080 Are you waiting?
00:04:15.700 You.
00:04:16.080 All right.
00:04:16.460 Wait, wait, wait.
00:04:17.780 He's coughing.
00:04:18.520 He's coughing.
00:04:19.360 I need hands.
00:04:20.520 Are we waiting a week?
00:04:21.860 Is that okay?
00:04:22.900 All right.
00:04:23.300 Yeah, I'll wait a week.
00:04:24.700 Okay, I just, I need you to go, put your hand up when it's too long.
00:04:28.180 Yeah, yeah.
00:04:28.640 Okay, all right.
00:04:29.440 Two weeks.
00:04:31.160 Three weeks.
00:04:33.200 He, so you're putting in three weeks.
00:04:34.820 It depends on the context.
00:04:36.320 I mean, has she made other people wait?
00:04:39.000 You don't know.
00:04:39.960 You don't, you never know that.
00:04:41.100 Yeah, that's a stick.
00:04:41.720 You never know that.
00:04:42.400 You don't know.
00:04:42.840 You don't know.
00:04:42.860 You don't know.
00:04:43.000 You have to.
00:04:43.880 I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:04:44.840 You guys have a tendency to do that.
00:04:45.500 I'm not going to be the one that waits.
00:04:46.720 So, I mean, like, how old is she?
00:04:50.780 I mean, is she some kind of born again virgin?
00:04:53.180 I don't know.
00:04:54.080 I don't know.
00:04:54.180 I'm not.
00:04:55.580 You're getting a girl from first date, like, so you don't know.
00:05:00.240 You've just met her off the street, whatever, dating app, whatever.
00:05:03.540 So, you have to determine.
00:05:04.640 All right.
00:05:04.820 So, three weeks you can wait.
00:05:06.120 You're not.
00:05:06.600 You're.
00:05:07.460 He's.
00:05:07.820 Okay.
00:05:08.040 Four weeks.
00:05:09.060 Four weeks too long for anyone?
00:05:11.000 No.
00:05:11.360 Five weeks.
00:05:12.820 Okay.
00:05:13.100 Two months.
00:05:14.080 Too long to sleep with her?
00:05:16.060 The two months is the max.
00:05:18.320 All right.
00:05:18.660 After that, yeah.
00:05:19.700 I'm going to go with two months for me.
00:05:22.360 Yeah, I get bored easily.
00:05:23.540 So, after two months, I might.
00:05:24.740 Two months.
00:05:25.700 Yeah, I'll go with two to three months.
00:05:27.380 Two to three months.
00:05:28.220 All right.
00:05:28.500 So, three.
00:05:29.160 All right.
00:05:29.320 So, you guys, too.
00:05:30.020 You said she can have three.
00:05:30.680 But I don't know.
00:05:31.300 But the thing is, I've done three months when I was young.
00:05:33.780 Maybe when I'm older now, I don't know.
00:05:35.980 That's why I'm in.
00:05:37.680 But when I had the three months.
00:05:38.900 No, but I'm asking now.
00:05:39.740 That relationship lasted.
00:05:40.840 Now you meet a nice woman.
00:05:43.540 You think you're looking for a good woman.
00:05:44.860 If she's the one.
00:05:45.560 Then I could wait like a year.
00:05:47.540 But I have to be convinced.
00:05:48.580 A year.
00:05:49.120 Yeah, no.
00:05:49.600 If she's the one.
00:05:50.160 If she's the one, one.
00:05:51.040 How do you know she's the one, though?
00:05:52.020 But then you have to know.
00:05:53.180 You have to know.
00:05:54.720 You have to be in her life for that whole time.
00:05:57.380 I understand her.
00:05:58.100 How old are you again?
00:05:59.320 I'm 29.
00:06:00.100 Okay, you're 29.
00:06:01.280 So, how old women do you usually date?
00:06:03.580 Around my age.
00:06:04.540 So, if she's not a virgin, will you wait for a year for her?
00:06:07.800 She's not a virgin, will I wait for a year?
00:06:09.700 If I was.
00:06:11.120 Yeah, I could do.
00:06:12.200 I could do.
00:06:12.860 It's not likely.
00:06:13.720 I could do.
00:06:14.140 Are you sleeping with other people at the time?
00:06:16.060 You're waiting.
00:06:16.560 Yeah.
00:06:16.780 Yeah.
00:06:20.820 I'm not crazy.
00:06:22.500 Somebody's really waiting.
00:06:23.800 That's a good question.
00:06:24.980 I don't know what she's waiting for.
00:06:27.040 I'm saying.
00:06:27.340 I don't know what.
00:06:27.860 That's a good question.
00:06:28.580 Okay, okay.
00:06:29.440 So, you got a year.
00:06:30.940 You went from two months hands to a year.
00:06:33.220 Yeah, but I'm saying it depends how much.
00:06:35.420 All right.
00:06:37.620 The average, the nice, I don't know, your favorite girl that you've been on a date with.
00:06:42.680 Let's just take her.
00:06:43.500 You guys can think of.
00:06:44.500 Whoever your favorite ex is, whatever.
00:06:46.800 All right.
00:06:47.040 Would you have waited a year for her?
00:06:49.960 Yeah, I did.
00:06:50.840 Oh, you did.
00:06:51.500 Okay.
00:06:52.840 So, you'll wait a year.
00:06:54.460 You'll wait.
00:06:54.840 Two months.
00:06:55.440 Two months.
00:06:56.100 You'll wait what?
00:06:57.740 When you say, now you're saying favorite girl.
00:07:00.440 I would.
00:07:01.300 He says you're looking for a wifey.
00:07:03.480 I'm just, I was just trying to get out of you visualize something.
00:07:05.580 I would wait.
00:07:06.240 But one of the, if you're talking about favorites, it didn't last, it didn't take long.
00:07:10.360 It was first time.
00:07:11.400 No, but how long would you wait for a girl you liked?
00:07:13.800 That's what I'm saying.
00:07:15.360 I just used that as, you know, giving you.
00:07:17.340 I don't know.
00:07:17.840 I can't answer that question.
00:07:19.160 Please answer the question.
00:07:20.240 Yeah, but it's hard for me to answer.
00:07:21.260 You're here to answer my question.
00:07:22.860 No, 100%.
00:07:23.660 This is what you're here for.
00:07:24.740 How long would I wait?
00:07:25.840 Please just give me an answer, please.
00:07:27.100 It doesn't have to be sentence.
00:07:28.260 I would wait two months.
00:07:28.960 Yeah, two months.
00:07:29.380 Okay.
00:07:29.880 Thank you.
00:07:30.220 Thank you so much.
00:07:31.920 You're like three weeks, roughly a month, a month.
00:07:34.800 Yeah, three weeks.
00:07:35.340 So, one month, two months, a year.
00:07:37.320 We got to.
00:07:38.020 A year.
00:07:38.880 Okay.
00:07:39.440 So, step one.
00:07:40.260 Sleep with her as soon as possible and wait up to one month to a year, depending on the
00:07:54.680 guy.
00:07:55.500 Because what if you wait a year and you don't like it?
00:07:57.680 Mm-hmm.
00:07:58.660 Good point.
00:07:59.380 I wasn't only in that one, into that one, so you know what I'm saying?
00:08:03.400 Yeah.
00:08:05.760 Okay.
00:08:06.340 Well, okay.
00:08:06.960 So, don't wait.
00:08:07.620 Now we're going back.
00:08:08.580 Don't wait.
00:08:09.000 Just for him, though.
00:08:10.920 He's waiting.
00:08:11.500 Yeah, he's waiting.
00:08:11.840 Okay.
00:08:12.140 So, next step.
00:08:13.340 Okay.
00:08:13.700 So, when should you ask her to make you a coffee?
00:08:16.920 That's what we have.
00:08:18.420 I don't even drink coffee.
00:08:20.280 Okay.
00:08:20.740 So, what else?
00:08:21.480 How else do you vet for a good woman?
00:08:24.500 You know what?
00:08:26.640 To vet a good woman, yeah, I think you need, it depends on the communication and the conversation
00:08:30.700 that you have.
00:08:31.120 So, going coffee is, I agree.
00:08:34.900 And the maddest thing is, the girl that I'm seeing now, this is the first time I've ever
00:08:38.020 gone coffee and we had a mad conversation in Costa over coffee.
00:08:41.160 And I've never done that before, which is mad.
00:08:44.100 I'm telling you.
00:08:45.040 Well, once you have a good, through conversation and through certain things, a man would get
00:08:49.500 an idea.
00:08:50.440 So, like, what, adding on to what Romans is saying with family values, traditional, maybe
00:08:55.160 even Pharaoh, God, like, conversation with her, you will understand a lot more about her.
00:08:59.380 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:59.740 If she can, can she even conversate?
00:09:01.320 Can we have a proper conversation together?
00:09:03.080 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:03.720 Okay, so take on coffee date, sleep with her as soon as possible.
00:09:09.160 Coffee date after I finish waiting.
00:09:11.920 Oh, so that, okay.
00:09:14.240 You're getting on coffee date after you finish waiting.
00:09:16.660 That's a waste of time.
00:09:17.460 Nah, man, you've got to go first.
00:09:19.180 Okay.
00:09:20.900 Go on coffee date, either before or after you sleep with her.
00:09:27.760 Can I just say really quickly, I promise, the reason why you could say that now is because
00:09:33.300 you're in a position to be open, to be receptive to her as well.
00:09:38.880 You know, some guys would be like, what, you know, like, we're going clubbing or, you know,
00:09:42.800 it depends on the man as well.
00:09:44.980 Yeah, 100%.
00:09:45.640 I'm not putting blame on the man, but it's a two-way street.
00:09:48.680 A lot of Purley's list man has, so I've probably gone through dating women, gone through this,
00:09:53.880 gone through that.
00:09:54.820 Now when I meet someone, I can analyze a good woman, do you get what I'm saying?
00:09:58.820 Yeah.
00:09:58.960 And it's through, actually, I feel like, to your question of where's all the good women gone,
00:10:03.040 yeah, I feel like a lot of good women don't have the values of back in the day.
00:10:07.020 So women, I don't know back in the day because I wasn't born back in the day, but I think
00:10:10.280 a lot of women don't want to show wife credentials before they're a wife.
00:10:14.080 So they will hold things back expecting you to put a ring on their finger because it's
00:10:19.620 like, oh, I can do this, but I'm not going to do this until I'm your wife.
00:10:22.740 But man, I'm thinking, man, I'm thinking, bro, all right, if you're going to, cool,
00:10:26.380 there's other gal out here that's going to show me what a wife is.
00:10:29.300 But imagine acting like a wife and doing full throttle, like cooking's different,
00:10:32.400 but full throttle acting like a wife for you to go and see someone else or play around.
00:10:35.960 But if you don't do that, the man's gone.
00:10:38.040 So do you want to show him that you're a wife?
00:10:41.280 Because a man coming into it is showing you're ready.
00:10:43.420 I'm a husband.
00:10:43.680 If you want a promotion, don't you do the job that he gives you first?
00:10:47.280 All right.
00:10:47.300 Oh, come on.
00:10:48.020 Or do you say promote me with no work experience?
00:10:50.760 Because you know what, if I, if me, okay, once again, me and you are in a relationship
00:10:54.000 or we're building up a relationship and then we go out and then, I don't know,
00:10:59.820 a gal beat you up or something happens, I'm here to protect you, but I just stand there
00:11:03.440 and just watch you.
00:11:04.820 When we go home now, what are you going to say to me?
00:11:06.360 But no, no one would, I mean, if no one would do that, you can't say no one because
00:11:10.920 there's man out here that's not going to protect you.
00:11:12.860 So our job is to, our job is to protect someone.
00:11:15.580 A stranger would jump involved and protect someone.
00:11:17.320 Okay, forget the semantics.
00:11:18.820 My job is to protect and provide for you.
00:11:20.620 If I don't protect you when I'm out with you and you're rolling out with me, when we go
00:11:24.100 home, what are you saying to me?
00:11:26.100 Before, as in a fighting situation, that's a bit, that's not a good example.
00:11:29.700 Okay, whatever the situation where you need protecting and I don't protect you in that
00:11:34.060 situation, what are you doing after that situation?
00:11:36.700 I don't, I can't answer that question because I don't know what you mean by protecting.
00:11:39.740 You're deciding that he's not the one.
00:11:41.900 That doesn't make sense.
00:11:42.460 That's happened to me before.
00:11:43.780 There was like an accident in Costa Rica, there was like a canoeing thing and a kayak
00:11:47.740 thing and he didn't show up and I really questioned my future with this guy.
00:11:52.800 For me, it was done.
00:11:53.940 Done.
00:11:54.420 Of course it's done.
00:11:55.860 That's different, he didn't show up.
00:11:57.320 I was polite about it.
00:11:58.400 But if you don't show your wife credentials to the man, what do you think he's going to
00:12:02.300 do?
00:12:02.460 The thing is, there's an extent, there's a limit.
00:12:04.520 You can't do everything because you don't know if that man's serious yet.
00:12:07.420 You don't know what's going on.
00:12:08.420 So you can't do everything and you're not out here proving that.
00:12:11.140 Listen, he needs to prove to you that he's a good husband.
00:12:14.580 But that's fear though.
00:12:15.500 No, he don't.
00:12:15.840 What the hell?
00:12:16.420 Yes.
00:12:16.620 Wait, that's fear though.
00:12:18.340 Like that's the thing.
00:12:18.940 Like you're going into something in bad faith.
00:12:20.800 Oh, I can't do much for him.
00:12:22.580 Otherwise, he might not pick me.
00:12:24.380 Why give him a tough anyway?
00:12:25.440 Yeah, but it's like you're going into things in fear and you don't get anything worth having
00:12:29.820 if you go into shit scared.
00:12:31.620 Exactly.
00:12:32.220 Like you can get your heart broke.
00:12:33.780 Like it happens.
00:12:34.860 Scared money don't make no money.
00:12:35.980 Yeah, but it's like you have to, in order to, okay, in order to, to start this whole podcast,
00:12:41.140 I had to invest first, but women want all the outcomes without having to invest anything.