You Won't Believe What She Said.
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In this episode, we discuss the controversial topic of Feminism. Is it a good or bad thing? And when was the last time feminism was considered a positive thing for women? We also discuss why we should bring back shame.
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90% of men would disqualify a girl just based off of OnlyFans.
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What would you want a guy who thinks like that?
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Why would a guy take a girl home that was OnlyFans to their mom?
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My mom would look at me and be like, who is this hot?
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OnlyFans is the easy way out for people that are lazy and that don't want to work.
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I think it's probably one of the worst things to happen to male and female relationships.
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I think it's good for us females to, I don't know.
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I don't want to say something and then people don't agree with me.
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And I also think it impacts society in a negative way.
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As a man identifying as a woman to compete in women's sports, I think it's great.
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It has really increased my athletic performance relative to my competition.
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And I'm looking forward to being called stunning and brave.
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But in all seriousness, I mean, any ideology probably starts out at some point with some
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positive attributes that are necessary for society, right?
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But like every ideology eventually becomes weaponized.
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And I think right now we're living in a world where you ladies are acknowledging it as well,
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which is very strange for a woman to say that like, oh, you know, feminism stocks.
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Because you're a woman, you should be like, yay, feminism, right?
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So I think we're starting to come around as a society and realizing that there's a certain
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ideological weaponization where feminism went from empowering women to just shitting on men.
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Well, when do you think feminism is ever empowering for women?
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Do you want to go like kind of historical argument or where are we going for this?
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Okay, so there's like kind of an interesting, there's obviously this is such a granular argument.
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It's not like an outright, you know, and I don't want to be like sounding like, oh, I'm
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Like for example, my mom is a computer scientist as an example, right?
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She went all the way through the school, got her master's and PhD, whatever she got.
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And so she performed, she just retired like this month, but she performed at a very high
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So like the opportunity for her to go all the way in her education, which was in math
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and computer science and then implement that for her career was very beneficial for her.
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Like she would not fit the mold of a woman that is in a, in a, let's say more controlled
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society where that might've not been an option, right?
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But then what does that have to do with feminism?
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What does her success have to do with feminism?
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Well, so, so you're, I understand what you're saying.
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So when you go back to like, for example, one of the stand countries right now, where maybe
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15, 20 years ago, women were not allowed to get an education above, let's say the fourth
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And you might say fine, but I would say, okay, at that point you need it to push it a little
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Like if you have to tell girls, you're a writer, right?
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Like, you know, things you quoted Aldous Huxley.
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Wouldn't you put that down to somebody's individual merits and their personal ability?
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Well, the, the original, the original premise behind feminism, you know, we're going back
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a couple hundred years here was that women were, were allowed to substantially be educated
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as much as men because certain religions, let's say forbade women from getting a higher
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Like they were not even allowed to read under most sort of the archaic religions.
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So there was a time, there was a time where, and that was, you know, a while ago, there
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was a time where you would not have been able to have been an author.
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Because I, as far as I know in the U S like, well, we've at least in the 1600s, there was
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Is that, is that the author that's actually a woman, but pretended to be a man because
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she couldn't get her books published as a woman.
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So there was a very longstanding history that women could not publish books.
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So like, look, I'm not, I know at least 17, 1800s, like women were published.
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Like they could write, they were in like the wall street journal, like the, whatever the,
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there's a couple of publications that were still around.
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Like, like this is, we can, we can, we can take this even further to the racism argument.
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It's like, okay, there's, there's nobody wants slavery.
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And it's like the most absurdly horrible thing that's ever happened.
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And, and it's happened to, you know, in different societies.
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And then you go to like all the way to the other side and affirmative action where it's
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like, well, I don't really want that either, even though it's supposedly like anti-discriminatory
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So feminism, like at its core, it didn't start out with nefarious intent.
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If you go back to, so for example, the 1848 Seneca Falls convention, you'll find that actually
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right from the get go, feminism is always very, very misandric, very, very awful, just a
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You know what I found out today on the Titanic?
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And the feminists were like, if a woman built the ship, we would have did it better.
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Feminism is never, it's a big misconception because a lot of people think feminism was
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And if you look at historically, feminism from day one has always been, yeah.
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I agree with you that ideologically it was misandric.
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I mean, and I can't believe I'm taking the side by the way, but it's like, would you be
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okay if, if women were not allowed to go past the third grade education in the society
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Well, the thing is, is that, yes, look at what I'm telling you.
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No, no, no, I'm not drawing the line of college.
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The thing is, is that the misconception here is that the main inequalities in society were
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actually more to do with class rather than gender.
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Because for example, a wealthy woman would have had much more social privilege than a poor
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For example, during medieval England, a lot of women worked in nursing.
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So this idea that somehow women couldn't be educated.
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I mean, if you just look at the West, for example, this isn't true.
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Actually, education was more reserved for the upper classes.
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It's not really, the feminists has made it as a men versus women thing, but it was never
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So, I mean, I think you're referring to, because I know you're referring to specifically
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But if we just look at, say, the West or England, education opportunities have always been there,
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but they've been referred, they've been reserved for the wealthier classes.
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And the feminist lie effectively is that, oh, this was about men oppressing women.
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It was more about the upper classes were the ones who held more of the privilege in society.
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So, you know, and women, you know, they did things like sewing, needlework, music, things
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So it is a big misconception that women couldn't work or that women couldn't have careers or
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No, but what they do is they rewrote the history.
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All the Marxists went back and basically said, we want to look at history from the viewpoint
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So they literally went back in the history books and rewrote the history.
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From the vantage point of an oppressed woman, even though the women of the writings at the
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So it was like, how did they have the voice if they had no voice or education?
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These were the most privileged women in society.
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If you look at especially the old school first wave feminist people like Elizabeth Cady Stanton.
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Isn't that the one that like divorced her husband, took all his money and then started.
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They were always, right from the get go, it was a very mean spirited, very antagonistic
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And the problem is, is that a lot of people don't understand this.
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It's the fact that, for example, people will say, oh, look at the suffragettes.
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They put all the women's studies professors in the schools.
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They're going to rewrite our history and then teach it in the schools to brainwash the
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So they went into the Christian churches, the Catholic churches.
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Why do you think there's all those gay priests?
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It was because they literally sent 11,000 priests into the church because they realized that
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And yeah, it's, it's rabbit hole when you get into it.
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But the crazy thing is they literally said, we want to infiltrate these institutions because
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I mean, a lot of these priest rules are pedophile.
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They funded the seminaries to, again, to reteach education from a more like the Christian
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I think American liberalism, it's a shame, isn't it?
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Because actually classical English liberalism is completely anti-Marxist.
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It's a really terrible thing how like in America, like your version of liberalism is what we
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Like that's another like, you know, language barrier or whatever.
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I wanted to talk about the wives before feminism and after feminism.
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So I, I collaborated with Dr. David Baker, shout out.
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And I wanted to compare the wives of yesterday, like what you would get out of a wife a hundred
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years ago, 200 years ago versus what you get out of a wife today.
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And I want to, it's, you know, I want to compare and contrast.
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So if you married her, it was highly unlikely she would leave.
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Divorce was extremely difficult to obtain as opposed to today.
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If you multiply the divorce rate by the percent, the woman leave, there's a 32 to 41% chance
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Feminism to, to depending on the time period or social class, your wife would help out on
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the farm, doing hard work beside you, like planting seeds, dealing with livestock, helping
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And at least she'd be a housewife in both scenarios.
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You'd be dealing with cooking from scratch, um, and putting a hot lot of work into cleaning
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You get like microwave dinner, but it's not all wives as well.
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Cause this is a shame, like there's plenty of good women.
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It's just the problem is that the feminists have kind of made like women look bad.
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Well, I would say, this is what I'll say about it.
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95% of us would be thrown out because one of the prerequisites back then was a virgin.
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I don't think men, I think men would prefer their wife to have only slept with them as opposed
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It should be like that for us, but what about men?
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I don't want a man that's slept with over 100 ladies.
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So today it's 4% of women that are marrying as virgins, right?
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Okay, I'll give you guys some interesting stats.
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And there's like a, let's say a common theme to all of these that kind of converge onto
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But in the 1950s, the birth control pill comes out, right?
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We now have obviously fewer women marrying off as virgins than before.
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It dropped, like the amount of women that were marrying as virgins in the 50s have dropped
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Yeah, what's really interesting is since the 1950s, the percentage of men that are marrying
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as virgins is actually higher than it was in the 50s.
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So what happened with the birth control pill is that it basically took out all the, it just
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streamlined all the sex to the guys that the women wanted to do it with the whole time
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But when you're looking at the marriage statistics, okay, there are two predictors that stand above
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all else for, three predictors actually, that stand above all else for a poor outcome
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to the marriage, like an unsuccessful, bad breakup, poor marriage, unhappiness.
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Number one, getting married before the societal standard age.
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So if you're married at like 18, you're going to fail, it's going to suck, don't do it.
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Number two, if a woman brings a child into the relationship, into the marriage that's
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not the man's child, is extremely high predictor for the woman's unhappiness in that marriage.
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Not the man's unhappiness, the woman's own unhappiness, which inevitably leads to divorce
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because what, 80% of marriages are, divorces are initiated by women.
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The third factor, and this is really interesting, the third factor today that's the highest correlated
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statistically with a poor outcome to the marriage is the woman has more than 10 sexual partners.
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So what happens is the biggest drop for a woman's unhappiness in the marriage is after the woman
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has one sexual partner, you see the biggest drop in the happiness and the potential positive
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And then like between two and five, it kind of like hovers, you know, where it was at
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And then between like six and nine, it kind of gets a little bit worse, but at 10 or more,
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This is just measuring, you know, longitudinal studies of the happiness and the outcomes
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Then they did the same study on men, number of sexual partners that a man has, and then
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correlated that to the outcome of the marriage.
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A man with, because men don't leave marriages, women do.
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So you don't think it's actually because of sex is because women are just more likely to
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So, so it's like this, if a man said, if he's Genghis Khan level, he's got a thousand
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partners, it has no statistical difference in the outcome of a marriage of a man's had
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It just doesn't like, that's just what the statistics say.
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And so women are like, well, why do men get the privilege?
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Because biologically we're different from women.
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I mean, historically they had to make sure that the kid was theirs.
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And they're saying like, what, 10, 20% of men today are raising a kid that's not theirs.
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If you have, out of men that, and it depends on the study you look at, but out of men that
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Well, I mean, it depends what you look at, but I mean, they think it's higher.
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It would be really interesting to see if they did mandatory paternity tests at birth.
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But yeah, I mean, I mean, you guys know this on an innate level, men don't like whores, right?
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But don't you think though, we shouldn't be shaming women because actually when we say
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that women are whores, what we're actually doing is we're buying into this very reductive
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like virgin, good girl, bad girl dichotomy, which comes from Christianity.
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I mean, do you actually, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, I don't think it's
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like, sorry, I'll let you, I don't think it's like we're shaming women.
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You kind of are though, because actually, if you're going around sleeping with any who
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and everyone, people are going to look at you and be like, you're a hoe.
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And I don't mean we're shaming, it doesn't mean we're shaming ladies.
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And do you know why women are the ones, it's the women that are saying you're slut.
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It's because I'll put myself in their shoes and I think, I look at them and I think, no,
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It's very, it's very simple because women control access to the sexual marketplace.
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And if a woman's giving it away easily, it actually devalues yourself in the market because a man can
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People can have all the fun they want, but it's not the men that are saying it.
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It's just, they probably won't pick you for a wife later.
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Well, it depends on the kind of guy you go with.
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Because personally, I wouldn't want to go with a guy who wanted a virginal wife.
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90% of men would disqualify a girl just based off of OnlyFans.
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But what would you, and what would you do with a guy who thinks like that?
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Why would a guy take a girl home that does OnlyFans to their mom?
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My mom would look at me and be like, who is this hot?
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OnlyFans is the easy way out for people that are lazy and that don't want to work.
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Because women respond really well to social shame.
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They learned this in the 20s when they started using radio to influence women.
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It's why we all have the latest fashion trends, the latest makeup trends.
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And the thing is, when the trend is whoredom, that doesn't make good wives and mothers.
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Well, wouldn't you say that the sexual revolution then was caused by the absolute obsession with
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And it's almost like if you have this extreme, you end up going from one extreme to the other.
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I would say that the sexual revolution was caused by birth control and women wanting
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When you think about it, guys, feminism let us do anything.
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A lot of feminists are actually very anti-sexual liberation.
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We could have went to the moon, started Fortune 500 companies.
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So a little shame, I think it's not a bad thing.
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And I've been very, very deep into it for a few months now.
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It's going to have a leather cover and like energy crystals on the cover.
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But there's a really interesting argument that sort of self-revealed.
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I didn't expect this to happen, but I started looking into it.
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It's like, okay, statistically, I can say, yes, like there's very clear data.
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And it's been replicated many times through many studies that if a woman's got 10 or more
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sexual partners, the outcome of that marriage is going to be very, very poor, like relative
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Like it's just, it's, but the question is like, but why, but why?
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And then I stumbled upon this one study and then it led me to another study.
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And I've collected like seven pages of data from different studies on this, and it's
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Is promiscuity a choice or is it a genetic predisposition?
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Like we want to say, okay, let's just say we think it's a, it's a, it's, it's a, it's
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I'm going to give you guys an anecdotal example.
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Then I'll give you some statistics and it gets really weird.
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When you think of a single mother, like just imagine a single mom and she's got a kid.
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Is it a little girl she's raising or a little boy?
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That's not, there's a very, that's not by accident.
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So there's a, there's a, a ribosome, a sequence of ribosomes in the genes, uh, that when it
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lines up in a certain, uh, in a certain alignment, it has something like a 78% predictive factor
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Social sexuality is like a scientific way of saying promiscuity.
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It's how you treat sex, like, you know, just socially and not with any sort of higher
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And what else is crazy about it is, well, a couple of things, right?
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Number one, women that have this particular set of ribosomes are more promiscuous by definition.
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Number two, they're more likely to have male offspring.
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And it's, and it's like, it's been known for like 40 years.
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There actually are reasons for it, which get very scientific and very interesting.
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So back in the day, if you were like a concubine, I'd imagine you'd be a concubine for like the
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So maybe there's some genetic variation that happened because the kings wanted sons and
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they would kind of, wouldn't they kill the mistresses that like couldn't give them sons?
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I don't know the answer to that, but I know that female, when, you know, when you have a girl
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as opposed to a boy, the sperm gestrates longer in the, in the uterus, right?
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Or in the going up and through the fallopian tubes, et cetera.
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So it's like, um, so there, there is an argument to be said that there is just like a different
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kind of sex that occurs when a woman is very, very into the sex, which a hypersexual woman
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would be because they exhibit more male characteristics.
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And so one, and I started reading into that and there's like quite, and there's got like
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And as I, as I'm reading through the studies and I'm like, I'm putting all this data together,
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I'm going, Oh my God, maybe there's a genetic trigger to tell men to stay away from promiscuous
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women because they're genetically predisposed to cheat on you.
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Well, I just don't think it makes for good wives and mothers.
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But part of being a wife is to enjoy sex with your husband.
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So could you not say your husband and the highest sex.
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No, but the highest sexual satisfaction was when they've only had sex with one person.
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And the number one person that women cheat with is their exes.
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You could make the argument that practice makes perfect.
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Well, it depends also on what kind of person you want.
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Because the thing is as well, would you say that people are more likely to be attracted
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So for example, a woman who's, say, been with a few people would want a guy who'd also
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They will want to find a lady that hasn't slept with multiple men.
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And a wifey isn't someone that sleeps around for fun and wants to, I don't know, build their
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You look at a country like France today where paternity testing is illegal in France.
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You go to jail for 20 years for getting a paternity test.
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So if the wife delivers a child that's not the color that you are, it's like you just
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And so, and now your resources are going to a man, you know, to a baby, to a child that's
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Which it's like, if you have resources as a man, what are your, what are your chances
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What if he's happy raising loads of kids though?
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So find a man that's happy raising other men's kids.
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Why wouldn't he just get a young woman that can give him a bunch of kids?
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What if he's got five young women who can give him a bunch of kids?
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I mean, you'd probably be attracted to a man that has those options.
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We're going to go back to the wives of yesterday from today.
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Before she would stay, 85% of people were married.
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Now there's a 32 to 41% chance she's leaving your ass.
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Which also means there's a, what, 63% chance she's leaving?
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So depending on the time period in social class, you'd have a wife helping up on the
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So you're going to get some cooking from scratch, right?
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Now I'm not saying there are not wives that offer this, but does the average chick, I don't
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I don't know how to farm, but my wife knows how to farm.
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I do help my dad water the garden, but that's about how fast I, how far I take it.
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Then, then three, there was a major stigma against female cheating.
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You wouldn't have to worry about her cheating on you.
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It happened, but so infrequently that it would barely cross your mind, as opposed to today
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Christian cultures always despised wife beating, and the paranoia about domestic violence was
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not as high as today, meaning if your wife attacked you, you could defend yourself, as
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opposed to today where half of domestic violence is reciprocal, 70% of non-reciprocal, the wife
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is beating on you, sometimes with a weapon, and the cops get called, the man is the one
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So they used to be able to, wait, I should, I put this on the wrong one.
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You could call the police on your girl, and they would help you if she starts beating you.
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So if the wife left, which was unlikely, she could not take your kids from you unless you
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So the father automatically got custody, where today, 90% of the time, woman gets kids.
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In most cases, when you married a woman, you would get a dowry from her family.
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I actually, I do come with eight acres of land.
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But, but, it made sense since you were the one providing financially.
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It was considered her wifely duty to have sex with you.
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So, unlimited, sorry guys, I did not make this a very good chart.
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Sure, she might deny you sex, but sexless marriages were a lot less common, where now, one in four marriages are sexless.
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As the head of the household, you'd have the final say on all major decisions.
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If your wife disagreed with you, she'd have to consult privately and not disagree with you publicly.
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Can you pull up the tweet that I have the muzzle?
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Well, I'm going to, you know, go on my Twitter, go on my Twitter and look for a picture.
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In terms of childcare and domestic cleaning, there would be no question of 50-50 on top of your job.
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Just because your wife wanted to be a dental hygienist or receptionist because some feminist teacher told her it was important, nada, she was a stay-at-home wife.
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11, women were expected to behave gracefully and look after their appearance.
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Not to mention, postmodern period, obesity was a lot rarer because of high food scarcity and lack of junk food.
00:30:08.340
Women were expected to learn how to sing or play an instrument to help pass the hours with evening entertainment.
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So, not only would you get a girl that could farm, make food from scratch, she also had to play an instrument and sing for all of your friends.
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She had to trust you to make the final decision.
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She'd be raised to think marriage, motherhood, and duty to her husband was her purpose in life, rather than motherhood being optimal, a burden, and having to delete the word obey from, oh my God, they deleted the word obey from wedding vows?
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Because people courted and then married didn't play the field, monogamy was strictly enforced.
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The modern guerrilla-like quasi-polygamy where fours are chasing dudes who are tens was gone.
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Most men, provided they were mentally stable, not criminals, could find a wife.
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Even if you were beta AF, you would not be invisible.
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Some women out there would consider you a prospect.
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Moreover, women had to look for traits that made a good husband.
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That healthy, good quality, gentlemanly traits that modern women find boring today, you would have to learn to be cocky, mildly cruel, borderline sociopath just to keep a woman's interest.
00:31:41.540
You want to bring her flowers because you like her?
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As a result of the smallness of the dating pool in the local village and the emphasis on choosing a man who's a good provider and had the traits of being sensible, caring husband, a distinctly mid-5 out of 10 guy had a good shot at a hottie.
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As opposed to the results of dating apps, over half of dating now, where the men often end up with a woman significantly uglier than them and fatter than them.
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There was a social stigma against women who nagged or yelled too much or berated their husband.
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In England, they call this a scold and there were laws against it.
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And you could be punished by public shaming or forcing a woman to wear a muzzle.
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So if you nagged your husband too much, I asked the guy, should we bring this back?
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Twitter's wild, and I don't know what to tell you guys.
00:33:10.800
So do you think feminism has made us better women overall?
00:33:16.160
Following here in your stats and even seeing that muzzle, I still have my views on feminism,
00:33:21.900
but I would say that it has played a huge part in assisting women, you know, with getting
00:33:28.920
a better quality of life, getting more equality, because obviously at some point there was a
00:33:42.360
And I believe that, you know, to a certain point that it's assisted with like just creating
00:33:47.600
a better space, letting getting our voices heard, because like it's all well saying that
00:33:52.620
we don't agree with a lot of the things that the feminists say today.
00:33:55.560
The reason why I don't agree with them is because they're taking it too far and like the definition
00:34:00.820
has been lost of independence and what it is to be an independent woman and person.
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But as far as feminism and what the people were doing to make the change and the changes,
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I think that to a certain extent they are doing a good thing because it is important
00:34:16.740
that we have a diverse, you know, diverse people and voices on the tables, like you've got
00:34:22.620
a diverse panel, you know, so it's important that we can get a male's opinion, you know,
00:34:27.640
so all voices, all cultures are very important in order for us to breathe greater innovation
00:34:33.040
for us and breathe better humans within our children and a better future, you know, for
00:34:39.460
I think the premise that men and women can be equal, I think is wrong.
00:34:42.920
I think men are, yeah, but there's equal to what extent, you know, so obviously if you're
00:34:47.780
talking in the sense of relationships, then obviously we can go to traditions and cultures
00:34:52.680
as a few different factors that we can point out if we want to look at it in that way.
00:34:57.040
But so I do agree that there is roles within a home.
00:35:02.980
I agree with a lot of the things that, um, not, I don't agree with all of the things before
00:35:09.540
You see, I'm very, um, I like, I do agree, you know, that, um, again, I'm all for diversity.
00:35:16.780
I think voices do need to be heard, but there's respect as well.
00:35:23.100
Well, it was only used for, it was only used for extreme women.
00:35:26.780
You've seen those women that are berating their husbands in public that, that make their
00:35:34.020
And that's down to how that woman was brought up and then that's down for the man as an
00:35:38.200
individual to say, that's not the kind of woman I want to be with.
00:35:44.360
So to me, I was like, I'm not saying we should bring back the muzzle.
00:35:48.860
But, but my, my thing is I kind of understand it because they were forced in this marriage.
00:35:54.840
It's like women don't talk about so like social abuse or verbal abuse where women can be very
00:36:01.140
verbally abusive and women are equally abusive as men.
00:36:04.520
You get men that go through domestic violence and because of women as well.
00:36:10.500
And again, maybe it doesn't get discussed as much because obviously in today's culture,
00:36:19.480
So feminism has actually brought and changed laws, whereas imagine if women, that a lot
00:36:25.160
of women were getting domestically abused and nothing was getting done about it because
00:36:32.300
But they even, but I'm saying even, even then, but even, even back then they would argue that
00:36:39.400
Like for example, they, they estimate that 61% of murders were done by women and most of them
00:36:44.180
didn't even get, because back then they didn't have abortions.
00:36:46.540
So women would literally kill a quarter of their kids.
00:36:49.220
We're also missing a, there's like a interesting piece of the puzzle that we're missing in
00:36:52.640
this is that like, okay, let's go back to the 1700s.
00:36:55.680
And yes, like there's some different sort of expectations.
00:36:57.980
So women are doing all this stuff around the house, et cetera.
00:37:00.040
But it's like, what was the, what was life like for an average man in the 1700s?
00:37:05.020
It's like, you're working in a, you're breathing poison at work all the time.
00:37:11.320
Like look at the life expenses way shorter for men.
00:37:13.540
It was like farmhand, coal miner or a factory worker.
00:37:18.980
But I don't remember what year the factories came in.
00:37:21.160
And like, there's a pretty good chance you're going to get like a wound that kills you or
00:37:24.840
you're going to lose a limb at whatever job you're doing.
00:37:26.820
And you're going to die 10 to 15 years earlier than the woman in your life.
00:37:32.500
It's like, well, man, men had a really hard existence back then.
00:37:37.120
And it's like, can you give them a little credit?
00:37:38.720
He's going to die in war probably defending you.
00:37:41.900
Well, my, my thing is, I just think we can't be equal because every time, like, how can you
00:37:46.620
have equality when you'll always have to appeal to men to enforce our rights?
00:37:49.780
You always have to ask men to give us the rights.
00:37:56.540
Was this, this is presenting a very overly idyllic version of the past and a very, very
00:38:05.720
Because there would have been many women back then who would have been bad wives, who would
00:38:16.260
This is presenting an overly idealistic version.
00:38:20.080
Because I agree with you that I completely agree that feminism is bad.
00:38:23.060
But to say that it was all brilliant back then, because, for example, as the gentleman rightly
00:38:27.620
said, you know, a lot of men led very difficult lives.
00:38:36.680
I mean, I think, I think, on the basis of purity alone, yeah.
00:38:42.180
You can say that sex was actually used as a weapon to control husbands.
00:38:47.960
What percent of women really, you know the average chick.
00:38:51.440
I've had over 600, I've probably had 1,000 women in here in the last year.
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I'm telling you, I can't even count how many countries we've had.
00:39:06.840
And I'm not saying there are women that are more traditional, that do cook, that do all
00:39:10.580
those traditional things, but do I think more than half of women have those skills today?
00:39:18.000
Like, most of us can remember our, you know, our grandparents being together and what that
00:39:22.820
And it's probably different in how our parents were.
00:39:40.400
My dad would come home from work and we would have a family dinner.
00:39:51.760
It just really depends on how you're raised and, I guess, the people you're around, literally.
00:39:56.840
Being a housewife is a good thing as well, as well.
00:40:00.060
But I think my point is, if you look at every statistical data point, the wives are worse
00:40:08.520
Just because you don't like the way it sounds, like, the facts are the facts.
00:40:15.560
It just sounds like a way to make modern women look bad.
00:40:25.480
They might not identify as a feminist, but most women live their lives according to feminism.
00:40:32.720
But you don't have to be a traditional woman versus...
00:40:34.820
Traditional women are typically married before the age of 25, because that's the number one
00:40:39.720
Most women go to college, and college teaches you to be a feminist.
00:40:43.300
I'm not saying it's women's fault completely, right?
00:40:48.300
But it's like, when you prioritize having a career in your most fertile years, that's
00:41:01.960
The options don't have to be traditional woman versus feminist.
00:41:06.240
I'm saying they might not identify as a feminist, but the way they live their life
00:41:13.740
Because when I say traditional, traditional is putting the family first, and family is
00:41:23.740
I'm not even saying I'm not a traditional woman, otherwise I'd be married by now.
00:41:30.160
But I'm saying the women I know that are the most feminine, the most traditional, they
00:41:39.860
So a lot of times people get frustrated because they're like, women think they're traditional
00:41:46.980
But why the options traditional versus feminist?
00:41:52.000
Being an independent woman doesn't mean being a feminist.
00:41:56.420
Because women have taken it to the next level and not even understanding what it means to
00:42:04.460
So now a lot of these women are saying, oh, I'm independent.
00:42:09.540
Because feminism is really about being anti-men.
00:42:13.100
Like, you can be pro-men and also be a career-focused woman.
00:42:19.640
For example, Helen Gurley Brown was happily married and she was one of the founders of
00:42:27.300
So what Pearlie's trying to say is, it's either you're going to dedicate your life to your
00:42:32.700
family or you're going to dedicate yourself to a big career.
00:42:41.660
So my business academy, I actually train women to do business, like women entrepreneurs
00:42:50.580
The reason why I do it is not for the feminists, though, to preach to them to be independent.
00:42:55.880
But what I'm trying to do is to help them build their self-esteem and give them skills
00:43:02.440
Because the way I see it, the women spend the majority of the time at home with their
00:43:08.200
So in order to build leaders and entrepreneurs out of our children, we need to educate our
00:43:17.320
So when I'm teaching these women, I'm not teaching them to say, right, you lot are going
00:43:22.300
You're going to be leaders and you don't need no men.
00:43:27.360
I'm teaching them to grow and be more confident with themselves and become better influencers
00:43:34.140
Because as women, we are a big influence in society.
00:43:37.120
And to our children, you know, but the misconception that a lot of these modern day women have is
00:43:44.160
when they're chatting foolishness, like we don't need men in the home.
00:43:52.100
So do you want your daughter to go and get breathed up by going to sleep with any man
00:44:01.660
My daughter's father's died a couple of days ago.
00:44:03.780
I'm not looking to just go and get into a relationship just to have a man around me.
00:44:08.740
I'd rather make sure that I do it the right way so I can teach my daughter the right way.
00:44:13.760
And there is a problem with just sleeping around.
00:44:16.140
I'm not going to run up my mileage dating how many men just to go and pleasure myself.
00:44:23.420
What kind of man would I be introducing into my life?
00:44:30.480
Like, so it's not a case of saying, you know, there's any...
00:44:36.060
That's why our grandparents were together for so long, you know?
00:44:40.220
And this modern day way of living, that's why you've got all these single mothers
00:44:43.600
growing up sons on their own and then their sons are becoming feminine
00:44:47.220
and they can't even deal with your daughter properly or be a man to your grandchild.
00:44:53.860
That's why they're breeding these girls and leaving them
00:45:01.920
Your business sounds amazing, but don't you think we can find a balance
00:45:07.340
Because there's no need to go back to the 1800s.
00:45:14.480
So what Pearlie's trying to say to you is you've got a choice.
00:45:17.820
So I've got a friend here, I know one girl, I've got to know a couple girls like that
00:45:21.100
and they're actually going up into their 40s, they're deep in their 30s
00:45:24.460
and they haven't got no children and I actually feel a bit like sorry for them.
00:45:28.420
They've never really had a serious relationship.
00:45:30.980
And my thing is, it's probably because you're not really focused,
00:45:37.360
How can you get a husband if you're not letting off that energy?
00:45:40.800
If you're in a rave every day, if all your friends are single,
00:45:46.520
If you're sleeping with everyone, what man wants you?
00:45:51.960
And you said there's a difference in what's wrong with being a hoe.
00:45:55.900
You need to respect yourself, to be honest, first and foremost,
00:45:59.960
before getting a man to respect you because a man's going to feel that energy.
00:46:03.720
So if you don't respect yourself, no one else is going to.
00:46:08.280
And then what are you going to be feeding to your daughter, to your son,
00:46:26.160
It's like we can't have a conversation about it.
00:46:28.600
We cannot have a conversation about anything unless we can have generalizations.
00:46:33.380
And we know that over 50% of women, I would say, are not marriageable.
00:46:37.640
If you ask the men, they're going to say the same exact thing.
00:46:40.220
It's not up to us to decide who's marriageable.
00:46:51.220
And he was saying to me about girls his age, like that age group.
00:46:56.480
He's like, Mom, you can't take them seriously because he's saying the roles are reversed.
00:47:00.640
And imagine this is a guy that's 22, and I think he was about 19 at the time when he told me this.
00:47:06.820
And what his point is, is that these girls, they're actually the ones running down sex and men.
00:47:12.800
They're the ones, you know, the tables have turned now.
00:47:19.880
Because of the education that they're getting from these girls from the last generation.
00:47:37.640
I can't think of many modern men who are demanding virginity.
00:47:44.720
How can they demand it when 4% men adapt to the market?
00:47:47.880
The point is, we don't need to have traditional.
00:47:50.780
There's studies that have said that sex is a need for men.
00:47:54.500
And so if sex is a need, they're going to adapt to the market.
00:48:00.420
There's 4 billion men in the world, you know, statistically.
00:48:05.040
But I think because of today's culture, I think it's highly unlikely.
00:48:12.420
Because the consequences of sex were real before the birth control pill.
00:48:16.400
Like women were, like there was always the men that women wanted.
00:48:19.560
And then there's the men that women needed long-term.
00:48:23.980
The cat is like the Chad and Tyrone, we call them today.
00:48:26.440
In evolutionary psychology, it's called the cat or evolutionary biology.
00:48:29.500
And then there's the dad, which is the long-term partner, right?
00:48:31.800
And the problem was the women couldn't be with those Chads and Tyrones
00:48:34.820
because the risk of pregnancy would just devastate their life.
00:48:37.800
Not to say the shame aspect wasn't there because it was.
00:48:40.500
It was like the social consequences of, you know,
00:48:42.640
a man probably wouldn't marry you if 85% of women are virgins.
00:48:51.220
But the risk of pregnancy was so severe and so serious.
00:48:55.740
And like if you, first of all, abortions were illegal.
00:48:59.780
And then the reality was that like women had men,
00:49:03.280
they probably were naturally more drawn towards,
00:49:35.740
And in some ways, there'll probably be some stuff.
00:49:37.100
Oh, you're laughing, but it's like not necessarily bad, right?
00:49:39.280
Like, look, hey, hey, I would go back to like 400 BC
00:49:48.180
And you can't disagree with that philosophy, right?
00:49:50.600
That just because it's old doesn't mean it's antiquated.
00:49:59.240
Now, almost 50% of births today are out of wedlock.
00:50:05.060
Like, this is the direction feminism has led society.
00:50:24.560
No, birth control was actually invented by men.
00:50:56.140
because a woman can be very, very career-focused