This week, we're joined by a very special guest who's been in quarantine for the past week and a half, and we're here to tell the story of how he got infected with the coronavirus. Plus, we talk about the Trump administration and how it could be a pandemic. And, of course, we answer your questions.
00:00:34.000I'm the guy who, I go to the grocery stores, and there's always, if there's a, you know, if it gets puffy from the off-gassing on coffee, I squeeze it out, and I go, because then you get that smell, and then once all the air is out, you can't squeeze it anymore.
00:01:10.000We're doing two shows a day because we want to best serve you, of course, in this quarantine, which for many of you could be ending in the next couple of weeks.
00:01:18.000So we've enjoyed spending time with you, and we'll be doing life advice in a little bit.
00:03:19.000Everyone talks about Donald Trump's attitude, right?
00:03:22.000A lot of things that he says and his tweets.
00:03:24.000I will say this, with all of these press briefings and this pandemic, it's a pandemic, I am kind of surprised as to how often President Trump gets things right.
00:03:35.000And I want to know what you think about this.
00:03:37.000Does it seem like there are more sort of like if he's taking a stab in the dark, he almost always hits something?
00:03:42.000Have you noticed how he's been right about this?
00:04:14.000So unless you think I make this up, here is the media saying we need to stop running these.
00:04:19.000But the president loves saying things like, you know, there's a drug we've got, it's very effective, it's approved already, everybody's gonna get it.
00:04:25.000He loves saying things like that because that would be a lovely thing to be able to tell people.
00:04:28.000How could you run the briefing instead of talk about it?
00:05:23.000The media tried to say that President Trump started a feud with governors, saying that states, we've read this, that states themselves should help ramp up testing.
00:05:31.000is reporting more than 700,000 cases of coronavirus nationwide.
00:05:36.000As states begin to weigh when to relax social distancing measures, a key issue in that decision is testing for COVID-19.
00:05:44.000President Trump says he's providing enough help for states to make their own choices, but some governors say the federal government needs to ramp up test kits.
00:05:53.000It comes as protesters in Virginia, Minnesota, and Michigan are demanding an end to quarantine, while the president appears to be egging them on.
00:06:02.000Just to be clear, even Mr. Nipple Barbell himself, while they were talking about governors, said that the president's state—this is a long clip, I warn you, but it's worth it—unilaterally agreed with the president's stance.
00:06:26.000We've had conversations about it, and the president is right.
00:06:31.000States have to do what they have to step up on testing, and the federal government has to step up on testing.
00:06:40.000Federal government is involved in testing, and they did a whole presentation at the president's briefing on testing, and what they're doing on testing.
00:07:46.000He tapes down his nipples, so he's not getting the abrasions anymore.
00:07:51.000It is never in my wildest dreams that we think that a press conference with a sitting governor would be reading a tweet from a president that sounded like that.
00:08:13.000The lady came from the pond of COVID with the ventilator and named me ex-ventilator king.
00:08:22.000So there's another one that Donald Trump talked about, and this was reported as Donald Trump saying, remember they said, Donald Trump said, this will go away as a miracle, all of this.
00:08:31.000Warm weather, it'll come and this will go.
00:09:32.000Obviously, our hearts go out to anyone affected by coronavirus, but also particularly those who still have to live in New York City.
00:09:39.000So you got past that, you're still in New York City.
00:09:43.000A new study from the government... Can we trust them?
00:09:47.000I want to be sure that it's authoritative.
00:09:50.000It now shows us that coronavirus, COVID-19, doesn't survive very long in high temperatures or high humidity, and that it is quickly destroyed by sunlight.
00:09:58.000A second study linked warm and humid weather in the past months to decreased cases, right?
00:10:04.000And it showed that warmer parts of the United States, like Texas, Florida, have seen a slower spread than places like New York and Washington.
00:10:10.000And then in that study, as a matter of fact, I think we can bring this up, they determined that, I think globally, like 90, is it 90%?
00:10:29.000If you go back to the 1918 flu epidemic, doctors, they used to, like, open air treatment because they noticed that people in sunlight recovered more quickly.
00:10:36.000You've heard, like, sunlight is the best disinfectant?
00:10:40.000Sometimes pure grain alcohol, but it comes from like, you know, you have warped bones and you're coughing and you know, go out West and we'll see what happens.
00:10:51.000And by the way, so I hadn't seen that clip of what Trump actually said, but I had seen all of the headlines and I was like, ah, that was a really dumb thing to say.
00:10:58.000Now I see the clip and I'm like, oh, that's not even what he said at all.
00:11:46.000So here's another one that I just love.
00:11:50.000A young Mr. Rachel Maddow said that Donald Trump was lying about Navy hospitals.
00:12:00.000In terms of the happy talk we've had on this front from the federal government, there is no sign that the Navy hospital ships that the President made such a big deal of, the Comfort and the Mercy, there's no sign that they'll be anywhere on site helping out anywhere in the country for weeks yet.
00:12:16.000The President said when he announced that those ships would be put into action against the COVID-19 epidemic, he said one of those ships would be operational in New York Harbor by next week.
00:12:28.000And by the way, I know that many of you out there don't have... Well, I guess you can watch things on fast speed, but I realize a lot of young people don't really use a fast-forward button anymore.
00:12:37.000By the way, hey, Amazon Prime, I would like to have a speed, if I'm going to fast-forward a nine-minute HBO intro, that's somewhere between half a frame a second and DeLorean.
00:12:45.000If there could be an in-between there, that would be wonderful.
00:12:50.000I don't need to watch The Robot and the Milk on Westworld for four minutes every time.
00:13:54.000Now, if you don't like the fact that Donald Trump claimed that it could be a valuable treatment, which, by the way, is what we're looking for right now because a cure is a ways off, fine.
00:15:47.000Other than many, many studies at this point that had come out and showed a shocking efficacy rate.
00:15:53.000Though they did then cover, say, see, this is what we were concerned about.
00:15:55.000The science is in one flawed Brazilian study that did show negative results with two different sample groups from using a significantly higher than recommended dose.
00:16:04.000So this Brazilian study, when people try to quote and say, look, it can cause all kinds of heart problems, they had two groups.
00:16:08.000They had people who used slightly lower than the recommended dose, and they've continued that from the study.
00:16:12.000And then they had a group that used more than the recommended dose, and they had to stop that.
00:16:17.000So we had no science in when we had result after result, study after study after study, showing us that it worked.
00:16:23.000And then the one study that says, hey, what happens if we use far more than the prescribing would indicate?
00:16:28.000Well, now we have some science showing that it doesn't work.
00:16:30.000Well, I would say that the media probably grabbed a hold of that negative study and was just blasting it all over the place, and not the positive studies that we've had coming out day after day after day after day.
00:16:40.000And more reliable studies, by the way.
00:16:55.000It's anecdotal, but if you're going to put the negative stuff that's pretty much anecdotal as well on the news, can you at least include the positive?
00:17:01.000The studies and the science show that it works effectively as a treatment, not as a cure.
00:17:50.000They were basically just going to end up hoarding ventilators.
00:17:52.000And it was important for the federal, when you talk about the appropriate role of federal government in states, it's necessary for the federal government to have a stockpile that they can provide to states.
00:18:37.000This was one that people, it sounded silly, where he talked about sanitizing, because I think he said using thigh liquids and reusing masks.
00:18:45.000I have to tell you, the throwing away of the mask Being in private business, they're throwing away the mask right away.
00:21:03.000Let's just, aluminum bottles, let's just skip along here, hit the fast-forward, watch at twice speed, and don't, you know, call us on our sh**.
00:21:23.000Labeling COVID-19 a foreign virus does not displace accountability for the misjudgments that have been taken thus far by the Trump administration.
00:21:32.000Do you think there's a teenager under that podium like a police academy?
00:21:35.000But if you had to, if you had to, would you close those doors?
00:21:37.000I forgot there was an election going on.
00:21:41.000I mean, what you don't want to do right now, we have a president Who has propagated xenophobic anti-immigrant sentiment from before he was elected.
00:22:04.000He doesn't want to demonize anyone, including people who likely are carrying the disease coming from the province where the disease has originated, but he does want to demonize business owners.
00:22:23.000By the way, Dr. Fauci, since people love to call him a rock star, he said that it was of course the right call and that it stopped us from becoming another Italy.
00:22:30.000That early on, they did not shut out as well the input of infections that originated in China and came to different parts of the world.
00:22:39.000One of the things that we did very early and very aggressively, the president, you know, put the travel restriction coming from China to the United States and most recently from Europe to the United States because Europe is really the new China.
00:22:55.000And actually, I wish we didn't cut the clip so short because after that he did a great rendition of Got No Strings To Hold Me Down.
00:23:09.000And by the way, while we're talking about science, because Republicans apparently are the party of anti-science scientists, they estimate that travel restrictions in China alone may have prevented 700,000 cases.
00:23:17.000Please note, this is an actual peer-reviewed study, not an article in a Chinese government propaganda outlet or Rachel Maddow's evening opinion show.
00:23:29.000Well, everybody goes to the China ban, and that was a huge thing, right?
00:23:48.000Well, they wanted us to believe he was racist, so now are we supposed to believe that he's from 1920s New York where he hates those guineas?
00:25:07.000He can be a little bit of a bully, a little bit of a dick, but he is the same today as he was when he became president, and he almost seems to be getting sharper.
00:25:14.000Don't take my word for it, by the way.
00:25:18.000I encourage everyone out there, if the media won't do their job, I think tomorrow actually, Tuesday, we'll be doing a press briefing livestream party.
00:25:23.000So we'll be doing the job that the press refuses to do tomorrow, whenever the briefing starts, so it's kind of a little bit fluid because Donald Trump is pretty fluid.
00:25:57.000There are all kinds of channels that have them available on YouTube right now.
00:26:00.000And this is where the wonder of new media is actually valuable.
00:26:04.000Provided the big tech overlords don't try and step in and start carrying the water.
00:26:09.0004CNN, MSNBC, NBC, ABC, CBS, and pretty much everyone not named Fox News, this is a great time to actually take it straight from the horse's mouth.
00:26:56.000You can send your requests to, of course, lifeadviceatlattlethecutter.com.
00:27:01.000And this is the time of the show where I tell you, of course, if you are thinking about any sort of self-harm or anything serious like that, suffering from any serious Psychological, psychiatric symptoms.
00:27:11.000You should always seek out professional help anyway.
00:28:37.000I mean, you start dating other men if they're not gay, then, I mean, get your ass back in the closet.
00:28:45.000Find yourself a walk-in and stay there.
00:28:47.000I am a conservative who finds most of the liberal propaganda to be both illogical and downright dishonest.
00:28:53.000I live in New York, and almost every date I go on, at some point, the guy I'm dating will say something like, I hope Trump and anyone who follows him gets coronavirus.
00:30:00.000I think that's exactly what the show is.
00:30:04.000It's hard enough being gay and having like 97% of the population not available to you.
00:30:08.000I can't imagine also having to restrict myself to only making sure I date conservative guys, which I might add, I have yet to see in NYC so far.
00:30:15.000Please help and give me your advice on this.
00:31:27.000Just like we were talking about with women, the reason that conquest for women isn't seen as some kind of an accomplishment is because all they need to say is yes.
00:32:05.000The only advice that I could give you is there are people out there like you.
00:32:08.000I think you'll see more, particularly in the era of Trump, because everyone's doing so much better.
00:32:11.000There can be people, you might not find people who share necessarily your social values, but you can find people who at the very least understand your financial standpoint.
00:32:21.000And again, I know a lot of gay people who actually are Pretty traditional.
00:32:25.000I shouldn't say a lot, but they exist.
00:32:27.000And they exist, namely, in the conservative community.
00:32:29.000And I could name probably five, just off the top of my head, in New York City.
00:32:34.000Yeah, well look, I think it's the same thing with any kind of relationship, trying to find somebody who matches with you on a number of different components, the religion, and you know, kind of how you feel morally, even if you don't believe in any God or anything like that, and value, just overall, right?
00:32:47.000So, in this case, I think you have to lead with that kind of stuff.
00:32:50.000I know it's daunting, but you have to get that out there, especially if you're in New York City, a very liberal place.
00:32:55.000Like you said, there's probably plenty of people out there that are conservative, But you can't just hide it.
00:33:00.000You gotta come out each time and you have to be ready to answer the questions and walk away.
00:33:05.000Trust me, there's gonna be another guy, right, for this person.
00:33:08.000It sounds a little weird, but there's plenty of men in the scene.
00:33:11.000And if none of that works, consider playing for the other team.
00:33:30.000Hi Guru Steven, I have a question for you.
00:33:34.000My husband and I, we just got married about 8 months back.
00:33:37.000Um, and we've had the, you know, normal issues that a newlywed couple has.
00:33:42.000Um, as a couple of Christians, um, we know that marriage is for life, but the only issue that we've really run into is one of his friends that he's had for a long time.
00:33:51.000He convinced my husband to get professional help for depression and anxiety, um, for which I am forever grateful.
00:33:58.000But this friend is incredibly arrogant, um, and incredibly very far less leaning.
00:34:03.000He is also a Christian, technically ordained, so should know that humility is a necessity in a Christian life, but for some reason refuses to pursue it.
00:34:12.000My husband and him share a lot of interests, and so my husband wants to stay around him because a lot of his other friends, most of his friends, are in this group too, and if he I think he's one of those people that are either really stupid or evil.
00:34:26.000I want to be a good wife and I want to be a good teammate and not his mother
00:34:29.000and forbid him from seeing his friends.
00:34:31.000I think that it's good for men to bond with men.
00:34:34.000And I want to see him do that, but I'm scared of this friend
00:35:03.000And I don't know if that's like, if you have makeup on, but like, you know, I have a skin that just, it just, like, I always perpetually look 14.
00:35:27.000We don't want them watching this show.
00:35:29.000We don't want people watching this show who see Colton Wade as autobiographical.
00:35:36.000And something I wanted to touch on here that kind of struck a chord with me, I appreciate that you said this friend helped your husband sort of seek help for anxiety and depression.
00:35:44.000And here's something that may be a component to this problem, and you see this a lot with sort of Christians and even people who are sometimes just on the right wing or who are anti-medical establishment.
00:35:54.000We've talked about how people get pushed to the fringes if they feel as though they have no other options.
00:35:57.000And you and I have talked about how often in the church, a lot of times, Christians are like, even if they're not against any kind of psychiatric assistance or pharmaceuticals, they will somehow brag, whether they mean to or not, I am not on anything!
00:36:43.000You need to get your spiritual life in order as much as you can.
00:36:45.000Physically, you need to be going to the gym, you need to be exercising, you need to be getting your diet in order.
00:36:48.000And then if that doesn't help and you still have problems, you go seek medical help.
00:36:52.000Some people do all these things right and then they find out that they have type 1 diabetes.
00:36:56.000Or they find out that they have a thyroid condition, and they take that pill.
00:36:59.000Some people do everything right, and they're disciplined, and they do their daily devotionals, and they do meditation, and they try to sleep right and eat right, and they still find themselves depressed.
00:37:07.000Or they still find themselves with crippling anxiety.
00:37:10.000It does happen, and I don't want to see conservatives, the right wing, or Christians push these people to the fringes where the only options that they have are to seek out pill pushers, because those people exist as well.
00:37:21.000I think we need to be open-minded and we need to be empathetic to people who may be struggling with mental health.
00:37:25.000Unfortunately, it's often only discussed when some celebrity kills himself and so everyone comes out and says
00:37:29.000I struggle with mental health but it seems a little bit disingenuous.
00:37:32.000So that may be why your husband, if this friend is the only one who actually sort of spurred him to seek out
00:37:39.000professional help, your husband may have a bond with him because this person may have saved him a whole lot of heartache
00:38:06.000Now I've always said this, your close circle of friends, people you confide in, people who would be offering you any marriage advice, they cannot be people who don't share your values.
00:38:13.000They can be beer buddies, they can be guys you go play ping pong with, that's fine.
00:38:16.000They cannot be people who help you make your life-altering decisions.
00:38:20.000If that is the case here, that's a problem.
00:38:24.000And I think the only way to fix it is, you know, you replace a bad habit with a good habit, is you get other, better people in that circle of friends, better influences, people who share those values.
00:38:33.000But I also think you need to ask yourself, is this someone who is really corrosive to your marriage?
00:38:38.000Is this someone who is really harmful to your husband?
00:38:39.000Or is this someone who you would rather your husband not hang out with?
00:38:43.000That's a question that only you can answer.
00:38:45.000answer, not saying that's the case, but I do think you need to take some quiet time
00:38:49.000and reflect on that because I've seen both of those cases be true.
00:38:52.000Yeah, it seems I was wondering what all other than being a leftist and not being humble
00:39:07.000If it's a guy who says, be good to your wife, be faithful to your wife, honor your vows, and then he also happens to want socialized healthcare, that's annoying, and it's a problem, and it's someone who doesn't understand logically why that doesn't work, but that doesn't mean it's someone who needs to be cut out of his life.
00:39:23.000And it's not like those are infectious ideas that are just going to obviously propagate to your husband and change him.
00:39:29.000It's like, look, it's okay for, I think, this relationship to still exist.
00:39:33.000If it's an unhealthy relationship for whatever reason, then obviously you need to be spurring your husband on and just bringing things up.
00:39:40.000Like, hey, every time you come home from hanging out with Johnny, like you say, and I don't even know what the guy's name is, but you know, you say like these things and it never seems like it's a positive experience.
00:40:14.000I am ten months into marriage, or actually a little over that right now.
00:40:18.000And these things, I think, will kind of filter themselves out, too.
00:40:21.000You'll start making new friend groups as a married couple that eventually, they don't necessarily get rid of old friend groups, but some of those old relationships were there for a season.
00:40:30.000Your husband may naturally kind of work his way out, so I would say take a little bit of a hands-off approach to it for now, kind of see where it goes, and if it truly is harming your husband, that's a different conversation than what I think we're having right now.
00:40:40.000Like, I had some—my wife, honestly, didn't really have many toxic relationships.
00:40:44.000She always picked her friends pretty well.
00:40:46.000And you can't pick your family members, so that's one of those things that, sorry, you just have to take the L. But she did have some friends, and I did have to sort of delineate, like, I didn't really want to hang out with these friends, but they were just annoying.
00:40:55.000Like, she had a friend who was kind of toothy.
00:41:41.000And also have them talk with your husband.
00:41:43.000Now don't go, I'm not saying gossip around your husband's back, but express the concern to your husband so he knows, so it's not a surprise, and then whoever it is out there who you see having a positive influence on your husband and whose opinion your husband respects, particularly as a man, Not saying that your opinion should be the most important to your husband, but sometimes an objective third party, who also is a man, can be very helpful.
00:42:12.000I mean, it should say something else instead.
00:42:14.000My wife and I have been married for nearly a year now.
00:42:17.000When it comes to sex, I often find myself disappointed or even frustrated.
00:42:23.000My wife suffers from chronic illness, which can leave her tired or disgruntled, and while I'm sensitive to her needs and do not blame her, it means that we often go days without being intimate.
00:42:32.000When we do make love, I can feel like the only participant.
00:42:35.000Very rarely does she initiate physicality, and when she does, I still end up doing pretty much everything.
00:42:50.000I gotta tell you, I don't know how old this person is.
00:42:53.000I don't think it's said, but if you are, I think if you're a young person and you have been looking forward to being married and you've waited for sex and then you get to this and it's like sex has been built up in your mind as something that's wonderful in marriage, right?
00:43:07.000Even if it's kept appropriate as this wonderful thing and then you You encounter a situation, for whatever reason that's difficult, that's hard, right?
00:43:15.000You've gotta figure out how to be intimate with one another in these situations.
00:43:18.000And I'll say this, having a chronic illness that's different than a random, I have a headache, or we're both too tired, or something like that.
00:43:27.000It seems like that's something that you knew going in, that there was this chronic illness, and that there may have been some impact from that.
00:43:31.000I'm sure this isn't the first time that this conversation has come up, even if you weren't having sex before marriage.
00:43:37.000So, I think you just have to figure out how you work around that, and you have to give as much grace as possible, because this person can't do anything about a chronic illness.
00:43:43.000There's nothing that they can do, other than try to- I didn't have to know his wife's name.
00:44:12.000And I will say this, as someone who my wife and I waited to have sex with each other until we were married, it's very different from A lot of other relationships, right?
00:44:19.000You get a lot of people talking about sexual compatibility, which is kind of silly if you're both being selfless, if you're both actually esteeming the other one first and putting their needs first.
00:44:26.000You should both, and... It's like, I had a pastor tell me it's like going out for Chinese food.
00:44:55.000And for people who wait until they're married to have sex.
00:44:58.000Sometimes people go, oh, well, the reason that people don't have the same kind of sexual dysfunction, typically speaking, where both parents are virgins, is because you have nothing to compare it to.
00:45:04.000That may or may not be true, but at the end of the day, people are more sexually satisfied, and that is because if you have an open line of communication, and you are putting each other's needs first, if you waited to have sex until you're married, guess what?
00:45:16.000Sex will get better throughout your marriage.
00:45:18.000Now, people who've been playing the field, the idea is often like, well, you know, I had one guy say one time, you know, I've been married for three years now, so, you know, I don't really have sex that often, if you know what I mean.
00:46:29.000Maybe this isn't something that was communicated to your wife, barring the illness.
00:46:32.000That's something that if you knew, like you said, you saw the ride, you bought a ticket, anyway, you're going to have to deal with, but I do think there could be some value in going to.
00:46:39.000This is probably the area, finances and sex, are the area, and communication, but usually the problems stem typically from communication as they relate to finances and sex.
00:46:49.000But finances and sex are an area where marriage counselors, like a qualified psychologist who's a therapist, who works with couples, can work As a matter of fact, it's very rare that it doesn't help.
00:47:01.000So I highly recommend that in this instance, because your wife may not feel comfortable, and she may feel as though you're prodding, or you are—hopefully you're not prodding against her will.
00:47:48.000One, don't put sex on such a pedestal that you think your life is ruined if you don't have great sex with your wife because there are situations where... Also the balance issue.
00:48:41.000Thank God they sent it in on the right day, where you didn't take another one of your vacations, because apparently frivolity is more important.
00:49:31.000My husband found pictures when I was a redhead and immediately started showing everyone and tried to get everyone to pressure me to dye my hair red.
00:49:38.000I refused to at first and told him it was never going to happen.
00:49:40.000Fast forward to five years later and we were married for just over a year.
00:49:42.000I continued to get harassed by him to dye my hair red and he has tried many times over the years to convince my hairdressers to dye my hair red.
00:49:51.000I finally decided why not and dyed my hair red after five years of him bugging me.
00:49:55.000Have I played into his redhead fetish?
00:51:46.000I think it was more sarcastic, like he was jokingly trying.
00:51:49.000He probably wanted it, but what's the problem with that?
00:51:51.000If he's saying, hey, I see a picture of you having red hair, you say you like red hair, I think it would be fun if you dyed your hair red, but be able to go back and forth if you like it, not have to mess with him.
00:52:00.000I think it would be a problem if, for example, there was all of this sort of Game of Thrones behind the scenes, where, you know, and you can dye her hair red unbeknownst to her.
00:52:12.000And if you guys had an inactive sex life or something where you seemed like he didn't desire you because you didn't have red hair, that might have been a problem.
00:52:19.000But it seems to me like he was attracted to you when you were blonde.
00:53:40.000As long as it doesn't change my style or anything like that, you know, as long as I'm not all of a sudden, you know, coming in assless chaps.
00:53:45.000If my wife says, hey, I like that shirt on you.
00:53:47.000No, you were already wearing those before.
00:53:48.000If my wife says, hey, I like those jeans on you, or hey, I like that shirt on you, why would I ever not wear it?