The Joe Rogan Experience - January 07, 2019


Joe Rogan Experience #1221 - Jonathan Haidt


Episode Stats

Length

2 hours and 5 minutes

Words per Minute

178.45659

Word Count

22,316

Sentence Count

1,669

Misogynist Sentences

23

Hate Speech Sentences

23


Summary

In this episode of The Happiness Hypothesis, we talk about Peter Boghossian and the "Grievance Studies" hoax at Portland State University, and how the university is now investigating him for data fabrication. We also talk about the "Homoeroticism" and "Rape Culture" hoax, and whether or not they were really a hoax at all. This episode is brought to you by SeatGeek, and edited by Alex Blumberg and Sarah Abdurrahmanova. The opinions stated here are our own, not those of our employers, and do not necessarily reflect those of any company, organization, or person affiliated with our employer. We do not own the rights to any of the music used in this episode. This podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment of any medical or mental health problem. If you are not a physician, or have not received appropriate medical care, do not listen to this podcast. Please contact your physician if you are having trouble with your mental health, or are experiencing anxiety, insomnia, or another medical problem, or other medical problem that needs immediate attention. I understand that being able to see a doctor is a privilege that not everyone has. Thank you for listening and sharing this podcast with your friends, family, colleagues, or loved ones. You are a valued member of the podcast community and we appreciate your support. Peace, Blessings, Cheers, Joe and Sarah "The Happiness Hyphesis" - EJ. - Alyssa and Sarah "The HAPPY DAILY! ( ) Joe & Sarah "Josie" ( Sarah ( ) ( ) ( ( . ) ( ) Joe ( ) and Sarah ( . ( ). Jake ( ) - Jon ( , & Sarah ( . ) ( ), John ( ) & ( ) discuss the Boghosian Case ( ) Podcast, and discuss The Grit Theory Podcast. Joe ( ), and Sarah's article, and the GRIEVANCE ( ) on The GRAGE Project ( ) about the GRAVY Studies Hoax ( ) by Peter Boohans ( ) , and what it means, and why it's important to have a sense of humor about it. , and how it's a hoax? What do you think about it?


Transcript

00:00:02.000 In four, three, two, one.
00:00:07.000 Hello.
00:00:08.000 Hello, Joe.
00:00:09.000 Thanks for doing this, man.
00:00:10.000 I really appreciate it.
00:00:10.000 Oh, this is exciting.
00:00:11.000 I don't think I've ever had a conversation as long as we're about to have.
00:00:15.000 I've been listening to The Happiness Hypothesis over the last few days, and I really, really enjoy it.
00:00:19.000 I'm really enjoying it.
00:00:20.000 It's really fascinating stuff, man.
00:00:22.000 But one thing I wanted to talk about, because we were talking about it right before we got started, was what's happening with Peter Boghossian at Portland State University.
00:00:29.000 For folks who don't know the story, he and, I forget, his two colleagues, James Lindsay, they released these fake papers on homoeroticism and rape culture in dog parks and just really preposterous.
00:00:48.000 Crazy stuff.
00:00:49.000 Papers that are almost like an article from The Onion.
00:00:52.000 And some of them, not only did they get peer-reviewed and accepted into these journals, but they got lauded as being these amazing pieces of one did, one got no word.
00:01:02.000 And now he's getting in trouble.
00:01:04.000 That's right.
00:01:04.000 Yeah, and we were just talking about it, and I just would love to know your thoughts as a professor.
00:01:09.000 Oh, sure.
00:01:11.000 Yeah, so, you know, for those who don't know, I guess most of your listeners probably do, but, you know, it was called the grievance studies hoax.
00:01:18.000 Yeah.
00:01:18.000 Because, and this is one of the big issues going on in the academy, which I hope we'll talk about, is, you know, what does it take to have good scholarship?
00:01:27.000 And the argument is that in some fields, as long as you hate the right things and use the right words, you'll get published.
00:01:32.000 And that's not scholarship, that's activism.
00:01:34.000 And so these three people who did this hoax, they were trying to show that that's the case.
00:01:40.000 And so they wrote these papers.
00:01:41.000 One of them was actually a section of Mein Kampf.
00:01:45.000 And they just substituted in something about feminism for Nazism, something like that.
00:01:49.000 And I don't remember if that one actually got published.
00:01:52.000 I think it did.
00:01:53.000 At any rate, the point is, they were trying to show that some of these fields in the academy are not really about scholarship.
00:01:59.000 They're just about showing that you hate the right things.
00:02:01.000 They're activism.
00:02:01.000 And so there's no way to break in within those closed worlds.
00:02:06.000 So they did a time-honored thing.
00:02:07.000 They did a hoax.
00:02:08.000 They submitted these papers, they made up fake names, and a lot of them got accepted.
00:02:14.000 And now what's happening is that Portland State University, which is only one of the three, is an assistant professor, so he's not tenured.
00:02:25.000 You know, of course, he has a lot of enemies.
00:02:27.000 And of course, I don't know what's going on behind the scenes.
00:02:29.000 But it looks like some of them wanted him investigated for violating the IRB, the Internal Review Board, because the claim is they fabricated data.
00:02:39.000 Because one of the papers says, I inspected the genitals of 10,000 dogs in the dog park.
00:02:45.000 You know, it's like obviously absurd.
00:02:47.000 And he said, you know, and 63% of the attempted humping, because the thing of the article was the idea that, you know, you go to a dog park and you see dogs humping each other, and they were interpreting this as rape, as doggy rape.
00:02:58.000 And so he's got all these, you know, fake numbers in there.
00:03:01.000 So is that fraud?
00:03:03.000 Is that data fraud?
00:03:04.000 And if you read, so I'm writing a letter for a lot of us are now writing letters in support of Boghossian.
00:03:10.000 Thank you for doing that.
00:03:11.000 But if you read, at his university, a committee was impaneled, and they looked at the literal definition of data fabrication.
00:03:20.000 And it's possible that he does fall under that.
00:03:23.000 But the point of this whole thing, I can't weigh in on whether or not technically, but these rules are put in place to prevent the corruption of the scientific record.
00:03:37.000 And what he was doing was not going to corrupt the scientific record.
00:03:41.000 It was done to correct it.
00:03:42.000 They were doing it to show that there's a huge problem, and then they were going to unveil it.
00:03:45.000 So the question is, is the university going to interpret this in the worst possible way, the narrowest possible way, and thereby make fools of themselves look like laughingstocks?
00:03:55.000 Or are they going to use some common sense and recognize this for what it was?
00:03:59.000 It wasn't data fabrication.
00:04:00.000 It wasn't a fraud.
00:04:01.000 Yeah, it was an expose.
00:04:03.000 That's right.
00:04:04.000 Yeah.
00:04:04.000 And I hope that they come to their senses.
00:04:07.000 And they do have a point, if I'm going to be completely objective, about data fabrication.
00:04:12.000 I mean, technically, maybe they could have written that paper without saying that they actually Tested 10,000 genitals of different dogs.
00:04:20.000 But what's really important, I think, is that they recognize that regular people are paying attention to this now.
00:04:27.000 People that aren't involved in this very insulated world, and they're going, this is crazy.
00:04:33.000 Imagine if your children are going there, and your children are being taught At this school that's willing to accept this kind of nonsense.
00:04:45.000 What happened at Evergreen State University is another example of that.
00:04:48.000 It's incredibly damaging to them as a university.
00:04:52.000 I mean, they're...
00:04:53.000 Their enrollment is significantly down.
00:04:56.000 Their funding is in real big trouble.
00:04:59.000 It's a real bad situation for them.
00:05:01.000 And if you talk to Brett Weinstein, it was a wonderful place just a few years ago when he was teaching there.
00:05:06.000 And it's gotten crazier and crazier on these campuses to the point where nonsense is not being questioned at all.
00:05:15.000 It's just being accepted as just some...
00:05:18.000 It's almost like Some religious dogma that you have to follow.
00:05:22.000 That's right.
00:05:23.000 So I think the way to make sense of all of this is you have to always look at what game is being played.
00:05:29.000 So human beings evolved in small-scale societies.
00:05:33.000 We have all kinds of abilities to function in those small-scale societies.
00:05:36.000 One of those is religious worship.
00:05:38.000 We're very good at making something sacred and circling around it.
00:05:41.000 Another is war.
00:05:42.000 We're very good at forming teams to fight the other side.
00:05:45.000 And we love that so much we create sports and video game battles with team versus team.
00:05:50.000 So there's all these different games you can play.
00:05:52.000 And the truth-seeking game is a really special one and a weird one, and we're not very good at it as individuals.
00:05:59.000 And in my view, the genius of a university is that it takes people and puts them together in ways where each person, each, like scientists aren't these super rational creatures that are, you know, looking to disconfirm their own ideas.
00:06:14.000 No, we're not looking.
00:06:14.000 We want to prove our ideas.
00:06:16.000 We love our ideas.
00:06:16.000 But a university puts us together in a way in which you are really motivated to disprove my ideas and I'm motivated to disprove yours.
00:06:25.000 You put us together.
00:06:26.000 We cancel out each other's confirmation biases.
00:06:29.000 So the truth-seeking game is a very special game that can only be played in a very special institution with special norms.
00:06:35.000 Okay, so we're doing this for, you know, my whole time in academia.
00:06:40.000 I started grad school in 1987 at the University of Pennsylvania.
00:06:43.000 And then just in the last few years, it's like some people are playing this really different game.
00:06:48.000 And it's like, you know, if I'm playing tennis and I hit the ball to you, like we're in a seminar class.
00:06:53.000 I give you a question.
00:06:54.000 I challenge you.
00:06:55.000 You come back, and we go back and forth.
00:06:57.000 And in the process, we learn.
00:06:59.000 So that's kind of like playing tennis.
00:07:01.000 So I'm doing this, and then suddenly someone tackles me.
00:07:04.000 Like, what?
00:07:05.000 You don't do that in tennis.
00:07:07.000 No, no, but they're playing football, you see.
00:07:09.000 And in football, it's a much rougher game, and you're trying to destroy the others.
00:07:12.000 I mean, not really in football, but I'm saying.
00:07:15.000 And so as norms of combat come in, and what I mean by that is political combat.
00:07:21.000 As some people within universities see that what we're doing here is not seeking truth.
00:07:27.000 We're trying to fight fascism or we're trying to defeat conservatism or we're trying to fight racism or whatever, some sort of political goal.
00:07:35.000 And these games are completely incompatible.
00:07:37.000 And so that's why this madness has erupted where you see professors saying something.
00:07:42.000 Maybe it's a little provocative.
00:07:44.000 I mean, going back to Socrates, that was kind of the point was to provoke fascism.
00:07:48.000 And you see these bizarre reactions, emotional reactions, groups organized to demand that a professor be fired because we're playing different games.
00:07:59.000 Yeah, how did this start?
00:08:01.000 How did it start?
00:08:03.000 Because it seems like there has to be an event or something or a trend.
00:08:08.000 Well, so the book that I just put out in September with Greg Lukianoff, The Coddling of the American Mind, I read the first chapter of that as well.
00:08:19.000 Okay, well, thank you for admitting that it was only one chapter.
00:08:21.000 Usually, you know, you're- Well, I dove into that one, because unfortunately, I was reading that, and then I got on a flight, and I just wanted to zone out, so I listened to this one on tape.
00:08:31.000 Okay, well, I'll tell you all about it.
00:08:33.000 But the key thing is that that book, The Coddling of the American Mind, was something that we wrote because Greg began observing this weird stuff happening in universities in 2014. It all starts in 2014. Most of your listeners have heard about safe spaces, microaggressions,
00:08:49.000 bias response teams, trigger warnings, all that stuff.
00:08:52.000 That stuff didn't exist before 2014. It just begins creeping in then, and then it kind of blows up in 2015. And so our whole book is an exploration of why.
00:09:01.000 Why did this happen?
00:09:02.000 And so to your question about was there an event, our answer is there are six different causal threads.
00:09:09.000 There's like all these social trends, some going back to the 80s and 90s.
00:09:15.000 We're good to go.
00:09:35.000 Rising political polarization.
00:09:37.000 So left and right never particularly liked each other.
00:09:40.000 But in the 70s and 80s, if you look at surveys done of how much you hate people on the other side, it's not that intense.
00:09:46.000 It begins going up in the 80s and then especially after 2000. It's going up very steeply.
00:09:53.000 At the same time, university faculty, who've always leaned left throughout the 20th century, but was only a lean.
00:10:00.000 And in the 90s, it begins shifting much further left so that now, faculties, especially in the social sciences and humanities, are pretty purified.
00:10:08.000 They're overwhelmingly on the left.
00:10:10.000 So you have a more left-leaning university.
00:10:13.000 At a time when left-right hostility is getting more and more intense, and so any question that has a political valence, now there's a lot more people who want to do the football game, not the truth-seeking game, but that we've got to defeat the other side.
00:10:25.000 Don't give me nuance.
00:10:26.000 Don't give me data.
00:10:27.000 We know what we believe, and damn it, we're going to, you know.
00:10:31.000 So you've got this changing political situation, and then you've got a couple of threads about what we've done to kids.
00:10:39.000 This is a whole other area of conversation for us, but we basically took away free play and gave them social media.
00:10:46.000 Basically, kids who were born in 1995 and after Gen Z, they had really different childhoods, and they're not as prepared for conflict and college.
00:10:56.000 We'll get into that later.
00:10:57.000 But you put all these things together, you get kids who are much more anxious and fragile, much more depressed.
00:11:04.000 Coming onto campus at a time of much greater political activism, and now these grievance studies ideas about America as a matrix of oppression and look at the world in terms of good versus evil, it's more appealing to them.
00:11:15.000 And it's that minority of students, they're the ones who are initiating a lot of the movements.
00:11:21.000 It's such a strange time to be on the outside and watch this because a person like myself is always counted on intellectuals and professors and people like yourself to sort of make sense of things and to reinforce the idea that freedom of speech and free debate are critical aspects to knowledge.
00:11:42.000 And one of the things that's most disturbing when you see in schools is people that Are even marginally right-leaning or centrist, being called Nazis and being silenced and they're pulling fire alarms when they're speaking.
00:11:57.000 Even people like Christina Hoff Summers, who's a feminist, gets shouted down and people are yelling at her and calling her a fascist.
00:12:03.000 It's just very strange.
00:12:05.000 It's very strange to watch from the outside, and it's also very strange to not see any pushback by the professors.
00:12:10.000 So sitting here and seeing this happen and thinking, well, these poor kids, they're going to have to go into the workplace.
00:12:16.000 Right now, they're in this very insulated environment.
00:12:19.000 They're going to escape that environment when they graduate, and then they're either going to push this ideology into the workforce, which you do see now, especially with tech companies.
00:12:29.000 That's right.
00:12:30.000 That's right.
00:12:31.000 No, that's right.
00:12:31.000 I know it's strange to look at it from the outside, and believe me, it's stranger from the inside.
00:12:36.000 But one thing I can say that might be helpful here is that from the outside, what you see is the news reports, and the news reports are going to be very selective.
00:12:47.000 And so especially what happens is because, you know, universities have always leaned left, and so the right-leaning media have always been suspicious.
00:12:54.000 So the right-leaning media has huge coverage of every little thing.
00:12:57.000 And sometimes it's exaggerated, sometimes it's misinterpreted.
00:13:01.000 For the most time, there was something there.
00:13:04.000 Left-leaning media tends to ignore it.
00:13:06.000 And so I go around the country and people on the right expect that, oh my god, it's chaos and mob violence on campus, which isn't true.
00:13:13.000 That's an exaggeration.
00:13:14.000 And the left is like, problem?
00:13:15.000 What problem?
00:13:16.000 There's nothing changing.
00:13:17.000 And so I think the key thing to keep in mind here is that there's about 4,500 institutions of higher education in this country.
00:13:24.000 Most of them are not selective schools.
00:13:26.000 They'll take anyone who comes.
00:13:28.000 And in those schools, not much is happening.
00:13:32.000 But if you go to the elite liberal arts colleges in the Northeast and the West Coast, then usually something is happening.
00:13:39.000 And so at Heterodox Academy, it's a group that I co-founded of professors that are pushing back.
00:13:44.000 It's bipartisan.
00:13:45.000 We have as many people on the left as on the right.
00:13:48.000 We created a map of where all the shout-downs have taken place.
00:13:51.000 And they're all right in the Northeast or along the Pacific Coast, like from Evergreen down to Berkeley and all that, and then a couple in Chicago.
00:13:59.000 So in most of the country, this stuff is not happening.
00:14:02.000 Most schools, the culture hasn't really changed much.
00:14:05.000 But at the top schools, in general, it has.
00:14:08.000 So that's one thing to just keep in mind.
00:14:10.000 There is a moral panic on the right about this, which doesn't mean that there's not something real.
00:14:14.000 There really is a huge problem.
00:14:16.000 But it's not as pervasive as it's sometimes made out to be.
00:14:19.000 So is it akin to looking at violence in the news media?
00:14:23.000 Like when you read about violence in terms of robberies and murders, in general, you're not going to encounter much in your life.
00:14:31.000 The world is a large place.
00:14:33.000 But we concentrate on these really bad moments.
00:14:36.000 Yeah, it's a little bit like that.
00:14:38.000 Except that, you know, one of the reasons that we took free play away from kids is that we were afraid that they'd be abducted.
00:14:46.000 And that was so rare.
00:14:49.000 But we got a lot of coverage of that in the 80s and 90s.
00:14:52.000 And we changed our behavior because of that.
00:14:54.000 And that was a gross overreaction.
00:14:56.000 The situation on campus is not like that.
00:14:59.000 Your odds of being nailed are much higher than that.
00:15:02.000 And so I hear every day, or at least every week, I get an email from a professor who says, you know, I used a metaphor in class and somebody reported me.
00:15:12.000 And so once this happens to you, you pull back.
00:15:15.000 You change your teaching style.
00:15:16.000 What we're seeing on campus is a spectacular collapse of trust between students and professors.
00:15:22.000 And when we don't trust each other, we can't do our job.
00:15:27.000 We can't risk provoking...
00:15:31.000 Being provocative, raising new ideas, raising uncomfortable ideas, we have to play it safe.
00:15:35.000 And then everybody suffers.
00:15:36.000 Is social media partially to blame?
00:15:38.000 It's huge.
00:15:40.000 Social media is a huge part of this problem.
00:15:42.000 So, in a couple ways.
00:15:46.000 So, one is the generational thing that we have...
00:15:50.000 Kids born after 1995 got this in middle school.
00:15:53.000 It had a variety of effects on them.
00:15:55.000 So kids coming in are more conversant with call-out culture.
00:15:59.000 And that's a big part of this.
00:16:01.000 The other thing, though, is that we used to have what you would call a reasonable person standard.
00:16:06.000 So a professor just wrote to me recently.
00:16:12.000 He got frustrated while trying to explain something.
00:16:15.000 He said, shoot me now.
00:16:17.000 And a student was offended by this because are you making fun of people committing suicide?
00:16:22.000 And okay, you know, had she come to him and said, you know, Professor, I know you didn't mean anything, but that was kind of insensitive.
00:16:27.000 Okay, that would have been great.
00:16:28.000 Like, that's the way to handle it.
00:16:30.000 But for this generation, raised with call-out culture and social media, you almost never hear of a student coming to someone else in private.
00:16:39.000 Because you don't get credit for that.
00:16:41.000 So you only get credit when you call them out publicly.
00:16:43.000 And so that's why we're all walking on eggshells.
00:16:46.000 Because most of our students are great.
00:16:47.000 Most of them are fine.
00:16:48.000 But if I have a class of 300 students, a lecture class, I know that some of them subscribe to this new call-out culture, safetyism, morality.
00:16:57.000 And so if I say one thing, it's not a reasonable person standard.
00:17:00.000 It's a most sensitive person standard.
00:17:02.000 I have to teach to the most sensitive person in the class.
00:17:05.000 It's also that person has the opportunity to score, right?
00:17:09.000 Exactly.
00:17:10.000 They throw up that virtue flag like, I've got one on the board here.
00:17:13.000 Look what I did.
00:17:14.000 I nailed the professor on saying, shoot me now.
00:17:17.000 And now I'm a hero, and I've made this a safer space for everybody else.
00:17:21.000 That's right.
00:17:22.000 And so that's really what is messing us up at so many levels of society.
00:17:26.000 And the fact that a lot of these problems, the difficulties of democracy, the rise of authoritarian populism, there are a lot of weird trends that are happening in multiple countries.
00:17:36.000 And I think it's the rise of devices and social media is the main way we can explain why it's so similar across countries.
00:17:44.000 Do you think that this is, is this some sort of a trend that will eventually correct itself when these kids get out into the real world and then go through a whole generation of that and then people realize the error of their ways and the disastrous results of having these unprepared or emotionally unprepared kids?
00:18:01.000 No, I'm pretty confident that it will not correct itself.
00:18:04.000 I think that once we understand it, I think there are a variety of things we can do to change it.
00:18:09.000 But I think here's the way to understand and why it's not going to change itself.
00:18:13.000 So I'm a social psychologist is my main area.
00:18:17.000 But I love all of the social sciences.
00:18:19.000 I love thinking about complex systems and systems composed of people are really different from systems composed of stars or neutrons or anything else.
00:18:28.000 And so if you have a complex system composed of people, these people are primarily working to increase their prestige.
00:18:38.000 So, I mean, once we have our needs for, you know, food and things like that are set, we're always interacting in ways to make ourselves look good and to protect ourselves from being nailed, you know, or accused of something.
00:18:50.000 So we're always doing reputation management.
00:18:53.000 Now, think about in any group what gives you prestige.
00:18:57.000 And so if you look in a group of teenagers, you might have a group in which it's athletics.
00:19:02.000 And so if that's how you get prestige, then all the kids are going to be working out and training and practicing.
00:19:08.000 And that doesn't hurt anybody.
00:19:10.000 That doesn't impose an external cost on anyone else.
00:19:22.000 I think?
00:19:35.000 Find people and cut off their heads.
00:19:38.000 Not just for fun, for prestige.
00:19:40.000 So in a lot of societies, you have a lot of male initiation.
00:19:44.000 Boys have to do something to become a man.
00:19:46.000 And if the thing you have to do to become a man is you have to cut off someone's head, okay?
00:19:51.000 So that imposes rather a heavy cost on outsiders.
00:19:55.000 All right, so this is a sick culture.
00:19:57.000 This is not one where we can say, oh, well, that's just the way they do things, okay?
00:20:00.000 This has to stop.
00:20:02.000 And ideally, they would cut off a stranger's head like they find someone from another tribe or someone from a government agency.
00:20:09.000 They'll just cut off his head.
00:20:11.000 But if necessary, if there's a fight or if there's somebody within their larger community, that can also get you points.
00:20:16.000 So this is a really sick culture.
00:20:18.000 Now, call-out culture is not quite that bad, but it's the same logic, okay?
00:20:24.000 So if you have a group of teenagers or college students who are all struggling for prestige, as we all are, And if you get a subculture in which the way you get prestige is by calling someone out, showing that they're racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic,
00:20:39.000 Islamophobic, whatever it is, if you can catch them, you get the points.
00:20:43.000 What you're doing here is you're imposing external cost on others.
00:20:47.000 And that's what makes you so insufferable, because you are playing your game, but I'm paying the cost of your game.
00:20:55.000 And so that, I think, it's hard to—people aren't going to break out of that themselves.
00:21:00.000 But once we understand what's happening, I think, in a sense, we can all come together and call out culture and say, stop!
00:21:07.000 Stop imposing these costs on us.
00:21:09.000 But how are we going to reach those kids if professors are so terrified to speak out and to cause controversy in class and no one wants to criticize them because if you do, you risk your job, you risk them organizing against you?
00:21:21.000 I mean, how does this shift?
00:21:24.000 So, I'm hopeful that we can shift it because most people hate it.
00:21:28.000 So, even the people who do it recognize that they're always on eggshells.
00:21:33.000 They can be next.
00:21:35.000 There's the tendency of people in this culture to, you know, as we say, they eat their own.
00:21:38.000 They eventually turn on each other.
00:21:42.000 Yes.
00:21:59.000 That I think if we can raise kids or encourage them to see the games that social media makes them do and give them a vocabulary, I don't know if we should come up with some catchy terms for it, but give them a vocabulary so that they can be like, oh, you're a calling out or,
00:22:16.000 I don't know, that's clunky, but we can help them label this behavior.
00:22:20.000 Mock it.
00:22:20.000 Mock it, exactly.
00:22:21.000 That's right.
00:22:22.000 There's patterns that you see in people that...
00:22:26.000 From a distance, when I look at them objectively, there's these patterns where I go, oh, that's one of those MAGA guys.
00:22:33.000 He's got an American flag with an eagle in his avatar on Twitter.
00:22:38.000 And if you go through his page, it's all talking great about POTUS and criticizing anyone who talks bad about Trump.
00:22:46.000 It's strange.
00:22:48.000 It's like these patterns of behavior, these predetermined patterns.
00:22:51.000 It's almost like there are stereotypes.
00:22:52.000 Not just stereotypes like...
00:22:55.000 They've fallen into a well-oiled, slick groove that's very easy to predict.
00:23:01.000 If you are one of those people, it's super easy to predict that you're going to be pro-Second Amendment.
00:23:07.000 It's super easy to predict that you're probably going to be skeptical about climate change.
00:23:11.000 There's all these different things that go along with these patterns of behavior.
00:23:16.000 And you see them on the right, you see them on the left.
00:23:18.000 And it's weird to watch.
00:23:21.000 It's weird to watch on the outside.
00:23:22.000 It's like, well, this is such a...
00:23:23.000 An easy pattern to slip into.
00:23:26.000 Yeah.
00:23:26.000 Well, that's right.
00:23:28.000 So there's data from the Pew surveys.
00:23:31.000 They've been measuring attitudes of Americans since the 80s or 90s.
00:23:35.000 But they've been publishing this series on polarization in which they show that in the 90s, if you knew somebody's attitude on, say, gun control, that would only predict their attitude on abortion a certain percent.
00:23:45.000 And a lot of people on the left, let's say, would hold six of the 10 leftist attitudes and same on the right.
00:23:52.000 But gradually, by the time you get to around 2010, it's like if you know one attitude, you know them all.
00:23:58.000 And that's in part just because if you turn up the volume.
00:24:00.000 So we evolved to do us versus them.
00:24:03.000 And the more we see, you know, if it's us, America versus them, communist Russia or Nazi Germany, well, you know, then we all come together and that's great for social cohesion and trust.
00:24:14.000 But as that fades away and as us versus them became increasingly left versus right, And as we lost the liberal Republicans and the conservative Democrats, those used to exist until the 80s or 90s, as we lost them, once it becomes us versus them is left versus right,
00:24:30.000 now if you only hold your team's position on six out of ten items, you're a traitor.
00:24:35.000 And so you better get with the program.
00:24:36.000 And so the pressures for conformity, the pressures to agree with your team on everything, have been steadily rising.
00:24:43.000 And that means there's no nuance.
00:24:45.000 And we can't do higher education without nuance.
00:24:49.000 We can't do college without free thinking and the ability to say, well, you know what?
00:24:53.000 Wait a second.
00:24:54.000 Maybe they do have a point on this thing.
00:24:57.000 And that's one of the reasons why it looks so weird from the outside and why it's getting so unpleasant from the inside.
00:25:02.000 When you're teaching classes and a subject comes up that may be controversial, do you have this overwhelming feeling that you're treading on dangerous ground?
00:25:18.000 Yes.
00:25:19.000 Yeah.
00:25:19.000 So I taught Psych 101 at the University of Virginia, and I would take them into, you know, sex differences, the origin of sexual orientation.
00:25:28.000 I would even do race differences.
00:25:31.000 And, you know, because there was a reasonable person standard, and I trusted my students and they trusted me.
00:25:37.000 And we had a great time and we covered a lot, a lot of stuff.
00:25:41.000 And then I moved to New York University in 2011 when my previous book, The Righteous Mind, came out.
00:25:47.000 And it's not about UVA versus NYU. It's just about the changing time.
00:25:52.000 Now, as I said, I have to teach to the most sensitive students.
00:25:55.000 So I teach a course on business ethics, on professional responsibility, and we have a section on discrimination and employment law.
00:26:03.000 It's important to cover it.
00:26:04.000 We have to cover it.
00:26:05.000 You know, MBA students have to know where the lines are, what the law is.
00:26:08.000 And yeah, I'm kind of scared when I teach that because I'd like to get into all sorts of things.
00:26:14.000 I'd like to get into, well, what do numerical disparities mean if there's a gender difference in the percentage of tech but not in the percentage of non-tech employees in Silicon Valley?
00:26:26.000 What does that mean?
00:26:26.000 I would like to talk about that.
00:26:28.000 But if a single student thinks that I am denying the existence of sexism, they could be offended by that.
00:26:37.000 And in every bathroom at NYU, there's a sign telling them how to report me anonymously.
00:26:42.000 And they put these up in 2016 in response to student requests.
00:26:47.000 And that means that all professors are on notice that they can be reported anonymously at any moment.
00:26:52.000 By children.
00:26:53.000 Well, these are, well, I'm not going to call them children.
00:26:56.000 I mean, my students are MBA students, but the undergrads, yeah, 17 to 21-year-olds for the undergrads.
00:27:02.000 Yes, that's right.
00:27:02.000 Barely not children anymore.
00:27:04.000 That's right.
00:27:04.000 And there's an incentive to this, what we were talking about before, this incentive that gives them attention, they get Prestige, they get value from it, and this culture encourages these things.
00:27:18.000 That's right.
00:27:19.000 And this is a terrible lesson to teach them.
00:27:21.000 So, you know, the subtitle of our book is called The Coddling of the American Mind, How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure.
00:27:30.000 And so these microaggression reporting systems, that's basically what it is, a microaggression reporting system It has a good intention behind it.
00:27:40.000 There are cases of professors who make ethnic jokes.
00:27:43.000 Okay, they should stop doing that.
00:27:44.000 I mean, maybe that was okay 30 years ago.
00:27:46.000 You know, there are legitimate complaints, and faculty do – there should be some accountability, some responsibility.
00:27:52.000 So there's a good intention behind it.
00:27:53.000 But it's usually based on no empirical evidence and because it's based on pressure applied to a bureaucracy, not by a committee thinking, hmm, how can we improve the climate for everyone?
00:28:05.000 No, no, it's like we make these demands and we demand 10 things and the administration says, okay, we'll give you five of them.
00:28:12.000 There's not thought put into what would happen if we give the students an East German-style anonymous reporting system, and so everybody's on notice that they can be reported at any point.
00:28:21.000 What might happen to the social dynamics?
00:28:23.000 Nobody thought that through.
00:28:26.000 So the net effect, again, is the spectacular collapse of trust on campus.
00:28:31.000 God, to be in the middle of that, it's got to be so bizarre having taught for so many years before that and to watch almost like this virus overtake the institutions.
00:28:41.000 That's what it felt like.
00:28:43.000 And that's why – so, you know, Greg Lukianoff came to me in 2014. So, Greg, I'll just briefly tell this story of the book.
00:28:50.000 Greg is the president of the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education.
00:28:54.000 He fired.
00:28:55.000 They defend free speech rights on campus.
00:28:58.000 And they were always pushing back against administrators who would say, oh, you know, we need a free speech zone.
00:29:04.000 And they're always afraid of liability.
00:29:06.000 And so – but suddenly in 2014, Greg starts seeing students pushing back on speech rights, saying, we want – you know, ban that speaker, you know – We need a safe space if a debate is going to be held.
00:29:20.000 New stuff, weird stuff.
00:29:22.000 And Greg, who is prone to depression, he had a suicidal depression in 2007. He's hospitalized.
00:29:30.000 When he gets out of the hospital, he learns CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy.
00:29:34.000 And in that, you learn these, like, 15 or so cognitive distortions, like catastrophizing, overgeneralizing, black and white thinking.
00:29:44.000 So Greg learns to not do those himself.
00:29:46.000 And then he goes back to record fire.
00:29:48.000 And then in 2014, he sees students saying, oh, if, you know, if Christina Hoff Summers comes to campus, you know, people will die or there'll be, you know, people will be harmed, injured.
00:29:58.000 And so there's this new way of thinking and Greg thinks, wow, how are students learning to do this?
00:30:05.000 Like, are we teaching them on campus to think in these distorted ways?
00:30:09.000 And if we are, isn't that going to make them depressed?
00:30:12.000 So Greg comes to talk to me in May of 2014 to tell me this idea.
00:30:17.000 And I think it's really brilliant.
00:30:19.000 I think it's a great idea because I'd begun to see this, you know, the safe spaces, the microaggressions, the trigger warning requests.
00:30:27.000 So we wrote up our essay, submitted to The Atlantic.
00:30:31.000 It came out in August of 2015. And it was like we were just seeing the first outbreaks of a virus.
00:30:37.000 And then in the fall of 2015, it becomes an epidemic.
00:30:40.000 And so many of your listeners will have heard of or seen the videos of what happened at Yale in November 2015 when Erika Christakis wrote an email saying, now, wait a second, Yale is telling you how to do your Halloween costumes.
00:30:55.000 Maybe we should think this through ourselves.
00:30:57.000 Maybe you're old enough to make your own decisions.
00:30:58.000 Some students get very upset.
00:31:00.000 They protest.
00:31:01.000 They bring demands to the president.
00:31:02.000 They're screaming at her husband.
00:31:04.000 So it was then, when that protest was successful, when the president of Yale basically said, you know, we're wrong.
00:31:13.000 You're right.
00:31:13.000 We validate your narrative.
00:31:14.000 We'll give you as much as we can of your demands.
00:31:18.000 When that happened, then the protest went national.
00:31:21.000 And so throughout 2016, you have You have groups of students making these demands, demanding microaggression reporting systems.
00:31:27.000 So that's when NYU put in its systems, its microaggression reporting systems.
00:31:31.000 So that Yale event wasn't just an isolated incident.
00:31:34.000 It really was the spark.
00:31:36.000 I think so.
00:31:37.000 Yeah.
00:31:37.000 So there's all these threads coming together.
00:31:40.000 It didn't come out of nowhere.
00:31:41.000 All these things are happening.
00:31:42.000 It's almost like the whole room is almost at combustion temperature, and then Yale was the spark that sent it national.
00:31:49.000 What's crazy about Yale is anybody that's objective that's watching from the outside is like, these students are out of control.
00:31:54.000 They're screaming at this professor like, this is supposed to be a safe place, and you know, you've fucked this up, and they're being incredibly hostile and aggressive towards him and surrounding him.
00:32:07.000 When you watch that from the outside, you think, well, obviously they've got to punish these students.
00:32:11.000 I mean, they did the opposite.
00:32:14.000 That doesn't make any sense.
00:32:15.000 Well, it doesn't make sense from the outside.
00:32:17.000 But again, you have to look at the different games being played.
00:32:20.000 So I went to Yale.
00:32:22.000 I graduated from there in 1985. I loved it.
00:32:25.000 I was in Davenport College, one of the 12 residential colleges.
00:32:28.000 And there were a lot of intellectual events that would happen in the colleges.
00:32:32.000 It's like the master of the college or the dean of the college would bring in all kinds of people to speak.
00:32:36.000 So they were intellectual spaces as well as sort of home-like or not exactly home-like, like transitional places where they were places that you lived.
00:32:46.000 So the Yale that I knew was a place that taught me to think in lots of different ways.
00:32:51.000 And it just was constantly blowing my mind.
00:32:53.000 Like when I took my first economics course, it was like, Wow!
00:32:57.000 Here's a new pair of spectacles that I can put on and suddenly I see all these prices and supply and I never learned to think that way.
00:33:06.000 I learned about Freud and psychology or sociology.
00:33:09.000 So a good education is one that lets you look at our complicated world through multiple perspectives and that makes you smart.
00:33:18.000 That's what a liberal arts education should do.
00:33:21.000 But what I see increasingly happening, especially at elite schools, It's a zero sum game.
00:33:46.000 Is to fight the bad groups, bring them down, create equality.
00:33:51.000 And this is a terrible way to think in a free society.
00:33:54.000 I mean, that might have worked, you know, in biblical days when you got the Moabites killing the Jebusites or whatever.
00:34:00.000 But, you know, we live in an era in which we've discovered that the pie can be grown a million-fold.
00:34:08.000 And so to teach students to see society as a zero-sum competition between groups is primitive and destructive.
00:34:16.000 Now, in your book, you actually identify the moment where these microaggressions sort of made their appearance.
00:34:24.000 And they were initially a racist thing?
00:34:27.000 So, yeah.
00:34:27.000 So, the idea of a microaggression, it goes back to – I forget the scholars and African-American sociologists in the 70s first coined the term – But it really becomes popular in a 2007 article by Derald Wing Sue at Teachers College.
00:34:43.000 And so he talks about this concept of microaggressions.
00:34:47.000 And there are two things that are good about the concept that are useful.
00:34:51.000 And so one is as racism, as explicit racism has clearly gone down by any measure, explicit racism has plummeted in America and across the West.
00:35:03.000 Right.
00:35:05.000 Right.
00:35:09.000 Right.
00:35:13.000 Right.
00:35:18.000 I would just say that if you're a member of a culture, you can tell when someone is saying something to insult, to put down, or to express hostility.
00:35:28.000 And that's a judgment we can make.
00:35:30.000 And as that's become socially unacceptable in most circles, so explicit racism is way, way down.
00:35:38.000 I'm sorry, but my only question is, how are they measuring this?
00:35:43.000 Well, how do you measure microaggressions?
00:35:45.000 Well, how do you measure even explicit racism?
00:35:47.000 How do you say it's down?
00:35:50.000 Certainly attitude measures.
00:35:51.000 So there are surveys done in private.
00:35:55.000 How would you feel if a black family moved in next door, if a Filipino family moved in?
00:36:00.000 So how would you feel if your child married a Jew, a Muslim?
00:36:04.000 So explicit surveys show it.
00:36:07.000 Certainly, I mean, when you do surveys of people's experience, people of every race, when they report how often this happens to them every year, the numbers are actually fairly low.
00:36:19.000 So there are ways of measuring experiences of racism.
00:36:23.000 Right.
00:36:23.000 How accurate are these?
00:36:24.000 Because, like, first of all, I used to have a joke about this, but the idea is that the problem with surveys is You're only getting information from people so stupid they take surveys.
00:36:34.000 Who's taking surveys?
00:36:36.000 Some surveys are subject to that, but in general, if you approach a question from multiple perspectives and say in one condition you pay them for an accurate answer or not, or in one condition they're anonymous or they're not, so you can get a sense of how much the answer moves around depending on external conditions.
00:36:55.000 And so, anyway, the point I just wanted to make is that the acceptability of using the N-word or other things, you know, if a bunch of white people are talking, the acceptability of using the N-word, I think, has gone way down in general.
00:37:07.000 Would you agree with that?
00:37:08.000 Yes.
00:37:08.000 Yes, tremendously.
00:37:10.000 I mean, I agree with the sentiment and I agree with the...
00:37:15.000 The trend, that there is absolutely a trend away from racism, but I was just curious as how they measured it.
00:37:22.000 Yeah.
00:37:22.000 I'm not an expert in that area, so I'm assuming it's surveys and analysis of discourse.
00:37:28.000 Ultimately, for everyone's sake, I mean, even for the sake of the people that are embroiled in all this controversy and chaos, it would be fantastic across the board if there was no more sexism, there was no more racism, there was no more any of these things.
00:37:42.000 I mean, it would be wonderful.
00:37:45.000 Then we could just start treating humans as just humans.
00:37:48.000 Like, this is just who you are.
00:37:51.000 You're just a person.
00:37:52.000 No one cares.
00:37:53.000 That would be – what a wonderful world we would live in if this was no longer an issue at all.
00:37:58.000 Beautifully put.
00:37:58.000 But how does that get – how does that ever get through?
00:38:01.000 So we were getting there.
00:38:02.000 I mean, that's what the 20th century was about.
00:38:06.000 So you and I are shaped by—I don't know how old you are.
00:38:09.000 I'm 51. Okay, I'm 55. We were shaped by the late 20th century.
00:38:13.000 And the late 20th century was a time in America in which, you know, earlier on, there was all kinds of prejudice.
00:38:20.000 I mean, when I was—so when I was born, just right before you were born, it was legal to say, you can't eat here because you're black.
00:38:26.000 And so, you know, that changed in 1964, 65. But— It used to be that we had legal differentiations by race, and then those were knocked down, but we still had social.
00:38:37.000 And it used to be that if you were gay, there was something humiliating that had to be hidden.
00:38:42.000 So if you look at where we were in 1960 or 63 when I was born, and then you look at where we got by 2000, I mean, the progress is fantastic on every front.
00:38:52.000 So that's all I mean when I say we were moving in that direction.
00:38:56.000 And to your point about, you know, wouldn't it be great if there was none of this?
00:38:59.000 We just treated people like people.
00:39:01.000 Okay, yeah, that was the 20th century idea, is let's get past these tribal identifications.
00:39:07.000 And what is so alarming to me now...
00:39:10.000 Is that on campus, it began on campus, but it's spreading elsewhere.
00:39:13.000 And again, it's not everywhere on campus.
00:39:15.000 It's mostly in the grievance studies departments.
00:39:18.000 They're teaching students the opposite.
00:39:21.000 They're teaching students, don't treat everyone like a person.
00:39:25.000 People are their identities.
00:39:26.000 And you can tell some of the identities by looking at people, and so you know if they're good or bad.
00:39:30.000 This, I think, is the opposite of progress.
00:39:32.000 Right.
00:39:33.000 Well, it's also the differences between us are really fascinating.
00:39:37.000 The differences between men and women, I think, are some of the more interesting Explanations for human behavior.
00:39:47.000 And I'm not meaning that people must be defined by their gender, defined by their sex, but it is interesting when you look at these gigantic groups, like why certain people tend to gravitate towards certain occupations or certain types of behavior or certain hobbies.
00:40:04.000 It is really fascinating.
00:40:06.000 That's right.
00:40:07.000 And if we were playing the truth-seeking game, if all we cared about is trying to understand things, we would do the research and we'd figure out what do people like?
00:40:14.000 And do left-handers versus right-handers have different preferences?
00:40:18.000 Probably not, as far as I know.
00:40:19.000 Do boys and girls have different preferences?
00:40:21.000 Yeah, they're really big.
00:40:23.000 Do men and women have different...
00:40:24.000 Do they enjoy different things?
00:40:25.000 Yeah.
00:40:26.000 So we could take that and we could say our goal is to create a free society.
00:40:30.000 This is what the word liberal traditionally meant, a society in which people are free to construct A life that they want to live.
00:40:37.000 Yeah.
00:40:37.000 And so if you're born one race or another, that should not in any way be a limitation.
00:40:41.000 And in the 20th century, we made a lot of progress towards that ideal.
00:40:44.000 Same thing for- But you keep saying we did, meaning that you're implying that it ended, that the progress hit a wall.
00:40:52.000 Yeah, I shouldn't imply that because overall, I think the trends are unstoppable.
00:40:57.000 So I don't want to say that things are reversing.
00:40:59.000 Yeah, I agree.
00:40:59.000 But you feel like there's a slowdown or an error, a glitch.
00:41:03.000 Yeah.
00:41:04.000 So in Chapter 3 of The Coddling, Greg and I look at identity politics.
00:41:09.000 And one thing we really try to do is there's all these loaded terms.
00:41:12.000 And if somebody says social justice warrior, okay, you know a lot about them if they said that.
00:41:18.000 They're going to come at it and say, oh, We're good to go.
00:41:45.000 Life is a battle between good groups and evil groups.
00:41:47.000 Let's divide people by race.
00:41:49.000 So it's basically straight versus everyone else, men versus all the other genders, and white versus everybody else.
00:41:57.000 And so you look at the straight white men, they're the problem.
00:42:01.000 All the other groups must unite to fight the straight white men.
00:42:03.000 So that's one of the core ideas of intersectionality.
00:42:06.000 And so what we say in the book is that leads to eternal conflict.
00:42:10.000 Much better is an identity politics based on common humanity.
00:42:15.000 So we don't say, oh, to hell with identity politics.
00:42:18.000 We say you have to have identity politics until you have perfect justice and equality.
00:42:22.000 You have to have a way for groups to organize, to push back on things, to demand justice.
00:42:27.000 That's fine.
00:42:27.000 But if you do it by first emphasizing common humanity, that's what Martin Luther King did.
00:42:32.000 That's what Pauli Murray did.
00:42:33.000 That's what Nelson Mandela did.
00:42:35.000 This wonderful woman, Pauli Murray, she was a gay, black, possibly trans Civil rights leader, beginning in the 40s, she says, when my opponents draw a small circle to exclude me, I shall draw a larger circle to include them.
00:42:52.000 I shall shout for the rights of all mankind.
00:42:54.000 And this is again what Martin Luther King did.
00:42:56.000 He's relentlessly appealing to our white brothers and sisters.
00:43:00.000 He's using the language of America, of Christianity.
00:43:03.000 Start by saying what we have in common.
00:43:05.000 And then people's hearts are open.
00:43:07.000 We're within a community.
00:43:08.000 Now we can talk about our difficulties.
00:43:11.000 So it's the rise of common enemy identity politics on campus, in the grievance studies departments especially, that I think is an alarming trend.
00:43:21.000 Another thing that's alarming to me is the redefining of terms like sexism and racism, where sexism against men is impossible, racism against white people is impossible.
00:43:30.000 This redefining as these prejudices only exist if you're coming from a position of power.
00:43:37.000 That's really weird.
00:43:39.000 And it also, it opens up the door to treating people as an other.
00:43:45.000 Literally, the people that are the victims of racism are now using racism against other people and feeling justified because of it and having a bunch of people that will agree with them that this is in fact not racism and this is pushing back on white privilege and saying all these different weird things that You know,
00:44:05.000 and they feel really comfortable in saying these open, racist, generalizing things about white people or about white men or about, you know, fill in the blank of whatever group that you're attacking.
00:44:18.000 And it's really strange.
00:44:20.000 It's really strange to see.
00:44:21.000 But again, it makes sense if you look at the different games.
00:44:24.000 So if you're on a university and you think you're playing the truth game, and philosophers are great at this, they're always unpacking terms.
00:44:31.000 And so you might try to define racism or any sort of ism, and a common sense view would be an expression of hostility or resentment or limitation on a group based on their identity.
00:44:43.000 But that's if you're playing the truth seeking game.
00:44:45.000 If you're playing the politics game or the warfare game, You want to define the terms to give your side maximum advantage.
00:44:54.000 So there's a wonderful social psychologist named Phil Tetlock at Penn, at Wharton, and he talks about these different mindsets we get into.
00:45:01.000 And one of them he calls the intuitive prosecutor.
00:45:04.000 So if my goal as a scholar is to prosecute my enemies and maximally convict them, and I am always trying to defend seven different identity groups against the straight white men, they're the accused, I want to define my terms to make it maximally easy to convict.
00:45:23.000 And so I'm going to say racism, microaggressions, it doesn't matter what the intent was.
00:45:30.000 All that matters is the impact.
00:45:32.000 All that matters is what the person felt.
00:45:34.000 That way, as long as someone's offended, I get to charge you with a crime.
00:45:38.000 And also on racism, you can say, as a lot of kids are learning in high school these days, racism is prejudice plus prejudice.
00:45:57.000 This is actually being taught?
00:46:00.000 Yeah.
00:46:00.000 Yeah.
00:46:04.000 Well, this is taught in a number of high schools.
00:46:08.000 My nephews went to Andover.
00:46:11.000 They learned this.
00:46:12.000 That's an offensive thing, to be teaching children.
00:46:14.000 It's not just that it's offensive and obviously hypocritical.
00:46:18.000 It's that it's crippling.
00:46:19.000 Yes.
00:46:19.000 I mean, can you imagine?
00:46:21.000 So, look, you've got kids, right?
00:46:22.000 You have two daughters now?
00:46:23.000 Yes, three.
00:46:24.000 Okay, so you have three daughters.
00:46:25.000 Can you imagine giving your daughters a cloak of invulnerability, where you say, you put this on, now, you get to attack others, but no one can touch you.
00:46:36.000 This is going to warp their development.
00:46:38.000 Power corrupts, and even moral or rhetorical power corrupts as well.
00:46:42.000 How is this being taught, though?
00:46:43.000 I mean, how is this being justified?
00:46:45.000 How is this accepted as a part of a curriculum?
00:46:48.000 So, because the goal is not truth, the goal is victory over racism, let's say.
00:46:52.000 And so if that's the case, you're going to focus on educating kids about their white privilege.
00:46:58.000 And so that's what a lot of these privilege exercises are.
00:47:03.000 You know, you line kids up by their privilege and your goal is to make the straight white boys feel bad about their privilege and therefore talk less, take up less space.
00:47:13.000 This is what we were talking about earlier about the goal is no racism.
00:47:17.000 The privilege only exists if there's racism.
00:47:20.000 Like, instead of concentrating on the privilege, it only exists if people do preferentially treat certain – preferential treatment towards certain races.
00:47:29.000 If that doesn't exist at all, then white privilege doesn't exist.
00:47:33.000 Well, I'm not sure I'd agree with you on that.
00:47:35.000 Why also?
00:47:36.000 Well, so we had a funny episode last night.
00:47:39.000 And so my wife and I were out in L.A. We were invited to the Golden Globes by a friend.
00:47:44.000 And so we're here in L.A. So we go to bed in the hotel room.
00:47:50.000 And at two in the morning, the guy's pounding on the door saying, come on, let me in.
00:47:54.000 It's me.
00:47:55.000 It's me.
00:47:56.000 And I wake up, and I go to the door, and I say, wrong room, and he can't hear me.
00:48:00.000 So I open the door a crack to show him, you know, like, look, I don't know who you are.
00:48:05.000 And, you know, some drunk guy.
00:48:08.000 And I said, you know, you've got the wrong room.
00:48:10.000 And I went back to bed.
00:48:12.000 And at breakfast this morning, my wife says, Why did you open the door?
00:48:16.000 Like, how could you have done that?
00:48:17.000 I said, you know, we're in a nice hotel.
00:48:19.000 I mean, what's going to happen?
00:48:20.000 And she made it clear, like, a woman would never have done that.
00:48:23.000 Like, she said, you as a man, you have the ability to go out in the world and engage with in a certain way that I don't have as a woman.
00:48:29.000 And that's a great example.
00:48:30.000 So there is a kind of male privilege.
00:48:32.000 Sure.
00:48:33.000 Even if there's no sexism.
00:48:35.000 Yeah, that's an interesting example.
00:48:39.000 That's a sexism one, but that's also a physical danger one.
00:48:43.000 There is a difference between just the way women have to go out into the world being vulnerable and also being the target of Just a male sexual attention.
00:48:57.000 It's a very different thing.
00:48:58.000 It's an aggressive and dangerous thing.
00:49:00.000 Yeah.
00:49:00.000 But I think you could say the same thing about race in this way.
00:49:04.000 Because there's racism, though.
00:49:06.000 Well, okay.
00:49:06.000 Okay, you're right.
00:49:07.000 If there was absolute zero racism anywhere...
00:49:12.000 But we're never going to get to that.
00:49:13.000 But the thing that we're worried about is the racism.
00:49:16.000 So if you say you have white privilege, well, that only exists if you're being dealt with in a racist manner.
00:49:25.000 So if you're a black person and there is...
00:49:28.000 Racism that's being directed towards you and it's not being directed towards me, then you can say, well, I have a white privilege.
00:49:35.000 But if there's no racism directed towards anybody, that doesn't exist anymore.
00:49:38.000 So, the issue is racism.
00:49:40.000 Yes, but, okay, so look, I think it's helpful to always try to look at it from the other person's point of view and to listen to their arguments.
00:49:48.000 And so, for example, when you and I go into any social encounter, it never occurs to me Right.
00:50:16.000 And that, whereas if we were black or other identities or visibly gay, there would be the risk of spoiling of a social interaction.
00:50:24.000 So I'm totally comfortable saying we should be telling our kids about this, but what follows from it?
00:50:29.000 What follows from it?
00:50:30.000 Should we therefore be telling kids, okay, so, you know, judge people based on their appearance.
00:50:38.000 Be suspicious of people based on their race and gender.
00:50:42.000 That's where I get off the bus.
00:50:45.000 That's where I say now we're really hurting kids.
00:50:47.000 We should be turning down the moralism and we're turning it up.
00:50:50.000 Right.
00:50:50.000 But what I'm getting at is pointing at someone and saying you have white privilege if they are not racist.
00:51:00.000 You're giving this person, you're putting this person in a category that really only exists in the face of racism, where the real problem is racism.
00:51:10.000 The male-female thing is a very different thing.
00:51:13.000 Male privilege, I think, is way more slippery, because it's biologically based.
00:51:17.000 There's a creepiness to men, and there is.
00:51:21.000 As much as a nice guy as I'm sure you are, and I try very hard to be a nice guy, Jamie's a little slippery.
00:51:26.000 Just kidding.
00:51:27.000 Every woman's encountered creeps.
00:51:28.000 Yes.
00:51:29.000 It's inevitable because there's a game being played, this pursuing of sexual pleasure or of sexual encounters.
00:51:36.000 This doesn't exist or shouldn't exist with races.
00:51:40.000 The real problem, in my eyes, is racism.
00:51:44.000 And if we could figure out a way to just complete...
00:51:48.000 Obviously, it's not gonna...
00:51:49.000 Look, people are flawed.
00:51:50.000 They're going to be...
00:51:51.000 Until there's some sort of new way that we interface with each other that eliminates lies and deception and allows each other to completely understand each other's feelings and appreciate them, which may happen someday, probably technologically driven.
00:52:03.000 Until that happens, there's going to be a certain amount of it.
00:52:06.000 But the real enemy is racism.
00:52:08.000 It's not white people just getting lucky.
00:52:11.000 Yeah.
00:52:12.000 Okay, but I would say— Not that we shouldn't acknowledge it.
00:52:15.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:52:16.000 So you said earlier about how definitions change.
00:52:20.000 Yes.
00:52:21.000 So we are evolving as a society.
00:52:23.000 We're getting less sexist and racist, and so our threshold for what counts is sexist and racist going down.
00:52:27.000 That's a good thing.
00:52:28.000 That should happen.
00:52:29.000 Right.
00:52:29.000 But I think what we need to call attention to is that if you lower the threshold faster than the reality changes, then you make progress, but yet people feel worse and worse.
00:52:39.000 And so I think that's part of what's happening on campus.
00:52:43.000 That makes sense.
00:52:45.000 So the loudest protests tend to happen at the most progressive schools.
00:52:48.000 It's places like Middlebury and Yale and Berkeley.
00:52:52.000 And so I think that if you bring in a diverse student body, and we're all trying to diversify.
00:53:00.000 Every school I know of is trying very hard to create a very diverse student body.
00:53:05.000 So if we do that and we bring people in and we give them a common humanity approach, it's going to work great.
00:53:10.000 Diversity, if you handle it well, it can confer many benefits.
00:53:15.000 But if you handle it wrong, if you try to make people see race and other groups more and you attach moral valences to it and you give them a lot of the stuff that they get in the grievance studies, of course they're going to be angry and of course they're going to feel that people hate them.
00:53:29.000 It's a terrible thing to bring people into a university and to teach them, you know what?
00:53:33.000 This institution is white supremacist.
00:53:35.000 People have implicit bias against you.
00:53:37.000 Wherever you go, people are going to hate you.
00:53:38.000 Like, no, this is a really bad thing to do to create an open, trusting, inclusive, diverse environment.
00:53:43.000 Right.
00:53:43.000 The right thing to do would be to emphasize how foolish racism really is and about how damaging it is not just to our culture but to you as an individual to look at people in that way and not open your heart and your mind to all these different races.
00:53:56.000 And I think one of the worst examples of modern racism that's gone unchecked is what's going on at Harvard with Asian students, where Asian students are instead of Instead of being completely neutral in terms of how they approach all these races,
00:54:14.000 Asian students actually have to try harder to get into Harvard because there's so many of them.
00:54:18.000 And they're doing so well.
00:54:20.000 They're being punished for excelling, which is really racist.
00:54:24.000 I mean, it's racist against the people that are doing the best, which is really crazy.
00:54:29.000 And they're a minority, which is even more crazy.
00:54:31.000 And because of their culture, because they're so hardworking and...
00:54:36.000 They're not, in general, they're not the type to be really loud and protest these things.
00:54:42.000 It's gone on.
00:54:43.000 It's an easy target.
00:54:44.000 To the point where now they've had to have a class action lawsuit.
00:54:47.000 That's right.
00:54:48.000 That's right.
00:54:48.000 So, you know, my hope, again, I'm a 20th century person.
00:54:52.000 My hope is that as time goes on, we'll get past all this.
00:54:54.000 You have to be a 21st century person.
00:54:56.000 No, no, I think that you have to.
00:54:57.000 Well, okay, but you know what?
00:54:59.000 There are, okay, wait.
00:55:01.000 Moral cultures evolve, and they don't always evolve in a positive way.
00:55:05.000 And so I think the evolution of the late 20th century was incredibly positive.
00:55:10.000 And I think young people are losing touch with some of the hard-won lessons of the past.
00:55:18.000 So I'm not going to say, oh, we have to just accept whatever morality is here.
00:55:21.000 I still am ultimately illiberal in the sense that What I dream of is a society in which people are free to create lives that they want to live, and they're not forced to do things, they're not shamed, there's a minimum of conflict, and we make room for each other.
00:55:35.000 If we're going to have a diverse society, we've really got to be tolerant and make room for each other.
00:55:39.000 That's my dream.
00:55:40.000 And I think in the last five or ten years, we've gotten really far from that.
00:55:45.000 I mean, you know, my first book, The Happiness Hypothesis, was about ten ancient ideas.
00:55:50.000 And, you know, one is that we're too judgmental.
00:55:52.000 You know, judge not, lest ye be judged.
00:55:55.000 But I think the new version of that, if there was a 21st century Jesus, he'd say, judge a lot more, judge all the time, judge harshly, don't give anyone the benefit of the doubt, and don't let anyone judge you.
00:56:04.000 Like, that is not going to be a recipe for a functioning society.
00:56:08.000 So no, I do not accept this aspect of 21st century morality.
00:56:12.000 Well, you're obviously much more entrenched in it than I am.
00:56:15.000 My hope, and this might be naive, is that what these far left and far, like the real extreme, what it represents is the extreme poles of this shifting thing.
00:56:29.000 So that the whole thing is going to move closer to a better place, and you're always going to have really extreme, but you're always going to have...
00:56:43.000 Yeah.
00:56:44.000 Yeah.
00:56:51.000 Yeah.
00:57:04.000 You know, Nick Kristof just had a column that last year was the best year in human history if you look at overall human welfare.
00:57:10.000 So that's all true.
00:57:12.000 But there are certain things that happen with progress that lead to certain countervailing trends that are not like pendula.
00:57:21.000 And so, for example, okay, here's one.
00:57:27.000 It seems pretty clear that human beings need a certain amount of hardship, stress, and challenge in order to develop basic human abilities.
00:57:38.000 Kids who are neglected and abused are damaged.
00:57:42.000 I mean, if it goes beyond certain limits, you have chronic stress, you can have brain damage.
00:57:47.000 So as we've gotten rid of a lot of the worst things, that's great.
00:57:52.000 But as we're making life better and better and easier and easier for kids, as we're protecting them from more and more, we're preventing them from basically expanding their abilities.
00:58:01.000 And so it's possible that as we get wealthier and safer and more humane and more caring and as we have smaller and smaller families as we get richer all over the world so that you have two parents spending all this time with one kid it's possible that we are interfering with kids development to the point where we might have an epidemic of anxiety and depression that could happen oh wait a second it has so you know I think that there are certain problems of progress
00:58:32.000 That are not pendula.
00:58:35.000 They change things and those changes have some negative repercussions that we're going to have to actively fix.
00:58:41.000 It's not going to swing back by itself.
00:58:43.000 What concerns me when you're talking about all these ideas is that there's a restriction on how you are able to communicate to children or to students, I should say, to young people How their minds work and how these patterns can form and how this This pattern can be ultimately damaging to them,
00:59:08.000 but yet it feels rewarding in the act of doing it, and that their own patterns that they're involved in right now might be incredibly problematic for them in the future, but if you bring it up, you're criticizing who they are as a human, you're disregarding your white privilege,
00:59:23.000 you're doing all these different things you can't really do.
00:59:26.000 You're doing all these things that could run into these problems with this sort of new paradigm.
00:59:34.000 How do you mitigate that when you're teaching kids?
00:59:37.000 How do you talk to them about the way the mind works when it's involving these critical things that are incredibly sensitive to discuss today?
00:59:46.000 You might be talking about issues like race and sex.
00:59:50.000 Yes, race and sex, gender.
00:59:52.000 Okay, but let's go back to the beginning.
00:59:53.000 Let's start with child development.
00:59:55.000 Okay.
00:59:55.000 Let's start with what should we be doing with kids to make them tougher so that, you know, as they live in it, the world is safer and safer.
01:00:05.000 Cars are safer.
01:00:06.000 The death rate for kids has been plummeting for all causes other than suicide, which has gone up.
01:00:13.000 So as kids live in a safer and safer world, they also have the internet, which is going to expose them to virtual insults forever and ever.
01:00:21.000 So how are we going to raise kids to be maximally effective in this new 21st century world, which is physically very safe, but virtually unsafe?
01:00:30.000 Okay?
01:00:30.000 How are we going to do that?
01:00:32.000 And I think the key idea that we need to put on the table here and that I think everybody who works with kids needs to keep in mind every day is anti-fragility.
01:00:40.000 I know you've talked about that on the show before.
01:00:43.000 But I can just give a very brief explanation of it because it's such an important concept.
01:00:48.000 So anti-fragility, a lot of listeners will know, is a word coined by Nassim Taleb, the guy who wrote The Black Swan.
01:00:55.000 Because there are certain systems, and I think he was motivated by the collapse of the banking system.
01:00:59.000 So he had predicted the collapse because he said, the banking system is really convoluted and it's never been tested.
01:01:06.000 A system needs to be tested, challenged, shocked, in order to then develop defenses against it.
01:01:11.000 And our system has not been tested, so if anything goes wrong, it's all going down.
01:01:15.000 Yeah, you reference him quite a few times.
01:01:17.000 Yes, that's right.
01:01:18.000 He's really, yeah.
01:01:19.000 The concept of anti-fragile.
01:01:20.000 That's right.
01:01:20.000 It's a key idea in our book.
01:01:22.000 And I find, as I talk about this around the country, once you explain this to people who work with kids, like, everybody gets it right away.
01:01:28.000 All right, so Taleb says, there's no word for this property.
01:01:33.000 He says, we know that some things are fragile, and so if you have a glass, you know, if you have a wine glass on the table and you knock it over, it breaks.
01:01:39.000 Okay, it doesn't get better in any way.
01:01:42.000 And so, you know, you don't give kids a wine glass, you give them a plastic sippy cup because plastic is resilient.
01:01:48.000 But if a kid knocks over a sippy cup, it doesn't get better in any way.
01:01:51.000 And Taleb wanted to know, what's the word for things that do get better when you knock them over?
01:01:57.000 And the classic example is the immune system.
01:02:00.000 So the immune system is an incomplete system.
01:02:03.000 It's a miracle of evolution that we have this system for making antibodies.
01:02:08.000 But it doesn't know exactly what to be reactive to.
01:02:10.000 That has to be set by childhood experience.
01:02:13.000 And so if you keep your kids in a bubble, And you use bacterial wipes and you don't let them be exposed to bacteria, you're crippling the system.
01:02:21.000 The system has to get knocked over.
01:02:23.000 It has to get challenged, threatened.
01:02:24.000 It has to learn how to expand its abilities.
01:02:29.000 And so this is why peanut allergies are going up.
01:02:32.000 Yeah, that was a really shocking part of your book.
01:02:34.000 That's right.
01:02:34.000 It's stunning how fast this happened.
01:02:36.000 Please explain that to people, the whole peanut allergy thing.
01:02:39.000 Yeah, so peanut allergies used to be really rare.
01:02:42.000 And most of us, you know, older folk, we brought peanut butter sandwiches to school.
01:02:46.000 And when my son Max started preschool in 2008, you know, they went on and on about no nuts, nothing that touched a nut, nothing that looks like a nut, nothing that has the word nut.
01:02:56.000 I mean, it was crazy how defensive they were about nuts.
01:02:59.000 And as we were writing the book, I thought back on that.
01:03:02.000 And I said, wait a second.
01:03:03.000 Like, why?
01:03:04.000 You know, we're freaking out about nuts.
01:03:06.000 And the more we freak out about it, the higher the allergy rate goes.
01:03:09.000 And it turns out there was a study done and published in 2015 where the researchers noticed that the allergy to nuts is only going up in countries that tell pregnant women to avoid nuts.
01:03:21.000 And they thought, well, maybe that's why.
01:03:24.000 And so they did a controlled experiment.
01:03:25.000 They got about 600 women who had given birth recently.
01:03:31.000 And whose kids were at higher risk of an allergy because they had eczema or some other immune system sort of issue.
01:03:38.000 So about 300 of them are told, standard advice, your kid's at risk of a peanut allergy.
01:03:43.000 So you should not eat peanuts while you're lactating and keep peanuts away from your kid.
01:03:48.000 And the other half were told, here is an Israeli snack food.
01:03:52.000 It's a puffed corn with a peanut powder dusting on the outside.
01:03:57.000 Give it to your kids starting at three or four months whenever they're ready to eat.
01:04:01.000 And they monitored them.
01:04:02.000 They made sure that there weren't fatal reactions or strong reactions.
01:04:06.000 And then at the age of five, they gave them all a very thorough immunological test.
01:04:11.000 And of the ones who followed the standard advice, 17% had a peanut allergy.
01:04:16.000 They would have to watch out for peanuts for the rest of their lives.
01:04:18.000 That's such a high number.
01:04:20.000 Because these kids were already predisposed.
01:04:23.000 But the half that were predisposed, but given peanut powder, 3%.
01:04:28.000 Just 3% had a peanut allergy at age 5. In other words, we could almost wipe out peanut allergies by giving peanut powder to kids.
01:04:38.000 And just a few months ago in Science, the front page article was on doing that.
01:04:42.000 And so, again, good intentions and bad ideas.
01:04:45.000 We're trying to protect our kids so Oh, keep them away from peanuts, but that's exactly the wrong advice, because kids are anti-fragile.
01:04:51.000 And so we're doing the same thing, I think.
01:04:52.000 Most of them.
01:04:53.000 The real issue is the people that have an actual severe allergy, if that's your child.
01:04:57.000 Yes, but that's what this science article was about, was that exposure therapies are being tested, and they are the most effective.
01:05:05.000 Even with people with extreme allergies?
01:05:07.000 Yes.
01:05:07.000 You just have to start slow.
01:05:08.000 So you just give them a very small amount.
01:05:09.000 Exactly.
01:05:10.000 Because I was on a plane once and they informed us that they didn't want us to even eat peanuts on the plane because there was someone on the plane that was so allergic that if you eat peanuts and you chew it and it's in the air, it could adversely affect that person.
01:05:24.000 Yeah, and that could well be true.
01:05:25.000 So I have no objection to that.
01:05:26.000 But the reason we got to that point is because we started banning peanuts long ago.
01:05:31.000 So this is one of these – well, I'm not sure if it's a problem of progress.
01:05:34.000 But as we – no, it's not necessarily.
01:05:36.000 But it's an example of antifragility.
01:05:39.000 Okay, so now let's bring this to the playground.
01:05:41.000 All right, so when you and I were kids, boys and girls have different social interactions, but boys tease each other, right?
01:05:48.000 Insult each other.
01:05:48.000 They throw around insults, right?
01:05:50.000 And that's part of developing to be a boy.
01:05:53.000 Now, if it turns into bullying, like a bunch of kids are after one kid day after day, okay, that's terrible.
01:06:01.000 We have to do something about that.
01:06:02.000 I'm not saying bullying is okay.
01:06:04.000 But as we've cracked down on bullying, and as we've gotten more and more sensitive about harm in general, we're cracking down on any kind of teasing, cruelty, exclusion.
01:06:15.000 So my kids go to New York City public schools, which are generally pretty good.
01:06:20.000 But on the playground, there's a monitor, and the playground monitor, if there's conflict, he comes and checks it out.
01:06:26.000 If a kid is crying, he checks it out.
01:06:28.000 You know, seems like a good thing to do, but it's like treating kids like they're allergic to peanuts.
01:06:33.000 Kids have to have thousands and thousands of conflicts.
01:06:36.000 They have to be exposed to insults and exclusion and teasing.
01:06:39.000 And if you can imagine, if you could keep your daughter in a protective tank where nobody would tease her or insult her or hurt her feelings for 18 years, would you do it?
01:06:47.000 Absolutely not.
01:06:49.000 It's important that they do experience some assholes.
01:06:53.000 They just have to know.
01:06:54.000 But on the flip side, there are certain people that are damaged for the rest of their life by bullies.
01:07:00.000 I have a friend, and his brother used to beat him up when they lived together.
01:07:06.000 And it still fucks with him to this day, and he's in his 50s.
01:07:09.000 I think he has a certain level of depression that's directly correlated.
01:07:13.000 That's right.
01:07:14.000 I mean, I can't say about your friend, but the research does show that bullying can leave permanent scars.
01:07:22.000 So there are a couple things we have to keep our eye on.
01:07:25.000 Kids are anti-fragile, yes, but two things.
01:07:28.000 One is they need challenges that are graded to their level of ability.
01:07:34.000 So if they're overwhelmed...
01:07:36.000 And if the suffering goes on day after day, so if their brain is bathed in cortisol, so cortisol is a normal stress hormone, you have to experience stress, you have to have cortisol and then it drops, goes up and down, up and down.
01:07:49.000 But kids who are raised either in an environment where they're bullied or they're abused at home, they don't have a secure attachment relationship, then they get brain damage.
01:07:57.000 Then you're hurting kids if it's chronic.
01:08:00.000 So I'm in no way saying bullying is okay.
01:08:02.000 You've got to keep the line.
01:08:04.000 But again, you have to look at each institution.
01:08:08.000 So each school is not thinking, hmm, how can we carefully draw the line between bullying and valuable sorts of conflict?
01:08:16.000 No, they're thinking, if we do this, will we get sued?
01:08:20.000 And if we're not really careful about bullying, we're going to get sued.
01:08:23.000 And so let's overreact.
01:08:25.000 Let's go this way.
01:08:27.000 Yeah, that's unfortunate, really.
01:08:29.000 But how do you decide how much bullying is acceptable?
01:08:33.000 It's almost like snake venom, like giving them a little bit so they develop a tolerance.
01:08:37.000 So we did some research on bullying.
01:08:40.000 We didn't put it in the book because while we suspect that anti-bullying policies that go too far and that ban conflict, while we suspect that those are harmful, we couldn't prove that.
01:08:50.000 So we didn't put this in the book.
01:08:51.000 But the traditional definitions of bullying are actually pretty reasonable.
01:08:54.000 I hope I can remember it exactly.
01:08:56.000 There's a power differential and it's chronic.
01:09:02.000 It goes on for multiple days.
01:09:07.000 And originally, there was actually a threat of violence.
01:09:10.000 There had to be at least a threat of violence.
01:09:12.000 I think that was the original definition.
01:09:14.000 And then that was expanded gradually.
01:09:18.000 So that doesn't have to be necessarily a threat of violence.
01:09:21.000 But it has expanded so far that, like my kids use the term, if one kid is mean to another, they'll call that bullying.
01:09:29.000 And that's too far.
01:09:30.000 So I think you have to keep your eye on...
01:09:32.000 The key feature...
01:09:33.000 It's too far if a kid is mean?
01:09:35.000 Yeah.
01:09:35.000 Like how so?
01:09:36.000 So like on the playground for my daughter, the girls would form these clubs.
01:09:44.000 And so my daughter was in the kitty cat club.
01:09:46.000 Like that's what three girls called themselves.
01:09:48.000 And they'd be in a corner and they'd say, oh, you can't join us.
01:09:52.000 You're not in the kitty cat club.
01:09:53.000 Yeah.
01:09:54.000 That's mean.
01:09:55.000 That's exclusion.
01:09:56.000 Right.
01:09:57.000 We can't have that.
01:09:58.000 Right.
01:09:59.000 So you'd have to allow everyone in your group because you don't want to be a bully.
01:10:03.000 That's right.
01:10:04.000 That's why you're saying it goes too far.
01:10:05.000 I don't know they called that bullying, but her teacher had a conversation with them.
01:10:09.000 Now, I don't think she exactly ordered them never exclude.
01:10:12.000 So, I mean, it'd be okay if you use it as a grounds for discussion.
01:10:15.000 But some schools have even tried to discourage the existence of best friends because if you have best friends...
01:10:21.000 You're excluding others.
01:10:22.000 That's hilarious.
01:10:37.000 And there really is an epidemic of kids that grew up in that era of participation trophies where everyone won.
01:10:45.000 And there's a lot of parents that don't want to see their children lose.
01:10:50.000 But that's a giant learning opportunity.
01:10:54.000 Exactly.
01:10:54.000 If you think the goal is to cultivate self-esteem directly, you're crippling the kid.
01:11:00.000 Giving your kids self-esteem is not beneficial.
01:11:03.000 In fact, if kids have high self-esteem but it's unstable, then they're actually more likely to be violent.
01:11:10.000 They have more problems.
01:11:11.000 You don't want to build self-esteem.
01:11:12.000 What you want to build is capacities.
01:11:14.000 You want to give them abilities and skills that they do things that then indirectly give them self-esteem.
01:11:20.000 And compassion, right?
01:11:21.000 I mean, how do you teach that?
01:11:24.000 How do you teach it?
01:11:25.000 Well, there are lots and lots.
01:11:26.000 I mean, it's one of the biggest things that is happening in schools is efforts to teach compassion.
01:11:30.000 I don't know.
01:11:31.000 I've not surveyed the research.
01:11:32.000 I don't know if they work.
01:11:34.000 I don't know.
01:11:35.000 So look, in general, kids learn from experience, but adults want to teach them directly.
01:11:41.000 And so there's all these efforts to teach compassion.
01:11:44.000 I have no idea if they work, but I would think that doing things together, and this is a point made by Peter Gray, an expert on play who co-founded LetGrow.org, a wonderful organization that I hope we can talk about.
01:12:02.000 One way that kids learn compassion is by playing with each other when there's no adult who can step in, where they have to look out for each other to keep the game going.
01:12:10.000 But when there are adults present who are supervising, Then if there's a conflict, the skills that kids need to learn are how do you make your case to get the adult to come in on your side?
01:12:22.000 And this is called moral dependence.
01:12:24.000 So one of the best ways that kids learn compassion, cooperation, tolerance, teamwork, leadership, is free play, unsupervised free play.
01:12:35.000 And that's what kids did from time immemorial, certainly throughout the 20th century, up until the 1990s.
01:12:44.000 So I'll ask you, how old were you?
01:12:46.000 Where did you grow up, first of all?
01:12:48.000 Well, all over the place, honestly.
01:12:50.000 I was born in New Jersey, lived there until 7, San Francisco from 7 to 11. Okay, that's the key period.
01:12:55.000 7 to 11, that's the key period.
01:12:57.000 When you lived in San Francisco, were you allowed outside?
01:13:00.000 Were you allowed to go to a friend's house?
01:13:02.000 Could you and your friends go places?
01:13:03.000 Yeah, I was a latchkey kid.
01:13:05.000 Okay.
01:13:05.000 Yeah, my parents were gone all day.
01:13:07.000 And now they would be arrested if they did that.
01:13:09.000 Yeah.
01:13:09.000 When I was eight years old, I did a magic show on Fisherman's Wharf by myself.
01:13:14.000 Fantastic.
01:13:15.000 Sort of.
01:13:16.000 Wait, what happened?
01:13:16.000 I dodged a bunch of bullets.
01:13:18.000 What do you mean?
01:13:19.000 What happened?
01:13:19.000 Well, I almost got molested.
01:13:21.000 Some guy tried to abduct me.
01:13:24.000 Wait, wait.
01:13:24.000 Literally tried to abduct you?
01:13:26.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:13:26.000 I was in a library.
01:13:27.000 Some guy tried to get me to go out to his car with him to check out some books and And some lady librarian saved me.
01:13:34.000 She screamed out, Joseph, you get away from that man.
01:13:36.000 He just got out of jail.
01:13:37.000 Wow.
01:13:37.000 And the guy ran off.
01:13:39.000 Yeah, he was super creepy.
01:13:40.000 But, you know, I was eight.
01:13:41.000 I didn't understand what was going on.
01:13:43.000 I just thought he had some good books.
01:13:44.000 Yeah.
01:13:44.000 Okay.
01:13:45.000 Okay, good.
01:13:45.000 No, right.
01:13:46.000 So this is a nice example of how we've made progress.
01:13:49.000 Yeah.
01:13:49.000 So, you know, a lot of what I'm saying, we're saying in the book, is we have to let kids out.
01:13:53.000 Now, yes, there are dangers out there.
01:13:56.000 And so kids have to learn...
01:13:58.000 You actually can talk to strangers.
01:14:00.000 It's not a problem to talk to strangers.
01:14:01.000 Just never, ever go off with them.
01:14:03.000 Never, under any circumstances.
01:14:05.000 But really, the problem with talking to strangers is when you're eight, you don't understand manipulation.
01:14:11.000 You think of adults as being someone you can count on.
01:14:15.000 Okay, so back then we were negligent in that we sent our kids out and we didn't think about the dangers.
01:14:22.000 Now, the dangers are actually extremely low, at least the danger of abduction.
01:14:27.000 The number of kids who are abducted in America each year is on the order of 100. Now, many more are abducted by the non-custodial parent.
01:14:35.000 Right.
01:14:53.000 And then the crime wave begins to end rapidly in the 1990s.
01:14:58.000 And just as it's ending, we changed our norms to say, if a kid is outside and there's no adult watching him, that kid is likely to be abducted.
01:15:07.000 And therefore, the parents are responsible, the parents can be arrested, or at least Child Protective Services should pay them a visit.
01:15:14.000 So just as the crime rate was ending and rates of all kinds of crazy violence were plummeting, We locked our kids up and we said, you're not going to be able to have the kind of experience that you most need in order to become an independent functioning adult.
01:15:28.000 And so we don't know why depression, anxiety, and suicide are skyrocketing for teenagers, especially teenage girls.
01:15:35.000 But the combination of overprotection and then social media seems to be the main part of the example.
01:15:40.000 So I totally sympathize with the fact that there are risks out there.
01:15:44.000 But the risk of overprotection kills a lot more kids.
01:15:48.000 There was a story that I read about, I want to say the kids were 8 and 10, and they were walking home in New York City, and the police officer stopped them and talked to them, and then eventually interviewed their parents and said, why are your children walking home?
01:16:02.000 He's like, because I taught them how to walk home.
01:16:05.000 I showed him how to get home.
01:16:07.000 This is a valuable thing to give them the independence to leave school together, they look out for each other, and then they go home together.
01:16:14.000 And the cops were making it like these people were negligent and criminal, and they were saying, no, I'm trying to prepare my child for the world.
01:16:22.000 It's sort of a debate about the philosophy of raising human beings and exposing them to a certain amount of independence and a certain amount of personal sovereignty.
01:16:31.000 That's right.
01:16:32.000 And so this is, I think, the most important lesson that Greg and I hope will come from our book, Is that if you see the world as dangerous and threatening and you raise your kids accordingly, you're gonna raise emotionally stunted kids who are at much higher risk of depression, anxiety, and suicide.
01:16:47.000 So, stop doing that.
01:16:49.000 We gotta stop doing that.
01:16:50.000 Unfortunately, it's hard to stop doing that because if we let our kids outside, we can be arrested.
01:16:55.000 Now, that happens very rarely, but it does happen.
01:16:57.000 More concerning, your kids can be harmed.
01:17:01.000 That's extremely rare.
01:17:03.000 But it can happen.
01:17:04.000 And to the people that it does happen to, the idea that it's extremely rare is not comforting.
01:17:08.000 Well, that's right.
01:17:09.000 So we think about probabilities in very ineffective ways.
01:17:12.000 Actually, do we have those graphs?
01:17:13.000 I sent in some graphs of depression and anxiety rates.
01:17:17.000 So if we think that kids are at risk of harm from letting them out, but we don't see that they're at risk of harm from keeping them in, then we're going to make the wrong decision.
01:17:26.000 Right.
01:17:27.000 So there's a silent, secret, sort of invisible harm of coddling them.
01:17:33.000 Exactly.
01:17:33.000 And then there's the small percentage of possible harm that you could get if you go out into the world.
01:17:39.000 Right.
01:17:40.000 So, okay, so you're raising your kids here.
01:17:42.000 What's your policy on letting them out?
01:17:44.000 Man, it's slippery.
01:17:45.000 How old is your oldest?
01:17:46.000 Well, I have a grown one who's 22, and then I have a 10 and an 8. Okay.
01:17:52.000 And it's hard, man, because...
01:17:55.000 I don't even like when they go over on sleepovers over a friend's house.
01:17:58.000 Because it's scary.
01:18:00.000 Whose problem is that?
01:18:01.000 It's everybody's problem.
01:18:02.000 You know, it's, well, I mean, the parents, I mean, we're pretty selective about the parents, but there's a lot of parents that don't pay attention to their kids at all.
01:18:10.000 Meaning they just tune out and they get on the phone and the kids are sticking forks into the fucking outlets.
01:18:15.000 And, you know, there's a lot of weirdness when it comes to the styles that people have in raising their children.
01:18:22.000 What is this graph you just pulled?
01:18:26.000 Depressive episodes.
01:18:27.000 Yeah, so I guess I'll just narrate it for people who are listening and not watching the video.
01:18:31.000 You said before it's like a virus came out of nowhere, and that is sort of what it's been like.
01:18:36.000 So what's happening in America, and I know it's happening the same in Britain and Canada.
01:18:40.000 I haven't looked at other places yet, haven't dug into those stats.
01:18:43.000 What's happening is that rates of depression and anxiety were fairly stable from the 90s through the early 2000s.
01:18:51.000 And what you see here, and this is a graph that's in our book, is that the percentage of kids aged 12 to 17 in America who met the criteria for having a major depressive episode—that is, they're given a symptom checklist with nine symptoms, and if you say yes to five of them— You know,
01:19:07.000 feeling hopeless and couldn't get out of bed.
01:19:10.000 If you say yes to five or more, you're considered to have had a major depressive episode.
01:19:14.000 And what you see is that the rate for boys is around 5%.
01:19:17.000 And then around 2011, it starts going up, and now it's around 7%.
01:19:21.000 I think?
01:19:47.000 And then right around 2011, 2012, it starts going up.
01:19:50.000 And it goes way up to the point where it goes up from about 12% to now about 20% of American teenage girls have had a major depressive episode in the last year.
01:19:59.000 One in five.
01:19:59.000 So this is huge.
01:20:01.000 Okay, next slide.
01:20:04.000 Now let's look just at college students.
01:20:06.000 So this is more selective.
01:20:08.000 These are kids who've made it into college.
01:20:09.000 And what we see is that in 2010 and 2012, when college students were all millennials, the rates were pretty low.
01:20:17.000 This is, do you have a psychological disorder?
01:20:19.000 And they didn't specify.
01:20:20.000 Or they said, such as depression.
01:20:22.000 And so we see about 2-3% of the boys, the college men, and about 5-6% of college women say yes to that question.
01:20:32.000 That's when it was millennials.
01:20:33.000 But beginning in 2013, Gen Z begins arriving.
01:20:37.000 That's kids born in 1995. Gen Z begins arriving.
01:20:41.000 And so by 2016, colleges are almost all Gen Z. And the rates shoot up, way up.
01:20:47.000 Yeah, we're looking at these charts right now, and folks who are just listening, it's like...
01:20:52.000 It's like a jump ramp for a BMX racer.
01:20:55.000 I mean, it really is crazy for women.
01:20:57.000 It came out of nowhere.
01:20:58.000 And it hits at 2012. It goes on a very sharp upward angle.
01:21:03.000 Right.
01:21:03.000 It goes from less than 6% to almost 15% in the space of four years.
01:21:08.000 That's crazy.
01:21:09.000 It's crazy.
01:21:10.000 Oh, you can't say that.
01:21:11.000 Can't say crazy?
01:21:12.000 Can't say crazy.
01:21:12.000 What can I say?
01:21:14.000 Fucking nuts?
01:21:15.000 Can I say that?
01:21:17.000 No, because some people might have a nut allergy.
01:21:19.000 Ah!
01:21:21.000 Oh, boy.
01:21:23.000 Ludicrous?
01:21:24.000 Preposterous?
01:21:25.000 Outrageous?
01:21:26.000 Terrifying?
01:21:27.000 And so this has huge ramifications.
01:21:29.000 Now, let me just make clear.
01:21:30.000 I think we have another slide there.
01:21:32.000 Can we bring up the next one?
01:21:34.000 Okay.
01:21:35.000 So some people say, oh, come on, you guys are catastrophizing.
01:21:40.000 The increase isn't real.
01:21:42.000 It's just that, you know, this generation, they're really comfortable talking about mental illness.
01:21:47.000 And so the fact that they say they're depressed just means they're comfortable.
01:21:52.000 It doesn't mean that there's an epidemic.
01:21:53.000 I've heard this argument that it's just an argument of recognition rather than of...
01:21:57.000 Perfectly reasonable.
01:21:58.000 That's right.
01:21:58.000 Diagnostic criteria change.
01:21:59.000 Perfectly reasonable argument.
01:22:00.000 Is it true?
01:22:01.000 Well, let's look at behavior.
01:22:02.000 So what this graph shows is the number of boys out of 100,000 who were admitted to a hospital every year because they deliberately harmed themselves to the point where they had to be hospitalized.
01:22:13.000 And what you see here is that there's no change over time.
01:22:17.000 So boys, these graphs from 2001 to 2015, the lines are flat for all the different age groups.
01:22:23.000 And just notice that the highest rates are around 280 out of 100,000 per year.
01:22:29.000 That's the situation for boys.
01:22:30.000 Next graph.
01:22:32.000 The situation for girls is really, really different.
01:22:35.000 So the averages are higher.
01:22:37.000 So self-harm has always been more of a girl thing than a boy thing.
01:22:40.000 Except for suicide.
01:22:43.000 Exactly.
01:22:44.000 We'll get to that.
01:22:44.000 That's right.
01:22:45.000 That's next.
01:22:46.000 So if we look at self-harm, what you see here is that the rates were fairly stable up until 2009. And then, bang, just as in the last, same thing.
01:22:54.000 The rates for girls go shooting up.
01:22:56.000 So the rate for 15 to 19-year-old girls is up 62%.
01:23:00.000 Since 2009. Now notice, the rate for the millennials, that is the rate for the oldest girls, age 20 to 24, that's only up 17%.
01:23:10.000 So whatever happened, it's not affecting the millennials, it's affecting Gen Z. Hit the advance key because I think there's one number missing there.
01:23:19.000 Ah, okay.
01:23:20.000 I'll just...
01:23:20.000 No, go forward.
01:23:21.000 Okay.
01:23:22.000 The number...
01:23:23.000 Oh, there it is.
01:23:23.000 There it is.
01:23:23.000 The rate for the youngest girls, check that out.
01:23:26.000 Now, the youngest girls...
01:23:26.000 These are 10 to 14-year-old girls.
01:23:28.000 These are preteens, okay?
01:23:30.000 They didn't used to cut themselves.
01:23:32.000 They used to have very low rates.
01:23:33.000 But bang, beginning in 2010, it shoots up.
01:23:36.000 It's up 189%.
01:23:38.000 It has nearly tripled in the last five or six years.
01:23:42.000 What's the cost?
01:23:43.000 We don't know for sure, but because of the huge sex difference, the leading candidate and the timing, look at that timing, is social media.
01:23:53.000 So if you look at what happened in this country and all around the world, Facebook opens up to the world in 2006. You don't have to be a college student, but very few teenagers have a Facebook account in 2006. 2007, the iPhone comes out, but it's very expensive and very few teenagers have one.
01:24:10.000 By 2010, 2011, around half of American teenagers have an iPhone or Samsung.
01:24:17.000 They have a smartphone and they have access to social media in middle school.
01:24:21.000 Because even though for Facebook and Instagram, I think the minimum age is and was 13, I mean, my son is 12. A lot of his friends have Instagram.
01:24:29.000 You just lie.
01:24:30.000 So middle school kids are now getting on social media.
01:24:33.000 By 2010, 2011, you've got a lot of them.
01:24:35.000 And that's what I think is the main cause of this because social media does not really affect boys very much.
01:24:41.000 But man, does it affect girls.
01:24:43.000 Why is that?
01:24:44.000 So a couple of reasons.
01:24:46.000 First look at the nature of aggression within the sexes.
01:24:50.000 Boys bullying is physical.
01:24:52.000 Boys are physically dominating and then the risk is that they're going to get punched.
01:24:56.000 So you give everybody an iPhone, what do they do with it?
01:25:01.000 Games and porn.
01:25:02.000 They don't use it to hurt each other.
01:25:05.000 Boys, you're saying?
01:25:06.000 Boys, that's right.
01:25:07.000 It doesn't affect their bullying.
01:25:09.000 But girls' aggression, girls are actually as aggressive as boys.
01:25:12.000 There's research from the 80s and 90s on this.
01:25:14.000 If you include relational aggression, girls don't bully each other by threatening to punch each other in the face.
01:25:20.000 Girls bully each other by damaging the other girls' social relationships, spreading rumors, spreading lies, spreading a doctored photograph, saying bad things, excluding them.
01:25:29.000 It's relational aggression.
01:25:30.000 And so it's always been really hard to be a middle school student.
01:25:33.000 It's always been harder to be a middle school girl than a middle school boy, okay?
01:25:38.000 So beginning around 2010-2011, we throw in this brand new thing into the mix.
01:25:42.000 Okay, girls, here's this beautiful thing in your hand, and here's all these programs where you can damage anyone's social relationships any time of the day or night with deniability from an anonymous account.
01:25:55.000 Go at it, girls!
01:25:57.000 And so the nature of girls' bullying is hypercharged by social media and smartphones.
01:26:03.000 That's one mechanism.
01:26:04.000 The other two mechanisms are the social comparison because it's always been hard to be a teen girl emerging with beauty standards and impossible beauty standards.
01:26:14.000 And when we were kids, you had impossible beauty standards that these models...
01:26:18.000 We're all doctored up and then Photoshop.
01:26:20.000 Okay, so you've got these impossible beauty standards out there.
01:26:23.000 But beginning with social media, especially in recent years, your own friends can put on a filter in Instagram to make their lips bigger, their skin cleaner, their eyes bigger.
01:26:33.000 So your own friends are more beautiful than they are in real life.
01:26:36.000 You feel uglier.
01:26:37.000 So that's the social comparison of beauty.
01:26:39.000 And then probably the biggest single one is the fear of missing out, the fear of being left out.
01:26:45.000 So all kids are subject to this.
01:26:47.000 Everyone's concerned about whether they're included or whether they're excluded.
01:26:51.000 But girls are much more sensitive.
01:26:52.000 And so suddenly when everybody is tracking each other's who was invited, who's there, and especially any program in which a girl puts something out and then waits to see what other people say about it, that is what's really damaging, I think.
01:27:06.000 Again, let me stress, we don't know for sure.
01:27:09.000 There are some experiments on this, but it's mostly correlational stuff we're talking about here, correlational data.
01:27:14.000 But the overall experience of being a girl who was born in 1995 or later and got this stuff in middle school is different from being a girl born in 1990, let's say, where you didn't get this stuff until college.
01:27:26.000 Are you concerned that this is a trend that as technology becomes more and more invasive and with these new technologies as they emerge, that this is going to be worse?
01:27:36.000 Yes.
01:27:37.000 But it doesn't have to be.
01:27:39.000 So I think in the last two years, we're really waking up to this.
01:27:43.000 The founders of this technology, it's really interesting.
01:27:46.000 So first of all, it's important to note, as many people have read, a lot of the creators of this technology do not let their kids have it.
01:27:53.000 So they know that these things were made to be addictive.
01:27:55.000 They're made to grab eyeballs and not let go.
01:27:58.000 So that's one thing.
01:28:00.000 We should keep that in mind, that the makers of this are wary of it.
01:28:03.000 Second, they've gotten more and more addictive as they've gotten better and better, as they've evolved.
01:28:08.000 So they're getting more and more, and Fortnite is an example of an extremely addictive game.
01:28:17.000 So if you've ever been to a casino and you've seen people sitting at those machines, like zombies, just hour after hour pulling that crank, because there were psychologists working out the variable reinforcement schedule for the gambling companies,
01:28:35.000 Psychologists, they're helping companies manipulate users, and that's happening to our kids too.
01:28:40.000 They're manipulated to stay on the device.
01:28:43.000 So once we're beginning to realize this, the nature of these technologies, the fact that what is good for adults may be terrible for 12-year-olds, 10-year-olds...
01:28:54.000 And once we realize that these things are so attractive that they crowd out all the other healthy activities like playing outside, playing with groups of friends, once we realize that, I think and I hope we'll get some reasonable norms.
01:29:08.000 And what I'd like to propose, this is fantastic to be able to talk to so many people, what I'd like to propose is if you have kids, especially if you have kids under about 16, Please do what you can to talk with other parents, and especially with the principal of any schools you know,
01:29:23.000 and say, we need some sensible norms because we can't solve this problem by ourselves.
01:29:28.000 So I want to keep my kids off social media, but my son says, well, most of my friends have Instagram accounts.
01:29:34.000 Now, if it was every friend and he was the only one who was excluded, it would be really hard for me to stick to my guns.
01:29:39.000 I would do it, but it would be really hard.
01:29:41.000 Whereas if it was only a few of his friends, and most of them weren't, it would be so easy.
01:29:45.000 And I hear this from parents over and over.
01:29:47.000 I don't want my kid on social media, but I don't want her to be left out.
01:29:51.000 And so if the principal would just say, parents, please, this is getting out of hand.
01:29:56.000 This is harming kids.
01:29:57.000 Look at the data.
01:29:58.000 Look at the suicide rates.
01:29:59.000 Look at the self-harm rates.
01:30:01.000 We've got to do something.
01:30:02.000 What do you do?
01:30:03.000 A couple of things.
01:30:04.000 I think it's a couple of pretty simple norms.
01:30:07.000 One, all devices out of the bedroom by a set time at least half an hour before bed.
01:30:12.000 There is no reason why kids should have an iPhone or a computer or a screen in their bedroom because so many kids are attracted to it.
01:30:20.000 They'll check their status overnight, and it interrupts their sleep.
01:30:23.000 We can't be having teenagers who have interrupted sleep.
01:30:26.000 There's just no benefit from that.
01:30:28.000 Gave my daughter a Fitbit, my 10-year-old, to monitor all sorts of different things.
01:30:33.000 She was interested in it, so we got her one for Christmas.
01:30:36.000 And she slept five and a half hours the first night she had it on, because we could check.
01:30:41.000 We're like, what are you doing?
01:30:43.000 She's checking the Fitbit?
01:30:44.000 What's going on here?
01:30:45.000 I'm like, this is not good.
01:30:46.000 You can't wear this now.
01:30:47.000 And she's trying to make all these arguments to keep it.
01:30:49.000 I'm like, listen.
01:30:50.000 She goes, it's not distracting me.
01:30:52.000 I go, if it's not distracting you, then you shouldn't care if you don't have it on.
01:30:56.000 Because then it's not going to mean anything.
01:30:57.000 And then there's like this, like, shit!
01:30:59.000 Like she got checkmated.
01:31:01.000 That's right.
01:31:02.000 These things are so attractive.
01:31:04.000 So addictive.
01:31:05.000 I had one of those goddamn watches, those Apple watches.
01:31:07.000 I had it on for one day.
01:31:09.000 And while I was doing the podcast, it kept vibrating.
01:31:11.000 I'm like, oh my god, I'm getting text messages on my wrist!
01:31:14.000 On my wrist!
01:31:15.000 And your brain is all developed.
01:31:17.000 You're an adult.
01:31:19.000 Well, okay.
01:31:19.000 But imagine if you're a 10 or 11-year-old kid and you put something out there and you want to know, did Bill like it yet?
01:31:26.000 Why did Mary like Bill's but not mine?
01:31:29.000 So that's rule number one.
01:31:30.000 You've got to get devices out of the bedroom.
01:31:32.000 Give them an old-fashioned alarm clock.
01:31:34.000 Let them wake up with an alarm clock.
01:31:35.000 That's one.
01:31:36.000 Two, no social media till high school.
01:31:38.000 There is no reason why kids in middle school or elementary school should have Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, any of those.
01:31:45.000 I agree.
01:31:45.000 They can text each other.
01:31:46.000 When we were kids, you'd call each other on the phone.
01:31:47.000 That's fine.
01:31:48.000 They can text each other.
01:31:49.000 But there should be no social media till high school.
01:31:51.000 Because it's a social dilemma that we can't solve alone.
01:31:55.000 We can only solve it if there's an agreement among parents and guidance from the principal.
01:31:59.000 Please, parents, don't give your kid an Instagram account until they're in high school.
01:32:06.000 If we say, nothing till high school, and then when they get into high school, then they're confronted with it, I would like them to have some skills or at least some understanding of what's going on.
01:32:18.000 Now, wait a sec.
01:32:18.000 So, I'm not saying don't let them have access to these machines.
01:32:22.000 I'm not saying don't let them...
01:32:23.000 No, I know exactly what you're saying.
01:32:25.000 You're saying don't allow them to have social media.
01:32:27.000 And how about this?
01:32:28.000 I think that's true.
01:32:55.000 And she thinks that it's in part the nature of the bullying as such.
01:33:00.000 So, you know, sure, we want them to know how to deal with this.
01:33:02.000 But, you know, they can learn it pretty quickly when they're 15. It's not like they need a running start from 11 to 15. So I just see no good whatsoever coming from social media in middle school.
01:33:13.000 And I see a lot of harm.
01:33:15.000 Look, I go around the country.
01:33:17.000 I talk about this.
01:33:18.000 Almost the rule now is when someone says, oh, my daughter's in high school and she's had it.
01:33:23.000 And I say, how is she doing?
01:33:25.000 Does she have anxiety problems?
01:33:26.000 The answer is almost always yes.
01:33:27.000 And if it's not her, then her friends are all crippled by it or suffering from anxiety.
01:33:32.000 So I think you have to weigh costs and benefits.
01:33:35.000 A few years ago, we didn't know for sure about the costs.
01:33:37.000 Now we do.
01:33:38.000 Yeah, no, you're making total sense.
01:33:40.000 I'm purely playing devil's advocate, and I'm on the same page with you.
01:33:43.000 My kids don't have phones, and my 10-year-old, it's shocking how many girls in her class have phones, and Facebook accounts, and Instagram accounts.
01:33:52.000 I'll say it right now.
01:33:53.000 Her friends are at higher risk than she is of having an anxiety disorder, of being hospitalized because they're going to cut themselves, and ultimately of suicide.
01:34:01.000 Yeah, it's so common.
01:34:03.000 And it's most of the kids in school now.
01:34:05.000 And when they get older than 10, the number increases.
01:34:08.000 Like parents hold out for as long as they can, but as they get older.
01:34:11.000 And the kids want phones, man.
01:34:13.000 Everybody wants a phone.
01:34:14.000 That's right.
01:34:15.000 So let me put in a plug.
01:34:16.000 So I gave my son – so I'm saying two contradictory things.
01:34:19.000 One is I'm saying we've got to let our kids out.
01:34:21.000 We've got to start letting them out at least by age eight, at least to go with their friends to a playground, to a store.
01:34:26.000 We've got to start doing this.
01:34:29.000 Yeah.
01:34:50.000 There's a great little product.
01:34:52.000 I don't know if Verizon.
01:34:54.000 No, they don't make it.
01:34:54.000 I think LG makes it.
01:34:55.000 But it's a gizmo or a gizmo gadget.
01:34:58.000 And so it's a simple watch.
01:35:00.000 It's a big, clunky thing.
01:35:02.000 But my daughter loves wearing it because it's kind of like a James Bond, Dick Tracy thing.
01:35:06.000 It's a watch.
01:35:07.000 You press a button.
01:35:07.000 You turn it on.
01:35:08.000 You can call three phone numbers.
01:35:10.000 That's it.
01:35:10.000 Three phone numbers.
01:35:11.000 So now I can send her out to get bagels on Sunday morning.
01:35:14.000 She walks about six blocks in New York City.
01:35:16.000 It's incredibly safe.
01:35:17.000 How old is she?
01:35:18.000 She is nine.
01:35:19.000 So, yeah.
01:35:20.000 So, and she is a much more independent, confident girl because of it.
01:35:25.000 And she is proud of this fact that she is a free-range kid.
01:35:29.000 She can walk around our neighborhood.
01:35:31.000 I mean, we live in Greenwich Village.
01:35:32.000 It's incredibly safe.
01:35:34.000 So she can go get bagels and, you know, she has no sense of direction.
01:35:38.000 So a couple times when she's been out doing an errand, she gets lost.
01:35:40.000 She just presses a button.
01:35:41.000 Daddy, I don't know where I am.
01:35:43.000 She's calm.
01:35:44.000 And we talk it through.
01:35:46.000 And I can track her.
01:35:46.000 That's the reassuring thing.
01:35:48.000 I can see on a screen roughly where she is.
01:35:50.000 So I can say, you know, what do you see?
01:35:51.000 And I say, oh, come back this way.
01:35:52.000 And she always knows.
01:35:53.000 If she gets in trouble, just walk home and start again.
01:35:55.000 Yeah.
01:35:57.000 Whew.
01:35:58.000 What are you thinking, Joe?
01:35:59.000 What's that facial expression for?
01:36:01.000 Nothing.
01:36:01.000 It's just children wandering around on their own.
01:36:03.000 Yeah, as always happened.
01:36:05.000 And as they have to do at some point.
01:36:08.000 I know, but listen, look at how you're even reacting to this.
01:36:11.000 What?
01:36:12.000 You're beaming up and you're adding emotion to your voice and you're smiling.
01:36:17.000 Everything's going to be fine.
01:36:18.000 You're doing this and you're not just reassuring, you're selling it.
01:36:23.000 You're right.
01:36:24.000 I am selling it.
01:36:25.000 Because we as a society bought into a set of beliefs that are based on falsehoods.
01:36:30.000 The risk to our kids is minuscule.
01:36:33.000 Someone calculated at present rates of abduction by strangers.
01:36:37.000 If you put your kid in a car and you go into a store and you leave the windows open and your kid's sitting there in the parking lot, you'd have to stay in that store for 700,000 years before your kid is likely to be abducted.
01:36:48.000 Well, it does not depend on what neighborhood you live in.
01:36:50.000 I suppose so.
01:36:51.000 Yeah.
01:36:51.000 But still, the point is that there's hardly any actual abduction.
01:36:54.000 And so actually, this brings up a really important point I'd like to say.
01:36:58.000 One of the sticking points here is that we're afraid to let our kids out because bad things can happen to us as well as to the kids.
01:37:05.000 Sure.
01:37:06.000 I would hope that would be the least of your concerns.
01:37:08.000 I hope your number one concern would be your children's safety.
01:37:10.000 But you getting in trouble, I would hope, would be the least of your concerns.
01:37:14.000 Not the least of them because I am selling something.
01:37:17.000 I am selling the idea that the gigantic rise in mental illness of teenagers is caused in part because we've overprotected them.
01:37:26.000 We have denied them the experiences of independence they need to develop their basic social sense.
01:37:31.000 And so I am selling an idea that we've totally botched this and we need to undo it.
01:37:37.000 And a big piece of that is we need to be removed from the fear of legal prosecution.
01:37:42.000 And so Utah, the state of Utah, passed a year and a half ago, they passed the first free-range kids bill, which says, it puts into state law, it says, I forget the exact terms, but the gist of it is, A parent cannot be considered to be negligent just by having the kids be unsupervised.
01:38:01.000 So if you send your kids out to the park, you have to use judgment.
01:38:04.000 Obviously, if there's a pattern of neglect, that's a totally different story.
01:38:08.000 But the mere effect, as you just said, the story about, well, I'm teaching my kids to go outside.
01:38:12.000 I know that they're outside.
01:38:13.000 I told them to go outside.
01:38:15.000 You can't be arrested for that.
01:38:17.000 And until we have legal protections, it's going to be very hard for anyone to do it because the risk is you could be drawn into months and months of supervision.
01:38:27.000 Your kids can actually be taken away from you if you give them independence in some parts of the country.
01:38:31.000 It's interesting that Utah would be so progressive about that.
01:38:35.000 Yeah, I don't know the history behind it.
01:38:37.000 It's such a safe place.
01:38:38.000 It's one of the reasons why, I think.
01:38:40.000 That could be.
01:38:40.000 So a big part of this is we don't trust each other anymore.
01:38:44.000 If you don't trust your neighbors, then you're not going to let them out.
01:38:49.000 You're not going to let your kids out.
01:38:51.000 One of the things you talk about in your book about happiness, which is really interesting, is cognitive therapy, Prozac, and meditation.
01:39:00.000 Those three factors being enormous aids in acquiring a certain amount of happiness.
01:39:11.000 I found it very refreshing that you also added in Prozac.
01:39:18.000 You added in SSRIs.
01:39:21.000 There's a lot of people that seem to take this approach with antidepressants in particular, that they're over-prescribed, which I think they probably are, and that they do more harm than good, which is debatable.
01:39:33.000 But the fact that they do do good, I have had two close friends that were in really bad places, and they got on an SSRI and it cleaned them up.
01:39:44.000 And they eventually weaned themselves off of it and now very productive and very happy.
01:39:49.000 But they were in a place in their life where they, like my friend Ari put it best.
01:39:53.000 He's like, my brain was broken.
01:39:56.000 And he goes, I needed to fix it.
01:39:57.000 And I fixed it.
01:39:58.000 And then once it was fixed, I realized it was fixed.
01:40:00.000 And then I weaned myself off.
01:40:01.000 That's right.
01:40:02.000 Yeah, so in Chapter 2 of The Happiness Hypothesis, so the book is based on 10 ancient ideas.
01:40:08.000 And one of the ancient ideas is the world is what we deem it.
01:40:17.000 With our perceptions, we make the world.
01:40:19.000 The world is not an objective thing.
01:40:21.000 We don't react to the world as an objective fact.
01:40:23.000 We react to it through filters.
01:40:28.000 Yeah.
01:40:47.000 And from that behavior, you can predict, not with a lot of accuracy, but you can do better than chance, who's going to go to the high school prom, who is going to be successful in any sort of social endeavors, because some people's brains are set to fear and avoidance.
01:41:03.000 When your brain is set to see more threats, you have a bias towards interpreting things negatively.
01:41:09.000 And if the world is incredibly dangerous, well, that might be adaptive.
01:41:12.000 But if the world's incredibly physically safe, as ours is, you're losing a lot of opportunities, you're going to be less successful.
01:41:20.000 And so the point of that chapter was there are ways you can change your filter.
01:41:24.000 Even though this is highly heritable, identical twins reared apart tend to be pretty similar on these traits.
01:41:31.000 But you can change your filters.
01:41:33.000 And so that chapter two of the happiness hypothesis shows the three main ways of changing your filter.
01:41:38.000 So it was meditation, cognitive therapy, and SSRIs.
01:41:43.000 And all three work.
01:41:44.000 There's a lot of evidence for all three.
01:41:46.000 Meditation has only good effects.
01:41:49.000 It's wonderful, but it's hard.
01:41:51.000 That is, I've assigned it to my classes, and most undergraduates, if they have to do it for a few weeks, most of them stop.
01:41:58.000 A few continue and get benefits.
01:42:01.000 Cognitive therapy is easier.
01:42:03.000 When I've assigned students to do it, most have success.
01:42:06.000 I have a real hard time with that phrase, it's hard.
01:42:09.000 That meditation's hard.
01:42:10.000 I really do.
01:42:12.000 I don't think it's hard.
01:42:15.000 You find it easy to sit for 20 minutes?
01:42:17.000 It's not easy, but it's not hard.
01:42:19.000 Coal mining's hard.
01:42:20.000 You know what I mean?
01:42:21.000 Doing something you hate is hard.
01:42:24.000 This is just complicated.
01:42:25.000 I don't think it's hard.
01:42:27.000 You're right.
01:42:27.000 Let me use a different word.
01:42:29.000 Meditation is such that the noncompliance rate ends up being quite high.
01:42:33.000 Well, there's a massive...
01:42:35.000 People have a problem with a few things.
01:42:37.000 One, discipline.
01:42:38.000 Two, avoiding discomfort.
01:42:42.000 This is one of the reasons why people don't like exercise.
01:42:45.000 And it's also really just starting exercise because the actual exercise itself is oftentimes kind of pleasurable.
01:42:50.000 Once you develop a habit, it's a lot easier.
01:42:52.000 Yes.
01:42:53.000 This is, I think, what you have with meditation.
01:42:55.000 It's this procrastination, your brain tries to find ways to avoid whatever difficult, especially in some strange way if it's been shown to be beneficial.
01:43:08.000 Things that have been shown to be beneficial, your brain wants to avoid.
01:43:12.000 I do not know why that is.
01:43:16.000 I have a theory that, especially when you're growing up, that you associate work with schoolwork, jobs.
01:43:25.000 So anytime you have these thoughts in your head, you're like, oh, it's that thing.
01:43:30.000 It's one of those things that I don't want to do.
01:43:32.000 I want to go play video games.
01:43:33.000 I want to play Fortnite.
01:43:34.000 Why do I have to do the work?
01:43:35.000 But doing the work, really, it's just a matter of how you interface with it, how you view it.
01:43:41.000 And it's many, many years of conditioning that this is mundane, dreary, boring horseshit when you could be out playing.
01:43:50.000 You could be out doing fun stuff.
01:43:51.000 No, that's right.
01:43:52.000 There's a great little scene in The Simpsons where Bart is on a video game and he's shooting down state capitals.
01:43:58.000 And he's shooting, you know, like something appears like, oh, there's Helena, you know, there's, you know, Springfield.
01:44:03.000 And then at a certain point he says, wait, I'm learning!
01:44:06.000 And he throws it down like, to hell with that!
01:44:08.000 Yes, exactly.
01:44:09.000 So that's your thesis.
01:44:10.000 It really is what it is.
01:44:12.000 I mean, it's kind of amazing that we have done such a shitty job teaching kids that we make school out to be this dreary thing that they have like a deep avoidance of.
01:44:26.000 Well, that's right.
01:44:27.000 And this is Peter Gray's point.
01:44:28.000 Peter Gray, this wonderful developmental psychologist at Boston College, who thinks that schools are not designed with kids' learning in mind.
01:44:37.000 Kids learn best from interacting with the world, from experience.
01:44:40.000 We get experience from feedback.
01:44:42.000 And so we make learning painful.
01:44:45.000 And so an example would be, how do you learn to climb a tree?
01:44:50.000 When we were kids, you'd climb a tree.
01:44:51.000 Do you know that feeling when you go out on a branch and at a certain point you just get the sense that it's about to crack and you pull back?
01:44:59.000 Now, imagine that you had 100 kids who learned how to climb trees by climbing trees.
01:45:03.000 You take another 100 kids, you give them tree climbing class, but you never let them climb a tree.
01:45:07.000 But you bring in the world's best experts on tree climbing and they teach these kids how to climb trees.
01:45:13.000 And then you put them all out and you give them trees to climb.
01:45:16.000 In general, I would put my money on the kids who actually learned from experience.
01:45:19.000 Oh, for sure.
01:45:20.000 And so, you know, the general principle, again, is that—well, actually, here, I'll bring up one other idea from the happiness hypothesis.
01:45:26.000 I find it really helpful to think of the mind as being divided into parts like a rider on an elephant.
01:45:33.000 And the rider is our conscious reasoning.
01:45:35.000 It's the little guy up on top who has language, and it's what we're aware of.
01:45:39.000 But the elephant is the other 99% of our minds, and that's almost all automatic processes.
01:45:44.000 It's intuitions, it's emotions, it's habits, phobias, all sorts of things.
01:45:49.000 And so child development can't be just training the rider for 18 years.
01:45:56.000 Wisdom, knowledge, skill, competence, those have to involve training the elephant.
01:46:02.000 And when the two work together, then you get the best results.
01:46:05.000 And I think what we've done in America, especially, is we've said, we want our kids to be really good in math.
01:46:12.000 So we're going to teach them math earlier.
01:46:15.000 Let's give them math in kindergarten.
01:46:17.000 But there's no evidence that that helps.
01:46:19.000 There's no evidence that teaching academic skills earlier will make them advance to a higher level at the end.
01:46:25.000 What they most need when they're young is to play.
01:46:27.000 And we've taken that away from them.
01:46:29.000 We've given them too many after school lessons and too much supervision of their play.
01:46:35.000 Yeah, the saddest thing in the world is when my kids come home and they're really frustrated because they have homework.
01:46:40.000 You know, 10-year-olds that have hours of homework.
01:46:42.000 I'm like, you're in school all day.
01:46:45.000 That's right.
01:46:45.000 And I don't know how to address that.
01:46:47.000 I mean, do you bring it to the teachers and say, hey, you guys are fucking up?
01:46:50.000 Even though I've never taught anyone ever in class, I'm telling you you're doing it wrong.
01:46:54.000 Yeah, so, you know, it's a case where you certainly need the research.
01:46:58.000 And the research, we cover some of the research in chapters 8 and 9 of the Coddling of the American Mind.
01:47:06.000 And as far as we can tell, the research seems to show that there are essentially no benefits to doing homework in kindergarten and first grade.
01:47:13.000 Maybe a little bit of like, you know, they learn to organize their time, but barely any.
01:47:17.000 By fifth or sixth grade, there's more evidence that homework is beneficial.
01:47:22.000 But in between there, it really isn't clear.
01:47:24.000 What's really clear is that play, free play, is beneficial.
01:47:27.000 So it's hard for you as just one parent to say, hey, don't do this.
01:47:32.000 But I think as part of a larger program to say...
01:47:35.000 Our kids are being messed up.
01:47:37.000 Look at these graphs.
01:47:37.000 Look at the rates of anxiety and depression.
01:47:39.000 And when I talk about the book all around, people now come up to me and they'll say, I'm a guitar teacher.
01:47:46.000 I've been teaching guitar for 20 years.
01:47:48.000 And suddenly, just in the last few years, I give them negative feedback and they crack.
01:47:53.000 So everyone's beginning to notice that our kids are frail.
01:47:56.000 And nobody wants this.
01:47:58.000 And so I think we're going to find people more open to changing what we're doing.
01:48:03.000 Boy, I hope so.
01:48:06.000 It's also, it's got to be so incredibly difficult to cater a lesson where you have, you know, 30 or 40 kids in the classroom with varying abilities and varying interests and you're sort of catering a lesson where you're trying to excite them about astronomy or whatever it is you're teaching and get it through into their heads and make it seem fun.
01:48:28.000 Yeah.
01:48:30.000 And still teach them.
01:48:32.000 And then still set them up to have a certain amount of discipline.
01:48:36.000 If you're going to enter into the workforce, you're going to have to do things you don't necessarily want to do while you're doing them.
01:48:42.000 That's right.
01:48:43.000 And now you add to that the decline of authority of teachers and principals.
01:48:48.000 And you add to that the sense of empowerment that parents have to fine-tune or control and be involved.
01:48:55.000 There are stories now about parents who come to the lunchroom.
01:48:58.000 Because they want to see their kid at lunch.
01:49:02.000 Where, you know, principals and teachers, where once, you know, if the teacher gives a bad grade, the parents would assume that it was deserved.
01:49:11.000 I think there's more of a tendency in the last decade or two of parents who are very competitive or concerned about getting their kid into college to complain.
01:49:19.000 So if you have, I don't know how general these trends are.
01:49:23.000 I don't want to overestimate this.
01:49:24.000 But if you have a general decline of authority of teachers and principals, now they have less leeway to give negative experiences.
01:49:32.000 So if someone fails to turn in a paper because they were responsible, and you say, sorry, F, that could be a good learning experience.
01:49:41.000 Right.
01:49:42.000 It could be, but it would be devastating for their GPA. That's right.
01:49:46.000 That's probably a good thing, though, for them to understand the consequences, right?
01:49:49.000 Exactly.
01:49:50.000 What about teaching children how to think?
01:49:52.000 And why is that not a massive part of the curriculum?
01:49:56.000 Because I think that's something that I really had to learn.
01:50:00.000 I think it's one of the most valuable things that I ever learned.
01:50:02.000 But as I got older, I always thought, why didn't I learn this in school?
01:50:27.000 And so it's very hard to train anyone to disconfirm their own hypotheses.
01:50:33.000 What we really need to think better is the right system, the right community.
01:50:37.000 We actually need critics.
01:50:39.000 So actually, here I brought you a copy of a little book that I co-produced.
01:50:43.000 So this is John Stuart Mill wrote one of the most important books in the Western tradition on liberty.
01:50:50.000 Chapter 2 of On Liberty is the best set of arguments ever made for free speech, for why it is that we need to let people talk and challenge and criticize.
01:51:00.000 Even if we think they're wrong, we get smarter from having to rebut them.
01:51:04.000 Whereas if we shut them down, if we have blasphemy laws, we get dumber because we never actually face tests of what we believe.
01:51:11.000 So, this set of arguments in Chapter 2 of On Liberty is timeless.
01:51:15.000 I mean, we need, like, Mill anticipated every argument that we hear now about why we need to shut that person down and not let that person talk.
01:51:22.000 And so I thought, wow, we need to get this book back out because college students don't read this anymore.
01:51:28.000 And it's a little bit difficult, the text.
01:51:30.000 So I happened to be friends with Richard Reeves, who's a Mills scholar.
01:51:35.000 He's at Brookings Institution.
01:51:37.000 And he said, Jonathan, I love what you're doing at Heterodox Academy.
01:51:41.000 If I can be of help, let me know.
01:51:42.000 So I said, well, actually, Richard, would you co-edit this edition of Mills' second chapter?
01:51:48.000 And he said, yes, I'd love to.
01:51:50.000 So he made the selections.
01:51:51.000 We worked together to reduce it.
01:51:53.000 It's only 7,000 words, so it's easy to read.
01:51:55.000 And then this wonderful artist, Dave Cicerelli, stopped by my office.
01:51:59.000 He said, I love what you're doing at Heterox Academy.
01:52:00.000 If I can be of help, let me know.
01:52:02.000 And I said, well, actually, could you read this text, find Mill's metaphors, because Mill uses a lot of wonderful metaphors, and illustrate them.
01:52:09.000 And so if you just pass it over, which is that camera?
01:52:11.000 Okay.
01:52:12.000 So what Dave did...
01:52:14.000 He took Mill's metaphors and we've got these amazing graphic cartoon type images of the dynamics of what happens when we shame people because Mill was not concerned about government censorship.
01:52:29.000 That wasn't a big deal in London in 1859. It was social censorship just as it is today.
01:52:34.000 So, you know, so Cicerelli made these beautiful illustrations of Mills Point.
01:52:39.000 And so we think that this book, if this book was assigned in every high school for seniors or every incoming freshman class, we think that people would think a lot better.
01:52:49.000 So you want to know how to do critical thinking?
01:52:51.000 Read this book.
01:52:53.000 And then seek out your opponents.
01:52:55.000 Seek out your critics.
01:52:56.000 Seek out the people who can do for you what you can't do for yourself, which is challenge your ideas.
01:53:00.000 Are you concerned with the trend that we're seeing now with social media of, I mean, I get removing blatant racism and sexism and certain really awful types of behavior from certain social media sites.
01:53:17.000 But at a certain point in time, it becomes an ideological battle, and people that lean one way or another want that other side to be silenced.
01:53:26.000 I'm seeing this way more from the left, which is very disturbing to me because growing up, my family was very liberal, you know, and I said my formative years in San Francisco, I was always around hippies and I always felt like the people that were on the left were the open-minded, educated ones who were concerned with the future of discourse and humans developing the ability to really flesh out ideas and work their way through them which only happens through real free speech.
01:53:55.000 Giving people the ability to express themselves and then Deciding whether or not you agree with that and why you disagree or agree, and then speaking your mind, and then everybody works it out together.
01:54:08.000 This is not necessarily the trend that we're seeing today.
01:54:11.000 No, that's right.
01:54:12.000 That's right.
01:54:12.000 So first, let me just say, you can get this book for free, at least you can download the PDF, if you go to heterodoxacademy.org slash mill, or you can get a $3 Kindle.
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01:54:27.000 Awesome.
01:54:27.000 That's so cool that you're doing that and allowing people to download it for free, too.
01:54:30.000 We want to get the word out.
01:54:31.000 We think these are the ideas that are needed.
01:54:33.000 So on to your question.
01:54:35.000 So in part, there's an empirical question here, which I don't know the answer to.
01:54:38.000 In Europe, they ban – in most of them, they ban hate speech or Holocaust denial.
01:54:45.000 There's certain things that are illegal.
01:54:46.000 It's a crime.
01:54:47.000 Yes.
01:54:47.000 And in America, we don't.
01:54:49.000 Now, it's an empirical question, meaning it's open to actual investigation.
01:54:54.000 Does banning it push it underground and let the people feel that they are victims of being silenced so they come back stronger?
01:55:01.000 Or is something the best disinfectant?
01:55:04.000 I don't know the answer to that.
01:55:06.000 I think in general, I think the American system has worked better, but I don't know.
01:55:10.000 There are scholars who could address that.
01:55:12.000 As for what is happening to the left, is the left more intolerant?
01:55:16.000 I agree with you that you would think the left would be more open.
01:55:21.000 And in my research on left-right, the left is generally higher in openness to experience.
01:55:25.000 The idea of dissent, dissent is patriotic.
01:55:28.000 These are leftist ideas, not rightist ideas.
01:55:31.000 So the left should be more open.
01:55:33.000 The problem is any group that loses variety, that loses diversity, any group in which everybody thinks the same is at risk of turning it into an ideology, of turning it into a religion.
01:55:48.000 And then you lose the ability to think straight.
01:55:51.000 And now if somebody—so, you know, when I was in college at Yale, you know, everybody sort of leaned left.
01:55:58.000 But there were conservatives.
01:55:59.000 There were some conservative professors.
01:56:00.000 Like, I'd been exposed to some conservative ideas.
01:56:03.000 Right.
01:56:25.000 That's a great way to look at it.
01:56:27.000 I definitely agree with that in terms of young people, but I'm concerned with grown adults as well.
01:56:33.000 I think that my personal opinion, the way to deal with bad speech is better speech.
01:56:43.000 The way to deal with shitty ideas is to make those ideas look shitty through debate.
01:56:49.000 It's not to silence the person that's talking.
01:56:51.000 This is one of the more...
01:56:53.000 Confusing things about people that are pulling alarms on speakers and shouting them down while they're talking.
01:57:00.000 You have an opportunity when that person's in front of you to listen to their idea and there should be an opportunity to To debate that idea, to form your own opinion and have a really good argument against it,
01:57:15.000 and to present that argument, and to have people see both sides.
01:57:19.000 This is what learning is supposed to be all about, especially recognizing the flaws in ideas, recognizing bias, recognizing the lack of critical thinking, or recognizing critical thinking and applauding it.
01:57:32.000 I will agree with you depending on the context.
01:57:36.000 What I mean is if you have a group of people interacting with certain norms or laws that ban intimidation and violence, that make people have some accountability for the style that they use to argue.
01:57:53.000 If you lie, if you threaten, your reputation, something bad will come back to you.
01:57:59.000 Yes.
01:58:00.000 And batting, intimidation, and violence are probably the most important things, right?
01:58:02.000 That's right.
01:58:02.000 Those are.
01:58:03.000 And so within a university, I totally agree with you.
01:58:06.000 Now, if you look at the country as a whole or the internet as a whole, and you have a culture war going on or you have a sense of us versus them… And you have all kinds of bad actors.
01:58:20.000 Before then, there was the fake news people who discovered they make fake articles on the left and the right, and it just turned out that actually the right would click on them more, so they went that way.
01:58:31.000 If there are people who are gaming the system, then your idea, which is Mill's idea, I think there are conditions in which it wouldn't work.
01:58:39.000 I'm not sure about that, but I think there are conditions in which that logic would not work.
01:58:44.000 And so one thing that I'm very concerned about, I don't see why it is that we can ever let people start an account where there's no verification of who they are.
01:58:53.000 I'm not saying you can't have anonymous accounts.
01:58:55.000 I understand there are reasons why you'd want to be able to post without your real name.
01:58:57.000 That's fine.
01:58:58.000 Right.
01:59:00.000 Or what happens a lot is like, you know, there's research showing if you post something as a woman versus a man, as a woman, you're going to get a lot more rape threats and things like that.
01:59:08.000 If you post as a black person or a white person, you get a lot more racist stuff.
01:59:11.000 So at least the platform should always know that you're a person and that your account can be shut down if you talk this way.
01:59:19.000 Because I think that there are so many people saying such nasty stuff that it feeds back and changes people's willingness to speak up.
01:59:26.000 Right.
01:59:26.000 My concern is not necessarily free speech per se.
01:59:29.000 It's free speech as a means to an end.
01:59:31.000 And that end is that we as individuals are kind of stupid and we only get smart if you put us together in the right way where we can challenge each other.
01:59:39.000 That's what universities should do.
01:59:40.000 And when we have a call-out culture, we're walking on eggshells, we can no longer do that.
01:59:44.000 And in the marketplace of ideas, I think it's really interesting to see those two things play out.
01:59:51.000 The one, the benefit of being anonymous, that you could talk about things without fear of retribution, you could talk about things without fear of losing your job, and controversial ideas, especially in this day and age, that, you know, might not really be that controversial to you, or at least...
02:00:06.000 Arguable to you, but you could get shamed for it.
02:00:10.000 People could take your words out of context and you could get in real trouble.
02:00:13.000 So there's a benefit of anonymity.
02:00:15.000 But on the other hand, when you're looking at slurs, attacks, threats, stalking, all that stuff, it would be nice if we knew who is behind all this.
02:00:26.000 Absolutely.
02:00:27.000 So that's a case where, while I don't think it's a pendulum, I do think that there will be some technological solutions and maybe some social norms so that people who critique in a certain way, where it slurs and it's guilt by association, those people will in some sense lose points,
02:00:42.000 lose credibility, be downgraded.
02:00:45.000 My big word for 2019 is nuance.
02:00:48.000 That most things are complicated, at least the things we're talking about are complicated.
02:00:52.000 And anybody who can say, you know, I think you're right about X but wrong about Y, like that should be 100 bonus points.
02:00:59.000 That is one of the essential skills of sincerely engaging with people.
02:01:03.000 And anybody who uses guilt by association loses 100 points.
02:01:07.000 So one thing I'm finding, because I'm a centrist, I only vote for Democrats.
02:01:13.000 I've never voted for Republican, but I consider myself philosophically to be a centrist.
02:01:17.000 And now people will say that I'm alt-right adjacent.
02:01:20.000 That's my favorite one.
02:01:22.000 The adjacency?
02:01:23.000 That's a wonderful one.
02:01:24.000 I get that one because I've had people on the podcast that are right-wingers.
02:01:27.000 Yeah.
02:01:27.000 So what you should say to them, what they say on social media, is anybody who makes an adjacency argument is McCarthy adjacent.
02:01:37.000 That is, I'm sorry, let me say it again.
02:01:38.000 If you're making a guilt by association argument, if you say an adjacency argument, that's guilt by association.
02:01:44.000 Anybody who does guilt by association is like McCarthy.
02:01:47.000 Therefore, they're McCarthy adjacent.
02:01:49.000 I wish I said that clearer.
02:01:51.000 But it is a good argument.
02:01:53.000 That's a good definition of what you're saying.
02:01:55.000 It's a screwy thing that people are doing by this alt-right adjacent thing.
02:02:01.000 Well, you know, someone wrote a whole chart of, like, people interacting with people and connecting these people because they've had communication with these people and so that somehow or another these things are all related.
02:02:13.000 Like, boy, that is a...
02:02:15.000 That's a squirrely argument.
02:02:16.000 No, but actually, this is the way the human mind works.
02:02:20.000 What we have to see is that we evolved to do this kind of religion with witchcraft beliefs and voodoo.
02:02:26.000 There's all these patterns that recur all around the world, and the miracle is that there have been societies such as ours that developed norms of science, norms of discourse, norms of civility, norms of toleration and free speech.
02:02:39.000 We're the exceptions, and it's precious, and it's easily lost, I think.
02:02:44.000 Do you think that it's also this newfound ability to communicate that we're experiencing because the internet leads us to a lot of this sort of sloppy Yes,
02:03:02.000 but it's not—so I approach this as a social psychologist.
02:03:08.000 So most of the commentary about this comes from cognitive psychologists or people who talk about the information bubbles, the filter bubbles, as though, you know, I have my ideas in my head, and if I'm exposed only to ideas from here, then I'm going to have an incorrect balance of ideas.
02:03:24.000 So look at the information flow.
02:03:26.000 Obviously, these tools have vastly changed the information flow.
02:03:29.000 Mostly for the better.
02:03:30.000 We can Google anything at any time.
02:03:32.000 So mostly for the better.
02:03:33.000 But we have this problem of unbalanced, like you eat only sugar or something, so you have an unbalanced diet.
02:03:38.000 Okay, fine.
02:03:39.000 Those are problems.
02:03:40.000 I'm a social psychologist.
02:03:41.000 I think the social dynamics problems are vastly bigger, vastly more dangerous.
02:03:45.000 And they are that if whatever I say, or whether I will agree with you, or whether I'll even press the like button, I'm thinking, what's going to happen to me?
02:03:55.000 Who's going to nail me for it?
02:03:56.000 And there are people who go through my Twitter feed and they look at what I liked months or years ago and they'll say, well, he liked this or he followed this.
02:04:03.000 Yeah, I follow people on the alt-right and the far left and communists.
02:04:06.000 I mean, yeah, I study this stuff.
02:04:08.000 But the idea that you could be somehow blamed for having some connection, this is what normal human people, normal human beings do, this guilt by association.
02:04:19.000 And we have to rise above it.
02:04:20.000 We have to call it out when we see it, as it were, and realize, you know what?
02:04:25.000 We all need critics.
02:04:27.000 We all need to engage with a variety of viewpoints.
02:04:30.000 That's what John Stuart Mill said.
02:04:31.000 That's what common sense will tell you.
02:04:33.000 And if we have institutions that don't expose students to a variety of viewpoints, it's possible that they are making them less wise when they graduate than they were when they arrived.
02:04:43.000 Well, listen, Jonathan, we just cranked through two hours, and I want to thank you for illuminating these ideas and for your great books, and thank you for coming on the podcast.
02:04:53.000 Oh, what a pleasure.
02:04:54.000 It's been great fun talking to you, Jeff.
02:04:54.000 Anytime you want to do it again, just let me know.
02:04:56.000 Let's do it again.
02:04:56.000 Thank you.
02:04:57.000 I'd love to.
02:04:57.000 Thank you so much.
02:04:58.000 Bye, everybody.
02:05:02.000 Wow.
02:05:03.000 Wow.