The Joe Rogan Experience - December 28, 2022


Joe Rogan Experience #1916 - Jon Bernthal


Episode Stats

Length

2 hours and 39 minutes

Words per Minute

167.5222

Word Count

26,717

Sentence Count

2,015

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

35


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the recent assassinations of John F. Kennedy, John Singleton, and Offset, and the impact they have had on the culture of the time. We also talk about the Vietnam War and its impact on the music industry, and what it meant for the culture at the time, and how it changed the way we look at the world as a whole. And, of course, we talk about music and drugs, and why we should all be thankful that we don t have to live in a world where we don't have to listen to music at all. This episode is brought to you by Native Creative, and produced and edited by Riley Bray. Music: and . Art: Macklemore and Ryan Lewis Editor: Will Witwer Producer: Mike Carrier Audio Engineer: Mike McLendon Mixer: Matthew Boll Additional mixing and mastering: Jeff Perla Special thanks to our sponsor, Joe Rogan Experience Thank you for the use of our logo and theme music by our sponsor Mavus White, and thank you to our patron and supporter of the podcast, for making this episode great sound quality and sound design and editing by , and thanks to , & , for making us feel the ambiance, and as always, for making the music we love you, and for all the feedback we get from you, the listeners, for all your support and support, and love, and all the support we get back from the feedback, we really appreciate you, thank you for all of your support, we appreciate you. , thank you, Thank you, so much of you, we can't wait to hear you, back to you, again, back, back again, we'll see you, more, we're back, we love ya back, again and again, more and more, and back again. Thank you again, again & again, bye bye, bye, we see ya, bye! with love, bye. xoxo, bye Bye Bye Bye bye. <3 -Joe Rogan -The Crew. -Migos -Josie - -Jonah & -Sergio -Bobby Ruzellis -Davide -Tavion -Kemal -John Singleton -Crispy


Transcript

00:00:03.000 The Joe Rogan Experience.
00:00:10.000 You know, I grew up in D.C. and I think about the people, you know, who are my teachers and, you know, my parents, my friends' parents and, you know, they're sort of at the forefront of, you know, troops coming home and getting spit on and you got people,
00:00:28.000 you know, you're coming out of Jim Crow and people going down south and getting lynched in Meridian, Mississippi.
00:00:37.000 And then these assassinations.
00:00:39.000 I just can't imagine what that must have been.
00:00:42.000 Like a string of assassinations.
00:00:44.000 And just given the conversation...
00:00:47.000 You know, if you're talking about the most fucked up time when you think everything is going to complete shit, and it's just Harry Carey.
00:00:55.000 I mean, imagine if right now, you know, in the string of next week, like, Kanye was assassinated, Trump was assassinated, you know, like, I mean, I guess you had the thing at Pelosi's house, I mean, I guess that's like, kind of weird, but like, it's also kind of like, it's just weird, right?
00:01:09.000 But like, imagine that, like, imagine what, what we'd all be saying.
00:01:14.000 I mean, it's like, You know, I think in the last couple of years we really saw how close, how fragile this whole thing is and how close this thing can go to just breaking down and you're kind of on your own.
00:01:26.000 But I just, you know, to have like both Kennedys?
00:01:28.000 Yeah, you got a good point.
00:01:30.000 What did that feel like?
00:01:32.000 John F. Kennedy, Robert F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jr., Malcolm X, all these murders.
00:01:37.000 All these assassinations very close to each other.
00:01:40.000 You're talking about what, like 68?
00:01:41.000 And then also you have, I mean, not to the same extent, I don't know how it would register now, but you had Altamont, you had, you know, and then again, just, you know, scores of, you know, troops coming home.
00:01:55.000 Think about how we regard our military now and the reverence and respect that we treat our military.
00:02:02.000 And think about these troops coming home getting spit on.
00:02:06.000 People throwing red paint at them in the airports.
00:02:10.000 Think about that.
00:02:12.000 What that says about us.
00:02:14.000 Imagine if they had social media back then.
00:02:16.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:18.000 Yeah, that's true.
00:02:19.000 That's a very good point.
00:02:20.000 And then, you know, all the other people that died during that time, right?
00:02:24.000 Like all the rock stars, like Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison, everyone's dying.
00:02:29.000 Yeah, it's just like...
00:02:31.000 And then the 70s come along and, you know, you have fucking...
00:02:37.000 We're good to go.
00:02:40.000 We're good to go.
00:02:48.000 We're good to go.
00:02:55.000 Of Hendrix Morrison and Janis Joplin now, if they all died just like that.
00:03:01.000 I mean, look, we've got people getting shot in the street.
00:03:06.000 What was his name from Migos?
00:03:10.000 He just died.
00:03:11.000 Offset just died.
00:03:12.000 No, no, no, not Offset.
00:03:13.000 The other guy.
00:03:15.000 Offset's still alive.
00:03:16.000 He's the one who's married to Cardi B. Right.
00:03:21.000 The other guy got accidentally shot by one of his friends.
00:03:24.000 They were in the middle of some gun fight and one of his guys accidentally shot him.
00:03:33.000 Yeah.
00:03:34.000 We're so aware of the violence now and gun violence in South Central and gun violence in South Side of Chicago and gun violence in Baltimore.
00:03:44.000 I think we're probably more acutely aware just because of the news cycle, just because of social media.
00:03:51.000 But I think you're right in terms of the turmoil.
00:03:54.000 And also you go from the tone of the 50s to the 60s.
00:03:57.000 You have like a completely different style of culture is emerging.
00:04:02.000 The psychedelic style of culture and the music is different.
00:04:05.000 You got Woodstock and...
00:04:07.000 It seems like there's this...
00:04:09.000 You know, Hunter S. Thompson wrote about it.
00:04:11.000 Like, what happened after all that happened was like, you could just see this wave of change and then it pulled back.
00:04:20.000 Got a little bit too much for everybody, you know?
00:04:22.000 Yeah, I guess.
00:04:23.000 I mean, is it?
00:04:25.000 But it's all like these monumental shifts and then everything sort of kind of tries to balance itself out and then you have these new dilemmas and new problems.
00:04:33.000 I would imagine it is.
00:04:35.000 I have a friend named Tony Maggio, who's a legendary drug cop in Baltimore from the east side.
00:04:46.000 He's from the community.
00:04:47.000 He's got the complete and utter respect of everyone in that department, not just on the east side, but citywide in Baltimore.
00:04:54.000 Also, he's got the respect of people on the street.
00:04:57.000 Sort of talks about now and I, you know, just talking about these soldiers coming home in the Vietnam era and what that was like.
00:05:03.000 I really equate that to kind of everything that law enforcement's going through right now.
00:05:08.000 You know, we have these for the first time, you know, with Vietnam, you have these images.
00:05:12.000 Look, I wasn't alive, but from what I hear, You know, you had these images coming into people's living rooms of these, you know, horrible situations, people talking about the Milan Massacre, people talking about these things, you know, in Vietnam.
00:05:25.000 And to the same extent now, you know, we were just sort of...
00:05:30.000 There's so many examples of, you know, crazy and rampant sort of police brutality.
00:05:34.000 You have these instances that were then magnified to the point where people who have no experience, you know, in this world would think that this is what all police are doing.
00:05:43.000 And all of a sudden you have this unbelievably just strident anti-political.
00:05:50.000 You know, you go one way,
00:06:06.000 then you go the other.
00:06:07.000 And he thinks it's gonna really swing back.
00:06:11.000 Well, I hope he's right.
00:06:13.000 It seems like that's always the case, as long as there's not some sort of a catastrophic thing that happens, like a world war or something that literally, like, flattens society and civilization.
00:06:26.000 I mean, generally, people try to move things in a better direction.
00:06:32.000 It's just setbacks and all these things that happen along the way.
00:06:35.000 I think culturally, we're all trying to move towards a better direction.
00:06:39.000 I mean, that's why there is so much outrage.
00:06:41.000 And, you know, when you have this anti-police sentiment, it is because of all these horrible, egregious examples of police brutality that we see.
00:06:49.000 No question.
00:06:50.000 The right way to do it is not defund the police.
00:06:52.000 The right way to do it is not like this attitude towards all law enforcement, which is crazy because some of those same people, they're going to find themselves in a situation where they need law enforcement.
00:07:03.000 Absolutely.
00:07:04.000 And then what do they do?
00:07:05.000 They look like hypocrites.
00:07:07.000 It's a lack of understanding of the scope of the overall problem.
00:07:12.000 And I think a lot of the times the conversation is just really being led by the wrong people.
00:07:16.000 You know, we're looking at pundits and celebrities and so-called experts in these situations.
00:07:21.000 We're not talking to the people that are actually on the ground, doing the job, people from the communities.
00:07:27.000 And I think there's a lot to be learned from those folks.
00:07:30.000 Yeah.
00:07:30.000 Oh, no doubt.
00:07:31.000 It's just – it seems like there's also this problem of there's so much information to sort through.
00:07:38.000 When you're dealing with this 24-hour news cycle and social media, you're dealing with most of the things that people concentrate on are negative.
00:07:51.000 Yeah.
00:08:06.000 Yep, yep, yep.
00:08:08.000 And everything's designed to just sort of be delivered in the most un-nuanced, the most just sort of bright lights, hey, pay attention to me.
00:08:17.000 And, you know, that's scary.
00:08:21.000 The truth gets really lost, and these issues are, you know, they're enormously complicated, and they're not easy.
00:08:29.000 And trying to say that they are, or trying to just sort of Deliver an agenda, say I'm on this team or this team, I'm on this side or the other side.
00:08:38.000 I mean, for me, I find that enormously un-American and I find it, I think it's a huge mistake and it's not the way I want to live my life or it's not the way I want my kids to live theirs.
00:08:49.000 Agreed.
00:08:50.000 Yeah, I feel exactly the same way.
00:08:51.000 We have a horrible tendency towards tribalism and in this country there's definitely this trend.
00:09:00.000 I think that's also exacerbated by social media and the algorithms where people are just they're holing up on teams and attacking people on the other side and All of it is kind of fucked.
00:09:10.000 Yeah, and isolating even more and more and I think that I really think that the lines in which we're dividing ourselves, you know, so many people have talked about the polarization.
00:09:22.000 It's like one of these things.
00:09:23.000 It's like everybody talks about it, but we still kind of...
00:09:28.000 You know, still march to the beat of that drummer.
00:09:31.000 And I think that the lines that divide us, they're so porous.
00:09:34.000 They're so insignificant.
00:09:37.000 They really...
00:09:38.000 There's no value based on those lines ever, in my opinion.
00:09:42.000 I think, you know, we miss out on so much by holding people back or saying, you are on this side or you're on that side.
00:09:53.000 And I look at it, you know, in terms of...
00:09:58.000 The way we, our prejudices and these things that we ascribe to, you know, I look at it, you know, in that movement that we were talking about, you know, to sort of jump to this conclusion, if you've never been in a situation where you've really needed the police to say that,
00:10:18.000 All cops are bastards or abolish the police or to say that, you know, folks in these communities, you know, that where the violence is going down, you know, in sort of the most violent cities in America,
00:10:35.000 to think that those folks that are from those communities don't want more policing there is just a huge mistake.
00:10:41.000 And I really feel like...
00:10:44.000 When I talk to my friends in Shreveport, Louisiana and Baltimore, that is not the case.
00:10:51.000 I look at it a lot of times.
00:10:54.000 If you had a football team and you felt that, you know what, I just don't want any homosexuals on my football team.
00:11:08.000 If that's how you felt, There could be somebody on that—you could have somebody on your team who's 6'5", you know, runs a 4-4-40 and just can demolish people.
00:11:19.000 But because of your own stupid prejudice, because of your own just ridiculousness that you ascribe to, you're missing out and your team's got to fail.
00:11:28.000 And it's just such a—it's impossible to thrive.
00:11:33.000 It's impossible.
00:11:33.000 And I just find it so unbelievably un-American.
00:11:37.000 It's definitely un-American.
00:11:56.000 And I want to talk about things in this sort of nuanced and, you know, objective way.
00:12:02.000 Like, what made you decide to do that?
00:12:04.000 Because that's very unusual for actors.
00:12:07.000 And it's also unusual for actors to do it well.
00:12:09.000 Like, you don't come across as someone who's Trying to sort of soften your words or say things in a way that's virtuous so that people like you more.
00:12:23.000 You seem very genuine in what you do.
00:12:25.000 And to do that as like in a podcast form, the way you're doing it, it's almost like...
00:12:33.000 Did you get any people saying, like, hey, maybe you shouldn't do this?
00:12:36.000 100%.
00:12:37.000 Yeah?
00:12:37.000 This could be a liability, John.
00:12:39.000 What are you doing, dude?
00:12:40.000 You're throwing it all away.
00:12:41.000 Why do you have all these opinions?
00:12:42.000 Shut the fuck up and be the punisher.
00:12:44.000 Yeah, I know.
00:12:45.000 I know.
00:12:45.000 And honestly, man, I have huge trepidation.
00:12:49.000 I have huge hesitation.
00:12:51.000 And I don't necessarily think it's for the reasons that you just pointed out.
00:12:56.000 I think, you know, for me...
00:13:00.000 Not to be grandiose about it, but look, I love acting.
00:13:04.000 I love it.
00:13:05.000 And I think in a lot of ways, it genuinely saved my life.
00:13:08.000 And I think that...
00:13:09.000 I imagine...
00:13:10.000 I'm a huge fan of yours, and I listen to your show religiously, and I... I imagine that's similar potentially to how you feel about comedy.
00:13:20.000 I feel about acting.
00:13:21.000 I feel like it's a lifelong pursuit.
00:13:23.000 I feel like it's something that failure and humiliation is always on my shoulder.
00:13:29.000 He's always there talking to me and whispering to me and it's always a fight that I like fighting.
00:13:35.000 You're never going to have it licked.
00:13:36.000 You've always got to get better.
00:13:38.000 There's always further you can take it.
00:13:40.000 There's always a grind to it.
00:13:42.000 That's how I look at it, I love it, and I'm beholden to it.
00:13:45.000 So anything that kind of gets in the way of that I've been kind of conditioned to think is the enemy.
00:13:53.000 And to be honest with you, one thing that I'm quite certain is the enemy of that is putting more of myself I'm really not interested in being more well-known.
00:14:09.000 So to be honest with you, there's a lot of trepidation about it.
00:14:21.000 Right.
00:14:23.000 Right.
00:14:25.000 Right.
00:14:35.000 You know, the intentionality behind the show is something I genuinely believe in.
00:14:40.000 I think this all kind of came forward, you know, in COVID, in sort of the wake of not only George Floyd, but in just all these examples of this police brutality and this rampant police brutality and the fervor that kind of came after it.
00:14:58.000 You know, I was really in this situation where, like so many, I was so...
00:15:05.000 I'm disgusted and heartbroken and angry watching that video.
00:15:10.000 And Eric Garner.
00:15:12.000 I mean, all of them.
00:15:14.000 But George Floyd.
00:15:15.000 And I really, really wanted to get out there and be part of that...
00:15:21.000 Be part of that protest and be part of that uprising.
00:15:25.000 But at the same time, I turned on the TV and I saw people throwing bottles at police officers.
00:15:31.000 I saw people throwing bricks at police officers.
00:15:33.000 And to me, every single one of those police officers is a brother, a sister, a son, a daughter, someone's best friend.
00:15:43.000 And I was disgusted by that.
00:15:46.000 And I really, you know, I'm very grateful for kind of how I grew up and where I grew up.
00:15:53.000 I grew up in Washington.
00:15:56.000 I have, you know, I have black folks in my family.
00:16:02.000 I grew up extraordinarily with familial and best friends and ties very much into the black community.
00:16:11.000 And I'm very much I think aware of the struggles that black folk have been in through the city and especially their struggles with police.
00:16:21.000 I myself have been beaten by the police, but I've also had my life saved by the police.
00:16:28.000 And I also believe that so many of the folks that were sort of leading the charge in this anti-police movement and also so many folks that were leading the charge in this anti-Black Lives Matter movement There are folks who really had no experience,
00:16:46.000 you know, really in it.
00:16:50.000 It was just people kind of like arguing from the polls, flag waving from the polls.
00:16:54.000 And I was seeing something kind of in America.
00:17:01.000 Yeah.
00:17:18.000 To say, hey, you're an American, I'm an American, and I might learn something from you.
00:17:22.000 I don't have all the answers.
00:17:24.000 And I think at that time, the genesis of, you know, I mean, you know, while the podcast started is I looked at, okay, well...
00:17:34.000 You know, on one side, you've got, you know, in this anti-police movement, who is the most, you know, who's the archetype that everyone is sort of most afraid of in that?
00:17:44.000 And to me, it's the plainclothes unit, aggressive, take the fight to the criminal police officer, right?
00:17:52.000 And then on the other side, who's the archetype?
00:17:54.000 Who are we all afraid of?
00:17:55.000 Okay, well, maybe it's the African-American gang member.
00:17:58.000 And, you know, to me, I looked at my life and one of the things I'm most grateful for is I have really, really, really dear, genuine, close friends who fit both of those bills.
00:18:08.000 And it's my assumption because they are actually in it.
00:18:16.000 Pitted against each other at times, but they are on the same streets dealing with each other.
00:18:20.000 There's so many times that they have opportunities to see good in each other, to find things that they respect about each other.
00:18:29.000 I find when I spend times when I go out and ride along and I spend time with Planclosed police units, they'll look at their own groups and they'll say who's really about it and who's not.
00:18:40.000 They find flaws within their own community.
00:18:43.000 With a lot of the guys who have been really successful in the criminal world, it's the same.
00:18:47.000 And they're able to reach across this sort of so-called aisle and they're able to say, hey, there's something about that guy I really respect.
00:18:54.000 I really dig what he did.
00:18:55.000 I really dig what that person did.
00:18:58.000 I found that they'd kind of appreciate the same things.
00:19:01.000 They'd laugh at the same things.
00:19:02.000 They're a lot closer than they are further apart.
00:19:05.000 And I just thought that these were really the people that I want to listen to.
00:19:09.000 I want to listen to the people who are actually in it and who walk the talk.
00:19:15.000 Walk the walk.
00:19:16.000 Don't just talk about it.
00:19:17.000 And that's really where the idea for the show started.
00:19:21.000 And sorry, it's such a long-winded answer, but I would also just say about it, man...
00:19:29.000 The trepidation I have in doing the show is quelled a bit because I just really, really believe in the folks that come on.
00:19:40.000 This show is not about me.
00:19:41.000 You know, I'm not—I don't think I'm particularly good at it.
00:19:47.000 I don't think I'm particularly— That interesting of a guy to be leading these conversations.
00:19:54.000 What I think I have is this unbelievable group of friends, both because of how I grew up and because of what I do for a living, that people talk to me.
00:20:05.000 I've become really, really close with them.
00:20:07.000 And, you know, asking somebody to come on and talk about these things, it's not easy.
00:20:12.000 You know, it comes at a cost.
00:20:14.000 But I'm really grateful for it.
00:20:16.000 And giving these folks a platform, these are precisely the people that I want my kids listening to.
00:20:24.000 And the two sort of things in my life that are most important, it's, yeah, it's my work and it's my family.
00:20:30.000 So, you know, at times those are opposed to each other, but ultimately I really believe in it.
00:20:34.000 How long did this stew in your mind before you ultimately decided to do something?
00:20:40.000 It stewed in my mind for a while.
00:20:43.000 And, you know, we started doing them.
00:20:45.000 And, you know, it sort of fits and starts.
00:20:48.000 So what was the first one?
00:20:49.000 So the first one that we did was exactly what I'm talking about.
00:20:52.000 We did it with my friend Jerry Bellesteros, who's, you know, he's a crash unit cop.
00:20:57.000 So how does this conversation start, and how do you decide to start doing this?
00:21:02.000 How do you say, you know what, I'm going to sit down with people, where you just like, I don't feel like their side's being represented, I feel like I have something to add to this, or I feel like I have a unique position where I can kind of bring people together.
00:21:17.000 Yeah, not me.
00:21:18.000 Them.
00:21:19.000 Yeah, I guess there's that.
00:21:20.000 And, you know, I have friends who, you know, especially if you look at South Central, specifically, you know, Newton Division in South Central, it's historically one of the most violent groups.
00:21:38.000 You know, they call it Chute Newton, one of the most violent precincts in the entire city.
00:21:44.000 I was enormously close with some of the guys in that precinct, and Jerry Ballesteros is sort of this legendary cop there.
00:21:52.000 He's lost people on the street, and he's gone all the way.
00:21:59.000 And he's a guy that's respected.
00:22:02.000 I believe in his reasons.
00:22:04.000 Was he the first guy you sat down with?
00:22:05.000 So he's the first guy I sat down with, but I sat down with him and I sat down with a guy named Dante Johnson.
00:22:14.000 People call him Bojangles on the street.
00:22:16.000 He grew up in the Pueblo Bishop Housing Projects.
00:22:18.000 The Pueblo Bishop Housing Projects and Newton Division are right next to each other.
00:22:23.000 They've been sort of set against each other forever.
00:22:27.000 You know, people call him Bojangles, like I said.
00:22:31.000 He's a community activist.
00:22:32.000 He's somebody who's given so much back to the community of the Pueblos.
00:22:37.000 But he was also, he was part of the Pueblo, and still is, part of the Pueblo Bishop Bloods.
00:22:44.000 And these guys knew each other.
00:22:46.000 They knew of each other.
00:22:47.000 They've come into contact with each other in the street.
00:22:49.000 And, you know, at first, getting them together was...
00:22:53.000 It was difficult.
00:22:54.000 It was hard.
00:22:55.000 That's a big first step.
00:22:57.000 You're going to get into podcasting.
00:22:59.000 That's a very big undertaking.
00:23:03.000 Yeah, but again, I don't know.
00:23:07.000 You just felt compelled?
00:23:08.000 I did.
00:23:09.000 I did.
00:23:09.000 And look, I think at the time, my cousin was in a band called Fountains of Wayne, and right in the beginning of COVID, when it was first sort of popping off, he died way too early, left two daughters behind.
00:23:25.000 Only person in my family really that showed me that it was possible to kind of be an artist.
00:23:32.000 And And he died real early.
00:23:36.000 He was sort of like, hey, I'm sick and I'm going into the hospital now.
00:23:41.000 I got this thing.
00:23:41.000 And hey, I'm on a ventilator.
00:23:43.000 And never came out.
00:23:45.000 And his parents couldn't go visit him.
00:23:48.000 His kids couldn't go visit him even though they were a mile apart because they closed off the hospitals.
00:23:53.000 You know, I live up in Ojai, California in a place that, you know...
00:23:58.000 Yeah, I know why.
00:23:59.000 Yeah, so COVID almost, like, didn't really exist there at the time.
00:24:03.000 But then again, when...
00:24:05.000 When the George Floyd uprising popped off, I really wanted to get out.
00:24:09.000 I really wanted to be a part of that.
00:24:11.000 But then again, when I saw the anti-police movement, anytime I'd go and protest, I'd also stop by Newton Division and just pay my respects.
00:24:18.000 And I just was so frustrated that I couldn't be both.
00:24:21.000 I couldn't...
00:24:22.000 I'm so pro-Black Lives Matter, but also super pro-law enforcement.
00:24:27.000 And understand that these things are not mutually exclusive.
00:24:29.000 So that's kind of where the idea came from.
00:24:31.000 But...
00:24:33.000 With these guys specifically, it was really hard to get them.
00:24:38.000 Together, there had been an officer-involved shooting at the Pueblos right at that time, and there was an ongoing case.
00:24:45.000 And, you know, what was interesting, the way that we came around is Beau, he started an acting school in the Pueblos in South Central with Shia LaBeouf years ago, called Sloss and Rec.
00:25:00.000 And Beau himself, you know, is an acting student and an actor himself.
00:25:07.000 There's a show that I wrote about Shreveport, Louisiana, and I wanted to do a reading of it.
00:25:13.000 And so I got Bo and a bunch of guys from the Pueblos, some of whom were active gang members, to do this reading of the show.
00:25:23.000 And I brought in a bunch of industry people and a bunch of agents and managers to come give these guys an opportunity.
00:25:28.000 I think?
00:25:50.000 We're setting up a show with Jerry and Beau where they both love fishing, so they're going fishing and they're taking people fishing with them.
00:25:56.000 But this is the whole thesis.
00:25:57.000 And what I expected to happen really did.
00:26:01.000 I know these two men.
00:26:02.000 I believe in these two men with all my heart.
00:26:04.000 I respect these two men.
00:26:09.000 Limitlessly.
00:26:10.000 And I knew that they would laugh at the same shit.
00:26:12.000 I knew that they would be finishing each other's sentences.
00:26:14.000 Their experience is what binds them.
00:26:17.000 And again, they can point out flaws in each other.
00:26:20.000 And at times they do in the episode.
00:26:22.000 They can point out flaws with the system.
00:26:24.000 They can talk about things that are grossly unfair.
00:26:27.000 You know, this is one of the things that sort of came out that was so interesting is, you know, Jerry was talking about...
00:26:34.000 You know, being, you know, a decades-long veteran of the LAPD, how, you know, places would give him free coffee.
00:26:41.000 He would go eat for free.
00:26:42.000 But now, walking in, you know, in uniform, people wouldn't let him in, you know, their establishments.
00:26:49.000 And, you know, on the other side, you know, you got both saying, yeah, I've lived with that my whole life, man.
00:26:55.000 You know what I mean?
00:26:56.000 And there's real points of connection that way.
00:26:59.000 And then I just think from there, it just, you know, I believed in that thesis and we just kind of kept it going.
00:27:08.000 And I got a group of people around me that I think really believe in it as well.
00:27:12.000 And yeah, man, so this is what we're doing.
00:27:15.000 One of the things that separates people so much is the lack of communication.
00:27:19.000 And the fact that you're able to get those two guys to sit down and communicate, that opens up doors to so many other people, and it opens up doors of possibility in people's minds, where they can watch that conversation and go, you know what, at the end of the day, we're all just people, and we all believe in what we believe in,
00:27:36.000 and oftentimes we look at the other people on the other side as being the opposite or being the enemy, when in fact they're just other human beings.
00:27:44.000 That's it.
00:27:44.000 And we have way more in common than we do conflict.
00:27:48.000 And I think with how isolated everyone is and everyone wants to say, I'm on this side or on this side, it's like if these two guys can sit down to each other who have, again, lost freedom, lost lives, lost friends, taken lives, you know,
00:28:03.000 in this so-called war, but they can actually sit down and strike a real genuine friendship.
00:28:08.000 And then go fishing.
00:28:09.000 And then go fucking fishing.
00:28:10.000 Like, what are you doing?
00:28:11.000 Like standing on the side being like, I hate those people.
00:28:13.000 But you never, you know what I mean?
00:28:15.000 And yeah, I believe in that.
00:28:18.000 I believe in that with all my heart.
00:28:20.000 Well, what disturbs me is that absolute lack of nuance that some people have where, you know, it's this side is bad, that side is bad.
00:28:28.000 And all that is exacerbated not just by social media but also by...
00:28:33.000 Foreign entities that are embedded in social media that continually stir up this sort of strife and stir up this conflict and it's done intentionally to try to divide us.
00:28:44.000 That sounds like very tinfoil hat, but it's all been proven that this is going on.
00:28:49.000 Yeah, I mean, I don't know, man.
00:28:50.000 It's so clearly a weakness.
00:28:54.000 It's so clearly a weakness in the fabric and the structure of our society.
00:28:59.000 So of course there, you know, look, man, I lived in Moscow for two years.
00:29:04.000 Did you?
00:29:05.000 What were you doing over there?
00:29:08.000 I was really kind of a fuck-up as a kid, Joe.
00:29:12.000 All my favorite people were.
00:29:13.000 Oh boy, yeah.
00:29:14.000 I took it, I don't know, I took it to a different level maybe.
00:29:17.000 But I was really lost as a kid, got into a ton of trouble, went to school, played a little bit of sports in school, but I was getting in a lot of trouble.
00:29:28.000 Trouble with the law, trouble, you know, ended up not being able to finish school.
00:29:32.000 And I got really into acting in college, almost as a whim, no aim.
00:29:38.000 It was just almost on accident.
00:29:40.000 And I met a wonderful woman there named Alma Becker, and she ended up marrying my wife and I. And she was sort of fascinated with Eastern European and Russian theater.
00:29:55.000 When I got done sort of like being in trouble and when I couldn't finish school, I had decided this was really what I wanted to do.
00:30:02.000 And I really wanted to be an actor, but I had no kind of frame of reference.
00:30:06.000 I didn't think it was any different than being a plumber, being a lawyer, being a cop.
00:30:09.000 Like, what are the steps I have to do?
00:30:11.000 This is what I want to do for a living.
00:30:12.000 She sort of explained, well, it doesn't really quite work that way.
00:30:15.000 But, you know, she said that, look, if...
00:30:19.000 If she were I, you know, she thought that the best theater school in the world was the Moscow Art Theater in Russia.
00:30:25.000 And she said, you know, I can get you an audition for that school.
00:30:28.000 The best theater in the world is in Russia?
00:30:30.000 According to her.
00:30:31.000 Really?
00:30:32.000 And I certainly believe that.
00:30:34.000 I mean, if you look at it, I mean, kind of historically, you know...
00:30:39.000 All of acting that we celebrate was really like...
00:30:46.000 The kernel of that all started at that theater, at the Moscow Art Theater.
00:30:49.000 Really?
00:30:50.000 Stanislavski and Chekhov, yeah.
00:30:51.000 The first play they did was The Seagull.
00:30:57.000 They put that play together in a summer home outside Moscow and then they came into the city and they put it on.
00:31:02.000 And up until that point...
00:31:03.000 What year was this?
00:31:04.000 This was in the 1920s.
00:31:06.000 So basically all theater, all acting up until that point was very presentational.
00:31:10.000 It was very go to the front of the stage and kind of proclaim to the audience, you know, face outward.
00:31:17.000 And...
00:31:19.000 What Stanislavski came up with, what you hear in his method, which is not, you know, like sitting in your own shit or having people call you your character name.
00:31:28.000 That is not, you know, method acting.
00:31:30.000 This method that he came up with was really about realism on stage.
00:31:35.000 So if you're drinking tea in a scene, really drink tea.
00:31:39.000 Turn your back to the audience.
00:31:40.000 Talk as if you're actually in the situation.
00:31:42.000 And in 1933, they went on a world tour with this play, The Seagull.
00:31:47.000 They went through Europe, and then they went to America.
00:31:50.000 They went to San Francisco, to Chicago, and to New York.
00:31:52.000 And that changed acting.
00:31:54.000 All of the sort of great American theater training, you know, from the group theater with Strasburg and Nudahagen, it all came out of their exposure to this one play.
00:32:03.000 Nobody had ever seen acting like that.
00:32:04.000 And it all started at this school.
00:32:06.000 How did they figure that out?
00:32:08.000 How did who figure that out?
00:32:09.000 The Russians.
00:32:10.000 What was the genesis of that?
00:32:12.000 You know, I think it was, you know, it was this unbelievable conglomeration of a rejection of how theater was before that.
00:32:22.000 But also, you know, like so many things, it takes a sort of perfect storm of people coming together.
00:32:27.000 You had Chekhov.
00:32:29.000 Who, you know, look in the Eastern European world and, you know, Chekhov to Russia is very much what Shakespeare is to us.
00:32:38.000 You have this guy who is writing in this unbelievably realistic way who, you know, examined human behavior.
00:32:45.000 He was a doctor and he really looked at it.
00:32:49.000 He really looked at life sort of in this sort of like omnipotent or omnipresent way like he was looking down on it.
00:32:56.000 For example, You would have somebody who was, you have a love story.
00:33:02.000 The seagull, there's always some confusion because it's called a comedy, but it's really, ultimately, the lead character takes his own, like, kills himself at the end, and it's very tragic.
00:33:11.000 But from a doctor, there was something really funny about all these people who were in love with the wrong person.
00:33:16.000 I'm spending my life wanting to love this person.
00:33:19.000 I want this so bad.
00:33:20.000 Yeah, but right next to you is a person who really loves you, and you're ignoring that, and just sort of the feebleness and the fragility of human behavior and really examining it.
00:33:29.000 These small characters giving them real emotional life on stage.
00:33:35.000 So you had this in the writing and then you had this brilliant actor-director, Stanislavski, who just thought, you know, what if we actually play this for real?
00:33:46.000 And it was a completely revolutionary thing.
00:33:49.000 It changed everything.
00:33:50.000 It's the style of film acting and theater acting that is literally taking over everything today.
00:33:56.000 That's fascinating.
00:33:57.000 I would have never known that.
00:33:59.000 And so you go over there, and what is it like to go over to Russia?
00:34:03.000 Did you understand and speak Russian?
00:34:05.000 Did you have to learn that?
00:34:06.000 Did they speak English?
00:34:09.000 So I was over there in the late 90s.
00:34:11.000 It was a totally wild time to be there.
00:34:13.000 And I think looking back at, you know, maybe why Alma wanted me to be there was...
00:34:20.000 You know, probably because I was such a wild kid and I was so lost and doing so much kind of fucked up stuff.
00:34:25.000 So you just pack up your shit?
00:34:27.000 Yeah, man.
00:34:27.000 And back then, you know, no email, no phone.
00:34:30.000 You know, you go over there and it's like, you know, you don't talk to anybody.
00:34:33.000 You don't talk to anybody from your life here.
00:34:35.000 And I think very much, I think she knew I needed to get out of here.
00:34:39.000 And so I think that was part of it for her.
00:34:41.000 But, you know, Russia...
00:34:43.000 You know, I can't...
00:34:46.000 I mean, the...
00:34:48.000 The way I would describe it is unbelievable beauty with unbelievable brutality.
00:34:56.000 For me, there's no way I would be doing what I do today if it wasn't for my time spent there.
00:35:03.000 You had this unbelievable appreciation for the arts.
00:35:07.000 On every corner, there's a statue of a playwright or a poet or an actor.
00:35:13.000 Being an actor was an enormously masculine thing to do.
00:35:18.000 The training itself was highly rigorous, from playing college sports and You know, doing fight training.
00:35:26.000 It was by far, without a doubt, the most disciplined and physically strenuous work that I've ever done in my life.
00:35:35.000 How so?
00:35:35.000 So basically the way that the school works is, you know, you have thousands of kids that audition.
00:35:41.000 And then they take 100 and then every semester they'll cut that class in half.
00:35:47.000 So you're kind of fighting for your life the whole time you're there.
00:35:51.000 And they'll graduate 10 kids.
00:35:52.000 And these kids are coming from all over the country.
00:35:55.000 And it's really kind of like if you get into that school, it's kind of like this golden ticket.
00:35:59.000 It's kind of like, you know, at the time there's 10 times more theaters in Moscow than they were in New York.
00:36:05.000 Theater is religion there.
00:36:08.000 I'll definitely explain to you sort of why that is, especially coming out of communism and how important theater was and the role it played.
00:36:14.000 But if you graduate from one of those schools, it's not like in America where a lot of theater training is very coddling and it's very like, okay, you can't really play sports, you're not the best student, but come to the theater where you can be a tree and everybody's kumbaya and we get along.
00:36:28.000 If you can get through one of those schools, you're funneled into one of the major theater companies.
00:36:32.000 It's such a huge achievement.
00:36:35.000 They're kind of guaranteed employment after that.
00:36:38.000 And the people that get the honor of teaching in Russia, it's the highest honor you can achieve.
00:36:44.000 So my teacher, Oleg Tabakov, he'd be the equivalent of like Robert De Niro here.
00:36:49.000 So, you know, if an acting teacher walks into a room, it doesn't matter even if you're in public.
00:36:54.000 If you're a student of that school, you have to stand up And you can't sit down until they sit down.
00:36:58.000 And there's just this unbelievable respect that's built in.
00:37:01.000 You need to learn acrobatics.
00:37:03.000 You have to train ballet.
00:37:05.000 Acrobatics?
00:37:06.000 Acrobatics, yeah.
00:37:06.000 So you were training in acrobatics and ballet while you were learning acting?
00:37:09.000 Yeah.
00:37:10.000 Really?
00:37:12.000 How do they structure that?
00:37:13.000 How do they structure what?
00:37:14.000 How do they structure that kind of training?
00:37:16.000 So it's, you know, at first, in the first year, I mean, look, in the first year you're there, there's no text.
00:37:24.000 I mean, all of the training is in your voice and in your body and in rhythm.
00:37:28.000 You learn rhythm, which is something that's, like, not taught here.
00:37:32.000 Rhythm of communication, rhythm of dancing.
00:37:34.000 Everything.
00:37:34.000 So rhythm of objects, like literally just learning.
00:37:38.000 It's studying rhythm.
00:37:41.000 So you and I would be able...
00:37:42.000 We would be tasked with putting on a show, completing rhythms, like off rhythms and...
00:37:48.000 How do I explain it?
00:37:51.000 I'll give you an example.
00:37:53.000 One of the training exercises would be...
00:37:58.000 I think?
00:38:11.000 Everyone in the class would be asking questions.
00:38:14.000 Say, Jamie, what color socks are you wearing today?
00:38:17.000 He would answer.
00:38:18.000 Then Jamie would say, Joe, what did you have for breakfast?
00:38:21.000 You would answer.
00:38:21.000 Somebody would go around and everybody would, while you're reading the article.
00:38:25.000 Meanwhile, the teacher would be clapping, snapping, or coughing.
00:38:29.000 When it was over...
00:38:32.000 He would point to anyone in the class.
00:38:33.000 You have to know how many times he snapped, how many times he coughed, how many times he clapped.
00:38:37.000 Then he would go around and he would say, what did Jamie eat for breakfast today?
00:38:40.000 You would have to know all that.
00:38:41.000 And then he'd have you stand up and you would have to recite the paragraph that you just read.
00:38:45.000 And you would have to be able to answer any of those questions.
00:38:49.000 And that's kind of what the method was.
00:38:52.000 And then when you get into the acrobatics, it's really, really getting just much, much more limber.
00:38:57.000 You know, I played football and baseball.
00:38:59.000 I played in college.
00:39:02.000 You know, I lifted weights.
00:39:03.000 I was a very just tight person.
00:39:06.000 So it was just like partner stretching, stretching the shit out of yourself and then learning how to do, you know, have people kind of climb up your body, learning how to, you were either a support.
00:39:15.000 I guess the equivalent would be like gymnastics or some sort of like, you know, high level tumbling, but you had to do all that and ballet as well.
00:39:24.000 And, yeah, I mean, not until the second year are you actually, you know, speaking text.
00:39:29.000 You know, all of it is just movement-based, observation-based.
00:39:32.000 Wow.
00:39:33.000 So it's almost like a boot camp.
00:39:35.000 Like they're building you up.
00:39:37.000 I think so.
00:39:38.000 And then every, you know, every couple months they let you know whether you're allowed to come back or not.
00:39:44.000 And so you have people's, you know, dreams kind of shattered.
00:39:47.000 And I think more than anything else, man, it's the...
00:39:52.000 The vitality of it.
00:39:54.000 You know, look, during communist times, public gathering was outlawed.
00:39:59.000 So, you know, you couldn't go to church.
00:40:02.000 You couldn't get a group of people together and speak.
00:40:05.000 You know, audiences were illegal unless they were politically based and controlled by the Kremlin.
00:40:11.000 So there were a couple state-based theaters, state-run theaters in Moscow, one of them being the Moscow Art Theater.
00:40:18.000 But they had to do pro-state theater.
00:40:23.000 And the thing is, is a lot of these people, you know, Meyerhold, for example, he's one of the most famous Russian directors.
00:40:29.000 He was lauded by the state as this, you know, unbelievable hero of the Russian theater.
00:40:37.000 And, you know, they would go and they would see his plays.
00:40:41.000 But then somebody looked at it and all of a sudden they said, you know what, I think there's actually an anti-state message here.
00:40:47.000 They executed him in his apartment.
00:40:50.000 So actors were sent to prison for being in a play that all of a sudden somebody just deemed as anti-state.
00:40:56.000 And, you know, for me, you know, my main teachers They did this play called Cinzano, which was about three guys.
00:41:08.000 One of them lost their moms.
00:41:10.000 Three best friends.
00:41:11.000 One of them lost their mom.
00:41:12.000 And it's just the three of them sitting in this apartment drinking a bottle of Cinzano and just sort of lamenting about this loss.
00:41:18.000 And they've been putting this play on.
00:41:20.000 For 30 years, once they were my teachers, during communist times.
00:41:23.000 So they would do this play in subway tunnels and abandoned buildings.
00:41:27.000 Had they been caught, they would have been imprisoned.
00:41:29.000 Anybody who was in that audience would have been imprisoned for going to watch that show.
00:41:33.000 But they did it anyway because it was that vital to them.
00:41:36.000 It was that important to them.
00:41:37.000 And for me, again, thinking I'm this kind of tough kid from D.C. and that I knew what the hell I was talking about.
00:41:46.000 Being around that, being around people...
00:41:49.000 That we're operating with that set of stakes, where the history, the palpability of the tumultuous history that is alive in every breath in that city, again, the beauty and the brutality,
00:42:04.000 it was a game changer for me.
00:42:07.000 I mean, look, man, one sort of brief anecdote.
00:42:12.000 When I first went over there, I think my third day there was...
00:42:18.000 It was my birthday.
00:42:20.000 And, you know, again, I lived in a place called Park Kulturi, which is Gorky Park.
00:42:25.000 It's kind of a pretty rough sort of shitty area in Moscow.
00:42:28.000 And I had a translator.
00:42:29.000 I spoke no Russian at all when I first went over there.
00:42:34.000 My translator, Max, came and picked me up where I was living.
00:42:37.000 And he took me to the Moscow Art Theater, which is on Tverskaya, right across the street from Red Square.
00:42:42.000 It's a few subway stops in a couple different directions to get there.
00:42:46.000 And once we got there, the one thing that they tell you that's absolutely essential at all times is you always have to have your papers back then.
00:42:52.000 At that point, the mayor ran the mafia.
00:42:55.000 The mayor's police, they didn't really have a salary.
00:42:57.000 They made their money by what they could sort of shake people down for.
00:43:01.000 So...
00:43:03.000 We get to the theater, you know, on my birthday and my first day of school, and I think like I'm actually making something of my life.
00:43:09.000 I'm here in Russia, but me being the fuck up that I am, I forgot my papers because I'm just an unadulterated asshole.
00:43:16.000 And I said to Max, man, I'm so sorry, man, I forgot my papers.
00:43:20.000 And he said, okay, well, we got to go back and get them.
00:43:22.000 And I said, no, man, let's just go into school and we'll do it the next day.
00:43:26.000 He said, no, they're not going to let you into the school without your papers.
00:43:28.000 Let's go back and get them.
00:43:29.000 I said, look, man, I'm a grown ass man.
00:43:31.000 Let me go back and get my papers.
00:43:32.000 You don't have to come with me.
00:43:33.000 You just took me here.
00:43:35.000 So I convinced him to let me go by myself.
00:43:37.000 And then again, me being the asshole that I am and everything's in Cyrillic, I couldn't read anything.
00:43:41.000 I got completely fucking lost and I just had no idea where I was.
00:43:44.000 I'm three days in Russia.
00:43:48.000 It's getting dark.
00:43:49.000 I'm screwing up.
00:43:50.000 I finally make it back to my place.
00:43:52.000 I get my papers.
00:43:52.000 I make it back to the school.
00:43:54.000 But now I've missed the first day.
00:43:55.000 It's like completely dark and I'm on the wrong side of Tverskaya, which is like this main street, about 16 lanes.
00:44:01.000 And I got to get to the other side to get to school.
00:44:04.000 And I just start kind of like Frogger.
00:44:06.000 I'm like dodging cars like a total asshole.
00:44:08.000 I'm like, I can't get to the other side.
00:44:10.000 As soon as I get to the other side, boom.
00:44:13.000 AK-47's in my face.
00:44:15.000 Russian police are right there.
00:44:16.000 They get me for crossing.
00:44:17.000 You're supposed to cross below.
00:44:18.000 I didn't know that.
00:44:19.000 They're yelling at me in Russian.
00:44:20.000 I give them, you know, 20 rubles.
00:44:22.000 They let me go.
00:44:23.000 And I'm just like, just such an asshole.
00:44:25.000 It's my birthday.
00:44:25.000 I've missed my first day.
00:44:26.000 I don't know what the fuck I'm doing.
00:44:28.000 And so I do what any good American would do.
00:44:30.000 I go and treat myself to a meal at McDonald's, right?
00:44:32.000 So I go and I get myself some McDonald's.
00:44:34.000 Happy birthday to me.
00:44:35.000 You're a fuck up, right?
00:44:37.000 Then I'm going back that night, and I'm back in Parkle Tour, and I'm walking down the street.
00:44:41.000 I'm all by myself.
00:44:42.000 It's pitch blackout.
00:44:44.000 It's cold as fuck.
00:44:45.000 And I'm walking down the street, and this Mercedes pulls up in front of me, and these two guys get out of the front seat.
00:44:53.000 And they reach into the backseat and they grab something out.
00:44:57.000 And I see it's this woman with beautiful red hair.
00:45:01.000 And she's in like a beautiful cocktail dress.
00:45:06.000 And they're pulling her out of the backseat of this Mercedes.
00:45:10.000 And I'm the only one on the street.
00:45:12.000 And they clearly don't see me.
00:45:13.000 But this woman sees me.
00:45:14.000 She makes like direct...
00:45:16.000 I contact with me and they're pulling her out of the side.
00:45:19.000 They're pulling her out of the backseat.
00:45:21.000 She's not fighting them, but she's not helping them either.
00:45:23.000 She's just like completely limp and just being dragged.
00:45:26.000 They take her over to this building and they just start like opening her head up against the side of this building and start smashing her head.
00:45:33.000 So I like forgot where I was and like I ran at this guy and I grabbed him in English.
00:45:40.000 I'm like, man, what the fuck are you doing?
00:45:42.000 What are you doing?
00:45:43.000 And He just pulled out a gun.
00:45:46.000 He just put it, like, right to my forehead.
00:45:48.000 And he said in English, he's like, go away.
00:45:50.000 Like that.
00:45:52.000 And, you know, Joe, I knew, like, in an instant, man.
00:45:56.000 I knew in an instant that, like, it was like I was a bug.
00:46:00.000 Like I was a bug.
00:46:01.000 Like, that was a different...
00:46:02.000 You know, I'd met...
00:46:03.000 I'd seen guns before.
00:46:04.000 I'd seen stuff before.
00:46:05.000 I just knew that this was a completely different level.
00:46:07.000 And so, you know, I walked away listening to that, listening to what they're doing.
00:46:11.000 And it was like day three.
00:46:13.000 So that's on the brutality side of it.
00:46:17.000 But I think conversely, on the beauty side of it, It was a culture that I found completely free of pretension.
00:46:28.000 If you have a conversation with somebody, you really have a conversation.
00:46:31.000 You look you in the eye and there's no, hey, how you doing?
00:46:34.000 Hey, I'm doing great.
00:46:34.000 There's no bullshit.
00:46:35.000 It wouldn't be strange or weird to have somebody...
00:46:47.000 I saw people who...
00:46:59.000 You know, you go on the subways and people weren't reading, you know, Us Weekly.
00:47:03.000 They were reading Bulgalkov and Tolstoy.
00:47:05.000 It's an unbelievably literate society.
00:47:09.000 Yeah, I don't know, man.
00:47:11.000 I'm so grateful for my time there.
00:47:14.000 And yeah, it really, you know, Alma and that place really saved my life.
00:47:19.000 How bizarre is it for you now to see this conflict that we're going through with Russia and Ukraine and the United States involvement, having spent time there?
00:47:31.000 You know, I feel horrible.
00:47:40.000 I'm devastated for, you know, my friends there.
00:47:44.000 I'm devastated for It's such a different Moscow.
00:47:51.000 It's such a different Russia than what I knew.
00:47:55.000 There was a free press there when I was there.
00:48:01.000 It was the Wild West, man.
00:48:05.000 Everybody was exploding in this new freedom.
00:48:11.000 It was such an optimistic...
00:48:14.000 You could feel the fragility.
00:48:17.000 But there was also, man, you know, if you bump somebody's foot by accident standing on a sidewalk, they have to step on your foot.
00:48:29.000 It's like a Russian tradition.
00:48:31.000 So if, like, you bump into somebody, they have to bump into you back.
00:48:35.000 If there's a line, you know, a lot of people just didn't believe in lines.
00:48:40.000 So, like, somebody will just cut right in front of you.
00:48:43.000 I remember when there was the situation at the Russian Theater.
00:48:47.000 There was a hostage situation where they just kind of went in and those people were being held hostage.
00:48:52.000 So they put in gas and they just kind of killed everybody.
00:48:57.000 I think there's something about...
00:48:59.000 I had a friend who was in the FSB, a young guy, and...
00:49:04.000 If there was an issue with the police, if we were being loud or somebody was trying to shake us down, I had this 21-year-old friend who was in the FSB, and this 21-year-old kid could yield such unbelievable power.
00:49:17.000 Put the fear of God in soldiers with guns, like that.
00:49:23.000 I don't know that we have an equivalent of that.
00:49:27.000 I saw that there was...
00:49:29.000 I remember them talking about Putin and with George Bush at the time.
00:49:35.000 I remember there was that thing, and I looked into his soul, and he's like, a great man, and we really connected.
00:49:41.000 There was...
00:49:43.000 There was this thing that there was an understanding among Moscovites that he would just toy with this guy.
00:49:49.000 And things like deception and things like manipulation were things that were celebrated in a leader.
00:49:56.000 We do the same shit, but we're not allowed to talk about it.
00:50:00.000 We're not allowed to celebrate it.
00:50:01.000 It's un-American.
00:50:02.000 But that style of being...
00:50:05.000 Ruling with an iron fist.
00:50:07.000 You know, it was still...
00:50:09.000 That was still very celebrated.
00:50:11.000 And many Russians, I think, really ascribe to that.
00:50:15.000 So I guess I'm heartbroken, you know?
00:50:20.000 I'm heartbroken.
00:50:21.000 And...
00:50:24.000 I'm heartbroken for all the young men that have fled and left and the families that are being torn apart.
00:50:30.000 I'm heartbroken for what's going on in Ukraine.
00:50:34.000 But I guess I'm not that surprised, you know?
00:50:39.000 The strong leader that is such a big part of Russia, and to have this powerful leader who leads with an iron fist, that seems to be something that they embrace.
00:50:51.000 It's a part of the culture.
00:50:53.000 It's a part of the history of that part of the world.
00:50:57.000 Absolutely.
00:50:58.000 And making hard decisions and understanding that things, you know, aren't clean.
00:51:04.000 I mean, look at, you know, I think many Russians would look at, you know, World War II and the way that they handled that war and the way that they approached that war militarily was – I don't know.
00:51:21.000 It's interesting.
00:51:22.000 I don't know if that would fly here.
00:51:24.000 But look at what they're doing in Ukraine when they have these mobile crematoriums and they're just taking the Russian soldiers to die and just – They don't even have a count of the bodies.
00:51:36.000 There's not even an accurate count of casualties.
00:51:39.000 And look, I think, you know, one gun for every five guys in World War II, you know, pick up, you know, when that guy dies, pick up the gun.
00:51:51.000 You know, but look, you know, you look at the way Patton approached, you know, the armor units in World War II. You know, our tanks, you know, couldn't compete with the Germans' tanks.
00:52:06.000 They just couldn't compete.
00:52:06.000 They looked at those tanks.
00:52:07.000 They said, there's just no way that a Sherman can compete with a Tiger.
00:52:11.000 It's just not going to happen.
00:52:12.000 Well, I know what we'll do.
00:52:13.000 We'll build five times as many.
00:52:14.000 So, yes, that's an unbelievable opportunity.
00:52:18.000 Unbelievable achievement of American industry, an unbelievable achievement of the war effort back home, an unbelievable achievement of the engineers that were on the front line fixing those tanks.
00:52:28.000 But what's the other side of that?
00:52:31.000 It takes five Sherman tanks to take down one Tiger tank, so we're just going to produce five times as many.
00:52:38.000 But think about all those tank units.
00:52:40.000 What does that mean for the men inside those tanks?
00:52:44.000 You know, what does that mean?
00:52:45.000 You know, that means we have to put in five times as many people and that when they go, we got to get a new unit out there, you know, and that's it's it's it's very similar.
00:52:54.000 You know, it's a totally different mentality that we're accustomed to.
00:52:57.000 That's right.
00:52:58.000 And the way we think of war and we think we think of sacrifice and casualties.
00:53:02.000 I think so.
00:53:02.000 Yeah, they just seems to it seems to be a part of the culture and it seems to be something they don't have a problem with.
00:53:10.000 Yeah, I mean, you know, whether they have a problem with it or not...
00:53:15.000 That's probably not the right question.
00:53:16.000 Probably, yeah, yeah, right?
00:53:18.000 I mean, like, I don't know, you know, I've had one friend of mine, I can't use his name, but I've had him on the podcast a couple of times, you know, from Russia, and he's Ukrainian, and his family's in Ukraine, sort of just telling us what's going on on the ground and what the sentiment is in Russia at the time,
00:53:35.000 and...
00:53:38.000 You know, I think for a lot of people there who are able to sort of like ignore the propaganda and look beyond it and try to get to the truth, it's...
00:53:48.000 I mean, he looks very much at his own culture and his own government as a cancer.
00:53:54.000 And he looks at Putin as an absolute criminal.
00:53:59.000 And, you know, he's saying that, you know, he's risking his life by saying that.
00:54:03.000 And how Putin deals with his political foes.
00:54:08.000 Even as I say this to you, man, my gratitude to that place and to that culture, it's limitless to me.
00:54:24.000 Again, I'm able to do what I love and And feed my kids and have a family.
00:54:35.000 And I'm so grateful for it.
00:54:38.000 And it wouldn't have happened if it wasn't for there.
00:54:40.000 And I'm just...
00:54:42.000 I just...
00:54:43.000 I don't know how this is going to end.
00:54:46.000 I don't know how it ends.
00:54:47.000 I don't know how it works itself out, you know?
00:54:49.000 And...
00:54:49.000 I hate that.
00:54:51.000 How do they get objective information over there?
00:54:55.000 How do they get past propaganda?
00:54:57.000 It's all state-sponsored and state-controlled.
00:55:00.000 Everything, right?
00:55:01.000 And again, look, I want to be—I'm no expert.
00:55:05.000 I've talked to the people that I've talked to, and I know for this—for my one dear friend, he is able to access— Free internet, you know, real internet, open internet, and that's how he's getting his information.
00:55:23.000 But I don't think that that's an easy thing to achieve.
00:55:26.000 And contact with people in Ukraine, the disparity in what the propaganda and the national sort of news outlets are saying versus what people are saying on the ground.
00:55:42.000 You know, and then I think what was huge is this draft, you know, that this was just supposed to be a military exercise.
00:55:50.000 And then all of a sudden people are being, you know, called out.
00:55:54.000 And look, it is.
00:55:55.000 It's a...
00:55:56.000 One thing I'll say about being there that really affected me as well is, you know, I've been to so many countries, as I'm sure you have, and everybody has this sort of nationalistic, people love their country, people want to celebrate their country.
00:56:12.000 You know, in Russia, I'd never seen anything like it, except for here.
00:56:16.000 You know, like, if you're a strong man, okay good, then you're a Russian man.
00:56:21.000 I played pro baseball while I was there, which is definitely not a big achievement at all.
00:56:29.000 But, you know, you're a good baseball player, you're a Russian baseball player.
00:56:32.000 You're a good actor, you're a Russian actor.
00:56:35.000 I mean, it's just like good and quality.
00:56:37.000 And I think we have that as well.
00:56:40.000 And I've never really quite seen that sort of unadulterated, just absolute, you know, love and reverence for their country than I had really in America.
00:56:58.000 The unique quality of their combat sports athletes speaks to that culture.
00:57:05.000 Yep.
00:57:05.000 Because, I mean, Fedor Emelianenko, if not the greatest heavyweight of all time, came from Russia.
00:57:12.000 I mean, the Dagestan region that produced Islam Makachev and Khabib Nurmagomedov.
00:57:19.000 And, you know, Ankulaev and so many elite fighters and the caliber of the athlete that comes out of there, both in wrestling, other combat sports, boxing.
00:57:30.000 I mean, they're just very, very exceptional, which speaks to the quality of the character of the people that come from that culture.
00:57:41.000 I think, too, when you talk about the traces of Soviet times, you owed it to your country.
00:57:55.000 You weren't there for your own sort of achievement or your own money that you're trying to put on the table, your own glory.
00:58:05.000 It was about your country.
00:58:06.000 It was about something bigger.
00:58:10.000 I think people will suffer for that.
00:58:13.000 In the same way, one gun for every one weapon for every five men, you've got to work harder.
00:58:20.000 And I think that that's something that's really come up in this draft, too.
00:58:23.000 I think that even people who are adamantly against it do feel like they, you know, why should this other Russian man die in my place?
00:58:33.000 Yeah, I'm going to go.
00:58:34.000 Did you ever watch the documentary Icarus?
00:58:37.000 I didn't, but I meant to.
00:58:39.000 It's a crazy documentary.
00:58:41.000 It's insane.
00:58:42.000 But a big part of it is about the doping that went on during the Sochi Olympics, which was all completely state-sponsored, where they swapped out.
00:58:51.000 They literally...
00:58:53.000 Put performance enhancing drugs in all of their athletes every single one of them They were the the ultimate goal was to achieve the highest level of performance in the Sochi Olympics to elevate Russia and to show Russian superiority and They managed to do this through this Gregory Rychenkov guy and he just by total happenstance Runs into this guy who produces this documentary,
00:59:23.000 who's a cyclist, and he decides that he wants, Brian Fogel, he wants to do this race completely clean, and then he's going to go to Gregory and tell him what his goals are, what he wants to do,
00:59:38.000 and this guy's supposed to be the head of the anti-doping agency in Russia, but really he's...
00:59:45.000 Bullshit.
00:59:45.000 He's the doper.
00:59:46.000 And so he tells them exactly what to do and how to do it and how to cycle off.
00:59:50.000 And during that time, then it gets revealed while they're in the middle of filming the documentary.
00:59:55.000 Brian, who's a brilliant documentarian, brilliant filmmaker, just steps in shit, just totally gets lucky.
01:00:01.000 And finds himself in the situation where Gregory and the Soviet Union or, excuse me, Russia is getting exposed for doping and he has to flee the country because he's a part of it.
01:00:15.000 So he comes to America and just completely spills the beans.
01:00:18.000 Tells them exactly how they did it, what they did, and now to this day he's in witness protection and they're hiding him and there's assassination attempts on him.
01:00:27.000 He's completely fucked and they've, you know, taken his family and taken all their money and pulled them out of their homes and it's a wild, chaotic thing, but it shows what kind of commitment they have to this idea of Russian exceptionalism and Russian conquering in sport.
01:00:49.000 And how far they'll take it if you reveal and if you go against them.
01:00:53.000 Look, I was in a car the other day when I landed here yesterday from Savannah, and we were just talking about Austin, we were talking about Texas, and the guy was from El Salvador, and he was just like, people in this country just don't appreciate anything.
01:01:11.000 They just have no idea.
01:01:12.000 It's the greatest country on earth, and they just have no idea.
01:01:16.000 And that really also was and is my big takeaway for spending time over there.
01:01:23.000 You know, just how unbelievably lucky we are here.
01:01:27.000 And I know, I mean, we started the conversation from out there about just how fucked up everything is, and of course it is.
01:01:33.000 But, like, look, man, I'm like a guy who fucking puts on makeup and says lines for a living, and I can come on here, you know, biggest platform in the world, and we can talk about it.
01:01:41.000 Right.
01:01:43.000 The biggest threat to me is that I'm going to lose an acting role.
01:01:47.000 You know what I mean?
01:01:48.000 That's a real thing, man.
01:01:50.000 And I just think this country is just...
01:01:54.000 I just think so many people in this country have no idea how good they have it and how great...
01:01:59.000 To me, it's the best country on earth.
01:02:02.000 It certainly isn't.
01:02:03.000 It's just we don't have a reference.
01:02:05.000 If you're here your entire life and this is how you view things, you're like, well, this place is fucked up.
01:02:10.000 That's right.
01:02:11.000 And it certainly is.
01:02:12.000 It certainly, I mean, we're human.
01:02:13.000 Humans, we're filled with all sorts of flaws.
01:02:17.000 And this culture and this, the way our civilization is run, it's filled with all sorts of flaws.
01:02:22.000 But it's the best example we have for a free society currently on Earth.
01:02:27.000 Which is hard for people to believe, especially people that look at all the inequality and look at all the chaos and look at all the things that are wrong with this country.
01:02:36.000 And there's certainly a lot.
01:02:37.000 It's still the best place.
01:02:39.000 Agreed.
01:02:39.000 Because it's the best place to communicate.
01:02:41.000 It's the best place to openly communicate.
01:02:43.000 That's why things like what we were talking about, like with the FBI being embedded in Twitter, trying to suppress certain narratives, it's so dangerous because that's what leads you to Communist China.
01:02:54.000 That's when the state has total control over the narrative and then the people that are involved in financing all that and profiting from all that are the ones that put these people in power and then control how the masses behave and think and communicate.
01:03:12.000 It's leading us down this slippery road.
01:03:14.000 And that's what scares the shit out of people.
01:03:16.000 And I think rightly so.
01:03:18.000 Agreed.
01:03:19.000 Agreed.
01:03:20.000 Yeah, I mean, I... And I think we also, at the same time, I think we need to be vigilant.
01:03:28.000 We need to be educated.
01:03:30.000 We need to look into these things.
01:03:32.000 And I think we also need to not jump to conclusions.
01:03:34.000 And I think we need to be very cognizant about who we're listening to.
01:03:40.000 And honestly, it's platforms like yours.
01:03:44.000 It's Finding people that we trust, that we just know, okay, look, this guy at least is telling his truth.
01:03:49.000 There's no agenda behind it.
01:03:51.000 They're not trying to convince you of anything.
01:03:53.000 It's so unbelievably vital to hang on to that and to know that people do have their hands in this information.
01:04:02.000 Do they have any kind of podcast like this in Russia?
01:04:04.000 I mean, is that even possible to do?
01:04:06.000 I don't think so, man.
01:04:06.000 I mean, again, like, I'm not, you know.
01:04:08.000 I remember when I was there, you know, there was the Moscow Times and, you know, there was the Exile.
01:04:14.000 You know, you've had...
01:04:15.000 Yeah, you know, it was...
01:04:20.000 There was this explosion of free press and really, like, gonzo journalism over there, you know, and...
01:04:31.000 But I don't know, to be honest with you, man, when I was there, I was a little bit sickened by the expat community, you know?
01:04:38.000 There was like...
01:04:39.000 There was a real...
01:04:43.000 There was a real sort of, like, hedonistic...
01:04:46.000 I mean, look, I think probably a lot of it was me being kind of self-important, and I was on this kind of, like, acting pilgrimage, and I took myself super seriously, but, you know, there's a lot of people that were going over there to, you know, be with as many Russian women as they could, and there's a lot of people going over there to sort of...
01:05:03.000 I felt pretty explo...
01:05:06.000 that they were exploiting, and, you know, I... There was very distinct, different Moscos when I was there.
01:05:17.000 You know, there was the Western version of Moscow, which was just, you know, totally different.
01:05:23.000 And then there was, you know, for me, I just – what I think was so lucky is I was going to school with Russians, you know, with people.
01:05:32.000 You know, you'd have – You'd have kids who would bring their entire families down from the mountains.
01:05:39.000 You'd have, like, nine people in a little apartment, and the whole family would be, like, cooking on a hot pot because this one kid had this opportunity to go to school there.
01:05:47.000 And it was this, like, level of support and encouragement.
01:05:49.000 And, you know, the relationships that I formed, you know, with these people.
01:05:53.000 We grew up so wildly differently.
01:05:55.000 The connections were so beautiful.
01:05:58.000 And, you know, you had...
01:06:03.000 You know, I just, I don't know.
01:06:05.000 I was really lucky that I got to be in Russian in Moscow that way.
01:06:09.000 And that's not an easy thing.
01:06:13.000 I'm worried about whether that's even possible now.
01:06:16.000 Did you learn Russian?
01:06:18.000 So, yeah, I mean, when I was there, especially playing baseball, you know, none of those guys spoke any English.
01:06:23.000 I had a translator in school.
01:06:25.000 But, yeah, I got all right.
01:06:26.000 I got all right.
01:06:27.000 I mean, one thing I've noticed that, you know, when I come home, you know, when I'm around Russian people, I always try to speak a little Russian.
01:06:34.000 And there's just this...
01:06:36.000 You know, there's just this, I don't know whether it's pride, I don't know what it is, but I'll throw out a couple words and they'll just answer in English.
01:06:42.000 Like, fuck you, motherfucker.
01:06:43.000 I learned your language.
01:06:44.000 I don't want to hear your fucking pig brushing me butchering her.
01:06:47.000 Who do you think you are, motherfucker?
01:06:49.000 You know, like, and, but, you know, like, while you were there, like, people, there were people that you knew spoke English and they just would refuse to speak it over there.
01:06:57.000 It's, like, not going to happen.
01:06:58.000 Interesting.
01:06:59.000 Yeah.
01:06:59.000 Did you learn how to read it?
01:07:01.000 A little bit.
01:07:02.000 That was, that was harder.
01:07:03.000 I mean, like, if I really...
01:07:05.000 You know, take my time.
01:07:06.000 But I mean, you know, at that point I could barely read English.
01:07:08.000 You know what I mean?
01:07:08.000 I was just such an asshole.
01:07:09.000 I mean, I remember when I was there, you know, we'd have these things called Black Tuesday.
01:07:13.000 And all the teachers would...
01:07:17.000 You would come in and they would sort of tell you whether you could continue or not.
01:07:20.000 And they would kind of each break you down about, like, your strengths and your weaknesses.
01:07:24.000 And you would just see people just crying their fucking eyes, like being devastated walking out of there.
01:07:28.000 And I remember, you know, I walked in there once and these teachers were like...
01:07:33.000 John, your talent is like a gem, but it's completely unformed.
01:07:41.000 You lack any semblance of elegance.
01:07:44.000 And they're saying this thing, and then you're waiting for the shoe to drop with the translator.
01:07:51.000 And then they're like, we bet you've never read a book.
01:07:53.000 And I was like, yep, gotcha.
01:07:55.000 I've never...
01:07:57.000 Bingo!
01:07:57.000 You know what I mean?
01:07:58.000 And then they're like, you know, from this moment on, never let there be another day where you're not reading a book.
01:08:04.000 And I took them up on that.
01:08:06.000 Wow.
01:08:07.000 I took them up on that.
01:08:08.000 It was some of the best advice I ever got.
01:08:11.000 How do we shift that over to here?
01:08:12.000 Dude, gotta read.
01:08:15.000 Yeah.
01:08:15.000 Gotta fucking read.
01:08:16.000 You gotta take in other people's perspectives and work.
01:08:20.000 It's a vital part of being a human being.
01:08:23.000 That's right.
01:08:23.000 And it takes a while for people to understand and read that, or understand and, you know, take that in.
01:08:29.000 It's so important for the human condition, and it's such an unbelievably available resource here in America.
01:08:37.000 And yet, people would rather go on TikTok.
01:08:40.000 That's right.
01:08:42.000 It's such a hard thing to encourage, too, because it requires discipline.
01:08:46.000 And if you're not raised with discipline, if it's not incorporated into you very early, it takes a monumental shift in the way you think about life to incorporate that.
01:08:56.000 How do you do that with your children?
01:08:59.000 Well, fortunately, my kids have been around me when I've been, you know, during the time that they're alive, I've been at my most disciplined and most best.
01:09:12.000 You know, thank God they weren't around me when I was 21. And they're seeing the example of someone who works hard and works all the time.
01:09:21.000 And it has a lot of discipline and also wants to talk to them about things.
01:09:26.000 And I want to talk to them about the value of difficult things and about failure and about like sports.
01:09:35.000 They're involved in sports, which I think are very important to kids.
01:09:38.000 You certainly can develop assholes through sports, but I think there's something about winning and losing and effort and reward for that effort that's a vital part of being a human being and through that, through sports and through any difficult thing, you develop your human potential.
01:09:53.000 I think you only find it through struggle.
01:09:56.000 You only find it through a difficult thing to acquire or a difficult thing to accomplish and then doing that and recognizing that your boundaries are actually movable and that the boundaries that hold you back now are not permanent.
01:10:10.000 They speak to your state at the moment.
01:10:12.000 But that state, you can advance that state.
01:10:14.000 And you can do things to make your perspective more nuanced and enhance it.
01:10:21.000 And hopefully they can learn from that.
01:10:24.000 But there's also the problem that they're growing up in a loving household.
01:10:27.000 They're growing up.
01:10:28.000 The examples they have is people that are very kind and nice.
01:10:33.000 You do need to be exposed to a certain amount of assholes to understand the full scope of human beings.
01:10:39.000 No question.
01:10:39.000 And I feel so much of my job as a father is creating this kind of adversity in my kid's life.
01:10:47.000 I have to.
01:10:48.000 And I need my children.
01:10:52.000 To learn the lessons that I've learned, I just really can't have them learn it the way that I learned it.
01:10:58.000 Right, right.
01:10:58.000 Because it could have gone either way.
01:11:02.000 Most of the time it doesn't go the way you went.
01:11:05.000 That's right.
01:11:06.000 Yeah, it's like if you get a hundred kids and you thrust them into horrible environments, very few of them come out to be this person who has forged themselves through the fire of adversity.
01:11:17.000 Most people succumb, unfortunately.
01:11:21.000 I think that's right.
01:11:22.000 And I think most people also don't have...
01:11:24.000 I mean, look, I mean, through all the trouble and all the shit that I got into, I had a loving, supporting family who had my back.
01:11:31.000 And I think that's...
01:11:31.000 When I think about the inequality in this country, I mean, one of the main themes in what I'm trying to do with this podcast is just I've seen firsthand how the legal system, how so many of the systems that are in place, people who don't have that infrastructure,
01:11:46.000 it is so grossly fucking unfair.
01:11:49.000 And they don't have an example to go off of.
01:11:52.000 One of the things about human beings is we imitate our atmosphere.
01:11:54.000 And we become accustomed to seeing people work hard, achieve things, and people that are kind and ethical and honest.
01:12:01.000 And we look at that as like, that's a value that I want to aspire to achieve.
01:12:05.000 And if you don't have that around you and all you have around you is crime and Drug-ridden streets and gang violence, and you don't know any other way to think or behave.
01:12:17.000 You don't have an example of it.
01:12:19.000 And there's very little effort done to change those neighborhoods.
01:12:23.000 I mean, if you look at the amount of effort and the amount of resources that we pump into other countries, we pump into the military, pump into all these various things, we always seem to have money for it.
01:12:33.000 Imagine if you're a child and you're being raised in this community that it's essentially been the same way for decades and decades with no help.
01:12:41.000 That's right.
01:12:42.000 You feel like an outsider and you feel like the system is rigged.
01:12:47.000 In many ways it is.
01:12:49.000 It is.
01:12:49.000 I couldn't agree with that.
01:12:50.000 I couldn't agree with that more.
01:12:52.000 And I think, you know, in terms of our children, it's, you know, how do you get them to see that Understand that, experience it, experience it a little bit, but also understand those inequities and try to inspire them to do something about it.
01:13:18.000 I think for me it's just, again, you know, people talk about, you know, like masculinity and, you know, this term that gets thrown around all the time, like this toxic masculinity and whatever the fuck that means.
01:13:31.000 And, you know, I just think that, again, it's like what are the examples that we're putting forward?
01:13:37.000 And what are the examples of...
01:13:41.000 You know, as fathers, what kind of men are you surrounding yourself by?
01:13:45.000 What are the things that are important to you?
01:13:47.000 And I think it's not, to me at least, it's not some sort of rejection of these classically masculine traits.
01:13:58.000 I think that having the ability and understanding you have the responsibility to keep your family safe It is absolutely essential in being a man, in providing.
01:14:11.000 I think having a healthy relationship with violence, having an understanding of it.
01:14:15.000 I think teaching your kids to have a relationship with violence where they're not being ruled by fear or shame, but they can have some sort of understanding, some sort of understanding.
01:14:29.000 Some sort of, you know, they can touch it.
01:14:32.000 They understand it a little bit.
01:14:34.000 They know what they're doing.
01:14:34.000 I think it's essential.
01:14:36.000 And I also think, you know, being accepting, being kind, being open, you know, being generous, being empathetic are also, you know, part of being a man.
01:14:47.000 And I think that, you know, oftentimes, because so many of the people, I think, who...
01:14:54.000 We're kind of leading the charge and who have so much of the platform at their disposal are kind of leading in these sort of toxic ways where it's all a bunch of bombast and bullshit.
01:15:09.000 And to me, it's been my experience.
01:15:13.000 Folks who really know what they're doing in that world really don't need to show off about it at all.
01:15:21.000 The people that are high achievers, they don't really have to beat their own chest and blow their own horn.
01:15:26.000 I think that's right.
01:15:27.000 Yeah, what we think of as toxic masculinity is really a bunch of losers.
01:15:31.000 So a lot of it is like the worst example.
01:15:34.000 But you could get the same, you know, there's no term toxic femininity, right?
01:15:38.000 But there's toxic human beings, and some of them happen to be male, and some of them happen to be female.
01:15:44.000 But it's not an indictment on male, you know, the male gender of the species.
01:15:49.000 That's crazy.
01:15:50.000 Right.
01:15:50.000 And the idea that you don't need men, that somehow or another, like, the female is the future.
01:15:55.000 It's like, what are you talking about?
01:15:56.000 That's crazy.
01:15:57.000 You need a balance.
01:15:57.000 There's a yin and a yang in this life for a reason.
01:15:59.000 That's right.
01:16:00.000 All of it goes together.
01:16:01.000 That's right.
01:16:02.000 Just everybody has to do better.
01:16:03.000 That's right.
01:16:04.000 And I think that's something that I've really...
01:16:06.000 You know, on this thing that I'm trying to do, I'm really just trying to put up examples of that.
01:16:13.000 Men and women who, again, really, really walk that walk and are not leading with sort of just, you know, and trying to give whatever platform I have to those kinds of people who are real examples of that.
01:16:24.000 What was your big break as an actor?
01:16:27.000 Do you think it was The Walking Dead?
01:16:28.000 That was the big one?
01:16:29.000 Yeah, I mean...
01:16:32.000 You were fucking great in that.
01:16:33.000 Oh, thanks.
01:16:34.000 You played such a good creep.
01:16:35.000 Such an asshole, right?
01:16:37.000 Yeah.
01:16:37.000 But it was so believable.
01:16:39.000 Like, all of it was so believable.
01:16:40.000 Thanks, man.
01:16:41.000 It was really good.
01:16:42.000 Thanks.
01:16:42.000 I mean, I think that it was the, for me, it was the perfect, the perfect role, the perfect time in my life.
01:16:52.000 These things, just like, they really, you know, married each other.
01:16:58.000 You know, I'd been busting my ass for about 10 years before that and just I've been doing it for a long time.
01:17:09.000 But I was still really a pretty big fuck-up, Joe.
01:17:12.000 And I was hitting...
01:17:15.000 Brick wall after brick wall in my life.
01:17:18.000 I was kind of a shitbag.
01:17:20.000 I wasn't a good boyfriend.
01:17:24.000 I was still having episodes of violence on the street.
01:17:32.000 I was still getting into a street fight, still getting into trouble.
01:17:34.000 I was drinking way too much.
01:17:38.000 On July 3rd, 2009, I lived in Venice Beach and every July 4th we had a really big July 4th party.
01:17:49.000 I was walking my dogs in Venice Beach.
01:17:56.000 I stopped because I saw there's like a big house party.
01:17:58.000 It was this thing called First Fridays in Venice where people could drink on the street.
01:18:02.000 And I saw this older couple and they were playing the didgeridoo.
01:18:06.000 You know the didgeridoo?
01:18:07.000 Boy!
01:18:09.000 That's pretty good, bro.
01:18:10.000 And yeah, so they were playing the didgeridoo and they were probably like a couple in their 60s.
01:18:14.000 And I saw this one guy outside the party who's kind of like a ringleader.
01:18:17.000 He's dancing around, drinking 40s.
01:18:19.000 You know, they're Kind of like want to be tough guys.
01:18:21.000 And the guy went over to the woman who was playing the Didgeridoo and he lifted it up and he like put it on his crotch.
01:18:29.000 So it looked like this old woman was like blowing his crotch.
01:18:33.000 And I remember just like looking at her husband and he was just like broken.
01:18:40.000 And like I saw this couple like they had to pack their stuff up and it was just like...
01:18:45.000 And I don't know, Joe.
01:18:46.000 There was something about that.
01:18:47.000 I was drawn to it.
01:18:48.000 I was supposed to see it that day.
01:18:50.000 And I saw red.
01:18:52.000 And right at that point, that same guy, he called my dog over.
01:18:58.000 My dogs are super well-trained.
01:19:00.000 And I walked them.
01:19:02.000 They weren't on their leash.
01:19:03.000 And I had this one dog named Boss, this great pit bull.
01:19:06.000 And he said, oh my gosh, look at that dog.
01:19:08.000 We were probably 50 yards away.
01:19:09.000 And he called the dog over.
01:19:12.000 And boss went over to him.
01:19:14.000 And the guy's like petting my dog and kind of like roughing up my dog a little bit, just kind of like manhandle him because he's a big pit bull, whatever it was.
01:19:20.000 And I called my dog back and the guy held on to him and didn't let him come back to me.
01:19:27.000 And again, man...
01:19:31.000 Some part of me wanted this to kind of happen, you know, and I went over to him and I grabbed my dog and I was like, boss, let's go.
01:19:41.000 And I pulled my dog away and he's like, hey, man, get off my dog.
01:19:44.000 And, you know, one thing kind of led to another, but I started to walk away and him and a couple of his friends started to follow me and he pushed me in the back.
01:19:53.000 And I turned around and I hit him with a right hand.
01:19:56.000 And he got knocked out standing up.
01:19:58.000 And he fell down and he cracked his head on the pavement.
01:20:03.000 And his friends all kind of jumped on me.
01:20:06.000 I tried to put my back against a tree and do what I could, but they started to get the better of me.
01:20:11.000 Police came.
01:20:12.000 And, you know, long story fucking long, you know, you don't look like he wasn't waking up.
01:20:19.000 And, you know, I had...
01:20:23.000 They were taking him away.
01:20:26.000 I was, like, sitting there, handcuffed to the side.
01:20:28.000 Some friends of mine came.
01:20:29.000 I got them to get my dogs out of there.
01:20:31.000 But, you know, I'm on the side.
01:20:32.000 There's police everywhere.
01:20:33.000 People are, like, from that party pouring beers on my head.
01:20:36.000 And I'm just kind of sitting there.
01:20:37.000 And then they took me down to Pacific Division.
01:20:41.000 And the guy still wasn't waking up.
01:20:43.000 And, you know, I'd gotten in trouble in the past in Washington.
01:20:49.000 You know, the police were just saying, like, hey, man, like, you know, if he doesn't wake up, that's kind of that.
01:20:55.000 And, you know, I was handcuffed to this bench in the Pacific Division, and I remember just really having to take a piss.
01:21:04.000 And, you know, nobody was letting me.
01:21:06.000 And, you know, they were kind of giving me shit about, you know, what's going to happen if this guy doesn't wake up.
01:21:13.000 And I remember sitting there on that bench...
01:21:17.000 That, you know, if this guy doesn't wake up and I'm going in that direction now, I knew, and it was as clear as any thought I've ever felt, I was going to have to sort of get in touch.
01:21:32.000 I was going to have to be the devil.
01:21:34.000 If I was going that route, all this acting shit, all this friends and fun, it's over.
01:21:40.000 I got to go be the worst and most vicious part of myself if I'm going through that door.
01:21:47.000 And it wasn't like something like trying to steal myself or act like, you know, man, I'm nothing.
01:21:51.000 But I was as sure of anything.
01:21:55.000 That that's what needed to happen.
01:21:57.000 And it was clear.
01:21:58.000 I wasn't scared.
01:21:59.000 I just knew it.
01:22:00.000 But then my next thought, I just looked up and I was like, but...
01:22:06.000 If you can just get me out of this, and I remember just saying it, if you can just get me out of this, I swear to you, like, I am done.
01:22:14.000 Like, I am done.
01:22:15.000 And I will dedicate my life to my lady.
01:22:18.000 I will dedicate my life to my work.
01:22:20.000 And I will dedicate my life to you.
01:22:21.000 And I will dedicate my life to service.
01:22:23.000 Like, I will dedicate my life.
01:22:25.000 And, you know, literally, man, I'm not trying to, you know, one second later, a cop came by and said the guy woke up.
01:22:33.000 Whew.
01:22:34.000 And, you know, man, that could have gone.
01:22:41.000 Yeah.
01:22:41.000 Anyway.
01:22:42.000 And I know, again, you asked me about Walking Dead, but literally one year after that, July 3rd, 2010, I was on set of my first season of Walking Dead.
01:22:52.000 Wow.
01:22:53.000 And, you know, not drinking, focused, engaged to be married, had my first kid on season two.
01:23:01.000 And...
01:23:03.000 And again, man, I'm so profoundly humbled by that and grateful for that, so grateful for it.
01:23:16.000 But I'm also, like, aware of, like, how unfair it is that so many people don't get that shot.
01:23:22.000 And it doesn't work out that way.
01:23:26.000 But yeah, you know, like, getting to then kind of play a role like that, that had a real beginning, middle, and end kind of, like, built in.
01:23:36.000 You know, it was...
01:23:37.000 And at a time in my life where I just totally stripped all the fat out of my life, the people I was hanging out with, the way I was behaving, I got ridiculously disciplined pretty much about every part of my life.
01:23:51.000 And...
01:23:54.000 Yeah, sorry it's such a grandiose answer, but it's Walking Dead, but it was also that time at Walking Dead and the people that I was around and what that all meant.
01:24:03.000 But yeah, it was, you know, my life completely and utterly changed there.
01:24:08.000 And I think the sad thing is, man, it's not like that was the first time that happened.
01:24:11.000 I mean, I had...
01:24:12.000 So many times where I should have learned that lesson.
01:24:15.000 So many times.
01:24:16.000 And because I had some wiggle room, because I had people looking out for me, because I came from a family with a father who was engaged and had the means and the ability to help me out.
01:24:28.000 And that is so vastly unfair.
01:24:31.000 And it's a reason why now, I mean, it's like...
01:24:34.000 On the show, it's like why we're hanging out and spending time with so many people in this LWOP community, with the Life Without Parole community in prison.
01:24:42.000 And these guys who, you know, like me, like fucked up, you know, made a horrible mistake, did something without a doubt inexcusable.
01:24:53.000 But you talk to some of these guys and they have this fluency with their shame, this fluency with They've spent so much time living in the vileness of what they've done that they've spent so much time empathizing and putting themselves in their victims' shoes.
01:25:25.000 They are different people 20 years later than the crime that they committed.
01:25:30.000 And their entire life now is dedicated to service.
01:25:35.000 It's dedicated, you know, this Elwha community in Calipatria Prison that we hang out with, you know, they've really changed so much of the culture in that prison.
01:25:43.000 That was one of the most violent prisons in all of the state of California.
01:25:47.000 And California prisons are notoriously violent.
01:25:49.000 And this community, they broke down the racial Walls, you know, this LWAP community, this group, these guys who basically have a living death sentence, they've all banded together.
01:26:01.000 It used to be, you know, you're in a different race.
01:26:04.000 You can't even talk to each other.
01:26:06.000 But these guys, this multiracial group of men have gotten together and they provide support for each other.
01:26:12.000 They have programming.
01:26:13.000 They have hope.
01:26:15.000 My friend Brett May, who's been on the show, he's a paralegal now.
01:26:19.000 He's gotten his degrees.
01:26:20.000 He was part of the felony murder rule.
01:26:22.000 He was part of a home invasion where someone was murdered.
01:26:25.000 He didn't pull the trigger, but he was there.
01:26:28.000 He got life without parole.
01:26:31.000 When you talk to him, when you talk to him about...
01:26:39.000 How much time he has spent thinking about the horror that those people must have felt when they woke up and knew he was in the home.
01:26:46.000 And how just utterly disgusted and ashamed he is.
01:26:50.000 Look, I'm not advocating to forgive him.
01:26:54.000 I'm not advocating that anybody should free him.
01:26:59.000 I am advocating that we can learn from him and that we should listen to him.
01:27:04.000 And he's such a dedicated...
01:27:09.000 Father, and he puts all his life now into helping other people who are coming in with this sentence that, you know, if you go into prison and you have that sentence, what are you going to do?
01:27:22.000 I mean, what are you going to do?
01:27:23.000 There's no reason not to engage in violent behavior.
01:27:27.000 There's no reason not to try to put money in you and your family's pocket that way.
01:27:31.000 And he goes right to those people and he leads them To a better place.
01:27:34.000 I'm a huge believer that only people that really have been in that valley, you know, can lift others out of it, you know?
01:27:42.000 And I'm deeply inspired by him, man.
01:27:45.000 Deeply inspired.
01:27:46.000 That's wild.
01:27:49.000 It's so true what you're saying about there's moments in your life where things could have tipped one way or the other, and that's a giant percentage of the people that are locked up.
01:27:59.000 Totally.
01:27:59.000 That they could have had an opportunity to turn their life around, but there was nothing there for them.
01:28:06.000 And they didn't have the infrastructure, the people around them, or the power, the money, or, you know, they've been generations of people that have been held down.
01:28:16.000 And, you know, it's real.
01:28:19.000 And, you know, we had a guy on a...
01:28:29.000 A couple weeks ago, Richard McKinney, he was a Marine, he was forced recon, and he was overseas during 9-11, and he developed this unbelievable hatred for Muslims.
01:28:49.000 There's a beautiful documentary coming out called Stranger at the Gate that's about his life.
01:28:57.000 So he, you know, even the guys in his unit were like, hey man, you gotta calm down with that shit.
01:29:01.000 And then, um, I believe he got injured and then he came home.
01:29:04.000 He's from Muncie, Indiana.
01:29:06.000 And, uh, he just had this, like, unbelievable hatred of Muslims.
01:29:10.000 And, uh, it just ran kind of everything in his life.
01:29:13.000 And, uh...
01:29:14.000 At the same time, the Muslim community in Muncie was growing.
01:29:17.000 There was this wonderful woman who created something called the Muncie Islamic Center.
01:29:23.000 She's this woman who brought in over 157 Muslim refugees into America.
01:29:32.000 He was seeing more and more Muslims in the community.
01:29:34.000 It was driving him crazy.
01:29:36.000 So he devised a plan to go and blow up the mosque.
01:29:39.000 He was going to go blow up this Islamic center.
01:29:41.000 He built a bomb.
01:29:45.000 He worked on the plan for over two years and walked in, built a bomb, walked into the center.
01:29:51.000 And when he walked in there, he was met by that woman, Bebe.
01:29:56.000 And she greeted him in this way that he had never seen before.
01:30:03.000 She invited him.
01:30:04.000 She gave him a Koran, and he really wanted to read it.
01:30:08.000 He thought that he was going to find proof in this Koran that all these people just wanted Americans dead.
01:30:16.000 I mean, that's just what his mindset was.
01:30:17.000 So he felt like he had sort of won, so he decided to leave that day and come back still with this plan to blow up the Islamic Center on a Friday where there would be 200 people there.
01:30:25.000 Then the woman invited him into her home and cooked for him.
01:30:30.000 Now, years later, he's a devout Muslim.
01:30:33.000 He's the president of that Islamic Center.
01:30:35.000 Whoa.
01:30:36.000 They are like family.
01:30:38.000 And I had both of them on the podcast.
01:30:40.000 Man, it's...
01:30:42.000 Holy shit.
01:30:43.000 Yeah.
01:30:44.000 And I don't know, man.
01:30:46.000 It's just like we're so ready to say, you know...
01:30:52.000 Fuck you.
01:30:53.000 We're so ready to just slam the door on people.
01:30:56.000 I don't know.
01:30:58.000 Look, man, you started a conversation.
01:31:00.000 Some of your favorite people in your life are people who really fucked up when they were young.
01:31:04.000 I don't know, man.
01:31:06.000 I think your capacity for going in that valley again is directly relative to your capacity to lifting others out of it and your capacity to create havoc.
01:31:19.000 Directly relates to your capacity to create good and connection and growth.
01:31:23.000 And I really believe that.
01:31:26.000 This is amazing that one person who is of considerable character and love can change the way that guy thinks about things.
01:31:35.000 And I'll tell you, you sit down with her and in like two seconds you're like, oh wait, you're magic.
01:31:41.000 She's just one of those people.
01:31:43.000 And I asked her.
01:31:44.000 She would have him in her home, and she would cook for him.
01:31:49.000 She's a wonderful cook, and she'd have these huge meals.
01:31:52.000 And I asked him, when you walked into her home, when you ate her food, were you still planning on blowing her up and her family?
01:31:58.000 And he said, absolutely.
01:32:00.000 And I asked her, knowing that now, if you had known that then, like, how would you feel?
01:32:05.000 And she said, like, without missing a beat, I still would have had him in my home.
01:32:09.000 Still would have had him in my home, and that's my job.
01:32:12.000 That's my job.
01:32:12.000 That's my duty.
01:32:13.000 Wow.
01:32:15.000 Holy shit.
01:32:16.000 It's crazy.
01:32:17.000 That's crazy.
01:32:18.000 Nuts.
01:32:19.000 But it's real.
01:32:20.000 Like when you see them together, there's like nothing put on.
01:32:24.000 There's nothing, you know, he's not like, you know, it's so easily to sort of dismiss people as bonkers or like, but, you know.
01:32:35.000 It's very easy to write people off but Even people that are capable of great evil are also capable of great love.
01:32:43.000 It's just people People are oftentimes a victim of the thoughts that bounce around their own mind and of circumstance and of momentum It's crazy how one moment of meeting one person Starts a totally different path in this guy's life.
01:33:02.000 That's right.
01:33:03.000 Wow.
01:33:04.000 Yeah.
01:33:06.000 So you go from this horrific moment where you might be locked up in jail for manslaughter for the rest of your life.
01:33:14.000 And then all of a sudden, a year later, you're on The Walking Dead.
01:33:18.000 You're on this...
01:33:18.000 Which, by the way, that first season...
01:33:20.000 I think The Walking Dead kind of lost its way later on.
01:33:23.000 I stopped watching it when it became like murder porn.
01:33:27.000 But the early seasons, especially like season one, god damn, was that a good show.
01:33:33.000 I mean, it just captivated...
01:33:49.000 What happens when you strip off the veneer of comfort?
01:33:54.000 Yeah.
01:33:54.000 That, you know, dictates so much of our behavior every day.
01:33:58.000 And, you know, it was really cool for me specifically to kind of play this character who was the first one that was kind of onto it.
01:34:05.000 The first one that was like, you know, these rules, they don't apply anymore in this world.
01:34:10.000 And you can, you know, you can...
01:34:11.000 And look, I think for me as just a performer, you know, all the way around, man, is there was a wildness, there was a recklessness that...
01:34:23.000 I really sought after just kind of in my life and in my own behavior that I was really kind of addicted to.
01:34:31.000 But it always led me to really kind of horrible ends and I was a real big fuck up.
01:34:38.000 But I found something with this where I could take all of that and put it into work.
01:34:44.000 And man, it's been my sword, man.
01:34:48.000 of that character comes from, right?
01:34:50.000 I mean, that's the advantage that you have of having all those fuck-ups.
01:34:56.000 Yeah, I mean, I think so.
01:34:58.000 And the advantage of, you know...
01:35:01.000 I also think...
01:35:04.000 I'd be curious to hear what you thought about it, but now you are who you are.
01:35:11.000 It's like your intentionality.
01:35:12.000 I think intentionality is so important.
01:35:15.000 Where are you when you begin?
01:35:17.000 What is your goal?
01:35:19.000 Why did you start this thing in the first place?
01:35:22.000 And always kind of going back to that and to keep yourself honest.
01:35:27.000 When The Walking Dead started, There was no craft service.
01:35:31.000 It was like a bunch of us in the fucking woods.
01:35:33.000 It was like Frank Darabont.
01:35:34.000 He had done Shawshank Redemption.
01:35:36.000 He had tried to get the show on HBO. They said no.
01:35:39.000 AMC had, like, Mad Men and Breaking Bad.
01:35:41.000 They're like, all right, we'll do your shitty little zombie show.
01:35:43.000 We'll pick it up for six episodes, which basically means we don't really believe in this thing at all, you know?
01:35:49.000 But he got these group of people together, and it was so humble.
01:35:54.000 And the thing that's crazy about, like, a zombie show and about, like, living in a different world like that There are rules, right?
01:36:02.000 So if you put a bunch of actors in the woods and you have six people walking through the woods and if you make any noise, the zombies could come.
01:36:09.000 If one fucking actor is sitting there thinking about, okay, like, do I look cool here?
01:36:13.000 Or how's my makeup?
01:36:14.000 Or if one person isn't fully committed...
01:36:17.000 You literally shit on the entire thing.
01:36:19.000 Like, the reality of that world is totally screwed.
01:36:22.000 And it just, it was sort of this, like, perfect storm of people that were young and hungry and committed.
01:36:27.000 You had a bunch of people who were just starting families.
01:36:30.000 So there wasn't, you know, there was no, like, going to bars or restaurants or any of that bullshit.
01:36:34.000 It was just really, really gratitude.
01:36:36.000 So lucky to be here.
01:36:38.000 Let's make this work.
01:36:38.000 Who gives a fuck if it's six episodes or twelve?
01:36:40.000 Let's just make this work.
01:36:41.000 We all believed in Frank.
01:36:44.000 And, you know, there's something really to that, to the intentionality behind it.
01:36:47.000 And, you know, I think that's often something.
01:36:51.000 You know, I had a baseball coach who once said, you know, when you're at bat and things start spiraling out of control.
01:36:57.000 And, you know, baseball is such a heady sport.
01:37:00.000 And, you know, when you start, all of a sudden you start getting in your head and you start going down that spiral, you need to step out.
01:37:07.000 And he would say, remember why you did it in the first place.
01:37:10.000 Like, remember why you wanted to play baseball in the first place.
01:37:12.000 Go back to the time when you were a kid, when you just fucking loved it.
01:37:15.000 And like, go there.
01:37:16.000 And as long as it takes, just go there.
01:37:17.000 Then step back in the batter's box.
01:37:19.000 And I really, I... I'm asking myself that a lot now, you know, because there's a lot, you know, how the conversation started doing this podcast with me where, you know, I'm like, why am I doing this?
01:37:33.000 Like, what, you know, and I keep on having to go back to that thing because it does, man.
01:37:37.000 It comes with a cost and especially as the thing grows.
01:37:42.000 But I keep going back to it's the people that I have on.
01:37:47.000 It's the people that I have on.
01:37:48.000 They're the people I want my kids listening to.
01:37:51.000 Well, you're doing an amazing job with it.
01:37:53.000 And I think having these crazy life experiences and these journeys that you've gone on in your own mind, it really works well because of that.
01:38:03.000 Because you're very charitable and you're very compassionate and it comes through.
01:38:07.000 It's very obvious that you have a...
01:38:10.000 A more balanced view of what human beings are capable of than the average person.
01:38:17.000 I appreciate you saying that, man.
01:38:19.000 I think mostly You know, I just kind of shut the fuck up.
01:38:28.000 You know what I mean?
01:38:28.000 Like, I know that I'm not bringing on people that I don't know.
01:38:31.000 I know them.
01:38:32.000 And we have really, really close relationships.
01:38:35.000 So it's, you know, it's Special Forces soldiers and fighters and surgeons and teachers.
01:38:44.000 You know, they come from all—but every person— Within their own community, it's not just that they have this job.
01:38:52.000 It's like, I know them.
01:38:53.000 I know how respected they are in their own community.
01:38:55.000 I know how much they've given me.
01:38:57.000 I know how much they've added to my life, how much value they've put in.
01:39:01.000 And again, it was coming in this vacuum when I just really saw, fuck, man, we were listening to the wrong people.
01:39:06.000 Everyone's just, like, spouting out all this bullshit.
01:39:08.000 Like, these people know, man.
01:39:10.000 These people know.
01:39:11.000 And I'm not saying, hey, they're the end all.
01:39:14.000 But on this subject, they've been there.
01:39:15.000 I promise you that.
01:39:16.000 They've really been there.
01:39:18.000 And, yeah, I think it comes also just in the way that I work as an actor and...
01:39:27.000 The greatest thing about what I get to do is I get to go and You know, we go do Fury, and we get to talk to, you know, guys who are really in tanks in World War II. I mean, there's, like, not that many of those.
01:39:40.000 Those guys are the best among us, you know?
01:39:43.000 I got to, you know, Kevin Vance.
01:39:47.000 That's where I met Kevin Vance, you know, Navy SEAL. Just beautiful man who's just taught...
01:39:53.000 He's had such a deep impact on my life.
01:39:56.000 And, you know, actors, we...
01:40:01.000 That to me is everything.
01:40:02.000 And it fucks me up sometimes because I'm actually way less interested in what the director or the producer kind of think about what I'm doing.
01:40:09.000 I'm just on those people and that opportunity to learn from those folks.
01:40:16.000 You have somebody, whether you're a vet or a police officer or anything.
01:40:21.000 You open up to somebody.
01:40:23.000 You bring them into your world.
01:40:25.000 Like, that's sacred, man.
01:40:26.000 That's a trust that I really, really value and really mean something to me.
01:40:36.000 And again, it's my sword and work.
01:40:39.000 It gives you a North Star in this kind of malleable, weird thing where you've got so many different agendas at play and what people kind of want.
01:40:49.000 A film is super collaborative and everybody's got their own kind of agendas there.
01:40:54.000 But if you can find some truth, it's like, man, just go try to do that.
01:40:58.000 Learn that trade.
01:40:59.000 Learn how to handle that weapon.
01:41:01.000 Learn how to coach that Tennis.
01:41:03.000 Learn that shit.
01:41:06.000 That's busy work that you can actually do.
01:41:09.000 If you put the time in, you can actually achieve something.
01:41:12.000 It's not just, hey man, let's hope for the best.
01:41:14.000 I'll get it on the next take.
01:41:15.000 Fuck that.
01:41:15.000 I wish I could.
01:41:17.000 I don't have the stomach for that.
01:41:19.000 What do you want to do with your show?
01:41:21.000 Your show has picked up all this momentum, your podcast.
01:41:25.000 It's really gotten to a point where you have a big audience now and a lot of people are listening into it.
01:41:31.000 Do you have a goal?
01:41:33.000 Did you anticipate it growing to where it is now?
01:41:36.000 No.
01:41:38.000 When you first started doing it, did you just do it and say, I just feel like this is something I'm compelled to do?
01:41:42.000 And then we'll see where it goes.
01:41:43.000 Yeah, I'm working with a group of people that I really believe in.
01:41:46.000 There's a group of, you know, young filmmakers and I think they share the ethos of the show.
01:41:57.000 I think what the goal is and what we're really trying to do is give a platform to the folks that come on.
01:42:08.000 And I don't mean on my show.
01:42:10.000 It's what we're trying to do, like that fishing show that I mentioned.
01:42:13.000 Kevin Vance is now going to go do a show where he's going around and he's talking to special forces.
01:42:21.000 He's talking to members of the community that he really knows and help them deal with issues that they're dealing with.
01:42:26.000 We've got another show, like I told you about, with the readings that we're putting on with Sloss and Rec.
01:42:33.000 So, I mean...
01:42:34.000 Ultimately, what I'm trying to do, you know, there's the Silverback Chronicles, which are two career police officers in Baltimore that we had on.
01:42:42.000 Their group of cops in Baltimore called the Silverbacks are a bunch of all-black cops, a unit there that are just totally policing for the right reasons, respect to the community.
01:42:54.000 They're no-nonsense.
01:42:55.000 They've got to Amazing podcast sort of about just, you know, the streets of Baltimore.
01:43:00.000 And you're involved in all these shows?
01:43:01.000 Yeah, so our job is to give them the infrastructure and our job is to promote and help all of these different things.
01:43:07.000 So you're essentially like running a network.
01:43:09.000 You know, that's what the guys that I, that's the word that, you know, the guys that I'm working with keep using.
01:43:14.000 I mean, one thing about me, Joe, and it's probably the one area in my life I remain just enormously sloppy.
01:43:21.000 I'm not a businessman.
01:43:22.000 I'm just not.
01:43:23.000 I don't know how to really think that way.
01:43:33.000 Ultimately supporting these folks and giving them this platform and then providing them that infrastructure, that I can get behind and believe in.
01:43:43.000 And as long as people are still coming to us and wanting to come on and There's people that I'm really interested in speaking with.
01:43:56.000 I'm going to keep doing it.
01:43:58.000 But it's hard.
01:43:59.000 I go to do a role, and for better or worse, I kind of have to shut down, man.
01:44:04.000 I really do.
01:44:08.000 I'm kind of disgusted by actors who just talk about the process all the time, and it's really not my bag.
01:44:13.000 It's really not something...
01:44:15.000 But for me, there is a necessity to...
01:44:21.000 It's the only way I know how to work is to kind of push everything else out.
01:44:26.000 So, you know, I can't do this while I'm doing that.
01:44:29.000 So it's a really hard thing to navigate.
01:44:31.000 You know, it's a really hard thing to navigate.
01:44:34.000 But what made you decide?
01:44:36.000 Was it the people you're working with that decided to do all these additional shows as well?
01:44:41.000 Yeah, and I thought I want it to be more than just giving these folks a voice.
01:44:45.000 I want to, you know, my Sebastian Richardson, people called him Bam Bam on the street.
01:44:52.000 He's from Shreveport, Louisiana.
01:44:53.000 Shreveport's, I wrote a show about Shreveport.
01:44:57.000 I've been going down there for about 10 years.
01:44:59.000 Bam Bam was in Supermax at Florence, Colorado.
01:45:02.000 He was in prison with Larry Hoover, with El Chapo.
01:45:05.000 You know, he was part of a, he's part of a A Rico case in Shreveport in this little neighborhood called The Bottoms, sort of legendary street guy who, you know, was extraordinarily violent in prison, ended up in Supermax.
01:45:22.000 And, you know, people don't get out of Supermax.
01:45:24.000 He was part of the Marshall Project.
01:45:25.000 He was tortured in prison.
01:45:27.000 He was basically blinded there.
01:45:28.000 They kept him zip-tied for, I believe, 253 days.
01:45:32.000 His skin started to grow over the zip ties because he was basically protesting how other prisoners were being treated.
01:45:37.000 So to get him out of his cell to eat every day, he would just welcome it.
01:45:40.000 They'd basically gas him and beat him every single day.
01:45:43.000 He ended up getting out.
01:45:44.000 Now he's a minister.
01:45:46.000 He's an unbelievable guy.
01:45:48.000 He's dedicating his entire life now to To the young community of Shreveport, a city that's just ravaged by gun violence right now.
01:45:58.000 And he's got a podcast, so we're supporting that.
01:46:01.000 We're supporting his merchandise.
01:46:05.000 There's so much in that community.
01:46:08.000 We go to the place.
01:46:09.000 We don't have them come to us, so we've done a bunch of shows in Shreveport.
01:46:16.000 Again, these stories, I think, are really worth being told.
01:46:21.000 My friend Alfred Brown, people used to call him Goat.
01:46:26.000 He was a guy who ran this community.
01:46:30.000 I don't love the word, but he's sort of a gang leader down in Shreveport in Louisiana in this community called The Bottoms and got busted on RICO charges, ended up doing almost two decades in prison.
01:46:42.000 Since he's been out, he's lost two of his daughters to gun violence since he's been out.
01:46:49.000 You know, Goat's a kind of guy.
01:46:51.000 They call him Goat.
01:46:52.000 He's the kind of guy that, you know, back in the day...
01:46:58.000 He could have you taken off the face of the earth really easily.
01:47:03.000 Now, when this young man Killed his daughter, he testified on behalf of him and said putting another black boy in prison is not going to bring my daughter back.
01:47:14.000 I open up my home to you.
01:47:15.000 I want to open up my church to you.
01:47:17.000 I want to show you that there's a better way.
01:47:19.000 And again, that level of forgiveness, that level of empathy, that level of rehabilitation, The potential that guys like Bam Bam and Goat and Big Don, Reg, these guys down in the bottoms, their commitment to changing this cycle,
01:47:36.000 it's beautiful, man.
01:47:38.000 It's everything I believe in.
01:47:40.000 And I've learned so much from these guys.
01:47:42.000 And I've also learned so much from...
01:47:46.000 Carl Townley, who's the police officer, that brought all these guys down.
01:47:49.000 And I've sat the two of them down together.
01:47:51.000 And they have so much respect for each other.
01:47:54.000 Wow.
01:47:55.000 You know?
01:47:56.000 And they're all just really, really good friends of mine.
01:48:00.000 You know?
01:48:00.000 I love them all.
01:48:01.000 That's so crazy.
01:48:02.000 It is, man.
01:48:03.000 It really is.
01:48:03.000 And what's crazy about it, Joe, honestly, is even like I had my little brother on.
01:48:08.000 I've had all these people on.
01:48:09.000 It's...
01:48:13.000 I hate asking people to come on.
01:48:15.000 That part of it is, I think, the worst.
01:48:20.000 I hate asking people to come on.
01:48:22.000 Why?
01:48:26.000 I don't know, man.
01:48:27.000 I think a lot of the folks that I have come on have never been on camera.
01:48:32.000 We shoot it with cameras.
01:48:34.000 They've never been on camera before.
01:48:35.000 They're talking about things that are highly, highly sensitive.
01:48:41.000 They're going to places that are pretty dark.
01:48:44.000 To a person, everybody, I think it's been a good experience.
01:48:48.000 But that's a real hard thing for me.
01:48:51.000 I don't like asking that of my friends.
01:48:58.000 You don't like asking because you don't think they would enjoy it?
01:49:01.000 Or do you think you're putting them on the spot?
01:49:04.000 You're putting them in a compromising position?
01:49:07.000 No, I think more the second thing you said.
01:49:14.000 I know that with a lot of these folks, it's just really hard to talk about a lot of this stuff.
01:49:19.000 And it's really, you know, and I never...
01:49:29.000 I never want to feel like I'm...
01:49:32.000 Burdening them?
01:49:33.000 Yeah, or taking something from them or using them in some sort of way.
01:49:37.000 And then again, you got to go back to that intentionality.
01:49:39.000 You got to step out of the batter box and you got to say, okay, what are you doing this for?
01:49:42.000 And then you remind yourself, you know?
01:49:44.000 What is their experience after it's done?
01:49:47.000 Are they happy about it?
01:49:48.000 Yeah, yeah.
01:49:49.000 It's been across the board.
01:49:51.000 I mean, the only people, you know, we do it a little bit differently, you know, like I, since I've done, you know, I've been a part of so many interviews as an actor, you know, you're always, you know, there's all these forces at play where you got to be like careful about what you say, which I just find just so ridiculous and so much the antithesis of being an artist and,
01:50:11.000 you know, so I say to everybody that comes on, hey man, we're going to We're going to give you the episode, and anything that you want out, it will take out.
01:50:19.000 And the only people that have sort of given me a hard time about that is actors, obviously.
01:50:26.000 It's after the fact, right?
01:50:27.000 Who's talking about nothing that's at all bad at all.
01:50:31.000 But I get it, man.
01:50:32.000 I get it.
01:50:33.000 I try not to judge.
01:50:34.000 Yeah, it's amazing what some people are sensitive about.
01:50:37.000 Yeah.
01:50:38.000 Yeah, but it's great though that most people, the majority of people are having a good experience from it.
01:50:44.000 So it's coming through what you're trying to accomplish is coming through.
01:50:48.000 It's been wild for me, you know, like, you know.
01:50:51.000 Bo and Jerry, they're like, we want to start a fishing show.
01:50:54.000 We're like, fuck yeah, let's go!
01:50:55.000 You know what I mean?
01:50:56.000 And there's been so much of that.
01:51:00.000 And I really do think there is this, not just cathartic, but there's just this human need to tell your story.
01:51:05.000 And I think these folks for so long have felt, shit, man, I'm on the front lines of this shit.
01:51:10.000 Like, I'm on the front lines of this shit, and I gotta listen to these assholes spouting off.
01:51:14.000 Like, they know about...
01:51:16.000 Policing or they know what it's like to come from a community like this or they know what it's like.
01:51:19.000 Like, I know.
01:51:20.000 And, you know, to a person, it's been, yeah, it's been wildly positive for people who are doing it kind of for the first time.
01:51:30.000 And, yeah, I love that.
01:51:32.000 I love that.
01:51:33.000 It's awesome that you're expanding this thing.
01:51:38.000 Like, you started it kind of on a whim, and now it's kind of growing and expanding, almost like it's a force of its own.
01:51:44.000 Yeah.
01:51:44.000 I mean, like, it kind of has to be.
01:51:48.000 You know, we had...
01:51:53.000 We had George Christie on the other day.
01:51:56.000 He was the longest-serving president of the Hells Angels.
01:52:00.000 He was the president of the Los Angeles chapter, and then he started Ventura.
01:52:05.000 And he's got this one-man show that he wants to put on that.
01:52:11.000 I just can't wait to see.
01:52:12.000 I don't know.
01:52:13.000 I'm just so...
01:52:14.000 You know, I really do.
01:52:15.000 I don't mean to get all kumbaya on you, man, but I really do believe there's something about art and performance that is...
01:52:22.000 You can really take...
01:52:25.000 You know, it's kind of like what I was saying, you know, on a much smaller level with me and my own bullshit.
01:52:30.000 You know, you can take all this stuff that's held you down that maybe you've...
01:52:34.000 Cause pain to people, you hurt people, you fucked up, or you disappointed your family, whatever it is, disappointed yourself, you're an awful member, so you can use all that.
01:52:44.000 It's fuel.
01:52:44.000 Fuck, yeah, man.
01:52:45.000 Yeah, it's fuel.
01:52:46.000 And you can use it to go reach people.
01:52:48.000 The pain that you felt is a real adhesive.
01:52:51.000 And you can latch onto them, and they can see, you know, shit, man, I've been there.
01:52:56.000 Like, you know, I've been there.
01:52:58.000 And maybe, maybe...
01:53:01.000 You can stop them from making that huge mistake themselves.
01:53:03.000 Maybe.
01:53:04.000 And they're certainly not going to listen to the Punisher.
01:53:08.000 They're not going to listen to my dumbass being like, hey, you really shouldn't do it.
01:53:11.000 But hey, man, here's a guy who just went down 30 years.
01:53:14.000 He's coming out of Supermax.
01:53:15.000 He's been where you were.
01:53:16.000 You know?
01:53:17.000 I mean, one of the shows we had, we had, you know, a father and son, and the father was in that life, and now the son is.
01:53:24.000 And they were just talking about, like, what that felt like, what that felt like to, you know, have the police say, when he was one years old, you're never going to see your son again.
01:53:32.000 And now this young man, you know, Rick, he's got a little baby girl, you know?
01:53:37.000 And it's like, by talking about it, and then maybe potentially putting that out into your own sort of creative...
01:53:44.000 Forum, you know, your own creative Expression, you know, maybe, you know, maybe that will Maybe that will be, you know, being on mission, you know, maybe that will do something Well, it certainly has the potential and it's certain there's there's certainly a door open for good and a door open to give people a chance potentially yeah,
01:54:06.000 that's it's a Well, that's where it all comes from, right?
01:54:10.000 That potentially, that word potentially, that's hope.
01:54:13.000 That's something.
01:54:15.000 That's a window of opportunity that didn't exist previously.
01:54:19.000 And I think through this intention that you have and through this Very charitable view of human beings that you have.
01:54:27.000 You're projecting that.
01:54:28.000 And you've got to think of the hundreds of thousands of people that have watched that and taken that in.
01:54:34.000 And then they can incorporate a piece of that in their own life.
01:54:36.000 Like inspiration through things like that is so vital.
01:54:40.000 It's so important for people to see how a person can make these charitable decisions and make these views of people in the best possible light and give them an example or give them an opportunity to show their best possible self.
01:54:58.000 It's so huge, man.
01:55:00.000 It's one of the things that's missing in mainstream culture.
01:55:04.000 You know, our culture in terms of the way we learn about information and stories is so polarizing and it's just looking for bad people.
01:55:12.000 It's looking for evil things or looking for propaganda to pretend that people that are doing evil things are actually good.
01:55:22.000 It's an amazing thing you're doing.
01:55:24.000 It really is.
01:55:25.000 I think it's fucking beautiful.
01:55:26.000 I really appreciate you saying that, man.
01:55:28.000 And look, I mean, not to just throw it back your way, man, but if you look at this incredible, monumental, unprecedented thing that you've built, I mean, I think, yes, it's deeply entertaining, but you're also like,
01:55:44.000 I don't know, man.
01:55:45.000 I... This desire to get better, to find new avenues, to be curious, to dig in.
01:55:56.000 I mean, to me, that's really what this show is.
01:56:02.000 And for me, it's one of the most hopeful things I think about our culture right now, that this now has become such a...
01:56:09.000 I mean, it's the biggest thing in the world, you know?
01:56:12.000 And I just, you know, it's enormously inspiring and, you know, pretty surreal just to be here.
01:56:21.000 Well, thank you.
01:56:21.000 I appreciate it.
01:56:22.000 It freaks me out.
01:56:23.000 I bet.
01:56:24.000 It's surreal.
01:56:24.000 How do you prepare, man?
01:56:26.000 I'm really interested in that.
01:56:27.000 Depends on the person.
01:56:28.000 Okay.
01:56:29.000 Can you give me some examples?
01:56:30.000 Well, for you, I'm a fan of your work and I'm a fan of what you've done with your podcast.
01:56:35.000 So I kind of just wanted to talk to you.
01:56:37.000 Okay.
01:56:38.000 So there wasn't much preparation with you.
01:56:40.000 I just was like, this guy's cool as fuck.
01:56:41.000 I want to sit down.
01:56:42.000 Okay.
01:56:43.000 With other people, like with certain scientists or certain people that are dealing with human rights situations, I want to get an understanding of the scope of the problem that they're addressing and what they've been able to do.
01:56:56.000 I had this guy, Siddhartha Kara, on the other day who is exposing cobalt mining in the Congo.
01:57:04.000 And it was probably the heaviest podcast I've ever done.
01:57:08.000 It's so intense because it's such an insane problem.
01:57:14.000 It's such an insane problem that powers all the electronic devices that we use, including electric cars.
01:57:20.000 And it's all essentially coming from slaves.
01:57:23.000 At the bottom of the supply chain is the poorest people on Earth with no electricity, breathing in toxic fumes because they're banging cobalt out of these mines with hammers while they have babies on their backs.
01:57:39.000 Holy shit.
01:57:39.000 It's so heavy.
01:57:42.000 It's the heaviest podcast I've ever done, by far.
01:57:46.000 You're choking back emotions and tears while I'm listening to him talk, and I'm trying to figure out how do I steer this?
01:57:56.000 What do I say next?
01:57:57.000 How do I react to this?
01:57:59.000 What do I... You know, what more information can I extract from him?
01:58:03.000 And he's just such a deeply committed person that has spent years of his life researching this and risked his life exposing this.
01:58:15.000 And I was really aware of this, first of all, through Coltan, which is the first thing that I was aware that they extracted from the Congo, through the stuff that the early days of Vice, when they worked on it.
01:58:29.000 And that was when I was first exposed to it, that this is such a huge issue.
01:58:33.000 But I had no idea the scope of it until I started researching this in regards to that podcast.
01:58:40.000 And that's one that was heavy.
01:58:42.000 You know, that's one that requires a lot of thinking about the problem and a lot of, like, looking at what it's actually like there and these people that have...
01:58:52.000 This is what it looks like.
01:58:54.000 This is a cobalt mine in the Congo.
01:58:56.000 Holy shit.
01:58:57.000 And, you know, the narrative by these electronics companies like Samsung and Apple is that they get everything through ethical sources.
01:59:04.000 Like, you can hear the hammers clinking.
01:59:06.000 So with every hammer that's clinking, they're extracting cobalt and also inhaling this poison dust.
01:59:15.000 It's poisoned their environment, poisoned the rivers, poisoned all the land.
01:59:19.000 It's horrific.
01:59:21.000 They live without electricity.
01:59:22.000 They barely make enough money for food.
01:59:24.000 There's no education.
01:59:25.000 There's no hope.
01:59:26.000 And everything is being guarded by commandos who are trying to make sure that the public doesn't ever find this out.
01:59:35.000 Right.
01:59:36.000 Right.
01:59:53.000 Somewhere a slave contributed to it.
01:59:56.000 There's no ifs, ands, or buts about it.
01:59:58.000 There's no way around it.
02:00:00.000 It's impossible to get ethically sourced cobalt for these phones.
02:00:05.000 And cobalt is integral to the way the heat management, the way the batteries work.
02:00:13.000 It's fucked.
02:00:15.000 Like, beyond fucked.
02:00:16.000 And people are trying to hide this information, including the people that are running these enormous corporations.
02:00:22.000 They have to be aware of it.
02:00:24.000 Tim Cook has to know about this.
02:00:26.000 There's no way he does it.
02:00:27.000 And these people are reaping in immense profits.
02:00:31.000 How did he get that footage?
02:00:35.000 He went there.
02:00:36.000 He got that footage with his own phone.
02:00:38.000 That's his phone that took that footage.
02:00:40.000 He went there and risked his life and he had people that were sympathetic to the cause that got him in and got him the proper paperwork.
02:00:50.000 I think?
02:01:04.000 The passion in his message to try to get this out to people, to try to illuminate this problem and to try to shed light on this situation is unprecedented.
02:01:16.000 I mean, just an incredible person.
02:01:19.000 Just an amazing person that has that sort of dedication.
02:01:24.000 To try to get that out.
02:01:25.000 And this is a guy that's also worked previously on human trafficking.
02:01:29.000 That was some other things that he exposed in his previous work.
02:01:33.000 So he's been dedicated to trying to shed life on these horrific situations in the world for decades.
02:01:40.000 God bless him.
02:01:41.000 Yeah, God bless them.
02:01:42.000 Wow.
02:01:43.000 Heavy.
02:01:44.000 Yeah.
02:01:44.000 Heavy.
02:01:46.000 Wow.
02:01:46.000 You know, so that's how I prepare.
02:01:48.000 Depends entirely on the person.
02:01:49.000 With a comedian, there's no preparation at all.
02:01:51.000 Like, maybe I'll listen to their podcast.
02:01:53.000 With fighters, it's pretty easy because I'm a gigantic fan.
02:01:56.000 Right.
02:01:57.000 And generally, when I have someone on, I'm very, very aware of their resume and what they've done.
02:02:03.000 You know, so that's how I do it.
02:02:04.000 It just depends on the person.
02:02:06.000 And what about your level of enjoyment?
02:02:10.000 Are there times where it feels like a slog?
02:02:13.000 Are there times when you're not into it?
02:02:17.000 Are there times when you're extraordinarily excited about someone?
02:02:21.000 I mean, imagine it runs a gamut, or do you try to keep it?
02:02:24.000 Is there something that you do to have a steady and healthy approach to it?
02:02:28.000 Well, hopefully I know enough about the person's ability to communicate that it's not going to be a slog and there's very few slogs.
02:02:37.000 But I've had a few where I took a chance on authors and had them come in and unfortunately they talk the same way they write.
02:02:43.000 Where, you know, people write, they're very deliberate and slow, and sometimes people talk deliberate and slow.
02:02:49.000 That's brutal.
02:02:50.000 Because, like, as a listener, it's very hard to follow along.
02:02:53.000 And so I'm trying to, like, pick up the page, trying to do something aware of my own attention span to try to just juice it up and keep it going.
02:02:59.000 And is your...
02:03:01.000 Are you in that moment?
02:03:02.000 Are you, like...
02:03:03.000 Are you thinking about the audience, or are you thinking about you in the moment, like, fuck this is miserable, bro?
02:03:08.000 I'm like, if it's miserable for me, it has to be miserable for other people, because I'm here, I'm looking in this person's eyes, and also I'm curious about what they're talking about, so I wanted to bring them in here because I have a personal interest in whatever this subject is.
02:03:23.000 Yeah, sure.
02:03:24.000 But most people it's not.
02:03:25.000 You know, the weird question that people always say is, like, who's your favorite guest or who is a person that you would want to get on the most?
02:03:31.000 And I have the same answer.
02:03:33.000 There's no one.
02:03:33.000 I don't have a favorite guest and I don't have a person that I want to get on.
02:03:36.000 Like, I'm happy to talk to you as I'm happy to talk to Tim Dillon or Joey Diaz or whoever the fuck it is.
02:03:44.000 Like, you know, Mohamed Bilal, comedians, fighters.
02:03:49.000 Neil deGrasse Tyson, whoever it is.
02:03:50.000 I'm happy to talk to people.
02:03:52.000 I like talking to people.
02:03:53.000 I'm very fascinated by human beings.
02:03:56.000 I'm fascinated by the wide variety of thought processes and life experiences and the way people view the world.
02:04:05.000 Through this thing, I've had an accidental education, like a deep accidental education on so many different subjects.
02:04:14.000 Because I started it out with my friend Brian.
02:04:16.000 We were just smoking weed on a laptop.
02:04:19.000 You know, just being silly and having fun.
02:04:22.000 We thought it'd be a fun thing to do.
02:04:24.000 And then slowly it started gathering momentum and steam and started getting guests.
02:04:29.000 And then it became what it is now.
02:04:31.000 And a lot of it is accidental.
02:04:35.000 You know?
02:04:36.000 Which is real weird.
02:04:37.000 I bet.
02:04:38.000 I bet, man.
02:04:40.000 Someone sent me a video of Times Square today.
02:04:42.000 There's this gigantic LED or LCD, whatever it is, liquid crystal display, huge JRE video that's playing in the middle of Times Square.
02:04:53.000 Wow.
02:04:54.000 You know, it's like fucking 50 feet high or something.
02:04:56.000 And I'm looking at that thing, I'm like, that...
02:04:58.000 Is insane.
02:04:59.000 That that came out of a laptop in my office fucking around and having comedians come over and we'd do hits out of this volcano vaporizer and get so obliterated we literally didn't even know what we were talking about while we were talking.
02:05:15.000 Just having fun with no pretense and no thought whatsoever that one day this is gonna be the biggest media platform in the world.
02:05:25.000 If I ever said that to them back then They would have fucking laughed in my face.
02:05:29.000 They thought I was an idiot even for doing it.
02:05:31.000 Like, why are you wasting your time?
02:05:33.000 You go from doing TV shows and stand-up comedy to this stupid shit.
02:05:37.000 What the fuck are you doing?
02:05:39.000 And I didn't have an answer.
02:05:41.000 I don't know.
02:05:41.000 I'm like, I don't know what I'm doing.
02:05:42.000 It's fun.
02:05:43.000 Just keep doing it.
02:05:44.000 Yeah.
02:05:45.000 Such a trip, man.
02:05:46.000 And I think about, you know, just the enormous amount of just people talking about you out there.
02:05:54.000 And, you know, like, just...
02:05:56.000 Your idea of posting and ghosting and just not being involved in it and just staying out of it.
02:06:03.000 You can't be involved in it.
02:06:04.000 Yeah, and I think that too.
02:06:05.000 I think, for me, when I have the mask, when I have the armor of going out there as a character, man, I'm like, fucking, I'll go, I'll do anything.
02:06:18.000 I will fucking do it.
02:06:20.000 And I always, I'm not interested...
02:06:23.000 In anything safe.
02:06:24.000 I'm like, you know, my acting style is like I want to create as much danger and I want it to be wild and I want it to be unexpected.
02:06:34.000 And my only way of judging whether we had a good day of work is whether like I completely...
02:06:41.000 You know, created havoc on set and that it was electric and just like I live for that shit.
02:06:46.000 And so I always want to go as far as I can.
02:06:49.000 And the process, the movies that I've been a part of or the shows that I've been a part of where I've been able to push that envelope to scare people, scare myself, surprise myself, tap into that wildness, that's how I, that's my only sort of barometer of success.
02:07:04.000 But now, you know, like going out there With this, again, with no aspirations of it even going out there, you know, which is very fucking weird.
02:07:13.000 For the first time, you know, getting real, real blowback.
02:07:18.000 Like, real, like, you know.
02:07:19.000 Like, what kind of blowback?
02:07:21.000 Oh man, you know, like, so much.
02:07:24.000 You know, I think that, you know, look, I had Shia LaBeouf on, you know, after these allegations came out of him and, you know, You know, being physically and emotionally abusive to his girlfriend at the time.
02:07:45.000 And, you know, what was crazy was I never wanted to have any actors on.
02:07:49.000 That was kind of like my rule.
02:07:50.000 And not because there's just so many podcasts where actors are talking to actors and they're talking about...
02:07:56.000 And I'm actually interested in that shit, but, you know, nobody needs to hear me talk about that.
02:08:01.000 Right.
02:08:02.000 But Shia, at the time, he was a guy that when we did Fury together...
02:08:14.000 You know, that was such a wild experience.
02:08:17.000 And, you know, he was this guy who came in, he like pulled his tooth out because he thought his character shouldn't have a tooth.
02:08:24.000 You know, he like cut his face.
02:08:27.000 You know, he didn't shower for eight months.
02:08:28.000 And at first when I met him, I was like, this guy is just fucking, he's just loud.
02:08:32.000 You know, he's wearing his process on his sleeve, showing everybody how hard he's working.
02:08:40.000 But what I found after the eight months of working with him was somebody who...
02:08:47.000 It's just my own...
02:08:50.000 He is every bit...
02:08:51.000 This thing is every bit as vital to him as it was with me.
02:08:55.000 I found a real partner.
02:08:56.000 I found a real kindred spirit.
02:08:58.000 I found that he was so fucking...
02:09:00.000 He was willing to risk it all for the work.
02:09:05.000 And I walked away with an enormous...
02:09:10.000 I also saw a guy who grew up as a child star, a guy who felt like he needed to bleed out for his art, felt that he needed to live wildly out on the street in real life in order to maintain that danger in his work.
02:09:26.000 And I'm coming from a guy, me at this point, where I did all that when I didn't have the umbrella of being a big movie star and I didn't have that.
02:09:37.000 But now I'm a guy who's absolutely a committed husband and father.
02:09:42.000 That is my life.
02:09:43.000 Like, my life is my family and what I've found is the well, the things that I can tap into and my emotional sort of accessibility of being a dedicated father and husband It's so much greater than when I was sort of this wild animal.
02:10:00.000 And I care about people way more than I care about myself.
02:10:03.000 My ego is dead in that sense.
02:10:06.000 So I really wanted to be there for him.
02:10:10.000 And the first thing I remember seeing him and seeing this, like, raw nerve and this unbelievable talent, I would say I think he's the best actor I've ever worked with.
02:10:21.000 I really wanted to protect him, and I think more than anything else, I really wanted to show him what a real friend was like.
02:10:28.000 I just remember, like, saying that to myself.
02:10:30.000 I want to show you what a real friend is like.
02:10:31.000 I feel like you've never really had a real friend.
02:10:35.000 And my friends, the guys that I grew up with, they've been my best friends my whole life.
02:10:40.000 They, you know, couldn't do anything without them.
02:10:45.000 I just, like, I value that so much, right?
02:10:48.000 So we had him on the podcast real early on and before this stuff came out.
02:10:55.000 And it was right at a time when he had gotten in trouble down in Georgia and he went to rehab and he wrote this movie sort of about his own life called Honey Boy.
02:11:06.000 We're good to go.
02:11:22.000 And I remember at the time, you know, my agents at the time were calling me being like, you think I could just get a phone call with Shia?
02:11:27.000 Like, maybe we could, like, bring him, you know, just, he was like, you know.
02:11:31.000 And then these, you know, this woman said he did these things to him.
02:11:37.000 And he was just, he was just done, you know, canceled.
02:11:41.000 And, and...
02:11:44.000 And I'll say, man, when I heard that he had done those things, you know, for me, there really is a red line with people that I need to look at with myself.
02:11:54.000 And through all the shit that I've seen, all the shit that I've done, man, I can't be down with you if you put your hands on a woman.
02:12:01.000 If you put your hands on a woman or a child, dude, I just, like, I can't, man.
02:12:06.000 I can't.
02:12:06.000 I can't get over that.
02:12:09.000 I can't.
02:12:10.000 And I heard this, you know, about my friend.
02:12:14.000 And, you know, I was really brokenhearted about it.
02:12:18.000 And time went by, like, two years.
02:12:23.000 And You know, I know how much, you know, acting is not only important to him, but like sort of necessary for his survival.
02:12:32.000 And I would reach out on text, you know, checking on him and that, but we hadn't made contact.
02:12:38.000 And then I heard that he was having a baby and he was married.
02:12:44.000 And I reached out to him and I said, hey man, maybe it's time for you and me to have another talk.
02:12:52.000 And I made a decision with my team and with him.
02:12:57.000 I needed...
02:12:58.000 Again, you go back to the intentionality.
02:13:01.000 And I really looked at this role that you have of being a friend.
02:13:07.000 And being a friend is not about turning your back on somebody when they're When they do something that you find fucking deplorable, or when you find disgusting, your job as a friend is to make sure they don't do it again.
02:13:19.000 And your job now, as this guy's being a father, is to step in there and say, hey man, where are you at?
02:13:25.000 Like, what are you doing?
02:13:26.000 What kind of work are you doing?
02:13:28.000 Where are you?
02:13:28.000 Like, that's what being a friend is.
02:13:31.000 And everybody in my life is like, worst idea in the world.
02:13:35.000 You cannot do that.
02:13:37.000 You cannot do that.
02:13:42.000 And then, you know, he came on, man, and we spoke.
02:13:47.000 And, you know, it was weird because I found so many of the same themes and so many of the same, the heart of what I found in that LWOP community, I found in Shia.
02:14:05.000 The level of disgust, the level of work, the level of commitment, the level of shame.
02:14:10.000 The level of time spent, this fluency with his victim.
02:14:18.000 And I wasn't...
02:14:19.000 I had no interest in exonerating him or saving him in any way.
02:14:25.000 I wanted to check on him and I wanted to see how he was doing.
02:14:28.000 And I felt that that was an honest thing.
02:14:33.000 Just the fact that I had him on, I got an enormous amount of backlash, an enormous amount of—for really the first time kind of as like a public person, just like kind of hatred.
02:14:47.000 And the fact that I had given somebody who may have done these things that this woman says— That really hurt people.
02:14:59.000 And I felt fucking terrible about that, man.
02:15:03.000 Did you wish you hadn't done it?
02:15:05.000 No.
02:15:06.000 No.
02:15:06.000 Because after talking to him and then going around and talking to women who had been victims themselves, talking to this one woman specifically who we were going to have on, but she had health issues and couldn't,
02:15:23.000 but You know, what I've found is so many people have reached out who said, like, I was in that place.
02:15:31.000 Like, I was in that place where he was.
02:15:34.000 I was in that place where I was, whether I was abusive or not abusive, I was getting there.
02:15:40.000 And the drugs and the alcohol were getting the better of me.
02:15:42.000 And I mean, really, you know, he was two years sober at the time that I had him on.
02:15:53.000 I thought really what it was was like a real meditation and shame, you know?
02:15:56.000 And I thought that, you know, what this woman said to me was, you know, with all, there's so many places and platforms for Women to go to their shelters.
02:16:09.000 There's places to go to to talk about the abuse, to be there to help people after the fact.
02:16:14.000 But who is talking to these fucked up young men who are committing the abuse?
02:16:19.000 Who is talking to them and saying, dude, don't do that.
02:16:22.000 Like, I've been there.
02:16:22.000 There is another way.
02:16:23.000 This is not the answer.
02:16:24.000 Stop.
02:16:25.000 Go get help.
02:16:26.000 Change your behavior.
02:16:27.000 Work.
02:16:28.000 Put in the work.
02:16:32.000 I just, you know, I ultimately felt, you know, that what he said could have a real positive effect.
02:16:42.000 And I believe looking back on it now, again, man, it's like, you know, what are you going to do?
02:16:47.000 You can weigh the comments of people, I've told you, you know, you're the worst guy on earth for doing it, or you can weigh the comments of the people and say, hey, man, that thing saved my life.
02:16:58.000 You know what I mean?
02:16:59.000 I can't look at it that way.
02:17:02.000 I look at the intentionality behind what the show was and why I decided to have him on and then why I decided to air it and I stand by it.
02:17:12.000 Well, good for you.
02:17:13.000 And, you know, uncomfortable conversations with people where you think that what they did is horrific, they're still important conversations.
02:17:22.000 It's a part of being a human being, just like having these people that have committed murder and have gone to jail and have been drug runners and criminals.
02:17:32.000 Having conversations with them about their journey and about retribution, about their emerging from this and to become a better person.
02:17:42.000 All that is important.
02:17:44.000 And I think, I don't know, man, I don't know how you feel about this, but I often, I'm not sure exactly how to articulate it, but sometimes the tenor or the quality of kind of like the threat or the punishment Kind of tells you all you need to know.
02:18:01.000 And let me try to explain what I'm saying.
02:18:03.000 All these people that were saying, you know, definitely don't have him on, definitely don't, you know, the same people that before, you know, were saying like, hey, just get me a meeting with him, you know, are now saying stay away from him at all costs, right?
02:18:17.000 But without listening to him or what he sort of has to say.
02:18:22.000 And the same people that were sort of applauding him We're good to go.
02:18:50.000 What would have been what?
02:18:53.000 Career safety?
02:18:56.000 That's not a reason to...
02:18:58.000 What kind of message is that to your kids?
02:19:02.000 I had a conversation with my friend Brian Simpson yesterday, who's a stand-up comic.
02:19:07.000 Brilliant guy.
02:19:08.000 And one of the things we talked about was Will Smith slapping Chris Rock.
02:19:14.000 Chris Rock, who's in our world, he's one of the Mount Rushmore.
02:19:19.000 He's a king.
02:19:21.000 And, you know...
02:19:25.000 His take on it was like, fuck that guy forever.
02:19:29.000 And what do you do with that guy?
02:19:31.000 There's a lot of us in the beginning, we're like, fuck that guy.
02:19:34.000 Fuck you.
02:19:35.000 Forever.
02:19:36.000 And I'm like, no.
02:19:38.000 Now, thinking about it, I'm like, that guy has to be forgiven.
02:19:41.000 He clearly has deep remorse for what he's done.
02:19:45.000 And he's also clearly living in a world where he was given nothing but adulation and praise for most of his life.
02:19:53.000 And then all of a sudden, he has this one, in many people's eyes, unforgivable moment where he does something just so fucking stupid.
02:20:03.000 But it's not like he doesn't realize it.
02:20:05.000 He's a human being.
02:20:07.000 You just gotta forgive him.
02:20:10.000 And I think the real person who has to forgive him, if he wants to, is Chris Rock.
02:20:14.000 That's right.
02:20:14.000 And I don't know if Chris will.
02:20:17.000 I haven't even talked to Chris about it.
02:20:20.000 Last time I saw Chris, it didn't come up at all.
02:20:23.000 We talked about how Chris is on a renaissance of his stand-up right now.
02:20:29.000 His stand-up has never been better.
02:20:30.000 That's what I've heard.
02:20:32.000 Everybody that saw him was like, dude, he's on fire.
02:20:35.000 It's like old school Bring the Pain, Chris Rock.
02:20:38.000 And I think it's because he got awoken to what he got into this for in the beginning.
02:20:44.000 For a lot of comics, being able to host the Oscars is like, you're not just in, you're in with the most important crowd possible.
02:20:54.000 You are not just one of the greatest comics of all time, but you're also the guy that can host the Oscars.
02:20:59.000 And it's just like this Unachievable honor that such a small handful get to get to that spot and he got to that spot and was humiliated and I think it just reignited what made him a comic in the first place.
02:21:18.000 He's an outsider.
02:21:19.000 We're all outsiders.
02:21:21.000 You want to be an insider?
02:21:23.000 The compromises that come with becoming an insider are not worth it.
02:21:27.000 What you're trying to do is you'll be more of an insider by not doing that.
02:21:32.000 You'll be more of a legend by going back to his roots and that's what he's doing.
02:21:36.000 If he wants to forgive Will Smith, that's totally his choice.
02:21:43.000 I don't know what his relationship with Will Smith is.
02:21:45.000 I know he'd been taunting him and making jokes about him forever, but they're pretty fucking mild jokes.
02:21:51.000 It wasn't that horrible.
02:21:56.000 My perspective on it is that Will's just a person that was in an impossible to understand scenario.
02:22:04.000 To be a guy who's a child star, who goes from that to become one of the most loved, beloved actors in the world, blockbuster films, everybody loves you, to this one thing where everybody fucking hates you.
02:22:19.000 Everybody thinks you're a piece of shit.
02:22:21.000 He's a human.
02:22:23.000 You gotta forgive him.
02:22:24.000 So what advice would you give Will?
02:22:26.000 What he's already done, I mean, I think what he's done has been too coordinated and produced.
02:22:32.000 You know, I mean, he gave an apology with multiple camera angles.
02:22:36.000 That's crazy.
02:22:37.000 It just needs to be you and your phone.
02:22:39.000 Might be potentially part of the problem in the first place.
02:22:42.000 Yeah, set up your phone.
02:22:43.000 Say something into your phone.
02:22:45.000 And, you know, I think he has reached out to Chris, but I don't think Chris is interested in talking to him.
02:22:51.000 He'll be forgiven.
02:22:53.000 It'll take some time.
02:22:54.000 It's not the worst thing that people have done.
02:22:55.000 The embarrassment and shame that he felt from it is the absolute appropriate response.
02:23:01.000 He's not doubled down and said, fuck that guy.
02:23:04.000 If I see him again, it's on site.
02:23:06.000 There's none of that stupid shit.
02:23:09.000 Can you imagine?
02:23:11.000 Imagine if he did that.
02:23:12.000 Got you, bitch.
02:23:13.000 Coming for you next time, motherfucker.
02:23:15.000 Next time is my left hand.
02:23:16.000 You know what I'm saying?
02:23:17.000 I mean, you know, I'll tell you, it's...
02:23:20.000 You know, I was...
02:23:23.000 The movie that he got the Oscar for, King Richard, I was in that movie, and I was at every award show.
02:23:33.000 It was weird.
02:23:37.000 I decided not to go to that Oscars.
02:23:40.000 My son had a doubleheader in his travel baseball team, and I was like, you know what, man?
02:23:44.000 I'm hanging out with Big Bill today.
02:23:45.000 Good for you.
02:23:46.000 I was watching it with my other son, Henry, who knows...
02:23:49.000 Will, who also was just like, you know, why didn't Mr. Will do that?
02:23:52.000 Oh, no.
02:23:53.000 And what was crazy is, you know, I'm an enormous fan of Chris Rocks, you know, and, you know, but I know Will, you know, and...
02:24:06.000 I know that Will would hate the fact that my son had that feeling.
02:24:12.000 And, you know, for me, you know, working for a whole year with him on that movie and then going on the press tour and the awards circuit, like, look, man, like...
02:24:24.000 I've never in my life seen someone who's like kinder or more generous.
02:24:30.000 It was such an insane moment that revealed such unhealth.
02:24:37.000 Just like a lack of health in that moment.
02:24:39.000 That's a great way to put it.
02:24:40.000 Just like he is not.
02:24:42.000 And so horrible.
02:24:45.000 Just like as a man going and putting your hands on another man whose hands are behind their back.
02:24:50.000 Not just that, but Chris Rock is this tiny guy.
02:24:54.000 A hundred percent.
02:24:54.000 It's not a threat at all.
02:24:56.000 A hundred percent.
02:24:57.000 And it's like, would you?
02:24:58.000 Yeah, exactly.
02:24:58.000 Right.
02:24:59.000 So there's like, there's all, there's all that.
02:25:01.000 But look, I, you know, I think it's like, you know, it's, it's, it's odd because it's like, you know, for, for me with my friends, it's like, I, I, you know, I try to judge them not, not for their worst moments, for their best and, and, and try to get to the bottom of, of, of what's going on, you know?
02:25:15.000 But yeah, it was, it was, um, you, you know, I just remember really palpably feeling that.
02:25:21.000 Like, when my son saw it, like, fucking Will would have hated that.
02:25:23.000 Like, the Will I know would have hated that.
02:25:26.000 I'm sure he did.
02:25:26.000 I'm sure he does.
02:25:27.000 I'm sure he thinks about it every day.
02:25:29.000 I'm sure he's, like, brushing his teeth going, FUCK! What did I do?
02:25:33.000 And, you know, I think it also was an accumulative event of the public humiliation that he felt going on his wife's show and her talking about her relationships with other men, including men that were friends with her son.
02:25:46.000 The whole thing was just for him to deal with that publicly had to be so torturous that I think that he just felt this need to stand up for himself in a very Poorly thought I'm not thought out at all,
02:26:02.000 you know, just impulsive impulsive Yeah, yeah horribly impulsive just and also just speaks to the ego Like where his ego had gotten him to this place where he thought he could do that And he thought he could yell keep my wife's name out your fucking mouth in front of the Academy the world the world all the cameras saying it to Chris Rock who made the most innocuous joke of All of it is so crazy.
02:26:28.000 But the other part about it is to me, like as a human that enjoys a little bit of chaos, I like when things get fucked up because it lets people know that all this bullshit about tuxedos and clapping and horns playing and the curtains drawn and open and closed and it's all bullshit.
02:26:49.000 We're just human beings.
02:26:50.000 And as you said about Chris Rock's comedy now, There is a potential here for both of these men that that could have been, in a way, in a strange way, the most important, potentially best moment in either of their artistic life.
02:27:06.000 Where they could go from that.
02:27:07.000 I think, again, I go back to me hitting that guy.
02:27:12.000 You know, a year later, July 3rd, 2010, I wrote that guy a letter saying that, you know, the person that I hit that night, that wasn't you.
02:27:20.000 That was a part of me that I needed to fucking squeeze that shit out of.
02:27:23.000 Did you ever meet him again after that?
02:27:24.000 I mean, I met him in court, you know what I mean?
02:27:26.000 Depositions, you know what I mean?
02:27:28.000 Whatever happened with the court case?
02:27:30.000 Well, you know, I got off in a way criminally, you know, because it was, you know, felony assault, man, and, you know, attempted manslaughter.
02:27:41.000 But there were so many people there that had seen that there was 10 of them and one of me that it got reduced down to a misdemeanor battery causing serious bodily harm.
02:27:57.000 And look, you know, I mean, it's one of those cases of the legal system, you know, really providing, you know, sort of, you know, it's all carrots and sticks, right?
02:28:07.000 And for me, I was just, I was placed on this probation for three years that said, you know, had I be, not even arrested, but like had I been present at a violent crime any time in those three years, Mandatory year in LA County Jail had I get charged for a crime.
02:28:25.000 It was 10 years.
02:28:26.000 For a violent crime, 10 years.
02:28:27.000 So for a guy, unfortunately, and I'm disgusted to say this about myself, but that was not that crazy of an event for me at that point in my life, which is so fucking disgusting.
02:28:38.000 But it meant change everything.
02:28:41.000 And I think change...
02:28:44.000 For people is really tough.
02:28:46.000 Really tough?
02:28:47.000 Yeah, man.
02:28:48.000 You gotta rip out this whole part of your identity, man.
02:28:52.000 You gotta just get rid of it.
02:28:54.000 But then you walk around with this fucking hole and everything that made people laugh, everything that made people that you think like you and then that want to be around you and that made you attractive or that made you you, it's gone.
02:29:04.000 So then you gotta start filling it with other shit.
02:29:07.000 You gotta start filling it with good shit.
02:29:10.000 Did he respond to your letter?
02:29:14.000 Mmm.
02:29:17.000 Probably has a headache.
02:29:18.000 Fuck, man.
02:29:20.000 Well, what ended up happening, man, it was crazy.
02:29:22.000 He ended up suing, you know, I had just done, probably gonna get in so much trouble for this, but I had just done Night at the Museum 2. I played like Al Capone in Night at the Museum 2, like, you know, and the posters were like everywhere around L.A. And I was one of the,
02:29:39.000 so I was on the poster, so my face was everywhere.
02:29:41.000 So he saw that, and he was like, oh, he sued me for two million dollars, and I had like no money back then.
02:29:47.000 And so, you know, when I was starting a family, you know, with my wife, you know, I had to figure out, you know, I had these legal fees and these deposits.
02:29:56.000 It was all about the civil case.
02:29:58.000 He had this big lawyer who's just like, you know, coming to the boxing gym that I train in, like, you know, following me around, you know, putting me on camera in these depositions, you know, saying he's going to...
02:30:09.000 Come into my house and grab my pregnant wife and depose her, you know, serve her, you know, trying to get a rise out of me.
02:30:16.000 It was the biggest acting performance of my life.
02:30:20.000 I wanted to reach across the table and choke this guy.
02:30:23.000 And I was like, well, why would you do that, sir?
02:30:25.000 Like, my wife's done nothing to you.
02:30:30.000 I don't know, but even that, man, there was so much shame and so much disgust for the way that I was living my life.
02:30:40.000 Man, I got away scot-free and ended up having to spend a ton of money that I didn't have and really set us back as we were trying to start a family.
02:30:51.000 But again, that moment...
02:30:55.000 Weirdly, even it was as low as I kind of felt like I had ever been, I think in a lot of ways really saved my life.
02:31:02.000 Those moments are critical and there's ways you can respond to those moments and you responded in the best possible way, I think.
02:31:13.000 Life is chaos.
02:31:14.000 There's a lot going on.
02:31:16.000 And if you encounter something as bad as what you encountered, all the things that you described and the way you described it, I probably would have done the exact same thing today, unfortunately.
02:31:27.000 And I'm like, what do you do?
02:31:28.000 When you're confronted by something, that part of you is triggered, and you realize that this piece of shit is pushing you from the back, and you can just flatline them, it's very difficult to not do that.
02:31:40.000 Yeah, I think it takes...
02:31:41.000 I mean, I think then, you know, for me, it was, like, really doing a lot of work, man.
02:31:46.000 Like, really doing...
02:31:48.000 You know, I had, like, court-ordered anger management.
02:31:50.000 I think, you know, other times where I had court-ordered stuff in my life, I was like, you know, court-ordered, you know, drug rehab.
02:31:57.000 Like, it's just get high as fuck and go in there.
02:31:59.000 You know what I mean?
02:32:00.000 Like, I'm going to trip past it and go to...
02:32:02.000 You know what I mean?
02:32:03.000 Go see if I can, like, you know, pick up a girl in here.
02:32:05.000 You know, like, just like a total, total asshole.
02:32:07.000 But, you know...
02:32:09.000 You know, for me, you know, I mean, it sounds crazy, but I mean, just for people out there that might be dealing with that kind of stuff, like keeping an anger journal, like figuring out what pisses you off, like figuring out like how long it pisses you off, figuring out what triggers you, figuring out what it makes you think you really want to do to people,
02:32:27.000 like really working on that shit.
02:32:29.000 You know, I don't know, man.
02:32:31.000 And look, I mean, Don't get me wrong.
02:32:34.000 I'm still me, and I know exactly.
02:32:39.000 My kids and my wife, man, just as long as...
02:32:42.000 But besides that, I'm not going to get into any...
02:32:46.000 Nothing's going to make me mad, and I'm filled with gratitude.
02:32:52.000 Well, you're on the right journey.
02:32:55.000 You had a pivotal moment in your life, and you self-corrected.
02:33:00.000 It's huge.
02:33:00.000 It's huge for anyone to hear that, too, because that's possible.
02:33:03.000 And you don't think it's possible when you're in the depths of it.
02:33:06.000 When you're in the depths of something that's awful, you just feel like this is my new reality.
02:33:10.000 But oftentimes, through that new reality, that's where the growth comes, and that's where the change comes, and that's where...
02:33:16.000 You know, you are an accumulation of your life experiences and how you respond to those experiences.
02:33:21.000 And sometimes profound things can cause profound change, and in your case, for the better.
02:33:27.000 That's right.
02:33:28.000 That's right.
02:33:33.000 There's nothing more powerful than changing.
02:33:37.000 I completely support and believe in anyone's ability to do that.
02:33:43.000 I think the more we write people off and we use these unbelievably insignificant sort of means to not be forgiving or to put people in these boxes, it's a huge mistake, man.
02:33:56.000 It's a huge mistake for the person that's doing that, too.
02:33:59.000 For sure.
02:33:59.000 Because they have this...
02:34:02.000 Unflexible, uncharitable view of people forever.
02:34:05.000 Like, what if that comes around on you, man?
02:34:07.000 You don't want that.
02:34:09.000 You don't want that for you and you don't want that for other people.
02:34:11.000 Again, we're all just human beings.
02:34:13.000 But we lose sight of that because these kind of conversations where people get to fully express all the emotions and thoughts behind that, they're not that common.
02:34:23.000 It's crazy.
02:34:24.000 They're very recent, in fact, in humanity.
02:34:28.000 We really haven't had enormous platforms where people can express themselves the way you just did.
02:34:38.000 And it can affect so many people in a positive way.
02:34:43.000 That's one of the beautiful things about what you're doing, what you're doing with your show, is that you're giving a voice to these thoughts and circumstances and situations and people It's not easy to hear that voice.
02:34:57.000 That voice is not amplified.
02:34:59.000 It's not on mainstream media.
02:35:01.000 It's not in newspapers.
02:35:02.000 And even if it is, you're not going to read it.
02:35:05.000 It's just you put it in a very digestible way that is impactful to many, many people.
02:35:13.000 And there's people out there that I'm sure are listening to this right now and listening to your story and realizing that they have an opportunity in their life to enact the same kind of change and the same kind of positive change of direction that you did for yourself,
02:35:31.000 that they can do it for themselves, too.
02:35:33.000 And they can realize that it's...
02:35:35.000 You know, you look at a person, and we always like to look at a person as this static thing.
02:35:40.000 That's one thing that I really came to grips with becoming a father is that I used to think of people as like, oh, this is Bob.
02:35:50.000 He's 40. He's a piece of shit.
02:35:51.000 Now I think, oh, that was a baby.
02:35:53.000 That was a baby.
02:35:55.000 And he either wasn't loved or was abused or was in this terrible situation and through bad life choices and bad circumstances surrounded by the worst people.
02:36:06.000 One event leads into the other.
02:36:08.000 The momentum carries him into a terrible place.
02:36:10.000 And now here Bob finds himself at 40 where people think he's a piece of shit.
02:36:14.000 And I'm sure he self-defines by that too because of other people's opinions.
02:36:18.000 So true.
02:36:19.000 And I mean, that perspective, the fatherhood thing, that just changes everything.
02:36:24.000 Changes everything.
02:36:26.000 There's a monumental shift.
02:36:28.000 First of all, seeing life that didn't exist before and realizing that it came about through you and your wife.
02:36:34.000 It's so strange.
02:36:36.000 It's so psychedelic.
02:36:38.000 Because it's like, you know, people, oh, parenting changes you.
02:36:42.000 You say that to someone who doesn't have kids, they really have no fucking idea what you're talking about.
02:36:46.000 But I've seen it in so many of my friends, that they have children and all of a sudden there's this softening of who they are and this understanding of what's really important, you know, and that what's really, it's so cliche, but love.
02:37:01.000 Love is what's really important.
02:37:03.000 Friendship, love, and trying to get over your own bullshit and figure out life for you.
02:37:10.000 What is the best path for you?
02:37:13.000 And what are the steps that you have to do every fucking day to stay on that good path?
02:37:19.000 Because it's so easy to make change for a little while and then slide right back into your old bullshit.
02:37:25.000 That's right.
02:37:26.000 That's right.
02:37:27.000 And nothing will provide that vitality for you and how utterly...
02:37:32.000 Absolutely essential it is in having kids.
02:37:34.000 Yeah.
02:37:35.000 And I think for me, I mean, I even look, you know, I have to spend so much time on the road and it's a, you know, it's a, I hate that.
02:37:44.000 I hate that.
02:37:45.000 But, you know, while I'm gone, you know, the reason why, you know, I'm not like fucking eating Chinese food and like at the bar is because, you know, I'm away from my kids and I'm putting my kid's name on my work.
02:37:55.000 So it's like, I'm going to be committed to whatever I have to do for that.
02:37:58.000 Like that, that really fucking matters to me.
02:38:00.000 Like I really want them to look back and, And say, you know, Dad put it all in there, you know?
02:38:05.000 I mean, like, that's funny.
02:38:06.000 You know, one of those guys from Shreveport, Rich Wilson, you know, he told me, like, right when I was having my second kid, you know, guy grew up on the streets, you know, and really seen an unbelievable amount.
02:38:21.000 You know, I asked him, you know, what advice would you give me, you know, being a father?
02:38:26.000 He was just like, all that shit that you're doing that you know you shouldn't be doing, just stop doing that.
02:38:31.000 I was like, fuck it.
02:38:33.000 But you know what I mean?
02:38:34.000 The exaggerating, the whatever it is, the flimsiness.
02:38:41.000 You really want these qualities.
02:38:43.000 You really want to nurture these qualities in your children.
02:38:45.000 Just cut them the fuck out with you.
02:38:50.000 I think there's really something to that.
02:38:52.000 I think so, too.
02:38:53.000 I think this is a good way to end this.
02:38:54.000 Right on, brother.
02:38:55.000 Thank you, John.
02:38:55.000 Really appreciate it.
02:38:56.000 This is everything I thought it was going to be.
02:38:57.000 I appreciate you having me, Joe.
02:38:59.000 It's a real honor.
02:38:59.000 Tell everybody how they can watch a show, how they can consume it.
02:39:03.000 Oh, the podcast?
02:39:05.000 Yeah.
02:39:06.000 It's Real Ones with Jon Bernthal, Spotify.
02:39:09.000 There it is.
02:39:09.000 Thanks, man, putting it up there because I don't...
02:39:11.000 Look at the picture.
02:39:12.000 It's so bad.
02:39:13.000 Dude, look at that mustache.
02:39:14.000 My kids used to come over when I had that mustache.
02:39:17.000 I had that for all of COVID. They would just rip the shit out of that mustache.
02:39:21.000 So yeah, on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and on YouTube and stuff like that.
02:39:25.000 Beautiful.
02:39:26.000 Thanks, man.
02:39:27.000 Thank you, brother.
02:39:27.000 I appreciate it.
02:39:28.000 Bye, everybody.
02:39:28.000 Appreciate you, too.