Ali Dawah - December 03, 2025


CAN I MARRY MY CHRISTIAN GIRLFRIEND？ - IMAM SAID NO!


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In this episode, we talk about the halal dilemma of a Muslim man who wants to get married to a Christian or Jewish wife but his family does not want him to marry because they think it's not halal to marry someone who's not a Muslim. We also discuss why a Muslim woman can't marry a Christian and why a Jewish man can't.

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00:00:00.000 Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
00:00:05.000 Ladies and gentlemen from all around the world
00:00:07.000 Today is Sunday, July 27, 2025
00:00:11.000 and we gathered here in south of Gaza Strip,
00:00:14.000 most of anyone, to share our concerns about the ongoing crisis in Gaza Strip.
00:00:18.000 During the humanitarian crisis that Gaza and its people are undergoing,
00:00:22.000 food in general and flour, bread especially,
00:00:26.000 becoming luxurious and rare, it's not available for the citizens.
00:00:30.000 So our mission here is to support these citizens
00:00:33.000 and to help their lives to be better by giving them these threats.
00:00:38.000 On behalf of those citizens and those families,
00:00:41.000 we can't work forever for this wonderful support.
00:00:44.000 It will be a reason for making the people happy.
00:00:47.000 Thank you for being here in this effort.
00:00:56.000 So, I'm Muslim. Yes. And my partner, she's Christian Orthodox. Okay.
00:01:22.000 And basically, I wanted some like advice and guidance on how I can go about it.
00:01:26.000 So I've done a bit of research. Yeah.
00:01:28.000 Is she here? She is, yeah.
00:01:30.000 Can we talk to her? Hello, how are you? How are you doing?
00:01:33.000 Is he looking after you? Yeah.
00:01:35.000 But if he's not, you can talk to me and I'll put him in his place.
00:01:37.000 Okay. Are you guys married? Not yet.
00:01:40.000 You can marry a Christian. Yes.
00:01:42.000 I've done the research. Basically, I've got issues with my family
00:01:45.000 and they're like, she's not Muslim, it's not right. 1.00
00:01:47.000 Stuff like that. No, islamically she's a Christian, you can marry her. Yeah.
00:01:50.000 Yeah. I mean, don't disrespect your family. I'm not asking you to do that.
00:01:53.000 But what I would say is, in a nutshell, is that you can marry. Yeah.
00:01:57.000 So you can marry, do marry. Yeah.
00:01:59.000 Because that makes things more halal. And you can't, so this is the beauty of Islam. 1.00
00:02:04.000 The reason why a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian or a Jew, but you can, 0.99
00:02:09.000 is because number one, you cannot force your religion on her. Yeah.
00:02:13.000 Yeah. Yes. And number two, Muslim woman has Islamic rights. 1.00
00:02:17.000 And the Christian or the Jewish husband might force into her and not give her the Islamic rights. 0.98
00:02:21.000 Because it's not an obligation upon him to do that.
00:02:24.000 It's an obligation for you to do that towards her. Yeah.
00:02:26.000 So, I would say what's stopping you guys from getting married?
00:02:29.000 Secondly, what other issues are you facing instead of regarding your parents?
00:02:32.000 Well, with my mum, she's like, basically it's the culture and it's the religion as well.
00:02:36.000 Like the niqah. She's like, because she's Christian, you can't do a niqah. 1.00
00:02:40.000 You can do a niqah. 1.00
00:02:41.000 And that's basically what I wanted to talk to you about.
00:02:43.000 Like, how can I go around that?
00:02:44.000 Because my family are adamant, because she's not Muslim, you'll never be able to niqah. 1.00
00:02:48.000 You can't live a halal life. 1.00
00:02:49.000 No, you can't.
00:02:50.000 And that's why I've spoken to the Imam as well in my local masjid.
00:02:54.000 And it's the same thing basically.
00:02:56.000 The Imam said that.
00:02:57.000 They're trying to say basically, find yourself a Muslim wife.
00:03:00.000 No.
00:03:01.000 Because it's easier.
00:03:02.000 No, sorry.
00:03:03.000 But I'm just like...
00:03:04.000 If Allah says yes, I don't care what Imam says. 1.00
00:03:07.000 Exactly.
00:03:08.000 If Allah says yes, I don't care if all the Imams in the world come and say, 1.00
00:03:11.000 we follow Allah, bro.
00:03:12.000 Yeah.
00:03:13.000 So if the Imam... 0.94
00:03:14.000 Look, I understand.
00:03:15.000 They can come and talk about, you know, being respectful to your parents.
00:03:17.000 And you should be respectful to your parents.
00:03:18.000 Yeah.
00:03:19.000 Try to explain to them.
00:03:20.000 But, obviously I want to be careful.
00:03:22.000 I don't want you to be disrespectful to your parents.
00:03:23.000 Of course.
00:03:24.000 That's very important.
00:03:25.000 Number two, you need to understand that you as a man do not need a guardian to marry.
00:03:29.000 So you can marry her tomorrow, bro.
00:03:31.000 Okay.
00:03:32.000 Do you get it?
00:03:33.000 Because it's very important.
00:03:34.000 Yeah.
00:03:35.000 And I understand maybe you're in a dilemma where you do love her.
00:03:38.000 And you're in between you and your family.
00:03:40.000 It might require patience.
00:03:41.000 It might require time.
00:03:42.000 Yeah.
00:03:43.000 So I would say personally, the first thing is first.
00:03:44.000 You want to make things halal. 1.00
00:03:45.000 Of course. 0.98
00:03:46.000 Because your parents on the day of judgment, bro, they're going to throw you in hellfire 0.97
00:03:48.000 instead of their self. 0.66
00:03:49.000 Yeah.
00:03:50.000 That's the reality of the day of judgment.
00:03:51.000 Yeah.
00:03:52.000 It's my mom and dad as well.
00:03:53.000 Everyone's going to be like that.
00:03:54.000 Everyone's on their own.
00:03:55.000 So you need to make things right with your Lord.
00:03:56.000 Yeah.
00:03:57.000 So before your parents, God Almighty.
00:03:58.000 So make things halal. 1.00
00:03:59.000 Okay.
00:04:00.000 Yes.
00:04:01.000 You can do the nikah. 0.99
00:04:02.000 Yeah.
00:04:03.000 Actually, we sometimes conduct nikahs here. 0.77
00:04:04.000 Yeah.
00:04:05.000 Sometimes we don't want nikah here. 1.00
00:04:06.000 There's a man or woman, she accepts that.
00:04:07.000 Yeah.
00:04:08.000 So it's not that long.
00:04:09.000 Uh-huh.
00:04:10.000 Obviously, I don't know it.
00:04:11.000 Where's Shaykh Hazm?
00:04:12.000 Shaykh.
00:04:13.000 He's busy.
00:04:14.000 He's busy.
00:04:15.000 He's busy.
00:04:16.000 He's busy.
00:04:17.000 Okay.
00:04:18.000 I was going to ask him some questions regarding the ruling of...
00:04:19.000 Yeah.
00:04:20.000 Because I don't know.
00:04:21.000 Like you have to ask for a dowry. 0.55
00:04:22.000 Yeah.
00:04:23.000 But I don't know if that's for a Muslim woman. 0.99
00:04:24.000 I'm not sure.
00:04:25.000 That's what I was going to ask him.
00:04:26.000 Sorry.
00:04:27.000 Oh, sorry, Shaykh. 0.89
00:04:28.000 There you go.
00:04:29.000 Shaykh.
00:04:30.000 He's a Muslim.
00:04:31.000 Uh-huh.
00:04:32.000 She's a Christian.
00:04:33.000 Okay.
00:04:34.000 They want to marry.
00:04:35.000 The parents don't want it.
00:04:36.000 And some imams even said that it's not allowed.
00:04:37.000 Yeah.
00:04:38.000 Who says it's some imam? 1.00
00:04:39.000 They said he's not allowed to marry...
00:04:40.000 They said it's not allowed to marry a Christian.
00:04:41.000 Yeah.
00:04:42.000 They said it's difficult.
00:04:43.000 It's difficult moving forward with like kids and stuff like that.
00:04:46.000 No, no, no.
00:04:47.000 A lot of people say it's difficult.
00:04:48.000 Look.
00:04:50.000 I don't know any imam that would say you're not allowed.
00:04:53.000 Because in the Quran it says clearly that you are allowed to marry.
00:04:56.000 Yeah.
00:04:57.000 Yeah.
00:04:58.000 So that's the thing.
00:05:01.000 Some of them may put these kind of obstacles in front of you.
00:05:05.000 But say look, kids and this and the other.
00:05:08.000 Because Islamically, the kids follow the father. 0.97
00:05:11.000 Yeah, of course.
00:05:12.000 Yeah.
00:05:13.000 Shaykh, come here.
00:05:14.000 Sorry.
00:05:15.000 Islamically, the kids follow the father.
00:05:18.000 Yeah.
00:05:19.000 But as to marry her, it's the best thing to do.
00:05:22.000 So that you don't fall in haram.
00:05:24.000 Yeah.
00:05:25.000 That's what I said.
00:05:26.000 You don't want to fall in haram.
00:05:27.000 Shaykh.
00:05:28.000 What's the rights of her? 1.00
00:05:29.000 Can she have a dowry? 1.00
00:05:31.000 Ah, okay.
00:05:32.000 What's the rights of her? 1.00
00:05:33.000 You see sister?
00:05:34.000 We got him on lock.
00:05:35.000 Don't worry.
00:05:36.000 We're going to be telling you all your rights now.
00:05:37.000 Yeah.
00:05:38.000 I know the weather's cold.
00:05:39.000 He's already sweating, Shaykh.
00:05:40.000 He has.
00:05:41.000 Let me grab him by his neck as well.
00:05:42.000 So he knows the pressure.
00:05:43.000 He has to give you a dowry. 0.96
00:05:45.000 You don't have to work.
00:05:46.000 He has to go out and support the family.
00:05:50.000 Shaykh, that sounds fantastic.
00:05:51.000 Rent.
00:05:52.000 Rent.
00:05:53.000 I'm getting excited on your behalf.
00:05:54.000 Paying rent.
00:05:55.000 Rent.
00:05:56.000 How many rents?
00:05:57.000 Paying for food.
00:05:58.000 Paying for bills.
00:05:59.000 Everything comes out of him.
00:06:00.000 You're finished.
00:06:01.000 No, I'm not.
00:06:02.000 Even if you're rich.
00:06:03.000 You're finished.
00:06:04.000 Even if you're rich.
00:06:05.000 Your property, your wealth, is your wealth.
00:06:07.000 Wow.
00:06:08.000 I thought Islam repressed woman. 0.98
00:06:09.000 What's going on?
00:06:10.000 Yes.
00:06:11.000 So this is Islamically how he can. 0.90
00:06:16.000 So all the rights of a Muslim woman applies to Russia? 1.00
00:06:19.000 Had your father being a Muslim, he has to ask your hand from him. 1.00
00:06:27.000 You know?
00:06:28.000 Yeah.
00:06:29.000 And...
00:06:30.000 But he can still do it.
00:06:32.000 He can still ask for your hand from your father.
00:06:36.000 The only thing that your father cannot join you to him in marriage,
00:06:41.000 because you need to have what we call a wali,
00:06:46.000 and the wali needs to be Muslim.
00:06:48.000 She's a Christian.
00:06:49.000 Why does the wali have to be Muslim? 1.00
00:06:50.000 I'm just curious.
00:06:51.000 Because he's given her in the name of Allah and the Sunnah.
00:06:57.000 Really?
00:06:58.000 Because she's a beaver. 1.00
00:06:59.000 Yeah, but she's not. 0.79
00:07:00.000 And by the way...
00:07:01.000 No, no, no.
00:07:02.000 Even...
00:07:03.000 No, for a Christian, she still needs a wali. 0.99
00:07:06.000 She still needs a wali. 1.00
00:07:07.000 And if I'm not mistaken, Shaykh, I'm learning here as well, yeah?
00:07:10.000 She doesn't need to wear a hijab as a Christian, right? 0.99
00:07:12.000 No, she doesn't.
00:07:13.000 Interesting, okay.
00:07:14.000 When we're in charge.
00:07:15.000 Yeah, in charge you have to.
00:07:16.000 Okay.
00:07:17.000 So, sister, let me ask you a question.
00:07:18.000 Paul said that. 0.85
00:07:19.000 Okay, why don't you become a Muslim? 0.99
00:07:22.000 It's just not what I believe in. 0.91
00:07:24.000 I respect his beliefs.
00:07:25.000 Okay, good.
00:07:26.000 Okay, okay.
00:07:27.000 Good.
00:07:28.000 So, I'm going to have to deal with the pros and the cons.
00:07:30.000 Yeah.
00:07:31.000 So, what I would say is this.
00:07:32.000 Sister, what evidence do you require?
00:07:34.000 To become a Muslim?
00:07:35.000 Is there something that's stopping you?
00:07:36.000 Is there something where you're like, you know what?
00:07:37.000 It doesn't make sense.
00:07:38.000 What's stopping you from saying?
00:07:39.000 What's stopping you from saying?
00:07:40.000 Okay.
00:07:41.000 Okay, let me put it like this.
00:07:42.000 Is Islam on the table for you? 0.90
00:07:43.000 Or is Islam out of the table completely?
00:07:44.000 No, I like lying about it.
00:07:45.000 Okay, good.
00:07:46.000 I like lying about it.
00:07:47.000 Okay, good.
00:07:48.000 So, do you know what we believe?
00:07:49.000 No.
00:07:50.000 No.
00:07:51.000 It doesn't make sense.
00:07:52.000 What's stopping you from saying?
00:07:53.000 Okay.
00:07:54.000 Let me put it like this.
00:07:55.000 Is Islam on the table for you? 0.90
00:07:56.000 Or is Islam out of the table completely?
00:07:57.000 No.
00:07:58.000 I like lying about it.
00:07:59.000 Okay, good.
00:08:00.000 So, do you know what we believe?
00:08:01.000 Islam.
00:08:02.000 No.
00:08:03.000 Yes.
00:08:04.000 Okay, good.
00:08:05.000 Let me tell you what we believe,
00:08:06.000 because it might be that you might say,
00:08:11.000 You know what?
00:08:12.000 Actually, I believe that also.
00:08:13.000 For example,
00:08:14.000 Do you believe God is one?
00:08:15.000 Yes.
00:08:16.000 Okay, good.
00:08:17.000 Let me tell you what we believe,
00:08:18.000 because it might be that
00:08:20.000 you might say you know what,
00:08:21.000 actually I believe that also.
00:08:22.000 For example,
00:08:23.000 do you believe in God?
00:08:24.000 Yes.
00:08:25.000 Good.
00:08:26.000 Do you believe God is one?
00:08:27.000 Yes.
00:08:28.000 Okay.
00:08:29.000 if God is a man or a woman can God be a man or a woman okay do you believe God can be a statue
00:08:36.780 like an idol no good perfect do you believe there's nothing like God yeah good okay now
00:08:44.180 what you believe there takes you out the fold of Christianity you go to any church Catholic 1.00
00:08:49.380 protest and say to them I believe God cannot be a man or a woman there's nothing like God 0.99
00:08:53.540 they'll say sorry we believe Jesus is God so you can't be a Christian what you just said now
00:08:58.400 automatically takes you out the fold of Christianity because Christians believe in what they believe 1.00
00:09:02.880 in the Trinity do you believe Jesus is God we believe he's part of God not we I'm asking you
00:09:11.220 what's your name sister Alex sister Alex you what you just said now was rational logic do you believe
00:09:16.880 God Jesus was a man like me can God be a man like me
00:09:20.080 good where that's coming from is what we call in Islam the fitrah the natural fitrah means the way
00:09:32.440 God has programmed you to know who he is so it's a natural disposition that's why we believe everyone's
00:09:37.800 born a Muslim yeah I came to Islam 13 years ago but we was all born with the inclination to know that
00:09:43.940 God is one there is nothing like him so you believe in that takes you out the fold of Christianity if
00:09:50.020 you believe God is one unique not a man or a woman doesn't have a father and a mother or a child or a
00:09:55.740 daughter there is nothing like him you can't be a Christian you are more closer to Islam than you are to
00:10:00.960 Christianity you go to any church and say I believe Jesus was a prophet of God and I believe there's nothing 0.97
00:10:06.160 like God they'll say sorry they'll say are you a Muslim you say no I'm a Christian so you can't be a 1.00
00:10:10.920 Christian so what you actually believe is closer to Islam so my second question what is your take
00:10:17.860 on prophet Muhammad peace be upon him I don't know too much good you don't know too much okay what about 0.94
00:10:22.840 the Quran what do you think about the Quran I don't know that's it okay good so all right okay so we're at a
00:10:27.260 good step first thing first what I would say sister Alex is the following you are closer to Islam than you are to 0.97
00:10:31.440 Christianity and I'm not just saying this go to a church and test it out so don't think I'm trying 0.63
00:10:35.020 to convince you go to any church and say I believe there's nothing like God he's not a man or a woman
00:10:39.280 they'll say look we believe Jesus is God and he was a man so you already have the inclination and the
00:10:44.400 belief of a Muslim so if anything you are closer to Islam now I can prove to you the prophet Muhammad
00:10:50.700 being a prophet and I can prove to the Quran being the word of God if you have the time
00:10:54.140 you're a bit strapped on time okay so what I would say is the following you can still marry her so
00:11:02.620 if he if he if he marries her yeah and she ends up being a Muslim do they need to do the nikah again 1.00
00:11:06.860 no okay no so it's a win-win so for example look he's crying he's so emotional look he's like I love I
00:11:14.620 want to marry Alex he's crying I'm joking I get in the course of my ears I get teary so yeah I think
00:11:19.900 it's love to say it's love yeah it's all right don't cry it's all right I can see the love in
00:11:23.500 the eyes okay so what I would say is this sister look into it have you read the Quran before okay
00:11:28.620 good do you know we believe in Jesus do you know we believe in Mary good you know we believe he's
00:11:33.260 the Messiah and we believe he's going to come back we believe in like you being a Muslim it's as if 1.00
00:11:39.100 you become a real Christian because we believe the real Jesus we believe in Mary we believe in his
00:11:43.740 miracles so what I would say is sister you do seem sincere you seem like you have a good heart
00:11:47.740 you seem like you come from a good place your beliefs are close to Islam so I would say look
00:11:51.500 into it the Quran has miracles within itself that if you had time I would have gone into it look at
00:11:56.060 the Prophet Muhammad's life the seerah look into that inshallah and all I could say is pray to God 0.99
00:12:01.420 one thing I would ask you guys to do specifically yourself pray to God and say God if this is the truth
00:12:07.180 guide me that's what I would say inshallah do you have any questions for me um the only question I
00:12:11.580 wanted to ask with the nikah how can I go about it you've got Shekhi you can do it in two minutes 1.00
00:12:15.580 no joking no what what you need to do is you just need an Imam do you live in London no I live in 0.93
00:12:24.060 Redhill near Gatwick airport near Gatwick airport yeah okay I think I think the nearest place to you is
00:12:30.060 Crawley isn't it Crawley is not too far yeah it's not very close yeah so you go to Crawley go to a masjid 1.00
00:12:35.340 yeah just say I would like to to do nikah for me I don't want to be in the haram yeah I want to 1.00
00:12:41.580 nikah and that and they will do it okay they will do it so that's like so basically you and her yeah
00:12:48.940 and two witnesses okay Muslim witnesses two and it's easy the if I was the Imam I will ask her that I will be 0.98
00:12:57.740 her wali so kind of like I will give her to you in marriage okay and it's easy they say do you take 1.00
00:13:05.340 this this woman Alex daughter of James for example Alex daughter of James for a wife you say you say yes
00:13:15.500 I do yeah and I say I agree and that's it and the nikah is done it's very simple then it's very simple 1.00
00:13:21.180 okay it it will take five minutes okay it will five minutes but that is that is the nikah for you 1.00
00:13:30.140 yeah the Islamic way the proper way yes and she is your wife in halal yeah and that's yeah that's 0.67
00:13:35.580 literally just what I wanted to know that's in halal brother yeah because a lot of people have been
00:13:39.980 telling me to the haram brother yeah because a lot of people have been telling me because she's not Muslim
00:13:43.820 you can't do a nikah it doesn't work no brother she is from the people of the book yeah that's what 1.00
00:13:49.500 I've been telling you I believe it's it's chapter six no uh chapter five verse six chapter five
00:13:59.980 verse six okay yeah and you can ask for dowry sorry do you know what you're gonna be asking
00:14:05.660 sorry you can ask anything by the way yes I'll take it easy on it but yeah you can you know genuinely
00:14:10.700 it's it's your right you can ask whether you like uh you can you can give installment plans
00:14:17.180 no no if she asks like let's see if she asks for five thousand pounds yeah she tells you I 1.00
00:14:20.460 want to pay five hundred pounds in ten installments yeah yeah no I'm serious that's your stomach right
00:14:25.180 yeah yes you can have mercy on him yeah or a ring and holiday and you know whatever you want
00:14:29.660 okay perfect inshallah i hope uh god almighty guys you guys and uh call us your wedding uh
00:14:36.140 make sure there's biryani thank you very much brother nice talking to you guys uh may Allah bless you guys
00:14:40.380 with nice meeting you guys may Allah guide you inshallah oh yeah yeah thank you i love this
00:14:43.660 this is
00:14:55.260 you