Ali Dawah - December 03, 2025CAN I MARRY MY CHRISTIAN GIRLFRIEND？ - IMAM SAID NO!
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the halal dilemma of a Muslim man who wants to get married to a Christian or Jewish wife but his family does not want him to marry because they think it's not halal to marry someone who's not a Muslim. We also discuss why a Muslim woman can't marry a Christian and why a Jewish man can't.
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most of anyone, to share our concerns about the ongoing crisis in Gaza Strip.
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During the humanitarian crisis that Gaza and its people are undergoing,
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becoming luxurious and rare, it's not available for the citizens.
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So our mission here is to support these citizens
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and to help their lives to be better by giving them these threats.
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On behalf of those citizens and those families,
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we can't work forever for this wonderful support.
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It will be a reason for making the people happy.
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So, I'm Muslim. Yes. And my partner, she's Christian Orthodox. Okay.
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And basically, I wanted some like advice and guidance on how I can go about it.
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Can we talk to her? Hello, how are you? How are you doing?
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But if he's not, you can talk to me and I'll put him in his place.
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I've done the research. Basically, I've got issues with my family
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and they're like, she's not Muslim, it's not right.
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Stuff like that. No, islamically she's a Christian, you can marry her. Yeah.
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Yeah. I mean, don't disrespect your family. I'm not asking you to do that.
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But what I would say is, in a nutshell, is that you can marry. Yeah.
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Because that makes things more halal. And you can't, so this is the beauty of Islam.
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The reason why a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian or a Jew, but you can,
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is because number one, you cannot force your religion on her. Yeah.
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Yeah. Yes. And number two, Muslim woman has Islamic rights.
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And the Christian or the Jewish husband might force into her and not give her the Islamic rights.
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Because it's not an obligation upon him to do that.
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It's an obligation for you to do that towards her. Yeah.
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So, I would say what's stopping you guys from getting married?
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Secondly, what other issues are you facing instead of regarding your parents?
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Well, with my mum, she's like, basically it's the culture and it's the religion as well.
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Like the niqah. She's like, because she's Christian, you can't do a niqah.
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And that's basically what I wanted to talk to you about.
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Because my family are adamant, because she's not Muslim, you'll never be able to niqah.
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And that's why I've spoken to the Imam as well in my local masjid.
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They're trying to say basically, find yourself a Muslim wife.
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If Allah says yes, I don't care what Imam says.
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If Allah says yes, I don't care if all the Imams in the world come and say,
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They can come and talk about, you know, being respectful to your parents.
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I don't want you to be disrespectful to your parents.
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Number two, you need to understand that you as a man do not need a guardian to marry.
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And I understand maybe you're in a dilemma where you do love her.
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So I would say personally, the first thing is first.
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Because your parents on the day of judgment, bro, they're going to throw you in hellfire
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So you need to make things right with your Lord.
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I was going to ask him some questions regarding the ruling of...
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And some imams even said that it's not allowed.
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They said it's not allowed to marry a Christian.
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It's difficult moving forward with like kids and stuff like that.
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I don't know any imam that would say you're not allowed.
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Because in the Quran it says clearly that you are allowed to marry.
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Some of them may put these kind of obstacles in front of you.
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Because Islamically, the kids follow the father.
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But as to marry her, it's the best thing to do.
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We're going to be telling you all your rights now.
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So all the rights of a Muslim woman applies to Russia?
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Had your father being a Muslim, he has to ask your hand from him.
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He can still ask for your hand from your father.
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The only thing that your father cannot join you to him in marriage,
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Because he's given her in the name of Allah and the Sunnah.
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And if I'm not mistaken, Shaykh, I'm learning here as well, yeah?
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She doesn't need to wear a hijab as a Christian, right?
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So, I'm going to have to deal with the pros and the cons.
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Is there something where you're like, you know what?
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if God is a man or a woman can God be a man or a woman okay do you believe God can be a statue
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like an idol no good perfect do you believe there's nothing like God yeah good okay now
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what you believe there takes you out the fold of Christianity you go to any church Catholic
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protest and say to them I believe God cannot be a man or a woman there's nothing like God
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they'll say sorry we believe Jesus is God so you can't be a Christian what you just said now
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automatically takes you out the fold of Christianity because Christians believe in what they believe
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in the Trinity do you believe Jesus is God we believe he's part of God not we I'm asking you
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what's your name sister Alex sister Alex you what you just said now was rational logic do you believe
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God Jesus was a man like me can God be a man like me
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good where that's coming from is what we call in Islam the fitrah the natural fitrah means the way
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God has programmed you to know who he is so it's a natural disposition that's why we believe everyone's
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born a Muslim yeah I came to Islam 13 years ago but we was all born with the inclination to know that
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God is one there is nothing like him so you believe in that takes you out the fold of Christianity if
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you believe God is one unique not a man or a woman doesn't have a father and a mother or a child or a
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daughter there is nothing like him you can't be a Christian you are more closer to Islam than you are to
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Christianity you go to any church and say I believe Jesus was a prophet of God and I believe there's nothing
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like God they'll say sorry they'll say are you a Muslim you say no I'm a Christian so you can't be a
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Christian so what you actually believe is closer to Islam so my second question what is your take
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on prophet Muhammad peace be upon him I don't know too much good you don't know too much okay what about
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the Quran what do you think about the Quran I don't know that's it okay good so all right okay so we're at a
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good step first thing first what I would say sister Alex is the following you are closer to Islam than you are to
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Christianity and I'm not just saying this go to a church and test it out so don't think I'm trying
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to convince you go to any church and say I believe there's nothing like God he's not a man or a woman
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they'll say look we believe Jesus is God and he was a man so you already have the inclination and the
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belief of a Muslim so if anything you are closer to Islam now I can prove to you the prophet Muhammad
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being a prophet and I can prove to the Quran being the word of God if you have the time
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you're a bit strapped on time okay so what I would say is the following you can still marry her so
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if he if he if he marries her yeah and she ends up being a Muslim do they need to do the nikah again
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no okay no so it's a win-win so for example look he's crying he's so emotional look he's like I love I
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want to marry Alex he's crying I'm joking I get in the course of my ears I get teary so yeah I think
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it's love to say it's love yeah it's all right don't cry it's all right I can see the love in
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the eyes okay so what I would say is this sister look into it have you read the Quran before okay
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good do you know we believe in Jesus do you know we believe in Mary good you know we believe he's
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the Messiah and we believe he's going to come back we believe in like you being a Muslim it's as if
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you become a real Christian because we believe the real Jesus we believe in Mary we believe in his
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miracles so what I would say is sister you do seem sincere you seem like you have a good heart
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you seem like you come from a good place your beliefs are close to Islam so I would say look
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into it the Quran has miracles within itself that if you had time I would have gone into it look at
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the Prophet Muhammad's life the seerah look into that inshallah and all I could say is pray to God
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one thing I would ask you guys to do specifically yourself pray to God and say God if this is the truth
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guide me that's what I would say inshallah do you have any questions for me um the only question I
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wanted to ask with the nikah how can I go about it you've got Shekhi you can do it in two minutes
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no joking no what what you need to do is you just need an Imam do you live in London no I live in
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Redhill near Gatwick airport near Gatwick airport yeah okay I think I think the nearest place to you is
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Crawley isn't it Crawley is not too far yeah it's not very close yeah so you go to Crawley go to a masjid
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yeah just say I would like to to do nikah for me I don't want to be in the haram yeah I want to
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nikah and that and they will do it okay they will do it so that's like so basically you and her yeah
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and two witnesses okay Muslim witnesses two and it's easy the if I was the Imam I will ask her that I will be
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her wali so kind of like I will give her to you in marriage okay and it's easy they say do you take
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this this woman Alex daughter of James for example Alex daughter of James for a wife you say you say yes
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I do yeah and I say I agree and that's it and the nikah is done it's very simple then it's very simple
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okay it it will take five minutes okay it will five minutes but that is that is the nikah for you
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yeah the Islamic way the proper way yes and she is your wife in halal yeah and that's yeah that's
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literally just what I wanted to know that's in halal brother yeah because a lot of people have been
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telling me to the haram brother yeah because a lot of people have been telling me because she's not Muslim
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you can't do a nikah it doesn't work no brother she is from the people of the book yeah that's what
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I've been telling you I believe it's it's chapter six no uh chapter five verse six chapter five
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verse six okay yeah and you can ask for dowry sorry do you know what you're gonna be asking
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sorry you can ask anything by the way yes I'll take it easy on it but yeah you can you know genuinely
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it's it's your right you can ask whether you like uh you can you can give installment plans
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no no if she asks like let's see if she asks for five thousand pounds yeah she tells you I
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want to pay five hundred pounds in ten installments yeah yeah no I'm serious that's your stomach right
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yeah yes you can have mercy on him yeah or a ring and holiday and you know whatever you want
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okay perfect inshallah i hope uh god almighty guys you guys and uh call us your wedding uh
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make sure there's biryani thank you very much brother nice talking to you guys uh may Allah bless you guys
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with nice meeting you guys may Allah guide you inshallah oh yeah yeah thank you i love this