DOES ISLAM FAVOUR MEN？ - SHE DIDN'T LIKE RESPONSE
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the role of women in the modern world and how they should be the sole provider for their families. We also talk about why it is important for a woman to be the primary provider for her family.
Transcript
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Maybe it's the fact that we take care of the household and the children and you.
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This is a topic that's quite, you can make scissors emotional.
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Because look, there are things in Islam that doesn't make me happy.
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Or for example, the fact that I'm the maintaining protector.
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Why can't my wife be the maintaining protector?
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Can we just accept that nowadays, in the modern world, that's not even realistic for the man to be the exclusive provider?
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Because of austerity, because of the cost of living.
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Other than your ability to physically protect me.
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A Muslim woman has every right to tell her husband, I do not want to work and you have to provide for me and he has to.
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Do you think, if we look at it from a liberal point of view, do you think that it's fair?
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So that the woman has the right and Muslim woman has the right.
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I think both should agree to what they contribute.
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Okay, we agree to what Allah has commanded us, which is the following.
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That the Muslim woman has the right to tell her husband, you have to be the sole provider.
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Now, would you agree that that will put a lot of burden on the man?
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No, but now, it's more difficult for one man to go and work.
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So what I'm saying is, just so we can understand here, that Islam, there's this notion that Islam favours men.
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Islam, in Islam, a Muslim woman has every right to tell her husband, I do not want to work anymore.
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I want to be a housewife and I want you to fully provide.
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So my point is this, my dear sister, is the following.
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A Muslim woman has the right to tell her husband, you have to be the sole provider and I'm staying at home looking after the kids.
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I'm going to go work and you're going to be at home with the kids and, you know.
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I think that you say you don't like the fact that that's exclusively your burden to carry.
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But I'm saying from a liberal point of view, is that fair for a man?
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Yeah, so Ali, you started with, oh, there are some things about Islam that make me uncomfortable.
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Such as the fact that I'm exclusively the provider and the protector, okay?
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Have you ever thought about how difficult it is to exclusively be responsible for the
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Because you're the sole educator, and you have more of an impact on those children emotionally
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Have you ever thought about that responsibility?
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Because when you go to work and you provide, you can clock out whenever you clock out.
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For women, raising children is a 24-7 responsibility.
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Not only does she look after the children, but she has to take care of you too.
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Whatever whim, you know, you may have, she appeases because she's the obedient wife.
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Have you guys thought about the women's role and how difficult that might be too?
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So it's not a question of, oh, it's difficult for you.
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I've never said that it's not difficult for both of us.
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You came from the angle as if it's only difficult for the woman and not the man.
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I didn't come and say, I didn't say women don't have it hard.
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The way you were framing this scenario is, actually, women don't have to do much.
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Because they don't have to go out into the world and work.
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They can just sit at home, you know, play with the kids.
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I wouldn't say it's hard for women because you do realise that, for example, I have a mother.
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So let's just break this down because let's just not speak of each other.
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Do you agree that a man, for example, is the sole responsible for his wife?
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Does he also need to protect and provide for his daughter?
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Not necessarily, but I'm talking to a certain level.
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A woman needs a guardian from the moment she's born to the day she dies.
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So my dear sister, a man has to look after his mother, his sister, his daughter and his wife.
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So when you come and say it's solely his wife, no, it's not.
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I'm not having a gender war here by saying I do more and you don't.
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The reason I'm saying that is I'm trying to make you understand from our perspective
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But if we look at the bigger picture, there are things that we are told to do as men
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We can even lose our life, for example, when it comes to war.
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Now, I can come and say, well, why am I going to war?
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If I go to war once in a lifetime, that's once in a lifetime death.
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Do you know statistically that married women die sooner than married men?
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Maybe it's the fact that we take care of the household and the children and you and our brothers and our sisters and our fathers.
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My dear sister, look, let's just break this down.
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Because Islamically, we're taught to care for every human within our proximity.
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I'm trying to say to you, there are things that Allah has prescribed for you that is...
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You belittled women when you said, all I have to do is to harm a bit very early.
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Sister, sister, sister, can you please listen to understand me, not listen to reply?
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To your logic, I'm saying there are things, if I was to use my liberal mind frame, that seems more oppressive to men than women.
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If I was to look at Islam and say, hold on a second, let's weigh up the responsibilities of a man and a woman, which one has it worse off?
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When I'm walking down with my wife and a man tries to say something, I have to put my life on the line, fight him and even die at the course by defending her because she's not physically strong.
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And then when it comes to many other things, responsibilities, not only for my...
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How often is your wife at night and how often do you go to war?
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My dear sister, it is not about how often I go to war.
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Because I can go to war, I can go to war on the edge of a road with two guys who's got a knife who's trying to kill my wife and I have to put my life on the line.
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So, I'm also, for example, when there's this ship in sinks, sister, who goes first?
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So, what I'm saying is we have no problem with that.
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I've never suggested that men and women are literally the same.
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Good, so what I'm saying is that you're making a scene as if Islam...
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But I think we all have, we both have equal burdens.
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But all I'm trying to say is, sister, I don't want to have a gender war and you against me.
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I'm just saying this issue of polygamy, which is troubling for you, I understand that.
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But what I'm saying is, my dear sister, is that we cannot come and say Islam is oppressive or Islam is not.
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I'm just saying, my dear sister, when it comes to polygamy, polygamy has come to protect the right of a woman.
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Because there are men who have the propensity to want more than one woman.
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No, I'm just trying to understand the Quran's treatment of women in some respects.
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The first scenario that I don't necessarily find troubling, but I'm struggling to understand,
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is the testimony of one man is the equivalent of two women.
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Right, so men might use certain aspects of their brain in different ways to women and vice
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But you have your strengths and we have our strengths.
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So, generally speaking, intellectually, we are the same.
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So, from what I'm saying, when you're talking about intake, like, for example, that's why
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But Khatija was not like those boss businesswomen of today, please.
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No, because there's a lot of sisters who are like, oh, it's a businesswoman.
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She's the one who proposed in a decent manner to her husband.
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She married the man that the prophet, peace be upon him.
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She picked him to manage her affairs in the business.
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But what I'm saying is, my dear sister, is that that's the thing.
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So, when it comes to, for example, does woman go through menopause?
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Okay, these periods have an effect on the emotional imbalances.
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Sister, it's like me telling you men are not impacted by testosterone.
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And even there are studies that show, when it comes to intimacy, for example,
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So, basically, you're saying that there's a discrepancy there with testimony.
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No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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So, what I'm saying is that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has acknowledged that a woman has
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her moments when there's emotional instability.
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When you stand in court, if you saw a murder happen right in front of us, yeah?
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If you saw the witness, for example, a man came and put three bullets in the man's head
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But more of the men, because it's in our nature, we want to know what's going on.
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For a woman, like you saw Trump's bodyguard, yeah?
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Because as men, we have no problem being the protector and dying for our family.
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So what I'm saying is that Allah says if one errs, the other can correct them.
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Because women were not tend to known to be the providers.
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So when it came to issues of maybe, let's say, inheritance, money kind of stuff.
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Even nowadays, sister, Allah has acknowledged that women has weaknesses in certain places.
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But yeah, we're trying to ask the misconception.
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But you know what it is sometimes is that, sadly with our sisters, not all of them, but it's
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It's like, can we just talk, understand each other, these verses?
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Feminism and red pill has destroyed that so much so that anything that you say, it's
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It's become, you know, you're trying to say we're emotionally unstable.
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There's hormones that I have that cause issues for me.
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So the point is, alhamdulillah, we follow Islam.
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And for those sisters that are watching at home, maybe it answered your questions.