Ali Dawah - DON'T MARRY THIS KIND OF WOMAN

00:00:00.000 Topic of Mahat comes up.

00:00:01.080 I'm like, what you want from Mahat?

00:00:02.140 She said something like $3,000.

00:00:04.220 It was like some gold.

00:00:05.040 So listen, I'll give you $100.

00:00:06.440 I'm going to lie, when I heard that,

00:00:08.440 I was a bit taken aback, yeah?

00:00:09.940 Because I didn't understand the context,

00:00:11.320 but it was like going from $3,000 to $100.

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00:00:46.540 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,

00:00:48.220 brothers and sisters and dear friends.

00:00:49.260 Hope you guys are well

00:00:49.860 and hope you guys are excited

00:00:51.600 to go through this reaction video with myself.

00:00:53.680 This is a brother, subhanAllah, I know. 0.99

00:00:56.420 Myself, alhamdulillah,

00:00:57.280 ironfitcoaching, alhamdulillah,

00:00:59.660 on Instagram, alhamdulillah.

00:01:01.180 You know, alhamdulillah,

00:01:01.880 I like his content.

00:01:02.660 He talks about how to be a real man

00:01:04.520 in today's time

00:01:05.200 where a lot of men are absolute,

00:01:07.140 how can I say it in a nice way,

00:01:09.380 wimps, absolute wimps. 0.85

00:01:11.520 Yes, okay, 0.98

00:01:12.040 their wives are more of a man 1.00

00:01:13.660 than they can ever be. 0.94

00:01:14.260 They've become wimps.

00:01:15.540 Yes, and I applaud his content.

00:01:17.700 I don't agree with everything.

00:01:18.780 I mean, let me be honest with you for that.

00:01:19.980 And this video will prove

00:01:20.900 that I don't agree with everything

00:01:21.820 with a brother.

00:01:22.660 Alhamdulillah, he does amazing content

00:01:23.640 when it comes to fitness, coaching.

00:01:25.020 He got in contact with me

00:01:25.660 to sign up to his coaching thing

00:01:26.720 and I said, bro,

00:01:27.260 I'm already really, really fit, alhamdulillah.

00:01:28.980 And I went through some intense thing

00:01:30.180 with silverback jay.

00:01:30.860 Alhamdulillah, he lost 12 kilos,

00:01:31.780 got a bit lean.

00:01:32.600 Alhamdulillah, I recommend

00:01:33.140 for all the brothers,

00:01:34.060 please, you know,

00:01:34.920 coaching, et cetera,

00:01:35.680 when it comes to training,

00:01:36.500 sign up to his brother,

00:01:37.120 silverback jay,

00:01:37.680 and this brother as well,

00:01:38.480 ironfitcoaching.

00:01:39.460 We're going to react

00:01:39.940 to a video of himself.

00:01:41.740 Alhamdulillah, like I said before,

00:01:42.740 I encourage a lot of brothers

00:01:43.660 to follow him.

00:01:45.120 Don't follow him blindly.

00:01:46.240 But here's a video of him

00:01:47.560 telling a story of a sister

00:01:48.980 he was getting to know for marriage

00:01:50.080 and why that did not go ahead

00:01:51.940 because there are things

00:01:52.540 that I agree with.

00:01:53.780 This is one thing

00:01:54.180 that I disagree with, inshallah.

00:01:54.960 I just wanted to share that

00:01:55.600 with you guys, inshallah.

00:01:56.640 And I'm sure the brother

00:01:57.200 will be watching this, inshallah.

00:01:58.420 May Allah bless him, inshallah.

00:01:59.080 I hope he likes,

00:02:00.240 he doesn't mind a bit of criticism, inshallah,

00:02:02.020 but let's watch it, inshallah,

00:02:03.160 from the sisters.

00:02:04.160 Here we go.

00:02:04.540 I'll tell you a story, Akhi.

00:02:05.420 There was a sister

00:02:05.980 I was speaking to for marriage.

00:02:07.540 She was a Hafid al-Qur'an, okay? 1.00

00:02:09.300 We're talking

00:02:09.980 and the topic of Maher comes up.

00:02:11.940 I'm like, what do you want from Maher?

00:02:12.960 She said something like $3,000.

00:02:15.680 It was like some gold.

00:02:16.720 Okay, so sister,

00:02:18.360 he came to cross a sister

00:02:19.120 for Maher, for marriage.

00:02:20.920 She's Hafid of the Qur'an. 0.92

00:02:22.200 One thing that I would advise

00:02:23.020 a lot of brothers

00:02:23.520 who are watching this as well,

00:02:24.920 that is amazing.

00:02:25.800 Someone who's Hafid of the Qur'an. 0.86

00:02:27.960 And this might sound a bit crazy,

00:02:29.420 me saying this,

00:02:30.000 and I'll tell you out of my experience,

00:02:31.540 I have experience out of

00:02:32.800 in Jahliya and in Islam,

00:02:34.380 both a decade each,

00:02:36.060 you know, in Islam

00:02:36.780 more than a decade, 13 years.

00:02:38.700 And I am very, very experienced

00:02:41.060 in the sense where

00:02:42.160 when I was looking to get married,

00:02:43.840 there's things that I went through.

00:02:44.920 I am going to say something, guys.

00:02:46.600 Do not ever put your guard down.

00:02:48.660 And it applies to the sister as well.

00:02:50.060 Here's a Hafid of the Qur'an.

00:02:51.120 She's a Hafid of the Qur'an. 0.99

00:02:53.800 Let me tell you something, guys.

00:02:54.900 If I was getting to know a sister for marriage,

00:02:56.260 Hafid of the Qur'an,

00:02:57.340 I would say, okay, that's good.

00:02:58.520 May Allah bless you.

00:02:59.080 That's good for you.

00:02:59.820 Alhamdulillah.

00:03:00.200 It would be good for me as well.

00:03:01.460 Inshallah, it depends.

00:03:02.700 Teaching my kids, etc.

00:03:04.380 But there's something deeper

00:03:05.720 when it comes to character, etc.

00:03:07.080 So do not ever fall for

00:03:08.760 these things of the out-appearance

00:03:10.740 or she knows the Qur'an.

00:03:11.600 That does not mean

00:03:12.280 she is a good person.

00:03:14.020 I'm so sorry to say,

00:03:15.300 I know many brothers

00:03:16.060 who are in court

00:03:16.700 with their Hafid of the Qur'an

00:03:18.360 wives taking them to court

00:03:20.140 and saying,

00:03:20.780 putting the middle finger

00:03:21.400 to the Sharia 0.79

00:03:21.860 and saying,

00:03:22.800 I'm going to man-made laws

00:03:24.040 and I'm taking your wealth

00:03:24.740 which is haram.

00:03:26.160 And, you know,

00:03:26.460 before a sister comes and says,

00:03:27.120 oh, I wonder what he done.

00:03:28.140 Yeah, of course.

00:03:28.660 There's always something he done. 0.65

00:03:29.560 You know, he's a narcissist manipulator.

00:03:30.720 Yeah.

00:03:31.040 Okay, so be very careful

00:03:32.300 but let's carry on inshallah.

00:03:33.180 So she said she wants

00:03:34.240 $3,000 and some gold

00:03:36.160 which is, I believe,

00:03:37.160 it's her haq.

00:03:37.700 She has a right to ask that

00:03:38.660 and Islam in the Qur'an

00:03:39.780 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.81

00:03:40.220 clearly states that.

00:03:41.460 But let's see what he had to say.

00:03:42.980 I told her, listen,

00:03:43.440 I told her, listen,

00:03:43.920 I'll give you $100.

00:03:45.000 She was like, okay.

00:03:46.120 I'm going to lie.

00:03:46.580 When I heard that,

00:03:48.140 I was a bit taken aback

00:03:49.320 because I didn't understand

00:03:50.580 the context

00:03:50.920 but it was like going

00:03:51.380 from $3,000 to $100.

00:03:53.160 When I watched it,

00:03:53.940 I laughed a bit.

00:03:54.540 I was like, okay,

00:03:55.760 look, I mean,

00:03:56.100 you can be justified

00:03:56.680 but I just want to understand

00:03:57.500 where that was coming from.

00:03:58.740 But let's carry on inshallah.

00:04:00.140 She accepted it.

00:04:01.320 Next day she calls me

00:04:02.260 with some doubts.

00:04:03.120 Okay, interesting.

00:04:03.660 So she accepted it.

00:04:04.460 I mean, that is admirable

00:04:05.800 or admirable,

00:04:07.460 however you guys like to say that.

00:04:08.480 So, yes,

00:04:09.740 but again,

00:04:10.300 I want to stress on one thing

00:04:11.260 because we have narrations

00:04:12.220 of, for example,

00:04:12.940 at the time of Umar Abba Qattab.

00:04:14.700 For example,

00:04:15.420 there was a woman 0.88

00:04:15.940 who famously opposed

00:04:16.740 Umar Abba Qattab

00:04:17.420 opinion on the permissibility

00:04:18.940 of Mahat Dauri.

00:04:20.300 Her name was Asma Bint Yazid.

00:04:22.020 She was someone

00:04:22.880 who heard that

00:04:23.540 Umar Abba Qattab

00:04:24.140 was given a sermon

00:04:26.180 to women

00:04:27.120 and scolding them

00:04:28.100 for asking for high mahr.

00:04:29.640 Yes, it was making it hard

00:04:30.360 for men to get married.

00:04:32.620 Now, Umar Abba Qattab,

00:04:33.420 Amir Mu'mineen,

00:04:34.000 the Sakhir Khalifa,

00:04:34.840 one of the ten promised Jannah.

00:04:36.800 Nobody needs to give

00:04:37.380 a judokshan about Umar Abba Qattab

00:04:38.360 radiya al-an.

00:04:39.540 Now,

00:04:40.380 he says this

00:04:41.560 and what happens?

00:04:42.140 The following day

00:04:42.660 in a khutbah that he's given,

00:04:44.680 Asma Bint Yazid

00:04:45.880 gets up

00:04:47.220 and says,

00:04:47.680 Oh, Amir Mu'mineen. 0.93

00:04:49.520 For example,

00:04:50.360 according to a hadith commentary,

00:04:51.760 Umar,

00:04:52.320 upon hearing of the marriage

00:04:53.220 where a large mahr was given,

00:04:54.600 stated that women

00:04:55.060 should not be given

00:04:55.700 excessive dowries.

00:04:57.020 Asma, however,

00:04:57.560 remained,

00:04:58.440 remind him of the verse

00:04:59.280 in the Quran

00:04:59.700 in chapter 4,

00:05:00.500 verse 20

00:05:01.560 that mentions giving

00:05:02.500 Kintar a large amount 0.98

00:05:04.660 as mahr,

00:05:05.400 effectively challenging

00:05:06.520 Umar's opinion

00:05:07.160 and proving him wrong.

00:05:08.600 Now,

00:05:09.160 she stood up and said,

00:05:10.180 No, Amir Mu'mineen,

00:05:11.120 with all due respect,

00:05:11.820 that is the

00:05:12.340 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.81

00:05:13.320 gave us.

00:05:13.860 We can ask for whatever

00:05:15.140 we want

00:05:16.240 and I will reiterate that

00:05:17.440 because to me,

00:05:18.240 people call me,

00:05:18.920 you know, 0.99

00:05:19.120 you're a misogynistic, 1.00

00:05:19.960 you always attack a woman. 0.99

00:05:20.960 Yeah, yeah, whatever.

00:05:21.500 You know nothing about my content.

00:05:22.660 Okay?

00:05:22.820 I'm telling you clearly,

00:05:24.740 sisters.

00:05:25.400 Yes?

00:05:25.640 I tell sisters clearly.

00:05:26.680 Yes?

00:05:27.020 Ask minimum,

00:05:28.100 3,000,

00:05:28.520 3,45,000.

00:05:29.260 Minimum,

00:05:29.660 minimum,

00:05:30.100 minimum.

00:05:30.620 Yes?

00:05:30.940 You can be merciful

00:05:31.660 and give them a payment plan.

00:05:35.000 Yes?

00:05:35.140 Like my wife did, 0.99

00:05:35.760 give me a payment plan.

00:05:36.440 Alhamdulillah.

00:05:36.900 Have your mercy.

00:05:37.820 Yeah?

00:05:38.480 However,

00:05:38.980 it is your haqq.

00:05:39.660 Nobody can come and call you

00:05:40.500 a gold digger,

00:05:41.040 you're looking for this,

00:05:41.580 you're this kind of person,

00:05:42.380 no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:05:43.300 But obviously,

00:05:43.720 don't go to the other extreme 0.99

00:05:44.420 of certain silly sisters out there 1.00

00:05:46.040 who are like, 0.99

00:05:46.860 I want 50,000 pounds,

00:05:48.480 50,000 pounds,

00:05:49.780 and I want a house

00:05:50.640 and I want you to keep dreaming,

00:05:51.420 sister,

00:05:51.580 I'm always going to marry you.

00:05:52.500 Seriously,

00:05:52.900 and this is what happens with sisters, 0.89

00:05:53.720 they live in la-la land.

00:05:55.320 Wallahi,

00:05:55.840 they've reached the age of 30

00:05:56.840 and everything.

00:05:59.220 Anyways,

00:05:59.880 so let's carry on with the video,

00:06:00.800 inshallah.

00:06:01.020 I just wanted to mention,

00:06:01.800 inshallah,

00:06:02.400 which is there's nothing wrong

00:06:03.180 with the sister,

00:06:03.520 but Alhamdulillah,

00:06:03.880 at least,

00:06:04.740 she went down and said,

00:06:07.120 $100,

00:06:07.540 maybe,

00:06:07.820 you know,

00:06:08.020 obviously,

00:06:08.440 she wants to marry you.

00:06:09.360 She doesn't mind,

00:06:09.760 that's fine,

00:06:10.140 as long as mutually agreed

00:06:11.500 to that matter.

00:06:12.140 But here it gets a little bit

00:06:13.220 thing for the brother.

00:06:15.740 I add my friend

00:06:16.580 on the phone call.

00:06:17.500 I was like,

00:06:17.740 add your friend

00:06:18.240 on the phone call?

00:06:19.320 Okay,

00:06:19.720 let's see where this goes.

00:06:20.720 So it's one of her friends,

00:06:21.540 she's a 29-year-old,

00:06:22.780 successful businesswoman,

00:06:24.420 making lots of money,

00:06:25.520 29-year-old,

00:06:26.220 single,

00:06:26.520 never been married.

00:06:27.400 She's like,

00:06:28.240 how can you give her

00:06:29.020 such a low maher

00:06:30.060 and this,

00:06:30.660 that,

00:06:30.900 and others,

00:06:31.300 she's worth more than that

00:06:32.460 and this,

00:06:32.940 that,

00:06:33.100 and I was like,

00:06:33.600 what?

00:06:34.520 Why are you even

00:06:35.020 involving yourself?

00:06:35.660 Like,

00:06:35.840 first of all,

00:06:36.180 what are you doing?

00:06:37.160 Why are you involving

00:06:37.860 yourself in this?

00:06:38.800 And so this exposed to me,

00:06:39.880 okay,

00:06:40.240 a lot of it is,

00:06:40.980 there's a lot of good sisters, 1.00

00:06:42.140 this was a good sister,

00:06:43.340 but she had bad friends around.

00:06:45.000 Misery loves company.

00:06:46.360 Other single women

00:06:47.060 keep women single. 0.98

00:06:47.940 I mean,

00:06:48.580 let's break this down now.

00:06:50.100 Now,

00:06:50.840 if for example,

00:06:51.720 that sister said 1.00

00:06:52.260 no to the hundred dollar maher,

00:06:53.820 if she's a good sister,

00:06:54.940 and I'm not talking about

00:06:55.540 her being half of the Quran,

00:06:56.840 that I'd,

00:06:57.160 I'd,

00:06:57.380 I'd personally,

00:06:58.640 when it comes to marriage,

00:06:59.800 that is something that's

00:07:00.580 between her and her Lord.

00:07:01.320 That's good for her.

00:07:02.180 Quran,

00:07:02.680 I'm talking about

00:07:03.520 when you get to marry someone,

00:07:04.360 you are going to know

00:07:05.040 who they are really about.

00:07:07.060 Guys,

00:07:07.320 you don't understand,

00:07:08.320 you don't understand,

00:07:08.860 trust me,

00:07:09.080 I've got a lot of experience,

00:07:09.760 you don't understand

00:07:10.440 what really goes on,

00:07:11.680 be very careful.

00:07:12.440 So what I'm saying is,

00:07:13.680 to me,

00:07:14.480 if she said no,

00:07:15.760 I want three thousand dollars,

00:07:16.660 and if this brother said no,

00:07:17.400 you're in the wrong,

00:07:18.000 I'll take a clear card,

00:07:18.880 I don't know if that happened,

00:07:19.580 I'm just giving hypothetical situations.

00:07:23.200 Mahat is a haq, 1.00

00:07:24.220 and she can ask for whatever she likes.

00:07:25.440 Do not disregard her sister

00:07:26.380 because of that.

00:07:27.240 Yes?

00:07:27.900 However,

00:07:28.300 sisters obviously,

00:07:29.180 you know,

00:07:29.340 if you talk about twenty,

00:07:30.140 thirty, forty, fifty thousand,

00:07:31.060 keep dreaming,

00:07:31.600 I don't know what kind of

00:07:32.100 la la land you live in.

00:07:33.180 Okay,

00:07:33.860 it's your haq,

00:07:34.460 you can ask for it,

00:07:34.960 I'm just saying you're going

00:07:35.540 into la la land now,

00:07:36.320 okay,

00:07:36.540 because now it's getting 0.75

00:07:36.960 a bit ridiculous.

00:07:37.760 Okay, 0.88

00:07:38.300 so now,

00:07:39.440 this here issue is very valid.

00:07:40.780 What he said is very valid.

00:07:41.560 You know why?

00:07:42.020 It's not the issue of mahr.

00:07:43.080 I don't think the issue of mahr

00:07:44.040 was at hand,

00:07:45.740 because he probably just maybe

00:07:46.440 just tested to see if she's about,

00:07:47.740 you know,

00:07:47.900 maybe a gold,

00:07:48.380 or whatever for that matter.

00:07:49.660 Some people label them,

00:07:50.680 even though they're not,

00:07:51.280 because they can ask for whatever.

00:07:52.600 If she said a hundred dollars,

00:07:53.660 he would probably say,

00:07:54.240 you know,

00:07:54.360 I'm going to give you three thousand dollars,

00:07:55.300 whatever.

00:07:55.900 But,

00:07:56.460 her friend getting involved,

00:07:57.860 it is a red flag,

00:07:59.360 brother.

00:07:59.540 The biggest red flag.

00:08:01.360 Let me tell you this,

00:08:01.680 and this happens amongst women a lot. 0.99

00:08:03.400 Brothers,

00:08:03.760 do not marry a woman, 1.00

00:08:05.680 who when you have an issue,

00:08:07.340 this,

00:08:07.580 that,

00:08:07.720 and their friend comes in.

00:08:08.800 You know this friend,

00:08:10.060 who's a single,

00:08:10.900 it's always a single friend,

00:08:11.920 by the way,

00:08:12.200 it's always a single friend.

00:08:13.260 And women, 1.00

00:08:14.340 they hate, 1.00

00:08:15.060 they are the biggest competitors

00:08:16.360 to one another.

00:08:16.820 And studies show,

00:08:17.420 they are evil towards one another,

00:08:19.600 when it comes to gossip,

00:08:20.760 you know,

00:08:20.980 and slandering one another. 0.77

00:08:21.780 They are evil. 1.00

00:08:22.860 They hate each other's guts, 0.99

00:08:24.060 which I don't know why.

00:08:25.420 And this is a fine example.

00:08:26.740 Why?

00:08:27.220 Because the fact that

00:08:28.220 there's something you agreed with.

00:08:29.540 If you're getting your friend involved

00:08:31.020 with a matter like this,

00:08:32.080 which is something that

00:08:32.720 we've both agreed on,

00:08:33.940 whatever it is for that matter,

00:08:34.900 if you're getting your friend involved

00:08:35.760 with that,

00:08:36.180 oh my goodness gracious me,

00:08:37.600 la ilaha illallah.

00:08:38.800 In marriage, guys,

00:08:39.760 subhanallah,

00:08:40.880 if she does this,

00:08:41.840 it is a massive red flag

00:08:43.400 for any man.

00:08:44.040 And I don't blame him.

00:08:44.800 I don't blame him

00:08:45.240 for saying bye-bye.

00:08:46.280 You know why?

00:08:47.040 You may be towards the bullet,

00:08:47.820 she might have been a good sister.

00:08:48.760 But,

00:08:49.220 this issue,

00:08:49.840 because when women come together, 1.00

00:08:51.640 and like we said before,

00:08:52.340 women are emotional creatures, 1.00

00:08:53.700 that's how Allah has created them.

00:08:54.760 It doesn't make them bad or evil,

00:08:56.660 that's how they are created.

00:08:58.200 So they have to be led.

00:08:59.900 I believe in the nuclear family.

00:09:01.880 They have to be led.

00:09:02.700 That's why it's so important

00:09:03.660 to obey your husbands.

00:09:05.200 And I'm talking about

00:09:05.820 a husband who's good to you.

00:09:07.380 Don't,

00:09:07.840 when I say obey your husbands,

00:09:08.720 please don't think about

00:09:09.300 your dad who beats your wife,

00:09:10.520 your mum,

00:09:11.340 and your ex-husband who done that.

00:09:13.380 Please.

00:09:14.000 I'm talking about a good Muslim man.

00:09:15.180 Alhamdulillah,

00:09:15.320 who fears Allah.

00:09:16.280 So,

00:09:16.700 to go and share this,

00:09:18.180 this is a red flag.

00:09:18.980 Especially,

00:09:19.800 Miss Independent,

00:09:20.520 yes?

00:09:20.860 Boss babes, 1.00

00:09:21.440 slay the day.

00:09:22.420 They like to slay the day.

00:09:23.500 More likely they slay their life away.

00:09:25.460 The biggest calamity.

00:09:26.580 People are insulting feminism.

00:09:28.740 Women are insulting feminism. 1.00

00:09:29.880 You know why?

00:09:30.420 Because when they reach the age of 30,

00:09:31.820 35,

00:09:32.400 Miss Korea woman,

00:09:33.720 with nobody in your life,

00:09:35.560 and nobody wants to marry you, 1.00

00:09:37.220 you're looking at the ceiling

00:09:38.200 and counting how many tiles

00:09:39.600 there are on the ceiling.

00:09:40.720 With your Gucci bag

00:09:41.880 that you made,

00:09:42.640 you know,

00:09:42.980 boss babe, 1.00

00:09:43.780 yes?

00:09:44.160 And you're going out

00:09:44.860 and you can't find the right guy.

00:09:46.480 Because,

00:09:47.500 sadly,

00:09:48.060 a lot of women live in la-la land. 1.00

00:09:50.320 Absolute la-la land.

00:09:52.420 Be real with yourself.

00:09:53.560 Get married when you're most in your third child.

00:09:56.660 You are young.

00:09:57.520 You are beautiful.

00:09:59.000 Men want you. 1.00

00:09:59.840 You are sought after.

00:10:01.680 Make the most out of that.

00:10:03.140 That's very important.

00:10:04.420 Do you not delay it like a single?

00:10:05.660 I've been honest with you.

00:10:06.380 Yes.

00:10:06.960 Women are jealous of one another. 1.00

00:10:09.060 She probably wants that girl 1.00

00:10:10.420 to stay single like herself.

00:10:12.220 That is it.

00:10:13.020 Sadly.

00:10:13.680 I'm not saying every single woman,

00:10:15.020 majority of women, 1.00

00:10:16.000 they are likely.

00:10:16.440 They're in competition with one another.

00:10:17.540 So they don't like it.

00:10:18.600 That's why,

00:10:19.160 when it comes to advising,

00:10:20.260 they could be on their period.

00:10:21.420 And they're talking of emotion.

00:10:22.400 They had the bad day.

00:10:23.680 They had anything.

00:10:24.840 And they are giving you a Nasir.

00:10:25.900 That's why I always tell sisters,

00:10:27.480 go and take Nasir from a woman 1.00

00:10:29.940 who's in her 40s,

00:10:31.860 married successfully,

00:10:33.100 who's level-headed on her deen. 1.00

00:10:35.260 Get a Nasir from that kind of woman. 1.00

00:10:37.260 Any other woman. 0.99

00:10:38.280 I advise brothers all day, every day.

00:10:41.020 I'm married.

00:10:41.720 I'm telling you.

00:10:42.620 Listen to me.

00:10:43.760 Protect your wife 0.85

00:10:44.860 from these deluded,

00:10:46.860 tapped in the head,

00:10:47.860 I'll call them crackhead, 0.97

00:10:48.820 of individual friends

00:10:50.560 that they call

00:10:51.020 who gives them wrong advice.

00:10:53.340 And they do it subtly.

00:10:54.380 You'll see it.

00:10:54.940 If your wife 0.58

00:10:55.560 goes to a friend's house

00:10:56.620 and she comes back

00:10:57.660 and then all of a sudden

00:10:58.620 you see her,

00:10:59.700 you know,

00:10:59.960 her attitude change,

00:11:00.620 she's looking different, etc.

00:11:01.700 And she brings up something

00:11:02.920 best-believed, brother.

00:11:04.260 A conversation that was had there

00:11:06.000 stemmed into your marriage.

00:11:07.820 These are shayateen 1.00

00:11:08.920 that destroy marriages. 0.97

00:11:10.580 Subhanallah.

00:11:11.060 And look,

00:11:11.680 she came in the way 1.00

00:11:12.600 of this prospect.

00:11:13.780 Why?

00:11:14.340 Who are you, brother?

00:11:14.860 Her solicitor.

00:11:15.840 Hello.

00:11:16.140 And even though I agree.

00:11:17.020 Like, for example,

00:11:17.720 I agree with the sentiment

00:11:18.720 in the sense where

00:11:19.280 it's not about,

00:11:20.000 oh, is she worth that?

00:11:20.700 No.

00:11:21.680 It should have come from her.

00:11:23.920 Not her friend.

00:11:24.840 It should have come from her

00:11:25.560 because she showed

00:11:26.320 she doesn't have

00:11:26.820 some kind of backbone.

00:11:27.740 Why call your friend

00:11:28.200 and say, you're a lawyer?

00:11:28.860 Just come and say,

00:11:29.300 no, brother,

00:11:29.580 I thought about actually,

00:11:30.420 no,

00:11:30.560 3,000, 100%.

00:11:32.140 I would say,

00:11:32.820 all day, every day, brother.

00:11:33.440 I'm so sorry.

00:11:34.160 If she's a good sister,

00:11:34.840 you're out of your mind, Aki. 0.56

00:11:36.720 To say no to a sister

00:11:37.620 and give her $3,000 or whatever.

00:11:39.600 I'll be honest with you,

00:11:39.980 if she's a good sister,

00:11:40.860 put me in a payment plan, brother,

00:11:41.760 all day, every day,

00:11:42.360 alhamdulillah.

00:11:43.480 Like I did with my wife.

00:11:44.660 So I would say,

00:11:45.920 I don't blame him

00:11:46.720 for saying no to that.

00:11:48.160 So in a nutshell,

00:11:49.040 brother and sisters,

00:11:49.520 what is my point?

00:11:50.860 When it comes to marriage,

00:11:51.700 brother and sisters,

00:11:52.420 be very careful.

00:11:53.460 Do not ever think

00:11:54.100 the Quran Hafith,

00:11:55.560 she wears a niqab 1.00

00:11:56.840 and a motorbike helmet on top.

00:11:58.200 His beard is so long,

00:11:59.700 it goes all the way

00:12:00.940 to wherever.

00:12:02.740 Okay,

00:12:03.080 he's got a miswaq

00:12:03.800 on his hand,

00:12:04.340 big miswaq.

00:12:05.020 Yes, okay,

00:12:05.320 you can brush everybody's teeth with it.

00:12:06.460 Okay,

00:12:07.000 means nada,

00:12:08.300 zero.

00:12:09.020 Do not look at her character,

00:12:11.100 his akhlaq,

00:12:11.980 his manners,

00:12:12.960 relation with the family.

00:12:14.080 These are the things

00:12:14.880 and do istikhara.

00:12:16.080 You have a good relationship

00:12:17.020 with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:12:18.200 so Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.98

00:12:19.220 can guide you

00:12:19.880 because Allah truly knows

00:12:21.200 who's about what.

00:12:22.420 Believe me,

00:12:23.680 for me,

00:12:24.320 my marriage

00:12:24.820 and anybody's for that matter,

00:12:25.960 anyone that's got inshallah,

00:12:27.060 cross relationship

00:12:27.640 with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:12:28.340 I hope that I have,

00:12:30.040 you leave the matters

00:12:30.780 to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:12:31.520 Allah will always 1.00

00:12:32.340 give you someone

00:12:33.120 that is good for you inshallah.

00:12:34.440 So that's all I'm going to say

00:12:35.140 inshallah,

00:12:35.380 brother and sisters

00:12:35.760 and please,

00:12:36.800 brother and sisters,

00:12:37.560 inshallah,

00:12:37.840 be careful when it comes to marriage.

00:12:39.180 We are going to be doing

00:12:39.680 an episode soon

00:12:40.360 when we're going to be

00:12:41.360 prepping,

00:12:42.500 giving nasiyah

00:12:43.320 to those who are looking

00:12:44.260 to get married inshallah

00:12:44.980 in the best ways

00:12:45.900 with my experience

00:12:46.720 or I would say 20 years

00:12:48.040 of 10 years of jahiliyam,

00:12:49.600 13 years of Islam,

00:12:51.120 there's so much

00:12:51.820 that you can learn

00:12:52.480 from myself

00:12:53.000 and it's for free,

00:12:53.720 no courses,

00:12:54.340 pay you this absolutely free.

00:12:56.020 Until next time,

00:12:56.700 assalamu alaikum

00:12:57.340 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

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00:13:13.940 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

Ali Dawah - July 24, 2025

DON'T MARRY THIS KIND OF WOMAN

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