Ali Dawah - July 24, 2025


DON'T MARRY THIS KIND OF WOMAN


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

Words per Minute

236.95526

Word Count

3,141

Sentence Count

253

Misogynist Sentences

24

Hate Speech Sentences

32


Summary

In this episode, I give my thoughts on a recent video that was posted on social media by a brother of mine. He was talking about how to be a better man and how to make a better wife. I don t agree with everything he said, but I do agree with some of the things he said. In this video, he shares a story about a sister he was getting to know for marriage and why she didn t go through with it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Topic of Mahat comes up.
00:00:01.080 I'm like, what you want from Mahat?
00:00:02.140 She said something like $3,000.
00:00:04.220 It was like some gold.
00:00:05.040 So listen, I'll give you $100.
00:00:06.440 I'm going to lie, when I heard that,
00:00:08.440 I was a bit taken aback, yeah?
00:00:09.940 Because I didn't understand the context,
00:00:11.320 but it was like going from $3,000 to $100.
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00:00:31.620 It's exactly what I like,
00:00:33.360 alhamdulillah, when it comes to fitness,
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00:00:35.960 just general wear when I'm praying.
00:00:37.600 I don't need to worry about my back showing.
00:00:39.160 Buy it for your family members,
00:00:40.180 your uncles, your brothers,
00:00:41.880 your husbands,
00:00:42.780 whoever it is, inshallah, Bron and Sisters.
00:00:44.400 Buy it for yourself, inshallah.
00:00:45.640 It's modest.
00:00:46.540 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
00:00:48.220 brothers and sisters and dear friends.
00:00:49.260 Hope you guys are well
00:00:49.860 and hope you guys are excited
00:00:51.600 to go through this reaction video with myself.
00:00:53.680 This is a brother, subhanAllah, I know.
00:00:56.420 Myself, alhamdulillah,
00:00:57.280 ironfitcoaching, alhamdulillah,
00:00:59.660 on Instagram, alhamdulillah.
00:01:01.180 You know, alhamdulillah,
00:01:01.880 I like his content.
00:01:02.660 He talks about how to be a real man
00:01:04.520 in today's time
00:01:05.200 where a lot of men are absolute,
00:01:07.140 how can I say it in a nice way,
00:01:09.380 wimps, absolute wimps.
00:01:11.520 Yes, okay,
00:01:12.040 their wives are more of a man
00:01:13.660 than they can ever be.
00:01:14.260 They've become wimps.
00:01:15.540 Yes, and I applaud his content.
00:01:17.700 I don't agree with everything.
00:01:18.780 I mean, let me be honest with you for that.
00:01:19.980 And this video will prove
00:01:20.900 that I don't agree with everything
00:01:21.820 with a brother.
00:01:22.660 Alhamdulillah, he does amazing content
00:01:23.640 when it comes to fitness, coaching.
00:01:25.020 He got in contact with me
00:01:25.660 to sign up to his coaching thing
00:01:26.720 and I said, bro,
00:01:27.260 I'm already really, really fit, alhamdulillah.
00:01:28.980 And I went through some intense thing
00:01:30.180 with silverback jay.
00:01:30.860 Alhamdulillah, he lost 12 kilos,
00:01:31.780 got a bit lean.
00:01:32.600 Alhamdulillah, I recommend
00:01:33.140 for all the brothers,
00:01:34.060 please, you know,
00:01:34.920 coaching, et cetera,
00:01:35.680 when it comes to training,
00:01:36.500 sign up to his brother,
00:01:37.120 silverback jay,
00:01:37.680 and this brother as well,
00:01:38.480 ironfitcoaching.
00:01:39.460 We're going to react
00:01:39.940 to a video of himself.
00:01:41.740 Alhamdulillah, like I said before,
00:01:42.740 I encourage a lot of brothers
00:01:43.660 to follow him.
00:01:45.120 Don't follow him blindly.
00:01:46.240 But here's a video of him
00:01:47.560 telling a story of a sister
00:01:48.980 he was getting to know for marriage
00:01:50.080 and why that did not go ahead
00:01:51.940 because there are things
00:01:52.540 that I agree with.
00:01:53.780 This is one thing
00:01:54.180 that I disagree with, inshallah.
00:01:54.960 I just wanted to share that
00:01:55.600 with you guys, inshallah.
00:01:56.640 And I'm sure the brother
00:01:57.200 will be watching this, inshallah.
00:01:58.420 May Allah bless him, inshallah.
00:01:59.080 I hope he likes,
00:02:00.240 he doesn't mind a bit of criticism, inshallah,
00:02:02.020 but let's watch it, inshallah,
00:02:03.160 from the sisters.
00:02:04.160 Here we go.
00:02:04.540 I'll tell you a story, Akhi.
00:02:05.420 There was a sister
00:02:05.980 I was speaking to for marriage.
00:02:07.540 She was a Hafid al-Qur'an, okay?
00:02:09.300 We're talking
00:02:09.980 and the topic of Maher comes up.
00:02:11.940 I'm like, what do you want from Maher?
00:02:12.960 She said something like $3,000.
00:02:15.680 It was like some gold.
00:02:16.720 Okay, so sister,
00:02:18.360 he came to cross a sister
00:02:19.120 for Maher, for marriage.
00:02:20.920 She's Hafid of the Qur'an.
00:02:22.200 One thing that I would advise
00:02:23.020 a lot of brothers
00:02:23.520 who are watching this as well,
00:02:24.920 that is amazing.
00:02:25.800 Someone who's Hafid of the Qur'an.
00:02:27.960 And this might sound a bit crazy,
00:02:29.420 me saying this,
00:02:30.000 and I'll tell you out of my experience,
00:02:31.540 I have experience out of
00:02:32.800 in Jahliya and in Islam,
00:02:34.380 both a decade each,
00:02:36.060 you know, in Islam
00:02:36.780 more than a decade, 13 years.
00:02:38.700 And I am very, very experienced
00:02:41.060 in the sense where
00:02:42.160 when I was looking to get married,
00:02:43.840 there's things that I went through.
00:02:44.920 I am going to say something, guys.
00:02:46.600 Do not ever put your guard down.
00:02:48.660 And it applies to the sister as well.
00:02:50.060 Here's a Hafid of the Qur'an.
00:02:51.120 She's a Hafid of the Qur'an.
00:02:53.800 Let me tell you something, guys.
00:02:54.900 If I was getting to know a sister for marriage,
00:02:56.260 Hafid of the Qur'an,
00:02:57.340 I would say, okay, that's good.
00:02:58.520 May Allah bless you.
00:02:59.080 That's good for you.
00:02:59.820 Alhamdulillah.
00:03:00.200 It would be good for me as well.
00:03:01.460 Inshallah, it depends.
00:03:02.700 Teaching my kids, etc.
00:03:04.380 But there's something deeper
00:03:05.720 when it comes to character, etc.
00:03:07.080 So do not ever fall for
00:03:08.760 these things of the out-appearance
00:03:10.740 or she knows the Qur'an.
00:03:11.600 That does not mean
00:03:12.280 she is a good person.
00:03:14.020 I'm so sorry to say,
00:03:15.300 I know many brothers
00:03:16.060 who are in court
00:03:16.700 with their Hafid of the Qur'an
00:03:18.360 wives taking them to court
00:03:20.140 and saying,
00:03:20.780 putting the middle finger
00:03:21.400 to the Sharia
00:03:21.860 and saying,
00:03:22.800 I'm going to man-made laws
00:03:24.040 and I'm taking your wealth
00:03:24.740 which is haram.
00:03:26.160 And, you know,
00:03:26.460 before a sister comes and says,
00:03:27.120 oh, I wonder what he done.
00:03:28.140 Yeah, of course.
00:03:28.660 There's always something he done.
00:03:29.560 You know, he's a narcissist manipulator.
00:03:30.720 Yeah.
00:03:31.040 Okay, so be very careful
00:03:32.300 but let's carry on inshallah.
00:03:33.180 So she said she wants
00:03:34.240 $3,000 and some gold
00:03:36.160 which is, I believe,
00:03:37.160 it's her haq.
00:03:37.700 She has a right to ask that
00:03:38.660 and Islam in the Qur'an
00:03:39.780 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:03:40.220 clearly states that.
00:03:41.460 But let's see what he had to say.
00:03:42.980 I told her, listen,
00:03:43.440 I told her, listen,
00:03:43.920 I'll give you $100.
00:03:45.000 She was like, okay.
00:03:46.120 I'm going to lie.
00:03:46.580 When I heard that,
00:03:48.140 I was a bit taken aback
00:03:49.320 because I didn't understand
00:03:50.580 the context
00:03:50.920 but it was like going
00:03:51.380 from $3,000 to $100.
00:03:53.160 When I watched it,
00:03:53.940 I laughed a bit.
00:03:54.540 I was like, okay,
00:03:55.760 look, I mean,
00:03:56.100 you can be justified
00:03:56.680 but I just want to understand
00:03:57.500 where that was coming from.
00:03:58.740 But let's carry on inshallah.
00:04:00.140 She accepted it.
00:04:01.320 Next day she calls me
00:04:02.260 with some doubts.
00:04:03.120 Okay, interesting.
00:04:03.660 So she accepted it.
00:04:04.460 I mean, that is admirable
00:04:05.800 or admirable,
00:04:07.460 however you guys like to say that.
00:04:08.480 So, yes,
00:04:09.740 but again,
00:04:10.300 I want to stress on one thing
00:04:11.260 because we have narrations
00:04:12.220 of, for example,
00:04:12.940 at the time of Umar Abba Qattab.
00:04:14.700 For example,
00:04:15.420 there was a woman
00:04:15.940 who famously opposed
00:04:16.740 Umar Abba Qattab
00:04:17.420 opinion on the permissibility
00:04:18.940 of Mahat Dauri.
00:04:20.300 Her name was Asma Bint Yazid.
00:04:22.020 She was someone
00:04:22.880 who heard that
00:04:23.540 Umar Abba Qattab
00:04:24.140 was given a sermon
00:04:26.180 to women
00:04:27.120 and scolding them
00:04:28.100 for asking for high mahr.
00:04:29.640 Yes, it was making it hard
00:04:30.360 for men to get married.
00:04:32.620 Now, Umar Abba Qattab,
00:04:33.420 Amir Mu'mineen,
00:04:34.000 the Sakhir Khalifa,
00:04:34.840 one of the ten promised Jannah.
00:04:36.800 Nobody needs to give
00:04:37.380 a judokshan about Umar Abba Qattab
00:04:38.360 radiya al-an.
00:04:39.540 Now,
00:04:40.380 he says this
00:04:41.560 and what happens?
00:04:42.140 The following day
00:04:42.660 in a khutbah that he's given,
00:04:44.680 Asma Bint Yazid
00:04:45.880 gets up
00:04:47.220 and says,
00:04:47.680 Oh, Amir Mu'mineen.
00:04:49.520 For example,
00:04:50.360 according to a hadith commentary,
00:04:51.760 Umar,
00:04:52.320 upon hearing of the marriage
00:04:53.220 where a large mahr was given,
00:04:54.600 stated that women
00:04:55.060 should not be given
00:04:55.700 excessive dowries.
00:04:57.020 Asma, however,
00:04:57.560 remained,
00:04:58.440 remind him of the verse
00:04:59.280 in the Quran
00:04:59.700 in chapter 4,
00:05:00.500 verse 20
00:05:01.560 that mentions giving
00:05:02.500 Kintar a large amount
00:05:04.660 as mahr,
00:05:05.400 effectively challenging
00:05:06.520 Umar's opinion
00:05:07.160 and proving him wrong.
00:05:08.600 Now,
00:05:09.160 she stood up and said,
00:05:10.180 No, Amir Mu'mineen,
00:05:11.120 with all due respect,
00:05:11.820 that is the
00:05:12.340 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:05:13.320 gave us.
00:05:13.860 We can ask for whatever
00:05:15.140 we want
00:05:16.240 and I will reiterate that
00:05:17.440 because to me,
00:05:18.240 people call me,
00:05:18.920 you know,
00:05:19.120 you're a misogynistic,
00:05:19.960 you always attack a woman.
00:05:20.960 Yeah, yeah, whatever.
00:05:21.500 You know nothing about my content.
00:05:22.660 Okay?
00:05:22.820 I'm telling you clearly,
00:05:24.740 sisters.
00:05:25.400 Yes?
00:05:25.640 I tell sisters clearly.
00:05:26.680 Yes?
00:05:27.020 Ask minimum,
00:05:28.100 3,000,
00:05:28.520 3,45,000.
00:05:29.260 Minimum,
00:05:29.660 minimum,
00:05:30.100 minimum.
00:05:30.620 Yes?
00:05:30.940 You can be merciful
00:05:31.660 and give them a payment plan.
00:05:35.000 Yes?
00:05:35.140 Like my wife did,
00:05:35.760 give me a payment plan.
00:05:36.440 Alhamdulillah.
00:05:36.900 Have your mercy.
00:05:37.820 Yeah?
00:05:38.480 However,
00:05:38.980 it is your haqq.
00:05:39.660 Nobody can come and call you
00:05:40.500 a gold digger,
00:05:41.040 you're looking for this,
00:05:41.580 you're this kind of person,
00:05:42.380 no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:05:43.300 But obviously,
00:05:43.720 don't go to the other extreme
00:05:44.420 of certain silly sisters out there
00:05:46.040 who are like,
00:05:46.860 I want 50,000 pounds,
00:05:48.480 50,000 pounds,
00:05:49.780 and I want a house
00:05:50.640 and I want you to keep dreaming,
00:05:51.420 sister,
00:05:51.580 I'm always going to marry you.
00:05:52.500 Seriously,
00:05:52.900 and this is what happens with sisters,
00:05:53.720 they live in la-la land.
00:05:55.320 Wallahi,
00:05:55.840 they've reached the age of 30
00:05:56.840 and everything.
00:05:59.220 Anyways,
00:05:59.880 so let's carry on with the video,
00:06:00.800 inshallah.
00:06:01.020 I just wanted to mention,
00:06:01.800 inshallah,
00:06:02.400 which is there's nothing wrong
00:06:03.180 with the sister,
00:06:03.520 but Alhamdulillah,
00:06:03.880 at least,
00:06:04.740 she went down and said,
00:06:07.120 $100,
00:06:07.540 maybe,
00:06:07.820 you know,
00:06:08.020 obviously,
00:06:08.440 she wants to marry you.
00:06:09.360 She doesn't mind,
00:06:09.760 that's fine,
00:06:10.140 as long as mutually agreed
00:06:11.500 to that matter.
00:06:12.140 But here it gets a little bit
00:06:13.220 thing for the brother.
00:06:15.740 I add my friend
00:06:16.580 on the phone call.
00:06:17.500 I was like,
00:06:17.740 add your friend
00:06:18.240 on the phone call?
00:06:19.320 Okay,
00:06:19.720 let's see where this goes.
00:06:20.720 So it's one of her friends,
00:06:21.540 she's a 29-year-old,
00:06:22.780 successful businesswoman,
00:06:24.420 making lots of money,
00:06:25.520 29-year-old,
00:06:26.220 single,
00:06:26.520 never been married.
00:06:27.400 She's like,
00:06:28.240 how can you give her
00:06:29.020 such a low maher
00:06:30.060 and this,
00:06:30.660 that,
00:06:30.900 and others,
00:06:31.300 she's worth more than that
00:06:32.460 and this,
00:06:32.940 that,
00:06:33.100 and I was like,
00:06:33.600 what?
00:06:34.520 Why are you even
00:06:35.020 involving yourself?
00:06:35.660 Like,
00:06:35.840 first of all,
00:06:36.180 what are you doing?
00:06:37.160 Why are you involving
00:06:37.860 yourself in this?
00:06:38.800 And so this exposed to me,
00:06:39.880 okay,
00:06:40.240 a lot of it is,
00:06:40.980 there's a lot of good sisters,
00:06:42.140 this was a good sister,
00:06:43.340 but she had bad friends around.
00:06:45.000 Misery loves company.
00:06:46.360 Other single women
00:06:47.060 keep women single.
00:06:47.940 I mean,
00:06:48.580 let's break this down now.
00:06:50.100 Now,
00:06:50.840 if for example,
00:06:51.720 that sister said
00:06:52.260 no to the hundred dollar maher,
00:06:53.820 if she's a good sister,
00:06:54.940 and I'm not talking about
00:06:55.540 her being half of the Quran,
00:06:56.840 that I'd,
00:06:57.160 I'd,
00:06:57.380 I'd personally,
00:06:58.640 when it comes to marriage,
00:06:59.800 that is something that's
00:07:00.580 between her and her Lord.
00:07:01.320 That's good for her.
00:07:02.180 Quran,
00:07:02.680 I'm talking about
00:07:03.520 when you get to marry someone,
00:07:04.360 you are going to know
00:07:05.040 who they are really about.
00:07:07.060 Guys,
00:07:07.320 you don't understand,
00:07:08.320 you don't understand,
00:07:08.860 trust me,
00:07:09.080 I've got a lot of experience,
00:07:09.760 you don't understand
00:07:10.440 what really goes on,
00:07:11.680 be very careful.
00:07:12.440 So what I'm saying is,
00:07:13.680 to me,
00:07:14.480 if she said no,
00:07:15.760 I want three thousand dollars,
00:07:16.660 and if this brother said no,
00:07:17.400 you're in the wrong,
00:07:18.000 I'll take a clear card,
00:07:18.880 I don't know if that happened,
00:07:19.580 I'm just giving hypothetical situations.
00:07:23.200 Mahat is a haq,
00:07:24.220 and she can ask for whatever she likes.
00:07:25.440 Do not disregard her sister
00:07:26.380 because of that.
00:07:27.240 Yes?
00:07:27.900 However,
00:07:28.300 sisters obviously,
00:07:29.180 you know,
00:07:29.340 if you talk about twenty,
00:07:30.140 thirty, forty, fifty thousand,
00:07:31.060 keep dreaming,
00:07:31.600 I don't know what kind of
00:07:32.100 la la land you live in.
00:07:33.180 Okay,
00:07:33.860 it's your haq,
00:07:34.460 you can ask for it,
00:07:34.960 I'm just saying you're going
00:07:35.540 into la la land now,
00:07:36.320 okay,
00:07:36.540 because now it's getting
00:07:36.960 a bit ridiculous.
00:07:37.760 Okay,
00:07:38.300 so now,
00:07:39.440 this here issue is very valid.
00:07:40.780 What he said is very valid.
00:07:41.560 You know why?
00:07:42.020 It's not the issue of mahr.
00:07:43.080 I don't think the issue of mahr
00:07:44.040 was at hand,
00:07:45.740 because he probably just maybe
00:07:46.440 just tested to see if she's about,
00:07:47.740 you know,
00:07:47.900 maybe a gold,
00:07:48.380 or whatever for that matter.
00:07:49.660 Some people label them,
00:07:50.680 even though they're not,
00:07:51.280 because they can ask for whatever.
00:07:52.600 If she said a hundred dollars,
00:07:53.660 he would probably say,
00:07:54.240 you know,
00:07:54.360 I'm going to give you three thousand dollars,
00:07:55.300 whatever.
00:07:55.900 But,
00:07:56.460 her friend getting involved,
00:07:57.860 it is a red flag,
00:07:59.360 brother.
00:07:59.540 The biggest red flag.
00:08:01.360 Let me tell you this,
00:08:01.680 and this happens amongst women a lot.
00:08:03.400 Brothers,
00:08:03.760 do not marry a woman,
00:08:05.680 who when you have an issue,
00:08:07.340 this,
00:08:07.580 that,
00:08:07.720 and their friend comes in.
00:08:08.800 You know this friend,
00:08:10.060 who's a single,
00:08:10.900 it's always a single friend,
00:08:11.920 by the way,
00:08:12.200 it's always a single friend.
00:08:13.260 And women,
00:08:14.340 they hate,
00:08:15.060 they are the biggest competitors
00:08:16.360 to one another.
00:08:16.820 And studies show,
00:08:17.420 they are evil towards one another,
00:08:19.600 when it comes to gossip,
00:08:20.760 you know,
00:08:20.980 and slandering one another.
00:08:21.780 They are evil.
00:08:22.860 They hate each other's guts,
00:08:24.060 which I don't know why.
00:08:25.420 And this is a fine example.
00:08:26.740 Why?
00:08:27.220 Because the fact that
00:08:28.220 there's something you agreed with.
00:08:29.540 If you're getting your friend involved
00:08:31.020 with a matter like this,
00:08:32.080 which is something that
00:08:32.720 we've both agreed on,
00:08:33.940 whatever it is for that matter,
00:08:34.900 if you're getting your friend involved
00:08:35.760 with that,
00:08:36.180 oh my goodness gracious me,
00:08:37.600 la ilaha illallah.
00:08:38.800 In marriage, guys,
00:08:39.760 subhanallah,
00:08:40.880 if she does this,
00:08:41.840 it is a massive red flag
00:08:43.400 for any man.
00:08:44.040 And I don't blame him.
00:08:44.800 I don't blame him
00:08:45.240 for saying bye-bye.
00:08:46.280 You know why?
00:08:47.040 You may be towards the bullet,
00:08:47.820 she might have been a good sister.
00:08:48.760 But,
00:08:49.220 this issue,
00:08:49.840 because when women come together,
00:08:51.640 and like we said before,
00:08:52.340 women are emotional creatures,
00:08:53.700 that's how Allah has created them.
00:08:54.760 It doesn't make them bad or evil,
00:08:56.660 that's how they are created.
00:08:58.200 So they have to be led.
00:08:59.900 I believe in the nuclear family.
00:09:01.880 They have to be led.
00:09:02.700 That's why it's so important
00:09:03.660 to obey your husbands.
00:09:05.200 And I'm talking about
00:09:05.820 a husband who's good to you.
00:09:07.380 Don't,
00:09:07.840 when I say obey your husbands,
00:09:08.720 please don't think about
00:09:09.300 your dad who beats your wife,
00:09:10.520 your mum,
00:09:11.340 and your ex-husband who done that.
00:09:13.380 Please.
00:09:14.000 I'm talking about a good Muslim man.
00:09:15.180 Alhamdulillah,
00:09:15.320 who fears Allah.
00:09:16.280 So,
00:09:16.700 to go and share this,
00:09:18.180 this is a red flag.
00:09:18.980 Especially,
00:09:19.800 Miss Independent,
00:09:20.520 yes?
00:09:20.860 Boss babes,
00:09:21.440 slay the day.
00:09:22.420 They like to slay the day.
00:09:23.500 More likely they slay their life away.
00:09:25.460 The biggest calamity.
00:09:26.580 People are insulting feminism.
00:09:28.740 Women are insulting feminism.
00:09:29.880 You know why?
00:09:30.420 Because when they reach the age of 30,
00:09:31.820 35,
00:09:32.400 Miss Korea woman,
00:09:33.720 with nobody in your life,
00:09:35.560 and nobody wants to marry you,
00:09:37.220 you're looking at the ceiling
00:09:38.200 and counting how many tiles
00:09:39.600 there are on the ceiling.
00:09:40.720 With your Gucci bag
00:09:41.880 that you made,
00:09:42.640 you know,
00:09:42.980 boss babe,
00:09:43.780 yes?
00:09:44.160 And you're going out
00:09:44.860 and you can't find the right guy.
00:09:46.480 Because,
00:09:47.500 sadly,
00:09:48.060 a lot of women live in la-la land.
00:09:50.320 Absolute la-la land.
00:09:52.420 Be real with yourself.
00:09:53.560 Get married when you're most in your third child.
00:09:56.660 You are young.
00:09:57.520 You are beautiful.
00:09:59.000 Men want you.
00:09:59.840 You are sought after.
00:10:01.680 Make the most out of that.
00:10:03.140 That's very important.
00:10:04.420 Do you not delay it like a single?
00:10:05.660 I've been honest with you.
00:10:06.380 Yes.
00:10:06.960 Women are jealous of one another.
00:10:09.060 She probably wants that girl
00:10:10.420 to stay single like herself.
00:10:12.220 That is it.
00:10:13.020 Sadly.
00:10:13.680 I'm not saying every single woman,
00:10:15.020 majority of women,
00:10:16.000 they are likely.
00:10:16.440 They're in competition with one another.
00:10:17.540 So they don't like it.
00:10:18.600 That's why,
00:10:19.160 when it comes to advising,
00:10:20.260 they could be on their period.
00:10:21.420 And they're talking of emotion.
00:10:22.400 They had the bad day.
00:10:23.680 They had anything.
00:10:24.840 And they are giving you a Nasir.
00:10:25.900 That's why I always tell sisters,
00:10:27.480 go and take Nasir from a woman
00:10:29.940 who's in her 40s,
00:10:31.860 married successfully,
00:10:33.100 who's level-headed on her deen.
00:10:35.260 Get a Nasir from that kind of woman.
00:10:37.260 Any other woman.
00:10:38.280 I advise brothers all day, every day.
00:10:41.020 I'm married.
00:10:41.720 I'm telling you.
00:10:42.620 Listen to me.
00:10:43.760 Protect your wife
00:10:44.860 from these deluded,
00:10:46.860 tapped in the head,
00:10:47.860 I'll call them crackhead,
00:10:48.820 of individual friends
00:10:50.560 that they call
00:10:51.020 who gives them wrong advice.
00:10:53.340 And they do it subtly.
00:10:54.380 You'll see it.
00:10:54.940 If your wife
00:10:55.560 goes to a friend's house
00:10:56.620 and she comes back
00:10:57.660 and then all of a sudden
00:10:58.620 you see her,
00:10:59.700 you know,
00:10:59.960 her attitude change,
00:11:00.620 she's looking different, etc.
00:11:01.700 And she brings up something
00:11:02.920 best-believed, brother.
00:11:04.260 A conversation that was had there
00:11:06.000 stemmed into your marriage.
00:11:07.820 These are shayateen
00:11:08.920 that destroy marriages.
00:11:10.580 Subhanallah.
00:11:11.060 And look,
00:11:11.680 she came in the way
00:11:12.600 of this prospect.
00:11:13.780 Why?
00:11:14.340 Who are you, brother?
00:11:14.860 Her solicitor.
00:11:15.840 Hello.
00:11:16.140 And even though I agree.
00:11:17.020 Like, for example,
00:11:17.720 I agree with the sentiment
00:11:18.720 in the sense where
00:11:19.280 it's not about,
00:11:20.000 oh, is she worth that?
00:11:20.700 No.
00:11:21.680 It should have come from her.
00:11:23.920 Not her friend.
00:11:24.840 It should have come from her
00:11:25.560 because she showed
00:11:26.320 she doesn't have
00:11:26.820 some kind of backbone.
00:11:27.740 Why call your friend
00:11:28.200 and say, you're a lawyer?
00:11:28.860 Just come and say,
00:11:29.300 no, brother,
00:11:29.580 I thought about actually,
00:11:30.420 no,
00:11:30.560 3,000, 100%.
00:11:32.140 I would say,
00:11:32.820 all day, every day, brother.
00:11:33.440 I'm so sorry.
00:11:34.160 If she's a good sister,
00:11:34.840 you're out of your mind, Aki.
00:11:36.720 To say no to a sister
00:11:37.620 and give her $3,000 or whatever.
00:11:39.600 I'll be honest with you,
00:11:39.980 if she's a good sister,
00:11:40.860 put me in a payment plan, brother,
00:11:41.760 all day, every day,
00:11:42.360 alhamdulillah.
00:11:43.480 Like I did with my wife.
00:11:44.660 So I would say,
00:11:45.920 I don't blame him
00:11:46.720 for saying no to that.
00:11:48.160 So in a nutshell,
00:11:49.040 brother and sisters,
00:11:49.520 what is my point?
00:11:50.860 When it comes to marriage,
00:11:51.700 brother and sisters,
00:11:52.420 be very careful.
00:11:53.460 Do not ever think
00:11:54.100 the Quran Hafith,
00:11:55.560 she wears a niqab
00:11:56.840 and a motorbike helmet on top.
00:11:58.200 His beard is so long,
00:11:59.700 it goes all the way
00:12:00.940 to wherever.
00:12:02.740 Okay,
00:12:03.080 he's got a miswaq
00:12:03.800 on his hand,
00:12:04.340 big miswaq.
00:12:05.020 Yes, okay,
00:12:05.320 you can brush everybody's teeth with it.
00:12:06.460 Okay,
00:12:07.000 means nada,
00:12:08.300 zero.
00:12:09.020 Do not look at her character,
00:12:11.100 his akhlaq,
00:12:11.980 his manners,
00:12:12.960 relation with the family.
00:12:14.080 These are the things
00:12:14.880 and do istikhara.
00:12:16.080 You have a good relationship
00:12:17.020 with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
00:12:18.200 so Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:12:19.220 can guide you
00:12:19.880 because Allah truly knows
00:12:21.200 who's about what.
00:12:22.420 Believe me,
00:12:23.680 for me,
00:12:24.320 my marriage
00:12:24.820 and anybody's for that matter,
00:12:25.960 anyone that's got inshallah,
00:12:27.060 cross relationship
00:12:27.640 with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
00:12:28.340 I hope that I have,
00:12:30.040 you leave the matters
00:12:30.780 to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
00:12:31.520 Allah will always
00:12:32.340 give you someone
00:12:33.120 that is good for you inshallah.
00:12:34.440 So that's all I'm going to say
00:12:35.140 inshallah,
00:12:35.380 brother and sisters
00:12:35.760 and please,
00:12:36.800 brother and sisters,
00:12:37.560 inshallah,
00:12:37.840 be careful when it comes to marriage.
00:12:39.180 We are going to be doing
00:12:39.680 an episode soon
00:12:40.360 when we're going to be
00:12:41.360 prepping,
00:12:42.500 giving nasiyah
00:12:43.320 to those who are looking
00:12:44.260 to get married inshallah
00:12:44.980 in the best ways
00:12:45.900 with my experience
00:12:46.720 or I would say 20 years
00:12:48.040 of 10 years of jahiliyam,
00:12:49.600 13 years of Islam,
00:12:51.120 there's so much
00:12:51.820 that you can learn
00:12:52.480 from myself
00:12:53.000 and it's for free,
00:12:53.720 no courses,
00:12:54.340 pay you this absolutely free.
00:12:56.020 Until next time,
00:12:56.700 assalamu alaikum
00:12:57.340 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
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00:13:13.380 assalamu alaikum
00:13:13.940 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.