Ali Dawah - FEMINISTS WAR AGAINST ISLAM - MEN & WOMAN CAN BE FRIENDS？

00:00:00.000 attractive yes but no no no no no no do you find her attractive yes or no yes you find her attractive

00:00:06.460 yes or no yeah okay if you find her attractive as a man would you not want to be intimate with

00:00:10.140 attractive woman no why people still watch this guy i will never understand but you want a logical

00:00:14.780 explanation so i will provide once you're in that grave there's no i could have i would have i

00:00:21.400 should have case closed allah tells us that a man when his soul is taken away allah says he's going

00:00:26.040 to say what send me back to do hajj umrah salah fasting what no sadaqa brothers and sisters

00:00:31.600 ayera is getting thousands of shahadas monthly yearly hundreds of thousands of people are coming to

00:00:37.900 islam they are printing quran distributing material training duat brothers and sisters do you want 0.99

00:00:43.340 the part of that sadaqa jariah that goes on forever this is how islam has spread around the world 1.00

00:00:48.580 brothers and sisters carry on this legacy of the process inshallah by donating whatever amount

00:00:53.140 inshallah and support aira right now inshallah enjoy the video assalamualaikum warahmatullahi

00:00:57.260 barakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends this video is going to be very very informative and

00:01:01.100 it's going to show you subhanallah how sisters in general and females are so out of touch with

00:01:08.440 male psychology biology the way we're created how allah's created us and this sister who's done many

00:01:13.060 videos about me on multiple occasions which i didn't really have the time to respond i'll be

00:01:17.180 honest with you accusations speculations uh disrespect sometimes and it's okay she's my sister in the

00:01:22.420 and i forgive her for those remarks but i want to stick to specifically the quran sunnah and i want

00:01:27.500 to talk about research and studies not for my own self but let's stick to that research and studies

00:01:31.620 because very interestingly she's reacting to me giving dawah to two non-muslims free non-muslims

00:01:36.420 two are male and one's a female and i'm talking about how many women cannot be friends because of 1.00

00:01:40.420 variety reasons now she disagrees with me but does she disagree with me based on evidence from islam

00:01:44.740 based on evidence from the quran and the sunnah based on evidence from evidence from studies and

00:01:48.980 research no she disagrees with me because because it's me let's watch for ourself inshallah and

00:01:54.980 dissect with evidences over evidences ample amount of evidences which absolutely without your respect

00:02:02.500 show the country that many women cannot be friends and then i have a question for her what is her 0.94

00:02:07.740 disagreement with me on what basis let's get to inshallah they're attractive yes but no no no no no no no

00:02:15.500 do you find her attractive yes or no yes you find her attractive yes yeah okay if you find her

00:02:20.140 attractive as a man would you not want to be intimate with attractive woman no let me just get

00:02:24.780 this right i find a woman attractive but i don't want to be with her can you logically as a man tell me 0.99

00:02:29.740 how that makes sense why people still watch this guy i will never understand but she wants a logical

00:02:33.260 explanation so i will provide okay good firstly number one she's saying i do not know why people

00:02:38.620 will listen to me okay on what basis should they not listen to me are you going to bring evidence

00:02:43.660 from the quran the sunnah allah and his messenger studies research or is it based on personal attacks

00:02:49.180 of who i am or you have a disclaimer of what what what is that i say most of the times it's not that you

00:02:54.220 have an issue with myself it's that there's issues with what islam pertains to and what islam says

00:02:59.020 and you know that if you have an issue with that it can leave you in dangerous ground so what you do

00:03:02.860 you throw muslims people in the dawah dawah bros like myself under the bus at the pretense of your

00:03:08.460 discriminators with me no it's not your disagreement with disagreement is with allah and his messenger

00:03:12.780 and how he has created us so let's get straight into what she has to say that what your perspective

00:03:17.340 and your conclusion is not logical you are presupposing that recognizing that someone's

00:03:20.460 conventionally attractive and being sexually attracted to them or having sexual intent are

00:03:23.980 the same things and they're not and you're also assuming that because a man might be sexually

00:03:26.860 attracted to a woman that he will go on to pursue that and that he must or else it's illogical this is so

00:03:30.940 hedonistic are we barbaric okay good so she said is he didn't is this hedonistic and is this barbarian

00:03:35.420 you can already see she's given terminologies to certain things number one you are not a man you

00:03:40.300 can't talk on that specific matter are you a man to be talking about it's like me talking about child

00:03:45.100 birth do you know guys childbirth you know if you think about it it's actually it's not really that

00:03:48.620 hard excuse me with all respect did you give birth no why are you talking on our behalf on something

00:03:53.340 that we go through i wouldn't talk about matters that just i do not understand so the here is

00:03:59.900 you're giving it barbarism and hedonism why because we're talking about a man's psychology

00:04:04.540 and physiology and the way he is created now the question is for example let's go to like studies

00:04:09.660 i don't want to talk about my just you know just talking for the sake of it inshallah okay she's

00:04:12.860 claiming that this is wrong i'm gonna ask a question on what basis men and women cannot be friends why

00:04:16.540 are you are you a muslim woman as far as you're muslim why are you trying to say they can be now let's 0.97

00:04:20.700 look at for example some studies one study that shows the sex drive refers to the strength of sexual

00:04:25.340 motivation across many different studies and measures men have shown to have more frequent

00:04:30.060 and more intense sexual desires than women as reflected in spontaneous thoughts about sex 0.93

00:04:33.900 frequency and variety of sexual fantasies desired frequency of intercourse desired number of partners

00:04:38.860 masturbation liking for various sexual practices willingness to forgo sex initiating versus refusing

00:04:43.820 sex making sacrifices for sex and other measures no contrary findings indicating stronger sexual

00:04:50.140 motivation among women who are found hence we conclude that the male sex drive is stronger than

00:04:55.260 the female sex drive the gender differences in sex drive should not be generalized other should not be

00:05:01.020 generalized to other constructs such as sexual or orgasmic capacity enjoyment of sex or extrinsical

00:05:07.180 motivated uh motivation of sex okay now so the first thing that you've done is you are denying the way

00:05:13.900 we are created no no no no why because as a woman because you do not see the woman in a man in that way

00:05:19.980 oh i might find him handsome but i do not feel in the sexual way good that's you not us and then

00:05:24.940 it's like if you're like that you're barbarian hedonism what kind of a man are you etc and we've

00:05:29.900 got studies after studies and not only that in islam it makes it very clear that this is not uh this

00:05:35.820 is absolutely normal it's natural but let's carry on inshallah attraction and sexual desire are not the

00:05:40.940 same thing you can find something physically appealing physically aesthetic or harmonious and not want to

00:05:45.100 sexually engage with it and an easy refutation to this is would you say that your mother or your sister

00:05:49.020 or your daughter is an attractive woman i would hope so i would hope you think highly of the woman

00:05:52.380 in your life if i say my father is handsome does that now make it logically the case that

00:05:56.380 i might i'm sexually attracted to my father what not to mention are you not literally conceding that

00:06:00.940 every single woman that you find to be conventionally attractive that you also feel sexual impulses for 0.85

00:06:05.340 you're a married man struggling with forms of mental infidelity so good first as you can see 0.70

00:06:09.500 it's the shame tactic so it's something abnormal so what she's talking about is for example which

00:06:13.660 another study um research kind of debunked it is called it's called the western mark effect there

00:06:19.500 is called or reverse sexual imprinting it's a hypothetical psychological effect through which

00:06:23.660 people will live in close domestic from proximity during the first years of uh of their life become

00:06:28.860 desensitized to sexual attraction the effect is not just only applicable for biological related families

00:06:33.500 but also in complete strangers who were brought up together okay and the title is called why are we not

00:06:38.220 attracted to our siblings the west the western uh the western mark effect and self-regime uh theory

00:06:43.340 shows that so which is what it is a platonic relationship just because for example i might

00:06:48.380 say my daughter is very attractive or for example my mother or my sister etc because i've brought up

00:06:54.140 with them there are so many other factors that play a key role in why i would not have that in that

00:06:58.220 specific situation and even it's applied to people that you may have grown up with that kind of

00:07:03.020 attraction is not there and even islamically a boy and a girl when they reach the age of seven they are

00:07:07.900 told to sleep in separate beds there is a reason for that i've witnessed firsthand how crazy it is

00:07:12.460 to suddenly find myself wildly attracted to a woman that eight hours earlier i had no interest in

00:07:16.220 whatsoever and i think this is an unavoidable fact if you spend a lot of time around someone and get

00:07:20.780 emotionally and intimately close to each other even if it's platonic you consistently run the risk of

00:07:25.100 developing romantic or sexual feelings for that person even if you've never experienced them in the

00:07:28.220 past so it would suggest that women are already consciously or subconsciously aware of the fact that men

00:07:32.300 are worse at maintaining platonic relationships and i suspect a lot of this has to do with an intimacy

00:07:36.460 gap in men's lives men in general experience a lot less emotional support from their friends than

00:07:39.900 women do if you just have a look at this study from the uk you'll see that women experience twice

00:07:44.700 as much emotional support from their female friends as men do they are likely to be told

00:07:48.140 they are loved by a friend twice as often as a man and they are 60 percent more likely to share

00:07:51.980 personal feelings or problems with their friends this represents a massive gap an intimacy connection

00:07:56.540 that men just aren't getting men usually only receive this level of intimacy from their romantic

00:07:59.900 relationships and so no wonder it becomes confusing for us when we suddenly experience this level of

00:08:03.820 connection and emotional support from a woman that's supposed to be platonic because for us

00:08:07.820 the only time we've ever experienced that is when we're with someone romantically so then you came

00:08:11.500 and then you come and say something very uh very bizarre let's hear for ourselves inshallah because you

00:08:15.980 lack discipline and control you're now subjecting your current wife to your mental infidelity good so

00:08:20.300 she's saying that because you lack mental control so in a nutshell this is like she talks about barbarism

00:08:24.700 which is very ironic because in the in the dark ages when there was actual barbarism and i'm not saying islam 0.97

00:08:29.660 said this but many other religions like christianity etc they see desire having intimacy and pleasure of

00:08:33.820 intimacy as something blameworthy they see as unnatural it's like she said hedonistic and barbaric

00:08:38.540 etc they would say the same thing about women they were discussing if a woman had a soul they would

00:08:43.020 come and say that a woman having sexual intimacy pleasure even in the muslim mode this is not islamic

00:08:48.540 that a woman has no right to sexual intimacy offering i mean for sexual pleasure and that is not from islam 0.83

00:08:54.380 so if anything you're talking about barbarism and hedonism it goes back to what it goes back to the

00:08:58.380 world view in the dark ages where they would blame women like you and imagine you're being told what

00:09:02.220 you're telling me you go have self-control etc it's like imagine a woman being told help some self-control 0.99

00:09:06.700 why are you enjoying pleasure in islam a woman has every right to enjoy pleasure not only that a woman 0.66

00:09:11.260 who is sexually not satisfied who came to the prophet muhammad peace be upon him and asked for divorce 0.51

00:09:15.820 the actual basis is what a woman has a right not only that we are told that it is charity to our partners

00:09:22.780 that when we have intimacy it's it's like charity they have a right to have sexual

00:09:28.060 gratification and enjoyment imagine i'm scolding a woman and saying how dare you did you enjoy that 0.66

00:09:33.420 how dare you enjoy that what is the difference between you and me and you will call that

00:09:37.340 misogynistic okay and you're doing the same thing with this it's misandry because you're saying no

00:09:42.140 no no how dare you well let's go to something a bit shocking let's watch this for ourselves me

00:09:46.620 personally i would be sick to my stomach if my husband was incapable of looking at a woman who was 0.93

00:09:50.060 conventionally attractive not think about her sexually because according to your logic if we're 0.98

00:09:53.100 universalizing it that means every single attractive woman that you see you want to have

00:09:56.860 sex with them good and again this shows that literally like it's it's they have no idea and

00:10:02.780 this is the reason why you need to understand something okay there are certain things that

00:10:07.100 that allah has created you that's why to your psychology you think this is abnormal now let me 0.99

00:10:12.540 tell you something clearly abdul ibn al-baas narrates that the prophet muhammad peace be upon him

00:10:15.820 was walking one day you're a muslim woman he was walking one day and he happened to see a woman not

00:10:21.340 looked on purpose happened to see a woman who he had a desire and instantly what did we talk about

00:10:27.100 how a man's sex uh a sexual tendencies are there is no match with a woman this is why my dear sister 0.98

00:10:33.820 with all your respect you're living in absolute la la land and we're here to educate both each other

00:10:39.740 to understand this reality he saw a woman had a sexual a desire in his heart and what did he do he

00:10:46.140 went back to his wife zainab and had intimacy with her now are you going to say is zainab going to say

00:10:53.260 oh i will feel sick to my stomach to have a husband who goes out and sees a woman this is the reality of

00:11:01.020 men welcome to our world it doesn't make us sick it doesn't make us less this is how we are created

00:11:07.180 why can you not respect that way we're created when we respect the way women's created you have menopause you 0.99

00:11:11.660 have the menstrual cycle you have hormones up and down and as a man there's so many times where we

00:11:16.380 are told to be patient with our wives there's this thing she says that she doesn't mean but when it

00:11:21.420 comes vice versa oh no no no no we are made to be inhumane how could you i feel sick to my stomach so

00:11:27.340 the prophet muhammad peace upon him not only that go to the quran the surah yusuf the prophet of allah

00:11:33.260 he allah says yusuf when he was being seduced by the woman he's a prophet of god he had an

00:11:38.620 inclination towards her and allah says that we showed a a the signs of allah when the prophet

00:11:44.780 muhammad peace upon him said when a man and a woman is alone the third is satan yes what are you going

00:11:48.860 to say so on what basis are you trying to defend this premise of oh i don't know why people listen

00:11:54.700 to him what am i saying a man and a woman cannot be friends why are you arguing against that why because

00:12:00.220 it's coming from me that is so petty it is so so petty subhanallah that you are focused on that and not

00:12:07.340 only that we have got studies like i'll show you one other study for example this is a graph

00:12:11.980 that shows what women receive more emotional support from their friends percentage of americans

00:12:16.780 who report the following experience in the past week men compared to women let's go to men received

00:12:21.820 emotional support from their friend look at it's nearly double the number pertaining uh when you

00:12:25.900 compare men to women told a friend you love them women are more likely to tell their friends that they

00:12:31.740 love them compared to men shared personal feelings or problems with a friend women are nearly as 0.93

00:12:36.780 double as likely now do you know what's interesting about the study this means that the reason why

00:12:41.420 a man and a woman cannot be friends is because in this study it shows that with us as men when we 1.00

00:12:46.460 the only place where we have this kind of a woman opening up to us and affection and i love you and

00:12:50.860 this that is when it's in marriage as women you guys get that you guys perform or explore or express

00:12:59.180 those things to your male counterparts now your male counterpart because they do not have that

00:13:04.540 they only have that with their partner which is not platonic which is a sexual relationship

00:13:08.620 when they see that from a woman they say what ah she's interested in me but a woman thinks what no 1.00

00:13:14.620 he's just my friend and we've seen ample evidence of people like oh he's just a friend okay call him

00:13:19.420 call him and saying that you're interested in him what's the result oh yeah i want to go out there i've

00:13:23.260 been waiting for this all this all my life do you understand the reality we cannot be friends period

00:13:29.660 islamically psychologically physiologically you name it uh biologically the way we are programmed

00:13:34.540 and created we can't be so the question is why are you bringing me into it and as if i'm calling

00:13:39.900 for something strange on what basis any evidence from islam quran sunnah any studies any research no

00:13:47.420 based on what just so you can differ with me why because you don't agree with me sister let's be

00:13:52.300 grown-ups inshallah let's carry on watching the video and you're lying if you say that you don't find

00:13:56.460 any other woman conventionally attractive other than your wife honestly this is an insult to men

00:13:59.900 it attempts to paint all men as hedonistic because you are hedonistic so it's an insult to man that's

00:14:04.220 the reason why men are polygamous by nature because yes they have that inclination and the prophet

00:14:07.900 mohammed and the hadith clearly shows that that's the reason why men have that and you can't and the 1.00

00:14:13.100 reason why it's so odd for you and you deem it as hedonism and it's bad and it's barbaric is because

00:14:17.340 you are not wired like that why is it that men buy adult magazines watch adult movies watch all this

00:14:23.100 kind of stuff do you see women going and saying oh i like that man's calves i cannot wait to see his

00:14:27.420 fingers or his calves or you don't have that you are not created like that so why are you demeaning us

00:14:33.420 and belittling us and calling us barbarians and hedonistic because we have a natural inclination

00:14:38.940 to that that's how we are created that's why men can have multiple partners because they can cater for 0.91

00:14:43.980 that you can't you love one man that man is your man it's simple as that but no why do you have to be

00:14:51.420 like me sister i've seen so many of your videos a long time ago where you just want to be like a

00:14:55.980 man no there's no difference between us islamically we are not the same why do you find it so hard to

00:15:01.820 grasp that let's carry on inshallah not all men are enslaved by their sexual desires some men are

00:15:06.540 mature and some men are able to look at a conventionally attractive woman and separate

00:15:09.500 that from their sexual desire they are able to demarcate between the two because they're not barbaric

00:15:13.020 not to mention if you think like this and you encourage other men to think like this you are

00:15:15.900 reinforcing a culture which sexualizes and objectifies women and which by extension would sexualize 0.95

00:15:19.740 and objectify your own wife your daughters your sisters your mother this is also why a lot of

00:15:23.420 men are incapable of having platonic relationships with women like having an acquaintance that's

00:15:26.700 female if you can't look at a conventionally attractive so these do you see what i mean 1.00

00:15:29.900 now now she's turned it into sexual objectification just because the man is created in that way no no 0.99

00:15:33.580 it's sexual objectification no it's not it's the reality how god almighty has created us and that's

00:15:37.900 why there are boundaries in place the question is if that is the case then are you blaming allah because

00:15:42.060 allah's put boundaries a man and a woman cannot be friends they cannot be in the same place together 0.99

00:15:45.340 you have to speak to the guardian why didn't allah say go and date and get to know each other because

00:15:49.260 he knows what will happen so again remember what i said your problem is not with me i'm just being

00:15:54.220 thrown under the bus because your problem is with islam per se because that's how it comes across

00:15:58.540 because this is a reality why are you denying that reality that men and women cannot be friends and

00:16:03.900 those things are in place to protect both genders this is also why a lot of men are incapable of having

00:16:09.820 platonic relationships with women like having an acquaintance that's female if you can't look at a 0.72

00:16:13.340 conventionally attractive and then now what you're doing is for calling for something unnatural would

00:16:17.740 you would your father and your brother be okay with you having friends no because they would say

00:16:23.100 listen deep down i'm a man and i know how i've been created it can't be let alone we're living in a

00:16:29.500 hyper sexualized society if there's anyone we understand that women men find women i think there's

00:16:35.500 studies on 60 to 70 men find most women attractive women i think they said only four but they a lot of 0.99

00:16:43.180 men that they looked at they only found four point five percent attractive which again shows the

00:16:48.460 differences that we have a lot of men find a lot of women attractive but men do a woman do not find

00:16:54.380 as many men attractive and that's the reason why you're coming from your paradigm of your lodging the

00:16:58.060 way allah's created you anything this is so absurd to you it is not to us it's not a news any man that's

00:17:02.940 watching this he's thinking yeah that i'm right because you're you are so far from that reality and now

00:17:07.100 you're calling for something that's against islam and it's not natural which is what let's just be 1.00

00:17:10.620 friends we can be friends no you cannot be friends you can't be friends and islamically 0.99

00:17:16.380 and uh quran and sunnah and studies and research clearly show this reality person and not think of

00:17:22.540 them sexually i think we might have issues there's no logical explanation for this although you try to

00:17:26.700 use buzzwords and you try to posture it as such and even if you did try to provide a logical argument

00:17:30.300 you would have to presuppose things that are absurd it's not logic it's projection what you actually

00:17:33.820 mean is when you find women attractive you sexualize them you do not all men unfortunately not all men

00:17:39.100 are the same you do not all men unfortunately not all men are the same there are good men out there

00:17:43.180 and you don't set the standard do you see what i'm saying so the standard is what you are guilty

00:17:48.380 there are men that not like that this is you my this is without respect if you talk about absurdity

00:17:53.100 if there's anything you haven't given us any reference any research nothing no forget research

00:17:57.660 quran and sunnah any evidence and nothing i've brought you evidence from the quran from the sunnah from

00:18:01.980 research from studies etc all you've done is just vent yourself out that's all you've done my dear sister

00:18:06.700 and this just shows you how weak your argument is and not only that it just shows that the perception

00:18:10.460 that you have as a woman is so far from reality that's the reason why allah has ordered the man 1.00

00:18:15.180 to be the leader because there are certain that's why your guardian is not your mother is your father

00:18:19.980 because we as men we are logical and rational we see through certain things you get what i'm trying

00:18:23.980 to say and there was a study done for example that showed two a man and a woman observing a game

00:18:29.100 being played and the the ones for example if they were to cheat they get electric shock they get pain

00:18:34.220 yes okay and they also got electric shock when they did not cheat for example okay guess what

00:18:39.820 happened when both the man and the woman they responded same to a person who was getting electric

00:18:44.540 shock unjustly they did not deserve it that's wrong yes and they were they had empathy okay

00:18:50.540 however when the man who was caught cheating from both angles from a man and woman's perspective

00:18:55.100 got the electric shock the man showed signs of pleasure and the woman showed signs of empathy

00:19:00.620 which means what when it comes to judgment her judgment is clouded why because she said even

00:19:06.220 though even though he is wrong but the fact that he got electric shock i have empathy from him a man

00:19:12.940 had pleasure meaning he got what he deserved this is why it shows the differences we have and my question

00:19:19.900 and lastly i'll leave on this why is it that you are so adamantly feminist radical feminist i'm not saying 0.99

00:19:25.820 you are yes you have certain tendencies are so hell bent on making men and women the same we are not

00:19:31.420 the same in the sight of allah our deeds are the same but we are totally separate beings and we need

00:19:37.820 to accept that reality and the reason i've done this video is because she's done many videos about me and

00:19:41.180 what you've seen it's not about it's not that about me it's basically you're given a false message which

00:19:45.180 is absolutely debunked with all due respect sister so i don't want this to be a back and forth i have

00:19:49.420 nothing personal against you you're my sister in islam yes may allah make it easier on you and myself as well

00:19:53.660 okay but what i'm saying is think about it you came out here differentiating the same that i am wrong

00:20:00.700 for a reason and all you did was is because i am ali tau because you don't like me i mean imagine

00:20:06.220 i found that a video just because of who you are or that would be silly that's all i want to say

00:20:10.940 inshallah until next time assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Ali Dawah - January 27, 2026

FEMINISTS WAR AGAINST ISLAM - MEN & WOMAN CAN BE FRIENDS？

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