Ali Dawah - GIRL BLOWN AWAY BY WOMANS RIGHT IN ISLAM

00:00:00.000 You probably had boyfriends in your life or somebody who's getting to know?

00:00:02.960 Right now.

00:00:03.600 Not now, not before.

00:00:05.280 Yes.

00:00:05.900 Okay.

00:00:06.520 Your dad will be worried calling.

00:00:08.380 Are you okay?

00:00:09.180 Yeah.

00:00:09.680 Yeah?

00:00:10.080 Yes.

00:00:10.600 Okay, good.

00:00:11.200 He will check up on you?

00:00:12.280 Yes.

00:00:12.900 Why?

00:00:13.440 A woman needs trust.

00:00:15.360 Yes.

00:00:15.780 Security.

00:00:16.440 Yes.

00:00:16.740 Love.

00:00:17.340 Yeah.

00:00:17.640 Thank you.

00:00:18.400 Imagine you come and break it, break it, break it.

00:00:20.800 How are you going to trust the next man that comes?

00:00:22.880 This is how Islam protects women. 0.99

00:00:24.400 Number one, speak to the father.

00:00:25.880 Why?

00:00:26.120 Now the man is thinking, speak to the father.

00:00:28.780 I don't want marriage. 0.85

00:00:29.560 I just want to mess around.

00:00:30.620 I'm not speaking to your father.

00:00:31.600 Oh, now you know what he's about.

00:00:33.480 Do you see now?

00:00:34.160 Now do you agree?

00:00:35.460 Yeah.

00:00:35.840 Okay, good.

00:00:39.160 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

00:00:40.640 Dear brothers and sisters, as we watch what is unfolding today in Gaza, we have to understand

00:00:45.880 that opposition is counting on us to lose attention, to become fatigued, and to move on with the

00:00:51.640 new cycle.

00:00:52.420 And just as we can't allow them to dictate our attention, we also can't allow them to dictate

00:00:57.160 the pace of our solidarity.

00:00:58.300 And part of that solidarity is going to be there to rebuild Gaza short-term, long-term.

00:01:04.360 I am proud to give my support, my word of support, to trusted brothers and sisters in

00:01:09.500 the United Kingdom that have started a waqf, that have started an endowment to make sure,

00:01:13.500 inshallah ta'ala, that we're there for the long run.

00:01:15.500 I think maybe about the role of woman in Islam.

00:01:21.880 So, I've seen some wear hijab, some don't, but so, what's like the right thing to do? 1.00

00:01:29.520 Perfect.

00:01:29.820 So, the question you're asking is, you've come across Muslims, some of them sisters who

00:01:33.220 wear the hijab, some don't.

00:01:34.460 We say for you to become a Muslim, you have to believe in Allah, his books. 1.00

00:01:39.960 Oh, sorry, sorry.

00:01:41.760 It's telling me I'm moving about to him.

00:01:43.460 Sorry.

00:01:44.020 So, you can stay steady.

00:01:45.240 It's just me.

00:01:45.600 I'll keep moving here.

00:01:46.520 So, number one, you believe in God, you believe the Quran is the final message, you believe 0.97

00:01:49.700 the Prophet Muhammad is the final prophet, and you have to believe in angels, the books, 0.99

00:01:54.680 the Prophet, the Day of Judgment, etc.

00:01:57.820 So, once you accepted that, you're a Muslim. 0.88

00:02:00.280 So, for example, if you said, I want to become a Muslim, you can be a Muslim and not wear the 1.00

00:02:04.380 hijab.

00:02:05.500 Is it a sin?

00:02:06.480 Yes.

00:02:07.240 However, we say, for example, everyone has their gradual steps of getting closer.

00:02:12.140 All of us have things that we are working on.

00:02:14.100 You get what I'm trying to say?

00:02:15.080 So, to us, you can be a Muslim without wearing the hijab. 0.97

00:02:17.580 If that's stopping you, by the way.

00:02:19.100 I'm just saying, if it's stopping you.

00:02:20.280 So, what we say is, though, everyone has their gradual progress.

00:02:22.780 If you say, you know what, I would want to one day, it's totally up to you.

00:02:26.260 But the point of the hijab is why, my dear sister, is because in Islam, Islam sees a woman

00:02:34.320 in a high regard. 0.78

00:02:35.840 In the Western world, the Western world has dropped a woman to a sexual object. 0.96

00:02:40.620 Islam says, no, a woman has more to offer. 1.00

00:02:42.500 The reason why the hijab is worn is so that when a man is talking to you, he's talking 0.99

00:02:47.820 to you, not talking to something else.

00:02:49.820 And we, as men, because Islam deals with the reality of the world, we would love it to

00:02:54.100 be everybody holding hands.

00:02:55.980 But that's not the reality.

00:02:57.240 There are evil people that are after evil things.

00:02:59.200 However, the Quran doesn't say, women should cover up because men can't control themselves. 0.85

00:03:04.780 This is a big misconception.

00:03:06.120 There is no belief that, oh, you're guilty.

00:03:08.940 We don't have this concept.

00:03:09.900 For example, in Christianity, they believe the reason why the woman have pain in birth

00:03:14.360 is because of what Eve caused Adam to eat from the tree.

00:03:18.000 We don't believe that.

00:03:19.040 We don't believe anybody bears the soul of somebody else.

00:03:21.560 And not only that, in Islam, we believe a woman who's given birth, if she dies, she dies

00:03:25.580 a martyr because of what she's doing.

00:03:28.440 The hijab is there so it protects yourself and the men.

00:03:32.800 A man has to also do his bit.

00:03:34.840 So the hijab is an identity, number one, to show this is a Muslim woman.

00:03:38.500 Yeah?

00:03:38.980 And number two, we live in a society in time with the beauty industry, the opposite gender. 1.00

00:03:43.700 A woman, I'm reading a book, I love this book, I always quote it, my friends laugh at me.

00:03:48.420 I said, is this the only book you've read in your life?

00:03:50.220 It's called Beauty Sick.

00:03:51.980 You should buy it.

00:03:53.080 It's from a non-Muslim author.

00:03:54.580 It's called Beauty Sick.

00:03:55.660 And she talks about women who are starving themselves to have the perfect body. 1.00

00:04:02.380 Why should you be judged based on your looks?

00:04:05.420 Why should someone judge you based on your body?

00:04:07.880 So that's why Islam has come to protect you and also to protect you against other women. 1.00

00:04:13.880 How?

00:04:14.480 Because women tend to look at other women. 1.00

00:04:16.740 Oh, she's got this.

00:04:17.560 Oh, look at her. 1.00

00:04:18.620 When you are covered up, that is your privacy.

00:04:21.860 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:04:23.020 You are judged based on your intellect.

00:04:26.220 Not, you know, there was a woman, a Brazilian woman.

00:04:30.000 She died because she got bum implants. 1.00

00:04:32.680 She got butt implants, excuse me. 1.00

00:04:34.860 And she died in the process. 0.99

00:04:35.920 There are millions of women around the world who are made to feel ugly, who are made to feel sorry. 1.00

00:04:42.500 Islam says, no, you have a soul. 1.00

00:04:45.060 You are a human being.

00:04:47.000 You have so much to offer than your looks and your beauty.

00:04:52.020 So Islam says, you should not be judged based on your appearance.

00:04:55.520 So when a woman covers up, when she wears the abaya, when she wears the hijab, etc. 0.86

00:05:01.200 Men, obviously you see as well, because men are visual creatures as well.

00:05:04.560 But it's so also that men do not fall in love the wrong way.

00:05:08.080 Because a man can fall in love the wrong way.

00:05:10.540 You know, we are men.

00:05:11.400 Yeah.

00:05:11.660 What happens is they give the woman false promises. 1.00

00:05:14.280 They see a woman.

00:05:15.480 They just like her.

00:05:16.200 It's lust.

00:05:16.840 It's not love.

00:05:17.840 So what do they do? 0.90

00:05:18.820 They come and abuse that woman. 1.00

00:05:21.760 For example, there were studies that showed the amount of women catcalling, sexually harassed. 0.98

00:05:26.800 Why can you not walk down the road in peace?

00:05:30.060 Why does men have to come and, oh, whatever, whatever, whatever. 0.66

00:05:33.980 So in Islam, Allah tells us in the Quran, it teaches a man that to lower your gaze, to look away.

00:05:40.900 Obviously because I'm talking to you, I'm trying to obviously, I don't want to be rude and be like, you know, here, looking here.

00:05:45.400 But usually in my religion, it teaches me that I should lower my gaze.

00:05:49.680 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:05:50.500 Why?

00:05:51.200 Because Allah is teaching me, do not look at a woman in a sexually objectified way.

00:05:56.360 So that's why as Muslim men, we are told, I was actually standing with one guy there.

00:06:00.520 I was talking to him like this and he turned his back.

00:06:03.100 I said, why did you move?

00:06:04.520 He said, there was someone he saw behind me who was dressed a bit inappropriately.

00:06:09.340 He said, I don't, I just want to, I want to lower my gaze.

00:06:11.720 And I thought, that's such a beautiful thing.

00:06:13.320 If we taught our sons and our men that, listen, don't look at a woman in a sexual objectified way.

00:06:19.140 And by the way, not if she's dressed up in a bikini, even if she's wearing a hijab. 0.99

00:06:24.800 Don't look at her in that way.

00:06:27.040 That's number one.

00:06:27.900 Number two, what Islam does is to start, it deals with it in a micro level. 1.00

00:06:31.760 We don't believe you have a Ferrari and you have a half-naked woman or you have a chocolate bar. 1.00

00:06:37.580 What's a chocolate got to do with a woman? 1.00

00:06:39.060 So this is what happens.

00:06:41.640 The Western system has sexually objectified woman. 1.00

00:06:44.480 That's why there was a study done in America, in a university.

00:06:47.560 They put these wires in the man's brain, in his head.

00:06:51.200 And they showed him, you know, like screwdriver, different tools.

00:06:55.960 And then they showed the man, the man, woman in bikini.

00:07:00.740 The part of the brain that lights up for tool use.

00:07:04.260 Do you know what that means?

00:07:05.500 He did not see them as human.

00:07:07.300 So when he was looking at these pictures of women in bikini, the part of the brain that lights up for tool use was letar.

00:07:14.360 This is the problem.

00:07:15.680 What we have today is that men abusing women. 0.92

00:07:20.080 Dating is the biggest fraud for women. 1.00

00:07:23.240 Should I tell you, for example, how I married my wife?

00:07:25.800 Let me tell you.

00:07:26.620 You might want to hear the story.

00:07:27.620 Are you ready for it?

00:07:28.260 Yes.

00:07:28.740 Okay.

00:07:29.780 My wife might be watching this. 0.99

00:07:32.120 Check this out.

00:07:32.800 Now, this is what I say when I say Islam on this woman. 1.00

00:07:36.340 Every five people that come to Islam, three are women.

00:07:40.460 People say, why?

00:07:41.160 Because it's oppressed, whatever.

00:07:43.220 Check this out.

00:07:44.440 When I met my wife, obviously I got to know her a little bit.

00:07:48.220 I think I spoke to her, the first day I met her, I was talking for about a good five, six hours.

00:07:53.740 It was over, like, on the phone.

00:07:56.660 I was talking.

00:07:57.440 It's okay to get to know her.

00:07:58.460 Now, after that, I had to go and speak to her father.

00:08:02.440 Why?

00:08:03.300 She's smiling.

00:08:04.020 Why is she smiling?

00:08:04.840 Because she knows, yeah, the dad is going to finish you.

00:08:08.760 So, the point is this, sister.

00:08:10.620 I went to the father to say what?

00:08:12.360 I would like your permission to get to know your daughter for marriage.

00:08:17.180 And he says, okay, my son, you have my blessing.

00:08:19.660 He said, thank you for coming to me.

00:08:21.340 Would you not appreciate that?

00:08:22.440 Imagine a man coming and saying,

00:08:24.600 Antia, I am interested in getting to know you for marriage.

00:08:28.220 Because you don't know each other yet.

00:08:29.440 It would be a bit weird if someone said, can I marry you?

00:08:31.320 He said, I don't even know you.

00:08:32.780 Would you not appreciate it?

00:08:34.060 And would your father not appreciate it if a man came and said,

00:08:37.100 Antia, can I speak to your father?

00:08:40.920 I don't know.

00:08:41.580 This is something I don't agree with.

00:08:42.900 Because I feel like I'm making my own decisions.

00:08:45.400 And I don't want...

00:08:46.900 I feel like if someone's asking for my dad's blessing,

00:08:49.860 it means that I'm not important enough that I'm making the decision.

00:08:53.500 But my dad is like superior.

00:08:55.420 Good.

00:08:55.860 So this is a big misconception.

00:08:57.780 This idea, what happens is the following.

00:08:59.720 We think that, for example, me going to your father,

00:09:03.260 it makes you less.

00:09:04.600 You have a decision.

00:09:05.380 In Islam, a woman has a right to say, 0.97

00:09:07.760 I would not like to marry him.

00:09:09.800 Full right.

00:09:10.540 A woman has a right to divorce, by the way. 1.00

00:09:12.560 You have full right to divorce.

00:09:13.180 What we're saying is the following.

00:09:15.000 A man can...

00:09:16.540 Because this is why they say, for example,

00:09:18.440 why do men lie?

00:09:20.660 Yeah?

00:09:21.100 Okay.

00:09:21.600 Why do men lie?

00:09:22.560 Okay.

00:09:22.900 Because, for example, we are visual creatures.

00:09:24.900 Okay.

00:09:25.860 The reason why women wear makeup and the reason why men lie 0.98

00:09:28.560 is because men fall for what they see

00:09:31.360 and women fall for what they hear. 1.00

00:09:33.580 Okay.

00:09:34.140 So now what we're saying is a man could have power over you.

00:09:38.180 Easily.

00:09:39.180 He can...

00:09:39.700 Argumentally.

00:09:40.060 You can meet him on the first day.

00:09:41.800 Lovely guy, etc.

00:09:42.640 No harm.

00:09:44.460 He can try to...

00:09:46.380 Whatever.

00:09:47.400 And he has that power over you.

00:09:48.860 You would agree that a man is stronger than a woman. 1.00

00:09:51.800 Yes.

00:09:52.360 It's a biological fact.

00:09:53.520 Now, Islam says prevention is better than cure. 0.97

00:09:57.080 So Islam says we don't deal with, 1.00

00:09:58.660 go, try, let's see, cut it from the roots. 0.98

00:10:01.580 Not drink alcohol, then we'll take you to rehab.

00:10:03.880 Go do...

00:10:04.380 No, no, no.

00:10:05.080 Don't go there.

00:10:06.140 Don't watch pornography.

00:10:07.120 Don't do this stuff.

00:10:08.160 So Islam acknowledges reality.

00:10:09.920 Now, in the real world, I agree with you.

00:10:11.660 It should be that he comes and speaks to you.

00:10:14.240 But because Islam knows how Allah has created the woman and the man, 0.99

00:10:18.240 Islam sees the man as a threat to you.

00:10:20.500 And it says only a man knows a man.

00:10:22.200 So therefore, let him go speak to your father.

00:10:25.000 It's from that angle.

00:10:26.020 Not from the angle you cannot make your choice.

00:10:27.380 Because in Islam, my wife had the right to say, 0.73

00:10:29.900 you know what, father?

00:10:30.500 I don't want to marry him.

00:10:32.000 I don't want to know him.

00:10:33.000 It's there to protect you.

00:10:34.660 Because why?

00:10:35.280 He can say, let's go on a date.

00:10:36.800 Because bear in mind, sister,

00:10:38.960 a woman, women are the gatekeepers of sex. 1.00

00:10:41.440 They are the gatekeepers of sex. 0.99

00:10:42.620 If they say no, it's a no.

00:10:44.120 So what we're saying is we hear this start of one night stands.

00:10:47.820 And sometimes there's so many factors of sexually transmitted.

00:10:50.420 You know in London, there are one million people that have STDs.

00:10:53.720 One million people, yeah?

00:10:55.600 Now, there's that. 0.89

00:10:56.980 There's a factor of him killing you.

00:10:58.260 There was a woman who was kidnapped.

00:10:59.300 I don't know, a couple of years ago.

00:11:01.780 She was kidnapped and killed, yeah?

00:11:03.720 So Islam says these factors are things that are threatening the woman.

00:11:07.060 What are the protocols that we have to protect her?

00:11:09.640 So it's more of a protection and care.

00:11:12.240 So that's the reason when he speaks to the father.

00:11:13.820 Your father, when you go to your father,

00:11:15.960 if you went to your father and said, I have a boyfriend,

00:11:17.500 your father will have a discomfort.

00:11:20.600 And he's smiling.

00:11:21.200 Why?

00:11:21.860 Because a man knows a man.

00:11:23.400 And he's like, okay, is this guy...

00:11:25.280 I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

00:11:25.840 I can't help it, man.

00:11:26.860 I can't stand in one place.

00:11:28.040 Okay, I'm going to try my best.

00:11:29.800 Why, sister? 0.94

00:11:30.880 Because your father knows himself.

00:11:34.440 He's like, I'm a man.

00:11:35.460 That's what we say to our sisters.

00:11:36.620 Listen, I'm a man.

00:11:37.740 And sometimes when I speak to my wife,

00:11:39.120 she's like, listen, I'm a woman.

00:11:40.000 I know how women think. 1.00

00:11:40.760 I'm like, okay, I trust you.

00:11:42.140 So your father knows a man.

00:11:45.800 So if a man goes to your father,

00:11:48.780 he can suss him out.

00:11:49.900 Because otherwise, in your dad's mind,

00:11:52.840 he's worried.

00:11:54.180 Argument's sake,

00:11:54.780 you may have had boyfriends in your life.

00:11:57.780 Probably somebody that you was with.

00:11:59.580 Did you have a...

00:12:00.220 You probably had boyfriends in your life?

00:12:01.600 Or somebody you was getting to know?

00:12:03.140 Right now?

00:12:03.760 No.

00:12:03.920 Not now, not before?

00:12:05.380 Yes.

00:12:06.060 Okay.

00:12:06.820 Your dad would be worried, calling.

00:12:08.500 Are you okay?

00:12:09.360 Yeah.

00:12:09.840 Yeah?

00:12:10.280 Yes.

00:12:10.780 Okay, good.

00:12:11.140 He will check up on you?

00:12:12.460 Yes.

00:12:13.060 Why?

00:12:14.180 To make sure I'm okay and safe and comfortable.

00:12:16.840 Good.

00:12:17.040 Do you think your boyfriend that you had before,

00:12:20.800 do you think the mother is ringing him and saying,

00:12:22.880 hello, are you okay?

00:12:23.480 Is she...

00:12:23.980 Is she...

00:12:24.720 Is she...

00:12:25.220 Why?

00:12:26.100 Because they know he has the power.

00:12:28.420 He's good.

00:12:30.120 But if it's...

00:12:30.700 I have three daughters.

00:12:31.800 I have three daughters.

00:12:32.740 I know the dangers and the threats that face them.

00:12:35.120 If I had a son,

00:12:36.280 oh man,

00:12:37.300 don't come at night.

00:12:38.200 I don't care.

00:12:38.520 Because you have the ability to fight.

00:12:40.200 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:12:40.720 Obviously, there are some women who are MMA fighters. 1.00

00:12:43.080 That's exceptions to the rule.

00:12:44.400 The point is what?

00:12:46.060 It's because your dad cares about you.

00:12:47.900 And if your dad had the power,

00:12:49.040 your dad will say what to you?

00:12:50.240 Listen.

00:12:50.900 And for example,

00:12:51.480 let's say you had a bad breakup.

00:12:53.340 Your dad will come and say to you,

00:12:54.260 the next person,

00:12:55.000 let me talk to him.

00:12:56.500 That's protocol number one, by the way.

00:12:58.060 This is how Islam protects women. 0.99

00:12:59.340 Number one,

00:12:59.900 speak to the father.

00:13:00.820 Why?

00:13:01.080 Now the man is thinking,

00:13:01.800 speak to the father.

00:13:03.760 I don't want marriage. 0.85

00:13:04.560 I just want to mess around.

00:13:05.560 I'm not speaking to your father.

00:13:06.560 Oh,

00:13:07.040 now you know what he's about.

00:13:08.420 Do you see now?

00:13:08.940 Now do you agree?

00:13:10.440 Yeah.

00:13:10.760 Okay, good.

00:13:11.460 So,

00:13:11.860 now,

00:13:12.840 that's protocol number one.

00:13:13.920 It's not finished yet.

00:13:14.580 Oh my gosh,

00:13:15.260 sister,

00:13:15.560 this is the beginning.

00:13:16.560 Do you know what I have to do?

00:13:17.420 That's protocol number one.

00:13:18.540 I had to speak to the father.

00:13:20.220 Then after I spoke to the father,

00:13:21.320 now,

00:13:21.660 I'm getting to know my wife for marriage. 0.91

00:13:23.260 Before.

00:13:24.760 Then,

00:13:25.200 he will send a chaperone.

00:13:26.800 Either her sister,

00:13:27.980 or somebody,

00:13:28.740 who when we're getting to know each other,

00:13:29.900 who's there keeping an eye.

00:13:32.220 Got eyes on you.

00:13:34.420 Okay. 1.00

00:13:35.500 They're going to kill you. 1.00

00:13:36.460 Now, 1.00

00:13:37.600 we will go on to,

00:13:39.120 I don't want to call it dates,

00:13:40.280 because it has a bad connotation,

00:13:41.660 but getting to know her.

00:13:42.480 So,

00:13:42.660 we will sometimes go out to eat,

00:13:44.120 we'll go for a walk.

00:13:45.340 Somebody that is there,

00:13:46.400 that's just with us.

00:13:47.580 They don't need to be there.

00:13:48.880 Like,

00:13:49.080 if we're in the restaurant,

00:13:49.600 they'll say,

00:13:49.980 yeah,

00:13:50.060 go sit on the other table.

00:13:51.180 I want to ask some questions.

00:13:52.220 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:13:53.700 That's number two.

00:13:54.420 So,

00:13:54.600 when we're getting to know each other,

00:13:55.520 why?

00:13:56.200 Because a man can say,

00:13:57.220 you know what?

00:13:57.860 Yeah,

00:13:58.120 you know,

00:13:58.280 let me drop you home.

00:13:59.780 He might have bad intentions.

00:14:00.700 He might put something in your drink.

00:14:02.380 So,

00:14:02.820 why?

00:14:03.080 You have the third person there,

00:14:04.200 keeping an eye on both of you.

00:14:05.720 Because the Prophet Muhammad,

00:14:06.700 peace be upon him,

00:14:07.100 said,

00:14:07.560 when a man and a woman is alone,

00:14:09.780 the third is Satan.

00:14:11.920 Because that's how we're created.

00:14:13.080 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:14:13.420 It's like fire and petrol.

00:14:16.080 Boom.

00:14:16.520 Explosion.

00:14:17.520 So,

00:14:18.280 protocol number two.

00:14:19.200 Number three,

00:14:19.780 do you know what I had to do?

00:14:21.260 Dowry.

00:14:22.460 Do you know a dowry?

00:14:23.760 Yes.

00:14:24.400 My wife,

00:14:24.900 she gave me an installment plan.

00:14:26.620 Literal installment plan,

00:14:27.760 yeah?

00:14:28.120 She's laughing.

00:14:28.940 Inst installment plan.

00:14:29.520 Why?

00:14:30.140 She asked for a specific,

00:14:31.080 and I said,

00:14:31.360 you know what?

00:14:33.140 I have to work a bit hard.

00:14:34.600 I have to do some night shifts or that,

00:14:35.780 yeah?

00:14:36.340 But,

00:14:37.020 Alhamdulillah,

00:14:37.780 my intentions were what?

00:14:38.780 Marriage.

00:14:39.440 If I was not interested in marriage,

00:14:41.840 if my intentions were to sleep around,

00:14:45.660 I don't want to meet your dad.

00:14:47.020 I don't want a chaperone.

00:14:48.120 And you're asking me for this much money.

00:14:49.720 What?

00:14:50.340 Get out of here, bruv.

00:14:52.000 Forgive me for saying this,

00:14:53.280 but they can go to some woman who's, 1.00

00:14:55.560 whatever,

00:14:56.020 for whatever,

00:14:56.420 yeah?

00:14:56.780 If the man's intention is that.

00:14:58.120 I had no problem.

00:14:58.900 You know why?

00:14:59.520 Because I said,

00:15:00.340 I want to marry you.

00:15:01.320 I'm happy with you.

00:15:02.420 The third protocol is what?

00:15:03.840 I had to pay the mahr.

00:15:05.460 And obviously,

00:15:05.900 she asked for some goat.

00:15:07.180 I was in a bit of debt,

00:15:08.780 but I'm joking.

00:15:10.100 The point is this.

00:15:11.180 I had to pay her that.

00:15:12.380 You know why?

00:15:13.020 That is her security.

00:15:15.040 If me and her divorce,

00:15:16.280 she has that money to rely on Islam. 0.90

00:15:19.280 Does that make sense?

00:15:20.020 Yeah, it makes sense.

00:15:20.840 I think you're going to accept Islam today.

00:15:22.820 I'm joking.

00:15:23.740 Inshallah.

00:15:24.320 So,

00:15:25.040 the third thing is what?

00:15:26.620 It's her security.

00:15:28.060 Because now,

00:15:28.900 if that's not there,

00:15:29.560 also she can go back to her father's house.

00:15:31.020 Her father will look after her.

00:15:32.220 My duty is not to look after my wife.

00:15:34.360 It's my daughter and my mom.

00:15:36.320 Because men,

00:15:36.860 we believe,

00:15:37.420 are the head of the house.

00:15:39.040 So,

00:15:39.400 just to make that clear,

00:15:40.000 I don't want to make a sugarcoat it.

00:15:41.460 Men are the ones, 1.00

00:15:42.100 of course I listen to my wife,

00:15:43.060 but men are the ones that Allah says in the Quran,

00:15:45.820 that we are the protectors and providers.

00:15:47.280 We're full-time bodyguards.

00:15:48.560 If you think about it,

00:15:49.100 when a thief,

00:15:49.800 like you know they talk about feminism. 1.00

00:15:51.300 Yeah, 0.93

00:15:51.420 you're a feminist until a thief breaks. 1.00

00:15:52.920 Get out, 0.98

00:15:53.280 get up,

00:15:53.540 go see.

00:15:53.940 You go.

00:15:55.280 Imagine me telling my wife,

00:15:56.160 you go and she's breaking the window. 1.00

00:15:59.040 It's a thief.

00:15:59.560 You go. 0.74

00:16:00.240 But I have to go,

00:16:00.920 right? 0.62

00:16:01.460 And we can die in the process,

00:16:02.920 but we are proud of that.

00:16:04.260 Now,

00:16:05.220 third,

00:16:05.760 number four,

00:16:06.900 you have to make a wedding.

00:16:08.840 It doesn't have to be extravagant.

00:16:10.780 Simple wedding,

00:16:11.760 and you have to announce it.

00:16:13.540 Why?

00:16:14.340 Because if he,

00:16:15.120 he might be a rich guy.

00:16:16.460 He has no problem speaking to your dad,

00:16:18.360 but maybe he wants to keep you secret.

00:16:20.960 And do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:16:22.000 Nah,

00:16:22.400 now you need to announce it to the community.

00:16:24.400 This is my wife,

00:16:25.140 by the way,

00:16:25.480 guys,

00:16:25.700 come to my wedding.

00:16:26.600 Here's my wife, 1.00

00:16:27.180 meet my wife.

00:16:27.880 You're announcing it to the public.

00:16:29.920 So if you do something wrong,

00:16:32.020 the community will take you to account.

00:16:34.060 Why are you treating her?

00:16:34.640 We came to your wedding.

00:16:35.660 Why are you treating her like that? 1.00

00:16:37.340 Number three,

00:16:38.000 number four.

00:16:38.640 Now,

00:16:39.140 it doesn't even finish here.

00:16:41.260 They told you about women oppressed, 1.00

00:16:42.600 yeah?

00:16:43.000 You're probably thinking,

00:16:43.760 I need to be a Muslim.

00:16:45.100 Yeah,

00:16:45.240 we need to be,

00:16:45.680 you know,

00:16:47.300 are you guys friends?

00:16:48.260 Yeah.

00:16:48.600 Yeah,

00:16:48.820 friends,

00:16:49.160 yeah,

00:16:49.320 okay.

00:16:49.780 So the thing is,

00:16:50.280 maybe one day she would want to marry a Muslim man.

00:16:52.080 So the point is this,

00:16:53.540 after that,

00:16:54.200 now,

00:16:54.640 I,

00:16:55.080 Allah says in the Quran,

00:16:55.860 men are the maintainers and protectors.

00:16:57.940 that means,

00:16:59.160 my wife,

00:17:00.520 I pay the rent.

00:17:01.460 I pay the shopping.

00:17:03.940 I pay the petrol.

00:17:05.380 I pay the tax.

00:17:06.680 I pay the insurance.

00:17:08.000 I pay for the kids.

00:17:10.100 You are not allowed,

00:17:11.560 a woman,

00:17:12.620 you don't need to give a single penny.

00:17:15.320 In Islam,

00:17:16.420 you do not need to give one pound.

00:17:19.040 If you was a millionaire,

00:17:21.120 and your husband worked nine to five,

00:17:23.800 you don't need to give him one pound.

00:17:25.660 That's your money.

00:17:26.580 And you know the money,

00:17:27.360 gave the dowry?

00:17:28.320 That's yours.

00:17:29.280 The gold?

00:17:29.860 That's yours.

00:17:31.060 Why?

00:17:31.560 Because Islam acknowledges,

00:17:32.840 but the man is that head of the household.

00:17:36.200 There has to be,

00:17:36.820 we believe in obedience,

00:17:38.000 but what does that mean?

00:17:38.900 Because it has a connotation.

00:17:40.260 Obedience doesn't mean he beats you up.

00:17:42.520 It's not permissible in Islam.

00:17:44.020 So,

00:17:44.440 the point is what,

00:17:45.160 sister?

00:17:45.840 Does these protocols that are in place,

00:17:48.620 does it not have the advantage of the woman? 0.99

00:17:51.840 Seems so.

00:17:52.800 Okay.

00:17:53.360 So,

00:17:53.960 what I'm saying,

00:17:54.740 I promise you,

00:17:55.340 is not a lie.

00:17:55.820 I'm not making it up to make Islam look. 0.78

00:17:57.300 I've told you as well,

00:17:58.500 men,

00:17:58.960 men,

00:17:59.280 we look for obedience.

00:18:00.560 So,

00:18:00.840 my wife,

00:18:01.680 I would want her to be obedient towards me.

00:18:03.360 In what?

00:18:03.860 Not,

00:18:04.340 I oppress her,

00:18:05.920 but,

00:18:06.640 for example,

00:18:07.320 Allah has protocols in place.

00:18:08.920 When you get into a dispute,

00:18:11.060 the Quran is such a beautiful thing,

00:18:12.460 it tells you how to manage your disputes.

00:18:14.280 When you guys have friction,

00:18:15.600 when problems arise.

00:18:17.440 Why?

00:18:18.000 Because Islam acknowledges

00:18:19.500 that a woman, 0.99

00:18:20.740 there's weakness towards them. 0.97

00:18:22.060 I believe women are mentally stronger than us. 1.00

00:18:24.940 We men,

00:18:25.640 we're physically stronger,

00:18:26.280 but you guys are mentally stronger.

00:18:27.980 You speak more,

00:18:28.700 you can cry.

00:18:29.460 I can't cry to my friend.

00:18:30.320 My wife didn't know. 1.00

00:18:31.460 Shut up, 1.00

00:18:31.940 get up, 1.00

00:18:32.220 be a man.

00:18:33.220 But as women, 0.92

00:18:33.860 you guys express yourself.

00:18:35.200 You can cry.

00:18:36.380 So,

00:18:36.600 the point is this,

00:18:37.300 sister,

00:18:37.840 these things are all set in place

00:18:39.940 for us men to appreciate.

00:18:42.320 Now,

00:18:42.500 I'm asking you a question.

00:18:43.920 If every man done this,

00:18:46.340 would there any be a situation

00:18:47.740 where a woman is heartbroken

00:18:48.920 because she was used for intimacy

00:18:50.180 and left?

00:18:51.500 Probably not.

00:18:52.420 Never.

00:18:52.820 This is the point here,

00:18:54.420 sister.

00:18:55.000 If every woman, 0.99

00:18:56.020 that's why I say women are the gatekeepers of sex. 1.00

00:18:58.160 If every woman said, 0.98

00:18:59.240 no,

00:18:59.980 I'm not dating you.

00:19:01.460 Yeah,

00:19:01.740 why?

00:19:02.300 Because when you go to a, 0.98

00:19:03.360 you know when you go to get a Bugatti?

00:19:05.220 You know Bugatti,

00:19:06.080 a car Bugatti?

00:19:07.080 Do you know you can't be just rich?

00:19:08.460 It's not a matter of being rich.

00:19:10.240 Who are you?

00:19:11.800 You come to the store,

00:19:12.760 they say,

00:19:12.960 okay,

00:19:13.200 oh,

00:19:13.400 I'm a millionaire.

00:19:14.000 Okay,

00:19:14.420 no problem.

00:19:14.980 We've got many millionaires.

00:19:16.160 Who are you?

00:19:17.760 Because our car, 1.00

00:19:19.120 you might be someone who's an idiot 1.00

00:19:20.740 who gives us a bad reputation, 1.00

00:19:22.900 yeah?

00:19:23.900 We say woman is far more valuable 0.99

00:19:26.040 than any car,

00:19:27.260 any diamond.

00:19:28.360 That's the reason why

00:19:29.340 when you go to buy a Bugatti,

00:19:31.020 they check who you are.

00:19:32.340 Money is,

00:19:33.100 you're going to pay for it anyways.

00:19:34.400 What kind of person you are?

00:19:35.740 What kind of reputation

00:19:36.460 you're going to give to Bugatti?

00:19:37.940 These are the protocols it goes through.

00:19:39.960 Now,

00:19:40.380 after you've gone through that,

00:19:41.360 if somebody works hard for something,

00:19:43.500 he would appreciate that.

00:19:44.360 Yes or no?

00:19:45.180 Yes.

00:19:45.760 That is the point.

00:19:46.760 Now,

00:19:47.140 when that happens,

00:19:48.100 this is the reason why,

00:19:50.440 in Islam,

00:19:51.260 the man has to go through

00:19:52.220 all of this stuff

00:19:52.940 and then,

00:19:53.920 when he marries,

00:19:54.880 he appreciates that.

00:19:56.380 But,

00:19:57.060 if you,

00:19:57.760 if a woman, 0.95

00:19:58.420 if a man,

00:19:58.940 if a man,

00:19:59.820 if a man goes to a woman 0.91

00:20:01.200 and says,

00:20:02.400 oh,

00:20:02.540 let me take you out for a day,

00:20:03.380 you're so beautiful.

00:20:04.120 And she's like,

00:20:04.360 oh my gosh,

00:20:05.320 Romeo,

00:20:06.380 he's such a charming guy

00:20:07.600 and he's just,

00:20:08.700 his intention is just 0.99

00:20:09.960 to have sex and go. 1.00

00:20:11.780 You have dishonored that woman. 1.00

00:20:14.040 That's why I believe

00:20:14.720 the Western system

00:20:15.680 has dropped women 0.98

00:20:16.380 to such a level,

00:20:17.700 forgive me for saying this,

00:20:19.000 and I disagree with you,

00:20:20.080 that's why I'm saying it.

00:20:20.920 It's as if they are toilets.

00:20:22.400 You're basically like,

00:20:23.140 why do you go toilet?

00:20:24.160 To relieve yourself,

00:20:25.080 yes?

00:20:25.260 These men are treating 0.57

00:20:27.320 these women like toilets, 1.00

00:20:28.480 like you can just go, 0.97

00:20:29.560 have intimacy,

00:20:30.320 relieve yourself,

00:20:31.320 and go away. 0.96

00:20:32.140 You're breaking that woman. 0.99

00:20:33.760 That woman, 1.00

00:20:34.220 a woman needs trust.

00:20:35.800 Yes.

00:20:36.220 Security.

00:20:36.880 Yes.

00:20:37.180 Love.

00:20:37.780 Yeah.

00:20:38.080 Thank you.

00:20:38.840 Imagine you come and break it,

00:20:40.260 break it,

00:20:40.660 break it.

00:20:41.220 How are you going to trust

00:20:42.380 the next man that comes?

00:20:43.700 You can't.

00:20:44.280 And this is why women 1.00

00:20:45.580 end up breaking the next man

00:20:47.300 they come across

00:20:47.880 because they don't know

00:20:48.460 how to trust.

00:20:49.300 They don't know how to love anymore

00:20:50.400 because you broke that.

00:20:52.360 That's why Islam says, 0.97

00:20:53.980 you,

00:20:54.260 when I say to you,

00:20:54.920 as a woman,

00:20:55.420 your soul,

00:20:55.920 your mind,

00:20:56.760 Islam protects that. 0.93

00:20:58.660 It says no.

00:20:59.940 And when you cover up,

00:21:01.180 it says,

00:21:01.820 you don't want a man 1.00

00:21:02.540 to lust of you.

00:21:04.020 You want him to love you.

00:21:05.460 So that's why Islam says, 0.97

00:21:06.920 when a woman is covered up 1.00

00:21:07.880 of beauty,

00:21:08.520 yeah,

00:21:09.280 what happens is,

00:21:09.940 the man is thinking,

00:21:10.960 I like her for who she is,

00:21:13.120 not what she possesses.

00:21:15.140 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:21:16.100 And that's why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, 0.99

00:21:17.740 God Almighty,

00:21:18.660 has put these things in place,

00:21:19.800 so that you,

00:21:21.360 as a woman,

00:21:22.200 are protected.

00:21:23.520 You are,

00:21:23.920 because if you're broken,

00:21:26.180 we believe you guys,

00:21:27.320 mothers make societies. 1.00

00:21:29.280 Like,

00:21:29.540 there's one scholar,

00:21:30.180 he said,

00:21:30.520 women are half the population

00:21:32.600 of the earth,

00:21:33.180 and they give birth

00:21:33.860 to the other half.

00:21:34.820 Isn't that true?

00:21:35.680 Yeah.

00:21:35.980 Thank you.

00:21:36.520 So,

00:21:36.900 we believe women are the backbone 0.95

00:21:38.500 of the Ummah,

00:21:39.820 Islamic nation.

00:21:40.800 That's why women have to be protected, 1.00

00:21:42.640 because you can easily be swayed.

00:21:44.800 You have your menses,

00:21:45.820 your menopause,

00:21:46.820 you get it,

00:21:47.140 you have moments where you say

00:21:48.040 things you don't mean.

00:21:48.960 You know women, 1.00

00:21:49.660 they speak covertly.

00:21:51.000 If you say yes,

00:21:51.520 it means no.

00:21:52.300 If you say no,

00:21:52.800 it means yes.

00:21:53.280 If you say yes,

00:21:54.060 it means maybe.

00:21:55.300 So,

00:21:55.740 Allah has acknowledged

00:21:57.120 how you were created.

00:21:58.980 That's why Allah 0.99

00:21:59.840 has given you

00:22:00.960 the protocols

00:22:02.160 to protect you.

00:22:03.540 And when we don't do this,

00:22:04.600 sister,

00:22:05.000 in a nutshell,

00:22:05.560 I don't want to give a sermon.

00:22:07.400 This is why you have women 1.00

00:22:08.720 who are broken,

00:22:10.160 who are being abused,

00:22:11.040 and etc.

00:22:11.320 Jesus is gone!

00:22:12.360 Jesus is gone!

00:22:13.040 Not a person!

00:22:14.740 Allah!

00:22:17.180 Sorry,

00:22:17.620 this place is a bit of a mental house, 0.62

00:22:18.640 by the way.

00:22:19.240 I'm the caretaker here.

00:22:21.000 Okay,

00:22:21.720 yeah.

00:22:22.220 So,

00:22:22.340 the thing is here,

00:22:23.580 sister,

00:22:24.100 this is why women, 1.00

00:22:25.440 if you look,

00:22:25.880 for example,

00:22:26.460 bro,

00:22:26.860 look at studies,

00:22:27.760 women are less happy. 1.00

00:22:29.300 Why?

00:22:29.800 Because of this,

00:22:30.480 bro,

00:22:30.700 one night stands,

00:22:32.140 you're going around,

00:22:33.200 men are using you, 1.00

00:22:34.520 and this is why the women 1.00

00:22:35.740 start behaving in that way.

00:22:36.780 You know why?

00:22:37.360 Because we as men,

00:22:38.960 have let them down.

00:22:40.620 If we fixed up,

00:22:41.880 and I'll be honest,

00:22:42.680 we have to sometimes call it,

00:22:44.060 we as men,

00:22:44.780 we need to fix up.

00:22:46.000 And that's why I mentioned,

00:22:47.460 before I came to Islam,

00:22:49.720 well actually,

00:22:50.380 when I came to Islam,

00:22:51.480 before Islam,

00:22:52.280 I was,

00:22:52.540 you know how these men

00:22:53.120 I'm talking about,

00:22:53.680 that was me.

00:22:55.480 I,

00:22:55.980 I saw women as a human being 1.00

00:22:58.060 when I became a Muslim.

00:22:59.240 Before that,

00:22:59.880 I did not see them as human.

00:23:01.580 Because my society

00:23:02.680 made me like that.

00:23:03.600 When I became a Muslim,

00:23:05.040 that is when I was like,

00:23:06.400 oh my gosh,

00:23:07.480 and I repented,

00:23:08.200 and I changed my ways.

00:23:09.340 And this is the reason

00:23:09.880 why I talk about this.

00:23:10.860 Why?

00:23:11.420 Because Islam has come 1.00

00:23:12.440 to honor women.

00:23:13.400 And that's why

00:23:13.920 answering your question

00:23:14.600 of the hijab.

00:23:15.720 Thank you so much.

00:23:16.600 I learned a lot.

00:23:17.280 May Allah bless you.

00:23:17.900 Any other questions?

00:23:19.500 No problem.

00:23:20.120 If you have any other questions,

00:23:21.100 sister,

00:23:21.780 we're here,

00:23:22.220 you go to Quran.

00:23:23.540 If you want to,

00:23:24.580 if you ever come to Islam,

00:23:25.600 inshallah you do,

00:23:26.100 like I said before,

00:23:27.080 there's so many things.

00:23:27.840 These are the things

00:23:28.220 I'm just mentioning.

00:23:28.960 But,

00:23:29.740 pray to God.

00:23:30.320 I did this 13,

00:23:31.780 14 years ago.

00:23:32.720 I said,

00:23:32.980 God, if you're there,

00:23:34.120 guide me to the truth.

00:23:35.600 And, yeah,

00:23:35.980 hopefully I'll leave that

00:23:36.500 with you, sister.

00:23:36.980 May Allah bless you,

00:23:37.440 inshallah.

00:23:38.020 And if there's anything

00:23:38.600 you have,

00:23:38.920 we're here every Sunday.

00:23:40.140 Thank you, sister.

00:23:40.820 Sister Antia.

00:23:41.320 Take care.

00:23:41.700 Al-Khavtisav, inshallah.

00:23:42.940 Barakabal.

00:23:43.240 Al-Khavtisav, inshallah.

00:23:44.500 And may Allah bless you.

00:23:44.980 Take care, sister Antia.

00:23:45.700 Take care.

00:23:46.000 As-salamu alaykum.

00:23:46.340 Thank you.

00:23:46.600 Good night.

00:23:46.860 Thank you so much.

Ali Dawah - May 06, 2024

GIRL BLOWN AWAY BY WOMANS RIGHT IN ISLAM

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