Ali Dawah - November 15, 2022


HIJABI FEMINIST VS ALI DAWAH - GETS HEATED ｜｜ PART 1


Episode Stats

Length

39 minutes

Words per Minute

220.53426

Word Count

8,652

Sentence Count

1,064

Misogynist Sentences

93

Hate Speech Sentences

129


Summary

Jummah Kutbahaykum on the difference between a woman and a man in the bedroom and in a vulnerable state. Do we all agree that a woman should be protected in her most vulnerable state?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Still in the conversation?
00:00:00.800 I'm still in the conversation.
00:00:01.400 Okay, sister.
00:00:02.420 You've been talking and rambling.
00:00:03.680 That's fine, sister.
00:00:04.760 Alhamdulillah, sister, you can lose interest if you like.
00:00:07.160 It is disappointing that a woman who observes the hijab is here, number one, rejecting a hadith.
00:00:12.500 It is disappointing that a man who says that they're a Muslim, you know, and says that they listen to the hadith,
00:00:18.340 is using scientific research to justify horniness.
00:00:22.060 That is embarrassing.
00:00:23.480 That is embarrassing.
00:00:24.180 So it's embarrassing, it's embarrassing that as men, we have a higher sexual drive.
00:00:29.060 And can you imagine we're blamed now?
00:00:30.780 You men, look.
00:00:31.560 You're a religion, that's aayb alaykum.
00:00:34.140 Sister, being horny is not aayb.
00:00:36.300 That's why Allah said you get married.
00:00:40.440 I used to struggle reading the Quran daily before you instructed me to download this app.
00:00:45.940 I never knew that this app would have such an impact on people's lives.
00:00:49.260 You can go into the description box, click the link for iOS and Android, and build your habit with the Quran right now.
00:00:55.300 I'm equal things equally.
00:00:57.640 Good, do you accept that?
00:00:58.500 Good.
00:00:59.640 So what I'm saying is, there's studies that show this, and we have Quran and the Sunnah that says that a man's biggest weakness is a woman.
00:01:07.680 Biggest weakness, yeah?
00:01:09.140 Now, I'm giving a scenario so we can understand.
00:01:12.340 I am walking down the road with my wife at night time, and a man in a balakava comes out and pulls out a knife.
00:01:19.100 Is my wife in a vulnerable situation?
00:01:22.680 Yes.
00:01:23.400 What does she require me to do?
00:01:25.140 Protect her.
00:01:25.820 To?
00:01:26.920 Protect her.
00:01:27.380 Protect her.
00:01:28.080 If I run away, what would happen?
00:01:29.800 She would be unprotected.
00:01:30.760 She would call me a coward.
00:01:32.920 You see, okay, let's stop that.
00:01:34.680 I haven't finished my point.
00:01:35.840 If I stop that, I haven't finished my point.
00:01:37.440 Now, in her most vulnerable position, I have to do what?
00:01:41.180 I have to be there for her.
00:01:42.720 Do we all accept that?
00:01:43.700 Does anybody have a contention about that?
00:01:45.460 That when my wife is in a situation, or be that for any woman, if I see a Muslim woman, and there's a guy with a knife, yes, I would step up, or any man should step up to defend her.
00:01:55.480 Do we all agree?
00:01:56.320 I agree.
00:01:56.960 Good.
00:01:57.280 So, we agree that when a woman is in her most vulnerable place, that she requires a man who is stronger than her to defend her.
00:02:04.260 Good.
00:02:05.060 Now, let's go to, one second, my comparison.
00:02:07.880 Let's go to the bedroom now.
00:02:09.280 Now, in the bedroom, the man is in his most vulnerable situation when he needs his wife intimately.
00:02:15.080 When a woman says no, she is as good as doing what I would do to my wife if I run away in a fight.
00:02:21.260 No.
00:02:21.560 Do you accept that?
00:02:22.520 No.
00:02:23.040 Good.
00:02:23.500 Now, you don't accept it?
00:02:25.100 I'm sorry.
00:02:25.640 You don't accept it?
00:02:26.220 No, no, no.
00:02:27.040 Sorry?
00:02:27.620 I don't accept it.
00:02:28.280 Let's talk about it.
00:02:29.060 No, no, no.
00:02:29.480 One second.
00:02:29.920 One second.
00:02:30.640 No, one second.
00:02:31.260 What point do you not accept?
00:02:33.400 The fact that she's left in a vulnerable state, her life could be harmed.
00:02:37.500 Yes.
00:02:37.720 Whereas, a woman refusing sex to a man is not.
00:02:40.900 Irrelevant.
00:02:41.420 The point is this.
00:02:42.280 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:02:43.680 You're listening to two different things.
00:02:45.240 No, no, one second, one second.
00:02:46.480 No, no, no.
00:02:47.200 Okay.
00:02:47.800 No, no, no.
00:02:48.060 Please stop.
00:02:48.320 You're talking too much.
00:02:48.820 You're doing this.
00:02:49.760 I'm talking too much.
00:02:50.660 I'll stop talking, Karen.
00:02:51.360 You're doing this thing as a man when I'm trying to explain it.
00:02:53.320 Please, Karen.
00:02:53.900 I reject the hadith.
00:02:54.580 I read lessen.
00:02:55.800 He rejects the hadith.
00:02:56.600 Don't say, guys, guys, don't say statement of kufar.
00:02:59.960 Lessen.
00:03:00.900 Can we let her talk?
00:03:01.860 Can we let her talk?
00:03:03.260 We're linking two different things.
00:03:04.480 There's protection and there is your...
00:03:07.320 You won't protect anyone.
00:03:08.960 If you are in danger, your friend is in danger and you leave them.
00:03:12.940 Right?
00:03:13.800 I'd rather both me and him die than him run away and leave me.
00:03:19.820 Say that again.
00:03:20.840 I'd rather both of us die in danger rather than he leave.
00:03:25.200 Then he'll run away.
00:03:26.100 Yeah.
00:03:26.480 Okay, so it's that deep for you.
00:03:27.840 But in bed, bed is different.
00:03:30.580 You're horny.
00:03:31.400 You can control your horniness.
00:03:33.020 Are you speaking on my behalf?
00:03:34.920 In behalf of all the men?
00:03:35.920 You can't control...
00:03:36.580 All of you...
00:03:37.360 I can control my horniness.
00:03:39.340 No problem.
00:03:40.020 Okay, no problem.
00:03:40.760 All of you men cannot control me.
00:03:41.300 No problem.
00:03:41.580 Can I make a point, please?
00:03:42.360 Let her talk, let her talk, let her talk, let her talk.
00:03:44.160 So you made two comparisons, right?
00:03:46.620 One of the scenarios, the woman is spiritually sanctioned.
00:03:50.640 If the man runs away as a coward, he's not being spiritually sanctioned.
00:03:53.700 And I think that was your point, was it not?
00:03:55.340 So why is it a case that in one situation there's a sanction and in the other situation there isn't?
00:04:00.120 In a societal context, maybe so the man would be called a coward.
00:04:02.940 But spiritually, he's not being encroached in any way, shape, or form.
00:04:06.100 One second.
00:04:06.900 He is putting his life on the line.
00:04:09.000 He's about to die for his wife.
00:04:11.080 One second.
00:04:11.640 One second.
00:04:12.200 My point is, if he doesn't do that...
00:04:14.320 Ali, Ali Dawah.
00:04:15.380 If he doesn't protect his wife in that moment, will he be sanctioned?
00:04:19.860 Will he be sanctioned?
00:04:20.780 Yeah, will he be spiritually sanctioned?
00:04:22.220 Of course, he'd be called a coward.
00:04:23.400 No, would he be spiritually...
00:04:24.580 Would God be sanctioning him?
00:04:25.640 Well, Allah says in the Quran that men are the maintainers and protectors.
00:04:28.760 He's sinful.
00:04:31.020 He's sinful.
00:04:31.840 He's sinful.
00:04:32.820 But is he cursed?
00:04:33.740 He's sinful.
00:04:34.800 Sister, sister.
00:04:35.940 When a woman...
00:04:36.700 Yeah, sister.
00:04:37.840 Yeah, Roger.
00:04:38.780 When a woman takes...
00:04:40.280 Guys, we can't do that.
00:04:42.800 Well, life will do that.
00:04:44.380 You didn't refuse that.
00:04:46.200 Okay, who am I speaking to?
00:04:48.020 Choose.
00:04:48.880 It's your choice.
00:04:49.740 Can I...
00:04:50.220 I don't know what to do.
00:04:51.580 Who do I speak to?
00:04:52.240 Whatever you like.
00:04:53.120 Whatever you like.
00:04:53.760 Okay, can I just...
00:04:55.240 Can I just...
00:04:56.080 Guys, please.
00:04:56.960 The more we talk, the conversation.
00:04:58.980 Please.
00:04:59.540 Now, I'm telling you something, Aki.
00:05:01.820 If a man doesn't protect and he doesn't provide, he is sinful because Allah tells him,
00:05:06.640 men are the maintainers and protectors of women.
00:05:08.440 My job is what?
00:05:09.400 Of course, if I don't provide shopping for my house, I don't pay the rent,
00:05:13.580 I am transgressing the rights of my wife.
00:05:15.480 So if I'm going to get moved and I'm with my wife, I run away, I'm sinning.
00:05:18.920 You are because, you know, you are sinful because you are the maintainer and protector.
00:05:24.300 Now, Aki, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please,
00:05:29.660 please, please, sister, sister.
00:05:31.400 The point is, look, the point is, it wasn't even about, the point wasn't even about...
00:05:34.320 Guys, we're not going to have a free with this question if we speak over each other, please.
00:05:36.880 You've been speaking for so long.
00:05:38.000 Don't be a hypocrite, please.
00:05:39.280 My dear sister, he's speaking on your behalf.
00:05:41.060 Why are you having a go at me?
00:05:41.900 He's stopping you speaking.
00:05:42.640 No, I'm speaking on my behalf.
00:05:43.220 I'm not speaking on anyone else's behalf.
00:05:45.060 Okay, okay, okay.
00:05:46.240 Am I speaking to you or him?
00:05:47.400 I'm going to speak to you from now on.
00:05:49.600 Nobody else can get involved.
00:05:50.320 I have no point.
00:05:50.880 Okay, sister, carry on.
00:05:52.160 No, no, don't anyone speak, sister.
00:05:53.260 I'm speaking to you.
00:05:54.200 Please talk.
00:05:57.080 You made a point.
00:05:58.200 I made the point, but it was ignored.
00:05:59.460 What's your point, sister?
00:06:00.400 The point is, in Islam, it's very reasonable.
00:06:07.240 Kim?
00:06:09.240 No, no, no, Kim.
00:06:09.780 You don't know if somebody's going to lose their life or like be a...
00:06:13.400 Yes, yes, yes.
00:06:14.420 I'm so sorry.
00:06:16.320 But do you see what you're doing here?
00:06:17.820 Okay, you know what?
00:06:18.520 No, no, no, no, stop.
00:06:20.140 Because you're doing this again.
00:06:21.800 You're leaving her point.
00:06:23.340 You did this with me.
00:06:24.280 No, I'm not.
00:06:25.040 I'm addressing the point.
00:06:26.160 Allah Ali, you left the point.
00:06:27.520 You left the point.
00:06:28.480 The point was, the point was,
00:06:30.560 all of you men,
00:06:31.700 all of you men cannot control your holiness.
00:06:34.280 No problem.
00:06:34.740 That is a hype,
00:06:35.760 because you can't control having sex.
00:06:38.300 You should be pure.
00:06:39.320 You should be pure in your land.
00:06:40.400 Sister, sister, sister.
00:06:41.700 What the hell are you doing?
00:06:42.780 The Prophet said,
00:06:44.260 I agree.
00:06:44.540 The biggest weakness for a man
00:06:46.660 is not money.
00:06:48.760 It's not a house.
00:06:49.740 It's not a car.
00:06:50.340 You're speaking for all men?
00:06:51.440 For every single man that walks this earth.
00:06:53.860 Now,
00:06:55.540 because we follow Islam,
00:06:57.840 because we follow Islam,
00:06:59.020 we follow what the Messenger of Allah said.
00:07:00.920 So, therefore,
00:07:01.960 and forget that,
00:07:02.720 I can show you studies.
00:07:03.980 Bro, I'm going to read you a study now.
00:07:05.120 No, no, no.
00:07:05.320 One second, one second, one second.
00:07:06.000 One second.
00:07:06.600 One second.
00:07:07.380 One second.
00:07:07.840 Sheik Google.
00:07:08.360 One second.
00:07:09.180 Not Sheik Google.
00:07:09.820 It's called Sheik Study.
00:07:11.020 Yeah?
00:07:11.320 Not Google.
00:07:12.000 Yeah?
00:07:12.420 Google Scholar.
00:07:13.100 Yeah, Google Scholar.
00:07:13.980 No problem.
00:07:14.380 You can call me Milkshake,
00:07:15.320 if you like, as well.
00:07:15.840 Strawberry flavor.
00:07:16.640 Yeah?
00:07:17.020 No problem.
00:07:17.840 Now,
00:07:18.220 let's read the study.
00:07:19.440 Sister,
00:07:20.200 sister,
00:07:20.800 sister,
00:07:21.080 please listen.
00:07:22.400 I'm going to read it.
00:07:23.100 Please listen carefully, yeah?
00:07:25.320 Okay,
00:07:25.780 let's put Quran Sunnah for aside for now.
00:07:28.740 A sex drive.
00:07:29.720 Please listen carefully,
00:07:30.600 sisters, please.
00:07:31.520 The sisters that belittle a man's sex drive.
00:07:33.460 You can just control it.
00:07:34.480 Let's listen.
00:07:35.280 A sex drive refers to the strength
00:07:36.900 of sexual motivation.
00:07:38.860 Across many different studies and measures,
00:07:42.120 men have been shown to have more frequent,
00:07:44.860 I'll repeat again,
00:07:45.740 more frequent and more intense sexual desires than women.
00:07:49.420 Understood?
00:07:50.120 Let me carry on.
00:07:51.080 As reflected in spontaneous thoughts about sex,
00:07:54.120 frequency and variety of sexual fantasies,
00:07:57.240 desire for increasing of intercourse,
00:07:59.360 desired number of partners,
00:08:01.060 masturbation,
00:08:02.000 liking for various sexual practices,
00:08:03.960 willingly to forego sex,
00:08:05.560 initiating versus refusing sex,
00:08:07.780 making sacrifices for sex,
00:08:09.940 and other measures.
00:08:11.520 Listen carefully.
00:08:14.380 No contrary...
00:08:15.620 I'll repeat again.
00:08:16.360 N-O.
00:08:16.880 Not K-N-O-W.
00:08:19.080 N-O.
00:08:20.520 No contrary...
00:08:22.000 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:08:23.160 Do you see?
00:08:23.760 He's just basically saying...
00:08:24.560 He only talked.
00:08:25.040 No contrary findings indicating stronger sexual motivation among women were found.
00:08:33.680 Now, I'm going to repeat that statement.
00:08:34.880 Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:08:36.100 Whoa.
00:08:36.960 No contrary findings indicating stronger sexual motivation among women were found.
00:08:43.720 Hence, we conclude that the male sex drive is stronger than a female sex drive.
00:08:49.260 Last sentence, last sentence, last sentence.
00:08:52.040 The gender differences in sex drive...
00:08:53.780 Oh, yeah, that's something else.
00:08:54.780 Okay.
00:08:55.360 Now, this is a kuffar, non-Muslims, carrying out a study.
00:08:59.700 Now...
00:09:00.260 These two are special cases.
00:09:01.320 No, no, no.
00:09:01.880 One second.
00:09:02.180 No, one second.
00:09:02.580 One second.
00:09:04.020 We said that when it's a man and his wife isn't...
00:09:08.260 Please, allow me.
00:09:10.800 Because you know why?
00:09:11.740 I know, I know.
00:09:12.360 But if I don't make these points, they're going to jump to that.
00:09:14.500 Please, please.
00:09:15.620 Now, I've quoted a study.
00:09:17.640 Not Google.
00:09:18.900 This is a study.
00:09:19.680 I can give you the reference.
00:09:20.860 Now, when a man is in danger...
00:09:23.800 A woman is in danger, all the sisters go.
00:09:26.080 He has to protect.
00:09:27.000 She said, I'd rather die with him than him running away.
00:09:29.920 One second.
00:09:30.760 One second.
00:09:31.420 No, that's not.
00:09:32.280 No, that's not.
00:09:33.220 That is an aspect of a man to protect his wife.
00:09:35.780 Now.
00:09:36.540 Now.
00:09:37.520 Now.
00:09:38.040 Now.
00:09:40.240 Now.
00:09:40.840 Guys, guys.
00:09:41.780 Guys.
00:09:42.440 Sister, sister.
00:09:43.360 Sister, one second.
00:09:44.800 Why is the double standards?
00:09:46.720 And why is this hypocrisy?
00:09:49.080 Sister.
00:09:49.740 Sister, please.
00:09:50.680 I'm talking to you, sister.
00:09:51.800 Please, listen.
00:09:53.440 Why is it?
00:09:54.720 And this is what really annoys me about some sisters, not all.
00:09:58.220 When her life is in danger, he better be there protecting me.
00:10:01.520 I don't care if he has an AK-47.
00:10:03.400 I don't care if he has a pistol.
00:10:04.800 I don't care if he has a knife.
00:10:05.820 You have to defend me.
00:10:07.220 Okay.
00:10:07.880 I'll sacrifice my life and die for you.
00:10:10.700 But when I come to you to bed for intimacy, you can say no to me.
00:10:15.020 And when you say no to me and the angels curse me.
00:10:17.440 Come on.
00:10:17.980 Get out of here.
00:10:18.660 Now.
00:10:18.880 Please tell me, sister.
00:10:19.920 Please repeat my points.
00:10:21.320 I think it's been a long time.
00:10:22.340 Now.
00:10:22.600 Tell me.
00:10:23.180 Why is my comparison and the studies I've given wrong?
00:10:26.440 No one said it's wrong.
00:10:27.400 No one said it's wrong.
00:10:28.900 Yeah.
00:10:29.300 They could be right since Godin Mabubu's collar or whatever you want.
00:10:31.860 Okay.
00:10:32.480 But that does not stop.
00:10:33.920 That does not negate the idea or negate the point that godliness is a feeling that you
00:10:38.840 can control.
00:10:39.520 Allah tells you to control it.
00:10:42.480 Lower your gaze when you see a woman.
00:10:44.380 Even if it's your own woman.
00:10:46.720 You know, if you marry the woman and you're using this hadith and you're like, okay, but
00:10:49.840 it's in the Quran.
00:10:50.500 You're just using that.
00:10:51.300 You control yourself against your wife.
00:10:52.240 Seriously?
00:10:52.720 You control yourself against your wife.
00:10:54.200 Why should a wife control themselves against you?
00:10:56.900 It's modern feminism.
00:10:58.480 It's modern feminism.
00:10:59.840 It's not modern feminism.
00:11:00.500 It's not modern feminism.
00:11:01.500 It's not modern feminism.
00:11:02.500 It's not modern feminism.
00:11:02.980 Brothers, brothers, brothers, brothers, did she listen to me when I spoke?
00:11:08.360 No, no, no, what's it, what's it?
00:11:09.400 Brothers, brothers, did she listen to me when I spoke?
00:11:10.960 Sorry, she was quiet.
00:11:12.180 Okay, then why are we not quiet when she spoke?
00:11:13.860 I'm sorry.
00:11:15.380 Listen to her, guys.
00:11:16.380 She's making a point.
00:11:17.460 Please listen.
00:11:18.220 Allah, it's not nice.
00:11:19.020 She listens to me when I spoke.
00:11:20.420 I know, but Aki, when you do that, the topic goes somewhere else.
00:11:23.340 Okay, let's move on.
00:11:23.860 Speak, sister.
00:11:24.360 No, no, no, carry on.
00:11:25.800 Where's the argument?
00:11:26.600 There you go.
00:11:27.060 You see?
00:11:27.440 Where's the rebuttal?
00:11:28.040 Oh, yeah, because I said my argument and I'm waiting.
00:11:31.340 Tell me you're finished.
00:11:32.360 I'm not supposed to know.
00:11:33.040 Let's continue.
00:11:33.860 Okay, are you finished?
00:11:34.420 Another thing, another thing is if a woman, if a woman takes off her hijab, she is also
00:11:39.600 cursed by the angels who are behind her.
00:11:41.120 Walking within, she is cursed.
00:11:42.700 I don't know about that hadif.
00:11:43.480 Can you mention to me?
00:11:44.020 I don't remember to call it that.
00:11:45.600 If a woman takes off her hijab.
00:11:47.720 No, no, I don't know about the hadif that takes off her hijab.
00:11:49.500 I talk about, there's hadif about she beautifies herself and fragrance and wears heels.
00:11:53.640 That's a different one you're talking about.
00:11:54.580 Yeah, and that's also haram.
00:11:55.480 It doesn't say no hijab.
00:11:56.360 Okay, the point, the point, the point, the point, the point was very clear, yeah?
00:12:07.980 Sister, sister, are you telling me?
00:12:10.040 Sister, sister, sister, sister, sister, sister.
00:12:13.080 Men, men do.
00:12:14.040 Yeah, he proved that.
00:12:14.560 And?
00:12:15.780 It doesn't mean the woman has to resign.
00:12:17.820 Brothers, I'm going to have to move away.
00:12:19.180 Wallah, I'm going to have to move away.
00:12:20.300 No, brothers, brothers, brothers, we're doing it again.
00:12:24.400 Brothers, brothers.
00:12:25.200 Yeah, Aki, I beg you.
00:12:27.000 Aki, please, man.
00:12:27.920 The point that she's making is that.
00:12:29.320 Yeah, but Aki, please, I beg you, Wallahi.
00:12:30.820 I'm going, Wallahi.
00:12:31.420 May Allah bless you, I love you, but please allow me.
00:12:33.700 There's no direction.
00:12:34.220 Okay, now, now, one second, one second.
00:12:36.200 Sister, sister, sister.
00:12:38.860 If my wife, not my wife, a man's wife wants intimacy.
00:12:43.700 Wallahi al-Adeem, I swear upon the Rabbul Kaaba.
00:12:46.420 If a woman came here today and said, you know what?
00:12:48.720 My wife, my husband is not giving me sex.
00:12:51.060 Wallahi, you guys will cause outrage.
00:12:52.880 What?
00:12:53.540 Yes, you will do that.
00:12:54.740 That's a societal thing, my God.
00:12:56.620 Then why is it when we...
00:12:57.800 What's it, what's it, what's it, what's it?
00:12:59.100 Check this out, check this out.
00:13:00.480 When a man wants intimacy from his wife, he should be patient.
00:13:03.780 When a woman wants intimacy from his husband, there's outrage.
00:13:07.160 No, she should be patient as well.
00:13:08.600 The man should be patient.
00:13:09.540 The woman should be patient.
00:13:10.740 Just be evil.
00:13:11.400 Sister, sister, sister, sister, we follow Islam.
00:13:15.780 And in Islam, a woman came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and he said to the Prophet,
00:13:20.060 my husband doesn't sexually satisfy me.
00:13:22.500 The Prophet gave, allowed her to have divorce.
00:13:25.340 Her right is intimacy.
00:13:26.960 You have no right to deny his intimacy.
00:13:29.240 Now, you can choose to, if you want to say no, that's up to you.
00:13:31.640 But guess what?
00:13:32.660 She has a right to go and get divorced.
00:13:34.620 If she goes to a scholar and says, my husband doesn't...
00:13:37.600 Look, look, look, look, look, look, according to the Sharia, sister, we don't follow your
00:13:40.720 opinion, we follow Islam and Sharia.
00:13:41.960 Let me make that clear.
00:13:42.780 If a woman goes to the Sheikh and says, my husband, look, look, doesn't give me sex,
00:13:46.840 he doesn't sexually satisfy me.
00:13:48.320 Meaning, he does, but he doesn't satisfy me.
00:13:50.860 She has a right to seek divorce.
00:13:53.320 Not a single man here can tell her, oh, what kind of a woman are you?
00:13:57.400 Shut up.
00:13:58.040 She has a right for intimacy.
00:13:59.240 He's not pleasing her.
00:14:00.180 She has a right to divorce.
00:14:01.800 What would the feminists do?
00:14:02.940 Woo!
00:14:03.800 Takbir.
00:14:04.860 Come on, guys.
00:14:05.500 Takbir.
00:14:06.220 Allahu Akbar.
00:14:07.280 But when it's a man, shh.
00:14:09.120 Be patient.
00:14:10.080 Control your desires.
00:14:11.460 Hypocrisy.
00:14:12.260 So, sister, once again, now let me ask you a question.
00:14:15.160 In this scenario, let's go to the scenario of the angels cursing the woman.
00:14:18.320 Who is here to blame?
00:14:19.920 Check this out.
00:14:20.600 As a Muslim man, guys, are we allowed to have girlfriends?
00:14:23.320 No.
00:14:24.020 Brothers, I'm talking to you.
00:14:24.960 Hello?
00:14:25.440 Are we allowed to have girlfriends?
00:14:26.840 No.
00:14:27.200 Side chicks?
00:14:28.120 No.
00:14:28.560 Mistresses?
00:14:29.240 No.
00:14:29.580 Meaning what?
00:14:30.160 We have to lower our gays.
00:14:31.420 So, it's not like the non-Muslim men who are like, you know what?
00:14:35.180 I'm bored of my wife.
00:14:36.240 Let me go and sleep around.
00:14:37.480 We can't do that.
00:14:38.480 So, when we're out and about, or for example, we desire a woman, a wife.
00:14:42.620 No, no, no.
00:14:43.080 I'm so sorry.
00:14:43.500 Sister.
00:14:43.880 Sister, wallahi, our Islam and your Islam is somewhere else.
00:14:46.600 Let me tell that clearly.
00:14:47.260 You know why?
00:14:47.960 Because if a man is going home, can you imagine protecting himself?
00:14:51.720 Lowering his gays.
00:14:52.840 Provides for her.
00:14:54.120 Financially.
00:14:54.620 Works endless.
00:14:55.580 And then Lila Chesa comes home and says, can we have intimacy?
00:14:58.800 And she goes, no.
00:14:59.760 Who is oppressing who?
00:15:01.400 She is oppressing him.
00:15:03.100 She's not.
00:15:03.900 Okay, but you know, women cannot wear perfume.
00:15:06.560 They shouldn't wear perfume.
00:15:07.600 Women shouldn't wear perfume.
00:15:08.700 So, you're changing the topic?
00:15:09.660 I was talking about perfume.
00:15:11.220 Sister.
00:15:11.680 I'm losing out of the point.
00:15:12.960 Sister, I'm not talking about perfume.
00:15:14.820 Intimacy.
00:15:15.420 You're so close-minded.
00:15:16.300 The conversation.
00:15:16.740 Sister, I'm talking about intimacy.
00:15:17.780 You're changing the topic.
00:15:18.940 I'm saying intimacy.
00:15:19.440 Okay, but the conversation earlier wasn't intimacy.
00:15:21.140 What is your problem with the angels cursing the woman that is abusing her husband by not
00:15:26.400 giving him intimacy?
00:15:27.100 How is that abuse?
00:15:28.380 I don't want to have sex.
00:15:29.340 I'm abusing you.
00:15:30.220 What problem is abuse?
00:15:31.540 Did you hear the study that showed?
00:15:33.220 The study didn't prove it.
00:15:33.820 Okay, what a second.
00:15:34.780 What a second.
00:15:35.080 What a second.
00:15:36.420 Masturbate.
00:15:36.800 I don't care.
00:15:37.540 Masturbate then.
00:15:38.060 Okay, good.
00:15:38.480 Good.
00:15:38.660 Check this out.
00:15:39.160 You know what she's saying?
00:15:39.920 You know what she's saying?
00:15:40.880 Go and violate Allah's laws, but I'm not going to give you what you want.
00:15:44.220 Let me tell you something.
00:15:45.040 A woman like that.
00:15:46.140 Let me tell you something.
00:15:47.940 Sister, masturbation is haram.
00:15:50.220 You're saying to him, go and commit haram.
00:15:51.920 Go commit.
00:15:52.540 Look, look, check this out.
00:15:53.480 Check this out.
00:15:53.960 Guys, guys, look, look.
00:15:54.560 A true Islamic man will control that.
00:15:56.920 Sister, sister, sister, sister.
00:15:58.860 Guys, are we all men?
00:16:00.500 One second, one second, one second.
00:16:01.840 One second.
00:16:02.520 Are we men?
00:16:03.720 How hard is it for us to control our sexual desires?
00:16:05.980 Not that hard.
00:16:06.580 One second, let the men talk.
00:16:08.280 Brother, brother, you're a different type of man.
00:16:10.540 Yes, you must be if you're telling me no.
00:16:12.140 No, I'm so sorry.
00:16:13.640 If you're telling me you're not like that, then I'm so sorry.
00:16:16.580 If you're saying that.
00:16:17.560 You're lying, bro.
00:16:18.360 Are you a Muslim?
00:16:19.240 Yes.
00:16:20.180 Okay, I'm sorry.
00:16:20.880 Forgive me.
00:16:21.320 I thought he was a regular.
00:16:22.480 Forgive me.
00:16:22.780 I'll take it back.
00:16:23.680 I didn't know, I didn't know, I didn't know.
00:16:25.560 Forgive me, forgive me, forgive me.
00:16:27.320 Forgive me, forgive me, forgive me.
00:16:29.580 I thought you were an atheist making a killing.
00:16:31.860 I apologize.
00:16:32.980 On camera, I apologize to his brother and I'll ask him to forgive me.
00:16:35.980 Check this out.
00:16:36.560 A man provides, protects, he works endless nights, pays the rent, electricity bill, looks
00:16:42.680 after his family, etc.
00:16:43.900 And he comes home.
00:16:45.480 And this is his wife.
00:16:46.780 And he just wants intimacy.
00:16:48.340 And guess what?
00:16:49.100 Does the hadith say, force yourself upon your wife?
00:16:51.900 No, it doesn't.
00:16:52.680 It just says if he's angry, the angels curse.
00:16:55.100 And what's our sister saying?
00:16:56.460 No.
00:16:56.940 Even if you provide, protect, this, that, and no sex.
00:16:59.380 What kind of a planet are you living on?
00:17:01.020 What kind of a planet are you living on?
00:17:02.200 And this is the hypocrisy of feminism, the disease of feminism that's infiltrating
00:17:06.380 our sisters, that this comes from a sister in hijab.
00:17:09.440 Unbelievable.
00:17:10.340 A woman, wallahi, let me tell you something.
00:17:12.560 And I'll tell you, speak to my other sisters as well, yeah?
00:17:14.700 You, imagine you have a husband.
00:17:16.620 You look after the kids.
00:17:18.320 You make, you look after him.
00:17:19.500 You're good to him.
00:17:20.200 You're loyal to him.
00:17:21.320 And you do all of this.
00:17:22.300 And when you're on the road, the man pulls out a knife, he says, I don't have a right,
00:17:25.880 I don't need to protect you.
00:17:27.020 How would you feel?
00:17:28.180 How would you feel, sisters?
00:17:28.980 I'm asking you.
00:17:29.560 Would you be happy?
00:17:30.760 Would you be happy, sister?
00:17:31.800 No, you wouldn't.
00:17:32.420 Look, these are our sisters, alhamdulillah, at least haven't been affected by this, yeah?
00:17:35.440 But the point is this.
00:17:37.100 My dear sister, are you still there?
00:17:38.800 My dear sister.
00:17:40.420 My dear sister.
00:17:40.840 Does anybody agree with what the sister's saying?
00:17:42.900 Look, let me give you an example, yeah?
00:17:44.640 And maybe you will understand, yeah?
00:17:46.280 My dear sister, my dear sister.
00:17:48.620 My dear sister.
00:17:49.960 Are you still in the conversation?
00:17:51.060 I'm still in the conversation.
00:17:51.660 Okay.
00:17:52.280 Sister.
00:17:52.640 You've been talking, rambling.
00:17:54.140 That's fine, sister.
00:17:55.000 Alhamdulillah.
00:17:55.260 Sister, you can lose interest if you like.
00:17:56.940 It is disappointing that a woman who observes the hijab is here, number one, rejecting
00:18:02.160 a hadith.
00:18:02.960 It is disappointing that a man who says that they're a Muslim, you know, and says that
00:18:07.660 they listen to the hadith is using scientific research to justify horniness.
00:18:12.080 That is embarrassing.
00:18:13.740 That is embarrassing.
00:18:14.480 So it's embarrassing, once again, it's embarrassing that as men, we have a higher sexual drive.
00:18:19.660 And can you imagine we're blamed now?
00:18:21.040 You men, look.
00:18:21.800 It's not a religion.
00:18:22.620 That's a'ayb alaykum.
00:18:24.420 Sister, being horny is not a'ayb.
00:18:26.620 That's why Allah said you get married.
00:18:28.380 Nowhere in Islam does...
00:18:29.440 You get married, but you do not use the woman.
00:18:30.560 Sister, can you show me where in the Quran or the hadith that it says to be horny is a'ayb?
00:18:33.860 It's a sin.
00:18:34.560 It doesn't say that, but akhlaq.
00:18:35.740 What are you talking about, sister?
00:18:36.800 So, okay, it's bad akhlaq.
00:18:38.060 One second.
00:18:38.580 It's bad akhlaq to be horny and want to have intimacy with your wife.
00:18:41.280 Sister, what planet do you live on?
00:18:42.700 What life?
00:18:43.180 I didn't say that.
00:18:43.940 You're putting word into my mouth.
00:18:45.160 Okay, clarify.
00:18:45.560 The forceful.
00:18:46.300 Clarify.
00:18:46.920 You know, the idea that they're obligated to give it to you or the idea that...
00:18:51.520 Not obligated because the hadith would say, force yourself upon her.
00:18:54.760 Does the hadith say that?
00:18:55.800 It says, no.
00:18:56.420 It says, if the husband said, can we have intimacy?
00:18:58.880 She says, no.
00:19:00.040 He goes sleep, upset.
00:19:02.480 The angels curse her.
00:19:03.520 You're not even...
00:19:04.140 You know where she goes?
00:19:04.700 The angel's not even allowed to curse her.
00:19:06.740 Why is it upon the man to get upset?
00:19:08.520 Okay, no problem.
00:19:09.420 One second.
00:19:10.140 I'm going to give you another...
00:19:10.780 Same example.
00:19:12.080 You have a husband.
00:19:13.360 He provides, protects, good to the kids, shopping, rent, everything he provides for you.
00:19:17.140 You walk down the road.
00:19:18.140 A man pulls a knife.
00:19:19.120 He says, I am not obliged to protect you.
00:19:21.360 Would you be upset?
00:19:23.300 Would you be upset?
00:19:24.900 Of course.
00:19:25.820 Look, look, look, look, look.
00:19:27.140 Look at this.
00:19:28.060 Of course.
00:19:28.500 Okay, but you move on.
00:19:30.760 My dear sister, that husband of yours, or whoever, if I don't...
00:19:34.280 Anyway, this man, he will move on with another woman.
00:19:37.820 Wallahi l-Azim.
00:19:38.460 I tell you, if your wife...
00:19:39.880 Let me tell you.
00:19:40.500 No, I don't know.
00:19:41.240 Sister, Wallahi.
00:19:42.520 Look at her.
00:19:42.940 She goes, I would be upset if my husband, after doing all of that, been married to him for so long.
00:19:48.080 Look, look, look, look.
00:19:48.640 I'll be upset.
00:19:49.960 But if a man is upset...
00:19:51.560 No, no, no, no, no.
00:19:52.940 Wallahi, sister.
00:19:53.620 Wallahi.
00:19:54.560 Do you guys agree with her?
00:19:55.860 Wallahi l-Azim.
00:19:57.000 All I'm going to say is that.
00:19:57.860 Do you agree with what I say?
00:19:58.740 Please, sister.
00:19:59.600 Sorry, but if the wife has a valid reason, sister.
00:20:02.480 If the wife has a valid reason...
00:20:04.340 Of course, sister.
00:20:05.380 Thank you.
00:20:05.920 Now, look, our sister, may Allah bless her, is reasoning.
00:20:08.780 If a woman is heavily pregnant, if she's on her period, if she's been working all day, looking after the kids,
00:20:14.840 like, even then, there can be a compromise, there can be understanding, yeah?
00:20:18.040 At least there is understanding, because we're not saying, she's working, like, she's working after free kids.
00:20:23.400 The man works.
00:20:24.640 Come home and help your wife.
00:20:26.620 Cater for that.
00:20:27.760 Make...
00:20:28.200 Put the kids...
00:20:29.020 No, no, it's not fine, sister.
00:20:29.960 What she's saying, may Allah bless her, what you're saying are mountains apart.
00:20:33.080 Why?
00:20:33.580 Why?
00:20:33.900 Why?
00:20:34.120 What I'm saying is going against Islam.
00:20:35.800 Wallahi, what you're saying is against Islam.
00:20:37.860 Wallahi, what you're saying is against Islam.
00:20:39.360 The original argument was about...
00:20:40.860 Wallahi l-Azim, what you're saying is against Islam.
00:20:43.160 Because you're saying, you know why?
00:20:45.680 Sister, sister, sister, sister, that woman is abusing sexually her husband.
00:20:50.840 If a man, let me tell you, and any feminist would agree.
00:20:53.420 Okay, but if a man is constantly angry at her for saying no to sex...
00:20:56.520 No, no, no, not angry.
00:20:57.660 Is that not abuse back?
00:20:59.280 No, no, no, no, sister, sister, sister.
00:21:00.980 If a woman is sexually frustrated, and her husband is saying to her, no, no, no, no,
00:21:08.240 I even...
00:21:10.240 We might check.
00:21:11.400 If this woman ended up falling into haram, yeah, the scholars might even maybe, maybe
00:21:17.440 even blame the man and say, okay, what happened?
00:21:20.280 My wife committed zina.
00:21:21.980 She shouldn't.
00:21:23.020 Okay, why?
00:21:24.520 And the woman says, this man hasn't given me sex for two years.
00:21:28.380 The scholars will turn to him and say, what kind of a haiwan are you?
00:21:31.120 An animal you are.
00:21:32.100 You're an animal.
00:21:32.880 Hold on a second.
00:21:33.280 This woman, she has a right to intimacy, yeah?
00:21:37.120 And you've been saying no to her?
00:21:38.440 A human has a right to intimacy, but it's not...
00:21:40.220 No, no, no, she doesn't.
00:21:42.000 If a woman comes, and he can reject her, and she has a right not to be angry, she should
00:21:45.900 celebrate it, she has flowers in the air.
00:21:47.680 Ooh, come on, sister, what are you talking about?
00:21:49.600 Please, I'm so...
00:21:50.060 And by the way, the reason why I'm so harsh, forgive me, is because this ideology is penetrating
00:21:55.260 intellectually, our sisters, yes, who are watching at home, and getting this idea
00:21:59.900 of, yeah, I can't, no, no, no, no.
00:22:01.940 Wallahi.
00:22:02.340 What is it?
00:22:03.460 Look, look, look, look.
00:22:04.580 And this is the issue.
00:22:05.640 If your husband went and got a second wife, you blame him.
00:22:09.100 So why did you get a second wife?
00:22:10.140 You give me no sex.
00:22:11.380 No, no sex.
00:22:12.440 Check this.
00:22:12.660 He should have permission from his husband.
00:22:13.860 No, he doesn't need her supervision.
00:22:15.240 He does not need her supervision.
00:22:16.600 He doesn't need her supervision.
00:22:17.860 Then I shouldn't need her supervision from a haram to go out.
00:22:20.300 Sister, wallahi.
00:22:21.400 Sister, submit to Islam, not feminism.
00:22:24.500 You have not, sister.
00:22:25.480 My dear sister, sister, you are drenched in feminism.
00:22:29.600 You are drenched in feminism.
00:22:30.520 And not only that, you contradicted yourself.
00:22:33.740 And not only that, you contradicted yourself.
00:22:35.240 Your wife said feminism is lost.
00:22:36.900 Wallahi.
00:22:37.880 Sister, sister.
00:22:39.120 Just the way you said you'll be disappointed and upset with your husband if he doesn't defend
00:22:42.580 you.
00:22:42.900 You'll be upset with your wife if she doesn't defend you.
00:22:45.400 Then why are you saying, why is he angry with me if I don't give him sex?
00:22:48.960 It's the cursing.
00:22:50.040 It's the cursing.
00:22:50.700 Yeah, Rob.
00:22:51.280 It's the cursing.
00:22:52.460 So, one second, one second.
00:22:53.780 One second.
00:22:55.120 The Prophet said, the Prophet said, the woman gets cursed.
00:22:58.620 What's your problem?
00:22:59.860 Do you have a problem with the messenger of Allah?
00:23:02.120 The cursing part is...
00:23:03.120 Sister, sister.
00:23:03.680 But you know what?
00:23:04.660 Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the woman gets cursed.
00:23:07.080 You have a problem.
00:23:07.460 At the end of the day...
00:23:08.200 Do you have a problem, sister, with that?
00:23:09.880 I'm asking you.
00:23:10.360 Do you have a little bit of a problem with that?
00:23:11.620 You have a problem with Allah and his messenger.
00:23:13.400 This is feminism.
00:23:14.980 That's not the problem.
00:23:15.720 Sister, if the Prophet stood in front of you and said, my dear sister...
00:23:20.120 Shh!
00:23:21.120 The Prophet came to you and said...
00:23:22.320 No, no, no, sister, sister, sister.
00:23:24.660 If the Prophet came to you and said, my dear sister, if your husband wants intimacy and
00:23:28.060 you don't give it, you are cursed.
00:23:29.900 What would you say to him?
00:23:31.380 Say that again?
00:23:32.240 If the message of Allah was in front of you and he said these exact words, that if your
00:23:36.320 husband, who provides and loves and protects you, and he wants, and he says, and he says
00:23:41.280 that he wants intimacy...
00:23:43.160 Yes, no, it does.
00:23:44.060 It means he's cursed.
00:23:44.940 All night, the angels curse her.
00:23:47.600 Of course it does.
00:23:48.260 Yes, it does.
00:23:48.840 It does mean that.
00:23:49.620 It does mean that.
00:23:50.560 It's actually a major sin.
00:23:52.780 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, sorry, no.
00:23:55.740 The scholars, the scholars, the scholars say anytime the messenger mentions curse, it's
00:24:00.240 a major sin.
00:24:01.220 So, one second, one second.
00:24:02.980 Sister, sister, brother, Aki, Aki, Aki, Aki, please, let's, Aki, let's not show up
00:24:07.740 about our religion, please.
00:24:08.520 The Prophet didn't say she is cursed.
00:24:09.640 She is cursed.
00:24:10.280 The angels will curse her all night.
00:24:11.980 That doesn't mean that the Prophet said you are cursed.
00:24:14.020 He's just saying what is going to happen.
00:24:15.740 Okay, okay.
00:24:16.080 Is the angels cursing the woman?
00:24:18.040 All night, yeah.
00:24:18.980 Is that a curse?
00:24:20.240 No, no, no.
00:24:21.440 It's the same thing.
00:24:23.440 If you say you are cursed, it's totally a different thing.
00:24:25.580 Okay, I'm so sorry.
00:24:26.200 I totally disagree with what I'm saying.
00:24:27.000 I'm sorry, you're just adding something which is not right.
00:24:28.700 I'm so sorry, bro.
00:24:29.380 I don't, I don't, I'm sorry.
00:24:30.800 Anyway.
00:24:31.060 Let's not shout.
00:24:31.580 I'm sorry.
00:24:31.880 I totally disregard what you're saying because we have a clear hadith that says the woman
00:24:35.080 will be cursed till the morning.
00:24:36.140 Let's not shout with each other.
00:24:37.060 I'm not shouting.
00:24:37.840 Now, if the messenger of Allah said that to you, yes, what would you reply to him?
00:24:43.060 If you told me what the hadith is?
00:24:44.180 If he said the woman will be cursed till the morning for rejecting her husband, what
00:24:47.180 would you say to him?
00:24:49.400 Okay.
00:24:50.640 Alhamdulillah.
00:24:51.620 Alhamdulillah.
00:24:51.940 Now, what I'm saying is this.
00:24:53.760 But why are you so upset about this?
00:24:55.280 I'm not upset.
00:24:56.340 It's a conversation.
00:24:57.520 Okay, but no, no, but why are you so, what is the issue where you are, look, let me tell
00:25:01.560 you something.
00:25:02.500 Okay, let me put it like this to you, yeah?
00:25:04.320 I believe a woman who has been good to her husband, very good, looks after kids and walking
00:25:10.120 down the road and her husband runs away.
00:25:12.620 Wallahi, I will not blame that woman if she said, may Allah curse you.
00:25:16.580 Wallahi, I will not blame her.
00:25:18.180 Wallahi, I will not blame her because you know why?
00:25:19.880 She was at her most vulnerable, that man could have killed her, and wallahi, you know
00:25:24.080 what?
00:25:24.600 If she said, I'm going to divorce him, I'll say, sister, you know what?
00:25:26.540 Wallahi, this man is a coward.
00:25:28.560 I believe it.
00:25:29.340 It's everybody's duty to protect one another.
00:25:31.340 If that's your friend, you're not going to run away, are you?
00:25:32.940 No, no, it's your wife.
00:25:34.280 He runs away from this.
00:25:34.800 If it was your friend, if it was your friend, you'd do the same thing.
00:25:37.140 Which one's closer, friend or wife?
00:25:39.540 It depends, it depends.
00:25:40.700 Why?
00:25:40.800 Come on, come on, man.
00:25:41.900 No, I'm not going to lie, no.
00:25:42.320 Come on, I have my friends, I have my brothers, yeah?
00:25:45.240 But my wife who shares my life with me, has children with me, she's a part,
00:25:49.880 and she's my, like, do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:25:52.300 Come on, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:25:54.060 If I did, wallahi, the entire Muslim community, her parents, my dad, my friends will all flip
00:26:00.260 and whip me.
00:26:00.940 They'll whip me in public.
00:26:02.220 They say, you are a coward for leaving your wife and running away like a coward.
00:26:05.760 They will whip me.
00:26:06.580 You know what I'll say?
00:26:07.380 You know what I'll say to them?
00:26:09.160 Sister, I won't cook for you, I won't practice deen with you.
00:26:13.440 The Islamic community will vile against the women, it's the same thing.
00:26:16.680 No, no, what I'm saying is this.
00:26:18.200 The point is this, the same thing would happen, yeah?
00:26:21.560 But you are, you, I just cannot believe the way you undermine a man's sexual urges.
00:26:26.500 Just because, you know what it is?
00:26:28.020 You know, you know what it is?
00:26:28.680 It's like me saying, it's like me saying this.
00:26:31.260 Sisters, why are you guys talking about your pregnancy?
00:26:33.320 I need you just push it out, khalas.
00:26:35.200 I need you push it out, you're making such a big deal.
00:26:37.660 Wallahi, the feminist community will come here and stone me next week.
00:26:41.360 If I belittled, you know why?
00:26:42.980 I don't know how it's to be pregnant.
00:26:44.500 I don't know what it takes.
00:26:45.640 Why do women come and say, like, they come and tell us how bad it is?
00:26:48.800 It's as good as having 30 or 40 of your bones broken or something like that.
00:26:54.400 Imagine me belittling that.
00:26:55.820 You are belittling a man's sexual urge by saying, what's the big deal?
00:26:59.120 But you don't get rid of your sexual urges using a woman.
00:27:02.360 Who should I use, sister?
00:27:03.380 Go and sleep with Allah to other women.
00:27:05.820 You know, a wife can...
00:27:06.680 La ilaha illallah.
00:27:07.700 My temperature is hot.
00:27:09.820 I need to take my jacket off.
00:27:11.920 Do you know that?
00:27:12.900 My blood sugar levels have gone up.
00:27:17.020 That's equal.
00:27:18.560 That's equality.
00:27:19.400 I've got blood pressure, bro.
00:27:20.920 My concern is...
00:27:23.360 The over-dependence of women, of men, on women...
00:27:28.540 Sister, but that's how we're created, sister.
00:27:30.980 I'm not going against this level.
00:27:32.120 Why are you blaming me?
00:27:32.980 I wasn't born with a sexual...
00:27:34.000 I didn't say, hey, let me be...
00:27:35.360 La ilaha illallah.
00:27:36.200 My dear sister, it's better now.
00:27:38.320 We stop it now.
00:27:39.240 Okay, no, no, no, no, no.
00:27:40.040 More knowledge.
00:27:40.860 More knowledge.
00:27:41.820 No, she accepted it.
00:27:42.500 She said, no, she said...
00:27:43.540 I accept it.
00:27:44.100 She said she accepts it, yeah?
00:27:45.460 Okay.
00:27:46.120 Alhamdulillah.
00:27:46.420 May Allah bless you, sister.
00:27:47.440 Look, wallahi.
00:27:48.280 How old are you?
00:27:48.840 How old are you, sister?
00:27:49.900 17.
00:27:50.380 You're still young.
00:27:51.040 MashaAllah.
00:27:51.880 MashaAllah.
00:27:52.240 Are you a Reba or are you born Muslim?
00:27:54.000 Don't take it as a negative.
00:27:55.260 Pardon?
00:27:55.580 Are you born Muslim or a Reba?
00:27:56.660 I'm born Muslim.
00:27:57.540 Alhamdulillah.
00:27:57.960 Look, sister, let me tell you something, yeah?
00:27:59.560 The reason I'm saying this, yeah?
00:28:01.400 And sometimes I'm a little bit harsh.
00:28:02.940 You know why, sister?
00:28:03.940 Because at the end of the day, I want the best for you.
00:28:06.300 If this was my own sister...
00:28:07.680 If this was my own sister, yeah?
00:28:09.900 Brother, one second.
00:28:11.140 Filipino.
00:28:12.980 Ignoring.
00:28:13.840 Ignoring.
00:28:14.220 Sister, if you was my own sister, I would do the same.
00:28:17.060 You know why?
00:28:17.700 Because I want the best for you.
00:28:19.500 Because our conversation is not just here with 30 people.
00:28:23.600 Millions are going to watch this.
00:28:24.640 And imagine a sister at home, who's watching this and going,
00:28:28.200 well, hold on a second.
00:28:29.180 I need to make these points so the sister at home or the brother,
00:28:32.260 number one, the brother knows his duties that he's a maintainer protector.
00:28:34.800 He should never run away when his wife's in danger, yeah?
00:28:37.900 It's the same way we're saying.
00:28:39.060 We just want consistency.
00:28:40.320 If I'm willing to put my life on the line and die for you, my wife,
00:28:44.100 when I come home and I want intimacy, man, I want a mere intimacy, bro.
00:28:48.400 I'm dying at one.
00:28:49.360 Can you imagine?
00:28:50.360 Me, I'm dying at one.
00:28:51.500 The other one is, oh, I just don't want to give you it.
00:28:54.880 One is an option.
00:28:55.740 The other one is, I have no choice but to put my life on the line and I might die.
00:28:59.620 I'm willing to die for you and you're not willing to give me intimacy.
00:29:02.600 La ilaha illallah.
00:29:03.320 What kind of oppression is that?
00:29:05.860 The main key difference is life and the loss of life and your nature.
00:29:13.480 Which one's worse?
00:29:14.360 Dying or not dying?
00:29:15.920 Are you afraid of death?
00:29:17.020 Yes, I'm very afraid of death.
00:29:18.780 Why?
00:29:19.020 Actually, very afraid.
00:29:19.500 Why?
00:29:19.920 Well, we are.
00:29:20.340 There's a hadith of the Prophet from Aisha.
00:29:22.300 She even said, I'm afraid of death as well.
00:29:24.680 But that doesn't mean you don't want to meet Allah.
00:29:27.060 We're all deaf because I don't know what death entails.
00:29:28.720 Inshallah, I'll go to Jannah.
00:29:29.520 I'm scared.
00:29:30.120 You know, may Allah accept him.
00:29:31.200 My wife doesn't accept my deeds.
00:29:32.140 Where if I'm a sinner?
00:29:33.040 Of course I'm going to be scared.
00:29:34.240 I mean, you're talking to someone who's not scared of death.
00:29:36.500 Alhamdulillah.
00:29:36.960 Inshallah, may Allah increase my iman like yours.
00:29:38.880 This is why, like, maybe perhaps I'm having a difficulty.
00:29:40.960 There's a mental block between your example of dying and protecting.
00:29:45.560 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:29:46.520 Okay, you're saying, please, one second.
00:29:48.000 Sister, check this out, yeah?
00:29:49.180 If I, if a man dies for his wife, in about a couple of months or years, she's going to
00:29:54.280 move on with another man.
00:29:55.600 So, it's going to be the man?
00:29:56.500 No, no, no, no, no, one second.
00:29:57.860 The point is, in one scenario, the man dies.
00:30:00.620 Janazah, you know, Janazah, Salah, it's finished, you know, do Janazah, make du'ah
00:30:03.480 for him.
00:30:03.920 In the other scenario, the woman is just choosing not to give intimacy for what reason?
00:30:08.920 A valid reason is understandable.
00:30:10.460 I'm on menses, I'm heavily pregnant, I've got backache.
00:30:13.840 I'm not feeling well, I've been looking after the kids.
00:30:17.080 Understandable.
00:30:17.500 Which animal will go and say, no, you have to?
00:30:19.480 No.
00:30:20.200 What I'm seeing is, this is an unreasonable woman.
00:30:22.180 And guess what?
00:30:22.900 Do you know what this hadith shows?
00:30:24.240 It shows that the woman is the transgressor and using sex to blackmail the husband.
00:30:30.420 That's what she's doing.
00:30:31.500 So, I don't know how the hadith is made to seem as if the man is wrong.
00:30:35.460 This is showing how a woman is transgressing.
00:30:37.680 I'm not saying man is wrong.
00:30:39.080 I didn't say that.
00:30:39.700 No, no, no.
00:30:39.980 I'm saying this is showing that the woman is the one who's saying no for no reason.
00:30:44.660 I thought we moved on from the point that we're both victimizing each other.
00:30:47.340 I thought we made it clear that.
00:30:48.160 No, no, no.
00:30:48.600 We made it clear that what the hadith said, we accepted.
00:30:50.920 And you accepted it as well.
00:30:52.200 I've always accepted the hadith.
00:30:53.460 I was just arguing about the nuances of the hadith.
00:30:55.140 No, no.
00:30:55.320 Why would you argue with the hadith?
00:30:56.160 You can argue something you don't believe in.
00:30:57.980 Do you believe in it?
00:30:58.600 Do you believe in it?
00:31:01.460 Yeah.
00:31:02.580 I could believe in it, but it doesn't mean I...
00:31:04.020 No, no, no.
00:31:04.220 I could believe in it, sister.
00:31:05.220 It's a hadith.
00:31:05.880 It's the message of Allah's sake.
00:31:07.560 You believe in the hadith.
00:31:08.520 You believe that angels will curse you if you say no.
00:31:10.960 And the man sleeps angry because they don't want to have sex with him.
00:31:14.720 You could believe that, yes.
00:31:16.240 No, no, no.
00:31:16.540 You could believe that.
00:31:17.140 Do you believe that?
00:31:18.860 Why does my belief have to...
00:31:20.160 Yeah, fine.
00:31:20.740 Let's say yes.
00:31:21.360 Let's say yes.
00:31:21.800 No, no, no.
00:31:22.160 Don't say yes, sister.
00:31:22.840 That's between you and the Lord.
00:31:23.560 I've done my bit.
00:31:24.480 I've tried to make you understand.
00:31:25.500 If you want to carry on and reject a hadith of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
00:31:29.540 because for some reason, because a woman is violating her husband by not giving intimacy.
00:31:35.520 And by the way, the hadith doesn't say, oh man, go and force yourself.
00:31:39.460 He says, no, go to sleep.
00:31:40.720 Angry?
00:31:41.280 Okay.
00:31:42.000 Can you imagine this?
00:31:43.040 Well, I don't want to say anything else.
00:31:45.640 I'll say, forgive me again, once again.
00:31:47.100 Well, it's because I care about you.
00:31:48.620 It's my own sister.
00:31:49.440 Sisters, sisters, sister, sister.
00:31:52.080 Just, just, just leave it, please.
00:31:53.560 Just act like somebody's farted.
00:31:54.980 Just, like, do this.
00:31:56.280 The wind goes away, please, yeah?
00:31:57.940 So, so, what I'm saying is this, yeah?
00:32:00.080 The moment, the reason why there's these gender wars happening is because men are not
00:32:04.280 men anymore and women are not women anymore, okay?
00:32:06.620 The roles have reversed.
00:32:08.600 So, what we're trying to do is we're trying to tell the ummah.
00:32:10.460 You know how many divorce rates happen amongst Muslim couples?
00:32:13.460 They're going the same as non-Muslims.
00:32:15.020 Why?
00:32:15.580 Why is that?
00:32:16.140 Because men are not men, women are not women anymore.
00:32:18.900 Is it because men are not men and women are not women?
00:32:21.180 Yes.
00:32:21.600 Or, is it because some men and some women are using their femininity or their masculinity
00:32:27.840 in the name of Islam to take advantage of each other?
00:32:30.300 Which one is it?
00:32:30.900 Which one is it?
00:32:31.380 Well, that can be the case as well.
00:32:32.700 For example, a woman can take advantage of her femininity by blackmailing the husband.
00:32:36.880 How?
00:32:37.140 By the hadith that we gave.
00:32:38.140 If the husband says, come, I want to have intimacy with you, and she says, no, she's blackmailing
00:32:41.580 him with her femininity.
00:32:43.380 Do you accept that?
00:32:44.380 Yeah.
00:32:44.520 Good.
00:32:45.020 And now a man with his masculinity will come and say, no, the Quran said, you have to
00:32:48.180 stay at home, shut up, boom.
00:32:49.300 Or whatever it may be, yeah?
00:32:50.460 There's understanding to that, yeah?
00:32:51.460 Do you not think that that is majority, that is the biggest reason why the divorce has
00:32:56.040 happened?
00:32:56.400 No, I'm just saying that could be one point, I'm saying that could be one point of it.
00:33:00.060 But you said that most of it is because women aren't acting like women and men aren't
00:33:04.560 acting like men.
00:33:05.460 No, I know.
00:33:05.980 Because why?
00:33:06.500 Because women want to be boss babes.
00:33:08.160 And men want to be simps.
00:33:09.840 Men are happy.
00:33:10.800 Yeah, you go work, I'll stay at home.
00:33:12.880 That needs to change.
00:33:13.760 But do you not see that now, in today's society, men are becoming more, more like...
00:33:20.080 Women?
00:33:20.820 Feminine?
00:33:21.440 No, not feminine.
00:33:22.580 They're becoming more, let's say extreme in their beliefs.
00:33:25.540 What kind of beliefs?
00:33:27.220 Leadership, being masculine.
00:33:28.680 How could you be extreme?
00:33:30.340 Are you talking about toxic masculinity?
00:33:31.920 Yeah, it's toxic masculinity.
00:33:32.480 No such thing exists.
00:33:33.400 What about toxic femininity?
00:33:34.500 One second.
00:33:34.860 Okay, let's talk about the past.
00:33:36.780 No, no, no.
00:33:37.300 Now, one second.
00:33:38.500 What's toxic masculinity?
00:33:40.560 It's like being overpowering.
00:33:42.360 Okay, no problem.
00:33:42.820 Your privilege as a man...
00:33:44.560 No, no, one second.
00:33:45.220 Why don't we have toxic femininity?
00:33:47.140 Why only...
00:33:47.800 No, we don't.
00:33:48.460 No, we don't.
00:33:49.020 We do not.
00:33:50.380 We do not have it.
00:33:51.640 So I'm asking why the double standard?
00:33:53.400 Toxic masculinity.
00:33:54.260 Okay, let's suppose it exists.
00:33:55.620 What is toxic masculinity?
00:33:56.920 You know what toxic masculinity...
00:33:58.020 You know what the line is now?
00:34:00.260 Being a man.
00:34:01.480 To be a man.
00:34:02.200 To say, I want to be a traditional man.
00:34:03.920 Toxic masculinity.
00:34:04.660 A traditional man that imposes on the rights of women.
00:34:08.440 That is toxic.
00:34:09.000 What do you mean by imposes?
00:34:10.920 I can't go.
00:34:11.480 So if he wants intimacy from his wife...
00:34:14.040 If you...
00:34:14.320 Yeah, no, no.
00:34:14.820 Hold on a second.
00:34:15.280 I had that conversation.
00:34:15.940 One second.
00:34:16.560 Does a man have a right to tell his wife that he doesn't want her to not wear lipstick?
00:34:20.300 Or he doesn't want her to wear no hijab?
00:34:22.060 Or he doesn't want her to wear tight clothes?
00:34:23.520 Is that toxic masculinity?
00:34:24.300 It becomes toxic if he imposes it.
00:34:28.020 No, no.
00:34:28.240 One second.
00:34:28.540 One second.
00:34:28.760 One second.
00:34:29.000 One second.
00:34:29.900 He is allowed to say that to her.
00:34:31.860 He is allowed to say it, but he is allowed to enforce it.
00:34:34.380 Yes, he can.
00:34:35.420 And guess what?
00:34:36.060 If a woman...
00:34:36.640 If a man is going out topless, his wife can tell him it's haram for you to show your aura.
00:34:40.640 Cover your aura.
00:34:42.080 It is imposed.
00:34:42.780 She has to impose it on him.
00:34:46.000 But that's okay.
00:34:47.160 Does he listen to him?
00:34:47.800 No, he has to.
00:34:49.400 Because she's now telling the person from the sharia.
00:34:51.220 Yeah, and the woman will listen to the man as well.
00:34:52.920 But you said that's toxic masculinity.
00:34:54.840 But it's forced when it's forced.
00:34:56.340 Okay, what do you mean by forced?
00:34:57.940 Like when he says, oh, you're doing that so you can't go out.
00:35:01.060 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:35:01.720 Okay, okay, one second.
00:35:02.400 If a man says...
00:35:03.560 Now, when you say forced, is he grabbing her by the neck?
00:35:05.960 Is he putting a gun to her head?
00:35:06.780 Is there a knife?
00:35:07.220 What's going on?
00:35:08.440 But, any, any, any.
00:35:10.020 Forced what?
00:35:10.460 If he says...
00:35:11.460 Forced for manipulation, we're talking about.
00:35:12.580 Okay, no problem.
00:35:13.060 If he says to his wife, you're wearing red lipstick.
00:35:16.940 I don't like it.
00:35:17.960 I don't want you to wear it.
00:35:18.820 If you do, I will divorce you.
00:35:21.940 Manipulation.
00:35:22.800 No problem, no problem.
00:35:23.560 No problem.
00:35:23.840 Does he have a right to?
00:35:25.280 He does have a right to.
00:35:26.380 Okay, good.
00:35:26.800 Can a woman...
00:35:27.280 He shouldn't, but he has a right to.
00:35:28.360 No, no, no.
00:35:28.600 Okay, can a woman now come and say,
00:35:30.440 you are sometimes speaking to sisters,
00:35:33.660 and I don't like it.
00:35:36.540 And if you do, I will seek divorce.
00:35:38.200 Can she do that?
00:35:39.960 She can do that.
00:35:40.900 She shouldn't.
00:35:42.120 Why should she don't?
00:35:43.120 Why is he speaking to another girl?
00:35:44.920 What is he talking about?
00:35:45.900 Sisters.
00:35:46.300 She's talking to other sisters.
00:35:46.820 I don't care if it's sisters.
00:35:47.600 He calls them sisters.
00:35:48.360 Maybe he's trying to move to them.
00:35:49.720 Okay, then...
00:35:50.460 What do you want to start with?
00:35:51.540 I'm trying to give a dawah.
00:35:52.640 If we're using that assumption,
00:35:53.840 then yes, he should.
00:35:54.840 Keep a dawah to yourself.
00:35:56.220 Yeah, if we're using that assumption,
00:35:57.880 then yes, she should threaten.
00:36:00.020 Because we're going on with it.
00:36:00.900 Oh, but that's violating her rights.
00:36:02.600 Because why is he...
00:36:03.820 I mean, if it's a second wife,
00:36:05.400 I mean, it's still a bit piqued,
00:36:06.220 but at least there's ways to go about it.
00:36:08.580 But if he's continuously talking to different girls,
00:36:10.500 come on, you're violating her rights.
00:36:11.400 Why are you speaking to other girls?
00:36:12.760 Why are you speaking to other girls?
00:36:13.940 So the thing is here,
00:36:15.060 she has a right to force him,
00:36:17.380 in a specific instance,
00:36:18.940 and say,
00:36:19.760 if you carry this on,
00:36:21.100 I will seek divorce.
00:36:22.360 And she will have a right to divorce.
00:36:23.740 You have a right,
00:36:24.620 but it doesn't mean you should do it.
00:36:26.360 What do you mean?
00:36:26.860 Okay, all right, no problem.
00:36:28.340 Speak to girls.
00:36:29.940 Do what you like.
00:36:31.160 You go out in miniskirts,
00:36:32.580 bikini, no problem.
00:36:33.320 In Islam, you have the right to drink alcohol.
00:36:36.300 If you want, you have the right.
00:36:37.120 Go, go on.
00:36:37.900 But you are being haram.
00:36:39.220 You're being haram.
00:36:39.940 No, no, but as...
00:36:40.700 Look, we are the leaders,
00:36:42.600 and we will be responsible.
00:36:44.000 As a human who believes in Islam...
00:36:46.360 Yeah, but we're talking about Islam.
00:36:47.400 We're talking about Islam.
00:36:47.900 Okay, then you don't have that right, then.
00:36:49.620 What do you mean I don't have that right?
00:36:50.380 Of course I have that right.
00:36:51.000 There are nuances.
00:36:52.000 No, no, there isn't.
00:36:53.540 I have a right to tell my wife
00:36:54.580 that I don't want you to wear lipstick.
00:36:55.840 Okay, yeah.
00:36:56.400 Period.
00:36:56.920 Yeah, you can do that.
00:36:57.720 No, no, I can't do that.
00:36:58.300 I will do that.
00:37:00.720 That's what I'm saying, though.
00:37:01.480 That's the point.
00:37:02.340 Do I become toxic masculine now?
00:37:04.680 Am I a misogynist now?
00:37:07.200 No, of course I'm not going to go,
00:37:08.180 hey, don't worry,
00:37:08.820 that man's going to shank you up.
00:37:10.640 I'm going to say, look,
00:37:11.760 you know, in a romantic way,
00:37:13.300 you know,
00:37:13.620 maybe give a little flower there,
00:37:14.700 you know,
00:37:15.500 I'm going to make lasagna today.
00:37:16.460 No, I'm joking.
00:37:17.500 You'd be reasonable.
00:37:18.360 Come on, I'm not saying go like,
00:37:19.440 you know what, look,
00:37:20.300 I don't like you wearing that.
00:37:21.300 Okay, appreciate it,
00:37:22.220 because I love you,
00:37:22.840 you're my wife,
00:37:23.320 I don't want next man looking at you.
00:37:24.620 Because you're going to reason,
00:37:25.100 I'm going to go and be like,
00:37:25.540 no, you're not wearing it.
00:37:26.420 Come on, let's do this.
00:37:27.720 There's a way of delivering it.
00:37:29.260 Do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:37:30.160 And it's the same with the...
00:37:31.220 I'm saying there's a way of delivering it.
00:37:32.600 I know, but he has a right to say that.
00:37:34.800 I literally just said that,
00:37:36.560 that you have a right to say it.
00:37:37.020 Okay, okay, okay, okay.
00:37:37.660 Wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:37:38.380 So when the woman has a right to say,
00:37:39.760 I don't appreciate
00:37:40.560 that you are messaging these girls.
00:37:42.460 Yes.
00:37:43.340 Yes.
00:37:44.660 That's it.
00:37:45.420 No problem.
00:37:46.060 So we're on the same page.
00:37:47.360 Yeah.
00:37:47.900 Good.
00:37:48.300 Why are we arguing over?
00:37:50.400 You tell me.
00:37:51.440 Are we on the same page?
00:37:52.200 Tell me.
00:37:52.860 Alhamdulillah.
00:37:53.460 That's all I'm saying.
00:37:54.060 Because you, in your mind,
00:37:54.940 you thought or you think
00:37:56.260 that I don't accept
00:37:57.360 some part of Islam
00:37:59.060 or if I didn't...
00:37:59.360 It was when we first started
00:38:00.580 when you said about
00:38:01.080 an Indian person.
00:38:01.700 I accepted it.
00:38:02.900 Yeah.
00:38:03.160 But it doesn't mean
00:38:03.960 I have to completely take it in.
00:38:06.060 You have to completely take it.
00:38:07.700 Full.
00:38:08.160 Allah says in the Quran,
00:38:09.420 when Allah...
00:38:10.000 No.
00:38:10.640 Allah says in the Quran,
00:38:11.460 Allah says in the Quran,
00:38:13.440 when Allah and his messenger
00:38:14.480 decide something,
00:38:15.580 it is not for the believer to...
00:38:17.300 Oh, no, no, no, no.
00:38:18.360 Did he say it?
00:38:19.300 Like Abu Bakr,
00:38:20.200 why is he known as a siddiq?
00:38:21.680 Because Quraysh came to him
00:38:23.140 and said,
00:38:23.740 you know your companion,
00:38:25.140 the Prophet?
00:38:25.560 He said he flew to Jerusalem.
00:38:27.320 Bro, look at this.
00:38:28.020 Allah, this is so deep.
00:38:29.420 He goes to...
00:38:29.820 You know what he said to them?
00:38:30.700 He goes,
00:38:31.840 did he say that?
00:38:33.100 He goes, yeah, I believe it.
00:38:34.740 That's how we should be.
00:38:36.920 Anyway, sister,
00:38:37.660 may Allah bless you.
00:38:38.680 You're still young.
00:38:39.340 You're 17.
00:38:40.280 Yeah?
00:38:41.040 What I'm saying is,
00:38:42.100 the rights Islam has given you,
00:38:44.320 keep to that
00:38:44.800 because that's the best thing you have.
00:38:45.940 No feminism,
00:38:46.920 red pill,
00:38:47.800 none of this stuff
00:38:48.320 is going to give you
00:38:48.860 to the men and to the women.
00:38:50.400 There's nothing they're going to offer
00:38:51.320 that Allah and His Messenger hasn't.
00:38:52.780 The moment we stick to that
00:38:54.040 which we have,
00:38:54.480 alhamdulillah,
00:38:54.760 may Allah bless you,
00:38:55.540 we would prosper.
00:38:56.660 The moment we start doubting
00:38:57.900 and be like,
00:38:58.160 that doesn't make sense to me,
00:38:59.340 is where we're going to go into avenues
00:39:01.120 where it can even leave us the kufr.
00:39:02.620 May Allah bless you again.
00:39:04.540 Forgive me if I became passionate.
00:39:06.140 I get a bit excited sometimes.
00:39:07.160 Forgive me.
00:39:08.000 But yeah, that's it.
00:39:08.960 That's all I want to say,
00:39:09.620 inshallah.
00:39:09.960 May Allah bless you,
00:39:10.420 inshallah, yeah?
00:39:10.880 I need to pray as well now.
00:39:11.480 Thank you.
00:39:12.740 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.