Ali Dawah - January 21, 2023


HIJABI SHOCKS THE INTERNET


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

217.62572

Word count

2,099

Sentence count

167

Harmful content

Misogyny

17

sentences flagged

Toxicity

15

sentences flagged

Hate speech

17

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Jummah Kutbahaykum: When your husband comes out of the shower, get on your knees and suck some positivity into that man. I want to speak to a husband because there is a big question mark on him.

Transcript

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00:00:00.320 When your husband comes out of the shower, get on your knees and suck some positivity into that man. 1.00
00:00:05.400 I want to speak to a husband, because there's a big question mark on you.
00:00:11.520 I've come together with the One Omar charity, which is 100% donation policy, and do amazing work around the world.
00:00:16.360 This winter, brothers and sisters, help to feed those who are in poor conditions and who don't even have the clothing to keep themselves warm.
00:00:22.140 Your small donation might mean nothing to you, but it can change their life and help them survive the winter this year.
00:00:26.820 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatu wa barakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.
00:00:29.700 I'll be glad to win, inshaAllah.
00:00:30.740 So, a couple of days ago, I've done a video pertaining to the sister, about her saying that she doesn't mind her friends marrying her husband.
00:00:38.020 I found that a bit weird and odd.
00:00:39.960 It's not in a woman's nature to be totally okay with her husband marrying someone, let alone marrying her friend. 1.00
00:00:45.440 Now, does this mean that men are not polygamous by nature and they shouldn't do it? 0.99
00:00:48.200 No, that's a different story. I'm not saying that.
00:00:50.040 So, I found that bizarre.
00:00:51.440 I've done a video, it was mediocre, and I said, well, you assume the best, and I gave her a bit of nasir.
00:00:54.800 However, these two new videos that came out, or old ones, whatever they may be,
00:00:59.020 I've found the need to do another video because, to clarify so people don't think that I'm okay, you know, just gave her a bit of nasir.
00:01:05.200 No, I'm outright going to be warning about, warning against this couple.
00:01:09.840 But I'm not going to be talking to her.
00:01:11.440 I'm going to be talking to her boss, which she refers to her husband.
00:01:14.280 Which, I don't really mind if you want to see her husband as a boss, that's fine.
00:01:18.240 Alhamdulillah, it's not a really big deal.
00:01:19.680 But I'm going to talk to him, because it seems that the problem is with him, not necessarily with her.
00:01:24.380 Even though she might be to blame as well.
00:01:25.880 Here's the two clips. 0.90
00:01:27.180 Let's talk about sex. 0.93
00:01:28.680 The first time I had sex was pretty difficult, you know. 0.95
00:01:32.640 My husband was very, mashallah, well endowed.
00:01:35.520 The whole point of sharing this is so that people know, most of the time...
00:01:41.620 That's one.
00:01:42.580 As I watch the video, if you take out context just with that, beginning bit, which I'm going to come to,
00:01:48.260 but the rest of the video, it's kind of balanced.
00:01:51.060 She's talking about real situations.
00:01:52.260 But to start that video like that, it's very, very distasteful.
00:01:56.180 And to me, it's very weird.
00:01:57.880 And I'll tell you why.
00:01:58.980 Now, this next video is the one that, you know, yeah, watch it for yourself.
00:02:05.520 When your husband comes out of the shower, get on your knees and suck some positivity into that man. 1.00
00:02:10.580 Then go sit him down, turn on the TV and give him something to eat. 0.89
00:02:14.080 Hop in the shower and come back and give him some dessert. 0.79
00:02:17.120 Too many women complain to me and they're like, he never lasts long enough. 1.00
00:02:21.220 Now he will.
00:02:22.480 Try it.
00:02:23.400 And if you really want to learn more, go get my book.
00:02:26.320 I want to speak to her husband, because there's a big question mark on you.
00:02:30.120 You don't show your face on the camera.
00:02:32.800 She's always behind there, saying things.
00:02:35.060 I don't know if it's coming from her.
00:02:36.460 I don't know if it's coming from you.
00:02:38.020 But to me, there's a big question on your ghira, your protective jealousy.
00:02:43.820 And there is a big question mark on her haya. 0.97
00:02:47.540 Now, what do I mean by this?
00:02:49.280 It's very clear that she's dressed up modestly.
00:02:52.360 But hijab is not just putting a cover over your head or your body.
00:02:55.940 It is what comes out of your mouth.
00:03:00.120 That there seems like it's greatly lacking.
00:03:03.080 Now, your husband maybe doesn't have the audacity or wants to show his face.
00:03:07.580 For God knows whatever reason.
00:03:08.780 I find it very bizarre.
00:03:09.500 Why don't you show your face?
00:03:10.980 You don't show your face, but you're okay by putting your wife, or whatever for whatever reason, 0.54
00:03:16.160 coming out here and discussing things that are not real.
00:03:18.680 From the polygamy issue of marrying her friend, look, you might be an exception to the rule. 0.95
00:03:23.940 May Allah increase you in more co-wives. 1.00
00:03:26.000 No problem.
00:03:26.660 I've got nothing with that.
00:03:27.560 I've always said, I am pro-polygamous, and I believe every man is polygamous by nature.
00:03:31.920 And I vocally say that.
00:03:33.120 So I'm not here to please the sisters.
00:03:35.800 I'm being very honest and brutal.
00:03:37.560 It is a solution.
00:03:38.780 But for you to come out there and say, oh, my husband is very, you know, blessed.
00:03:44.640 I'll be honest.
00:03:45.260 If I was your father, I would be very, very disturbed.
00:03:48.740 Best believe I'll be coming to have more than a word with you.
00:03:51.640 Where is your haya? 0.62
00:03:52.420 Where is your shame?
00:03:53.040 In public talking about your husband and what he does or how blessed he is or whatever.
00:03:58.580 Keep your blessings to yourself.
00:04:00.300 Enjoy your blessings in your privacy.
00:04:01.900 You don't need to scream it out to everybody.
00:04:03.280 Number one, evil eye, hasad, that's one issue.
00:04:06.180 But the lack of modesty and for your husband to allow you to do that.
00:04:09.180 When we know the Prophet Muhammad said, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala doesn't look at somebody 0.74
00:04:14.400 who or something along those lines, it's severe, the one who goes and shares his intimate
00:04:21.160 things with his partner.
00:04:21.960 This is wrong.
00:04:23.000 We cannot go to people and be like, oh, you know what?
00:04:25.080 Did my wife yesterday put up on my team? 1.00
00:04:26.940 What are you talking about, man?
00:04:28.260 Have some gheera over your womanful, your wife. 1.00
00:04:31.060 What you're talking about is permissible.
00:04:32.900 But for you to go and talk in that manner, this is not an action of a real man.
00:04:37.280 Sister, I'm just going to refer to you for a bit.
00:04:39.020 Then I'm going to speak to your husband. 0.97
00:04:39.980 Now you're coming and saying that you get on your knees and suck some love into him or 0.99
00:04:44.300 out of him. 0.97
00:04:45.140 I don't know what the, whatever you said, yeah?
00:04:47.840 Sister, where is your shame?
00:04:49.480 Wallahi, where is your shame? 0.96
00:04:50.540 Wallahi, if I was your father, I would disown you, man. 0.89
00:04:52.840 Now you're going to come and say, what is halal?
00:04:54.020 What is that? 0.98
00:04:54.540 It's disgusting. 0.96
00:04:55.840 It is disgusting. 0.99
00:04:56.620 Not only that, may Allah preserve your marriage.
00:04:58.440 May Allah protect you from evil eye or whatever it may be.
00:05:00.460 And may you guys be together until death and then Jannah.
00:05:03.980 But my dear sister, what if one day you divorce or this man decides to divorce you?
00:05:07.680 Do you think any man would be watching that and be like, hmm, let me marry this woman?
00:05:11.180 No, after the stuff you said, believe me, yeah, men have a different kind of gheera.
00:05:15.880 No man's going to be like, oh, yes.
00:05:17.160 Oh, oh, oh, who's your wife? 1.00
00:05:18.560 Oh, my wife is that sister. 1.00
00:05:19.520 You know, who came and said that she used to do this to her ex-husband. 0.58
00:05:23.200 Men sometimes can be insecure to their ex-partners.
00:05:26.900 Ex-partners past, haram past, or halal.
00:05:29.580 This is in a man's nature.
00:05:30.620 Some men just feel insecure about that.
00:05:32.320 For you to do that, you are self-sabotaging your future.
00:05:34.820 Just in case if things went pear-shade.
00:05:37.420 May Allah preserve you guys and protect your family unit.
00:05:40.120 We don't want that to happen.
00:05:41.280 To your husband, my dear brother, how are you putting your wife in front of a camera?
00:05:46.160 Okay, she has, she dressed up modestly.
00:05:48.300 It doesn't seem like she has makeup or whatever from what I've seen.
00:05:51.300 The issue here is this.
00:05:52.280 You are now, for some odd reason, every time you make a video, you're talking about this book and this website.
00:05:58.080 This book and this website.
00:05:59.840 I'll be honest.
00:06:00.820 We should assume the best.
00:06:01.880 But Omar ibn Khattab said, radiallahu anhu, that we used to judge people based on wahi.
00:06:06.300 When wahi stopped, we judge people based on what we see.
00:06:09.520 We judge from the apparent.
00:06:11.360 So personally, I would say there is something off and there's something a bit weird.
00:06:16.080 I don't know what will come out in the future, but it seems like you are very obsessed with this book you want to sell and this website you want people to go and sign up to.
00:06:23.940 And very bizarrely, you're charging 200, I thought it was 27 pounds, $27 an hour.
00:06:29.480 271, for some reason, otherwise 271 pounds, yeah, $1 per hour for marriage counselling?
00:06:37.520 What are you doing, giving diamonds and gold on the side?
00:06:40.000 Is it a holiday package as well?
00:06:43.720 271 pounds, excuse me, dollars.
00:06:46.200 To me, I would say, guys, be very, very wary.
00:06:48.760 That's the reason why I'm blocking out the website name and muting her when she mentions her book.
00:06:53.480 To me, something's very questionable.
00:06:55.180 Because she is giving a false idea to men as if this is how it is. 0.97
00:06:59.740 Now, don't get it twisted. 0.86
00:07:01.160 Of course, you know, you are allowed to have oral intimacy with your partner. 0.82
00:07:04.680 It is permissible.
00:07:05.800 There's nothing wrong with it.
00:07:07.260 You can have that.
00:07:08.340 There's many things that you can do.
00:07:09.920 Yes, many things you can do.
00:07:11.700 However, to give this false perception that certain things are okay is not.
00:07:17.780 Because you're giving a false reality to men as if that's how it is.
00:07:20.880 And they're putting their wives in question.
00:07:22.540 That's not the case.
00:07:23.580 So, brothers, stop watching individuals like this.
00:07:26.300 Public figures like her who are irresponsible in their message and are too busy. 0.99
00:07:30.400 Buy my book, go to my website.
00:07:32.120 Buy my book, go to my website.
00:07:33.660 It's literally on there.
00:07:34.700 She doesn't even deny it.
00:07:35.540 She says, yes, that's what I do.
00:07:36.520 If somebody lacks haya, and I'm so sorry, if a husband in this specific aspect records his wife or allows his wife to say such things, there's a gheera issue. 0.58
00:07:49.140 Yes, there's a gheera issue here.
00:07:50.640 All they're doing is promoting book and website.
00:07:53.620 I'll be saying, be very wary and stay away.
00:07:56.620 If they were responsible, they would come and discuss the issue of polygamy in a mature way, in a civilized way, so people can understand and benefit from it.
00:08:04.600 But to me, with the lack of haya, and the money side of it, there's a big fat question mark.
00:08:11.200 So, I would say, be careful.
00:08:12.520 And my dear sister, I ask you to remove these videos. 0.72
00:08:15.700 If you want it for the sake of Allah, you don't need to do anything for me.
00:08:18.360 Remove it for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 1.00
00:08:20.060 Have some haya.
00:08:21.080 Please, have some haya.
00:08:22.520 And to your husband, I don't know what your guy's agenda is, whatever it is.
00:08:26.480 Right now, there's a question mark.
00:08:27.940 Please, it's very hard to speak to another sister or brother in this way.
00:08:30.480 I'm so sorry, but I'm going to be real because there's people, people's money and people you're going to be taking for a ride at stake here.
00:08:36.120 Please have some gheera over your wife and tell her to stop doing such things and speaking in such ways. 1.00
00:08:43.240 You allowing this shows me, I'll be honest with you, you can have three, four wives.
00:08:48.360 Yeah?
00:08:48.900 If you're allowing this, let me tell you something.
00:08:50.360 If I was in that situation and my wife, for example, was over the moon if I got two, three, four wives and she spoke like that, I'll say, you know what?
00:09:00.360 I'd rather be with one wife than having my wife speaking in that manner about intimate things with no haya. 1.00
00:09:07.720 That's all I had to say.
00:09:08.660 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive me if I've said anything to hurt anybody.
00:09:11.160 But I found the need to do this video because after the polygamy video, which I was very balanced, and I said, let's assume the best in the sister. 1.00
00:09:16.740 When I saw these videos, I don't want people thinking, okay, Ali just, you know, gave her a nasir, but I said, you know, let's assume the best.
00:09:22.260 No, let's not assume the best now.
00:09:23.560 Assume the best outside in the bin, please.
00:09:25.920 Be wary of these individuals.
00:09:27.580 Not just her, these public figures who make their, you know, as if marriage is all hunky-dory and holidays are the same irresponsible people.
00:09:35.620 Till next time.
00:09:36.620 Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.