Why is it so surprising that a woman with 5 kids manages to find a man even after having 5 kids? Is it impossible for a woman who has 5 kids to get married? In this podcast, I give my perspective on this and give my opinion on why it is possible for a women with 5 children to get a husband.
00:01:42.140The only thing that we follow is the Quran and the sunnah.
00:01:44.120So why is it, why does it come as a surprise?
00:01:46.800For some brothers, why is it a hard pill?
00:01:50.140A hard blue pill or red pill or whatever pill you want to call it, or should we say the pill from the Quran and the sunnah, hard to swallow?
00:01:56.020Why is it so surprising that a woman with five kids got married?
00:02:11.060So I'm not here encouraging sisters to go get a divorce, because I know there is a phenomenon happening now where sisters think the grass is greener on the other side.
00:02:20.020We have many sisters who come on the Bitter Truth Show and other sisters where I know myself who are finding it very, very hard to get married.
00:02:26.580Now, this is a reality that it is hard for sisters who end their marriages on trivial matters and think it's all grass is greener on the other side.
00:02:35.040They end up seeing very, very the dark side, where a lot of men, sadly, are after the wrong thing, especially when you're with kids, especially with sub-Asian community, you are looked and frowned upon.
00:03:09.060May Allah preserve your marriage because we do not want the breakdown of the marriage unit.
00:03:12.900I myself, I am so, so happy, my dear sister Inaya, and whoever you are, that you have found your happiness, you have found a man, and may Allah preserve you both.
00:03:21.860And we want the marriage unit to be intact.
00:05:30.160Iblis fell into disbelief because he said, logically this doesn't follow, therefore I'm going to ascribe a mistake to Allah because this is how he fell into disbelief.
00:05:38.240Not because he committed, not because he didn't bow down.
00:07:38.840So, therefore, all I'm saying to my brothers and sisters who are listening to this, be it feminism, be it red pill, for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, all things are possible, and a woman who has five kids, like I said before, can get married.
00:07:49.380So, therefore, number one, that's the thing, and I'm going to finish on this note, inshaAllah.
00:07:53.920Number two, to even have that as a discussion point and talking about it can fall into backbiting.
00:08:00.100And talking about the sister and her family can even fall into slander if what you're saying is not true.
00:08:06.820If you're talking about them, it is backbiting.
00:08:10.300If what you say is not true, it is slander.
00:08:12.980And the Prophet ï·º said, I guarantee paradise for the one who can secure.
00:08:18.160Guarantee me what's between their lips and what's between their private parts.
00:08:22.240Let's be careful, brothers and sisters.
00:08:24.000It is Ramadan, we should, and outside of Ramadan as well, subhanAllah.
00:08:29.240Let's be careful, and let's be very, very, very careful.
00:08:32.620Because believe me, the Salaf used to say, we would rather stand in front of our Lord with 70 sins.
00:08:38.520Meaning said, 70 used to be the word of expression of many.
00:08:41.700Between us and our Lord, then one sin between me and me wronging someone.
00:08:55.340And I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to bless their marriage to the day they die, and inshaAllah, in Jannah.
00:09:02.600And that's it, that's all I want to say, inshaAllah.
00:09:04.740This does not mean, by the way, I'm promoting sister Inayah, anyone for that matter.
00:09:08.700Okay, because there's public figures themselves, there's things I agree and disagree with them.
00:09:12.380Just to make a disclaimer, I'm not promoting, I'm just saying that this disease that we have of this attitude, this is from no other than shaytan.
00:09:18.880We take the naqal, what Allah said, revealed from his messenger, over our aqal.
00:09:23.660Over what this little limited brain, yes, this little brain, yeah, okay, it's quite a little, yeah, all of us.
00:09:30.800We take that over this all day, every day.