Ali Dawah - HOW TO FIND WIFE？ - EP 25 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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00:01:09.100 We're live?

00:01:10.100 Yeah, we're live.

00:01:11.100 I was just doing some fundraising

00:01:13.100 while two of you guys come for this project.

00:01:15.100 You know the one I was talking to you about yesterday.

00:01:16.100 Yeah, I know.

00:01:17.100 Do you have an actual one?

00:01:18.100 Yeah, I've got one.

00:01:19.100 It's here.

00:01:20.100 I can give you one as well

00:01:21.100 because I know you're new to praying as well.

00:01:23.100 You said you know Surah Al-Fatiha now, yeah?

00:01:25.100 Nearly, nearly.

00:01:27.100 Moana is helping me.

00:01:28.100 He's helping me.

00:01:29.100 That's good.

00:01:30.100 My voice is good.

00:01:31.100 I think my pronunciation is okay.

00:01:32.100 It took me quite a bit as well.

00:01:33.100 I can remember when I first came to Islam.

00:01:35.100 Okay, we've got 900 people watching.

00:01:37.100 What is this?

00:01:38.100 So the Salah Plus project is something that actually Muhammad Hijab,

00:01:41.100 we found it five years ago.

00:01:43.100 This project is something new because it was just more general.

00:01:45.100 That was me, Muhammad Hijab, Ustad Adnan Rashid,

00:01:48.100 Sheikh Mohammed.

00:01:49.100 We started off as like a movement, just giving dawah,

00:01:51.100 which we do in Speaker's Corner.

00:01:52.100 But we launched this project about a year and a half ago.

00:01:55.100 So this is basically because we realized it's really difficult

00:01:58.100 for new Muslims when they come to Islam,

00:02:00.100 when it comes to Salah, because it's like so much, bro.

00:02:02.100 Like how do I pray?

00:02:03.100 There's a lot of putting your toe back properly or when to put it.

00:02:05.100 Exactly.

00:02:06.100 Yeah, exactly.

00:02:07.100 And then you've got your uncles who come and tell you in the masjid,

00:02:10.100 oh, don't do this.

00:02:11.100 It's so daunting.

00:02:12.100 It's like, I don't even know how to pray. 0.92

00:02:13.100 Now you're bloody having a go at me.

00:02:14.100 My hand should be here or don't do this. 0.96

00:02:15.100 So as a new Muslim, I can remember 11 years ago

00:02:18.100 when I first learned how to pray, I know how difficult it was.

00:02:20.100 So launching this project, I'm a trustee.

00:02:22.100 So I'm a volunteer.

00:02:24.100 I just volunteer.

00:02:25.100 I don't get paid for this.

00:02:26.100 So the team are doing an amazing job.

00:02:27.100 So these prayer mats, all they do is just that if you accept Islam, 0.99

00:02:31.100 you can start praying immediately.

00:02:32.100 Why?

00:02:33.100 Because you just put this in front of you and it shows you the movements.

00:02:36.100 It shows you the transliteration of what to say.

00:02:38.100 So you can start praying immediately.

00:02:40.100 And we know, for example, something we didn't talk about yesterday in your life

00:02:43.100 is that we talk about like food, nutrition.

00:02:45.100 When it comes to like, I could do a lot of sports, boxing, jogging.

00:02:49.100 You know, I'm trying to cut down.

00:02:51.100 You're like throwing Ramadan too. 0.98

00:02:52.100 Yes.

00:02:53.100 To me, I believe it's a thing in the mind, Sineko.

00:02:55.100 To me, four years ago, because I do jogging every week, two times a week.

00:02:59.100 Yeah.

00:03:00.100 Like 4K to 5K jogging.

00:03:01.100 So I can remember it was a 19 and a half hour fast.

00:03:04.100 This was three years ago.

00:03:05.100 Yeah.

00:03:06.100 So it was a long hours.

00:03:07.100 So about half an hour before I would call for a jog.

00:03:09.100 And I thought, you know what?

00:03:10.100 I haven't eaten.

00:03:11.100 I'm proper weak.

00:03:12.100 I'll do 2K jog instead of 4K.

00:03:14.100 So I started jogging.

00:03:15.100 So I did 1K.

00:03:16.100 So I'm feeling good.

00:03:17.100 I did 2K.

00:03:18.100 So I feel good.

00:03:19.100 I did 3K.

00:03:20.100 I did 4K.

00:03:21.100 I did 5K, bro.

00:03:22.100 I don't usually do 5K.

00:03:23.100 Bro, I felt, and I thought to myself, you know what, bro?

00:03:25.100 This is all in the mind.

00:03:26.100 Just because I was not eating, I was thinking I'm weak.

00:03:29.100 Our bodies are not created to eat all the time, bro.

00:03:31.100 When you're fasting, it actually renews your cells.

00:03:33.100 So to me, I noticed it's all in the mind.

00:03:35.100 So now, I had my boxing training last Friday.

00:03:37.100 And my coach was like, should I take care of it easy?

00:03:38.100 I said no.

00:03:39.100 Like an hour before?

00:03:40.100 No, no.

00:03:41.100 9 in the morning.

00:03:42.100 So I had 8 hours to break my fast.

00:03:44.100 No water the whole time.

00:03:45.100 I don't know.

00:03:46.100 When I box, I get like a sweat.

00:03:47.100 I look like I jumped in the pool.

00:03:48.100 Okay.

00:03:49.100 Alhamdulillah.

00:03:50.100 You know, with me, one thing, maybe it might be specific to me.

00:03:52.100 I don't get thirsty.

00:03:53.100 I don't really get that thirsty.

00:03:54.100 So I did my training.

00:03:57.100 Huh?

00:03:58.100 No, no, no.

00:03:59.100 I did my training in the morning, 9am.

00:04:00.100 And my coach was like, should we go a bit light today?

00:04:02.100 I said no.

00:04:03.100 Do 10 rounds of skipping.

00:04:04.100 Boom.

00:04:05.100 Then we'll do the pad work.

00:04:06.100 Boom.

00:04:07.100 Then do a little circuit.

00:04:08.100 He's like, brother, are you okay?

00:04:09.100 I was like, no, I'm good, man.

00:04:10.100 I believe it's in the mind, bro.

00:04:11.100 I just genuinely believe it's in the mind.

00:04:12.100 And when it comes to training, like you see Khabib or some of them, like when they fight, 0.55

00:04:16.100 they're fasting, bro.

00:04:17.100 Even some of them playing football.

00:04:18.100 They're fasting.

00:04:19.100 So to me, bro, which is very important.

00:04:21.100 Another thing sneak over for me, like what I learned was having that intimate relationship

00:04:25.100 with Allah.

00:04:26.100 So when it comes to Allah, we think we need to go to Allah when we're stuck or we're

00:04:29.100 going through a difficulty.

00:04:30.100 The Sahaba, the companions of the Prophet, peace be upon him, they would go and ask Allah's

00:04:34.100 guidance when they're picking clothes.

00:04:36.100 So they were thinking, okay, I've got white colourful or green colourful.

00:04:40.100 Both are beautiful.

00:04:41.100 Yeah.

00:04:42.100 You know what they were saying?

00:04:43.100 Look, you might find this.

00:04:44.100 They would say, Allah, allow me to pick the one that has more blessing for me.

00:04:48.100 And you think to yourself, something so little, but that's the relationship that Allah was

00:04:53.100 for them to go to for anything and everything.

00:04:57.100 Do you get it?

00:04:58.100 So to me, it's really, really profound.

00:04:59.100 So just coming back to this project, like I said before, like, you know, we're just teaching

00:05:02.100 people how to pray salah.

00:05:03.100 We have these mats that we send out for free.

00:05:05.100 So you can go to salahplus.com.

00:05:07.100 You're a new Muslim or even there's born Muslims who are ashamed of learning how to pray. 0.99

00:05:10.100 Yeah.

00:05:11.100 You order, we send it to you.

00:05:12.100 Yeah.

00:05:13.100 We have an instructor.

00:05:14.100 So me, Dawood and a couple of brothers, and we have a sisters team.

00:05:17.100 If you want to learn how to pray, we teach you over zoom.

00:05:19.100 So we've had peeps sisters in Jamaica. 0.98

00:05:21.100 There was a sister who accepted Islam.

00:05:23.100 Bambukalai.

00:05:25.100 Rastafari.

00:05:26.100 Yeah.

00:05:27.100 Yeah.

00:05:28.100 So we taught how to pray online.

00:05:30.100 If you're in London, we teach you.

00:05:31.100 So that's what the project is about.

00:05:32.100 I was just doing the fundraising, but you know, I was thinking to do the topic today.

00:05:35.100 I was going to make it.

00:05:36.100 You're looking to get married, aren't you, Sneeko? 0.97

00:05:38.100 InshaAllah.

00:05:39.100 Come on.

00:05:40.100 So, so to me, I've got a project I've been working on for quite a bit of time.

00:05:44.100 It's called my marriage documentary.

00:05:45.100 So it's me documenting.

00:05:47.100 When I first came to Islam, my journey to finding my wife.

00:05:50.100 You're married.

00:05:51.100 I'm married.

00:05:52.100 Yeah.

00:05:53.100 So it's my documentary of me as a Orthodox Muslim.

00:05:55.100 Cause we don't do dating.

00:05:56.100 We don't do none of the Haram stuff. 0.99

00:05:57.100 Yeah.

00:05:58.100 So it's me trying to find my wife.

00:06:00.100 So I documented it.

00:06:01.100 Like everything.

00:06:02.100 You know, when I have marriage meetings, I'll, I'll record like if there's permission,

00:06:05.100 obviously we don't show.

00:06:06.100 You filmed your marriage meetings.

00:06:07.100 So some of them, some of them, we filmed it.

00:06:09.100 We filmed it.

00:06:10.100 I talk about, okay, I met this sister.

00:06:11.100 This is what happened.

00:06:12.100 You filmed me meeting the dad and the brother?

00:06:13.100 Yeah.

00:06:14.100 There's one, actually there was, there was a really nice guy, like an uncle.

00:06:16.100 I went to, he really appreciates that.

00:06:17.100 I like the fact that you came to me and asked for my permission.

00:06:20.100 So I talk about my experience for all that.

00:06:22.100 Like it took me like a good three, four years.

00:06:24.100 Yeah.

00:06:25.100 You probably normalize an uncomfortable situation.

00:06:26.100 Say that again. 0.71

00:06:27.100 You're normalizing an uncomfortable, somewhat awkward situation.

00:06:30.100 Yes.

00:06:31.100 Exactly.

00:06:32.100 Exactly.

00:06:33.100 I'm not really sure how to approach that.

00:06:34.100 Exactly.

00:06:35.100 Exactly.

00:06:36.100 So I know where you was at.

00:06:37.100 So I would like to share my experience with you.

00:06:40.100 This is a great topic.

00:06:41.100 No, no.

00:06:42.100 We want Sneeko to find his wife. 1.00

00:06:44.100 Are you married?

00:06:45.100 No.

00:06:46.100 Yeah.

00:06:47.100 What?

00:06:48.100 We're going to get two brothers married.

00:06:49.100 How are you not married, bro?

00:06:51.100 Honestly, I'm focusing on my goals right now.

00:06:53.100 Are you sure, bro?

00:06:54.100 Are you sure the sisters are, I think the sisters are blind to where you're from, 0.54

00:06:56.100 brother.

00:06:57.100 They're not, they're not, they're not looking.

00:06:58.100 They don't engage too much.

00:06:59.100 They've been sending an application, but I haven't reviewed them yet.

00:07:02.100 Ah, okay.

00:07:03.100 I see that.

00:07:04.100 Oh, you haven't reviewed them yet.

00:07:05.100 Okay.

00:07:06.100 You know what I think today's topic should be, yeah, is how to find your wife in a proper 0.97

00:07:11.100 way.

00:07:12.100 Because it's not easy.

00:07:13.100 I know, but to me, it was, it was, it was nightmare, bro.

00:07:16.100 Like I went through some madness, bro.

00:07:18.100 But like, I got catfished.

00:07:20.100 Yeah.

00:07:21.100 But it wasn't a man.

00:07:22.100 It was actually a real woman. 0.97

00:07:23.100 It was a real woman.

00:07:24.100 But I didn't see her.

00:07:25.100 Was it trans?

00:07:26.100 Did you say it?

00:07:27.100 Did you say it?

00:07:28.100 No, no, no.

00:07:29.100 No, no, no.

00:07:31.100 It can be.

00:07:32.100 These days you can't expect anything.

00:07:33.100 I was speaking to a trans Hindu two days ago, yeah?

00:07:36.100 Not for marriage.

00:07:37.100 So anyways, guys, if you're watching this, the donation link is there.

00:07:41.100 You guys can donate as we talk.

00:07:42.100 Today's topic we're going to have, inshallah, I think it's important.

00:07:44.100 We'll have Hijab's take as well.

00:07:45.100 Hijab's got some funny stories, bro.

00:07:47.100 He's got some funny stories.

00:07:48.100 What was the Capuch story?

00:07:49.100 Did she not fit in her job?

00:07:51.100 Bro, I did not meet her ever.

00:07:53.100 She was using pictures that was not of her.

00:07:57.100 So every time I would say, because I'm not about this dating business.

00:07:59.100 So to me, it's like, look, I need to get to know you for a little bit, to a certain amount.

00:08:02.100 After that, I need to speak to your father, bro.

00:08:04.100 If you don't let me speak to your father, that's alarm bells.

00:08:07.100 Let me ask something.

00:08:08.100 But how do you even get pictures?

00:08:09.100 I thought you're not supposed to see her.

00:08:11.100 No, you can't.

00:08:12.100 Pictures of her in a Vakabi? 0.99

00:08:13.100 Like, bro, I'm going to give you some cheat codes.

00:08:15.100 Are you ready for this, Nico?

00:08:16.100 So I follow the opinion that Hanbal is here. 0.82

00:08:18.100 Okay, so this is how it works.

00:08:20.100 So let's say I'm speaking to a sister and I'm interested in marriage.

00:08:23.100 So obviously, there's some questions you need to ask first to get the gist if you're compatible.

00:08:27.100 So once you've done that, obviously not prolonging, like I'm speaking to her for weeks.

00:08:30.100 No, no, just a couple of days.

00:08:31.100 Ask some basic questions.

00:08:32.100 Let's see if we're in the same wavelength.

00:08:34.100 And then after that, I'll say, look, I want to speak to your dad to ask his permission.

00:08:37.100 So his dad will say, okay, you know what?

00:08:39.100 Thanks for coming to me.

00:08:40.100 Okay, I will get to my son.

00:08:41.100 So anytime you guys want to have a meeting or whatever for that matter, you guys can get to know each other.

00:08:46.100 Now, as you're getting to know her and things get a bit serious, you have every right to ask for a picture.

00:08:51.100 The prophet, peace be upon him, a man came that he was saying that he was getting to know someone for marriage.

00:08:55.100 And he said to her, have you seen her?

00:08:56.100 He said, no.

00:08:57.100 He said to see her for you might see something that will incline you to marry her.

00:09:00.100 You are allowed to see her.

00:09:01.100 That's why we live in Islam.

00:09:02.100 You can cover everywhere except your hands and your face.

00:09:05.100 Now, the scholar that I follow, they take this hadith and they say, hold on a second.

00:09:08.100 We can take a few things from this.

00:09:10.100 So some say you can see, like, even you can even see the hair.

00:09:15.100 I don't know if you've heard of this, yeah?

00:09:17.100 You can if she wants to.

00:09:19.100 Only if you're propositioning for marriage.

00:09:21.100 If you're propositioning for marriage and it's at the stage where it's getting a bit serious and you're like, you know what?

00:09:25.100 Do you mind if I see you with your hair?

00:09:26.100 Yeah?

00:09:27.100 Right.

00:09:28.100 What would you do?

00:09:29.100 The opinion that I follow is quite a strong snake.

00:09:30.100 I'll keep it down, yeah?

00:09:31.100 What would you do if she was bald?

00:09:35.100 If she's bald, there's always solutions. 0.99

00:09:38.100 There's always someone out there for her.

00:09:40.100 No, no, no.

00:09:44.100 It really depends.

00:09:46.100 But I'll be honest with you.

00:09:48.100 Which one?

00:09:49.100 This one?

00:09:50.100 It's not working?

00:09:51.100 No, no.

00:09:52.100 You've got to be careful.

00:09:53.100 You're far away from it.

00:09:54.100 Look, he's got his fist ready already.

00:09:56.100 Okay.

00:09:57.100 Let me know if it's working, yeah?

00:09:59.100 So yeah, like you can see certain, like for example, some say you can see up to, you know, like the forearm or the calves because it gives you an idea of her body mass, if that makes sense, yeah?

00:10:09.100 What?

00:10:10.100 Yeah, you can see up like from here, from here.

00:10:11.100 So she can wear certain clothing that give you an idea and a gist of how she may look. 0.50

00:10:17.100 It's in front of her family as well, right?

00:10:19.100 No, no, of course.

00:10:20.100 Yeah, yeah.

00:10:21.100 Not just you two.

00:10:22.100 Did you do that?

00:10:23.100 So when you met, you got to see like a wrist?

00:10:24.100 Okay, there was a situation where there was a Yemeni, a sister.

00:10:26.100 That's what it is.

00:10:27.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:10:28.100 So there was a situation where there was a Yemeni sister I was getting to know for marriage in Birmingham.

00:10:32.100 And I traveled there.

00:10:33.100 I met the family.

00:10:34.100 And I requested if I can see her without her hijab. 1.00

00:10:37.100 And here she came. 0.89

00:10:38.100 And to me, I'll be honest, like to me, it was just like, it just, and it's interesting because the Prophet peace be upon him said, see for something that might incline you further.

00:10:44.100 And I, and that to me, like, was like, okay.

00:10:47.100 Like I was okay.

00:10:48.100 Attractive.

00:10:49.100 Like we saw.

00:10:50.100 Yeah, yeah.

00:10:51.100 Some good hair.

00:10:52.100 Yeah, yeah.

00:10:53.100 Obviously.

00:10:54.100 But you know, but you know.

00:10:55.100 Do a test.

00:10:56.100 One, two.

00:10:57.100 Have no fear.

00:10:58.100 The Warner is here.

00:10:59.100 Oh, I like that.

00:11:00.100 Have no fear.

00:11:01.100 The Warner is here. 0.96

00:11:02.100 That's a sick one.

00:11:03.100 You should get t-shirts like that.

00:11:04.100 Yeah.

00:11:05.100 You don't have headphones?

00:11:06.100 No.

00:11:07.100 No.

00:11:08.100 He's not coming through.

00:11:09.100 No problem.

00:11:10.100 We can share our mic.

00:11:11.100 No, no, no.

00:11:12.100 If not, come sit here.

00:11:13.100 Okay, please.

00:11:14.100 Yeah, come, come.

00:11:15.100 So guys, okay, alhamdulillah.

00:11:16.100 Which camera do we look at?

00:11:17.100 No camera.

00:11:18.100 We look at each other.

00:11:19.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:11:20.100 We're having like a nice chat, inshallah.

00:11:21.100 Come at me. 0.99

00:11:22.100 So yeah, so you can, you can see certain stuff like, cause at the end of the day, you know

00:11:26.100 one thing, like for example, when we come from that background.

00:11:28.100 Yeah, I know how it is.

00:11:29.100 Yeah.

00:11:30.100 Cause we can like talk to girls on the street. 1.00

00:11:32.100 Do you get it?

00:11:33.100 It depends.

00:11:34.100 Like the background that I came from, like, not that I'm trying to praise you.

00:11:37.100 Have no fear.

00:11:38.100 It's like, you know, bro, you don't, you don't know nothing about lowering your gaze.

00:11:40.100 Yeah.

00:11:41.100 There's no lowering your gaze.

00:11:42.100 You're chatting to girls left, right, center.

00:11:43.100 So you're coming with baggage.

00:11:45.100 So, um, that's why it's like there's certain traits that you need to work on, et cetera,

00:11:49.100 because not lowering the gaze can be quite problematic.

00:11:51.100 And it's one of the hardest things for us men.

00:11:53.100 You know, that's why, uh, when Allah subhanahu says in the Quran that he created man weak,

00:11:56.100 one scholar said, imagine how weak man is, that he looks at something that he cannot gain

00:12:02.100 and he gets nothing from it except, you know, just, it's just making you more horny or 0.56

00:12:07.100 whatever.

00:12:08.100 And you're still looking.

00:12:09.100 That's how weak a man is.

00:12:10.100 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:12:11.100 So to us, obviously lowering the gaze is very important, but yeah, you can, you can see

00:12:14.100 man.

00:12:15.100 Like, uh, have you had any marriage meetings?

00:12:17.100 Yeah.

00:12:18.100 Yeah.

00:12:19.100 Yeah.

00:12:20.100 Okay.

00:12:21.100 What's, what's, what's, what are the obstacles that you say?

00:12:23.100 It's like the all things that you're a bit like, I don't know, man.

00:12:27.100 I think going from, from what I'm using from dating, it's, uh, it's hard to get to know

00:12:32.100 someone, you know, I think, uh, just how much you can speak to the girl before it's considered

00:12:39.100 dating, you know, how, how much you can get to know her, um, uh, in a, in a respectful

00:12:44.100 way before it's like, okay, well maybe you should just get married already.

00:12:47.100 Like I'm used to, I'm used to dating and exactly.

00:12:51.100 Yeah.

00:12:52.100 It's just completely different.

00:12:53.100 It's completely different.

00:12:54.100 And then just hear you, hearing you explain, like looking at a, an ankle or a wrist to

00:12:58.100 try to get an idea of what the rest of her body's like. 0.92

00:13:01.100 It's like, um, I can't help but think that's like silly, you know, like kind of like you're

00:13:04.100 looking at her ankle thinking like how big are her, you know, but yeah, it's a whole,

00:13:09.100 it's a whole different.

00:13:10.100 It is.

00:13:11.100 It is.

00:13:12.100 But you know, you know, with this matter, it's very important.

00:13:13.100 Yeah.

00:13:14.100 It's like, again, we, yesterday we was talking about having trust in Allah.

00:13:17.100 Yeah.

00:13:18.100 When I, look, let me be honest here.

00:13:19.100 I went through a lot of obstacles and difficulties throughout my marriage journey.

00:13:22.100 Look, bro, I got like talking to catfish to time wasters to being rejected by racism,

00:13:27.100 by the way.

00:13:28.100 Yeah.

00:13:29.100 Getting to know a certain culture.

00:13:30.100 Was a white girl. 0.98

00:13:31.100 No, no, no, no.

00:13:32.100 These, these were like, I don't want to give, cause some people get upset.

00:13:34.100 Yeah.

00:13:35.100 I don't want to go into where they were from.

00:13:36.100 Yeah.

00:13:37.100 But I'll be rejected because I'm not from that part of the world.

00:13:39.100 Yeah.

00:13:40.100 Um, so to me, it was very difficult.

00:13:42.100 But one thing that I learned was this year, when you stay persistent to Allah and you

00:13:45.100 stay true to his word and you do not involve or indulge in haram.

00:13:48.100 And even if you indulge in haram, you repent.

00:13:50.100 Yeah.

00:13:51.100 Once you do that, bro.

00:13:52.100 Like when I met my wife and like my wife, like, obviously, um, I didn't, I, I did speak

00:13:58.100 to her.

00:13:59.100 And as I was getting serious, I did ask for her, like to see if I can see without hijab. 1.00

00:14:03.100 And yeah, she, like, she sent me a picture.

00:14:04.100 I saw it.

00:14:05.100 And from there onwards, I'll be honest with you, bro.

00:14:07.100 My wife was like a, like, you know, some sisters I was getting to know for marriage,

00:14:10.100 et cetera, bro.

00:14:11.100 Like I would say, yeah, they were a seven out of 10.

00:14:12.100 Seven out of 10.

00:14:13.100 When I met my wife, my wife was a 20 out of 10 for me, for me. 0.73

00:14:15.100 So what the, it's as if Allah was saying to me, listen, Ali, you went through a lot of

00:14:19.100 madness.

00:14:20.100 You could have gone about the haram way.

00:14:21.100 You could have gone and linked them, date them, commit to zina.

00:14:24.100 You didn't, you didn't do that.

00:14:25.100 You stayed firm.

00:14:26.100 Here's your gift.

00:14:27.100 Here's your reward.

00:14:28.100 And to my wife, obviously I don't want to talk too much because I know I don't agree

00:14:31.100 with social media couples that make their marriage seem as if something is not.

00:14:35.100 And it gives this false perception of reality to people.

00:14:37.100 Yeah.

00:14:38.100 I believe it's, it's, um, it's not right.

00:14:39.100 You know, you know, you get this couple do that.

00:14:41.100 Everything looks so amazing.

00:14:42.100 Keep it private.

00:14:43.100 Marriage has ups and downs.

00:14:44.100 Keep your life private.

00:14:45.100 Yeah.

00:14:46.100 But to me, bro, let me be honest.

00:14:47.100 When you stick true to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, Allah gives you what you want, bro. 0.99

00:14:51.100 I'm telling you.

00:14:52.100 And you know, when it comes to prayer, one thing that you need to know.

00:14:54.100 When it comes to prayer, imagine you go to a king.

00:14:58.100 So you have this king that invites you to his kingdom.

00:15:00.100 He owns the whole earth.

00:15:02.100 And he comes to you and he says to you, Sneeko, what do you want from me?

00:15:05.100 And you go, I want an apple.

00:15:08.100 What do you think he'll do to you?

00:15:10.100 Probably give it to me. 1.00

00:15:11.100 No, he'll kill you, bro. 1.00

00:15:12.100 For an apple? 1.00

00:15:13.100 Yeah.

00:15:14.100 You know why?

00:15:15.100 Cause he'd be like, you're insulting me.

00:15:16.100 You're coming to my kingdom.

00:15:17.100 I own everything.

00:15:18.100 And you want an apple.

00:15:19.100 You're coming to my kingdom.

00:15:20.100 And you're, you're, you're basically, it's like a, it's, you're degrading me in front

00:15:23.100 of, do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:15:24.100 Ask me for something. 0.98

00:15:25.100 Ask me for a bloody building. 0.96

00:15:27.100 Ask me. 0.96

00:15:28.100 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:15:29.100 Because he's the king.

00:15:30.100 If you ask him for an apple, he's going to think this guy is degrading me.

00:15:32.100 So that when you go to Allah, ask for whatever you want, bro. 0.96

00:15:36.100 When you're making do it, I would be very specific in my prayers.

00:15:38.100 When it comes to what kind of a woman I want. 1.00

00:15:40.100 I'm talking body parts to like, I would be in detail.

00:15:44.100 I want this kind of hair.

00:15:45.100 I want this kind of hair.

00:15:47.100 I mean, I mean, I'll be honest.

00:15:51.100 Same goes with you, bro.

00:15:52.100 Bro, you have to, you have never tell yourself.

00:15:54.100 You have to be, bro, go into detail.

00:15:56.100 This is Allah, bro.

00:15:57.100 You know what's crazy? 0.95

00:15:58.100 In your face right now, you visualize like a Spanish, like, Latino woman, man. 0.94

00:16:03.100 I mean, the thing is, like, you know, she has, she has to have something else.

00:16:08.100 I might break her, you know?

00:16:10.100 No, no, no, no, no.

00:16:11.100 Exactly.

00:16:12.100 But that's, that's your type.

00:16:13.100 So to me, to me, to me, I have a specific look.

00:16:16.100 Yeah.

00:16:17.100 And by the way, look, to me, I have a specific that I looked for.

00:16:19.100 Yeah. Okay.

00:16:20.100 So there's many people I've met for marriage.

00:16:21.100 And a lot.

00:16:22.100 Okay.

00:16:23.100 I was looking for three, four years.

00:16:24.100 Okay.

00:16:25.100 Even when you live in the West, bro, you can't have sex outside of marriage.

00:16:29.100 Bro, it is peak in summertime.

00:16:31.100 Everyone's half naked, bro.

00:16:33.100 Lower your gaze.

00:16:34.100 Lower your gaze.

00:16:35.100 Even on the floor, there's fitna. 0.99

00:16:36.100 There's a floor in the fitna.

00:16:37.100 But when I look down, I have to look into the sky to see nothing.

00:16:39.100 Yeah.

00:16:40.100 Okay.

00:16:41.100 I have to look into the sky.

00:16:42.100 So it was really, really peak.

00:16:43.100 But the point is this, bro, is that.

00:16:45.100 I usually put mirrors on my shoes.

00:16:48.100 Bro, we just get married straight away, brother.

00:16:51.100 Yeah.

00:16:52.100 You're something else.

00:16:53.100 So yeah, I would say be very specific with the prayer.

00:16:55.100 And Allah will give you what you want.

00:16:57.100 So when it comes to the stuff of the unseen, like for example, okay, I don't know how her

00:17:01.100 body looks.

00:17:02.100 I don't know.

00:17:03.100 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:17:04.100 And it's kind of risky.

00:17:05.100 How does she look with that hijab? 1.00

00:17:06.100 Do you get it?

00:17:07.100 Some girls look really good with hijab. 1.00

00:17:08.100 When the hijab comes off, you're like, I want to be lamna shaitan rajeem. 0.99

00:17:10.100 Yeah.

00:17:11.100 Okay.

00:17:12.100 It's not.

00:17:13.100 It's mad.

00:17:14.100 Like, you know, you look totally different.

00:17:15.100 Or some of them, they are different.

00:17:16.100 Their hand color is different to their face, bro.

00:17:17.100 Right.

00:17:18.100 You're thinking, bro, your face color is different to your hand because

00:17:20.100 of the makeup.

00:17:23.100 Well, I have been praying for it.

00:17:25.100 I don't know.

00:17:26.100 Like in Islamic sources, like speak about what you pray for. 0.96

00:17:28.100 But even when I went for Umrah, that was like pretty consistent.

00:17:31.100 But I wasn't like, I'm not in a rush.

00:17:33.100 You know, it's just something I was just saying that when it's ready, I do trust in

00:17:37.100 Allah, but when I'm ready or when he's ready, it's going to happen.

00:17:40.100 So a hundred percent.

00:17:41.100 That's true.

00:17:42.100 You should.

00:17:43.100 It's good that you submit to that, you know, but you need to understand that your body

00:17:46.100 also is going to start acting on you rough.

00:17:48.100 Like you get it.

00:17:49.100 So it's good that you have that.

00:17:50.100 Uh, but once, if you are a man, like for example, when you come to Islam and you're 0.79

00:17:53.100 not going to having sex outside of marriage, um, then your body's going to start to be 0.70

00:17:56.100 like, you know what?

00:17:57.100 Look, you need to start looking.

00:17:58.100 And that's why I say, like, it's very important.

00:17:59.100 Actually.

00:18:00.100 I even tell men when you're getting to know a sister for marriage, et cetera, make sure

00:18:04.100 that marriage meeting happens when you're not overly horny.

00:18:07.100 Why?

00:18:08.100 Because you might rush into a decision.

00:18:10.100 Yeah.

00:18:11.100 Because it clouds your decision making factors.

00:18:13.100 You're the most impulsive when you're like that.

00:18:14.100 Exactly.

00:18:15.100 So, so it's very important.

00:18:16.100 Like I, some people might think, oh my gosh, look, it's a reality.

00:18:18.100 Us men were visual creatures.

00:18:19.100 So make sure that you're, you're, you're a bit calm so you can make a rational decision.

00:18:23.100 Cause I know a lot of brothers.

00:18:25.100 Don't we all get happy when somebody embraces Islam? 0.99

00:18:28.100 How many of us have the time to dedicate

00:18:30.100 To teaching them Salah 1.00

00:18:32.100 For the first time ever

00:18:33.100 They are left in the dark without any guidance.

00:18:36.100 You are the reason for people like Michael

00:18:38.100 Like Katrina

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00:18:40.100 Like me

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00:18:43.100 That's Fajr 1.00

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00:19:34.100 You can't

00:19:35.100 Nice Bridge, I know that place

00:19:36.100 Yeah, no, no, no

00:19:37.100 They have one in Soho

00:19:38.100 They have one in Nice Bridge

00:19:40.100 So we'll go to one of them, we'll see

00:19:41.100 Because this one you can't reserve

00:19:42.100 It's like a cafe

00:19:43.100 It's like one of those kind of places

00:19:44.100 It's nice

00:19:45.100 So we should have space

00:19:46.100 And they've also got E&L there

00:19:48.100 Bear in mind, it's Monday today

00:19:49.100 You won't be busy

00:19:50.100 It's Monday today, bear in mind

00:19:52.100 We won't be that busy

00:19:53.100 Today's Monday, it's not like a Friday, Saturday

00:19:54.100 If it was a Friday, Saturday

00:19:55.100 Ooh, Martin

00:19:56.100 Yeah

00:19:57.100 But the guys in East London did have a good job of

00:20:01.100 Like the food was good

00:20:03.100 East London?

00:20:04.100 Where did you go?

00:20:05.100 Oh, you're talking about them?

00:20:06.100 Oh yeah, yeah, yeah

00:20:07.100 They were good, they were very good

00:20:08.100 Yeah

00:20:09.100 They didn't have to take care of us

00:20:11.100 Oh, the place that we were at

00:20:13.100 Right

00:20:14.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

00:20:16.100 I'm done

00:20:17.100 What's your favourite cuisine?

00:20:18.100 You too

00:20:19.100 Yeah, that's a good question

00:20:20.100 A little steak

00:20:21.100 Oh, you like steak?

00:20:22.100 Okay

00:20:23.100 I like Wagyu steak

00:20:24.100 Oh, if you like that, we should get it

00:20:25.100 I know a place for steak on the green

00:20:26.100 Very nice

00:20:27.100 Yeah, maybe

00:20:28.100 Steak

00:20:29.100 Tomorrow or later tonight

00:20:30.100 Yeah, steak on the green

00:20:31.100 Pretty twice

00:20:32.100 And I only ate once or twice in the past two days

00:20:35.100 Yeah, he hasn't been eating so early

00:20:37.100 Yeah

00:20:38.100 Really? Same, same

00:20:39.100 I haven't been sleeping either

00:20:40.100 Boom, and then I just wake up fudge and go back to sleep

00:20:42.100 I don't do so

00:20:43.100 It's not bad

00:20:45.100 It's not bad

00:20:50.100 Yeah

00:20:51.100 Yeah

00:20:52.100 It's tough to wait until Mara sing 0.85

00:20:54.100 I don't know

00:20:55.100 We're glad we're not on the stream

00:20:56.100 But like

00:20:57.100 Not committing zenos

00:20:58.100 That's a huge one for me, bro

00:20:59.100 It is, it is, it is

00:21:00.100 It's

00:21:01.100 This is why

00:21:02.100 You know with this kind of stuff here

00:21:03.100 Let me be honest

00:21:04.100 When I first came to Islam

00:21:05.100 This is one of the things I

00:21:06.100 Like I fear the most

00:21:07.100 Like going back to my old ways

00:21:08.100 Especially with like girls 1.00

00:21:09.100 And we knew

00:21:10.100 You know it's very interesting

00:21:11.100 Because in Surah Talaq 0.87

00:21:12.100 Allah says that

00:21:13.100 If you fear me

00:21:14.100 I will give you a way out from places you can never imagine

00:21:17.100 But your glasses are scratched up

00:21:18.100 Yeah

00:21:19.100 Yeah, I know

00:21:20.100 You know what happened?

00:21:21.100 I finished training

00:21:22.100 It was in my pocket

00:21:23.100 And I stepped on it

00:21:24.100 So I had to send the other glasses off

00:21:26.100 They're getting a new lens

00:21:27.100 And I'm going to send these off

00:21:28.100 So yeah

00:21:29.100 So yeah

00:21:30.100 When it comes to this bro

00:21:31.100 I was very frightened bro

00:21:32.100 Going back to girls 1.00

00:21:33.100 And all that kind of stuff

00:21:34.100 But

00:21:35.100 Wallahi let me be honest here

00:21:36.100 Genuinely man

00:21:37.100 If you fear Allah

00:21:38.100 You know it's as if

00:21:39.100 Someone sedated me bro

00:21:40.100 For a year and a half

00:21:42.100 When I first came to Islam

00:21:43.100 I got into the dawah

00:21:44.100 I just said

00:21:45.100 Oh Allah

00:21:46.100 Like I just hate this sin

00:21:47.100 And just keep me away from it

00:21:48.100 But Wallahi I felt as if

00:21:49.100 As if I went in a coma for about a year and a half

00:21:51.100 And I remembered this

00:21:52.100 About a year into the dawah

00:21:53.100 And I thought to myself

00:21:54.100 Man

00:21:55.100 I used to have this problem

00:21:57.100 And then it's just

00:21:58.100 It's as if Allah bro 0.99

00:21:59.100 Just reset my brain

00:22:00.100 Wouldn't you say that dawah 1.00

00:22:01.100 Keeps you away from sin?

00:22:02.100 Bro bro look

00:22:03.100 I got

00:22:04.100 Basically what happened is

00:22:05.100 I was a new Muslim

00:22:06.100 I got into the dawah

00:22:07.100 I was thinking

00:22:08.100 Fearing that I'm going to go back to my old ways

00:22:09.100 With the girls and that kind of stuff yeah

00:22:10.100 What I know is just

00:22:11.100 I got into the dawah

00:22:12.100 Things happen really fast

00:22:13.100 About a year into it

00:22:14.100 Then I thought to myself bro

00:22:15.100 I had this problem

00:22:16.100 Like you know of girls 1.00

00:22:17.100 And stuff like that

00:22:18.100 Dawah bro look 0.78

00:22:19.100 Keeps me away from sins bro

00:22:21.100 Dawah keeps me in check 1.00

00:22:22.100 You know why?

00:22:23.100 Because if I'm not doing dawah bro

00:22:24.100 I don't know what I'll be doing

00:22:25.100 So when you're involved with the kind of stuff

00:22:26.100 You have to be around people that do it

00:22:27.100 Do you get it?

00:22:28.100 You have to read books pertaining to it

00:22:29.100 And you're involved in dawah 0.92

00:22:30.100 In the streets

00:22:31.100 Do you get it?

00:22:32.100 So Allah always gives you a way out 1.00

00:22:33.100 It's hard

00:22:34.100 Don't get it twisted

00:22:35.100 It's one of the most hardest things

00:22:36.100 You can ever go through

00:22:37.100 But bro Allah will definitely give you a way out 0.99

00:22:39.100 And for now

00:22:41.100 We're gonna have to like swap the wires

00:22:43.100 So we can share that mic

00:22:44.100 That's fine

00:22:45.100 So we'll share that mic

00:22:46.100 Yeah just

00:22:47.100 Let's just swap

00:22:48.100 That's fine

00:22:49.100 That's fine

00:22:50.100 Let's just go live

00:22:51.100 Yeah just swap out the cable

00:22:52.100 Either day

00:22:53.100 This cable?

00:22:54.100 Yeah just take that one out

00:22:55.100 Why?

00:22:56.100 Because that mic is not working at all

00:22:57.100 So then let's just put this down

00:22:58.100 And just put that in the middle

00:22:59.100 And they use it

00:23:00.100 How else are we gonna put that in?

00:23:02.100 Or just move the cable over

00:23:04.100 Oh wouldn't that reach you?

00:23:05.100 Yeah that's what I'm saying

00:23:06.100 Wouldn't that reach you?

00:23:07.100 Yeah I like that

00:23:09.100 Would that reach?

00:23:12.100 Yeah

00:23:13.100 So right here

00:23:14.100 Yeah

00:23:19.100 Is it okay?

00:23:20.100 Are we live right now?

00:23:21.100 I have no idea

00:23:22.100 Yeah we've been live

00:23:23.100 Oh thank you for

00:23:24.100 Oh thank you for

00:23:25.100 Yeah I've been

00:23:27.100 Thank you very much

00:23:29.100 Oh man

00:23:30.100 I didn't say anything

00:23:31.100 Alhamdulillah

00:23:32.100 There's nothing

00:23:33.100 Alhamdulillah

00:23:34.100 I'm gonna say the same thing anyways

00:23:35.100 Okay so we still have

00:23:36.100 How many people are watching?

00:23:37.100 We've got 1,000 people

00:23:38.100 Okay that's fine

00:23:39.100 I just wanna guys

00:23:40.100 At the meantime

00:23:41.100 While we're doing this

00:23:42.100 I just wanna give you guys a reminder

00:23:43.100 About something

00:23:44.100 A project that

00:23:45.100 Salam was started actually

00:23:46.100 From Mohammed Hijab myself

00:23:47.100 We were the founders all together

00:23:48.100 So far

00:23:49.100 But we've launched this project

00:23:50.100 Which is the Salah Plus project

00:23:51.100 Sneakers here

00:23:52.100 And obviously he knows

00:23:54.100 How hard it is

00:23:55.100 When you're learning

00:23:56.100 How to pray Salah

00:23:57.100 I'm still learning

00:23:58.100 And he's still learning

00:23:59.100 I don't know how difficult it is

00:24:00.100 For myself as well

00:24:01.100 When I first came

00:24:02.100 Bro sit comfortably 0.99

00:24:03.100 No no no

00:24:04.100 You don't have to do that bro

00:24:05.100 People always make you seem

00:24:06.100 Like you have to

00:24:07.100 You can do it

00:24:08.100 You're not sinful if you don't

00:24:09.100 So sit in a place

00:24:10.100 You're comfortable

00:24:11.100 I know how it is bro

00:24:12.100 Sitting in a specific position

00:24:13.100 Your legs hurt

00:24:14.100 And then you don't like praying

00:24:15.100 You don't want that feeling

00:24:16.100 Sit comfortably bro

00:24:17.100 It's hard to focus on praying

00:24:18.100 When I'm thinking about my toes

00:24:19.100 Thank you

00:24:20.100 You know what I mean

00:24:21.100 So I know where you're coming from

00:24:22.100 Because I was there

00:24:23.100 Do you get it bro?

00:24:24.100 Sit comfortably

00:24:25.100 Wherever you're comfortable bro 0.99

00:24:26.100 On your like left buttocks 0.98

00:24:27.100 Or your right 0.90

00:24:28.100 Or you just sit

00:24:29.100 I put my legs like that

00:24:30.100 Like flat

00:24:31.100 Do you get what I'm trying to say?

00:24:32.100 So bear that in mind

00:24:33.100 InshaAllah

00:24:34.100 So guys if you're watching this

00:24:35.100 Salahplus.com

00:24:36.100 You can order your guided prayer mat

00:24:37.100 If you are a new Muslim

00:24:38.100 The prayer mats are there

00:24:39.100 And not only that

00:24:40.100 We have guided Salah instructors

00:24:41.100 So if somebody wants to learn

00:24:42.100 How to pray Salah

00:24:43.100 I was talking about

00:24:44.100 Sister Katan from Jamaica

00:24:45.100 What did you say?

00:24:47.100 Yeah so we've got a lot of people

00:24:49.100 All doing this around the world

00:24:50.100 Last year we taught

00:24:51.100 About up to 10,000 people

00:24:53.100 Directly or indirectly

00:24:54.100 How to pray Salah

00:24:55.100 You can book a Salah instructor

00:24:56.100 Or your guided prayer mat

00:24:57.100 And not only that

00:24:58.100 We're trying to take this project

00:24:59.100 Around Europe

00:25:00.100 To open Salah hubs

00:25:01.100 So there will be a dedicated place

00:25:02.100 And massage and community centers

00:25:03.100 Anyone that wants to learn

00:25:04.100 How to pray Salah

00:25:05.100 They can come

00:25:06.100 And we have Quran instructors

00:25:07.100 Who will teach you Surah Fatih 0.97

00:25:09.100 And you said you've

00:25:10.100 Slowly getting the Surah Fatih

00:25:12.100 Yeah

00:25:13.100 Exactly

00:25:14.100 So Sneeko knows the struggle

00:25:15.100 I know the struggle

00:25:16.100 But yeah we're going to get

00:25:17.100 Back in the topic inshallah

00:25:18.100 It's about finding Sneeko 0.98

00:25:19.100 And the Wuna 0.59

00:25:20.100 A wife inshallah 0.99

00:25:21.100 Yeah

00:25:22.100 Okay so we're going to get

00:25:23.100 Some advice from

00:25:24.100 That's what we're doing today

00:25:25.100 That's what we're doing today

00:25:31.100 Is that what we're doing today?

00:25:34.100 Hey it looks like he woke up

00:25:36.100 I was like

00:25:37.100 It was like an expression shot

00:25:38.100 Right in his face

00:25:39.100 Yeah

00:25:40.100 Bro one second

00:25:41.100 I just remembered

00:25:42.100 Bro take a pillow man

00:25:43.100 Sorry I'm taking you too

00:25:44.100 What do I do with it?

00:25:45.100 No no no

00:25:46.100 You're more comfortable

00:25:47.100 Oh okay

00:25:48.100 Is that comfortable?

00:25:49.100 I don't know

00:25:50.100 Is that better?

00:25:51.100 Sorry

00:25:52.100 Oh thank you

00:25:53.100 Okay so

00:25:54.100 So Hijab 1.00

00:25:55.100 How was the marriage seeking process for you?

00:25:57.100 Can you just tell us the story

00:25:58.100 Of here punching your leg?

00:25:59.100 No listen

00:26:00.100 Let me tell you something

00:26:01.100 I had a different life to you guys

00:26:03.100 I was obviously

00:26:05.100 Born and raised as Muslim

00:26:07.100 So

00:26:08.100 I didn't have a Jahiliyyah 0.86

00:26:09.100 Frankly

00:26:10.100 What is that?

00:26:11.100 I didn't really have

00:26:12.100 Before I got married

00:26:13.100 I didn't get involved in promiscuity

00:26:15.100 I didn't have that

00:26:16.100 Because he was born Muslim right? 0.99

00:26:17.100 Yeah

00:26:18.100 Even then

00:26:19.100 Let's say

00:26:20.100 There were other things

00:26:21.100 Mistakes I made

00:26:22.100 But that wasn't one of them

00:26:23.100 Actually

00:26:24.100 Alhamdulillah

00:26:25.100 So Alhamdulillah

00:26:26.100 I just got married

00:26:27.100 I got first married

00:26:28.100 Got married to someone

00:26:29.100 That was in my school

00:26:30.100 I got married at the age of 20 years old

00:26:32.100 Which one?

00:26:33.100 And I've been married for 11 years

00:26:34.100 I've got three kids

00:26:35.100 You know?

00:26:36.100 Yeah

00:26:37.100 But let me tell you something

00:26:38.100 Look the marriage seeking process

00:26:39.100 Is now

00:26:40.100 People talk about arranged marriage

00:26:42.100 Like I was talking to some

00:26:43.100 Non-believer one time

00:26:44.100 Yeah

00:26:45.100 And he was talking to us about

00:26:46.100 Arranged marriages

00:26:47.100 Yeah?

00:26:48.100 Yeah

00:26:49.100 How do you guys do like

00:26:50.100 Arranged marriages and stuff?

00:26:51.100 Yeah

00:26:52.100 And I was like well

00:26:53.100 You can move her back

00:26:54.100 We've got different cables

00:26:55.100 Is it working?

00:26:56.100 Yeah

00:26:57.100 Is it working?

00:26:58.100 Okay perfect

00:26:59.100 Of course the service is much less here

00:27:06.100 The cables don't even run brother

00:27:08.100 Look at this

00:27:09.100 Look at this thing

00:27:11.100 This is

00:27:12.100 This is industrial estate

00:27:15.100 And the dungeon that we've come in here

00:27:17.100 And the cables not working

00:27:18.100 Is it?

00:27:19.100 I thought we were going to get killed in that elevator

00:27:21.100 Yeah

00:27:22.100 Fascination elevator

00:27:23.100 He's like yeah yeah

00:27:24.100 We do a couple of kidnappings a year

00:27:25.100 That's right

00:27:26.100 What's not

00:27:27.100 Alright so what I was going to say

00:27:28.100 Is that look

00:27:29.100 Disbeliever

00:27:30.100 Yeah he was telling me about arranged marriage

00:27:31.100 And how do you want to do arranged marriage

00:27:32.100 I said listen

00:27:33.100 Let me tell you something Keir

00:27:34.100 I said

00:27:35.100 I was on the tube

00:27:37.100 Underground

00:27:38.100 London, underground time

00:27:39.100 And I saw match.com

00:27:40.100 That was the

00:27:41.100 That was the

00:27:42.100 The advert on it

00:27:43.100 Yeah

00:27:44.100 Match.com

00:27:45.100 I said what is match.com

00:27:46.100 He said it's a website

00:27:47.100 Which sets people up

00:27:48.100 I said how does it do it?

00:27:49.100 So you know

00:27:50.100 You put your

00:27:51.100 Whatever it is

00:27:52.100 And then it arranges a marriage

00:27:53.100 I said so you guys believe in arranged marriage as well

00:27:55.100 You just got a different way of doing it

00:27:56.100 Yeah exactly

00:27:57.100 Just let the AI do it

00:27:59.100 Well you don't

00:28:00.100 It's just sort of out on the subway

00:28:01.100 To help you huh?

00:28:03.100 But they have a misconception that

00:28:05.100 Arranged marriage is false

00:28:06.100 Like you don't

00:28:07.100 Like in Islam 1.00

00:28:08.100 Like I was talking about the

00:28:09.100 I follow the opinion that

00:28:10.100 You are allowed to see the

00:28:11.100 Woman without the hijab 1.00

00:28:12.100 Yeah?

00:28:13.100 And sometimes you can see the

00:28:14.100 Wrists

00:28:15.100 You don't follow the

00:28:16.100 Hasma opinion that

00:28:17.100 So you can see the whole body naked

00:28:18.100 No

00:28:23.100 That's a very minority opinion

00:28:25.100 That's a wrong opinion

00:28:26.100 Yeah yeah

00:28:27.100 But that even that says that

00:28:28.100 That says that you can like

00:28:29.100 Sneak and look at her 0.94

00:28:30.100 Like

00:28:31.100 Yeah yeah yeah

00:28:32.100 Yeah that's what

00:28:33.100 That's

00:28:34.100 Sneak out

00:28:35.100 That's not the

00:28:36.100 I'll keep it

00:28:37.100 I'll stay with the wrists for now

00:28:38.100 Yeah

00:28:39.100 Yeah exactly

00:28:40.100 So yeah I was just telling you that

00:28:41.100 For example

00:28:42.100 No it's not

00:28:43.100 For some people it is

00:28:44.100 But some people when I see it

00:28:45.100 They're like what?

00:28:46.100 Where did you get this opinion from?

00:28:47.100 It's this

00:28:48.100 And for me like there was an instance

00:28:49.100 Where I was getting to know

00:28:50.100 A Yemeni sister for marriage in Birmingham

00:28:51.100 And I went to the family's house

00:28:52.100 And I said can I see you she came

00:28:53.100 With no hijab on? 1.00

00:28:54.100 Yeah

00:28:55.100 Yeah so the thing is

00:28:56.100 It's normal but you know

00:28:57.100 Like I was saying to you before Sneak

00:28:58.100 Like when it comes to

00:28:59.100 Coming from that jahlia 1.00

00:29:00.100 And we do

00:29:01.100 Explain that word

00:29:02.100 Jahlia is that for example

00:29:03.100 Time of ignorance

00:29:04.100 I want to say dinner period

00:29:05.100 Yeah

00:29:06.100 A hot girl summer

00:29:10.100 Yeah it's the time of ignorance 0.91

00:29:12.100 Before Islam 1.00

00:29:13.100 So when it comes to that

00:29:14.100 It was really really hard

00:29:15.100 Because when you think about

00:29:16.100 You're living a lifestyle

00:29:17.100 With no Islam 1.00

00:29:18.100 You're talking to girls 0.82

00:29:19.100 Left right centre

00:29:20.100 It's this happy days bro

00:29:21.100 You're not lowering your gaze

00:29:22.100 You're looking at everyone

00:29:23.100 And anything yeah?

00:29:24.100 Because you don't know this concept

00:29:25.100 Of lowering your gaze

00:29:26.100 For what?

00:29:27.100 Do you get it?

00:29:28.100 You're speaking to girls 0.96

00:29:29.100 Left right centre etc

00:29:30.100 It comes with pros of

00:29:31.100 Yeah you get the raise

00:29:32.100 You know how to talk to girls 1.00

00:29:33.100 You got the confidence

00:29:34.100 Those things yes

00:29:35.100 You get that

00:29:36.100 There might be a pro

00:29:37.100 For that

00:29:38.100 Yeah but you learn how to talk 0.99

00:29:39.100 To promiscuous women 1.00

00:29:40.100 Exactly 0.99

00:29:41.100 You're not learning how to speak

00:29:42.100 To good women

00:29:43.100 Exactly but what that does is

00:29:44.100 That builds a huge difference

00:29:45.100 True

00:29:46.100 And actually when you

00:29:47.100 When you come around

00:29:48.100 A good conservative woman

00:29:49.100 Like you kind of get

00:29:50.100 Really anxious

00:29:51.100 And you freeze up

00:29:52.100 Just like how you would

00:29:53.100 Let me tell you something Sneak

00:29:54.100 You should find very interesting

00:29:55.100 When I came to Islam

00:29:56.100 What I did is

00:29:57.100 That's very interesting

00:29:58.100 It is

00:29:59.100 But I have a real life experience

00:30:00.100 That happened to me yeah

00:30:01.100 Is the following

00:30:02.100 I came from that Jahiliya soul

00:30:03.100 Speaking to girls

00:30:04.100 Left right centre

00:30:05.100 It's just happy days

00:30:06.100 Do you get it?

00:30:07.100 You build a confidence to yourself

00:30:08.100 Don't lie

00:30:09.100 Don't lie

00:30:10.100 And by the way

00:30:11.100 I love the way you guys say girls 0.99

00:30:13.100 Like it sounds like

00:30:14.100 You guys are talking about

00:30:15.100 Something else you know

00:30:16.100 The girls 0.99

00:30:17.100 Yeah exactly

00:30:18.100 So to me obviously

00:30:19.100 When I say this

00:30:20.100 It's not something to be proud of

00:30:21.100 To be ashamed of

00:30:22.100 But it's just to give you guys

00:30:23.100 A thing

00:30:24.100 So when you come back

00:30:25.100 This is one thing we make a mistake from yeah

00:30:26.100 And you've mentioned this

00:30:27.100 So it shows

00:30:28.100 So when you come in

00:30:29.100 You get to know a hijabi for marriage 0.99

00:30:30.100 You

00:30:31.100 It's like I resetting my factory settings

00:30:32.100 So I was like you know what

00:30:33.100 All this

00:30:34.100 You know the rears

00:30:35.100 Or how to speak to girls 0.97

00:30:36.100 I said no no no

00:30:37.100 This is a whole different ball game

00:30:38.100 It doesn't apply

00:30:39.100 Like all the tactics

00:30:40.100 And the stuff you've learned

00:30:41.100 From sleeping with 50 women 1.00

00:30:42.100 Let me tell you this here

00:30:43.100 Let me tell you this

00:30:44.100 When I was getting to know certain sisters

00:30:45.100 For marriage

00:30:46.100 You know what I realised

00:30:47.100 They're all wired the same

00:30:48.100 The only difference is

00:30:49.100 One wears a mini skirt

00:30:50.100 The one wears a niqab or hijab 1.00

00:30:51.100 When I'm in wiring

00:30:52.100 There's a deep inner wiring of a woman 1.00

00:30:54.100 That does not change

00:30:55.100 So I realised

00:30:57.100 Me moving in a certain way

00:30:59.100 And thinking you know what

00:31:00.100 Let's go about this

00:31:01.100 You know like in a pure

00:31:02.100 There's nothing wrong with it

00:31:03.100 But you need that halal game

00:31:05.100 It works

00:31:06.100 Halal game

00:31:07.100 You need that halal game

00:31:08.100 You need that halal game

00:31:09.100 I'm just letting you know

00:31:10.100 I'm just letting you know bro

00:31:11.100 You need that

00:31:12.100 So don't let go of it

00:31:13.100 In the sense where

00:31:14.100 Look look look look

00:31:16.100 Sign up to my course

00:31:17.100 Under a thousand dollars

00:31:18.100 Use discount code

00:31:19.100 Sneakhole

00:31:20.100 54

00:31:22.100 Halal game

00:31:23.100 So it does work Sneakhole

00:31:24.100 In the way

00:31:25.100 Because why every woman 1.00

00:31:26.100 Wants a man that's confident

00:31:27.100 Who is

00:31:28.100 Do you get what I'm trying to say

00:31:29.100 Wait I just realised

00:31:30.100 I realised the difference just now

00:31:31.100 Is that most of the game

00:31:33.100 Haram game if you will

00:31:35.100 Yeah

00:31:36.100 Why?

00:31:37.100 Because you're selling this dream

00:31:38.100 And you're kind of like pretending

00:31:39.100 Yeah that is haram

00:31:40.100 We don't do that

00:31:41.100 You're pretending that you're going

00:31:42.100 To commit to a girl 0.96

00:31:43.100 And you're making her think that

00:31:44.100 Making her feel comfortable

00:31:45.100 For the fact that she's going

00:31:46.100 To give up her body for a night

00:31:47.100 Is that how you do it?

00:31:49.100 We need to understand how

00:31:50.100 The haram game works

00:31:51.100 Just for

00:31:52.100 Well yeah because

00:31:53.100 As a player or whatever

00:31:55.100 Like you're not trying to

00:31:57.100 Commit to the girl 0.98

00:31:58.100 So you're selling her this idea

00:31:59.100 Like oh okay we'll get sushi

00:32:01.100 Next week

00:32:02.100 Or like we'll go on a date

00:32:03.100 And then you're like

00:32:04.100 Oh I have work in the morning

00:32:05.100 I need to call you an Uber

00:32:06.100 I'll see you later today

00:32:07.100 And then you never see her again

00:32:08.100 So the whole thing is like

00:32:09.100 It's kind of sleazy

00:32:10.100 You kind of feel like a car salesman

00:32:11.100 Yeah that

00:32:12.100 That aspect of it

00:32:13.100 We don't

00:32:14.100 We're not talking about that

00:32:15.100 We're talking about those

00:32:16.100 The experience that you had there

00:32:17.100 The confidence that it's given you

00:32:18.100 As a man and who you are

00:32:19.100 Because you need to understand

00:32:20.100 You need to have a certain demeanor

00:32:21.100 And the way you talk

00:32:22.100 And the way you approach

00:32:23.100 That a woman finds it interesting

00:32:24.100 So you're saying that part

00:32:25.100 Is transferable

00:32:26.100 That's transferable

00:32:27.100 It's definitely transferable

00:32:28.100 So we're not talking about the lies

00:32:29.100 The only thing maybe you can

00:32:30.100 Maybe you can

00:32:31.100 Lie about

00:32:32.100 But you know how to make

00:32:33.100 You want a second wife 1.00

00:32:34.100 Maybe the only thing that you might

00:32:36.100 It's more about the sins and stuff

00:32:38.100 Exactly

00:32:39.100 You don't want to

00:32:40.100 You can lie about that

00:32:41.100 As a man or a woman 0.74

00:32:42.100 Yes yes yes

00:32:43.100 Exactly exactly

00:32:44.100 So yeah

00:32:45.100 A woman who's had like 0.99

00:32:46.100 Let's say for example

00:32:47.100 She's done dinner

00:32:48.100 And she doesn't want anyone to know about that 0.97

00:32:50.100 And she knows that

00:32:51.100 If she goes and tells a man about this

00:32:52.100 That he will not marry her

00:32:54.100 Or whatever it may be

00:32:55.100 She doesn't need to reveal that sin 0.98

00:32:57.100 Really?

00:32:58.100 No she doesn't need to reveal that sin 1.00

00:32:59.100 But what if he asks her

00:33:00.100 And she lies to him?

00:33:01.100 Well she's not

00:33:02.100 I don't personally think

00:33:03.100 That she's sinning

00:33:04.100 If she does that

00:33:05.100 But what if he finds out later

00:33:06.100 That

00:33:07.100 What if he doesn't

00:33:08.100 Does he have a right?

00:33:09.100 This is what I find really interesting

00:33:10.100 No no no

00:33:11.100 On this point bro

00:33:12.100 There is classic scholarship

00:33:14.100 Yeah yeah

00:33:15.100 Which says that she can lie about it

00:33:16.100 Okay but what if he wants a virgin?

00:33:18.100 What if he says I want a virgin?

00:33:20.100 Yeah yeah well I mean

00:33:21.100 You don't have to

00:33:22.100 Look if you want a virgin 0.99

00:33:23.100 There's no way of finding out

00:33:24.100 100% sure is there?

00:33:25.100 True

00:33:26.100 So you have to look at the

00:33:27.100 You have to look at the things

00:33:28.100 Which make you think that

00:33:29.100 This person that I'm going to be

00:33:30.100 Married to is a virgin

00:33:31.100 Like let's see the family

00:33:32.100 That she comes from

00:33:33.100 Stuff whatever

00:33:34.100 If you go through all the checklists

00:33:35.100 And you know that she's a person

00:33:37.100 Who's like from her demeanor

00:33:38.100 She doesn't seem like

00:33:39.100 A mysterious woman

00:33:40.100 No

00:33:41.100 She seems like

00:33:42.100 Like all the things

00:33:43.100 Are in the right place

00:33:44.100 Yet it turns out

00:33:45.100 She's had this experience

00:33:46.100 And there's something

00:33:47.100 That's under control

00:33:48.100 It is it is

00:33:49.100 But like

00:33:50.100 Let's be honest

00:33:51.100 Let's be fair here

00:33:52.100 Like okay if a woman wants 1.00

00:33:53.100 A virgin man

00:33:54.100 She wants a man 1.00

00:33:55.100 Who's never been with a virgin woman before 0.93

00:33:56.100 There's no actual way

00:33:57.100 Of her finding that out

00:33:58.100 Yeah it's impossible

00:33:59.100 And if he says look

00:34:00.100 I don't want to

00:34:01.100 Well you need to understand

00:34:02.100 For a man and a woman

00:34:03.100 Different things matter

00:34:04.100 Different things matter

00:34:05.100 I would argue that

00:34:06.100 There is a way for a woman 1.00

00:34:07.100 To tell if a man's a virgin 1.00

00:34:08.100 A virgin

00:34:09.100 Because a man that's a virgin 1.00

00:34:10.100 He behaves completely differently

00:34:12.100 Really than a man that's experienced 0.80

00:34:14.100 Not in the muscle world

00:34:15.100 Am I from what I noticed

00:34:16.100 I noticed a lot of like

00:34:17.100 I would say in the Zeno world

00:34:18.100 If a guy's a virgin

00:34:19.100 He's really like 0.72

00:34:20.100 Acting autistic and nervous 0.56

00:34:22.100 And stuff like that

00:34:23.100 But I noticed like

00:34:24.100 Muscle men who are proud of that

00:34:25.100 Because in the Zeno world

00:34:26.100 It's something that you're ashamed of

00:34:27.100 Like when a guy's a virgin 1.00

00:34:29.100 It's something that you don't want

00:34:30.100 To tell anybody

00:34:31.100 Because it's like a badge of honor

00:34:32.100 To lose it

00:34:33.100 Muscle more like

00:34:34.100 Even my friend that

00:34:35.100 I don't want to say

00:34:36.100 I don't want to expose people

00:34:37.100 But a lot of these people

00:34:38.100 Like the young muslims here 1.00

00:34:39.100 That are virgin

00:34:40.100 They're like kind of proud of it

00:34:41.100 And that was weird

00:34:42.100 To hear in the first time

00:34:43.100 Like it was kind of like

00:34:44.100 A flex that they

00:34:45.100 That they never committed

00:34:46.100 Zeno before

00:34:47.100 It doesn't change their

00:34:48.100 Demeter if you

00:34:49.100 If you're on your dean

00:34:50.100 I think that's

00:34:51.100 That's a good point as well

00:34:52.100 Because like I'll be honest

00:34:53.100 Growing up

00:34:54.100 It was like an initiation

00:34:56.100 For young people

00:34:57.100 My classmates

00:34:58.100 They were all

00:34:59.100 It was

00:35:00.100 It was

00:35:01.100 It was seen as

00:35:02.100 A badge of honor

00:35:03.100 It was embarrassing 0.76

00:35:04.100 If you didn't have intercourse

00:35:05.100 At a certain age girl 0.99

00:35:06.100 Exactly

00:35:07.100 It was embarrassing

00:35:08.100 But for me

00:35:09.100 It wasn't embarrassing

00:35:10.100 No one put me down for it

00:35:11.100 Because they knew

00:35:12.100 What life I was trying to live

00:35:13.100 Right

00:35:14.100 It's true

00:35:15.100 But the thing is

00:35:16.100 You know what it is

00:35:17.100 It's very important

00:35:18.100 Because I was watching a video yeah

00:35:19.100 And it was of these two girls

00:35:20.100 Who were basically reading the story

00:35:21.100 Of this

00:35:22.100 This guy married this girl

00:35:23.100 And then he found out that

00:35:24.100 She had a promiscuous background 1.00

00:35:26.100 Muslim girl 0.99

00:35:27.100 And then three months

00:35:28.100 Before they got married

00:35:29.100 She was actually

00:35:30.100 She committed zinnah 1.00

00:35:31.100 So now obviously

00:35:32.100 He might be sinful for going and

00:35:33.100 Spying on that matter

00:35:34.100 That's not permissible yeah

00:35:35.100 But the matter is that

00:35:36.100 The woman were there 1.00

00:35:37.100 Bro

00:35:38.100 Finishing the guy

00:35:39.100 Why you stalking her for

00:35:41.100 It's her past

00:35:42.100 But let's just flip this around

00:35:44.100 Because they say

00:35:45.100 Oh you shouldn't judge her

00:35:46.100 Okay no problem

00:35:47.100 What if a guy is getting to know

00:35:48.100 A girl for marriage 0.99

00:35:49.100 Yeah and this sister asks him

00:35:50.100 Do you want to get

00:35:51.100 Do you want to get a second wife 1.00

00:35:52.100 And he says yeah

00:35:53.100 Which woman would marry him? 0.96

00:35:54.100 They would judge him based on his future

00:35:55.100 But when he judges her based on her past

00:35:57.100 He's wrong

00:35:58.100 So the point is this

00:35:59.100 For different

00:36:00.100 For us we judge a woman by her past 1.00

00:36:01.100 Not that I'm saying

00:36:02.100 We should go and like

00:36:03.100 When I mean judge

00:36:04.100 I'm saying

00:36:05.100 The decision to say

00:36:06.100 I would like to marry you or not

00:36:07.100 You have a go at a man for doing that

00:36:08.100 But you are the same woman 0.98

00:36:09.100 That if a man

00:36:10.100 If you came to the

00:36:11.100 Let's say you get into a sneaker for marriage

00:36:12.100 And you say sneaker by the sneaker

00:36:13.100 Are you looking to get married again?

00:36:14.100 And he says yeah

00:36:15.100 You're going to start thinking

00:36:16.100 Oh my gosh why

00:36:17.100 Not only that

00:36:18.100 If he was to do that

00:36:19.100 While being married to you

00:36:20.100 And wanted a second wife 0.99

00:36:21.100 Your friends would be saying

00:36:22.100 Divorce him

00:36:23.100 Divorce him

00:36:24.100 So when it's a man doing it because of her past

00:36:26.100 He's bad and he shouldn't

00:36:27.100 But when it's you guys doing it

00:36:29.100 It's okay

00:36:30.100 It's hypocrisy to me

00:36:31.100 You know?

00:36:32.100 Everyone can have hypocrisy in his life

00:36:33.100 Exactly

00:36:34.100 Thank you

00:36:35.100 The issue

00:36:36.100 Just to make this point clearer

00:36:38.100 Because some people will say

00:36:39.100 What's the evidence and stuff here?

00:36:40.100 Yeah

00:36:41.100 Because in Islam 0.96

00:36:42.100 You're not allowed to

00:36:43.100 Yes

00:36:44.100 For a Muslim person

00:36:45.100 Unless you're a non-Muslim 0.99

00:36:46.100 Who's had a life

00:36:47.100 There are exceptions

00:36:48.100 Or you've had a jahili life 1.00

00:36:49.100 Or whatever

00:36:50.100 But generally speaking

00:36:51.100 If you are practicing Muslim

00:36:52.100 And you commit the sin

00:36:53.100 You shouldn't take

00:36:54.100 Yes you shouldn't

00:36:55.100 Yes generally

00:36:56.100 So because there's clear hadith on that

00:36:58.100 Yes

00:36:59.100 Scholars have struggled with two things

00:37:00.100 Okay

00:37:01.100 Do you be honest

00:37:02.100 If someone asks you

00:37:03.100 If you commit the sin fully

00:37:04.100 Or do you say something

00:37:05.100 Which is a lie

00:37:06.100 But it's a lesser of two evils

00:37:07.100 Yeah

00:37:08.100 Yeah

00:37:09.100 Because there's two evils

00:37:10.100 There's a concept called

00:37:11.100 The lesser of two evils

00:37:12.100 There's two evils

00:37:13.100 Revealing your sin as an evil

00:37:14.100 Yeah

00:37:15.100 And lying as an evil

00:37:16.100 We accept both of them

00:37:17.100 So if a woman is to be asked now

00:37:19.100 Like were you promiscuous

00:37:21.100 In a way

00:37:22.100 In a way

00:37:23.100 Before

00:37:24.100 And

00:37:25.100 She says yes

00:37:26.100 I was promiscuous

00:37:27.100 Now she's falling into a sin 1.00

00:37:28.100 Yeah

00:37:29.100 She's revealing her

00:37:30.100 Major sins

00:37:31.100 Yeah

00:37:32.100 Whereas if she says she lies

00:37:33.100 She's also falling into a sin 1.00

00:37:34.100 But this sin might be less than this one

00:37:36.100 Yeah

00:37:37.100 So that's what these scholars say

00:37:38.100 I'm sure that some other scholars say

00:37:39.100 The other thing

00:37:40.100 But that's the opinion that I follow

00:37:42.100 The second thing is actually

00:37:43.100 And this might sound a bit crude

00:37:45.100 But in Islam 0.96

00:37:47.100 The idea of sex and promiscuity

00:37:49.100 Is defined in a very specific way

00:37:52.100 Yeah

00:37:53.100 So there's levels of it

00:37:54.100 Yeah 1.00

00:37:55.100 A man having oral sex with a woman 1.00

00:37:58.100 Is not the same as a vaginal sex 1.00

00:38:00.100 Yeah 1.00

00:38:01.100 Or anal sex 1.00

00:38:02.100 Yeah 1.00

00:38:03.100 So if a woman 1.00

00:38:04.100 Would it be classified as breaking your virginity 0.95

00:38:07.100 In a strict Islamic way 0.98

00:38:09.100 If

00:38:10.100 I'm not saying anyone

00:38:11.100 This is a major sin still

00:38:13.100 Is it as bad 0.99

00:38:14.100 If someone committed oral sex 1.00

00:38:15.100 Versus vaginal or anal sex 0.99

00:38:18.100 No 0.98

00:38:19.100 Vaginal or anal sex have their separate rulings 0.98

00:38:21.100 Yeah 0.99

00:38:22.100 So the pen going into the ink

00:38:24.100 Has a separate ruling

00:38:25.100 Right

00:38:26.100 So would

00:38:27.100 Would it be fair to say

00:38:29.100 That I've remained to a certain extent

00:38:31.100 Yeah

00:38:32.100 Chased

00:38:33.100 If they've done one sin but not the other

00:38:35.100 It would be

00:38:36.100 So even that is

00:38:37.100 Yeah

00:38:38.100 In high school

00:38:39.100 With the Christian girls 1.00

00:38:40.100 We would call that the poophole loophole

00:38:42.100 Because it's not technically 0.99

00:38:45.100 If you sleep with a girl anal-y 1.00

00:38:47.100 It's not technically like real sex 0.99

00:38:48.100 Oh

00:38:49.100 You know it's

00:38:50.100 Because

00:38:51.100 It's worse right

00:38:52.100 Yeah it's haram

00:38:53.100 It's haram to do that

00:38:54.100 You can't even do that with your wife

00:38:55.100 Yeah

00:38:56.100 Yeah it's completely forbidden

00:38:57.100 That's the only

00:38:58.100 Frankly that's the only thing that was mentioned

00:39:00.100 Specifically

00:39:01.100 Specifically

00:39:02.100 You can pretty much do anything else

00:39:03.100 You know it's very interesting

00:39:04.100 In high school

00:39:05.100 I remember in sex ed

00:39:06.100 They would tell girls 1.00

00:39:07.100 Like hey if you want to keep your virginity

00:39:08.100 Just have them do you 0.64

00:39:09.100 Yeah

00:39:10.100 You know

00:39:11.100 Yeah yeah

00:39:12.100 Like it's

00:39:13.100 Yeah yeah

00:39:14.100 Well yeah let's go back to the topic

00:39:15.100 Of finding

00:39:17.100 Finding

00:39:18.100 Yes

00:39:20.100 Yeah we can get some calls

00:39:21.100 But pertaining to the topic

00:39:22.100 Yeah but in the meantime guys

00:39:23.100 Just to remind you guys inshallah

00:39:24.100 There's a donation

00:39:25.100 Think bro Aki

00:39:26.100 Just

00:39:27.100 That 100 pounds teaches

00:39:28.100 10 to 30 people how to pray salah

00:39:30.100 Salah inshallah

00:39:31.100 So guys if you're watching this

00:39:32.100 We're also fundraising at the same time

00:39:33.100 With brother here

00:39:34.100 With Sneeko, Mohamed Hijab

00:39:35.100 And the Wuna inshallah 0.98

00:39:36.100 We're trying to teach people how to pray salah

00:39:38.100 So 100 pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to do wudu

00:39:41.100 How to pray salah

00:39:42.100 And even we teach them Surah Fatiha

00:39:43.100 Surah Ikhlas

00:39:44.100 Surah Nas

00:39:45.100 Surah Falaq

00:39:46.100 For new Muslims who do not know

00:39:47.100 So that's what we're fundraising for brother and sister

00:39:49.100 The donation link is on the chat of Pindit

00:39:51.100 If you want to ask questions pertaining to this topic

00:39:53.100 We're discussing now

00:39:55.100 To get Sneeko and the Wuna married off inshallah 1.00

00:39:57.100 So

00:39:58.100 There's got to be a way of doing it properly like this

00:40:00.100 Yeah

00:40:01.100 No we're talking about giving them advice

00:40:02.100 Not like getting them a

00:40:03.100 Why don't we do both?

00:40:05.100 Why don't we do both?

00:40:06.100 Okay I don't mind then if

00:40:07.100 Why don't we do both?

00:40:09.100 Yeah

00:40:10.100 Let me tell you

00:40:11.100 What do you look for?

00:40:12.100 We've got an email that we can send

00:40:13.100 We can send all the CVs to them

00:40:15.100 Yeah I was wondering where you're saying CVs

00:40:16.100 What is that?

00:40:17.100 Marriage CVs 0.81

00:40:18.100 I don't know like how should we do this?

00:40:19.100 It's like a cover letter?

00:40:20.100 Yeah so she'll tell you what she

00:40:21.100 Where she's from

00:40:22.100 She'll tell you like you know like

00:40:24.100 How old she is

00:40:25.100 She'll tell you like all the major like bullet points 0.95

00:40:27.100 Of what she is

00:40:28.100 It's like a CV you got at work

00:40:29.100 It's a marriage one 0.66

00:40:30.100 So anything like the stuff that she looks for

00:40:31.100 Let's let's start with the marriage CV

00:40:33.100 What do you what do you look

00:40:34.100 Let's start with what do you look for

00:40:35.100 Tell us some things that you look for in a woman 1.00

00:40:37.100 Like what is it that you look for

00:40:39.100 Where you're like okay these are my non-negotiables

00:40:40.100 First so CVs like I could have an email or like

00:40:43.100 No you write that

00:40:44.100 Imagine imagine you have a word document yeah

00:40:46.100 Your name how tall you are

00:40:47.100 Your hobbies what you like

00:40:48.100 What you're looking for

00:40:49.100 You know negotiables

00:40:50.100 And a picture

00:40:52.100 Without a picture it's a waste of time

00:40:53.100 Yeah absolutely

00:40:54.100 I'm sorry to say

00:40:55.100 I know many of you are modest

00:40:56.100 And all that stuff yeah

00:40:57.100 But don't waste our times

00:40:59.100 If I can't see you

00:41:01.100 If I can't see you

00:41:02.100 I can't see how you're gonna judge

00:41:03.100 How we're gonna judge

00:41:05.100 You can cc your dad and do that

00:41:07.100 Yeah

00:41:08.100 Whatever if you if you want to do

00:41:09.100 Yeah

00:41:10.100 Inshallah so let's let's find out what's what's the

00:41:12.100 How I've been like kind of doing I don't spend that much time on it but like if I see a girl that you know I like I'll talk to her a little bit like a couple messages and then if it's like try to escalate like okay look can I speak to your brother speak to your father and then okay so has Muslim woman been approaching you have you been like have you tried like like me if I found it if I saw a sister on Instagram that I'd like to I would message her 0.64

00:41:32.100 That's that's what it's been like just girls on social media see that's the problem though because okay like it can get really it can get bad yeah you speak privately well I try to keep it brief no no no no no but how so for example the initiation process yes but for example I was I was speaking to some people in knowledge about this which I hate them if I'm not mistaken so the initiation is this salam alaikum sorry I came across your profile I find a liking I would like to get to know you for marriage and I would like to speak to your father that's exactly what can I ask some questions so just some just some not like a

00:42:01.660 it's best to do it in a like in a place of public of course of course yes like for example especially the public figure book because yes let's be frank yeah like you know a sneaker is a big yes yes yes especially me it's imagine imagine what kind of leverage a person has yeah if you're proposing marriage to them on a DM like it can be it can be I think you're right when it comes to public figures we need to be careful because you know I'll be honest there were people who were trying to would message me

00:42:31.460 talk to me in a certain way to catch me out yeah so so yeah oh see sneaker was talking to me in that way so the thing is with that I'm very careful but it has worked but again you have to be careful especially with public figures there's nothing wrong with it because you're approaching in a halal manner but you have to be careful yeah exactly exactly because you want to get to a point where like okay this is let's talk about it yeah exactly we just had some we just had some meetings you know what I mean yeah so just to give you guys some they just give some updates Abdullah Ali just donated 200 pounds yeah 10 pounds

00:43:01.460 300 please bro you know you know Abdullah Ali we've got we've got a scoreboard out there we have like a top donors he gave total 5,500 pounds yeah and we just had Nehru this man is a good man Nehru Freddovich gave 255 US dollars so what that means is 200 pounds 200 pounds can help teach 20 to 60 people how to do wudu how to pray salah and memorize surafati inshallah yeah can I donate as well yeah okay we really appreciate it whenever you want it inshallah may Allah bless you you want some more TV to your account this project I'm racking it up bro I'm racking it up

00:43:31.460 yeah we're on our way to the 27,000 pound mark but yeah so sneaker with you so you've had these sister what kind of how do they approach you I started off with him but sneaker I started off with you first no I asked you first and then you changed the whole topic yeah I mean I don't know I've never really thought about talking about this too much but I think it seems modest a couple some of your girls have messaged me and then we'll speak it's pretty much exactly like that like salam alaikum how are you like where are you from okay like are you married I was just it's very brief like informational we're not like flirting or something like that like

00:44:01.440 like where are you from are you looking to get married bing bam boom uh some girls that I've um a message like I know from from Twitter and I propositioned this one girl and she's I don't even I have no idea what she looks like her profile picture is her in a burka and she's a posting picture of her of her meals like her cooking and stuff like that you were attracted to that it's her prayers like just like what she was saying was like was attractive like she was very clearly very feminine um but you you want to look you want to definitely see her face yeah I do yeah and you are allowed to buy that's why I after

00:44:31.320 she looked like her cooking was really good so I wanted to see what she looked like you know so is that is that one thing for you the cooking like what is it for you like is it the cooking I didn't that wasn't if you asked me to write something for my criteria I would not have thought of that but her meals would look really good okay one second before we come to your criteria I want you to think I'm gonna come I'm gonna come back to you think of I'm gonna come back to you I'm gonna go to one of think of three things that you definitely need in a woman yeah I'm gonna come back to you think about it yeah that's a good question well now let's go to so what what is the for you what is the thing where you're like bro she

00:45:01.200 must have this or like three things number one is obedience right obedience I think any woman I think any woman that just looks at you will be automatically asked about obedience yeah yeah pure what do you mean by pure like here like she's not corrupted what do you mean by that are you talking about for example like we talked about virginity are you talking about because no no but because a person who has had promiscuous past if they repent it's as if they do you get what I'm trying to say so what do we mean by that no no I don't want her to have 0.97

00:45:31.180 past okay yeah okay that's that's that's your right that's your preference yeah just as a sister who says I don't want a man who wants to take a wife I want the best for myself at the end of the day I want the best for myself for me that's not the best for myself perfect so you what is the first was uh first is obedience obedience then you want her to not have a past pure pure person yeah a pure woman you know that that her her femininity has been preserved perfect it hasn't been damaged you know because I believe through trauma that her femininity gets damaged yes I don't want a traumatized woman I want a woman

00:46:01.160 that hasn't been traumatized I want a woman that has been able to be protected by her father by her brothers and then inshallah the father and the brothers are going to be giving her to me and then she's going to be under my chair inshallah inshallah and thirdly anything and third is it like like beauty beauty okay beauty is there a specific look you go for like is it like a specific color is it a specific look yeah yeah look it can be like um I think I prefer Pakistani I prefer Pakistani

00:46:31.160 okay so again but I'm open but I I think my preference will be positive okay so for those brother and sister watching this brother the woman is not married sneaker is not married so if there are proposals in a a decent manner etc you are looking to get married inshallah inshallah so there is inshallah yeah so uh going back to uh sneaker we're gonna bounce between you two inshallah yeah and then we'll talk about me and the hijabs maybe 0.88

00:46:52.620 i don't know before marriage preferences yeah uh i know we don't get killed i don't really have like i don't have a preference like racially or so you don't mind racially are you sure any specific type of girl not really i don't want her to be fat i think like main thing like fitness just needs to be important to her 1.00

00:47:09.200 so are you talking about like skinny or are you talking about maybe curvy no fitness like oh fitness yeah she needs to be in shape like i want like good body fat percentage like where the that is on her body i don't really care too much uh i don't have like when you're asking i'm trying to like visualize my wife i don't have an image you don't have an image no okay what about what about certain things where you're like she like you talked about cooking is cooking an important thing for you yeah it's a very important i think that's a given though that seems like the bare minimum it's like i guess like oh like if a woman wants a husband that he makes money

00:47:37.160 what kind of food yeah what kind of food you like bro i don't know that girl that i saw cooking on twitter i was like it was like a there's some vegetables and the steak was looking good every day there was a new meal oh i didn't even know a lot of what the meals were but it's like a good she has to have a variety of good variety yeah that surprised me you know i don't want to get bored with the casserole every night okay what are the things where are red flags for you where you're like you know what you only get you only get two but he said that's the only thing he goes yeah again femininity is very important that she preserves that and that's like the the main forefront i'm tired of like a lot of women in the 1.00

00:48:07.080 west they they think that in order to be um feminine that they need to be a sorry to curse a bad b word yeah uh you know what i'm talking about yeah a boss all this type of thing i'm really tired of hearing that from from women so a woman who knows that her power comes from her femininity she doesn't need to act like a man in order to be powerful there's there's a lot of power and leaning into her feminine nature that it's okay like you know there's power and being submissive and having a good man and cooking and nurturing or all those things are very important and powerful under god

00:48:36.760 uh red flags i would say before we go to the red flags yeah we just abdullah ali you got him excited just donated 400 pounds

00:48:42.960 abdullah

00:48:45.520 abdullah

00:48:47.520 raja iliaz gave 100 pounds and zubair ali gave 25 years you go robert abdullah ali i said to him i said to him i'll jump in

00:48:55.780 because i do ice bath challenge here if anybody donates 500 pounds i jump in the ice bath okay i said if anybody donates a thousand

00:49:01.740 pounds i jump in the ice bath with my clothes on not today though okay but yes i can carry on red flags yeah

00:49:05.880 so guys if you want to donate the link is there inshallah help teach someone how to pray salah

00:49:08.900 uh yes red flags will red flags they all stem from i think for women it's factors that are external from 1.00

00:49:15.800 her i think her decision making i think women are always going to be programmed by the masculine essence 1.00

00:49:20.920 that's around them so if they don't if a girl doesn't have a father she's going to be programmed by 1.00

00:49:25.320 um by the culture by the media when you're talking about match.com earlier it's funny that you're saying

00:49:31.000 it's pretty much arranged and i'm thinking about who's arranging it it's the it's the zionists that control 1.00

00:49:35.620 those those dating sites it's the people that um behind the scenes that they they like the fact

00:49:40.420 that they can play and that they can put their hand and manipulate the relationships that they're

00:49:44.660 not involved in everyone is sort of arranged marriage within two families it's the father that

00:49:49.940 that's the fathers that are in charge and that's that's much better than having like these people who

00:49:53.460 have nefarious intentions okay what about you red flags a masculine woman big time red flag what makes 1.00

00:50:00.740 you like what what would she say or do that you're black this woman's masculine i mean i just i i'm not 0.98

00:50:05.380 i'm not a homosexual so i want 0.71

00:50:13.620 have you noticed why is it guys who are big have this massive love have you noticed these two the way

00:50:18.580 they love you can hear them from the distance yeah he doesn't want an androgynous one no i mean 1.00

00:50:24.260 what does that mean i want the opposite androgynous is like a manly woman oh okay all right it's true 0.96

00:50:29.700 i'm not i'm not homosexual so i want someone the opposite of myself you know what i mean i don't want 0.97

00:50:34.740 someone similar to myself you know i want the opposite can i interrupt you quickly yeah i think

00:50:39.140 the reason that you see the big guys laugh so loud is the same we were talking over here about how

00:50:42.580 feminist they end up wanting to be dominated the most like women who act like girl bosses and shave 1.00

00:50:47.300 their hair yeah and have blue hair they're the ones that really that you know they adopt those traits

00:50:52.020 yeah they do because when they are always like looking for power in public they want to relinquish

00:50:55.780 that power in private so same thing like when you have like these big guys over here they're like

00:50:59.300 intimidating other people all the time when they get time to laugh man they just want to let it out

00:51:02.740 and giggle like a like a kid yeah yeah yeah yeah okay interesting all right any other red flags for you yeah

00:51:09.140 um if she has like a a weak father uh that's that's definitely you're still a mom

00:51:14.980 that's not her fault no i know but it's gonna it's gonna affect her what do you mean by weak

00:51:19.780 father like if when i meet the family i i judge the father immediately and i judge the mother

00:51:24.500 immediately okay that's that's quite profound so when you see weak father are you talking about a

00:51:27.620 father that might have some kind of feminine traits because i'm not gonna lie i think you're onto

00:51:31.220 something there so if there's it because if she's used to seeing her mother take control yeah this is 0.85

00:51:35.060 very yeah like if i'm going to meet the family and the mother's doing majority of the talking the

00:51:40.420 father just sitting there immediately i already know how she's gonna be trained by her mother to 0.91

00:51:47.060 behave like her oh that's profound you know what they say in my culture they say look at the mom and

00:51:51.060 marry the daughter yeah yeah so if the mom is talking too much and the dad's not even talking at

00:51:56.020 all that's a big red flag to me you know so i'm not gonna lie that's that's actually quite profound

00:52:00.020 that's very actually that's very quite profound okay interesting all right i said we have to bring

00:52:03.860 the water well we have to we have to but you're right that's the quickest way a girl is going to 1.00

00:52:10.180 become traumatized if she has to make up for the her missing father a weak father she's gonna big 0.91

00:52:14.820 problem man she'll make up for that missing puzzle piece big problem and there is big problem and uh 1.00

00:52:19.860 another thing is that she doesn't respect authority if she doesn't respect authority then that tells a lot

00:52:24.740 about her you know she wants to be in charge she wants to be in control and she doesn't 1.00

00:52:29.700 want to be a woman she wants to be a man you know yeah you can't do that man and marrying 0.99

00:52:34.260 marrying a woman like that i can remember i've seen my video confronting britain first

00:52:38.420 so there was this woman with the red hair she was like a proper masculine she's saying some good 1.00

00:52:41.940 stuff about pakistan nowadays well of course she is yeah she is because she's she's she's anti-semitic

00:52:46.740 now she's anti-semitic that's why yeah she hates them yeah yeah 0.97

00:52:51.140 you're just saying allah because we are the donation

00:53:00.980 look at that amazing donation the brahman sisters if you want to donate inshallah carry on a hundred

00:53:04.740 pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to play salah the link is there guys inshallah please help donate

00:53:08.740 i know you guys are enjoying this you guys are watching this uh we're gonna get some callers in

00:53:11.860 a minute to see what they have to say i think i know the feminist that you're talking about she has 1.00

00:53:14.740 the glass she's like the archetypal feminist there's this other one yeah i was thinking to myself imagine i go

00:53:19.540 out i do dawah and i'm confronting people like that and i come home to another one like that

00:53:23.060 yeah so imagine to us and that's why i think sheikh salih al-fawzan wrote a book he said it's so

00:53:27.940 important for a day to have a good woman because bro we can mash you up imagine you're dealing with 1.00

00:53:33.220 all those crackheads outside and you're coming to another crackhead at home yeah bro it's so

00:53:38.740 fundamental for public figures who are in the cause of allah to have good women and wallah it's so

00:53:42.820 profound and it brings the best out of you bro like my wife may allah bless her like we have our

00:53:46.340 ups and downs i don't want it to come across as like we have this hunky dory we have ups and downs

00:53:49.860 bro we have our fights arguments like normal people do but wallahi may allah bless her it's because of

00:53:55.620 her how she makes my life easy that i can do the things that i'm doing imagine i'm coming here and

00:53:59.460 i'm organizing this and i've got another woman who's a rebellious woman at home and i need to think of

00:54:02.820 this i don't want to go home let me have iftar outside do you get what i'm trying to say it's very

00:54:06.340 important uh for us to have that let's get some calls how many people watching

00:54:11.620 okay so guys about two thousand people are watching may allah bless and preserve you guys

00:54:14.900 but wallahi i would really appreciate if we hit thirty thousand pounds before we go because

00:54:18.420 we're going to be we're going to be going in about 45 minutes here we're going to get some callers

00:54:21.860 but pertaining to the topic please yeah if you want to talk about marriage uh that kind of stuff

00:54:25.940 please let us know inshallah and question for sneaker for the warner for hijab uh inshallah please

00:54:30.100 guys also we're fundraising for the salah plus program which is to help teach new muslim and born

00:54:34.020 muslim how to pray salah we have this guided prayer mats guided mats look we're printing 20 000 of these in

00:54:39.380 turkey by the way we paid 126 000 pounds yeah we are printing 20 000 of these bro wallahi i wish i

00:54:45.780 had this when i came to islam because i was taught how to pray salah in islam the masjid but you forget

00:54:50.740 you have to go over again you don't know what you said you said it right or wrong and it's not just

00:54:54.260 towards the mats you know it's not just towards the mats hijab we also have salah instructors imagine

00:54:58.580 imagine bro imagine the kind of reward someone will get yeah for helping someone pray yes all the all the

00:55:04.580 doing wudu teaching them how to do wudu yeah and not only that i'll just let you guys know

00:55:09.060 aki we had a catholic sister call in yeah her sister her husband is a reaver so her husband had a health

00:55:14.980 issue he couldn't pray tara with standing so she's a catholic woman calling the studio asking a 1.00

00:55:20.260 question on behalf of her husband about taraweeh oh she's giselle she's here yeah she took a shahada

00:55:25.220 but guess what oh great i was gonna say we just found that we found out that her husband is you know

00:55:29.860 dawud that was one of our salah instructors dawud is the one who taught her husband how to pray salah

00:55:33.860 and then she accepts islam and then we said to her look why don't you use your husband's salama

00:55:38.340 she goes no i want my own one yeah so may allah bless them she's here on the chat as well may

00:55:42.020 allah bless sister jiselle she came to islam and now our sister's team is teaching her how to pray

00:55:46.020 salah for absolutely free do we have any callers bro can we try to go for callers that show their

00:55:51.540 face so there's no trolls bro yeah please i want to skip the trolls yeah please please i've got time

00:55:56.340 for the trolls if it's let's let's get the first call hungry yeah exactly yeah

00:56:00.500 wow really yeah i told you bro no no no don't get bro don't get anyone good he's fast man this

00:56:07.300 guy but it played on the screen see i told you about that yeah you took it off it was on youtube

00:56:12.180 just now yeah yeah yeah yeah that's what they do you got to delete the live afterwards yeah yeah

00:56:16.420 yeah yeah no i always do that anyways but yeah maybe we shouldn't take college no don't get

00:56:19.380 calls man forget the calls man no cause no cause someone played porn they do that they

00:56:23.140 jeopardize the like the whole channel can get the channel can get yeah but it shows you know what 0.52

00:56:27.860 that shows me it shows me the power of islam you know how many trolls we get like this

00:56:30.500 well like bro so many people are coming to islam and we're teaching them well like you have to

00:56:34.260 imagine sometimes we don't get calls for two hours they are waiting there for hours just to do that

00:56:39.060 can you imagine what kind of person you have to be bro you have no life it's unbelievable but yes

00:56:43.060 because what they're trying to do is uh when they play pornography yeah then the channel gets like

00:56:48.260 yeah yeah exactly alhamdulillah we've got some more donations coming in off 100 pounds 10 pounds

00:56:55.460 uh 64 us dollars guys and let those donations come in inshallah slowly please remember to

00:56:59.380 delete the live after we end no no i do i do i'll put it on private immediately no no delete it

00:57:03.780 don't if it's not if it's on private they can still report it oh is it so they got yeah oh okay

00:57:08.100 all right okay i'll probably download it yeah okay so yeah um hijab um how was your marriage

00:57:13.220 seeking journey because it was quite smooth man i think it was quite smooth after punching your leg

00:57:19.140 for me i don't know about all this um game and all this stuff and i don't know about all this stuff so

00:57:24.020 for me it was just a very uh straightforward protocol it's quite similar to a job interview

00:57:34.820 so how did how did you come across like like your wife was it from family was it like it's from

00:57:39.300 school my school oh okay so you went to the same school yeah okay so i knew her brother so i went to

00:57:44.500 her brother and i said let's uh let me get to know your sister that's very honorable actually let 0.95

00:57:53.860 me tell you what actually apparently she wanted you know to get married so i think he was trying

00:58:01.060 to hint it in it so i was like okay oh he came to you yeah so she had she had interest in you or she

00:58:06.260 was looking to get married but he mentioned why would he mention it to me unless there was interest

00:58:09.380 there all right i mean the man like this i mean one second one second let's look at the face can

00:58:12.340 we zoom in please so anyway um after that what happened was um yeah i said i was very i was actually

00:58:23.780 way more staunch than i was i was more staunch yeah then than i am now way more strict like i wasn't

00:58:30.980 like in terms of Islamic opinions i was full of the hardest harshest opinions on every single matter

00:58:35.700 well okay now i'm not like that because it's very difficult to live a life like that

00:58:38.900 yes it is so for me the processor said if you make your religion harder than you will over

00:58:42.580 yes i wouldn't recommend my my approach but what i'd done i was like 20 years old at the time

00:58:48.740 was i wanted to be very clear and that and i went to the house and uh uh if what i didn't want to

00:58:54.820 communicate with her on a whatsapp group or on any um anything like that because i knew that that even

00:59:01.540 yes even if it's a group something could happen it's all step away from being a private

00:59:06.180 oh even in a group yeah even it's i'm not saying it's haram yeah it's just it's just for you i'm

00:59:10.580 not saying i'm just saying me in it the way i communicated with her was the emails okay and i

00:59:15.860 cc'd her brother okay brilliant perfect into every single one of my emails it's like you know you put

00:59:20.900 cc yeah yeah and i'd call him and say to him do you are you reading it like i was very strict on this

00:59:25.940 okay i was very strict yeah i wanted it i wanted it to be like properly done i thought myself i'm

00:59:30.980 going to come into this marriage i want to come in baraka great blessings and um to be honest the

00:59:38.020 good thing about this is that it allowed me and this was i was a young guy yeah so i was 20 years

00:59:42.100 old i didn't have any money at this time yeah i was in fact i was an undergraduate yeah so i was

00:59:48.900 trying to expedite the process because i've been i've been you know holding myself for many years yeah i

00:59:55.860 i was trying to expedite it supposed to make it quicker so i pushed it and it's like oh it was

00:59:59.940 the get to know period i tried to make that as sure as possible i don't know how many months it was

01:00:03.540 maybe two months that's not bad i knew her from school anyway same same same my wife i knew it's 1.00

01:00:08.340 like i knew her brother for years do you know what i mean i knew her family for years so same my wife

01:00:12.580 i think it was two and a half three months we was getting to know each other yeah for me i think it

01:00:15.460 was two months well okay something like that maybe it was a bit more or less and then um and then uh we

01:00:21.060 done that again we got married and uh how was it in the cow was it like how was it big was it

01:00:25.540 small like moroccan so it's it's pretty if they have like multiple ones and stuff like that and

01:00:35.140 say that again did she want to speak yeah okay we'll go to inshallah just finish the hijab finish 0.95

01:00:39.940 and we'll go to this yeah so it was it was uh it was it was okay i would say it was like a medium

01:00:44.900 size in it wow mashallah medium size that's good man that's you know i find that really beautiful you

01:00:49.700 know because you don't have that jahiliya you need to understand because we when we come we come

01:00:53.780 with baggages and that can really traumatize and sabotage your marriage because we come from this

01:00:57.780 whole different paradigm and to come it does for you to come and like for example it's your first

01:01:02.980 experience bro this is why i believe marriages are breaking down because men and women are so much

01:01:08.500 experience in so many angles you've got so much to compare the thing is there are weaknesses of it as

01:01:12.980 well so like as a muslim man that hasn't had any experience with women in the past yeah yeah when you first 0.98

01:01:18.260 get into a marriage like that what happens is that you you don't know what how women behave yeah 0.98

01:01:23.700 like in a romantic setting that will but every time you talk abdul ali donate another 400 pounds

01:01:37.380 so i'll be honest like in the first when i got married at 20 years so um it took me a while to

01:01:42.980 understand the nature of how a woman behaves in a romantic setting because i obviously i had

01:01:49.380 experience with my sisters and my mother or my nieces it's not the same it's not the same there

01:01:53.780 are there are there are obviously flesh that joins all those experiences but i'm saying that in general

01:01:58.740 it took me around just like what is this behavior you know yeah yeah is this what's these mood swings

01:02:04.500 what otherwise how do i how do i implement control how do i control the situation how much affection do

01:02:11.540 i show these are all questions i didn't know how to it's it's very true because if you show too much

01:02:16.100 affection it's bad it's very bad very true but if you show too little affection it's also very bad

01:02:21.780 when to show when to initiate affection given when to remove the affection given when to uh how to show

01:02:27.700 that you're upset yes anger was another one because in the beginning when something i yeah

01:02:35.300 anger was something like anger results when somebody when someone does something that is

01:02:40.740 against your expectations yes yeah so if someone does something against your expectations you get angry

01:02:45.380 yeah but so i used to get angry and the way i'm an extroverted person sometimes i'd raise my voice

01:02:51.860 and this and that get into an argument get into a debate yeah i realized that that was not the approach

01:02:56.100 that you take of a wife really yeah for me it's it's a sign of weakness to get into prolonged

01:03:01.380 argumentation so i didn't know that you know to get into a prolonged organization yeah and they say

01:03:06.980 things that i think so these are things that it took me some time to kind of understand the ropes of a

01:03:12.660 proper long-term marriage romantic relationship and um you're still with the same woman yeah so you're

01:03:18.500 married at 20 yeah yeah yeah yeah that's that's that's that's brilliant man well it's it's so

01:03:24.340 profound subhanallah but we're going to come to why that's important as well let's get sister giselle

01:03:27.620 because she came to islam a couple of weeks ago let's see what she has to say inshallah

01:03:30.900 uh assalamualaikum sister giselle may allah preserve you sister take care inshallah so guys as you can see

01:03:36.100 that is sister giselle uh this is real life situations guys um her husband learned how to

01:03:40.260 pray salah through our salah instructors dawud and then she came to this show to ask a question about

01:03:44.900 taraweeh for her husband then she accepts islam and now inshallah we've sent her a guided 0.95

01:03:50.180 prayer mat or she's using her husband's one in the meantime and inshallah one of our teams uh

01:03:54.340 salah instructors will get in contact with her if you've noticed she said our sister's team

01:03:57.940 haven't gone in contact with her and she this was about a week ago why because there's such a demand

01:04:01.940 even i was chasing up another sister who's like look when can i get the salah instructors this to me

01:04:05.940 makes me so happy you know why it shows people are eager eager to learn so we want to expand the team

01:04:10.500 guys so we can have more sisters catering to more sisters brothers team to increase that inshallah 1.00

01:04:14.660 because we want to make this a worldwide mission the link is there guys a hundred pounds can teach from

01:04:19.380 10 minimum 10 to 30 people how to do wudu for the first time how to pray salah and even surah

01:04:24.820 fatih we are dedicating a quran teacher every week that people who reverts or muslims around the 0.60

01:04:30.260 world can tune into and go through surah fatih inshallah so bear that in mind inshallah uh coming

01:04:34.900 back to our topic of uh marriage we've got about maybe 30 minutes where we need to start heading off

01:04:40.660 to the restaurant off the table don't worry yes we're gonna make sure you do you know you don't

01:04:43.540 worry about that too yeah okay you know you don't worry about that you don't worry about that

01:04:47.540 so yeah you talk about your marriage that's that's really good man um yeah so um we've learned a few

01:04:53.860 things from that but you know like the one thing that is very profound of what sneko said um which

01:05:00.340 i think is very interesting bro because we were talking in the car about like the red pill stuff

01:05:04.500 yeah yeah and um there's a book that's written i think we all read it it's it's called rational mail

01:05:09.380 by uh you read it yeah i read it yeah i've read that one yeah well it was nice he's like one of the

01:05:14.580 figures of like the red pill movement and one of those things that he keeps talking about is

01:05:19.620 have you interacted with him before yeah i have he embarrassed him bro

01:05:25.220 the side of him that came out like i truly feel like

01:05:28.900 i don't think he wrote the book based on looking at the guy no way like it's like someone else wrote

01:05:34.180 now i need to watch that yeah it's a funny debate it's really bro what was it on uh on fresh and fit

01:05:39.620 actually no but what was it about like what's the topic he was really upset with me about i don't

01:05:44.580 know i honestly no it was the fact that he was talking about um encouraging men to get vasectomies

01:05:49.620 saying a high value man is rich uh childless gets a vasectomy in his 20s yeah i'm really against that

01:05:56.740 like i'm really pro baby yeah have babies like that's that's the most beautiful thing yeah i think it's

01:06:02.820 i can compare a vasectomy to a transgender surgery you know you're effectively you're changing your 0.91

01:06:07.860 your output and your purpose in life so i'm really against that and he was saying he was saying that

01:06:12.500 it wasn't like the problem with red pill is that you can reverse it probably but the reversal rate's

01:06:17.940 like three percent or something and it decreases as the years go by the reversal rate lowers and lowers

01:06:22.740 and lower so it just don't get a vasectomy absolutely there's no circumstance the problem

01:06:26.260 with the red pills they say that it's not an ideology it's praxeology which means it's like

01:06:31.140 it's a response to how the world is so basically in his terminology is that's like a coping mechanism

01:06:37.780 to feminism that's what red pill is it's just a response to how i know he says that but he offers

01:06:42.820 prescriptions that's the difference like you know in usually in ethics you know um in ethics if

01:06:47.700 something becomes prescriptive at any point even if it's suggestive yeah then it does become really

01:06:52.340 an ideology now i know he says it's not an ideology and i've said but it is it is an ideology because

01:06:58.180 the moment you start giving suggestions and recommendations is the moment you start moving

01:07:02.260 into ideological thinking what you would call teleological ethics that's really what distinguishes

01:07:07.860 like say virtue ethics from teleological ethics it's just the prescriptive aspect of it so you know so

01:07:13.620 for example he's got these i don't know what he calls them iron laws or rules or something is in

01:07:17.380 the back of his book yeah the iron laws of tomorrow laws right don't listen to that like like it should

01:07:23.860 just look at him that's all i said just look at what he looks like i have no problem with the guy

01:07:28.100 like i mean he's a kind of guy i mean you can see from his writing style that he's he's got

01:07:32.660 intelligence he's not it's not a fool but i mean it's just claims like these which is like for example

01:07:38.500 of praxology or ideology it's not a practice it's actually an ideology because it's prescriptive in

01:07:43.940 that sense the second thing is what you touched upon today was really powerful because one of the

01:07:48.100 things i stuck out to in the beginning of this book though he kept talking about this thing about body

01:07:52.660 count and i think it has permeated a little bit bro into the muslim community especially with

01:07:56.660 muslim men that there is this kind of feeling oh we need to get more and more experience with

01:08:01.540 different bodies and different women yeah there is that idea and obviously maybe they'll disguise it 0.99

01:08:07.460 in a marriage format or whatever it will be yeah but it's the idea that you'll get more experience

01:08:12.340 you become more confident you become stronger if you have intercourse with multiple ladies now firstly i 0.80

01:08:18.500 i was looking at some of the studies relating to uh casual sex and its effect on men and women

01:08:24.500 yeah there's there's multiple studies on this by the way it harms more women than men so that's that

01:08:29.060 is almost consensus can we get into that what are the harms of that but it harms men too like i know it

01:08:34.340 does so it ruins this it ruins your your connection and bond the more that you have these this bond which

01:08:39.140 is a really emotional tie with somebody the more that you just do it uh recreationally you're not going to

01:08:43.940 be able to have a pair bond that's true but i think maybe it's sneaker you're talking about numbers

01:08:48.500 of 20 30 40 50 no of course it's it's the reason it's on a smaller scale the reason it doesn't affect

01:08:53.620 as much is because we are we are polygamists by nature because we are programmed to have multiple

01:08:58.980 women it would only be wrong imagine allah's allowing us to do that but at the same time when 1.00

01:09:03.220 we do that we are harming ourselves so that's why it affects women more than men of course it does

01:09:07.220 men as well but it harms women more than men because women are monogamous by nature all the studies said

01:09:11.940 that i mean all the studies that i said so it affects it harms women more than it harms men

01:09:16.820 yeah every single study i think there's that is one thing the question of whether it harms men is

01:09:21.380 actually controversial because i'm sure there is somehow some studies say it harms men like what

01:09:26.740 sneaker said some studies say it doesn't harm or benefit and some studies say it gives them more

01:09:32.100 confidence because you know why for us to have intimacy with another woman it's like for women it's

01:09:35.860 like attachment but for us it means nothing but the point i was making about this thing about this

01:09:41.780 like multiple bodies and he i think he says you have to have i don't know sex with 50 women i 0.99

01:09:46.020 don't know if it's 50. he says 50. i don't know what the arbitrary get that number from i don't

01:09:49.780 know the block number or something like also keep in mind america it's very easy to get laid

01:09:56.500 he would argue that it's not actually that it's harder that you need to be like especially if you

01:09:59.620 pay for it i guess yeah if you're a certain type of guy especially if you pay for it i keep forgetting

01:10:03.220 well it's not recommended and let's be honest bro and a lot of these uh sorry to say uh figures of

01:10:09.060 red pill they will go to an escort just to increase their body they'll go to women who are pseudo escorts 1.00

01:10:14.500 and prostitutes and something like that i mean dating is pretty much prostitution it's not that far

01:10:18.740 it is it is it is you're exchanging your time and you're giving her fun stories and taking her out to

01:10:23.220 a restaurant it's getting a hotel you're spending money to get in sex and it's not with no commitment 0.94

01:10:29.620 it's the biggest fraud for women like imagine for a woman it's the biggest food out there man you are 1.00

01:10:34.180 you know my teacher said this and i found that like obviously he goes if you think about they're

01:10:38.980 like uh walking toilets why because would you look look think about when you need to relieve

01:10:43.460 yourself where do you need to go this is james sulu and something like that no no this is me don't

01:10:47.300 don't get credit to someone else yeah okay just think about yeah when you need to go to

01:10:51.860 toilet number one or two like you need to go to the toilet to relieve yourself so there are men 0.99

01:10:55.940 out there who are horny who are like i need to relieve myself in someone yes and they are going 1.00

01:11:00.740 and doing you're treating these women like toilets you're like we're a toilet can i just use you for 1.00

01:11:04.340 a little bit okay thank you you can go now you are destroying and dismantling these women like as 1.00

01:11:08.420 muslim men we are told to be protectors and providers not misguiders and destroyers yeah you're 0.71

01:11:13.060 misguided and destroying this woman and then what happens is and i don't know the cycle that's why i

01:11:17.220 kind of disagree with uh myron because it's like this perpetual cycle of um you know steep around

01:11:22.580 you're destroyed and then you complain does he say the same and then you complain and say oh he's the 0.81

01:11:26.420 50 body count but i don't understand that promiscuity you have a problem with i want a virgin but you 0.93

01:11:32.180 are causing habit then then again so the question is how to what extent if any what evidence is there

01:11:38.580 that the increased body count that you think you're yeah is going to increase your confidence whatever it

01:11:43.220 is yeah that that's going to lead to a more resilience in your part b that you're going

01:11:48.900 to be able to deal with women in a relationship setting you can even make the argument of the

01:11:52.660 opposite let me explain why because if you're used to just getting sex for women without having to put 0.63

01:11:57.700 work into a relationship yeah so now when you're in a long-term relationship and emotions become

01:12:03.220 volatile and it becomes a tempestuous situation exactly so now you're used to just getting sex whenever

01:12:08.900 you want you're used to just getting this and that it's all transactional for you when you're not

01:12:12.100 getting it how you're going to react exactly are you able to deal use your prefrontal cortex and

01:12:17.700 your hippocampus rather than your amygdala which in other words are you able to use those areas and

01:12:22.580 centers of the brain which which operate on long-term horizon thinking he's not using his brain but he's

01:12:28.580 using his private suppression of um the sexual appetites no because you've just trained yourself 0.85

01:12:36.260 number one you've trained yourself of getting sex whenever you want of using women in a transactional way 0.52

01:12:42.420 of not working hard in a relationship you will not value it bro it's simple as that if imagine like 0.96

01:12:46.420 uh donald trump said you know my father just lent me a million dollars yeah it's like bro who would

01:12:51.700 you respect more somebody who's money being gifted to him or somebody who worked his way up it's true

01:12:55.700 and how are you going to value if imagine you're given this and that you're never going to value this

01:12:58.500 stuff that's why it's so important that you know like even allah says in the quran with hardship comes

01:13:03.380 ease this concept is very important on this point it's very uh poignant because they'll mention

01:13:09.060 people like genghis khan or they'll mention like conquerors of the of the past there's something

01:13:13.940 which differentiates genghis khan and the conquerors of the past yes true true who's paying for sex let's

01:13:19.060 be honest exactly or doing the the equivalent of that which is which is this yeah they fought in

01:13:24.340 wars exactly then they conquered so they first had to go through a very difficult ordeal yeah which

01:13:31.460 life or death situation and then they collected the war booty and had slave women and all that kind 1.00

01:13:35.860 of stuff it's different from and they had kids with them like a lot of the the sex with women in 1.00

01:13:40.740 the west now they're on birth control you're pulling out it's it's sterile it's just it's kind of like 0.98

01:13:45.700 homeless it's kind of like gay sex if you think a lot of the guys that when you sleep around with 1.00

01:13:48.820 women you're just doing it for pleasure and you're not doing it for the function that sex was created 1.00

01:13:53.140 a lot we're supposed to have sex to have children that's the whole point and not only that you get

01:13:57.020 rewarded for it like the companions came to the prophet peace be upon him and the prophet said you 0.97

01:14:01.140 get rewarded for uh having sex with the wife he said really and that's why he said he said it's a

01:14:05.740 charity he said it's a charity he said that's why i'm a very generous donor 0.98

01:14:08.460 so the thing is here a humble is in a halal setting so it's nothing wrong with your wife 1.00

01:14:23.260 yeah the point is this though yeah i don't think i didn't want to write the comparison again the

01:14:26.140 prophet peace be upon him said do you not get a sin for committing zinnah he said yeah then he said

01:14:30.660 then how could you not get a good reward for doing intimacy with your wife do you get what i'm trying

01:14:33.880 to say because if one is a sin the other will be a thing now talking about kids i want to ask you guys a

01:14:37.440 question when do you think you should have kids so let's suppose you got married by the way

01:14:41.000 how old do i look first i would say well you said you reverted uh 12 years ago 11 years ago

01:14:46.800 11 years ago and you've been married for how many quite a bit yes

01:14:51.520 34 yeah i'm exactly 34 34 yeah but but they say i look 26

01:15:00.760 you're well these days i'm 25 25 yeah that's for the cv guys yeah i'm i'm yeah i'm 34 i'm gonna be 35 in

01:15:08.160 april is it yeah mashallah two questions i want to ask you guys firstly yeah uh do you got do you both

01:15:13.520 want second wives we'll come to later but uh don't get in trouble please yeah 1.00

01:15:16.880 second second the first one when do you think you should have kids so imagine you guys got married

01:15:21.940 and you're three months into your marriage when would you want to have kids i thought i would have

01:15:26.280 kids by now when i was uh a teenager i always wanted to be a young father i thought that by

01:15:31.220 like 24 25 would i had okay if you got married let's say three months ago when would you would 0.95

01:15:36.320 you want to start having kids immediately pretty soon yeah okay i would say i would recommend what

01:15:40.360 about you for me i mean the only one of the major reasons i want to get married is to have children

01:15:45.340 i don't want to just get married just for pleasure you know okay because yeah i just i want to get

01:15:49.880 married to have children okay i would personally say do not have kids for two years

01:15:52.540 the reason being is because you know you know why let me tell you why let me tell you why yeah

01:15:58.140 if you if you marry look let me tell you something you do not know a person's true character until you

01:16:02.000 spend about two years with them imagine you are married to an absolute shaytan and you have kids 0.98

01:16:06.100 with them and you're going to see them for the rest of your life yeah no no no i'm telling you yeah 0.91

01:16:09.600 i'm telling you guys yeah if you marry somebody who is absolutely a nutcase yeah this goes for both

01:16:14.620 men and women now you are stuck with that person for the rest of your life for the rest of your life 0.89

01:16:20.480 and you're gonna have to see their face and the kids are gonna suffer and then if you marry this 0.99

01:16:24.440 woman by the in today's age that'll stop you from seeing your kids that's traumatic and i know men

01:16:29.080 who are on the verge of suicide because of this i disagree i don't think it takes two years to figure

01:16:32.280 out if somebody's a shaytan what would you say roughly how long would you say i think you could 1.00

01:16:36.020 tell pretty pretty quickly really yeah i know man there's some there's some good shaytans out there 1.00

01:16:40.680 that are i mean that are deceiving she's from a good family she's pure and she's honored bro bro bro don't let me

01:16:45.620 tell you something one thing sneaker yeah i'll give you advice you're a reaver yeah do not ever fall for the

01:16:49.580 niqab or the hijab or she's let me tell you something no do not do not ever let me tell you 1.00

01:16:53.780 something i from my experience yeah oh she wears a hijab she has a niqab she says no there doesn't 0.98

01:16:59.360 guarantee that she's a good girl don't because you know why i fell into that where it's like you let

01:17:03.200 your guards down you're thinking this time you find out like she's um hi she's she's she's she's

01:17:10.560 just to see yeah please yeah and guys we are look we've got we've got about 25 minutes to go

01:17:16.500 we're just under 2 000 pounds away hijab okay so you're saying how would you get to know if she's

01:17:32.700 it's pretty easy to tell if a woman's okay it's not that hard oh man we comes out after you uh i don't

01:17:39.620 know i don't know is there any ways we can find out like if a woman or a man before or after the 0.63

01:17:43.600 after the matter actually i have some i have some advice regarding that for me i mean um i believe

01:17:49.520 you get to know people right away through traveling with them so yes i would say immediately when you

01:17:54.340 get with her go on a very long honeymoon and you really get to see her through the airplane rides

01:18:01.120 you know you're a little bit tired how she behaves in certain situations interacting with the waitress 1.00

01:18:05.440 you speed up the process a lot faster when you travel with an individual you get to know yes very

01:18:10.680 quickly and all that you know facade it disappears during travels it's good what are you looking for

01:18:17.580 because for for me the one of the worst things you know in a woman or wife is a shamelessness 1.00

01:18:23.300 100 like actually it's a real put off you know what's your definition of shameless um so the

01:18:28.140 opposite of modesty in this case oh yeah honestly the virtue i think shamelessness is the vice do you

01:18:32.620 know what i mean so if a woman is too talkative with other men and stuff like that it's a real 1.00

01:18:37.880 oh yeah 100 it's a real put off for me bro 100 because like that is that's a disrespect to me 0.98

01:18:44.300 bro yeah for me a shameless woman is the most dangerous woman yeah yeah a shameless woman that 1.00

01:18:49.600 means she's willing to do anything that's what the process i'm saying if you have no shame do as 0.90

01:18:53.220 you please yeah yeah yeah yeah so when you see those women out there that have no problem like 1.00

01:18:58.800 exposing all their body parts and walk out like with just like a little thing that is we're not

01:19:04.060 even talking about that i mean for for me personally like you know uh we're talking

01:19:08.680 about behavior rather than the attire because the attire would have already been set you can fix the

01:19:13.520 attire but you can't fix the mentality the attire is uh it's like a red line it's like if you don't

01:19:18.420 for me personally once again i'm a bit more stormed if you don't do this i'm just in the balls i'm not

01:19:22.580 going to be absolutely absolutely i'm sorry to say like but i'm not saying that should be for

01:19:26.320 everybody yeah some people will like for example if a revert came to islam um and she's taking time

01:19:32.540 to get to you know to that's a different situation but if she's established muslim you know it's a 0.95

01:19:38.380 different situation for me yeah i'll be quick to cut it off too yeah yeah yeah but um and so and

01:19:43.580 when i say immodesty i'm talking about this kind of like the way she fraternizes with opposite gender 1.00

01:19:48.600 if she does so in a very immodest shameless manner for me the kind of anger that i can feel from that

01:19:56.340 dangerous levels of anger is um i wouldn't be able to live with that we just had a donation of 255

01:20:01.820 us dollars from two red crime and then 173 canadian dollars from the sake of allah halima abdullah

01:20:07.480 abdul aleem 10 us dollars muhammad yusuf 20 us dollars and several hundred pounds so we are we are

01:20:12.820 nearly we're just about 1655 pounds away easy well yeah okay all right interesting

01:20:18.580 so we've got guys about i would say 15 20 minutes more before you have another thing is

01:20:22.700 um sorry say dirty if she's dirty hygienic most women are hygienic most women are hygienic you'd be 1.00

01:20:28.820 surprised man oh sneaker tell us some stories i don't want to you've said enough say no more

01:20:36.340 for me that's a disqualifying it's a red it's a red card yeah you have a red flag that's a red card

01:20:44.920 it's a red card honestly forget that but it's like you know um another thing is um

01:20:50.480 rude but that one you know we've got to be careful with that one because when someone's cantankerous

01:20:57.640 you know wow that's an amazing word what does that mean slubber the gullion have you heard of

01:21:01.660 slubber the gullion no pusillanimous huh you haven't heard of that that's actually what does pusillanimous

01:21:07.200 mean cowardly yeah it's actually what it's it's sort of calling someone a p-u-s-s-y call him a pusillanimous

01:21:12.440 yeah and what was the other one slubber the gullion this isn't this british guys are different 0.51

01:21:18.460 this one's dictionary this no no one uses this these don't use this what does slubber the gullion

01:21:21.820 cantankerous cantankerous is used well i think so yeah what does that mean

01:21:26.320 cantankerous is someone who is overly polemical

01:21:30.000 someone who like basically argues too much okay but rudely argues

01:21:43.720 in a rude manner um if a woman does that all the time is uh that is actually a horrible behavior 1.00

01:21:50.140 bro i'm sorry that is actually you know you know one thing i can't tolerate and i think no man can

01:21:54.120 there's a hadith of the prophet peace be upon him is an ungrateful woman and the thing is they make 1.00

01:21:58.360 out the majority of the hellfire yeah okay just give me context it is true the prophet no it's true

01:22:02.280 it's true the prophet peace be upon him went to hellfire and he saw majority of them and he said you do

01:22:05.480 he said use the word kufr yeah kufr in the last year yes which is that they are ungrateful to their

01:22:10.300 husband and the companion said are they ungrateful to allah i said no rather to the husband this is

01:22:13.540 very interesting because he said the husband will do so much good if he was to do one thing that he

01:22:17.360 doesn't like he will say i've never seen any good from you this is something i believe

01:22:20.740 a lot of women are they have this innate it's just why it's why then that is that is a thing 1.00

01:22:25.840 about women in general that's how they are and that's how they are i know it might sound bad but

01:22:30.440 it's um there is something in psychology called the big five yeah yeah it's the gold standard of

01:22:36.260 understanding of a person's makeup and so on and there are five traits you know openness and

01:22:44.600 conscientiousness and uh so on and so forth but one of them is called neuroticism neuroticism is when

01:22:50.180 someone sees the negative and bad situations all the time well it's linked to gratitude it has to

01:22:55.240 be yeah so if you're if you're an ingrate you're more likely to be yes trait neurotic yeah yes well

01:23:00.820 almost all the studies i've ever seen yeah that have looked at uh cross-culturally different women 1.00

01:23:07.080 from different cultures yeah have shown that women have a higher degree of neuroticism than them well 1.00

01:23:11.880 okay which it indicates okay so how is that going to play out in terms of gratitude it plays out

01:23:17.140 in terms of ingratitude of course so it's a thing which women have to struggle just like men are 0.99

01:23:22.520 weaker in other areas yes we're weaker in terms of allowing our gaze in terms of sexuality well you

01:23:27.540 know the human being has been created weak

01:23:32.040 that's the verse in the quran yes that the human beings have been created weak 0.99

01:23:36.720 the more festive the exegetes say about that it's man is very weak when it comes to sexuality

01:23:41.100 yeah man in particular it's true that a human being but man in particular we're weak when it

01:23:45.600 comes to sexuality yeah so ingratitude is one of those things where you're going to deal with if

01:23:49.960 you get married yeah but there are remedies for that yeah and that's and and the remedies that

01:23:54.020 yeah what are the remedies remedies for that bro is um so i have these kind of uh things that i do with

01:23:58.800 my family yeah we bring them all together oh bro i i'm by the way i'm gonna start implementing that

01:24:03.540 in my family because i think it's very beautiful yeah for first of all let's implement it for

01:24:07.020 ourselves yes so we are told to do tahmid on it like in tahmid means say alhamdulillah so which

01:24:13.340 means to alhamdulillah you've heard it before habib has used it and other people yes which means all

01:24:17.320 praise and thanks be to be to god and when i say alhamdulillah say for example i'm saying alhamdulillah i think

01:24:22.400 about one thing that god has given me so for example alhamdulillah for my eyesight alhamdulillah for my

01:24:26.600 hearing alhamdulillah for this alhamdulillah for that for this provision i've been given uh research

01:24:31.340 has shown when you do that you actually get into an elevated dopaminergic state it helps you

01:24:38.480 there's there's good evidence to show that when you do that it's actually good for you of course

01:24:42.120 so the first thing i do is we sit as a family or all my kids and stuff like that and i'll say to

01:24:46.740 them oh my gosh someone just made a massive donation oh how much sorry forgive me is abdullah

01:24:50.740 abdullah ali just donated 800 pounds oh my god

01:24:56.480 he's more charitable keep him talking keep him talking we're gonna get to the 30s he's more charitable

01:25:01.940 than you in all aspects abdullah

01:25:04.180 um so when you sit down so we say alhamdulillah we say alhamdulillah alhamdulillah

01:25:11.040 may allah bless him allah has given nearly 7 000 or 8 000 pounds since we started like not just

01:25:16.740 today he's going in bro i told him but this ray because i go in the ice bar i'm going to present

01:25:20.860 in the ice bar from now so you're saying alhamdulillah alhamdulillah now when i say alhamdulillah

01:25:25.780 i think okay alhamdulillah allah gave me family allah gave me good health allah gave me this i was in a

01:25:30.920 bad position before allah gave me islam allah and that puts me in a bad position i said to my kids

01:25:35.180 what are you grateful for it's a very nice game well it's amazing and it's not like i'm absolved of it

01:25:39.320 it's not i don't need it now after we've done that that's round one round two is okay tell me

01:25:44.100 what you're grateful for person b for so because the prophet said whoever does not thank the people

01:25:51.280 does not thank allah so tell me what you're thankful for me for and i'll tell you what i'm

01:25:57.200 thankful to you for because when you verbalize it when a woman says i'm thankful to my husband for

01:26:01.680 providing for me for protecting me well it means so much to us it means so much and vice versa bro

01:26:06.840 yes and vice versa so it's a very good thing to do this yes with the child with the family with this

01:26:12.400 kind of thing we've got to make sure that we reinforce that so that's one aspect of it and the

01:26:16.960 other one if it goes too bad that's you should make cards of these like games you said muhammad hijab

01:26:21.080 family game yeah the second tier of it yeah yeah you came up with some good stuff i want royalties bro

01:26:27.920 i want royalties yeah well i'm glad i was gonna be the one

01:26:29.700 you're gonna invest already don't forget halal game too if it gets bad though if ingratitude becomes bad

01:26:36.900 yeah then the thing that the best thing is removal sorry to say

01:26:40.640 so what do you remember that so if someone is taking from the room

01:26:43.300 removal of attention of the thing

01:26:46.580 if someone's taking something or someone for granted you have to take that thing away from them

01:26:51.220 so they can feel how it live how it is to live without it then it starts great this is this is

01:26:56.080 very fascinating it's exactly that it's like that man gratitude is very very important subhanallah

01:27:00.720 that's what allah says in the quran if you are grateful i will increase you yeah increase you in

01:27:04.000 what a lot of people when they hear this ayah they think oh you know if i'm grateful for the money

01:27:07.280 i have allah will increase me allah say allah doesn't mention what he increases you in

01:27:10.880 it can be that he increases you in more gratitude and if you're more grateful the more you're happy

01:27:15.200 you are you get it so it's very very important guys we have got literally 15 minutes because

01:27:19.380 we're going to end the show because we want to make sure we reach the restaurant on time

01:27:21.520 uh the brothers are really hungry are we at 30 000 yet huh oh we're literally seven 695 pounds

01:27:26.880 away bro yeah don't be surprised brother abdul ali just comes with a knockout blow yeah

01:27:31.380 bro bro he doesn't mess around i'm telling you who else who's the other guy the other guy's

01:27:35.740 the other name red line something no the second person giselle

01:27:39.200 not just russian oh um let me get the name for you you're talking about

01:27:44.980 get the porno guy to donate some 600

01:27:49.780 make up for the copyright

01:27:52.620 you're talking about nehrou fetrodovich yeah fetrovich

01:27:59.300 fetrovich let's do it okay oh we're getting close hamdulillah yeah this is absolutely phenomenal

01:28:07.720 hamdulillah five five thousand we've nearly raised five thousand pounds just in a matter of a couple

01:28:11.540 of hours guys yeah may allah bless and preserve you guys inshallah so we've got 15 minutes to go

01:28:15.360 guys um is there any questions on the chat bro maybe you want to ask is there anything you guys want

01:28:18.540 to turn 15 minutes i think we already learned our lesson no we learned our lesson you know and the

01:28:25.580 prophet peace be upon him said the believer doesn't get bit from the same hole twice so we're going to

01:28:28.820 inshallah if that's cynical handle it's got a lot of things the same you know uh it's already

01:28:32.480 well i liked um i think we need to exploit more of your insights both of you actually when it comes

01:28:39.040 to uh this whole red pill discussion because from the haram world the gender stuff yeah you guys have

01:28:44.600 got mashallah good insights so we want to ask about that yeah i mean women are not in the west are not 1.00

01:28:49.960 ever they don't show gratitude ever they're supposed to not they think that their existence is to

01:28:55.840 extract resources from men and then they get encouraged if you listen to that if you dissect

01:29:00.320 the lyrics and all the music and if you look at the the women that they look up to that's that's 0.99

01:29:04.420 all they brag about all this and it's not even subtle anymore if you look at the the main rappers

01:29:08.080 that these girls look up to i mean all of them are strippers first off if you look at their concerts 1.00

01:29:12.040 they literally just get naked uh and they talk about like how much they can get uh the lyrics are so

01:29:17.900 explicit i don't want to repeat them but they brag about how much they can get a man

01:29:22.000 to do all right they want to take that they see that as a kind of power yeah they they are

01:29:27.600 encouraging women to take the power away from men completely through financial extraction financial 0.99

01:29:32.800 and by using sex uh like basically they're bragging about how big of a prostitute they are 0.99

01:29:38.320 yeah oh this guy's offering me this well this guy's i got a broken bag for this i got that's that's 0.99

01:29:44.040 why they're hypergumous yeah yeah yeah but that's that's the reason why they're hypergumous the reason

01:29:49.160 why they're hypergumous they do that to show off bro it's like you know and the thing is if you

01:29:52.860 think about it i think that's the reason why allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has set the biological clock

01:29:57.580 for a woman limited not for a man right because we don't have those characters it gets it gets kind 0.91

01:30:02.020 of sad when you see i was on a podcast with this um it was a jewish girl um sofia franklin she has a

01:30:07.340 big podcast called call her daddy and she was saying that whenever she goes on a first date the first

01:30:12.100 thing she asks is for a man to show his bank account to her i'm not joking it sounds it sounds like a joke

01:30:17.720 i asked her about it she was she was dead serious but then it gets to the point like she has a

01:30:21.700 birkin bag but she has no children and then she's 35 36 and all she can do is she can flex these uh 0.98

01:30:26.760 material at 35 this is her requirement she's 35 yeah you know you know what you know where the

01:30:31.880 delusion is coming from sneak out delusion is coming from put your hand like we're public figures yeah

01:30:35.240 we will understand this i only understood this when i became ali dower yeah because you need to

01:30:40.200 understand the psychology of a woman a woman is sought after so just imagine you are a guy that walks down

01:30:45.040 the road and there are girls just trying to trying it with you you go to your messages you're getting

01:30:48.440 messages from girls left right center you got all of these women to pick from it gives you

01:30:53.080 it gives you a reality it gives you a false sense of reality this is why women have this entitlement 1.00

01:31:00.440 issues you know why because they think i've always been so after men have always been chasing me

01:31:04.100 look every woman because of social media yeah the average woman thinks like the famous man exactly 0.62

01:31:10.360 exactly yes bro women every woman in the west now because of instagram thinks the way a celebrity

01:31:15.820 male does thank you because they get propositions as much as like the most famous man thank you

01:31:20.520 now do you remember yeah okay depends okay pretty much but you know what you just said is important

01:31:26.260 that's why i said to you when i became ali dower i got an idea from the reality living in because

01:31:29.960 when you become a public figure you've got more sisters now proposing to marriage my criteria went

01:31:35.740 from here to there because i was like i have more options to pick from when i was looking to get

01:31:38.940 married because i was like bro hold on a second i can get this kind of sister i can marry this kind 0.96

01:31:43.000 of sister i went into this endless cycle bro where i was not happy with nobody you know why because i

01:31:48.420 was like i've got a pool of women to pick from for marriage that i was and i thought to myself oh my

01:31:52.900 gosh this is exactly how women think you get into this pedestal where you're thinking you know what 1.00

01:31:57.100 no i could deserve better i want decision part yes that's why that's why when you asked me earlier

01:32:02.400 like what are the three things you wanted or what that's why like i don't really like like to think

01:32:05.580 about that too much because i don't want to get clouded by things like oh she needs to be this

01:32:08.800 age this body count this like whatever i just like if she fits into my life and i fit into hers

01:32:14.060 and i think that's the best would you what about if there's a sister that a non-muslim woman who you 1.00

01:32:18.700 find this characteristic and she's like i want to accept islam are you open to that that she won't 0.98

01:32:22.180 accept islam she said she will accept islam so she says she's she's a western woman i've heard so

01:32:26.780 many women say that to me like in miami especially like women like yeah i'll be a muslim for you like 1.00

01:32:31.420 all this stuff for you no yeah i don't i don't i don't think that

01:32:35.020 i don't even think women would find islam without a man anyway i think they would only do it really 1.00

01:32:48.800 for a man i i especially i i don't think that women can have a connection to god without a man

01:32:53.540 explaining it to her i don't know yeah like would a woman really pick up the quran and 0.99

01:33:00.020 take her shahada on her own ever that does unless she's been through some traumatic experiences 0.93

01:33:04.680 yeah what do you mean like in generally yeah they can like what do you mean like can women come to

01:33:08.160 islam without a man do you mean well according to the statistics uh more women are coming to islam 0.98

01:33:13.060 than men i don't know yeah really for everybody but what are you saying but what are you saying is

01:33:18.840 right because that's the reason why a muslim woman cannot marry a christian or jew or hindu 0.99

01:33:22.340 but we are allowed to marry a christian or jew because they're going to become muslim exactly 0.99

01:33:25.540 because we have the influence a woman can be easily uh influenced but even these women that 1.00

01:33:29.700 are taking their shahadas they're still being led by sheikhs they're still being led by the men who 0.94

01:33:33.320 are explaining it to them they're never going to find god without a man they need they yeah

01:33:38.600 it's true in a sense because we've got prophets they're all men no no no but the the is he speaking

01:33:45.480 from that angle like for men the reason i bring it up is because you're asking um what i mean like

01:33:55.040 they need some kind of a masculine guidance yeah they need masculine guidance you're asking like

01:33:59.640 would i accept a woman if she said that she wanted to become a muslim um to be in a relationship i hear

01:34:03.760 that like quite a bit but i don't take any of it seriously because as soon as i say no they lose

01:34:07.720 interest in islam so their whole interest in islam is just because they want a relationship yeah yeah

01:34:12.040 yeah so yeah inshallah i think we'll find you man yeah yeah yeah you know what you need to do go

01:34:17.280 for like uh like even like my wife my wife was not a fan we're gonna send the cvs the marriage cvs uh

01:34:22.740 send it to the the bitter truth show at gmail.com inshallah uh and we will yeah they can the bitter

01:34:28.500 truth show at gmail.com if you send it i will forward it to the brothers at the same time though i think

01:34:33.060 i see a lot of um strength and power and ignoring that for some time i spent so much of my youth ever

01:34:39.240 since i turned i had that pressure in high school like oh you're 16 like you're still a virgin like

01:34:43.860 oh like basically call me a wimp because i was 16 and so i felt the pressure in order to to commit

01:34:49.640 zenna and spending so much of my youth and in college and afterwards like chasing women that was

01:34:54.580 like probably 95 percent of my time for the past 10 years well it's fun for a decade like literally

01:34:58.780 just thinking about women dating them taking them out thinking about them yeah thinking about like

01:35:02.920 the roster and all this like um and it's just it's such a giant waste of energy and time

01:35:08.240 and i've noticed like since i reverted and just focusing on what i'm supposed to do in my work

01:35:12.040 my output level has multiplied by like 10 wow easily so i i would actually recommend to young

01:35:17.920 guys and i like what you said like you should wait two years but i would recommend like having like

01:35:21.900 maybe those two years to just focus on what you're supposed to do especially for reverts who are coming 1.00

01:35:26.100 out of that lifestyle it's a good time to be able to reset your brain and pretty much make voodoo on

01:35:30.280 your soul yes make voodoo from women you know cleanse yourself of that and i'm noticing a lot of 0.95

01:35:35.500 of benefits and and i'm i i don't i'm not rushing into a to a marriage i i obviously i wanted to

01:35:40.720 when i was younger but there's a lot of benefit until 100 as a revert as well like me going back

01:35:45.640 then i would have never started looking for marriage i need the two three years to myself

01:35:48.640 to cleanse myself of the bad traits that i had from the slam because i could have ruined somebody

01:35:52.020 else's life from jahili yeah so guys okay we're gonna end the show in literally six minutes with

01:35:56.880 just 528 pounds away do you think somebody could do that maybe speak to your uh sneak all the

01:36:03.140 one of the zionists who showed porn to try to corrupt us 1.00

01:36:05.760 most likely to do it

01:36:07.140 how much we need 528 pounds in the live inshallah and by the way that money we're not asking you to

01:36:19.000 give it to end the show 500 pounds can teach anywhere from 50 to 150 people how to do voodoo

01:36:23.480 how to pray sarah and remember surah fati inshallah so guys if you are watching this inshallah

01:36:27.340 for you guys the prophet peace be upon him said the son of adam's deeds all come to an end

01:36:32.160 when he dies except three ongoing charity this is ongoing charity beneficial knowledge

01:36:36.620 this is beneficial knowledge and the child that supplicates for their parents inshallah

01:36:40.760 so guys we're here inshallah we're going to be ending in exactly five minutes inshallah

01:36:44.580 it'll be phenomenal if we reach that 30 000 pound mark we're just 528 pounds away

01:36:48.660 we can have just 10 of you guys 50 50 pounds

01:36:50.780 yes so inshallah hey luka can you send um 200 i'll pay you back

01:36:55.920 all right no we'll take okay is that cheating no no it's not cheating no it's no you no it's

01:37:02.260 brin sneaker pledged uh 200 200 200 dollars yeah um you said you wanted to donate as well

01:37:08.820 yes whatever you want to donate okay may allah bless you guys wallahi that means we are just

01:37:12.560 325 pounds away so unless he's gonna reach but i've got a feeling i've got a feeling you know abdul ali

01:37:17.460 bro anytime i do this appeal yeah any figure i mention bro bang bro literally some people wait

01:37:23.300 where are you gonna sleep abdulillah you know literally i've got a feeling he's probably typing

01:37:29.040 now inshallah yeah so any last words it's 500 left and we've got literally uh so the 200 you

01:37:34.520 pledged it's that i'll do the rest 300 huh i got it i got the rest are you sure yeah okay easy

01:37:41.720 may allah bless you okay perfect i appreciate it okay can i just can i no

01:37:46.840 i'm hungry i want to let's start let's start let's start heading out inshallah and sneaker knows

01:37:54.600 the uh the struggles of learning how to pray and he's pledged the the remaining but let's say

01:37:59.780 abdul ali will still come but guys hope you enjoyed inshallah if you have any questions uh

01:38:03.780 obviously uh the show is finished now uh where can they follow you rumble rumble yeah yeah rumble uh

01:38:09.980 inshallah guys this is watching you saw i just have five hundred dollars to give away so

01:38:13.100 so when it comes to maher you can ask 50 000. what is it yeah yeah the bit of truth show at

01:38:19.840 gmail.com inshallah what's the word you use maher the maher is basically the dowry that's like a 0.81

01:38:24.580 dowry right yeah so since you've mentioned those donations you're gonna have sisters telling me

01:38:27.820 they want 50 000 pounds now for maher but don't worry you have a right to reject you have a right to

01:38:32.400 say no don't worry is that common in in the uk no probably don't marry it no uk it's the u.s they're

01:38:40.700 more like greedy is it yeah really because it seems like there's not as much money over here as it 0.94

01:38:46.240 is in america yeah but america it depends on the balling man muslims in america are balling 0.89

01:38:52.160 anyways we're gonna end the live inshallah guys it's been phenomenal amazing may allah bless the

01:38:56.180 brother the wuna uh sneak out it's been a pleasure inshallah we're gonna go thank you for having me

01:38:59.580 i appreciate it inshallah may allah bless you guys inshallah make dua for us may allah

01:39:03.480 accept our efforts get close to him this ramadan uh and make it a new beginning for all of you guys

01:39:08.020 inshallah this is my 11th ramadan first ramadan first one first ramadan that's i don't know it's

01:39:13.140 been a long time right uh how are you 20 i'm 32 sorry excuse me 30 seconds ramadan

01:39:18.620 don't expose it i was a boy i was a kid no you're still a boy

01:39:25.600 so next time assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh carry on donating the link below

01:39:30.780 goodbye don't we all get happy when somebody embraces islam how many of us have the time 0.99

01:39:37.620 to dedicate to teaching them salah for the first time ever they are left in the dark without any

01:39:43.440 guidance you are the reason for people like michael like katrina like trisha like me start to pray

01:39:50.360 five times a day that's fajr lukar asr maghrib isha all due to your donations brothers and sisters we

01:39:57.080 only need a hundred people to give a hundred pounds a hundred pounds can help teach 10 to 30 people

01:40:04.500 learn how to pray salah and memorize surat al-fatihah for the first time ever not only that these

01:40:10.760 reverts will be teaching their families their wives their daughters and their sons to learn how to pray

01:40:17.240 salah all because of your donations the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam said when you die

01:40:23.760 all your deeds come to an end except three ongoing charity beneficial knowledge and a righteous child

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Ali Dawah - March 20, 2024

HOW TO FIND WIFE？ - EP 25 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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