HOW TO FIND WIFE？ - EP 25 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW
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1 hour and 40 minutes
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230.52791
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the Salah Plus Project, a charity that helps new Muslims learn how to praise Salah and remember Surah al-Fatiha. We also talk about our Ramadan fasts and how they have changed our lives.
Transcript
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Don't we all get happy when somebody embraces Islam?
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They are left in the dark without any guidance.
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Brothers and sisters, we only need a hundred people to give a hundred pounds.
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A hundred pounds can help teach ten to thirty people
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and memorize Surah Al-Fatiha for the first time ever.
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Not only that, these reverts will be teaching their families
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When you die, all your deeds come to an end except three
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Click the link in the description below and donate now.
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You know the one I was talking to you about yesterday.
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So the Salah Plus project is something that actually Muhammad Hijab,
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This project is something new because it was just more general.
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That was me, Muhammad Hijab, Ustad Adnan Rashid,
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We started off as like a movement, just giving dawah,
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But we launched this project about a year and a half ago.
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So this is basically because we realized it's really difficult
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when it comes to Salah, because it's like so much, bro.
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There's a lot of putting your toe back properly or when to put it.
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And then you've got your uncles who come and tell you in the masjid,
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So as a new Muslim, I can remember 11 years ago
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when I first learned how to pray, I know how difficult it was.
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So these prayer mats, all they do is just that if you accept Islam,
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Because you just put this in front of you and it shows you the movements.
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It shows you the transliteration of what to say.
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And we know, for example, something we didn't talk about yesterday in your life
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When it comes to like, I could do a lot of sports, boxing, jogging.
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To me, I believe it's a thing in the mind, Sineko.
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To me, four years ago, because I do jogging every week, two times a week.
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So I can remember it was a 19 and a half hour fast.
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So about half an hour before I would call for a jog.
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Bro, I felt, and I thought to myself, you know what, bro?
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Just because I was not eating, I was thinking I'm weak.
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Our bodies are not created to eat all the time, bro.
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When you're fasting, it actually renews your cells.
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And my coach was like, should I take care of it easy?
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You know, with me, one thing, maybe it might be specific to me.
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And my coach was like, should we go a bit light today?
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And when it comes to training, like you see Khabib or some of them, like when they fight,
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Another thing sneak over for me, like what I learned was having that intimate relationship
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So when it comes to Allah, we think we need to go to Allah when we're stuck or we're
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The Sahaba, the companions of the Prophet, peace be upon him, they would go and ask Allah's
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So they were thinking, okay, I've got white colourful or green colourful.
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They would say, Allah, allow me to pick the one that has more blessing for me.
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And you think to yourself, something so little, but that's the relationship that Allah was
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So just coming back to this project, like I said before, like, you know, we're just teaching
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You're a new Muslim or even there's born Muslims who are ashamed of learning how to pray.
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So me, Dawood and a couple of brothers, and we have a sisters team.
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If you want to learn how to pray, we teach you over zoom.
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I was just doing the fundraising, but you know, I was thinking to do the topic today.
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You're looking to get married, aren't you, Sneeko?
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So, so to me, I've got a project I've been working on for quite a bit of time.
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When I first came to Islam, my journey to finding my wife.
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So it's my documentary of me as a Orthodox Muslim.
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You know, when I have marriage meetings, I'll, I'll record like if there's permission,
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There's one, actually there was, there was a really nice guy, like an uncle.
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I like the fact that you came to me and asked for my permission.
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You probably normalize an uncomfortable situation.
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You're normalizing an uncomfortable, somewhat awkward situation.
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So I would like to share my experience with you.
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Are you sure the sisters are, I think the sisters are blind to where you're from,
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They've been sending an application, but I haven't reviewed them yet.
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You know what I think today's topic should be, yeah, is how to find your wife in a proper
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I know, but to me, it was, it was, it was nightmare, bro.
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I was speaking to a trans Hindu two days ago, yeah?
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So anyways, guys, if you're watching this, the donation link is there.
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Today's topic we're going to have, inshallah, I think it's important.
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So every time I would say, because I'm not about this dating business.
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So to me, it's like, look, I need to get to know you for a little bit, to a certain amount.
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After that, I need to speak to your father, bro.
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If you don't let me speak to your father, that's alarm bells.
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Like, bro, I'm going to give you some cheat codes.
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So let's say I'm speaking to a sister and I'm interested in marriage.
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So obviously, there's some questions you need to ask first to get the gist if you're compatible.
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So once you've done that, obviously not prolonging, like I'm speaking to her for weeks.
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And then after that, I'll say, look, I want to speak to your dad to ask his permission.
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So anytime you guys want to have a meeting or whatever for that matter, you guys can get to know each other.
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Now, as you're getting to know her and things get a bit serious, you have every right to ask for a picture.
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The prophet, peace be upon him, a man came that he was saying that he was getting to know someone for marriage.
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He said to see her for you might see something that will incline you to marry her.
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You can cover everywhere except your hands and your face.
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Now, the scholar that I follow, they take this hadith and they say, hold on a second.
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So some say you can see, like, even you can even see the hair.
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If you're propositioning for marriage and it's at the stage where it's getting a bit serious and you're like, you know what?
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The opinion that I follow is quite a strong snake.
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So yeah, like you can see certain, like for example, some say you can see up to, you know, like the forearm or the calves because it gives you an idea of her body mass, if that makes sense, yeah?
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Yeah, you can see up like from here, from here.
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So she can wear certain clothing that give you an idea and a gist of how she may look.
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Okay, there was a situation where there was a Yemeni, a sister.
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So there was a situation where there was a Yemeni sister I was getting to know for marriage in Birmingham.
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And I requested if I can see her without her hijab.
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And to me, I'll be honest, like to me, it was just like, it just, and it's interesting because the Prophet peace be upon him said, see for something that might incline you further.
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So yeah, so you can, you can see certain stuff like, cause at the end of the day, you know
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one thing, like for example, when we come from that background.
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Like the background that I came from, like, not that I'm trying to praise you.
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It's like, you know, bro, you don't, you don't know nothing about lowering your gaze.
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So, um, that's why it's like there's certain traits that you need to work on, et cetera,
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because not lowering the gaze can be quite problematic.
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You know, that's why, uh, when Allah subhanahu says in the Quran that he created man weak,
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one scholar said, imagine how weak man is, that he looks at something that he cannot gain
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and he gets nothing from it except, you know, just, it's just making you more horny or
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So to us, obviously lowering the gaze is very important, but yeah, you can, you can see
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What's, what's, what's, what are the obstacles that you say?
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It's like the all things that you're a bit like, I don't know, man.
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I think going from, from what I'm using from dating, it's, uh, it's hard to get to know
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someone, you know, I think, uh, just how much you can speak to the girl before it's considered
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dating, you know, how, how much you can get to know her, um, uh, in a, in a respectful
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way before it's like, okay, well maybe you should just get married already.
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Like I'm used to, I'm used to dating and exactly.
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And then just hear you, hearing you explain, like looking at a, an ankle or a wrist to
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try to get an idea of what the rest of her body's like.
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It's like, um, I can't help but think that's like silly, you know, like kind of like you're
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looking at her ankle thinking like how big are her, you know, but yeah, it's a whole,
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But you know, you know, with this matter, it's very important.
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It's like, again, we, yesterday we was talking about having trust in Allah.
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I went through a lot of obstacles and difficulties throughout my marriage journey.
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Look, bro, I got like talking to catfish to time wasters to being rejected by racism,
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These, these were like, I don't want to give, cause some people get upset.
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But I'll be rejected because I'm not from that part of the world.
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But one thing that I learned was this year, when you stay persistent to Allah and you
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stay true to his word and you do not involve or indulge in haram.
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Like when I met my wife and like my wife, like, obviously, um, I didn't, I, I did speak
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And as I was getting serious, I did ask for her, like to see if I can see without hijab.
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And from there onwards, I'll be honest with you, bro.
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My wife was like a, like, you know, some sisters I was getting to know for marriage,
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Like I would say, yeah, they were a seven out of 10.
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When I met my wife, my wife was a 20 out of 10 for me, for me.
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So what the, it's as if Allah was saying to me, listen, Ali, you went through a lot of
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You could have gone and linked them, date them, commit to zina.
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And to my wife, obviously I don't want to talk too much because I know I don't agree
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with social media couples that make their marriage seem as if something is not.
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And it gives this false perception of reality to people.
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You know, you know, you get this couple do that.
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When you stick true to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, Allah gives you what you want, bro.
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And you know, when it comes to prayer, one thing that you need to know.
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When it comes to prayer, imagine you go to a king.
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So you have this king that invites you to his kingdom.
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And he comes to you and he says to you, Sneeko, what do you want from me?
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And you're, you're, you're basically, it's like a, it's, you're degrading me in front
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If you ask him for an apple, he's going to think this guy is degrading me.
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So that when you go to Allah, ask for whatever you want, bro.
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When you're making do it, I would be very specific in my prayers.
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I'm talking body parts to like, I would be in detail.
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Bro, you have to, you have never tell yourself.
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In your face right now, you visualize like a Spanish, like, Latino woman, man.
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I mean, the thing is, like, you know, she has, she has to have something else.
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So to me, to me, to me, I have a specific look.
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And by the way, look, to me, I have a specific that I looked for.
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Even when you live in the West, bro, you can't have sex outside of marriage.
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But when I look down, I have to look into the sky to see nothing.
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Bro, we just get married straight away, brother.
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So yeah, I would say be very specific with the prayer.
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So when it comes to the stuff of the unseen, like for example, okay, I don't know how her
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When the hijab comes off, you're like, I want to be lamna shaitan rajeem.
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Their hand color is different to their face, bro.
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You're thinking, bro, your face color is different to your hand because
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Like in Islamic sources, like speak about what you pray for.
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But even when I went for Umrah, that was like pretty consistent.
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You know, it's just something I was just saying that when it's ready, I do trust in
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Allah, but when I'm ready or when he's ready, it's going to happen.
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It's good that you submit to that, you know, but you need to understand that your body
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Uh, but once, if you are a man, like for example, when you come to Islam and you're
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not going to having sex outside of marriage, um, then your body's going to start to be
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And that's why I say, like, it's very important.
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I even tell men when you're getting to know a sister for marriage, et cetera, make sure
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that marriage meeting happens when you're not overly horny.
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Because it clouds your decision making factors.
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You're the most impulsive when you're like that.
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Like I, some people might think, oh my gosh, look, it's a reality.
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So make sure that you're, you're, you're a bit calm so you can make a rational decision.
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Don't we all get happy when somebody embraces Islam?
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They are left in the dark without any guidance.
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Brothers and sisters, we only need a hundred people to give a hundred pounds.
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A hundred pounds can help teach ten to thirty people
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And memorize Surah Al-Fatiha for the first time ever.
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Not only that, these reverts will be teaching their families
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To learn how to praise Salah all because of your donations.
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When you die, all your deeds come to an end except three
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Click the link in the description below and donate now.
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Today's Monday, it's not like a Friday, Saturday
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But the guys in East London did have a good job of
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And I only ate once or twice in the past two days
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Boom, and then I just wake up fudge and go back to sleep
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I will give you a way out from places you can never imagine
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As if I went in a coma for about a year and a half
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Fearing that I'm going to go back to my old ways
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But bro Allah will definitely give you a way out
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I thought we were going to get killed in that elevator
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I said so you guys believe in arranged marriage as well
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So when it's a man doing it because of her past
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Would it be classified as breaking your virginity
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Vaginal or anal sex have their separate rulings
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Frankly that's the only thing that was mentioned
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So 100 pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to do wudu
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So that's what we're fundraising for brother and sister
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If you want to ask questions pertaining to this topic
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To get Sneeko and the Wuna married off inshallah
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There's got to be a way of doing it properly like this
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She'll tell you like all the major like bullet points
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Tell us some things that you look for in a woman
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Where you're like okay these are my non-negotiables
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First so CVs like I could have an email or like
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Inshallah so let's let's find out what's what's the
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How I've been like kind of doing I don't spend that much time on it but like if I see a girl that you know I like I'll talk to her a little bit like a couple messages and then if it's like try to escalate like okay look can I speak to your brother speak to your father and then okay so has Muslim woman been approaching you have you been like have you tried like like me if I found it if I saw a sister on Instagram that I'd like to I would message her
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That's that's what it's been like just girls on social media see that's the problem though because okay like it can get really it can get bad yeah you speak privately well I try to keep it brief no no no no no but how so for example the initiation process yes but for example I was I was speaking to some people in knowledge about this which I hate them if I'm not mistaken so the initiation is this salam alaikum sorry I came across your profile I find a liking I would like to get to know you for marriage and I would like to speak to your father that's exactly what can I ask some questions so just some just some not like a
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it's best to do it in a like in a place of public of course of course yes like for example especially the public figure book because yes let's be frank yeah like you know a sneaker is a big yes yes yes especially me it's imagine imagine what kind of leverage a person has yeah if you're proposing marriage to them on a DM like it can be it can be I think you're right when it comes to public figures we need to be careful because you know I'll be honest there were people who were trying to would message me
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talk to me in a certain way to catch me out yeah so so yeah oh see sneaker was talking to me in that way so the thing is with that I'm very careful but it has worked but again you have to be careful especially with public figures there's nothing wrong with it because you're approaching in a halal manner but you have to be careful yeah exactly exactly because you want to get to a point where like okay this is let's talk about it yeah exactly we just had some we just had some meetings you know what I mean yeah so just to give you guys some they just give some updates Abdullah Ali just donated 200 pounds yeah 10 pounds
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300 please bro you know you know Abdullah Ali we've got we've got a scoreboard out there we have like a top donors he gave total 5,500 pounds yeah and we just had Nehru this man is a good man Nehru Freddovich gave 255 US dollars so what that means is 200 pounds 200 pounds can help teach 20 to 60 people how to do wudu how to pray salah and memorize surafati inshallah yeah can I donate as well yeah okay we really appreciate it whenever you want it inshallah may Allah bless you you want some more TV to your account this project I'm racking it up bro I'm racking it up
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yeah we're on our way to the 27,000 pound mark but yeah so sneaker with you so you've had these sister what kind of how do they approach you I started off with him but sneaker I started off with you first no I asked you first and then you changed the whole topic yeah I mean I don't know I've never really thought about talking about this too much but I think it seems modest a couple some of your girls have messaged me and then we'll speak it's pretty much exactly like that like salam alaikum how are you like where are you from okay like are you married I was just it's very brief like informational we're not like flirting or something like that like
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like where are you from are you looking to get married bing bam boom uh some girls that I've um a message like I know from from Twitter and I propositioned this one girl and she's I don't even I have no idea what she looks like her profile picture is her in a burka and she's a posting picture of her of her meals like her cooking and stuff like that you were attracted to that it's her prayers like just like what she was saying was like was attractive like she was very clearly very feminine um but you you want to look you want to definitely see her face yeah I do yeah and you are allowed to buy that's why I after
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she looked like her cooking was really good so I wanted to see what she looked like you know so is that is that one thing for you the cooking like what is it for you like is it the cooking I didn't that wasn't if you asked me to write something for my criteria I would not have thought of that but her meals would look really good okay one second before we come to your criteria I want you to think I'm gonna come I'm gonna come back to you think of I'm gonna come back to you I'm gonna go to one of think of three things that you definitely need in a woman yeah I'm gonna come back to you think about it yeah that's a good question well now let's go to so what what is the for you what is the thing where you're like bro she
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must have this or like three things number one is obedience right obedience I think any woman I think any woman that just looks at you will be automatically asked about obedience yeah yeah pure what do you mean by pure like here like she's not corrupted what do you mean by that are you talking about for example like we talked about virginity are you talking about because no no but because a person who has had promiscuous past if they repent it's as if they do you get what I'm trying to say so what do we mean by that no no I don't want her to have
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past okay yeah okay that's that's that's your right that's your preference yeah just as a sister who says I don't want a man who wants to take a wife I want the best for myself at the end of the day I want the best for myself for me that's not the best for myself perfect so you what is the first was uh first is obedience obedience then you want her to not have a past pure pure person yeah a pure woman you know that that her her femininity has been preserved perfect it hasn't been damaged you know because I believe through trauma that her femininity gets damaged yes I don't want a traumatized woman I want a woman
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that hasn't been traumatized I want a woman that has been able to be protected by her father by her brothers and then inshallah the father and the brothers are going to be giving her to me and then she's going to be under my chair inshallah inshallah and thirdly anything and third is it like like beauty beauty okay beauty is there a specific look you go for like is it like a specific color is it a specific look yeah yeah look it can be like um I think I prefer Pakistani I prefer Pakistani
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okay so again but I'm open but I I think my preference will be positive okay so for those brother and sister watching this brother the woman is not married sneaker is not married so if there are proposals in a a decent manner etc you are looking to get married inshallah inshallah so there is inshallah yeah so uh going back to uh sneaker we're gonna bounce between you two inshallah yeah and then we'll talk about me and the hijabs maybe
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i don't know before marriage preferences yeah uh i know we don't get killed i don't really have like i don't have a preference like racially or so you don't mind racially are you sure any specific type of girl not really i don't want her to be fat i think like main thing like fitness just needs to be important to her
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so are you talking about like skinny or are you talking about maybe curvy no fitness like oh fitness yeah she needs to be in shape like i want like good body fat percentage like where the that is on her body i don't really care too much uh i don't have like when you're asking i'm trying to like visualize my wife i don't have an image you don't have an image no okay what about what about certain things where you're like she like you talked about cooking is cooking an important thing for you yeah it's a very important i think that's a given though that seems like the bare minimum it's like i guess like oh like if a woman wants a husband that he makes money
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what kind of food yeah what kind of food you like bro i don't know that girl that i saw cooking on twitter i was like it was like a there's some vegetables and the steak was looking good every day there was a new meal oh i didn't even know a lot of what the meals were but it's like a good she has to have a variety of good variety yeah that surprised me you know i don't want to get bored with the casserole every night okay what are the things where are red flags for you where you're like you know what you only get you only get two but he said that's the only thing he goes yeah again femininity is very important that she preserves that and that's like the the main forefront i'm tired of like a lot of women in the
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west they they think that in order to be um feminine that they need to be a sorry to curse a bad b word yeah uh you know what i'm talking about yeah a boss all this type of thing i'm really tired of hearing that from from women so a woman who knows that her power comes from her femininity she doesn't need to act like a man in order to be powerful there's there's a lot of power and leaning into her feminine nature that it's okay like you know there's power and being submissive and having a good man and cooking and nurturing or all those things are very important and powerful under god
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uh red flags i would say before we go to the red flags yeah we just abdullah ali you got him excited just donated 400 pounds
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raja iliaz gave 100 pounds and zubair ali gave 25 years you go robert abdullah ali i said to him i said to him i'll jump in
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because i do ice bath challenge here if anybody donates 500 pounds i jump in the ice bath okay i said if anybody donates a thousand
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pounds i jump in the ice bath with my clothes on not today though okay but yes i can carry on red flags yeah
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so guys if you want to donate the link is there inshallah help teach someone how to pray salah
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uh yes red flags will red flags they all stem from i think for women it's factors that are external from
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her i think her decision making i think women are always going to be programmed by the masculine essence
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that's around them so if they don't if a girl doesn't have a father she's going to be programmed by
00:49:25.320
um by the culture by the media when you're talking about match.com earlier it's funny that you're saying
00:49:31.000
it's pretty much arranged and i'm thinking about who's arranging it it's the it's the zionists that control
00:49:35.620
those those dating sites it's the people that um behind the scenes that they they like the fact
00:49:40.420
that they can play and that they can put their hand and manipulate the relationships that they're
00:49:44.660
not involved in everyone is sort of arranged marriage within two families it's the father that
00:49:49.940
that's the fathers that are in charge and that's that's much better than having like these people who
00:49:53.460
have nefarious intentions okay what about you red flags a masculine woman big time red flag what makes
00:50:00.740
you like what what would she say or do that you're black this woman's masculine i mean i just i i'm not
00:50:13.620
have you noticed why is it guys who are big have this massive love have you noticed these two the way
00:50:18.580
they love you can hear them from the distance yeah he doesn't want an androgynous one no i mean
00:50:24.260
what does that mean i want the opposite androgynous is like a manly woman oh okay all right it's true
00:50:29.700
i'm not i'm not homosexual so i want someone the opposite of myself you know what i mean i don't want
00:50:34.740
someone similar to myself you know i want the opposite can i interrupt you quickly yeah i think
00:50:39.140
the reason that you see the big guys laugh so loud is the same we were talking over here about how
00:50:42.580
feminist they end up wanting to be dominated the most like women who act like girl bosses and shave
00:50:47.300
their hair yeah and have blue hair they're the ones that really that you know they adopt those traits
00:50:52.020
yeah they do because when they are always like looking for power in public they want to relinquish
00:50:55.780
that power in private so same thing like when you have like these big guys over here they're like
00:50:59.300
intimidating other people all the time when they get time to laugh man they just want to let it out
00:51:02.740
and giggle like a like a kid yeah yeah yeah yeah okay interesting all right any other red flags for you yeah
00:51:09.140
um if she has like a a weak father uh that's that's definitely you're still a mom
00:51:14.980
that's not her fault no i know but it's gonna it's gonna affect her what do you mean by weak
00:51:19.780
father like if when i meet the family i i judge the father immediately and i judge the mother
00:51:24.500
immediately okay that's that's quite profound so when you see weak father are you talking about a
00:51:27.620
father that might have some kind of feminine traits because i'm not gonna lie i think you're onto
00:51:31.220
something there so if there's it because if she's used to seeing her mother take control yeah this is
00:51:35.060
very yeah like if i'm going to meet the family and the mother's doing majority of the talking the
00:51:40.420
father just sitting there immediately i already know how she's gonna be trained by her mother to
00:51:47.060
behave like her oh that's profound you know what they say in my culture they say look at the mom and
00:51:51.060
marry the daughter yeah yeah so if the mom is talking too much and the dad's not even talking at
00:51:56.020
all that's a big red flag to me you know so i'm not gonna lie that's that's actually quite profound
00:52:00.020
that's very actually that's very quite profound okay interesting all right i said we have to bring
00:52:03.860
the water well we have to we have to but you're right that's the quickest way a girl is going to
00:52:10.180
become traumatized if she has to make up for the her missing father a weak father she's gonna big
00:52:14.820
problem man she'll make up for that missing puzzle piece big problem and there is big problem and uh
00:52:19.860
another thing is that she doesn't respect authority if she doesn't respect authority then that tells a lot
00:52:24.740
about her you know she wants to be in charge she wants to be in control and she doesn't
00:52:29.700
want to be a woman she wants to be a man you know yeah you can't do that man and marrying
00:52:34.260
marrying a woman like that i can remember i've seen my video confronting britain first
00:52:38.420
so there was this woman with the red hair she was like a proper masculine she's saying some good
00:52:41.940
stuff about pakistan nowadays well of course she is yeah she is because she's she's she's anti-semitic
00:52:46.740
now she's anti-semitic that's why yeah she hates them yeah yeah
00:52:51.140
you're just saying allah because we are the donation
00:53:00.980
look at that amazing donation the brahman sisters if you want to donate inshallah carry on a hundred
00:53:04.740
pounds can teach 10 to 30 people how to play salah the link is there guys inshallah please help donate
00:53:08.740
i know you guys are enjoying this you guys are watching this uh we're gonna get some callers in
00:53:11.860
a minute to see what they have to say i think i know the feminist that you're talking about she has
00:53:14.740
the glass she's like the archetypal feminist there's this other one yeah i was thinking to myself imagine i go
00:53:19.540
out i do dawah and i'm confronting people like that and i come home to another one like that
00:53:23.060
yeah so imagine to us and that's why i think sheikh salih al-fawzan wrote a book he said it's so
00:53:27.940
important for a day to have a good woman because bro we can mash you up imagine you're dealing with
00:53:33.220
all those crackheads outside and you're coming to another crackhead at home yeah bro it's so
00:53:38.740
fundamental for public figures who are in the cause of allah to have good women and wallah it's so
00:53:42.820
profound and it brings the best out of you bro like my wife may allah bless her like we have our
00:53:46.340
ups and downs i don't want it to come across as like we have this hunky dory we have ups and downs
00:53:49.860
bro we have our fights arguments like normal people do but wallahi may allah bless her it's because of
00:53:55.620
her how she makes my life easy that i can do the things that i'm doing imagine i'm coming here and
00:53:59.460
i'm organizing this and i've got another woman who's a rebellious woman at home and i need to think of
00:54:02.820
this i don't want to go home let me have iftar outside do you get what i'm trying to say it's very
00:54:06.340
important uh for us to have that let's get some calls how many people watching
00:54:11.620
okay so guys about two thousand people are watching may allah bless and preserve you guys
00:54:14.900
but wallahi i would really appreciate if we hit thirty thousand pounds before we go because
00:54:18.420
we're going to be we're going to be going in about 45 minutes here we're going to get some callers
00:54:21.860
but pertaining to the topic please yeah if you want to talk about marriage uh that kind of stuff
00:54:25.940
please let us know inshallah and question for sneaker for the warner for hijab uh inshallah please
00:54:30.100
guys also we're fundraising for the salah plus program which is to help teach new muslim and born
00:54:34.020
muslim how to pray salah we have this guided prayer mats guided mats look we're printing 20 000 of these in
00:54:39.380
turkey by the way we paid 126 000 pounds yeah we are printing 20 000 of these bro wallahi i wish i
00:54:45.780
had this when i came to islam because i was taught how to pray salah in islam the masjid but you forget
00:54:50.740
you have to go over again you don't know what you said you said it right or wrong and it's not just
00:54:54.260
towards the mats you know it's not just towards the mats hijab we also have salah instructors imagine
00:54:58.580
imagine bro imagine the kind of reward someone will get yeah for helping someone pray yes all the all the
00:55:04.580
doing wudu teaching them how to do wudu yeah and not only that i'll just let you guys know
00:55:09.060
aki we had a catholic sister call in yeah her sister her husband is a reaver so her husband had a health
00:55:14.980
issue he couldn't pray tara with standing so she's a catholic woman calling the studio asking a
00:55:20.260
question on behalf of her husband about taraweeh oh she's giselle she's here yeah she took a shahada
00:55:25.220
but guess what oh great i was gonna say we just found that we found out that her husband is you know
00:55:29.860
dawud that was one of our salah instructors dawud is the one who taught her husband how to pray salah
00:55:33.860
and then she accepts islam and then we said to her look why don't you use your husband's salama
00:55:38.340
she goes no i want my own one yeah so may allah bless them she's here on the chat as well may
00:55:42.020
allah bless sister jiselle she came to islam and now our sister's team is teaching her how to pray
00:55:46.020
salah for absolutely free do we have any callers bro can we try to go for callers that show their
00:55:51.540
face so there's no trolls bro yeah please i want to skip the trolls yeah please please i've got time
00:55:56.340
for the trolls if it's let's let's get the first call hungry yeah exactly yeah
00:56:00.500
wow really yeah i told you bro no no no don't get bro don't get anyone good he's fast man this
00:56:07.300
guy but it played on the screen see i told you about that yeah you took it off it was on youtube
00:56:12.180
just now yeah yeah yeah yeah that's what they do you got to delete the live afterwards yeah yeah
00:56:16.420
yeah yeah no i always do that anyways but yeah maybe we shouldn't take college no don't get
00:56:19.380
calls man forget the calls man no cause no cause someone played porn they do that they
00:56:23.140
jeopardize the like the whole channel can get the channel can get yeah but it shows you know what
00:56:27.860
that shows me it shows me the power of islam you know how many trolls we get like this
00:56:30.500
well like bro so many people are coming to islam and we're teaching them well like you have to
00:56:34.260
imagine sometimes we don't get calls for two hours they are waiting there for hours just to do that
00:56:39.060
can you imagine what kind of person you have to be bro you have no life it's unbelievable but yes
00:56:43.060
because what they're trying to do is uh when they play pornography yeah then the channel gets like
00:56:48.260
yeah yeah exactly alhamdulillah we've got some more donations coming in off 100 pounds 10 pounds
00:56:55.460
uh 64 us dollars guys and let those donations come in inshallah slowly please remember to
00:56:59.380
delete the live after we end no no i do i do i'll put it on private immediately no no delete it
00:57:03.780
don't if it's not if it's on private they can still report it oh is it so they got yeah oh okay
00:57:08.100
all right okay i'll probably download it yeah okay so yeah um hijab um how was your marriage
00:57:13.220
seeking journey because it was quite smooth man i think it was quite smooth after punching your leg
00:57:19.140
for me i don't know about all this um game and all this stuff and i don't know about all this stuff so
00:57:24.020
for me it was just a very uh straightforward protocol it's quite similar to a job interview
00:57:34.820
so how did how did you come across like like your wife was it from family was it like it's from
00:57:39.300
school my school oh okay so you went to the same school yeah okay so i knew her brother so i went to
00:57:44.500
her brother and i said let's uh let me get to know your sister that's very honorable actually let
00:57:53.860
me tell you what actually apparently she wanted you know to get married so i think he was trying
00:58:01.060
to hint it in it so i was like okay oh he came to you yeah so she had she had interest in you or she
00:58:06.260
was looking to get married but he mentioned why would he mention it to me unless there was interest
00:58:09.380
there all right i mean the man like this i mean one second one second let's look at the face can
00:58:12.340
we zoom in please so anyway um after that what happened was um yeah i said i was very i was actually
00:58:23.780
way more staunch than i was i was more staunch yeah then than i am now way more strict like i wasn't
00:58:30.980
like in terms of Islamic opinions i was full of the hardest harshest opinions on every single matter
00:58:35.700
well okay now i'm not like that because it's very difficult to live a life like that
00:58:38.900
yes it is so for me the processor said if you make your religion harder than you will over
00:58:42.580
yes i wouldn't recommend my my approach but what i'd done i was like 20 years old at the time
00:58:48.740
was i wanted to be very clear and that and i went to the house and uh uh if what i didn't want to
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communicate with her on a whatsapp group or on any um anything like that because i knew that that even
00:59:01.540
yes even if it's a group something could happen it's all step away from being a private
00:59:06.180
oh even in a group yeah even it's i'm not saying it's haram yeah it's just it's just for you i'm
00:59:10.580
not saying i'm just saying me in it the way i communicated with her was the emails okay and i
00:59:15.860
cc'd her brother okay brilliant perfect into every single one of my emails it's like you know you put
00:59:20.900
cc yeah yeah and i'd call him and say to him do you are you reading it like i was very strict on this
00:59:25.940
okay i was very strict yeah i wanted it i wanted it to be like properly done i thought myself i'm
00:59:30.980
going to come into this marriage i want to come in baraka great blessings and um to be honest the
00:59:38.020
good thing about this is that it allowed me and this was i was a young guy yeah so i was 20 years
00:59:42.100
old i didn't have any money at this time yeah i was in fact i was an undergraduate yeah so i was
00:59:48.900
trying to expedite the process because i've been i've been you know holding myself for many years yeah i
00:59:55.860
i was trying to expedite it supposed to make it quicker so i pushed it and it's like oh it was
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the get to know period i tried to make that as sure as possible i don't know how many months it was
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maybe two months that's not bad i knew her from school anyway same same same my wife i knew it's
01:00:08.340
like i knew her brother for years do you know what i mean i knew her family for years so same my wife
01:00:12.580
i think it was two and a half three months we was getting to know each other yeah for me i think it
01:00:15.460
was two months well okay something like that maybe it was a bit more or less and then um and then uh we
01:00:21.060
done that again we got married and uh how was it in the cow was it like how was it big was it
01:00:25.540
small like moroccan so it's it's pretty if they have like multiple ones and stuff like that and
01:00:35.140
say that again did she want to speak yeah okay we'll go to inshallah just finish the hijab finish
01:00:39.940
and we'll go to this yeah so it was it was uh it was it was okay i would say it was like a medium
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size in it wow mashallah medium size that's good man that's you know i find that really beautiful you
01:00:49.700
know because you don't have that jahiliya you need to understand because we when we come we come
01:00:53.780
with baggages and that can really traumatize and sabotage your marriage because we come from this
01:00:57.780
whole different paradigm and to come it does for you to come and like for example it's your first
01:01:02.980
experience bro this is why i believe marriages are breaking down because men and women are so much
01:01:08.500
experience in so many angles you've got so much to compare the thing is there are weaknesses of it as
01:01:12.980
well so like as a muslim man that hasn't had any experience with women in the past yeah yeah when you first
01:01:18.260
get into a marriage like that what happens is that you you don't know what how women behave yeah
01:01:23.700
like in a romantic setting that will but every time you talk abdul ali donate another 400 pounds
01:01:37.380
so i'll be honest like in the first when i got married at 20 years so um it took me a while to
01:01:42.980
understand the nature of how a woman behaves in a romantic setting because i obviously i had
01:01:49.380
experience with my sisters and my mother or my nieces it's not the same it's not the same there
01:01:53.780
are there are there are obviously flesh that joins all those experiences but i'm saying that in general
01:01:58.740
it took me around just like what is this behavior you know yeah yeah is this what's these mood swings
01:02:04.500
what otherwise how do i how do i implement control how do i control the situation how much affection do
01:02:11.540
i show these are all questions i didn't know how to it's it's very true because if you show too much
01:02:16.100
affection it's bad it's very bad very true but if you show too little affection it's also very bad
01:02:21.780
when to show when to initiate affection given when to remove the affection given when to uh how to show
01:02:27.700
that you're upset yes anger was another one because in the beginning when something i yeah
01:02:35.300
anger was something like anger results when somebody when someone does something that is
01:02:40.740
against your expectations yes yeah so if someone does something against your expectations you get angry
01:02:45.380
yeah but so i used to get angry and the way i'm an extroverted person sometimes i'd raise my voice
01:02:51.860
and this and that get into an argument get into a debate yeah i realized that that was not the approach
01:02:56.100
that you take of a wife really yeah for me it's it's a sign of weakness to get into prolonged
01:03:01.380
argumentation so i didn't know that you know to get into a prolonged organization yeah and they say
01:03:06.980
things that i think so these are things that it took me some time to kind of understand the ropes of a
01:03:12.660
proper long-term marriage romantic relationship and um you're still with the same woman yeah so you're
01:03:18.500
married at 20 yeah yeah yeah yeah that's that's that's that's brilliant man well it's it's so
01:03:24.340
profound subhanallah but we're going to come to why that's important as well let's get sister giselle
01:03:27.620
because she came to islam a couple of weeks ago let's see what she has to say inshallah
01:03:30.900
uh assalamualaikum sister giselle may allah preserve you sister take care inshallah so guys as you can see
01:03:36.100
that is sister giselle uh this is real life situations guys um her husband learned how to
01:03:40.260
pray salah through our salah instructors dawud and then she came to this show to ask a question about
01:03:44.900
taraweeh for her husband then she accepts islam and now inshallah we've sent her a guided
01:03:50.180
prayer mat or she's using her husband's one in the meantime and inshallah one of our teams uh
01:03:54.340
salah instructors will get in contact with her if you've noticed she said our sister's team
01:03:57.940
haven't gone in contact with her and she this was about a week ago why because there's such a demand
01:04:01.940
even i was chasing up another sister who's like look when can i get the salah instructors this to me
01:04:05.940
makes me so happy you know why it shows people are eager eager to learn so we want to expand the team
01:04:10.500
guys so we can have more sisters catering to more sisters brothers team to increase that inshallah
01:04:14.660
because we want to make this a worldwide mission the link is there guys a hundred pounds can teach from
01:04:19.380
10 minimum 10 to 30 people how to do wudu for the first time how to pray salah and even surah
01:04:24.820
fatih we are dedicating a quran teacher every week that people who reverts or muslims around the
01:04:30.260
world can tune into and go through surah fatih inshallah so bear that in mind inshallah uh coming
01:04:34.900
back to our topic of uh marriage we've got about maybe 30 minutes where we need to start heading off
01:04:40.660
to the restaurant off the table don't worry yes we're gonna make sure you do you know you don't
01:04:43.540
worry about that too yeah okay you know you don't worry about that you don't worry about that
01:04:47.540
so yeah you talk about your marriage that's that's really good man um yeah so um we've learned a few
01:04:53.860
things from that but you know like the one thing that is very profound of what sneko said um which
01:05:00.340
i think is very interesting bro because we were talking in the car about like the red pill stuff
01:05:04.500
yeah yeah and um there's a book that's written i think we all read it it's it's called rational mail
01:05:09.380
by uh you read it yeah i read it yeah i've read that one yeah well it was nice he's like one of the
01:05:14.580
figures of like the red pill movement and one of those things that he keeps talking about is
01:05:19.620
have you interacted with him before yeah i have he embarrassed him bro
01:05:25.220
the side of him that came out like i truly feel like
01:05:28.900
i don't think he wrote the book based on looking at the guy no way like it's like someone else wrote
01:05:34.180
now i need to watch that yeah it's a funny debate it's really bro what was it on uh on fresh and fit
01:05:39.620
actually no but what was it about like what's the topic he was really upset with me about i don't
01:05:44.580
know i honestly no it was the fact that he was talking about um encouraging men to get vasectomies
01:05:49.620
saying a high value man is rich uh childless gets a vasectomy in his 20s yeah i'm really against that
01:05:56.740
like i'm really pro baby yeah have babies like that's that's the most beautiful thing yeah i think it's
01:06:02.820
i can compare a vasectomy to a transgender surgery you know you're effectively you're changing your
01:06:07.860
your output and your purpose in life so i'm really against that and he was saying he was saying that
01:06:12.500
it wasn't like the problem with red pill is that you can reverse it probably but the reversal rate's
01:06:17.940
like three percent or something and it decreases as the years go by the reversal rate lowers and lowers
01:06:22.740
and lower so it just don't get a vasectomy absolutely there's no circumstance the problem
01:06:26.260
with the red pills they say that it's not an ideology it's praxeology which means it's like
01:06:31.140
it's a response to how the world is so basically in his terminology is that's like a coping mechanism
01:06:37.780
to feminism that's what red pill is it's just a response to how i know he says that but he offers
01:06:42.820
prescriptions that's the difference like you know in usually in ethics you know um in ethics if
01:06:47.700
something becomes prescriptive at any point even if it's suggestive yeah then it does become really
01:06:52.340
an ideology now i know he says it's not an ideology and i've said but it is it is an ideology because
01:06:58.180
the moment you start giving suggestions and recommendations is the moment you start moving
01:07:02.260
into ideological thinking what you would call teleological ethics that's really what distinguishes
01:07:07.860
like say virtue ethics from teleological ethics it's just the prescriptive aspect of it so you know so
01:07:13.620
for example he's got these i don't know what he calls them iron laws or rules or something is in
01:07:17.380
the back of his book yeah the iron laws of tomorrow laws right don't listen to that like like it should
01:07:23.860
just look at him that's all i said just look at what he looks like i have no problem with the guy
01:07:28.100
like i mean he's a kind of guy i mean you can see from his writing style that he's he's got
01:07:32.660
intelligence he's not it's not a fool but i mean it's just claims like these which is like for example
01:07:38.500
of praxology or ideology it's not a practice it's actually an ideology because it's prescriptive in
01:07:43.940
that sense the second thing is what you touched upon today was really powerful because one of the
01:07:48.100
things i stuck out to in the beginning of this book though he kept talking about this thing about body
01:07:52.660
count and i think it has permeated a little bit bro into the muslim community especially with
01:07:56.660
muslim men that there is this kind of feeling oh we need to get more and more experience with
01:08:01.540
different bodies and different women yeah there is that idea and obviously maybe they'll disguise it
01:08:07.460
in a marriage format or whatever it will be yeah but it's the idea that you'll get more experience
01:08:12.340
you become more confident you become stronger if you have intercourse with multiple ladies now firstly i
01:08:18.500
i was looking at some of the studies relating to uh casual sex and its effect on men and women
01:08:24.500
yeah there's there's multiple studies on this by the way it harms more women than men so that's that
01:08:29.060
is almost consensus can we get into that what are the harms of that but it harms men too like i know it
01:08:34.340
does so it ruins this it ruins your your connection and bond the more that you have these this bond which
01:08:39.140
is a really emotional tie with somebody the more that you just do it uh recreationally you're not going to
01:08:43.940
be able to have a pair bond that's true but i think maybe it's sneaker you're talking about numbers
01:08:48.500
of 20 30 40 50 no of course it's it's the reason it's on a smaller scale the reason it doesn't affect
01:08:53.620
as much is because we are we are polygamists by nature because we are programmed to have multiple
01:08:58.980
women it would only be wrong imagine allah's allowing us to do that but at the same time when
01:09:03.220
we do that we are harming ourselves so that's why it affects women more than men of course it does
01:09:07.220
men as well but it harms women more than men because women are monogamous by nature all the studies said
01:09:11.940
that i mean all the studies that i said so it affects it harms women more than it harms men
01:09:16.820
yeah every single study i think there's that is one thing the question of whether it harms men is
01:09:21.380
actually controversial because i'm sure there is somehow some studies say it harms men like what
01:09:26.740
sneaker said some studies say it doesn't harm or benefit and some studies say it gives them more
01:09:32.100
confidence because you know why for us to have intimacy with another woman it's like for women it's
01:09:35.860
like attachment but for us it means nothing but the point i was making about this thing about this
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like multiple bodies and he i think he says you have to have i don't know sex with 50 women i
01:09:46.020
don't know if it's 50. he says 50. i don't know what the arbitrary get that number from i don't
01:09:49.780
know the block number or something like also keep in mind america it's very easy to get laid
01:09:56.500
he would argue that it's not actually that it's harder that you need to be like especially if you
01:09:59.620
pay for it i guess yeah if you're a certain type of guy especially if you pay for it i keep forgetting
01:10:03.220
well it's not recommended and let's be honest bro and a lot of these uh sorry to say uh figures of
01:10:09.060
red pill they will go to an escort just to increase their body they'll go to women who are pseudo escorts
01:10:14.500
and prostitutes and something like that i mean dating is pretty much prostitution it's not that far
01:10:18.740
it is it is it is you're exchanging your time and you're giving her fun stories and taking her out to
01:10:23.220
a restaurant it's getting a hotel you're spending money to get in sex and it's not with no commitment
01:10:29.620
it's the biggest fraud for women like imagine for a woman it's the biggest food out there man you are
01:10:34.180
you know my teacher said this and i found that like obviously he goes if you think about they're
01:10:38.980
like uh walking toilets why because would you look look think about when you need to relieve
01:10:43.460
yourself where do you need to go this is james sulu and something like that no no this is me don't
01:10:47.300
don't get credit to someone else yeah okay just think about yeah when you need to go to
01:10:51.860
toilet number one or two like you need to go to the toilet to relieve yourself so there are men
01:10:55.940
out there who are horny who are like i need to relieve myself in someone yes and they are going
01:11:00.740
and doing you're treating these women like toilets you're like we're a toilet can i just use you for
01:11:04.340
a little bit okay thank you you can go now you are destroying and dismantling these women like as
01:11:08.420
muslim men we are told to be protectors and providers not misguiders and destroyers yeah you're
01:11:13.060
misguided and destroying this woman and then what happens is and i don't know the cycle that's why i
01:11:17.220
kind of disagree with uh myron because it's like this perpetual cycle of um you know steep around
01:11:22.580
you're destroyed and then you complain does he say the same and then you complain and say oh he's the
01:11:26.420
50 body count but i don't understand that promiscuity you have a problem with i want a virgin but you
01:11:32.180
are causing habit then then again so the question is how to what extent if any what evidence is there
01:11:38.580
that the increased body count that you think you're yeah is going to increase your confidence whatever it
01:11:43.220
is yeah that that's going to lead to a more resilience in your part b that you're going
01:11:48.900
to be able to deal with women in a relationship setting you can even make the argument of the
01:11:52.660
opposite let me explain why because if you're used to just getting sex for women without having to put
01:11:57.700
work into a relationship yeah so now when you're in a long-term relationship and emotions become
01:12:03.220
volatile and it becomes a tempestuous situation exactly so now you're used to just getting sex whenever
01:12:08.900
you want you're used to just getting this and that it's all transactional for you when you're not
01:12:12.100
getting it how you're going to react exactly are you able to deal use your prefrontal cortex and
01:12:17.700
your hippocampus rather than your amygdala which in other words are you able to use those areas and
01:12:22.580
centers of the brain which which operate on long-term horizon thinking he's not using his brain but he's
01:12:28.580
using his private suppression of um the sexual appetites no because you've just trained yourself
01:12:36.260
number one you've trained yourself of getting sex whenever you want of using women in a transactional way
01:12:42.420
of not working hard in a relationship you will not value it bro it's simple as that if imagine like
01:12:46.420
uh donald trump said you know my father just lent me a million dollars yeah it's like bro who would
01:12:51.700
you respect more somebody who's money being gifted to him or somebody who worked his way up it's true
01:12:55.700
and how are you going to value if imagine you're given this and that you're never going to value this
01:12:58.500
stuff that's why it's so important that you know like even allah says in the quran with hardship comes
01:13:03.380
ease this concept is very important on this point it's very uh poignant because they'll mention
01:13:09.060
people like genghis khan or they'll mention like conquerors of the of the past there's something
01:13:13.940
which differentiates genghis khan and the conquerors of the past yes true true who's paying for sex let's
01:13:19.060
be honest exactly or doing the the equivalent of that which is which is this yeah they fought in
01:13:24.340
wars exactly then they conquered so they first had to go through a very difficult ordeal yeah which
01:13:31.460
life or death situation and then they collected the war booty and had slave women and all that kind
01:13:35.860
of stuff it's different from and they had kids with them like a lot of the the sex with women in
01:13:40.740
the west now they're on birth control you're pulling out it's it's sterile it's just it's kind of like
01:13:45.700
homeless it's kind of like gay sex if you think a lot of the guys that when you sleep around with
01:13:48.820
women you're just doing it for pleasure and you're not doing it for the function that sex was created
01:13:53.140
a lot we're supposed to have sex to have children that's the whole point and not only that you get
01:13:57.020
rewarded for it like the companions came to the prophet peace be upon him and the prophet said you
01:14:01.140
get rewarded for uh having sex with the wife he said really and that's why he said he said it's a
01:14:05.740
charity he said it's a charity he said that's why i'm a very generous donor
01:14:08.460
so the thing is here a humble is in a halal setting so it's nothing wrong with your wife
01:14:23.260
yeah the point is this though yeah i don't think i didn't want to write the comparison again the
01:14:26.140
prophet peace be upon him said do you not get a sin for committing zinnah he said yeah then he said
01:14:30.660
then how could you not get a good reward for doing intimacy with your wife do you get what i'm trying
01:14:33.880
to say because if one is a sin the other will be a thing now talking about kids i want to ask you guys a
01:14:37.440
question when do you think you should have kids so let's suppose you got married by the way
01:14:41.000
how old do i look first i would say well you said you reverted uh 12 years ago 11 years ago
01:14:46.800
11 years ago and you've been married for how many quite a bit yes
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34 yeah i'm exactly 34 34 yeah but but they say i look 26
01:15:00.760
you're well these days i'm 25 25 yeah that's for the cv guys yeah i'm i'm yeah i'm 34 i'm gonna be 35 in
01:15:08.160
april is it yeah mashallah two questions i want to ask you guys firstly yeah uh do you got do you both
01:15:13.520
want second wives we'll come to later but uh don't get in trouble please yeah
01:15:16.880
second second the first one when do you think you should have kids so imagine you guys got married
01:15:21.940
and you're three months into your marriage when would you want to have kids i thought i would have
01:15:26.280
kids by now when i was uh a teenager i always wanted to be a young father i thought that by
01:15:31.220
like 24 25 would i had okay if you got married let's say three months ago when would you would
01:15:36.320
you want to start having kids immediately pretty soon yeah okay i would say i would recommend what
01:15:40.360
about you for me i mean the only one of the major reasons i want to get married is to have children
01:15:45.340
i don't want to just get married just for pleasure you know okay because yeah i just i want to get
01:15:49.880
married to have children okay i would personally say do not have kids for two years
01:15:52.540
the reason being is because you know you know why let me tell you why let me tell you why yeah
01:15:58.140
if you if you marry look let me tell you something you do not know a person's true character until you
01:16:02.000
spend about two years with them imagine you are married to an absolute shaytan and you have kids
01:16:06.100
with them and you're going to see them for the rest of your life yeah no no no i'm telling you yeah
01:16:09.600
i'm telling you guys yeah if you marry somebody who is absolutely a nutcase yeah this goes for both
01:16:14.620
men and women now you are stuck with that person for the rest of your life for the rest of your life
01:16:20.480
and you're gonna have to see their face and the kids are gonna suffer and then if you marry this
01:16:24.440
woman by the in today's age that'll stop you from seeing your kids that's traumatic and i know men
01:16:29.080
who are on the verge of suicide because of this i disagree i don't think it takes two years to figure
01:16:32.280
out if somebody's a shaytan what would you say roughly how long would you say i think you could
01:16:36.020
tell pretty pretty quickly really yeah i know man there's some there's some good shaytans out there
01:16:40.680
that are i mean that are deceiving she's from a good family she's pure and she's honored bro bro bro don't let me
01:16:45.620
tell you something one thing sneaker yeah i'll give you advice you're a reaver yeah do not ever fall for the
01:16:49.580
niqab or the hijab or she's let me tell you something no do not do not ever let me tell you
01:16:53.780
something i from my experience yeah oh she wears a hijab she has a niqab she says no there doesn't
01:16:59.360
guarantee that she's a good girl don't because you know why i fell into that where it's like you let
01:17:03.200
your guards down you're thinking this time you find out like she's um hi she's she's she's she's
01:17:10.560
just to see yeah please yeah and guys we are look we've got we've got about 25 minutes to go
01:17:16.500
we're just under 2 000 pounds away hijab okay so you're saying how would you get to know if she's
01:17:32.700
it's pretty easy to tell if a woman's okay it's not that hard oh man we comes out after you uh i don't
01:17:39.620
know i don't know is there any ways we can find out like if a woman or a man before or after the
01:17:43.600
after the matter actually i have some i have some advice regarding that for me i mean um i believe
01:17:49.520
you get to know people right away through traveling with them so yes i would say immediately when you
01:17:54.340
get with her go on a very long honeymoon and you really get to see her through the airplane rides
01:18:01.120
you know you're a little bit tired how she behaves in certain situations interacting with the waitress
01:18:05.440
you speed up the process a lot faster when you travel with an individual you get to know yes very
01:18:10.680
quickly and all that you know facade it disappears during travels it's good what are you looking for
01:18:17.580
because for for me the one of the worst things you know in a woman or wife is a shamelessness
01:18:23.300
100 like actually it's a real put off you know what's your definition of shameless um so the
01:18:28.140
opposite of modesty in this case oh yeah honestly the virtue i think shamelessness is the vice do you
01:18:32.620
know what i mean so if a woman is too talkative with other men and stuff like that it's a real
01:18:37.880
oh yeah 100 it's a real put off for me bro 100 because like that is that's a disrespect to me
01:18:44.300
bro yeah for me a shameless woman is the most dangerous woman yeah yeah a shameless woman that
01:18:49.600
means she's willing to do anything that's what the process i'm saying if you have no shame do as
01:18:53.220
you please yeah yeah yeah yeah so when you see those women out there that have no problem like
01:18:58.800
exposing all their body parts and walk out like with just like a little thing that is we're not
01:19:04.060
even talking about that i mean for for me personally like you know uh we're talking
01:19:08.680
about behavior rather than the attire because the attire would have already been set you can fix the
01:19:13.520
attire but you can't fix the mentality the attire is uh it's like a red line it's like if you don't
01:19:18.420
for me personally once again i'm a bit more stormed if you don't do this i'm just in the balls i'm not
01:19:22.580
going to be absolutely absolutely i'm sorry to say like but i'm not saying that should be for
01:19:26.320
everybody yeah some people will like for example if a revert came to islam um and she's taking time
01:19:32.540
to get to you know to that's a different situation but if she's established muslim you know it's a
01:19:38.380
different situation for me yeah i'll be quick to cut it off too yeah yeah yeah but um and so and
01:19:43.580
when i say immodesty i'm talking about this kind of like the way she fraternizes with opposite gender
01:19:48.600
if she does so in a very immodest shameless manner for me the kind of anger that i can feel from that
01:19:56.340
dangerous levels of anger is um i wouldn't be able to live with that we just had a donation of 255
01:20:01.820
us dollars from two red crime and then 173 canadian dollars from the sake of allah halima abdullah
01:20:07.480
abdul aleem 10 us dollars muhammad yusuf 20 us dollars and several hundred pounds so we are we are
01:20:12.820
nearly we're just about 1655 pounds away easy well yeah okay all right interesting
01:20:18.580
so we've got guys about i would say 15 20 minutes more before you have another thing is
01:20:22.700
um sorry say dirty if she's dirty hygienic most women are hygienic most women are hygienic you'd be
01:20:28.820
surprised man oh sneaker tell us some stories i don't want to you've said enough say no more
01:20:36.340
for me that's a disqualifying it's a red it's a red card yeah you have a red flag that's a red card
01:20:44.920
it's a red card honestly forget that but it's like you know um another thing is um
01:20:50.480
rude but that one you know we've got to be careful with that one because when someone's cantankerous
01:20:57.640
you know wow that's an amazing word what does that mean slubber the gullion have you heard of
01:21:01.660
slubber the gullion no pusillanimous huh you haven't heard of that that's actually what does pusillanimous
01:21:07.200
mean cowardly yeah it's actually what it's it's sort of calling someone a p-u-s-s-y call him a pusillanimous
01:21:12.440
yeah and what was the other one slubber the gullion this isn't this british guys are different
01:21:18.460
this one's dictionary this no no one uses this these don't use this what does slubber the gullion
01:21:21.820
cantankerous cantankerous is used well i think so yeah what does that mean
01:21:26.320
cantankerous is someone who is overly polemical
01:21:30.000
someone who like basically argues too much okay but rudely argues
01:21:43.720
in a rude manner um if a woman does that all the time is uh that is actually a horrible behavior
01:21:50.140
bro i'm sorry that is actually you know you know one thing i can't tolerate and i think no man can
01:21:54.120
there's a hadith of the prophet peace be upon him is an ungrateful woman and the thing is they make
01:21:58.360
out the majority of the hellfire yeah okay just give me context it is true the prophet no it's true
01:22:02.280
it's true the prophet peace be upon him went to hellfire and he saw majority of them and he said you do
01:22:05.480
he said use the word kufr yeah kufr in the last year yes which is that they are ungrateful to their
01:22:10.300
husband and the companion said are they ungrateful to allah i said no rather to the husband this is
01:22:13.540
very interesting because he said the husband will do so much good if he was to do one thing that he
01:22:17.360
doesn't like he will say i've never seen any good from you this is something i believe
01:22:20.740
a lot of women are they have this innate it's just why it's why then that is that is a thing
01:22:25.840
about women in general that's how they are and that's how they are i know it might sound bad but
01:22:30.440
it's um there is something in psychology called the big five yeah yeah it's the gold standard of
01:22:36.260
understanding of a person's makeup and so on and there are five traits you know openness and
01:22:44.600
conscientiousness and uh so on and so forth but one of them is called neuroticism neuroticism is when
01:22:50.180
someone sees the negative and bad situations all the time well it's linked to gratitude it has to
01:22:55.240
be yeah so if you're if you're an ingrate you're more likely to be yes trait neurotic yeah yes well
01:23:00.820
almost all the studies i've ever seen yeah that have looked at uh cross-culturally different women
01:23:07.080
from different cultures yeah have shown that women have a higher degree of neuroticism than them well
01:23:11.880
okay which it indicates okay so how is that going to play out in terms of gratitude it plays out
01:23:17.140
in terms of ingratitude of course so it's a thing which women have to struggle just like men are
01:23:22.520
weaker in other areas yes we're weaker in terms of allowing our gaze in terms of sexuality well you
01:23:32.040
that's the verse in the quran yes that the human beings have been created weak
01:23:36.720
the more festive the exegetes say about that it's man is very weak when it comes to sexuality
01:23:41.100
yeah man in particular it's true that a human being but man in particular we're weak when it
01:23:45.600
comes to sexuality yeah so ingratitude is one of those things where you're going to deal with if
01:23:49.960
you get married yeah but there are remedies for that yeah and that's and and the remedies that
01:23:54.020
yeah what are the remedies remedies for that bro is um so i have these kind of uh things that i do with
01:23:58.800
my family yeah we bring them all together oh bro i i'm by the way i'm gonna start implementing that
01:24:03.540
in my family because i think it's very beautiful yeah for first of all let's implement it for
01:24:07.020
ourselves yes so we are told to do tahmid on it like in tahmid means say alhamdulillah so which
01:24:13.340
means to alhamdulillah you've heard it before habib has used it and other people yes which means all
01:24:17.320
praise and thanks be to be to god and when i say alhamdulillah say for example i'm saying alhamdulillah i think
01:24:22.400
about one thing that god has given me so for example alhamdulillah for my eyesight alhamdulillah for my
01:24:26.600
hearing alhamdulillah for this alhamdulillah for that for this provision i've been given uh research
01:24:31.340
has shown when you do that you actually get into an elevated dopaminergic state it helps you
01:24:38.480
there's there's good evidence to show that when you do that it's actually good for you of course
01:24:42.120
so the first thing i do is we sit as a family or all my kids and stuff like that and i'll say to
01:24:46.740
them oh my gosh someone just made a massive donation oh how much sorry forgive me is abdullah
01:24:56.480
he's more charitable keep him talking keep him talking we're gonna get to the 30s he's more charitable
01:25:04.180
um so when you sit down so we say alhamdulillah we say alhamdulillah alhamdulillah
01:25:11.040
may allah bless him allah has given nearly 7 000 or 8 000 pounds since we started like not just
01:25:16.740
today he's going in bro i told him but this ray because i go in the ice bar i'm going to present
01:25:20.860
in the ice bar from now so you're saying alhamdulillah alhamdulillah now when i say alhamdulillah
01:25:25.780
i think okay alhamdulillah allah gave me family allah gave me good health allah gave me this i was in a
01:25:30.920
bad position before allah gave me islam allah and that puts me in a bad position i said to my kids
01:25:35.180
what are you grateful for it's a very nice game well it's amazing and it's not like i'm absolved of it
01:25:39.320
it's not i don't need it now after we've done that that's round one round two is okay tell me
01:25:44.100
what you're grateful for person b for so because the prophet said whoever does not thank the people
01:25:51.280
does not thank allah so tell me what you're thankful for me for and i'll tell you what i'm
01:25:57.200
thankful to you for because when you verbalize it when a woman says i'm thankful to my husband for
01:26:01.680
providing for me for protecting me well it means so much to us it means so much and vice versa bro
01:26:06.840
yes and vice versa so it's a very good thing to do this yes with the child with the family with this
01:26:12.400
kind of thing we've got to make sure that we reinforce that so that's one aspect of it and the
01:26:16.960
other one if it goes too bad that's you should make cards of these like games you said muhammad hijab
01:26:21.080
family game yeah the second tier of it yeah yeah you came up with some good stuff i want royalties bro
01:26:27.920
i want royalties yeah well i'm glad i was gonna be the one
01:26:29.700
you're gonna invest already don't forget halal game too if it gets bad though if ingratitude becomes bad
01:26:36.900
yeah then the thing that the best thing is removal sorry to say
01:26:40.640
so what do you remember that so if someone is taking from the room
01:26:46.580
if someone's taking something or someone for granted you have to take that thing away from them
01:26:51.220
so they can feel how it live how it is to live without it then it starts great this is this is
01:26:56.080
very fascinating it's exactly that it's like that man gratitude is very very important subhanallah
01:27:00.720
that's what allah says in the quran if you are grateful i will increase you yeah increase you in
01:27:04.000
what a lot of people when they hear this ayah they think oh you know if i'm grateful for the money
01:27:07.280
i have allah will increase me allah say allah doesn't mention what he increases you in
01:27:10.880
it can be that he increases you in more gratitude and if you're more grateful the more you're happy
01:27:15.200
you are you get it so it's very very important guys we have got literally 15 minutes because
01:27:19.380
we're going to end the show because we want to make sure we reach the restaurant on time
01:27:21.520
uh the brothers are really hungry are we at 30 000 yet huh oh we're literally seven 695 pounds
01:27:26.880
away bro yeah don't be surprised brother abdul ali just comes with a knockout blow yeah
01:27:31.380
bro bro he doesn't mess around i'm telling you who else who's the other guy the other guy's
01:27:35.740
the other name red line something no the second person giselle
01:27:39.200
not just russian oh um let me get the name for you you're talking about
01:27:52.620
you're talking about nehrou fetrodovich yeah fetrovich
01:27:59.300
fetrovich let's do it okay oh we're getting close hamdulillah yeah this is absolutely phenomenal
01:28:07.720
hamdulillah five five thousand we've nearly raised five thousand pounds just in a matter of a couple
01:28:11.540
of hours guys yeah may allah bless and preserve you guys inshallah so we've got 15 minutes to go
01:28:15.360
guys um is there any questions on the chat bro maybe you want to ask is there anything you guys want
01:28:18.540
to turn 15 minutes i think we already learned our lesson no we learned our lesson you know and the
01:28:25.580
prophet peace be upon him said the believer doesn't get bit from the same hole twice so we're going to
01:28:28.820
inshallah if that's cynical handle it's got a lot of things the same you know uh it's already
01:28:32.480
well i liked um i think we need to exploit more of your insights both of you actually when it comes
01:28:39.040
to uh this whole red pill discussion because from the haram world the gender stuff yeah you guys have
01:28:44.600
got mashallah good insights so we want to ask about that yeah i mean women are not in the west are not
01:28:49.960
ever they don't show gratitude ever they're supposed to not they think that their existence is to
01:28:55.840
extract resources from men and then they get encouraged if you listen to that if you dissect
01:29:00.320
the lyrics and all the music and if you look at the the women that they look up to that's that's
01:29:04.420
all they brag about all this and it's not even subtle anymore if you look at the the main rappers
01:29:08.080
that these girls look up to i mean all of them are strippers first off if you look at their concerts
01:29:12.040
they literally just get naked uh and they talk about like how much they can get uh the lyrics are so
01:29:17.900
explicit i don't want to repeat them but they brag about how much they can get a man
01:29:22.000
to do all right they want to take that they see that as a kind of power yeah they they are
01:29:27.600
encouraging women to take the power away from men completely through financial extraction financial
01:29:32.800
and by using sex uh like basically they're bragging about how big of a prostitute they are
01:29:38.320
yeah oh this guy's offering me this well this guy's i got a broken bag for this i got that's that's
01:29:44.040
why they're hypergumous yeah yeah yeah but that's that's the reason why they're hypergumous the reason
01:29:49.160
why they're hypergumous they do that to show off bro it's like you know and the thing is if you
01:29:52.860
think about it i think that's the reason why allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has set the biological clock
01:29:57.580
for a woman limited not for a man right because we don't have those characters it gets it gets kind
01:30:02.020
of sad when you see i was on a podcast with this um it was a jewish girl um sofia franklin she has a
01:30:07.340
big podcast called call her daddy and she was saying that whenever she goes on a first date the first
01:30:12.100
thing she asks is for a man to show his bank account to her i'm not joking it sounds it sounds like a joke
01:30:17.720
i asked her about it she was she was dead serious but then it gets to the point like she has a
01:30:21.700
birkin bag but she has no children and then she's 35 36 and all she can do is she can flex these uh
01:30:26.760
material at 35 this is her requirement she's 35 yeah you know you know what you know where the
01:30:31.880
delusion is coming from sneak out delusion is coming from put your hand like we're public figures yeah
01:30:35.240
we will understand this i only understood this when i became ali dower yeah because you need to
01:30:40.200
understand the psychology of a woman a woman is sought after so just imagine you are a guy that walks down
01:30:45.040
the road and there are girls just trying to trying it with you you go to your messages you're getting
01:30:48.440
messages from girls left right center you got all of these women to pick from it gives you
01:30:53.080
it gives you a reality it gives you a false sense of reality this is why women have this entitlement
01:31:00.440
issues you know why because they think i've always been so after men have always been chasing me
01:31:04.100
look every woman because of social media yeah the average woman thinks like the famous man exactly
01:31:10.360
exactly yes bro women every woman in the west now because of instagram thinks the way a celebrity
01:31:15.820
male does thank you because they get propositions as much as like the most famous man thank you
01:31:20.520
now do you remember yeah okay depends okay pretty much but you know what you just said is important
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that's why i said to you when i became ali dower i got an idea from the reality living in because
01:31:29.960
when you become a public figure you've got more sisters now proposing to marriage my criteria went
01:31:35.740
from here to there because i was like i have more options to pick from when i was looking to get
01:31:38.940
married because i was like bro hold on a second i can get this kind of sister i can marry this kind
01:31:43.000
of sister i went into this endless cycle bro where i was not happy with nobody you know why because i
01:31:48.420
was like i've got a pool of women to pick from for marriage that i was and i thought to myself oh my
01:31:52.900
gosh this is exactly how women think you get into this pedestal where you're thinking you know what
01:31:57.100
no i could deserve better i want decision part yes that's why that's why when you asked me earlier
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like what are the three things you wanted or what that's why like i don't really like like to think
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about that too much because i don't want to get clouded by things like oh she needs to be this
01:32:08.800
age this body count this like whatever i just like if she fits into my life and i fit into hers
01:32:14.060
and i think that's the best would you what about if there's a sister that a non-muslim woman who you
01:32:18.700
find this characteristic and she's like i want to accept islam are you open to that that she won't
01:32:22.180
accept islam she said she will accept islam so she says she's she's a western woman i've heard so
01:32:26.780
many women say that to me like in miami especially like women like yeah i'll be a muslim for you like
01:32:31.420
all this stuff for you no yeah i don't i don't i don't think that
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i don't even think women would find islam without a man anyway i think they would only do it really
01:32:48.800
for a man i i especially i i don't think that women can have a connection to god without a man
01:32:53.540
explaining it to her i don't know yeah like would a woman really pick up the quran and
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take her shahada on her own ever that does unless she's been through some traumatic experiences
01:33:04.680
yeah what do you mean like in generally yeah they can like what do you mean like can women come to
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islam without a man do you mean well according to the statistics uh more women are coming to islam
01:33:13.060
than men i don't know yeah really for everybody but what are you saying but what are you saying is
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right because that's the reason why a muslim woman cannot marry a christian or jew or hindu
01:33:22.340
but we are allowed to marry a christian or jew because they're going to become muslim exactly
01:33:25.540
because we have the influence a woman can be easily uh influenced but even these women that
01:33:29.700
are taking their shahadas they're still being led by sheikhs they're still being led by the men who
01:33:33.320
are explaining it to them they're never going to find god without a man they need they yeah
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it's true in a sense because we've got prophets they're all men no no no but the the is he speaking
01:33:45.480
from that angle like for men the reason i bring it up is because you're asking um what i mean like
01:33:55.040
they need some kind of a masculine guidance yeah they need masculine guidance you're asking like
01:33:59.640
would i accept a woman if she said that she wanted to become a muslim um to be in a relationship i hear
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that like quite a bit but i don't take any of it seriously because as soon as i say no they lose
01:34:07.720
interest in islam so their whole interest in islam is just because they want a relationship yeah yeah
01:34:12.040
yeah so yeah inshallah i think we'll find you man yeah yeah yeah you know what you need to do go
01:34:17.280
for like uh like even like my wife my wife was not a fan we're gonna send the cvs the marriage cvs uh
01:34:22.740
send it to the the bitter truth show at gmail.com inshallah uh and we will yeah they can the bitter
01:34:28.500
truth show at gmail.com if you send it i will forward it to the brothers at the same time though i think
01:34:33.060
i see a lot of um strength and power and ignoring that for some time i spent so much of my youth ever
01:34:39.240
since i turned i had that pressure in high school like oh you're 16 like you're still a virgin like
01:34:43.860
oh like basically call me a wimp because i was 16 and so i felt the pressure in order to to commit
01:34:49.640
zenna and spending so much of my youth and in college and afterwards like chasing women that was
01:34:54.580
like probably 95 percent of my time for the past 10 years well it's fun for a decade like literally
01:34:58.780
just thinking about women dating them taking them out thinking about them yeah thinking about like
01:35:02.920
the roster and all this like um and it's just it's such a giant waste of energy and time
01:35:08.240
and i've noticed like since i reverted and just focusing on what i'm supposed to do in my work
01:35:12.040
my output level has multiplied by like 10 wow easily so i i would actually recommend to young
01:35:17.920
guys and i like what you said like you should wait two years but i would recommend like having like
01:35:21.900
maybe those two years to just focus on what you're supposed to do especially for reverts who are coming
01:35:26.100
out of that lifestyle it's a good time to be able to reset your brain and pretty much make voodoo on
01:35:30.280
your soul yes make voodoo from women you know cleanse yourself of that and i'm noticing a lot of
01:35:35.500
of benefits and and i'm i i don't i'm not rushing into a to a marriage i i obviously i wanted to
01:35:40.720
when i was younger but there's a lot of benefit until 100 as a revert as well like me going back
01:35:45.640
then i would have never started looking for marriage i need the two three years to myself
01:35:48.640
to cleanse myself of the bad traits that i had from the slam because i could have ruined somebody
01:35:52.020
else's life from jahili yeah so guys okay we're gonna end the show in literally six minutes with
01:35:56.880
just 528 pounds away do you think somebody could do that maybe speak to your uh sneak all the
01:36:03.140
one of the zionists who showed porn to try to corrupt us
01:36:07.140
how much we need 528 pounds in the live inshallah and by the way that money we're not asking you to
01:36:19.000
give it to end the show 500 pounds can teach anywhere from 50 to 150 people how to do voodoo
01:36:23.480
how to pray sarah and remember surah fati inshallah so guys if you are watching this inshallah
01:36:27.340
for you guys the prophet peace be upon him said the son of adam's deeds all come to an end
01:36:32.160
when he dies except three ongoing charity this is ongoing charity beneficial knowledge
01:36:36.620
this is beneficial knowledge and the child that supplicates for their parents inshallah
01:36:40.760
so guys we're here inshallah we're going to be ending in exactly five minutes inshallah
01:36:44.580
it'll be phenomenal if we reach that 30 000 pound mark we're just 528 pounds away
01:36:50.780
yes so inshallah hey luka can you send um 200 i'll pay you back
01:36:55.920
all right no we'll take okay is that cheating no no it's not cheating no it's no you no it's
01:37:02.260
brin sneaker pledged uh 200 200 200 dollars yeah um you said you wanted to donate as well
01:37:08.820
yes whatever you want to donate okay may allah bless you guys wallahi that means we are just
01:37:12.560
325 pounds away so unless he's gonna reach but i've got a feeling i've got a feeling you know abdul ali
01:37:17.460
bro anytime i do this appeal yeah any figure i mention bro bang bro literally some people wait
01:37:23.300
where are you gonna sleep abdulillah you know literally i've got a feeling he's probably typing
01:37:29.040
now inshallah yeah so any last words it's 500 left and we've got literally uh so the 200 you
01:37:34.520
pledged it's that i'll do the rest 300 huh i got it i got the rest are you sure yeah okay easy
01:37:41.720
may allah bless you okay perfect i appreciate it okay can i just can i no
01:37:46.840
i'm hungry i want to let's start let's start let's start heading out inshallah and sneaker knows
01:37:54.600
the uh the struggles of learning how to pray and he's pledged the the remaining but let's say
01:37:59.780
abdul ali will still come but guys hope you enjoyed inshallah if you have any questions uh
01:38:03.780
obviously uh the show is finished now uh where can they follow you rumble rumble yeah yeah rumble uh
01:38:09.980
inshallah guys this is watching you saw i just have five hundred dollars to give away so
01:38:13.100
so when it comes to maher you can ask 50 000. what is it yeah yeah the bit of truth show at
01:38:19.840
gmail.com inshallah what's the word you use maher the maher is basically the dowry that's like a
01:38:24.580
dowry right yeah so since you've mentioned those donations you're gonna have sisters telling me
01:38:27.820
they want 50 000 pounds now for maher but don't worry you have a right to reject you have a right to
01:38:32.400
say no don't worry is that common in in the uk no probably don't marry it no uk it's the u.s they're
01:38:40.700
more like greedy is it yeah really because it seems like there's not as much money over here as it
01:38:46.240
is in america yeah but america it depends on the balling man muslims in america are balling
01:38:52.160
anyways we're gonna end the live inshallah guys it's been phenomenal amazing may allah bless the
01:38:56.180
brother the wuna uh sneak out it's been a pleasure inshallah we're gonna go thank you for having me
01:38:59.580
i appreciate it inshallah may allah bless you guys inshallah make dua for us may allah
01:39:03.480
accept our efforts get close to him this ramadan uh and make it a new beginning for all of you guys
01:39:08.020
inshallah this is my 11th ramadan first ramadan first one first ramadan that's i don't know it's
01:39:13.140
been a long time right uh how are you 20 i'm 32 sorry excuse me 30 seconds ramadan
01:39:18.620
don't expose it i was a boy i was a kid no you're still a boy
01:39:25.600
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01:39:43.440
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