Ali Dawah - March 30, 2015


How to stop sex outside marriage？？ ｜｜ Ali Dawah


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

195.3226

Word Count

2,216

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

5

Hate Speech Sentences

40


Summary

How to protect yourself from zina and not fall into it? How to stop committing zina Why you should not go back to sin And why you don t want to commit zina.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
00:00:27.760 Brothers and sisters, welcome to this episode of the matter of zina
00:00:32.460 How to protect yourself from zina and not fall into it
00:00:36.500 Obviously before I start, I want to praise Allah SWT, the most merciful, the most just
00:00:40.540 All praises and glory belong to Him
00:00:42.040 All the works that we do, we do with His permission
00:00:44.100 So I want to start off like that
00:00:46.060 Now brothers and sisters, the fact that you have clicked on this video
00:00:50.700 Shows that you either, maybe, I'm not jumping to assumptions
00:00:55.640 That you either want to stop committing zina
00:00:58.420 Or maybe you're on the verge of committing zina
00:01:00.360 Or maybe you just clicked it, just to watch it, for the sake of it
00:01:03.380 But for those who are on the verge or who are in the act of zina
00:01:06.960 I've got good news for you
00:01:08.660 Because the fact that you clicked on this link
00:01:10.720 Shows that you have iman in your heart
00:01:13.080 That you hate the sin and you want to stop it
00:01:15.520 Now, the fact that you hate it
00:01:18.020 And the fact that you want to stop it
00:01:19.720 The two principles are there of repentance
00:01:22.700 What do I mean by this?
00:01:24.280 To repent of a sin, whatever it may be
00:01:27.420 You first have to stop the sin
00:01:29.140 Number two, you need to hate the sin
00:01:31.820 Number three, you do not go back to the sin
00:01:34.080 And obviously as we know, it's good to pray two rakah sunnah prayer
00:01:37.920 And make repentance and tawbah to Allah SWT
00:01:40.360 So the fact that you've clicked on this video
00:01:42.300 Shows that you do not like the sin that you're doing
00:01:44.760 And you really want to stop it
00:01:46.320 Now, the objective that we have with this video is for you
00:01:49.620 To complete the repentance and not go back to that sin
00:01:52.360 And inshallah, after this video you can pray two rakah sunnah
00:01:55.240 And inshallah, with the permission of Allah
00:01:57.340 You will not go back to that sin
00:01:58.560 Now, brothers and sisters
00:02:00.220 As you guys know, we live in a society where it's sexualized
00:02:03.420 It is everywhere we go, everywhere we look
00:02:07.280 It's sexualized
00:02:08.480 This is the society that we live in, unfortunately
00:02:10.620 But, now for you guys
00:02:13.040 And this is a message for both genders
00:02:15.260 But specifically for the brothers
00:02:16.980 Now, I understand where you guys are coming from
00:02:20.240 Now, brothers and sisters
00:02:21.400 Many a times, if somebody has hinted that you're in a haram relationship
00:02:25.020 With your girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever it is
00:02:26.720 They will come and say to you
00:02:28.280 It's haram, it's haram
00:02:29.480 Now, me personally, I don't agree with this concept
00:02:32.140 Why? What do I mean by this?
00:02:34.140 If somebody comes and says to you
00:02:35.620 It's haram, haram
00:02:36.580 The fact is this
00:02:37.800 If you don't have a connection with your Lord
00:02:39.680 If you don't understand tawhid
00:02:41.180 If you don't understand the mercy of your Lord
00:02:43.360 The matters of Jannah, paradise and hellfire
00:02:46.380 If you don't understand this
00:02:48.180 The word haram would not hit your head
00:02:50.040 It wouldn't get into your system
00:02:51.740 Because you're just going to think haram
00:02:52.900 Oh, it's not only allowed
00:02:54.320 But the moment you have that connection with your Lord
00:02:56.480 And you understand that small sin
00:02:57.920 Or that big sin that you do
00:02:59.260 That you commit
00:03:00.280 It's not about the sin of being big or small
00:03:03.280 It's the one
00:03:04.300 It's the almighty that you're sinning against
00:03:06.420 Once you have that connection with Allah
00:03:08.220 Then you will understand the words of haram, halal, etc
00:03:11.040 In detail
00:03:11.980 Now, as we know
00:03:13.500 Our mother Aisha radiallahu anha said
00:03:15.240 If the Quran came down as haram and halal
00:03:17.640 Nobody, the sahabas would never
00:03:19.860 Accept the Quran and follow the regulations
00:03:21.860 So what we understand by this
00:03:24.020 Is that it's the connection that we have with the almighty
00:03:26.660 Now the third part is
00:03:28.360 That you don't want to go back to the sin
00:03:29.880 Now what you need to understand is
00:03:31.440 The shaitan is going to be on your case
00:03:34.100 And Allah SWT says in the Quran
00:03:36.040 And the Prophet Muhammad SAW
00:03:37.280 That the biggest fitna for men
00:03:39.920 Is a female
00:03:41.280 It is hard
00:03:42.220 It's going to be madness
00:03:43.440 It's going to be crazy for you guys
00:03:44.920 But what you need to understand is this
00:03:46.380 The moment you repent
00:03:47.700 And try your best not to go back
00:03:49.320 Even if you end up
00:03:51.900 Falling for the sin again
00:03:53.300 Do not ever doubt the mercy of your Lord
00:03:55.580 Do not ever think
00:03:56.200 You know what
00:03:56.640 It's not going to happen
00:03:57.580 Don't
00:03:58.320 Because me personally
00:03:59.880 Through the friends that I know before
00:04:01.860 They have had gradual steps
00:04:04.080 And even though they've gone back
00:04:05.440 To committing the sin
00:04:06.180 They've had a moment
00:04:07.800 Where they said
00:04:08.320 Enough is enough
00:04:09.260 Now guys
00:04:10.440 The first step that we need to take is this
00:04:13.180 We don't want to go back to that sin
00:04:15.960 We don't want to go that
00:04:17.260 Acknowledge it in your head
00:04:18.740 Program it
00:04:19.560 You don't want to go back to that sin
00:04:21.540 Now
00:04:22.180 Allah SWT says in the Quran
00:04:23.460 We do not change a nation or an individual
00:04:25.540 Unless they want to change their souls
00:04:27.320 So you need to put in the actions
00:04:28.920 And the effort that you want to do it
00:04:30.280 Then you put your trust in Allah
00:04:31.640 And another narration of this
00:04:32.980 Is of the Prophet Muhammad
00:04:34.000 Where a man
00:04:35.620 Didn't tie his kamul
00:04:37.000 And he was walking off
00:04:38.240 So Rasulullah asked him
00:04:39.840 He said
00:04:39.960 Why didn't you tie your kamul
00:04:40.960 He said
00:04:41.620 Oh Rasulullah
00:04:42.220 Because I put my trust in Allah
00:04:44.060 He said
00:04:44.560 Tie your kamul first
00:04:45.780 Then put your trust in Allah
00:04:47.360 Then or simultaneously
00:04:48.820 So
00:04:49.720 We need to understand
00:04:51.060 That they go hand to hand
00:04:52.340 Make dua to Allah
00:04:53.540 And say
00:04:53.760 Oh Allah
00:04:54.080 Look your Lord
00:04:54.860 Your Lord is there for you always
00:04:56.860 So you need to understand
00:04:58.120 That you need to make dua to him
00:04:59.620 And say
00:04:59.820 Oh Allah
00:05:00.160 Help me
00:05:01.080 I want to stop this sin
00:05:02.180 Once you acknowledge this
00:05:03.460 The effort comes in
00:05:04.320 Now how does the effort work in
00:05:06.120 I have spoken to many brothers
00:05:07.680 That I know from back in the days
00:05:09.380 And they will say to me
00:05:10.420 Aki
00:05:10.720 I will cry
00:05:12.140 When I'm committing zina
00:05:13.580 I don't want to do it
00:05:14.900 I hate it
00:05:16.240 Straight after I do it
00:05:17.680 I start to cry
00:05:18.500 This shows that there's iman
00:05:20.260 In the individual's heart
00:05:21.180 Even though he's committing the sin
00:05:22.860 He hates it
00:05:23.900 He doesn't want to do it
00:05:24.980 But he can't help himself
00:05:26.340 Now
00:05:26.980 We need to understand
00:05:28.360 As Allah SWT says in the Quran
00:05:31.640 That the biggest fitna
00:05:32.900 And the Prophet Muhammad SAW
00:05:34.460 Said this in a hadith
00:05:35.220 That the biggest fitna for a man is female
00:05:37.700 We acknowledge that
00:05:39.100 And the society that we live in
00:05:40.280 Doesn't make it easy for us
00:05:41.460 But
00:05:42.100 Now we need to understand
00:05:43.980 That what can we do
00:05:45.500 To erase that
00:05:46.960 Now these brothers that I've talked to before
00:05:48.620 Have said to me
00:05:49.280 That when they remove
00:05:50.500 All these images
00:05:51.840 All these nude things
00:05:53.000 The people that they follow
00:05:53.920 In their social media
00:05:55.360 Facebook, Twitter, Instagram
00:05:56.760 Wherever it may be
00:05:58.020 They said
00:05:59.660 That one of the things
00:06:00.480 That was really effective
00:06:01.480 Is they started to unfollow
00:06:03.240 Delete pictures
00:06:04.380 Stop talking to certain individuals
00:06:06.120 Because the moment you do this
00:06:08.420 You are taking out
00:06:09.640 All this advertisement
00:06:11.040 I call it advertising
00:06:12.020 And I'm going to tell you why
00:06:12.960 You are taking out
00:06:14.000 All these advertisements
00:06:15.160 Who are popping up
00:06:15.980 In your screen
00:06:16.840 Every now and then
00:06:17.640 And reminding you back
00:06:19.220 Of your desires
00:06:20.400 Or those individuals
00:06:21.540 That you was with
00:06:22.560 In the past
00:06:23.220 Now that is similar to McDonald's
00:06:24.880 McDonald's is a multi-billionaire company
00:06:26.960 But they still advertise
00:06:28.380 Why?
00:06:29.500 Let me tell you why
00:06:30.440 Because they want to remind you
00:06:32.380 That fillet of fish
00:06:33.880 To keep it halal
00:06:34.840 That you like
00:06:35.960 Is still there
00:06:36.760 And can be served
00:06:37.520 Now
00:06:38.180 How does this work?
00:06:39.360 If you haven't had
00:06:40.260 Let's say
00:06:40.880 A fillet of fish burger
00:06:42.600 From McDonald's
00:06:43.440 For 2-3 months
00:06:44.340 You've took it
00:06:45.180 You say
00:06:45.360 You know what
00:06:45.700 I don't want that anymore
00:06:46.680 Okay
00:06:47.260 Now
00:06:47.880 What you're doing is
00:06:48.860 The remembrance of that
00:06:50.000 Anything to do with it
00:06:50.960 You're blanking it
00:06:51.680 You know
00:06:52.140 It's like you're lowering it
00:06:53.020 It's like when you go through McDonald's
00:06:54.360 You're lowering your gaze
00:06:55.360 Now
00:06:56.120 I want to tell you guys
00:06:57.420 How that works
00:06:58.080 Because
00:06:58.780 When you go to your social media
00:07:00.680 And block people
00:07:01.520 Delete numbers
00:07:02.360 Don't see those individuals
00:07:03.420 Who will remind you
00:07:04.340 Of your past
00:07:05.360 Anything to do with zina
00:07:06.600 That's going to
00:07:07.160 Get your desires to urge
00:07:08.680 Now the fact that
00:07:10.320 You don't do that
00:07:10.940 And when you're out in the street
00:07:12.140 Out and about
00:07:12.960 And you're lowering your gaze
00:07:14.360 Wallahi
00:07:15.220 These brothers were telling me
00:07:16.360 This was the main factor
00:07:18.280 That helped me
00:07:19.240 To overcome zina
00:07:20.360 With the permission of Allah
00:07:22.020 So now
00:07:22.760 This comes into the part
00:07:24.000 Of you're asking Allah
00:07:24.980 For help
00:07:25.420 And you're putting in the work
00:07:26.800 And with the permission
00:07:28.060 Of Allah
00:07:28.420 Wallahi
00:07:29.260 Brothers and sisters
00:07:29.820 Try it
00:07:30.460 Today
00:07:31.000 Twitter
00:07:31.520 Instagram
00:07:31.960 Facebook
00:07:32.400 Delete
00:07:33.040 Unfollow
00:07:33.640 Anything that
00:07:34.740 Nude
00:07:35.440 Anything that's to do with
00:07:36.720 Nude
00:07:36.960 Or girls
00:07:37.480 Whatever it is
00:07:38.360 Delete it
00:07:39.140 Take it off
00:07:39.960 If you are not reminded of it
00:07:42.240 Like I said
00:07:43.080 With McDonald's
00:07:43.840 Once they start
00:07:45.020 Advertising it
00:07:45.800 Once you haven't had that
00:07:46.680 For three months
00:07:47.380 That fillet of fish burger
00:07:48.300 And you see it on the TV
00:07:51.320 You're going to be like
00:07:52.060 Ah
00:07:52.360 Do you get what I'm trying to say
00:07:54.600 You're going to be reminded
00:07:55.680 They're not going to be like
00:07:56.260 Ah man
00:07:56.780 If you get what I'm trying to say
00:07:59.020 You're going to go
00:07:59.720 And want to buy it
00:08:00.600 So
00:08:01.200 This is how advertisement works
00:08:02.940 So what you're going to do
00:08:03.860 Is cut it out
00:08:04.460 Now
00:08:04.860 Let's move on
00:08:05.820 Okay
00:08:06.380 Now
00:08:07.020 The hope
00:08:08.160 Where does it come in
00:08:09.320 Making it halal
00:08:10.860 Now
00:08:11.660 Nobody's saying to you guys
00:08:13.160 Okay
00:08:13.900 Move away from the haram
00:08:15.440 The zina
00:08:15.820 Okay
00:08:16.500 And
00:08:17.640 Just stay like that
00:08:18.880 You know
00:08:19.120 Just be like a nun
00:08:20.000 You know
00:08:20.400 You're not going to get married
00:08:21.400 No
00:08:21.680 Allah has given you
00:08:22.820 The halal option
00:08:23.540 Get married
00:08:24.600 You can fast
00:08:25.720 As we know
00:08:26.580 The prophet Muhammad
00:08:27.180 Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
00:08:27.920 Said
00:08:28.260 You can fast
00:08:29.340 If you're going through
00:08:30.040 These urges
00:08:30.540 Try fasting
00:08:31.560 My dear brothers and sisters
00:08:32.580 Wallahi
00:08:33.000 There is nothing
00:08:33.700 With these brothers
00:08:34.340 I've talked to before
00:08:35.220 The beauty of leaving
00:08:36.860 That haram
00:08:37.540 Lifestyle behind
00:08:38.780 And moving on
00:08:40.420 And doing it
00:08:41.220 In a halal way
00:08:41.960 Getting married
00:08:43.060 Wallahi
00:08:43.920 By Allah
00:08:44.480 I'm telling you guys
00:08:45.680 Halal
00:08:46.720 Doing it the halal option
00:08:47.760 And marrying that person
00:08:48.740 In your life
00:08:49.120 And striving
00:08:49.820 There is nothing better
00:08:51.080 Or nothing
00:08:51.900 That can replace that
00:08:53.040 So
00:08:53.560 Pursue the way of marriage
00:08:55.900 In the halal means
00:08:56.940 Now
00:08:57.740 Now guys
00:08:58.520 The next step that we want to do
00:08:59.740 Is we want to hate this sin
00:09:00.720 Even more
00:09:01.440 So we don't go back to it
00:09:02.760 Now brothers
00:09:03.620 I really want to talk to you guys here
00:09:05.140 Let's go
00:09:05.920 And take a little walk
00:09:06.820 Down memory lane
00:09:07.660 Now
00:09:08.480 Now guys
00:09:10.960 I want you guys to imagine with me
00:09:13.320 Now you are going out there
00:09:15.460 And committing this act
00:09:16.680 With other people's sisters
00:09:18.300 Other people's daughters
00:09:19.860 Now my dear brothers and sisters
00:09:21.900 Can you imagine
00:09:25.780 If the act that you're doing
00:09:28.460 Somebody did that to your sister
00:09:30.860 Can you imagine the act that you're doing
00:09:34.220 Somebody did that to your daughter
00:09:36.500 Or your mother
00:09:37.580 Now
00:09:39.060 I want you guys to really reflect upon this
00:09:40.940 Because this is really important
00:09:42.020 No matter how much you say
00:09:43.320 And justify it to yourself
00:09:44.280 And say
00:09:44.520 Oh
00:09:44.720 But she's a hoe
00:09:46.000 Or she's this
00:09:46.900 Or she's that
00:09:47.400 I don't care
00:09:48.000 So imagine this in your head
00:09:50.440 Every time
00:09:51.500 You take a step
00:09:52.560 To go ahead
00:09:53.680 And do this act
00:09:54.800 You need to think to yourself
00:09:56.000 And say
00:09:56.300 Hold on a second
00:09:57.000 Would I want that for my sister
00:09:59.000 So now brothers and sisters
00:10:00.140 We've acknowledged
00:10:01.240 The matter of halal and haram
00:10:03.200 Making a connection with your Lord
00:10:05.080 The basic steps
00:10:06.500 As brothers
00:10:07.340 That we can take
00:10:08.440 To prevent this
00:10:09.820 And what we can do
00:10:11.040 To avoid this
00:10:12.100 So brothers and sisters
00:10:13.340 Hope you guys have benefited
00:10:15.060 Inshallah
00:10:15.940 If you have
00:10:16.860 Share it with your friends
00:10:18.080 And inshallah
00:10:19.080 They will benefit
00:10:19.880 And like I said guys
00:10:21.120 If you fall into this sin again
00:10:23.100 Go back to the same process
00:10:25.300 Because Allah says in the Quran
00:10:26.460 All my servants have transgressed against themselves
00:10:28.520 Do not ever despair the mercy of your Lord
00:10:30.560 Your Lord is always there
00:10:32.020 No matter if you go back
00:10:33.300 Turn back to your Lord
00:10:34.340 Benefited
00:10:34.880 May Allah's mercy and blessings be upon you all
00:10:36.720 So brothers and sisters
00:10:37.680 Thank you for watching
00:10:38.400 May Allah's mercy and blessings be upon you all
00:10:39.900 May Allah spontane grant
00:10:40.760 Every single one of you guys
00:10:41.980 Jannah
00:10:42.300 At the end of the video
00:10:43.720 Before you turn off
00:10:44.560 Watch the videos at the end
00:10:45.740 Very beneficial videos
00:10:46.860 If you're in a haram relationship
00:10:47.760 You want to come off
00:10:48.420 Etc, etc
00:10:49.400 Watch it
00:10:50.140 Take care
00:10:50.860 Goodbye
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