HUSBAND FINDS THIS ON WIFES PHONE & HELL BREAKS LOOSE!! - REACTION
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about a situation where a Muslim woman found out that her husband found out about her affair with other Muslim men in her iCloud files. We also talk about the double standard when it comes to women and their privacy.
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This week, I discovered that in her iCloud files, she had so many pictures of her with different men.
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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.
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That's not what the show is called, it's just, I'm just letting you guys on me and my wife.
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How are you doing? Hope you're well, inshaAllah.
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And we look forward to your contributions because it's very, very important to have a female perspective on matters that I might miss.
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So, as you know, if there's anything you believe that I say wrong, please feel free to correct me, alhamdulillah.
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InshaAllah, you know, what do they say? Wisdom is the lost property of the believer and he takes it where he finds it.
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And yes, inshaAllah, if there's anything that you think I'm wrong in, which a lot of sisters believe I'm wrong in, you can voice it, inshaAllah.
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You can just blink twice, inshaAllah, if you are in danger.
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In a nutshell, brothers and sisters, jokes aside, inshaAllah, I'm here with my wife.
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The reason we're doing this, brothers and sisters, I have the Bitter Truth Show, which we talk about as issues.
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But sometimes with my wife, obviously, there's things that she can say to me.
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And if you guys want to watch the Bitter Truth Show, inshaAllah, it will really, really help.
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I believe it will help your household, inshaAllah.
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Now, when I saw this video here, guys, I was like, the comments was even more crazy.
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And this just shows, again, this is what I mean, where there's an absolute double standard.
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And I'm going to tell you, if I'm wrong, please correct me.
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Okay, here's a situation of a man who marries this sister.
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They're Muslim, I'm assuming, because this is arranged marriage.
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Now, I'm assuming he went through his phone, whatever it is for the matter.
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And then after that, my wife, if you guys are new to this, she has a little whiteboard that I bought her.
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So she wants to express herself through the whiteboard if there's something she disagrees.
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If she wants to elaborate, I've told her, she can vocalize it or she can tell me in my ear.
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And I would repeat it to the best of my ability, inshallah.
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I found that my wife was sleeping around before we got married.
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It's an arranged marriage and her mum and her family acted like they were the most pious and religious people possible.
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This week, I discovered that in her iCloud files, she had so many pictures of her with different men in bed, in her apartment, in college.
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He's saying she never told me about this and I have yet to confront her.
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We've only been married six months and I'm, like, losing it.
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I don't know what to do, but I just feel angry that I've been lied to and that she put on a fake face.
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There's a screenshot in there of her texting some other guy and saying that she wanted to have his baby.
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And this screenshot was only taken three months prior to our wedding date.
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Now, there's a few things that I just wanted to point out.
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She's like, oh, why would you do that to her brother?
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I know she's not coming from a malicious place.
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And I just want to see if a man did that, how the dynamics would be.
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Okay, now, firstly, would you agree or disagree with him going through her phone?
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Number one, as men, and I make this very clear even in my marriage, alhamdulillah, that do not go through each other's phones.
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Brothers and sisters, especially men, look, like they say, ignorance is bliss.
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Number one, and we've done a whole episode on this on the bit of truth.
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Don't go through your wife's phone because it can be that there are pictures of her sisters there, pictures of her friends there, without a hijab or whatever for that matter.
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Number two, there might be private things she discusses.
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And she wants to, one second, and she wants to basically express it.
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Maybe she says something about you, but she doesn't mean it.
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You might see something from her past that could destroy your marriage.
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Because for us men, we have a khira that there are certain pills we cannot swallow.
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And I'm going to come to how I would have reacted.
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And neither should she be going through your phone.
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What she did before marriage is not her husband's business.
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They might not even know what their daughter's been doing.
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Why is he going through her iCloud messages and pictures?
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Her past is hers and she's only answerable to Allah.
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She chose to marry you and her past has nothing to do with you.
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Where are people in the comments defending her?
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It's insane how many people always rush to support of the woman and start bashing the man blindly no matter what.
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What about a guy who sleeps around before marriage?
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Now, in that situation, brothers and sisters, for all of these people that are saying this, yeah?
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Now, me personally, if that was to happen to me, that is a pill that I will not and cannot swallow.
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If I found that out, for me, it is an instant end.
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No one's saying he has no right to call her names.
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Like, oh, you are a H-O-E and you are a S-L-U-T and you are...
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Because she may have repented, even if she didn't.
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However, am I right or wrong to say that he has a right to divorce?
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Now, sisters are going to say, well, it's her past.
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Now, tell me if I'm wrong, my wife and my dear sisters.
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Now, what if, what if she found out that he has a second wife?
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Or, should we say, three months or six months into the marriage, he says, I want to, I want a second wife.
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Because my wife is writing a poem right now, yeah?
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So, what if he, she found out and went through his iCloud?
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Would you guys be saying, oh, why did she go through his iCloud?
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And, oh, and what if she'd done a post and said, by the way, I have chosen to divorce him.
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Because a man judges a woman by her past, and a woman judges a man by his future.
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A woman should be, a woman shouldn't be exposing her sin, especially if she's repeated it, repented.
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At her own accord, she can tell her husband if she wants but wouldn't advise, as is exposing the sins.
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So, some of, by the way, have you heard my second wife thing that I just mentioned?
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I need you to comment on that if it's possible, yeah?
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You shouldn't expose your sins unless a man says, look, this is what I'm looking for.
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Then you try to divert that by saying, okay, you know, we're not compatible.
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But the point I'm seeing is the following, my dear sisters and brothers, is that if the roles were reversed,
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if the roles were reversed for a man, he cares about his wife's past.
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Why is it that when a man rejects a woman because she has a past, and that's what matters to him,
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But, if a woman was to be getting to know a man, and he said, I plan on getting married again,
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not a single one of you sisters will come and say, oh, she's wrong for that.
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Please, I want you to please address that if I'm wrong, yeah?
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He found out about her past and decided to maybe end the marriage.
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Now, personally, I would say if there's kids involved, etc.
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Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to aid you and help you to overcome it.
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And this is the reason why it can be worse for a woman who commits zina.
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However, she could have easily ascribed that child that she said, I want to have his babies
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This is why a woman is capable of doing that and a man is not.
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That's why zina being done by a woman can be consequentially in the sense of the world
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So a woman is aware, especially if it's a deal breaker for the sisters.
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What if this was reversed and that she, he found, she found out that he has a second
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Would anyone or when she went through his phone and found out that he has a second wife, would
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If the roles were reversed, if the roles were reversed and the sister went through his
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eye cloud, found that he has a second wife or got a second wife and wanted divorce, would
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any sister blame her or would they back her up?
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So would they blame her or would they back her up?
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Again, look, Allah says in the Quran, speak the truth even if it's against yourself.
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A sister has a right to reject a brother if he wants to get married again.
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If he hears that his wife has slept with 10 different men, he has a right to say, not
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That's why that's the double standards that I wanted to point out.
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And brothers and sisters, in this situation, it is really hard for a man when he finds out
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his wife has a past and it's really hard for a woman if she finds out that her husband
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wants a second wife or third wife or fourth wife for that matter.
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Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and say, oh my Lord, this is heavy on my heart.
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This is why I think that guy did this to your wife.
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And in Surah Talaq, it's talking about divorce.
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Allah says in the Quran, if you fear me, Allah will give you a way out from places you can
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Again, this is a new series that I started talking about this issue because we don't
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And again, I'm not here to show you my lifestyle, my private, nothing to do with you.
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I'm only having my wife's contributions and at, with her permission that I've asked
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because she does not want to be on social media at all.
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The point is that she agreed to come and voice opinions via the whiteboard, inshallah.
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May Allah bless and preserve everyone's marriage and protect our marriages from harm.
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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allow us to be reunited in general with my wife, you guys
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with your wife or your wives, whatever you want to do for that matter, yeah?
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I mean, inshallah, till next time, brothers and sisters, if you would like us to react
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to more situations pertaining to marital issues, et cetera, we would, inshallah, be honored
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And yeah, this is so far I'm going to carry on if I see people benefit from it.
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But again, I can change my mind and all of these videos might be deleted for whatever