I DM HER & THIS HAPPENED
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the role of women who feel like they are not being loved the way they want to be loved by their husbands and how to deal with it. This is a topic that has been on my mind for a long time and I am here to talk about it!
Transcript
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you know eventually he'll come around and he'll love me the way i want to be loved no leave these
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kind of sisters stay the hell away from them islamnet is raising funds to establish a masjid
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assalamu alaikum guys many people or some people think that ali dawah is so after controversy that
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he started the bitter truth show the marriage documentary and all this stuff that he does for
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the views and the like not really i do this stuff because i see a direct threat to the family unit
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and i started these projects in place and put them in place so we can combat that and this sister who
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i used to follow because i like to learn you know understand marriage counseling whether it might be
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you know i think she's a psychologist i don't know what she's i don't know what she's for that matter
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here's what happened yes and this video was sent to me by sister uh naima b robertson alhamdulillah
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and i ask all of you guys to follow the likes of her and sister fatima and like uh many sisters
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like her and stay away from sisters like this woman that i'm going to show you why here is a video
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and listen damn carefully to her advice to our muslim sisters or non-muslim women for that matter and
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look how i messaged her she deleted my comment not that she banned she blocked me for what what did i say
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let's listen and tell me if i'm wrong let's listen inshallah here we go if you've done the job of
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explaining to somebody how to love you and communicated your needs it is not your job to
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stick around and just hope that they're gonna get it or it's gonna click in their head at some point
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and be patient because you know eventually he'll come around and he'll love me the way i want to
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be loved no leave i mean you cannot make this stuff up are you kidding me if you have communicated to
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your partner your husband who loves you we're talking about a hospital husband please don't put this
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husbands or these fathers in the category that abuse you please put them away for now for god's sake
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yeah a husband who works for you who goes and provides for you who loves you takes care looks
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after your family yes and for some odd reason if you feel like he's not loving you the way you should
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be loved whatever it may be this changes from woman to woman yes women are emotional creatures they can
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have an emotional moment where they feel like they're not being loved a woman goes through menopause
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she goes through pregnancy she goes through a period so many emotional things she can be easily
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influenced a few words can look this is the fact this is a fact so just imagine our sister who just
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had a bad day with her husband whatever it may be something minor she feels like she's not being
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loved the way she is and she comes across this sister and what does she say if you have tried
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to communicate and tell him how to love you and blah blah blah blah blah okay what should i do and
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he's not listening huh what should i do just leave are you out of your mind are you crazy 80 of the
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time woman already initiated divorce that's what allah has given the power of talaq to us because we
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begin talaq every flipping two seconds yeah that's how they're created that's why the prophet peace
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be upon him said they're like a bent rib if you try to spray straighten it it'll break so we accept them
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how they are and if you think about it as menless husbands we do put up with that they put up with
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us in certain things that we do but we put up with that we have to as men a real man deals with it like
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a real man this woman is out there without fear of allah telling women who already initiated 80 of
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divorce and if their college graduated or whatever it costs them 90 can you imagine this is a massive
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problem this is a joke 80 of the time women initiate divorce and they end up regretting it yes
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now and now she's saying just leave casually just leave yalla habibi yalla salam alaikum just leave
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destroy your family these kind of sisters i'm not saying she's doing it intentionally stay the hell
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away from them do not listen to this sister i'm not going to give her name yeah because i don't
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want to get hate comments i can't control people i'm not asking anyone to give her hate but people
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just go and do weird stuff okay stop i don't want anyone to attack her say anything to her what i'm just
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saying is stay away from her now what did i message her i left this comment yeah and check this out if
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i've said anything wrong here we go guys yeah salam alaikum sister i'm respectful look i've seen some
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of your stuff and and it's beneficial but this advice is terrifying to hear how can you so calmly
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encourage someone and to end their relationship because they try to communicate their feelings and
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the other person didn't understand do you know how many couples can apply this to themselves when this
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probably doesn't even apply to them women already initiate 80 of divorces and you are further
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encouraging them over petty issues this is no reason for any partner be he man or a woman to
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leave please be careful what you put what you put up these videos destroy households what does she do
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did she say brother thank you for your advice let me take it on board you know maybe you had a point
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there let me reflect on that no i got blocked i got blocked yes and i left the comment my comment got
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deleted these kind of women stay the hell away from them i'm seeing it sisters and brothers make sure if
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you hear this woman's voice and your wife is watching instagram tell your wife to stop listening
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simple as they destroy households they destroy families kids broken families because of these
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kind of irresponsible self-proclaimed whatever she is to come and outright just leave can you imagine if
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i found a video and said brothers if you try to communicate et cetera halas give her talaq brother just
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leave how dare you shame on you for not even taking an sr blocking me i don't give a damn if you block
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me i don't give a damn that's not the point fear allah and these kind of sisters be it whoever they
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are man male or a female should be boycotted outright stay the hell away from breaking the
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family unit down subhanallah anyways guys that's all i have to say on the 15th of july the bitter
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truth show we are filming our new episodes inshallah we are looking for two cultures we have a culture
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episodes which is inviting those from different cultures somali bengali pakistani moroccan algerian turkish
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kurdish everybody so that'll be culturally meaning three sisters from the moroccan community and three brothers
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from the moroccan community we'll be talking about the moroccan culture the somali culture uh the
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winners were we we did a poll um it was bengali and then moroccan but uh bengalis have been applying
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so i'm going we're doing the somali and moroccan so brothers please apply and sisters the moroccan and
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somalis if you want to be a part of it on 15th of july uh please apply at the bitter truth show at
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gmail.com and we've got a couple of more spaces left inshallah and we want to know more about your
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culture and so people can benefit from it as well inshallah that's all i have to say my brothers and
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sisters may allah bless you guys till next time assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
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