Ali Dawah - I WILL DIVORCE HIM IF HE DOES!!

00:00:00.320 you are out of your bloody mind to leave him clear cut you are out of your bloody mind you know why 1.00

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00:00:38.480 so we want to move on to marriage now inshallah and you have one wife i assume

00:00:44.960 i have the right to remain silent anything i say will be used against me in a court of defense

00:00:50.320 yeah i will i will i will pass my solicitor said say no comment

00:00:55.440 is that your wife with this oh no that's ishan yeah uh thing to be honest with these matters

00:01:04.160 i'll be honest with you sometimes i joke about this sometimes i talk heavily about this issue as well

00:01:08.880 um jokes aside it's it's a very it's a serious topic in that sense it's it's of course we can

00:01:13.280 joke around it and and i believe this like i've said this as well like i mean if if i mean you

00:01:18.080 probably know you're i believe like i don't know if you've had a discussion with your husband yeah we

00:01:22.080 talk about it all the time exactly exactly so you talk about it in what sense though do you

00:01:27.840 talk about it in the sense of exploring the idea or just him and within his nature how does the

00:01:33.680 discussions revolve if you don't mind me asking you don't need to it's a private discussion you don't

00:01:36.640 need to oh no it's we joke about it you know it's a joke but if he said to me before we got married

00:01:43.120 it's something that he wanted to do i would then think okay seriously let's have this discussion

00:01:47.680 discussion but it was never a conversation and he's always known from me but it's not something

00:01:52.560 that i personally could do okay a serious discussion then we'd have to have a discussion but i do think

00:01:58.960 for a man if you want to get married multiple times it's something that you should bear to the wife 0.99

00:02:04.400 before you make her your wife it's only fair but you know everybody each to their own okay is your

00:02:11.200 husband watching this she might be yeah okay now me sister let me tell you a bit a few things about

00:02:18.720 me i'm somebody i like to deal with uh reality i like to deal with situations that are real like in

00:02:25.600 the sense where i believe there's disneyland and then there is the reality i believe in today's time

00:02:31.440 a lot of people are in disneyland like they they really don't understand now i totally respect and

00:02:37.520 never look i'll be honest with you if i know a brother is in his marriage and i would never ever

00:02:43.520 go to that guy and start telling him listen go get a second wife never if like there's one brother he 0.72

00:02:46.960 actually comes to the bitter truth podcast he even admitted like you know he is polygamous by nature

00:02:50.880 every man not a single man on this earth can come and tell me he's not polygamous by nature i will put 0.89

00:02:55.360 him on a lie detector test i'll pay for it so every man is polygamous by nature however that this doesn't

00:03:00.480 mean i'm going to go and try to wreck people's family by saying no no go get a second wife i'll never do 0.99

00:03:04.400 that that's very challenging immature i will say bro you can do it no problem keep your happy man i

00:03:09.760 would even say if that brother who is for example have never had polygamy in his head like he he he

00:03:16.320 is wired like that don't get twisted it's an area you can explore is wired and believe me if i was to

00:03:22.160 speak to any woman's husband i'll make it general and i said to them bro your wife is totally okay with 0.98

00:03:28.160 that totally no problem at all not a single man on this planet earth will say no i would not

00:03:35.520 every man would say brother forget two i want three and four actually if it's allowed six seven and eight

00:03:41.280 so the thing is here is that every man is polygamous by nature these men that you speak they'll say oh

00:03:47.440 you know if it wasn't for the headache okay so there's conditions so if there was no headache coming

00:03:51.360 from you the first wife okay good so if that headache wasn't there you would do it okay so which tells us

00:03:56.800 what you are prone to do it now there's one thing that you mentioned which is very important you said

00:04:02.960 if he told me from the beginning yeah now i'll give an example like an analogy so we understand

00:04:10.400 sometimes sisters fall into haram yeah and when they fall into haram imagine and i give this analogy

00:04:16.640 so people can understand because the moment a woman says if he told me that he wants a second wife

00:04:22.480 then that would have been different well guess what no woman on this planet earth would marry a 1.00

00:04:26.480 man that says he wants a second wife unless he is a man who is of i don't want to use this red pill

00:04:32.000 high value man i'm talking about a man with taqwa who fears allah who practices who provides for his

00:04:36.080 wife he loves his wife yeah a man who has these resources because to me a woman is built to be

00:04:43.360 polygamous built i i'll tell this outright because if allah's legislated something it cannot be that allah has

00:04:49.600 told a woman to do something that she cannot do because allah says in the quran in uh in the

00:04:54.720 surah 286 if i'm not mistaken he does not burden a soul more than he can bear so meaning that if allah's

00:05:00.720 legislated a that means that is plausible to be done so if a woman has committed haram and she goes and

00:05:08.160 tells every suitor that comes and proposes and says by the way i i i committed zina would any man want to

00:05:15.280 marry her no okay if a man comes and says i'm planning on getting a second wife would any woman 1.00

00:05:23.280 marry her probably not good so a man judges a woman by her past and a woman judges a man by his future 0.85

00:05:31.200 meaning if when scissors come and say but you should have been honest from the get-go like argument's

00:05:35.520 sake and i'm not i'm not wishing this on you if your husband was to come and say i've changed my mind

00:05:40.160 no i know i know we've had these conversations okay okay okay okay if he was to come and say

00:05:45.600 i've changed mine i don't know what the conversations are i don't know if he said i've changed my mind

00:05:50.240 now you can you can't come and say to him oh but if you told me from the beginning true but it's as

00:05:57.200 good as the woman who committed haram she knows that every time she mentions it she gets rejected rejected

00:06:02.720 rejected rejected so men as men i'm telling you i'm telling you outright our mind if i know that i'm

00:06:09.840 polygamous by nature i'm not going to tell my wife because she's not going to want to marry me 0.78

00:06:14.880 unless like i said before am i i don't know if i had some i don't know i was drop dead gorgeous or

00:06:19.680 i don't know it's i was a millionaire or i don't know i was just a very god-fearing i don't know

00:06:23.680 whatever it may be that you know woman at high pilgrim is my nature and she's like you know what

00:06:27.440 i don't mind sharing this man argument's sake yeah so the point is what this is the reason why men

00:06:33.360 will never admit to it just the same way a woman will never admit and what do we say to those sisters 1.00

00:06:38.960 that is a sin yeah that is a sin that's been committed which you should hide repent allah

00:06:44.880 forgive you yeah no problem so it's a sin can we say a man has a right to okay man's okay it's hard

00:06:51.760 for a man to imagine that somebody okay okay but here is halal this is halal this this is halal here

00:07:00.160 so the point is what my dear sister and the reason why i'm emphasizing on this topic is why

00:07:04.080 because every man is polygamous by nature and the more we attack and i'd say this to sisters who

00:07:11.200 contact me my my husband wants to get a second wife i'm going to divorce my sister just want to 0.94

00:07:15.840 ask you a quick simple question does your husband pray yeah does he fast yeah does he uh give him

00:07:21.520 zakah yes is he good to you yes does he love you yes caring yes ever hit you this that no 1.00

00:07:28.720 this is a good man you are out of your bloody mind to leave him clear cut you are out of your 1.00

00:07:36.560 bloody mind you know why because you got look my dear sisters who are watching this 1.00

00:07:43.520 do not for a moment think that the next man you're gonna marry is gonna be any different

00:07:49.920 now i'll give this example is from actually uh thermodynamics the second law of thermodynamics

00:07:55.360 and you're gonna be thinking brother ali what the hell is this got to do with polygamy

00:07:58.160 the second law of thermodynamics is that energy cannot be created or destroyed let me give you an

00:08:02.880 example these are my glasses if i set them on fire they have changed the form of energy and turned into

00:08:09.920 something else they haven't gone away they've just changed form meaning the next man you marry he's

00:08:18.320 gonna come and say please keep me in me oh no no i'm so happy with you okay and next thing you

00:08:24.160 know you catch him talking to another girl he's either doing in a haram way or he's doing it secretly

00:08:30.000 behind your back or he's man enough to come and say you know what this is who i am this is what i am

00:08:35.360 and i'm not going to do behind your back because i want to be honest with you and i call that man an

00:08:39.280 honorable man but for those brothers who also do it secretly some of them i don't blame it because

00:08:43.600 somebody's sister on a matting so what i'm saying is this sister this is in our nature it's in our

00:08:49.920 blood yeah i don't want like let me tell you something if i started a company pharmaceutical

00:08:55.360 company and i said i have this new pill brothers when you take this you're not polygamous anymore i

00:09:00.560 will sell out billions you know why because a man's thinking above i want to take that i don't want to be

00:09:05.520 this this this innate desire that i have for another woman i don't want it every single man on earth will 0.82

00:09:10.160 take it we do not wake up one day and go how can i destroy my wife mentally and make it no no no

00:09:17.600 wallahi no man wants to do that who loves his wife but it's in our blood and one other point i'll

00:09:23.600 mention it's as good a woman who wants to divorce her husband because he's polygamous it's as good as 1.00

00:09:30.080 me and your husband saying our wives nag every woman nags every woman trust me it's like me saying 1.00

00:09:37.040 my wife said something so deep to me and i'm so damn hurt yeah but she was just having a moment

00:09:44.480 she's just women are like that they are sharp with their tongue imagine me saying i'm going to 1.00

00:09:49.600 divorce you because you are keep saying things that you don't mean that's within the nature well guess

00:09:56.400 what ali or what's your husband's name sister if you don't mind me asking you don't say it

00:09:59.520 i would rather no problem let's let's call him the the handsome brother marshal i'm sure he's a

00:10:04.560 handsome brother yeah yeah the handsome brother yeah the same he says brother ali he calls me and

00:10:09.520 he says bro i've had enough of my wife i'm like why he's like she said something really hurtful like

00:10:14.240 brother guess what so did my wife so did these shans well guess what bro if we divorce our wives do you

00:10:20.480 think the next woman we're going to marry is going to be any damn different no so how about we stick to 0.96

00:10:25.760 our wives the good woman of course they have their flaws we have our flaws so the point is what you

00:10:31.920 are not running away from the problem as a man i'm not running away because the next woman i'm going to

00:10:35.840 marry she might have another negative quality which is even worse so the point is what every man is

00:10:42.960 polygamous by nature my dear sister and if one day i'm just saying doesn't have to be if if one day for

00:10:49.680 some reason whatever it may be he wants to explore the idea i say this not just to you i say to all the

00:10:55.280 sisters do not make the mistake of destroying your house and go in your separate ways please

00:11:01.840 please i beg you why because my dear sister he doesn't do it because he wants to hurt you

00:11:09.040 he is created in that manner now of course there's going to be jealousy the best of woman to walk this 1.00

00:11:13.680 earth has smashed plates allah told us in the quran the stuff they did and some of the scholars even 1.00

00:11:19.680 say they're not even blameworthy because it's just you get what i'm trying to say we understand and we

00:11:26.320 accept you like that because as men there's things that we put up with in the sense of our

00:11:32.240 wives have menstruation our wives are pregnant our wives have menopause we as men have a urge towards 0.96

00:11:39.360 intimacy to a level where studies say there is no comparison there are terms in times where we need to

00:11:45.440 compromise however the point is what if a man who wants to do it in an honorable way and i'll give

00:11:52.640 you sisters this hack for free you don't need to sign up to my course it's for free if you do not

00:11:58.320 want your husband to get a second wife here's my recipe sprinkle it on the biryani if you like yeah 1.00

00:12:05.040 let me tell you very simple you tell him if you ever want to get married again

00:12:11.040 you are going to marry that woman not secretly i'm going to know about it you are going to give her

00:12:18.080 mahr you're going to do a wulima you are going to go speak to her dad you are going to treat her how 0.91

00:12:24.160 you treat me and now let's see how many men want to do that because most men they just want to do a 0.55

00:12:30.640 little secret nikah get married for a couple of months and divorce the sister but when you put this 0.72

00:12:35.680 stipulation and that's the reason why allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sent down that's the reason

00:12:40.480 why allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sent down uh protocol to do polygamy why because it protects the woman 0.99

00:12:47.680 cousin non-muslim men do it side chicks mistresses and girlfriends allah says you are not allowed to 0.99

00:12:53.360 use the woman in that way you want to do it here's the protocols so now man is looking and thinking

00:12:58.560 about maher walima speak to the dad another in-laws no i've changed my mind you get what i'm trying to

00:13:06.720 say so but if your husband can do that then i would say my dear sister whoever you are wherever you are

00:13:14.960 submit do not break your house because you know what's going to happen you're going to destroy

00:13:19.520 yourself him the kids and everybody ask allah the one who's created the heavens and the earth

00:13:26.880 to make it easy on you i'm very sure the one who created the entire globe it's not difficult for him

00:13:33.280 to give you some peace make you understand and guess what allah says in the quran you might hate 0.73

00:13:39.360 something which is good for you and you might love something which is bad for you our principles in

00:13:43.840 islam is not this dunya i like what i want no as a man i have to go to war sister and guess what which 0.67

00:13:50.720 is worse me going to war and dying and my wife marrying somebody else or my wife sharing me with another 0.53

00:13:56.480 woman which one's worse at least i'm in her life half the time or whatever it may be i'm still

00:14:01.920 looking providing protected i'm still there for the kids i'm still the same ali what is the difference

00:14:07.520 me when i go to war and i die my wife with the inheritance that i leave she's going to be having

00:14:13.600 a happy time with a holiday with a new husband if she wants to get married again so do you see when 0.59

00:14:18.000 people come and say oh this is a man's religion excuse me if it was a man's religion i am better off doing

00:14:25.360 this as a non-muslim because there's no rules and regulations and i can just be with multiple

00:14:29.200 women no limits not even four two but islam regulated it to four and put protocols in place 0.98

00:14:35.440 so it is done in the right way to protect the second and protect the third and protect the fourth

00:14:40.800 and let me tell you something just finish on this sorry i gave a whole lecture oh no it's a passionate

00:14:45.120 topic of mine so and and the reason why it's passionate is some people think it's because it

00:14:50.160 benefits me let me tell you sister yeah yeah i see marriages breaking down because of this

00:14:56.240 i know and i'm saying this because i don't want to see the breakdown of the family unit that's the

00:15:01.920 reason why i started the bitter truth show that's the reason why i'm working on a project behind the

00:15:05.600 scenes but the point is is that look that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has legislated and i know the

00:15:12.720 story of a brother who was getting to know a sister for marriage i know this and i know it is the truth

00:15:18.640 because i witnessed it this sister said to him i um are you polygamous he said i'll lie to you if i

00:15:27.200 said i'm not so this was going back and forth and she said look i don't trust you i i fear you're

00:15:31.360 gonna go get married again okay he goes and gets married to somebody else guess who comes back

00:15:40.160 really after you got married yep guess who comes back and guess what she proposes 0.96

00:15:44.960 a second marriage isn't that interesting now you tell me the mind of a woman isn't it bizarre 1.00

00:15:51.280 she doesn't want to share him as the first wife but she comes back and says i don't mind being the

00:15:57.760 second wife do you know why because a woman is wired in that way in the house now you might be thinking 1.00

00:16:03.920 me never the point is this depends who the man is depends it depends so for a woman allah has created

00:16:12.480 the woman in that manner a woman a hypergamous by nature so they look to this man who might be i

00:16:18.160 don't know six foot whatever he's got wealth he's a man of his is like one sister said i'd rather spend

00:16:24.640 half the time with a good man than full time with a waste man yeah that's true so so so and only that

00:16:32.000 a woman cannot cater to two men no way but a woman a man he can so please don't ruin your marriage over

00:16:40.000 that and i'll say it over if your husband comes sit down i know it's painful it's this but wallahi 0.99

00:16:46.640 and i tell men if you are willing to go behind your wife's back and commit haram you are a coward 0.99

00:16:54.480 if you are willing to please your wife over the displeasure of allah you are a coward so i would say 0.98

00:17:00.960 as long as you put allah subhanahu wa ta'ala first allah will give you a way out do you not ever compromise

00:17:06.720 the obedience to allah at the cost like allah says in the quran to the prophet why do you make

00:17:11.600 what is halal haram on yourself because of your wives islamnet is raising funds to establish a 1.00

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Ali Dawah - July 17, 2023

I WILL DIVORCE HIM IF HE DOES!!

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