Ali Dawah - IRRESPONSIBLE INSTAGRAM COUPLES RUINING MARRIAGES？ - EP 13 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

00:00:00.000 social media is like a fake reality that's the way to look at it see a picture of someone looking

00:00:05.440 so happy but what you don't know it's what's behind that picture i always remind to my children

00:00:10.460 or to my friends is that no one's showing the argument the bad the background you know the

00:00:16.760 reality of life and you know and it makes you feel like my life is purposeless i used to post

00:00:22.020 food during ramadan and i completely stopped doing that because there are people out there who do not

00:00:27.760 have food who cannot get married who cannot have children we never get to see the negative aspects

00:00:33.640 so we think it's all rosy and cozy and the first day you see her without makeup you're saying

00:00:37.520 however there's a lot of teenagers out there and from what they have seen when it comes to

00:00:43.660 being a muslim couple it's very boring it's very blank they have that stereotype like you know the

00:00:48.440 woman just stays at home all day and just cooks and the man just comes and works and he just comes home 0.98

00:00:53.140 and he's a grumpy old man what is your motive what is your intention why are you even putting it out

00:00:56.700 that if you're really that truly grateful for what you have go and thank allah why are you telling me

00:01:00.420 i don't i don't need to see it she will be unhappy with you as a husband exactly because you are not

00:01:05.280 doing the same thing that that husband's doing on the social media i feel like you're on social media

00:01:10.800 and you've opened yourself up you could open yourself up to much worse on social media than

00:01:16.140 seeing a happy halal marriage i want to see both sides if you're going to be honest if you're going to

00:01:20.600 be just i want to see the dark the ugly and i want to see the good show me that oh you just want to

00:01:25.440 show me the good side why just the good side people are looking at social media couples because

00:01:29.360 they're unhappy with their own relationship they're looking at idealistic women because 1.00

00:01:33.160 they're unhappy with their own wife

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00:02:01.400 can assalamualaikum warahmatullahi barakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends hope you guys are

00:02:05.320 well inshallah welcome to another episode of the bitter truth show um before i start i want to praise

00:02:10.480 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the most merciful the most trust or praises glory and gratitude belong to him

00:02:14.340 i want to thank um my blood brother who's here uh my uh cameraman abdukarim muhammad jabi um anas

00:02:22.500 for making all of this happen may allah bless them without them i can't do it and i want to thank

00:02:27.860 the co-producer which is my wife who helps me decide these topics and bring them together and

00:02:32.060 kind of manages their sister's side while eating pizza um yes may allah bless her okay so basically

00:02:37.700 today's topic is very interesting and i've been meaning to talk about this topic for a very long

00:02:41.560 time uh because it's pertaining and i believe it's one of the reasons why there's a false expectation in

00:02:47.300 marriage marriage is breaking down and most of the times when we think about allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:02:52.260 says in the quran that tell the believing men to lower your gaze good but what happens is that

00:02:57.340 also it tells the woman to lower their gaze as well but i feel as if the sisters don't lower their gaze

00:03:01.860 when it comes to other people's marriages so i believe men don't lower their gaze when it comes

00:03:07.360 to the opposite gender you know we are visual creatures and that's our weakness so we don't 1.00

00:03:11.600 lower our gaze and we should it's a sin but i feel as if sisters don't lower their gaze when it comes 0.97

00:03:16.400 to other people's lives her husband is doing this and they are here so these social media couples that

00:03:21.680 we are talking about here we're going to react to some of them i'm trying to get the videos

00:03:25.880 just a quick disclaimer we don't want to backbite we don't want to slander we don't want to talk

00:03:30.100 ill of them we just want to talk about this phenomena yeah in a nutshell i will get the videos i'll try to

00:03:36.560 find some we can watch them but let's get into the topic so irresponsible social media couples 0.99

00:03:41.520 let's start with the sisters do you guys believe you guys are females you guys know yourself best

00:03:48.300 do you not believe that when you see videos as a young sister some of you guys are married some

00:03:54.420 of you guys are divorced so as a young sister when you was young when you see these social media

00:03:59.380 couples who are portraying their lifestyle and it's glamorous and sometimes you wonder did they take

00:04:04.680 these videos in gender because everything looks so damn perfect i do well like you look and you know

00:04:10.300 there's any fault in this video like and the thing is everything from the bed sheet to that flower in the

00:04:16.140 background to the baby what they're wearing to whatever they're driving and the holidays they're

00:04:20.460 going to does it not give a false perception of what marriage is because i don't know brother or

00:04:26.500 sister if you punched her face before you made that video and made it look like you know what this is

00:04:32.240 amazing and then i don't know sister if you try to uppercut him and then after that you said oh let's

00:04:36.720 put a picture up yeah because i believe it's impossible for you to have such an amazing life now may

00:04:42.640 bless you guys preserve you guys protect you from envy and which is very interesting yusuf

00:04:48.900 his father said to him do not mention your dream to your blood brothers and we've got social media

00:04:55.080 couples like everything in their life now of course there's a balance there are those subhanallah

00:05:00.600 sometimes they give little reminders yeah that's fine i'm talking about those who are showing extravagance

00:05:04.500 yeah we're traveling here and there do you guys not believe that is irresponsible behavior and in a

00:05:09.620 nutshell i want to say showing off maybe it can be showing off but you're given a false perception

00:05:14.180 of marriage i think i think it does um one of the massive issue i have and you have limited it to

00:05:21.740 couples but i think many muslims are i mean or human beings are concerned by wife of a woman

00:05:27.740 overexposing men overexposing but you want to maybe target the topic to the couples and it is true 0.94

00:05:35.100 and it has even though we we like to say no i'm not influenced i'm very independent i have my own

00:05:41.000 perception that's not true because when all day long you keep swiping and seeing those things

00:05:45.940 you you you are affected even consciously you you are affected and one of the things i always remind

00:05:51.860 to my children or to my friends is that no one's showing the argument the bad the background you know

00:05:59.300 the reality of life and you know and it makes you feel like my life is purposeless those people

00:06:04.880 have a better life those people are exposing their blessings but they're not exposing the test that

00:06:09.200 comes with those blessings and people need to understand that that all the blessing that you

00:06:13.100 have you you you do not know about that test and sometimes it makes us ungrateful of all the amazing

00:06:20.500 blessing that allah has best born upon us we do not know what happens behind the scenes and the

00:06:25.620 reality of the love of the couple and it's really like you said a deformed reality and i definitely think

00:06:30.940 it has a negative impact on the marriages today that's for me or the perception of the marriage

00:06:36.140 um personally uh i believe in the intention of those who may be posting these things

00:06:47.500 so as somebody who does post content i cannot be a hypocrite and say that i do not post content i do post

00:06:54.580 content not of me and my husband not of my children but i do post content of cooking but my intention

00:07:02.260 my intention is to teach those women out there who may not know how to cook teach recipes you know show 1.00

00:07:10.220 you know anything to do with femininity but i wouldn't want to be judged based upon my content

00:07:15.900 however yes so the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when you have something good

00:07:22.360 you should cover it or you should hide it do not tell people what you may have or what you

00:07:28.120 you know what goodness you have um i i remember before i used to post i i know i keep bringing it back to

00:07:35.640 this but i used to post food during ramadan and i completely stopped doing that because there are

00:07:41.740 people out there who do not have food who cannot get married who cannot have children and they may

00:07:48.240 envy you and they may have this hurt and sadness and as muslims we are not supposed to afflict pain

00:07:57.160 onto others so i can agree with that point of view where if that may cause another person pain

00:08:04.840 or a hungry person to feel more hunger then it's best to refrain from it i also feel like it's

00:08:12.740 definitely down to your intentions like for example like you say like you didn't realize what you were

00:08:17.200 doing like when you were posting those things like uh sir taj and i we post things on social media

00:08:22.880 of our family lives of like you know just just daily lives of us and things like that and no we don't

00:08:30.280 post things about um if he's got on my nerves or whatever you know we won't post that but i also

00:08:37.380 feel like you've got to understand the intention behind people who don't post things for example

00:08:43.720 i won't go on there and post that we've had an argument or something but we will post to make

00:08:48.400 awareness that like you know there's lots of reasons why we do videos together and which some

00:08:54.200 people won't understand but at the same time i feel like everyone has to take social media with

00:09:00.680 a pinch of salt like you either everyone has a different take on things so if you are that person

00:09:06.920 who is easily easily influenced by social media and or if you are quite an envious person some people

00:09:13.560 are more so of some things than others like materialistic things and things like that or marriages 0.98

00:09:18.820 and relationships i feel like you need to know what your limits are and how much exposure you're

00:09:26.480 giving yourself to those things online on social media that's kind of my well what i want to say

00:09:32.160 social media is like a fake reality that's the way to look at it see a picture of someone looking so

00:09:38.380 happy but we don't know it's what's behind that picture you know i mean people take photos of

00:09:43.620 themselves looking happy because they're unhappy you know so the thing is that's the way to look at it

00:09:48.300 i mean yeah me and my wife do videos but we're trying to motivate the youngsters to happy have

00:09:53.280 a halal marriage have kids because nowadays people don't want that you know and alhamdulillah get 0.98

00:09:58.340 loads of people i looked at your video i want to have a good marriage i want to find a good wife i

00:10:02.660 want to have kids so that's the way we should use social media for a positive thing if you start

00:10:07.580 showing your life your cars they'll see these brothers get cars showing the cars off and all that

00:10:12.640 stuff and that's like it's just the wrong thing to do especially like showing this the couple like you

00:10:18.180 know a magic magic life and that is not true everyone knows that who's married that you have

00:10:23.120 good days and bad days and if you don't have good days and bad days you know you're not you don't

00:10:28.360 know you're married and that because you know every we all have up and downs and that but i say social

00:10:32.320 media is a fake reality that people we show that oh this is our life trying to um what you call it

00:10:38.520 promote this good life and in a happy life but it's not everyone i know on social media when you meet

00:10:44.260 in the real life they're depressing like they're depressed you know i mean they're thinking oh

00:10:49.000 you know this stuff but when you see them on social media with their new bag or the new car and stuff

00:10:54.380 and i'm thinking what are you doing bro you know it's true and by the way i've seen your guys content

00:10:58.920 by the way like i've seen etc there's some funny ones by the way yeah may allah bless you guys and

00:11:03.440 preserve your marriage yeah um and i'll be honest with you i don't see you guys in that category and i'm

00:11:07.720 not saying that because you guys are here i'll be very honest because if i did feel like i would not put

00:11:10.520 you on this specific episode um you guys are not there like showing like showing off like hey look

00:11:14.300 what i'm driving this that you guys are talking about family unit there is nothing wrong with

00:11:17.660 someone saying you know what for example this is how i discipline my kids for example if my me and

00:11:21.760 my wife have an argument that's educational i'm talking about these individuals who are totally

00:11:27.140 irresponsible in the sense of like you said maybe there are people who are not married yeah now this

00:11:32.420 doesn't mean you can't put i understand i understand do you know what i'm trying to say but the point

00:11:36.020 is this though you're putting a lifestyle and a facade this false reality yeah and you're making

00:11:41.120 it seem as if that is what marriage is and you have millions of youngsters single muslims who are

00:11:47.120 looking at this who are sisters who are married yeah sisters can be very delicate okay very delicate

00:11:52.260 they can be yes and they're coming into this marriage and then there's an argument that happens

00:11:56.500 and let's see the the husband raises his voice a bit and she's thinking rah bruv i was watching all

00:12:01.620 these videos it's not supposed to be like this i'm in an abusive marriage i'm like yo sister relax

00:12:06.220 yourself yeah like it's it's arguments happen you're going to raise your voice at him yeah there's

00:12:11.100 going to be things that's going to happen these are like my mom says the salt and pepper of

00:12:15.060 relationships of marriage so going to zishan and then brother shakir inshallah do you not believe

00:12:22.220 this is irresponsible to portray a certain lifestyle even if it means at the cost that millions of young

00:12:29.820 single muslims are going to watch this and bear in mind what we consume look if i have something bad

00:12:35.980 i'm going to vomit it out i'm have to go hospital we consume with our eyes and our thoughts yeah so 0.82

00:12:42.780 when it comes to movies because we were talking about the media when it comes to movies

00:12:47.000 um in movies the characters are always doing something there's always an activity there's always

00:12:53.320 a cataclysm there's always like a world event in which they need to work together or there's something

00:12:59.220 that will inspire that spark but unfortunately when you get married there there's there's no

00:13:05.000 cataclysm it's pretty mundane it's pretty boring and you have to create your own interest when you

00:13:11.400 look at social media again everyone's smiling everyone's happy but when you get married and one

00:13:17.260 person's coming home from work and you know the house is not clean or you have to you know make some

00:13:23.160 food and that food is not tasty like you start thinking like what what the hell is this yeah and

00:13:29.940 then even when you go outside you go outside you see everybody at restaurants they're sitting

00:13:35.640 together having a nice time the thing is we never get to see the negative aspects exactly we never get

00:13:41.160 to see the negative aspects so we think it's all rosy and cozy and the first day you see her without

00:13:45.600 makeup you're saying yeah because we hardly ever i see my teacher i see i see i see my teacher with

00:13:54.080 makeup i see you know every woman that i see on tv with a makeup in the magazines i see people with

00:13:58.920 makeup my neighbors wearing a makeup the dog's wearing a makeup i mean everyone's wearing the

00:14:03.880 makeup and then when i see my wife you know or you know whatever

00:14:08.880 no no my wife is not a level she's very careful don't come to me bro cut that because i will not 0.99

00:14:21.200 cut it bro no no no my wife knows you know but but the thing is that look when it comes to these 0.99

00:14:27.280 things we we have a very unrealistic expectation and the thing is i've heard of people as well that

00:14:33.560 when they get married they're like oh i hope we never get arguments i hope you don't get angry

00:14:37.640 anger is a part and parcel of life allah gets angry the prophet got angry sahaba got angry but

00:14:45.180 it's the way you express the anger and it's the way you recover and you deal with that anger that's

00:14:51.900 where the issues are are you going to get angry and say talaq talaq talaq or are you going to get

00:14:55.260 angry and say you know what i'm going to go take a half an hour break and then we resume after half

00:15:00.640 an hour yeah anger is normal and the thing is that look people that say oh no arguments look and

00:15:07.420 i would say to the social media guys as well we want to see more conflict resolution because that

00:15:11.880 is the biggest problem when conflict happens people just want to cut and go when you look at old

00:15:18.120 couples and they sit down and they ask for advice oh you know you're 99 years old how are you surviving

00:15:23.860 they say nowadays people just want to cut and run we when there were arguments we didn't want to cut

00:15:29.940 and run we wanted to resolve and join things so conflict resolution is so so important and if

00:15:37.600 that's more kind of normalized that look arguments happen and i give this analogy when an argument

00:15:42.700 happens yeah or it doesn't have to be an argument it could just be a discussion or debate why is it

00:15:47.280 seen as a bad thing or a negative thing if somebody is staying in a property for one day that person is

00:15:52.760 not going to whip out the paint the wallpaper they're not going to start fixing the floorboards that

00:15:57.680 person's only there for 24 hours they're just going to survive put the blanket down in the morning

00:16:01.800 they're gone if somebody plans to stay there they're going to tell you look babes you're putting 1.00

00:16:06.740 on a few pounds you know not say it like that but there's ways that you do it that like some

00:16:13.560 some partners they say look if you see or you want me to do something different please let me know

00:16:18.940 i don't want to find out in a different way i don't want it to come out in a in an argument or

00:16:22.900 something like that and there's ways that you do it you could say look uh should we you know watch

00:16:27.940 what we eat should we go jogging together should we you know get a subscription to the gym and the

00:16:32.560 other person they say you know sometimes even a sign is enough for the other person to kind of know

00:16:36.620 so these sorts of things are incredibly important and if a person is telling you and talking to you

00:16:42.140 and sometimes there are clashes that's a good sign it means they want to stay with you

00:16:46.300 somebody that's just letting you do whatever that person doing some madness behind

00:16:50.380 or somewhere else they're just trying to keep you sweet and trying to keep you happy

00:16:54.220 so look this this is this is this is real this is reality yeah when stuff goes wrong

00:17:01.100 that's good you're getting to know your partner and the thing is unfortunately and sadly because we are

00:17:06.980 not used to this and with the whole snowflake generation the whole i want to identify as a pogo

00:17:12.040 stick therefore i'm a pogo stick so it's like oh i'm sorry you didn't what's a pogo stick it's you

00:17:18.200 so so when when when someone you walked into that one ali sorry so so so the thing is when

00:17:26.480 i'm seeing there's so many clips like how dare you not say my pronoun oh my god i'm this i'm that

00:17:31.940 i'm feeling like this and i'm feeling like that this gender it's ridiculous you know this look 1.00

00:17:37.680 we're supposed to be people that should be able to handle pain handle hardship this is something

00:17:43.500 that builds character a marriage in which yeah i was gonna say a marriage sorry just one more

00:17:47.880 thing a marriage that is unrealistically unrealistically first unrealistically rosy and cozy

00:17:54.840 shut your mouth that's just that's just weird like that's that's not a relationship like you

00:17:59.320 like that person is not being honest and if they are not saying you're not progressing with each 0.92

00:18:05.260 other yeah like exchanging i was gonna say um i think as a umma we need to take accountability

00:18:15.020 for what we consume and what we watch yeah your favorite word so in terms of i think a lot of us

00:18:23.120 need to build mental toughness imagine we cannot even handle social media just imagine when the

00:18:30.120 the gel comes just imagine so if you cannot even handle social media influences and how it impacts

00:18:38.500 your life please you are not ready for the battle of this this actual life and umma and the day on the

00:18:46.200 air when we have to stand for 50 000 years come on we need to build mental toughness now for me

00:18:54.240 personally read books okay yeah even if even if look we're in a we're in a social media era yeah

00:19:02.480 everyone what we're watching i agree exactly that's what i'm saying so so nobody both to blame so is

00:19:09.100 okay who's to blame okay who's to blame the one that's consuming it the viewer as well

00:19:12.940 there's one thing there's one thing that's your mic yeah i was i was gonna say the the responsibility

00:19:19.720 the person inflicted the people creating the content are just as much victims of social media

00:19:27.240 as the ones who are consuming it so if if i know as a person look social media affects me i get jealous

00:19:37.420 i want this i am this i need this i want this i'm red eye every minute i want something somebody else

00:19:44.300 has get off social media go and read a book take accountability we cannot always blame the people

00:19:51.400 who are creating the content because again we are living in a social media era no people make money

00:19:57.860 from it but as okay so that means at the cost okay one second at the cost of look look look let me tell

00:20:03.380 you something yeah mike let me see i'll give it myself as an example yeah there's a lot of things that i

00:20:07.800 can do that i can include my wife in so much stuff well let me tell you something my channel will pop

00:20:12.620 off different level i don't and let me tell you something i have to beg my wife on certain videos

00:20:18.040 because she hates it i'll be honest with you and i hate it you know why because when she's in it and 0.54

00:20:22.220 then she's like can you blur here i'm like brother blurred everything out you're fully out she's like

00:20:26.440 no but my things i'm like allow me it's taken she's like and then we have that little arguments here

00:20:30.200 i'm like look you agree to her she's like yeah but i told you and i was like brother i'm doing a video

00:20:34.080 about her own relationship i need a woman that you're my wife i have to touch yeah so the thing is

00:20:38.640 of course i need you so we did one about um um i buy a new house or something like our house or

00:20:44.680 something like that yeah so i know people are gonna be nosy yeah like oh my gosh and that was

00:20:47.360 house so they didn't know that i was in i was in i was in a graveyard yeah okay so i was doing a video

00:20:51.340 in a graveyard and i saw like a bungalow looking house and this is a video i told my wife before

00:20:55.260 because i tell her my ideas yeah so she can help me uh develop them so i saw it and i called i said

00:20:59.400 listen get into the car i think she had the car i said get into the car and come here and she's like 1.00

00:21:03.180 why i said that video she said no no no i was like please you don't understand it's going to power video

00:21:06.740 yeah i had to beg her bro she came it was like a bungalow and i was like yeah this is my wife's

00:21:10.840 house and i said to her just say wow ali that's very nice yeah and she was like yeah she said

00:21:15.320 exactly i was like no it was so uh a little bit fake so then anyway so i opened the door and the

00:21:20.920 next clip is graveyard so i got this is our house that was the point of the video yeah there's a lot

00:21:25.660 of people nosy like oh my gosh where did they live i live in a one-bedroom house with um two three

00:21:29.980 kids uh two kids okay so it's that's the reality which you guys don't think you think i'm rich

00:21:34.380 millionaire i don't know what you think of me yeah okay that's the reality so i was given an

00:21:38.360 example but even in that instance i'm very very careful because i know it's a responsibility

00:21:43.580 if i show a certain lifestyle of hey look at me and my wife etc i know at the end of that video i

00:21:48.840 will never do that video if i know there is not a serious reminder that is the only conditions i use

00:21:54.300 that i try my best if we happen to go to holiday once a year whatever it may be yeah i do not to tell

00:21:59.780 people i don't want people people don't need to know do you know what i'm trying to say but i feel

00:22:03.700 as if today people are too busy living for others i have to show that person look how i'm living it

00:22:09.740 large be it my ex be it my friend be that person brother you're not even going holiday for yourself

00:22:14.820 even worse my brother they go plan holidays for the sake of instagram and social media thank you

00:22:20.200 they plan and go buy a gift exactly exactly only to show it exactly you're not even leaving the

00:22:24.800 moment exactly exactly and that that is a responsibility because what you're doing is

00:22:31.260 for the money the fame the view whatever it may be at the consequences of how many people you're going

00:22:36.120 to corrupt intentionally unintentionally of course intentions are very important i think the sister

00:22:39.660 said yeah very important the intentions are important and we're not saying what you're doing

00:22:43.560 is haram the point we're trying to say is are you that selfish to that level that you will portray

00:22:50.060 that i dare you i'm gonna we should start a movement yeah show us your argument put the camera

00:22:54.680 there and let me let me see you guys argue let me see you guys fight let me see that makeup in

00:22:58.540 the morning would be enough just exactly just that's what i'm trying to say so i don't i don't buy

00:23:03.960 that i don't buy that they are no i'm so sorry yeah they play a massive massive role because there

00:23:09.800 are social media influencers they have people that are going to follow them so they are responsible

00:23:14.180 i disagree with the thing but can i just say as muslims yeah like we have to think good of people

00:23:20.440 and i will say some of these social media influencers and muslim couples because we're

00:23:26.820 talking about muslim couples have actually in a way done a good thing because there is a benefit i see a

00:23:33.600 benefit in it because there there was a theme or a lot of people who didn't want to get married anymore

00:23:39.480 who don't think it's a good thing so they've kind of made it look cool again do you know what i mean so

00:23:44.600 actually there are the youth and the young people no even the non-muslim world but to see muslim

00:23:50.660 couples enjoying life and it's not this taboo boring relationship it is a good thing to see and

00:23:57.760 it's refreshing sometimes but then there's a line there's a line which people cross and i think

00:24:03.620 you know not just big influencers but just mediocre ones what they don't realize is with great power

00:24:09.840 comes great responsibility and i don't think they are equipped to handle that responsibility

00:24:13.740 and not just that i think it's like what is your motive what is your intention why are you even

00:24:17.900 putting it out there if you're really that truly grateful for what you have go thank allah why are

00:24:21.820 you telling me i don't i don't need to see it and the other thing is it's like for sisters and

00:24:26.020 brothers who are on social media first of all why are you even on there i personally don't think we

00:24:30.700 need social media yes it can be helpful but again if that's the case know your boundaries if you

00:24:36.680 can understand that this is affecting me get off it do a detox create those boundaries within

00:24:41.540 yourself because after all you're going to be responsible for your time that you've invested

00:24:44.600 in social media which is basically what you know benefit whereas if you had read the quran you would 1.00

00:24:48.320 have gotten something with allah and the complexity on the attention as well why are they doing it now

00:24:53.080 we i see this trend of videos the routine they're getting out doing their bed praying this a lot and

00:24:59.080 that's again why why are you doing it you're wrong no i'm not saying before you before i do

00:25:06.000 bro before you do before you speak can we just wow ali you see you see why i don't speak on their

00:25:11.740 podcast last time i didn't speak i got blamed for it this is why you know why he doesn't let you

00:25:15.580 speak on his podcast i'm not speaking no more you prepared you prepared he was in his floor bro

00:25:20.220 didn't didn't feed me nothing i'm sitting there wasting away finish your podcast now

00:25:26.540 no go on okay you can speak

00:25:28.740 i forgot what i said i'm just gonna say the honorable shikha's gonna speak now

00:25:34.800 no anyway i'm joking about everyone's wrong but i just have a slight disagreement and i agree on

00:25:39.560 some points yeah so first and foremost down to people's intentions we never know what people's

00:25:44.740 intentions are yeah there are some people and some muslims that might go and they just want to show

00:25:48.980 their lifestyle off and they they might have like you know uh they're just they're just not sincere

00:25:53.760 with their intentions however like sister mirror said uh there are couples out there that might just

00:25:58.560 want to show hey do you know what you can be married and still be lit you can be married and still have

00:26:03.960 fun you can you can still be married as a couple um and go and travel the world and have like a really

00:26:09.720 um kind of luxurious lifestyle and i think everyone in this room is probably at a certain age where

00:26:17.080 we're coming into like our mature years now so we're speaking from our point of view of being

00:26:21.780 now adults however there's a lot of teenagers out there and from what they have seen when it comes to

00:26:27.040 being a muslim couple it's very boring it's very blank it's they have that stereotype like you know 0.54

00:26:33.280 the woman just stays at home all day and just cooks and the man just comes and works and he just 0.99

00:26:37.960 comes home and he's a grumpy old man so i feel like when you are seeing these things uh even even me

00:26:44.760 i go on social media and i see some muslim couples i'm like do you know what it looks really cool i

00:26:50.180 can't wait to get married beforehand i'm not gonna lie that maybe that same stereotype entered my mind

00:26:55.060 where i'm like oh i feel like it's just a burden i'm gonna get burdened all the time not saying that

00:27:00.220 is by the way but do you not have a certain expectation when you watch that do you not say

00:27:03.460 like okay because when you watch it i think the words we're using is the wrong words it doesn't turn

00:27:09.240 as i let's turn let's change the word from expectation to aspiration uh bro it just depends

00:27:16.740 bro like it depends what you want transforming to bro expectation we can we can tomato tomato we

00:27:22.220 can do this all day long but what i'm trying to say here is it depends how we uh discipline

00:27:27.140 ourselves now i won't sit sit down all day long and watch a social media couple and lust over their

00:27:32.240 lifestyle because i'm gonna know it's not a reality maybe however but the woman the woman the females do 1.00

00:27:37.520 no i i do understand yeah but at the same time me i wouldn't i wouldn't look and be like yeah

00:27:41.660 no i'm saying me as a grown man bro as a grown man yeah that's what i'm saying i've got no pride

00:27:47.940 when i come in these podcasts as a grown man i'm saying i look at couple muslim couples and i'm like

00:27:52.860 mashallah that is so cool like that's so lit like i can't wait to do that but i've even been i've even

00:27:58.560 considered oh would i even be one of them couples that is all cute and does them little cute videos 0.99

00:28:03.320 yes i probably got too much jealousy i don't know to see my wife but i it's i i do find it quite

00:28:08.380 nice that i but okay when it comes to a whip to women it's just like i don't know man i just feel 1.00

00:28:13.100 like i just feel like we're nitpicking a little bit yeah because there's so many other worse things

00:28:17.100 we could look on our screens no you know why you're saying that that's not a do you know do you know

00:28:20.380 why you're saying that shakir because why do you keep saying it's not the topic no no one second

00:28:23.180 it's about 12 times shakir you know why you're saying that because you're a man all of us when we're

00:28:27.740 talking about we would never be like oh time for that yeah it's nice i'll do that with my wife

00:28:32.620 yeah go jet ski okay what is the problem though because i don't even hear the problem what is

00:28:35.980 the problem as men it doesn't have an impact as much as dusty sisters yeah the misconception

00:28:40.840 let me tell you something for us as men is aspiration for women is expectation she will

00:28:48.500 be unhappy with you as a husband exactly because you are not doing the same thing that that husband's

00:28:52.900 doing on the social media that's what we're talking about we're aspiring we're expecting so

00:28:57.020 just gonna watch this video and by the way before i start um women need one second have some 1.00

00:29:02.140 discipline too no you can't just see something and then just lust for it i'm sorry that's in the

00:29:06.940 nature ain't that degrading you women guys guys one second i forgot to mention uh our sponsors 1.00

00:29:12.500 nature's blend may allah bless them because a lot of money effort goes into this hiring the team etc

00:29:16.720 um shilajit for the brothers strong come on big man thing a black seed oil capsules

00:29:21.600 honey you name it alhamdulillah they have it may allah bless you check inshallah especially for

00:29:25.460 ramadan brothers sisters they help this podcast happen may allah bless them inshallah get into the

00:29:29.680 topic i'm going to show you guys a video and once again um may allah protect this couple from envy

00:29:34.080 jealousy they're going to have a child may allah bless that child we're just watching it to

00:29:38.140 understand inshallah so here it is i don't know where i'm going to put it i'll let you guys see it

00:29:41.620 first can we see as well ali no you can definitely come to see

00:29:44.280 oh my god is that music yes ali yeah i would have been that okay sorry i didn't know

00:29:51.120 i actually really like them can we move on now yeah how do you know i like these

00:29:58.400 okay so so for the brothers for the brothers quickly for the brothers again there we go so

00:30:02.920 this is the this is the brother sister i don't see nothing wrong with that i've shown you i've

00:30:07.800 shown you them before haven't i yeah okay yeah i can see why though so okay look guys guys yeah

00:30:12.540 look look again yeah we asked allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to preserve their marriage protect them

00:30:16.220 from envy jealousy may allah may allah allow them to have more children the point is the following

00:30:21.560 when a young girl looks at that yeah as men we aspire they have expectations yeah no that's not

00:30:28.620 problem from us no no no ali wait wait wait so so there's two things here thank you

00:30:33.400 so the thing is there's there's two different perspectives and views here yeah

00:30:42.440 now i actually agree with shakil and the sister as well because she said for people that aren't that

00:30:49.860 aware of muslim marriages it does seem very plain very boring in fact we don't see it it's not 1.00

00:30:55.400 represented in the media it's not taught and in fact muslim couples are told uh per islam to kind

00:31:03.400 of keep their romances and stuff like that secret not to do public shows showings of affection so now

00:31:10.360 their lifestyle seems better than our lifestyle so when you do see couples uh doing coupley things

00:31:17.500 and it's appealing i think that's actually healthy however so that's with some people now with other

00:31:23.420 people that have kind of gone past that and said okay i'm i'm okay i i know that we can also be happy

00:31:30.080 as well now it goes to the next level which is is that what we're seeing is that realistic and not

00:31:37.100 everybody can discern between realistic non-realistic not everybody has those kind of mental

00:31:42.860 blocks in place how because when we're young from a very small age when it comes to drinking when it

00:31:48.820 comes to um voting when it comes to everything else 16 or 18 when it comes to the same things the same

00:31:55.660 dopamine release little kids as young as five and six are getting that same dopamine release that 16 18

00:32:01.480 year old is getting so you cannot now expect a child to and and being a school teacher as well

00:32:07.440 when i tell parents look don't let your child have a phone majority if not all parents say oh but they're

00:32:15.360 gonna come home they have to have a phone and this and that when it comes to social media they always

00:32:20.500 come and cry and i say look if your child's on tiktok you should be a mufti of tiktok yeah you should be a 0.74

00:32:26.320 of tiktok like you need to know that upside down

00:32:30.140 well okay so you need to know that app that your child's on but the thing is parents unfortunately

00:32:38.800 because of capitalism and stuff like that they're not home and because of the topics that we've been

00:32:43.600 talking about absent fathers and stuff like that parents can't keep on top of this stuff so social

00:32:48.020 media given to a child is like arming them like to their teeth that child cannot handle that so

00:32:54.480 expecting them to control and stuff like that it's going to be very difficult to maneuver around and

00:32:59.880 it's going to spill onto videos like this the gen z's are not going to be able to say okay i can

00:33:05.020 descend from this or i can tell this or i can do that so the thing is that shaquille's thing i see

00:33:11.200 does make sense because some people do need to know that aspect but to a point that okay i get it now

00:33:18.160 but now what happens where do you stop that everyone is trying to do it no but that's the thing you

00:33:23.480 you can't now say that everybody has to give a realistic view of marriage that's the thing not

00:33:29.320 every social media person can be seen to know you have to tick all five boxes some people are going

00:33:35.200 to tick two boxes some are going to tick three boxes it's unrealistic to say every social is it so hard

00:33:40.200 not to show your lifestyle is it so really hard like i'm trying to understand it's so hard that i

00:33:44.520 bought i bought something for my wife but ali it's not it's actually not natural it's actually not 0.87

00:33:48.840 natural to to start you know get up in the morning say i look like a piece of crap and yeah i'm gonna 0.99

00:33:54.420 take a selfie and just post it no we don't want to see your piece of crap face to that person and we 0.99

00:33:59.280 don't want to see your glamorous face yeah both of them are fake because in the morning you know you 0.99

00:34:03.880 look better i'm sure and when you wear makeup or for some brothers whatever maybe it's all fake

00:34:08.200 we're seeing we don't want to see it can i do my yeah yeah do your thing so you've got one and a half

00:34:13.740 so firstly i just want to touch upon the point and this little excuse that we're giving women to

00:34:20.600 be jealous yeah hasad is a sin to be jealous and envious yeah it's it's no but it's a sin

00:34:30.340 and if you are afflicted with jealousy work on that pray on it work on it because it will guess what

00:34:37.980 jealousy kills you first before it kills anybody else so we need to firstly stop giving women 1.00

00:34:44.120 excuses because i'm not a jealous person not all women are jealous everyone is jealous some women

00:34:49.240 have i personally wallahi i don't ever look at somebody's life and think i want it yes i can feel

00:34:56.160 inspired okay but that excuse of women being jealous it makes them get away with a lot of bad 1.00

00:35:03.480 behavior and and it they get bitter and it's like oh i'm just a woman i'm just a woman i i can be

00:35:10.520 jealous no it's you will go to your grave alone and if you have a mustard seed of hasad which you've

00:35:18.900 allowed to overtake your life it's very dangerous yeah and furthermore arrogance jealousy whatever the

00:35:26.980 case may be but furthermore 10 seconds uh social media yes i agree if we overshare if we put on there

00:35:36.880 and the intention is wrong and you're you're doing it to show others that you are better okay i can see

00:35:43.640 that point yeah but there are benefits to like zishan said brother zishan said you know we need that

00:35:51.460 representation we do it's like it's like alcohol it's a fantasy representation i do not mind i can

00:35:59.340 agree with what brother shakley said with the what brother zishan and you said if it is realistic

00:36:05.060 exactly i like the fact that they're showing okay the good party encourage our daughters to trust men

00:36:10.620 again and men to trust sisters again and to see the happiness of marriage but they need to show

00:36:15.820 problem solving struggle complications communications exactly and and how they are

00:36:21.740 navigating through the marriage exactly otherwise you're going to expect the person marriage it's

00:36:26.400 like allah says in the quran it's like allah says in the quran there's benefits to alcohol but the

00:36:29.760 but the harm is greater so we cannot say that the harm is catastrophic bro bro look at the divorce

00:36:36.220 you can't compare alcohol bro bro bro bro bro let me tell you something i can't i can't make a

00:36:40.720 comparison what i'm saying is this year can we come and say the harms the good outweighs the harm no

00:36:45.380 way bro there's you know how many people are getting divorced the divorce rates are crazy bro 0.72

00:36:50.300 people think i started the show for a joke i was bored at home and i thought our bitter truth

00:36:53.600 i know let me make some views and fame and whatever it may be bro i see this in front of me people are

00:36:58.580 getting divorced left right center bro and these social media i'm so sorry they play they play a

00:37:05.640 massive role because the thing is look that sister i agree with you in one sense but give the 1.00

00:37:10.800 responsibility and accountability accountability to the viewers so let me finish my point

00:37:15.060 please let me finish it and then you can go on the left yeah please because otherwise i'll be

00:37:17.600 taken out of context yeah if you go to that sister or the sisters who are doing these things and you

00:37:21.520 said to them do you feel jealous or somebody else i don't feel jealous at all you know why because

00:37:25.340 you've got everything and you're doing it of course you're not going to be jealous you think you're

00:37:28.580 going to be jealous if i had everything going for me and i'm like i don't feel jealous at all

00:37:33.140 of course if you're jealous what else do you want what else do you want so the point is they are

00:37:38.660 irresponsible i believe they are responsible i can remember there's levels her life though bro

00:37:42.680 i just want to say that i want to remind the accountability of the viewers you are watching

00:37:49.060 them you are following them so don't complain if you do not have their lives or whatever i'm just

00:37:53.600 saying that we should filter if i am feeling envious or i'm feeling that you know like whenever i follow

00:37:59.040 someone and i have this vibe like oh oh i don't have this oh i unfollow unhealthy what is she's

00:38:05.820 giving me even a smile even on muslim i follow them i don't mind as long as they're giving me 0.97

00:38:10.200 something we have to be more careful more responsible on who we follow and who we allow

00:38:15.840 to influence us nobody is as strong like you though sister not everyone can say i'm going

00:38:19.840 down no i'm just like the brother said like you know like those blockage those mind blockage

00:38:24.000 when you can differentiate reality and life many young people who are influenced by materialism are going to be

00:38:28.680 like i know i'll just unfollow they're going to be like no i want that lifestyle but we have

00:38:31.860 we're going to wrap up five minutes this is ira um just about this particular sister correct me if

00:38:42.740 i'm wrong so i do follow her in fact and um i think she actually shared an issue that she had which

00:38:49.500 was infertility which was really helpful to see especially for someone like my friend for example

00:38:55.160 was always going it's going through something similar so it was really nice to see that but i

00:38:59.020 think at the same time it's like this goes in regards to everything in this dunia like we can't

00:39:04.120 control people's actions but we must learn at all costs to control our own reaction whether this is

00:39:11.400 social media whether this is a conflict outside of home whatever it may be and i think if you know

00:39:16.980 it's like i mean there are some people that i follow and these people bless their hearts they are

00:39:22.540 like villagers and they have nothing going for them yet they have like they do work in a way you

00:39:27.940 know like they just show the bare basics of what they're doing you know how difficult their life is

00:39:33.260 and well like it grounds me so much and i think that's that's what we should be following that's

00:39:39.120 what we should be you know looking at use social media as a platform to remind yourself of how grateful

00:39:44.660 you should be and how blessed you are not other things that you're lacking it's okay to look at

00:39:49.540 something that you want but don't forget about what allah has blessed you with and what you

00:39:53.200 currently have as well because the minute you start to bring in the what ifs and oh if only

00:39:58.800 that's literally the minute you're handing your power over to the devil

00:40:01.680 yeah sorry bro i just want to say social media opposition is true because you see people like

00:40:09.340 about that prime drink people just watching it they didn't it didn't even taste nice but people watch

00:40:14.140 it so much that they wouldn't buy it you know i mean so the thing is when we see so things on social

00:40:19.420 media we need to control ourselves and really people are getting addicted to social media like

00:40:25.160 they're brainwashing like i'll say if you watch like a fast and furious film you get in your car and

00:40:29.580 you think you're driving fast but it just like it brainwashing us and that you know i mean so the

00:40:34.020 thing is we have to think about these things that what we're watching and what we're putting out there

00:40:38.960 the thing is when i put social media videos out there i want to see if kids can watch it and

00:40:44.300 everyone else can watch it what they're gonna if i'm giving good advice what they're gonna get out

00:40:48.100 of it you know i mean if they're gonna pick good advice because me and me and my wife done a video

00:40:51.720 that you know if you have an argument don't sleep on it you know i mean make sure you sort it out

00:40:55.560 before you go you know so things like that yeah that's what we need to pass on and that you know

00:40:59.700 so the thing is like you know there's all this uh i do feel like sorry to interrupt sag but i do feel

00:41:04.980 like the couple that we just watched on there and there's loads of other videos like that and

00:41:09.460 tiktokers like it but i feel like they do more good than bad for other people so that might inspire

00:41:16.660 other people to um yeah i mean that might be you might disagree but i feel like they do more good

00:41:23.180 than bad because i feel like you're on social media and you've opened yourself up you could open

00:41:29.380 yourself up to much worse on social media than seeing a happy halal marriage can we talk about 0.99

00:41:36.780 kind of just touching on that point you're right because you know what it is look when we look at

00:41:40.780 from face value what are they doing wrong nothing they're married they're showing like they're going

00:41:45.280 places you can nobody can come and see what they're doing is haram when we look at this certain there's

00:41:49.860 direct consequences and there's indirect consequences sometimes you do a and it's like this is haram

00:41:54.360 a consequence a ripple effect there are certain things that are done that have ripple effects

00:42:00.220 which are consequences which are greater if a majority of young or single muslim women males and 0.56

00:42:07.480 females are watching this and i have an expectation by the way i don't believe these these couples have 1.00

00:42:12.320 an intention of waking up to destroy marriages no way i assume the best that they're just doing it to 0.99

00:42:16.760 motivate 100 that's what i have i'm not blaming them in the sense what i'm saying it's not them

00:42:22.160 yeah it can have that effect you know why sister it gives a false expectation now if young muslims 0.97

00:42:28.320 are watching this and they have this false expectation and they are getting married and

00:42:32.460 realizing hold on a second i didn't expect to be like this probably it's like me watching superman

00:42:36.140 and saying rah let me put a cape on and jump from the 10th floor and i'm like i die and i go oh why

00:42:39.460 did that go are we 10 years old because it's fake yeah it's it's fake no that's the reason hello

00:42:43.640 the example is a bit extreme but no no no it's isn't but no you know no one second one second one second

00:42:48.740 one second why once one second guys one second why why one second why is it extreme if the if a

00:42:54.680 person has been brainwashed to a level where they're consuming something so much so that they

00:42:59.260 believe that there is true in marriage and then if somebody watches something and he goes and by the

00:43:05.040 way forgive me educational purposes do you know how many men watch pornography oh no okay okay one

00:43:10.920 second and they watch pornography and have a false imagination of how intimacy should their wives do you 1.00

00:43:16.880 know how many shahitam tells me they come to the sharia councils bro forgive me they don't even have 0.99

00:43:22.180 intimacy with their partners let me put it like this they can't have intimacy with their partners

00:43:26.020 without going into detail yeah because their brain is wired the dopamine is wired to a fake reality

00:43:31.380 so much so that their wife doesn't even do anything to them bro so this is how detrimental is and that's

00:43:37.580 of course it's something very very haram but the point is this when these couples come out and put this

00:43:42.340 lifestyle it is irresponsible i don't need to see your life bro enjoy it may allah give you more

00:43:48.020 the point is this if you're going to show me all that beautiful side to it or 10 seconds or whatever

00:43:52.840 it may be which is not real please show me the times where you're fighting each other and throwing

00:43:55.980 plates at each other's head yeah oh not that you guys are doing that but if you're doing that i want

00:43:59.700 to see both sides if you're going to be honest if you're going to be just i want to see the dark

00:44:03.660 the ugly and i want to see the good show me that oh you just want to show me the good side

00:44:07.760 why just the good side so can we just mention another issue i have no issue with this couple

00:44:14.080 may allah bless them i don't think they have bad intention and i don't want to talk about the

00:44:18.020 couple but the phenomena because like the thousands and thousands of people are following another issue

00:44:22.980 that we didn't speak about is the fact that husbands wives on videos and now women are expecting

00:44:30.860 and demanding and they're having conflict because they want to be on social media and they want their

00:44:36.180 husband to be on social media and this is for them couple goals that's that's something easy fame

00:44:43.540 it's easy fame and they want it and they want the man to go against his fitra to protect his wife

00:44:49.160 from exposure it's it's a normal thing for a man and it's a natural thing now men are complaining

00:44:55.540 because their wives are is causing fitna in the marriage because they don't like 0.99

00:45:00.080 show they don't like when the wife exposed he has a hack on what you're going to show on social

00:45:04.960 media uh if you're going to show yourself or show the house that's his house too that's his life too

00:45:09.720 and it's becoming a conflict not because of the couple but because as well of obviously what we

00:45:15.600 are allowing like in our lives and we need to wrap up just want to say that life is not a fairy tale

00:45:22.300 so if you watch something on social media it's not real life and this is one i say to the youngsters

00:45:27.420 and that you know it's the younger sisters and the brothers i just want to say to you life is

00:45:32.060 not fairy tale like me and my wife worked really hard for where we are we still have our bad days

00:45:37.800 good days but we work on it so anything you see on social media looks like a fairy tale is not real

00:45:43.580 and the other thing i wanted to say was um we were talking about control

00:45:49.560 and the thing is control if you look from a kind of secular point of view it's very kind of

00:45:57.600 unrealistic to attain islam is one of the well it's the only most practical way for us to attain 1.00

00:46:04.000 control in fact about a week's time we're going to be fasting from dusk till dawn and that's something

00:46:09.280 that the whole ummah will be doing collectively so control is something that again it's it's all

00:46:14.700 well and good telling us look have control and unsubscribe but the thing is islam will equip you

00:46:19.820 to to practically do those things that's why you see certain prominent atheists on stage they'll be

00:46:24.860 saying all this like christopher hitchens but when he comes off stage he's a he used to be an addict of

00:46:29.140 whiskey so the thing is that you know it's important for us to kind of understand that you know on the one

00:46:36.020 hand you know we do need to kind of control ourselves but on the other hand on the other

00:46:42.000 hand it's islam that can equip ourselves to do that and the thing is the second point i skipped my

00:46:46.840 head but maybe you can come back to me so i don't want it to go on a negative thing as if i was

00:46:50.800 promoting it because it kind of seemed like that that i'm like there's nothing wrong with it

00:46:53.900 my point was that i don't think it's as bad as your uh as you might think it is i'm not saying for

00:47:00.200 people to go and just do it but i just don't think it's really really bad because what my concern is

00:47:05.160 you know how fast the muslim umrah are quick to start judging people these lovely brothers and

00:47:09.700 sisters now will wake up in the morning and see comments like look at you day look at you showing

00:47:14.060 off your lifestyle regardless of what they are i just know i just i just don't think what they're

00:47:20.540 doing is evil i feel like maybe everything can balance and like you said maybe do it in a just

00:47:25.500 way where you i don't think you need to show the bad because i don't think that's an islamic 0.93

00:47:29.140 etiquette i don't know why people want me to show the bad in my life but um

00:47:33.780 yeah but who wants to see we must we show the truth if you you don't you cannot show only one

00:47:40.480 do you want to see me arguing with my wife yeah you know you know the people no no only only if

00:47:47.180 you are showing us the past where you're not showing everything else okay look we haven't

00:47:50.780 each to their own but anyway my point was just balance balance i just don't think that um yeah

00:47:55.180 i agree with you i don't think it should be rammed down your throat of nothing but good because

00:47:58.880 anything in the extreme even if it is halal anything in extreme yes it's bad and even when 0.95

00:48:03.800 it comes to diet too much water is bad you know what i'm trying to say so i feel like balance and

00:48:08.140 maybe yeah not just show good good good good good because it can cause jealousy everything

00:48:12.280 can balance was just my point but i just don't think it's evil what they're doing true of course i

00:48:16.880 don't i don't believe they intend evil um uh and that's the point brother and sister

00:48:20.260 yeah i remembered my point yeah so uh no uh

00:48:22.520 no no no this instagram is beneficial who's instagram i was social media yeah

00:48:29.220 so just as a because you said resolve con uh you know like conflict uh resolution and things like

00:48:37.020 that us me and a few of the sisters ira and fahima we have a muslim mothers support forum for women

00:48:45.300 who are going through divorce so that we can mediate and allow a healthy co-parenting

00:48:51.900 situation so follow that are you guys doing that with the brothers yes okay brilliant makes sense

00:48:56.880 with the pizza okay so one of the things i wanted to say was uh escapism yeah yeah a lot of people go

00:49:06.880 to social media for escapism and social media is actually going to get worse with um ai artificial

00:49:12.680 intelligence and you know putting vr goggles and stuff like that so the thing is we need to look

00:49:17.380 at the root causes like why why are people escaping why do people want to escape because they're not

00:49:23.320 happy with reality and the thing is it's that sort of stuff we need to be looking at people are looking

00:49:27.800 at social media couples because they're unhappy with their own relationship they're looking at

00:49:31.800 idealistic women because they're unhappy with their own wife they're looking at you know certain 1.00

00:49:36.140 people exploring the world because they're unhappy with their life so that is you know something that

00:49:41.000 really should be explored not as simple as oh don't watch this don't watch that i mean let's take a

00:49:46.000 stock at why you feel the need to watch that or why do you feel the need to post your picture maybe

00:49:51.580 that person generally speaking it was actually an interview where a person a celebrity was saying

00:49:55.980 when i see a selfie of somebody i genuinely think that that person just wants love for that day

00:50:00.720 and maybe they're not getting it and they need that kind of validation from from strangers and other

00:50:05.860 people so so rather than us saying like social media this so there are deep rooted issues and it

00:50:13.000 is in the psyche of people like although we it's it's social media we become very unsocial we become

00:50:18.820 very awkward with each other we become very sensitive you know all of these labels oh adhd autism

00:50:25.900 there are persons going around like like 17 labels oh i'm this i'm that i can't have dairy i can't do

00:50:31.120 this well what can you do exactly so so the thing is there's a lot of things to kind of consider when

00:50:35.600 it comes to this as well and you know if somebody is doing that kind of i think it's important to

00:50:41.100 train yourself and train your children to kind of rather than plucking at the leaves and the branches

00:50:45.440 look at the roots of the issue as long as we try to look for the roots like why is that person

00:50:49.980 putting up a picture why like harry potter we're watching harry potter let's see the behind the scenes

00:50:54.660 look how much green screen they're using look at the time it takes them to do makeup look at

00:50:58.660 harmani without makeup and stuff like that exactly what i'm saying you've got a big problem with

00:51:02.960 makeup without makeup i don't know who harmani is

00:51:05.320 so guys in a nutshell uh one thing that i'll give inshallah is an advice to everybody is understand

00:51:17.340 that allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has created two realities yeah there's the physical reality and

00:51:21.440 there's a metaphysical reality yeah the metaphysical reality is something you do not see

00:51:24.600 there is jinns they are shayateen there are evil eye we do not understand how severe that is if i

00:51:30.760 told you guys there is somebody asking you to kill you you'll call the police you'll make sure

00:51:34.380 somebody is next to you bulletproof vest armored cars we're saying there are shayateen on your case 0.99

00:51:40.640 wallahi we do not understand do you give that emphasis to protection how many people doing the

00:51:44.800 adhkar bro how many if you're a public figure you're not doing the adhkar wallahi it's as if

00:51:48.940 get a garnish of yourself not literally but you might as well the point is you are in danger and

00:51:54.880 what we're telling social media couples you are sabotaging your marriage do you know millions of

00:51:59.980 people looking at your marriage wallahi it's by allah's mercy that doesn't touch you and we know in

00:52:05.600 surah yusuf allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talks and says to his father to his own brothers don't mention

00:52:11.520 your dream to your own brothers biological brothers and we've got people forget your brothers

00:52:18.160 people who hate your guts but they want you to die who are watching you and you're showing them look

00:52:23.040 what i'm doing wallahi it's by allah's mercy that your marriage and may allah protect you and is in

00:52:28.520 tag wallahi it's as if allah's got a shield if that was to take him for a second these eyes will

00:52:34.060 destroy and crumble in minutes brothers and sisters from the bitter truth show till next time

00:52:38.080 assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said

00:52:42.880 whoever builds a masjid for the sake of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allah will build for him

00:52:47.740 a similar house in jannah on that day where allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us that our books will be

00:52:53.300 given and every little atom weight of good deed will be there and imagine you see a mountain and

00:53:00.180 you're like what a lucky person which righteous person and allah says this is for you for me yes

00:53:06.460 what did i do you allow people to pray you built a masjid i never had the money to build a masjid

00:53:12.060 oh allah you helped you gave towards it and allah gives you the reward of as if you've built it

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Ali Dawah - August 11, 2023

IRRESPONSIBLE INSTAGRAM COUPLES RUINING MARRIAGES？ - EP 13 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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