Ali Dawah - January 15, 2022


＂ISLAM MISTREATS WOMAN＂ - BETHANY & MUSLIM


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19 minutes

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4,262

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Misogyny

68

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Toxicity

71

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Hate speech

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In this episode, we talk about what it means to be a Muslim woman in the modern world, and why we need to protect the rights of women in the Muslim religion. We discuss the concept of female empowerment in Islam, and how it relates to women in modern society.

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00:00:21.920 I like women for example as well, the religion is very oppressive of women 1.00
00:00:29.920 How? What's aggressive about it?
00:00:31.920 Well in terms of teaching and education, going to school, dressing and how they dress
00:00:37.920 Oh you can't go to school, who said you can't go to school?
00:00:39.920 Lots of cultures of Muslims and religions
00:00:41.920 No, not Muslim religion, Islam, I want to talk about Islam
00:00:45.920 But what Muslims do aside is Islam and there's Muslims 1.00
00:00:47.920 There are Muslims who go and commit atrocities and blow themselves up 0.99
00:00:49.920 Islam and Muslims are two separate discussions 1.00
00:00:53.920 Women are allowed to education 0.89
00:00:56.920 Women are allowed to education 0.89
00:00:57.920 The rights that women got in Islam 1400 years ago 0.99
00:01:00.920 The Western women got 100 years ago 1.00
00:01:02.920 The right to inherit 0.75
00:01:03.920 Before, women was inherited 1.00
00:01:05.920 She was a product
00:01:06.920 She was inherited
00:01:08.920 The fact that you don't need to
00:01:09.920 As a Muslim, like my wife doesn't have to take my surname
00:01:12.920 This was 100 years ago when we did a feminist 1.00
00:01:15.920 The right to work, the right to own property
00:01:17.920 Yeah, the right for maher
00:01:19.920 For example
00:01:20.920 As
00:01:21.920 If you, for example
00:01:22.920 You as a Muslim woman
00:01:23.920 If I was to marry
00:01:24.920 If I was to argue and say
00:01:25.920 Let's suppose somebody propose to you
00:01:26.920 Yeah?
00:01:27.920 They have to go about it in a certain way
00:01:28.920 They have to speak to your dad
00:01:29.920 Do you know why they have to speak to your dad?
00:01:31.920 Because
00:01:33.920 A lot of the Western women fought for this trap of dating 1.00
00:01:35.920 I believe it is the biggest fraud
00:01:37.920 Because all you do is
00:01:38.920 You are coming across men 0.84
00:01:39.920 You have no idea what their gender is
00:01:41.920 And you are committing to them
00:01:42.920 And falling in love with them
00:01:43.920 And they are all after one thing
00:01:44.920 And they leave you broken
00:01:45.920 And they leave
00:01:46.920 Yes?
00:01:47.920 No?
00:01:48.920 Tell me why not
00:01:49.920 Tell me why not
00:01:50.920 I would argue that lots of Muslim women 1.00
00:01:52.920 Religious women
00:01:53.920 Yeah
00:01:54.920 In general
00:01:55.920 Stay in unhappy marriages
00:01:56.920 But where did you get that from?
00:01:57.920 Because
00:01:58.920 Because
00:01:59.920 The idea of divorce
00:02:00.920 Isstam is not in divorce
00:02:01.920 Not at all
00:02:02.920 In Islam you are allowed to get divorced 1.00
00:02:03.920 Actually Islam is
00:02:04.920 Islam is
00:02:05.920 One of the only religions 0.99
00:02:06.920 That allows a woman to get divorced 1.00
00:02:07.920 She has a right to divorce 0.98
00:02:09.920 Jews 0.99
00:02:10.920 Jewish
00:02:11.920 In the Jewish religion
00:02:12.920 A woman is not allowed to 1.00
00:02:13.920 It's called the get
00:02:14.920 She is not allowed to get that 0.97
00:02:15.920 Until
00:02:16.920 It's quite ironic
00:02:17.920 She is not allowed to get the get 0.92
00:02:18.920 Unless her husband allows it
00:02:19.920 So there was a documentary on
00:02:20.920 I think Netflix
00:02:21.920 Which shows these women 0.97
00:02:22.920 That are still stuck with their husband 0.83
00:02:24.920 In Islam
00:02:25.920 A woman has a right to divorce 1.00
00:02:26.920 This was also by
00:02:27.920 In the western world
00:02:28.920 If I am not mistaken
00:02:29.920 The western woman
00:02:30.920 Feminism
00:02:31.920 In the past 100 years
00:02:32.920 I don't think they had a right to divorce
00:02:34.920 If I am not mistaken
00:02:35.920 1400 years ago
00:02:36.920 God almighty
00:02:37.920 I think they are Christian
00:02:38.920 Whatever it may be
00:02:39.920 But you said
00:02:41.920 Islam oppresses women 1.00
00:02:42.920 Islam gave the woman a right to divorce 1.00
00:02:44.920 She has a right to divorce 0.98
00:02:45.920 You know if a woman 1.00
00:02:46.920 Is not sexually pleased
00:02:47.920 Satisfied
00:02:48.920 Sexually satisfied with her husband
00:02:49.920 She can aspire for divorce 0.99
00:02:50.920 This is true
00:02:51.920 Yeah
00:02:52.920 So the thing is here sister
00:02:53.920 The things that you may have heard
00:02:54.920 In the newspaper
00:02:55.920 Wherever it may be
00:02:56.920 Is false
00:02:57.920 Islam gives 1.00
00:02:58.920 Coming back to a man
00:02:59.920 Wanting to marry you
00:03:00.920 For example
00:03:01.920 If he wants to marry
00:03:02.920 He has to speak to your dad
00:03:03.920 Is because
00:03:04.920 If he has any ulterior motives
00:03:06.920 Yeah
00:03:07.920 He would not want to speak to your dad
00:03:08.920 Number 2
00:03:09.920 That
00:03:10.920 If you do get married to him
00:03:11.920 You have a right for a dowry
00:03:12.920 You know what a dowry is? 0.59
00:03:13.920 Why
00:03:14.920 Why your dad
00:03:15.920 What's wrong with speaking to your mother?
00:03:17.920 No your dad is your guardian 0.62
00:03:19.920 Let me tell you why
00:03:20.920 Because a man knows a man 0.52
00:03:21.920 And that in itself
00:03:23.920 Is a bit sexist
00:03:24.920 No I don't think it's sexist at all
00:03:25.920 It's almost as if my father owns me
00:03:27.920 No not at all
00:03:28.920 See this is
00:03:29.920 To keep me away
00:03:30.920 No not at all
00:03:31.920 Because the thing is
00:03:32.920 The prophet said no one can force their daughters to get married
00:03:34.920 So this false marriage concept is not an Islam 0.99
00:03:36.920 The reason it's your dad
00:03:38.920 If it's not your dad
00:03:39.920 Then it's your brother
00:03:40.920 If it's not your brother
00:03:41.920 It's your granddad
00:03:42.920 Because what we say is
00:03:43.920 A man knows a man
00:03:44.920 So if somebody comes to ask my daughter's hand
00:03:46.920 Yeah
00:03:47.920 And I believe certain times
00:03:49.920 For example
00:03:50.920 A man might be able to deceive a female 1.00
00:03:53.920 Yeah and it also happens in the opposite way as well
00:03:55.920 There are women who can do the same thing 1.00
00:03:57.920 The reason why it's there
00:03:58.920 Is to protect and maintain the rights of a woman 0.99
00:04:00.920 That's what Allah says in the Quran
00:04:01.920 Men are the maintainers and protectors of women 1.00
00:04:03.920 Now when this is said
00:04:05.920 A lot of people
00:04:06.920 The western women take a step back 1.00
00:04:07.920 Why do I need protecting
00:04:08.920 Why do I need maintaining
00:04:09.920 But it's because the western world
00:04:11.920 Has made you believe
00:04:12.920 That Miss Independent 1.00
00:04:13.920 By the way
00:04:14.920 A Muslim woman can work 1.00
00:04:15.920 My wife can work if she wants 1.00
00:04:17.920 And what's very interesting
00:04:18.920 Is her money 0.66
00:04:19.920 Is her money 0.66
00:04:20.920 So I can't touch her money 0.85
00:04:21.920 So if my wife is a millionaire 0.99
00:04:23.920 And I'm broke
00:04:24.920 And I'm begging on the streets
00:04:25.920 And I can't touch her money 1.00
00:04:27.920 So I'm just saying
00:04:29.920 The reason this is in place sister
00:04:30.920 Is to save you from heartache
00:04:31.920 There is a long western woman
00:04:33.920 There was a woman actually 0.99
00:04:34.920 She was on Love Island
00:04:36.920 I think she had killed herself
00:04:37.920 Yeah
00:04:38.920 I forgot her name
00:04:39.920 She was a brown lady 1.00
00:04:40.920 And she was fed up 0.87
00:04:41.920 Of getting into relationships
00:04:42.920 And with no end
00:04:44.920 So you have no security sister
00:04:46.920 Let me make it very clear
00:04:47.920 I'm not sure she killed herself
00:04:48.920 Because of the relationship
00:04:49.920 No, no
00:04:50.920 There's a lot of online
00:04:51.920 No, no, no
00:04:52.920 There was things that she mentioned
00:04:53.920 About unstable relationships
00:04:54.920 Her boyfriend said
00:04:55.920 Something along those lines
00:04:56.920 Where she was in relationships
00:04:58.920 And she would continuously
00:04:59.920 With her work
00:05:00.920 They would break up etc
00:05:01.920 It's every woman's dream
00:05:02.920 To have a nice wedding
00:05:03.920 To have kids
00:05:04.920 Because a father casts his eye
00:05:05.920 Over a man 0.57
00:05:06.920 That that stops a lot
00:05:07.920 Sort of relationship drama
00:05:09.920 Okay
00:05:10.920 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
00:05:11.920 Because there's relationship dramas
00:05:12.920 In Muslim couples
00:05:13.920 I'm not talking about that
00:05:14.920 What I'm trying to talk about
00:05:15.920 What I'm trying to talk about is
00:05:16.920 As a woman
00:05:17.920 God Almighty has allowed
00:05:18.920 And I don't
00:05:19.920 I don't know why
00:05:20.920 The Western woman
00:05:21.920 Think of this as
00:05:22.920 Like
00:05:23.920 I think it's an honourable thing
00:05:24.920 For your dad
00:05:25.920 To look out for you
00:05:26.920 Even if it's your dad
00:05:27.920 If I spoke to your dad today
00:05:28.920 And you brought
00:05:29.920 Arguments
00:05:30.920 If you went to your dad
00:05:31.920 And said I've got a boyfriend
00:05:32.920 He's not going to be like
00:05:33.920 Over the moon
00:05:34.920 He's going to be like
00:05:35.920 Who is he?
00:05:36.920 He would want to know
00:05:37.920 Because he cares about you
00:05:38.920 Oh, you don't owe me
00:05:40.920 He loves you 0.80
00:05:41.920 He has a damn right 0.80
00:05:43.920 To care for you 0.96
00:05:44.920 And know who the hell is this guy
00:05:45.920 And like
00:05:46.920 But surely so has my mother
00:05:47.920 No, no problem
00:05:48.920 I'm not saying your mother doesn't as well
00:05:49.920 I'm not saying your mother's out of the picture
00:05:51.920 It's all about the man giving away the woman 1.00
00:05:53.920 No, no, no, no, no
00:05:54.920 It's not the man giving away the woman
00:05:56.920 If you want to get married
00:05:57.920 Your dad has to be in the picture
00:05:59.920 This doesn't mean your mum's not in the picture
00:06:01.920 Your mum can be in the picture as well
00:06:02.920 The reason why it's the dad
00:06:03.920 Because the man knows the man
00:06:04.920 Number one
00:06:05.920 Number two
00:06:06.920 When it comes to you getting married
00:06:07.920 For example
00:06:08.920 You have a right to ask for a dowry
00:06:09.920 You know what a dowry is? 0.59
00:06:10.920 Okay
00:06:11.920 This can be anything
00:06:12.920 You can ask for a car
00:06:13.920 You can ask for gold
00:06:14.920 You can ask for money
00:06:15.920 Yeah?
00:06:16.920 And by the way
00:06:17.920 This doesn't make you a gold digger
00:06:18.920 Yes, you're right
00:06:19.920 Why is this the case?
00:06:20.920 Why is this the case?
00:06:21.920 Why is there money involved?
00:06:22.920 The wisdom might be
00:06:23.920 Is because
00:06:24.920 If a man
00:06:25.920 Has the wrong intentions
00:06:27.920 He might not mind
00:06:28.920 Talking to your dad
00:06:29.920 He might say
00:06:30.920 Yeah, I love you too
00:06:31.920 Blah, blah, blah
00:06:32.920 When money is involved
00:06:33.920 Yeah?
00:06:34.920 And when you come and say to you
00:06:35.920 Seven thousand pounds
00:06:36.920 With my dowry
00:06:37.920 And that is yours by the way
00:06:38.920 That is your security
00:06:39.920 Why?
00:06:40.920 Because today we have men 0.97
00:06:41.920 Who go and sleep
00:06:42.920 With, they call them deadbeat dads
00:06:44.920 Yeah?
00:06:45.920 Sleep around
00:06:46.920 And disappear
00:06:47.920 She's left in a financial crisis
00:06:49.920 She's got a child
00:06:50.920 That's coming on the way 0.98
00:06:51.920 And has no damn security 0.92
00:06:52.920 So this dowry 0.96
00:06:53.920 Is in place
00:06:54.920 To protect you
00:06:55.920 And secure you
00:06:56.920 That if he
00:06:57.920 Decides to
00:06:58.920 Go about the things
00:06:59.920 The wrong way
00:07:00.920 And even when you're pregnant
00:07:01.920 Allah says in the Quran
00:07:02.920 In Surah Nisa 0.69
00:07:03.920 That if you're pregnant 0.95
00:07:04.920 He
00:07:05.920 Let's suppose
00:07:06.920 You want to get a divorce
00:07:07.920 He has to keep you
00:07:08.920 In his house
00:07:09.920 Until you give birth 1.00
00:07:10.920 Until you suck with the child 1.00
00:07:11.920 Yeah? 1.00
00:07:12.920 And it's called
00:07:13.920 Milk money
00:07:14.920 If I'm not mistaken
00:07:15.920 He has to provide basically
00:07:16.920 He has to look after you
00:07:18.920 The western women today
00:07:19.920 Are emotionally
00:07:20.920 Have you read
00:07:21.920 Have you read a book called
00:07:22.920 Beauty Sick?
00:07:23.920 I recommend you to buy it
00:07:24.920 Yeah?
00:07:25.920 It talks about how women 0.93
00:07:26.920 Are made to feel ugly 0.95
00:07:27.920 And
00:07:28.920 Look a certain way
00:07:29.920 Not happy with their body
00:07:30.920 Not happy how they look
00:07:31.920 Can't leave the house without makeup
00:07:33.920 Spent two hours
00:07:34.920 And they added this
00:07:35.920 And it's just like
00:07:36.920 Two months in one whole year
00:07:38.920 Yeah?
00:07:39.920 The society is making you
00:07:40.920 Feel ugly
00:07:41.920 You have to look a certain way 0.99
00:07:42.920 You have to have a certain body
00:07:43.920 You have to meet these standards
00:07:44.920 For who?
00:07:45.920 For who?
00:07:46.920 For who?
00:07:47.920 Islam says 0.87
00:07:48.920 That
00:07:49.920 There are men out there
00:07:50.920 For example
00:07:51.920 Who might be after the wrong thing
00:07:52.920 They tell you to cover up
00:07:53.920 Yeah?
00:07:54.920 I believe
00:07:55.920 Women are being sexualized today 1.00
00:07:56.920 And people come and say
00:07:57.920 Hold on a second
00:07:58.920 Are you not sexualizing a woman 1.00
00:07:59.920 By covering her up?
00:08:00.920 Yeah?
00:08:01.920 When a man speaks to you
00:08:02.920 Even when I'm talking to you
00:08:03.920 Now sister
00:08:04.920 Allah tells me in the Quran
00:08:05.920 Tell the believing men 0.94
00:08:06.920 To lower their gaze
00:08:07.920 Now what does that mean?
00:08:08.920 That means
00:08:09.920 If I'm walking down the road
00:08:10.920 And I see a woman
00:08:11.920 Dressing appropriately
00:08:12.920 I should look away 0.99
00:08:13.920 Islam deals with sexual objectification 1.00
00:08:16.920 On a micro level to a macro level 0.93
00:08:18.920 Because it educates a man 0.83
00:08:20.920 To respect the woman
00:08:21.920 If I'm
00:08:22.920 The only reason I'm talking
00:08:23.920 But doesn't the Quran talk about
00:08:25.920 Sort of
00:08:26.920 Women have to need to cover up 1.00
00:08:27.920 As men
00:08:28.920 Like you know
00:08:29.920 You're causing temptation for the men
00:08:30.920 No
00:08:31.920 Because the men can't control their gaze 0.99
00:08:32.920 Not necessarily
00:08:33.920 You know why?
00:08:34.920 Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 1.00
00:08:35.920 Doesn't say in the Quran
00:08:36.920 Men
00:08:37.920 I mean no
00:08:38.920 Women cover up 1.00
00:08:39.920 Because men can't control their gaze 0.98
00:08:40.920 No
00:08:41.920 Because Allah says in the Quran
00:08:42.920 Before he tells the woman 0.99
00:08:43.920 He says
00:08:44.920 Tell the believing men 0.94
00:08:45.920 To lower their gaze
00:08:46.920 And then tell the believing women 0.98
00:08:48.920 To lower their gaze
00:08:49.920 So it starts off with a man
00:08:50.920 We both have to do our part
00:08:52.920 Men are visual creatures 0.95
00:08:53.920 That's why you have strip clubs 1.00
00:08:55.920 That's why you have
00:08:56.920 Certain magazines
00:08:57.920 And you do not
00:08:58.920 You don't see a woman 1.00
00:08:59.920 Go in and say
00:09:00.920 Let me buy a magazine
00:09:01.920 To look at a man's calves 0.93
00:09:02.920 It doesn't happen
00:09:03.920 Because the way we're creating
00:09:04.920 The way you're creating
00:09:05.920 Is totally different
00:09:06.920 It's culture
00:09:07.920 I believe that's how you've been
00:09:08.920 Brought up to believe
00:09:09.920 How?
00:09:10.920 No no no
00:09:11.920 This is man's biology
00:09:12.920 I think that's a nature thing
00:09:13.920 No no no
00:09:14.920 If it's a culture thing
00:09:15.920 Then why is it the same
00:09:16.920 Throughout every culture?
00:09:17.920 Yeah it is
00:09:18.920 There has to be a difference
00:09:19.920 For example
00:09:20.920 Catcalling
00:09:21.920 Yeah?
00:09:22.920 Catcalling
00:09:23.920 Be honest with me
00:09:24.920 Have you ever been catcalled?
00:09:25.920 Yeah
00:09:26.920 Okay
00:09:27.920 Why? 1.00
00:09:28.920 Because men can be pigs 0.99
00:09:30.920 Exactly 0.99
00:09:31.920 That's not our point 0.98
00:09:32.920 They can be pigs 0.99
00:09:33.920 But the point is this sister 0.99
00:09:34.920 The reason
00:09:35.920 Not only catcalled
00:09:36.920 I spoke to a girl
00:09:37.920 In the circus
00:09:38.920 And she was punched in the face
00:09:39.920 Because a guy wanted a number
00:09:40.920 And she didn't want to give it
00:09:41.920 The point I'm trying to make here is the following 0.99
00:09:43.920 There are pigs out there 0.98
00:09:45.920 They exist 0.99
00:09:46.920 So what Allah gives us is a 0.83
00:09:48.920 God Almighty gives us a
00:09:49.920 Way of life
00:09:50.920 That we can abide by
00:09:51.920 Now this
00:09:52.920 Like I said before
00:09:53.920 God doesn't say
00:09:54.920 Men can't control their self 1.00
00:09:55.920 So women cover up 1.00
00:09:57.920 This is nonsense
00:09:58.920 What God Almighty tells us to me
00:10:00.920 Is if a woman is in a bikini 0.99
00:10:02.920 If she's in a miniskirt
00:10:03.920 If she's wearing niqab 1.00
00:10:05.920 You know niqab 0.99
00:10:06.920 I have to lower my case
00:10:07.920 Not
00:10:08.920 If she is wearing a niqab 1.00
00:10:10.920 No
00:10:11.920 Period
00:10:12.920 I have to lower my case
00:10:13.920 So
00:10:14.920 The reason I'm
00:10:15.920 Obviously I'm talking to you
00:10:16.920 Because I'm having a discussion with you
00:10:17.920 Do you hear what I'm trying to say?
00:10:18.920 But I'm not going to be standing here
00:10:19.920 Just staring at you
00:10:20.920 Do you hear what I'm trying to say?
00:10:21.920 Why?
00:10:22.920 Because it shows us
00:10:23.920 This stuff
00:10:24.920 That Allah is telling us men 0.98
00:10:26.920 That you should respect women
00:10:28.920 They're not sexual objects
00:10:29.920 That's why
00:10:30.920 That's why
00:10:31.920 Why are the needs to cover them up David?
00:10:32.920 No no no
00:10:33.920 Because
00:10:34.920 Because sister
00:10:35.920 For example
00:10:36.920 If we're doing our part
00:10:37.920 We expect you to do your part
00:10:38.920 How?
00:10:39.920 For example
00:10:40.920 I'm lowering my case
00:10:41.920 I'm not going to look at you
00:10:42.920 I don't care how you're dressed
00:10:43.920 But
00:10:44.920 This doesn't mean
00:10:45.920 That you're going to be rolling around
00:10:46.920 In a miniskirt
00:10:47.920 Etc
00:10:48.920 Because there are not many men
00:10:49.920 Like for example
00:10:50.920 Like myself 1.00
00:10:51.920 There are absolute idiots 1.00
00:10:52.920 For example 1.00
00:10:53.920 Try to touch you up
00:10:55.920 Isn't that kind of victim blaming 0.98
00:10:56.920 You're blaming the women 1.00
00:10:57.920 No no no no
00:10:58.920 I'm not victim blaming
00:10:59.920 The actions of men
00:11:00.920 That they can't control
00:11:01.920 No no no
00:11:02.920 Not really sister
00:11:03.920 What I said from the beginning
00:11:04.920 Is a Muslim man
00:11:05.920 Yeah?
00:11:06.920 Our job is to lower our case
00:11:07.920 But you need to understand
00:11:08.920 As Muslim man
00:11:09.920 Forget Muslim man 1.00
00:11:10.920 All men 1.00
00:11:11.920 Period
00:11:12.920 If a woman 0.96
00:11:13.920 Who dresses up in a certain way
00:11:14.920 I bet you any money
00:11:15.920 If you walk past here
00:11:16.920 She will grab the attention 1.00
00:11:17.920 Of a lot of men
00:11:18.920 Why?
00:11:19.920 The question is this
00:11:20.920 Just because one is attracted
00:11:22.920 Like it catches the attention
00:11:23.920 I'm not saying here 1.00
00:11:24.920 That she has a right to be raped 0.99
00:11:26.920 I've never said such a thing 0.99
00:11:27.920 Yeah?
00:11:28.920 Nobody deserves rape 1.00
00:11:29.920 There are women who wear the hijab 0.98
00:11:30.920 That get raped 0.91
00:11:31.920 The issue of rape 0.65
00:11:32.920 Has got nothing to do
00:11:33.920 With how you're dressed
00:11:34.920 What we're seeing is
00:11:35.920 If God almighty exists
00:11:36.920 And he's created me
00:11:37.920 He's told me to lower my gaze
00:11:38.920 I'm going to do my bit
00:11:39.920 If he tells a woman 0.98
00:11:40.920 To wear the hijab 0.99
00:11:41.920 It's because of God said it
00:11:43.920 I'm just giving you
00:11:44.920 Maybe the wisdoms
00:11:45.920 Behind why he might do it
00:11:46.920 The point here is this
00:11:47.920 If he exists
00:11:48.920 And he tells me
00:11:49.920 And he tells me
00:11:50.920 To climb a tree
00:11:51.920 And come back down
00:11:52.920 And do five press ups
00:11:53.920 I'm going to do that
00:11:54.920 Because he's deserving of worship
00:11:56.920 And he's created me
00:11:57.920 So the argument goes back to
00:11:58.920 Who is telling us what to do?
00:12:00.920 Your mum and dad
00:12:01.920 They brought you to this age
00:12:02.920 If your mum and dad said to you
00:12:03.920 Darling
00:12:04.920 I want you to take Saturday and Sunday off
00:12:06.920 Don't go out with your friends
00:12:07.920 Come and stand here
00:12:08.920 Sit here and massage my feet
00:12:10.920 I believe as a mum and dad
00:12:11.920 They deserve that
00:12:12.920 Period
00:12:13.920 Because of what they've done
00:12:14.920 Now let's compare that to God
00:12:16.920 So the argument here
00:12:17.920 The hijab
00:12:18.920 It might be
00:12:19.920 That yes
00:12:20.920 It might protect you against
00:12:21.920 Certain men
00:12:22.920 Who are vile
00:12:23.920 But that's not the only reason
00:12:25.920 I'm saying that might be the wisdom
00:12:26.920 Maybe maybe not
00:12:27.920 The actual reason is what?
00:12:29.920 Because God Almighty
00:12:30.920 Tells me to
00:12:31.920 And he's deserving of worship
00:12:32.920 That's the core thing here
00:12:34.920 You hear what I'm trying to say?
00:12:35.920 And a lot of times when girls are being talked to 0.99
00:12:39.920 Yeah?
00:12:40.920 A lot of times men talk somewhere else
00:12:41.920 They don't talk to them
00:12:42.920 Yeah?
00:12:43.920 So if you realise
00:12:44.920 When I refer to you as a sister
00:12:46.920 Yeah?
00:12:47.920 I try to have a decent conversation
00:12:49.920 Why?
00:12:50.920 Because as a woman
00:12:51.920 Why do you have to feel like
00:12:52.920 The only thing you have to offer
00:12:53.920 Is your body parts?
00:12:54.920 You are a human being
00:12:55.920 You have so much more to offer humanity
00:12:57.920 Why does it reduce it to a level of just beauty?
00:13:01.920 That's the reason why I read that book Beauty Sid
00:13:03.920 Because it shows you a pandemic of millions
00:13:05.920 Billions of women around the world 1.00
00:13:07.920 They feel insecure
00:13:08.920 They feel ugly 0.63
00:13:09.920 They feel fat 0.99
00:13:10.920 They don't want to come out
00:13:11.920 There was a woman who read that
00:13:12.920 I'm a man
00:13:13.920 And I felt so bad
00:13:14.920 She goes
00:13:15.920 I felt so ugly 0.99
00:13:16.920 That I would go and sleep with men 0.99
00:13:20.920 That is 0.80
00:13:21.920 You're taking a woman 1.00
00:13:22.920 Who can offer this to the society
00:13:23.920 And you're dropping it all the way here 0.96
00:13:25.920 Because she's made you feel ugly
00:13:26.920 And she thinks 0.95
00:13:27.920 No man wants me
00:13:28.920 So I'm going to have to sleep with them
00:13:30.920 To feel some worth 0.99
00:13:31.920 That is disgusting to me
00:13:33.920 Why has she been made to feel to such a level 0.97
00:13:35.920 That she feels sleeping with men 0.78
00:13:38.920 Because she feels ugly
00:13:39.920 And nobody would want them 0.86
00:13:40.920 That's the whole societal problem
00:13:41.920 No
00:13:42.920 But how do we deal with that sister Bethany
00:13:44.920 My question is this
00:13:45.920 We have real problems
00:13:47.920 And we need practical solutions
00:13:49.920 How do we deal with that?
00:13:50.920 I go down
00:13:51.920 I'm driving down the A406
00:13:52.920 And I see a banner
00:13:54.920 And what's the banner?
00:13:55.920 It's for steel
00:13:56.920 You know steel company?
00:13:57.920 Steel
00:13:58.920 There's a woman with a cherry in her mouth 1.00
00:14:00.920 And I'm thinking 0.92
00:14:01.920 What the flipping hell 0.99
00:14:02.920 Has a blonde woman 0.99
00:14:03.920 Got to do with a steel company?
00:14:04.920 I don't understand the correlation 0.83
00:14:07.920 It's ridiculous
00:14:08.920 But the point is this 0.66
00:14:09.920 A chocolate bar
00:14:10.920 Or a car
00:14:11.920 Because the marketing companies understand
00:14:14.920 That men
00:14:15.920 It grabs their attention
00:14:17.920 Like we know
00:14:18.920 A car has nothing to do with a woman 1.00
00:14:20.920 But we'll stick a half naked girl there 1.00
00:14:22.920 Because they're going to stare at it
00:14:23.920 And maybe they'll just look at the car
00:14:24.920 And say
00:14:25.920 Let me get that car
00:14:26.920 The point is this
00:14:27.920 Women 1.00
00:14:28.920 Women have been sexualised 0.95
00:14:30.920 To such a level
00:14:31.920 That they have no rights
00:14:32.920 And this is a pandemic
00:14:33.920 We're talking about
00:14:34.920 Millions
00:14:35.920 Or billions of women 1.00
00:14:36.920 In the western world
00:14:37.920 And in the Muslim 0.98
00:14:38.920 Don't get it twisted 0.88
00:14:39.920 There are Muslim women who fall for this 0.99
00:14:40.920 Where they object
00:14:41.920 They beautify themselves
00:14:42.920 The whole point of hijab 1.00
00:14:43.920 Is not to beautify yourself
00:14:44.920 It's the total opposite
00:14:45.920 So I'm telling you
00:14:46.920 It's a pandemic
00:14:47.920 And we need to deal with that
00:14:48.920 Because there are women 1.00
00:14:49.920 Who are feeling insecure
00:14:51.920 Mental health is on the rise 1.00
00:14:52.920 How do we deal with this?
00:14:54.920 I believe we deal with it
00:14:55.920 By honouring women
00:14:56.920 By teaching them
00:14:58.920 Their self-worth
00:14:59.920 Yeah?
00:15:00.920 And this is where I believe
00:15:01.920 Islam gives a practical solution
00:15:03.920 Not objectifying you
00:15:04.920 Keeping you rights
00:15:05.920 1400 years ago
00:15:06.920 Sister
00:15:07.920 Do a bit of research
00:15:08.920 The right to choose who you want to marry 0.64
00:15:11.920 The right to not adopt
00:15:12.920 Take your husband's surname
00:15:13.920 The right to own property
00:15:15.920 The right to divorce
00:15:16.920 The right to work
00:15:17.920 Yeah?
00:15:18.920 There's so many elements
00:15:19.920 Even in the Quran 0.92
00:15:21.920 There's a verse called
00:15:22.920 Surah Mujadila
00:15:23.920 Yeah?
00:15:24.920 And some people come and say
00:15:25.920 Islam says 0.87
00:15:26.920 When I go home
00:15:27.920 I have a big stick 0.70
00:15:28.920 And I beat my wife with it 0.90
00:15:29.920 Whatever
00:15:30.920 In this verse
00:15:31.920 God Almighty is rebuking a man 1.00
00:15:33.920 This is what he said to his wife
00:15:35.920 He said to his wife to follow 0.83
00:15:36.920 He didn't hit her
00:15:37.920 By the way
00:15:38.920 Hitting your wife is not permissible 0.90
00:15:39.920 Yeah?
00:15:40.920 He said to her 0.80
00:15:41.920 You are like the back of my mother
00:15:43.920 Now in those days
00:15:44.920 That basically meant
00:15:45.920 I have no desire towards you
00:15:47.920 Now basically you are just arguing
00:15:48.920 Yeah?
00:15:49.920 That's a very helpful thing to say
00:15:51.920 Now
00:15:52.920 This woman goes to the prophet Muhammad 0.97
00:15:54.920 And complains
00:15:55.920 And says my husband
00:15:56.920 Called me this
00:15:57.920 And I am hurt
00:15:58.920 Now the prophet Muhammad 0.99
00:15:59.920 He doesn't talk of himself
00:16:00.920 He talks for revelation
00:16:01.920 So the prophet Muhammad said 0.98
00:16:03.920 Look what he said is wrong
00:16:04.920 But forgive him
00:16:05.920 Be patient
00:16:06.920 As she is walking out
00:16:07.920 Revelation comes down
00:16:08.920 We believe that yeah?
00:16:09.920 And in the revelation
00:16:10.920 Look at the punishment for him
00:16:11.920 Allah
00:16:12.920 Subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the Quran
00:16:14.920 If I am not mistaken
00:16:15.920 He says that he needs to
00:16:16.920 Fast for
00:16:18.920 Two consecutive months
00:16:19.920 You know in Ramadan
00:16:20.920 We fast for 30 days
00:16:21.920 Yeah?
00:16:22.920 So he needs to fast
00:16:23.920 Two consecutive months
00:16:24.920 And Ramadan 0.57
00:16:25.920 That's 90 days of fasting
00:16:26.920 So the woman says 0.88
00:16:28.920 Look my husband is old
00:16:29.920 If he fast he is going to die
00:16:31.920 He can't fast
00:16:32.920 He said okay
00:16:33.920 He needs to free a slave
00:16:34.920 Back in those days
00:16:35.920 That slave 0.99
00:16:36.920 It was kind of a property
00:16:37.920 So
00:16:38.920 He said
00:16:39.920 He has to free a slave
00:16:40.920 He said look
00:16:41.920 He doesn't have slaves
00:16:42.920 He said okay
00:16:43.920 Then he needs to feed
00:16:45.920 I think 60 people
00:16:47.920 Yeah?
00:16:48.920 He said
00:16:49.920 He doesn't have a penny
00:16:50.920 Yeah?
00:16:51.920 The point is the following here
00:16:52.920 All the man did
00:16:53.920 Was insult his wife
00:16:55.920 And Allah
00:16:56.920 God Almighty
00:16:57.920 Imagine
00:16:58.920 The one who created the heavens
00:16:59.920 And the earth
00:17:00.920 Cares about a woman's feelings 1.00
00:17:01.920 And sends the revelation down
00:17:03.920 What I am just saying sister
00:17:04.920 Is there might be things
00:17:05.920 That you heard about Islam
00:17:06.920 But look into it properly
00:17:07.920 Because then you will understand
00:17:09.920 In every five people
00:17:10.920 That come to Islam 1.00
00:17:11.920 Free a woman 0.98
00:17:12.920 Do you know
00:17:13.920 Majority of people
00:17:14.920 That come to Islam 1.00
00:17:15.920 Are females
00:17:16.920 Do you know that?
00:17:17.920 Majority of them
00:17:18.920 There is a woman called
00:17:19.920 Lauren Booth
00:17:20.920 Have you heard of her?
00:17:21.920 You know Tony Blair
00:17:22.920 Tony Blair's
00:17:23.920 Wife's sister 0.95
00:17:24.920 Her name is Lauren Booth
00:17:25.920 She actually works with our organisation
00:17:27.920 She was a British woman
00:17:28.920 Same lifestyle
00:17:29.920 Etc
00:17:30.920 Now
00:17:31.920 If you search to try her name
00:17:32.920 Lauren Booth
00:17:33.920 You can see her story
00:17:34.920 How she came to Islam
00:17:35.920 Yeah?
00:17:36.920 There are many women
00:17:37.920 Why?
00:17:38.920 Because women who live 1.00
00:17:39.920 For example this lifestyle
00:17:40.920 In the western world
00:17:41.920 They realise
00:17:42.920 They realise 0.97
00:17:43.920 How rubbish they are treated 0.98
00:17:44.920 Yeah? 0.99
00:17:45.920 And I am not saying
00:17:46.920 In general
00:17:47.920 I am not saying
00:17:48.920 There are really good men
00:17:49.920 Who are non-Muslim men 0.99
00:17:50.920 All non-Muslim men are bad 1.00
00:17:52.920 The point I am trying to make 1.00
00:17:53.920 Is that
00:17:54.920 They realise
00:17:55.920 The lifestyle that they live
00:17:56.920 Doesn't give them
00:17:57.920 That fulfilment
00:17:58.920 You can have all the money
00:17:59.920 Everything in the world
00:18:00.920 But you will have a void in your heart
00:18:02.920 Because that void
00:18:03.920 Which Allah tells us in the Quran
00:18:04.920 Is what?
00:18:05.920 Only in the remembrance of God
00:18:07.920 Do your hearts find peace
00:18:08.920 What that means is
00:18:09.920 There is nothing on this earth
00:18:11.920 That's going to make you happy
00:18:12.920 When you have that connection with God
00:18:14.920 Trust me
00:18:15.920 They can take everything from you
00:18:16.920 They can take everything from you
00:18:17.920 They can take your money
00:18:18.920 Your car, everything
00:18:19.920 Once you have that connection
00:18:20.920 You know your purpose
00:18:21.920 You know why you are here
00:18:22.920 You know where you are going
00:18:23.920 That is something
00:18:24.920 An inner peace
00:18:25.920 That no one can buy
00:18:26.920 And I have tasted that with Islam 1.00
00:18:28.920 Now that's subject
00:18:29.920 That's my experience
00:18:30.920 I am not saying
00:18:31.920 That's an argument for Islam 1.00
00:18:33.920 What I am just saying is
00:18:34.920 Is that
00:18:35.920 Give Islam a chance
00:18:36.920 Yeah?
00:18:37.920 You got nothing to lose
00:18:38.920 Have you got a Quran?
00:18:39.920 Have you read a Quran before?
00:18:40.920 Can I give you one as a gift?
00:18:41.920 It's this big?
00:18:42.920 It's this big?
00:18:44.920 No?
00:18:45.920 Okay that's totally up to you
00:18:46.920 I would recommend you
00:18:47.920 Read the Quran
00:18:48.920 Look into it
00:18:49.920 And see for yourself
00:18:50.920 You know
00:18:51.920 And if you do
00:18:52.920 Like I said before
00:18:53.920 I did show some evidences
00:18:54.920 To God's almighty existence
00:18:55.920 Pray to him
00:18:56.920 I prayed to him
00:18:57.920 Maybe 12 years ago
00:18:59.920 I said if you are there
00:19:00.920 Guide me
00:19:01.920 Wherever is the way
00:19:02.920 That's a relationship
00:19:03.920 That's between you and God
00:19:04.920 So I would say
00:19:05.920 You know give it a chance
00:19:06.920 You got nothing to lose
00:19:07.920 And see what happens
00:19:08.920 Thank you very much sister Bethany
00:19:09.920 Look after yourself
00:19:10.920 Thank you very much
00:19:11.920 Stay safe