Ali Dawah - July 17, 2024


KHALED NEW HINDU WIFE? - MUSLIM REACTS


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

272.94397

Word Count

2,748

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary

Brother Khalid and sister Salama's divorce is a sad news which we don't want on any family unit because it breaks the breakdown of the family unit and has a ripple effect on communities. In this podcast, we discuss the reasons behind a man moving on so fast after being married for 15 years.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 look i'm not afraid of anything in this world other than not being there because how could it be
00:00:04.120 that in a matter of three months you are married to a woman of 15 years and you just get married
00:00:09.800 again just imagine the people back in the day when they would have to travel certain distances
00:00:16.540 for months or even years what is one thing that they would carry with them the quran why because
00:00:22.740 they did not have it on their mobile devices or their gadgets brothers and sisters imagine you
00:00:27.440 have a app the quran app which not only shows you how much rewards you get but reminds you to read
00:00:33.880 the quran gives you reminders download the quran app now and let it testify for you on your
00:00:39.020 that you read it wherever you was assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters
00:00:44.720 and dear friends as you guys know me and my wife done a reaction video to brother khalid and sister
00:00:48.140 salama's divorce sad news which we don't want on any family unit because it breaks the breakdown
00:00:52.220 the family unit has an impact a ripple effect on communities so subhanallah in this video i wanted
00:00:56.240 to touch upon a few doubts or rumors spreading but mainly the question i wanted to ask was why did
00:01:01.840 brother khalid move on so fast and mention to you sisters inshallah to understand from a man's
00:01:06.800 perspective three to four reasons why a man moves on so fast and we want to tackle these issues why
00:01:12.180 my dear sisters i'm not here to make you upset anxious worried you know look at marriage in a
00:01:16.440 way that you know you're scared of getting married no rather i want to inform you and inform you so that
00:01:20.220 you can make rational decisions i know you guys are emotional that's how you guys are created you have
00:01:24.680 your hormones imbalances etc many other things alhamdulillah we have those hormonal issues as
00:01:28.100 well with testosterone so you know it uh it affects us in a different way it affects you guys in a
00:01:31.720 different way but if you listen and listen to learn rather than listen to reply we will all benefit from
00:01:35.440 this inshallah so in a recent podcast there's some things that brother khalid said that he really fears
00:01:39.520 so i want to touch up on this because it's very very important because for him to make this decision
00:01:43.120 of going their separate ways and then moving on so fast despite the fears that he had let's watch what
00:01:48.520 could be the causes of a man moving so fast and to me i found it a bit bizarre that the fact that he
00:01:54.040 moved on so fast after being married for 15 years but again we'll come to any minute like religion is
00:01:58.020 a big part of my life spencer for those for those who don't know and for me like the five daily prayers
00:02:01.800 being able to center myself being able to you know just remember why i'm here being able to feel safe
00:02:07.000 that and all those protection you know for me that's probably the most important thing in my life
00:02:11.100 yeah and alhamdulillah just being able to sort of center myself in prayer and get away from the chaos and
00:02:15.360 the noise and everything that's going on for me that's probably the most important thing i journal
00:02:18.800 every night so for me just writing down the three things i'm grateful for the one thing that i want
00:02:23.000 to let go of so just reminding myself constantly about what it is you know alhamdulillah it keeps me
00:02:28.720 focused i do struggle with some things sometimes like life is not perfect i struggle a lot with you
00:02:34.260 know overthinking about things i struggle a lot with you know getting anxious about things like
00:02:38.520 every day i want to let go of something and you know every day there's a different struggle that
00:02:41.480 might pop up at some point in time so for me it's just about being able to write that
00:02:45.260 down and be like you know i'm gonna let go of you today that fear of my kid's future like i'm
00:02:50.380 not afraid of anything in this world other than not being there for my kids so i was always afraid
00:02:54.340 will someone take care of my kid the way i would that's a child of determination will society
00:03:03.660 treat him in the way that i would in this country yes he will be protected he will be taken care
00:03:11.260 he will get opportunities there will be resources for him it gives me peace so guys you saw that for
00:03:16.460 yourself subhanallah every man's worst nightmare is what that another man is going to raise their
00:03:20.660 kids you know who this man is you don't know how is he is he is he safe you know is is my kid safe
00:03:25.460 around him etc any man's fear is that that's why if you notice subhanallah majority of the time a lot
00:03:29.420 of men do not initiate divorces sadly it's made well in non-muslim statistics is 80 to 90 percent
00:03:34.100 women initiate divorces and we know that in the muslim community as well that men have the power
00:03:37.520 of talaq for this very reason allah subhanallah has the wisdom and he is giving the power of talaq to
00:03:41.800 the man because a man can make rational decisions uh rather than just ask talaq every two seconds or
00:03:46.460 give talaq every two seconds now one of the reasons brothers sisters the first reason for a man to go his
00:03:51.480 separate ways and move on so fast can be that he is married to someone who is really really bad and
00:03:57.160 he tries his best over and over again subhanallah brothers sisters and like i said before we need to deal
00:04:01.400 with the reality yes okay sometimes we know a lot of cases men are quite violent in marriages both men
00:04:05.660 and women are as violent but men use more lethal force so we know that's a fact yeah so what i'm
00:04:09.580 going to mention to you next shouldn't really bother you sisters yeah women are known to initiate divorces
00:04:13.060 majority of the time sadly that's a reality when women carry on you know oh i want to divorce i want
00:04:17.540 to divorce i want to divorce i want to divorce a man has enough a point where he's enough or if the woman
00:04:20.760 is a really you know an evil woman who's making his life hell now again i'm not saying that sister
00:04:25.260 salama is like that i'm not saying that i'm just saying generally for men this can be a reason for him to not
00:04:29.900 only get divorced but move on so fast in a matter of months that's number one number two when issues
00:04:34.260 happen in the household when people get arguments etc whatever you need to understand something
00:04:37.780 sometimes couples take their space etc whatever or they just don't want to see each other's face for
00:04:41.700 whatever reason but one thing you need to understand my dear sisters is a man a man's sexual desire is
00:04:46.400 not the same as a woman yes okay it's very rapid it's very instant and it's it's uh you know quite
00:04:51.500 hard and we know from the evidences from the quran and sunnah the fitna of a man towards a woman this
00:04:55.780 it's our biggest weakness to me the thing that i want to mention is that for a man if you boycott
00:05:01.400 him or whatever you don't want to talk to him etc and he's waiting a month and two months and three
00:05:04.780 months and four months and he's thinking hold on a second there's no contact and maybe she's just
00:05:07.900 thinking you know what i don't know i'm waiting for him to message first etc no no no no no you don't
00:05:11.340 do that to a man let me tell you something because that's the reason why the hadith says if a man calls
00:05:14.620 his wife the bed and she refuses the angel cursor why because she is actually blackmailing him with sex
00:05:20.160 one of his biggest weaknesses it's like a man using his power that he has as a he's more physically
00:05:25.120 stronger to put his wife in a dangerous position and then defend her she's at her most vulnerable
00:05:29.280 and weak and she needs your help and aid if a guy's got a knife or whatever trying to harm her and you
00:05:33.800 are there just watching and thinking so do you see how vulnerable each one is in different situations
00:05:38.260 so for sisters to think that you're going to let your husband go without intimacy and think that he's
00:05:43.000 not going to get married again have a second wife end it with you and get married again you are
00:05:47.040 absolutely deluded reason number three could be polygamy it can be a possibility it's a speculation and the
00:05:52.060 reason i'm saying this speculation is because obviously you guys know sisters know me you know
00:05:54.920 i'm one of the most hated brothers in the dao scene for speaking this truth i don't really care i'm not
00:05:58.340 here to you know please any or anyone this is the haq every man is polygamous by nature please
00:06:02.460 understand that do not hate it do not fight it it's a testosterone plays a big role in our sexual drive
00:06:06.620 you need to understand we don't choose to do this we are created in this manner you can look at people
00:06:10.100 who are married to you know really beautiful woman you know beyonce kim kardashian you know and they
00:06:14.300 still cheat on them why because it is like that's in our biology if a woman marries a man who is her dream man
00:06:19.520 she will never ever think of another man ever a new woman know that if you get your man that you
00:06:24.760 really want whatever it is tall duck and hamster whatever your criteria is for that matter but it's
00:06:28.820 not the same with a man a man can be married to his dream girl and yet he will still want another
00:06:33.700 woman so this might be the case in this situation brother khalid and salama's situation that he opened
00:06:38.360 up to her he wanted to get a second wife and etc and she said over my dead body etc because women
00:06:43.060 don't understand this they're emotional understandable it's painful again though what happens is you destroy
00:06:47.400 your marriage and then what happens what's going to happen after you've got two free kids it is
00:06:51.000 it can be difficult for you to get married and the thing is why destroy your family because of this
00:06:54.720 and what happens for us men is we try to reason we try to say look we want to do it openly we don't
00:06:58.080 want to hide it this one of the reasons brothers men sadly go down the roof hiding their secret second
00:07:02.120 wives etc this is the reason why because the first wife causes problems you're not going to see the
00:07:05.660 kids i'm going to make your life hell i'm going to get the government against you there are sisters who
00:07:08.660 accuse and falsely accuse their ex-husbands of being connected to some terror group because of this this is how
00:07:14.820 wild it gets and that's why muslim men are thinking i have these desires i'll be married
00:07:18.720 for 15 years i have the desire of another woman and she's telling me she's gonna make me no problem
00:07:22.460 i'm gonna keep it hidden this could be a reason that he had a discussion with her she said over
00:07:25.580 a dead body it's a speculation again and he thought okay no problem go our separate ways whatever is for
00:07:29.240 that matter and then for him to get move on that fast i'll be honest which i was a bit shocked to move
00:07:33.560 on that fast it's it's not right if i was married to my wife for 15 years i'll be honest with you i would
00:07:37.160 not move on that fast not that fast i mean is it haram no it's totally halal and i wish the best and may
00:07:41.840 allah protect his marriage and give him the best in this life and the hereafter his new marriage
00:07:45.200 alhamdulillah but this is what you need to understand sisters when you go down this route of being
00:07:49.000 irrational emotional and push your husband to that level he is gonna look look that's his desire that
00:07:53.880 he has he's either gonna commit zina or he's gonna be high go behind your wife and a real man a coward
00:07:57.720 would go commit zina a fear in his wife a real man would go and get married again and if you leave
00:08:01.420 the picture or threaten leave the picture he's gonna say okay no problem i'm so sorry i want you in my
00:08:04.240 life i can still look after you take care of you but i want to get married again getting married
00:08:08.400 again doesn't mean he doesn't love you okay we don't operate the way you guys operate just because
00:08:11.460 you think oh my gosh if i was thinking of another man i don't love him anymore we don't operate the
00:08:15.280 way you operate we can love our wives die for them and still want to get married again which i've been
00:08:19.700 telling our sisters that's the third reason could be and the fourth reason is that it happens rarely
00:08:24.200 but a man falls in love with another woman and sadly this is not right again you know especially
00:08:28.300 that if he is going to abandon his first wife and even again it's not haram but you have polygamy i mean
00:08:34.000 you can choose both options but some men are like you know what um no i don't despise or whatever and i just
00:08:38.240 want to move on with another woman these are the four reasons it might be the reason because to me
00:08:41.400 to see brother halid i really wanted to find out why did he move on so fast it doesn't add up
00:08:46.660 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best but to me i'll be honest with you men should take time heal men need
00:08:51.420 to heal as well don't make rational decisions decisions but again as men we have this sexual
00:08:56.360 drive and we have to protect ourselves from zinnah i know many brothers who were divorced and like bro
00:08:59.680 i can't like it's been five months six months etc i need a woman in my life and that's why and i'll end
00:09:03.820 on this note most of the times you see single mothers who have not been married for years you will
00:09:08.560 never find a single father a single man a single father who goes on for years without getting
00:09:13.380 married this shows you that this is how we are created and these rumors of him marrying a hindu
00:09:17.260 woman it's just speculation and rumors and he i'm sure very knows he's a religious man which you saw
00:09:21.580 on the podcast he clearly said that he's a practicing person and i doubt he knows that you know marrying a
00:09:26.400 mushyic woman is it's haram committing zinnah it's not allowed for a muslim man and a muslim woman for
00:09:30.320 that matter that's all i wanted to say inshallah may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala correct their affairs and give
00:09:33.740 him the best in his life in the hereafter inshallah divorce happens it's a part of life there's nothing wrong with that
00:09:37.140 learn lessons and move on that was my two points piece the reason why not to touch up on this is
00:09:40.640 for sisters to best understand the psychology of their husbands and not fight the hormone just as
00:09:45.660 i would not tell her why a husband to divorce his wife because she talks a lot and she's emotional
00:09:49.480 she gives him a hard time my friend the next man you're going to marry the next woman you're going
00:09:52.480 to marry is going to be the same issue so that's the reason why i tell my sisters you divorcing your
00:09:55.840 husband because he wants to get married again you're going to run away from the problem it's going to come
00:09:58.680 back in a different form and another man who's going to do in a different way that's all i want to say
00:10:01.680 assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh