＂MANY MEN HAVE HURT ME＂ - WILL ISLAM HELP？
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Summary
Jummah Kutbahayah is working in Pakistan with a flood that has hit the country. 1,700 people have lost their lives and millions of people have been displaced. We cannot enable and turn a blind eye to the suffering of Muslims in different countries.
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Please pass to paradise. You're here with us. You choose your path. I am here with you. You choose your path. We're the God of paradise. God rest your soul. Your ally, rest your soul. He was between the both of us.
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Assalamu alaikum guys. Before the video starts, brothers and sisters, one ummah is working in Pakistan with a flood that's hit the country.
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1,700 people have lost their life. Millions of people have lost their homes and been displaced.
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So the videos that you can see here, the pictures that you can see, guys, is demonstrating what one ummah is doing on the ground.
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We know Gaza is important and we know what's going on there.
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But brothers and sisters, we cannot enable and turn a blind eye to the suffering of Muslims in different countries.
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Be it Pakistan. Be it Turkey. The earthquakes. Wherever it may be. Afghanistan. So many other places need our help.
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And I know all of us have given as much as we can to Gaza. But brothers and sisters, wallahi, just imagine your home wrecked.
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Thousands of people have died. Your family members have passed away. You have nowhere to live.
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Brothers and sisters, they need our help as much as Gaza does.
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So I urge you guys, inshallah, it's 100% donation policy. Donate whatever amount, even if it's one pound.
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The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, the best form of sadaqah is to give water.
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But brothers and sisters, let's give them food and shelter and water to drink so they can overcome this tragedy, inshallah.
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I urge you guys to go to the link and donate now. Enjoy the video.
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Lucy, how are you doing, Lucy? Are you coming back from work or where have you been?
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You're guessing in life. Sister, have you ever wondered what's the purpose of life?
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Not so much me, but other people I've had that thought about.
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But do you never think to yourself, like the way you're created, you know there's some unique things about yourself.
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And they even said your teeth. No one's teeth is the same as others.
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So it's like a unique ID. Like my fingerprint is a mature fingerprint.
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It's impossible that a randomness can give rise to this.
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There has to be a lawmaker because there's order.
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This being that you believe in, do you believe it's energy or do you believe it's a personal being?
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I don't know right now. I'm kind of willing to learn.
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Behind us we have like, it's a picture, but imagine that was a painting.
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By looking at that painting, we know a lot about the painter.
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So if this was a painting, we would know that somebody painted it.
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Number two, we would know that they wanted to paint.
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Number three, we would say that they had knowledge.
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Because without knowledge, you can't do anything.
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And also they had to have some kind of power to paint, to do the painting, yeah?
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So now when I look at you or when you look at me,
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you will understand that we are some kind of like a painting.
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If a being exists, then he has to have attributes.
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So that means that being has to be the all-knowing.
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Because if he's created us, he's the one that makes our heart beat.
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The fact that my stomach can take the food that I eat and give me nutrition.
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I understand and I believe in what you're saying.
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But I hope that this, whatever you're filming me for.
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I hope that this is tempered with my own vision.
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Whereby I believe in what you're doing is beautiful.
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I don't wake up every morning and, like, pray to God.
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But I hope that this isn't going to be kind of put out as like...
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But I also believe in other things like Buddhism.
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And I think that that is part of humanity, isn't it?
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I mean, we're here, like, for us, you know, sharing this information with you.
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It's just to, you know, get to understand each other better.
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So to us, like we said, we don't believe God is a man or a woman.
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We believe he's all-powerful because he's created billions of species.
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So what we say is that, argument's sake, if I give you an example.
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If I said to you, I'll give you 10 billion pounds, but you're going to die tomorrow.
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You can give me every kind of God-like question or 10 billion pounds.
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And now that higher power may be for you, Allah.
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But for me, it's somebody, I don't know, that I'm finding out right now.
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Is there anything you would like to know about why we worship Allah?
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If you have any questions, I would like to share that with you.
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Would you like to be a bit like, you know, I want to know about Islam and what is Allah?
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And I think it's true, you have a relation with God Almighty.
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The closer you get to him, the peace will grow.
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Sorry, just out of respect, we don't shake hands with opposite gender.
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Because we believe every woman is like a queen.
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You know, and we believe, for example, that's our way of respect.
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Because you know, in today's time, for example, sometimes you're in the workplace, you have
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male colleagues who might touch your shoulder, and you want to know what's appropriate.
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So to us, what we do is we're like, well, rather there's no physical touch, because some
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people might be comfortable touching the shoulder hand with us.
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Because we appreciate every woman has value to offer.
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We are against the Western society's sexualization, objectification of women.
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We're really against that, you know, because it dehumanizes them.
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Why is she in front of a chocolate bar or a car?
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You know, so we just say that, as a Muslim, from our religion, God teaches us Muslim men
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Meaning, do not look at a woman in that manner.
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That's why we have utmost respect to the opposite gender, and vice versa.
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Like, my wife can't shake the hand of her opposite.
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A Muslim woman is not allowed to shake the hand of a man as well.
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Like, if a Muslim woman in a hijab wants to shake her hand, I'll say, sorry, no.
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Because some people think it's a non-Muslim thing.
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I'm very curious, though, as your, sorry, Muslim wife.
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So, when you reach a certain point, like, clearly, you've met each other and you have
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There's going to be moments where she will seek, I don't know.
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But, like, she may seek somebody else, like, and that's a normal reaction from a sense
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So do you mean, like, for example, if she comes to a point where she's not happy with
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Okay, well, in Islam, if that's the case, it's very simple.
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Like, for example, in Christianity, you cannot get divorced.
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In Judaism, if the man doesn't give you the divorce, you're married to him for eternity.
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In Islam, Islam gave the right to a woman to divorce 1,400 years ago.
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If a woman is sexually not satisfied in the bedroom, as a Muslim woman, she has every
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A couple of hundred years ago, we didn't have Tesco's around the corner.
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It was a, like, tribal, like, living style in the sense where you need to understand,
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for example, if I have four wives, I can impregnate all four of them.
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So before we had all DNA and who the father is, number one.
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Because you need to understand, you've got different tribes, there's wars happening.
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So in order to increase your population, that is one reason.
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There was an instance, I don't know if it was in the UK or France, so many men died that
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Number three, for example, there is many other reasons that, for example, even if we've got
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today's time, there's far more men who are homosexuals.
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So, which means there are more women that are single and can't find a partner.
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If it's going to be done, it has to be done in the right way.
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Now, let me give you the reason that applies to today.
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How many men do you know who have side chicks, mistresses and girlfriends who cheat on their
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If you are going to do it, you have to do it in a correct way without degrading this other
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They say, okay, I have a wife, but I have the innate desire to be with another woman.
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What they do is they mistreat that other woman by argument's sake.
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If you are going to do it, you are going to do it the proper way.
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How you married your first wife, you have to marry her.
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What that does is it says equality to a certain degree.
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So what the man does is he's thinking, okay, I just want to be with the second wife just
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So Islam says, uh-uh, you can't do that because you have to meet the father.
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So he's thinking, oh my gosh, I have to go through all of these obstacles.
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So what we do is in today's time, there's so many men.
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So what Islam says is, no, you are not allowed to degrade another woman and use an abuser.
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If it's going to be done, let it be done the right way.
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Obviously, as a female, like even for my wife, it's something that it's not easy because
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sharing your man, but what Islam does is Islam deals with the pragmatic reality of life.
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You can imagine as like a Western woman, though, to date like a man like yourself.
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And like to understand that, particularly on dating apps.
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Do you mean like if somebody wanted to marry me?
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No, no, like as in, can you imagine your belief system?
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And so, and we have to, sorry, I'm here as like a Westernized, sorry, I'm open to all
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Um, but to, to be open to people, we don't know this.
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So, so do you mean it's hard to grasp the idea of this specific thing?
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Yeah, I don't think we're given enough knowledge of it.
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It's not, but what it is, is if you think about it, sister, polygamy or polygyny is something
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So, there are so many men who do not follow Islam that do polygyny, but they do it the
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What Islam does is it says, look, here's protocols to do it the right way.
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They go have one night stats, sleep around, have children.
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So, what Islam does, Islam has come to protect the communal rights.
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You can't go and sleep around, have children, abandon them.
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So, what Islam does is take men to account via polygyny by saying, if it's going to be done,
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here's the protocols and it should be done the right way.
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With your partner or are you talking about some...
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because men are just, right now, a bit too much for me.
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And this is the reason why it's so important to follow a way of life.
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This is why it is so important and pertinent for a man.
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I am traveling to meet business partners in Dubai, Abu Dhabi.
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And mashallah, I believe in what you're saying.
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My mother looks after some of the most amazing families in Saudi Arabia.
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But I don't think we can compare them to the shit men
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But what I'm saying is these men, the reason...
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The reason why these men are like that is because society...
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Meaning, number one, do not sexually objectify women.
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That's the reason why Islam has given a protocol,
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when I met my wife, I had to speak to her father.
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Because imagine what happens in today's society.
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And they're crushing and giving it back to you.
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Because men and women have that attraction to one another,
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It's if you put yourself in certain environments.
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I don't even shake the hands of the opposite gender.
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So these things are there in places that you know why?