MESSAGE TO AISHA ROSALIE ON HER DIVORCE
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Summary
Divorce can happen to anybody. It doesn't mean that the person who goes through a divorce is bad. It can mean that there is something wrong with the person going through divorce. Also, divorce can happen for a variety of reasons.
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So Tal and I are divorced. I had a lot of, what's worse, like I had a lot of whispers from Shaitan saying to me like, why would Allah do this to you?
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Like the kind of things they say like, oh men are dogs or women are dogs.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.
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Before I start, I want to praise Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the most merciful, the most trust, or praise His glory and gratitude belong to Him.
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So guys, this video is pertaining to a video my wife actually saw on YouTube.
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And she doesn't really follow the sister, but she came across it.
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And I watched the video myself because as far as from what I know, the sister was married and but she has gone through a divorce.
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We got divorced very soon after Khadija was born.
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It's important to say alhamdulillah in our tough times as well as our good times, I think.
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And actually I was watching a lecture from Mufti Megh.
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And he said that our divorces are written for us.
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So the same way our marriages are written for us, our divorces are written for us.
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So this divorce was written for me before I was even here.
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But the true believers are strong with Allah in their good times and their bad times.
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I had a lot of whispers from shaitan saying to me like, why would Allah do this to you?
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Like the kind of things they say like, oh men are dogs or women are dogs.
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Shaitan will constantly come to me and say, look, you're a single mum with a child.
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And yes, a lot of men are not going to want to be with me.
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But there will be somebody out there for me, inshallah.
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And pertaining to this, brother and sister, subhanallah, it's very sad because one of the reasons I started the Bitter Truth show, the marriage documentary and other things that I'm working on in behind the scenes is all pertaining to combat this issue, which is pertaining to the breakdown of the family unit.
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So I'm heavily trying my best to help and aid to keep the marriage unit intact, inshallah.
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It doesn't mean that the person is bad who goes through a divorce.
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It doesn't make the person be the male or the female going through a divorce that there was something wrong with them.
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It can mean that, but it doesn't necessarily mean that's always the case.
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Also, divorce sometimes happens for very petty and unneeded reasons.
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Sadly, my nasiyah to this sister is the following.
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I know that she needs my nasiyah or my nobody or I don't even need to do a video about this issue.
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But when I see these things, there's a couple of things that we can benefit from, which is firstly, brothers and sisters.
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When it comes to these issues, we need to understand something very clearly.
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Any public figure for that matter, I always tell them.
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And I'm not saying directly this was the cause.
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Make sure that you are praying and given the rights of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
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Whatever it may be, staying away from major sins.
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Sins have a direct correlation to issues at home.
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Like I said before, this doesn't necessarily mean every marital dispute or divorce that ends like this is connected to this.
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There were men, prophets of Allah who married women who were evil.
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And there were amazing women who married men that were evil.
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But sometimes, brothers and sisters, you need to understand that there is a connection in the sense of what?
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So much the Salaf would say that if I was to commit a sin outside and I would come home and see my wife for some reason, angry, shouting, whatever.
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He said I will connect it to a sin that I committed.
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So they understood what the consequences the sins can have.
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And that's what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in Surah Yusuf that the dhalimeen will never be successful.
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The oppressors, those who oppress, they will never be successful.
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So Allah's tying those who commit sins to not being successful.
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Number two, as a public figure, doing your adhkar.
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It is very important for you to do your adhkar.
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Because if you don't do your adhkar, you are prone to the dangers of the metaphysical world.
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So please, please make sure if you're a public figure, you do your adhkar.
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Now, besides all of this, like I said before, my dear sister, I haven't heard your side of the story.
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This doesn't mean you are guilty or he is guilty or you're innocent or he is innocent.
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When it comes to these issues, brothers and sisters, when you look from an outside, don't blame people.
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Just because a brother, you see a brother crying doesn't mean he's not guilty.
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Or you see a sister crying doesn't mean she's not guilty.
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So please bear that in mind when you're looking at these kind of things and protect your marriage.
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Please try, my dear brothers and sisters, public figures.
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Wallah, especially if you're not doing your adhkar, try your best.
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There was actually a study done that those who keep their lives private, they are more happy than those who blast it.
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I know of individuals, one brother who was in a prison cell, accused of R-A-P-E.
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And if you went to the Instagram page, you would never in a million years think these people have this problem.
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Because this fake persona and the lifestyle that we put out there, it's not real.
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So, in a nutshell, to the brother or the sister going through divorce, whatever it may be, inshallah.
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And you never know, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala maybe bring you guys back together again.
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And in general, my dear sister, may Allah make it easy for you.
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You know, I'm sure he's going through stuff as well as much as you are.
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And inshallah that you guys can be there for your kids.
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And be there for that child, inshallah, which is very important.
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And do not lose hope in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
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And inshallah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will give something better to both of you guys.
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I just thought I'd give this a general reminder, inshallah.
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So, in a nutshell, brothers and sisters, please do not lose hope.
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Those who are divorced, inshallah, do not lose hope.
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And you can learn from your mistakes, inshallah.
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And may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make the affairs of our sister easy.
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And may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless us all and guide us all and protect us from the harms of evil,
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Please, please do your adhkar and ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guidance.
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And keep your lives, inshallah, private to the best of your ability.