MESSAGE TO MY DAUGHTERS IF I PASS AWAY
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Summary
In this video, a father advises his daughter on what to say to her when she asks her father for her hand in marriage. He says: "You may have to gamble on your husband, but what I do not charge is my relationship with my wife until one year. This is my daughter's relationship with her husband."
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Today, fathers are preparing their daughters for divorce.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.
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And for some, it's damn about time that we advise our daughters and also our sons.
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But in this very instance, it's the father advising the daughter.
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And I would say, if they happen to see this video, and they've reached the age that they're married,
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and in my life to see that, I would love to say these words to her myself.
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Or if, for example, I've passed away, that they become my Sadaqah Jariah.
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May Allah bless them and grant them righteous partners.
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That they watch this video and that they know their father Ali,
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This man says, we're going to come to one specific bit, but let's watch it for ourselves, inshaAllah.
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Because I do not say anything to anybody unless I do it for myself.
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Like the Prophet said, if I caught Fatima stealing, I would cut her hand off.
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Not one rule for someone else or another, or something for another.
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No way. Let's watch this video for ourselves, inshaAllah.
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You may have甚麼 to gamble on myputi and banere.
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Until one year, I will start pong, so they should be healthy.
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all right guys now let's understand and put some context to this now you heard that for yourself
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now brothers and sisters you need to understand something today fathers are preparing their
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daughters for divorce they're preparing make sure you got your career if he does this that you don't
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rely on him it is all based on what prepare for divorce not prepare for marriage prepare for
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divorce not only the father also the mother we are nurturing the next generation of our daughters or
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our sons yes and i'm going to be talking about why i'm talking about the sisters here specifically
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you're going to find out why are we preparing our next generation our daughters for divorce why this
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is devastating catastrophic the biggest threat to the omar right now is divorce rates why now i said
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to you guys i would say the same words to my daughter now you might be watching this and saying
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very disturbing i'll say you're disturbed you're tapped in the head yes why because he has said
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nothing wrong there and that is what the deen says i dare anybody that's watching this to come and tell
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me that what he said is haram no because allah says in the quran in surah nisa that means that the men
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are the maintainers and protectors and obedience yes that word obedience which nobody likes but to who
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now if i give my daughter's hand in marriage to a man best believe and best know that i am saying that
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i trust her decision she's made to take him as a leader as a man who's going to provide
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protect love her care for her good now does this mean that if my daughter comes and complains to me
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i'm going to say shh go back to your husband no because i know women are born emotional by their
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nature so therefore my daughter comes to me complaining about certain matter of course i'm
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going to listen to her of course i'm going to hear out but if it's an issue which is petty yes and that
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varies from place to place if it's an issue where somebody else is involved where her friend or someone else
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or even be it my own wife involved if she was involved in her marriage dispute i will tell her
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is your husband providing for you okay does he protect you yes does he do the shopping yes is he
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loving to you yes to the kids yes good does he pray yes has taqwa yes the disputes that you have
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keep them to yourself unless it is something severe unless he's violating the laws of allah unless he's
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violating your rights come and see me if any of those are not happening stay in your marriage
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do not let anyone destroy it why because 80 of the time we studied show that women are initiating
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divorce and these women most of the time end up regretting it women can be emotional they could
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say things that they don't mean that is within their nature understandable so if women are initiating
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divorce 80 of the time that means that they are prone to initiate a divorce the man has to be the
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leader and say no and take things in control not be emotional like her so what this man is saying
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i'm asking a question to all the fathers out there specifically which you guys know which i'm
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known for the second wife the same goes again she's telling her he's telling his doota that if
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he happens to do that yes it can be like okay if he gets another one supports him of course a woman
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is jealous of course she's not going to be happy that it's all well and good the best of the woman
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were not happy the best of the woman smash plays the best of the believers our mothers got angry
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and done all kinds of stuff subhanallah yes and some of the scholars even say that they were not
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even blameworthy of that so therefore we understand the woman's nature of being upset however asking for
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a divorce because your husband like again a good man who's protecting who's providing who loves you
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cares about you getting married again i would say the same thing to my doota and for those of you guys
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who think this is abnormal if there's anyone abnormal it is you because i am following what the deen
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says if my doota comes to me and says my husband has decided to get married again i'll ask the same
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questions again is he a good man yes he is practicing yes loves you yes takes care of you yes
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looks after the kids yes spends time with you yes praise to allah yes does his fard yes yes yes i will
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say you my doota which i love and i want the best for you you might hate something which is good for you
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and you might love something which is bad for you this is what the deen teach does not the liberal
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principles of the the god of good and the good of god of evil yes the pleasure and pain no no no no
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no we say my dear daughter you might dislike it but there is goodness in you because if that is the
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case that he's a good man do not lose him because don't think for a second that the next man you're
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going to marry is going to be anyway any shape different no he's going to come in a different
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form like the second law of thermodynamics which you're going to be thinking what has this got to do
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anything yeah i'll wrap up with this is that energy cannot be created or destroyed meaning if i
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set this watch on fire it's going it's not going to it's not going to disappear if the energy is
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going to change into a different form yes disintegrate uh to the clouds or whatever it's going to happen
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but it is still there it's just change form therefore anything allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has legislated
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we need more fathers like this man who entrusts his daughter to a good man and if the man violates
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the woman in her feminine energy which the man crumbles to your femininity is your biggest power
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against the man i'm telling you sisters your femininity is the greatest mass destructional
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weapon that you have against your husband he will crumble trust me and anytime you have a dispute
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this is what allah says in the quran get family members involved alhamdulillah but in a nutshell if
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anybody's watching this the feminists they would be ripping their hair out is she a property shut up
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shut up you get get lost it's you woman that have destroyed the woman of today that they have
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become anything anything something small happens divorce and we will be reacting to a video pertaining
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to this with sister naima roberts and myself of another sister who is advising women to go their
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separate ways because of something so minor that's all i'm going to say may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala preserve
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this father and his daughter and their marriage and their husband nobody in any way shape or form is
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saying in this video that if this woman is being violated where her rights are not being given that
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she's not second be quiet no islam has given the woman the right that even if she is sexually not
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satisfied she has a right to ask for divorce the point here is this that a man deals with a man and
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if my daughter came to me and her husband was violating her i will be dealing with him in a way that
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befits him so may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allow us to go back to our traditions go back to our
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islamic values and have trust and tawakkul in allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's legislation that we do not put
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our trust in what we think we know but rather what allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's legislated only we will be
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then successful only then these divorce rates won't be happening only then we won't have abundance of
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single fathers and single mothers and corrupt broken down children who are psychologically affected by
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the breakdown of the family unit may allah bless you guys insha'Allah we will be probably reacting to this
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on the bitter truth show when we're recording our next episode till next time assalamualaikum
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