Ali Dawah - Mufti Menk & Ali Dawah Making Haram relationship Halal

00:00:00.000 if it's haram you want to change your ways ask yourself are you ready for marriage if not cut

00:00:18.320 it drop it don't use and abuse a lot of people say i want to marry you but you know what three

00:00:21.840 years three years that's another problem we face parents have agreed but they say the marriage

00:00:26.000 will only happen in three years these children are literally spending their life like husband and

00:00:32.640 wife already and you're just saying will happen i'm worried about people worried about people

00:00:36.880 subhanallah it's the second time i said it how can you worry about people when you don't even know

00:00:41.680 how long you're going to live you set the trend people will follow wallahi there was an example

00:00:46.560 of a very rich person in one of the countries and he's a friend of mine and i told him he said i want

00:00:50.880 to throw a party for my daughter she's the only daughter getting married and i want to invite so

00:00:54.240 many i said listen brother if you keep it simple and set a trend a lot of people will follow wallahi

00:00:58.720 he kept it simple and straightforward and he did everything as per the islamic you know rulings

00:01:04.800 and i swear so many people followed and i said there you are brother you get the reward of everyone

00:01:09.200 they looked at the joneses and followed saw that the joneses themselves were so down to earth who are we

00:01:17.120 the problem is every weddings become a competition you know those who are not even the bride

00:01:21.760 they fuss about the clothing they're going to wear at someone else's wedding whom they don't even get

00:01:28.240 along with sometime just because they and they have a new set of clothing sewn and shoes and handbags

00:01:33.920 accessories and whatnot and hijabs for someone else's wedding whereas for your own wedding you're supposed 0.97

00:01:39.680 to be even simpler than that may allah forgive us and this is why we say keep it simple it's not supposed

00:01:46.080 to be a competition and i was told by one of the brothers well you know what we like all the

00:01:51.200 sisters to dress up nicely because we go to weddings in order to find one for ourselves well that's not 1.00

00:01:56.320 the platform you know i remember uh in one of the cultures you know culturally there are some people

00:02:03.040 who think well you go to the wedding to scout you go and scout well if the boys are scouting the girls

00:02:08.480 that's not a religious function right however if your sister comes across someone your brother comes

00:02:14.560 across a decent brother and so on and they bring the issue up remember you have sisters to get married

00:02:20.320 if i see a sister who's old and she's not married i blame the males who are nearest to her starting from

00:02:26.640 her father you were supposed to have kept an eye out you were supposed to have spoken don't be shy

00:02:31.840 speak say look brother you know it's happened to me as well where i've had young people come to me and

00:02:36.880 said you know so and so so and so so and so i have this this this what do you think of marriage and

00:02:41.600 subhanallah i will answer in my own way with respect but i really admire your courage

00:02:48.080 i really admire your courage wallahi and i believe that that's the right thing because who knows you

00:02:53.680 will ask five or ten people and one of them who's the right one chosen by allah will probably say hey

00:02:58.400 mashallah let's take it a step further and you might end up getting married but you've done nothing

00:03:02.880 people say oh you want to get married make dua make dua is it like a pot that you keep on making

00:03:08.240 something no way make dua yes we will do the dua but with that we have to act

00:03:14.240 so we ask allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make it easy for us these haram relations to make them halal

00:03:20.880 you need to make sure that you get the nikah done simple as that even if you cannot afford to live with each 1.00

00:03:27.040 other now i encourage your parents i encourage all parents out there to look into the following

00:03:33.280 scenario and that is if your children cannot afford to live with each other in the same home for now

00:03:39.600 let the nikah happen and let them live separately no one said that they have to live together right now 1.00

00:03:45.120 but if the nikah has taken place and then what will happen at least the relationship is halal

00:03:50.640 so you are invoking the mercy of allah the mercy of allah descends on you this is how you will achieve

00:03:57.040 if there's no mercy what are you going to achieve subhanallah so you cannot continue to just say this

00:04:02.800 guy can't afford a home and therefore when he has a job worth 130 000 pounds a year when he's got a car

00:04:09.840 and a house then we will allow the nikah trust me they've already they're already living like i said husband 1.00

00:04:15.680 and wife committing every sin there is in the book and you know what you're just waiting for 10 years to

00:04:20.160 pass by that time they could have had children who were already in the school subhanallah can i tell

00:04:25.200 you what a lot of the old people are very guilty of wanting the their sons-in-law to be wealthy people 1.00

00:04:32.160 when they married their own wives who are the mothers of these same daughters they didn't even have a pair of

00:04:38.240 shoes do you know that so don't make it a criteria you need a home you need a house he just needs to be

00:04:45.200 responsible if he's responsible he will take care of your daughter like he's taking care of everyone else

00:04:50.080 subhanallah he doesn't need to be a millionaire wallahi if that was the case the hadith would

00:04:54.640 have said if someone came to you they have a lot of wealth get them married never has that been a

00:05:03.200 criteria subhanallah remember this responsible individual yes they may have to downgrade their

00:05:10.000 lives some might be fortunate to upgrade a little bit that can be taken away immediately i know of so

00:05:14.560 many people who were wealthy when they got married and they lost absolutely everything a little bit later

00:05:19.280 down the line and i know the opposite people who were poor they got married allah says

00:05:24.160 in the quran that if you marry and you are not able meaning you're not so wealthy if you do that in

00:05:32.400 order to protect your chastity allah will grant you sustenance he will make you wealthy listen in surah

00:05:38.480 to noor allah says

00:05:49.840 speaking about marriage if the two are poor their intention was to please allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:05:55.920 allah will grant them that financial independence subhanallah may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us

00:06:03.040 goodness so please my brothers and sisters if you're not interested in the nikah don't use and abuse 1.00

00:06:08.560 someone's child never don't play a game to say we'll get married in five years and in the within that time

00:06:14.800 the girl is waiting for you or the boy is waiting for example and two years later you just say not

00:06:19.360 interested you've broken their not only their heart you've destroyed a life that's what you've done

00:06:24.560 the person could have actually gone and married someone else however the last thing i'm going to

00:06:28.640 say here is that if you have committed sin in the past you've done haram and so on please

00:06:36.720 if the if allah has made it such that the two of you are now getting married

00:06:41.760 seek allah's forgiveness for whatever you've done in the past

00:06:45.520 start a new leaf people have committed adultery whatever they've done

00:06:49.760 they're now getting married they're now getting married seek allah's forgiveness

00:06:54.960 have your function in a proper way that will please allah subhanahu wa ta'ala because what's the

00:06:59.760 point of having a haram function when allah's facilitated halal relationship what's the point 0.94

00:07:04.880 just have a simple function beautiful for the sake of allah trust me what you need most is contentment

00:07:10.320 you know all the haram that happened in the function is not going to come to your aid

00:07:14.240 it will actually result in your detriment to be honest those who have had functions where haram has

00:07:19.360 taken place seek allah's forgiveness you will turn a new leaf and proceed because that function is a

00:07:24.720 seed that you're sowing for the tree that's about to grow in your life if it's a bad seed do you expect

00:07:29.920 a good fruit to come out of it well if you engage in tawbah still allah's mercy will grant you good fruit

00:07:35.280 so please let's mend our ways let's come out allah's made it so easy don't use the cheap excuses i

00:07:42.720 have spoken to so many parents i don't even know because of emails that have come in my direction

00:07:47.600 and i've offered or volunteered to be a middleman to say i'll speak to your parents

00:07:52.320 some of them have sworn me some of them have told me would you give your own child and i said yes

00:07:57.040 i would are you sure they were quiet are you sure i said yes i would and mashallah a lot of them have

00:08:02.800 actually given their daughters and their sons subhanallah they've blessed the marriages may

00:08:08.080 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive us for having dwindled off the path and may allah subhanahu wa

00:08:13.840 ta'ala bring us back upon revelation and may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala simplify all the difficulties

00:08:19.600 that people are facing in terms of marriage i support you i really do remember the two qualities

00:08:24.560 deen and khuluq if that's the case you have the support not only of myself but even of allah and his

00:08:29.280 rasool sallallahu alayhi wa sallam i just want to finish off um this was a dream to me to have this

00:08:36.000 topic with you inshallah and also brothers and sisters this video not video obviously it's been

00:08:40.400 recorded it's going to be on youtube if you've missed out anything and we discussed the regarding

00:08:44.960 a lot of topics regarding zina if you go to my youtube channel i've got a whole reality show based

00:08:49.760 on this topic so inshallah if you guys inshallah you guys will benefit and before i finish i want to

00:08:55.200 praise allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the most merciful the most just or praise his glory and gratitude

00:08:59.360 belong to him for all the works that we do and keep us in your dua and may allah grant you jannah

00:09:04.160 for sharing this platform we have one more problem how do we get the parents who we address today to

00:09:09.440 watch the youtube clip habibi can we pay them can we pay them some money or something if i was a

00:09:14.560 millionaire wallahi i would pay them you know why because that's the problem with the youtube videos

00:09:20.400 that's not my mark like they don't watch it so every time i'm on the platform like this where there's an

00:09:24.560 audience or i'm on tv where i know aunties and uncles are watching the first topic that i discuss

00:09:28.640 is this the opportunity that i have if i had the money i would pay them well you know aunties and

00:09:33.360 uncles don't help we want the parents subhanallah let's talk to them may allah i hope you know what

00:09:39.040 that their parents in our midst and even later on please listen to what we've said it's a passionate

00:09:43.200 plea we're looking for solutions of the problems of the ummah we really want solutions may allah subhanahu

00:09:48.560 wa ta'ala make us vehicles of solution to the degree that on the day of judgment when we arrive

00:09:53.840 perhaps allah might just look at that deed and take you straight to jannah you know what

00:09:57.040 you broke every norm that was wrong in order for you to please me here is your paradise may

00:10:02.320 allah grant that to us

00:10:11.360 stay seated we're going to have the final

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Ali Dawah - January 26, 2016

Mufti Menk & Ali Dawah Making Haram relationship Halal

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