Ali Dawah - Mufti Menk & Ali Dawah Parents rejecting proposal & Forced marriages

00:00:00.000 As you guys may know, as the brother explained as well, I came to Islam in 2012.

00:00:17.600 The matter which we're going to be talking about today is the matter of zina.

00:00:21.720 This matter is something that I'm really, really passionate about.

00:00:24.920 And the reason why I'm so passionate about it is, some of you guys might know and some of you guys might not know.

00:00:32.300 In Jahiliya, I've lost family members to zina. 1.00

00:00:35.680 And I've had a cousin that committed suicide because of zina. 1.00

00:00:39.740 I've had my cousin's friend who killed himself about three months later, hanged himself in a park because of zina. 1.00

00:00:48.280 I had my neighbor who also killed himself because of zina. 1.00

00:00:52.380 Unfortunately, the community that I come from is very lost.

00:00:56.400 And wallahi, sometimes when I look at born Muslims, I just feel like expressing myself how blessed they are to have Islam.

00:01:03.800 Because when I look at the youth in my community, wallahi, by Allah, they're so lost.

00:01:09.960 And obviously, it's a passionate topic for me.

00:01:11.360 I don't want to waste the time because we've got some really important questions that we want to talk about.

00:01:15.120 But, and wallahi, it's a great honor for me to be like, like, right now, sitting right next to him is, I can't explain to you.

00:01:24.420 May Allah bless brother Mufti Menk.

00:01:26.220 I've learned manners, how to be humble, how to get rid of my arrogance by watching his videos.

00:01:32.600 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant him Jannah.

00:01:34.280 I'm not going to carry on any further because the topics are very important.

00:01:37.320 And, inshallah, we're going to get straight with it, inshallah.

00:01:41.740 Jazakumullah khair.

00:01:42.620 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.

00:01:43.840 To begin with, assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh once again.

00:01:49.920 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.

00:01:51.440 Alhamdulillah.

00:01:52.100 Wa salatu wa salamu ala rasulillah wa ala alihi wa ashabihi wa man ihtada bihudahu wa ba'd.

00:01:57.240 It was such an honor to have met brother Ali yesterday for the first time.

00:02:01.500 And, alhamdulillah, some of you who might be on Snapchat or Instagram might have seen the post he posted.

00:02:06.940 And, just a quick clarification.

00:02:08.540 I see he's a little bit nervous maybe.

00:02:11.500 Am I right?

00:02:12.840 Yeah?

00:02:13.160 Slightly nervous?

00:02:15.100 Oh, you've got over it.

00:02:16.160 Okay, that's good.

00:02:16.700 But, I can just say something quickly.

00:02:18.560 We're all human beings.

00:02:19.840 We're all trying to help one another.

00:02:21.480 I'm sure you guys make dua for me as well.

00:02:24.400 What I'd like to let you know is, yesterday we were trying to take a picture.

00:02:28.420 So, as I was, you know, pressing the screen, I noticed this white light from it.

00:02:35.760 You guys probably know those who have iPhones.

00:02:37.660 I said it earlier, but I'm repeating it because the man is here.

00:02:40.700 Okay?

00:02:41.300 So, what happened is, he said, that's a video.

00:02:45.100 So, I said, oh, salamu alaikum and whatever, whatever I said.

00:02:47.540 And, that went viral if I'm not mistaken.

00:02:49.760 Anyway, that's okay.

00:02:51.100 We're speaking about zina. 0.80

00:02:52.420 For those who don't know what it means, it's talking of adultery or fornication.

00:02:56.320 Sexual misconduct, misbehavior.

00:02:59.740 Now, to begin with, Allah has made marriage very easy.

00:03:04.320 And, Allah has facilitated it. 0.97

00:03:06.180 It's so simple.

00:03:08.700 If you think, nah, it's difficult.

00:03:11.600 It's because of something that's holding you down, that's not Allah.

00:03:15.380 That's what it is.

00:03:16.620 It's not Islam. 1.00

00:03:17.820 It's not Allah. 0.91

00:03:18.560 It's not the rule of Allah.

00:03:19.540 It's something else that's holding you back, holding you down, prohibiting, stopping, putting obstacles.

00:03:25.600 It can never be Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 0.98

00:03:28.500 So, Allah has made it easy so that no one has an excuse to say, I committed adultery.

00:03:34.960 It's one of the kabair.

00:03:36.260 It's one of the major sins.

00:03:37.780 It removes the noor from the face of an individual.

00:03:40.880 And it removes the happiness and contentment from the life of an individual.

00:03:44.880 And it takes away the chances of you or me or anyone else going into paradise with ease.

00:03:52.240 So, it's not like you won't enter paradise.

00:03:55.460 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us all paradise.

00:03:57.480 But you need to seek forgiveness.

00:03:59.400 You need to make amends.

00:04:00.520 You need to become, once again, a person who's asked Allah's forgiveness and said,

00:04:06.160 Look, I've done whatever I've done in the past.

00:04:08.740 It's over.

00:04:09.380 It's gone.

00:04:09.940 I don't want shaitan to bog me down. 1.00

00:04:12.220 I've started a new life.

00:04:13.520 And, oh Allah, forgive me.

00:04:14.780 Grant me paradise.

00:04:15.880 Once you're genuine and sincere, do not let shaitan make you. 1.00

00:04:21.080 Go back to think about what happened and destroy your future.

00:04:24.960 Because one of shaitan's plans is he makes you lose hope. 1.00

00:04:28.820 Losing hope in the sense that, oh, someone comes and says,

00:04:31.700 You know, I've committed adultery or fornication or I've cheated and I've done this and that.

00:04:36.020 And I made tawbah, but you know, it's eating me alive.

00:04:38.540 I can't read salah anymore.

00:04:40.200 I feel too dirty.

00:04:41.700 That's shaitan.

00:04:42.440 The first part of it was the mercy of Allah that made you turn to Allah.

00:04:45.740 But the second part of it is the devil making you think, hang on, hang on, hang on.

00:04:49.420 Allah won't forgive you. 1.00

00:04:50.580 No way.

00:04:51.120 You went a little bit too far, you know.

00:04:52.800 No matter what you've done, remember that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will forgive you.

00:04:58.400 Listen to these beautiful verses.

00:04:59.900 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,

00:05:01.240 والذين إذا فعلوا فاحشة أو ظلموا أنفسهم ذكروا الله فاستغفروا لذنوبهم.

00:05:16.460 ومن يغفر الذنوب إلا الله ولم يصروا على ما فعلوا وهم يعلمون.

00:05:31.240 أُولَئِكَ جَزَاءُهُمْ مَغْفِرَةٌ مِّن رَبِّهِمْ وَجَنَّاتِ

00:05:45.240 Amazing.

00:05:47.020 Allah is saying,

00:05:47.720 Those who have transgressed against themselves, committed immorality. 1.00

00:05:54.980 Those who have engaged in immoral acts, and this includes adultery, fornication, and everything we're speaking about this evening in terms of sin.

00:06:03.920 Those who have engaged in immoral acts, or they have oppressed themselves.

00:06:08.800 Remember Allah and seek forgiveness.

00:06:11.860 And who is there to forgive besides Allah? 0.85

00:06:15.120 You know what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says?

00:06:17.540 If they do not continue in their bad ways, which means if they've turned and they've changed their lives,

00:06:24.020 and they know that they have actually turned for the sake of Allah,

00:06:27.360 they don't knowingly go back and commit the sin.

00:06:30.600 Allah says,

00:06:31.020 So Allah is talking about those who did commit the sin, that hang on, there's a way to get to paradise. 0.88

00:06:40.660 And that is, mend your ways.

00:06:43.220 Forget about the past by seeking forgiveness.

00:06:45.720 Don't just say, okay, I was bad, now I'm good.

00:06:48.560 Ask Allah's forgiveness.

00:06:49.660 I was bad, oh Allah, forgive me, now I'm good.

00:06:52.880 And then don't lose hope.

00:06:54.400 I've come across so many people, and I'm sure Ali, we had a chat just before the session,

00:06:58.960 and we were exchanging notes, and he was telling me that a lot of people ask about halal dating, for example.

00:07:07.340 And I was busy telling him, you know, the dates that I know that are purely halal from Medina Munawwara.

00:07:12.220 Those are the ones, really, they have chocolate coated, they now have strawberry, they have so much.

00:07:17.080 Those are halal dates, my brothers and sisters, really, halal dates.

00:07:21.200 You know them?

00:07:22.140 You know them?

00:07:23.000 Mashallah, tabarakallah.

00:07:24.440 But anyway, we'll get to that, halal dating.

00:07:26.440 What I'm saying right now is of utmost importance, and that is, brothers and sisters,

00:07:32.140 what you've done cannot be undone, except through tawbah. 0.94

00:07:37.000 That's it.

00:07:37.740 When you engage in tawbah, it is undone. 0.98

00:07:40.580 When we say undone, listen to another verse.

00:07:43.340 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks about zina, and major sins in surah al-furqan, towards the end.

00:07:50.260 And Allah speaks about major sins.

00:07:52.320 And then he says, those people who engage in major sins will be punished.

00:07:57.740 But he makes an exception because he's so merciful.

00:08:00.340 And he says,

00:08:01.360 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:08:06.040 The exception is of those who have repented to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:08:29.140 and after that, done good deeds.

00:08:32.460 Allah says, for them, we will convert the bad deeds.

00:08:36.460 Undone, isn't it?

00:08:37.400 We were speaking about undoing bad deeds.

00:08:39.260 We will convert the bad deeds by bringing them onto the right side of the scale into good deeds,

00:08:45.640 because they changed their lives after they asked Allah's forgiveness.

00:08:49.160 So, if you ask Allah's forgiveness from a sin,

00:08:51.720 He will forgive you, and He will wipe the sin out.

00:08:54.420 And if you commit the sin again, you ask Allah's forgiveness again.

00:08:57.420 He will forgive you, He will wipe the sin.

00:08:59.380 And if you commit the sin a third time, you ask Allah's forgiveness.

00:09:02.580 And the conditions are, admit your sin, regret it,

00:09:07.100 ask Allah's forgiveness, and promise not to do it again.

00:09:10.840 If those conditions are met, it's wiped out, gone.

00:09:13.900 Don't doubt the forgiveness of Allah.

00:09:18.200 Don't ever.

00:09:19.000 Don't allow shaitan to come to you and make you think, 1.00

00:09:21.600 you know what?

00:09:22.860 I'm not forgiven.

00:09:23.800 If those four conditions were met, you are forgiven.

00:09:26.440 So, some might ask,

00:09:27.500 what if after some time I committed it again,

00:09:29.380 because you know, I happened to fall.

00:09:31.660 Although when I engaged in tawbah, I was genuine. 1.00

00:09:35.040 Well, if you were genuine, be genuine once again.

00:09:37.340 And genuine a third time.

00:09:38.740 And genuine up to the time you die.

00:09:40.360 If the sin was repeated without having planned it

00:09:43.540 at the time of your previous tawbah,

00:09:45.460 you know what?

00:09:46.040 You will still be deserving of the mercy of Allah.

00:09:50.220 That tawbah is acceptable. 1.00

00:09:51.560 But, one is for your tawbah to be accepted 0.89

00:09:54.880 in a way that the sin is wiped out.

00:09:56.720 The other is for your tawbah to be accepted 0.90

00:09:59.140 and your sin is converted to a good deed.

00:10:02.120 When will that be?

00:10:03.080 When you have changed your life.

00:10:05.140 That's the condition.

00:10:06.160 And done only good deeds thereafter.

00:10:08.680 Avoided major sin thereafter.

00:10:11.020 Then, you are owed something else.

00:10:13.040 Because you know, once you sin,

00:10:14.520 you sin once, you regret.

00:10:16.580 That feeling of regret is a sign of iman, 0.59

00:10:18.860 sign of belief.

00:10:20.000 When you commit the same sin again,

00:10:21.560 your regret is a little bit less.

00:10:23.320 Third time, it's less.

00:10:24.840 Four, five, six, seven times,

00:10:26.140 it becomes a habit.

00:10:26.980 You start enjoying committing a sin.

00:10:29.180 And this is why,

00:10:29.880 if you can ask Allah's forgiveness and quit,

00:10:32.580 knowing that you can do it,

00:10:34.020 but you're not doing it for the sake of Allah.

00:10:36.220 Allah said, you know what?

00:10:37.060 You deserve that that bad deed becomes a good deed.

00:10:39.900 You know why?

00:10:40.760 Because you could have done it,

00:10:42.080 but you didn't,

00:10:42.960 because you want to please Allah.

00:10:44.600 So, this is just the introduction.

00:10:46.200 I started with it.

00:10:46.980 I took a bit of time with it.

00:10:48.260 But my brother,

00:10:49.100 I think it's extremely important,

00:10:50.540 because a lot of us out there,

00:10:51.860 we're struggling with the environment.

00:10:53.740 Do you know what the environment's all about?

00:10:56.000 It's a hyper, hyper, hyper,

00:10:59.000 sexualized environment. 1.00

00:11:01.100 Everything you look at,

00:11:02.160 is advertising the opposite sex.

00:11:04.040 That's what it is.

00:11:05.380 So, it's become so difficult.

00:11:07.100 You know,

00:11:07.580 even if you click on a few hashtags,

00:11:09.300 for example, on Instagram,

00:11:10.620 you're bound to see something

00:11:12.420 that you're not supposed to be looking at,

00:11:13.980 so you quickly don't look at it.

00:11:15.380 You know,

00:11:15.780 it doesn't mean the first look is yours.

00:11:17.820 So, you know,

00:11:18.540 one of the sheikhs in Nigeria, 1.00

00:11:19.760 when we were there,

00:11:20.680 he was giving an example.

00:11:21.820 He says,

00:11:22.120 you see,

00:11:22.420 you have the phone,

00:11:23.520 and you know,

00:11:24.320 if you see something

00:11:25.900 that you're not supposed to be looking at,

00:11:28.020 some of the people say,

00:11:28.980 brother,

00:11:30.020 look at this.

00:11:30.840 Now,

00:11:31.000 you know what?

00:11:32.360 Astaghfirullah.

00:11:33.140 Astaghfirullah.

00:11:33.780 Look at that.

00:11:34.380 Ow. 0.99

00:11:34.780 Ow. 0.99

00:11:35.300 Look,

00:11:35.880 look,

00:11:36.060 look at this brother.

00:11:37.320 Astaghfirullah.

00:11:37.860 Look,

00:11:38.220 my brother,

00:11:38.840 check,

00:11:39.120 look at this guys.

00:11:39.860 Look,

00:11:40.040 Astaghfirullah.

00:11:40.860 Look,

00:11:41.080 look.

00:11:41.840 No,

00:11:42.100 no,

00:11:42.220 no,

00:11:42.380 no.

00:11:42.920 What one,

00:11:43.840 what it means is,

00:11:44.580 you just say,

00:11:45.060 Astaghfirullah,

00:11:45.740 and you go to the next page,

00:11:47.060 or you delete it,

00:11:47.800 or you stop it,

00:11:48.500 or whatever,

00:11:48.880 and you put the phone down.

00:11:49.920 You don't keep on looking at it,

00:11:51.260 thinking,

00:11:51.700 but it's just my first look.

00:11:54.180 As they say,

00:11:55.480 that's your phone.

00:11:56.400 Take it easy.

00:12:00.620 They will forward a pornographic,

00:12:02.100 or a dirty picture,

00:12:03.440 and write at the bottom of it,

00:12:04.800 a password.

00:12:05.620 What's the password?

00:12:07.060 Astaghfirullah.

00:12:08.300 How can you do that?

00:12:09.980 You just did something very bad.

00:12:11.740 You promoted evil,

00:12:12.960 and you said,

00:12:13.440 Astaghfirullah,

00:12:14.220 and you think that that's acceptable.

00:12:15.920 No,

00:12:16.240 it's not.

00:12:16.880 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide us.

00:12:18.460 So,

00:12:19.460 maybe we can get to one of the questions you have there,

00:12:21.960 Habibi. 0.76

00:12:22.460 One of the questions,

00:12:23.580 well,

00:12:23.800 this is the third question,

00:12:24.900 but I'm going to put it right at the top,

00:12:26.900 because if there's aunties, 1.00

00:12:28.280 and uncles here,

00:12:29.080 and this is,

00:12:30.620 one of the questions that I,

00:12:31.860 you know,

00:12:32.060 every time I get an opportunity,

00:12:33.340 where I know there's aunties, 0.89

00:12:34.560 and uncles listening,

00:12:35.440 this is the question that I want to ask,

00:12:37.380 and the reason why I want to ask is,

00:12:39.000 because we have many questions as well,

00:12:40.720 but one of these questions is regarding,

00:12:43.260 like,

00:12:44.060 a couple of weeks ago,

00:12:45.160 a brother messaged me,

00:12:46.320 and he said,

00:12:46.640 okay,

00:12:46.820 okay,

00:12:47.060 Masha,

00:12:47.280 you talk about how to protect yourself from zina, 1.00

00:12:49.420 et cetera,

00:12:50.320 but I want to do it the halal way.

00:12:52.100 The halal way is not possible for me, 1.00

00:12:53.800 because my father,

00:12:55.460 or my mother,

00:12:56.120 is rejecting a sister,

00:12:57.940 or a brother, 0.99

00:12:58.680 because he's black, 0.55

00:12:59.680 or he's white,

00:13:00.900 this even happens with,

00:13:02.100 for example,

00:13:03.080 no offense,

00:13:03.580 Pakistanis and Bangladeshis here,

00:13:04.980 I love you all,

00:13:05.700 may Allah bless you guys,

00:13:07.220 with the same tribe,

00:13:08.720 you know,

00:13:09.040 it's like,

00:13:09.760 Somalians as well,

00:13:10.680 no disrespect,

00:13:11.860 you know,

00:13:12.380 it's crazy,

00:13:13.300 because it's like,

00:13:14.020 you're in the same tribe,

00:13:14.820 you're Somalian,

00:13:15.400 I'm like,

00:13:15.740 why are they rejecting another Somalian?

00:13:17.520 Not from my tribe.

00:13:18.800 So,

00:13:19.180 this is the main question,

00:13:20.560 and one of the biggest reasons,

00:13:22.080 which I believe,

00:13:23.140 from what I've seen out there,

00:13:24.500 the reason why the youth take the role to zina.

00:13:27.340 So,

00:13:27.860 how could one protect themselves,

00:13:30.980 and what kind of advice would you give to the parents,

00:13:33.800 who are making it hard,

00:13:36.020 for the children to do it in a halal way,

00:13:38.140 the marriage?

00:13:39.220 You know,

00:13:39.560 it's a question that I've been a victim of myself.

00:13:42.520 Me too.

00:13:44.120 Confessions of,

00:13:46.160 some time back,

00:13:47.260 MashaAllah.

00:13:47.820 May Allah forgive them,

00:13:48.780 and forgive us.

00:13:50.260 I look at it at hindsight,

00:13:51.360 and I say,

00:13:51.800 Allahu Akbar,

00:13:52.500 perhaps we were meant to be,

00:13:54.120 you know,

00:13:55.020 advising the parents,

00:13:56.120 my beloved parents who are here,

00:13:57.680 and who will listen to this later on.

00:13:59.540 If you have not followed the method,

00:14:01.820 that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has taught you,

00:14:04.820 through Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

00:14:06.940 when it comes to the marriage of your children,

00:14:08.640 you've lost the plot.

00:14:10.740 You think it's your child.

00:14:12.160 It's not.

00:14:12.780 It's Allah's child. 1.00

00:14:15.000 It's just a test for you.

00:14:16.680 The child you think,

00:14:17.480 my child,

00:14:17.980 my child,

00:14:18.460 no way.

00:14:19.220 You're just fortunate that Allah's allowed you to say that for a moment.

00:14:22.860 He can take the child away from you now.

00:14:25.660 And if he wanted,

00:14:26.660 he wouldn't have even blessed you with the child.

00:14:29.620 So,

00:14:30.180 don't think my child.

00:14:31.760 Tell yourself,

00:14:32.740 Amanah from Allah,

00:14:33.920 we'll take away anytime.

00:14:35.540 We'll question me about how,

00:14:37.240 I brought this Amanah up and what I did.

00:14:40.040 So the hadith,

00:14:41.400 Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

00:14:43.300 إِذَا أَتَاكُم مَن تَرْضَوْنَ دِينَهُ وَخُلُوقَهُ فَزَوِّجُوهُ إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ عَرِضٍ

00:14:51.540 If someone comes to you wanting to marry, 0.74

00:14:54.920 and they have proposed to marry your child,

00:14:57.840 and their two things are decent,

00:15:01.440 if you don't allow that marriage,

00:15:03.120 Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling you,

00:15:05.540 there will be great fitna on earth and fasad.

00:15:08.700 You know what fitna and fasad means?

00:15:10.300 There will be trials, problems, chaos, calamity, issues,

00:15:15.340 because now you've encouraged sin.

00:15:17.860 So what are these two things?

00:15:19.100 The deen.

00:15:19.900 The deen meaning the level of religiousness,

00:15:22.540 the level of closeness to Allah.

00:15:24.280 So something decent.

00:15:25.900 They don't have to be someone so pious,

00:15:28.560 you know, so pious that, you know,

00:15:30.520 they've got to be in Salatul Tahajjud every day before I accept them.

00:15:34.120 Dear dad, you don't even read Tahajjud yourself. 0.91

00:15:37.200 So stop it.

00:15:37.980 You know, they must be totally honest.

00:15:41.100 Dad, you lie as well.

00:15:42.440 I've caught you lying so many times.

00:15:44.400 You know, sometimes,

00:15:45.400 Astaghfirullah, I shouldn't say this, 0.99

00:15:46.580 but I feel like putting a CCTV in my own home,

00:15:49.680 just to prove to people who live with me sometimes,

00:15:51.980 you did say this, didn't you?

00:15:55.300 You know, the laughter means a lot of us would love to do that.

00:15:58.340 Well, subhanallah, do it.

00:16:00.980 Do it.

00:16:02.120 And say, dad, here it is.

00:16:03.740 They will be so good and quiet.

00:16:05.460 And tell them, those shaykhs you are a friend of, 1.00

00:16:08.520 I'm going to show them how you operate in the home.

00:16:11.160 They will be so upset.

00:16:13.500 What about Allah? 0.69

00:16:14.360 Allah is watching all the time. 0.99

00:16:15.940 You're not worried about Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. 0.87

00:16:18.680 So, if someone comes to you,

00:16:20.760 the deen is okay and the character is okay.

00:16:23.520 They speak to you with respect.

00:16:24.920 They're ready to respect your child.

00:16:26.480 They have a sense of responsibility.

00:16:28.620 Let the marriage happen. 0.63

00:16:30.120 Let it happen.

00:16:31.060 So someone might say,

00:16:32.340 oh, but the hadith speaks about kufu.

00:16:34.880 You know what kufu is? 0.98

00:16:36.260 It means they need to be on a similar cultural line.

00:16:39.540 That's a misinterpretation of the word.

00:16:41.820 You have not interpreted the hadith correctly.

00:16:43.840 You're talking of similarities in terms of the upbringing.

00:16:47.080 So if you're brought up in London,

00:16:48.420 you've been to the similar schools,

00:16:49.980 you've gone up,

00:16:50.740 you've had similar upbringing,

00:16:51.980 you know what's happening.

00:16:53.420 That's kufu. 0.98

00:16:54.720 The color is never an issue.

00:16:56.660 The tribe is not an issue.

00:16:58.580 Bilal ibn Rabah was known as radhiallahu anhu.

00:17:01.140 What was he?

00:17:02.040 He was from Africa, subhanallah.

00:17:03.880 Suhaib al-Rumi.

00:17:04.820 He was from Rome, subhanallah. 0.51

00:17:06.480 He was a white man.

00:17:07.560 They were companions for a reason.

00:17:10.300 If Allah wanted, 0.89

00:17:11.140 they wouldn't have been companions.

00:17:12.460 But they were companions for us

00:17:13.980 to learn a lesson later on

00:17:15.480 to say, hang on, hang on, hang on.

00:17:16.920 Do not be a racist.

00:17:18.460 Do not be a tribalist.

00:17:20.160 You come from this tribe.

00:17:21.120 Do you know a lot of us?

00:17:22.400 And I'm going to say this to the older people.

00:17:23.980 A lot of us.

00:17:26.100 Even though we think

00:17:27.440 that we're not racist,

00:17:28.540 we are.

00:17:30.760 Even though we think

00:17:32.040 we're not tribalist,

00:17:33.160 wallahi,

00:17:34.180 search your heart.

00:17:35.180 You think,

00:17:36.220 ah, the guys from my village

00:17:37.440 are slightly better

00:17:38.240 than the guys from that village.

00:17:39.420 What village you're talking about?

00:17:40.840 You know, the guys from up north

00:17:42.000 are a little bit backward 0.99

00:17:42.900 from the guys in London.

00:17:44.140 I don't know if you've heard that.

00:17:45.460 You know,

00:17:45.800 we've got a problem with people

00:17:47.320 who come from another area.

00:17:48.880 Wallahi,

00:17:49.760 in India,

00:17:50.580 there is a river.

00:17:51.580 If you're from the other side, 0.99

00:17:52.940 you're a baddie. 0.98

00:17:53.960 And if you're from this side, 0.99

00:17:55.160 those people consider you a baddie.

00:17:56.640 The same applies in the Philippines.

00:17:58.500 If you come from the south,

00:17:59.900 you're khalas. 0.99

00:18:01.160 You're somewhat

00:18:01.820 on another level altogether.

00:18:04.120 Why?

00:18:05.180 When the hadith speaks clearly, 0.98

00:18:06.820 the verse of the Quran speaks

00:18:08.160 about Adam and Hawa being created.

00:18:10.440 You're forefathers,

00:18:11.360 subhanallah.

00:18:12.200 You are all

00:18:12.960 from the family of the prophet.

00:18:15.700 Do you know that?

00:18:16.900 Everyone,

00:18:17.540 including myself,

00:18:18.500 we are honored

00:18:19.160 to be from the family

00:18:20.060 of the prophet.

00:18:21.060 Which prophet

00:18:21.580 is the question?

00:18:23.160 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 1.00

00:18:24.280 grant us

00:18:24.860 an understanding.

00:18:25.900 because Nuh

00:18:27.180 is the closest common

00:18:29.520 grandfather

00:18:30.480 whom we know

00:18:31.280 for a fact

00:18:32.120 was our father.

00:18:33.560 So aren't you

00:18:33.960 from the family

00:18:34.480 of the prophet Nuh?

00:18:35.420 May Allah's peace

00:18:35.980 and blessings be upon him.

00:18:37.620 There you are.

00:18:38.220 So if an African 0.98

00:18:41.080 comes to you

00:18:41.720 to marry your daughter 0.83

00:18:42.640 and you happen to be

00:18:43.580 for example

00:18:44.160 Caucasian or Asian

00:18:45.700 and he tells you

00:18:47.540 listen,

00:18:48.060 I would like to get married

00:18:49.100 to your daughter

00:18:49.800 for example.

00:18:50.720 Look at his deen

00:18:51.420 and his khuluq

00:18:52.060 and see the interest

00:18:53.540 of your child.

00:18:55.120 Because in Islam 0.96

00:18:56.400 it is prohibited

00:18:57.800 to force

00:18:59.120 your child

00:18:59.940 to marry

00:19:00.540 whom they do not

00:19:01.580 want to marry.

00:19:02.440 It's a major sin.

00:19:03.340 Major sin meaning

00:19:04.040 you are going to

00:19:05.500 encourage

00:19:06.420 so many other sins

00:19:08.160 as a result.

00:19:09.340 So remember this.

00:19:10.700 If someone comes to you

00:19:12.200 and your child

00:19:13.400 your son

00:19:13.920 your daughter

00:19:14.520 has a keen interest

00:19:16.040 and they are

00:19:16.720 so keen for it

00:19:17.820 and you happen to look

00:19:18.920 at the deen

00:19:19.420 and the khuluq 0.99

00:19:19.980 you have to

00:19:21.040 by the instruction

00:19:22.000 of Allah's messenger

00:19:23.040 let it happen.

00:19:24.620 If you don't 0.84

00:19:25.180 you're a racist 0.99

00:19:26.020 you're a tribalist 1.00

00:19:26.980 you're a whatever else-ist

00:19:28.240 and you know what?

00:19:29.180 You're going to be caught

00:19:29.920 by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

00:19:31.320 A lot of people

00:19:32.700 are struggling

00:19:33.300 struggling because

00:19:34.400 they went to school

00:19:35.760 with someone

00:19:36.240 they went to uni

00:19:36.960 with someone

00:19:37.540 and so on and so forth

00:19:38.640 and later on

00:19:39.160 they came the proper way

00:19:40.420 please come and see my dad

00:19:41.600 and the poor fellow

00:19:42.460 comes to see the dad

00:19:43.440 and the dad says

00:19:44.060 no.

00:19:44.960 Why?

00:19:45.820 Your skin tan is 3.3 degrees

00:19:47.620 more than mine.

00:19:50.240 I don't know if tans

00:19:51.340 are measured in degrees

00:19:52.220 habibi

00:19:52.580 but I just had to say it.

00:19:54.300 Okay?

00:19:55.540 Degrees because of the heat

00:19:56.660 you know where you come from

00:19:57.400 Africa like me?

00:19:58.400 Subhanallah.

00:19:59.120 Normally in Africa 0.97

00:19:59.860 you find the hand

00:20:00.600 is very dark.

00:20:01.420 The reason is

00:20:01.880 when you drive

00:20:02.620 you know

00:20:03.240 your hands are always burnt.

00:20:05.480 So they look at your hand

00:20:06.340 and say

00:20:06.560 this guy is extremely dark

00:20:07.780 in complexion.

00:20:08.760 So one guy says 0.99

00:20:09.400 let me open my butt 1.00

00:20:10.180 and see, see. 0.99

00:20:11.020 Okay?

00:20:11.560 May Allah forgive us.

00:20:12.420 Wallahi.

00:20:12.980 It's a problem.

00:20:13.600 It's got nothing to do with

00:20:15.160 the skin color,

00:20:16.600 the tan.

00:20:17.760 I come from Africa.

00:20:19.100 Even among the Africans 1.00

00:20:20.200 sometimes

00:20:20.740 they'll tell you

00:20:21.660 hey, this person's

00:20:22.500 a little bit too dark.

00:20:23.540 Hey, we're all Africans

00:20:24.540 at the end of the day.

00:20:25.360 Come on.

00:20:26.320 Subhanallah.

00:20:26.720 We're all human beings.

00:20:28.660 Someone's got deen

00:20:29.480 and khuluq.

00:20:29.920 Please let it happen

00:20:30.800 because you're going

00:20:31.900 against Allah 0.99

00:20:32.740 and his Rasul.

00:20:33.840 No, but what are people

00:20:34.680 going to say?

00:20:35.640 What are people

00:20:36.300 going to say?

00:20:37.860 What is Allah

00:20:38.480 going to say the day?

00:20:39.640 What are you going to say

00:20:40.760 the day you dragged

00:20:41.480 into hellfire?

00:20:42.120 I don't want to sound

00:20:43.020 like a prophet of doom

00:20:43.980 but for this thing

00:20:45.080 there is a bit of doom

00:20:46.540 coming in your direction.

00:20:47.860 You know what doom is?

00:20:48.800 It's a spray.

00:20:51.220 You come across it?

00:20:53.860 Mashallah.

00:20:54.380 30 minutes.

00:20:55.000 Jazakallah khair.

00:20:55.940 You see the brother

00:20:56.520 says three minutes.

00:20:57.480 Do you agree

00:20:58.060 that the Quran says

00:20:59.700 Alhasanatu bi'ashri amthaliha

00:21:01.540 Any good deed

00:21:02.500 is multiplied by ten.

00:21:03.720 You agree?

00:21:05.300 Isn't this a good deed?

00:21:07.860 So wouldn't you like us

00:21:08.980 to multiply the three by ten?

00:21:10.240 So we have 30 minutes

00:21:12.200 Habibi. 0.76

00:21:12.580 Jazakallah khair.

00:21:13.260 Alhamdulillah.

00:21:13.700 Shukran.

00:21:13.980 MashaAllah.

00:21:16.700 Thank you.

00:21:17.340 May Allah bless you.

00:21:17.840 You answered the

00:21:18.260 I was going to ask you

00:21:19.140 forced marriages

00:21:19.840 but Alhamdulillah

00:21:20.240 you covered that.

00:21:21.500 Brothers

00:21:21.900 I will not leave the stage

00:21:23.700 until I've gone through

00:21:24.680 these questions

00:21:25.100 inshallah yeah?

00:21:27.000 One of the next questions is

00:21:28.460 how do I protect myself

00:21:32.860 from zina?

00:21:34.440 I think the questions

00:21:35.460 are related.

00:21:36.280 So how do you protect

00:21:37.180 yourself from zina?

00:21:38.080 The reality is

00:21:38.940 number one

00:21:39.960 number one

00:21:40.660 everyone

00:21:41.180 listen to this

00:21:41.900 it's not what you think

00:21:42.920 I'm going to say

00:21:43.640 it's not what you want

00:21:44.860 I'll mater

00:21:47.020 it's not what you want

00:21:47.200 it's not what I thought

00:21:49.660 the truth

00:21:50.460 is

00:21:52.200 NANANANAN, SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOAPAREERU.

00:21:53.600 해버 geys, just glass of water,

00:22:00.300 earth water,

00:22:05.220 Again,

Ali Dawah - January 14, 2016

Mufti Menk & Ali Dawah Parents rejecting proposal & Forced marriages

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