Ali Dawah - January 14, 2016


Mufti Menk & Ali Dawah Parents rejecting proposal & Forced marriages


Episode Stats

Length

22 minutes

Words per Minute

174.73325

Word Count

3,881

Sentence Count

324

Misogynist Sentences

7

Hate Speech Sentences

52


Summary

In this podcast, we discuss the topic of Zina and how it has impacted our community and the way we live our lives. We also talk about the importance of forgiveness and how we need to make amends to those who have done us wrong.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 As you guys may know, as the brother explained as well, I came to Islam in 2012.
00:00:17.600 The matter which we're going to be talking about today is the matter of zina.
00:00:21.720 This matter is something that I'm really, really passionate about.
00:00:24.920 And the reason why I'm so passionate about it is, some of you guys might know and some of you guys might not know.
00:00:32.300 In Jahiliya, I've lost family members to zina.
00:00:35.680 And I've had a cousin that committed suicide because of zina.
00:00:39.740 I've had my cousin's friend who killed himself about three months later, hanged himself in a park because of zina.
00:00:48.280 I had my neighbor who also killed himself because of zina.
00:00:52.380 Unfortunately, the community that I come from is very lost.
00:00:56.400 And wallahi, sometimes when I look at born Muslims, I just feel like expressing myself how blessed they are to have Islam.
00:01:03.800 Because when I look at the youth in my community, wallahi, by Allah, they're so lost.
00:01:09.960 And obviously, it's a passionate topic for me.
00:01:11.360 I don't want to waste the time because we've got some really important questions that we want to talk about.
00:01:15.120 But, and wallahi, it's a great honor for me to be like, like, right now, sitting right next to him is, I can't explain to you.
00:01:24.420 May Allah bless brother Mufti Menk.
00:01:26.220 I've learned manners, how to be humble, how to get rid of my arrogance by watching his videos.
00:01:32.600 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant him Jannah.
00:01:34.280 I'm not going to carry on any further because the topics are very important.
00:01:37.320 And, inshallah, we're going to get straight with it, inshallah.
00:01:41.740 Jazakumullah khair.
00:01:42.620 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.
00:01:43.840 To begin with, assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh once again.
00:01:49.920 Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.
00:01:51.440 Alhamdulillah.
00:01:52.100 Wa salatu wa salamu ala rasulillah wa ala alihi wa ashabihi wa man ihtada bihudahu wa ba'd.
00:01:57.240 It was such an honor to have met brother Ali yesterday for the first time.
00:02:01.500 And, alhamdulillah, some of you who might be on Snapchat or Instagram might have seen the post he posted.
00:02:06.940 And, just a quick clarification.
00:02:08.540 I see he's a little bit nervous maybe.
00:02:11.500 Am I right?
00:02:12.840 Yeah?
00:02:13.160 Slightly nervous?
00:02:15.100 Oh, you've got over it.
00:02:16.160 Okay, that's good.
00:02:16.700 But, I can just say something quickly.
00:02:18.560 We're all human beings.
00:02:19.840 We're all trying to help one another.
00:02:21.480 I'm sure you guys make dua for me as well.
00:02:24.400 What I'd like to let you know is, yesterday we were trying to take a picture.
00:02:28.420 So, as I was, you know, pressing the screen, I noticed this white light from it.
00:02:35.760 You guys probably know those who have iPhones.
00:02:37.660 I said it earlier, but I'm repeating it because the man is here.
00:02:40.700 Okay?
00:02:41.300 So, what happened is, he said, that's a video.
00:02:45.100 So, I said, oh, salamu alaikum and whatever, whatever I said.
00:02:47.540 And, that went viral if I'm not mistaken.
00:02:49.760 Anyway, that's okay.
00:02:51.100 We're speaking about zina.
00:02:52.420 For those who don't know what it means, it's talking of adultery or fornication.
00:02:56.320 Sexual misconduct, misbehavior.
00:02:59.740 Now, to begin with, Allah has made marriage very easy.
00:03:04.320 And, Allah has facilitated it.
00:03:06.180 It's so simple.
00:03:08.700 If you think, nah, it's difficult.
00:03:11.600 It's because of something that's holding you down, that's not Allah.
00:03:15.380 That's what it is.
00:03:16.620 It's not Islam.
00:03:17.820 It's not Allah.
00:03:18.560 It's not the rule of Allah.
00:03:19.540 It's something else that's holding you back, holding you down, prohibiting, stopping, putting obstacles.
00:03:25.600 It can never be Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
00:03:28.500 So, Allah has made it easy so that no one has an excuse to say, I committed adultery.
00:03:34.960 It's one of the kabair.
00:03:36.260 It's one of the major sins.
00:03:37.780 It removes the noor from the face of an individual.
00:03:40.880 And it removes the happiness and contentment from the life of an individual.
00:03:44.880 And it takes away the chances of you or me or anyone else going into paradise with ease.
00:03:52.240 So, it's not like you won't enter paradise.
00:03:55.460 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us all paradise.
00:03:57.480 But you need to seek forgiveness.
00:03:59.400 You need to make amends.
00:04:00.520 You need to become, once again, a person who's asked Allah's forgiveness and said,
00:04:06.160 Look, I've done whatever I've done in the past.
00:04:08.740 It's over.
00:04:09.380 It's gone.
00:04:09.940 I don't want shaitan to bog me down.
00:04:12.220 I've started a new life.
00:04:13.520 And, oh Allah, forgive me.
00:04:14.780 Grant me paradise.
00:04:15.880 Once you're genuine and sincere, do not let shaitan make you.
00:04:21.080 Go back to think about what happened and destroy your future.
00:04:24.960 Because one of shaitan's plans is he makes you lose hope.
00:04:28.820 Losing hope in the sense that, oh, someone comes and says,
00:04:31.700 You know, I've committed adultery or fornication or I've cheated and I've done this and that.
00:04:36.020 And I made tawbah, but you know, it's eating me alive.
00:04:38.540 I can't read salah anymore.
00:04:40.200 I feel too dirty.
00:04:41.700 That's shaitan.
00:04:42.440 The first part of it was the mercy of Allah that made you turn to Allah.
00:04:45.740 But the second part of it is the devil making you think, hang on, hang on, hang on.
00:04:49.420 Allah won't forgive you.
00:04:50.580 No way.
00:04:51.120 You went a little bit too far, you know.
00:04:52.800 No matter what you've done, remember that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will forgive you.
00:04:58.400 Listen to these beautiful verses.
00:04:59.900 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
00:05:01.240 والذين إذا فعلوا فاحشة أو ظلموا أنفسهم ذكروا الله فاستغفروا لذنوبهم.
00:05:16.460 ومن يغفر الذنوب إلا الله ولم يصروا على ما فعلوا وهم يعلمون.
00:05:31.240 أُولَئِكَ جَزَاءُهُمْ مَغْفِرَةٌ مِّن رَبِّهِمْ وَجَنَّاتِ
00:05:45.240 Amazing.
00:05:47.020 Allah is saying,
00:05:47.720 Those who have transgressed against themselves, committed immorality.
00:05:54.980 Those who have engaged in immoral acts, and this includes adultery, fornication, and everything we're speaking about this evening in terms of sin.
00:06:03.920 Those who have engaged in immoral acts, or they have oppressed themselves.
00:06:08.800 Remember Allah and seek forgiveness.
00:06:11.860 And who is there to forgive besides Allah?
00:06:15.120 You know what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says?
00:06:17.540 If they do not continue in their bad ways, which means if they've turned and they've changed their lives,
00:06:24.020 and they know that they have actually turned for the sake of Allah,
00:06:27.360 they don't knowingly go back and commit the sin.
00:06:30.600 Allah says,
00:06:31.020 So Allah is talking about those who did commit the sin, that hang on, there's a way to get to paradise.
00:06:40.660 And that is, mend your ways.
00:06:43.220 Forget about the past by seeking forgiveness.
00:06:45.720 Don't just say, okay, I was bad, now I'm good.
00:06:48.560 Ask Allah's forgiveness.
00:06:49.660 I was bad, oh Allah, forgive me, now I'm good.
00:06:52.880 And then don't lose hope.
00:06:54.400 I've come across so many people, and I'm sure Ali, we had a chat just before the session,
00:06:58.960 and we were exchanging notes, and he was telling me that a lot of people ask about halal dating, for example.
00:07:07.340 And I was busy telling him, you know, the dates that I know that are purely halal from Medina Munawwara.
00:07:12.220 Those are the ones, really, they have chocolate coated, they now have strawberry, they have so much.
00:07:17.080 Those are halal dates, my brothers and sisters, really, halal dates.
00:07:21.200 You know them?
00:07:22.140 You know them?
00:07:23.000 Mashallah, tabarakallah.
00:07:24.440 But anyway, we'll get to that, halal dating.
00:07:26.440 What I'm saying right now is of utmost importance, and that is, brothers and sisters,
00:07:32.140 what you've done cannot be undone, except through tawbah.
00:07:37.000 That's it.
00:07:37.740 When you engage in tawbah, it is undone.
00:07:40.580 When we say undone, listen to another verse.
00:07:43.340 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks about zina, and major sins in surah al-furqan, towards the end.
00:07:50.260 And Allah speaks about major sins.
00:07:52.320 And then he says, those people who engage in major sins will be punished.
00:07:57.740 But he makes an exception because he's so merciful.
00:08:00.340 And he says,
00:08:01.360 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
00:08:06.040 The exception is of those who have repented to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
00:08:29.140 and after that, done good deeds.
00:08:32.460 Allah says, for them, we will convert the bad deeds.
00:08:36.460 Undone, isn't it?
00:08:37.400 We were speaking about undoing bad deeds.
00:08:39.260 We will convert the bad deeds by bringing them onto the right side of the scale into good deeds,
00:08:45.640 because they changed their lives after they asked Allah's forgiveness.
00:08:49.160 So, if you ask Allah's forgiveness from a sin,
00:08:51.720 He will forgive you, and He will wipe the sin out.
00:08:54.420 And if you commit the sin again, you ask Allah's forgiveness again.
00:08:57.420 He will forgive you, He will wipe the sin.
00:08:59.380 And if you commit the sin a third time, you ask Allah's forgiveness.
00:09:02.580 And the conditions are, admit your sin, regret it,
00:09:07.100 ask Allah's forgiveness, and promise not to do it again.
00:09:10.840 If those conditions are met, it's wiped out, gone.
00:09:13.900 Don't doubt the forgiveness of Allah.
00:09:18.200 Don't ever.
00:09:19.000 Don't allow shaitan to come to you and make you think,
00:09:21.600 you know what?
00:09:22.860 I'm not forgiven.
00:09:23.800 If those four conditions were met, you are forgiven.
00:09:26.440 So, some might ask,
00:09:27.500 what if after some time I committed it again,
00:09:29.380 because you know, I happened to fall.
00:09:31.660 Although when I engaged in tawbah, I was genuine.
00:09:35.040 Well, if you were genuine, be genuine once again.
00:09:37.340 And genuine a third time.
00:09:38.740 And genuine up to the time you die.
00:09:40.360 If the sin was repeated without having planned it
00:09:43.540 at the time of your previous tawbah,
00:09:45.460 you know what?
00:09:46.040 You will still be deserving of the mercy of Allah.
00:09:50.220 That tawbah is acceptable.
00:09:51.560 But, one is for your tawbah to be accepted
00:09:54.880 in a way that the sin is wiped out.
00:09:56.720 The other is for your tawbah to be accepted
00:09:59.140 and your sin is converted to a good deed.
00:10:02.120 When will that be?
00:10:03.080 When you have changed your life.
00:10:05.140 That's the condition.
00:10:06.160 And done only good deeds thereafter.
00:10:08.680 Avoided major sin thereafter.
00:10:11.020 Then, you are owed something else.
00:10:13.040 Because you know, once you sin,
00:10:14.520 you sin once, you regret.
00:10:16.580 That feeling of regret is a sign of iman,
00:10:18.860 sign of belief.
00:10:20.000 When you commit the same sin again,
00:10:21.560 your regret is a little bit less.
00:10:23.320 Third time, it's less.
00:10:24.840 Four, five, six, seven times,
00:10:26.140 it becomes a habit.
00:10:26.980 You start enjoying committing a sin.
00:10:29.180 And this is why,
00:10:29.880 if you can ask Allah's forgiveness and quit,
00:10:32.580 knowing that you can do it,
00:10:34.020 but you're not doing it for the sake of Allah.
00:10:36.220 Allah said, you know what?
00:10:37.060 You deserve that that bad deed becomes a good deed.
00:10:39.900 You know why?
00:10:40.760 Because you could have done it,
00:10:42.080 but you didn't,
00:10:42.960 because you want to please Allah.
00:10:44.600 So, this is just the introduction.
00:10:46.200 I started with it.
00:10:46.980 I took a bit of time with it.
00:10:48.260 But my brother,
00:10:49.100 I think it's extremely important,
00:10:50.540 because a lot of us out there,
00:10:51.860 we're struggling with the environment.
00:10:53.740 Do you know what the environment's all about?
00:10:56.000 It's a hyper, hyper, hyper,
00:10:59.000 sexualized environment.
00:11:01.100 Everything you look at,
00:11:02.160 is advertising the opposite sex.
00:11:04.040 That's what it is.
00:11:05.380 So, it's become so difficult.
00:11:07.100 You know,
00:11:07.580 even if you click on a few hashtags,
00:11:09.300 for example, on Instagram,
00:11:10.620 you're bound to see something
00:11:12.420 that you're not supposed to be looking at,
00:11:13.980 so you quickly don't look at it.
00:11:15.380 You know,
00:11:15.780 it doesn't mean the first look is yours.
00:11:17.820 So, you know,
00:11:18.540 one of the sheikhs in Nigeria,
00:11:19.760 when we were there,
00:11:20.680 he was giving an example.
00:11:21.820 He says,
00:11:22.120 you see,
00:11:22.420 you have the phone,
00:11:23.520 and you know,
00:11:24.320 if you see something
00:11:25.900 that you're not supposed to be looking at,
00:11:28.020 some of the people say,
00:11:28.980 brother,
00:11:30.020 look at this.
00:11:30.840 Now,
00:11:31.000 you know what?
00:11:32.360 Astaghfirullah.
00:11:33.140 Astaghfirullah.
00:11:33.780 Look at that.
00:11:34.380 Ow.
00:11:34.780 Ow.
00:11:35.300 Look,
00:11:35.880 look,
00:11:36.060 look at this brother.
00:11:37.320 Astaghfirullah.
00:11:37.860 Look,
00:11:38.220 my brother,
00:11:38.840 check,
00:11:39.120 look at this guys.
00:11:39.860 Look,
00:11:40.040 Astaghfirullah.
00:11:40.860 Look,
00:11:41.080 look.
00:11:41.840 No,
00:11:42.100 no,
00:11:42.220 no,
00:11:42.380 no.
00:11:42.920 What one,
00:11:43.840 what it means is,
00:11:44.580 you just say,
00:11:45.060 Astaghfirullah,
00:11:45.740 and you go to the next page,
00:11:47.060 or you delete it,
00:11:47.800 or you stop it,
00:11:48.500 or whatever,
00:11:48.880 and you put the phone down.
00:11:49.920 You don't keep on looking at it,
00:11:51.260 thinking,
00:11:51.700 but it's just my first look.
00:11:54.180 As they say,
00:11:55.480 that's your phone.
00:11:56.400 Take it easy.
00:12:00.620 They will forward a pornographic,
00:12:02.100 or a dirty picture,
00:12:03.440 and write at the bottom of it,
00:12:04.800 a password.
00:12:05.620 What's the password?
00:12:07.060 Astaghfirullah.
00:12:08.300 How can you do that?
00:12:09.980 You just did something very bad.
00:12:11.740 You promoted evil,
00:12:12.960 and you said,
00:12:13.440 Astaghfirullah,
00:12:14.220 and you think that that's acceptable.
00:12:15.920 No,
00:12:16.240 it's not.
00:12:16.880 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide us.
00:12:18.460 So,
00:12:19.460 maybe we can get to one of the questions you have there,
00:12:21.960 Habibi.
00:12:22.460 One of the questions,
00:12:23.580 well,
00:12:23.800 this is the third question,
00:12:24.900 but I'm going to put it right at the top,
00:12:26.900 because if there's aunties,
00:12:28.280 and uncles here,
00:12:29.080 and this is,
00:12:30.620 one of the questions that I,
00:12:31.860 you know,
00:12:32.060 every time I get an opportunity,
00:12:33.340 where I know there's aunties,
00:12:34.560 and uncles listening,
00:12:35.440 this is the question that I want to ask,
00:12:37.380 and the reason why I want to ask is,
00:12:39.000 because we have many questions as well,
00:12:40.720 but one of these questions is regarding,
00:12:43.260 like,
00:12:44.060 a couple of weeks ago,
00:12:45.160 a brother messaged me,
00:12:46.320 and he said,
00:12:46.640 okay,
00:12:46.820 okay,
00:12:47.060 Masha,
00:12:47.280 you talk about how to protect yourself from zina,
00:12:49.420 et cetera,
00:12:50.320 but I want to do it the halal way.
00:12:52.100 The halal way is not possible for me,
00:12:53.800 because my father,
00:12:55.460 or my mother,
00:12:56.120 is rejecting a sister,
00:12:57.940 or a brother,
00:12:58.680 because he's black,
00:12:59.680 or he's white,
00:13:00.900 this even happens with,
00:13:02.100 for example,
00:13:03.080 no offense,
00:13:03.580 Pakistanis and Bangladeshis here,
00:13:04.980 I love you all,
00:13:05.700 may Allah bless you guys,
00:13:07.220 with the same tribe,
00:13:08.720 you know,
00:13:09.040 it's like,
00:13:09.760 Somalians as well,
00:13:10.680 no disrespect,
00:13:11.860 you know,
00:13:12.380 it's crazy,
00:13:13.300 because it's like,
00:13:14.020 you're in the same tribe,
00:13:14.820 you're Somalian,
00:13:15.400 I'm like,
00:13:15.740 why are they rejecting another Somalian?
00:13:17.520 Not from my tribe.
00:13:18.800 So,
00:13:19.180 this is the main question,
00:13:20.560 and one of the biggest reasons,
00:13:22.080 which I believe,
00:13:23.140 from what I've seen out there,
00:13:24.500 the reason why the youth take the role to zina.
00:13:27.340 So,
00:13:27.860 how could one protect themselves,
00:13:30.980 and what kind of advice would you give to the parents,
00:13:33.800 who are making it hard,
00:13:36.020 for the children to do it in a halal way,
00:13:38.140 the marriage?
00:13:39.220 You know,
00:13:39.560 it's a question that I've been a victim of myself.
00:13:42.520 Me too.
00:13:44.120 Confessions of,
00:13:46.160 some time back,
00:13:47.260 MashaAllah.
00:13:47.820 May Allah forgive them,
00:13:48.780 and forgive us.
00:13:50.260 I look at it at hindsight,
00:13:51.360 and I say,
00:13:51.800 Allahu Akbar,
00:13:52.500 perhaps we were meant to be,
00:13:54.120 you know,
00:13:55.020 advising the parents,
00:13:56.120 my beloved parents who are here,
00:13:57.680 and who will listen to this later on.
00:13:59.540 If you have not followed the method,
00:14:01.820 that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has taught you,
00:14:04.820 through Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
00:14:06.940 when it comes to the marriage of your children,
00:14:08.640 you've lost the plot.
00:14:10.740 You think it's your child.
00:14:12.160 It's not.
00:14:12.780 It's Allah's child.
00:14:15.000 It's just a test for you.
00:14:16.680 The child you think,
00:14:17.480 my child,
00:14:17.980 my child,
00:14:18.460 no way.
00:14:19.220 You're just fortunate that Allah's allowed you to say that for a moment.
00:14:22.860 He can take the child away from you now.
00:14:25.660 And if he wanted,
00:14:26.660 he wouldn't have even blessed you with the child.
00:14:29.620 So,
00:14:30.180 don't think my child.
00:14:31.760 Tell yourself,
00:14:32.740 Amanah from Allah,
00:14:33.920 we'll take away anytime.
00:14:35.540 We'll question me about how,
00:14:37.240 I brought this Amanah up and what I did.
00:14:40.040 So the hadith,
00:14:41.400 Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
00:14:43.300 إِذَا أَتَاكُم مَن تَرْضَوْنَ دِينَهُ وَخُلُوقَهُ فَزَوِّجُوهُ إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوهُ تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ عَرِضٍ
00:14:51.540 If someone comes to you wanting to marry,
00:14:54.920 and they have proposed to marry your child,
00:14:57.840 and their two things are decent,
00:15:01.440 if you don't allow that marriage,
00:15:03.120 Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is telling you,
00:15:05.540 there will be great fitna on earth and fasad.
00:15:08.700 You know what fitna and fasad means?
00:15:10.300 There will be trials, problems, chaos, calamity, issues,
00:15:15.340 because now you've encouraged sin.
00:15:17.860 So what are these two things?
00:15:19.100 The deen.
00:15:19.900 The deen meaning the level of religiousness,
00:15:22.540 the level of closeness to Allah.
00:15:24.280 So something decent.
00:15:25.900 They don't have to be someone so pious,
00:15:28.560 you know, so pious that, you know,
00:15:30.520 they've got to be in Salatul Tahajjud every day before I accept them.
00:15:34.120 Dear dad, you don't even read Tahajjud yourself.
00:15:37.200 So stop it.
00:15:37.980 You know, they must be totally honest.
00:15:41.100 Dad, you lie as well.
00:15:42.440 I've caught you lying so many times.
00:15:44.400 You know, sometimes,
00:15:45.400 Astaghfirullah, I shouldn't say this,
00:15:46.580 but I feel like putting a CCTV in my own home,
00:15:49.680 just to prove to people who live with me sometimes,
00:15:51.980 you did say this, didn't you?
00:15:55.300 You know, the laughter means a lot of us would love to do that.
00:15:58.340 Well, subhanallah, do it.
00:16:00.980 Do it.
00:16:02.120 And say, dad, here it is.
00:16:03.740 They will be so good and quiet.
00:16:05.460 And tell them, those shaykhs you are a friend of,
00:16:08.520 I'm going to show them how you operate in the home.
00:16:11.160 They will be so upset.
00:16:13.500 What about Allah?
00:16:14.360 Allah is watching all the time.
00:16:15.940 You're not worried about Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
00:16:18.680 So, if someone comes to you,
00:16:20.760 the deen is okay and the character is okay.
00:16:23.520 They speak to you with respect.
00:16:24.920 They're ready to respect your child.
00:16:26.480 They have a sense of responsibility.
00:16:28.620 Let the marriage happen.
00:16:30.120 Let it happen.
00:16:31.060 So someone might say,
00:16:32.340 oh, but the hadith speaks about kufu.
00:16:34.880 You know what kufu is?
00:16:36.260 It means they need to be on a similar cultural line.
00:16:39.540 That's a misinterpretation of the word.
00:16:41.820 You have not interpreted the hadith correctly.
00:16:43.840 You're talking of similarities in terms of the upbringing.
00:16:47.080 So if you're brought up in London,
00:16:48.420 you've been to the similar schools,
00:16:49.980 you've gone up,
00:16:50.740 you've had similar upbringing,
00:16:51.980 you know what's happening.
00:16:53.420 That's kufu.
00:16:54.720 The color is never an issue.
00:16:56.660 The tribe is not an issue.
00:16:58.580 Bilal ibn Rabah was known as radhiallahu anhu.
00:17:01.140 What was he?
00:17:02.040 He was from Africa, subhanallah.
00:17:03.880 Suhaib al-Rumi.
00:17:04.820 He was from Rome, subhanallah.
00:17:06.480 He was a white man.
00:17:07.560 They were companions for a reason.
00:17:10.300 If Allah wanted,
00:17:11.140 they wouldn't have been companions.
00:17:12.460 But they were companions for us
00:17:13.980 to learn a lesson later on
00:17:15.480 to say, hang on, hang on, hang on.
00:17:16.920 Do not be a racist.
00:17:18.460 Do not be a tribalist.
00:17:20.160 You come from this tribe.
00:17:21.120 Do you know a lot of us?
00:17:22.400 And I'm going to say this to the older people.
00:17:23.980 A lot of us.
00:17:26.100 Even though we think
00:17:27.440 that we're not racist,
00:17:28.540 we are.
00:17:30.760 Even though we think
00:17:32.040 we're not tribalist,
00:17:33.160 wallahi,
00:17:34.180 search your heart.
00:17:35.180 You think,
00:17:36.220 ah, the guys from my village
00:17:37.440 are slightly better
00:17:38.240 than the guys from that village.
00:17:39.420 What village you're talking about?
00:17:40.840 You know, the guys from up north
00:17:42.000 are a little bit backward
00:17:42.900 from the guys in London.
00:17:44.140 I don't know if you've heard that.
00:17:45.460 You know,
00:17:45.800 we've got a problem with people
00:17:47.320 who come from another area.
00:17:48.880 Wallahi,
00:17:49.760 in India,
00:17:50.580 there is a river.
00:17:51.580 If you're from the other side,
00:17:52.940 you're a baddie.
00:17:53.960 And if you're from this side,
00:17:55.160 those people consider you a baddie.
00:17:56.640 The same applies in the Philippines.
00:17:58.500 If you come from the south,
00:17:59.900 you're khalas.
00:18:01.160 You're somewhat
00:18:01.820 on another level altogether.
00:18:04.120 Why?
00:18:05.180 When the hadith speaks clearly,
00:18:06.820 the verse of the Quran speaks
00:18:08.160 about Adam and Hawa being created.
00:18:10.440 You're forefathers,
00:18:11.360 subhanallah.
00:18:12.200 You are all
00:18:12.960 from the family of the prophet.
00:18:15.700 Do you know that?
00:18:16.900 Everyone,
00:18:17.540 including myself,
00:18:18.500 we are honored
00:18:19.160 to be from the family
00:18:20.060 of the prophet.
00:18:21.060 Which prophet
00:18:21.580 is the question?
00:18:23.160 May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:18:24.280 grant us
00:18:24.860 an understanding.
00:18:25.900 because Nuh
00:18:27.180 is the closest common
00:18:29.520 grandfather
00:18:30.480 whom we know
00:18:31.280 for a fact
00:18:32.120 was our father.
00:18:33.560 So aren't you
00:18:33.960 from the family
00:18:34.480 of the prophet Nuh?
00:18:35.420 May Allah's peace
00:18:35.980 and blessings be upon him.
00:18:37.620 There you are.
00:18:38.220 So if an African
00:18:41.080 comes to you
00:18:41.720 to marry your daughter
00:18:42.640 and you happen to be
00:18:43.580 for example
00:18:44.160 Caucasian or Asian
00:18:45.700 and he tells you
00:18:47.540 listen,
00:18:48.060 I would like to get married
00:18:49.100 to your daughter
00:18:49.800 for example.
00:18:50.720 Look at his deen
00:18:51.420 and his khuluq
00:18:52.060 and see the interest
00:18:53.540 of your child.
00:18:55.120 Because in Islam
00:18:56.400 it is prohibited
00:18:57.800 to force
00:18:59.120 your child
00:18:59.940 to marry
00:19:00.540 whom they do not
00:19:01.580 want to marry.
00:19:02.440 It's a major sin.
00:19:03.340 Major sin meaning
00:19:04.040 you are going to
00:19:05.500 encourage
00:19:06.420 so many other sins
00:19:08.160 as a result.
00:19:09.340 So remember this.
00:19:10.700 If someone comes to you
00:19:12.200 and your child
00:19:13.400 your son
00:19:13.920 your daughter
00:19:14.520 has a keen interest
00:19:16.040 and they are
00:19:16.720 so keen for it
00:19:17.820 and you happen to look
00:19:18.920 at the deen
00:19:19.420 and the khuluq
00:19:19.980 you have to
00:19:21.040 by the instruction
00:19:22.000 of Allah's messenger
00:19:23.040 let it happen.
00:19:24.620 If you don't
00:19:25.180 you're a racist
00:19:26.020 you're a tribalist
00:19:26.980 you're a whatever else-ist
00:19:28.240 and you know what?
00:19:29.180 You're going to be caught
00:19:29.920 by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
00:19:31.320 A lot of people
00:19:32.700 are struggling
00:19:33.300 struggling because
00:19:34.400 they went to school
00:19:35.760 with someone
00:19:36.240 they went to uni
00:19:36.960 with someone
00:19:37.540 and so on and so forth
00:19:38.640 and later on
00:19:39.160 they came the proper way
00:19:40.420 please come and see my dad
00:19:41.600 and the poor fellow
00:19:42.460 comes to see the dad
00:19:43.440 and the dad says
00:19:44.060 no.
00:19:44.960 Why?
00:19:45.820 Your skin tan is 3.3 degrees
00:19:47.620 more than mine.
00:19:50.240 I don't know if tans
00:19:51.340 are measured in degrees
00:19:52.220 habibi
00:19:52.580 but I just had to say it.
00:19:54.300 Okay?
00:19:55.540 Degrees because of the heat
00:19:56.660 you know where you come from
00:19:57.400 Africa like me?
00:19:58.400 Subhanallah.
00:19:59.120 Normally in Africa
00:19:59.860 you find the hand
00:20:00.600 is very dark.
00:20:01.420 The reason is
00:20:01.880 when you drive
00:20:02.620 you know
00:20:03.240 your hands are always burnt.
00:20:05.480 So they look at your hand
00:20:06.340 and say
00:20:06.560 this guy is extremely dark
00:20:07.780 in complexion.
00:20:08.760 So one guy says
00:20:09.400 let me open my butt
00:20:10.180 and see, see.
00:20:11.020 Okay?
00:20:11.560 May Allah forgive us.
00:20:12.420 Wallahi.
00:20:12.980 It's a problem.
00:20:13.600 It's got nothing to do with
00:20:15.160 the skin color,
00:20:16.600 the tan.
00:20:17.760 I come from Africa.
00:20:19.100 Even among the Africans
00:20:20.200 sometimes
00:20:20.740 they'll tell you
00:20:21.660 hey, this person's
00:20:22.500 a little bit too dark.
00:20:23.540 Hey, we're all Africans
00:20:24.540 at the end of the day.
00:20:25.360 Come on.
00:20:26.320 Subhanallah.
00:20:26.720 We're all human beings.
00:20:28.660 Someone's got deen
00:20:29.480 and khuluq.
00:20:29.920 Please let it happen
00:20:30.800 because you're going
00:20:31.900 against Allah
00:20:32.740 and his Rasul.
00:20:33.840 No, but what are people
00:20:34.680 going to say?
00:20:35.640 What are people
00:20:36.300 going to say?
00:20:37.860 What is Allah
00:20:38.480 going to say the day?
00:20:39.640 What are you going to say
00:20:40.760 the day you dragged
00:20:41.480 into hellfire?
00:20:42.120 I don't want to sound
00:20:43.020 like a prophet of doom
00:20:43.980 but for this thing
00:20:45.080 there is a bit of doom
00:20:46.540 coming in your direction.
00:20:47.860 You know what doom is?
00:20:48.800 It's a spray.
00:20:51.220 You come across it?
00:20:53.860 Mashallah.
00:20:54.380 30 minutes.
00:20:55.000 Jazakallah khair.
00:20:55.940 You see the brother
00:20:56.520 says three minutes.
00:20:57.480 Do you agree
00:20:58.060 that the Quran says
00:20:59.700 Alhasanatu bi'ashri amthaliha
00:21:01.540 Any good deed
00:21:02.500 is multiplied by ten.
00:21:03.720 You agree?
00:21:05.300 Isn't this a good deed?
00:21:07.860 So wouldn't you like us
00:21:08.980 to multiply the three by ten?
00:21:10.240 So we have 30 minutes
00:21:12.200 Habibi.
00:21:12.580 Jazakallah khair.
00:21:13.260 Alhamdulillah.
00:21:13.700 Shukran.
00:21:13.980 MashaAllah.
00:21:16.700 Thank you.
00:21:17.340 May Allah bless you.
00:21:17.840 You answered the
00:21:18.260 I was going to ask you
00:21:19.140 forced marriages
00:21:19.840 but Alhamdulillah
00:21:20.240 you covered that.
00:21:21.500 Brothers
00:21:21.900 I will not leave the stage
00:21:23.700 until I've gone through
00:21:24.680 these questions
00:21:25.100 inshallah yeah?
00:21:27.000 One of the next questions is
00:21:28.460 how do I protect myself
00:21:32.860 from zina?
00:21:34.440 I think the questions
00:21:35.460 are related.
00:21:36.280 So how do you protect
00:21:37.180 yourself from zina?
00:21:38.080 The reality is
00:21:38.940 number one
00:21:39.960 number one
00:21:40.660 everyone
00:21:41.180 listen to this
00:21:41.900 it's not what you think
00:21:42.920 I'm going to say
00:21:43.640 it's not what you want
00:21:44.860 I'll mater
00:21:47.020 it's not what you want
00:21:47.200 it's not what I thought
00:21:49.660 the truth
00:21:50.460 is
00:21:52.200 NANANANAN, SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOP SHOOAPAREERU.
00:21:53.600 해버 geys, just glass of water,
00:22:00.300 earth water,
00:22:05.220 Again,