Ali Dawah - September 07, 2022MUSLIM ANDREW TATE VS ALI DAWAH - MENS NEEDS
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In this episode of the podcast, I sit down with my good friend Andrew Tate to discuss some of the most controversial topics in Islam. We talk about whether or not women have a right to ask for a virgin in Islam and why men are polygamists by nature.
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If a woman genuinely repents, she has a right to ask for a virgin guy in Islam, just to make that
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clear. She has a right, but I'm going to say something. She doesn't have the same ability.
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I'm giving advice to a girl on how to get married. She's very overweight and I told her to lose
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weight in a very respectful and nice way. I told that to some girl I went to meet for a rishta.
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She was like, you should tell her to just love herself. It's complete BS.
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or is it underrated? Assalamualaikum guys. I have here the Muslim Andrew Tate.
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As you can say, I'm joking. This guy, we believe you're much better than him because you're a
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Muslim. You know, because you don't commit shirk. So let me ask you a question. You were
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talking about that things, people have got things muddled up. Yeah. So let me ask you
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a question. You know, you look a bit sharp here. You look like you're looking for a second
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wife. Maybe one day, maybe one day. Okay. Are you married? No, not yet. Would you say
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you're polygamous by nature? I think to an extent, if all men tapped into like the real
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desires and if they could have the power, not all men, lots of men, if they could tap into
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the desires, they would actually go for that. But the thing is, lots of men cannot do that
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because they're not strong enough or powerful enough. Right. But if you look at kings of old,
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for example, some of these kings had 500 girls or harems, right? I'm not saying that that's
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islamically right. You know, obviously we have our own take on that. But as far as I'm aware,
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I'm not the best at Muslim knowledge. I do have quite a bit there. But as far as I'm aware,
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it's up to four. And that's open to debate, obviously. Yeah. But yeah, if you were really
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strong and you had a lot of money, and that's why lots of, for example, these Arab guys do
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it, right? They're Islamic, they're religious, but they can do it. And they do it.
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There's a lot of people, there's a lot of men who don't have the money do it as well. But
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are you polygamist by nature? Meaning, would you say, would you agree that most men are
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polygamist by their nature? That if they could, they would have a second or third wife or fourth
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wife? Yeah. So am I right or wrong saying that? I would say you're right. And I'm a big fan
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of biology. People ignore biology and people ignore science. But I think science and religion
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can go hand in hand. And the reality is, you know, I'm going to be very crude. Men like to spread
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their seed, right? They like to have lots of children, when possible and if possible.
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Yeah. And that might, Genghis Khan, example, he had 12,000 women, right? And 12,000? Yeah. And
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that, any animal in the animal kingdom, we're not animals, right? But obviously, we're part
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of nature and we have very similar tendencies, right? And in line with that, lots of men would
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love to have lots of children by lots of different women to differentiate the genetic pool.
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And this is factual, based on scientific evidence. But again, it's just that lots of men can't
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because it costs a lot to manage a wife. Okay, okay, look, can't and won't are two separate
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discussions, yeah? Yeah. Every man would want to. They would not say, I won't or I wouldn't
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do it. I think there's a very rare man. It's, I can't. Yeah, look, look, there's exceptions
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to the rule. Yeah, yeah. I agree. I agree. I agree. Majority of men are polygamists by nature.
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Yeah. Now, you, if a woman's watching this, if she's came and said, oh, you're a misogynist
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or etc. Why are men polygamists? Where does this come from? Well, if you, if you was to
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say you're a misogynist, I think that's just an emotional response. It's very easy to label
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someone something very quickly. Yeah. And the bar to call someone a misogynist is very low
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these days, right? True, true. But again, going back to the why, you see a burger, you
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start salivating, you feel hungry. Why could they have... Oh, you're creating women's burgers
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now. No, no, no, no, no. You're finished. No, no, no, no. Or anything, anything. Let's
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say fresh air. If you didn't have fresh air for a long time, you would crave it because
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that's our natural human instinct. Yeah. Women tend to like one guy. Yeah. They're monogamous.
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They're more, they're a lot more. Well, it depends on the circumstances, right? If you break
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it down. So these days in the Western world, women are cheating as much as men, if not
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more. And that is a fact. They're what? They're cheating more than men. Why is that? Official
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studies, by the way. Yes, yes, yes. And the reason is, one, it's very easy. There's things
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like no-fought divorce, right? There's things like dating apps and Instagram, right? Even
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Muzmach, you know, allows things like that. Back in the day, if you were someone's wife, you
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were under hijab, you were in his house, you would not leave without his permission. I'm not
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saying that that's the optimal scenario, religiously. But that's just how the world
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was, right? These days, if your wife has Instagram, I'm sorry to say, there's lots of people siding
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into her DMs. And they're better than you. They can offer her more money than you. And
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under those circumstances, women are not monogamous at the same time.
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I have a theory. Yes. I believe women are still monogamous by nature. The reason they are
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becoming polygamous is the following reason. It's a theory. Yeah. And I believe it's quite
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a strong theory. If anyone can demand me, please come ahead. Yeah, go ahead. When men are polygamous,
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what happens is usually, so let's imagine a man and a woman. They're in a relationship,
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yeah? Outside, let's not put Islam, are non-Muslims. Yeah. That guy is there for one reason. Yeah.
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She thinks he loves her. He doesn't. He's there for one reason. Once he gets what he wants,
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he says, you know what? I don't think we're compatible. A lot of arguments happen. He breaks
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the relationship up. Yeah. She is under the assumption of what? I was in a relationship
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and we was not compatible, so he moved on. Yeah. She meets another guy. Yeah. The guy has the same
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agenda. Yeah. She meets another guy. The guy has the same agenda. By now, she's got three body counts.
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Yeah. And it's going up. Yeah. What she doesn't realize is that because she sees men acting in that way,
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then they start rebelling and saying men are trash. Yeah. Why are men trash? Because you have made
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yourself so accessible so easily that men are, there's no responsibility. I can just go ask you,
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I'll take you the first day, couple of days, and have what I want. So why on earth would I stay with
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you or be committed to you? Yeah. So therefore, men, the woman's body counts are quite not as bad as a
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man's, but I believe it stems from this. Because women are monogamous by nature, and they are looking for
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that Romeo, and they realize every Romeo they come across is not Romeo, but a fraud. So therefore,
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what they're doing is they're thinking, you know what? I've had four body counts, and all of these
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men have come and used me. I'm going to become a, excuse my language, a H-O-E. So therefore,
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I'm going to go do what they're doing. But what they don't understand is that the more you do that,
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the more your pair bonding reduces. Because when women have intimacy, they release a hormone called
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oxytocin. Yeah. Which is, which helps pair bonding. And studies show that women who have
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one partner, or one, yeah sure, you can have one. So a woman who has, who is married, who is a virgin,
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has 80% more likely to have a relationship lasting more than a decade. Yeah. So what women don't
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understand is that the way men sleeping around, and by the way, it's both haram in Islam. Yes.
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They're both, it's capital punishment, don't get twisted. Yeah. But you, the reason you're doing that,
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you are shooting yourself on the feet. It doesn't affect the man as much, because in his biology,
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and the way he's programmed, he can have multiple wives. Yeah. So the point I'm trying to say is,
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I believe it stems from there. You know what? I agree with you a lot, a lot. In fact, almost like
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98%. The only thing is firstly, yeah, is firstly, a lot of people aren't very smart, yeah, in society.
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And the way I think we need to understand the underlying principles of why things are, you know,
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people take a religious side. I'll give you a small example. Every girl, when she married these days,
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she says, we were created in pairs. That's like a catchphrase these days. Yeah. Yeah.
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It's on, it's on, it's on wedding cards. It's on wedding cakes everywhere. Soulmates.
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And she will have had lots of guys. And she's going to say, this new guy, guy number 134. Yeah.
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Is my new soulmate. That's not how it works. And that, that ayah doesn't even necessarily mean that,
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for example. Which ayah? We were, and we created you in pairs, right? Okay, yes.
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I think the Quran is very poetic. It is very metaphorical. It does not necessarily mean that,
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okay? And it does not mean that there was some special soulmate created for you. Soulmate myth
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is romanticism. But that's an example of how societal conditioning- Pairs can mean male and female.
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As in, it could, it could literally be referring to chromosomes. It could be-
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No, it can. It can even mean, refer to a man and a woman. We were in pairs. Yeah.
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It doesn't mean it's, because otherwise you've got to marry in two, threes and fours. Yeah, exactly.
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It doesn't contradict that, or it doesn't abrogate it. Yeah, it doesn't, it doesn't necessarily mean
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there's one special guy out there for you, right? And vice versa. But the point is-
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Not that there might be, but that one special guy can also be special for other women as well,
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because by getting married again. You know, you know, here's an interesting fact.
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So he can be special for a couple of women. Here's an interesting fact. More people believe
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in a soulmate myth- Yes. Than God. Yeah? Like in the Western world. Okay.
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Official studies again. Interesting. And a lot of these things are official studies,
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but we listen to societal messaging. I'll give another example of societal messaging.
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The body positivity movement. I'm giving advice to a girl on how to get married. She's
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very overweight and I told her to lose weight in a very respectful and nice way. Yeah.
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I told that to some girl I went to meet for a Rishta. Yeah.
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She was like, you should tell her to just love herself. That is complete BS.
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No matter how much she loves herself, she cannot get a guy by staying fat and loving herself a lot.
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That's just not how reality works. Next time you visit his Rishta, tell her that next time she
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meets a guy for marriage, if he's five foot four. Yeah, exactly. And she tells him, oh,
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I think you're a bit short for me. Tell him to love himself too. Yeah. There's a lot of double
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standards out there. Some are wrong and some are right. And one thing is men hate hoes. It's a fact.
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No one will say this to you. Men hate hoes. Oh, sorry. Okay. So men, men do not like women
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that have slept around a lot. And again, that is rooted in biology because that would put the risk
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of paternity. Yes. It would increase the risk of paternity, right? So for example, if,
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if a girl's been with 10 guys biologically, you're like, there's a good chance. That's not my kid.
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I should not invest in her. I do not like her. Your feelings of love and romance do not come.
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Exactly. One of the quickest ways to turn a guy off is to be a ho, right? And that is a fact of
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life. A guy sleeping around and a girl sleeping around in a practical sense has very big differences.
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It is both a sin. Both a sin. Let's make it very clear. Yeah. What we're saying is that
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biologically and the way Allah has created us, one has a greater impact on females than the males.
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This doesn't mean that the sin is not the sin. And by the way, just to make it clear that the ayah
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in the Quran where Allah talks about that chaste women are for chaste men is not talking about
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virgin girls. If a woman genuinely repents, she has a right to ask for a virgin guy in Islam.
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Just to make that clear. She, she has a right, but I'm going to say something. She doesn't have the
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same ability that so if you, if you've been with 20 guys and you've magically turned religious and this
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is, this happens a lot. And the reason is girls realize their mistakes, but your, your emotional
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tendencies are going to be worsened. If you tell someone honestly that you've been with 20 guys
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and you told them that you've changed religiously. We would advise not to. Lots of guys will not
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put up with that. Right? Because. Why though? Why? I'm going to ask you a question. Let me be
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people's advocate. Why is it okay for a man to sleep around? But when it comes to a woman,
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it's not the same. Why does a man reject something? There are lots of, again, it all goes back to
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biology. As a woman, it's very easy to sleep around. As a guy, it requires a lot of skill, money, looks,
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health, etc. But that's not even a base reason. The reason is men don't get pregnant. So women get
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pregnant. So if she's sleeping around with 20 guys, what's the chances of you being the father
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of that child? Five percent. If you're sleeping around with lots of girls. Yes, I don't. Yeah,
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I'm just giving an example. But you know who the father is and you know who their brother is. But
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again, it is, it comes down to biology. I'll give a small example of biology. People respect a strong
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physical man. That doesn't necessarily have much to do with religion. I don't think you should talk
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about me. Yeah. I like that. I like that. But as in, if you were, if you were to see a guy who's
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six foot six and has huge muscles, you will not get rude to him. That had nothing to do with religion.
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Exactly. But that's in a woman's nature. She's hypergamous by nature. So she looks for,
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the thing is very interesting. We accept the woman the way they are. They're hypergamous by nature.
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They look for a man who is tall, strong, leader, provides, protects. But then when it comes to our
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nature of being polygamous. We get shamed. No, when it's like, okay, I'm polygamous by nature.
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And for example, I believe everyone is polygamous by nature. We're blamed for it. The same goes with
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fat shaming. If I went to a girl and I said, you know what? I think you should lose a bit of weight
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in a respectful way and be like, you know what? I'll be like, how dare you say that to her?
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But she can be the same girl that come and say, I want a guy that's middle of six foot two.
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So the thing is, why is it double standards? Why is it when it comes to a woman's weight?
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Because you can control your weight. I can't control my height.
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I think there's two reasons. One is women are more emotional, right? It's true.
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Are you being misogynist now? No, it is true. It is absolute fact. Men go to war. They fight,
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they fight their emotions and they go to war. Bullets flying by and you will still charge to
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the front line if you believe in the cause. Yes. A woman cannot do that to the same extent.
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Some women can. There's exceptions to the rule. There's exceptions to the rule. So if you,
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I went LSC, so I'm kind of smart, yeah? Yeah. But if you look at like normal distributions,
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the normal distribution for male bravery is way higher than female bravery. It's just how it is.
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Of course you might get exceptions. It's true. So when a woman hears you need to lose weight,
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she takes that personally, she gets more emotional. When I hear that, I'm a bit chubby nowadays.
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I'll be like, okay, you know what? I need to go to the gym. Yeah. It's as simple as that.
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I get told that's how it is. I have to do it. I'm a doer. I'm not, I'm not going to try and be a talker
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or go like, oh no, you know what? You shouldn't have that preference. That's your preference.
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Okay. And that's how it works. So that's thing number one. And the second thing is the sisterhood.
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Okay. The sisterhood. Feminism. It's an echo chamber. Yeah. All these girls.
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I think it's a cancel. All these girls telling each other, just accept yourself. Just love yourself.
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It's not good. Yeah. Now, feminism is so strong. We have somehow convinced
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fashion outlets to put pictures of big, beautiful women. I'm not saying that's allowed or whatever.
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Obviously it's around. You should not have pictures out there in society anyways. Yeah.
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In a religious sense. But that's told, we managed to convince, the sisterhood has managed to convince
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some people that big is beautiful these days. No, no, no. Complete BS. No, no, no. I disagree with you.
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It can be. Yeah. Because you need to understand, there are different men.
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Generally. Generally. Generally, I understand. But there's occasions in the rule, some women
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can't control their weight for a variety of health reasons. No, let's be real. Let's be real.
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There are medical reasons, yeah? Yeah. Okay. So that can happen. But I understand where you're
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coming from. There are exceptions to the rule. We don't want our sisters who are watching.
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Some might be overweight. They should work on it. Yeah. But if they can't, they shouldn't be made to feel...
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Sorry for being a bit rude. Yeah. No, it's fine. But they shouldn't be made to feel ugly.
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There is someone for everyone. Just to make that clear. I know where you're coming from. I know where you're coming from.
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If you want to increase your marital success in terms of choosing someone, you have to cultivate
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yourself according to the other gender. It's just how it is. As a guy, if you're poor and you're fat,
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you're not going to get a lot of options. You have to work on yourself to become educated,
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good looking, have some money, have some assets, be able to provide a good lifestyle, have a sense of
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leadership. Okay. On the female side, it's the same. If all men go... No, it's not the same.
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Because we don't look... I don't... When I look for her potential, I don't care how much money she makes.
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Yeah. No, no, no. I was going to say, it's the same logic in the sense that you have to improve.
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Okay. So if a guy wants a feminine woman. Yeah. If a guy wants a girl who's not a whole. Yeah.
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Yeah. If a guy wants a girl who's sweet and smiley. Yeah. Yeah. Whenever some girl asks me,
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what do you want? I say, I just want a sweet and smiley woman. No, obedience. We look for obedience.
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Let's get real here. We look for a woman who's obedient. And when I'm in obedient,
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people get this notion of like, I go home and I punch you in the face. Agreeable. I loved it.
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I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about, for example, as a man, if I come and say, I would not
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like you to go to a holiday with your friends. For example, the way you dress is maybe a bit
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provocative. Do you get what I'm trying to say? I would look for that. And every man looks for that.
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So it's okay because at the end of the day, that's what I look for. But some woman will say,
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well, hold on a second. Who are you to give those rules? But you're the same woman who within your
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nature, you look for a guy who's taller, protector, provider. You look for these things. I don't blame you for that,
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but you're blaming me for the things that I look for. You know what? I'll tell you guys a quick
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story. So the internet is amazing and it's really bad. The internet has caused this cancer in many
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ways, right? Because it's an echo chamber. People can share lots of messages really quick. And we
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all have a confirmation bias where we look at things that align with our views and we go like, you know
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what? This is right. This person is 100% right. But that's just because we think we're right.
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Right. So back in the day, I used to be a very like romantic person. I used to think women are all
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sweet, nice and everything spice or whatever the phrase is. Did someone hurt you?
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See, that's the thing that gets brought up. The first phrase that gets thrown at you.
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Yes. The answer is yes. And the reason is, that's what helps you learn.
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Yes. But let me tell you something. I will tell you, I was like, before Islam, I lived in
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There was a time in my life where, for example, some girls hurt me.
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Yeah. Do you get what I'm trying to say? And I didn't look the way I looked or was in the path.
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Do you get what I'm trying to say? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So the reason I'm asking it is because sometimes what happens is, you can use it in a healthy way
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and channel that energy into making yourself a better man.
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And that's what you have to be 100%. Do you get what I'm trying to say?
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So it's understandable. But again, the reason I'm asking you that is because these women
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get upset and they are the same woman who have caused, for example, when you was a good guy.
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Like say the good guys finished last, etc. They didn't want to know you.
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Yeah. Do you get what I'm trying to say? So they, it's like they caused that spiral.
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like, and I believe Andrew Tate is a bad product of that. I believe he was hurt when he was young.
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I don't think you have to get hurt, right? It's just seeing reality for what it is.
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I'll give an example. If you get rejected by an assessment center, like an interview or something,
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you don't have to get hurt, but you learn from it. Next time, the chances of you doing that
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successfully is a lot higher. It's all it is. You just have to learn from whatever your experiences
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are, what your mistakes are. Any, any endeavor in life, you mess up, you learn.
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Yes. You fail at a business, you mess up, you learn. Yes. You fail at squatting,
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right? You're failing at a hundred kgs, you go again and you learn, right? So it doesn't
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necessarily mean you have to get hurt. Yeah. But all it is, is where we come,
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especially when we're younger, we, we have lots of social conditioning around us. Oh,
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buy her flowers. Oh, take her to a 200 pound date, whatever. And then one day,
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That doesn't even work. It's about who's taking you on a date, brother.
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See, and it's nuances. It's a small, it does work, but after a certain point,
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after a certain point in time, one thing, for example, yeah, I learned that at the start,
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it doesn't matter about how much money you have. At the start, it's about how, how much of a good
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leader you are. And then the money thing kicks in. Okay. But girls, girls do like generally,
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they look at money. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. And it's been, for us, like if I get your foot in the door,
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for example, like me, like I love my wife. Yeah. I mean, she's the most beautiful woman on this planet.
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Yeah. Yeah. If she was, if her job was collecting like dustbin, for example. Yeah. I wouldn't care.
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I don't care. I would not care. But for a woman, it's not the same. If you was collecting dustbin,
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To all the sisters watching at home. Best appreciate telling her friends,
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Hey, my husband-to-be is a dustbin collector. To all the sisters, believe our words. To all
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the sisters watching at home. We do not care if you work at McDonald's. To all the sisters that said
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no to him. No, no, no, no, no. Look where he is now. No, no, no, no. What we care about,
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what we care about is you being smiley, agreeable. Exactly. Handsome like this guy,
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and not being, and not being, not being a H.O.E., right? Yes. Um, and, but what about men? Why
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when men do it, they get away with it? This is, this is what Assis is going to be asking. Why is it why
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when men do it, they get away with it? Because we don't get impacted the same way. It's a fact,
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it's a fact. Yeah. At the end of the day, again, this doesn't mean, because in the sight of Allah,
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you commit a sinat, you're a man or a woman, you die on it, it's peak for you. If you're in an Islamic state,
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yes. Madness, man getting lashed like his happy days. Yeah. Yes. Slash, slash, yeah. Okay.
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It's peak, you get me? There's official studies that are done on this. So there is no, that doesn't
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differentiate. In Islam, the impact might affect a woman more, but in the Sharia, if you get caught,
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man's getting lashed nicely. Yeah. In Islam, obviously, obviously, they're both huge sins,
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male or woman. That's what, maybe alcohol. But on a, on a scientific level, there's studies,
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a woman sleeping with three men is equivalent to a man sleeping to 60 women in terms of emotional
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impact. Obviously, that is difficult to measure. But that's just what one study says.
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That is an insight. Yes. Yes. When it comes to pair bonding, like we said before, a woman,
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release oxytocin, which is, which helps to pair bonding. And the more intimate partner she has,
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it's like a knife going numb. It doesn't work. Not numb. Blunt, blunt. It's going blunt. Yeah.
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It doesn't do the job anymore. And that is the reason why women tend to, when they're in these
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marriages or things, they do not know how to love anymore. They don't know. And it hasn't
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greater impact on it. I mean, that's it. I mean, the Muslim, I mean, you're better than Andrew Tate,
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but I'm better than Andrew Tate. You get me? So what should we call you? What's your name?
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Moomin. Moomin. Moomin. Moomin. Moomin. Moomin. Moomin, Mashallah. He's a Moomin, bro. You get me?
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Inshallah, may Allah make you a Moomin. Any last points you want to give, you know, if there's
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this, they want to marry you, you know, you know, how should they approach you? And maybe you have to speak to
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their Wally, the father, of course. Yes, yes. So tell us a bit about yourself. Maybe somebody wants
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to marry you. Sisters, sisters out there. How tall are you? I'm six foot, six foot one with
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shoes on. Sisters out there. I'm six, two. You're amazing, man. Okay.
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Sisters out there. How old are you? I'm 23. 23? Mashallah, you're young. Yeah. Sisters
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out there, genuinely. Biceps. Tense it, tense it. Not yet. It's not amazing. One day, one day,
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one day, one day. Genuinely, sisters out there. Yeah. Stop relying on your instincts. Stop relying on
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the internet. And feminism. And feminism. And stop relying on your friends. Yes. Right. Follow
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your dad. Genuinely. And I think, I think, I think, I follow Islam. Yes. But I think, you know,
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in Islam, we have the system of the Wali or the brother. Yes. Your dad wants the best for you.
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Your dad is not your enemy. My sister got married. Alhamdulillah, she's in a great marriage.
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Alhamdulillah. The reason is, one, she didn't, she never put herself out there too much. So she never got
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that much more attention. Now, when she's with her husband and her husband gives her attention, it's amazing.
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It's amazing. So, a woman's beauty is in protection. She should be protected. She wants
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to be protected by her nature. She wants to be protected, yes. A woman that is protected by her
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father, by her brother, whatever. And then transferred to her husband. Yes. Yes. Is something we really
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value. We are looking for that woman who's been protected from all this weird social conditioning.
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Not only that, we want a woman to protect. I'll give an example. I'm doing a decent job. You know,
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I have lots of money stored away in investments and stuff. Oh, is it now?
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How many wives do you want? No, one second. I'm not trying to be arrogant.
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Listen, listen. How many wives do you want? Be honest. I think if I get really rich,
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I'll maybe be able to afford two. But for now, it's just one. It's just one.
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I think that's good. It's in a halal way. And you're going to do it in the right way.
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You're not going to have a side chick or a mistress or a girlfriend. You're going to do it in the right
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way. I was going to give an example, yeah. Lots of student girls can outspend me. They're going
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to Hakkasan. You know, it goes with a hijab on and everything. It's student loan money. You know,
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they just get money thrown at them. They haven't even worked a day in their life.
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They get money thrown at them. But it's like that. It's easy for a woman.
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You have a head start. You have a head start. And if you abuse it, right, it's going to catch up to you.
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And honestly, I think, you know, the career myth is a bit of a lie. Yeah. Like, you know,
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everyone, I'm a guy. I don't even like my career. There was a study done. This book,
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yeah. It's called Miseducation of Women. Yeah. There was a study done of 100,000 men and women
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in UK and USA over 30 years. They found out that women are less happier since the rise of feminism.
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Yeah. What does that show you? Women prefer, bro, not to work. They don't want to work. Yeah.
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I don't want to work. No, you have to work. I have to work.
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You have to work to provide and protect. Yeah. Yeah. The point is this. You'll be told the massive
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lie of a career woman. You're going to reach the age of 30, 35, where you cannot have kids anymore
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because you're not as fertile as you was when you were young. And now it's harder to find somebody.
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And on top of that, this whole notion of career, your career is not going to be there.
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Don't fall for this massive lie. Buy this book. I recommend two books for the sisters, Beauty Sick and James
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Dooley, The Miseducation of Women. It really exposes that anytime you look for solutions outside the Quran and the Sunnah,
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you're bound to suffer. And now we are seeing men go into red pill. You're going to suffer as well.
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Yeah. You're going to suffer. Trying to be Andrew Tate, bro. Who the hell is Andrew Tate? He's a no-value man.
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I've said this before. The guy is a no-value man. To a Muslim man, he's got nothing to offer.
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He commits shirk. Yeah. He's the worst of the worst. Unless he accepts Islam and repents,
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you know, he might be better than us. So I think that's it. Thank you, bro.
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If you get married, call me to your nikah. Yeah. Make sure there's lobster in the wedding, please. Yeah.
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Inshallah. Okay. I'm king bronze. To next time. As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.