Ali Dawah - November 25, 2019
MUSLIM GRABS ENGLISH LADIES HAND - SPEAKERS CORNER
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Summary
In this episode, we explore the controversial topic of when is it appropriate to shake the opposite gender's hand. Is it wrong to shake hands with someone you are not in a relationship with? Is it OK to shake a woman's hand if they are younger than you? And is it okay to touch someone else's knee?
Transcript
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And what I'm going to do is I'm going to shake your hand.
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And hopefully the context wouldn't make you feel a bit uncomfortable.
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Now, the reason why I'm shaking your hand is Islamically, as Muslims,
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we are not allowed to shake opposite gender's hand.
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So now, that depends because on, in Islam we believe in prevention is better than cure.
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Now, this does not mean that when I shake a young lady's hand, I'm going to be getting all kind of ideas in my head.
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And God Almighty tells us that he knows us best.
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The weaknesses of men and the weaknesses of women.
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So, we are also told that if, for example, somebody is at a certain age, that it is okay for us to shake their hand.
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But, the thing is, there's people that you deem, for example, that are a bit, like you say, a bit older than yourself.
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And a lot of people are going to be like, what the hell's going on?
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Now, the reason behind that is because, if you...
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So, there was these rave scandals and stuff that was happening.
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Now, that all arises from things that will happen in the workplace, women that will be sexually abused in schools, a variety of different places.
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Now, what happened was there were certain regulations that are now put in place in workplaces, yeah?
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So, for example, from what I've heard, that they say when a man and a woman is in a room...
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...and discussing something, the door should be opened.
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Now, in New York, I can't remember where, I think it was a specific building where they, you know, they do, like, you know, trading.
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And even there, they say to touch a woman as you're talking to a Leicester Post, for example, and touching her knee.
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So, these things were seen as some women were coming out and saying, I'm uncomfortable with that.
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I don't, I don't, I do not like you to touch me.
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So, there was a whole scandal, like, about a couple of months ago where they were discussing this.
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Because, as I was growing up, and I've known my husband from school, that's part of...
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No, we've only been together for a year, but we were together at school.
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He might hold my hand longer than he should have done.
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In our society, that says, oh, he's interested.
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There's no cut-off point, and there needs to be.
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But I think, like, Muslims not shaking a woman's hand because it might be interpreted.
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I'm really surprised, because I've watched you.
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I think the only gentleman wouldn't shake a girl's hand.
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and this is because we're Orthodox Jews as well.
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If there was a Jewish man here, you ask him to shake your hand,
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And if he's an Orthodox Christian person as well.
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Now, we believe prevention is better than cure.
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So, be it alcohol, be it drugs, be it intimacy before marriage.
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We believe these things lead to things that internally affect us.
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So, that's the reason why Islam says, look, alcohol,
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God Almighty tells us in the Quran, there is some good in it,
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So, I was speaking to a young lady that she knew somebody
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who died in a car accident because of a drunk driver,
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Now, what we say is that we believe, Islam believes,
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that the whole community should be preserved and be protected.
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So, if an individual comes and says, I want to drink alcohol,
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or I want to do drugs, we say, okay, you may want to do that.
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But what impact is that going to have on society?
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If the society as a whole is going to be affected, you can't do that.
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they never, somebody says, oh, I'm just a casual,
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So, it comes back to the example that I'm giving of shaking hand.
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Now, that doesn't mean if I shake a woman's hand,
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automatically I'm going to be like, oh, here we go.
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that we can say, you know what, come on, for God's sake,
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what on earth is wrong with shaking a woman's hand?
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a Muslim woman can't shake a man's hand as well.
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if it was a Muslim woman standing in front of me,
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So, it's not about being a Muslim or not a Muslim.
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you have a secretary you work with all the time,
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he'll hold on to your hand more than he should.
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I would have no problem speaking to the father.