Ali Dawah - November 18, 2018


MUSLIM VS GAY SEX ADVISOR - NEW YORK


Episode Stats


Length

3 minutes

Words per minute

178.48485

Word count

589

Sentence count

62

Harmful content

Toxicity

8

sentences flagged

Hate speech

1

sentences flagged


Summary

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In this episode, I speak to a sex worker who has been working in the sex industry for over 20 years. She talks about the challenges she has faced in her career and how she has dealt with the societal pressures that society puts on sex workers.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 We're going to film?
00:00:07.000 It's ok.
00:00:08.000 What's going on for you to do?
00:00:13.000 If you're ready, because my friend over there in the red jacket,
00:00:17.000 he's been going through a crisis in life.
00:00:20.000 He's very depressed because he's got his hands in his pocket because he's uncomfortable.
00:00:23.000 Ok.
00:00:24.000 So he just needs some advice.
00:00:26.000 He might possibly change his eyes around and make him a happy man.
00:00:30.000 Because right now he's quite miserable.
00:00:38.000 You know, I get questions, everything from hookups, Instagram, breakups, you know...
00:00:43.000 You're dealing with everything.
00:00:44.000 Sex work, everything.
00:00:45.000 Ok, let me ask you a question.
00:00:47.000 What are the most common problems you face as a sex worker?
00:00:52.000 Like, what are the issues that you...
00:00:54.000 Societal issues that you keep...
00:00:56.000 Like, keep coming up?
00:00:58.000 Yeah, um...
00:01:00.000 There's a lot.
00:01:01.000 Go on, yeah.
00:01:02.000 I would say, you know, if I could boil it down to maybe a few,
00:01:04.000 I would say people not trusting their instincts.
00:01:07.000 Yeah.
00:01:08.000 People feeling like there's a certain way to be sexually,
00:01:11.000 whether that's their family that told them,
00:01:13.000 or a partner that's told them,
00:01:15.000 or usually multiple people, sources, and then...
00:01:18.000 What do you mean by that?
00:01:19.000 Can you expand on that a little bit?
00:01:22.000 Oh, no, thank you. That's so nice.
00:01:23.000 Thanks.
00:01:24.000 Is that not mine?
00:01:26.000 Are you sure?
00:01:27.000 No, no, that's so nice of you.
00:01:28.000 That's very nice, thank you.
00:01:29.000 You gotta be comfortable in the conversation.
00:01:30.000 Thank you, thank you. I appreciate it.
00:01:31.000 You need anything that I saw?
00:01:32.000 Oh, that's so nice.
00:01:33.000 Nice.
00:01:34.000 Nice.
00:01:35.000 Thank you.
00:01:36.000 Carry on, sorry.
00:01:37.000 No, it's fine.
00:01:38.000 Thank you.
00:01:39.000 Yeah, go ahead, sorry.
00:01:40.000 So you were asking, what is it?
00:01:41.000 What do I mean by messages that were told?
00:01:42.000 No, no, no.
00:01:43.000 Give me like more like a case study.
00:01:44.000 So you're saying people are...
00:01:45.000 Maybe they're not aware of...
00:01:46.000 They're not confident in themselves or what is it exactly?
00:01:49.000 They're being told by multiple sources that...
00:01:50.000 What are they being told?
00:01:51.000 Yeah, confident in themselves is another way to look at it.
00:01:54.000 I look at it that one of our biggest challenges
00:01:58.000 that people tell us how we're supposed to be about sex
00:02:03.000 or our bodies or how we're supposed to perform or not perform
00:02:06.000 or feel or not feel.
00:02:08.000 And we quickly believe that.
00:02:10.000 You know, sometimes at age three or four or five or 15 or 30,
00:02:13.000 whatever it is, and it's hard to shake that. 0.97
00:02:16.000 So you might have an instinct like, I just want to masturbate. 0.99
00:02:20.000 And that might be your thing. 0.98
00:02:22.000 But some people are like, you should also be wanting to get married 0.96
00:02:26.000 to this type of person and be having this type of sex with them once a week 0.93
00:02:31.000 or twice a week. 1.00
00:02:32.000 But you might be thinking, I just want to masturbate. 0.99
00:02:33.000 Whatever it may be, you have your own beliefs about what works for you. 0.98
00:02:37.000 Is pornography a big theme here in your work because...
00:02:40.000 Not necessarily.
00:02:41.000 Is it not?
00:02:42.000 No.
00:02:43.000 So...
00:02:44.000 We certainly use pornography.
00:02:45.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:46.000 It doesn't come up.
00:02:48.000 But I think that usually people have more questions around interpersonal.
00:02:54.000 And porn is usually not interpersonal.
00:02:57.000 If porn is in some way interpersonal, it's more the interpersonal reaction
00:03:01.000 of someone's, you know, coming up against what works for them or someone else.
00:03:07.000 If I could ask you a question, do you find that there's a...
00:03:10.000 In terms of males and females, age groups, different demographics.
00:03:14.000 Who seems to be like, let's say for example, tends to exhibit...