Ali Dawah - MUSLIM WOMAN ON ANDREW TATE - REACTION VIDEO

00:00:00.000 scientifically it is true uh women women are more emotional so in a work environment 1.00

00:00:06.420 men probably could handle that a little bit better than women could scientifically it's true 1.00

00:00:12.720 so that it just makes sense it just makes sense everything everything

00:00:18.180 well if you define if you define the word it's when you have hate towards women

00:00:27.480 and when when andrew when andrew tate says that a lot of women that watch it just are sheep just 1.00

00:00:36.540 like you said they don't even know what the word misogyny means

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00:01:02.620 brothers and sisters and dear friends hope you guys are well inshallah so the reason i'm doing this

00:01:08.740 specific video with the sisters as you can see let me centralize myself oh there we go um i had a

00:01:14.400 message some some sister messaged me and she seemed very very disturbed like it's as if her iman was on

00:01:20.500 the line and she really really expressed i asked her to join as well i don't know if she i don't think

00:01:25.580 she is going to but she was very distressed she was like we feel let down by our brothers

00:01:31.880 and there was a lot of things she said i can't remember this she was saying that there's certain

00:01:36.940 things andrew tate said before um so she was very surprised how the brothers just embraced him and

00:01:42.900 they're happy over it so i thought to myself any believer whose iman has been shaken whatever it may be

00:01:49.480 even if some people watching this and be like oh it's your typical feminist and to me i take it 1.00

00:01:53.760 seriously whatever it is i think it's important and i always on my channel try to have the sisters

00:01:58.000 to have their say for them to come and open up to us as well so what i was going to say is inshallah

00:02:02.880 that's why i invited you guys to come on inshallah so i want to inshallah get straight into it

00:02:07.920 i don't know how many of you guys are i'm not going to say pro or against but what is your opinions of

00:02:13.320 andrew tate and what is your opinion like for example him coming to islam

00:02:17.540 you know only time will tell how he will use islam and how it will refine him inshallah that's

00:02:23.460 what you know none of us are are going to be the judge of that and we can we can only tell from

00:02:28.020 observation as time goes on but yes it's definitely something that from experience it is here to refiner

00:02:34.040 it is here to make us better that is the whole point of it um every single one of the sahaba were

00:02:40.620 reverts some of them came from the worst of paths and became the best of people um personally as a

00:02:47.840 revert you know if somebody was to know me 12 years ago it would be a completely different person

00:02:53.160 that they knew uh so i know what it can do i also know that a lot of people come to islam and it

00:02:59.640 really doesn't do much for them you know um and they fall into the wrong guidance and that kind of

00:03:04.800 thing that can also happen but my answer to anybody that has a sort of a shaken faith by it or anything

00:03:11.720 else like that if anything they should just reframe the way that they're thinking about it the sister

00:03:16.340 they should be thinking subhanallah our allah is so great that even someone like andrew tate so if

00:03:22.800 they really dislike him and his past comments so much they should be even more overwhelmed with joy

00:03:27.820 that this person you know is now going to inshallah become better so they should be happy they should be

00:03:33.160 like right i didn't like him hopefully now he'll he'll be better they should be um your your faith

00:03:39.560 would be it would make more logic it would make more sense anyway for your faith to be shaken

00:03:44.380 um if islam hadn't affected him in such a way yeah so what do you think are the concerns because i think

00:03:50.560 a lot of sisters feel felt maybe threatened by him but now that he's a muslim they're like oh my gosh 1.00

00:03:56.340 like you know our husbands or our brothers or cousins are already you know like kind of

00:04:02.780 whatever like you're influenced by him but now he's a muslim so the thing is do you think there's

00:04:06.800 some kind of a fear where he's like this is what i sense i sense as if our sisters like and i might

00:04:13.820 be wrong yeah our sisters be it feminist or not feminist they have this genuine concern of traditional

00:04:19.420 men waking up like we're holding a second like well what's going on here like as if like i feel as if

00:04:25.180 there there is some kind of the the the western world and feminism and what's the agenda that is 0.99

00:04:29.720 pushing it's made men and not to feel wanting to be a man like they are afraid to be a man

00:04:34.540 jordan peepton talks about this do you think this is where it's coming from where the sisters are just

00:04:40.360 terrified of like a man who's got the traditional values you know like being the maintainer and

00:04:46.460 protector and and our sisters are kind of brainwashed into this whole you know maybe the career 1.00

00:04:51.740 feminism equality do you think that plays a role 1.00

00:04:55.500 yeah yeah that's that was actually subhanallah one of the first things that i wanted to say

00:05:05.380 um i remember there was a video and i'm sure you guys might have seen this where this guy

00:05:09.500 he goes around and he asks women if they know who andrew tate is and whether they like him or not

00:05:14.960 and most of them were like no we don't right and then he asked them why and they couldn't really

00:05:19.480 you know come up with a reason why what did he say what did he do right and so what i found is that

00:05:24.880 they're not so worried really with what he says but rather what triggers them is the fact that he is

00:05:32.580 empowering men he came with a movement that is empowering masculinity manhood and he's saying

00:05:39.340 there's nothing wrong with masculinity and a lot of men are resonating with that because for a long

00:05:44.120 time they've been emasculated and so now you have and that's why a lot of women who they don't have 1.00

00:05:52.940 a problem with traditional men a lot of women who are not prescribing to these western isms they don't

00:05:59.640 really have a problem with him convert with him converting to islam right and so they're coming in 1.00

00:06:07.320 they're understanding why he converted to islam they're understanding what his perspective is and

00:06:13.560 whatever he said before even before they understand the perspective that he's coming from a lot of the

00:06:19.440 people that did have a problem and it's not only feminists it's just liberals in general a lot of 1.00

00:06:24.720 these people had a problem with andrew tate even before he converted to islam and so a lot of the muslim

00:06:29.500 who prescribed to these isms not only men i mean not only women who prescribed to feminism but even some men

00:06:36.680 a lot of the people who had a problem with andrew tate converting to islam it's because of their

00:06:43.380 prescription towards liberalism and because of this they are not able to really understand

00:06:50.140 the effects of emasculation of feminism why because liberalism of which feminism stems from

00:06:58.620 are all rooted in individualism these people are obsessed with themselves and when you are so

00:07:05.860 obsessed with yourself right which is what individualism is you don't really have the

00:07:10.500 time to observe society to care about what's going on to everybody else and to critically and logically

00:07:17.540 put aside your emotions and just analyze what's going on so a lot of the women right who actually

00:07:25.480 accepted because we know that the men most of them were happy with andrew tate's conversion right

00:07:30.400 the women who were it's because they do not prescribe to individuals and you won't hear them 0.93

00:07:37.060 saying we're females and so the woman that did have a problem they were the woman who basically they 1.00

00:07:43.960 are individualists they don't understand where he's coming from and they feel threatened yeah i saw

00:07:51.020 that i saw that video as well and it just seems like that it's like when someone is vilified other people

00:07:55.160 just follow like sheep like they're like okay why is this guy that nobody asked why how what was it

00:07:59.380 about there is no evidence we just see a lot of emotions you know um and and like sisters can be

00:08:05.980 quite emotional and unless some people might even disperse oh you're misogynistic oh look how you

00:08:09.680 how dare you no they can be there it's it's you know not saying every single one of them there's

00:08:14.940 exceptions to the rule but they can have their moments when they're emotional but the thing is here

00:08:18.780 is that like for example let's go to like let's say sister imani so or and the rest is well inshallah

00:08:24.720 that what do you think like the sister mentioned as well what other concerns do you think these

00:08:29.340 sisters have what is their problem because i feel as if what she said is right that they are afraid

00:08:34.340 that men are you know that men have been emasculated and now they are embracing that and they're like

00:08:39.560 well hold on a second i've been sleeping all this time and i feel as if the muslim females not all of 0.66

00:08:45.120 them they see that as a direct threat do you agree do you think that's where the sentiment's coming from

00:08:49.400 um yeah i can say something i agree with the sister i think that it is mainly um the women 1.00

00:08:57.840 in the religion and outside the religion that you know ascribe to these isms like you say um and it

00:09:03.680 all comes down to individualism and it all comes down to the fact that they're not ascribing themselves

00:09:10.240 to islam holistically um and an ism instead so i do get that and then i think there's also a small

00:09:17.280 crossover of women who are a little bit confused so although they may be quite traditionalist in in 0.51

00:09:22.920 themselves i think you were right in saying that maybe there are some sisters who have heard you

00:09:28.860 know that he's um very heard things about him and whatnot they're not quite sure what he said

00:09:34.260 they might be married and they're worried that their husbands are going to you know take on these um 0.70

00:09:38.440 these these traits that they've heard which may or may not be true um and it may just be something

00:09:43.420 and nothing for those women they may be actually you know if they were to listen to what he's saying

00:09:48.200 they may not disagree as much as they thought but i think there's a small percentage of women who are 0.62

00:09:52.600 just a bit confused and they think what he's saying is worse than what it is as well the thing is is

00:09:57.220 that his delivery pre-islam you know it was quite extreme and i think that was like 90 percent of the 0.96

00:10:03.160 issue um but now that he's he's muslim hopefully inshallah he'll have that guidance on how to address

00:10:08.680 people and things it you know it can be refined and maybe there are a small cross-section of women 1.00

00:10:14.000 who um aren't so far into the feminism and the isms but inshallah they'll just see that actually 1.00

00:10:20.240 no he's got quite a muslim fitrah about him to an extent it just needs to be molded refined a little 0.66

00:10:28.240 bit okay so so that's interesting um like you said that subhanallah um so we've got two people here

00:10:35.240 bako and safwan um are these can you guys unmute yourself

00:10:40.380 and yes so is it sister bako yes hello yeah do you so what's your stance on andrew are you

00:10:48.640 more pro do you have concerns do you have any concerns with andrew tate like before now and like

00:10:55.060 and what are the concerns of the other sisters like you know why are females so some muslim women 1.00

00:11:00.580 are very like you know upset about you know himself okay first of all salam alaikum everybody uh thank

00:11:08.680 you for uh adding me in um the only thing that um i would like to say is that um andrew tate has had

00:11:15.480 a bit of a harsh delivery before um in the past he speaks he speaks his mind he says things that

00:11:23.520 he truly believes uh but his delivery was a little bit harsh now if i'm pro or against andrew tate

00:11:30.160 i am 100 agreeing with let's say 99.9 of the things that he says because he is quite accurate

00:11:37.980 he might say it in a very harsh way he might say it in a way that might offend somebody but

00:11:42.720 when you say in order to be able to think you have to be able to offend people sometimes as well

00:11:47.480 when you have to be able to listen for example andrew tate used like if i'm not mistaken he's used

00:11:51.440 words like you know some sort of obedience to the husband you know so a lot of people this might

00:11:57.060 be one of the issues like you know a lot of muslim sisters like we've i've been in the dawah for 10

00:12:01.120 years speaking they don't like that word when it comes to obedience like do you think these are

00:12:05.300 like trigger words like when people hear it like in general to to to everyone like maybe open it to

00:12:12.000 everyone inshallah you guys can unmute yourself i think it was um brother shaheb's uh audio so i want

00:12:16.220 to make it open discussion inshallah in a nutshell for example as as female you tend to um within 1.00

00:12:21.520 your nature and i think it's across all of them all the sisters watching within your nature for

00:12:25.240 example you know when you have a child yeah i don't know yes does anybody have kids here

00:12:29.260 anybody have children and it was okay if you guys do or don't but you know when you have a child

00:12:36.600 you tend to like the fact that they depend on you you love the fact that they need you you want to

00:12:42.740 give them that love you want them you want to protect them and you want to nurture them you

00:12:46.860 want to look after them and you love that fact like my wife always says the fact that our child

00:12:51.380 depends on her that that you know she finds that amazing for us men us men we are the same way

00:12:57.620 we love the fact that our partners depend on us now dependence doesn't mean in the wrong way where

00:13:04.280 i have these strings and i will do whatever i like with you and if you don't and i will cut one of

00:13:09.120 the strings the thing is here is that we as men just as you with your child we love the fact that

00:13:14.720 our wives depend on us and we're the providers and protectors and carers so to go to sister amina 0.96

00:13:20.960 and sister imani and sister zahra just open discussion um do you think like i said before

00:13:27.560 that is one of the issues they have when it comes to a man's role as you know being obedient to him

00:13:33.080 now that are there trigger words that angita is used that's caused this animosity towards him

00:13:38.820 i think the most triggering thing was when he once mentioned that after a marriage when the father

00:13:47.040 father like walks the bride to the in a aisle to the groom the woman belongs to him and the word

00:13:55.320 belongs to him was i think quite triggering for a lot of women but i think he also clarified today

00:14:01.960 uh in in the podcast with hamlet hijab um that he meant that belonging to the man means that the man

00:14:08.760 is now um in charge of taking care of the woman and providing for her and um like giving her a safe

00:14:16.440 home safe environment but instead in social media or mainstream media it was portrayed as if he was

00:14:23.240 saying that the woman is now his property and he can sell her or anything like this so it was quite uh taken

00:14:30.280 into the extreme although i think i even clarified his stance there and uh i think this is also

00:14:37.720 generally not only in andrew tate's um uh scenario now but in general mainstream media always tells that

00:14:46.200 um sorry guys my connection is absolutely awful i'm in the middle of a town center and uh i don't think

00:14:53.080 there's a massive massive life unfortunately okay no no problem if there's i'm going to come to you

00:14:59.720 next if there's quickly something you just want to add on uh aki before you go um so just finish your

00:15:04.200 point as soon as a man is going to adapt the traditional man masculine role uh it's called toxic

00:15:11.000 masculinity although i don't i think um there isn't really the term toxic masculinity or toxic femininity i think

00:15:19.960 these are just made of words so exactly jordan peterson says for example there's toxic masculinity

00:15:25.240 but why is it not toxic femininity toxic is why is it toxic only connected to masculinity you know yeah 0.98

00:15:31.480 because these days like for example i'll be honest with you i know many cases of brothers who have been

00:15:35.720 falsely accused of rape who have been falsely accused of beating their wives who've been like they've been

00:15:42.360 they're going through this stuff and you can see even like for example i hear stories of women 1.00

00:15:46.760 physically trying to attack their husbands so why isn't that toxic femininity so why is toxic only 1.00

00:15:51.160 connected to the masculinity which is a point that you made if one understands essentially what toxic

00:15:57.960 what masculinity is there is no such thing as as toxic because everything that they categorize

00:16:04.920 right as masculinity is something that actually goes as toxic masculinity something that goes against

00:16:10.200 masculinity because masculinity is a part of the characteristics of masculinity is that a man wants 0.87

00:16:17.000 to protect he wants to provide he wants to take care he wants to be a leader he has these all these

00:16:22.360 positive characteristics that's masculinity and so when a man does something that opposes any of this

00:16:29.480 you can't say that that's toxic masculinity what's toxic about that is the lack of masculinity and that's

00:16:35.880 also one of the reasons why today there's a lot of crimes against women because feminism emasculated 1.00

00:16:43.080 men it told them that masculinity is wrong and now they're emasculated they don't have 0.64

00:16:48.040 masculinity anymore and so they're doing all of these things and instead of us recognizing that it's 0.59

00:16:53.080 because of emasculation it's because these men are lacking their masculinity and we need to go back to

00:16:59.160 that we're saying no it's toxic masculinity it's like a band-aid that they're putting on top

00:17:04.200 it's it's as good as me telling a woman that she cannot be feminine if you're feminine if you um 0.99

00:17:10.360 explore your feminine side to yourself you are toxic feminine and you're like well okay what do i 1.00

00:17:14.760 become then so if i cannot become a man if i'm scared to be like you know what in my household i'm 0.90

00:17:19.160 the leader yeah and let me make that actually very clear i am the leader in my household yeah what does 0.93

00:17:23.960 that mean by leader that i go and beat my wife up hey i'm peter foul let me let me start punching you 0.91

00:17:28.280 and you know if you don't do this yeah where's my food my food is late too salty okay slap i mean 0.96

00:17:33.640 what that what i don't know what goes through people's minds yeah um is that leader means what

00:17:38.760 at the end of the day there can't be two leaders in the household yeah there has to be one leader

00:17:42.280 does that mean i don't take my wife's decisions of course i do today i planned the day and by the way

00:17:47.240 women like to be planning ahead you know the fact that the man is taking that leading role but if my 1.00

00:17:50.840 wife comes and says you know instead of eating there should we go here that's a brilliant idea

00:17:55.080 actually i never thought that let's go and do that so it's it's this notion that obedience

00:18:01.000 being the leader being the provider somehow is a direct threat oh my gosh do you think that's the

00:18:06.920 case it's the imani and sister amina um no i i personally think things like 50 50 is is wrong

00:18:16.680 it's wrong and i wouldn't like to do that but women can't expect to not go 50 50 and then think 1.00

00:18:24.520 i shouldn't be obedient to my husband i shouldn't respect my husband you can't eat have your cake and 0.56

00:18:29.960 eat there needs to be some level of fairness it's not to do with equality it's to do with equity

00:18:35.800 the fact of the matter is a lot of women not wanting traditional men it's women wanting wanting modern

00:18:42.600 men men men men men that want to go 50 50 men that don't know how to be in charge and men that would

00:18:51.640 obey the wife more than the wife would obey the man it's it's it's it's how it's how men want it to 0.96

00:18:59.400 be more modernized it's just how it's just how times are changing now and you see you see people allowing

00:19:07.400 certain things that shouldn't be allowed like in schools for example it's just it's just how women 1.00

00:19:13.400 think oh um this is something that's wrong women shouldn't have to obey the man at all because 1.00

00:19:21.800 women should be obeyed too just let me know do you believe that when it comes to like what is it that 1.00

00:19:27.240 for example that you said you don't want it 50 50 yeah okay and we believe that's that's that's that's

00:19:31.560 islam the thing is we see like women want traditional men but they don't want to be 1.00

00:19:37.160 traditional women so they're like yeah i want this this this this and this okay good but these men 0.87

00:19:41.480 want these and they're like oh no but i don't want to be what what do you mean like you want this but

00:19:45.400 you don't want to be so traditional men want traditional women so like you said obedience for

00:19:50.280 example someone might come and said you're just brainwashed you're a woman you're a self-hating woman

00:19:54.040 you know so when you say for example like a man should be obeyed like let me put it like this and

00:19:59.080 tell me if i'm wrong yeah at the end of the day a man's job is not easy neither is a woman's a woman

00:20:03.960 has like there's things that a woman can do that i can't do and there's things i can do that a woman 1.00

00:20:07.880 cannot do and we need to we're a team uh together if we both had the equal things if i didn't rely on

00:20:14.840 my wife my wife didn't rely on me how would we even be a team do you get what i'm trying to say it's

00:20:18.760 like if i had a specific business where i'm selling something like andrew tate said this in this video

00:20:23.160 he said if i'm an accountant and then you have a tailor and if you said to the tailor you know what you do

00:20:26.920 half the accounting and uh get the tailor to do um and you do half the tailoring he's an expert in

00:20:32.040 his field i'm an expert in my field we work together and we make a company like he said he said it very

00:20:36.040 well you know so the thing is that it should be like that but it's as if the sisters are like no

00:20:42.680 you know we want to be equal and it's like why is your success bar men in the first way it's self-defeating

00:20:48.520 i want to be why do you want to be like a man so sister imani can can we just have you 1.00

00:20:54.120 much even a bit quiet but i was just listening everyone's got really good views i agree with

00:20:58.920 pretty much everything i'm glad that it's it's to be honest it would have been more fun if there

00:21:02.680 was someone disagreeing with us but we're all pretty much on the same page alhamdulillah which

00:21:06.920 is also really good why is that in the same page because i'll be honest with you it's very interesting

00:21:10.680 because that it shows that there are muslim women out there who do not hate andrew tate yes there are

00:21:15.800 things i mean i still have questions to to what you're saying and this is just um a learning lesson for

00:21:22.040 myself if anything um and i understand completely where you're coming from that there are some

00:21:27.320 women out there who are not willing to fulfill their traditionalist side of things um and they 1.00

00:21:32.760 may want to have their cake and eat it too um me personally i don't think i'm inshallah going to have

00:21:37.880 that issue when i get married but it would be nice to know what are some of those things that men

00:21:44.440 want women to come back to what is it that they feel when when we generalize women and say 0.93

00:21:48.840 they don't want to do these things obviously not us alhamdulillah but some women out there what what 1.00

00:21:53.880 are these things um there's the obvious ones like you know demanding to go out and work when they

00:21:58.920 you know when their husband doesn't want them to i can tell you like as a traditional man that can

00:22:05.720 if you're asking the question i can list the things that we want yeah yeah sometimes it's it's good to

00:22:11.400 know that as well i'll be honest with you like for number one for example i want to be like for

00:22:16.040 example the provider i believe in a relationship if the woman is a provider it will not work out

00:22:21.240 now this doesn't mean a woman cannot have a job of course you can have a job if my wife wanted to go 1.00

00:22:25.000 do a part-time job because she wants to i have no problem that money is hers she can do whatever she 1.00

00:22:29.240 likes with it but i will never allow her to pay for the rent the shopping petrol whatever it may be i

00:22:34.920 will say to her i don't care if you're a multi-millionaire these are the things i pay for i don't believe

00:22:40.120 a relationship will work because a man for example will feel very insulted if one day a little

00:22:45.080 argument happens and she goes well who pays for the bill well that is for a man that's like as good

00:22:49.880 as punching him yeah you never want to hear that because he feels like he wants to be the maintainer

00:22:53.960 and protector just as a woman has that towards her child she loves the fact that she needs to provide

00:22:58.520 for him number two and i clearly understand that and my my question is i mean alhamdulillah that's like

00:23:04.040 you know dream come true you don't have to work you you're so my my perspective is i don't i just don't

00:23:09.320 understand you know where this uh pool of women are coming from when it comes to these things 1.00

00:23:16.120 my my i mean maybe also i it's hard for me to speak on it because i've never been married and

00:23:20.520 i'm not married yet so maybe you know inshallah i'll have to deal with these difficulties myself but

00:23:25.720 objectively and looking inward it just looks like maybe they don't know how good it can be

00:23:30.840 like how good they could actually have it and it's what it is a sister what they've done there's a

00:23:35.800 there's a book called miseducation of women by james toody i recommend you guys to read it yeah

00:23:39.480 it just talks about how the women have been brainwashed into this whole career mindset i i 1.00

00:23:44.120 speak to like individual sisters etc where they don't feel complete like if they have a child and

00:23:49.960 they bring the child at home they feel like they are worthless i have to have a career and as men i

00:23:55.880 don't have no criteria when i was looking for my partner i don't care if she was a dustbin collector 0.99

00:24:01.160 i don't care if she was wiping the windows i don't care what she it's irrelevant her career

00:24:05.480 had zero to do with my decision factor i do not look and be like because because women tend to 1.00

00:24:10.600 look at a man's future and be like okay i want a man who's strong who's working who's doing something

00:24:15.080 with his life we as men we don't look for a woman with a career i'll be honest with you i don't i don't

00:24:19.240 look for a woman with a career personally as men most traditional men they don't want that they just 0.98

00:24:24.440 look for a wife who can be their companion you know that is a traditional woman for example if a man 0.54

00:24:30.600 says to his wife you know what i don't like you wearing lipstick i don't want to wear lipstick

00:24:33.960 misogyny what do you mean misogyny what do you mean misogyny if i if i am protecting maintaining

00:24:39.320 if i'm walking down the road and somebody comes with a knife and trying to attack my wife i'm

00:24:43.800 going to have to put my life on the line meaning i am willing to die for you literally i am willing

00:24:49.560 to die for you if i'm in a ship imagine the titanic here let's make this a bit more romantic here and

00:24:54.200 me and my wife are on it i'm going to be sending my wife and the kids i'm going to be taking that risk

00:24:58.120 of you know what you guys are safe so if a man is willing to go down that route where he's

00:25:03.640 trying to protect and trying to provide and if a thief comes knocks on the door when she's scared

00:25:08.440 like there's certain things i'll never let my wife out for example once my wife took out the bin and i 1.00

00:25:14.680 think i was i was i think i was in like i can't remember i think i was doing something i didn't

00:25:18.200 notice and i was really upset i said look i don't look at the time it's dangerous out there i don't like

00:25:23.080 i tell her i'll take the bin out that's my job yeah don't ever feel like you know you have to do

00:25:27.320 stuff like that so the thing is why because i care about her i don't want like something so simple

00:25:32.040 like that it should be my duty so if that's the case what is wrong with us men asking for obedience

00:25:38.840 meaning that if i'm doing all of these because i care and love for you not because i want to control

00:25:43.480 you and i'm insecure and i'm toxic why is it hard for sisters to be like you know what 1.00

00:25:48.440 can i just say one more thing sorry i know i've like kind of dominated now recently as well is

00:25:54.840 that i agree i agree with all of that as well um and i think that um if i was to you know play the other

00:26:04.440 side for a minute try and put myself in the mind of these sisters you have these worries these concerns

00:26:09.240 um i would say that my only fear or um concern going forward would be the fact that there are

00:26:19.240 also a group of men i don't know the size whether it's small or big there are a group of men who

00:26:26.040 who do do it on the other way where they expect the obedience and they expect everything else but then

00:26:30.120 they don't provide so they you know and then they don't do these things and then women are forced into poverty 1.00

00:26:35.240 and situations where you know either they defy their husband and you know go through some other

00:26:41.000 situation or whatever not even poverty but they're forced into situations where they're always leading

00:26:45.480 anyway the man's just very you know relaxed he's like yeah yeah don't worry you make the decision

00:26:49.640 and she's just like i don't want to make decisions but we have kids to feed and you know schools to pick

00:26:54.920 and things like that so we need to do that we need to call those brothers out and we do like me

00:27:00.280 yeah of course i know he comes to me and says there's this potential i'm getting to know him

00:27:04.760 etc but instead i need to be contributing towards the rent i'll tell that sister straight don't marry 0.97

00:27:09.480 that guy yeah like how no but it's just you know um maybe if that's what i'm saying i'm just trying to

00:27:14.680 put myself in the in their shoes in their mind maybe because of this small group of people or large

00:27:19.480 group of people it's then become a um a coping mechanism and a barrier they're kind of like no well

00:27:26.200 no one's going to take the mick out of me like that i have to be self-sufficient and so they put

00:27:30.200 up this this wall believing that no man every man is going to use that in this toxic way to use

00:27:36.040 the toxic web you know that's a valid point they put a band-aid on the problem yeah they're not

00:27:41.480 understanding that if we go back to things like you said then it would be fine so that's valid

00:27:49.400 the incompetence of men are leading women to be insecure that they are now looking for alternatives to

00:27:55.160 provide because then they're not seeing a future with this husband so in that instance i'll say you

00:27:59.640 know what look i i'm i'm totally with you guys if a man is making you feel insecure and he's not

00:28:05.000 protecting and providing and he's not even when it comes to like one certain respect etc how he's

00:28:10.120 disrespecting you he's abusing you he's maybe hitting you and all this kind of stuff and on top of that

00:28:14.520 once obedience we are not talking about a man like that and let me be a bit more social like hadith of

00:28:19.560 the prophet muhammad peace be upon him who said that if i was to ask and this some citizens might hear this

00:28:25.000 and be like whoa yeah if i was to ask anyone to bow down to anyone it will be the wife to the husband 0.59

00:28:31.480 bow down you know prostration that we go into he said if it was allowed i would ask the wife to bow 0.93

00:28:37.000 down to the husband now the husband that we're talking about when we hear these kind of hadiths 0.78

00:28:41.480 is like oh my gosh my husband who hits me who beats me who doesn't provide for me no when did

00:28:45.560 the prophet talk about him the prophet is talking about a man who is good to his family who is good to

00:28:51.160 his kids who is protecting who provides who loves his wife who's soft with his wife who provides for

00:28:57.160 his wife and there's so many things and he's because going out there and working or if a war

00:29:02.120 happens putting a life on the line these are big sacrifices so allah and his messenger is acknowledging 0.84

00:29:08.680 the gratitude to that kind of man but a lot of systems they tend to get they think this this husband that they may have or their father and they like what my what the prophet wants me to

00:29:19.160 and the funny thing is going back to andrew tate is that um see these stipulations that you're saying

00:29:26.920 that you know well the stipulations are in place for the man as well you know we're not just asking

00:29:30.600 for blind obedience he i believe that even though he delivered it kind of kind of harshly he also made

00:29:36.040 the stipulation he would always say if a man is going to do this then a woman should do this and he would 0.85

00:29:40.920 provide the stipulation i didn't see many videos where he was saying women should do this and women it was

00:29:45.640 always if a man is doing this so i feel like coming back to him because you know that's the

00:29:51.240 point you know you know if you think about andrew tate andrew tate is that look he's saying things

00:29:58.280 where he's like okay he's telling the men to be real men and that's good because what that's doing

00:30:03.000 is like we spoke about if men are real men a woman would not feel insecure or wanting to find a career

00:30:08.200 job to provide because the men so if andrew tate is saying be a man and this is how to be a man

00:30:13.320 what's wrong with that that's going to defeat the whole thing of okay this is how men should be

00:30:17.160 and if you're like this which is good yeah there's some stuff he said before which is a new beginning

00:30:21.400 point that's what he's telling for a man to be a real man if that's the case that should be embraced

00:30:26.120 by our sisters yeah you know one thing i wanted to mention is um so the the when they say that they

00:30:38.120 we have an exception these bad men they are the exceptions to the rules right now the reason why

00:30:45.560 many sisters you guys can hear an echo no we can hear okay good so the reason why many sisters feel

00:30:54.440 so um insecure it's because number it's not only because of these men that's the idea that's being

00:31:01.560 pushed to them but it's really because they're being told that and that their value is weighed

00:31:07.400 either in the level of to in relation to man or in terms of money you know if you be a mother you

00:31:15.640 can have children you can have all of that you can have many children mashallah your family is all

00:31:20.440 healthy and well but society will not praise you for that the way that they'd praise you if you're

00:31:25.560 doing something out in society in a career or something like that because they've now made that

00:31:30.600 financial status that's what you that's what your value is weighed in until you do everything a man 0.96

00:31:37.320 can do then you're you're worthless so everything to do with femininity motherhood everything to do 1.00

00:31:43.960 with us being a woman is being degraded yes and one of the reasons and the reason why this this is 0.56

00:31:50.680 this has become so prevalent is because and it's one of the this is why i say all isms are interconnected

00:31:57.240 right we have feminism here and it's interconnected to secularism why because when they took allah out 1.00

00:32:05.400 of the equation they took god they created secular society they took god out of the equation now they

00:32:11.080 have to set a standard by which everybody would now have to follow the standard so who did they put in

00:32:15.800 the standard they put the man they put the masculine and so everything else would be inferior in front of

00:32:22.840 allah in our distinctiveness both men and women are equal both the masculine and the feminine are equal

00:32:29.960 in our distinctiveness so femininity it's different from masculinity but the value is the same our

00:32:36.840 significance in society is the same what happens when you take a lot of the equation what has put us on

00:32:42.840 that same level of significance is gone so then now what the masculine proceeds takes the place and now you

00:32:51.720 have femininity and everything else which has to it's not on the same level anymore so now until you

00:32:58.280 become the standard which is now the man you have to provide you have to work you have to do this you

00:33:03.560 have to do that until you become that you will feel inferior and society will not praise you for that

00:33:09.560 exactly and so that's what happened now with that's how secularism is interconnected to feminism 1.00

00:33:15.000 they don't have a lot to put them all on the same level yeah i think uh sister what really uh

00:33:21.480 just pointed out a lot of things that were uh really like um um had to be said and made clear

00:33:28.600 and just so one point that i wanted to add i mean uh it's just an argument but i would even argue that

00:33:34.680 the woman has been made just a product of the economy i mean a hundred years ago women weren't even 1.00

00:33:41.400 working they were at home and were homemakers right but uh slowly until now i mean until today

00:33:49.160 every every other woman is a working woman and is being taken out of this home bro the homemaker role 1.00

00:33:57.160 and i think the main i mean if you think from the other side what is the advantage from let's say

00:34:05.960 these people we always say they but we don't really know who they are but i think the one point

00:34:11.720 what's really important to um like um look at is that we're just another like we're just being added

00:34:19.960 to the people who pay tax right so if one man is working at one in one house he's providing for the

00:34:27.000 home and he's one man that's uh paying taxes right but if the woman or the wife is main is being like

00:34:33.720 made to go to work and then the children as soon as they are old enough everyone either even if it's

00:34:40.360 a boy or a girl everyone goes to work more taxpayers i mean this is one argument that i haven't been

00:34:46.840 thinking about but lately i just came across this and it really it really clicked and it makes a lot of

00:34:53.400 sense when we're in these discussions exactly and it will increase the value of the demand that's working

00:34:59.320 because if women stay at home then you there's more demand for workers that it will increase the 1.00

00:35:04.520 value of the man and that man will provide because the value will increase um should go to wages as

00:35:10.440 well it decreases the wages and the education system see now you get the children into the education

00:35:17.560 system as quickly as possible and the education system actually benefits the corporate world so you

00:35:22.760 get the children into the schools as quick as possible because both the man and the woman are out in 0.95

00:35:26.440 the workforce and then now because you have more people working for you the jobs are less in demand

00:35:31.560 you lower the wages yeah and then double the taxes now you have the whole population out into the 1.00

00:35:36.440 society so those are the three advantages see that's how capitalism is now related to feminism 1.00

00:35:42.040 and this is why i say all isms are interconnected i think some of the things that sisters are also

00:35:47.320 annoyed about is how andrew tates said some things like um women don't know how to handle their emotion 0.88

00:35:54.520 they are emotional and all of that scientifically it is true uh women women are more emotional so 1.00

00:36:03.080 in a work environment men probably could handle that a little bit better than women could 1.00

00:36:09.240 scientifically it's true so that it just makes sense it just makes sense everything

00:36:15.640 everything you're being misogynistic i well if you define if you define the word it's when you

00:36:23.880 have hate towards women and you hate yourself when andrew tate says that a lot of women that watch it

00:36:33.080 just are sheep just like you said they don't even know what the word misogyny means so they will say 1.00

00:36:38.840 yeah yeah he's misogynistic they will not have a clue what misogyny even means exactly so when you

00:36:45.880 ask them oh by the way what what does misogyny even mean they just don't know what to say they

00:36:50.760 will just freeze um andrew tate hasn't really said anything that has hate towards women

00:36:57.160 so in my opinion in my opinion it's just it's just a lack of knowledge

00:37:03.880 yeah it is and it's just it's just fear-mongering i just see it's what it's i mean what they're doing is

00:37:07.480 the same with us muslims you know when they go and ask these you know people who don't like us

00:37:11.320 yeah they're all like this they're like yeah okay what's what what does it say in the quran 0.78

00:37:15.160 um they're like they don't know what's the quran say um no they just hate us we're just more like

00:37:20.520 the muslims it's like it's just like the fear-mongering everyone's like oh my god scared 1.00

00:37:23.880 do you know we're scared of no i don't know what it is have you read the book no i don't it's just

00:37:26.600 this fear-mongering that's been happening um and you can you can you can see it subhanallah um and the

00:37:31.640 study like in the book that i'm reading miseducation of woman james tooley he talks about there was a study

00:37:36.280 done from the 1970s and mohammed ija mentioned in this podcast the 1990s they interviewed about

00:37:41.240 100 000 women and you know if you look at it they are less happy the fact that all of you sisters 1.00

00:37:46.360 are in sync like i'll be honest with you that the fact that you're like because you know why you want

00:37:50.280 a husband that will protect and provide it's not the other way of this whole career woman etc you can 1.00

00:37:55.800 see that women are less happy in the workplace i think 78 percent or 80 percent of women said that they

00:38:01.800 they get stressed you know they have psych mental psychological issues pertaining to having to go

00:38:06.280 to work they want somebody so if you look at our sisters or muslim females at large as well they 0.98

00:38:12.440 generally don't want to go work they want traditional men but the point is also we need to be bare in

00:38:16.120 mind as well are they traditional uh men yeah and that's another issue though which we need to be fair

00:38:21.240 as well are men men today sadly they're not so i think there's a revival happening sister bako is

00:38:27.000 there anything you would like to add on before we wrap up uh yes i fully agree with all the sisters

00:38:33.320 and what they were saying i wanted to just add one thing to um to the sisters as well um the funny

00:38:40.680 thing about feminism is that it has completely brainwashed the entire society and has brainwashed women 1.00

00:38:46.440 into working and asking and begging to become a man basically and fulfilling manly and more

00:38:52.600 masculine roles at the same times hating on the same masculine roles whenever men are um doing uh

00:39:00.040 fulfilling those roles and calling them toxic and the funny thing is that men women actually don't have 0.98

00:39:06.760 an issue with the word obey uh this is actually it is a very triggering word it kind of it's like a it's

00:39:12.600 like a hot topic button it's like you turn it and everybody goes a little bit crazy but

00:39:17.000 i noticed that most of the women especially the ones that are working who have been brainwashed into 1.00

00:39:22.040 wanting to work and not do anything else to be able to value themselves to the to the quality of men

00:39:28.680 with men um they don't mind obeying their boss they don't mind obeying their employer

00:39:34.920 that's the hypocrisy absolutely it's enslavement to obey your husband and your children but it's 0.95

00:39:43.960 empowerment to obey your boss do you see that absolutely absolutely it's complete hypocrisy if 0.96

00:39:49.720 your husband asks you can you please make me a coffee um you'll be like oh no don't you dare

00:39:54.840 i'm not your slave yeah exactly but the boss can tell her she'll be like she'll be like yes of course

00:39:59.560 course you see that's the hypocrisy but that's the point it's all about sorry sorry sorry so i'm

00:40:04.760 just a bit excited here sorry that because that it just really triggers me i'm so sorry

00:40:10.360 no it's it's absolutely true if uh if your boss asks him oh yes of course so would you like milk

00:40:15.480 and sugar with that but whenever it's your husband it's like oh i'm not your slave go do it yourself

00:40:19.480 and the boss doesn't care about you he really doesn't care about you he'll replace you tomorrow if you

00:40:24.440 misfire one sheet of paper whatever it is you know what they say about you and loves you

00:40:30.360 you know you hear a lot of women busy saying oh but what if um you know i have to go and work i have 1.00

00:40:35.240 to go and get a career what if my husband dies what if i get a divorce what if your boss fires you

00:40:40.840 you're going to be in the same predicament your risk comes from a lie it doesn't come through a person

00:40:46.280 that's what many women today think that there is it comes through a person it doesn't it it comes from 1.00

00:40:51.640 a person it comes through a person if that person goes you're going to get your risk through another

00:40:55.880 way exactly it's like taking the aql over the naql you know like thinking oh i'm the allah is the one

00:41:00.680 who provides but it's very important because if you think about your boss has no connection to your

00:41:04.760 kids and you as an individual yeah he can fire you immediately your husband will think twice because 0.93

00:41:09.880 he'll have shared my life with this person i love this person we have kids so many factors that

00:41:15.000 prevent him from giving the divorce and we know like most of the games in 70 or 80 of the time the

00:41:19.880 women tend to initiate divorce anyways but the thing is they are what you said is very important

00:41:24.600 if we reverse things and we said you know what if if if an individual if i was married to a woman

00:41:29.720 who was like no you go do this exception she's the career woman or whatever i'll say you know what 1.00

00:41:33.880 no problem i'm not paying for the rent shopping nothing we're going to have a employee uh employer

00:41:38.120 relationship from now on i'm going to be paying you hourly rate how much do you want 25 pounds an hour

00:41:42.280 no problem i'm going to be 30 pounds an hour and 30 pounds an hour there you go you can we're

00:41:45.960 going to share the bills we're going to share the electric we're going to share the gas everything we're

00:41:49.240 going to share you are now you're employed by me and i would like coffee in the morning please

00:41:54.120 thank you very much and at 2 p.m i would like my food please i would like a biryani or lasagna and i

00:42:01.080 would like and then you know what she would like well hold on a second this is exactly so what was

00:42:04.920 the difference what was the difference when it is an employer it's like okay i have to if i don't i'm

00:42:10.120 in trouble i have free strikes but when it's your husband do you get to say this so it's very very

00:42:15.720 valid so i think that's it i don't need to say anything anymore i think may allah bless you guys

00:42:19.080 well i i always like to have sisters coming on board because i can't speak for you you speak for

00:42:23.560 yourself and i think you guys spoken very clear facts you know opinions you know we talked about

00:42:28.440 things you know and once again i don't want sisters that are watching this we know and what we're

00:42:33.240 striving for in the dawah field be honest with you is to get men to be men again we know sadly a lot of 0.52

00:42:39.080 men are not men and when i hear this stuff of brothers saying yeah i want my wife to contribute

00:42:43.080 it makes me sick she doesn't can i add to that please she doesn't need to contribute to nothing 0.99

00:42:47.640 brother and if you can't if you are even thinking of that you're not ready for marriage

00:42:51.480 please don't look for marriage you are not yeah can i add to that um what um i'm sure everybody

00:42:57.880 has noticed what's happening to society they're turning um men into women and women into men

00:43:03.560 so well women are they're turning themselves so masculine or just want to do work work work and 1.00

00:43:09.240 go get go and get your go and get your money says boss babe and all of those uh girl boss 1.00

00:43:15.720 bs that you're seeing everywhere and men are being celebrated for turning into women and being more

00:43:21.560 feminine and they're feminizing men and the funny thing is we're living in this really weird um delusion

00:43:28.760 because let's be honest whenever the real world real life actually hits you see what happened in

00:43:34.760 ukraine the moment that the war started women and children everybody go i belong in the kitchen 0.86

00:43:39.720 they have to stay in front yeah yeah women are like yeah let's go we have to like forget feminism 1.00

00:43:45.640 they drop their feminism like it's like you should have seen it on tiktok all over tiktok all these 1.00

00:43:50.360 feminists yeah yeah they're like i want to go back to the kitchen they're like i don't know 1.00

00:43:53.880 it was a transgender woman yeah and he was literally said no no no you're going to war sorry

00:44:05.160 there's no see so when reality hits when reality is like if you think about it how many of you

00:44:11.480 sisters if you're in a house may allah protect you guys and the house is on fire and they say okay

00:44:15.880 we're going to call the feminist fire brigade and they're all women how many of you guys you 0.90

00:44:19.320 you'll be like no no no i don't i don't no no i need men no thank you they wouldn't even come

00:44:25.320 even if you called them they wouldn't come no they wouldn't how many feminists would want a group 1.00

00:44:31.400 of women fire fight like fire brigade team coming to save you there's certain things they're not going 1.00

00:44:36.360 to be able to do i mean you're gonna have to carry a person on your shoulder yeah okay and imagine and

00:44:41.560 like you know some people are quite heavy you know imagine you just you're gonna die no feminist would 1.00

00:44:46.520 want that i think that's it i think we could maybe inshallah you sisters were amazing may allah

00:44:50.680 bless every single one of you guys may allah preserve you guys thanks for giving this opportunity to have

00:44:54.920 your say inshallah uh and brothers and sisters who are watching at home hope you guys benefited from

00:44:59.160 this may allah bless all the sisters you heard from themselves this perception that muslim women don't 1.00

00:45:04.040 like andrew tay etc he's not perfect we're not here to praise him let's just make this very clear

00:45:08.040 but we have a fine balance we're not overly praising him we're not here to like have a go at

00:45:12.280 we've seen he accepted islam he has a past that we all do inshallah forgiven forgiven inshallah

00:45:17.560 and we hope that he has a good ending and a good life inshallah um we're just here to talk about

00:45:22.280 those facts um sisters uh wad wants to say something quickly just one more thing i have to say to these

00:45:28.440 sisters here i have a community of traditional sisters and i just love what you guys were saying

00:45:34.600 and i'd love you guys to join it's called uh the sisters corner we are a network of like-minded

00:45:39.720 sisters and we want to the sinner guy probably knows us he can tell you more about us inshallah

00:45:44.520 abidawah um but for you guys you can find us on instagram the sisters corner and i'd love to have

00:45:49.640 you guys join because i'd love to get in contact with like-minded sisters and our objective is to

00:45:55.160 revive traditional islamic values and to write so inshallah i'd love to have all of you guys join us

00:46:02.680 inshallah sister imani any last words uh no just again it's been really nice to speak to some people

00:46:10.600 that are on the same page um i find myself having to hold my tongue and just keep quiet

00:46:15.960 in a lot of situations and conversations going on recently um and yeah it was nice it was nice that

00:46:23.000 some people are on the same page and understand but also it's nice that you understand that you know

00:46:28.760 uh not that we agree with these sisters views but we can understand what's planted that in their head

00:46:33.560 and we can sympathize with them and try and you know encourage a different way of thinking

00:46:39.320 which is very valid because we don't want to dismiss these sisters that's why i opened the plan

00:46:42.680 yeah they're confused or they're worried about something they obviously have this fear

00:46:46.120 and genuine concern and we need to understand that we can't brush it off if someone has a genuine

00:46:51.480 concern and they're hurt that shows if somebody's email is hurt that it's not coming from a place of

00:46:56.360 just trivial it's something that there's a misunderstanding and like you said we're

00:47:00.760 not here to belittle them just so to understand them etc inshallah

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