Ali Dawah - October 26, 2025
MY WIFE DIVORCING ME? - MY APOLOGY
Episode Stats
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221.58748
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the story of Iblis and his wife's divorce from Ali Dower, and how it was handled by his own wife, Ayesha. We also talk about how she handled the situation and how she dealt with it.
Transcript
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Be so iconic if Ali Dower's wife divorced him now. Who is Ali Dower's wife? Sister, get
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your husband under control. Why are you not lowering your gaze? Why are we looking at the
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opposite gender? No man has ever loved me like you do. This guy needs a psychiatrist. He needs
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So his woman can't sit next to him and talk with him. She has to write on a whiteboard and give it
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to him. And most of these, bro, if you look at them, they don't look like nice people. They look
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like demons. They look evil. And subhanAllah, like, I don't think they, it doesn't look like they treat
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women nicely. They've got faces, subhanAllah, if I dare to say this, but they've got faces of people
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that would do some very bad things to women. In Islam, marriage is a deeply sanctified act.
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When Ali was shown Sister Ayah's videos, it truly infuriated him. How could someone so casually tell
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people, take that baby and leave? Your divorce is your self-worth. Do not marry religious men and
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all men are the same. For this reason alone, a hateful smear campaign full of slander and lies
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against not only him, but also his wife began under the pretense of disliking his delivery,
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which was merely an excuse to avoid accountability. And I'm a homewrecker. So let's start wrecking
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some homes. So I've decided to finally help you girlies out and start this new series,
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How to Wreck Your Home 101. Whatever your reason may be, I am here to help you leave that bum once
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and for all. I am going to be giving you girlies step-by-step advice on how to leave that man
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so you too can have your poster voice blow up and have the chance to marry rich again. So follow along.
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This narration, every time I read it, I think about the imagery of it.
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Iblis sets up his throne upon water. And then he starts to call his followers to him.
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فَأَدْنَاهُم مِّنْهُم مَنْزِلًا أَعْضَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً
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The closest shayateen to Iblis when he talks to his followers are the ones that cause
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the most fitna. He says, tell me what you all did.
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يَجِئُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَدَا وَكَدَا
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So one of them says, I did this and I did that.
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So the Shaykhine start to tell Iblis the corruption that they caused on the earth.
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And then he says, ثُمَّ يَجِئُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ مْرَأَتِهِ
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قَالَ فَيُدْنِيَهُ فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتُ
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Slash Shaykhine says, I kept on him until I caused him to split from his family.
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Messed up the marriage, messed up the relationship.
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And that's not to say to your brothers and sisters that there aren't real reasons sometimes for splits.
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And that's not to escape responsibility when we do the things and we say,
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Shaykhine, he was telling his follower, didn't you hear the hadith?
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But that's to say, how happy he becomes when he pollutes that, when he messes up families,
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As-salamu alaykum dear sister Aya and to those participating in this smear campaign against my husband.
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All this because his main message was not to glorify something as serious as divorce.
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Also, it seems that my husband's decision to keep our marriage, relationship and personal life private
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has led some people who dislike Islam, who have hidden agendas and even some sisters to make false assumptions and accusations.
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They've spread rumours of feeling sorry for me for being married to Ali.
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I don't know which Ali they're referring to, but the man I married is not the man they are slandering.
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The Ali I know is a loving husband, devoted father,
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a man whose character is respected by dozens of sisters who can vouch for him.
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Our marriage, like any other, has its ups and downs.
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But to portray him as some kind of misogynist is a complete fabrication.
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No one knows a man better than his wife, the one who shares his home, sees his flaws and witnesses to his true self behind closed doors.
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A man can lie to the world, put on a false image and pretend to be righteous.
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But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala always exposes hypocrisy and falsehood.
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Ironically, this campaign of lies has now forced us to reveal parts of our personal life,
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to show this side of my husband no one has ever seen.
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Ali is not someone who likes to brag or display his private life.
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But I have shared a few pictures and videos that reflect the love, stability and care he provides for his family.
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What's truly concerning about this whole entire situation is not only reckless posts and generalising men,
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but the way you publicly encourage women to seek divorce without context or understanding.
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Yet you've personally suggested that I should divorce that bum.
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Your ex-husband or the men who genuinely harm women are one thing,
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To call him a bum or to encourage me, a woman whose marriage you know nothing about,
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to leave a husband is not only irresponsible, it's dangerous.
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If you could push a married woman without knowing her reality to divorce her husband for your own personal ego,
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You are harming marriages and becoming a danger to the very women you claim to protect.
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And lastly, you claimed Ali deeply embarrassed not only himself, but also myself.
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I just want to let you know, sister, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will always reveal the truth.
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And this video and message will be a proof on the day of judgement
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that the only ones who truly got embarrassed were those who backbited,
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slandered, falsely accused and intentionally gaslit my husband
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just because he wanted to protect the one most sacred thing in Islam, marriage.
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I forgive you for your digs, remarks and inappropriate behaviour towards myself
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends.
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Before I start, I want to praise Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the most merciful, the most just
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or praise His glory and gratitude belong to Him.
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Brothers and sisters, inshallah, I'm going to get straight into it.
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Before I do though, I just want to remind for those who are watching me,
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who are my absolute die fans, who love me, who like me, who are mediocre in the middle,
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who hate me, who despise me, who want me to die.
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Whatever can be your reign, inshallah, please listen carefully and renew your intentions.
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Don't watch with a preconceived notion or a judgment.
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Let the Quran, Sunnah and facts speak for themselves.
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It's not about my emotions, how I feel, all this kind of stuff.
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No, no, no, strictly the Quran and the Sunnah and evidences, pure evidences.
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Not, I think this thing, I think that person is that.
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No, no, we're going to bring evidence, inshallah.
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We have to be those who stood up for justice and truth.
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Don't be on my side or his side or anyone's side or her side.
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Be, your loyalty should be to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and His Messenger.
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Now, since that is clear, inshallah, let's get straight into the apology.
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Number one, as a person in the Dawah, a person who represents Islam, somebody else can make that joke, but not myself.
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Yes, it doesn't befit for me to make that joke.
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Alhamdulillah, I've never done a video advising another woman about her makeup because it's something that everyone struggles with.
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Beautifying yourself, going outside or in the cameras or whatever, you are actively committing a sin.
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Second point, which was the most important one, that it took away from the main message of this sister glorifying divorce.
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So in this video, that mistake is not going to happen.
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I apologize and let's get straight into the video now.
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For those who know me, know that I've been doing YouTube for 13 years and I'm not someone that likes to share my private life with anybody.
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And those who know who know, and there's a couple of reasons for that.
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Number one, I don't need to prove nothing to anyone.
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If I was to, if I wanted to do this, I would have done a whole channel with me and my wife and the holidays we go to and the things that we get up to and whatever.
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And it's ayn, evil eye, all this kind of stuff.
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So, my wife is going to have her input by telling me, and once again, she does not want to talk.
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Unless you want me to be an abuser like your ex-husbands or your fathers or aunts, whoever it is.
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She doesn't want to talk and I cannot force her not to talk.
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Do you want me to abuse her and force her to talk?
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However, on this very instance, and again, my wife is here.
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She can stop me if there are certain things I'm going to mention.
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But the Prophet, once he was walking with his wife, and a group of companions walked past.
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Because we don't talk about our private life, people have this assumption as, I'm an abuser,
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My wife, do you not prefer for them to think like that?
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However, after doing shura, speaking to my wife, there are certain things, since you
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guys have this perception, that, you know, sister ayah, you know, let's go with the argument
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Okay, a man that doesn't fear Allah, sadly, yes.
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All of those toxic feminists that are watching, I'm not your ex-husbands.
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And if you don't want me to say it, you can say it.
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And uqsun billah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is my witness.
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If I'm lying, I want you to call me out and say to me, Ali, you're a munafik.
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Treat me like this in private, but look what you're saying in the camera, just to show
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yourself to be a good husband, which I don't need to.
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Because this is the thing that is the most terrifying to toxic feminists and toxic femininity
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Because if they were to give, and I'll ask you this question, be honest with me, yeah?
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If they were to give two options to these toxic feminists or sister Aya, and they said,
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We find out information that Ali Dawah is a good husband and a good father and he treats
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Okay, option two, we would rather know that Ali Dawah mistreats his wife, hits his wife,
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abuses his wife, religiously abuses him, and all that kind of stuff.
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Okay, so the reason why they will go with that is because it fits their narrative.
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They don't care about woman empowerment or how my wife is being treated well, which you're
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They would rather know or want to believe that I am like their ex-husbands or their ex-partners,
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whatever for that matter, or their fathers or whatever, rather than knowing that I treat
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That is how toxic they are, that they would rather go with number two than know number
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And this is why I give a disclaimer, whoever watching this.
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What I'm about to say is going to debunk your whole claims.
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I swear from the rab of the Kaaba, wallahi billahi watillahi, uqsun billahi.
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If anything I'm saying is a lie, and my wife is here.
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Do you pay for any food that we eat outside unless you want to treat me?
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We go out here and she's like, I want to treat everybody today.
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I'm like, okay, yeah, she doesn't want to cook.
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Next thing I know, the next day after, I look at my bank account and £55 has been taken out.
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Because I think some of you guys might get a cardiac arrest.
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Okay, can I mention, not the mahr, but the other gift that I got you on top of it.
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Have I missed any, if I'm not mistaken, correct me.
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Have I missed any of the scans when you were going to scans, etc., the baby, etc.?
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I think it's so damn stupid that a woman has to tell her, tell his husband, tell her husband,
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The fact that you need to even, the fact that you have to tell that to your husband shows it problematic.
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Now, if your husband chooses not to be there for whatever reasons, because it can affect a man.
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I'm not trying to make this a thing where it says it's going to use it against the husband.
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That's the reason I don't talk about my private life.
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The only reason I'm doing this is to dispel the enemies of Islam using this video and many other videos, etc.,
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to portray that I treat my wife in a different way.
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There was a time where she was feeding, like, I would look, okay, order the food, and she's too busy feeding the kids.
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So much so, there was a woman behind who would come and say, oh, mashallah, etc., look, why am I mentioning this?
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And she even just mentioned, my wife had mentioned to me, there was another time at Nando's.
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I'm not trying to, look, I'm not trying to come here and be like, oh, look at me, I'm such a good husband.
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So Pana, that is a mother who's coming to see a child, and she is crying, saying, Mommy, I missed you so much.
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And the statistics speak for themselves how harmful, how harmful divorce is.
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I'm just saying the catastrophic impact it has on kids.
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It's not something, look, you cannot blame women if they are not to blame.
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There are a lot of women who end their marriages for no damn good reason.
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And there are women who end their marriage for good damn reason.
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Okay, 63% of all youth suicides are from single households.
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90% of homeless and runaway children are from single households.
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85% of behavioral disorders are from single households.
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85% of rapists with anger issues are from single households, yes?
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71% of high school dropouts are from single households.
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According to U.S. Census Bureau, in 2017, 19.7 million children, more than one in four,
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Research shows when a child is raised in a father absent home,
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Behavioral problems, more likely to have behavioral problems.
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Teen pregnancy, seven times more likely to become pregnant as a teen.
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Child abuse, more likely to face abuse in the home, yes?
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Our sister is divorced, divorced, divorced, divorced, divorced, yeah?
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oh, if you're in an abusive marriage, alhamdulillah.
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Not once did I say, if you're in an abusive marriage, stay in it.
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Which shows you what kind of a narcissist she is.
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With her trauma that she's going, whatever it is,
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If you've noticed, she's directing it towards my wife.
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And believe me, my wife is a bigger person, yeah?
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Believe me, if I wanted, if I was toxic like you,
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I could track down your ex-husband and I could find out what really happened, etc.
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Look, I'm not, I would have been like, I haven't got time for that.
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Because those videos that you do when you're trying to flirt with me,
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and you know, this, you know, the sexual, you know, innuendos, etc.
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With your finger, all that kind of disgusting stuff.
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If I have a problem with you and you're a married woman,
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if I start going and saying, you know what, this woman is interested in me,
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There'll be, there'll be, there'll be a bloodbath.
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So when you do these videos, you know very well,
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You're not someone that stands up to woman empowerment.
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Because you're actually trying to dishonor and degrade my wife.
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you can't be the dust underneath my wife's feet.
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I'll tell this to your face and I'm not saying it,
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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give every man a good woman.
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Wallahi, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give every man a good woman.
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Because your dishonor and disrespect wasn't towards me.
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That's one of the reasons I'm doing this video,
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Narcissistic, abusive men actually use slut shaming
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You're using the same strategy of these men that you hate
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Unfortunately, female slut shaming, other females,
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Looking specifically at the dialogue on Twitter,
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from both the UK and US over a four-year period
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And we found women to be the largest perpetrators
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of misogynistic language on the social network.
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Remember one of the 10 signs you said about a narcissist?
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52% of all misogynistic tweets were offered by women.
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asking me advice on how to leave their husbands
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So I've decided to finally help you girlies out
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who presents herself as a trauma-informed coach.
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sarcastic in ways people may not recognise as satire,
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disrespectful in how they treat people who are hurting,
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you guys have continued oppressing women this way,
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you are going to be faced with the same kind of backlash that you're facing,
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the same way you tried it with Modest Street's daughter,
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the same way you tried it with Modest Street's daughter,
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Jamila is somebody who was doing videos about me,
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...is actually someone who had an inflated sense of self-importance.
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genuinely because they are so wildly attracted to me,
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sometimes her dad will take an hour to alone me,
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Of course they will come with their same campaigns,
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telling people that they have left the fold of Islam,
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it's genuinely because they are so wildly attracted to me,
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you might hate something which is good for you,
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and you might love something which is bad for you.
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I have dealt with the enemies of Islam for 13 years,
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there might be people that have really been hostile towards Islam,
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but I'm very careful to not mention other people's wives,
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and his wife's probably in the closet somewhere,
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I have some understanding of female psychology,
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you're just someone who's just sucking up to woman bro,
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if you think this is going to get you a wife brother,
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my wife personally likes a neck massager in there,
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protector against the physical abuse you towards her,
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before anybody else protect herself against you,
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because they're married to an ungrateful woman,
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I've tackled in the bitter truth show for a reason,
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I'm seeing people who do comedy become Dow Bros,