In this video, Fatima and her sister Fatima deal with a situation where a non-Muslim man asked her a question while she was wearing the hijab. Fatima explains why the hijab is meant to be a barrier between a woman and a man and why non-Muslims should not be allowed to ask for her number.
00:00:00.000As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends hope you guys are doing well welcome to my channel
00:00:28.680this is a unique video actually because on this video we have sister Fatima may Allah bless her she's working on a documentary and also mashallah I think they're working as a family there's sister Fatima there's a sister who does the camera work may Allah bless her and her brother Abdullah who accompanies her when she's doing this so they're a lovely nice family mashallah may Allah bless her but barakah in the work they're doing there's a question that the sister wanted to ask she's going to ask me that question she's here and she's not going to be on camera she's going to be off camera
00:00:58.680asking me and we're going to deal with the situation I'm sure it's a lot of questions a lot of sisters who wear the hijab or those who don't wear it so long story short
00:01:08.600As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatuh
00:01:10.680the scenario today I was heading from my place to my sisters and a car was coming past and I was walking down the road and we're going opposite directions and in the car the driver slowed down and then looked he had a hoodie on and everything so I just thought maybe he thought he knew me or whatever
00:01:30.680a couple of minutes later as I was crossing the zebra cross in the car reverse back the same car the man's removed his hood and he's calling me back at the zebra cross
00:01:39.680so when I was like I looked behind to see who it was like he's calling there's only me so I approached like the window from far and I was like yeah how can I help you the question was how old are you
00:01:52.680how old are you and I was like excuse me and he was like how old are you and I said um I'm probably older than you anyway
00:02:01.680and I said I have to go and he said no no no I'm 27 how old are you
00:02:05.680and I was like I'm sorry I walked off but there's as you turn out there's a second zebra cross there just where the police station is
00:02:12.680okay so he stopped there yeah and then was crossing the street I was crossing the street from there then he stopped
00:02:23.680okay and then he stopped um the second time yeah and he said phone number phone number
00:02:30.680oh he's doing this yeah he's doing that phone number phone number yeah I was like no and then I walked off
00:02:36.680yeah I was really annoyed as a Muslim girl yeah I was like what makes a non-Muslim man have the strength and the ability to ask me for my number
00:02:47.680if I haven't provoked in any way I haven't spoken to him I haven't done anything
00:02:52.680so the question that you're probably asking is okay I'm wearing the hijab you know I'm not dressed up in a certain way so why
00:02:59.680yeah that's the question yeah yeah hijab is supposed to be a barrier
00:03:03.680okay let me tell you why I might be right or wrong why men especially non-Muslim men are going down this route
00:03:13.680now men in general we have a psychology yeah if you're not practicing if you don't fear Allah especially
00:03:20.680we have a psychology where we are weak and our biggest weakness is women yeah
00:03:25.680uh my teacher always said to me three things destroy a man money fame or woman yeah now this doesn't mean women are evil it just means that we have a weakness towards them
00:03:33.680which you get just as a woman has a weakness towards maybe she's insecure you know makeup or bags or I don't know whatever women do yeah
00:03:39.680so with a man the biggest weakness we are told Allah says in the Quran the biggest you know weakness for a man is a woman
00:03:44.680you know and the prophet said there is nothing more I fear for my ummah than woman yeah so this means that we have that weakness
00:03:49.680so with men in general when you have no integrity you just have nothing you're just like a junkie yeah
00:03:55.680is that we when I say we I'm not I'm just talking men generally yeah no we try our luck with anything we just try our luck yeah
00:04:04.680so now before there was a barrier before the hijab meant something before the hijab was like okay you know
00:04:10.680respectful you don't do that I think there's something that's happened that's caused people both Muslim and non-Muslims to say you know what
00:04:18.680that don't mean nothing anymore what has caused that that's really crucial for us to understand
00:04:23.680and I personally believe that this goes for both both males as well yeah so you see if I imagine
00:04:30.680I'm gonna give a scenario so sisters understand and don't feel attacked I wear a fob let's say I have a topi
00:04:35.680I got a muswaq in my hand I've got a long beard and I've got Islamic I'm saying Islamic words
00:04:39.680ya'ani alhamdulillah you know I'm going as righteous flex now when you see brothers going and
00:04:47.680if they see me flirting with girls hugging girls messing around with girls what's going to happen is that
00:04:55.680that value of that clothing and the appearance that I look I'm causing damage to it now I'm damaging it
00:05:00.680slowly yeah so now there's damage being caused so then what's going to happen is non-Muslim women
00:05:05.680who look at me like oh look at that guy you know he looks righteous he looks holy you know respect you have
00:05:09.680when they start to see me doing certain acts they're going to be like okay I'm very hypocritical
00:05:16.680they're going to say okay maybe one off then they turn around and see another guy in a foe doing the same thing
00:05:20.680then they walk and they go and they see another guy and they hear stories like what what that guy in the beard is
00:05:25.680what he committed zinnah no way they do that yeah so now they're like wow okay it might be one off whatever
00:05:32.680when this occurrence keeps happening and when they see this guy who I don't know maybe
00:05:37.680plucks his eyebrows or I don't know just looks a certain way you know slits in his eye I don't
00:05:42.680know what you get what I'm trying to say you're damaging the uniform that you're wearing because
00:05:46.680the uniform represents something yeah when your house is burning and you see a firefighter you are
00:05:51.680gonna call him why because his dress symbolizes something now imagine this if your house is burning
00:05:59.680if your house is burning and he goes fireman please can you help me my house is burning and he goes
00:06:02.680sorry sir just because I'm dressed up in this uniform doesn't make me a firefighter
00:06:07.680that's like somebody coming and saying oh just because I'm dressed like this doesn't mean I'm holy
00:06:13.680nobody's expecting you to be holy but there's certain things that you don't do do you get it
00:06:16.680nobody's saying be an angel we're all sinners but seeing a sister in hijab or a brother in a beard
00:06:21.680kissing in public that's wrong you don't like come on have limits you know I'm saying so doing certain
00:06:28.680certain acts like I don't know drinking alcohol like come on you don't do that do you get it just
00:06:33.680the way you see a police officer who's there to protect and serve you doing the opposite you're
00:06:37.680like that doesn't fit into your uniform you're not supposed to be doing that do you get what I'm
00:06:40.680trying to say so that's what I believe once that's happening it's damaged the whole principle
00:06:45.680and the whole value of the hijab so what happens now is that Muslim men and non-Muslim men when they have
00:06:53.680have this psychology of okay let me try my luck so they go and they try it so let's see let's say
00:06:58.680with you like mashallah bless you you're not about that you know I'm saying you just said look get
00:07:02.680lost but if their sister wear their sister in hijab and be it niqabi be it they might be a bit like
00:07:10.680okay niqabi yeah trust me there's some men who even try that Muslim men yeah they might I've heard of this
00:07:14.680then when they see a sister is dressed up in a certain way she's not to blame for the way she's
00:07:19.680dressed but the fact is that the hijab that she's wearing in her head has no value now the value is
00:07:23.680gone why is it gone what's causing it it's because if as a man it's become common it's become um
00:07:29.680yeah what's it's too for example there's a lot of hijabis now this is something a discussion I have
00:07:35.680with my friends yeah quite often hijab has excuse my language become sexualized a little bit because
00:07:42.680of the way some girls would wear hijab but really skimpy outfit or some girls would would do certain
00:07:49.680things and I'm not blaming girls on me right I'm saying men are no longer seeing a hijab as a barrier
00:07:54.680anymore they see everything else exactly that woman whereas before it was like the moment a girl has a
00:07:59.680hijab whether she was wearing tie or loose complete like no no yeah whereas now even Muslim men or non-muslim
00:08:06.680men try their luck it's almost now it's it's become so often like I see so many non-muslim men approach
00:08:13.680and my head to business looks like hold on what's this in my head yes it sounds really but it's like a fetish
00:08:19.680it's like you know because what it is now you need to understand with men yeah is non-muslim women are
00:08:25.680you know certain women mainly non-muslim they don't wear hijab but also their sisters who struggle
00:08:30.680with it as well so what it is is they look and and sadly today's society women are you know you need to
00:08:36.680dress a certain way looking at now it's become boring now they're like okay women in hijab okay
00:08:40.680that's more like you know like do you get what I'm trying to say it's like a challenge yeah exactly so
00:08:46.680that's what women don't cover up now men are almost liking the girls that cover up now yes exactly you
00:08:51.680you know what because a lot of girls have become so in a way the way they dress and they behave that
00:08:56.680now men are just like okay this is just like I'm bored you get I want something more challenging so
00:09:01.680that can be one factor that's a mental but another thing is like I said to you before
00:09:04.680is that damage that's been happened so when he approaches that girl in a hijab however
00:09:08.680she's dressed and she starts smirking and smiling he's thinking look I just tried my luck and it worked
00:09:13.680so now when that happens you think he's gonna be next time he sees a hijab he's gonna be like nah she might
00:09:18.680know he's gonna say look she's probably gonna be on it the way the other girls so now this comes to
00:09:24.680our point of both brothers and sisters who observe the Islamic even this beard because I might be
00:09:28.680looking like this but the fact that I look like a Muslim I need to observe that hijab you get what I'm
00:09:32.680trying to say modesty so when we tarnish that you're not only just damaging yourself you're not just
00:09:37.680you need to understand you are damaging Islam yeah not that Islam gets damaged but you know the whole
00:09:43.680the whole concept of it and you're making people not respect it do you get what I'm trying to say
00:09:47.680so that's why it's so important on us that we keep this and this principle
00:09:53.680understand that you when you do these actions it's not just you you're affecting everyone and you're
00:09:59.680taking all those sisters and all those brothers and brothers who are doing that as well you're taking
00:10:03.680them all down with you you're taking them all down with you and those who are genuine we're not about
00:10:07.680it's a huge responsibility yes it's a huge responsibility but all we're saying is look
00:10:12.680you're not going to be perfect no one's asking you to be perfect you're going to have your struggles
00:10:16.680I'm not having a bad sister to wear the hijab and have jeans look you have your struggles
00:10:19.680it's a struggle me I have struggles you get it what I'm just saying is there's certain things that
00:10:24.680you shouldn't do even if you're wearing a hijab and tight clothing there's certain things you should
00:10:28.680not do you get what I'm trying to say because then you have recently like you have sisters saying look I
00:10:33.680don't wear the hijab but I don't do what these hijabi girls do look that's wrong as well you know
00:10:37.680but that's not what you just want to go for farah hijab is farah exactly that's what I'm saying
00:10:42.680that's why I would say why that's happened I this is why and you guys you're watching this if you think
00:10:48.680there's another reason comment on the section below yes please yeah and if there's any other questions
00:10:52.680that you want to ask me via sister fighting if there's any sister related we're doing have a vote
00:10:58.680we're going to start an episode called ask Ali no problem yeah call it ask Ali no problem
00:11:04.680you can basically sisters if there's a question that you would like sister Fatima to ask me
00:11:07.680or even brothers no problem just ask and sister Fatima to say look this is where the question
00:11:11.680and we can ask you maybe it can be serious but yeah I think society is changing