Ali Dawah - SAUDI GIRL REFUSES HIJAB & THEN THIS HAPPENS

00:00:00.000 okay wow no no no you're bringing a whole new conversation into it so it's our fault and we

00:00:07.880 are we have no choice in the matter of oh we have to protect ourselves because men can't control 0.99

00:00:14.740 themselves i never said that i never said that i never said that

00:00:18.660 as your porn and sex addiction affected your studies work marriage and family relationship

00:00:25.940 are you stuck with feelings of guilt shame remorse and despair or has your addiction progressed from 0.95

00:00:31.260 pornography to zina well we're here to tell you you're not alone itaskia is the place where muslim

00:00:36.920 males and females struggling with pornography addictions can find recovery and freedom

00:00:41.800 that relation with your lord is fundamental for you to survive this world no the faith the faith

00:00:45.880 gives you hope gives you um purpose yes it is it is very much but not fake i'm not saying to any

00:00:52.960 because anyone can have that with any religion they can say oh yeah i know but i'm just saying

00:00:55.740 just faith leads to hope hope leads to purpose purpose gives you life and and and you have you

00:01:04.100 have some kind of certainty because the fact that you say i have these different religions and i

00:01:07.660 follow what like i'll take a bit that is that is your kind of certainty though if you think about it

00:01:12.740 you've got a bit of that you know i live by this rule yeah so you've given yourself a certainty but

00:01:16.820 what we say is maybe it's not the true certainty yeah because what we're saying is there should be one

00:01:21.480 way of life there's one truth you can't have two truths there's only one god there can't be two

00:01:25.880 gods if there's two gods who created that god there has to be one way of life there has to be one

00:01:29.540 truth because if we come and say oh i take a bit of this and a bit of that etc it's genuinely

00:01:34.920 firstly it doesn't make sense so i know this is like a completely like far off farfetched question

00:01:41.000 right for argument's sake let's say the entire world is muslim yes do you think that there would 1.00

00:01:46.760 still be the problems that we have now there will be problems but not the problems that we have

00:01:51.480 now okay so there will still be problems so like what sort of issues would would be posed if everyone

00:01:57.040 had the same religion and the same thoughts and the same way of thinking we can't because that's

00:02:01.140 what allah says in the quran we created you with by like tribes and nations yeah but you might get

00:02:05.160 to know one another not that you despise one another yeah the point is this allah has created us

00:02:08.460 with a aql to have decision free will yeah so we have that that's the reason why we have a variety

00:02:13.660 but the thing is there are also consequences of the decisions that we make so we can't just say

00:02:18.760 okay i'm just going to believe this if what we believe is false there's going to be consequences

00:02:23.300 because god almighty has created us and he wants the best for us yeah he wants you to have the

00:02:27.800 best of this life and the hereafter he wants you to have to have a relationship with him and be

00:02:31.200 grateful to him yeah he's not asking for much i'll be honest with you so the point is this and he's

00:02:35.440 telling you to live except all the other things that he also asks none about but he has a right to ask

00:02:40.580 for them because the thing is anything he asks for is not it's not bad for me it's good for me

00:02:44.800 like mention something that's bad like you in islam like you say you know what i don't know i don't 0.86

00:02:49.180 like this okay okay why why why do i have to cover okay firstly because number one firstly because god

00:02:57.920 said so why do i have okay no but like so why why is it that if i am not covered for example um i i i

00:03:07.220 truly believe also that in islam like if you are a true believer of islam you also believe that for

00:03:12.480 example let's say i am a practicing muslim and i'm not with hijab that i can still go to heaven 0.88

00:03:17.340 100 if you don't wear what a hijab yeah no one said no one no one said you go hell if you don't

00:03:21.540 wear it by the way i know i know yeah that's what i'm saying yeah that's why i say that wearing a

00:03:25.640 hijab is a choice right no it's not a choice let me tell you something okay and you're gonna like this 0.77

00:03:30.000 so you're telling me it's not a choice don't do it then i and i am a practicing muslim i won't go 0.88

00:03:35.400 to hell but it's not a choice you will go where i'll go to hell no you said that so but no no is there 0.78

00:03:41.060 any prescribed punishment for a woman that doesn't wear hijab no but then why is it why is it forced 0.83

00:03:46.160 upon me if it's not something that will lead me for example so yeah so why is it something that is not

00:03:54.080 a choice so you don't have a choice you have to cover but if you don't cover and you are practicing

00:03:58.860 good muslim that does not mean you'll go to hell but you have to cover why okay good question have 0.72

00:04:04.800 you read a book called beauty sick no okay i want you to buy this book if it's possible beauty sick 0.97

00:04:10.120 beauty sick yeah it's why i'm non-muslim okay it's a very good book

00:04:14.360 yeah now this book is very interesting because we have this false notion that when a woman takes 0.90

00:04:23.740 her hijab off she chose to take it off i believe this is the biggest false fallacy ever okay you know 0.87

00:04:30.080 why because i'm asking you a question did you choose to take your hijab off i never had a hijab

00:04:36.360 okay you never wore it okay are you telling me that as a woman you choose not to wear the hijab yes i 0.77

00:04:45.640 i say no and i'll prove it let me tell you how are you telling me that the beauty industry

00:04:50.660 the females around you the society that you live in have no effect on you and the way you are 1.00

00:04:56.540 perceived and that has no element on you that you may feel because the book that i refer to you called

00:05:02.480 beauty sick tells you about women who are beauty sick their sickness is beauty which is what when 1.00

00:05:09.900 someone comes to me and says i choose to wear the hijab i'm like please don't lie you wear the hijab 0.96

00:05:13.940 because allah told you to and now somebody comes and says well that's islam is oppressive and i say

00:05:17.900 well no hold on a second because the very woman who wear mini skirts who go get their excuse me 1.00

00:05:23.360 their breasts done their backside done their hips done their nose done can you imagine they smash 1.00

00:05:28.300 their nose you know you know they get smashed and then reshaped this is very important the point is

00:05:33.320 this they are you telling me these people go and say i choose to no you don't choose to you do it

00:05:39.900 because the beauty industry the standards that the the society have put a bar on you are trying

00:05:45.300 to reach those at the cost that you can even lose your life there was a mexican brazilian woman who

00:05:49.960 died because she got implants on her backside she died so this is but then then your argument is

00:05:56.480 actually null and void because the same way that a woman will choose or has no choice to wear a hijab 0.84

00:06:01.940 but also does this these things to herself and it's like oh that's not her choice yes then where

00:06:08.860 where do you meet in the middle where is the choice this is where you meet in the middle the point is

00:06:12.820 this nobody has a choice listen carefully but then why do you have free will if you don't have a 0.54

00:06:18.620 choice what's the fucking point if god i'm sorry excuse me for swearing so why is has god okay so 0.99

00:06:25.320 your your argument here is telling me that god gives you free will and allows you to have free 0.98

00:06:32.840 will but you do not have a choice okay in any matter no listen to me carefully you have free will

00:06:38.160 you have a choice in what sense which one to follow so that so you're given free will just

00:06:45.760 to choose god no no no listen let me let me explain let me explain let me explain it for example

00:06:52.100 both of them don't have no choice the one who goes and gets a nose down and has makeup and can't leave

00:06:56.820 the house without makeup being in front of the window for two hours etc okay and the woman who wears the 0.86

00:07:02.160 hijab they are both told to do so one is told to do so by the one you created the thank you now now

00:07:09.760 one second this is where it's crucial okay which one is deserving of being listened to the one

00:07:14.060 who created you or society i mean if you believe not believe if arguments say if god exists okay and

00:07:22.120 he's telling you and by the way we as men need to cover up as well i mean yeah but that's that's a

00:07:26.080 theoretical question that you're asking me because how like but i'll ask you theoretically but if i ask

00:07:31.200 you theoretically yeah so if if someone was who is more deserving of being obedient to i mean if if that

00:07:36.780 is your argument then of course it's your creator okay good obedience okay good so what we learn here

00:07:42.500 sister today both individuals have no choice they are both told to do something okay one is from the

00:07:49.200 creator yeah one is from the creation okay this is where i accepted islam because i said hold on a 0.70

00:07:54.800 second and i'll give you this personal story i used to have a jumper like this it was a black one i thought

00:08:00.160 i looked really handsome in it no i genuinely thought look you know i look very good in this

00:08:03.360 jumper i mean i mean i think i look very good maybe some people might differ and i used to hate

00:08:08.440 the jumper it used to make me itch when i used to be in the club i used to itch but i just hated it

00:08:12.600 but i was like no i look good yeah i said to myself you know what i'm the biggest slave this is my master

00:08:17.120 this jumper is my master it's like girls who walk into clubs with this much heels and they have to 1.00

00:08:22.840 take you off in winter and it's freezing cold have you ever stood on pavement but when i look at them i feel

00:08:27.740 the pain i feel the pain and the thing is i'm like that is your slave and just as me when i was getting

00:08:33.400 a jumper or driving a certain car or going to the gym i'm not saying you can go to the gym

00:08:37.440 so you're basically saying you'd rather be a slave to the one who created me bigger than me

00:08:41.520 exactly you know why you know why sister because the creation is never going to be happy with me 1.00

00:08:45.940 when i die they're going to backbite me they're going to talk bad of me the creator is the one that's

00:08:49.660 going to be be with me he's the one who created me he deserves my worship why would i go and try to

00:08:55.000 please a group of people but i'm never going to be happy with me and the one who created me

00:08:58.940 deserves it and guess what once i became a slave to him is when i found my true freedom once i became

00:09:04.520 a slave to him very good uh points honestly sister you the point i'm trying to say here is this yeah

00:09:09.580 thank you may Allah bless you thank you i appreciate it logical and this is the key sister you know why

00:09:14.940 because at this moment that is when it clicked me and i said wow all this life my masters were females 0.97

00:09:20.660 my masters was a jumper that i used to wear my masters was money i used to live a lifestyle and

00:09:25.560 do extra hours so i can drive a certain car i used to go to the gym yes obviously for health reasons

00:09:30.180 but i wanted to have big biceps so when i walk and wear that jumper the girls can be like wow look at 1.00

00:09:34.380 his biceps i used to live these was my these were my masters these were my gods you know what i said

00:09:39.140 when i said la ilaha illallah i said i am free from all of you because i want to worship the one who has

00:09:44.960 created me and this is where we say sister when we talked about choice the one that takes a hijab 0.97

00:09:51.520 off we have a lot of hijab influences we take the hijab off and they go um i chose to no you didn't 0.96

00:09:56.360 you're getting older and you look you feel like you're getting wrinkly and ugly and you're showing

00:10:00.620 the hair is beauty and that is the reason why you don't say i chose to say i was forced to but then

00:10:07.340 there's like so in terms of like the the not having a choice there for something like that

00:10:14.540 um like for example it then comes down to equality again which literally just circles us all the way

00:10:21.400 back yes yes no no can we have your voice yeah you know when you're talking about choice

00:10:29.320 you know you don't have a choice whether to wear clothes or not do you in a society

00:10:34.160 yeah you don't no so there's a certain level of dressing decorum regardless of however liberal

00:10:41.460 you are you cannot come naked you have to wear this is imposed upon you right yeah similarly

00:10:49.360 you should not equate someone putting on clothes to someone who's a society telling you to put on

00:11:00.720 clothes to a society telling you to take it off these are this is a false equivalent but did you

00:11:07.020 know i understand so you know you know why it relates to you perfectly because sometimes we go

00:11:12.060 into this mentality where we think the life i'm living i'm free you're not you're influenced one way or

00:11:18.220 another because why as a woman for example the question is and this is what's so beautiful about

00:11:22.600 islam let me tell you something before i used to see woman as a piece of meat well i had no respect 0.99

00:11:27.940 for them you know why because the society made me like this and when i came to islam woman they 0.78

00:11:33.640 became human in my eyes because islam told me that you honor them you respect them it's not what is 1.00

00:11:39.420 she you know you're talking to her you're not talking to somewhere else and this is the issue

00:11:43.880 sister there's there's men here like there's men everywhere the point is this and i'm not saying

00:11:47.880 women are perfect there are you know a lot of you know women as well let's be honest here the point 0.95

00:11:53.060 is this that women are sexualized man i'm walking down i'm driving down the a406 okay okay wow no no

00:11:59.820 no you're in trouble all new conversation into it so it's our fault and we are we have no choice in

00:12:07.960 the matter of oh we have to protect ourselves because men can't control themselves i never said that

00:12:14.180 oh my god and women are sexualized i never said that i never said that did i say that no you said 1.00

00:12:18.640 women are sexualized no why are we sexualized because the brain of men can't separate it from 1.00

00:12:24.800 it like what does what does allah say in the quran you know allah says in the quran i don't know you

00:12:28.080 tell me okay sister i'm not the expert i'm a nobody you're i think you know you're the expert

00:12:31.860 not me no no we're both the expert tell me why sister allah says in the quran tell the believing

00:12:35.960 men to lower their gaze yeah they should one second allah doesn't say women cover up because 0.86

00:12:40.660 men can't control their self no but why but then but then why so if men shouldn't be gazing and

00:12:46.280 sexualizing and making all of this yes then why do i yes and and you're have no choice but to also

00:12:54.060 cover up no protect myself no no no no no no for what listen to me allah says to me tell the

00:12:59.420 believing men to lower the gaze okay that means if she's in a bikini if she's in a niqab if she's 1.00

00:13:04.900 in a jilbab irrelevant i have to lower my gaze i'm not going to say oh she's wearing a bikini man 0.94

00:13:08.860 can look at her now or she's wearing niqab i have to lower my gaze period okay now but then why

00:13:15.240 no no you know what that means that means this notion that men can't control their self that's

00:13:21.000 why allah tells you to cover up is not true because allah tells who the believing men first

00:13:24.600 tell the believing men to lower their gaze okay now allah allah does allah works in a

00:13:29.080 micro level you know what that means you're training your young boys to respect women by

00:13:32.980 lowering the gaze yes now how does allah deal with it in a macro level by saying do not sexually

00:13:38.800 objectify women now if i am looking all around me and i see bikini woman in there that's talking 1.00

00:13:44.540 about chocolate and i'm thinking what's chocolate got to do with a bikini yeah and then i'm seeing a

00:13:48.700 woman over there argument say dress up in this way and that way the society is sexually objectifying 1.00

00:13:54.720 woman look i was watching a documentary yesterday yeah it was talking about in the 1970s times square

00:14:00.180 in new york was a oh it's disgusting there was a man who killed 80 prostitutes and these women 0.98

00:14:09.020 were they were not human there was a study that was done that looked into a man's brain they showed

00:14:14.780 him big woman in bikini the part of the brain that lights up for tool use you know tool use screwdriver 1.00

00:14:20.200 lit up you know what that means he didn't even see him as human the part of the brain was like this

00:14:25.080 is this is an object how does a human being and a lot of serial killers you know how they said

00:14:29.720 something in common they all used to watch pornography the point is this men are created visually if you

00:14:35.960 sexually objectify woman to such a level men lose respect this doesn't mean that a person has a right 0.98

00:14:43.820 to go and abuse or rape or whatever just because a woman is dressed up in a certain way there are women 1.00

00:14:49.060 who are dressed up in hijab and niqab that get raped the point is this sister everyone has a role to 0.96

00:14:54.460 play my role is i lower my gaze but i would not also like you to this woman to be in my face or

00:15:00.040 dressed up in a certain way where i'm like well i would i would not like to see that the point is 0.95

00:15:03.740 this islam deals it given the responsibility to both it doesn't say hey you women men are animals

00:15:09.540 you are to blame it's your fault you cover up someone doesn't say that but the same way that women 1.00

00:15:13.520 are sexualized men can be sexualized as well so then why are men when you can sexualize i'm sorry 0.72

00:15:18.540 let me tell you let me tell you let me tell you why sister yeah do has i've never seen a woman ever 1.00

00:15:24.800 go and say you know what let me go and there's a picture of a man's calves let me go and stare at

00:15:29.300 it that's not her nature in her nature men go and stare at women's calves 1.00

00:15:34.380 bruh okay i don't know what sister cubs sister sister sister sister i know man's mandem that lose

00:15:44.020 their mind they lose their mind when they when they see a toe okay when they see an ankle he starts

00:15:51.540 his temperature starts rising his blood pressure going somewhere else the way we're created sister

00:15:55.820 we are visual so what i'm trying to say sister is that allah is telling you this is the best way to

00:16:00.980 live your life and i'm telling you sister look here there's a lot of things i had to give up

00:16:04.260 when i came to islam a lot of things i did not want to let go of but let me tell you something

00:16:08.740 letting go of them it made me who i am today islam is the solution there is no other religion i'm 0.99

00:16:15.980 telling you it might sound yeah okay here we go my religion is i'm telling you we can prove it i'm not

00:16:21.060 here to talk i can prove it islam gives me purpose i know my purpose i know why i'm here i know where i'm

00:16:25.800 going i know what to live by but the point is this islam is the best solution and guess what you are 0.98

00:16:31.200 going to live by a way of life anyways and you already are live by the one that god sent you

00:16:37.200 because that's the best

00:16:38.000 you make very good points you make very good points very nice conversation me too sister alia

00:16:45.640 oh my gosh i think it's been an hour probably i think so too thank you sister alia look thank you

00:16:51.120 we don't shake hands we don't yes but you know why but you know why because because out of respect

00:16:56.340 but the thing is you see that i see that's a little bit disrespectful good but we need to end it with

00:17:01.220 this you know why because there was i think you know the me too movement remember the me too movement

00:17:05.840 of course i know the me too you know now in workplaces you know back in the day not back in the day a

00:17:10.260 couple of years ago in the workplace they could touch a woman like you know they can't do that 1.00

00:17:13.620 anymore yeah you know in the workplace they have to leave the door open now yeah you see islam 1.00

00:17:17.700 has come and told you look prevention is better than cure islam has one solution it doesn't say 0.91

00:17:22.080 drink alcohol then we'll take you to rehab islam says don't drink alcohol the point is this sister 0.96

00:17:28.440 me and you like for example a handshake is nothing like we can say okay what's the big deal

00:17:33.960 but it's interesting that you see as a sign of respect but to me i'm i feel like i'm honoring you

00:17:40.380 so much that i don't even want to shake your hand not because there's anything wrong with you

00:17:43.780 because you know why because that's the level of respect i have for you but society's made it seem

00:17:48.160 as if you know what look how disrespectful he is no i don't think you're disrespectful it's your

00:17:51.900 prerogative to not want to shake my hand no no i do because i honor and respect you well thank you

00:17:56.460 that's why i do it may allah bless you you are a lovely person and it was it was lovely talking to

00:18:01.780 your sister if you have any questions my table is there and we can carry on inshallah and may allah

00:18:05.980 bless you inshallah and give us the best in life here after thank you bye thank you

00:18:09.820 bye bye

Ali Dawah - March 27, 2022

SAUDI GIRL REFUSES HIJAB & THEN THIS HAPPENS

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