Ali Dawah - October 30, 2026


SHE CAUGHT HIM ON THEIR HONEY MOON!

“WHATS A GAY DOING IN A MOSQUE？”

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00:00:00.000 and i'm like just scrolling scrolling loads and i find one video and this video was of him coming
00:00:05.180 in homosexual activities with another man people were requesting him to make fake adult content
00:00:09.240 he was doing it and he was doing it
00:00:10.340 before the video starts off this horrifying story of sister fatima brothers and sisters i've been in
00:00:16.880 the marriage seeking process i know how difficult it gets there's always means you should always put
00:00:20.960 your trust in allah have a good relationship with allah doing your salah playing your zakah
00:00:24.620 staying away from major sins and use the power of dua but when it comes to the means you need
00:00:28.960 match problem sisters for those who are graduates who are university they're looking for a similar 0.97
00:00:32.660 match problem sisters it is the place for you to be it's sharia compliant problem sisters you can 0.90
00:00:36.540 get your guardian involved so there can be barack in your marriage go to uni match use my discount 0.96
00:00:40.420 problem sisters and find the one inshallah don't think you're gonna sit at home and be really
00:00:44.460 righteous and your wife or husband's gonna fall in your head it doesn't work like that seek the
00:00:47.580 means because i did marriage meetings you name it marriage events through family members or whatever
00:00:52.200 is for that matter and also means like matchmaking services like uni match problem sisters may allah
00:00:56.720 grant you guys a righteous spouse and protect us from this horrifying story that you're about here
00:01:00.180 go to union match inshallah and find your perfect match assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
00:01:04.440 brothers and sisters and dear friends hope you guys are well inshallah so as you guys might
00:01:07.980 heard of it or not heard of it but there is a sister called fatima uh and sister nazeem i think
00:01:13.180 her name is nazeema if i'm not mistaken her name is uh nazeema yep uh she does therapy uh subhanallah
00:01:18.340 i was on a live with them yesterday uh there was something going on between them and another brother 0.51
00:01:22.440 about the situation and sister fatima was married to a man who she found out uh who was homosexual
00:01:28.500 who was gay and the score the story gets scary and scarier we're going to watch a podcast from
00:01:33.040 their podcast inshallah i'll put a link to the sister's podcast you can watch the full thing
00:01:36.120 i'm going to react to it in segments inshallah not the whole thing um sister nazima herself has
00:01:42.140 invited myself to her podcast to talk about these issues i believe it's a very important issue
00:01:45.820 so inshallah me and my wife are just talking to now that um if i have the time got really really
00:01:51.120 schedule i will be inshallah attending that inshallah with my wife to go and address this
00:01:55.320 issue why because the asian community has a big stigma when it comes to divorce uh so the other
00:02:00.020 brother yesterday when they were going back and forth there was a bit of a dispute uh the brother
00:02:03.780 he had good intentions i think he went about the wrong way uh but he had a good intention he was
00:02:07.600 basically saying to the sister people accuse him of victim blaming i don't think he was but i think
00:02:10.960 the delivery was coming out in the wrong way i do that sometimes and not intended uh that he was
00:02:14.800 saying that you saw it once twice third times have some self-respect why are you not leaving the
00:02:18.680 marriage and when i went join this life just to understand his point of view i said habibi
00:02:21.840 understand context there is a reason this is a shock to your system being divorced is one thing
00:02:26.080 and the stigma in the asian community and the asian community to go back and mention marriage which is
00:02:29.820 a good thing in certain instances because sometimes you're in an abusive marriage and you're told to
00:02:33.920 go back yes even if you're a man or a woman and it happens to more women as well sadly and that's
00:02:38.140 not acceptable and we spoke about this on the bit of truth show i've done myself the stigmatization
00:02:42.200 of a woman not being able to divorce and one thing that i salute the somali community is like
00:02:46.300 they don't have this issue you're divorcing with us all day every day you get married again
00:02:49.020 but to then find out is your husband's gay is another issue so that's why i said tomorrow i
00:02:53.460 think maybe you're wrong there however let's get straight into this is the fatima story
00:02:56.580 married to a homosexual man a gay man subhanallah and she has every right to come out people are
00:03:01.520 like oh what do you talk this is a growing phenomenon that's one of the reasons in my
00:03:05.200 busy schedule i might go and join the sister's podcast uh inshallah my wife will be not on
00:03:10.720 uh camera as well but uh to address this because it's a growing issue i've heard others come and 0.94
00:03:15.220 say i found out found out my husband is gay he's homosexual this is disgusting this is vile these 0.99
00:03:20.800 are women who are preserving their chastity only to be married to a man who is is is gay now you 1.00
00:03:27.880 can be gay however you like yeah but there's diseases you're going to be carrying my friend 0.97
00:03:32.280 yeah and and and and let's be honest in a nutshell there's diseases that you are carrying yes there's 0.94
00:03:39.140 diseases that can happen between men and a woman and then there's diseases where you are whatever
00:03:45.100 about the timeline so you got to know each other for a year yeah a long time you spent time together
00:03:50.700 the family got to know each other then you got married so when did things take a turn when did
00:03:54.380 you start to what's the first thing that happened okay so we got married in november 2024 within
00:03:57.980 three days of getting married um that's when i found three days three days yeah so on the third
00:04:02.780 day we went um for naira which is like a bengali tradition where you go back to your parents house
00:04:05.740 and they kind of host you and stay over and stuff so after you get married you go back yeah you go
00:04:08.380 back so i went back to my parents home with my husband and um we just spent time there and had
00:04:12.540 had food and stuff and i don't know why but i just felt like he was quite secretive with his phone
00:04:16.120 and i i think this would be like from the beginning this is not a good sign this is that
00:04:19.800 their instant lead to me is not a good sign three days into it shows that this man has no absolute
00:04:24.640 care because if he had absolute care or valued his wife he would have dated that put that somewhere
00:04:28.840 else that the fact that he has no care or concern shows how corrupt he has to be like if you just
00:04:35.000 newly married you can delete that put that somewhere else whatever like even then i
00:04:37.960 and send you my comments about his hiding the issue is not that at least have the decency
00:04:41.400 three days into and you're getting caught yes it shows that you have no respect for this woman
00:04:46.260 no respect well the first night we got married like he was just quite secretive with this phone
00:04:49.540 that never happened before in the whole year and it never really happened before like i didn't
00:04:51.780 really take note of notice of that but then i realized like when i was living with him it was
00:04:54.680 just constantly like that phone was getting hidden away even in bed like his phone would be upside
00:04:58.140 down on the other side of the bed like away from me as far as far away as far as me as possible yeah
00:05:02.100 and i was just a bit suspicious that's a red flag for sisters and brothers it's a red flag
00:05:07.440 yes if look i'll be honest with you look my phone my wife has full access yes um i've got enough
00:05:14.460 to hide alhamdulillah so that's why my wife has full access do you know i'm trying to say now i
00:05:18.500 do not believe it's permissible it's halal for people to go through each other's phone there
00:05:21.240 might be private stuff etc like my wife's phone i do not ever go through her phone why because
00:05:25.000 she may have images of her sisters with no hijab whatever not i'm going to go to a timeline but
00:05:28.040 still there's private stuff there it's it's you know i trust my wife enough to say i don't need
00:05:32.620 to do that do you know what i'm trying to say so i understand with women brothers sometimes they
00:05:36.520 feel a bit insecure whatever's for that matter uh for whatever reasons it depends you know sometimes
00:05:40.360 if he gives calls to a heart let her have it it's not that deep so that day i was with my friend in
00:05:45.240 my bedroom and he was downstairs having food with my family and i was a bit like he was like oh baby
00:05:49.480 can you get my phone for me and i was like yeah sure i went upstairs and i was like i was like
00:05:52.040 my friend i was like why does he always want his phone like all the time um why does he need it 0.97
00:05:55.000 with him what do you mean look at that go and get my phone this guy don't give a crap you've got 0.95
00:06:00.520 brother if i had that dirt on my phone i'm not i'm putting my phone in a big locker brother 0.98
00:06:04.520 I don't want no one to find that out 1.00
00:06:06.880 What a shameless, careless, disgusting man you have to be 1.00
00:06:11.480 To go and ask your wife, newlywed wife 1.00
00:06:14.140 Yes, subhanAllah, who's trusted you 0.99
00:06:16.460 Whose family's trusted and trusted you
00:06:17.940 You are her protector and provider now
00:06:19.960 Yes, more like she has to be protected against you
00:06:22.460 SubhanAllah, you have to protect yourself against yourself
00:06:25.600 Right now, when he's having food downstairs with my grandparents and parents
00:06:27.620 Do you know what I mean?
00:06:28.020 Yeah, and that thought probably came to mind
00:06:28.800 Because I was already overthinking
00:06:31.060 And I was like, should I just go through it?
00:06:33.440 And my friend was like, yeah, do it
00:06:34.260 so like got the phone went on it i don't know why i don't know how i just instantly went on the
00:06:39.100 camera roll first interesting just went on the camera which is weird because i wouldn't think
00:06:42.240 to do that to do that yeah i love it when sisters go i don't know how i don't know why it's just in
00:06:45.840 their nature you know you know they just you know they just end up there it's just in their nature
00:06:49.360 but sometimes look it's from allah i don't recommend sisters don't go through it's not
00:06:54.000 permitted actually don't go through the phones etc you know they might be passing from before
00:06:57.700 whatever it is for that matter uh it's not recommended but sometimes allah works in
00:07:01.560 mysterious ways like this story this is an anomaly this is an exception to the rule subhanallah that
00:07:05.900 you know again if you're going off to hide but yeah initially like you know before when we were
00:07:09.620 like before we got married when i would go through this phone i would just go through messages and
00:07:11.900 stuff yeah there was nothing out there yeah so i don't know why this time my heart was like go on
00:07:15.640 the camera roll so i go into the camera roll and i just see loads of adult content right insane 0.96
00:07:20.580 amounts there was like gay porn there was hijabi niqabi porn um just like the normal porn and it 0.95
00:07:27.040 was just consistently and i was as i was like scrolling consistent oh my god and then i came 0.97
00:07:31.100 to a part where there was like um adult content of one of his ex-partners which he had made and
00:07:36.360 you mentioned that was a tiktok influencer and she was a tiktok influencer yeah and that's how
00:07:39.480 i recognized her face because i'd seen her on tiktok before oh my god and i was like what is
00:07:42.820 she doing here and why is she like this and obviously i realized they were fake photos
00:07:45.560 and i was just so baffled and um then i also found like videos of him and another ex-partner
00:07:50.300 wait wait so he made ai corn of his ex-girlfriend yeah okay he was a tiktok influencer he was a
00:07:55.300 frames yeah that is mad that is mad guys that's the reason why it's so evil out there not to have
00:08:01.160 any images sisters when we brothers tell you guys you know you think we're saying it for your own
00:08:04.900 good you know yeah yeah yeah so you need to be careful we're not blaming everyone because at
00:08:10.900 the end of the day it's not your fault the face is not all right and i'm not talking about that but
00:08:14.540 you know sometimes it's it can yeah let's be careful okay so i saw that and i just started
00:08:18.820 crying in front of my friend but she didn't know what i had seen on the phone so i'm just sat there
00:08:21.880 crying and she's like oh my god what's wrong and i'm just falling my eyes out and i'm like i can't
00:08:25.060 i can't do this it was only three of the like the marriage like what is going on and then like
00:08:29.720 um he came upstairs and he's looking really scared now and then i was just crying and my
00:08:35.060 friend just kind of left the room and left us to it and then i was you told your friend anything
00:08:37.680 at this point i hadn't told at this point no she just like went away and left us to it and then he
00:08:41.300 kind of looked at me and i think he kind of guessed i don't know what he thought i saw and
00:08:44.140 then i just kind of showed the phone and i was like what is this like why is this so much and
00:08:47.920 then he just started crying telling me that oh this is old stuff can i just ask at this point
00:08:51.400 was there any homosexual at gay no no yeah he was just crying and telling me that this was an old 0.62
00:08:57.040 corn addiction so he told me that he had been suffering with the corn addiction but he stopped 0.89
00:08:59.520 it and all this now but i was like but the dates on these are showing like they were downloaded
00:09:02.500 recently um literally like the night before our wedding and this this that yeah how did you feel 0.63
00:09:07.260 wallahi pornography is the root of all evil wallahi i'm telling you it starts off like that and it 0.98
00:09:13.720 goes to homosexual pornography etc it doesn't stop pornography will destroy your soul destroy 0.98
00:09:21.220 your soul alhamdulillah and brother added he has an app i forgot the name of it i tried to put it 0.96
00:09:25.520 here inshallah use that as a means to stop it heartbroken heartbroken like you you think you
00:09:30.640 know someone you know and then like yeah like you think you know someone and to think you went as a
00:09:34.660 muslim woman young girl you literally saved yourself didn't have a relationship with anyone
00:09:38.500 yeah he was the first person you trusted yeah then you find this and i must have been completely
00:09:41.440 shattered i was shattered i was the way i was crying that day was was insane i was just like
00:09:45.060 why why would you do this um and why do you start like okay if i was just a bit confused as to why
00:09:49.540 if it was a past corn addiction why is it still on your phone if it was something that you're not
00:09:52.580 suffering with anymore why would yeah it doesn't make sense yeah it didn't make sense but at that
00:09:55.460 point i was obviously newly married again with the whole shame thing in the community i couldn't
00:09:58.640 just go and be like oh he's got corn on his phone so i gotta go now um and also you probably didn't
00:10:02.580 want to at that point i didn't want to at that point yeah like anything was kind of forgivable
00:10:05.040 like i was just like yeah three days yeah three days you want to make it work yeah he convinced
00:10:08.680 me that i was old and whatever he told me that the reason he made the fake um adult content of
00:10:12.440 his ex was because he hated her and i was like would you ever do that to me and he said no
00:10:15.700 because i don't hate you okay um so yeah um somehow i just i forgave him i let it go anyway
00:10:24.060 next day gets juicier now okay here here i don't think anyone can blame the sister you need to
00:10:30.280 understand she's newly married there's a stigma in the community as well about divorce etc yes
00:10:34.840 and i believe that shouldn't be the case because if you're in a situation like this i've been she
00:10:38.080 has every islamic right to get divorced the sharia is on her side fully her cultural baggage or the
00:10:46.160 cultural baggage access whatever that that is that should not be a reason this is why it's so sad
00:10:49.700 i'm not blaming every bengali or pakistani or whatever for that matter however we need to get
00:10:53.880 rid of that there's pros and cons to it yes discouraging divorce as you guys know i've
00:10:58.180 always been the front line yes i've been dealing with that absolute shiiteen over that yes okay
00:11:02.000 but here why should she feel that there and maybe look i'm not saying that's the reason she didn't
00:11:06.700 want to leave but this is a marriage she wanted to save a marriage she had every right like i'll 1.00
00:11:11.020 be honest if that was my daughter and she found out this guy pornography nah nah my daughter's
00:11:15.240 coming home brother my daughter's coming home you can let's we're at my grandma's house and
00:11:20.860 his phone's just on the sofa obviously i just seen that stuff yesterday naturally i'm curious i want
00:11:24.360 to see more i go on his phone again come back onto the camera because that's where all the stuff is
00:11:27.700 back on the camera and i'm like just scrolling scrolling loads and i find one video and this
00:11:33.000 video was of him come in homosexual activities with another man and this video was quite old
00:11:38.640 so it was way before i met him i would say maybe like 2020 or maybe before that do you think he
00:11:41.820 was with the tiktok influencer then maybe could be possibly like i'm not 100 sure but i know this
00:11:46.060 video was old like before he met me um when i saw that video yo hold on a second tiktok influencer
00:11:51.180 is i'm thinking that's a woman so it was a man the tiktok influencer was a man oh his ex is a man
00:11:58.800 sat in my nan's house all my family around me i was just there like oh my god what is this i just
00:12:05.160 kept re-watching it because i was just so like in shock you couldn't in shock yeah it was it was
00:12:08.600 just like like is this real is this actually real again my heart broke like i was just as if like
00:12:13.200 the day yesterday the day before wasn't bad enough i had to see this the next day which was 10 times
00:12:17.060 worse so awful um so we're in my nan's house and then this guy cannot be mentally well no he cannot
00:12:23.000 be your wife catches you but you don't have the decency to delete that or move it or for whatever 0.97
00:12:29.460 reason look should i be honest with you i'm starting to feel like this man is gay and his 0.97
00:12:34.180 family forced him to get married and he's just like listen i want you to find out i don't want 0.83
00:12:37.520 to be in this parish that's the only excuse i can come up with like this guy is purposefully
00:12:42.060 letting his wife go get my phone look it makes sense i'm so sorry it makes sense as if this guy
00:12:47.360 was forced to marriage he's gay sometimes their family know and think oh you're a woman can fix 0.67
00:12:52.520 her why are you ruining another woman i'm not saying that's the case but i'm just making 1.00
00:12:55.540 an assumption but it looks plausible and this happens in reality you've got a dumb son or a 0.99
00:13:01.880 dumb daughter who does dumb stuff and you try to fix him with another man i don't know how many 0.99
00:13:05.440 brothers married a sister who's a shea teen but full blown five star great iblis iblis's cousin 1.00
00:13:11.240 yeah and they destroy his life or destroy her life why before you can fix her do i look like
00:13:16.700 a project manager do i look like a project manager do i look like i'm gonna do a project no
00:13:20.620 getting ready to leave anyway i just looked at him and i want and i was like let's go like we
00:13:24.900 need to go now we got into my car and i just drove us somewhere like it was quite quiet and i just
00:13:30.120 like showed his phone on the video and i was just like what is this genuinely what is this and he
00:13:33.740 just started doing like all this like crying and stuff again he started banging his head on my car
00:13:37.220 door made his head bleed and that's when because obviously i still loved him at that point and i
00:13:41.860 was like because i'm such a big empath sometimes i was just like i felt sorry for him and it was
00:13:45.580 really insane like i don't know how like he did that but then i ended up apologizing so i was like
00:13:49.680 I'm really sorry
00:13:50.280 It's so crazy to think about
00:13:51.920 What were you apologising for?
00:13:53.000 I don't know what I was apologising for
00:13:54.160 For making him up
00:13:54.640 That's 1.00
00:13:55.360 Because as a woman 1.00
00:13:56.160 That's in your nature
00:13:56.700 There's actually studies that show 1.00
00:13:57.780 Women are great empaths 1.00
00:13:59.320 Big empaths 1.00
00:13:59.880 That's the reason why
00:14:00.500 There was study that
00:14:01.040 There was done an experiment
00:14:01.620 They would get electric
00:14:03.840 Shock
00:14:05.940 When the person
00:14:06.900 Who was saying something
00:14:07.620 If he was saying something
00:14:08.740 If he cheated in a game
00:14:10.740 They were playing a game
00:14:11.700 Two people playing a game
00:14:12.400 And there was two people
00:14:13.400 Who were the judges
00:14:13.920 Yes
00:14:14.280 So when they would see
00:14:15.940 The person
00:14:17.840 Who was cheating 0.91
00:14:18.880 they or they'll give them an electric shock so they would decide the two judges so it's a male
00:14:23.020 and a man yeah so they realized that when the culprit who was wrong was getting electric shock
00:14:31.420 by the man the actual given man to the guy who's cheating um he obviously as a man we're like
00:14:36.780 listen he deserved that they realized where the the woman when he would when she would see him
00:14:41.360 cheating in in not literal cheating like partner but cheating in the game she would feel bad to
00:14:46.580 give him electric shock so even though knowing the man is actually in the wrong they did they
00:14:50.420 hesitated to give him the punishment that's the reason allah's put us in different categories
00:14:53.900 that's why i don't blame because by her nature she's like you know what you know sadly yeah and
00:14:58.440 men abuse i don't know you just felt like it was your fault i felt like it was my fault again that
00:15:02.280 goes back to shame because girls are raised south asian girls are not raised to have confidence to 0.87
00:15:06.180 have um self-worth yeah they're not they're raised to be people pleasers to apologize when they've 0.99
00:15:09.540 done nothing wrong and to cater to a man's needs yes which is so dangerous because now look at the
00:15:12.320 situation yeah he's done something so wrong he's got inappropriate that's true as well that could
00:15:16.180 be an that's a good point from sister the sister that that it could be that you are conditioned
00:15:20.320 to like just serve people like be a doormat no not at all sam doesn't tell you to be a doormat
00:15:26.200 his camera roll yeah yeah you're the one who's apologizing yeah because you've made a man cry
00:15:29.700 yeah you made your husband cry i've seen that after three days of being married great if that
00:15:34.420 was my daughter man that guy would be um he'll be in hospital man he should be the one that was
00:15:38.260 heartbroken and throwing a tantrum but he was sat in my car throwing a tantrum now that i think
00:15:42.160 I just think what the hell but like when you're in the moment when you're in the moment it's
00:15:46.360 different when you're when you have no self-worth lack of self-love and you're very codependent on
00:15:50.460 that person it's completely different yeah and all of the shame and the culture shame the culture
00:15:53.660 guilt and all the money that your family probably spent on the wedding three days ago yeah literally
00:15:57.140 three days ago it's a lot to handle in that situation and it's almost like your whole life
00:16:00.700 has been led up to this moment you get married yeah yeah and now you're married and this has
00:16:03.520 happened what you're supposed to do exactly and it's still so raw like it's just the beginning
00:16:06.640 yeah um and I don't know how somehow he manipulated me convinced me that he was really old and he's
00:16:11.580 never done it again and da da da da and I was just like okay it's fine let's just work on things
00:16:14.720 we'll be fine and we just kind of we didn't get like I would say we got over it but like it was
00:16:18.240 always in the back of my head because everything I'd seen yeah everything I'd seen in the past
00:16:21.040 two days was always in the back of my head still hence why throughout the because we were only
00:16:23.640 married for six months so the six months that we were married we had a lot of arguments back in
00:16:27.500 the head subhanallah sister believe me if that was my sister or my thing my fist would be in his
00:16:32.160 face they're not memories in the back of my head yeah my fist will be in his forefront because I 0.92
00:16:36.900 would always be upset about what i what i found out and stuff um and then following that then 0.75
00:16:41.980 throughout the six months and i continuously found um videos of him doing homosexual activities with
00:16:45.380 other men i found that he was he was actually cheating on me and throughout the marriage then
00:16:48.200 i just continuously found more videos more stuff um about him that i never knew about
00:16:52.100 give us example yeah so i found videos of him doing homosexual activities with men which was
00:16:56.640 more like when we were engaged um and possibly when we were married i'm not 100% sure exactly
00:17:00.820 when the date was on those videos but i found three further videos i believe of him doing
00:17:03.860 homosexual activities and was this before you're married while you're engaged while we were engaged
00:17:07.080 yeah i also found that he had a fake twitter account where he was pretending to be a female 0.99
00:17:12.820 on there in a relationship with a black man he was creating fake adult oh hell no what oh hell 0.93
00:17:18.700 no i don't think it'll get worse he's now pretend to be a woman again i'm posting it on there 0.97
00:17:25.940 continuously he was using that website throughout our marriage so he made a fake twitter account
00:17:29.560 pretending to be a hijabi yeah and he was like posing as this hijabi girl on twitter
00:17:33.460 Not just any girl 0.97
00:17:35.520 He became a hijabi 1.00
00:17:36.640 La ilaha illallah 0.99
00:17:38.700 He became a hijabi 1.00
00:17:39.640 Not even a normal girl 1.00
00:17:40.220 He said 1.00
00:17:40.540 Must be a practicing 0.98
00:17:42.480 Transsexual 1.00
00:17:43.160 Homosexual 0.93
00:17:43.980 Man or woman 1.00
00:17:46.160 Fake girl 0.96
00:17:47.120 Like it wasn't him 0.88
00:17:47.700 He was pretending to be 1.00
00:17:48.560 Another hijabi girl 1.00
00:17:49.640 And he was making 1.00
00:17:50.180 Fake adult content
00:17:51.020 Of that relationship
00:17:51.680 Of that relationship
00:17:52.320 And posting it
00:17:53.000 Throughout his twitter
00:17:53.460 And he was also posting
00:17:54.280 Other adult content
00:17:55.960 On there as well
00:17:56.320 With other people
00:17:56.820 He would take
00:17:57.720 Influencers 1.00
00:17:58.620 So hijabi influencers 0.99
00:17:59.380 From tiktok 1.00
00:18:00.020 And turn it into
00:18:01.200 Adult content
00:18:01.560 And post it on
00:18:02.120 That twitter account as well
00:18:02.880 and you found this out while you were still married i found this out while i was still married
00:18:04.860 and he told me he he didn't really give me an excuse for that um it was just more like at one
00:18:09.880 point he said he was doing it for money i don't really know i don't really know what and were
00:18:13.260 people paying him for this i'm not sure like i i've never seen the money so obviously like dms
00:18:16.740 with requests and stuff like that yeah i saw dm requests people were requesting him to make fake
00:18:20.100 adult content he was doing it and he was doing it so there would be like females messaging and
00:18:23.420 being like oh can you make this of me and can you make me look like i've been like this that
00:18:26.040 um that was horrifying um seen that i've seen that that's all right that's man a lot of the 0.96
00:18:32.320 far right to do this is they'll fund this kind of stuff to sexually objectify a muslim woman
00:18:36.920 video of him dressed in his sister's abaya and hijab and posing in the mirror and was just posted
00:18:40.300 on the twitter account no this is just a video of him on his camera his sister's abaya brother
00:18:44.380 it just gets worse man went from being a woman then he became a hijabi then out of all the abayas
00:18:51.360 he can buy in the world he goes and picks his sister's abaya sickle so that's what i kept these 0.89
00:18:56.260 are the sort of things that i found that's his sister no that he is yeah i've told both his
00:19:00.020 sisters um his sisters told me to send him to therapy and that he loves me so much right yeah
00:19:04.520 okay so they found the twitter account you addressed it with him there wasn't much of an
00:19:06.580 excuse no okay what happens next again it was just finding constantly waking up in the morning
00:19:11.080 checking his phone before he would like kind of get up um and finding that he was still making
00:19:15.600 like fake adult content i would find him on like bing um like making fake images what's being it's
00:19:20.840 like like the search engine yeah um there's other apps that he was using as well loads of apps he
00:19:25.400 did change his um password at some points in the marriage as well and i got really upset about that
00:19:28.900 and he said that it's because like he doesn't trust me because i don't trust him and okay
00:19:33.380 he doesn't trust you the audacity what kind of how a man is this what audacity um obviously he
00:19:38.500 changed his um he's changed his password so i wasn't able to access his phone so i would literally
00:19:43.460 i think i've done this like twice um but when he was sleeping i would just get his like finger and
00:19:46.660 just put it on his phone to unlock it oh back then the touch to the next thing um he had a google
00:19:51.860 pixel so i think it was still touch okay i'm not really sure how those phones work um so i did that
00:19:56.900 i think the second time he realized i did that he was really upset with me um but i mean like
00:20:00.900 do you blame me you changed your password twice multiple times cheated on me and you expect me
00:20:06.820 not to worry about what's on your phone or what's still on your phone um and then within those six
00:20:11.060 months as well um he took my clothes one day so one day i was at work and oh no he didn't he's
00:20:17.460 now taking his wife's clothes he was he's taking out his wife's clothes he was doing a night shift
00:20:26.620 so we wouldn't see each other because like he would come home at like he would finish he would
00:20:29.480 start work at 8 p.m i would finish work at 8 p.m so we wouldn't see each other like he would leave
00:20:32.240 at 7 to get to work and then i would obviously come home later he came home the next morning he
00:20:36.480 came home quite late um usually he finishes quite early like i think it was like 6 a.m or something
00:20:40.420 around like those times but he came home like 10 30 a.m or a bit later than that and i was really
00:20:43.920 confused i was really worried obviously like why isn't he coming home he wasn't responding to my
00:20:46.280 messages or anything he came home and he was just being really secretive with his bag and he never
00:20:49.620 does that whenever he used to come home he would just get his bag and just like dash it on the
00:20:52.740 floor put all his clothes on the floor get changed and then he would just get into bed
00:20:55.480 so today i'm like oh why why are you putting your bag away like he was trying to put it in the
00:20:59.460 wardrobe and i was like this is really odd i was like why are you doing that and then he was like
00:21:02.320 oh i just don't want to make a mess for you and i was like oh okay then but you don't care about
00:21:05.340 making a mess with me every other day the other day and it was just it was just all of a sudden
00:21:07.560 today the bag looked quite packed as well so i was a bit like okay um so he's put it in obviously
00:21:12.420 it's still 10th day i just woke up i just went back to sleep they were still playing in my head
00:21:15.220 like i need to check this bag um then it was his nephew's birthday party that day so we went to the
00:21:18.960 birthday event and then we came back and he's still being really secretive with the bag and tell us
00:21:23.400 about what you did for his nephew's birthday sorry for his nephew's birthday i literally went out my
00:21:26.180 way to get gifts i got him like a cute little one balloon because it was his first birthday
00:21:29.060 and like i wrapped his presents and cute wrapping paper like i did that for his nephew wow you were
00:21:33.140 so suspicious while i was yeah while i was still going through all that stuff with him i still went
00:21:36.300 out of my way to try and make his nephew's birthday special and so i i did that um and then
00:21:42.500 we went to the event come back still being suspicious with the bag he goes to the toilet
00:21:46.280 and he's like trying to hide the bag behind the door in the bedroom I was like you know what I'm
00:21:49.320 just gonna have a look at it now while he's in the bathroom so I went and got the bag from the door
00:21:51.600 and I opened the bag and I literally find my bodysuit my underwear and a hijab
00:21:55.900 and instantly I had this weird gut feeling in my stomach oh he's sheared he's sheared
00:22:00.680 it just kept saying repeating down my head and I felt so upset he came out the bathroom and I'm
00:22:05.220 just sat there with my stuff in my hands like I'm crying and he's like oh my gosh he's like oh um
00:22:10.240 what's wrong what's wrong and I was like what is this why have you got my stuff and he said to me
00:22:13.860 that apparently he took my stuff because he wanted to buy me stuff because he was going to Westfield
00:22:17.000 with his boy before he went to work but like I would just assume that if you were going to buy
00:22:21.180 me stuff you would just kind of check my size and then go get the stuff from the shop right
00:22:23.820 you wouldn't just be in the shop with your boy and be like oh look this is my wife's underwear
00:22:26.700 um yeah exactly I would just assume that like um so he took that um so that's what he that's what
00:22:36.340 he said to me that he took it because he was gonna buy me stuff did he come back with stuff
00:22:38.880 for me no so there was no stuff for me so i was just like it didn't make any sense it just didn't
00:22:42.220 make any sense and it was just continuously lying manipulating me again i fell for it i just i just
00:22:46.560 kind of went with it i was just like okay fine i think i was strained at this point because of
00:22:49.180 this consistent line i was just like you know whatever you say yeah it's right it's right
00:22:51.880 okay i mean i'll be honest with you uh i'll be honest with you it is a quite a traumatizing
00:22:57.420 experience now you can watch the full thing i'll leave the last bit of the divorce highway and
00:23:00.600 etc i'm not going to get into the detail of that you can go watch the podcast yourself inshallah
00:23:03.560 Do I blame Sita Fatima?
00:23:06.180 No
00:23:06.320 Not at all
00:23:07.080 Because
00:23:07.460 Now you might be looking at them
00:23:09.340 Because she's very jolly
00:23:10.420 Or smiling about it
00:23:11.220 Etc
00:23:11.440 You need to understand guys
00:23:12.240 It's not
00:23:12.600 Different people deal with trauma
00:23:14.320 In different ways
00:23:14.860 Just because someone's laughing out
00:23:16.840 That is a form of therapy
00:23:18.440 Just because someone's just laughing
00:23:20.220 Because you need to understand
00:23:21.100 The shock to the system
00:23:22.060 It's not normal 1.00
00:23:23.260 This woman 1.00
00:23:23.720 Preserved herself 1.00
00:23:24.980 Waited to get married
00:23:25.840 She said in the beginning of the podcast
00:23:27.360 That
00:23:27.800 She thought my marriage
00:23:29.060 Was going to be completely different
00:23:29.820 To the people that she's around 0.97
00:23:30.720 Seeing as well
00:23:31.400 Around herself
00:23:32.080 Which I guess is not ideal
00:23:33.380 You need to understand the shock to the system
00:23:36.340 Imagine you have a dream
00:23:38.060 And it gets shattered over and over and over again 0.54
00:23:41.660 It's a test from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:23:42.800 Yes, it's a test from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.50
00:23:44.660 Keep firm because at the end of the day
00:23:46.280 Allah will give you the good husband that you deserve
00:23:49.040 Believe me, have no doubt about it
00:23:50.380 I'm telling you, trust me
00:23:51.820 I'm a living proof of that with the woman that I married
00:23:54.160 Alhamdulillah
00:23:54.560 Allah gave me exactly what I wanted
00:23:58.320 Why am I saying this?
00:23:59.980 To tell you that, believe me, I've been through obstacles as well
00:24:02.820 I don't need to get into my personal detail
00:24:04.040 Nothing close to this in any way, shape or form
00:24:07.080 I've been through stuff as well
00:24:09.000 I'm not going to get detailed
00:24:09.740 But nothing like this at all
00:24:11.040 But I just want you to know
00:24:12.640 That this is a test from Allah 0.91
00:24:13.540 It's a test to see how loyal you are to him
00:24:16.360 Do not let go of your faith
00:24:18.040 Do not let this vile individual 0.86
00:24:19.880 May Allah protect him against all sisters
00:24:21.460 Be your, you know 1.00
00:24:23.640 This is not an example 0.98
00:24:24.740 This is vile and disgusting
00:24:26.800 For what he's done to you
00:24:28.680 I don't know how to divorce when
00:24:29.960 You guys are watching the podcast
00:24:30.800 But all I'm going to say is
00:24:31.680 I don't blame her
00:24:32.740 why because guys just put yourself in your shoes you find that you're like that might not be as bad 0.97
00:24:40.040 because in islam lesbians do not get the same punishment uh as as homosexual because homosexuality 0.79
00:24:46.100 requires penetration or lesbianism does not even then that's imagine you know imagine you as a man 0.85
00:24:52.860 and your uh manhood imagine like you know that as if you can't please her and she's going to another
00:24:57.720 woman another woman's doing a better job than you so imagine how you would feel sometimes you just
00:25:01.960 need to laugh it off and just be like you know what i'm just gonna forget this i'm not gonna cry
00:25:05.980 by it so understand that before you guys judge and be like oh but why first i'm sick now listen
00:25:10.900 she this is her dream and she tried to make it work i don't blame her at all listening to her
00:25:18.960 now i don't now do i understand brothers who are upset on her behalf and saying you should have
00:25:23.460 left it's easy for us to say we're not in it it's easy in my country they say it's easy for a single
00:25:28.320 man or a woman to divorce, meaning
00:25:29.600 a married man will go and tell this problem to a single 0.60
00:25:32.240 friend, oh just divorce it, it's easy for you bro, you haven't
00:25:34.300 got the kids, you haven't got all this kind of stuff
00:25:36.140 easy for you to divorce because you're not married, so
00:25:38.040 we will never understand that, so 0.87
00:25:40.160 I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
00:25:42.220 make it easy on our sister Fatima
00:25:44.160 may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give her patience, allow
00:25:46.200 her to heal from this, become a better version
00:25:48.220 of herself, get closer to a religion
00:25:49.940 I would ask her to always keep 0.99
00:25:52.200 firm to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's deen, her salat 0.97
00:25:54.140 whatever it is, this is a test from Allah to see
00:25:56.120 you're loaded to him, we all get tested in different
00:25:58.060 Raising my dear sister
00:25:58.740 And I thank sister
00:26:00.940 Sister Nazila
00:26:01.760 For giving this opportunity
00:26:02.680 For her to
00:26:03.460 Talk about this
00:26:04.400 Because it's an important issue
00:26:05.400 And this needs to be dealt with
00:26:07.100 Guys
00:26:07.600 At the end of the day
00:26:08.620 This is a growing phenomenon
00:26:11.000 It's a growing phenomenon 1.00
00:26:11.700 Of men being homosexuals 1.00
00:26:13.280 And marrying sisters 1.00
00:26:14.700 Yes
00:26:15.300 If you have these tendencies
00:26:16.280 Stay away from marriage
00:26:17.840 Unless you heal yourself 0.83
00:26:19.020 Whatever it's for that matter
00:26:19.600 Now 0.98
00:26:20.080 You can be gay as much as you like 0.97
00:26:21.400 I'm just saying 0.93
00:26:21.940 No one can force someone to marry
00:26:24.660 If you have a certain sexual preference
00:26:26.180 That's all I'm saying 1.00
00:26:27.120 If you're gay 1.00
00:26:28.380 You can still be a Muslim 0.99
00:26:29.100 I've always said this
00:26:29.760 I'm not saying you cannot be
00:26:30.720 What I'm just saying is
00:26:31.860 That we should have respect
00:26:32.820 It goes vice versa
00:26:34.180 You know
00:26:34.820 At the end of the day
00:26:35.440 You know
00:26:35.740 People have a right to know
00:26:36.960 That's all I'm going to say 1.00
00:26:38.720 May Allah SWT make it easy on all of us 1.00
00:26:39.920 Till next time
00:26:40.500 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh