Ali Dawah - December 11, 2025


SHE DIDN’T EXPECT THIS REPLY - INSTANTLY CHANGED HER MIND


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In this episode, we talk about the difference between religion and Islam, and how it has impacted our lives. We also talk about how religion has affected our lives, and what it means to be a Muslim in today's society.

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00:00:00.000 So now, does Islam oppress women or not? 0.99
00:00:04.420 I mean, I see the way you're trying.
00:00:06.320 No, no, no, no, no.
00:00:07.200 A salesman is always good at selling.
00:00:09.020 So, based on that, does Islam put a man in check?
00:00:13.300 Yeah.
00:00:14.080 Does Islam oppress women? 1.00
00:00:15.720 No.
00:00:16.400 Okay, so, do you see what I'm saying, sister?
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00:00:37.320 No, my dad's atheist.
00:00:39.580 My mom is, she's not religious.
00:00:42.160 She believes in God.
00:00:44.280 Yeah, so you can't, look, you can't follow your forefathers,
00:00:49.240 because that's blind following.
00:00:51.140 Like myself, if I was to follow my dad, I would have been an atheist.
00:00:53.800 Look into it yourself.
00:00:54.800 There's nothing, no harm in reading the Quran.
00:00:56.860 So read it and see for yourself.
00:00:57.880 You've got enough to lose.
00:00:58.880 You've got a free copy?
00:01:00.020 Yeah, but would you freely do this for other religions?
00:01:05.400 Yeah, and before I came to...
00:01:06.840 Would you be interested in looking at other religions?
00:01:09.380 Yeah, yeah, no, 100%.
00:01:10.720 Before I came to Islam, I read the Bible, I read the Old Testament, Judaism, I read Islam. 0.95
00:01:14.900 I looked a bit into Sikhism, I looked a bit of Hinduism.
00:01:17.880 So to me, I've...
00:01:18.340 But you chose one, your favourite one?
00:01:19.400 Yes, not my favourite one, what the truth is.
00:01:21.480 I don't pick based on my desires.
00:01:22.820 I don't pick which one suits my agenda.
00:01:24.680 If it suits my agenda, I will never accept Islam, 1.00
00:01:26.200 because Islam is...
00:01:27.020 It can be difficult.
00:01:28.120 So to me, whatever is the truth, and the truth is Islam, 1.00
00:01:30.140 because the Quran hasn't been changed.
00:01:32.160 It believes in one God.
00:01:32.920 Even some of your gurus, like one of your gurus,
00:01:34.860 he went to...
00:01:35.840 I think he went to Mecca or something like that.
00:01:37.480 So you see?
00:01:38.820 So there's truths in that as well.
00:01:40.000 So what I'm saying is
00:01:40.760 that if we follow the truth,
00:01:43.660 we should just look into it, whatever it is.
00:01:45.640 So I'm saying, read the Quran.
00:01:46.420 What's the physical evidence?
00:01:48.300 No one's seen your God.
00:01:49.880 Okay, so we say,
00:01:50.760 you as Sikh, you believe in God, right?
00:01:52.400 Yeah.
00:01:52.800 Okay, has anyone seen your God?
00:01:54.400 The Guru in Honor.
00:01:55.500 Our God is the book.
00:01:56.820 The Guru runs out of it.
00:01:57.560 Okay, now one second.
00:01:58.340 No, that's one of the gurus.
00:02:01.140 But you believe in God.
00:02:02.280 You don't believe gurus are God.
00:02:04.320 I don't know that much, but...
00:02:05.740 Okay, but as far as I know,
00:02:06.980 you don't believe the gurus are God.
00:02:08.640 No, they're the teacher.
00:02:09.540 Good.
00:02:10.100 And one of the teachers is the book.
00:02:11.660 Yes.
00:02:11.900 Good.
00:02:12.080 So we say there has to be a creator
00:02:14.500 that sent those gurus,
00:02:15.540 if you believe in that.
00:02:16.440 Okay, so what we say is,
00:02:17.760 you haven't seen that,
00:02:18.480 I haven't seen it.
00:02:19.440 But I believe in it.
00:02:20.160 Why, for example, your jacket?
00:02:21.640 You have a jacket, correct?
00:02:22.900 Yeah.
00:02:23.260 Okay, is your jacket made somewhere?
00:02:24.880 Yeah.
00:02:25.420 Where?
00:02:25.700 The manufacturer is.
00:02:26.560 Good.
00:02:27.000 Did you go and see them?
00:02:28.040 No.
00:02:28.520 So how do you know it was made?
00:02:29.760 Because it's a physical item.
00:02:31.400 It has to have been made.
00:02:32.240 Good, perfect.
00:02:32.800 Are you physical?
00:02:33.600 Yeah.
00:02:34.080 So it should be made.
00:02:35.400 But do you not think
00:02:36.280 there's Adam and Eve,
00:02:37.560 there's a Big Bang,
00:02:38.620 there's the gurus,
00:02:39.500 there's Jesus.
00:02:40.540 Jesus is God,
00:02:41.380 but God is the son of God.
00:02:42.580 No, no, no.
00:02:43.420 That's Christians. 0.95
00:02:44.340 We're not Christians,
00:02:44.740 we're Muslims.
00:02:45.140 Do you not think there's so much
00:02:46.260 like blurred lines
00:02:48.400 within religion
00:02:49.140 and who God is
00:02:49.900 in every religion?
00:02:50.680 No, because if you look
00:02:51.580 at all religions,
00:02:52.400 even in the Bible,
00:02:53.140 for example,
00:02:53.700 it says God is one.
00:02:55.360 Yes?
00:02:55.840 The only one true God
00:02:56.720 is the Father.
00:02:57.900 We believe that everyone,
00:02:59.640 all gods are the same
00:03:00.640 but we just see it
00:03:01.420 in a different way.
00:03:02.120 No, we believe,
00:03:02.640 we believe that there is
00:03:04.600 one God.
00:03:05.560 Every religion believes
00:03:06.300 there's one God.
00:03:07.220 What they do is that
00:03:08.100 the issue they fall into
00:03:09.340 is that they start saying
00:03:10.760 Jesus is God
00:03:11.480 or the Hindus say
00:03:13.280 there are millions of God.
00:03:14.560 So they all ultimately
00:03:15.460 believe in one source of power
00:03:16.680 but sometimes they fall into
00:03:18.340 what we call a shirk 0.95
00:03:20.200 which is associating partners.
00:03:22.720 We say Islam is pure monotheism
00:03:24.700 that God is one,
00:03:25.900 he's not a man or a woman,
00:03:27.180 there is nothing like him
00:03:28.200 and he's worthy of worship.
00:03:29.540 Do you not think Islam 1.00
00:03:31.580 is degrading to women? 1.00
00:03:33.400 No, how?
00:03:34.360 How old are you by the way?
00:03:36.100 20.
00:03:36.900 Okay, yeah, so what would you add?
00:03:38.060 You can have five wives. 0.83
00:03:39.780 Four wives. 0.99
00:03:40.240 Not four wives. 0.88
00:03:41.060 That's deemed acceptable.
00:03:43.140 Can you tell me
00:03:43.840 why it's not acceptable?
00:03:45.400 Because you're meant to
00:03:46.940 provide for one person,
00:03:48.680 show your love to one person.
00:03:49.960 How can you give your all
00:03:51.380 to four different people
00:03:52.640 and have kids
00:03:53.760 with four different...
00:03:54.580 You can, like even for example,
00:03:56.420 you will agree that
00:03:57.100 your forefathers,
00:03:58.500 your great-grandparents
00:03:59.260 et cetera,
00:03:59.800 may have had more than one wife.
00:04:01.200 Now, why?
00:04:02.260 But you think acceptable,
00:04:03.580 for example,
00:04:04.100 inter-buy is very common,
00:04:05.420 there's four houses
00:04:06.060 next door to each other
00:04:06.880 that are completely identical.
00:04:08.080 So tell me, sister,
00:04:08.980 which one is better?
00:04:09.620 Let me give you a scenario.
00:04:11.340 We believe...
00:04:12.200 Do you accept men and women 0.99
00:04:13.080 are created differently?
00:04:14.220 Yeah.
00:04:14.780 Good.
00:04:15.100 Do you accept that
00:04:15.780 they have different requirements?
00:04:17.120 Yeah.
00:04:17.700 Do you agree that
00:04:18.260 when a woman is more vulnerable 0.60
00:04:19.720 than a man,
00:04:20.320 in the sense physically?
00:04:21.820 Yeah.
00:04:22.280 Okay, good.
00:04:23.080 I believe women are psychologically 1.00
00:04:24.560 and mentally more stronger than men.
00:04:26.240 Why?
00:04:26.920 I believe they're created like that.
00:04:28.100 Like, we as men,
00:04:28.900 we cannot,
00:04:29.240 because you guys can express your feelings,
00:04:30.900 you can cry about it.
00:04:32.080 If I cry next to my friends,
00:04:33.060 they'll laugh at me.
00:04:33.620 Yeah.
00:04:33.960 So there's a stigma on me.
00:04:35.300 You guys can go,
00:04:36.340 you speak more,
00:04:37.200 as psychologists talk,
00:04:38.560 women speak more than men. 0.99
00:04:39.820 Yes, that's your way of,
00:04:40.760 you know,
00:04:41.700 emotions.
00:04:42.500 Emotions.
00:04:42.940 Good, perfect.
00:04:43.820 When you cry around your friends,
00:04:44.960 none of them will come and say,
00:04:45.640 why is she crying? 0.56
00:04:46.220 That's normal,
00:04:46.580 because they all cry.
00:04:47.260 They all cry together.
00:04:48.280 So what we say is this,
00:04:49.440 the greatest inequality
00:04:50.820 is to treat unequal things equally.
00:04:55.620 The greatest inequality
00:04:56.760 is to treat unequal.
00:04:57.800 So me and you are unequals.
00:04:59.040 So you can't treat us the same
00:04:59.920 because we're not...
00:05:00.700 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:05:02.000 Would you say
00:05:02.720 that if a man is holding a knife,
00:05:05.660 would you expect me to protect you
00:05:06.900 or let you fight?
00:05:07.500 I don't expect a man 1.00
00:05:12.060 to do anything for me.
00:05:13.300 I don't believe that
00:05:14.620 a man has to do it for me.
00:05:16.300 He has to.
00:05:16.900 But you think they have to?
00:05:18.460 He has to.
00:05:19.240 If you're here...
00:05:20.760 So what about
00:05:21.400 my husband leaves me, yeah?
00:05:22.880 And I'm financially
00:05:23.800 dependent on my husband
00:05:25.440 because since I married him,
00:05:26.560 I don't work.
00:05:27.380 He leaves me.
00:05:28.780 So I would feel
00:05:29.640 I have to stay in that marriage
00:05:30.660 because if I leave that marriage,
00:05:32.300 I'm left with nothing.
00:05:33.160 And Islam is a solution for you? 1.00
00:05:34.240 You can't always go back
00:05:35.080 to your parents' house.
00:05:35.880 No, Islam is a solution. 1.00
00:05:37.040 Islam is a solution for you.
00:05:38.460 Let's talk about it.
00:05:39.080 Firstly, let's talk about polygamy. 0.73
00:05:41.140 In polygamy, 0.79
00:05:41.880 Allah, God Almighty,
00:05:43.120 knows how He's created a man.
00:05:44.500 A man is a visual creature. 0.96
00:05:46.320 And a man has...
00:05:47.120 A man's sexual desires 1.00
00:05:48.300 are far greater than a woman. 0.98
00:05:49.380 There are studies that show this.
00:05:50.400 There is no comparison.
00:05:52.280 Now, what that means is the following.
00:05:53.720 In Islam, it says the following.
00:05:55.420 A man...
00:05:55.600 We're not told that
00:05:57.020 every Muslim man
00:05:57.640 has to have more than one wife.
00:05:58.840 No.
00:05:59.320 However,
00:05:59.620 if a man has the capabilities
00:06:02.200 of looking after
00:06:03.740 more than one wife,
00:06:04.740 he is not allowed
00:06:05.760 to have a girlfriend.
00:06:06.800 He's not allowed
00:06:07.480 to have a mistress.
00:06:08.440 He's not allowed
00:06:08.900 to have a side chick.
00:06:10.180 Why?
00:06:10.780 Because these individuals
00:06:12.560 that he has on the side,
00:06:13.840 he's with them for what?
00:06:15.920 I don't need to go into detail, yeah?
00:06:17.000 Okay.
00:06:17.340 Someone there.
00:06:17.980 So, Islam says 0.99
00:06:19.320 if you want to do it,
00:06:20.220 you do it honorably.
00:06:21.820 How?
00:06:22.600 Did you marry your first wife?
00:06:24.080 Yes.
00:06:24.540 Did you speak to her father?
00:06:25.600 Yes.
00:06:26.160 Did you give her a dowry? 0.98
00:06:27.440 Do you know what a dowry is?
00:06:28.300 Good.
00:06:28.760 You give her a dowry.
00:06:29.460 Do you have a house for her?
00:06:30.280 Good.
00:06:30.640 Do you provide for her?
00:06:31.300 Yes.
00:06:31.460 We don't believe in 50-50 in Islam.
00:06:32.820 The man covers everything.
00:06:33.800 Good.
00:06:34.200 He's a full-time bodyguard
00:06:35.120 and he's a full-time provider protector.
00:06:36.800 Good.
00:06:37.600 If you want another woman, 1.00
00:06:39.640 you cannot abuse another woman.
00:06:41.840 What does a lot of non-Muslim men do? 1.00
00:06:44.520 Yes.
00:06:45.000 They go behind their wife's back. 0.99
00:06:47.200 Good.
00:06:47.780 Islam says no 1.00
00:06:48.500 because what you're doing
00:06:49.140 is degrading another woman
00:06:50.660 for one thing.
00:06:52.060 One second.
00:06:53.140 Sorry.
00:06:54.080 So, Islam says 0.99
00:06:54.980 if you're going to do it,
00:06:56.100 you do it the right way.
00:06:56.860 So, polygamy has come 0.98
00:06:57.920 to protect the rights of all women
00:07:00.000 so that men don't have an easy route 1.00
00:07:01.900 by saying,
00:07:02.740 I'll buy her a Louis Vuitton bag,
00:07:04.040 take her out for dinner,
00:07:05.020 get what I want,
00:07:05.860 throw her like she's a bin. 0.99
00:07:07.040 Islam says a woman is not a bin. 0.99
00:07:08.640 She's not a trash. 0.97
00:07:09.540 She's a human being.
00:07:10.920 You cannot use and abuse a woman.
00:07:12.580 So, that's why
00:07:13.400 when a man is told
00:07:14.300 you have to marry her, 0.98
00:07:15.680 a man,
00:07:15.960 you know what a man thinks? 0.81
00:07:16.900 Oh my gosh,
00:07:17.600 I have to marry her,
00:07:18.900 give diary to her, 0.99
00:07:20.020 speak to her dad.
00:07:21.240 That's wrong.
00:07:21.720 I don't want to do it.
00:07:22.420 What does it do?
00:07:22.980 It protects the woman. 0.93
00:07:24.320 If he wants to do that,
00:07:25.440 what does it do?
00:07:26.280 He honours the other woman 0.99
00:07:27.420 with a marriage.
00:07:28.380 He gives a dowry.
00:07:29.540 So, it's equal.
00:07:30.800 Which one is better?
00:07:31.920 Use and abuse
00:07:32.620 or honour through marriage?
00:07:33.800 Honour it,
00:07:34.320 that's one reason.
00:07:35.080 Good, that's one reason.
00:07:35.840 So, when it came to
00:07:37.200 if financially
00:07:38.300 you depend on your husband,
00:07:39.500 good.
00:07:39.780 You know what?
00:07:40.160 Remember the dowry
00:07:40.760 I talked about?
00:07:41.500 That's just security.
00:07:42.860 So, when you marry
00:07:43.620 a man Islamically,
00:07:44.840 when he gives you
00:07:45.700 that dowry,
00:07:46.580 if anything go wrong
00:07:47.640 between you two,
00:07:48.540 that money is something
00:07:49.720 that you depend on.
00:07:51.100 Okay, fine.
00:07:51.660 But, say for example,
00:07:53.960 that's great.
00:07:55.100 You might come from
00:07:55.740 a rich family
00:07:56.260 so the man is lucky.
00:07:57.320 He's born into money.
00:07:58.860 Not rich or not,
00:07:59.560 he has to give you that.
00:08:00.660 For example,
00:08:01.100 he might be a nine-to-five.
00:08:02.540 If you say to him,
00:08:03.260 I want seven and a half
00:08:04.260 thousand pounds
00:08:04.760 of the dowry,
00:08:05.320 he has to work
00:08:06.280 and pay you that.
00:08:06.880 Okay, seven and a half thousand
00:08:08.140 is not enough
00:08:08.820 for a woman
00:08:09.200 to be dependent
00:08:10.600 on when they leave
00:08:11.240 their husband.
00:08:11.560 You know what men do 0.98
00:08:12.200 these days?
00:08:12.660 They're deadbeat dads.
00:08:13.340 You know what they do?
00:08:14.020 They're on job-seeker allowance.
00:08:15.040 Yeah.
00:08:15.440 And they, you know,
00:08:16.880 so Islam says no.
00:08:18.380 Number one,
00:08:19.240 financially.
00:08:19.720 Number two,
00:08:20.240 your family,
00:08:21.600 male members,
00:08:22.420 will keep him in check.
00:08:23.780 If he wrongs you,
00:08:25.260 he has to deal with them.
00:08:26.740 So, what I'm saying is,
00:08:28.080 those things are in place
00:08:29.400 to protect you.
00:08:30.340 If you are pregnant, 0.99
00:08:31.580 Allah says in the Quran,
00:08:32.460 if you do a divorce,
00:08:33.620 he has to provide
00:08:35.140 and the child
00:08:36.660 until the suckling period.
00:08:38.340 Good.
00:08:38.940 So, Islam gives a practical 0.94
00:08:40.160 solution to these problems.
00:08:41.660 In that meantime,
00:08:42.640 when you have that
00:08:43.380 seven and a half thousand
00:08:44.120 or whatever it is,
00:08:45.000 it will keep you going
00:08:46.040 until you find
00:08:47.080 someone else to marry.
00:08:48.180 And then, guess what?
00:08:49.000 He's your paternal provider.
00:08:50.720 Now, if you can't,
00:08:51.640 then it's your dad.
00:08:52.400 If you're not your dad,
00:08:52.980 it's your brother.
00:08:53.920 If you're not your brother,
00:08:54.420 it's your uncle.
00:08:55.320 So, you're always
00:08:56.320 under the protection of men.
00:08:59.060 Do you understand?
00:08:59.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:00.260 Muslim men would abuse 1.00
00:09:01.380 the fact that they can have
00:09:02.220 four wives.
00:09:03.000 As much as you say,
00:09:03.800 yeah, you know,
00:09:04.540 they honor, they belong.
00:09:05.700 But, a fact of humans,
00:09:07.960 they'll abuse
00:09:08.380 what they're given.
00:09:09.900 Then, there's a punishment for that.
00:09:11.000 You're given them
00:09:11.540 like an inch,
00:09:12.520 you take a mile.
00:09:13.280 Then, there's a punishment for that.
00:09:14.400 And guess why?
00:09:14.940 That's the reason why
00:09:15.680 Allah has protocols in place.
00:09:17.520 For example,
00:09:19.280 if a Muslim man,
00:09:20.340 let's say you're a Muslim woman
00:09:21.100 and he wants to take you
00:09:22.420 as a second wife,
00:09:23.480 you're going to say to him,
00:09:24.340 listen, number one,
00:09:24.860 I need to speak to my dad.
00:09:26.240 Number two,
00:09:26.760 I don't do no dating.
00:09:28.160 There is no,
00:09:28.760 we're going to go on a date.
00:09:29.420 So sorry,
00:09:29.880 I'm not about that life.
00:09:31.040 Number three,
00:09:31.400 you have to pay me dowry.
00:09:32.700 Number four,
00:09:33.040 where am I staying?
00:09:34.080 Number five,
00:09:34.560 are you paying for the bills?
00:09:35.460 No, bye-bye.
00:09:36.920 You've got protocols in place
00:09:38.260 to protect your heart.
00:09:39.080 And when you can't date,
00:09:40.200 when you marry someone,
00:09:42.600 you marry them for life
00:09:43.340 with no intention of divorcing,
00:09:44.620 unless something happens.
00:09:45.600 No, well, yes,
00:09:46.520 everyone goes into a marriage
00:09:47.440 without a divorce,
00:09:48.060 but a divorce happens,
00:09:48.680 it's normal.
00:09:49.040 In Islam,
00:09:49.480 divorce is not shunned.
00:09:50.340 Okay, you can't date the person,
00:09:51.760 you can't get to know them.
00:09:54.060 No, no,
00:09:54.300 you can get to know them.
00:09:55.840 But you need a father present.
00:09:57.340 No, no,
00:09:57.600 you do it,
00:09:58.400 in Sikhism,
00:09:59.160 it's a similar thing.
00:10:00.340 You do it,
00:10:00.860 one second,
00:10:01.320 are you telling me in Sikhism,
00:10:03.040 you can get to know a man
00:10:04.460 and your dad,
00:10:05.640 you'll say,
00:10:05.900 okay, go on a date.
00:10:06.660 No, no, no,
00:10:07.160 but if we're in Islam,
00:10:09.760 dating is forbidden.
00:10:12.160 No, no, no,
00:10:12.820 there's halal.
00:10:13.720 We don't call it dating.
00:10:15.140 There is a process
00:10:16.240 of you getting to know someone.
00:10:17.960 For example,
00:10:18.800 a Muslim man
00:10:19.620 can get to know a Muslim woman
00:10:20.800 with the permission
00:10:21.800 of his father,
00:10:23.200 with a third person there,
00:10:25.020 not exactly there.
00:10:26.640 For example,
00:10:27.080 you want to go out and eat.
00:10:28.400 He's just there.
00:10:29.500 You guys are walking
00:10:30.080 just behind you.
00:10:31.280 You do your thing,
00:10:31.920 you get to know each other,
00:10:32.520 but he will never
00:10:33.580 leave you guys alone.
00:10:34.740 Why?
00:10:35.000 To keep an eye on the man.
00:10:37.240 Yes.
00:10:38.060 Why?
00:10:38.600 Because Islam understands
00:10:39.980 that the man
00:10:40.500 has a power over you.
00:10:42.020 Look how Islam protects women 1.00
00:10:43.160 because you spoke about that,
00:10:44.180 yeah?
00:10:44.300 There's a misconception.
00:10:45.620 Do you agree
00:10:46.320 that a man can overpower you
00:10:47.600 physically?
00:10:48.220 Yeah.
00:10:49.120 He can do other stuff as well,
00:10:50.320 yeah?
00:10:50.480 Yeah.
00:10:50.860 Good.
00:10:51.260 He can manipulate you?
00:10:52.260 Yeah.
00:10:52.660 Okay, good.
00:10:53.040 So Islam says, 0.86
00:10:54.240 your brother is there
00:10:54.920 just in case he tries that.
00:10:56.760 So,
00:10:57.180 and a man knows a man.
00:10:58.320 So if I'm
00:10:58.860 bad intentions with a woman,
00:11:00.520 if her brother's there,
00:11:01.580 what would I be thinking?
00:11:02.780 You know that
00:11:03.600 the woman's got security, 1.00
00:11:04.820 she's got a back heart,
00:11:05.620 I can't try nothing.
00:11:06.320 You see?
00:11:07.060 What Islam does is, 1.00
00:11:08.260 Islam is pragmatic.
00:11:09.360 What it does is,
00:11:09.880 it says,
00:11:10.660 this man
00:11:11.520 might break your heart.
00:11:13.860 And,
00:11:14.360 yeah?
00:11:15.100 So Islam says, 0.86
00:11:16.580 your guardian
00:11:17.380 is the male members,
00:11:18.720 not the female members,
00:11:19.860 the male members,
00:11:20.480 because a man knows a man.
00:11:21.460 Yeah?
00:11:21.600 Okay.
00:11:22.100 That's the reason why
00:11:22.860 he's protecting you
00:11:24.020 and to suss up and say, 0.61
00:11:25.120 hold on a second,
00:11:25.680 I know,
00:11:25.960 I'm a man,
00:11:26.280 I know a man.
00:11:26.640 I can say,
00:11:26.860 you know what?
00:11:27.380 I don't like him.
00:11:28.280 There's something about him
00:11:28.760 I don't like.
00:11:29.460 Do you get it?
00:11:29.840 So Islam has got the man 1.00
00:11:31.720 to protect you
00:11:33.300 from the moment,
00:11:34.560 look,
00:11:34.640 if you think about it,
00:11:35.120 from the moment a woman's born,
00:11:36.920 a man is always there
00:11:37.680 to protect them.
00:11:38.800 Why?
00:11:39.220 Because Allah has understood that.
00:11:41.800 That's why,
00:11:42.420 as a mother,
00:11:43.000 you are the nurturing center
00:11:44.400 when it comes to your baby.
00:11:45.800 Do you get it?
00:11:46.480 Do you not love the fact
00:11:47.280 that your baby relies on you?
00:11:48.220 Argument's sake,
00:11:48.700 if you have a child.
00:11:49.660 Good.
00:11:50.040 We as men,
00:11:50.460 we love the fact
00:11:50.920 that our women rely on us.
00:11:52.760 We see them as our babies.
00:11:54.420 Do you get it?
00:11:54.900 Now,
00:11:55.160 are there Muslim men
00:11:55.960 that do bad stuff?
00:11:56.560 100%?
00:11:57.340 There are Muslim men
00:11:58.160 that do terrible stuff
00:11:59.080 and they should be ashamed
00:12:00.120 of themselves.
00:12:01.040 Yes?
00:12:01.240 Because Islam has categorically 1.00
00:12:02.380 told them how to treat women.
00:12:04.300 And the Prophet,
00:12:04.740 peace be upon him,
00:12:05.140 his last sermon was what?
00:12:06.700 That be good to women. 1.00
00:12:08.540 Yes?
00:12:08.940 And before the feminists 1.00
00:12:11.080 were fighting for their rights here,
00:12:12.540 for example,
00:12:13.280 the right to work,
00:12:14.500 the right to own property,
00:12:15.620 the right to not take
00:12:17.160 the husband's surname.
00:12:18.620 Yes?
00:12:19.120 The right...
00:12:19.720 Even that.
00:12:20.240 One second.
00:12:21.360 Yeah.
00:12:21.720 The right to own property,
00:12:24.820 the right to work,
00:12:25.640 the right to choose
00:12:26.520 who you want to marry.
00:12:27.980 Do you know Islam
00:12:28.500 gave this to the woman
00:12:29.220 1400 years ago?
00:12:30.140 Yeah, but back in Afghanistan
00:12:32.300 or whatever the countries are,
00:12:33.380 the women are so suppressed. 1.00
00:12:34.400 They can't work.
00:12:34.840 No, no, no.
00:12:35.160 Suppressed.
00:12:35.540 They can't talk.
00:12:36.100 They can't show their face.
00:12:37.180 They can't show their face.
00:12:37.860 They can't get up.
00:12:37.960 No, no, no.
00:12:38.280 Once again, once again.
00:12:38.680 This is...
00:12:39.060 Like, get pregnant. 0.96
00:12:41.480 This is propaganda.
00:12:42.480 No, no, no.
00:12:42.840 See, this is very interesting.
00:12:43.660 Why is pregnancy just that's it?
00:12:45.640 Why have we reduced
00:12:46.440 something so magnificent
00:12:47.780 to a just it?
00:12:48.580 Because they can't work.
00:12:49.440 Why do they need to work? 0.97
00:12:50.100 Their husband is going to work.
00:12:51.180 Exactly.
00:12:51.640 What's the issue?
00:12:51.980 They don't need to leave the house.
00:12:52.760 Their husband's going to do it.
00:12:53.740 Do you know how many women 1.00
00:12:54.840 in the West...
00:12:55.360 There was a study done of
00:12:56.280 in 30 years
00:12:57.140 of 50,000 men and women.
00:12:59.020 Do you know women
00:12:59.520 are less happy than before?
00:13:01.600 They hate the workforce.
00:13:03.640 Women... 1.00
00:13:04.160 There were studies that show
00:13:05.160 that Western women... 1.00
00:13:06.660 You know Western women? 1.00
00:13:07.680 Like Sikhs and Muslim women,
00:13:09.340 they are becoming more feminist.
00:13:10.860 The feminists are running away 0.99
00:13:11.700 from feminism. 0.96
00:13:12.640 You know why?
00:13:13.020 Because they realize
00:13:13.980 what it did to them.
00:13:15.380 They have been reduced
00:13:16.280 to...
00:13:17.000 Obviously,
00:13:17.540 I don't want to be careful
00:13:18.500 of what I say.
00:13:19.080 To a sexual object.
00:13:20.300 Yeah, okay.
00:13:21.040 Why?
00:13:21.560 Because they're like,
00:13:22.320 oh, you go and the dating...
00:13:23.780 You know what you've done?
00:13:24.600 You've given the man
00:13:25.240 what he wants
00:13:25.840 without working for it.
00:13:27.060 Why do you think
00:13:27.520 men are not getting married anymore? 1.00
00:13:28.800 Why would I get married
00:13:29.720 when I get exactly what I want
00:13:31.240 without marrying you,
00:13:32.920 buying your house,
00:13:34.060 doing all of this?
00:13:34.680 I get what I want
00:13:35.320 and I say,
00:13:35.580 you know what?
00:13:35.820 Thank you, I'm bored now.
00:13:36.980 Good.
00:13:37.380 Feminism has destroyed it. 1.00
00:13:38.420 So that's the reason why
00:13:39.280 you will understand
00:13:40.800 a woman bonds 0.89
00:13:42.380 with her children.
00:13:43.860 Every woman would want a man 1.00
00:13:45.460 who can work
00:13:46.640 while she's at home
00:13:47.660 with her kids,
00:13:48.480 nurturing the next generation.
00:13:50.220 Do you hear what I'm trying to say?
00:13:51.080 It's feminism 1.00
00:13:51.820 that's put into a woman's mind 1.00
00:13:53.140 that, oh no,
00:13:54.160 Miss Independent, etc.
00:13:55.340 And by the way,
00:13:56.180 in Islam,
00:13:56.880 a woman can work. 1.00
00:13:58.080 In Islam,
00:13:58.800 a woman does not have to 1.00
00:13:59.860 take the husband's surname.
00:14:01.020 In Islam,
00:14:01.540 a woman... 1.00
00:14:02.280 You know in the UK,
00:14:03.180 100 years ago,
00:14:04.020 if a man had the debt,
00:14:05.480 he can sell his wife 0.80
00:14:06.100 in the market.
00:14:07.600 Yes?
00:14:08.560 Yep.
00:14:08.920 So, exactly.
00:14:10.500 Islam gave the woman that right. 1.00
00:14:12.220 When the pagan Arabs, 1.00
00:14:13.480 before Islam came, 0.97
00:14:14.280 they used to bury their girls alive 0.71
00:14:15.600 because they were a woman. 0.85
00:14:17.340 And Allah says in the Quran,
00:14:18.680 that baby on the day of the judgment
00:14:19.880 will ask,
00:14:20.580 for what sin did you kill me?
00:14:22.840 Do you hear what I'm trying to say?
00:14:23.640 Islam has given this right
00:14:24.880 for a woman a long time ago.
00:14:25.980 The right to inherit.
00:14:27.100 The right to choose who you want to marry.
00:14:28.480 The right to not take
00:14:29.360 your husband's surname.
00:14:30.320 Do you get it?
00:14:30.700 The right to divorce.
00:14:32.620 In Islam,
00:14:33.120 you can't.
00:14:33.260 In Judaism,
00:14:33.840 you can't divorce your husband.
00:14:34.960 In Christianity,
00:14:35.620 there is no divorce.
00:14:36.520 Why do you think
00:14:36.960 Henry VIII was killing his wives?
00:14:39.320 How many good and white people
00:14:40.740 divorce their husbands now? 1.00
00:14:42.380 There's so many...
00:14:42.980 How many what?
00:14:43.780 White people divorce their husbands now. 1.00
00:14:44.980 No, no, no, no, no.
00:14:45.720 That's fine.
00:14:46.180 But what I'm saying is
00:14:46.720 there is no order in that house.
00:14:48.080 Because in that house,
00:14:48.680 there is no leader hierarchy.
00:14:50.260 The man is the leader of the house.
00:14:51.640 I believe the man
00:14:52.920 is the leader of the house
00:14:53.580 and he has the last say.
00:14:54.600 Okay, so a woman... 1.00
00:14:55.500 Do you agree in that?
00:14:56.100 Yeah, so...
00:14:56.740 Good.
00:14:56.940 No, I don't believe
00:14:57.840 a man has the last say.
00:14:58.660 I believe we're in a relationship.
00:14:59.900 On what basis?
00:15:01.140 One second.
00:15:01.520 On what basis?
00:15:01.980 On what basis do you say
00:15:03.040 that the man is not...
00:15:04.080 Do you accept that your husband
00:15:05.060 is the leader of the house?
00:15:07.660 So if I disagree with something
00:15:09.400 or I want to do something
00:15:10.560 and he tells me straight,
00:15:11.400 no, I have to obey.
00:15:13.240 No, you can't go to work.
00:15:15.400 I say yes, I won't go to work.
00:15:16.300 Yes and no.
00:15:16.960 Let me tell you how.
00:15:17.480 For example,
00:15:18.340 a man, we believe in Islam,
00:15:20.200 has the right to say...
00:15:22.220 For example,
00:15:23.380 a Muslim woman can tell her 1.00
00:15:25.080 Muslim husband,
00:15:26.380 you're not allowed
00:15:26.860 to have female friends.
00:15:28.300 Clear cut.
00:15:29.420 And that's true.
00:15:30.500 A woman has a right 1.00
00:15:31.640 to tell her husband,
00:15:32.940 you have to pay for everything.
00:15:36.160 100%.
00:15:36.480 She will tell him.
00:15:37.580 That's the level of power.
00:15:39.260 No, no, okay.
00:15:39.840 But why is there...
00:15:40.820 Why is that power?
00:15:42.200 We say the man has responsibility,
00:15:44.200 not a perk.
00:15:45.020 It's not a perk.
00:15:45.900 It's a responsibility.
00:15:47.480 Do you think it's easy
00:15:48.340 that when I'm walking
00:15:49.180 down the road with my wife
00:15:50.280 and a man pulls a knife
00:15:51.460 and I need to put my life
00:15:52.520 on the line,
00:15:53.180 why does a sheep go
00:15:53.840 put her life on the line?
00:15:55.060 Yeah.
00:15:55.660 Why does she become 0.91
00:15:56.260 Miss Independent and Feminist? 0.58
00:15:57.940 You go and die, please, for us. 0.95
00:15:59.340 I'll look after the kids.
00:16:00.620 Yeah, I'll make biryani at home. 0.97
00:16:02.060 Do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:16:02.760 Yeah.
00:16:03.620 We die.
00:16:04.220 And guess what?
00:16:04.600 When I die,
00:16:05.380 what's the name of
00:16:05.680 she's going to go
00:16:05.960 and get married again?
00:16:06.900 Do you believe in biryani?
00:16:08.460 Yes.
00:16:08.780 So say, I don't know,
00:16:10.180 you have a bad relationship
00:16:13.320 and it's a divorce
00:16:15.100 and there's a divorce.
00:16:15.620 100%.
00:16:15.880 In Islam,
00:16:17.080 in Islam,
00:16:17.780 a woman can marry 10 times. 0.98
00:16:20.600 No one can say nothing to it.
00:16:21.660 It's halal. 0.75
00:16:22.280 And then that husband
00:16:23.260 has to treat the wife's kids 0.98
00:16:24.300 like it's his own.
00:16:25.160 Say that again?
00:16:25.640 That husband,
00:16:26.460 the new husband,
00:16:27.420 has to treat the wife's old kids 1.00
00:16:29.100 like they're his own.
00:16:30.120 Of course,
00:16:30.380 you can't oppress them.
00:16:31.560 So much so,
00:16:32.420 Islam even says
00:16:33.240 when they reach a certain age,
00:16:35.100 the kids should go to the father.
00:16:36.980 Praise Allah!
00:16:38.080 Jesus!
00:16:38.800 So they shouldn't stay with the mother?
00:16:40.080 In a certain age.
00:16:40.880 You know why?
00:16:41.480 Because Islam looks like the well-being.
00:16:43.260 You know, sometimes
00:16:43.740 one of the biggest...
00:16:44.860 Does the child not get a choice?
00:16:45.660 Let me tell you something.
00:16:46.820 Kind of.
00:16:47.460 You know,
00:16:47.820 essay.
00:16:48.660 You know what I'm saying?
00:16:49.480 Yeah.
00:16:49.700 Okay, good.
00:16:50.660 Usually that happens with stepfathers.
00:16:52.920 That's why Islam has a protocol in place 1.00
00:16:54.760 that after a certain age,
00:16:55.740 they go to the father.
00:16:57.520 Because the money...
00:16:58.200 Look, look.
00:16:58.420 The woman can be easily manipulated by the... 1.00
00:17:00.780 The stories happen.
00:17:01.700 Women can be easily manipulated. 1.00
00:17:03.420 Yes.
00:17:04.080 Women can, 1.00
00:17:05.120 but that doesn't mean every woman.
00:17:06.620 I never said that.
00:17:07.500 I'm saying Islam has a solution for everyone.
00:17:10.440 Exceptions don't make the rule.
00:17:11.960 We deal with the situation where...
00:17:13.260 We can't say...
00:17:14.060 Oh yeah, for example.
00:17:15.220 Drink driving.
00:17:16.020 Some might say,
00:17:16.480 you know what?
00:17:16.720 I know drink drivers are safe,
00:17:17.600 but there might be one that kills four people.
00:17:19.520 Ban all.
00:17:20.660 Islam doesn't deal with... 1.00
00:17:21.840 Oh, but there might be one that isn't a thing.
00:17:23.420 I don't care.
00:17:24.360 If one person can kill,
00:17:27.040 we ban all.
00:17:27.900 Everyone has potential.
00:17:28.460 Good.
00:17:29.000 So do you see now...
00:17:30.020 So now,
00:17:30.560 does Islam oppress women or not? 0.98
00:17:33.940 Come on.
00:17:34.640 I mean,
00:17:35.060 I see the way you're trying.
00:17:36.080 No, no, no, no, no.
00:17:37.120 A salesman is always good at selling.
00:17:38.900 Good.
00:17:39.120 Okay.
00:17:39.340 Tell me why I said it's a lie.
00:17:40.400 Wa alakasamafiyo.
00:17:40.920 Thank you for everything.
00:17:41.400 Barakafiq.
00:17:41.840 Merabasi.
00:17:42.620 Tell me...
00:17:43.200 Okay, one second.
00:17:44.320 Either what I'm saying is the truth,
00:17:45.640 or I've just done magic on you.
00:17:47.560 Hey.
00:17:48.840 I've done this.
00:17:49.520 Look, hello.
00:17:50.020 Listen to what I'm saying.
00:17:50.500 I mean, you guys believe in jeans and all that, so...
00:17:52.440 So what's jeans got to do with women's rights? 1.00
00:17:54.280 No, it doesn't, but you...
00:17:55.540 No, I'm saying to you,
00:17:56.720 from what I've told you,
00:17:58.140 sister, from what I've told you,
00:17:59.760 are women oppressed in Islam or not? 1.00
00:18:02.200 Yeah.
00:18:03.180 So women are oppressed in Islam? 1.00
00:18:04.960 They can't show their hair.
00:18:06.040 So one second, one second.
00:18:06.820 So after wife... 1.00
00:18:07.480 They can't show their body because men... 1.00
00:18:08.680 Thank you.
00:18:09.060 Men are so indecent.
00:18:10.280 No, no, no.
00:18:10.760 They look up women in a different way.
00:18:11.660 No, thank you.
00:18:12.260 Again, that's an assumption.
00:18:13.120 Nowhere in Islam does it say,
00:18:14.760 dress up because men can't control themselves. 0.92
00:18:16.620 So why they can't show their body?
00:18:18.140 Thank you.
00:18:18.460 Good.
00:18:18.700 Okay, good.
00:18:19.100 Okay, you can ask me.
00:18:19.960 Okay, good, good.
00:18:20.360 Ask me.
00:18:20.680 Okay, good.
00:18:21.360 Number one, as a Sikh,
00:18:23.380 what do you do when you go to your...
00:18:25.540 Qudwara?
00:18:26.300 Yeah.
00:18:27.080 Yeah, we don't wear disrespectful clothes.
00:18:29.680 Why?
00:18:29.800 Why?
00:18:30.080 Why is it disrespectful?
00:18:34.200 Okay, I wouldn't go in shorts, would I?
00:18:37.100 No, no.
00:18:37.300 I'll go in a miniscuit.
00:18:38.040 Why not?
00:18:39.380 What would they say to you?
00:18:40.520 What would you...
00:18:40.880 If there's a guru...
00:18:41.400 What do you call the thing?
00:18:42.920 Because it's just like...
00:18:44.000 There's a level of appropriateness
00:18:45.420 that I probably face a bunch of...
00:18:46.660 Why is it inappropriate?
00:18:47.600 That's misogynistic.
00:18:48.860 Go in...
00:18:49.200 I think you should go to
00:18:50.040 argument's sake in a bikini. 0.60
00:18:51.940 What would happen?
00:18:53.260 Just get told to leave.
00:18:54.760 Why?
00:18:56.100 But I can...
00:18:56.840 There's no rule in my religion
00:18:58.180 that I can't walk around the streets
00:18:59.460 and not justice.
00:19:01.040 One second, one second.
00:19:01.620 So let me get this right.
00:19:02.440 You have modesty in the...
00:19:05.300 So what's it called?
00:19:05.620 For your level of modest
00:19:06.440 and our level of modest?
00:19:07.040 No, no, no.
00:19:07.860 Okay, good.
00:19:08.900 So who decides?
00:19:09.800 For example,
00:19:10.900 the woman who walks here half naked 1.00
00:19:12.400 and the Sikh woman
00:19:13.760 and the Muslim woman.
00:19:15.340 Which one is the correct one?
00:19:17.160 Which one is modest?
00:19:18.060 Just because you're modest
00:19:20.640 is not always correct.
00:19:21.600 You could be modest
00:19:22.240 but you could still commit sin.
00:19:24.320 Committing sins
00:19:25.120 and being modest
00:19:25.800 are two separate things.
00:19:27.000 A woman can wear the hijab
00:19:28.160 and can go and sleep around
00:19:29.680 but she still has to wear the hijab.
00:19:31.860 Two wrongs don't make a right.
00:19:32.680 Oh look, she's so holy
00:19:33.660 compared to the other person next to her
00:19:35.360 that's got her full face and makeup 0.99
00:19:36.360 and her hair and her eyebrows. 0.99
00:19:37.620 We don't judge a woman 1.00
00:19:39.240 by her internal affairs.
00:19:41.740 If a woman wears a mini skirt 1.00
00:19:43.440 we say that that is a wrong dress
00:19:45.560 but nobody can say
00:19:46.660 she's a woman who sleeps around. 1.00
00:19:48.640 So there's ten men, yeah?
00:19:50.160 One in a burka 0.99
00:19:51.020 one in a mini skirt.
00:19:52.640 Yeah?
00:19:53.040 Ten men or ten women?
00:19:53.980 Ten men in a line.
00:19:55.320 In front is a woman in a burka
00:19:57.160 a woman in a mini dress.
00:19:58.600 Who do you want to marry? 1.00
00:20:00.740 No one's going to say
00:20:01.440 they want to marry a woman 0.99
00:20:02.200 in a mini skirt.
00:20:02.920 No, no, no.
00:20:03.500 One second, okay.
00:20:04.080 Because they're immediately judged.
00:20:05.740 No, no, no.
00:20:07.120 Of course, you're going to judge
00:20:08.280 someone's a parent.
00:20:09.440 If you're walking down here
00:20:11.060 You just told me
00:20:11.620 you never judge anyone.
00:20:12.480 No, no, no.
00:20:13.080 Listen to me carefully.
00:20:14.240 We do not judge
00:20:15.400 a person's internal affair.
00:20:17.300 If a woman dresses up 1.00
00:20:18.280 in a mini skirt
00:20:18.960 I will say her dress is immodest.
00:20:21.400 I can see and I can judge.
00:20:23.380 However, I cannot say
00:20:25.020 she probably sleeps around. 1.00
00:20:26.440 No.
00:20:27.040 Just because she wears a mini skirt 1.00
00:20:28.320 doesn't mean that.
00:20:28.980 If I see a woman in a niqab 1.00
00:20:30.220 and I go
00:20:30.540 wow, she's wife immaterial. 1.00
00:20:32.540 Okay, how do you know
00:20:33.020 she doesn't sleep around? 1.00
00:20:34.240 So you judge from
00:20:35.340 the apparent
00:20:36.140 but you cannot make judgment
00:20:37.520 internally.
00:20:38.260 If I see a man 0.98
00:20:39.220 with an earring
00:20:39.880 and tattoos
00:20:40.720 I can't say
00:20:41.400 he's probably a robber.
00:20:42.520 No.
00:20:43.440 He's wearing an earring
00:20:44.140 which is haram.
00:20:44.860 He's got tattoos
00:20:45.280 which is haram.
00:20:46.020 But you cannot make a judgment
00:20:47.720 about his personal affairs
00:20:48.960 and say
00:20:49.240 he's probably an armed robber
00:20:50.540 or a gangster.
00:20:51.120 No, he's not.
00:20:51.980 So what I'm saying
00:20:52.560 is this, sister.
00:20:53.740 Who decides
00:20:54.340 for a man to wear 0.59
00:20:56.020 not a woman?
00:20:56.580 Why not a woman? 0.99
00:20:57.300 Because for a woman
00:20:59.100 it's a don't.
00:20:59.560 That's fine.
00:20:59.860 A woman can wear gold 0.97
00:21:00.520 a man can't wear gold.
00:21:01.480 No, no, but what I'm saying
00:21:02.320 is you can't have tattoos
00:21:03.680 because you're changing
00:21:04.500 what God gave you.
00:21:05.660 Yes.
00:21:05.920 You're changing the body.
00:21:06.700 No, no, no.
00:21:06.740 Earrings is not
00:21:07.140 it's permissible.
00:21:08.760 Earrings?
00:21:09.500 No, you're not
00:21:10.160 you can't.
00:21:11.560 For a woman it's permissible 1.00
00:21:12.180 not for a man.
00:21:12.660 But why?
00:21:13.400 Because God said so.
00:21:14.840 But was there earrings
00:21:15.820 and was there tattoos
00:21:16.640 and everything like that
00:21:17.560 and you've invented it?
00:21:18.360 Yeah, yeah, it was there
00:21:19.280 but what I'm saying
00:21:20.520 is this
00:21:20.780 when it comes to modesty
00:21:21.520 why, for example
00:21:23.000 a woman wearing 0.78
00:21:23.560 like let me ask you a question
00:21:24.440 why do you not
00:21:25.480 cover your hair?
00:21:26.640 I don't need to
00:21:27.480 I don't care
00:21:27.960 who looks on my hair.
00:21:29.000 It's not about who looks
00:21:29.880 I'm saying
00:21:30.820 as a Sikh woman
00:21:31.980 what are you told to do?
00:21:33.400 To not cut your hair.
00:21:34.520 Not to cover your hair?
00:21:35.320 Not to cut it.
00:21:36.180 Not to cut it.
00:21:36.920 Okay, do you cut your hair?
00:21:37.960 Yeah.
00:21:38.440 Okay, why do you cut your hair?
00:21:40.200 Because I don't like long hair.
00:21:41.640 Okay, good.
00:21:42.280 Alright.
00:21:42.380 I just don't personally.
00:21:43.380 That's fine.
00:21:43.880 What I'm saying is this
00:21:44.580 I believe
00:21:46.380 that everyone
00:21:47.420 is influenced
00:21:48.040 one way or another.
00:21:49.120 Do you genuinely believe
00:21:50.480 girls who wear mini skirts 1.00
00:21:51.860 who wear it
00:21:52.200 because they want to?
00:21:52.740 What are you saying
00:21:56.760 is that they wear it
00:21:57.800 because of what?
00:21:58.440 They're coerced to.
00:21:59.680 By?
00:22:00.440 The society.
00:22:02.700 Okay, by...
00:22:03.660 Indirectly.
00:22:04.800 Let me tell you something.
00:22:06.300 Do you not think
00:22:07.040 that as a woman 0.93
00:22:07.740 you have pressures on you
00:22:08.640 to look beautiful?
00:22:10.120 Yeah.
00:22:10.660 Do you not think
00:22:11.360 that these pressures
00:22:12.400 of makeup
00:22:12.980 the beauty industry
00:22:14.180 the opposite gender 1.00
00:22:15.220 the billboards
00:22:16.280 Instagram, TikTok, Netflix
00:22:17.840 do you think...
00:22:18.960 Hi!
00:22:19.600 Hello, how are you?
00:22:20.800 Good, thank you.
00:22:21.620 Fantastic.
00:22:22.060 We're just talking
00:22:23.240 about religion
00:22:23.900 and you know...
00:22:25.140 Oh, I'm an atheist.
00:22:26.200 That's good.
00:22:26.920 Do you want a Quran?
00:22:27.500 Free Quran? 0.86
00:22:28.000 I'm an atheist.
00:22:28.720 No, thank you.
00:22:29.220 Okay, that's fine.
00:22:30.080 Thank you very much.
00:22:30.800 That was interesting.
00:22:31.520 So, do you think
00:22:32.860 that there is not
00:22:33.840 external factors
00:22:34.620 that influence
00:22:35.300 men and women
00:22:35.960 to how to dress up?
00:22:37.940 Yeah, I don't think
00:22:38.640 men have as much
00:22:39.420 and I think women 1.00
00:22:40.000 have more.
00:22:40.680 Good.
00:22:41.280 So, women have 1.00
00:22:42.340 more pressure on them
00:22:43.460 of the way they look
00:22:44.520 the way they dress.
00:22:45.740 So, are you telling me
00:22:46.600 a woman wakes up
00:22:47.340 in the morning and says
00:22:48.040 I can't wait to spend
00:22:49.220 two and a half hours
00:22:49.900 doing my makeup?
00:22:50.360 No, you know
00:22:52.520 there was a study done.
00:22:53.220 You know five years
00:22:53.780 ago when COVID happened
00:22:54.420 everyone had to wear masks.
00:22:55.740 Do you know they noticed
00:22:56.360 women were carrying 0.98
00:22:57.000 on wearing their masks
00:22:57.640 when masks were
00:22:58.160 not obligatory anymore?
00:22:59.300 And do you know
00:22:59.620 why they said?
00:23:00.420 Because they said
00:23:00.800 I can just wear my mask
00:23:01.500 and not wear makeup.
00:23:03.560 Which means what?
00:23:04.580 They are coerced
00:23:05.740 subconsciously
00:23:07.620 to dress up like this.
00:23:09.160 Why does most of the women 1.00
00:23:10.180 wear mini skirts
00:23:11.380 and show their cleavage? 1.00
00:23:12.180 Why is it systematically
00:23:14.080 the same?
00:23:14.580 Because it's attractive
00:23:15.020 to other people
00:23:15.800 and other gentlemen.
00:23:16.700 Now, let me ask you
00:23:17.300 a question.
00:23:17.700 Is that freedom?
00:23:18.580 That you are dressing
00:23:19.400 in a way
00:23:19.980 in a freezing cold
00:23:21.280 You don't have to.
00:23:22.700 You still can't make
00:23:23.280 a cold.
00:23:23.300 Sister, sister,
00:23:23.900 no.
00:23:24.640 That's what I'm saying.
00:23:25.260 A hundred percent.
00:23:26.160 I'm saying
00:23:26.800 there's coercion
00:23:28.120 done indirectly.
00:23:29.320 Have you heard of
00:23:29.960 manufacturing consent?
00:23:31.840 Good.
00:23:32.460 Manufacturing consent
00:23:33.100 is this.
00:23:33.880 It's me making you
00:23:35.060 say yes
00:23:35.540 by telling you
00:23:36.500 if this and that
00:23:37.440 and this and that
00:23:38.020 and you're like
00:23:38.220 oh, okay, now.
00:23:39.620 Usually you say no
00:23:40.720 but if I break it down
00:23:42.000 I'm manufacturing.
00:23:43.100 Good.
00:23:44.020 Which is called
00:23:44.560 brainwashing.
00:23:46.400 Manipulation.
00:23:47.360 Yes?
00:23:47.880 Good.
00:23:48.420 So what Islam does 0.98
00:23:49.180 is this.
00:23:49.500 Islam says 0.87
00:23:49.980 Allah, God Almighty
00:23:51.720 tells me how to dress.
00:23:53.360 I grow a beard
00:23:54.160 because Allah told me to.
00:23:55.560 I wake up for prayer
00:23:56.320 five times a day
00:23:57.000 because God told me to.
00:23:58.640 Now you have
00:23:59.080 two options, sister. 0.96
00:24:00.660 A Muslim has two options. 0.51
00:24:01.740 A Muslim woman.
00:24:02.720 You either follow
00:24:03.560 what God told you
00:24:04.280 and dress up
00:24:04.680 how God told you
00:24:05.380 from day dot Adam
00:24:06.660 or you come and try
00:24:08.020 to do fashion.
00:24:09.280 Fashion changes.
00:24:10.320 Today's a miniskirt.
00:24:11.080 Tomorrow's a bikini.
00:24:12.100 The other day
00:24:12.560 wear a paint on you.
00:24:15.360 So, good.
00:24:16.200 So what I'm saying is this.
00:24:17.300 This is subjugation
00:24:18.260 and sexual objectification 0.99
00:24:19.440 of women.
00:24:20.540 Men do not see you
00:24:21.760 as human
00:24:22.300 when you dress up
00:24:23.000 inappropriately.
00:24:24.080 That is a reality.
00:24:25.720 So Islam deals 1.00
00:24:26.620 with the reality.
00:24:27.300 Not La La Land.
00:24:28.340 We're in Disney World.
00:24:29.100 Yes, it doesn't work like that.
00:24:30.700 Islam deals with the reality.
00:24:31.900 So what Islam says is this.
00:24:33.200 When you cover yourself up
00:24:34.520 I'm talking to you.
00:24:36.220 I'm not looking anywhere else, sir.
00:24:37.820 Do you get it?
00:24:38.580 And guess what?
00:24:39.180 You know men can fall in love
00:24:40.100 the wrong way.
00:24:41.500 Yeah?
00:24:42.040 And guess what happens
00:24:42.620 when men fall in love
00:24:43.320 the wrong way?
00:24:44.180 They might look and say
00:24:44.880 you know what?
00:24:45.480 I'm not really into that girl
00:24:46.520 but she has got a really nice
00:24:47.960 so I'm just going to pretend
00:24:50.320 get what I want
00:24:51.260 and tell her
00:24:51.640 bye-bye.
00:24:53.340 Isn't that dehumanisation?
00:24:55.240 Yeah, at the end of the day
00:24:56.200 women can do the same. 1.00
00:24:58.080 No, no, no.
00:24:58.900 There's stigma on men
00:24:59.680 that men use and abuse
00:25:00.960 women. 0.81
00:25:01.420 Women are hypergamous by nature. 1.00
00:25:03.440 They do the same 0.85
00:25:04.020 by looking at a man.
00:25:05.100 He's tall.
00:25:05.940 He's handsome.
00:25:06.800 He's rich.
00:25:07.660 Da-da-da.
00:25:07.960 If every man had
00:25:08.760 their bank balance on their head
00:25:09.760 it's as good as a woman 1.00
00:25:11.420 wearing it inappropriately
00:25:12.240 because that attracts them.
00:25:13.300 For a woman
00:25:13.800 when she sees the bank balance
00:25:14.920 if everyone had their bank balance
00:25:15.800 in their head
00:25:16.220 trust me
00:25:17.080 a lot of women 1.00
00:25:17.580 you know what women would be doing? 1.00
00:25:18.780 They would say
00:25:19.280 I wish I never saw that.
00:25:20.140 A woman who's with a man 0.99
00:25:21.180 who's not earning enough
00:25:22.640 looks at another man
00:25:23.720 and goes
00:25:23.840 oh my gosh
00:25:24.320 I can be with him.
00:25:25.660 What do you think it does
00:25:26.560 when you are married
00:25:27.320 and you're walking
00:25:28.580 and there's so many
00:25:29.500 women dressed up 1.00
00:25:30.200 inappropriately
00:25:30.740 and your husband
00:25:31.820 of course we are told
00:25:32.860 Allah says to us in the Quran
00:25:33.820 tell the believing men
00:25:34.740 to lower his gaze
00:25:35.360 don't look
00:25:36.280 no matter if she's a Muslim woman
00:25:38.020 or a Muslim woman 0.63
00:25:38.600 don't look at inappropriate things
00:25:39.920 do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:25:41.380 Why?
00:25:41.700 Because Islam says 0.93
00:25:42.540 Who said that's inappropriate
00:25:43.280 in the first place?
00:25:44.220 In the Quran Allah tells us
00:25:45.200 that a man and a woman
00:25:46.440 should lower their gaze
00:25:47.180 especially men
00:25:47.940 because we men are visual creatures
00:25:49.060 you women are emotional creatures 1.00
00:25:50.920 yes?
00:25:51.520 You fall for what you hear
00:25:52.400 yes?
00:25:53.480 Okay
00:25:53.740 so with us
00:25:55.180 we fall for what we see
00:25:56.040 do you get it?
00:25:56.780 That's the reason why
00:25:57.320 women wear makeup 1.00
00:25:57.900 and men lie
00:25:58.460 do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:25:59.620 So what we're saying is this
00:26:00.340 Allah has put those 0.98
00:26:01.820 characteristics in place
00:26:02.460 so when a woman wears an abaya 0.99
00:26:03.720 I can't see her body shape
00:26:05.780 I can't see her
00:26:07.240 her hair is a beauty
00:26:08.100 so I'm judging her
00:26:09.540 based on what?
00:26:10.600 Her intellect
00:26:11.580 she's a human being
00:26:13.840 do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:26:15.140 Now when a woman 1.00
00:26:15.780 has her breasts out 1.00
00:26:17.500 a man is going to be like 1.00
00:26:19.700 my attention is
00:26:21.140 keep going somewhere else
00:26:22.140 because he's created
00:26:23.760 like that
00:26:24.420 this doesn't mean
00:26:25.760 that women have to cover up 1.00
00:26:27.860 because men can't control themselves 0.99
00:26:28.900 both men and women
00:26:29.920 have to do their bit
00:26:30.620 men should lower their gaze 1.00
00:26:31.860 and a woman should cover up 1.00
00:26:33.320 so they're both
00:26:33.940 doing what they need to do
00:26:35.080 number two
00:26:35.800 there should be no billboards
00:26:37.140 of half-naked women 0.93
00:26:37.860 doing an advertisement
00:26:39.640 for a chocolate bar
00:26:40.360 what has a chocolate bar
00:26:42.020 got to do with a half-naked woman? 1.00
00:26:43.740 It's more attractive
00:26:44.460 what's more attractive?
00:26:46.020 You'll get drawn to her
00:26:46.940 good
00:26:47.100 so let me ask you a question
00:26:47.700 which one has your best interest?
00:26:50.780 Feminism that says 1.00
00:26:51.580 go and do
00:26:52.320 one night
00:26:53.060 whatever
00:26:54.300 liberalist
00:26:54.920 Islam that says
00:26:56.020 no, cover up
00:26:56.740 do you think men
00:26:57.740 want you covered up
00:26:58.280 or naked?
00:27:00.140 Men want women naked 1.00
00:27:01.320 good
00:27:01.680 what does Islam say?
00:27:02.620 cover up
00:27:03.000 for who?
00:27:03.900 for your own good
00:27:04.520 if Islam was
00:27:05.560 against women 1.00
00:27:06.560 it would say
00:27:06.900 dress how you want
00:27:07.840 etc
00:27:08.140 get used and abused
00:27:09.080 Islam has so many
00:27:10.720 protocols in place
00:27:11.820 to protect women
00:27:12.400 and we see that
00:27:13.960 as oppression
00:27:14.320 do you think
00:27:14.520 if God was trying
00:27:15.680 to look after women 1.00
00:27:16.380 that much
00:27:16.900 they didn't get used
00:27:17.540 and abused
00:27:17.920 God wouldn't have
00:27:18.700 made men so visual
00:27:19.640 like that
00:27:20.020 no
00:27:20.340 because let me tell you
00:27:21.240 something
00:27:21.480 number one
00:27:21.980 I'm here
00:27:22.600 there are women 0.98
00:27:23.980 that are half-naked
00:27:24.580 that walk past here
00:27:25.280 as a man
00:27:26.640 my job is to look away
00:27:27.600 yes
00:27:28.660 I can't come and say
00:27:29.680 oh they're dressed up
00:27:30.420 half-naked
00:27:30.720 let me go apart
00:27:31.300 them
00:27:31.480 men have that
00:27:32.660 as their job
00:27:33.200 in their heads
00:27:33.700 but that's why
00:27:34.300 Allah says in the Quran
00:27:35.540 this is why
00:27:36.300 you need the Quran
00:27:37.200 to educate men
00:27:38.560 how to behave like men 0.54
00:27:40.580 what does the industry
00:27:41.940 do today?
00:27:42.460 you watch things
00:27:43.160 for example
00:27:43.740 you know
00:27:45.800 pornography
00:27:46.360 okay
00:27:47.280 and what does that do?
00:27:49.020 that dehumanises women further 1.00
00:27:50.540 and then you've got a man
00:27:51.800 who's with his wife
00:27:52.540 being intimate
00:27:54.260 but he's not content
00:27:55.520 you know why?
00:27:55.940 because he's watching
00:27:56.320 something else
00:27:56.820 he's watching something
00:27:58.180 that is not real
00:27:58.760 that's why Allah says 0.66
00:27:59.820 lower your gaze
00:28:00.600 don't sexually objectify women
00:28:02.660 do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:28:04.040 so based on that
00:28:04.980 does Islam
00:28:06.060 put a man in check?
00:28:08.540 yeah
00:28:08.660 does Islam
00:28:09.760 oppress women? 0.89
00:28:10.760 no
00:28:11.000 okay
00:28:11.620 so do you see
00:28:12.660 what I'm saying sister?
00:28:13.300 Islam has come 1.00
00:28:14.440 to honour and respect you
00:28:15.860 are there Muslim men out there
00:28:17.160 who do crazy stuff?
00:28:18.120 yes
00:28:18.420 I deal with 0.89
00:28:19.460 I know about it
00:28:20.400 do you get what I'm trying to say?
00:28:21.760 but Allah has put this
00:28:22.880 in place
00:28:23.740 if you stick to this thing
00:28:25.500 your heart will not be broken
00:28:26.540 do you get it?
00:28:27.540 if you stick to this
00:28:28.360 you won't
00:28:28.800 but if you go with
00:28:29.520 today's culture
00:28:30.500 have dates
00:28:31.520 boyfriends
00:28:32.040 girlfriends
00:28:32.440 oh it didn't work out
00:28:33.580 oh it didn't work out
00:28:33.600 oh not him
00:28:34.060 next person
00:28:34.560 why are you going to go through that?
00:28:36.660 follow the man you
00:28:37.640 God has sent you
00:28:38.520 because that is the thing
00:28:39.920 Allah
00:28:40.320 God Almighty
00:28:41.060 created you
00:28:41.800 he knows what's best for you
00:28:43.340 if you made a product
00:28:45.020 an Apple iPhone
00:28:45.800 I'm going to come to you
00:28:47.120 to find out
00:28:47.460 can I put this in the oven?
00:28:48.580 no
00:28:48.720 in the water?
00:28:49.380 no
00:28:49.540 can I break it?
00:28:50.780 turn it into half?
00:28:52.060 no
00:28:52.240 you're going to say
00:28:53.100 Ali I made it
00:28:53.720 it's not for the oven
00:28:55.040 it can't go under water
00:28:56.260 Allah has created us
00:28:57.920 and he knows what's best for us
00:28:59.260 so if you read the Quran
00:29:00.480 my dear sister
00:29:00.980 you will understand
00:29:01.800 the reasons and the wisdoms
00:29:03.500 behind why Allah has done that 0.95
00:29:04.640 and then you will understand
00:29:06.140 that we should have a relationship
00:29:07.260 with him
00:29:07.840 so because he's the one
00:29:09.400 that makes your heart beat
00:29:10.120 he's giving you your eyes
00:29:11.420 your lungs
00:29:11.860 your kidney
00:29:12.300 you have trillions of cells
00:29:14.240 in your body
00:29:14.680 without those cells
00:29:15.600 you won't be breathing now
00:29:16.380 so it says
00:29:18.160 Allah says
00:29:18.660 have a relationship with him
00:29:19.640 thank him for what he's given you
00:29:21.200 you know
00:29:21.820 that's what I said to you
00:29:22.560 if you want to read the Quran
00:29:23.260 really you've got nothing to lose
00:29:24.880 I read it 13 years ago
00:29:26.220 you know
00:29:27.220 and I believe the truth
00:29:28.300 is with Islam
00:29:28.820 do you have any questions
00:29:30.440 no that's it
00:29:31.300 thank you
00:29:31.680 what's your name
00:29:32.080 Avni
00:29:32.600 Avni
00:29:33.080 I speak to a lot of Sikhs
00:29:35.000 they've got a lot of warrior names
00:29:36.140 yeah
00:29:36.960 it's really nice to see you sister
00:29:39.340 this is our honourable Sikh system
00:29:41.260 may Allah bless and preserve her
00:29:42.140 I really appreciate the question
00:29:43.240 that you asked
00:29:43.660 very respectful
00:29:44.800 very nice system
00:29:45.720 may Allah bless
00:29:46.020 can I give you a Quran to read
00:29:46.920 maybe another day
00:29:48.780 that's no problem
00:29:49.440 in our religion it says
00:29:50.340 there's no compulsion
00:29:50.940 I can't force you
00:29:51.580 I ask Allah to guide you
00:29:53.140 and yourself
00:29:54.020 ok nice meeting you
00:29:54.940 thank you very much
00:29:55.740 any more questions for me
00:29:56.480 that's it thank you
00:29:57.200 thank you
00:29:57.720 take care