Ali Dawah - January 06, 2026
SINCERE SISTER REQUESTS ANSWERS
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Summary
Why is women's modesty emphasized publicly and excessively whilst men's modesty is treated as secondary in the Muslim holy Qur'an? Why is it important to cover up in public, but not so much in private? And why is it more important for the sisters to cover their modesty than it is for men?
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just imagine the people back in the day when they would have to travel certain distances for months
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or even years what is one thing that they would carry with them the quran why because they did
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not have it on their mobile devices or their gadgets brothers and sisters imagine you have
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an app the qurani app which not only shows you how much rewards you get but reminds you to read
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the quran gives you reminders download the qurani app now and let it testify for you on your
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qiyamah that you read it wherever you was okay assalamualaikum guys we're here in manchester we
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came here with the salah pro project as you can see teaching people how to play salah we had our
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sister what's your name sumaya sister sumaya alhamdulillah we wanted to ask a question yeah um
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she came here with her cameras by for you know what the sounds not going to be good so if i will film
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for her and inshallah make a message that reaches more people because it is a common problem so
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repeat your question what was your question why is women's modesty emphasized publicly and excessively
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whilst men's modesty which the quran commands first is often treated secondary like women is
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very like obsessive like where the hijab do this whereas men's lowering their gaze which allah says
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in the quran yeah it's treated as secondary so i don't understand like why is it different i think
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that's that's a good question i don't know if in the quran allah mentions one's modesty over the other
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allah said so they believe in men to lower their gaze and they believe women to lower their gaze as well
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so that is important as well so i believe there's a lot of double standards so we've got two extremes we've got
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the red pill and we've got toxic feminism so toxic feminism and red pill are the same thing on each
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side that's the reason why it's important as men and we should call this out as well because there
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is this big thing about dawah bros this dawah bros that but wallahi i'll be honest with you like 10 years
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ago i've been talking about this topic where i was the first youtuber who actually spoke about men's hijab
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because if you look at modesty and haya Uthman you know Uthman yeah he was so modest he had so much
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higher subhanallah even the cross would cover himself next to him so modesty and higher is
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something that is connected to the sisters when it shouldn't be because modesty and higher is for
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myself the way i observed what i look at the way i dress i can't dress in tight clothes i have to cover
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from my navel to my knee so a lot of message that needs to go to the brothers is that sometimes you
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get these brothers who are criticizing sister's hijab or his pink color one single hair strand showing but
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he's the same brother he goes topless on holidays so i agree with you and you're right allah does tell the
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believing man and the believing who to cover up that's true but one thing we need to bear in mind
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is this sister we as men are visual creatures yes because we're visual creatures it's also we have
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to do our part as men we should lower our gaze but the question is this sister are women doing their
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part by covering up and another issue that we miss is what makeup yes okay no no no no no no i'm not
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talking about you i'm talking about you i'm talking in general what what's happened is a lot of
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sisters like oh he should lower his gaze correct but a lot of sisters what are they doing is when
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it comes to beautifying their self you see them like fully caked up and it's like okay hold on a
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second it's true as men we should lower our gaze it's true that there are men in the islamic sphere
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who are always picking on sister which is wrong however would you agree that also sisters right in
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these days have got full makeup on and they are out there beautifying their self i find fair enough
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like women like yeah some of them they do wear makeup etc yeah but the thing is right men they
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should be around their gaze true but that doesn't mean that okay look i should lower my gaze but that
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doesn't mean for example that our sisters should also you know yeah you know what i'm trying to say
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we have to be fair they both have to do this job because if we say if the argument is blowing the
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gaze that means okay let our sisters walk half make it because we're lowering our gaze we're doing our
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bit so nobody will look at them no we as both that's what allah says so they believe in man to
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lower his gaze and the woman as well so we both have to do our part also you know the hijab how
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far does it go like because you know um um women wearing the naqab and posting themselves yeah like
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a friend they can't do that because like men are going to be tempted or just something look allah
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allah doesn't see in the quran oh yeah apparently apparently apparently men are going to be tempted
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why no no i don't want to go on camera no i don't want to go come a bit close because i can't
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hear you okay you won't be on camera okay i'll avoid you okay thank you but it's the conversation
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and it's the way that it's it's talked about especially with like dawah brothers the way that
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they break the way they talk about modesty the way they talk about modesty with hijabs the way like
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for i'm not trying to like i don't mean to be like bad towards you or anything but recently you were in
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you were in a scandal with this lady i was talking about her eyelashes and it was just the way you the
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way just the attitude by which that there's so many of you speak about the hijab and so many of you
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speak about women it's just like if i didn't read the quran and if i didn't know islam the way i know
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islam i would not be drawn towards islam just from seeing so many clips about of like dawah brothers
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and just the way you speak like it's just i think that the attitude needs to be changed and you need
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to like think about the effect of one of the things that you say to the people who are in the religion
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and people outside the religion as well like so many times i want to put on my hijab and i'll feel
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fine you shouldn't wear makeup but how are you going to address it how are you going to how are
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you going to tell us not to wear makeup how are you going to are you going to say no no no you
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you've got yourself a free ticket to hell that kind of situation is not necessary true true i don't
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think anyone can doom anyone to hell that's that's how around not permissible so the question i ask you is
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who is the dawah bros the dawah bros okay let me tell you i want to know what is a dawah bro it's
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like these men that are sort of obsessed with women no no no no that can be any muslim man
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okay no when you say dawah bros i need to know who that phrase is so the question i'm asking this
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sister is what is the dawah bro because because you know what's happening now people who do food
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reviews and become a dawah bro you're a random muslim guy who's a mechanic become a dawah bro
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anyone that opens their mouth will become a dawah bro now you know in the dawah scene there's specific
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people me muhammad hijab even you can say okay yes but so what i'm saying is this is stuff if we if we
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label can you give it because i want to yeah please yeah because the thing is this we we talk about like
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for example yes right the way we deliver it but the thing is why is it that when we for example say to
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our sisters why are you guys wearing makeup that's also haram automatically we're misogynist
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automatically this you said to me shouldn't men talk about their modesty i said you're right
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shouldn't we talk about how we're slowing our gaze i said you're right but why is it when we say
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choose sister but how our sisters dress up and then wearing makeup isn't that also another issue we
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should have or will hell get spoke close no it's because like it's i don't know it's just like the
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emphasis on like women like you do this thing like the hell like i agree but let me tell you something
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sister wallahi i've got videos from 10 years ago where i have spoken out against other muslim men
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who are like i'm like why are you obsessed with women's hijab why don't you talk about you topless
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on holidays i've done this i've spoken about this long time ago i've done an experiment called men's
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hijab tutorial i spoke to men how to conduct their self but nobody talks about that so my job i've always
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been fair i talk about the sisters i talk to brothers as well so what i'm saying is this there shouldn't be
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there shouldn't be a divide between me and you yeah we are we are all right we are we are to one
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another eight you are my sister in islam if i saw someone harming me down the road i will put my life
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on the line for you not because you're blood related because not because you're my sister biological
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sister because you're not because they say blood is thicker than water do you know what that means
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yeah what do you think what means your brother is your blood right in islam we believe iman is thicker
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than blood meaning what your brother will do for you i will do for you because you're my sister in islam
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and the same should be with us okay i don't know oh did you have a question regarding the question
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about you can't be close i can't hear you okay but i don't know you won't look i'll blur you okay
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regarding no too many people are recording well why i'll blur you okay
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regarding the question on who dawah bros are yes at the end of the day when like so many muslim men see
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the type of people who are on the top for example you and other people what's a dawah bro the people who
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speak dawah is to spread islam good no no no what is a dawah bro if i come and say a hijabi sis
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that's all of you guys so what's a dawah bro do you agree i'm i'm a dawah bro yes good
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mohammed hijab yeah aki amen yeah good who else is a dawah bro podcast people no no no no one second
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you know what you found it's like imagine you do dawah you wear hijab yeah then i start saying there's
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these other sisters who do weird stuff and i put you in their category and i go you hijabi sisters why
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because they wear a hijab like you is that fair no good there are people who do food review they
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became a dawah bro there's a mechanic muslim mechanic he's a dawah bro everyone's become a dawah bro
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there's specific people in the dawah have you seen me ever ever come and criticize a woman about her
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hijab no good you know why i have talked about people who took off their hijab but i could never
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attack them because of their hijab but what i'm saying is sister is this thing that's popularized
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that oh dawah bro's this dawah bro's that and i think where does this come from we've always
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defended our sisters when we need to be defended our brothers but i'm not a a a a person who's going
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to show up my religion do you not agree we have a problem with so many sisters wearing makeup and
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beautifying themselves on tiktok yeah should we not talk about that we can't i'm just saying it's the way
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that people speak 100 you are 100 right and i believe the way i spoke before was wrong and i apologize i said
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if the delivery was wrong i put my hands up and i said i'm sorry thank you for but do you agree
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that sisters beautifying their self is haram yes no one's no one's arguing that it's not
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they are they are nobody's talking about it but that's not what i'm saying good my point is the
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delivery can be so wrong sometimes that's what allah says in the quran if you was to be harsh with
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them they would have run away from you and i 100 agree with you yeah thank you so thank you
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thank you perfect there we go so we are sisters brothers are here we are one brother and sisters
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this gender wars and this kind of stuff that are trying to divide us sorry sorry sorry sorry this
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gender wars and stuff that's trying to divide us it's not this is a concern we address
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alhamdulillah and inshallah we are not against each other we are brothers and sisters alhamdulillah inshallah