Ali Dawah


Stop Judging people!! ｜｜ Ali Dawah


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00:00:00.000 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu brothers and sisters.
00:00:27.660 It's your brother Ali Dawah and inshallah this is going to be one of the first series of many that are about to that I'm going to put forth inshallah in the coming months.
00:00:36.980 Because obviously we do a lot of videos regarding a lot of interviews, social experiments.
00:00:42.960 Obviously I wanted to do a bit of face cam videos and deal with matters that certain youth go through, the ummah as a whole.
00:00:49.340 Some certain stuff that we need to work on, both myself and you guys obviously.
00:00:54.400 And I thought these videos would be really beneficial.
00:00:56.000 We can go through certain topics and today's topic is going to be about judging, judging other people.
00:01:00.900 Now brothers and sisters when it comes to the matter of judging, I've seen it a lot.
00:01:06.040 I've seen it since I've come to Islam, I've seen it left, right, centre.
00:01:09.040 I've seen mainly before I used to think those who are practising the deen will look down on those that don't.
00:01:15.280 I used to think this is not, and this is one of the common problems to be honest.
00:01:17.840 In general this is mainly the case.
00:01:19.860 But I have come to realise that there is individuals that do not practise the deen and they do judge those who do.
00:01:25.800 Like for example, if a brother grows a beard, they'll be like, oh you're a mufti now.
00:01:30.720 And all these kind of behaviours.
00:01:32.160 And we do have other examples of, for example, sisters that observe the hijab and the abaya.
00:01:37.240 They look down on those who do not observe the hijab and think, oh she's this, she's that.
00:01:41.200 And those who do not wear the hijab, they look at them and say, oh she thinks she's pious or whatever.
00:01:45.560 So we always jump to these assumptions and we start judging individuals.
00:01:49.880 And this is not really, really nice because when I first came to Islam, I personally witnessed this myself.
00:01:55.640 You know, the brothers that I used to hang around with, they would really like stick it on me with certain errors, mistakes that I would do.
00:02:02.860 And they would have no patience.
00:02:05.000 And wallahi, this is really sad.
00:02:06.480 You need to understand something.
00:02:07.760 And if you have friends that are new to the deen, if they're practising, please send this video to them.
00:02:13.360 It would be really beneficial, inshallah.
00:02:14.960 If you have a friend that's come to the deen, you have to be patient.
00:02:19.600 Don't jump and just start judging them on the mistakes that they do.
00:02:23.480 If they come to the deen, like for example, we're sitting at a masjid.
00:02:28.080 Can you imagine somebody with tattoos who's got, I don't know, a Mohican hair, a blonde Mohican hair.
00:02:34.020 He's got tattoos everywhere, pierced, his body's pierced all over.
00:02:38.820 He comes into the masjid.
00:02:40.500 What would we as Muslims do?
00:02:42.780 The first thing that we would do is, what the hell is he doing here?
00:02:45.740 Would we ever think to ourselves, hold on a second.
00:02:47.940 Before I start judging, before I start jumping to assumptions, let me see maybe he's interested in Islam.
00:02:55.700 Would we do that?
00:02:57.200 We don't know.
00:02:57.800 Most of us would not do this.
00:02:59.660 And this is the reason why it's so important.
00:03:01.480 Because you can put that person off.
00:03:03.120 If you come and say, okay, what are you doing here?
00:03:04.760 Oh, this is not a nightclub.
00:03:06.820 What do you think that individual is going to think?
00:03:09.240 You sit him down and talk to him.
00:03:11.780 And this happens with the youth as well.
00:03:13.680 When certain youth come to the masjid or they want to do a U-turn, they come in with an earring.
00:03:19.040 What do you do?
00:03:20.520 Automatically judge.
00:03:21.880 Automatically go and the first thing you speak to them about,
00:03:24.060 Oh, Aki, you know your earring.
00:03:26.820 Hold it.
00:03:27.620 Calm down for a second.
00:03:29.420 Speak to him.
00:03:30.380 It's a gradual process.
00:03:32.820 And you need to understand something, my dear brothers and sisters.
00:03:36.240 Just because you're practicing the deen.
00:03:38.280 Just because Allah says in the Quran, in Surah Al-Duhah, verse 7,
00:03:42.960 And he found you lost.
00:03:44.540 And he guided you.
00:03:46.540 Now, ponder upon this verse.
00:03:49.080 He guided you.
00:03:50.220 He found you lost.
00:03:51.680 And you're out there judging.
00:03:56.500 Did you guide yourself?
00:03:58.360 Did you one day say, you know what?
00:03:59.620 Yes.
00:04:00.420 I've just got this revelation or whatever and I'm just like, yes.
00:04:04.060 No.
00:04:05.200 Allah SWT is saying he found you lost and he guided you.
00:04:09.580 You, as an individual, I'm speaking to you.
00:04:12.140 You was the party animal a couple of months ago.
00:04:14.480 You was the one who would do all kinds of stuff.
00:04:16.540 And now that Allah SWT has guided you and you're practicing, Alhamdulillah, you're trying your best.
00:04:21.760 And you're looking down on others because of their little petty mistakes.
00:04:24.800 Whatever it may be.
00:04:26.160 We know in Islam, the Prophet Muhammad SAW said the deen is advised.
00:04:29.760 Yes, we need to advise our brothers and sisters.
00:04:31.720 100%.
00:04:32.320 Nobody is saying nothing against that.
00:04:34.680 And those individuals who say, oh for example, only God can judge me.
00:04:38.640 Don't judge me.
00:04:39.360 That's another aspect.
00:04:40.520 It's a fine line.
00:04:41.640 You know, I might talk about this and you might think, well he's contradicting himself.
00:04:43.840 He's saying don't judge others.
00:04:44.740 But then again, you know, people can't say don't judge me.
00:04:47.780 There's a fine line.
00:04:48.980 Because you need to understand, brothers and sisters, is that when you're judging someone.
00:04:53.720 For example, if I'm walking and I see a brother in a foe kissing a girl,
00:04:58.020 I instantaneously, inside me, I'm like, that's wrong.
00:05:00.320 I've judged.
00:05:01.180 But how?
00:05:01.900 I've said, okay, I've understood that what he's doing is wrong.
00:05:05.660 Now, me approaching him is the part where I have to not, like, with my speech, judge him.
00:05:14.500 How?
00:05:14.940 I go to him and just advise him like a brother and say, look Aki, what I think, like, you know, you shouldn't do this.
00:05:19.780 Or whatever it may be, talk to him in the best of ways.
00:05:22.660 But if you go up to him and say, Aki, Haram, what the hell are you doing?
00:05:25.640 And go into this madness, it's not going to work.
00:05:29.180 That individual is not going to understand.
00:05:30.840 Another thing that I want to mention, brothers and sisters, is basically, just put yourself in a situation like,
00:05:38.080 just imagine, the person that you're judging, right?
00:05:41.280 The person that you're judging, what if they're going through a family problem?
00:05:45.780 What if they have lost their father?
00:05:47.680 What if they have lost their mother?
00:05:49.440 What if they don't even have both their parents?
00:05:51.860 What if there is something, like, you need to understand just the way you want to go paradise?
00:05:59.640 They want to go paradise too.
00:06:01.600 You can't think to yourself, you know what, okay, yeah, I'm the only one.
00:06:04.000 And obviously, Allah, guidance, come from Allah SWT, that's a must, we know that.
00:06:07.640 But, just imagine for a second, you are judging that individual where you don't even know what is their circumstance,
00:06:14.060 what are they going through?
00:06:15.720 You don't know.
00:06:17.040 And you're judging them and putting so much more pressure on them that they're saying, you know what?
00:06:20.660 Forget you guys.
00:06:23.320 You know, Islam, I don't even want that anymore.
00:06:26.720 You are going to be the reason that you have put off someone.
00:06:31.000 Walahi fiya Allah.
00:06:32.120 You really need to fiya Allah SWT, when you're dealing with certain people in certain matters,
00:06:37.120 be very careful.
00:06:39.200 Because they could be going through God knows what.
00:06:42.500 You don't know what they're going through.
00:06:44.080 And this does not mean that's any excuse that, okay, just because you're going through that and you just go and do all kinds of stuff.
00:06:49.460 No.
00:06:49.660 But we need to understand, we need to say, you know what?
00:06:53.700 When we look at a sister, if I look at a sister with no hijab or the way she's dressing, yes, it's inappropriate.
00:07:00.100 But, I should hate the sin, not the individual.
00:07:04.640 We should not do that.
00:07:05.300 We should not hate the individual.
00:07:06.240 But, try to advise that.
00:07:08.640 Even if we see a brother that's doing wrong, this, that.
00:07:11.720 Walahi, I'm telling you.
00:07:13.160 I've been in the Dawah scene.
00:07:14.840 Brothers around me have been in this, and they're a witness to that.
00:07:17.140 When you come across somebody, and even though they're committing that sin, and in their head, they are thinking, oh, he's going to judge me.
00:07:26.780 But when you go up to them and say, Aki, salaamu alaikum.
00:07:30.120 Or sister, if you're another sister, you go to another sister who hasn't worn the hijab, salaamu alaikum, sister.
00:07:35.000 When you go up to them and approach them in that manner, without judging them, and saying, Aki, how you doing, this, that, speak to them in a gentle manner, buy them a cup of coffee, drink, water, food, come sit down, Aki, let's talk.
00:07:48.980 Walahi, it will melt their heart.
00:07:50.480 It will melt their heart.
00:07:52.280 And this will help them, and feel more connected, and be like, wow, he's not judging me, or she's not judging me from the way I'm dressed.
00:08:01.980 And you encouraging them, Walahi, your reward is with Allah.
00:08:05.000 You need to understand, we need to be understanding.
00:08:08.440 And I go back to the point once again, who guided you?
00:08:12.440 Did you guide yourself?
00:08:15.120 Allah SWT has guided you, my dear brothers and sisters.
00:08:17.200 Walahi, be careful before Allah SWT, as a punishment, takes that away from you.
00:08:22.180 You need to understand, and Walahi, please do not look down on other people.
00:08:25.660 Try your best, your friend, your neighbour, your work colleague, your friend at school, at college, university, wherever it may be.
00:08:35.000 Try your best to advise them.
00:08:36.700 And also, brothers and sisters, one other point that I want to make is, sometimes, as I'm in the Dawah, I know brothers that are in the Dawah, sometimes we even fall for this behaviour of, we're not actually giving Dawah to the individual, we're giving Dawah to our judgement.
00:08:53.240 How do we do this?
00:08:54.460 For example, we open the TV and we see Richard Dawkins, right?
00:08:57.320 And we see him and his behaviour as an individual, and we're like, okay, that's it.
00:09:01.940 In our head, we're thinking every single atheist is like that.
00:09:05.100 So when we're giving Dawah to an atheist, in our head, before we have even started, and he says, oh, I'm an atheist, we're like, oh, okay.
00:09:11.880 Automatically, we're starting the judgement.
00:09:13.300 How?
00:09:13.760 We're like, okay, yeah, he's like that.
00:09:15.080 So what do we do?
00:09:15.620 We just go straight in and start refuting him, or going in this behaviour.
00:09:21.540 But we shouldn't do that, because us doing that is exactly what they're doing to us today.
00:09:26.380 The media, what are they doing?
00:09:28.100 Every single Muslim is the same.
00:09:29.840 They're all the same.
00:09:30.440 So when we say, like, how would we feel if you went to an individual and said, oh, I'm a Muslim, and they go, oh, you're a terrorist.
00:09:37.680 So how would we feel?
00:09:39.140 We would not like it, because you need to understand that you're starting to judge.
00:09:43.860 I want to go to Quran, Surah Nisa, Chapter 94, where Allah SWT says, oh, you who have believed, when you go forth in the way of your Lord, investigate.
00:09:53.940 And do not say to the one who gives you a greeting of peace, you are not a believer.
00:10:00.440 So you need to understand, before judging the assumptions, you know, we have a lot of people, you know, just, they hear something.
00:10:09.820 Oh, this brother, he's aqidah, he's like this or like that.
00:10:13.140 Oh, really?
00:10:14.140 Oh, next time you see him, you don't even give him salaam.
00:10:16.460 Have you investigated the matter?
00:10:17.720 Have you looked into the matter?
00:10:18.900 Have you spoken to the brother?
00:10:20.220 No.
00:10:20.960 I've heard it who?
00:10:22.100 I've heard it from a friend.
00:10:23.340 No, you're judging.
00:10:25.620 Learn the matter, investigate.
00:10:27.160 Like Allah SWT says in the Quran, first understand the matter.
00:10:30.440 Look into it and then come to your decision of whatever, however you want to act.
00:10:35.520 Also, the Prophet Muhammad SAW used to make duata Allah SWT and say, oh, the one who turns
00:10:40.120 hearts, keep my heart on your religion.
00:10:43.200 And also we know Ibrahim SAW used to make duata Allah SWT and say, oh, Allah, divert me
00:10:48.260 from worshipping idols.
00:10:49.860 So what do we learn from that?
00:10:51.300 The best man to walk this planet, the prophets who have evened themselves, they are making
00:11:00.120 duata Allah SWT.
00:11:00.980 And not only that, if we go to Surah Al-Imran, verse 9, sorry, verse 8, it says, our Lord,
00:11:09.400 like this is how we should be.
00:11:11.540 Our Lord, let not our hearts deviate after you have guided us and grant us from yourself
00:11:16.700 mercy.
00:11:17.640 Indeed, you are the bestower.
00:11:18.660 So we should have this mentality of, we should extract and learn something from this, that
00:11:24.920 you are not guaranteed.
00:11:27.800 When you come and practice the deen, don't ever think to yourself, oh, yes, that's it,
00:11:31.600 me, I've done a bit, I'm on the deen now, I don't need to worry about nothing.
00:11:35.740 If the prophets, if the prophets always made duata Allah SWT to keep on the straight path,
00:11:41.000 then who are you to think to yourself, yes, you know, I'm perfect, you know, I see a
00:11:47.000 few individuals who are not practicing and I start pinpointing and judging them.
00:11:51.960 Wallahi, this is not the characteristics of a believer, it's not.
00:11:55.520 We should have this understanding and this is where manners play a key role and share
00:12:01.580 this with your friends inshaAllah if you guys benefited and I'm going to have more
00:12:04.520 series like this coming up inshaAllah.
00:12:06.540 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
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