WARNING SISTERS AGAINST ALI DAWAH
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about the dangers of crossing your limits and crossing the lines when it comes to dawa and how to deal with it. Asalaamu alayhu alaykum, warning sisters against abusing dawa.
Transcript
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Asalaamu alayhu wa rahmatullahi wa barakirah to brothers and sisters and dear friends
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welcome to this video of warning sisters against ali dawa which is myself now doing this video is
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not a matter of clickbait i actually mean every single word that i say but i'm going to put it
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into context for you guys and like i said before what i mean on the title is what what i said on
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the title is what i actually mean now i received a message from a sister a couple of days ago saying
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that she met a brother she knew a brother no she was following a brother on instagram who would
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post and dawa stuff you know reminders on a daily basis and she was uh and he would do dawa
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posting dawa material etc so one day if i'm not mistaken either she messaged him for advice
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etc along those lines or he messaged i'm not really sure and what happened was um the reminders were
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given forth you know the brother would remind her and i think maybe the sister was going through a
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certain issue so she was getting reminders from brother every now and then um and then obviously
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these reminders kind of continue so a little conversation started and this is one of the
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biggest fitness when a man and a female a male and female is alone the third person is shaitan
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uh with this scenario though it was just reminders etc but what happened later on is that this brother
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who's uh basically does dawa and women does that was just a dawa post yeah um he basically says to her
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look um i want to share something with you um and can you give me your basically whatsapp number
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and i will send it to you you know it's beneficial reminder etc so she thinks you know what you know
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what's the big deal you know etc shaitan comes and whispers and says what's the big deal so she gives
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her number and then the brother message uh messages her on whatsapp and um after that obviously the
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conversations carry on carry on and then this brother starts uh asking inappropriate questions
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uh etc so then it comes to a point where they are going forth and the sister's catching feelings to
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the brother um vice versa this is what the sister thinks that you know he had feelings as well so
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they decide to meet up and this brother comes and um he tries to you know be touchy touchy with the
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sister um and so on so forth now now both of you are at fault and we're going to derive some benefits
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from this one of the biggest things a lot of people fall into is that the brother is in the dawa scene
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or he's doing some kind of dawa stuff or he looks a bit religious or he's wearing a fob or he has a
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beard or he goes to the masjid all the time and this goes for sisters as well you see a sister who's
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wearing the hijab or the abaya or she looks religious or she looks practicing automatically what we do is
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we put our guards down thinking the person opposite you is a person that fears allah and would never do
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anything like that now this is wrong brothers and sisters and sisters specifically like i said before
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i warn you guys even against myself it should not mean nothing to you guys that i oh it's brother
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ali dawa even if it's brother ali dawa if you are speaking to me now i get private messages day in
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day out yeah from sisters and brothers now for me to be in a for me to be in a private message with you
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sisters is wrong i'm going to be straight up i don't need to lie or be around the bush but out of
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necessity and i keep it short to the point advise and move on to the best of my ability now this is
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the reason why i do because sometimes we deal with suicidal cases around relationships etc and i try to
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think myself like if i can benefit the sister somehow quickly that's it but even that's a dangerous zone
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you know so may allah protect me from that one of the biggest things that i fear of me is to fall
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to that uh to a sin like that if you are messaging me it should not matter oh it's ali dawa it shouldn't
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matter if it's brother mufti meng if it's musa if it's imran if it's um whoever whoever it is no matter
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if they're a sheikh whatever they are if you see me crossing the limits and lines with you
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then you need to say i don't care who he is i don't care if he's ali dawa i don't care how many
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followers he has i don't care what he's known for if he's famous you have to it is a duty upon you
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to say brother fear allah you're crossing your limits i came to you for advice now you're abusing that
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yeah so you need to understand sisters specifically as well is that if i am messaging you or you are
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messaging me and i start talking to you in a way like you know um you know sister yeah yeah so what
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you're doing you know what you're up to or join a uh meet up you know i can give dawa in person you
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know one-to-one etc uh if i start saying oh you know sister give me your number you know i will get
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no matter who it is you have to put your limit there and say brother fear allah this is why i warn you
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sisters even if it's against myself i have to be real with you guys and you need to understand that
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one of the biggest fitna for a man is a woman and the prophet peace be upon him said the biggest thing
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that i fear for my ummah is woman now this does not mean women are bad or they're evil or they're
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these satanic creatures or whatever no what it means is we have a desire for women and that is our
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weakness now in a society that we live in today that is even worse just like for example sisters have a
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desire and a weakness for i don't know a louis vuitton bag or nice clothes or i'm just giving
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an example it's just your weakness doesn't mean the item is satanic or you know evil it doesn't
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mean that it means you have a weakness to that now unfortunately we as brothers in the dawa scene
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whoever it may be sometimes we can fall weak you know we are not perfect uh and may allah
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protect us from that but what you need to understand brothers and sisters is that
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sometimes sisters take advantage of that so they know for example there is a public figure a brother
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is in the dawa scene so they think you know what how can we ruin this uh image so what they say is
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okay let's message him in a flirty manner talk to him you know do this kind of stuff that's why a
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brother so that's why sometimes as brothers in the dawa scene we have to be extra cautious and extra
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careful because unfortunately there is female this goes for females as well there is females out there
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who are genuinely have an evil thing in their heart where they're like oh how can we catch this brother
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out and show this that and that's why i say may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us from ever falling
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from this fitna now the prophet muhammad peace be upon him told us and it's an advice to you sisters
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is that when you are looking for a partner look for two things this is for sisters looking in for a
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brother somebody that has religion and somebody that has manners akhlaq good adab now you need to
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observe a person if a person looks religious faux beard you know he's like wow he's got the shabang
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everything's going on like oh he's the holy man you know he's the holy guy now this holy guy that
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you're talking about if he starts to talk to you in a manner which is flirty which is dirty which he
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asks you to send pictures back and forth whatever it may be you need to say to yourself hold on a
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second even if this is me like i said before you need to say hold on a second now he looks religious
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okay but he is asking me really inappropriate questions you know so you need to draw the line
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and say this is wrong yes he does look religious but his manners is akhlaq the way he's dealing with
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or for example if he's a violent guy so the prophet peace be upon him said look from religion
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and manners they go hand to hand you know and the prophet peace be upon him says something for a
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reason for the benefit of us so this is something that we really need to understand sisters and this
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goes for brothers as well because i've had stories i've had stories from people that are very reliable
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brothers who are looking for marriage genuinely and they say they will say akhi i'm speaking to
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her sister she wears hijab abaya and then she asked me inappropriate question about a certain part
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of my body you know it's i don't want to go into detail i hope you guys understand what i'm saying
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but the brother will say subhanallah i didn't know i just wanted to turn a blind eye and i thought the
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best no you don't do that yes you may assume the best but if somebody's talking to you in that manner
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you really need to cross the line and think sister fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you know fear allah
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because what you're saying is now you're crossing limits and you should not put up with it and think
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oh you know this that no that should be a sign of an alarm bell you know because if this person can talk
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to me in this manner so freely then god knows who she or he talks to about what so that should be an
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alarm bell for all of us now unfortunately as males as men a lot of men out there we tend to think oh
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she asked for it you know she she was on it so i start talking to her like you know if she's going to
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talk to me in a dirty manner like this that so i'm just going to take advantage no it does not give
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you a right we are muslim men it doesn't mean we're not like people who are jahil we're like oh
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she talks to me in a dirty manner yeah i'm going to go and use and abuse her no we are muslim men we
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fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala just because a female does not respect herself does not mean i drop to her
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level and they disrespect her we should know better if i know a sister's coming to me and messaging me
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in inbox start talking to me in a flirty manner or sending me inappropriate pictures either i'm going to
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block or i'm going to say sister fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala if i want i can go along with
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the flow and take advantage of you whatever but sister i see you like my own sister and i and i'm
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just saying this as a beneficial advice to you sister please what i fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala what are
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you doing you're causing a fitna for me and for yourself why so this is how a muslim man should behave
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this is how his behavior should be and may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us among those that will behave
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accordingly to that not oh somebody's messaged me that let me take advantage of that no sisters
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what you need to understand something there's genuine brothers out there who are trying to
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lower their gaze you know so they cannot fall in you know by looking at you and not fall in love
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with you in the wrong manner in the wrong way if you know what i'm saying so there's brothers out
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there genuinely trying to lower their gaze and do things a halal way sisters fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
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and don't make it hard upon them don't make it hard upon them by trying to be flirty trying to send
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these messages etc and the same goes for brothers brothers fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala what if
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that was your sister imagine you brother that listening imagine me messaging your sister in that
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flirty man i'm telling her to link up with me and let's do this and that how would you feel you
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actually put yourself in the shoes of another believer it's another person's sister you know how
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could you so calmly casually you know lead them along you know sisters yes sisters do this they
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some sisters go and make it hard for practicing brothers etc you know yes but also there is
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brothers out there who make it hard for sisters you lead them along you lead them along giving
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them false promises etc i'm gonna marry you this and you leave them halfway fear allah this is believing
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women who want to do things the right way and they fear allah and they're trying to lower their gaze and
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keep away from zina and you are coming and giving false promises and especially we know what's sad
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is that you use the dawah you use the dawah to make yourself look religious so that sister can put
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her guards down and think assume the best in you and wallah he's so sad the person is looking at you
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and your behavior in public and in youtube and thinking good of you and this is the reason why
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she's putting her guards down when she shouldn't and she's thinking the best of you and thinking you
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know that person wouldn't do that look at that that you have built a trust with an individual and
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then you go and drop and smash that on the floor by doing what by using your position to abuse it
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now brothers and sisters wallahi we need to fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
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says in the quran this is the only sin where allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says don't even go near zina
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if you know zina is here and you're going to walk just around it allah says go around the block
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not even near it one of the biggest weakness for men is women and i asked allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
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protect us all the brothers away from that fitna and i asked sisters to be protected for such men who
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lead you along and like i said before brothers and sisters do not look at a woman that she wears
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hijab or abaya and think she's righteous do not look at a brother who has a beard or is in the dawah
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scene or wears a thob to think oh he must be a religion no now when i mention these two and i'm not
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saying oh these religious people are bad no sometimes you get people who don't wear the
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hijab who are good people and some of them you get they're bad you get hijab is that a good and
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you get hijab is that a bad you get brothers who uh who for example don't practice the religion some
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of them are good some of them are bad and you have brothers who practice the religion some of them are
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good and some of them are bad hope you guys have benefited may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant every
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single one of you guys jannah um inshallah as i'm doing this video i'll be releasing it i'll be
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uh inshallah flying uh to umrah i'll be keeping you guys in my duas inshallah i will have a vlog
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out when i come back showing how umrah is done do check that out and also do check out our new
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topic a lot of people have this misconception etc so please share this video and till then uh
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inshallah take care assalamualaikum warahmatullahi barakatuh brothers and sisters