WHAT DID I JUST WATCH？ - MUSLIM RESPONDS
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Summary
Jummah Kutbahaykah on TikTok and how we are losing our modesty in the era of social media and TikToks. Is this the future woman our sons are going to marry? Is this what we are giving our daughters to?
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Is this the future woman that our children's sons are going to marry?
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Is this the future husbands that we're going to give our daughters to?
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Before the video starts brothers and sisters, one Umar is working in Pakistan with a flood that's hit the country.
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Millions of people have lost their homes and been displaced.
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So the videos that you can see here, the pictures that you can see guys, is demonstrating what one Umar is doing on the ground.
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We know Gaza is important and we know what's going on there.
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But brothers and sisters, we cannot enable and turn a blind eye to the suffering of Muslims in different countries.
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Be it Pakistan, be it Turkey, the earthquakes, wherever it may be, Afghanistan.
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And I know all of us have given as much as we can to Gaza.
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But brothers and sisters, wallahi, just imagine your home wrecked.
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We're in the year 2025 and things are getting cringier and cringier and more embarrassing.
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And sadly, we are losing our modesty and higher as we go along.
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This is a video that I came across and I was in double mind.
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And I'll be honest with you, I'm going to have double standards in this matter.
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I believe I have some evidence from the Quran and the Sunnah.
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I'm going to be blurring the sister's face and not the brother's.
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We're going to watch the reaction, inshallah, for ourselves.
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Firstly, I believe she's extremely caked herself up.
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Anyone that usually, when a woman is extremely caked herself up, I usually blur their face.
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Other than that, I don't because I don't believe the face is awrah.
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But in this instance, I believe this video would, and I don't intend to cause damage to anyone.
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And I think their video in itself causes damage.
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But I just want to save her from, you know, brothers not wanting to marry her, etc.
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When it comes to the man, sadly, he doesn't need to have that issue, even though he's as blameworthy as he is.
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Because to him, this doesn't really tarnish his image to that level as it would be with her.
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But let's watch the video, and you guys can understand, okay, what am I talking about here, inshallah?
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If I'm not mistaken, this is a TikTok competition thing where you make money.
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Now, subhanAllah, from what I can see, there are actually married men and married women who are on these platforms.
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Even though they are not in the same building together.
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On what purpose, on what grounds are you guys coming together to casually chit-chat, laugh from both angles?
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Number one, this brother, yes, why are you speaking to other women?
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Yes, and not only that, sister, you have caked yourself up.
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Like Allah says in the Quran, do not soften your voice for there will be people who have a disease in their heart.
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Okay, so, number one, from the get-go, you are there, and this is on dishonorable way.
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You can go to scholars, and no scholar will come and say, you can make money by speaking to the opposite gender.
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People that complain about, oh, you know, this, that, et cetera, on your ads, whatever, those, makes your income haram.
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So, number one, what is the intention of the conversation?
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It's a casual chit-chat and laughing and joking.
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I mean, one thing I need to say to the brothers.
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The girl is basically telling you in a nutshell.
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Look, I'm genuinely not trying to be disrespectful to any side.
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I'm trying to be objected to the best of my ability.
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She's basically saying, oh, why are you not interested in me?
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If there's anything that a woman gives a woman an ick, is desperation.
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Number one, you should not be talking to each other.
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Don't be so in the face like, you know, be interested in me.
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You know, I've gone to know sisters for marriage in a halal way.
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There should be some, you know, you have some, you know, self-respect, you know, the way you carry yourself.
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If I go after look and money, I'm never going to be single today.
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If you carry on the way you carry on, you'll be single for a long time.
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If you are there casually speaking to men, yes, vice versa.
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If you came to ask for my daughter's hand, brother, you're getting rejected, bro.
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You're just casually speaking to a woman on live.
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If this was done in private, you can say, you know what?
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But publicly, you know, out there, you know, for both, you know, I'll be honest with you.
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If I had a son, he'd come and said to me, I'm marrying this one.
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Kaji speaking to a guy, trying to, he's trying to chirp her, et cetera.
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And again, this is something that gives a woman an ick.
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When I was looking to get married and get married,
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there was times where I've, I want to use the word reject.
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And there were times where I was told, we're not compatible.
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There's been times where I said, may Allah bless you, sister.
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May Allah bless and preserve you and grant you someone that's better.
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Hey, but please, but, yeah, can you have some integrity, bro?
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But at least in that woman's eyes, you have some integrity.
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And if there is a chance for her to pick you, it's in that moment.
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When you do this, look, you're getting angry, bro.
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And one thing that I want to mention, which is pertinent and key to the sister.
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Yes, okay, because men are known to approach women in public.
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Yes, which should not be done in this way, by the way.
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From your perspective, sister, if you was in the public, if this man approached you in this way, would you entertain it?
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Number one, you showed clearly on the live or in private or in a public, let's say, place, you want to entertain it because you're not interested.
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And I can see, and I don't blame her, with all due respect, I'm sorry, the way you're behaving.
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Number two, at least your modesty will come in and you will say no.
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Or if you're interested, you go about it the right way.
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Why is it that when it's a live, you entertain it?
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Because it clearly showed you're not interested in him.
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Okay, when we used to do the Bitty True Show, we was in the same building.
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This, they're not in the same building, is free mixing because it's unnecessary chatter,
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nothing to do with the deen, and it's going to conversations of, you know, you're interested
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And it is very, and again, anyone that makes a living out of this, I don't care if you are
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married or not, this is, let me tell you something, it is haram free mixing.
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So you can see, subhanAllah, that from her nature, she's hypergamous, and basically she's,
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Like, look, I'm not, the occurrence in itself is not permissible.
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Brothers, is this how you've become simps, bro?
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When you carry yourself, let that woman see confidence in you, bro.
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Let that woman see that you are a man of certainty, that you are self-confident.
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Wallahi, if a woman said to me, I'm not interested in you, I would never utter, why are you not interested in me?
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Look, look, look, look, bro, the woman is shutting you down from all angles.
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Number one, like I said before, brothers and sisters, in this instance, you can see, subhanAllah, the Prophet ﷺ said, a woman is married for four.
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Now, this is one thing I want to tell brothers and sisters.
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This brother, he's got a beard, whatever you want to call it, and he's not wearing tight clothes, etc.
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Do not ever, this one lesson I learned in my marriage seeking process, do not ever judge anybody.
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Wallahi, I was getting to know a sister for marriage who were in niqab.
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The questions they would ask me, لا إِلَّهَ إِلَّا اللَّهِ
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He has a beard, he has a Qur'an, a maswaq, a big maswaq, you know, brushes his teeth, his big teeth with it, yeah?
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And this is the reason why, let me tell you something, yeah?
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Wallahi, is it worth going there and making a few quids, a pound, your integrity, your hayah, your modesty.
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I'll be honest with you, this is a massive put-off.
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I would never let my daughter marry a man like him, neither would I let my son come close to the vicinity of her.
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Sadly, I'm not saying they are totally, I'm not saying that.
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I'm saying this here, if you can just casually talk, yeah, yeah.
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And wallahi, to me, this is a thing where I would not overlook.
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She may, in the material sense, use, for example, oh, look how many men are interested in me.
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But let me tell you something, those kind of men are simps, like this guy here.
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Because those kind of men who look at this and think that you have a value by so many men approaching you, let me tell you something.
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We as men, we prefer the less men that approach our woman or the woman that we're going to marry, her value goes up.
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So a man of a dunya, a simp, a coward, a little weasel who has no backbone, who's desperate, who's insecure, might be interested and say, oh, I want to marry her.
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But a man of deen, a man of structure, discipline, somebody who has a backbone, who has self-respect for himself and is confident in himself, will look at this and say, this is not a woman that I would like to marry or make the mother for my children.
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That's the reason I blurred her face, because I believe this video would harm her unintentionally, because her video is public, by the way.
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Bro, I'm getting, you know when she says I'm not interested, bro, I, I'm getting secondhand embarrassment.
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Yeah, okay, she said bedtime, she's not interested, bro.
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Bro, you're telling her you need to be, bro, what do you mean you have to be interested in me?
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Aki islamic, she has a right to say she's not interested in you, bro.
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If you look at it, sister, you're entertaining that.
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Because the more he's talking, you can just say, look, brother, with all your respect,
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can you flipping, get, look, if this was in public, if this was in public, you would
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Usually when I do these videos, you reach out to me.
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The brother says that, I'm assuming you're going to reach out to me.
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We as Muslims, Allah says in the Quran, enjoy the good and fit with the evil.
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And I'm not trying to be that pious guy who does that.
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But wallahi, it hurts me to see that sisters have come to this level where this, and I'm
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not trying to say she's like, audu billah, look, she's somebody's sister.
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They have no haya and shame just talking like this casually.
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And I'm the one who's going to have, I'm going to be shy.
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Because the Prophet ﷺ said, you either enjoy good and forbid evil,
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or Allah will send down a calamity that even if you prostrate, you'll be rejected.
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Is this the future woman that our children's sons are going to marry?
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Is this the future husbands that we're going to give our daughters to?
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She's clearly told she's not interested in you.
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That's all I have to say, brothers and sisters.
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Because as a woman, like we know from the Quran and Sunnah, the seven major sins.
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One of them is to accuse a chaste woman of adultery.
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Alhamdulillah, we're not doing anything close to that.
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I'm just saying that modesty, khaya element, both sides.
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That's why you see, there's sometimes double standards, which is necessity in this matter.
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Because in the Quran, in the hadith, it talks about the chaste of a woman.
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Anything that I said wrong is for myself and shaitan.
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Anything good is for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
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Brom sisters, when you're seeking marriage, please, Brom sisters, look for something more than just hijab and this, that, et cetera, and looks.