Ali Dawah - June 25, 2021


WHY ARE GIRLS WEARING HALF HIJAB？ - FAHIMA VS ALI DAWAH


Episode Stats

Length

31 minutes

Words per Minute

215.53098

Word Count

6,812

Sentence Count

354

Misogynist Sentences

33

Hate Speech Sentences

25


Summary

In this episode, we have a special guest, Dr. Fahima Mohamed, who is a qualified life coach and a certified NLP practitioner. She shares her perspective on the issue of women's hijab and how it affects her and other Muslim women in general.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I went to Lola's cupcakes and the sister who served me, her hair was showing.
00:00:03.700 Now, to me, that was becoming alarming in the context where I was like,
00:00:06.940 OK, if it's once, you understand people have their struggles.
00:00:08.980 And I talk about this.
00:00:09.720 People, different people have different struggles.
00:00:11.080 And the fact that you're seeing it more and more, sometimes, you know, psychologically,
00:00:13.940 you can say that if you notice something once and it bugs you, you will see that more and more.
00:00:19.180 Not necessarily because there is more of it.
00:00:21.960 It's because now your mind is open to it.
00:00:24.520 I disagree that I don't think I'm looking for it.
00:00:27.340 But I think it's become a pandemic.
00:00:30.280 So as a Muslim man, do I have a right to be concerned and voice my opinion?
00:00:34.380 Or do I just have to be quiet because it's a woman's issue?
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00:00:58.260 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.
00:01:00.900 Hope you guys are well, inshallah.
00:01:01.960 Welcome back to my channel.
00:01:04.300 As you guys may have known or seen, I discussed the issue of hijab.
00:01:11.080 And when we're talking about hijab, I'll talk about, you know, both men and women's hijab.
00:01:14.360 And I think there's a big misconception where men tend to talk about hijab.
00:01:19.960 And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
00:01:21.740 But the thing is, I would personally say, maybe I'm the first,
00:01:25.000 I'm not trying to get credit or boast about it, but I'm just being real.
00:01:27.420 I think I'm the first, maybe, huge YouTuber in the dawah scene
00:01:33.120 who has brought light to men's hijab.
00:01:35.740 You know, I've done this via social experiments.
00:01:38.740 I've done this where I've done direct videos about men's hijab.
00:01:41.900 But yet again, there are still sisters who are still upset and be like,
00:01:45.500 no, why do you have to talk about hijab?
00:01:47.660 And that's the reason why we have Sister Fahima here today.
00:01:49.800 As-salamu alaykum, Sister Fahima.
00:01:51.480 As-salamu alaykum, how are you?
00:01:53.300 Yeah, good, alhamdulillah. How are you doing?
00:01:55.360 Very well, thank you. Thank you for inviting me today.
00:01:57.640 It's a pleasure. May Allah bless you, inshallah.
00:01:59.200 Can you tell us a bit about what you do and who you are?
00:02:02.860 Yes. Again, as-salamu alaykum to you and everybody that's watching.
00:02:07.500 I am Fahima Mohamed. I am a qualified life coach and a certified NLP practitioner,
00:02:15.760 which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming.
00:02:18.660 That's basically understanding the human mind, behavior and habits and changing it.
00:02:23.600 Also certified in existential positive psychology, mindfulness, relationship and couples coaching,
00:02:30.240 as well as certified to coach in companies and institutes.
00:02:34.320 Also certified mental health and wellness practitioner and continuing with neuroscience
00:02:42.080 in confidence and change and on a ongoing journey of self-development and learning as we speak.
00:02:49.860 So, yes, continuous learning of human mind and behavior generally.
00:02:54.180 Mashallah. That's amazing. SubhanAllah.
00:02:55.460 It seems like your religion tells you to cover your hair, not your brain.
00:02:58.660 You know, it doesn't seem like you're oppressed.
00:03:00.860 So, mashallah, Sister Fahima, as you can see her credentials.
00:03:02.900 And actually, Sister Fahima, along with Sister Lauren and other people as well,
00:03:07.780 both men and brothers and sisters, are working on a project with the whole marriage documentary
00:03:12.380 and the app that we're working on.
00:03:14.080 She's going to be a great part of that, which will be helping us,
00:03:17.320 where we develop, help build a foundation for those who are seeking to get married,
00:03:21.560 to help them in the marriage-seeking process.
00:03:22.900 But that's coming out later this year, inshallah, we'll be working hard on it.
00:03:26.620 Anyway, so let's get straight to the topic.
00:03:27.940 So, I'll tell you where this is coming from.
00:03:31.080 And I did speak to you as well about this, where I was out with my wife in Westfield.
00:03:37.080 And we went out, I was doing some shopping, we had a few things to do.
00:03:40.440 So, I went to JD Sports, yeah?
00:03:42.760 Now, these things are obviously things that you don't look for, but you see.
00:03:46.200 So, I saw a sister there.
00:03:48.120 She had a hijab on, but the front of her hair was showing.
00:03:50.380 And she had, like, I wouldn't say sideburns, like maybe these things that her hair was showing, basically.
00:03:58.020 And then we was walking in Westfield, and then I saw a few other sisters, like, you know,
00:04:05.320 apparently because, you know, you're looking around, you can see it.
00:04:07.820 Sisters with their front of their hair showing, you know, and they're wearing a hijab at the front of their hair showing.
00:04:12.440 I went to Lola's Cupcakes, and the sister who served me, her hair was showing.
00:04:16.120 Now, to me, that was becoming alarming in the context where I was like, okay, if it's once, you understand,
00:04:22.540 people have their struggles, and I talk about this.
00:04:24.020 Different people have different struggles, you get what I'm trying to say, and I respect that.
00:04:27.480 But when I was seeing this systematically, and I can remember maybe a week or 10 days ago,
00:04:32.260 we went to Acton, and we went to order food, and we saw two sisters who came in, and the same thing.
00:04:38.680 And I was like, yo, like, what is going on?
00:04:41.080 And I'm being honest, I'm genuinely, as a brother, confused in the context.
00:04:45.280 Now, I don't know how you feel about this, and I know you're going to be maybe grilling me or asking me questions,
00:04:50.660 which I admire, and I think that's how it should be to get rid of these misconceptions.
00:04:55.120 But as a Muslim man, do I have a right to feel concerned that sisters who are, like, for example,
00:05:04.740 we do see, for example, hijab and really tight clothing.
00:05:08.560 So as a Muslim man, do I have a right to be concerned and voice my opinion,
00:05:12.880 or do I just have to be quiet because it's a woman's issue?
00:05:15.280 Very, very interesting points you've raised there, actually.
00:05:20.960 And yes, I hear you clearly.
00:05:24.520 I don't think it's a question about whether it's a man's position or not,
00:05:28.920 because I think as Muslim, if we have genuine concern about Islam,
00:05:33.360 then yes, there is also the fact that we want to raise awareness.
00:05:36.980 It's just that nowadays I do feel that a lot of people, maybe even some have accused you of being in this way,
00:05:44.580 where when it comes to women, the only thing that people ever really speak about is the hijab,
00:05:49.080 like as if, like you said, you know, my brain is not covered, but so, you know, it's, you know,
00:05:54.200 and it's not an oppression thing.
00:05:55.700 So I'm educating myself.
00:05:57.920 And also, I forgot to mention, I actually am on live TV every week on different channels from different sects.
00:06:03.420 And I speak on various current issues, and I do put myself out there.
00:06:07.080 So I want to represent in our community as well as outside.
00:06:10.100 And wearing hijab myself, I have been obviously, you know, putting myself out there
00:06:15.920 because I want to empower other women to do the same,
00:06:18.820 as well as feel that they can do and be whatever they want,
00:06:22.020 regardless of being seen in a particular way.
00:06:25.100 However, at the same time, in our own community,
00:06:27.440 we can be scrutinized a lot for not wearing it in a particular way.
00:06:31.940 And the rules are very, very clear.
00:06:34.900 The guidelines are there.
00:06:36.360 We all know that.
00:06:37.320 But unfortunately, depending on a person's journey, which is no excuse,
00:06:43.720 but it is a reason where some women may find it quite difficult
00:06:47.780 to actually fulfill the complete requirements of hijab.
00:06:53.020 And I also have to say that hijab is not just a head covering, by the way.
00:06:56.100 It's so much more than that.
00:06:58.040 You know, when we even have women that are actually dressed in full covering
00:07:01.040 in the actual way that Islam dictates and guides us,
00:07:05.660 we also find that the behavior, the attitude is not there.
00:07:09.540 So then where do we draw the line when it comes to that?
00:07:11.620 We're not speaking about that either, because there has to be akhlaab.
00:07:14.640 There has to be etiquette.
00:07:15.880 There has to be so much more around hijab that we need to mention.
00:07:20.080 And yes, this is always going to come up.
00:07:22.220 And I think it's not just the men that's criticizing women
00:07:24.700 or looking at it in that particular way.
00:07:26.540 I think it's also other women that needs to show a bit of empathy,
00:07:30.100 a bit of understanding so that we are drawing more women towards the right path
00:07:35.320 and being open to it, as well as giving understanding.
00:07:38.580 And the fact that you're seeing it more and more, sometimes, you know,
00:07:41.020 psychologically, you can say that if you notice something once and it bugs you,
00:07:45.320 you will see that more and more.
00:07:46.660 Not necessarily because there is more of it.
00:07:49.260 It's because now your mind is open to it.
00:07:51.800 And it's like, if you choose one car that you like,
00:07:55.120 you'll always run into seeing that car that you want.
00:07:58.100 That's true, actually.
00:07:58.900 You know, like there was a specific car that I wanted
00:08:00.880 and I would see everywhere.
00:08:01.740 Like, oh my gosh, it's everywhere.
00:08:02.640 When you give your attention to it.
00:08:04.300 But I'm going to beg to differ here,
00:08:05.620 because I genuinely believe at this very instance,
00:08:08.560 I believe it's actually becoming, like,
00:08:11.840 I don't think it's that I was looking for it.
00:08:14.240 I think it was that I saw it once.
00:08:15.740 I was like, okay, everyone has their own struggles.
00:08:17.960 And then I saw it again.
00:08:19.500 And then I saw it again.
00:08:20.700 And then I saw it again.
00:08:21.980 So when I saw it again,
00:08:22.760 I maybe, I disagree that I don't think I'm looking for it.
00:08:27.800 But I think it's become a pandemic in the context where,
00:08:31.540 you know, we've got the whole virus, yeah?
00:08:32.780 But I'm not trying to equate that with my wordings, yeah?
00:08:35.200 But the thing is, Sister Fahima,
00:08:37.120 is that I'm asking this question, like, what's going on?
00:08:41.080 Because I genuinely, as your assistant,
00:08:42.320 you don't understand what's going on.
00:08:44.220 Because do I have a right to voice this?
00:08:46.700 Do I just be quiet?
00:08:47.560 Because, you know, the feminists are going to attack me.
00:08:49.880 What does one do?
00:08:50.900 Because, you know, we are told to enjoy good and forbid evil.
00:08:53.240 And if we remain silent about this,
00:08:55.780 then who's going to tell who, what is?
00:08:58.080 And I wish there was YouTubers,
00:09:00.540 like sisters out there who did things the right way.
00:09:04.280 And sadly, I believe the social influences
00:09:06.540 played a massive role in this whole hair thing showing.
00:09:09.700 Am I wrong?
00:09:10.320 No, you're right in many ways.
00:09:13.620 But you're also missing some points.
00:09:15.700 Again, I don't really think that you're looking for certain things.
00:09:18.240 But subconsciously, our mind is wired in a particular way.
00:09:20.920 When something is obviously, you know, seen to us,
00:09:23.420 whether you are looking for it or not.
00:09:25.300 So that's one way of looking at that.
00:09:27.100 Other than that, I think hijab is a real struggle for women,
00:09:29.760 which people are not talking about.
00:09:31.240 It's not about not just wearing it in a particular way.
00:09:33.740 A lot of women may not be even addressing it
00:09:35.880 because they themselves feel that they're not wearing it right.
00:09:38.640 So they don't have the reason to come forward
00:09:41.340 to speak about their struggles sometimes.
00:09:43.640 Or if they are wearing it in a particular way,
00:09:45.940 it's their own thing.
00:09:47.140 And that's how it is.
00:09:48.100 Also, it is a political statement now.
00:09:50.720 And I look at it as a powerful statement personally.
00:09:53.680 That's why that we are also being, you know, attacked for it.
00:09:57.440 That's why we are even being, you know,
00:09:59.280 in certain countries where we are not allowed to wear it
00:10:02.020 because I look at it as a powerful statement.
00:10:03.840 But I think we're not giving the education
00:10:05.440 to women to look at it in that way.
00:10:07.440 And I think if we are,
00:10:08.540 I don't think that you shouldn't talk about it.
00:10:10.060 I think the way we address it
00:10:11.640 shouldn't be about just expressing what is wrong,
00:10:15.820 but trying to be more inviting as to
00:10:19.120 if you were to do it in a particular way,
00:10:22.020 what are the benefits for you?
00:10:24.140 And how is it protection and power for you?
00:10:27.480 And are not enough people have the right...
00:10:29.960 Look, if people wear the hijab,
00:10:31.000 it doesn't mean they're religious.
00:10:32.340 Let's just also be honest about that, okay?
00:10:34.260 Just because they're wearing it doesn't mean that they're religious.
00:10:36.880 And how do we even define religion even?
00:10:39.240 And just because you're actually wearing it
00:10:40.960 in a particular way, which you seem to deem as,
00:10:44.280 okay, it's proper covering, it's loose clothing.
00:10:46.560 Does that really mean that they're actually even,
00:10:48.260 you know, conforming and performing in everything whole
00:10:50.880 and, you know, in a religious kind of context?
00:10:53.480 Okay.
00:10:53.680 We're not asking for them to perform everything,
00:10:56.560 but it's as good as me being in a fold and a beard
00:10:59.880 and I've got a girl right next to me
00:11:03.560 and I've got my arm around her.
00:11:04.920 Well, we see that a lot as well.
00:11:07.020 Yeah, well, no, that's the issue.
00:11:08.600 Because the thing is, this issue of the hijab,
00:11:10.720 it's not just for women, it's for men as well.
00:11:13.480 And I believe no one has the right to criticize me specifically
00:11:17.700 because I've talked about men's hijab extensively all the time.
00:11:21.940 So, and not only that, I did an experiment,
00:11:24.140 which has nearly got a million views,
00:11:25.660 which I was subscribed, I mean,
00:11:27.180 you should subscribe as well.
00:11:29.000 I was, yeah, is that I went to Muslim,
00:11:33.100 so what happened is two and a half years ago,
00:11:34.520 it was Ramadan, it was, it was the heat wave.
00:11:37.000 Yeah, it was crazy.
00:11:38.300 And I thought to myself, my gosh, man,
00:11:40.220 I wonder what the sisters are going through.
00:11:42.440 And it was an instant moment where I had,
00:11:44.880 the moment I fought it and to even act upon it,
00:11:47.560 I drove straight to Stratford.
00:11:48.920 I wrote a message on my phone saying,
00:11:51.500 my dear sister, may Allah bless you for wearing this hijab
00:11:54.040 in this hot weather against all odds.
00:11:55.900 Because there were some influencers who took off their hijabs.
00:11:58.660 And I thought, right, like, you know,
00:11:59.740 because people look up to them.
00:12:01.260 And I would go to, I would approach this and be like,
00:12:03.360 as-salamu alaykum, sister, can you read this?
00:12:05.080 She'll read it and I walk off.
00:12:06.460 And the point behind that was to enjoy good and forbid evil
00:12:09.740 and try to encourage them in a positive way,
00:12:12.980 you know, calling them to patience.
00:12:14.400 Like Allah says in Surah Asr, you know,
00:12:16.620 by the time everyone's in loss,
00:12:17.900 accept those who believe and do righteous deeds
00:12:19.620 and call one another to truth and call one another to patience.
00:12:22.660 So what I was saying is like, you know,
00:12:23.980 sisters bear patience, et cetera.
00:12:25.540 So I've done videos like that.
00:12:27.320 And there were some comments where some sisters said,
00:12:28.760 I was about to take my hijab off.
00:12:30.300 It changed my perception.
00:12:31.880 I genuinely try to feel for our sisters.
00:12:34.180 But I feel as if sometimes I'm being told to like,
00:12:37.220 no, you are not.
00:12:38.600 Do you think it's that Muslim brothers as a whole
00:12:41.400 have really done the damage where when genuine people,
00:12:46.040 I hope I'm genuine,
00:12:47.120 that when we come with it,
00:12:49.560 we're in the same category.
00:12:52.300 Yeah, absolutely.
00:12:53.120 I agree with that.
00:12:54.280 Because like you said,
00:12:55.320 your intention is there to really help.
00:12:57.740 But again, when you want to help somebody,
00:12:59.900 unless you are also professionally trained
00:13:03.440 to go into somebody's life
00:13:05.380 and understand them and hear them first,
00:13:07.760 instead of just assuming that makes a big difference.
00:13:10.320 And I've learned that a lot through my profession
00:13:12.040 because I can't just go out there
00:13:14.120 and give advice to somebody.
00:13:15.240 I have to make sure that they want my advice first.
00:13:17.740 And if I'm going to seek them, I get to know them.
00:13:19.600 I build that trust and build that rapport.
00:13:21.280 And it's very difficult when you're doing dawah as well,
00:13:23.300 when you're just going to give someone a leaflet.
00:13:24.800 And then all of a sudden you see people,
00:13:26.020 when I understand human mind and behavior,
00:13:28.060 a lot of people project.
00:13:29.400 And even if you're coming from a good place,
00:13:31.060 you might catch them at the wrong moment
00:13:32.460 and they might project something that, you know what,
00:13:34.400 maybe is triggering.
00:13:35.380 The fact that they know that they're not doing something,
00:13:37.300 they might get triggered by what you've said
00:13:40.060 because they actually believe what you're doing,
00:13:42.140 but in a way they might attack you for it.
00:13:43.900 Because like, why do you have to say something like that?
00:13:46.140 So there's many ways and many perspectives of looking at it.
00:13:48.840 So I'm looking at it from a professional point of view.
00:13:51.180 And I think that, I think we need to change the way
00:13:53.280 in which we also try to help and approach people.
00:13:55.820 We need to put things out there,
00:13:57.480 which we, like, again, we need to be inviting
00:13:59.800 and not intrusive and not judgmental and not biased.
00:14:03.700 And just because we see someone with a hijab,
00:14:05.680 you know, which is half showing their hair,
00:14:07.820 it could just even be cultural.
00:14:09.340 It could just be where they don't know any better.
00:14:11.160 It could be that they're only trying it out.
00:14:13.100 You don't know.
00:14:13.820 Even if you've seen 10 people, so what?
00:14:15.480 There's how many millions in this world, right?
00:14:17.440 And at the same time, when it comes to men saying it,
00:14:21.120 I think it's the language, it's the terminology,
00:14:24.280 it's the timing.
00:14:24.880 Like I said, do you get to know that person?
00:14:26.520 Do you know?
00:14:27.280 You know, when I coach clients professionally,
00:14:29.460 there's a process.
00:14:30.220 And I think we need to learn more
00:14:31.560 about the process of approaching people
00:14:33.280 just because you have a right.
00:14:34.760 There's still no compulsion in Islam,
00:14:36.900 as we know in Surabakara, okay?
00:14:38.820 And we know that we have to give them a journey.
00:14:41.020 The reason why also I feel that
00:14:42.480 even though it's a protection,
00:14:44.140 even though it is something that is safe
00:14:45.860 and for our security,
00:14:47.060 women are still being attacked,
00:14:48.180 even in their own homes.
00:14:49.160 Women are still being abused,
00:14:50.320 even, and the majority of them are women.
00:14:52.120 So we're not addressing these issues,
00:14:53.640 which is more important.
00:14:55.080 And, you know, they are looking at hijab
00:14:57.060 as an, oh, yes, it should be a protection.
00:14:58.440 But sometimes we're not being protected.
00:15:00.660 We're only being criticized
00:15:01.480 for not wearing it in a particular way
00:15:03.500 or not, you know, being in a particular way.
00:15:06.140 So we need to address more deeper,
00:15:07.900 more social issues, which I try to raise.
00:15:10.700 And by the way, I'm someone
00:15:11.600 who actually raised a whole topic on Sky TV
00:15:14.020 in one of the platforms
00:15:15.420 talking about hijab for men as well.
00:15:17.980 But I just don't have the same following as you.
00:15:20.140 But the thing is...
00:15:21.640 I can put it on my channel, you know.
00:15:23.380 I don't mind that.
00:15:24.280 So, you know, I think it's, you know,
00:15:26.160 because hijab is first and foremost
00:15:27.480 four men to lower their gazes, by the way.
00:15:29.240 So that's how it's actually translated
00:15:30.880 in the Quran.
00:15:31.840 And again, a lot of people don't understand it.
00:15:33.760 It's a lot to do with etiquette.
00:15:34.920 It's a lot to do with manners.
00:15:35.940 It's a lot to do with treatment and behavior.
00:15:38.160 And we, you know, we don't really recognize that.
00:15:40.920 And again, it's...
00:15:41.780 And for me, I like to represent
00:15:43.080 outside our community.
00:15:44.760 You know, women are looked upon
00:15:46.080 as they are oppressed and suppressed
00:15:48.040 only because sometimes we are avoiding
00:15:50.660 the real issues that are happening
00:15:52.100 to our women who are even trying to wear,
00:15:55.240 who are struggling.
00:15:56.640 Hijab is kind of a jihad.
00:15:58.300 You know, it is actually a struggle.
00:16:00.320 And, you know, we are all taking
00:16:01.420 on that struggle differently.
00:16:03.100 And I think if we have more empathy
00:16:04.640 towards our women who are wearing
00:16:06.920 and trying to wear it,
00:16:08.380 then maybe they might be more open
00:16:10.580 to understanding where we're coming from
00:16:12.760 if we have the right language and terminology.
00:16:15.540 Okay, look, the thing is,
00:16:16.780 I understand where you're coming from.
00:16:18.300 Like, for example, that there's a bigger issues
00:16:20.320 that's happening in the home
00:16:21.500 or in the house or wherever it may be.
00:16:23.240 And the fact is that Allah didn't tell
00:16:25.500 the woman to cover up
00:16:26.340 because men can't control themselves,
00:16:27.600 by the way.
00:16:27.920 There's a big misconception
00:16:28.560 where people think that Allah told women,
00:16:31.520 oh, you women, you cover up
00:16:32.740 because men are animals.
00:16:34.400 That's not the case
00:16:35.020 because Allah tells us to lower the gaze.
00:16:36.340 So they believe in men
00:16:37.020 and they believe in women to lower their gaze.
00:16:38.340 But Allah addresses the men
00:16:39.620 to lower their gaze
00:16:40.460 because we're visual creatures, you know,
00:16:42.500 and the woman covers up.
00:16:43.820 So we're not saying that a woman
00:16:45.180 who wears a hijab
00:16:45.860 is not prone to get raped.
00:16:47.620 That can't happen.
00:16:48.480 Do you get it?
00:16:49.180 There's many reasons Allah...
00:16:50.440 I grow the beard
00:16:52.960 or I have to cover from my navel to my knee
00:16:54.720 and you need to wear the hijab
00:16:55.740 and the abaya, whatever it may be
00:16:56.740 because Allah tells me to.
00:16:58.860 Not because...
00:16:59.800 And there's this whole misunderstanding of,
00:17:01.580 oh, I choose to.
00:17:02.240 No, you don't choose to.
00:17:03.240 I don't choose to.
00:17:03.960 I'll be honest.
00:17:04.380 I don't choose to say,
00:17:05.400 no, no, I choose to cover from my navel to my knee.
00:17:07.180 No, I do it
00:17:07.840 because Allah told me to do it.
00:17:09.000 It's not a matter of choose to.
00:17:10.040 And this issue,
00:17:11.280 this statement of I choose to is wrong
00:17:14.620 because at the end of the day,
00:17:16.580 we don't believe that there's a famous philosopher.
00:17:18.920 I forgot his name.
00:17:19.900 I'm bad with names.
00:17:20.980 But he said man is born free,
00:17:22.580 but in shackles everywhere.
00:17:24.120 So we believe that those women who even walk
00:17:26.780 and maybe wearing miniscuits, et cetera,
00:17:28.760 by the way,
00:17:29.180 I highly believe that seeing a woman
00:17:31.300 and even no matter how she's dressed,
00:17:33.280 that you should have the utmost respect.
00:17:35.280 And when I do my social experiments,
00:17:36.540 when I speak to these kinds of girls
00:17:37.840 who are dressed in an appropriate manner,
00:17:39.660 I always refer to them as sister.
00:17:41.880 Even I always say,
00:17:42.640 yeah, what's your name?
00:17:43.220 Sister Alexa, Sister Sarah.
00:17:45.040 I do that on purpose
00:17:46.880 so they feel that I'm not like,
00:17:50.620 you know, sadly,
00:17:51.320 we live in a society hypersexualized.
00:17:53.000 Oh, is he stopping me?
00:17:53.700 Because no, it's a social experiment.
00:17:55.520 Yes, sister.
00:17:56.980 I want to, I do that on purpose, you know?
00:18:00.460 And the thing is,
00:18:01.340 it's that we need to understand
00:18:03.140 because what happens is otherwise
00:18:04.420 is that like you said,
00:18:06.320 okay, people are having their struggles.
00:18:07.520 There's one thing
00:18:08.120 that people are having their struggles
00:18:09.340 and there's another thing
00:18:10.860 where, for example,
00:18:11.760 if we saw a lot of brothers
00:18:13.320 in beards and phobes
00:18:14.520 smoking cigars,
00:18:16.560 argument's sake.
00:18:18.040 Now we're going to say,
00:18:18.840 okay, people are going for struggles.
00:18:20.440 There are people who are smoking.
00:18:21.320 They're trying to quit.
00:18:21.980 But when we see a lot of brothers
00:18:23.000 in phobes and beards
00:18:24.200 smoking cigars,
00:18:25.480 we're going to start thinking,
00:18:26.500 well, hold on a second now.
00:18:27.480 Do we start be like,
00:18:29.140 oh, he's going for a struggle
00:18:30.080 and he's going to use that
00:18:30.820 as an excuse
00:18:31.460 to carry on his struggle
00:18:33.240 smoking cigar?
00:18:34.480 Or do we address the issue?
00:18:36.120 So I'm asking the question
00:18:38.040 and there might be people listening.
00:18:39.660 Sister Fahima,
00:18:40.780 the question I'm asking is this.
00:18:42.600 I'll be honest with you.
00:18:43.420 I don't understand.
00:18:44.760 I understand people have struggles.
00:18:46.220 I understand I had my struggles.
00:18:47.720 It took me a couple of years
00:18:48.740 to leave certain sins.
00:18:50.120 Yeah.
00:18:50.400 So it takes time.
00:18:51.640 I understand that.
00:18:53.020 But the moment we're quiet about this now,
00:18:55.140 and I'm not saying
00:18:55.700 it's a massive crime being committed,
00:18:58.040 but what I'm saying is
00:18:59.360 I'm trying to fathom
00:19:01.100 and understand
00:19:01.820 why a sister would cover her hair,
00:19:05.700 get the hijab,
00:19:06.360 which is a,
00:19:07.020 yes, I understand sometimes
00:19:08.080 it can be cultural, yeah?
00:19:09.240 But maybe,
00:19:10.460 maybe I'm wrong.
00:19:11.400 Maybe most times it's not.
00:19:12.760 To wear the hijab,
00:19:13.640 to wake up and say,
00:19:14.200 okay, I'm going to put the hijab on,
00:19:15.660 but I'm going to show
00:19:16.280 the front of my hair.
00:19:17.740 Now,
00:19:18.860 if it's being worn
00:19:20.120 for the sake of Allah,
00:19:21.120 like imagine if I'm told
00:19:22.640 I have to cover
00:19:23.240 from my navel to my knee,
00:19:24.520 but I show,
00:19:25.820 like,
00:19:27.020 I show my thighs,
00:19:29.460 let's say.
00:19:30.320 Now,
00:19:30.960 and I'm a Muslim,
00:19:31.520 I'm clear Muslim.
00:19:32.500 Yeah,
00:19:32.680 I'm wearing a fobe,
00:19:33.320 but my fobe is
00:19:33.980 up to a certain point
00:19:35.340 where you can see my thighs.
00:19:37.800 It would leave,
00:19:38.720 would it not leave you
00:19:39.460 a bit confused in the context?
00:19:40.520 Like,
00:19:40.640 I'm seeing a lot of brothers
00:19:41.400 and they're showing their thighs
00:19:42.620 and they are Muslims,
00:19:44.080 clear the Muslim,
00:19:44.680 they're trying to practice.
00:19:46.920 Wouldn't you be like,
00:19:47.980 what's going on here?
00:19:49.980 Well,
00:19:50.340 I think,
00:19:50.720 you know what,
00:19:51.100 in answer to your question,
00:19:52.260 really,
00:19:52.560 it's very simple for me
00:19:53.540 and I understand
00:19:54.120 where you're coming from
00:19:55.020 is the fact that
00:19:55.900 I think a lot of us
00:19:56.820 are not just,
00:19:58.120 are not God-centric.
00:19:59.160 We're not that believers
00:20:02.340 where we are living
00:20:03.660 for solely
00:20:05.620 for the actual practice
00:20:08.880 and religious purposes
00:20:10.180 and I'm going to be honest
00:20:11.020 with you.
00:20:11.800 I really believe that
00:20:12.820 because personally,
00:20:14.440 I come from different
00:20:15.800 sect backgrounds,
00:20:16.960 different culture
00:20:18.260 in my own family
00:20:19.480 and not everybody
00:20:20.860 wears the hijab,
00:20:21.820 not everyone is from
00:20:22.720 a first,
00:20:23.180 you know,
00:20:23.340 particular sect
00:20:24.160 and,
00:20:25.340 you know,
00:20:25.960 we have our own debates
00:20:27.340 and at the same time,
00:20:28.620 for me to take on
00:20:29.520 what I took on myself,
00:20:30.880 I had to go through
00:20:32.340 a personal journey.
00:20:33.840 I had to go through
00:20:34.500 an actual learning
00:20:36.140 and I had to struggle myself
00:20:38.900 to find those questions
00:20:40.760 and the answers,
00:20:42.340 which I'm still
00:20:42.940 in that journey,
00:20:43.960 by the way,
00:20:44.880 you know,
00:20:45.140 those existential questions
00:20:46.880 to why am I here?
00:20:48.080 What's the meaning of life?
00:20:49.580 Yes,
00:20:49.860 I learned about Islam,
00:20:50.960 my family taught me about it,
00:20:52.480 but I wanted to know why
00:20:54.500 and I wanted to know more
00:20:55.900 and that takes
00:20:56.680 a particular type
00:20:57.600 of individual
00:20:58.300 that wants to do things
00:21:00.480 namely and forsakely
00:21:02.460 for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:21:04.080 and I think,
00:21:04.920 unfortunately,
00:21:05.560 we are in a society
00:21:07.140 where that is less and less,
00:21:09.580 even if we have the knowledge,
00:21:11.500 we don't have the willpower
00:21:13.160 and the iman
00:21:14.120 that is strong enough
00:21:15.260 to overcome,
00:21:16.260 you know,
00:21:16.880 today's Western world
00:21:18.360 and influences
00:21:19.320 that's going to keep us
00:21:21.080 on that path continuously
00:21:22.920 and we are also fallible
00:21:25.180 and we will have our weaknesses
00:21:26.660 and shortcomings at times
00:21:28.240 but if you are on that path,
00:21:30.440 you will continuously strive
00:21:32.120 and I find that,
00:21:33.380 especially dealing with people
00:21:34.180 with mental health a lot,
00:21:35.600 when they don't have the confidence,
00:21:37.340 they don't have the willpower,
00:21:38.900 they don't have the self-esteem
00:21:40.160 on general issues,
00:21:41.840 faith is sometimes
00:21:42.840 the one thing that is blamed
00:21:44.480 or the fact that
00:21:45.480 they don't understand it
00:21:46.640 well enough to realize
00:21:47.620 that that is their power
00:21:48.980 to a certain extent
00:21:50.140 to continue to strive
00:21:52.200 even through the struggles
00:21:53.400 because we are bombarded,
00:21:54.780 like you said,
00:21:55.520 with influences,
00:21:56.380 we are bombarded
00:21:57.080 to look, be,
00:21:58.160 and see in a particular way.
00:21:59.320 I'm quite strong-minded,
00:22:00.720 I always have been
00:22:01.680 and I have been blessed
00:22:03.000 but there's not very many people
00:22:04.740 out there
00:22:05.340 that can say,
00:22:06.420 I don't care what you think,
00:22:07.720 I'm just going to do
00:22:08.420 what I need to do,
00:22:09.400 not because,
00:22:10.220 yes, it is a choice,
00:22:10.960 it's a choice for me
00:22:11.720 to follow my creator,
00:22:13.620 it's a choice for me
00:22:14.540 to be in that struggle,
00:22:15.900 it's a choice for me
00:22:17.300 to do what is meant
00:22:18.820 to be in the hereafter,
00:22:20.640 not just in this dunya.
00:22:22.120 You don't hear
00:22:22.900 these kinds of conversations,
00:22:24.420 you don't hear
00:22:25.020 about people making choices
00:22:26.340 because they have the fear
00:22:28.060 of what's going to happen
00:22:29.420 later on,
00:22:30.040 not fear as in,
00:22:31.060 oh, because,
00:22:31.480 you know,
00:22:31.580 we're going to be punished,
00:22:32.400 but more so as in,
00:22:34.140 you know,
00:22:34.520 we want to live
00:22:35.760 a great life
00:22:36.940 here and the hereafter.
00:22:39.100 So, yes,
00:22:39.940 there is a struggle
00:22:40.700 with our religion,
00:22:41.840 there's a struggle
00:22:42.400 with understanding it,
00:22:43.620 there's a struggle
00:22:44.140 with many interpretations,
00:22:45.660 there's a struggle
00:22:46.240 with lots of us.
00:22:48.000 Also,
00:22:48.420 just only for,
00:22:49.540 you know,
00:22:49.800 concentrating on
00:22:50.440 one or two rulings,
00:22:51.800 but actually the heart
00:22:53.220 and the mind
00:22:54.300 is very,
00:22:55.580 very empty,
00:22:56.780 half empty
00:22:57.440 compared to it being full
00:22:58.860 and I think
00:22:59.580 that's where the problem is.
00:23:01.200 I think that's very interesting.
00:23:02.120 You touched on something
00:23:02.720 very fundamental
00:23:03.400 and I think this is where
00:23:04.460 I believe
00:23:05.080 every single problem
00:23:06.460 on this earth
00:23:06.920 goes back to.
00:23:08.120 It's Tawheed.
00:23:09.660 It's Allah is,
00:23:11.240 you know,
00:23:11.660 it's,
00:23:11.920 and I think this is very interesting
00:23:12.720 because I was listening
00:23:13.760 to one scholar
00:23:14.240 and he said
00:23:14.680 the main problem is
00:23:17.000 people don't know
00:23:17.420 who Allah is
00:23:17.960 and when we talk about
00:23:19.080 we don't know who Allah is
00:23:20.000 because if you genuinely
00:23:20.860 knew who Allah was
00:23:21.680 there is no way
00:23:23.320 that you fathom
00:23:24.780 who Allah is
00:23:25.560 but not one,
00:23:26.820 but stop yourself
00:23:27.700 from praying.
00:23:28.640 It's impossible.
00:23:29.800 It's like you go to an,
00:23:30.820 like if you went to an atheist
00:23:31.680 and said,
00:23:32.260 you love God
00:23:33.380 and he says,
00:23:34.100 no, I don't,
00:23:34.560 I don't even believe him.
00:23:35.380 I'll be like,
00:23:36.260 okay,
00:23:36.480 do you love your eye?
00:23:38.040 Of course I love my eye.
00:23:39.120 How could you love the design
00:23:40.200 but not the designer?
00:23:41.340 It's impossible.
00:23:42.400 How could you love your nails?
00:23:44.440 How could you love yourself
00:23:45.220 and the way you're created
00:23:46.000 but not love the one you created you?
00:23:47.940 You do,
00:23:48.320 but you just don't know him.
00:23:49.860 You don't know him.
00:23:50.620 You ascribe the shirk.
00:23:51.900 You ascribe it to mother nature,
00:23:53.280 evolution,
00:23:54.120 random things
00:23:54.760 that's made you become like that
00:23:56.120 and I think what you said
00:23:57.200 is very important
00:23:57.820 and it goes back
00:23:58.360 to the crux of the matter
00:23:59.100 because we can be talking
00:23:59.900 about the leaves
00:24:00.640 but let's go to the,
00:24:02.280 or the branches,
00:24:02.940 let's go to the root
00:24:03.540 of the problem
00:24:04.020 which is not knowing Allah.
00:24:06.220 If you genuinely,
00:24:07.240 brothers and sisters,
00:24:08.100 understood,
00:24:08.760 and this goes for both male and females,
00:24:10.120 if you genuinely understood
00:24:11.940 who Allah is,
00:24:13.340 if you took time to spend
00:24:15.040 and learn who Allah is,
00:24:17.080 you will genuinely,
00:24:17.940 and this goes for the sister
00:24:18.920 who might be showing the hair
00:24:20.120 because it might be coming
00:24:21.060 through influences
00:24:21.680 which will touch upon
00:24:22.440 and maybe end on that.
00:24:23.760 It's,
00:24:24.060 the thing is that you would say,
00:24:25.840 you know what,
00:24:26.280 my love towards Allah,
00:24:27.320 you will understand
00:24:28.120 and cover,
00:24:28.740 and for the brothers
00:24:29.520 who were wearing these tight jeans
00:24:30.580 and you know,
00:24:31.580 it makes me sick sometimes,
00:24:32.880 I'll be honest with you,
00:24:33.640 you know,
00:24:33.760 with the brothers,
00:24:34.160 I can be a bit more harsh.
00:24:35.400 I'll be honest with you,
00:24:36.240 when I see it personally,
00:24:37.400 I'm not having,
00:24:38.140 I don't want YouTube to,
00:24:39.000 you know,
00:24:39.560 I'm not getting hate
00:24:40.620 against any specific community
00:24:41.840 but what I'm saying is,
00:24:43.020 when I see brothers
00:24:43.720 wearing tight jeans,
00:24:44.600 it makes me sick.
00:24:45.920 I'll be honest,
00:24:46.280 it makes me sick
00:24:47.000 because it's,
00:24:47.920 it just makes me sick.
00:24:49.040 I'm sorry,
00:24:49.240 I'll repeat that again.
00:24:50.240 It just,
00:24:50.940 I just,
00:24:51.480 I don't get it
00:24:52.020 and I'm like,
00:24:52.640 wow,
00:24:52.960 and the thing is,
00:24:53.740 it's,
00:24:54.280 you know,
00:24:54.560 you have a right to cover as well
00:24:55.960 and these very brothers,
00:24:57.000 when they come
00:24:57.440 and when they go,
00:24:58.160 like I always mention this,
00:24:59.020 when they go swimming abroad,
00:25:00.920 they're topless
00:25:01.380 and I'm like,
00:25:02.080 bro,
00:25:02.160 you're the same guy
00:25:02.700 talking about
00:25:03.100 sister's pink hijab
00:25:04.060 and you're talking about
00:25:05.620 sister's pink hijab
00:25:06.200 and you're going topless
00:25:07.060 and all kinds of madness
00:25:08.260 but the thing is,
00:25:09.360 I think what's really important
00:25:10.580 is we do not give the time
00:25:11.740 to study our deen
00:25:12.660 and if we don't do that,
00:25:14.280 like they say,
00:25:14.840 every vessel swears
00:25:15.800 what's inside it.
00:25:16.720 If you're too busy consuming,
00:25:18.500 you know,
00:25:19.180 materialism,
00:25:20.380 what do you expect?
00:25:22.140 It's what you eat.
00:25:23.360 They say,
00:25:23.680 you know,
00:25:23.920 you are what you eat.
00:25:24.920 You know,
00:25:25.160 what you consume,
00:25:26.500 then what do you expect
00:25:27.700 something else to be produced?
00:25:29.420 That's what's going to be,
00:25:30.160 the effects of that,
00:25:32.060 the fruits that you're going to bear
00:25:33.740 is going to be
00:25:34.440 what you've consumed.
00:25:35.260 So if you're consuming
00:25:36.120 all materialism
00:25:36.880 and this dunya
00:25:37.580 and nobody's saying,
00:25:39.680 I understand this insecurity
00:25:40.940 and, you know,
00:25:42.180 we're sisters, etc.
00:25:43.640 But I think
00:25:44.580 you've touched on
00:25:45.720 a brilliant point
00:25:46.540 and I think this is
00:25:47.280 the crux of the matter
00:25:48.120 where,
00:25:49.800 be it the sister showing her hair,
00:25:50.940 be it the one,
00:25:52.240 it answers my question.
00:25:53.660 I'll be honest with you,
00:25:54.360 even though I'm in the dawah,
00:25:55.160 you've actually answered my question
00:25:56.360 because if you think about it deeply,
00:25:57.960 that's where it goes down to.
00:25:59.040 That's where the root is.
00:25:59.900 The root of the problem is,
00:26:01.440 so if I next time see a sister
00:26:03.020 who may be wearing a hijab
00:26:04.460 and showing her hair,
00:26:05.480 I have to remind myself
00:26:06.600 because what you just said there
00:26:08.300 is something people will think,
00:26:09.260 brother Ali,
00:26:09.640 you're in the dawah,
00:26:10.240 you should know that.
00:26:11.620 No,
00:26:11.880 because Allah says,
00:26:12.700 indeed,
00:26:13.040 remind the benefits of the believer
00:26:14.160 and what you just said there
00:26:15.400 clicked with me
00:26:15.860 and I was like,
00:26:16.660 hold on a second actually,
00:26:17.540 that's true.
00:26:18.400 You know,
00:26:19.140 maybe if I thought about this before,
00:26:20.300 I would have not done this video.
00:26:21.280 Maybe it's the reason
00:26:21.840 we've done this video
00:26:23.160 that people can benefit
00:26:24.580 what you've mentioned as well.
00:26:25.800 And that's very important.
00:26:27.380 So brothers and sisters,
00:26:28.180 knowing Allah is very important
00:26:29.660 because then you'll see
00:26:30.700 that we do things the wrong way around.
00:26:33.280 You know,
00:26:33.420 we tell people that's haram,
00:26:35.040 that's haram,
00:26:35.660 that's haram.
00:26:36.260 If you educated people to the deen,
00:26:38.380 they would know it's haram
00:26:39.780 and they would leave that haram.
00:26:40.740 You don't need to tell them.
00:26:41.820 You know,
00:26:42.060 that's why Aisha,
00:26:42.700 that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam's wife,
00:26:45.360 he said,
00:26:45.840 if the Quran was to come down
00:26:47.960 with halal and haram,
00:26:49.860 nobody would have come to Islam.
00:26:51.220 You know,
00:26:51.620 it came with gradual helping you,
00:26:53.720 you know,
00:26:53.960 Jannah,
00:26:54.300 who Allah is,
00:26:55.220 of course,
00:26:55.640 hellfire as well.
00:26:57.320 Ending on a note,
00:26:58.620 I blame,
00:27:00.080 I understand people have their struggles
00:27:01.360 and I understand people
00:27:02.820 are not forced to watch these influences,
00:27:04.300 but I believe
00:27:05.300 the hijabi YouTuber influences
00:27:07.420 had a massive impact on this.
00:27:09.400 Am I right or wrong?
00:27:11.240 To a certain extent,
00:27:12.320 you're right.
00:27:12.980 But again,
00:27:13.360 it goes back down to the individual.
00:27:14.960 Are they kind of people
00:27:16.100 that are easily influenced as well?
00:27:17.980 Like I said,
00:27:18.940 I could easily be influenced
00:27:20.340 if I'm of a certain mindset.
00:27:22.180 I'm here to help people be individual
00:27:24.220 so that they learn about their values,
00:27:26.260 their beliefs,
00:27:26.780 so that they can actually follow it.
00:27:28.520 And that's what I'm trying to do.
00:27:29.880 And even when you said,
00:27:30.940 you know,
00:27:31.520 the main thing is
00:27:32.280 not just knowing your creator,
00:27:33.940 but loving your creator.
00:27:34.960 And the only way you can do that
00:27:35.960 is to create the connection.
00:27:37.580 And the only way you can create a connection
00:27:39.080 is for daily practice,
00:27:40.240 just like how we practice
00:27:41.200 watching the football,
00:27:42.320 when it's time now,
00:27:43.400 you know,
00:27:43.720 the Euro Cup
00:27:44.340 and we want to do everything else
00:27:45.660 with regards to influences
00:27:46.920 and, you know,
00:27:47.820 making sure that we keep up
00:27:49.180 with the latest fashionistas
00:27:50.320 and what's going on.
00:27:51.560 We don't actually practice
00:27:52.760 our deen daily
00:27:54.000 unless it's Ramadan
00:27:54.700 or any particular,
00:27:55.740 you know,
00:27:56.040 month of the year.
00:27:57.660 And I personally,
00:27:58.720 I'm not just saying this
00:27:59.640 and I've said this before,
00:28:00.880 not to impress anyone.
00:28:01.980 The only way I can personally
00:28:03.320 keep up with my practice
00:28:04.620 and have that awareness constantly
00:28:06.620 is I keep up with my salah
00:28:07.980 constantly
00:28:08.860 and I have to do it
00:28:10.060 as much as I can,
00:28:11.140 not just leaving out Fajr.
00:28:12.440 It's like saying to somebody,
00:28:13.380 even, you know,
00:28:14.480 you, you know,
00:28:15.180 you pray five times
00:28:16.120 and maybe you shouldn't pray
00:28:17.000 if you leave out Fajr.
00:28:17.980 But no,
00:28:18.440 you've got to do as much as you can.
00:28:19.940 And I don't leave the Quran.
00:28:22.000 I have to open up that book
00:28:23.460 at least once a day
00:28:24.280 and read a page.
00:28:25.420 And these are the things
00:28:26.300 that we are not creating as habits.
00:28:28.560 I'm so sorry.
00:28:29.320 Have you downloaded the Quran?
00:28:30.420 Yeah.
00:28:30.480 I have got it,
00:28:32.580 but I actually read it,
00:28:33.640 you know,
00:28:34.140 visually.
00:28:34.660 I actually like to look at it
00:28:35.860 and look because I have got the time.
00:28:37.500 I prefer that.
00:28:38.700 It's, yeah.
00:28:39.780 It's absolutely perfect.
00:28:40.960 And I'll do that
00:28:41.920 when I can't actually visually
00:28:43.260 hold it and read it,
00:28:44.320 but I can actually do that.
00:28:45.460 And like I said,
00:28:46.020 there's many options nowadays.
00:28:47.280 If you create certain habits
00:28:48.740 in your life,
00:28:49.600 you will,
00:28:50.340 your path will open up for you.
00:28:52.160 So like you said,
00:28:53.020 you know,
00:28:53.240 when you are wanting to do good,
00:28:55.040 it's very easy for you to see it
00:28:56.820 and be open to it.
00:28:58.060 Even if someone reminds you
00:28:59.260 like how we might remind each other,
00:29:01.580 but at the same time,
00:29:02.480 if it's a stranger,
00:29:03.300 then you will also look
00:29:04.500 at them differently
00:29:05.120 and you will also,
00:29:06.260 you know,
00:29:06.680 approach them differently.
00:29:07.920 And I think that we do need
00:29:09.600 to learn about religion differently.
00:29:11.940 I think,
00:29:12.360 like you said,
00:29:12.900 it's not just about learning
00:29:14.000 the rights and the rules
00:29:15.880 and the jurisprudence
00:29:17.380 and the fact,
00:29:18.200 it's more about understanding
00:29:19.940 what is the meaning
00:29:21.160 and the benefits.
00:29:22.400 And actually,
00:29:22.980 I always look at my religion
00:29:24.320 as being protective and powerful.
00:29:26.920 Do we even say that anymore?
00:29:28.520 No, we don't.
00:29:29.340 We look at it as a fear,
00:29:31.020 as in you're going to be punished
00:29:32.360 if you do this
00:29:33.020 or you don't that.
00:29:33.860 And that's not how I look at it.
00:29:35.880 So, you know,
00:29:36.460 interpretation in my way
00:29:38.360 is you finding yourself,
00:29:40.540 knowing yourself
00:29:41.300 and knowing through that
00:29:42.420 is firstly your creator
00:29:44.180 and build that love
00:29:45.720 and connection.
00:29:46.860 You can't go wrong
00:29:47.640 and you can't do wrong
00:29:48.660 and nobody needs to actually,
00:29:50.360 you know,
00:29:50.520 even if they call you out,
00:29:51.480 you look at it as someone there
00:29:52.800 just to help you
00:29:53.540 and to remind you
00:29:54.460 and simple.
00:29:55.340 So it works for both sides,
00:29:56.420 to be honest.
00:29:57.460 OK, so I'm asking my question again,
00:29:59.020 does this influence
00:29:59.540 play a role?
00:30:00.940 It does play a role.
00:30:02.120 It most definitely plays a role
00:30:03.340 because a lot of us
00:30:04.120 are looking at things
00:30:05.160 which we think is successful.
00:30:07.140 Again, we're looking at things
00:30:08.420 which, you know,
00:30:09.260 people,
00:30:10.080 we look at these snapshots
00:30:11.000 and think that we want that
00:30:12.240 because they are showing
00:30:13.520 certain things in life
00:30:14.780 which is attractive.
00:30:16.360 A lifestyle,
00:30:17.700 you know,
00:30:18.540 this kind of like,
00:30:19.660 you know,
00:30:20.060 fantasy kind of way of living
00:30:21.740 that where they are successful.
00:30:22.820 But I'm telling you now
00:30:23.700 because I coach some of these,
00:30:25.340 you know,
00:30:25.660 so-called influencers
00:30:26.640 that even on their page,
00:30:27.940 however successful they look,
00:30:29.360 they are struggling
00:30:29.900 behind closed doors
00:30:30.800 and even their assets
00:30:31.720 are not their own.
00:30:32.820 So don't be fooled
00:30:33.780 and live your own life
00:30:35.340 and know your own self
00:30:36.900 very well
00:30:37.660 and where you come from,
00:30:38.880 what's your meaning
00:30:39.500 and purpose
00:30:40.040 and what you see
00:30:40.880 on social media.
00:30:41.700 I'm telling you now,
00:30:42.960 it is definitely not real.
00:30:44.720 It is not real
00:30:45.580 and don't fall for it.
00:30:47.040 Exactly.
00:30:48.140 I think,
00:30:48.980 we'll wrap up.
00:30:49.520 I think that was great.
00:30:50.800 Brothers and Sisters,
00:30:51.180 I hope you enjoyed this
00:30:52.120 with Sister Fahima
00:30:53.160 and yeah,
00:30:54.920 that was my take on it,
00:30:56.220 you know,
00:30:57.180 and you heard what Sister Fahima said as well.
00:30:59.100 I think we,
00:30:59.820 I've learned something new today
00:31:00.900 and I hope you guys
00:31:01.760 have learned something new today
00:31:02.740 and I think it's important
00:31:04.200 for us to remind one another as well
00:31:05.700 and I hope this video has done that.
00:31:07.300 I'm trying to get,
00:31:08.160 you know,
00:31:08.420 like Sister Fahima
00:31:09.360 or Sister Naima Robertson
00:31:11.140 and others involved as well
00:31:12.920 because it's important
00:31:13.520 to have a sister's take on the matter
00:31:14.840 because sometimes as a male,
00:31:16.820 I don't know,
00:31:18.160 you know,
00:31:18.360 so that's why I'm trying
00:31:19.040 to get more sisters involved
00:31:20.820 and yeah,
00:31:21.520 if you guys want more videos
00:31:22.340 on different topics,
00:31:23.420 comment in the section below inshallah
00:31:24.440 and we will cover those
00:31:25.280 with Sister Fahima
00:31:26.080 or Sister Naima
00:31:27.240 or maybe other sisters as well inshallah.
00:31:29.700 Till next time.
00:31:30.600 Thank you Sister Fahima.
00:31:31.280 May Allah bless you inshallah
00:31:32.040 for your time
00:31:33.080 and yeah.
00:31:34.540 As-salamu alaykum
00:31:35.140 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.