Ali Dawah - WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES？ - EP 26 ｜

00:00:00.000 So today's topic is quite controversial, but it is the topic of why men and women become disloyal.

00:00:06.940 Yeah. So we want to know what causes a woman to go down the route of disloyalty.

00:00:11.820 I've seen this happen where they go for, like you mentioned, actually, Kim Kardashian's, the Beyonce's.

00:00:16.200 They go for women who, to them, look good aesthetically, but their character is correct.

00:00:21.840 A man could go and be intimate with another woman and it can mean zero to him.

00:00:26.600 Do you kind of think it's maybe accepted in society?

00:00:29.120 Yes, I was literally going to say that.

00:00:30.320 Women are more frowned upon if they cheat, but men, it's normal.

00:00:33.940 In certain cultures.

00:00:34.820 He's taking his wife out, he's buying the stuff and she's being ungrateful for it.

00:00:38.340 And that's like a disrespect to how he feels because he would be literally saying, I'm doing as much as I can and it's not being valued.

00:00:43.660 The reason why Allah tells a woman to cover up is so we don't fall in love the wrong way.

00:00:46.700 Not love, lust the wrong way because it protects you and it protects me.

00:00:49.720 Because when you're covered, I'm speaking to you, not speaking to something else.

00:00:52.120 If a man cheats on his wife, that man is not to be trusted by other men.

00:00:56.340 And you shouldn't go into business with a man that cheats on his wife.

00:00:59.900 They don't want the commitment of a second wife, financial burdens.

00:01:02.300 They want to have their short-term pleasure.

00:01:04.160 They don't want that commitment.

00:01:05.780 That's what most guys, that's why they cheat.

00:01:07.780 A wife holds high value for a man.

00:01:10.160 Of course it does.

00:01:10.640 So that's the only woman that can hurt him emotionally.

00:01:13.920 The rest of the women are just...

00:01:15.520 Don't mean nothing.

00:01:16.460 Exactly.

00:01:17.100 You know what they've mentioned in their head?

00:01:18.220 This is my girl.

00:01:19.460 This is my girlfriend or wife, whatever.

00:01:20.940 Done.

00:01:21.480 Now, I value her and she's mine.

00:01:24.040 But the rest are nothing.

00:01:25.220 And today, women, they have no khaya.

00:01:26.620 So they throw their self at you.

00:01:27.440 And these days, women are throwing their self at men.

00:01:29.300 If there is a sister whose husband is...

00:01:32.220 You know, he's gained that respect from her.

00:01:34.200 Most likely, I believe...

00:01:36.240 What your husband says, that you have to gain my love.

00:01:38.920 I feel like you're disrespecting me as a man.

00:01:40.520 And she said, well, you have to earn my respect.

00:01:42.420 Imagine the man, the woman comes and says,

00:01:44.220 I don't feel like you love me, you're affectionate.

00:01:45.380 Well, you have to earn my love.

00:01:46.880 Oh, you guys don't like it.

00:01:47.960 Okay, so you guys...

00:01:48.620 Okay, so one second.

00:01:49.500 Why is it that a man has to earn his respect?

00:01:52.380 But if the woman is saying,

00:01:53.580 look, emotionally, you're not giving me love, yeah?

00:01:55.240 And then he says, well, you have to earn my love.

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00:02:26.040 brothers and sisters and dear friends.

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00:02:28.080 Welcome to another episode of The Bitter Truth Show.

00:02:30.800 The show has...

00:02:32.600 We started the show,

00:02:33.620 me, my wife,

00:02:35.200 and the team,

00:02:35.920 Anas,

00:02:36.560 Jabi,

00:02:37.420 and the rest of the crew.

00:02:38.460 Alhamdulillah may Allah bless them.

00:02:39.740 Our aim is to preserve the family units.

00:02:41.580 There's an outright attack with divorces,

00:02:43.540 the whole LGBTQT,

00:02:44.780 all that kind of stuff.

00:02:45.680 So we're here to talk about issues

00:02:47.260 that are pertaining to matters

00:02:49.060 that cause divorces.

00:02:51.440 One of the other aims is

00:02:52.520 to understand opposite gender better,

00:02:54.080 for them to understand us better,

00:02:55.800 and to have a civilised dialogue

00:02:57.340 with akhlaq and adab

00:02:58.340 without backbiting, slandering.

00:03:00.160 And hope this is some kind of a...

00:03:02.460 an example for you guys

00:03:04.680 is how obviously we know

00:03:06.380 when it comes to, you know,

00:03:08.260 interacting with opposite gender,

00:03:09.640 Islam is clear on this matter.

00:03:11.540 But it's to show you guys

00:03:12.980 that Muslim men,

00:03:14.140 practicing Muslim men

00:03:14.820 and practicing sisters,

00:03:15.700 our honourable sisters,

00:03:16.720 we can come here and talk about issues

00:03:17.960 that are pertaining to our deen,

00:03:20.020 that affect our lives

00:03:21.020 and our families.

00:03:22.440 And hope this is an example

00:03:23.460 how you inshallah to conduct yourselves.

00:03:26.020 So if you want to apply

00:03:26.800 and be a guest,

00:03:27.500 thebittertruthshow at gmail.com,

00:03:28.980 you can apply there inshallah

00:03:29.860 and be a participant.

00:03:31.840 But today's show,

00:03:32.680 we did one...

00:03:34.680 a couple of weeks ago

00:03:35.380 was why women cheat,

00:03:38.920 why they're disloyal.

00:03:40.360 And we discussed that.

00:03:41.440 We didn't have time to fit this in.

00:03:43.200 But so today we have different guests,

00:03:44.920 different speakers,

00:03:45.960 as you can see.

00:03:46.700 And the topic at hand is

00:03:47.800 why do men cheat?

00:03:49.680 Why are men disloyal?

00:03:50.580 What causes them to go disloyal?

00:03:52.200 They become disloyal.

00:03:53.420 So we're going to start off...

00:03:54.640 I'm assuming...

00:03:55.740 We'll start with the men.

00:03:56.380 You guys want to get an understanding maybe

00:03:57.700 before we go to you guys,

00:03:58.760 unless you want to say you want to...

00:04:00.240 No?

00:04:00.980 Yeah?

00:04:01.500 We'll start with the men inshallah, yeah?

00:04:03.200 So from our psychology,

00:04:04.900 our perspective,

00:04:06.080 what causes us men

00:04:08.260 to be disloyal?

00:04:10.560 And again,

00:04:12.420 disloyalty,

00:04:13.080 we need to put into some...

00:04:14.420 You know,

00:04:14.840 make some disclaimers here.

00:04:15.880 At the end of the day,

00:04:16.600 it's zina, adultery.

00:04:18.480 Zina,

00:04:19.000 if you commit zina,

00:04:20.980 it's not actually disloyalty in that sense

00:04:22.640 because you're,

00:04:23.280 you know,

00:04:23.880 you're not being unfaithful in that sense

00:04:25.740 because you're not married already.

00:04:27.100 So you're basically

00:04:28.020 committing an immoral act,

00:04:29.760 which is a hundred lashes.

00:04:31.980 If you are married,

00:04:33.220 the capital punishment is very clear.

00:04:34.680 I'm sure you guys know.

00:04:35.360 I don't need to go into detail.

00:04:36.900 And it's from Islam and it's the haqq.

00:04:39.160 So when it comes to this issue,

00:04:40.900 we do still have men,

00:04:41.880 but we just want to understand psychology

00:04:42.940 because we know it's a major sin.

00:04:44.500 It's a major,

00:04:45.280 major sin,

00:04:45.760 which holds a death penalty

00:04:47.800 in that sense,

00:04:48.940 unless that's obviously just

00:04:50.860 talking about hadith

00:04:52.420 of the Prophet Muhammad,

00:04:53.060 peace be upon him,

00:04:53.760 where a woman came

00:04:54.520 and even a man came

00:04:55.580 and said,

00:04:56.380 I committed adultery.

00:04:58.160 And the Prophet,

00:04:58.860 peace be upon him,

00:04:59.240 moved away from him,

00:05:00.400 moved and just ignored him.

00:05:01.520 And he said,

00:05:01.960 oh, Meshulullah,

00:05:02.580 I've committed adultery.

00:05:03.940 He moved from him again.

00:05:06.520 And the third time,

00:05:07.460 he was insistent.

00:05:08.580 And he said,

00:05:09.160 maybe you just kissed her.

00:05:10.840 So he was trying to say,

00:05:11.600 listen,

00:05:11.880 what that shows you

00:05:14.600 is the Sharia is not

00:05:15.460 bloodthirsty looking

00:05:16.280 to apply punishments.

00:05:17.640 It's just averting

00:05:18.780 as much as possible.

00:05:19.580 When he confessed

00:05:20.400 for the third time,

00:05:21.540 he had no choice

00:05:22.880 of the Prophet,

00:05:23.400 peace be upon him,

00:05:23.820 but to apply that punishment

00:05:24.720 at his discretion.

00:05:26.760 So much so

00:05:27.640 that the narration says

00:05:29.120 that when he was

00:05:30.240 obviously being stoned,

00:05:32.280 yes,

00:05:33.200 that at one moment

00:05:34.720 he actually escaped

00:05:35.940 and ran away.

00:05:37.560 And some of the companions

00:05:38.220 chased him

00:05:38.960 to, should we say,

00:05:40.560 to finish the job

00:05:41.160 in that sense.

00:05:41.880 The Prophet peace be upon him

00:05:42.400 was upset.

00:05:43.400 He said,

00:05:43.600 why did you have to chase him?

00:05:44.980 The point is that

00:05:45.820 there was a woman

00:05:46.500 who came and she was

00:05:47.240 actually pregnant.

00:05:48.680 And the Prophet peace be upon him

00:05:49.440 again said,

00:05:50.320 look,

00:05:50.840 just maybe,

00:05:52.100 you know,

00:05:52.640 whatever.

00:05:52.940 She was like,

00:05:53.220 no,

00:05:53.800 she was adamant.

00:05:55.560 So much so,

00:05:56.140 the Prophet peace be upon him

00:05:56.800 said,

00:05:57.000 okay,

00:05:57.160 once you give birth,

00:05:58.480 you know,

00:05:58.820 maybe thinking,

00:05:59.360 you know,

00:05:59.480 she might come and give birth

00:06:00.320 and change her mind

00:06:00.820 and say,

00:06:01.020 look,

00:06:01.120 I've repented,

00:06:01.680 et cetera,

00:06:02.420 which you can,

00:06:03.000 you can secretly repent

00:06:03.760 for this matter.

00:06:05.240 Again,

00:06:05.700 this is what happened.

00:06:06.280 And when she was,

00:06:07.820 she got the capital punishment,

00:06:09.220 some of the blood

00:06:10.360 went on the shoes

00:06:12.480 of one of the companions.

00:06:13.800 And he actually acted

00:06:15.780 in a way of like,

00:06:17.140 repulsed by it.

00:06:18.320 And the Prophet peace be upon him

00:06:19.100 said something so profound

00:06:20.040 and it gives me shivers

00:06:21.000 to this day,

00:06:21.540 like even saying it right now.

00:06:23.200 He said,

00:06:23.960 because he was repulsed

00:06:24.780 by the blood,

00:06:25.320 like,

00:06:25.480 oh,

00:06:25.560 this is an adulterous woman.

00:06:26.820 He said,

00:06:27.200 by Allah,

00:06:28.060 her repentance,

00:06:28.960 what she did now,

00:06:30.240 willingly,

00:06:31.120 would be sufficient

00:06:31.940 for Medina

00:06:32.540 to show the honorable state.

00:06:35.160 Because we would look

00:06:35.640 at this woman

00:06:36.060 and people would back chat

00:06:37.080 and la la la la la la.

00:06:38.540 In Islam,

00:06:39.460 Islam,

00:06:40.020 the Prophet peace be upon him

00:06:40.960 saying her repentance,

00:06:42.520 that he also repulsed

00:06:43.100 by her blood,

00:06:44.080 Wallahi,

00:06:44.560 it will be enough

00:06:45.360 for her repentance.

00:06:47.320 So we need to understand

00:06:48.340 Islam's views

00:06:48.940 very specific in this manner.

00:06:50.400 Sorry for that lecture

00:06:51.060 in that sense

00:06:51.580 because we need to bring clarity.

00:06:52.820 It is a major sin,

00:06:53.540 but putting that to a side,

00:06:55.020 what causes a man

00:06:56.340 to even think about this?

00:06:58.040 Prophet Sirtaj,

00:06:59.180 you're married.

00:07:00.720 You've got a new brother here,

00:07:01.960 may Allah bless you.

00:07:02.500 Yes, Allah.

00:07:03.180 Prophet Sallam,

00:07:03.640 can you just maybe

00:07:04.120 introduce yourself?

00:07:05.180 Assalamualaikum,

00:07:05.760 my name is Ibrahim.

00:07:07.500 I'm married,

00:07:08.040 I'm 40 years old,

00:07:08.860 41.

00:07:09.560 Mashallah.

00:07:10.100 Come on, bro,

00:07:10.380 you look 33.

00:07:11.380 Alhamdulillah.

00:07:11.940 Mashallah.

00:07:13.000 You're just being nice.

00:07:14.100 Yes, I'm 43.

00:07:14.800 No, no,

00:07:15.040 Wallahi,

00:07:15.180 I'm being very genuine.

00:07:16.920 You look like 33, 34.

00:07:18.080 Jazakallah khair.

00:07:18.900 Mashallah.

00:07:19.240 So, yeah,

00:07:20.060 I'm married with quite a lot of children.

00:07:21.660 Oh, mashallah.

00:07:22.420 Two different marriages.

00:07:23.780 Okay, mashallah.

00:07:24.580 Like,

00:07:24.800 simultaneously or divorce?

00:07:27.360 I tried to go for the simultaneous one,

00:07:29.120 didn't work out.

00:07:29.900 It didn't work out,

00:07:30.460 Alhamdulillah.

00:07:30.840 Okay,

00:07:31.260 no problem,

00:07:31.560 it happens,

00:07:32.040 it doesn't happen.

00:07:32.700 Okay,

00:07:33.440 and you're kind of a regular,

00:07:35.180 you've come before,

00:07:36.020 but again.

00:07:36.700 Yeah.

00:07:38.240 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

00:07:39.240 Oh,

00:07:40.480 two mics.

00:07:41.300 Two mics.

00:07:41.800 Yeah,

00:07:43.960 I was on,

00:07:44.600 I think,

00:07:44.940 three episodes before,

00:07:45.720 wasn't I?

00:07:48.180 See what it's in?

00:07:49.940 Okay.

00:07:50.800 Yeah,

00:07:51.040 so I was on a few episodes before,

00:07:52.320 and this is my fourth one.

00:07:54.940 I'm a university student doing international marketing

00:07:57.840 and consumer psychology,

00:07:59.540 and I can't be bothered to speak about myself,

00:08:01.280 so I'll let everyone else speak now.

00:08:03.340 Okay,

00:08:03.780 so let's get straight into it.

00:08:04.420 Brother Sertaj,

00:08:04.860 you're married.

00:08:05.660 What causes a man to think about this loyalty,

00:08:08.960 act upon it,

00:08:09.600 or pursue it,

00:08:10.900 or whatever,

00:08:11.220 and this loyalty can come in different ways,

00:08:12.420 by the way.

00:08:13.740 The thing is,

00:08:14.960 if we're talking about a real man,

00:08:17.680 you know,

00:08:17.960 we're talking about a real man

00:08:18.940 who looks after his family

00:08:20.020 and takes care of his family,

00:08:22.100 I think is the attention.

00:08:24.920 If he doesn't get that attention at home,

00:08:27.040 he will go do something,

00:08:29.300 but the thing is,

00:08:30.340 if he doesn't have that connection with his wife

00:08:33.040 and not talking to her what the problem is,

00:08:35.380 and that will kind of lead him towards

00:08:37.600 doing something he shouldn't do,

00:08:40.280 but I'm talking about a real man,

00:08:42.160 but some men just cheat

00:08:43.240 because they'll just want to cheat.

00:08:45.560 There's like different kind of thing

00:08:47.880 that you need to look into,

00:08:48.920 but I think a real man

00:08:51.460 that, you know,

00:08:53.660 I think,

00:08:54.340 first of all,

00:08:55.060 if there's a situation like that,

00:08:56.460 he should try his best

00:08:57.320 trying to sort the situation out,

00:08:59.820 but if he's not getting sorted

00:09:00.980 and he's not getting attention at home

00:09:02.460 with his wife,

00:09:03.640 that will lead him towards

00:09:04.820 doing something that he shouldn't do.

00:09:07.440 Okay, so,

00:09:08.900 is that the only reason?

00:09:11.320 Yeah, I'd say,

00:09:12.060 there's multiple reasons, right,

00:09:14.320 but I'd like to open up by saying,

00:09:15.700 I think it was 25% of women

00:09:17.500 in a marriage cheat,

00:09:19.280 according to Muslim Skeptic,

00:09:20.720 40%,

00:09:21.480 up to 40% of men cheat in a marriage.

00:09:23.520 What's Muslim Skeptic?

00:09:25.040 It's like a,

00:09:25.740 he's a big YouTuber,

00:09:26.880 I think, you know,

00:09:27.520 Daniel Hakkju, right?

00:09:28.480 According to him,

00:09:29.600 you said that.

00:09:30.080 So he's done his own statistics and stuff,

00:09:31.800 you can look it up yourself,

00:09:33.100 yeah.

00:09:33.280 Oh, okay.

00:09:33.860 Yeah.

00:09:34.440 Yeah, that obviously,

00:09:35.520 I'll need to find out.

00:09:36.520 That's fine,

00:09:37.320 that's why I'm quoting the source.

00:09:38.920 Okay, all right, interesting.

00:09:39.620 Exactly, yeah.

00:09:40.480 So that shows that,

00:09:41.280 obviously,

00:09:41.600 men cheat more than women, right?

00:09:43.420 And we're sort of going to discuss

00:09:45.060 why they do that.

00:09:46.360 So one of the reasons is

00:09:47.300 because the family home,

00:09:49.040 he doesn't feel like

00:09:49.840 he can get what he needs

00:09:51.560 out of his wife,

00:09:52.540 so he goes looking for it elsewhere.

00:09:53.960 I think a lot of that

00:09:54.980 is to do with sort of sexual desires.

00:09:57.020 So he's not sort of

00:09:58.620 getting what he wants

00:10:00.040 in that department.

00:10:01.060 So he's cheating,

00:10:02.500 he's getting escorts,

00:10:03.340 whatever that may be.

00:10:04.520 I think that's a big

00:10:05.320 contributing factor.

00:10:06.120 Bismillah.

00:10:11.800 I think, like,

00:10:13.020 everybody agrees

00:10:13.860 that we're living in a society today

00:10:15.340 that opens the platform

00:10:17.260 for zina and adultery

00:10:18.860 to take place

00:10:19.620 from the very young age,

00:10:21.300 from when children

00:10:21.900 are watching things from TV,

00:10:24.680 the whole concept

00:10:25.540 of boyfriend, girlfriend,

00:10:26.640 the loyalty of family

00:10:27.660 has been completely broken down

00:10:29.840 and we are growing up

00:10:30.900 in that environment

00:10:31.660 where parents

00:10:33.400 are not even discussing

00:10:35.280 this idea of the value

00:10:37.000 of a marriage in depth

00:10:38.380 with the children.

00:10:39.860 People are getting married

00:10:41.020 very immaturely

00:10:42.380 and they haven't truly

00:10:44.280 understand the value

00:10:45.320 of what marriage is,

00:10:46.760 what loyalty is,

00:10:48.320 the responsibility

00:10:49.120 that it carries.

00:10:51.520 So when men,

00:10:53.360 for example,

00:10:54.560 some men are immature

00:10:55.520 in the sense

00:10:56.420 they don't know

00:10:56.900 what they want.

00:10:57.980 They walk outside,

00:10:59.580 their tuck was low

00:11:00.560 and they're engaging

00:11:02.360 with women at work,

00:11:04.160 they engage with women,

00:11:05.600 whether you're a taxi driver,

00:11:06.660 you work in an office,

00:11:08.140 they see a lot of fitness

00:11:09.060 around them

00:11:09.820 and the opportunity

00:11:10.980 is very easy

00:11:12.020 and because their understanding

00:11:14.000 of commitment,

00:11:14.780 of marriage,

00:11:15.300 of what it means

00:11:16.180 and they don't think

00:11:17.640 about the repercussion

00:11:19.180 of their actions

00:11:20.900 until later on

00:11:22.000 and sometimes

00:11:22.940 it's a bit too late.

00:11:24.980 So there's lots

00:11:26.100 of different factors

00:11:26.840 for different people.

00:11:27.920 We live in a society

00:11:28.660 where we're people

00:11:29.280 from many different backgrounds

00:11:30.500 so we don't always

00:11:33.300 understand the person

00:11:34.460 that we're married to

00:11:35.420 so everyone's got

00:11:36.100 different values

00:11:37.000 and when you put

00:11:39.600 all of this

00:11:39.960 in context together

00:11:41.040 you're going to see

00:11:43.100 men are cheating

00:11:44.040 for various reasons.

00:11:45.840 Some of it,

00:11:46.380 like I said,

00:11:46.860 is immaturity.

00:11:48.020 They don't understand

00:11:48.720 the value of their partner

00:11:50.080 and that's some

00:11:54.360 of the points.

00:11:56.300 So it's actually similar

00:11:57.760 to what everyone else

00:11:58.420 has just said right now

00:11:59.180 and this is also

00:12:00.800 common with women

00:12:01.460 as well.

00:12:01.980 It's actually

00:12:02.520 relational neglect.

00:12:07.260 So the husband

00:12:08.280 would literally be,

00:12:09.320 you could say he's

00:12:09.840 doing all of his work,

00:12:11.660 he's taking his wife out,

00:12:12.900 he's buying the stuff

00:12:13.680 and she's being

00:12:14.580 ungrateful for it

00:12:15.300 and that's like a disrespect

00:12:16.980 to how he feels

00:12:17.920 because he would be

00:12:18.580 literally saying

00:12:19.260 I'm doing as much

00:12:20.340 as I can

00:12:20.840 and it's not being valued.

00:12:23.020 So similar to what

00:12:24.020 Brother Surtaj

00:12:24.780 was saying would be that

00:12:25.860 because he's not

00:12:27.040 feeling valued

00:12:27.680 with all the work

00:12:28.440 he's putting in

00:12:28.980 in his own house

00:12:29.660 he's going to try

00:12:31.140 and get that

00:12:31.620 from somebody else.

00:12:33.140 Same thing would

00:12:33.860 happen with a woman

00:12:34.520 where if she's not

00:12:35.420 feeling valued

00:12:36.620 for the work

00:12:37.060 that she's doing

00:12:37.800 and she's not

00:12:38.760 getting attention

00:12:39.140 from her husband

00:12:39.640 despite doing

00:12:40.460 as much as she can

00:12:41.200 in the house

00:12:41.620 and with the kids

00:12:42.200 she too would

00:12:43.500 also be doing

00:12:44.240 a similar thing

00:12:45.260 where she'd be

00:12:45.560 looking elsewhere

00:12:46.060 for the attention.

00:12:47.900 Then you have

00:12:48.300 more of an

00:12:48.700 immature angle

00:12:49.340 where you have

00:12:50.480 not men

00:12:52.060 but you could say

00:12:52.680 little boys

00:12:53.220 where they have

00:12:54.320 this very

00:12:55.540 very high sex drive

00:12:56.520 and they can't

00:12:58.080 control themselves

00:12:58.700 when they literally

00:12:59.180 leave the house

00:12:59.700 and these are

00:13:00.560 usually people

00:13:00.980 that have

00:13:01.480 the tuck

00:13:03.540 was not very good

00:13:04.300 they can't

00:13:05.500 lower their gaze

00:13:06.240 everything they see

00:13:07.800 with like women

00:13:08.360 and stuff

00:13:08.680 they seem as like

00:13:09.280 a piece of meat

00:13:10.280 so they'll literally

00:13:11.240 they have the ability

00:13:12.560 to do so

00:13:13.180 they'll hide it

00:13:14.540 from their wife

00:13:15.040 and they'll just

00:13:15.860 do it behind their back

00:13:16.660 but the ones

00:13:17.980 that you would feel

00:13:18.800 that is more complex

00:13:21.180 is are the men

00:13:22.640 that are actual men

00:13:23.760 they're doing as much

00:13:24.680 as they can

00:13:24.980 for their family

00:13:25.600 as much as they can

00:13:26.680 for their wife

00:13:27.280 doing X, Y, Z

00:13:28.840 and going out of

00:13:30.240 what you'd expect

00:13:31.320 from a man

00:13:31.640 like they're doing

00:13:32.260 so much

00:13:32.800 and when it's not

00:13:34.300 being respected

00:13:35.080 then they feel

00:13:35.760 the wife feels

00:13:37.140 ungrateful

00:13:37.500 for what she has

00:13:38.220 that's when I feel

00:13:39.320 as though the man

00:13:39.920 would want to

00:13:41.240 outsource it

00:13:41.700 somewhere else

00:13:42.140 so he can feel

00:13:42.560 valued and respected

00:13:43.240 I think

00:13:47.080 instead of saying

00:13:47.700 why men cheat

00:13:48.180 because men have

00:13:48.720 permission

00:13:50.220 to get married again

00:13:50.940 so should we say

00:13:51.740 why men seek

00:13:52.500 another woman

00:13:52.900 because then we can

00:13:53.620 come at it from an angle

00:13:54.760 not just by cheating

00:13:55.700 because sometimes

00:13:57.040 men

00:13:57.460 men desire other women

00:14:00.280 for a variety

00:14:01.300 of reasons

00:14:01.960 that's another reason

00:14:02.640 as well

00:14:02.980 because that needs

00:14:03.800 to be added in

00:14:04.300 because otherwise

00:14:04.880 it doesn't mean justice

00:14:05.420 why don't we classify

00:14:05.860 what cheating is

00:14:06.840 so in this instance

00:14:07.720 can we say cheating

00:14:08.440 is physically

00:14:09.160 doing something

00:14:10.760 with another woman

00:14:11.440 while she's already

00:14:12.100 in a marriage

00:14:12.580 because if you're

00:14:13.240 seeking another wife

00:14:14.660 which is halal

00:14:15.740 you're not going

00:14:16.620 to be engaging

00:14:17.100 so should we say

00:14:17.700 why do men seek

00:14:20.060 another woman

00:14:20.740 because we have

00:14:21.540 the element

00:14:22.260 of marrying again

00:14:23.260 because then sisters

00:14:24.700 can understand

00:14:25.180 why is he

00:14:26.780 seeking another woman

00:14:28.560 because when we did

00:14:29.700 why women cheat

00:14:30.540 we realised that

00:14:31.540 women cheat

00:14:32.080 in two ways

00:14:32.700 there is one

00:14:33.560 emotional

00:14:34.340 and there's a second

00:14:35.660 which is physical

00:14:36.280 which the man does

00:14:36.940 as well

00:14:37.160 emotional cheating

00:14:38.320 is different

00:14:38.740 because if she feels

00:14:39.460 neglected

00:14:39.900 we discussed that

00:14:40.620 if she feels like

00:14:41.600 she's not being heard

00:14:42.160 etc

00:14:42.440 she will get

00:14:43.720 and crave that attention

00:14:44.460 somewhere else

00:14:44.880 I think we should

00:14:45.640 keep it to why

00:14:46.600 men cheat

00:14:47.360 because we know

00:14:49.260 why men seek

00:14:50.500 other women

00:14:51.060 because you're

00:14:51.660 polygamous by nature

00:14:52.780 that's why

00:14:53.560 by nature

00:14:55.500 men can go

00:14:56.740 with multiple women

00:14:57.860 we know that already

00:14:58.920 so it's why men cheat

00:15:01.000 but if you want

00:15:02.300 to relate it to that

00:15:03.220 a lot of men

00:15:03.960 I've met

00:15:04.560 I've tried to do

00:15:05.940 help people get married

00:15:07.120 when I was staying

00:15:07.880 in Bradford

00:15:08.300 for a few years

00:15:09.060 and I spoke to brothers

00:15:11.060 who wanted

00:15:11.840 and did speak

00:15:13.000 to the wife

00:15:13.760 about having a second

00:15:14.600 wife

00:15:14.940 when the wife

00:15:16.220 refuses

00:15:16.820 the man doesn't

00:15:18.180 want to break up

00:15:18.760 a family

00:15:19.180 he wants to

00:15:20.120 protect his family

00:15:21.220 carry on looking

00:15:22.220 after the wife

00:15:22.860 but he does

00:15:23.940 have urges

00:15:24.860 or needs

00:15:25.460 or he might

00:15:26.640 want to just

00:15:27.440 for whatever reason

00:15:28.280 have another wife

00:15:29.540 he will then

00:15:30.660 go and look

00:15:31.900 to get another wife

00:15:33.160 but he doesn't

00:15:33.940 want to destroy

00:15:34.600 the family

00:15:35.080 that he's already got

00:15:36.140 and he might be

00:15:37.380 that risk taker

00:15:38.380 who's going to go

00:15:39.300 and

00:15:40.340 okay so alright

00:15:41.100 that side we've discussed

00:15:42.100 a lot in this topic

00:15:43.000 I don't want to get into that

00:15:43.760 which like I said

00:15:44.620 before it's valid

00:15:45.300 where it's okay

00:15:45.920 we know men sometimes

00:15:47.100 they desire another woman

00:15:48.300 they just desire another woman

00:15:49.540 there's nothing to do with you

00:15:51.080 we've discussed that

00:15:51.760 so many times

00:15:52.360 I don't want to get into that

00:15:53.080 okay

00:15:53.260 but why do men

00:15:55.120 want to like

00:15:56.120 let's see if

00:15:56.740 if that factor

00:15:58.240 wasn't there

00:15:58.900 why do they go down

00:16:00.020 the route

00:16:00.400 of being this low cheating

00:16:01.560 like I believe

00:16:02.260 like me

00:16:02.900 I believe

00:16:03.380 number one

00:16:04.100 it is not

00:16:04.720 Lauren the gate

00:16:05.240 who is watching pornography

00:16:06.580 definitely

00:16:07.040 coming from a background

00:16:08.140 especially like

00:16:08.700 if he's a reverse

00:16:09.180 come from a jahiliya

00:16:10.160 that to get that

00:16:11.360 out of his system

00:16:11.960 is going to take

00:16:12.600 quite a good of a while

00:16:13.380 if he is known

00:16:14.920 to be promiscuous

00:16:15.680 before

00:16:16.020 like I said before

00:16:16.640 that's going to be an element

00:16:17.980 if he is not

00:16:19.360 sexually attracted

00:16:20.220 to his wife anymore

00:16:21.140 argument's sake

00:16:21.820 we discuss this about

00:16:22.600 when tough kids

00:16:23.960 about when the woman

00:16:25.100 has a child

00:16:25.740 her body changes

00:16:26.880 etc

00:16:27.220 that plays a role

00:16:29.540 from the top of my head

00:16:31.440 that's what I've got

00:16:32.320 I can guarantee you

00:16:32.600 that most men

00:16:33.200 most men

00:16:33.760 do you kind of think

00:16:36.040 it's maybe accepted

00:16:37.280 in society

00:16:38.120 yes I was literally

00:16:39.020 going to say that

00:16:39.600 women are more frowned upon

00:16:41.120 if they cheat

00:16:42.180 but men

00:16:42.780 it's normal

00:16:43.800 in certain cultures

00:16:44.860 so that's also

00:16:47.200 a reality

00:16:47.900 that is true

00:16:49.260 which is

00:16:49.680 that's the reason

00:16:50.340 why they say

00:16:50.860 women don't cheat

00:16:51.420 women do cheat

00:16:52.000 women don't get caught

00:16:52.780 because men don't expect

00:16:53.520 them to cheat

00:16:53.940 because of their higher

00:16:55.180 so that's the reason

00:16:55.720 why men get caught

00:16:56.900 because women know

00:16:57.920 what they're about

00:16:58.940 so they're on a case

00:16:59.820 so men get caught

00:17:00.920 easier

00:17:01.320 because

00:17:01.980 men are known

00:17:03.320 it's like

00:17:03.620 they have a stigma

00:17:04.580 I know for it

00:17:05.160 because women of their higher

00:17:06.240 and etc

00:17:06.760 a man would never

00:17:07.900 I believe any man

00:17:08.620 who's married

00:17:09.020 would never think

00:17:09.640 my wife will be this loyal

00:17:10.740 it's just

00:17:11.520 they're given

00:17:12.040 an expectation

00:17:13.040 of that

00:17:13.480 will never happen

00:17:14.060 that's why

00:17:14.900 they can usually

00:17:15.780 get away with it

00:17:16.580 easier

00:17:17.100 because you don't expect it

00:17:18.400 but a woman

00:17:18.960 bro she's on your case

00:17:19.740 she's checking your phone

00:17:20.260 she's doing some

00:17:20.760 MI5 stuff

00:17:21.360 yeah

00:17:21.800 so that's why

00:17:22.720 that stigma is there

00:17:23.560 I think that's why

00:17:24.260 it becomes a norm

00:17:25.540 I think

00:17:26.620 and also I think

00:17:27.600 maybe

00:17:28.020 because

00:17:28.900 if a woman

00:17:29.560 cheats

00:17:29.900 the consequences

00:17:30.980 are greater

00:17:32.300 because she can

00:17:33.080 by the way

00:17:33.480 in Islam

00:17:33.860 zina is zina

00:17:34.580 adultery is adultery

00:17:35.520 the punishment is the same

00:17:36.540 I'm not saying

00:17:36.940 they're different

00:17:37.500 but if you look at it

00:17:38.720 a woman can ascribe

00:17:39.540 a child to that man

00:17:40.660 he doesn't know

00:17:41.220 which can be

00:17:41.700 which is greater

00:17:42.900 and more

00:17:43.360 maybe shunned upon

00:17:44.460 when it shouldn't be

00:17:45.420 I don't know

00:17:46.240 but let's hear from you guys

00:17:47.440 from us

00:17:48.340 I think that's it

00:17:49.680 okay

00:17:50.060 so

00:17:50.840 relationships

00:17:52.440 what are we looking for

00:17:53.800 fulfillment

00:17:54.340 that's the main

00:17:55.760 kind of priority

00:17:57.560 fulfillment

00:17:58.300 in a relationship

00:17:59.220 now when that fulfillment

00:18:00.300 isn't met

00:18:01.280 there's a void

00:18:02.460 a void that we're trying to fill

00:18:04.200 so now some people

00:18:05.820 they'll fill that void

00:18:06.660 with addiction

00:18:07.320 some people will fill

00:18:08.500 that void

00:18:08.960 with going out

00:18:10.100 committing zina

00:18:10.720 so it depends

00:18:12.060 on the individual

00:18:12.940 and where they're at

00:18:15.340 in that relationship

00:18:16.200 so it's not just about

00:18:17.300 okay

00:18:17.620 why do men cheat

00:18:18.480 or why do women cheat

00:18:19.820 or we know all the answers

00:18:21.160 but it's a void

00:18:22.240 in us

00:18:22.900 now some people

00:18:24.180 they're not connected

00:18:25.120 they don't have that taqwa

00:18:26.220 they're not connected

00:18:26.920 to Allah

00:18:27.360 subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:18:27.880 and like the brothers

00:18:28.640 mentioned

00:18:29.200 those of us

00:18:30.360 you know

00:18:30.800 who are connected

00:18:31.480 to our deen

00:18:32.660 who are connected

00:18:33.320 to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:18:34.160 I believe

00:18:35.560 is less likely

00:18:36.960 that individual

00:18:38.140 is going to go out

00:18:39.240 and commit zina

00:18:40.200 less likely

00:18:41.520 I'm going to use the word

00:18:42.540 less likely

00:18:43.840 there may be people

00:18:45.040 out there

00:18:45.400 that portray

00:18:46.120 that they do have

00:18:47.080 that connection

00:18:47.720 and you know

00:18:48.540 like Brother Ali

00:18:49.100 mentioned before

00:18:49.820 the brother with the beard

00:18:51.200 and the Quran

00:18:51.800 and the thawb

00:18:53.080 and everything

00:18:53.600 so yeah

00:18:55.320 that's kind of my take

00:18:56.580 on that

00:18:57.780 there's a void

00:18:58.500 that people try to fill

00:19:00.440 I think

00:19:02.780 it also has a lot

00:19:04.340 to do with the company

00:19:05.420 you're surrounded by

00:19:06.380 if you have

00:19:07.600 if your social circle

00:19:09.120 is you know

00:19:10.300 it has

00:19:11.500 your friends

00:19:12.360 basically around you

00:19:13.500 are within that company

00:19:14.980 and you're influenced

00:19:16.020 by it

00:19:16.580 because it happens

00:19:17.540 there's a lot of people

00:19:18.780 that I know

00:19:19.380 you know

00:19:20.220 personally knew as well

00:19:21.120 that have been in

00:19:22.000 social

00:19:22.600 their friendships

00:19:23.600 have influenced them

00:19:24.660 to do these kind of things

00:19:25.600 they could be

00:19:26.200 the nicest person

00:19:27.220 they could be the most

00:19:28.500 you know

00:19:29.280 the person who's connected

00:19:30.300 who has the fear of Allah

00:19:31.500 who's connected to their deen

00:19:33.060 but because of their company

00:19:34.660 and their social circle

00:19:35.860 they've gone

00:19:36.500 and committed

00:19:37.300 zina

00:19:37.680 or adultery

00:19:38.760 and it's just the impact

00:19:40.540 that their friends

00:19:41.560 have had on them

00:19:42.840 so I think

00:19:43.360 your company

00:19:44.240 matters in those

00:19:45.740 in that aspect

00:19:46.940 too

00:19:47.180 people you hang around with

00:19:48.720 people you work with

00:19:49.840 etc

00:19:50.180 for me

00:19:54.520 for me

00:19:54.540 when men cheat

00:19:56.260 or

00:19:56.780 why men cheat

00:19:58.140 I would say

00:19:58.800 firstly

00:19:59.280 it's a character flaw

00:20:00.640 it's a lack of discipline

00:20:03.600 it's a lack of

00:20:05.880 deen, taqwa

00:20:07.740 all of these things

00:20:08.960 it's a lack of honesty

00:20:11.460 because

00:20:12.680 I feel like

00:20:14.400 men do

00:20:15.980 anything

00:20:16.540 but communicate

00:20:17.760 efficiently

00:20:18.600 and

00:20:19.840 the first thing

00:20:21.380 you go to do

00:20:22.080 is cheat

00:20:22.720 like

00:20:23.460 sometimes

00:20:24.560 have that

00:20:25.400 communication

00:20:26.280 have that conversation

00:20:27.480 with your spouse

00:20:28.360 to say

00:20:29.640 well

00:20:30.140 you know

00:20:30.980 you're not fulfilling

00:20:31.880 or this and this

00:20:33.100 is not going right

00:20:34.160 I need you to step

00:20:38.060 it up

00:20:38.480 or

00:20:38.860 blah blah blah

00:20:39.920 but

00:20:40.380 a lot of men

00:20:41.620 tend not to do that

00:20:42.700 they'll have

00:20:43.140 they'll say it once

00:20:44.160 or they'll speak

00:20:44.860 to their spouse once

00:20:45.960 and then

00:20:46.880 they start to

00:20:48.260 wander with their eyes

00:20:49.760 and things like that

00:20:50.540 but to me

00:20:51.420 it's a character flaw

00:20:52.540 and it definitely

00:20:54.120 shows

00:20:54.680 lack of discipline

00:20:55.660 and

00:20:56.620 for me

00:20:57.460 if a man

00:20:58.500 cheats on his wife

00:20:59.840 that man

00:21:00.900 is not to be

00:21:01.580 trusted by

00:21:02.200 other men

00:21:02.840 and you shouldn't

00:21:04.000 go into business

00:21:05.080 with a man

00:21:05.920 that cheats

00:21:06.460 on his wife

00:21:07.160 because if he has

00:21:08.300 no loyalty

00:21:09.020 to his wife

00:21:10.980 and to God

00:21:13.080 as well

00:21:13.540 because again

00:21:14.580 adultery

00:21:15.180 is a major thing

00:21:16.660 then he will

00:21:18.040 definitely have

00:21:18.860 no loyalty

00:21:19.540 to you

00:21:20.260 as a man

00:21:21.220 or to

00:21:21.780 jump into business

00:21:23.080 with him

00:21:23.620 and

00:21:25.160 to me

00:21:26.180 that's a big

00:21:27.040 red flag

00:21:27.900 big cut off

00:21:29.360 and write off

00:21:30.940 if you're cheating

00:21:31.900 on your wife

00:21:32.880 not even

00:21:33.800 going to get

00:21:34.780 a second wife

00:21:35.460 or whatever

00:21:35.840 you guys mentioned

00:21:36.960 but

00:21:37.200 if you're cheating

00:21:38.100 on your wife

00:21:38.700 committing adultery

00:21:39.660 zinner

00:21:40.060 again

00:21:41.800 I've said this

00:21:42.640 before

00:21:43.120 you're putting

00:21:44.000 firstly

00:21:44.940 the woman's

00:21:45.980 life at risk

00:21:46.800 because if you

00:21:47.860 bring her

00:21:48.320 disease

00:21:49.040 now

00:21:50.000 HIV

00:21:51.320 all of the rest

00:21:52.540 of it

00:21:52.980 then it's a big

00:21:53.900 problem

00:21:54.360 it's a big

00:21:55.440 problem

00:21:55.800 and to me

00:21:56.580 you're trying

00:21:57.000 to kill me

00:21:57.520 at this point

00:21:58.380 you've cheated

00:21:59.500 and you want

00:22:00.300 me to die

00:22:01.060 that's actually

00:22:01.540 very valid

00:22:01.900 I was hearing

00:22:02.340 a case of

00:22:02.880 it's actually rude

00:22:03.580 I was hearing

00:22:04.200 a case of

00:22:04.720 talking about

00:22:05.360 sometimes

00:22:05.840 these secret

00:22:07.320 marriages

00:22:07.800 and stuff

00:22:08.320 like that

00:22:08.780 that happen

00:22:09.420 sometimes

00:22:10.420 with brothers

00:22:10.780 who want

00:22:11.020 to get married

00:22:11.420 again

00:22:11.660 and they have

00:22:12.000 these secret

00:22:12.560 marriages

00:22:12.960 and then

00:22:13.660 what happens

00:22:14.060 is

00:22:14.300 this brother

00:22:15.480 if you think

00:22:15.860 he's actually

00:22:16.220 putting the life

00:22:16.800 of your first

00:22:17.520 wife in danger

00:22:18.080 it's actually

00:22:19.340 reality

00:22:19.720 and my teacher

00:22:21.160 he was telling

00:22:21.560 me

00:22:21.680 he was like

00:22:22.000 he's really

00:22:22.440 against this

00:22:23.040 there was one

00:22:24.000 sister

00:22:24.280 she was like

00:22:24.660 she wants to

00:22:25.520 get married

00:22:25.740 I can't remember

00:22:26.720 but she was like

00:22:27.580 you know

00:22:27.960 no

00:22:28.520 he's like

00:22:28.940 it is

00:22:29.220 like that

00:22:29.500 etc

00:22:29.760 oh no

00:22:30.540 no

00:22:30.660 this brother

00:22:31.660 came and

00:22:31.960 he was like

00:22:32.200 can you do

00:22:32.480 the nikah

00:22:32.840 I've got

00:22:33.140 this sister

00:22:33.580 and he was

00:22:34.620 like yeah

00:22:34.940 but have you

00:22:35.380 checked

00:22:35.760 if there's

00:22:37.400 any

00:22:37.560 and he's like

00:22:38.540 no no

00:22:39.080 but if my

00:22:39.400 wife finds

00:22:39.800 out

00:22:39.900 he's like

00:22:40.060 I don't

00:22:40.260 care

00:22:40.440 I'm putting

00:22:41.160 her life

00:22:41.460 in danger

00:22:41.760 if I

00:22:42.280 allowed

00:22:42.520 he's like

00:22:42.760 I refuse

00:22:43.220 to do

00:22:43.440 the nikah

00:22:43.780 because you

00:22:44.740 need to

00:22:45.020 make it

00:22:45.300 clear to her

00:22:45.580 but he's

00:22:45.760 like yeah

00:22:45.960 but see

00:22:46.500 this is where

00:22:46.900 men get

00:22:47.360 stuck a bit

00:22:47.720 they're like

00:22:47.940 yeah but

00:22:48.140 if I tell

00:22:48.540 her it's

00:22:48.760 chaos

00:22:49.120 if I don't

00:22:49.820 tell her

00:22:50.140 her life

00:22:50.620 isn't

00:22:50.860 if I tell

00:22:51.700 her my

00:22:52.000 life is

00:22:52.260 in danger

00:22:52.560 if I don't

00:22:53.340 tell her

00:22:53.540 her life

00:22:53.800 is in

00:22:53.980 danger

00:22:54.220 so the

00:22:55.000 issue is

00:22:55.520 at hand

00:22:55.940 true

00:22:56.480 but I

00:22:57.280 think in a

00:22:58.240 nutshell

00:22:58.520 why do men

00:23:00.000 cheat man

00:23:00.400 I don't know

00:23:00.680 I come from

00:23:01.240 a jahil background

00:23:01.980 like friends

00:23:03.700 etc

00:23:04.120 I've known

00:23:05.320 I've known

00:23:05.680 like men

00:23:06.240 who are

00:23:06.700 in serious

00:23:07.420 let's call

00:23:07.920 them to them

00:23:08.360 marriage is

00:23:08.900 like girlfriend

00:23:09.580 like they've been

00:23:10.080 with this girl

00:23:10.480 for like time

00:23:11.200 and they're just

00:23:12.240 they've got

00:23:12.860 clubbing

00:23:13.180 partying

00:23:13.520 etc

00:23:13.800 you see

00:23:14.660 the guy

00:23:15.120 I don't

00:23:16.480 think I

00:23:16.800 had a

00:23:17.300 friend

00:23:17.680 in

00:23:18.340 that was

00:23:19.560 loyal to

00:23:20.100 like

00:23:20.380 one way

00:23:21.340 or another

00:23:21.660 and I

00:23:22.400 think it

00:23:22.740 boils back

00:23:23.220 down to

00:23:23.680 our society

00:23:24.240 that we

00:23:24.480 live in

00:23:24.820 because as

00:23:25.900 men we

00:23:26.340 are visual

00:23:26.660 creatures

00:23:27.040 that's our

00:23:28.120 weakness

00:23:28.440 that's what

00:23:28.760 Allah

00:23:28.920 tells us

00:23:29.600 in the

00:23:29.740 Quran

00:23:29.860 to lower

00:23:30.140 our gaze

00:23:30.500 it's very

00:23:31.380 important

00:23:31.700 because we

00:23:32.020 consume

00:23:32.340 with our

00:23:32.660 eyes

00:23:32.940 and because

00:23:33.620 the greatest

00:23:34.180 weakness

00:23:34.440 for us

00:23:34.760 is the

00:23:34.940 opposite

00:23:35.120 gender

00:23:35.500 for men

00:23:36.380 I hear

00:23:37.120 certain

00:23:37.620 brothers

00:23:37.960 they're

00:23:38.640 married

00:23:38.940 God

00:23:39.420 fearing

00:23:39.740 and they

00:23:40.420 were like

00:23:40.620 bro I

00:23:40.900 didn't

00:23:41.100 lower my

00:23:41.360 gaze

00:23:43.800 I had

00:23:46.560 to go

00:23:46.780 and speak

00:23:47.040 to her

00:23:47.240 even if

00:23:47.480 it's for

00:23:47.660 second

00:23:47.840 marriage

00:23:48.060 whatever

00:23:48.260 it is

00:23:48.820 and again

00:23:50.220 I'm not

00:23:50.520 saying he

00:23:50.920 has a

00:23:51.140 justification

00:23:51.580 in that

00:23:51.860 matter

00:23:52.100 but there's

00:23:52.900 a strong

00:23:53.640 pull

00:23:54.160 and this

00:23:54.500 study

00:23:54.720 shows this

00:23:55.100 why is

00:23:55.940 there

00:23:56.060 prostitution

00:24:00.720 why is

00:24:01.360 there

00:24:01.560 men's

00:24:02.060 magazines

00:24:02.440 you don't

00:24:03.060 see a

00:24:03.720 woman

00:24:03.960 going

00:24:04.140 and saying

00:24:04.340 I want

00:24:04.640 to see

00:24:04.840 the

00:24:05.020 calves

00:24:05.260 of

00:24:05.400 this

00:24:05.560 guy

00:24:05.800 it

00:24:06.400 doesn't

00:24:06.620 exist

00:24:06.900 as men

00:24:07.380 we are

00:24:07.620 visual

00:24:07.820 creatures

00:24:08.220 and the

00:24:08.880 society

00:24:09.220 we live

00:24:09.480 in makes

00:24:09.780 it so

00:24:10.160 much

00:24:10.360 harder

00:24:10.720 on us

00:24:11.060 and we

00:24:11.680 have the

00:24:11.940 innate

00:24:12.120 desire

00:24:13.800 so what

00:24:14.620 happens

00:24:14.880 is like

00:24:15.160 you said

00:24:15.460 there are

00:24:15.780 boys

00:24:16.240 like idiots

00:24:17.200 who

00:24:17.440 and I

00:24:19.520 would say

00:24:20.000 when you

00:24:21.000 said I

00:24:21.320 wouldn't do

00:24:21.880 business

00:24:22.120 with them

00:24:22.460 I would

00:24:23.260 say nah

00:24:23.620 if I

00:24:24.140 knew a

00:24:24.520 guy who

00:24:24.880 was

00:24:25.040 disloyal

00:24:25.320 to his

00:24:25.600 wife

00:24:25.840 if he's

00:24:26.840 a

00:24:26.940 Muslim

00:24:27.200 I would

00:24:27.560 say bro

00:24:27.840 the fact

00:24:28.180 I'm not

00:24:28.380 going to

00:24:28.500 do

00:24:28.580 business

00:24:28.800 with you

00:24:29.040 is because

00:24:29.240 you violated

00:24:29.660 Allah's

00:24:30.020 laws

00:24:30.260 you don't

00:24:30.960 care about

00:24:31.160 Allah's

00:24:31.360 laws

00:24:31.460 you're

00:24:31.580 going to

00:24:31.640 care

00:24:31.740 about

00:24:31.860 mine

00:24:32.020 move

00:24:32.300 but if

00:24:33.160 I was

00:24:33.420 a

00:24:33.540 disbeliever

00:24:34.020 I would

00:24:35.560 not see

00:24:35.960 that as

00:24:36.240 a

00:24:36.300 disloyalty

00:24:43.800 I hear

00:24:44.200 that I've

00:24:45.020 been caught

00:24:45.400 with escorts

00:24:46.100 bro

00:24:46.360 literally

00:24:47.200 and I'm

00:24:47.580 thinking to

00:24:47.880 myself

00:24:48.200 like

00:24:49.040 bro why

00:24:50.340 didn't you

00:24:50.640 just go

00:24:50.980 get married

00:24:51.280 again

00:24:51.480 I don't

00:24:51.780 understand

00:24:52.340 psychology

00:24:52.780 I would

00:24:53.120 love to

00:24:53.520 know

00:24:53.740 what's

00:24:54.300 going

00:24:54.440 through

00:24:54.620 the

00:24:54.740 mind

00:24:54.920 of

00:24:55.060 these

00:24:55.200 brothers

00:24:55.460 it's

00:24:55.740 because

00:24:56.000 a lot

00:24:56.320 of men

00:24:56.720 they don't

00:24:57.200 want the

00:24:57.540 commitment

00:24:57.840 of a

00:24:58.120 second wife

00:24:58.600 financial

00:24:59.120 burdens

00:24:59.580 they want

00:25:00.160 to have

00:25:00.440 their

00:25:00.780 short term

00:25:01.540 pleasure

00:25:01.900 they don't

00:25:02.880 want that

00:25:03.500 commitment

00:25:03.880 that's

00:25:04.420 what

00:25:04.740 most guys

00:25:05.560 that's

00:25:05.880 why they

00:25:06.080 cheat

00:25:06.280 so I

00:25:06.880 don't

00:25:07.020 agree

00:25:07.320 with

00:25:07.600 men

00:25:08.200 want to

00:25:08.600 cheat

00:25:08.800 because

00:25:09.080 they're

00:25:09.240 polygamous

00:25:09.600 by nature

00:25:10.100 they just

00:25:10.400 want to

00:25:10.640 cheat

00:25:10.820 because

00:25:11.060 it's

00:25:11.240 fun

00:25:11.540 exciting

00:25:12.340 they're

00:25:13.660 hiding

00:25:13.980 escorts

00:25:14.600 are a

00:25:14.820 one time

00:25:15.220 thing

00:25:15.580 gone

00:25:16.140 you're

00:25:16.300 not going

00:25:16.500 to see

00:25:16.680 them

00:25:16.820 again

00:25:17.060 it's

00:25:17.500 easy

00:25:17.740 to do

00:25:18.120 do

00:25:18.640 what

00:25:18.740 I

00:25:18.760 mean

00:25:18.960 so

00:25:19.440 it sort

00:25:20.780 of brings

00:25:21.060 up a

00:25:21.280 question

00:25:21.560 you were

00:25:21.940 mentioning

00:25:22.260 how

00:25:22.500 you wouldn't

00:25:23.340 want to

00:25:23.560 do business

00:25:23.940 with someone

00:25:24.360 who's

00:25:24.580 cheated

00:25:25.020 or done

00:25:25.480 sinar

00:25:25.760 what if

00:25:26.680 he's

00:25:26.800 repented

00:25:27.280 what does

00:25:27.780 Allah say

00:25:29.300 about someone

00:25:29.760 who's

00:25:30.060 cheated

00:25:30.240 I'm talking

00:25:30.740 about somebody

00:25:31.720 who's actively

00:25:32.540 doing that

00:25:33.160 not someone

00:25:38.600 I would

00:25:39.860 firstly

00:25:40.400 it's hard

00:25:41.700 to tell

00:25:42.180 isn't it

00:25:42.640 like

00:25:42.980 if somebody's

00:25:43.820 actively

00:25:44.300 cheating

00:25:44.820 and doing

00:25:45.480 all these

00:25:46.000 bad things

00:25:46.580 but

00:25:46.860 obviously

00:25:47.800 if somebody's

00:25:48.480 repented

00:25:49.000 and has

00:25:49.780 changed

00:25:50.160 their ways

00:25:50.680 then of

00:25:51.100 course

00:25:51.380 it's

00:25:51.860 but again

00:25:52.680 it's still

00:25:53.560 a character

00:25:54.140 flaw

00:25:54.520 because I'll

00:25:55.220 still be

00:25:55.680 like

00:25:56.000 sideways

00:25:56.660 like

00:25:57.140 because

00:25:57.720 what if

00:25:58.100 a better

00:25:58.680 opportunity

00:25:59.320 comes up

00:25:59.900 he's always

00:26:01.860 going to

00:26:02.280 have that

00:26:02.820 inkling

00:26:03.440 to

00:26:03.800 basically

00:26:04.860 snake

00:26:05.320 you off

00:26:05.780 and then

00:26:06.140 go

00:26:06.460 and get

00:26:07.480 that better

00:26:07.980 opportunity

00:26:08.520 at the

00:26:09.020 detriment

00:26:09.380 of you

00:26:09.920 so for

00:26:10.400 me

00:26:10.640 I'm like

00:26:11.300 yeah

00:26:11.980 I would

00:26:12.360 prefer

00:26:12.760 not to

00:26:13.560 deal with

00:26:14.660 that

00:26:14.860 but

00:26:15.180 and I

00:26:15.780 understand

00:26:16.660 that men

00:26:17.380 are humans

00:26:18.480 like we're

00:26:19.000 all humans

00:26:19.640 we're all

00:26:20.080 going to

00:26:20.280 have desires

00:26:20.800 we're all

00:26:21.160 going to

00:26:21.360 have

00:26:21.580 an inkling

00:26:22.780 and I

00:26:23.240 understand

00:26:23.820 it

00:26:24.120 some men

00:26:24.740 genuinely

00:26:25.400 I don't

00:26:26.720 excuse it

00:26:27.300 I don't

00:26:27.580 condone it

00:26:28.240 but some

00:26:29.280 men genuinely

00:26:30.080 have

00:26:31.500 tried

00:26:32.520 with their

00:26:33.040 women

00:26:33.320 like they

00:26:33.840 will try

00:26:34.420 they'll try

00:26:34.940 they'll try

00:26:35.540 and the

00:26:36.860 woman is

00:26:37.340 not giving

00:26:37.980 him

00:26:38.280 his rights

00:26:39.040 and then

00:26:39.860 out of a

00:26:40.820 fluke or

00:26:41.520 a one night

00:26:42.460 stupid mistake

00:26:43.620 he will go

00:26:44.160 and make

00:26:44.860 that huge

00:26:45.980 mistake

00:26:46.520 yeah

00:26:46.820 but I also

00:26:47.900 feel like

00:26:48.580 there are

00:26:50.000 a lot of

00:26:50.420 men and

00:26:50.860 maybe you

00:26:51.380 guys can

00:26:51.780 answer this

00:26:52.340 for me

00:26:52.720 who have

00:26:53.760 this

00:26:54.280 um

00:26:55.400 like

00:26:56.780 opposite

00:26:57.760 life

00:26:58.340 where

00:26:58.700 they

00:26:59.580 their wife

00:27:00.460 at home

00:27:01.020 they don't

00:27:01.660 want her

00:27:01.980 to wear

00:27:02.260 makeup

00:27:02.580 they don't

00:27:03.140 want her

00:27:03.420 to fix

00:27:03.920 up

00:27:04.140 they want

00:27:04.480 her

00:27:04.640 to look

00:27:04.980 like

00:27:05.280 plain

00:27:05.980 Jane

00:27:06.520 but yeah

00:27:07.420 the woman

00:27:08.240 that they're

00:27:08.640 cheating with

00:27:09.320 is all

00:27:10.120 dolled up

00:27:10.620 looks good

00:27:11.320 and like

00:27:12.040 they're like

00:27:12.860 that's

00:27:13.480 how's that

00:27:14.300 meant to

00:27:14.620 make your

00:27:14.940 wife feel

00:27:15.460 when

00:27:15.820 you know

00:27:16.940 she's found

00:27:17.520 out that

00:27:17.980 you've cheated

00:27:18.680 with bloody

00:27:19.640 Sierra

00:27:20.320 or somebody

00:27:21.680 who looks

00:27:22.220 absolutely

00:27:22.740 amazing

00:27:23.120 and then you

00:27:23.740 put her

00:27:24.440 in this cage

00:27:25.120 and you

00:27:25.460 don't want

00:27:25.920 her to wear

00:27:26.320 makeup

00:27:26.600 you don't

00:27:26.980 want her

00:27:27.260 to look

00:27:27.540 good

00:27:27.800 she barely

00:27:28.600 does her

00:27:29.080 hair

00:27:29.400 she's

00:27:29.980 just

00:27:30.120 always

00:27:30.480 at home

00:27:30.960 like

00:27:31.280 it's

00:27:32.420 that can

00:27:33.260 also

00:27:33.640 force

00:27:34.460 the woman

00:27:34.860 to

00:27:35.200 now

00:27:35.920 go the

00:27:36.400 opposite

00:27:36.720 direction

00:27:37.360 that's

00:27:38.240 really

00:27:38.640 difficult

00:27:39.120 for women

00:27:39.680 to handle

00:27:40.260 sometimes

00:27:40.980 but I don't

00:27:41.640 call them

00:27:42.060 real men

00:27:42.560 to be honest

00:27:43.120 if there's

00:27:43.420 a real

00:27:43.680 man

00:27:44.020 I think

00:27:44.460 first of

00:27:44.840 we need

00:27:45.140 to have

00:27:45.520 self-control

00:27:46.280 self-control

00:27:47.440 on yourself

00:27:47.940 and the thing

00:27:48.880 is trying

00:27:49.300 to keep

00:27:49.640 yourself

00:27:50.180 away from

00:27:50.860 but if

00:27:51.660 you've got

00:27:51.940 attraction

00:27:52.440 at home

00:27:52.980 if you've

00:27:53.280 got

00:27:53.460 attraction

00:27:54.580 with your

00:27:55.040 wife

00:27:55.400 and you've

00:27:56.400 got everything

00:27:56.860 there

00:27:57.100 you will

00:27:57.400 never ever

00:27:58.020 think of

00:27:58.900 tune

00:27:59.140 but this

00:27:59.480 is what

00:27:59.680 I'm

00:27:59.760 talking

00:27:59.980 about

00:28:00.160 real

00:28:00.340 men

00:28:00.500 but there

00:28:00.940 are some

00:28:01.300 men

00:28:01.500 out there

00:28:01.880 that just

00:28:02.580 cheat

00:28:02.860 because

00:28:03.180 they can

00:28:03.760 even some

00:28:04.960 women know

00:28:05.460 about it

00:28:05.900 their wife

00:28:06.320 know about it

00:28:06.840 but they don't

00:28:07.180 do nothing

00:28:07.540 about it

00:28:07.740 I think a lot

00:28:08.160 of people

00:28:08.500 don't understand

00:28:09.280 the rules

00:28:09.800 that we have

00:28:10.500 like beautiful

00:28:11.180 rules that we

00:28:11.860 have like

00:28:12.400 if you like

00:28:13.940 to eat too

00:28:14.560 much

00:28:14.940 fast

00:28:15.600 if you like

00:28:16.860 money too

00:28:17.440 much

00:28:17.760 give from

00:28:18.620 what you

00:28:18.940 love

00:28:19.240 give

00:28:19.580 give

00:28:20.340 zakah

00:28:20.840 if you

00:28:21.880 and again

00:28:22.920 if you do

00:28:23.780 have those

00:28:24.280 strong desires

00:28:25.040 fast

00:28:25.840 pray

00:28:27.160 fast

00:28:27.840 do ibadah

00:28:28.760 calm yourself

00:28:30.260 down

00:28:30.540 it's not

00:28:30.900 every day

00:28:31.440 like

00:28:31.820 oh my

00:28:32.720 i'm gonna

00:28:33.480 go out

00:28:33.920 there

00:28:34.100 sometimes

00:28:34.720 relax

00:28:35.400 i think

00:28:36.020 sometimes

00:28:36.620 it probably

00:28:37.140 be based

00:28:37.720 on ego

00:28:38.600 as well

00:28:39.360 do you know

00:28:39.920 how you're

00:28:40.220 saying

00:28:40.360 you're

00:28:40.600 questioning

00:28:41.020 why does

00:28:41.700 not a guy

00:28:42.400 marry the other

00:28:43.440 one

00:28:43.660 maybe it's got

00:28:44.380 this ego

00:28:44.900 behind that

00:28:45.480 if he's

00:28:45.940 got going

00:28:46.440 to leave

00:28:46.940 and get

00:28:47.240 remarried

00:28:47.740 obviously

00:28:48.460 his wife

00:28:49.140 is then

00:28:49.580 gonna get

00:28:49.940 married

00:28:50.160 to someone

00:28:50.580 else

00:28:50.880 and maybe

00:28:51.260 that's

00:28:51.560 something

00:28:51.840 he can't

00:28:52.540 of course

00:28:52.920 like

00:28:53.220 this is

00:28:54.420 where

00:28:54.560 it's

00:28:54.720 the pin

00:28:55.000 line

00:28:55.220 you know

00:28:55.460 at the

00:28:55.900 end of

00:28:56.080 the day

00:28:56.220 as men

00:28:56.900 we have

00:28:57.580 the power

00:28:57.900 of talaq

00:28:58.440 because

00:28:59.500 we don't

00:28:59.940 we don't

00:29:00.180 like

00:29:00.380 no man

00:29:00.960 wants

00:29:01.260 his wife

00:29:02.100 to be

00:29:02.360 unless

00:29:02.720 he's

00:29:03.060 repulsed

00:29:03.560 by her

00:29:03.920 like

00:29:04.060 he's

00:29:04.320 had

00:29:04.720 enough

00:29:04.940 of her

00:29:05.100 that's

00:29:05.340 why

00:29:05.560 the

00:29:05.920 third

00:29:06.120 talaq

00:29:06.540 for a man

00:29:07.000 to give

00:29:07.180 a third

00:29:07.340 talaq

00:29:07.600 he's

00:29:08.140 calculating

00:29:08.600 his head

00:29:09.060 her being

00:29:10.120 with another

00:29:10.400 woman

00:29:10.600 I don't

00:29:11.220 care

00:29:11.660 move

00:29:12.160 I just

00:29:12.460 do

00:29:12.580 know

00:29:12.680 what

00:29:12.780 enough

00:29:12.920 to do

00:29:13.120 with

00:29:13.220 that

00:29:13.340 that's

00:29:14.040 why

00:29:14.300 that

00:29:14.800 protocol

00:29:15.720 is in

00:29:16.020 place

00:29:16.240 but

00:29:16.800 as

00:29:17.020 men

00:29:17.240 generally

00:29:17.940 just

00:29:18.480 disagreeing

00:29:19.020 with

00:29:19.180 sister

00:29:19.540 Amira

00:29:19.860 and

00:29:20.240 brother

00:29:20.480 sir

00:29:20.640 Taj

00:29:20.860 please

00:29:21.820 don't kill me

00:29:22.180 after

00:29:22.380 yes

00:29:22.880 it's

00:29:25.600 true

00:29:25.780 when it

00:29:26.120 comes to

00:29:26.460 cheating

00:29:26.880 a man

00:29:27.720 like I said

00:29:28.080 before

00:29:28.280 a Muslim

00:29:28.800 man

00:29:29.020 who

00:29:29.180 cheats

00:29:29.460 to me

00:29:29.960 it's

00:29:30.160 a very

00:29:30.500 low

00:29:30.960 category

00:29:31.360 man

00:29:31.640 in the

00:29:33.620 sight of

00:29:33.880 Allah

00:29:34.040 and in

00:29:34.260 front of

00:29:34.460 my

00:29:34.620 eyes

00:29:34.780 because

00:29:35.000 for

00:29:35.180 you

00:29:35.280 to

00:29:35.400 violate

00:29:35.680 look

00:29:36.140 you can

00:29:36.540 violate

00:29:36.840 a woman's

00:29:37.260 rights

00:29:37.460 that's

00:29:38.320 wrong

00:29:38.560 you've

00:29:39.020 gone

00:29:39.340 against

00:29:39.580 the

00:29:39.700 haq

00:29:39.880 you

00:29:40.420 can

00:29:40.680 but

00:29:41.300 to

00:29:41.500 violate

00:29:41.920 Allah's

00:29:42.420 law

00:29:42.660 you're

00:29:43.000 tapped

00:29:43.220 in

00:29:43.320 the

00:29:43.380 head

00:29:43.460 to me

00:29:43.680 you're

00:29:43.880 abnormal

00:29:44.360 you're

00:29:44.720 on different

00:29:45.040 planets

00:29:45.360 to violate

00:29:45.920 Allah's

00:29:46.560 law

00:29:46.760 to me

00:29:47.500 makes

00:29:47.840 you

00:29:48.000 I will

00:29:48.300 not trust

00:29:48.720 you in

00:29:49.060 anything

00:29:49.620 like you

00:29:50.000 said

00:29:50.180 like

00:29:50.740 anything

00:29:51.380 at all

00:29:51.900 but the

00:29:52.660 thing is

00:29:52.960 we as

00:29:53.620 men

00:29:53.900 we desire

00:29:54.840 multiple

00:29:55.720 women

00:29:56.060 and I

00:29:57.680 have to

00:29:58.100 say this

00:29:58.640 out

00:29:58.960 to

00:29:59.120 spokenly

00:29:59.700 why

00:29:59.980 because

00:30:00.720 this is

00:30:01.160 the

00:30:01.320 reality

00:30:01.840 the

00:30:02.120 way

00:30:03.400 us

00:30:03.920 men

00:30:04.180 are

00:30:04.520 hardwired

00:30:05.160 so

00:30:05.700 because

00:30:06.040 I

00:30:08.560 these

00:30:10.440 men

00:30:10.680 that I

00:30:10.880 used

00:30:10.980 to be

00:30:11.120 with

00:30:11.340 who

00:30:11.640 would

00:30:11.740 have

00:30:11.880 girlfriends

00:30:12.120 they were

00:30:12.300 in a

00:30:12.440 wrong

00:30:12.560 relationship

00:30:12.940 with

00:30:13.140 and

00:30:13.320 they

00:30:13.660 would

00:30:13.820 want

00:30:14.460 to

00:30:14.560 get

00:30:14.660 married

00:30:14.880 to

00:30:15.020 them

00:30:15.180 but

00:30:16.360 they

00:30:16.840 would

00:30:16.960 go

00:30:17.060 on

00:30:17.180 holiday

00:30:17.540 I'm

00:30:17.880 telling

00:30:18.180 you

00:30:18.480 the

00:30:19.040 moment

00:30:19.240 they

00:30:19.420 land

00:30:19.780 it

00:30:20.240 can't

00:30:20.460 be

00:30:20.580 all

00:30:20.840 of

00:30:20.960 them

00:30:21.140 all

00:30:21.940 of

00:30:22.160 my

00:30:22.340 friends

00:30:22.740 I

00:30:23.040 do

00:30:23.200 not

00:30:23.360 and

00:30:23.540 you

00:30:23.680 might

00:30:23.820 say

00:30:23.960 you

00:30:24.200 had

00:30:24.320 some

00:30:24.460 really

00:30:24.720 bad

00:30:24.940 friends

00:30:25.240 man

00:30:25.760 I've

00:30:26.060 had

00:30:26.160 friends

00:30:26.360 in

00:30:26.480 different

00:30:26.700 places

00:30:27.140 in

00:30:27.420 many

00:30:27.640 years

00:30:27.960 etc

00:30:28.300 there's

00:30:29.080 some

00:30:29.300 consistency

00:30:29.860 that you

00:30:30.180 see

00:30:30.320 even

00:30:30.600 my

00:30:30.800 culture

00:30:31.060 I

00:30:31.180 come

00:30:31.300 from

00:30:31.400 a

00:30:31.520 Kurdish

00:30:31.760 turkish

00:30:32.060 culture

00:30:32.320 a lot

00:30:33.580 of

00:30:33.760 men

00:30:34.280 are

00:30:34.480 distoated

00:30:34.820 their

00:30:34.980 wives

00:30:35.240 I

00:30:36.160 know

00:30:38.000 distance

00:30:38.440 uncles

00:30:38.940 this

00:30:39.160 that

00:30:39.320 bro

00:30:39.680 I'm

00:30:39.940 telling

00:30:40.180 you

00:30:40.440 they

00:30:40.960 will

00:30:41.060 either

00:30:41.220 go

00:30:41.360 to

00:30:41.480 escorts

00:30:41.860 prostitution

00:30:42.500 it's

00:30:43.480 just

00:30:43.860 and I'm

00:30:44.280 looking

00:30:44.540 that's

00:30:44.940 why

00:30:45.160 when

00:30:45.880 I

00:30:46.140 was

00:30:46.300 looking

00:30:46.520 into

00:30:46.760 Islam

00:30:47.180 and I

00:30:47.780 found

00:30:48.260 out

00:30:48.400 about

00:30:48.540 this

00:30:48.660 whole

00:30:48.800 polygamy

00:30:49.140 thing

00:30:49.460 I said

00:30:50.180 that makes

00:30:50.480 damn

00:30:51.040 perfect

00:30:51.360 sense

00:30:51.660 but to

00:30:52.180 who

00:30:52.360 not

00:30:52.860 to

00:30:53.000 this

00:30:53.200 man

00:30:53.440 who

00:30:53.560 is

00:30:53.680 promiscuous

00:30:54.200 but

00:30:54.680 a

00:30:54.900 man

00:30:55.140 who

00:30:55.280 gives

00:30:55.500 the

00:30:55.680 right

00:30:56.000 to

00:30:56.180 his

00:30:56.300 wife

00:30:56.540 and

00:30:57.060 I

00:30:57.200 see

00:30:57.420 any

00:30:57.740 man

00:30:58.060 for that

00:30:58.360 matter

00:30:58.620 who

00:30:59.140 wants

00:30:59.440 to

00:30:59.580 go get

00:30:59.820 married

00:31:00.000 which is

00:31:00.220 another

00:31:00.380 story

00:31:00.800 his

00:31:01.880 reference

00:31:02.620 and this

00:31:03.320 might be

00:31:03.580 extreme

00:31:03.900 for

00:31:04.040 anyone

00:31:04.240 I

00:31:04.820 believe

00:31:05.120 his

00:31:05.340 reference

00:31:05.700 should

00:31:05.880 be

00:31:05.980 his

00:31:06.100 first

00:31:06.300 wife

00:31:06.520 that's

00:31:07.640 how

00:31:07.860 good

00:31:08.160 your

00:31:08.460 relationship

00:31:08.960 with

00:31:09.160 your

00:31:09.280 wife

00:31:09.480 should

00:31:09.680 be

00:31:10.040 that

00:31:10.560 when

00:31:10.760 you're

00:31:10.940 getting

00:31:11.160 married

00:31:11.440 if

00:31:11.620 your

00:31:11.760 second

00:31:12.020 wife

00:31:12.220 asks

00:31:12.520 who's

00:31:12.840 your

00:31:12.940 reference

00:31:13.240 you say

00:31:13.580 my

00:31:13.760 wife

00:31:14.120 is

00:31:14.440 my

00:31:14.620 reference

00:31:15.020 I

00:31:15.640 believe

00:31:15.880 that

00:31:16.020 kind

00:31:16.260 of

00:31:16.380 men

00:31:16.520 deserve

00:31:16.780 that

00:31:16.920 but

00:31:17.120 since

00:31:17.460 we're

00:31:17.580 talking

00:31:17.740 about

00:31:17.940 cheating

00:31:18.280 men

00:31:19.020 are

00:31:19.520 just

00:31:19.700 visually

00:31:20.100 attracted

00:31:20.540 and

00:31:21.340 that

00:31:21.900 just

00:31:22.160 and

00:31:22.660 like

00:31:22.900 you said

00:31:23.100 you're

00:31:23.220 talking

00:31:23.340 about

00:31:23.500 fasting

00:31:23.800 let me

00:31:24.600 tell you

00:31:24.780 something

00:31:24.960 I don't

00:31:25.720 know what

00:31:25.980 kind

00:31:26.120 of

00:31:26.200 fasting

00:31:26.440 you

00:31:26.600 can

00:31:26.720 do

00:31:26.900 you'll

00:31:27.200 have

00:31:27.320 to

00:31:27.420 be

00:31:27.520 maybe

00:31:27.680 on

00:31:27.780 the

00:31:27.860 verge

00:31:27.980 of

00:31:28.100 starving

00:31:28.340 to

00:31:28.500 death

00:31:28.680 that

00:31:28.820 you're

00:31:28.960 like

00:31:29.060 I care

00:31:29.340 more

00:31:29.620 about

00:31:29.740 chicken

00:31:30.000 than

00:31:30.240 something

00:31:30.960 else

00:31:31.220 it

00:31:42.940 person

00:31:43.200 because

00:31:43.520 you

00:31:44.160 haven't

00:31:44.440 had

00:31:44.600 intimacy

00:31:45.060 because

00:31:45.620 if

00:31:45.780 you

00:31:45.900 did

00:31:46.140 you

00:31:46.820 know

00:31:46.940 what's

00:31:47.060 interesting

00:31:47.280 about

00:31:47.420 the

00:31:47.520 sharia

00:31:47.700 makes

00:31:48.900 sure

00:31:49.080 the

00:31:49.200 society

00:31:49.640 on a

00:31:49.960 macro

00:31:50.160 level

00:31:50.340 is

00:31:51.040 fixed

00:31:51.320 meaning

00:31:51.680 we

00:31:52.200 as

00:31:52.360 men

00:31:52.500 when we

00:31:52.700 go

00:31:52.820 outside

00:31:53.040 we

00:31:53.180 don't

00:31:53.300 see

00:31:53.440 a

00:31:53.580 chocolate

00:31:54.400 bar

00:31:54.600 with

00:31:54.760 a

00:31:54.860 half

00:31:55.040 naked

00:31:55.240 woman

00:31:55.460 thinking

00:31:55.680 what

00:31:55.880 has

00:31:56.320 the

00:31:56.460 bag

00:31:56.720 what

00:31:57.360 to do

00:31:57.540 with

00:31:57.620 this

00:31:57.740 woman

00:31:57.900 we're

00:31:58.600 not

00:31:58.760 exposed

00:31:59.220 to

00:31:59.380 that

00:31:59.520 our

00:31:59.860 sisters

00:32:00.260 are

00:32:00.520 dressed

00:32:00.700 up

00:32:00.860 properly

00:32:01.160 we don't

00:32:01.720 have

00:32:01.900 trigger

00:32:02.220 points

00:32:02.480 you get

00:32:02.780 it

00:32:03.020 and

00:32:03.420 then

00:32:03.740 if

00:32:03.980 a

00:32:04.100 man

00:32:04.200 that's

00:32:04.400 what

00:32:04.480 Allah

00:32:04.620 says

00:32:04.760 in

00:32:04.840 the

00:32:04.920 Quran

00:32:05.080 what

00:32:05.860 Allah

00:32:06.120 has

00:32:06.240 allowed

00:32:06.460 you

00:32:06.660 and

00:32:07.100 what

00:32:07.220 your

00:32:07.340 right

00:32:07.480 hand

00:32:07.580 possesses

00:32:08.060 the concubines

00:32:08.680 and after

00:32:09.640 that

00:32:09.900 anyone

00:32:10.260 that

00:32:10.520 transgresses

00:32:11.220 you're

00:32:11.540 a

00:32:12.200 transgressor

00:32:13.020 why

00:32:13.280 because

00:32:14.140 Allah

00:32:14.480 is

00:32:14.660 saying

00:32:14.820 there

00:32:15.040 is

00:32:15.180 nothing

00:32:15.520 for you

00:32:15.820 to be

00:32:16.000 triggered

00:32:16.180 off

00:32:16.420 there

00:32:17.220 is

00:32:17.360 nothing

00:32:17.700 out

00:32:17.940 there

00:32:18.060 for you

00:32:18.280 to do

00:32:18.580 now

00:32:19.200 you're

00:32:19.480 going to

00:32:19.660 commit

00:32:20.080 adultery

00:32:20.580 of course

00:32:21.280 you're

00:32:21.440 going to

00:32:21.520 get

00:32:21.620 capital

00:32:21.940 punishment

00:32:22.340 because

00:32:22.960 there's

00:32:23.240 nothing

00:32:23.580 triggering

00:32:24.000 you get

00:32:24.400 it

00:32:24.540 but

00:32:24.680 this

00:32:24.900 is

00:32:25.040 why

00:32:25.180 I

00:32:25.340 feel

00:32:25.480 like

00:32:25.740 living

00:32:26.060 here

00:32:26.440 in the

00:32:26.680 UK

00:32:27.000 in the

00:32:27.920 West

00:32:28.140 leaves

00:32:29.240 men

00:32:29.580 and

00:32:29.940 women

00:32:30.200 in a

00:32:30.640 constant

00:32:31.080 state

00:32:31.440 of

00:32:31.660 cognitive

00:32:32.140 dissonance

00:32:32.780 because

00:32:33.220 we

00:32:34.020 are

00:32:34.400 trying

00:32:34.880 to be

00:32:35.300 within

00:32:35.600 the

00:32:35.820 dean

00:32:36.080 we're

00:32:36.320 trying

00:32:36.620 to be

00:32:37.160 you know

00:32:38.080 strict

00:32:38.540 and on

00:32:39.100 the

00:32:39.220 straight

00:32:39.520 line

00:32:39.840 but yet

00:32:40.440 our

00:32:40.920 surroundings

00:32:41.500 as much

00:32:42.140 as we

00:32:42.420 try to

00:32:42.760 have

00:32:42.940 community

00:32:43.420 it's

00:32:45.280 so hard

00:32:45.700 you just

00:32:46.060 step out

00:32:46.500 your house

00:32:46.920 and

00:32:47.320 you're

00:32:48.160 tempted

00:32:49.000 as

00:32:49.560 men

00:32:51.040 you need

00:32:51.340 to

00:32:51.440 understand

00:32:51.660 the way

00:32:52.200 we are

00:32:53.580 I would

00:32:55.400 love

00:32:55.880 if there

00:32:57.520 was

00:32:57.640 this

00:32:57.920 device

00:32:58.280 where

00:32:58.480 you

00:32:58.620 could

00:32:58.780 be

00:32:59.160 in

00:32:59.360 our

00:32:59.560 shoe

00:32:59.800 for

00:33:00.500 20

00:33:01.120 seconds

00:33:01.620 bruv

00:33:01.840 and

00:33:02.300 look

00:33:02.520 we are

00:33:02.880 men

00:33:03.000 we know

00:33:03.280 yeah

00:33:03.480 look

00:33:04.020 we could

00:33:04.900 brothers can be

00:33:05.500 chilling here

00:33:05.920 a sister

00:33:07.460 can just

00:33:08.140 walk in

00:33:09.000 and say

00:33:09.720 I forgot

00:33:10.060 my bag

00:33:10.560 and walk

00:33:10.960 out

00:33:11.220 our whole

00:33:12.200 body and

00:33:12.600 demeanor

00:33:12.820 will change

00:33:13.260 bruv

00:33:13.860 you look

00:33:14.080 at a

00:33:14.260 brother

00:33:14.400 he's

00:33:14.700 looking

00:33:14.940 a bit

00:33:15.140 his shoulders

00:33:15.620 are going

00:33:15.840 a bit

00:33:16.100 he's like

00:33:16.540 what happened

00:33:16.780 to this

00:33:16.980 brother

00:33:17.120 the impact

00:33:18.580 that you

00:33:19.060 have on

00:33:19.540 us

00:33:19.700 you guys

00:33:20.260 cannot

00:33:20.700 imagine

00:33:21.840 that's

00:33:22.780 why

00:33:23.020 let me

00:33:23.980 tell you

00:33:24.280 that's

00:33:24.860 why

00:33:25.020 with men

00:33:25.520 you guys

00:33:26.280 don't

00:33:26.440 understand

00:33:27.220 the severity

00:33:27.940 I was

00:33:29.100 speaking to

00:33:29.440 one sister

00:33:30.220 she's from

00:33:30.480 Saudi

00:33:30.760 she was

00:33:32.220 laughing

00:33:32.460 she was

00:33:32.880 saying

00:33:34.620 there's

00:33:36.180 men who

00:33:36.580 get

00:33:36.860 aroused

00:33:38.140 by a

00:33:38.560 woman's

00:33:38.780 uncle

00:33:38.900 she started

00:33:39.120 laughing

00:33:39.420 and there

00:33:40.120 was

00:33:40.200 brothers

00:33:40.460 and the

00:33:41.520 brothers

00:33:41.840 is she

00:33:44.200 for real

00:33:44.500 she was

00:33:45.040 deluded

00:33:45.640 you have

00:33:47.560 no idea

00:33:47.900 you know

00:33:48.520 how you

00:33:49.620 say in

00:33:49.880 the

00:33:50.000 west

00:33:50.240 we're

00:33:51.100 quite

00:33:51.440 unfortunate

00:33:52.400 in the

00:33:52.660 sense

00:33:52.840 where

00:33:53.020 we

00:33:53.180 see

00:33:53.400 women

00:33:54.380 naked

00:33:54.720 everywhere

00:33:55.020 men

00:33:55.240 naked

00:33:55.480 everywhere

00:33:55.800 whatever

00:33:56.140 but even

00:33:57.140 in

00:33:57.340 Arab

00:33:57.580 countries

00:33:58.060 you hear

00:33:58.520 all these

00:33:58.800 stories

00:33:59.200 about

00:33:59.500 they do

00:34:01.400 it in

00:34:01.580 secret

00:34:01.920 they have

00:34:02.360 these

00:34:02.520 parties

00:34:02.920 crazy

00:34:03.740 parties

00:34:04.180 alcohol

00:34:04.560 the whole

00:34:04.960 lot

00:34:05.140 is there

00:34:05.400 so the

00:34:06.420 west

00:34:06.700 we can't

00:34:07.220 just keep

00:34:07.540 saying

00:34:07.780 the west

00:34:08.160 is bad

00:34:08.540 we can

00:34:08.980 blame

00:34:09.180 on the

00:34:09.420 west

00:34:09.640 etc

00:34:10.020 Arab

00:34:10.640 countries

00:34:11.000 are just

00:34:11.300 as worse

00:34:11.700 if not

00:34:12.160 worse

00:34:12.440 because

00:34:12.580 they're

00:34:12.720 hiding

00:34:12.940 everywhere

00:34:13.380 can I

00:34:14.100 add sister

00:34:14.860 Farzana

00:34:15.300 but do

00:34:15.840 you know

00:34:15.960 why

00:34:16.120 everywhere

00:34:16.640 yeah exactly

00:34:18.120 let me tell

00:34:20.700 you why

00:34:20.920 when you

00:34:21.980 constrict

00:34:22.500 something to

00:34:23.260 such a

00:34:23.760 level

00:34:24.020 I don't

00:34:25.100 believe

00:34:25.540 I believe

00:34:26.060 for example

00:34:26.700 interaction

00:34:28.200 with the

00:34:28.680 opposite gender

00:34:29.200 if it's

00:34:29.560 necessary

00:34:30.040 that's the

00:34:31.260 reason why

00:34:31.760 for example

00:34:32.180 when certain

00:34:32.540 people accuse

00:34:32.920 us of

00:34:33.140 free mixing

00:34:33.480 there should

00:34:34.460 be a

00:34:34.860 civilised

00:34:35.340 interaction

00:34:36.020 when you

00:34:36.900 turn like

00:34:37.400 sister

00:34:37.760 let me jump

00:34:40.180 through the

00:34:40.480 wall

00:34:40.680 she's a

00:34:42.480 human

00:34:42.720 she's a

00:34:43.580 human being

00:34:44.240 have some

00:34:45.380 adab and

00:34:45.860 akhlaab and

00:34:46.360 uslub

00:34:46.800 yeah

00:34:47.260 if you talk

00:34:48.520 to her

00:34:48.820 with an

00:34:49.080 akhlaq and

00:34:49.540 a mother

00:34:49.740 she says

00:34:50.240 our honourable

00:34:50.780 sister

00:34:51.100 bro there

00:34:52.440 are people

00:34:52.980 who would

00:34:53.280 rather go

00:34:53.740 and speak

00:34:54.140 to a

00:34:54.680 kafir woman

00:34:55.560 or a

00:34:56.460 kafir man

00:34:56.980 than a

00:34:57.560 muslim

00:34:57.820 I find it

00:34:58.600 weird

00:34:58.900 it's a

00:34:59.660 different topic

00:35:00.120 in itself

00:35:00.580 but this

00:35:01.020 is what

00:35:01.200 happens

00:35:01.460 when you

00:35:02.400 go to

00:35:02.800 extremes

00:35:03.380 bro

00:35:03.600 this is

00:35:03.880 the reason

00:35:04.140 I've

00:35:04.340 heard stuff

00:35:04.720 in

00:35:04.860 Saudi

00:35:05.060 Arabia

00:35:05.300 crazy

00:35:06.180 bro

00:35:06.480 they are

00:35:07.120 more of

00:35:07.520 an

00:35:07.640 mad

00:35:07.860 one

00:35:08.020 but anyway

00:35:09.300 what I

00:35:13.480 want to

00:35:13.740 say is

00:35:14.360 men and

00:35:15.080 women

00:35:15.320 both

00:35:15.660 cheat

00:35:16.080 we know

00:35:16.600 that

00:35:16.880 now

00:35:17.540 why is

00:35:18.200 this

00:35:18.480 the main

00:35:19.660 reason

00:35:20.300 from my

00:35:20.900 own

00:35:21.280 belief

00:35:21.700 system

00:35:22.100 I believe

00:35:22.700 is because

00:35:23.280 the soul

00:35:23.860 is not

00:35:24.220 connected

00:35:24.640 to Allah

00:35:25.060 the soul

00:35:26.240 cannot

00:35:26.540 connect

00:35:27.120 to another

00:35:27.780 human being

00:35:28.600 on that

00:35:28.980 level

00:35:29.260 what we're

00:35:29.980 looking for

00:35:30.680 you know

00:35:31.000 soulmates

00:35:31.620 and all

00:35:31.940 this

00:35:32.080 I don't

00:35:32.980 believe in

00:35:33.420 that

00:35:33.560 I think

00:35:33.940 the only

00:35:34.360 connection

00:35:34.820 you can

00:35:35.180 have of

00:35:35.500 the soul

00:35:36.020 that we're

00:35:36.700 looking for

00:35:37.180 that fulfillment

00:35:37.840 that feeling

00:35:38.980 of

00:35:39.300 you know

00:35:40.120 that feeling

00:35:41.000 we're looking

00:35:41.420 for

00:35:41.620 you can't

00:35:42.280 have that

00:35:42.700 with a

00:35:43.000 human being

00:35:43.520 you can only

00:35:44.000 have that

00:35:44.480 with Allah

00:35:44.940 subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:35:45.660 so

00:35:46.000 when we have

00:35:47.880 that connection

00:35:48.660 when we're on

00:35:49.740 our deen

00:35:50.360 that forces us

00:35:52.140 to then lower

00:35:52.980 our gaze

00:35:53.460 that forces us

00:35:54.520 to not watch

00:35:55.220 that program

00:35:55.840 that we're going

00:35:56.320 to watch

00:35:56.600 on Netflix

00:35:57.140 you will be

00:35:57.920 repulsed by that

00:35:58.960 you will be

00:35:59.680 repulsed by

00:36:00.260 all these things

00:36:00.860 I think for men

00:36:01.780 it's a very

00:36:02.300 important thing

00:36:02.920 it's self-control

00:36:04.340 and how does

00:36:04.980 that come

00:36:05.400 that comes

00:36:05.860 through that

00:36:06.440 connection

00:36:06.840 with Allah

00:36:07.420 subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:36:07.840 and our deen

00:36:09.680 teaches us

00:36:10.240 discipline

00:36:10.800 our deen is

00:36:12.020 the thing is

00:36:12.480 I work in

00:36:13.200 places that

00:36:14.700 loads of

00:36:15.100 women there

00:36:15.500 but I have

00:36:16.060 alhamdulillah

00:36:16.500 I have

00:36:16.720 self-control

00:36:17.360 so the thing

00:36:18.740 is that self-control

00:36:19.520 is very very

00:36:20.260 important for a man

00:36:21.120 it's hard to do

00:36:22.000 but we have to

00:36:23.720 self-control

00:36:25.020 and the thing

00:36:26.040 is even

00:36:26.540 when you do

00:36:27.240 something

00:36:27.900 like I'm

00:36:28.560 just saying

00:36:28.880 if I did

00:36:29.940 do something

00:36:30.500 I'll feel

00:36:31.000 guilty

00:36:31.320 because I'm

00:36:31.920 not even

00:36:32.500 just cheating

00:36:33.600 on my wife

00:36:34.100 I'm cheating

00:36:34.460 on my kids

00:36:34.900 as well

00:36:35.280 what else

00:36:36.220 would make

00:36:36.580 you feel

00:36:36.980 guilty

00:36:37.320 what other

00:36:38.620 element of

00:36:39.320 guilt is there

00:36:40.020 in that

00:36:40.260 if you remove

00:36:41.440 the one

00:36:41.760 but the thing

00:36:42.480 is like

00:36:42.940 the thing

00:36:43.540 is of course

00:36:44.400 Allah

00:36:44.740 is watching

00:36:45.200 me all the

00:36:45.640 time

00:36:45.880 but it's

00:36:46.560 that guilt

00:36:46.920 as well

00:36:47.260 that you

00:36:47.500 have to

00:36:47.720 think about

00:36:48.180 as well

00:36:48.460 so trying

00:36:49.260 to find

00:36:49.640 things

00:36:49.860 that will

00:36:50.120 stop you

00:36:50.700 from committing

00:36:51.840 that as in

00:36:52.280 looking away

00:36:53.360 or like

00:36:54.460 making the

00:36:55.020 conversation

00:36:55.440 can I ask

00:36:56.140 you a question

00:36:56.620 at what age

00:36:57.540 did you get

00:36:58.420 to that level

00:36:59.100 where that

00:37:00.180 belief system

00:37:00.920 kicked in

00:37:01.320 or were you

00:37:01.880 always like

00:37:02.580 that

00:37:02.740 well the thing

00:37:04.200 is

00:37:04.460 I think

00:37:05.440 some men

00:37:05.940 have it

00:37:06.300 in their

00:37:06.540 character

00:37:06.900 where they're

00:37:07.500 just actually

00:37:08.220 women and

00:37:09.440 men

00:37:09.680 some women

00:37:10.460 are really

00:37:11.260 once they're

00:37:12.620 married

00:37:12.900 that's it

00:37:13.420 everything's

00:37:14.140 locked off

00:37:14.500 some men

00:37:16.320 are the same

00:37:17.000 like they're

00:37:17.860 cool

00:37:18.300 they're not

00:37:18.980 hot in

00:37:20.380 their temper

00:37:20.980 so they're

00:37:22.220 just calm

00:37:22.740 and they

00:37:23.060 have that

00:37:23.520 character

00:37:23.720 it's how

00:37:23.960 they're

00:37:24.200 brought up

00:37:24.640 as well

00:37:25.000 I think

00:37:25.500 the fundamental

00:37:25.980 reason why

00:37:26.620 men cheat

00:37:27.100 is because

00:37:27.760 of porn

00:37:28.280 like generally

00:37:29.380 that is the

00:37:30.120 most people

00:37:32.120 who cheat

00:37:32.620 they'll tell

00:37:33.560 you

00:37:33.740 I ask them

00:37:34.680 have you

00:37:35.540 watched porn

00:37:35.980 do you

00:37:36.220 watch porn

00:37:36.580 regularly

00:37:36.960 they'll be like

00:37:37.560 yeah I do

00:37:37.980 but they can't

00:37:38.340 see a correlation

00:37:38.920 there

00:37:39.280 so the human

00:37:40.820 element is no

00:37:41.740 longer there

00:37:42.220 they don't see

00:37:42.860 your woman

00:37:43.180 but the funny

00:37:43.580 thing is even

00:37:44.220 if someone's

00:37:44.740 praying their

00:37:45.160 undeen

00:37:45.600 all it takes

00:37:46.680 is to look

00:37:47.080 at porn

00:37:47.400 once

00:37:47.720 and destroy

00:37:48.480 your mind

00:37:48.940 it's the

00:37:49.460 soul

00:37:49.760 connection

00:37:50.320 with Allah

00:37:51.040 that's different

00:37:52.040 the thing is

00:37:52.520 I've seen it

00:37:53.040 with a lot of

00:37:53.440 men because

00:37:53.900 they cheat

00:37:54.260 because they

00:37:54.640 can't

00:37:55.620 they can cheat

00:37:56.280 they get away

00:37:56.740 with it

00:37:57.000 some women

00:37:58.060 know that

00:37:58.500 the men cheat

00:37:59.060 but just let

00:37:59.660 him go

00:37:59.940 but this is

00:38:00.720 another thing

00:38:01.420 that when

00:38:01.840 your man

00:38:02.260 you know

00:38:02.500 your man

00:38:02.840 is cheating

00:38:03.220 you need to

00:38:03.620 put

00:38:03.780 like that's

00:38:04.740 that's it

00:38:04.880 because

00:38:05.100 he knows

00:38:05.560 he can

00:38:05.800 get away

00:38:06.100 with it

00:38:06.360 but before

00:38:07.300 we get

00:38:07.700 to that

00:38:08.060 stage

00:38:08.520 is the

00:38:08.860 communication

00:38:09.480 between the

00:38:10.160 husband and

00:38:10.760 the wife

00:38:11.120 is so important

00:38:11.960 that when

00:38:12.900 there is an

00:38:13.540 issue or

00:38:14.200 there's a

00:38:14.560 problem

00:38:14.960 yeah we

00:38:16.000 have to be

00:38:16.440 able to say

00:38:17.140 and talk to

00:38:18.140 our partner

00:38:18.580 for example

00:38:19.220 if I'm

00:38:20.220 working and

00:38:21.140 I've got a

00:38:22.160 minibus and

00:38:22.740 sometimes I

00:38:24.300 don't know who

00:38:24.660 my passengers are

00:38:25.520 and there could

00:38:25.920 be loads of

00:38:26.520 women it could

00:38:27.480 be a hot sunny

00:38:28.300 day and I'm in

00:38:29.040 the park

00:38:29.660 we can go

00:38:30.540 out anywhere

00:38:31.300 you would

00:38:32.400 always remind

00:38:33.060 and confidently

00:38:33.620 talk to my

00:38:34.160 wife and say

00:38:34.760 listen I'm

00:38:35.980 always coming

00:38:36.460 back towards

00:38:37.160 you because

00:38:37.840 you're my

00:38:38.160 wife and

00:38:38.840 you know

00:38:39.260 this is how

00:38:39.760 the reality

00:38:40.240 is I know

00:38:41.520 sometimes you

00:38:42.080 can be tired

00:38:42.780 whatever but

00:38:43.700 you need to be

00:38:44.180 able to talk

00:38:44.800 to your wife

00:38:45.520 because sometimes

00:38:46.360 she's busy

00:38:46.920 she's got kids

00:38:47.780 she's had a

00:38:48.640 whole busy

00:38:49.160 day doing

00:38:49.600 x y and

00:38:50.220 z she then

00:38:51.120 needs to do

00:38:52.000 you know

00:38:52.500 whatever she

00:38:53.060 needs to cook

00:38:53.680 and by the

00:38:54.460 time you come

00:38:55.020 home you've

00:38:55.460 got one hour

00:38:55.960 to chill

00:38:56.360 eat food

00:38:56.960 she's knocked

00:38:57.740 out in bed

00:38:58.300 and you're

00:38:58.620 just sitting

00:38:59.020 you need to

00:39:00.880 be able to

00:39:01.420 talk and if

00:39:02.420 you establish

00:39:03.100 that connection

00:39:03.880 with your wife

00:39:04.380 by talking

00:39:04.980 about the

00:39:05.420 things that

00:39:06.100 sometimes people

00:39:06.680 find shyness

00:39:08.220 to talk

00:39:08.780 depends how

00:39:11.600 you talk to

00:39:12.100 your wife

00:39:12.340 because if

00:39:12.700 you say that

00:39:13.140 to your wife

00:39:13.520 your wife

00:39:13.840 will say

00:39:14.080 why do you

00:39:14.680 feel like

00:39:15.060 that

00:39:16.060 no I

00:39:16.700 just say

00:39:17.080 you can only

00:39:17.560 pick up

00:39:17.880 the elderly

00:39:18.040 I think

00:39:18.200 sometimes

00:39:18.520 like I said

00:39:19.060 it's about

00:39:19.400 maturity

00:39:19.800 I'll just

00:39:20.240 say you

00:39:20.520 can only

00:39:20.880 pick up

00:39:21.220 the elderly

00:39:21.760 it could be

00:39:25.280 anything

00:39:25.720 I'm talking

00:39:26.200 about going

00:39:26.500 to the park

00:39:27.100 but whatever

00:39:27.840 it is that

00:39:28.260 you people

00:39:28.600 do

00:39:28.900 you understand

00:39:29.920 some people

00:39:30.580 have professions

00:39:31.420 like taxi

00:39:32.180 drivers

00:39:32.580 and they're

00:39:33.260 one on one

00:39:33.840 in a taxi

00:39:35.020 car for example

00:39:35.620 you're sitting

00:39:36.500 in work

00:39:36.980 in a call

00:39:38.140 centre

00:39:38.540 and there's

00:39:39.280 lots of

00:39:39.620 people

00:39:39.900 I know

00:39:40.340 incidents

00:39:41.040 like my

00:39:41.520 wife

00:39:41.940 when I got

00:39:43.120 married to her

00:39:43.580 I said

00:39:43.780 they ain't

00:39:44.060 no working

00:39:44.500 for you

00:39:44.900 but when she

00:39:45.900 was working

00:39:46.580 she was telling

00:39:47.100 me incidents

00:39:47.740 in her

00:39:48.200 workplace

00:39:48.740 in Tower

00:39:49.600 Hamlets

00:39:49.940 Council

00:39:50.320 where Muslims

00:39:51.420 are cheating

00:39:52.480 on their

00:39:53.200 partners

00:39:53.720 with the guy

00:39:54.660 that they're

00:39:55.040 working with

00:39:55.680 you understand

00:39:56.860 so why

00:39:57.820 put yourself

00:39:58.380 in that

00:39:58.780 environment

00:39:59.220 and that's

00:39:59.620 where it

00:39:59.900 boils

00:40:00.060 up

00:40:00.140 you say

00:40:00.400 taco

00:40:00.700 at the

00:40:01.000 same

00:40:01.180 time

00:40:01.580 but at the

00:40:02.300 same time

00:40:02.760 why put

00:40:03.500 people in

00:40:04.580 that situation

00:40:05.560 where cheating

00:40:06.360 can take place

00:40:07.280 so you have

00:40:08.920 to have a

00:40:09.400 balance of

00:40:09.840 everything

00:40:10.200 what would

00:40:12.520 you guys

00:40:12.880 class as

00:40:13.600 so same

00:40:14.900 thing we

00:40:15.260 discussed

00:40:15.640 when we

00:40:16.160 said why

00:40:16.500 women cheat

00:40:17.060 there's two

00:40:17.920 ways of

00:40:18.700 doing it

00:40:19.080 sort of

00:40:19.840 physical

00:40:20.320 cheating

00:40:20.740 everyone can

00:40:21.660 say that's

00:40:21.960 cheating

00:40:22.180 physically doing

00:40:23.020 something

00:40:23.360 but also

00:40:23.960 emotional

00:40:24.460 and when I

00:40:26.220 say emotional

00:40:26.680 I mean

00:40:26.940 it could be

00:40:27.400 flirting

00:40:27.780 engaging

00:40:28.620 entertaining

00:40:29.140 other women

00:40:29.720 you only engage

00:40:30.980 women if it's

00:40:31.540 a necessity

00:40:32.060 anything outside

00:40:33.540 of that

00:40:34.040 if you're

00:40:34.520 flirting with

00:40:34.940 them

00:40:35.100 discussing

00:40:35.640 this and

00:40:36.020 that

00:40:36.200 I feel

00:40:36.920 last

00:40:37.080 cheating

00:40:37.360 I want

00:40:38.040 to be

00:40:38.240 with

00:40:38.980 a

00:40:39.060 girl's

00:40:41.060 picture

00:40:41.360 is that

00:40:41.660 cheating

00:40:41.940 why would

00:40:43.140 you need

00:40:43.320 to like

00:40:43.560 another

00:40:43.740 girl's

00:40:44.000 picture

00:40:44.120 it doesn't

00:40:44.440 make sense

00:40:44.780 that's a form

00:40:46.460 of disloyalty

00:40:46.940 men don't

00:40:47.360 cheat

00:40:47.500 emotionally

00:40:47.880 women cheat

00:40:48.300 emotionally

00:40:48.540 as a man

00:40:50.300 I don't have

00:40:50.540 any emotional

00:40:51.020 needs

00:40:51.320 no man says

00:40:52.280 I'm emotional

00:40:52.860 men don't

00:40:53.600 cheat

00:40:53.800 it's very

00:40:54.980 simple

00:40:55.180 we're very

00:40:55.840 straight to the

00:40:56.560 point

00:40:56.720 we treat

00:40:57.420 because of

00:40:57.720 desires

00:40:58.160 a man

00:40:59.020 is bored

00:40:59.600 of his

00:40:59.800 wife

00:41:00.120 he doesn't

00:41:01.180 like pornography

00:41:02.180 not lowering

00:41:02.980 the gaze

00:41:03.460 fundamental key

00:41:04.560 aspects here

00:41:05.200 that's what

00:41:05.660 they cheat

00:41:06.020 and cheating

00:41:06.500 is for

00:41:07.140 example

00:41:07.480 that a

00:41:07.920 Muslim

00:41:08.440 man

00:41:08.680 who's

00:41:08.860 God

00:41:09.040 fearing

00:41:09.360 that he

00:41:10.680 can have

00:41:10.960 an option

00:41:11.260 of getting

00:41:11.500 married

00:41:11.740 again

00:41:12.020 chooses to

00:41:12.660 go and

00:41:13.520 sleep

00:41:13.920 like

00:41:14.180 commits

00:41:14.540 zinnah

00:41:15.160 that's

00:41:16.040 cheating

00:41:16.680 he could

00:41:20.600 have had

00:41:20.920 a problem

00:41:21.540 from

00:41:22.020 he needs

00:41:22.420 to fix

00:41:22.680 that

00:41:22.820 problem

00:41:23.080 bro

00:41:23.240 I know

00:41:23.440 that

00:41:24.240 I'm saying

00:41:24.960 sometimes

00:41:25.240 people have

00:41:25.660 to

00:41:25.740 recognize

00:41:26.020 that

00:41:26.260 and that

00:41:26.700 sometimes

00:41:27.220 and it's

00:41:27.700 unfair for

00:41:28.340 the woman

00:41:29.080 that sometimes

00:41:29.960 we don't

00:41:30.720 know

00:41:31.140 who we've

00:41:32.280 got married

00:41:32.740 to

00:41:32.960 people want

00:41:33.720 to hide

00:41:34.220 the bad

00:41:34.860 and the

00:41:35.240 flaws

00:41:35.560 exactly

00:41:36.080 they might

00:41:36.480 have been

00:41:36.780 addicted to

00:41:37.760 porn

00:41:37.960 they might

00:41:38.320 have been

00:41:38.800 having loads

00:41:39.600 of girls

00:41:39.960 and now

00:41:40.300 they want

00:41:40.620 to change

00:41:41.240 yeah

00:41:41.540 you know

00:41:42.660 now they

00:41:43.000 want to

00:41:43.400 change

00:41:43.780 and they're

00:41:44.860 probably still

00:41:45.600 on that

00:41:45.940 stage of

00:41:46.420 working it

00:41:46.900 out

00:41:46.980 I tell

00:41:48.820 any

00:41:49.020 revert

00:41:49.340 brother

00:41:49.620 specifically

00:41:50.140 brothers

00:41:50.540 when they

00:41:51.260 come to

00:41:51.560 islam

00:41:51.920 you need

00:41:52.220 to detox

00:41:52.560 forget marriage

00:41:53.060 for a good

00:41:53.400 couple of

00:41:53.740 years

00:41:53.960 because you're

00:41:54.520 coming from

00:41:54.880 mad jahiliya

00:41:55.700 if you live

00:41:56.340 that club

00:41:56.680 in partying

00:41:57.200 bro you

00:41:57.800 are used

00:41:58.240 in your

00:41:58.600 system

00:41:59.040 to be

00:41:59.320 speaking

00:41:59.520 to multiple

00:41:59.900 girls

00:42:00.120 the left

00:42:00.420 bro lowering

00:42:01.360 the gaze

00:42:01.840 is not even

00:42:02.380 a

00:42:02.540 this concept

00:42:04.860 of lowering

00:42:05.220 the gaze

00:42:05.400 before I came

00:42:05.720 to islam

00:42:06.100 what do you

00:42:06.820 mean lowering

00:42:07.120 the gaze

00:42:07.440 you don't

00:42:08.140 know nothing

00:42:08.420 about it

00:42:08.600 some people

00:42:09.160 got married

00:42:09.960 in that

00:42:10.300 situation

00:42:13.780 there's a

00:42:14.100 slight

00:42:14.360 contradiction

00:42:15.060 because in

00:42:16.040 the previous

00:42:16.520 episode we

00:42:17.260 were talking

00:42:17.580 about men

00:42:18.100 have emotions

00:42:18.840 now I want

00:42:19.920 you to explain

00:42:20.700 okay a man

00:42:21.740 is not

00:42:22.080 emotionally

00:42:22.520 connected

00:42:23.100 to that

00:42:24.140 a man

00:42:24.920 is not

00:42:25.220 emotionally

00:42:25.680 connected

00:42:26.140 to that

00:42:26.480 woman

00:42:26.700 which I

00:42:27.020 believe so

00:42:27.560 yes

00:42:27.840 yeah a man

00:42:28.360 can have

00:42:28.700 a relationship

00:42:29.160 but there's

00:42:29.620 no emotional

00:42:30.200 connection

00:42:30.700 he's connected

00:42:31.620 emotionally

00:42:32.060 to his wife

00:42:32.820 but then

00:42:33.740 at the same

00:42:34.540 time you're

00:42:35.220 saying that

00:42:35.600 men are

00:42:35.980 emotional

00:42:36.460 so can you

00:42:37.180 answer that

00:42:37.580 question

00:42:37.900 okay so

00:42:38.060 when we

00:42:38.540 talk about

00:42:38.860 now how

00:42:39.800 do we

00:42:40.580 we don't

00:42:40.900 emotionally

00:42:41.280 cheat

00:42:41.540 so

00:42:43.160 when you

00:42:43.980 say

00:42:44.280 emotional

00:42:45.280 obviously

00:42:46.160 I know

00:42:46.820 on a deeper

00:42:47.300 level

00:42:47.560 there's many

00:42:48.700 reasons

00:42:49.260 for it

00:42:49.880 but can

00:42:51.360 you explain

00:42:52.000 to our

00:42:53.040 viewers

00:42:53.540 that what

00:42:55.140 is the

00:42:55.520 difference

00:42:55.820 between not

00:42:56.360 having that

00:42:56.940 emotion

00:42:57.540 can you

00:42:57.960 give your

00:42:58.140 question

00:42:58.360 so I

00:42:58.580 understand

00:42:58.800 sorry if

00:42:59.360 you cheat

00:42:59.840 that's an

00:43:00.240 emotional

00:43:00.660 response

00:43:01.340 that's

00:43:01.960 emotional

00:43:02.420 period

00:43:02.780 that's to

00:43:03.740 you

00:43:03.860 he's talking

00:43:05.700 about emotionally

00:43:06.520 cheating

00:43:07.000 so for

00:43:07.720 example

00:43:08.080 if I'm

00:43:09.260 flirting with

00:43:09.700 a girl on

00:43:10.180 Instagram

00:43:10.460 can I say

00:43:12.440 I know

00:43:13.000 men

00:43:13.700 I know

00:43:14.160 men

00:43:14.380 in Jahiliya

00:43:14.960 who would

00:43:15.360 go and

00:43:15.880 be with

00:43:16.260 multiple

00:43:16.540 women

00:43:16.840 and it

00:43:17.600 means

00:43:17.880 it's like

00:43:18.180 you know

00:43:18.320 what it is

00:43:18.560 it's like

00:43:18.760 drinking

00:43:18.960 water

00:43:19.180 you just

00:43:19.940 drink it

00:43:20.360 and it

00:43:20.700 means nothing

00:43:21.160 to you

00:43:21.520 yeah

00:43:21.700 yeah

00:43:22.100 zero

00:43:22.500 I'm not

00:43:25.100 saying a

00:43:25.540 connection

00:43:25.980 but it's

00:43:26.500 still an

00:43:26.880 emotional

00:43:27.240 response

00:43:27.700 yeah

00:43:27.860 exactly

00:43:28.300 to say

00:43:29.920 that you

00:43:30.340 you're

00:43:31.260 now going

00:43:32.000 to cheat

00:43:32.480 even if

00:43:33.040 you have

00:43:33.340 no

00:43:33.540 connection

00:43:33.920 to the

00:43:34.300 woman

00:43:34.580 yes

00:43:34.920 what

00:43:35.200 you've

00:43:35.460 done

00:43:35.640 is an

00:43:35.980 emotional

00:43:36.460 response

00:43:36.720 no problem

00:43:37.080 if it's

00:43:37.520 an emotional

00:43:37.820 response

00:43:38.280 what I'm

00:43:39.080 seeing is

00:43:39.440 a man

00:43:40.260 let me

00:43:40.700 make this

00:43:40.920 very clear

00:43:41.220 please tell

00:43:41.540 me if

00:43:41.740 I'm wrong

00:43:42.000 a man

00:43:42.980 could go

00:43:43.480 and be

00:43:43.900 intimate

00:43:44.340 with another

00:43:45.000 woman

00:43:45.280 and it

00:43:46.380 can mean

00:43:47.020 zero

00:43:47.660 to him

00:43:48.020 it's like

00:43:49.080 he went

00:43:49.820 he said

00:43:50.800 yeah I

00:43:51.040 just kicked

00:43:51.400 the ball

00:43:51.740 and I

00:43:52.060 came back

00:43:52.500 it means

00:43:53.340 nothing to

00:43:54.220 him

00:43:54.420 not for

00:43:55.160 a woman

00:43:55.420 when a

00:43:56.080 woman

00:43:56.360 does that

00:43:57.000 she's

00:43:57.340 gone

00:43:57.540 past

00:43:57.860 beyond

00:43:58.280 that

00:43:58.480 stage

00:43:58.760 of

00:43:59.000 her

00:43:59.240 husband

00:43:59.460 is

00:43:59.640 dead

00:43:59.820 in

00:43:59.940 her eyes

00:44:00.140 because

00:44:00.400 the

00:44:00.780 respect

00:44:01.140 has been

00:44:01.380 lost

00:44:01.520 in a

00:44:01.940 modest

00:44:02.540 in

00:44:02.680 higher

00:44:02.860 she

00:44:03.320 doesn't

00:44:03.500 even

00:44:03.620 think

00:44:03.840 of

00:44:04.000 that

00:44:04.140 that's

00:44:09.440 for her

00:44:09.820 husband

00:44:10.120 long

00:44:10.480 time

00:44:10.700 ago

00:44:10.880 she

00:44:11.500 left

00:44:11.940 her

00:44:12.620 time

00:44:13.320 ago

00:44:13.600 she's

00:44:14.120 just

00:44:14.260 acting

00:44:14.580 up

00:44:14.840 on

00:44:14.960 that

00:44:15.120 now

00:44:15.420 so

00:44:15.800 the way

00:44:16.220 that's

00:44:16.500 why

00:44:16.620 in the

00:44:16.840 last

00:44:17.020 episode

00:44:17.280 we said

00:44:17.600 women

00:44:17.820 emotionally

00:44:18.460 when they

00:44:19.060 are

00:44:19.140 neglected

00:44:19.580 they

00:44:20.040 cheat

00:44:20.420 but

00:44:21.000 then it

00:44:21.360 can

00:44:21.520 become

00:44:21.780 physical

00:44:22.160 but it

00:44:22.620 doesn't

00:44:22.760 need to

00:44:22.940 become

00:44:23.120 physical

00:44:23.340 they

00:44:23.500 can

00:44:23.620 say

00:44:23.720 you

00:44:23.840 know

00:44:23.940 what

00:44:24.060 I

00:44:24.140 get

00:44:24.240 my

00:44:24.360 emotional

00:44:24.780 satisfaction

00:44:25.540 from

00:44:25.840 this

00:44:26.020 guy

00:44:26.220 at

00:44:26.360 work

00:44:26.660 and

00:44:27.060 at

00:44:27.200 home

00:44:27.360 I

00:44:27.460 get

00:44:27.560 my

00:44:27.680 intimacy

00:44:27.960 from

00:44:28.200 my

00:44:28.360 husband

00:44:28.640 that's

00:44:29.160 why

00:44:39.440 connected

00:44:40.000 to

00:44:40.540 that

00:44:40.720 woman

00:44:40.920 that

00:44:41.080 he

00:44:41.240 cheats

00:44:41.440 with

00:44:41.600 so

00:44:43.000 how

00:44:44.160 is that

00:44:44.480 different

00:44:44.800 to a

00:44:45.200 man

00:44:45.360 having

00:44:45.780 emotions

00:44:46.300 so

00:44:46.620 now

00:44:46.860 you're

00:44:47.080 saying

00:44:47.200 a

00:44:47.360 man

00:44:47.500 does

00:44:47.760 have

00:44:47.960 emotions

00:44:48.380 but

00:44:48.640 then

00:44:48.880 when

00:44:49.180 he's

00:44:49.440 connected

00:44:49.840 with

00:44:50.120 that

00:44:50.260 women

00:44:50.520 how

00:44:50.960 can

00:44:51.160 he

00:44:51.280 just

00:44:51.440 set

00:44:51.640 his

00:44:51.800 emotions

00:44:52.220 aside

00:44:52.680 okay

00:44:53.260 so

00:44:53.480 as

00:44:53.880 men

00:44:54.160 what

00:44:54.600 we

00:44:54.760 say

00:44:54.960 is

00:44:55.080 that

00:44:55.200 for

00:44:55.340 example

00:44:55.640 when

00:44:55.840 we

00:44:55.960 discussed

00:44:56.280 about

00:44:56.500 if

00:44:56.680 our

00:44:56.800 wife

00:44:57.020 has

00:44:57.160 given

00:44:57.340 birth

00:44:57.680 and

00:44:58.200 she

00:44:58.400 says

00:44:58.580 some

00:44:58.720 really

00:44:58.900 harsh

00:44:59.120 stuff

00:44:59.300 to

00:44:59.460 us

00:44:59.600 we

00:44:59.740 say

00:44:59.880 we're

00:45:00.060 mentally

00:45:00.360 weaker

00:45:00.720 that

00:45:01.240 can

00:45:01.400 bother

00:45:01.580 us

00:45:01.740 that

00:45:01.860 can

00:45:02.000 hurt

00:45:02.160 us

00:45:02.280 we're

00:45:02.380 human

00:45:02.580 beings

00:45:02.960 however

00:45:04.020 we

00:45:04.660 are

00:45:04.820 also

00:45:05.080 transformers

00:45:05.740 we

00:45:05.900 transform

00:45:06.240 you know

00:45:06.460 like

00:45:06.600 the

00:45:06.960 machine

00:45:07.480 the car

00:45:07.760 turns

00:45:07.920 into

00:45:08.060 a

00:45:08.160 thing

00:45:08.300 we

00:45:08.920 do

00:45:09.520 not

00:45:09.860 use

00:45:10.400 that

00:45:10.560 or

00:45:10.720 carry

00:45:11.000 that

00:45:11.200 on

00:45:11.440 to

00:45:11.560 like

00:45:11.780 for

00:45:12.120 example

00:45:12.320 if

00:45:12.440 a

00:45:12.540 brother

00:45:12.740 is

00:45:13.320 being

00:45:13.560 like

00:45:13.940 his

00:45:14.300 wife

00:45:14.520 is

00:45:14.620 giving

00:45:14.760 a bit

00:45:14.960 of a

00:45:15.120 slack

00:45:15.280 we

00:45:15.460 all

00:45:15.660 get

00:45:15.820 that

00:45:16.080 yeah

00:45:16.300 if

00:45:16.780 any

00:45:16.980 man

00:45:17.200 thinks

00:45:17.640 that

00:45:17.760 he's

00:45:17.880 going

00:45:18.000 to

00:45:18.080 go

00:45:18.180 to

00:45:18.320 another

00:45:18.540 woman

00:45:18.740 it's

00:45:18.940 going

00:45:19.020 to

00:45:19.040 be

00:45:19.140 resolved

00:45:19.380 you're

00:45:19.580 an

00:45:19.700 absolute

00:45:20.000 idiot

00:45:20.380 you're

00:45:21.000 a

00:45:21.120 child

00:45:21.420 we

00:45:21.980 say

00:45:22.280 that

00:45:22.420 when

00:45:22.560 that

00:45:22.760 happens

00:45:23.200 that

00:45:23.480 bothers

00:45:23.780 us

00:45:24.100 but

00:45:24.880 when

00:45:25.420 we

00:45:25.720 are

00:45:26.100 arguing

00:45:26.460 that

00:45:26.600 if

00:45:26.700 a

00:45:26.840 man

00:45:27.000 wants

00:45:27.220 to

00:45:27.380 go

00:45:27.560 and

00:45:27.740 have

00:45:27.880 a

00:45:27.980 second

00:45:28.180 wife

00:45:28.460 and

00:45:29.160 or

00:45:29.300 he

00:45:29.400 wants

00:45:29.580 to

00:45:29.720 go

00:45:29.880 and

00:45:30.060 cheat

00:45:30.340 there's

00:45:33.160 a

00:45:33.200 disconnection

00:45:33.840 in the

00:45:34.040 sense

00:45:34.200 because

00:45:34.400 he's

00:45:34.620 thinking

00:45:34.820 I

00:45:35.360 want

00:45:35.620 intimate

00:45:35.980 for

00:45:36.160 example

00:45:36.600 sorry

00:45:37.900 to

00:45:38.080 get

00:45:38.560 into

00:45:38.700 detail

00:45:39.020 my

00:45:39.580 wife

00:45:39.840 I'm

00:45:40.680 not

00:45:40.780 talking

00:45:40.900 with

00:45:41.000 my

00:45:41.120 wife

00:45:41.260 I'm

00:45:41.400 saying

00:45:41.540 this

00:45:41.680 man

00:45:41.840 imagine

00:45:42.100 him

00:45:42.480 saying

00:45:42.680 I'm

00:45:43.320 happy

00:45:43.460 with

00:45:43.600 my

00:45:43.740 wife

00:45:43.940 but

00:45:44.100 there's

00:45:44.320 this

00:45:44.460 other

00:45:44.680 woman

00:45:44.980 her

00:45:45.540 eyes

00:45:46.000 or

00:45:46.520 her

00:45:46.780 leg

00:45:47.220 or

00:45:47.460 whatever

00:45:47.800 other

00:45:48.100 body

00:45:48.320 part

00:45:48.620 I

00:46:10.780 that's

00:46:12.420 the

00:46:12.560 reason

00:46:12.820 why

00:46:13.040 Allah

00:46:13.320 tells

00:46:13.600 a

00:46:13.700 woman

00:46:13.820 to

00:46:14.040 cover

00:46:14.280 up

00:46:14.560 so

00:46:17.120 we

00:46:17.360 don't

00:46:17.580 fall

00:46:17.820 in

00:46:17.960 love

00:46:18.120 the

00:46:18.260 wrong

00:46:18.420 way

00:46:18.600 not

00:46:18.820 love

00:46:19.100 fall

00:46:19.560 in

00:46:19.720 love

00:46:20.020 lust

00:46:20.760 the

00:46:21.020 wrong

00:46:21.460 way

00:46:21.660 because

00:46:22.020 it

00:46:22.180 protects

00:46:22.480 you

00:46:22.600 and

00:46:22.680 it

00:46:22.760 protects

00:46:23.020 me

00:46:23.220 because

00:46:23.540 when

00:46:23.680 you're

00:46:23.820 covered

00:46:23.980 I'm

00:46:24.180 speaking

00:46:24.440 to

00:46:24.700 you

00:46:25.040 not

00:46:25.380 speaking

00:46:25.600 to

00:46:25.740 something

00:46:25.960 else

00:46:26.280 so

00:46:27.440 a

00:46:27.760 man's

00:46:28.120 main

00:46:28.300 drive

00:46:28.540 is

00:46:28.700 primitive

00:46:29.100 brain

00:46:29.540 this

00:46:30.720 is

00:46:30.860 the

00:46:30.940 reason

00:46:31.080 I

00:46:31.240 believe

00:46:31.400 men

00:46:31.600 cheat

00:46:31.740 because

00:46:32.120 to

00:46:32.640 us

00:46:33.000 the

00:46:33.640 way

00:46:33.800 we

00:46:33.960 are

00:46:34.080 programmed

00:46:34.460 and

00:46:35.380 wired

00:46:35.760 is

00:46:36.220 we

00:46:36.460 want

00:46:36.860 its

00:46:37.140 reproduction

00:46:37.780 and

00:46:38.440 also

00:46:38.960 having

00:46:39.260 variety

00:46:39.880 so

00:46:40.420 because

00:46:40.740 of

00:46:41.000 that

00:46:41.260 to

00:46:41.480 us

00:46:41.720 it's

00:46:41.860 very

00:46:42.020 that's

00:46:42.360 why

00:46:42.620 I

00:46:43.180 say

00:46:43.500 polygamy

00:46:44.160 has

00:46:44.640 sent

00:46:44.900 to

00:46:45.100 protect

00:46:45.440 the

00:46:45.700 woman

00:46:45.960 because

00:46:46.540 a

00:46:46.780 man

00:46:46.920 has

00:46:47.140 this

00:46:47.360 animal

00:46:47.700 instinct

00:46:48.100 where

00:46:48.260 Allah

00:46:48.460 says

00:46:48.740 hold

00:46:49.440 your

00:46:49.580 horses

00:46:49.800 if

00:46:50.780 you

00:46:51.020 are

00:46:51.340 going

00:46:51.580 to

00:46:51.780 do

00:46:51.960 it

00:46:52.180 here's

00:46:52.840 the

00:46:53.060 ask

00:46:53.680 a

00:46:53.840 hand

00:46:54.120 marriage

00:46:54.580 and

00:46:54.760 he's

00:46:54.900 thinking

00:46:55.160 I'm

00:46:55.800 primitive

00:46:56.080 I'm

00:46:56.280 just

00:46:56.420 like

00:46:56.860 an

00:46:56.960 animal

00:46:57.140 then

00:46:58.180 you

00:46:58.340 stay

00:46:58.480 as

00:46:58.580 an

00:46:58.680 animal

00:46:58.920 if

00:46:59.380 you

00:46:59.480 want

00:46:59.640 to

00:46:59.740 do

00:46:59.880 it

00:46:59.980 like

00:47:00.160 a

00:47:00.300 human

00:47:00.520 being

00:47:00.960 here's

00:47:01.680 the

00:47:01.820 protocol

00:47:02.280 so

00:47:02.740 that's

00:47:03.060 why

00:47:03.160 I

00:47:03.300 believe

00:47:03.520 polygamy

00:47:03.940 protects

00:47:04.460 the

00:47:04.640 woman

00:47:04.840 but

00:47:05.360 because

00:47:05.700 we

00:47:05.860 don't

00:47:05.980 have

00:47:06.120 the

00:47:06.240 element

00:47:06.480 and

00:47:06.640 there's

00:47:06.780 a

00:47:06.880 whole

00:47:07.020 about

00:47:07.480 it

00:47:07.600 it's

00:47:07.700 a

00:47:07.740 different

00:47:07.900 story

00:47:08.220 men

00:47:09.020 go

00:47:09.240 down

00:47:09.400 the

00:47:09.540 route

00:47:09.720 of

00:47:09.860 doing

00:47:10.100 it

00:47:10.200 in

00:47:10.300 an

00:47:10.440 animal

00:47:10.640 instinct

00:47:10.980 so

00:47:11.180 how can

00:47:12.200 they

00:47:12.340 control

00:47:12.700 that

00:47:12.940 okay

00:47:13.200 good

00:47:13.400 so

00:47:13.560 what

00:47:26.080 don't

00:47:26.560 think

00:47:26.720 about

00:47:26.880 marriage

00:47:27.060 for

00:47:27.180 two

00:47:27.400 years

00:47:27.640 you

00:47:28.140 have

00:47:28.400 to

00:47:28.520 go

00:47:28.620 through

00:47:28.800 rehab

00:47:29.160 detox

00:47:29.520 because

00:47:30.100 you

00:47:30.220 don't

00:47:30.320 know

00:47:30.380 what

00:47:30.480 law

00:47:30.580 in

00:47:30.660 the

00:47:30.740 gate

00:47:30.860 is

00:47:31.060 you

00:47:31.420 chat

00:47:31.660 to

00:47:31.840 left

00:47:32.180 right

00:47:32.380 center

00:47:32.600 women

00:47:33.160 everywhere

00:47:33.540 you

00:47:34.200 have

00:47:34.720 been

00:47:34.980 with

00:47:35.340 multiple

00:47:35.700 women

00:47:36.020 bro

00:47:36.260 how

00:47:36.820 are you

00:47:36.940 going

00:47:37.060 to

00:47:37.140 come

00:47:37.300 yes

00:47:37.440 in

00:47:37.560 Islam

00:47:37.780 he

00:47:37.900 allows

00:47:38.100 you

00:47:38.220 four

00:47:38.400 wives

00:47:38.660 but

00:47:39.120 I

00:47:39.740 am

00:47:39.860 pro

00:47:40.040 polygamy

00:47:40.500 but I

00:47:41.660 will never

00:47:42.300 ever tell

00:47:42.980 a brother

00:47:43.340 who's

00:47:43.600 come to

00:47:43.880 Islam

00:47:44.220 your

00:47:44.620 solution

00:47:44.940 is

00:47:45.060 four

00:47:45.200 wives

00:47:45.460 I

00:47:45.820 say

00:47:45.940 you

00:47:46.080 got

00:47:46.240 a

00:47:46.380 disease

00:47:46.660 in

00:47:46.840 the

00:47:46.960 heart

00:47:47.200 fix

00:47:47.980 the

00:47:48.160 disease

00:47:48.400 in

00:47:48.560 the

00:47:48.660 heart

00:47:48.840 you

00:47:49.080 need

00:47:49.240 to

00:47:49.340 detox

00:47:49.680 stop

00:47:50.100 watching

00:47:50.260 pornography

00:47:50.680 stop

00:47:51.100 talking

00:47:51.320 to

00:47:51.460 women

00:47:51.680 once

00:47:52.420 you've

00:47:52.660 done

00:47:52.820 that

00:47:53.080 build

00:47:53.940 a level

00:47:54.260 of

00:47:54.420 taqwa

00:47:54.760 you pray

00:47:55.500 your

00:47:55.700 salah

00:47:55.920 you

00:47:56.120 fast

00:47:56.440 you

00:47:56.660 give

00:47:56.840 your

00:47:56.940 charity

00:47:57.300 then

00:47:58.240 once

00:47:59.220 you

00:47:59.340 do

00:47:59.440 that

00:47:59.620 I

00:47:59.860 know

00:48:00.020 some

00:48:00.180 brothers

00:48:00.380 who say

00:48:00.600 you know

00:48:00.800 what bro

00:48:01.100 I'm

00:48:01.860 okay

00:48:02.020 with one

00:48:02.300 wife

00:48:02.540 because

00:48:03.080 you've

00:48:03.480 cleansed

00:48:04.000 your

00:48:04.140 inner

00:48:04.340 disease

00:48:04.760 no

00:48:05.400 woman

00:48:05.740 you

00:48:05.900 could

00:48:06.080 have

00:48:06.280 hundreds

00:48:15.820 looking

00:48:16.300 the

00:48:16.800 heart

00:48:17.680 doesn't

00:48:17.980 desire

00:48:18.240 what

00:48:18.420 the

00:48:18.540 eyes

00:48:18.700 don't

00:48:18.900 see

00:48:19.100 so

00:48:19.520 there's

00:48:19.760 an

00:48:19.900 internal

00:48:20.380 disease

00:48:20.860 that

00:48:21.020 needs

00:48:21.160 to

00:48:21.260 be

00:48:21.400 fixed

00:48:21.680 connection

00:48:22.240 with

00:48:22.420 Allah

00:48:22.580 and

00:48:23.200 believe

00:48:24.020 me

00:48:24.160 after

00:48:24.400 that

00:48:24.560 a

00:48:24.660 brother

00:48:24.780 is

00:48:24.920 second

00:48:25.360 wife

00:48:25.740 that's

00:48:26.560 long

00:48:26.900 but

00:48:28.500 if

00:48:28.680 he

00:48:28.780 still

00:48:28.980 has

00:48:29.180 that

00:48:29.380 whoever

00:48:31.540 for that

00:48:31.840 matter

00:48:32.040 I'll be

00:48:32.260 honest

00:48:32.440 we're

00:48:32.680 all

00:48:32.840 even

00:48:33.960 my

00:48:34.140 brother

00:48:34.340 tried

00:48:34.540 to hear

00:48:34.700 but

00:48:34.860 I'm

00:48:35.700 joking

00:48:35.920 so

00:48:36.880 in

00:48:37.080 a

00:48:37.180 nutshell

00:48:37.440 then

00:48:38.280 if

00:48:38.480 you

00:48:38.600 say

00:48:38.740 you

00:48:38.860 know

00:48:38.980 what

00:48:39.220 I

00:48:39.700 do

00:48:39.860 want

00:48:40.100 because

00:48:41.180 at least

00:48:41.540 your

00:48:41.800 affairs

00:48:42.120 internally

00:48:42.540 are

00:48:42.760 fixed

00:48:42.980 you're

00:48:43.500 not

00:48:43.640 going

00:48:43.760 to

00:48:43.860 oppress

00:48:44.260 her

00:48:44.440 because

00:48:44.940 if

00:48:45.200 you

00:48:45.280 get

00:48:45.400 a

00:48:45.520 second

00:48:45.740 wife

00:48:46.020 it's

00:48:46.220 not

00:48:46.340 going

00:48:46.460 to

00:48:46.520 be

00:48:46.620 enough

00:48:46.820 because

00:48:46.980 you've

00:48:47.140 got

00:48:47.200 what's

00:48:47.380 your

00:48:47.440 pornography

00:48:47.760 brother

00:48:48.040 third

00:48:48.680 four

00:48:49.000 five

00:48:49.340 hundred

00:48:49.700 wives

00:48:49.940 are

00:48:50.020 not

00:48:50.120 going

00:48:50.220 to

00:48:50.260 be

00:48:50.340 enough

00:48:50.520 so

00:48:50.820 I

00:48:50.960 think

00:48:51.140 what

00:48:54.560 the

00:48:54.700 sister said

00:48:55.100 in the middle

00:48:55.480 about

00:48:55.860 having

00:48:56.580 your

00:48:56.740 social

00:48:57.020 circle

00:48:57.980 having a

00:48:59.260 good

00:48:59.480 social

00:48:59.800 circle

00:49:00.120 is

00:49:00.280 such

00:49:00.460 a

00:49:00.600 big

00:49:00.900 impact

00:49:01.300 on

00:49:01.440 how

00:49:01.560 you're

00:49:01.760 brought

00:49:01.960 up

00:49:02.220 and

00:49:02.580 how

00:49:02.740 you

00:49:02.880 act

00:49:03.220 and

00:49:03.480 hold

00:49:04.320 yourself

00:49:04.700 you've

00:49:05.260 got

00:49:05.400 friends

00:49:05.780 around

00:49:06.040 you

00:49:06.200 that

00:49:06.300 are

00:49:06.380 going

00:49:06.520 clubbing

00:49:07.120 cheating

00:49:07.680 on

00:49:07.920 their

00:49:08.180 wives

00:49:08.580 or

00:49:08.720 girlfriends

00:49:09.040 or

00:49:09.280 whatever

00:49:09.520 right

00:49:09.820 you're

00:49:10.260 100%

00:49:10.820 going to

00:49:11.020 be

00:49:11.120 just

00:49:11.340 as

00:49:11.480 bad

00:49:11.640 as

00:49:11.760 them

00:49:11.900 if

00:49:12.340 not

00:49:12.520 worse

00:49:12.860 and

00:49:13.340 it

00:49:13.440 comes

00:49:13.640 down

00:49:13.840 to

00:49:14.000 what

00:49:14.140 the

00:49:14.260 sister

00:49:14.400 said

00:49:14.540 on

00:49:14.640 the

00:49:14.720 right

00:49:14.860 about

00:49:15.240 culture

00:49:15.700 they

00:49:16.200 kind

00:49:16.380 of

00:49:16.440 go

00:49:16.540 hand

00:49:16.760 in

00:49:16.880 hand

00:49:17.120 if

00:49:17.520 you

00:49:17.600 come

00:49:17.780 from

00:49:17.980 a

00:49:18.100 culture

00:49:18.420 I

00:49:18.620 don't

00:49:18.700 want

00:49:18.800 to

00:49:18.880 mention

00:49:19.180 which

00:49:19.600 culture

00:49:20.040 but

00:49:32.220 you

00:49:32.900 got

00:49:33.100 this

00:49:33.320 thing

00:49:33.560 and

00:49:33.680 they

00:49:33.880 have

00:49:34.900 arranged

00:49:35.240 marriage

00:49:35.740 and

00:49:36.300 if

00:49:37.020 the

00:49:37.180 guy

00:49:37.500 is

00:49:37.960 like

00:49:38.520 they

00:49:38.680 say

00:49:38.880 to

00:49:39.040 marry

00:49:39.500 this

00:49:39.720 girl

00:49:40.060 and

00:49:40.580 she's

00:49:41.160 part

00:49:41.400 of

00:49:41.480 the

00:49:41.600 family

00:49:41.920 marry

00:49:42.220 her

00:49:42.440 but

00:49:42.960 you

00:49:43.140 do

00:49:43.300 whatever

00:49:43.520 you

00:49:43.680 want

00:49:43.800 to

00:49:43.900 do

00:49:44.000 outside

00:49:44.460 the

00:49:44.940 parents

00:49:45.320 tell

00:49:45.600 her

00:49:45.700 and

00:49:46.200 the

00:49:46.360 girl

00:49:46.540 knows

00:49:46.860 about

00:49:47.120 this

00:49:47.380 and

00:49:47.900 this

00:49:48.140 is

00:49:48.320 how

00:49:48.640 it

00:49:48.860 continues

00:49:49.320 when

00:49:49.580 the

00:49:49.740 kids

00:49:49.920 grow up

00:49:50.340 they

00:49:50.800 think

00:49:51.120 the

00:49:51.300 same

00:49:51.520 as

00:49:51.720 well

00:49:51.880 so

00:49:52.320 that's

00:49:52.540 the

00:49:52.680 first

00:49:52.940 thing

00:49:53.200 but

00:49:53.700 like

00:49:54.080 what

00:49:54.480 I

00:50:02.220 there's

00:50:02.520 a

00:50:02.640 number

00:50:02.880 for

00:50:03.100 them

00:50:03.260 like

00:50:03.560 they're

00:50:04.140 not

00:50:04.300 connecting

00:50:04.720 with

00:50:05.000 no

00:50:05.240 woman

00:50:05.460 and

00:50:05.580 they

00:50:05.700 go

00:50:05.860 I

00:50:06.060 can't

00:50:06.300 find

00:50:06.480 a

00:50:06.580 woman

00:50:06.700 the

00:50:08.480 things

00:50:08.840 you

00:50:09.060 do

00:50:09.180 how

00:50:09.400 are you

00:50:09.540 going to

00:50:09.740 find

00:50:10.020 a

00:50:10.160 woman

00:50:10.380 the

00:50:10.740 things

00:50:11.000 you

00:50:11.140 do

00:50:11.360 because

00:50:11.960 you're

00:50:12.120 not

00:50:12.220 going to

00:50:12.380 find

00:50:12.560 a

00:50:12.660 woman

00:50:12.840 just

00:50:13.140 taking

00:50:14.240 them

00:50:14.440 as

00:50:14.600 numbers

00:50:14.920 a

00:50:15.700 wife

00:50:16.220 holds

00:50:17.100 high

00:50:17.660 value

00:50:18.060 for a

00:50:18.460 man

00:50:18.560 so

00:50:19.320 that's

00:50:19.800 the

00:50:19.940 only

00:50:20.280 woman

00:50:20.700 that

00:50:21.380 can

00:50:21.580 hurt

00:50:21.860 emotionally

00:50:22.820 the

00:50:23.380 rest

00:50:23.640 of

00:50:23.820 the

00:50:23.920 women

00:50:24.180 don't

00:50:25.440 mean

00:50:25.620 nothing

00:50:26.100 exactly

00:50:26.980 I'm

00:50:27.460 so

00:50:27.620 sorry

00:50:27.860 I'm

00:50:28.000 kidding

00:50:28.160 but

00:50:28.640 I

00:50:29.220 would

00:50:29.620 know

00:50:29.800 brothers

00:50:30.220 I keep

00:50:31.700 saying

00:50:31.820 brothers

00:50:32.120 friends

00:50:32.980 they

00:50:33.700 will

00:50:33.780 go to

00:50:34.000 a

00:50:34.120 club

00:50:34.320 they'll

00:50:34.940 meet

00:50:35.240 their

00:50:35.580 wife

00:50:36.000 to be

00:50:36.320 dressed up

00:50:37.220 in a

00:50:37.480 menisker

00:50:37.960 looking

00:50:38.280 mashup

00:50:38.900 the

00:50:39.720 wife

00:50:40.040 and say

00:50:40.600 you're

00:50:40.780 never

00:50:41.020 going to

00:50:41.280 the

00:50:41.380 club

00:50:41.520 again

00:50:41.700 by

00:50:41.840 the

00:50:41.920 way

00:50:42.080 ever

00:50:42.620 in

00:50:42.840 your

00:50:42.960 life

00:50:43.260 yeah

00:50:43.580 and

00:50:44.100 then

00:50:44.220 they'll

00:50:44.360 go to

00:50:44.560 the

00:50:44.700 same

00:50:44.920 clubs

00:50:45.280 and

00:50:45.860 do

00:50:46.120 whatever

00:50:46.320 they

00:50:46.460 want

00:50:46.620 you

00:50:47.100 know

00:50:47.520 what

00:50:48.580 they've

00:50:48.740 registered

00:50:48.900 in

00:50:49.060 their

00:50:49.180 head

00:50:49.360 this

00:50:49.960 is

00:50:50.200 my

00:50:50.420 girl

00:50:50.680 this

00:50:51.360 is

00:50:51.480 my

00:50:51.680 girlfriend

00:50:52.060 or wife

00:50:52.400 whatever

00:50:52.660 done

00:50:53.260 now

00:50:54.040 I'm

00:50:54.360 gonna

00:50:54.500 I

00:50:55.000 value

00:50:55.360 her

00:50:55.640 and

00:50:56.100 she's

00:50:56.380 mine

00:50:56.600 but

00:50:57.060 the

00:50:57.260 rest

00:50:57.560 are

00:50:57.820 nothing

00:50:58.120 and

00:50:58.400 today

00:50:58.960 women

00:50:59.240 they

00:50:59.560 are

00:50:59.700 not

00:50:59.820 higher

00:51:00.020 so

00:51:00.260 they

00:51:00.440 throw

00:51:00.640 themselves

00:51:00.880 at

00:51:01.100 men

00:51:02.840 and

00:51:03.360 now

00:51:03.520 men's

00:51:03.820 weakness

00:51:04.060 so it

00:51:04.400 makes

00:51:04.620 the

00:51:04.740 situation

00:51:05.140 more

00:51:05.480 worse

00:51:05.840 so for

00:51:06.580 a

00:51:06.720 man

00:51:06.920 in

00:51:07.180 his

00:51:07.400 mind

00:51:07.680 he's

00:51:07.860 like

00:51:07.980 this

00:51:08.120 is

00:51:08.220 my

00:51:08.380 wife

00:51:08.620 but

00:51:10.780 the

00:51:10.960 other

00:51:11.200 woman

00:51:11.440 they

00:51:11.640 just

00:51:11.860 nothing

00:51:12.380 it's

00:51:12.640 just

00:51:12.760 literally

00:51:13.040 piece

00:51:13.980 of

00:51:14.120 people

00:51:14.360 that's

00:51:15.100 how

00:51:15.220 it

00:51:15.340 means

00:51:15.540 literally

00:51:15.920 I

00:51:16.120 can

00:51:16.240 give

00:51:16.380 you

00:51:16.460 an

00:51:16.560 example

00:51:16.860 of

00:51:17.040 what

00:51:17.140 you

00:51:17.240 just

00:51:17.400 said

00:51:17.600 there

00:51:17.820 so

00:51:18.100 I

00:51:18.840 used

00:51:19.680 to

00:51:19.760 be

00:51:19.860 a

00:51:19.960 friend

00:51:20.140 but

00:51:20.440 he

00:51:20.900 met

00:51:21.100 someone

00:51:21.320 at

00:51:21.500 she

00:51:21.640 she

00:51:21.700 lounge

00:51:21.980 right

00:51:22.240 and

00:51:23.100 you

00:51:23.780 know

00:51:23.840 they

00:51:23.940 got

00:51:24.060 together

00:51:24.360 discussing

00:51:24.800 marriage

00:51:25.140 whatever

00:51:25.460 she

00:51:26.000 cheats

00:51:26.360 on him

00:51:26.680 all the

00:51:27.180 time

00:51:27.440 yeah

00:51:28.020 I hear

00:51:28.700 about

00:51:28.940 it

00:51:29.440 and

00:51:29.720 I'm

00:51:29.960 thinking

00:51:30.240 what do

00:51:32.880 you

00:51:32.960 expect

00:51:33.400 you

00:51:33.560 met

00:51:33.720 her

00:51:33.800 she

00:51:34.100 she

00:51:34.120 she

00:51:36.020 she

00:51:36.280 ever

00:51:36.620 and

00:51:37.100 you

00:51:37.160 expect

00:51:37.460 to

00:51:37.620 wife

00:51:37.820 her

00:51:37.960 up

00:51:38.060 just

00:51:38.200 like

00:51:38.360 that

00:51:38.560 she

00:51:39.100 got

00:51:39.280 a

00:51:39.420 background

00:51:39.760 of

00:51:40.000 doing

00:51:40.180 this

00:51:40.400 and

00:51:40.540 that

00:51:40.720 so

00:51:41.360 why

00:51:41.540 would

00:51:41.740 you

00:51:41.940 assume

00:51:42.560 that

00:51:42.800 she's

00:51:43.000 going

00:51:43.120 to

00:51:43.160 be

00:51:43.320 yours

00:51:43.760 and

00:51:44.020 just

00:51:44.180 yours

00:51:44.480 doesn't

00:51:44.960 make

00:51:45.100 sense

00:51:45.340 I'm

00:51:45.640 confused

00:51:46.220 sorry

00:51:46.800 so because

00:51:47.800 she went

00:51:48.180 to a

00:51:48.440 shisha

00:51:48.740 lounge

00:51:49.080 that makes

00:51:49.620 no no

00:51:49.960 no

00:51:50.000 so that's

00:51:50.520 why I

00:51:50.680 said

00:51:50.820 the most

00:51:51.220 bait

00:51:51.800 shisha

00:51:52.180 lounge

00:51:52.480 and plus

00:51:53.080 shisha

00:51:53.520 lounge

00:51:53.640 aren't

00:51:55.540 places

00:51:55.800 you're

00:51:55.960 supposed to

00:51:56.280 meet

00:51:56.440 your

00:51:56.580 significant

00:51:56.940 other

00:51:57.200 anyway

00:51:57.560 I

00:51:58.480 believe

00:51:59.080 so

00:51:59.320 if I

00:52:00.120 go to

00:52:00.400 a

00:52:07.820 change

00:52:08.220 but

00:52:08.500 sometimes

00:52:09.020 the

00:52:09.320 atmosphere

00:52:09.780 and the

00:52:10.120 area

00:52:10.460 there is

00:52:11.020 we need

00:52:11.340 to

00:52:11.480 generally

00:52:12.120 specifically

00:52:12.920 people can

00:52:13.440 change

00:52:13.640 100%

00:52:14.040 of

00:52:14.120 a

00:52:14.200 but

00:52:14.900 generally

00:52:15.380 if you're

00:52:15.620 in a

00:52:15.980 specific

00:52:16.240 area

00:52:16.580 where

00:52:16.740 mad

00:52:16.920 stuff

00:52:17.100 are

00:52:17.200 happening

00:52:17.420 and

00:52:17.720 a

00:52:17.940 woman

00:52:18.100 is

00:52:18.180 coming

00:52:18.340 from

00:52:18.540 there

00:52:18.680 I

00:52:19.020 do

00:52:19.120 not

00:52:19.240 see

00:52:19.360 that

00:52:19.460 as

00:52:19.520 a

00:52:19.560 woman

00:52:19.700 to

00:52:37.820 I'll

00:52:38.640 give

00:52:38.760 you

00:52:38.840 some

00:52:39.000 context

00:52:39.560 sometimes

00:52:41.700 I should

00:52:43.520 have

00:52:43.680 prefaced

00:52:44.040 it

00:52:44.340 groups

00:52:44.380 of

00:52:44.580 girls

00:52:45.080 and

00:52:45.520 they're

00:52:46.540 just

00:52:46.720 group

00:52:47.000 of

00:52:47.160 girls

00:52:47.380 in

00:52:47.900 shisha

00:52:48.180 lounges

00:52:48.540 it

00:52:48.700 doesn't

00:52:48.980 mean

00:52:49.160 that

00:52:49.360 they're

00:52:49.820 whores

00:52:50.820 gonna

00:52:51.200 change

00:52:51.560 so

00:52:52.380 I'll

00:52:54.680 give

00:52:54.780 some

00:52:54.980 context

00:52:55.380 to

00:52:55.540 that

00:52:55.700 like

00:52:56.000 I

00:52:56.120 said

00:52:56.300 this

00:52:56.480 shisha

00:52:56.720 lounge

00:52:56.960 is

00:52:57.120 like

00:52:57.280 a

00:52:57.500 club

00:52:58.320 in

00:52:58.480 there

00:52:58.660 there

00:52:58.680 there's

00:52:58.980 music

00:52:59.260 going

00:52:59.440 people

00:52:59.680 dancing

00:53:00.140 everything

00:53:00.420 like

00:53:00.600 that

00:53:00.740 I

00:53:01.060 should

00:53:01.220 have

00:53:01.360 prefaced

00:53:01.800 that

00:53:02.040 before

00:53:02.560 I

00:53:02.760 said

00:53:03.020 every

00:53:03.340 shisha

00:53:03.620 lounge

00:53:07.820 yes

00:53:12.580 it just

00:53:13.080 struck

00:53:13.280 my head

00:53:13.620 I was

00:53:13.800 just

00:53:13.940 thinking

00:53:14.120 about

00:53:14.320 it

00:53:14.400 for

00:53:14.480 the

00:53:14.520 last

00:53:14.640 10

00:53:14.820 minutes

00:53:15.120 so

00:53:15.540 I

00:53:15.860 was

00:53:15.960 going

00:53:16.060 to

00:53:16.140 start

00:53:16.340 with

00:53:16.620 just

00:53:17.020 taqwa

00:53:17.680 itself

00:53:18.080 you know

00:53:18.920 Allah

00:53:19.400 says

00:53:19.660 Allah

00:53:20.520 won't

00:53:22.880 change

00:53:23.100 the

00:53:23.220 condition

00:53:23.420 of

00:53:23.560 people

00:53:23.820 until

00:53:24.080 they

00:53:24.200 change

00:53:24.380 what

00:53:24.500 themselves

00:53:24.760 so

00:53:25.980 you

00:53:26.060 have

00:53:26.180 to

00:53:26.260 start

00:53:26.480 with

00:53:26.820 your

00:53:27.120 relationship

00:53:27.480 with

00:53:27.720 Allah

00:53:27.920 and

00:53:28.340 you

00:53:28.420 have

00:53:28.520 to

00:53:28.600 build

00:53:28.720 a

00:53:28.820 taqwa

00:53:29.140 and

00:53:30.040 once

00:53:30.200 that's

00:53:30.420 established

00:53:30.920 even

00:53:31.780 if

00:53:32.020 there's

00:53:32.240 wrong

00:53:32.460 things

00:53:32.760 in

00:53:32.900 front

00:53:33.100 of

00:53:33.240 you

00:53:33.380 you

00:53:33.620 will

00:53:33.780 be

00:53:34.260 more

00:53:34.520 equipped

00:53:34.900 knowing

00:53:35.120 Allah

00:53:35.340 is

00:53:35.420 by

00:53:35.540 your

00:53:35.680 side

00:53:35.860 that

00:53:35.980 you

00:53:36.060 will

00:53:36.160 be

00:53:36.240 able

00:53:36.340 to

00:53:36.460 resist

00:53:36.680 it

00:53:36.860 and

00:53:38.160 then

00:53:38.300 I

00:53:38.380 don't

00:53:38.480 know

00:53:38.580 if

00:53:38.640 it's

00:53:38.740 Quran

00:53:39.000 or

00:53:39.140 Hadith

00:53:39.440 because

00:53:39.620 I

00:53:39.680 was

00:53:39.760 just

00:53:39.900 reading

00:53:40.120 it

00:53:40.300 a couple

00:53:40.560 of

00:53:40.660 days

00:53:40.840 ago

00:53:41.080 it's

00:53:42.320 love

00:53:42.620 for

00:53:42.760 your

00:53:42.820 brother

00:53:43.000 what

00:53:43.120 you

00:53:43.180 love

00:53:43.300 for

00:53:43.400 yourself

00:53:43.760 Hadith

00:53:45.000 so

00:53:46.040 then

00:53:46.260 if

00:53:46.540 you're

00:53:46.680 in

00:53:46.800 that

00:53:46.960 state

00:53:47.200 of

00:53:47.380 you

00:53:47.480 have

00:53:47.640 the

00:53:47.780 fear

00:53:48.540 of

00:53:48.720 obviously

00:53:49.100 I'm

00:53:49.700 not

00:53:49.840 going to

00:53:50.020 be

00:53:50.140 that

00:53:50.280 person

00:53:50.560 that's

00:53:50.740 going

00:53:50.840 to

00:53:50.900 go

00:53:51.020 out

00:53:51.120 and

00:53:51.240 cheat

00:53:51.460 if

00:53:52.480 there's

00:53:52.640 someone

00:53:52.780 that

00:53:52.960 you

00:53:53.080 know

00:53:53.260 that's

00:53:53.500 in

00:53:53.580 the

00:53:53.680 process

00:53:53.980 of

00:53:54.160 doing

00:53:54.340 that

00:53:54.580 you

00:53:54.780 would

00:53:54.900 be

00:53:55.020 the

00:53:55.180 first

00:53:55.380 person

00:53:55.700 to

00:53:55.860 say

00:53:56.100 you

00:53:56.700 should

00:53:56.780 not

00:53:56.880 be

00:53:56.980 doing

00:53:57.160 this

00:53:57.400 and

00:53:57.980 then

00:53:58.100 you

00:53:58.180 give

00:53:58.320 the

00:53:58.480 why

00:53:58.720 and

00:53:59.480 obviously

00:53:59.780 what

00:54:00.040 a lot

00:54:00.280 of

00:54:00.400 men

00:54:00.560 they

00:54:00.720 don't

00:54:00.880 like

00:54:01.200 is

00:54:01.600 being

00:54:01.720 told

00:54:01.900 that

00:54:02.020 they're

00:54:02.160 wrong

00:54:02.380 and

00:54:03.440 obviously

00:54:03.840 another

00:54:04.360 thing

00:54:05.220 men

00:54:08.180 have

00:54:08.580 too much

00:54:08.880 pride

00:54:09.200 to admit

00:54:09.700 that

00:54:09.860 they're

00:54:10.020 wrong

00:54:10.200 100%

00:54:10.920 men

00:54:11.320 like

00:54:11.600 to

00:54:11.800 fix

00:54:20.740 no

00:54:21.620 okay

00:54:21.860 before

00:54:22.180 you

00:54:22.720 say

00:54:22.960 anything

00:54:23.300 about

00:54:23.540 that

00:54:23.620 sometimes

00:54:25.700 you

00:54:25.980 see

00:54:26.100 non-Muslim

00:54:26.560 videos

00:54:27.180 they come

00:54:27.620 up

00:54:27.760 and a

00:54:27.920 woman

00:54:28.040 is

00:54:28.140 cheating

00:54:28.480 what's

00:54:28.780 the

00:54:28.840 first

00:54:28.980 thing

00:54:29.060 she

00:54:29.160 says

00:54:29.380 it's

00:54:29.980 because

00:54:30.100 of

00:54:30.200 you

00:54:30.300 it's

00:54:31.180 because

00:54:31.300 of

00:54:31.400 you

00:54:31.820 men

00:54:32.420 and

00:54:33.920 women

00:54:34.120 do

00:54:34.340 that

00:54:34.460 that's

00:54:35.920 your

00:54:36.080 experience

00:54:36.640 people

00:54:41.040 like

00:54:41.320 to

00:54:41.500 put

00:54:42.300 the

00:54:42.500 blame

00:54:42.720 no

00:54:43.440 one

00:54:43.700 likes

00:54:44.040 to

00:54:44.200 take

00:54:44.400 accountability

00:54:44.800 I

00:54:45.240 don't

00:54:45.380 think

00:54:45.560 it's

00:54:45.700 a

00:54:45.840 man

00:54:46.060 or

00:54:46.300 a

00:54:46.400 thing

00:54:46.800 I

00:54:48.760 just

00:54:48.960 want to

00:54:49.200 say

00:54:49.360 something

00:54:49.740 first

00:54:50.420 of

00:54:50.560 all

00:54:50.660 I

00:54:50.780 think

00:54:50.940 before

00:54:51.440 anyone

00:54:52.220 cheats

00:54:52.600 man

00:54:52.920 or

00:54:53.420 woman

00:54:53.760 then

00:54:54.280 you

00:54:54.400 have

00:54:54.600 to

00:54:54.720 understand

00:54:55.100 how

00:54:55.520 would

00:54:55.820 I

00:54:56.160 feel

00:54:56.620 if

00:54:57.460 my

00:54:57.800 other

00:54:58.020 half

00:54:58.360 did

00:54:58.580 that

00:54:58.800 where

00:54:59.620 would

00:54:59.820 that

00:55:00.020 put

00:55:00.240 me

00:55:00.520 so

00:55:01.220 before

00:55:01.620 you

00:55:02.540 take

00:55:02.760 that

00:55:02.980 step

00:55:03.220 think

00:55:03.440 if

00:55:03.640 someone

00:55:04.160 does

00:55:04.380 that

00:55:04.540 to

00:55:04.680 me

00:55:04.900 how

00:55:05.480 is

00:55:05.620 that

00:55:05.760 going

00:55:05.900 to

00:55:06.000 impact

00:55:06.300 me

00:55:06.540 as

00:55:06.660 an

00:55:06.800 individual

00:55:07.040 the

00:55:07.140 problem

00:55:07.400 with

00:55:07.560 that

00:55:07.680 is

00:55:07.800 a lot

00:55:08.020 of

00:55:08.140 men

00:55:08.300 think

00:55:08.540 it's

00:55:08.740 okay

00:55:09.000 to be

00:55:09.320 cheating

00:55:09.620 but

00:55:10.200 when

00:55:10.360 the

00:55:10.540 sister

00:55:10.920 no

00:55:11.680 then

00:55:11.860 they

00:55:12.080 should

00:55:12.480 have

00:55:12.720 that

00:55:12.960 similar

00:55:14.320 mentality

00:55:15.740 is

00:55:16.140 different

00:55:16.700 I

00:55:17.500 understand

00:55:18.160 the

00:55:18.360 mentality

00:55:18.780 is

00:55:19.040 different

00:55:19.360 but

00:55:19.820 there

00:55:19.980 is

00:55:20.100 such

00:55:20.280 a

00:55:20.380 thing

00:55:20.520 as

00:55:20.660 empathy

00:55:21.020 as

00:55:21.240 well

00:55:21.460 empathize

00:55:22.360 sometimes

00:55:25.700 these

00:55:26.140 are

00:55:26.280 topics

00:55:26.600 that

00:55:26.820 we

00:55:26.980 should

00:55:27.160 be

00:55:27.440 having

00:55:28.080 before

00:55:28.600 marriage

00:55:29.020 at

00:55:29.180 the

00:55:29.300 time

00:55:29.580 and

00:55:30.260 if

00:55:30.580 you're

00:55:30.800 in

00:55:30.900 a

00:55:31.020 situation

00:55:31.560 where

00:55:31.820 we

00:55:31.920 want

00:55:32.040 to

00:55:32.120 start

00:55:32.300 talking

00:55:32.580 about

00:55:32.820 takwa

00:55:33.120 in

00:55:33.320 our

00:55:33.460 relationship

00:55:34.040 then

00:55:34.940 everybody

00:55:35.480 that

00:55:35.960 is

00:55:36.080 listening

00:55:36.300 to

00:55:36.440 this

00:55:36.620 show

00:55:36.860 or

00:55:37.080 in

00:55:37.280 marriage

00:55:37.720 situations

00:55:38.580 need

00:55:39.340 to

00:55:39.460 be

00:55:39.780 changing

00:55:40.280 the

00:55:40.540 whole

00:55:40.800 entire

00:55:41.260 life

00:55:41.660 not

00:55:42.180 just

00:55:42.440 about

00:55:42.700 the

00:55:42.900 takwa

00:55:43.280 of

00:55:43.660 breaking

00:55:44.280 up

00:55:44.480 or

00:55:44.660 cheating

00:55:45.020 but

00:55:45.780 everything

00:55:46.100 else

00:55:46.420 that

00:55:46.620 leads

00:55:46.980 towards

00:55:47.460 it

00:55:47.780 like

00:55:48.600 we were

00:55:48.800 talking

00:55:48.960 about

00:55:49.120 free

00:55:49.340 mixing

00:55:49.660 or

00:55:50.060 your

00:55:50.280 place

00:55:50.600 of

00:55:50.760 work

00:55:51.040 because

00:55:51.680 everything

00:55:52.160 then has

00:55:52.600 to

00:55:52.760 change

00:55:53.180 and

00:55:53.420 the

00:55:53.760 household

00:55:54.220 has

00:55:54.500 to

00:55:54.640 change

00:55:54.960 the

00:55:55.400 dynamics

00:55:55.880 has

00:55:56.160 to

00:55:56.280 change

00:55:56.600 and

00:55:57.060 it

00:55:57.180 can't

00:55:57.360 just

00:55:57.480 be

00:55:57.640 the

00:55:57.820 man

00:55:58.160 it

00:55:58.380 has

00:55:58.540 to

00:55:58.680 be

00:55:58.800 the

00:55:58.980 woman

00:55:59.200 at

00:55:59.400 the

00:55:59.540 same

00:55:59.720 time

00:55:59.980 working

00:56:00.320 together

00:56:00.980 you know

00:56:01.440 you know why

00:56:01.820 Aki

00:56:02.020 all of us

00:56:02.720 are prone

00:56:03.260 to cheating

00:56:03.900 all of us

00:56:04.800 it's the

00:56:05.740 environment

00:56:06.240 what protects

00:56:07.000 us

00:56:07.160 if I'm in an

00:56:08.060 environment

00:56:08.400 where there's

00:56:08.780 half naked

00:56:09.160 girls

00:56:09.580 all the

00:56:10.480 time

00:56:10.840 I'm a

00:56:11.980 human

00:56:12.260 being

00:56:12.620 bro

00:56:12.860 I don't

00:56:19.120 go into

00:56:20.020 areas

00:56:20.280 where you

00:56:20.460 have

00:56:20.540 good

00:56:20.720 friends

00:56:20.960 are

00:56:21.100 fundamental

00:56:21.580 otherwise

00:56:22.140 it's not

00:56:22.620 a religious

00:56:22.960 issue

00:56:23.360 people think

00:56:24.140 it's like

00:56:24.380 a religious

00:56:24.660 issue

00:56:24.840 you can bring

00:56:25.660 the most

00:56:26.000 righteous

00:56:26.560 person

00:56:27.060 if you put

00:56:29.720 him in a

00:56:30.040 certain area

00:56:30.660 he can fall

00:56:31.320 into

00:56:31.540 fitna

00:56:32.580 it's the

00:56:33.360 area

00:56:33.600 it's not

00:56:33.840 just

00:56:33.960 internal

00:56:34.540 it's external

00:56:35.080 as well

00:56:35.400 I believe

00:56:36.140 brothers also

00:56:36.940 have to

00:56:37.460 follow

00:56:37.740 modesty

00:56:38.300 especially

00:56:38.780 nowadays

00:56:39.340 you know

00:56:40.060 brothers

00:56:40.360 flexing

00:56:41.020 and all

00:56:41.340 that

00:56:41.620 and I

00:56:42.040 think

00:56:42.200 sometimes

00:56:42.520 TV

00:56:43.020 I think

00:56:43.400 that's

00:56:45.240 kind of

00:56:45.600 based down

00:56:46.220 to society

00:56:47.000 yet again

00:56:47.720 and as

00:56:48.220 far as

00:56:48.660 you're saying

00:56:49.080 that oh

00:56:49.600 you should

00:56:50.040 feel how

00:56:50.660 the spouse

00:56:51.740 feels

00:56:52.100 if you

00:56:52.580 cheat

00:56:52.920 I think

00:56:53.340 a lot

00:56:53.580 of people

00:56:53.960 the reason

00:56:54.380 why they

00:56:54.780 cheat

00:56:55.040 is they

00:56:55.360 think

00:56:55.540 their spouse

00:56:56.620 deserved it

00:56:57.660 and they

00:56:58.680 should understand

00:56:59.360 that

00:56:59.740 you're talking

00:57:01.400 from a

00:57:03.360 perspective

00:57:03.800 of a woman

00:57:04.760 a man's

00:57:05.340 whole dynamic

00:57:05.760 is different

00:57:06.080 I'm going to

00:57:06.360 let you speak

00:57:06.880 then sister

00:57:07.260 Anamta

00:57:07.620 then you

00:57:08.100 and I'm

00:57:08.380 going to

00:57:08.540 wrap up

00:57:08.800 inshallah

00:57:09.080 if anyone

00:57:10.260 else wants

00:57:10.580 to

00:57:10.680 yeah sure

00:57:11.780 so let's

00:57:12.140 do

00:57:12.380 yourself

00:57:12.920 sister

00:57:13.180 carry on

00:57:13.740 then sister

00:57:14.220 Anamta

00:57:14.580 and then

00:57:15.000 sister

00:57:15.240 Amira

00:57:15.520 and then

00:57:15.840 we're going

00:57:15.980 to

00:57:16.260 yeah so

00:57:18.140 I think

00:57:18.440 there's

00:57:18.680 something

00:57:18.940 called

00:57:19.520 self-respect

00:57:20.420 as well

00:57:21.180 you should

00:57:21.600 have that

00:57:22.360 self-respect

00:57:23.000 in yourself

00:57:23.660 that you're

00:57:24.520 capable of

00:57:25.340 having self-discipline

00:57:26.780 and control

00:57:27.560 and I think

00:57:28.660 that's where

00:57:29.180 it kind of

00:57:29.800 lies

00:57:30.080 just having

00:57:30.540 that belief

00:57:31.040 in yourself

00:57:31.560 that you

00:57:32.280 can respect

00:57:33.200 your values

00:57:34.280 as a Muslim

00:57:35.020 being

00:57:35.440 so when

00:57:39.160 we're talking

00:57:39.580 about our

00:57:40.400 social circle

00:57:41.560 I just want

00:57:42.240 to touch up

00:57:42.620 on that

00:57:43.000 we I think

00:57:44.220 one of the

00:57:44.980 most reasons

00:57:45.460 is also

00:57:46.320 because sometimes

00:57:47.220 when you're

00:57:47.620 around

00:57:48.000 your friends

00:57:48.820 and they're

00:57:49.360 in that

00:57:49.700 environment

00:57:50.200 where they're

00:57:50.940 going clubbing

00:57:51.520 partying

00:57:52.140 what not

00:57:52.620 anything

00:57:53.440 you feel

00:57:54.360 that is a

00:57:55.400 bad influence

00:57:56.200 on you

00:57:56.540 sometimes

00:57:56.900 brothers or

00:57:57.760 sisters don't

00:57:58.380 remove themselves

00:57:59.240 from that

00:57:59.640 situation

00:58:00.200 and I feel

00:58:01.420 like staying

00:58:02.100 in that

00:58:02.900 environment

00:58:03.500 eventually

00:58:04.620 leads you

00:58:05.440 to go out

00:58:06.540 and cheat

00:58:06.960 I feel

00:58:07.740 once you

00:58:08.720 feel like

00:58:09.360 there's a

00:58:09.840 surrounding

00:58:10.340 which you're

00:58:10.900 in is a

00:58:11.420 bad influence

00:58:12.160 on you

00:58:12.480 just remove

00:58:13.060 yourself

00:58:13.340 from it

00:58:13.760 and that is

00:58:14.340 also what

00:58:14.780 your sister

00:58:15.160 just said

00:58:15.580 self-respect

00:58:16.320 as well

00:58:16.780 you don't

00:58:17.840 have to

00:58:18.260 certainly

00:58:18.740 feel under

00:58:19.700 pressure

00:58:20.020 to go

00:58:20.500 and you

00:58:20.980 know

00:58:21.140 commit

00:58:21.560 you know

00:58:22.080 do cheat

00:58:22.720 on your

00:58:23.060 spouse

00:58:23.420 just to

00:58:23.840 fit in

00:58:24.160 your social

00:58:24.600 circle

00:58:25.020 it doesn't

00:58:26.000 work like

00:58:26.440 that

00:58:26.680 and I

00:58:27.560 understand

00:58:27.900 that there's

00:58:28.240 a lot of

00:58:28.500 people who

00:58:28.840 don't have

00:58:29.280 the ability

00:58:29.820 to understand

00:58:30.600 influences

00:58:31.100 around them

00:58:31.740 but once you

00:58:32.620 feel you're

00:58:33.060 in a circle

00:58:33.560 that's you

00:58:33.960 know leading

00:58:34.280 you down

00:58:34.620 the wrong

00:58:35.020 path

00:58:35.480 then just

00:58:36.300 remove

00:58:36.640 yourself

00:58:36.980 from that

00:58:37.560 situation

00:58:38.180 right there

00:58:38.740 and then

00:58:39.060 because it's

00:58:39.600 eventually

00:58:39.960 gonna you know

00:58:40.760 influence you

00:58:41.960 and impact you

00:58:42.620 in a bad

00:58:42.920 way

00:58:43.160 and that's

00:58:44.780 with everything

00:58:45.340 yeah

00:58:45.680 but I was

00:58:48.400 gonna say

00:58:48.980 so if a

00:58:50.420 man cheats

00:58:51.140 would you

00:58:52.520 guys say

00:58:53.100 that the

00:58:54.180 woman should

00:58:54.640 forgive him

00:58:55.180 and stay

00:58:55.640 it all

00:58:56.820 depends on

00:58:57.580 that's up

00:58:57.980 to her

00:58:58.320 yeah

00:58:58.880 it all

00:58:59.960 depends on

00:59:00.540 if the

00:59:00.900 man

00:59:01.060 I think

00:59:01.480 it depends

00:59:01.980 on that

00:59:02.400 if he

00:59:03.080 if he

00:59:03.560 cheated

00:59:03.920 and the

00:59:04.660 thing is

00:59:04.900 I think

00:59:05.260 there should

00:59:05.580 be certain

00:59:06.080 type of

00:59:06.500 thing

00:59:06.660 because

00:59:07.020 you want

00:59:07.760 him to

00:59:08.000 know

00:59:08.240 that how

00:59:08.640 serious

00:59:09.000 you are

00:59:09.420 because if

00:59:10.140 you let

00:59:10.360 him go

00:59:10.660 really

00:59:11.080 like

00:59:11.680 quick

00:59:12.120 just like

00:59:12.540 that

00:59:12.700 he's

00:59:13.080 gonna do

00:59:13.380 it again

00:59:13.640 because he

00:59:14.000 thinks he

00:59:14.300 can get

00:59:14.540 away

00:59:14.720 with it

00:59:14.980 it's a

00:59:15.440 human

00:59:15.640 nature

00:59:16.340 I think

00:59:17.100 there's

00:59:17.340 all

00:59:17.540 circumstances

00:59:18.400 as well

00:59:19.000 that you

00:59:19.300 have to

00:59:19.700 take in

00:59:20.160 consideration

00:59:20.860 for example

00:59:21.980 marriage

00:59:22.540 children

00:59:23.100 you know

00:59:24.140 your network

00:59:25.000 you can't

00:59:25.720 just

00:59:25.940 completely

00:59:26.620 say

00:59:27.060 yeah

00:59:27.560 you

00:59:27.740 forgive

00:59:28.120 but you

00:59:28.620 can't

00:59:28.880 completely

00:59:29.240 say

00:59:29.520 yeah

00:59:29.720 you're

00:59:29.940 gonna

00:59:30.040 end

00:59:30.860 okay

00:59:31.160 let me

00:59:31.680 ask

00:59:31.800 an

00:59:31.920 interesting

00:59:32.160 question

00:59:32.460 that will

00:59:32.760 put some

00:59:33.100 dynamics

00:59:33.400 in place

00:59:33.740 let's say

00:59:34.440 for example

00:59:35.040 yourself

00:59:36.180 if your

00:59:36.700 partner

00:59:36.980 I don't

00:59:37.840 want to say

00:59:38.100 cheat

00:59:38.420 let's say

00:59:38.860 another woman's

00:59:39.600 involved

00:59:39.740 second wife

00:59:40.560 second wife

00:59:41.900 or

00:59:42.120 no cheat

00:59:43.040 cheat

00:59:43.320 cheat

00:59:43.680 cheat

00:59:43.980 because for

00:59:45.180 me

00:59:45.440 if a man

00:59:46.200 cheats on me

00:59:47.040 I'm not

00:59:47.980 forgiving it

00:59:48.740 okay

00:59:49.000 what if his

00:59:49.400 second wife

00:59:50.060 but that's

00:59:50.900 the thing

00:59:51.360 because for

00:59:52.360 me

00:59:52.520 if you

00:59:52.840 cheat

00:59:53.180 I'm not

00:59:54.340 forgiving it

00:59:55.060 because you

00:59:55.480 had the

00:59:55.800 opportunity

00:59:56.980 or the

00:59:57.960 you know

01:00:00.180 you have

01:00:00.600 the delight

01:00:01.700 to actually

01:00:02.340 go and get

01:00:03.440 married to a

01:00:04.040 second wife

01:00:05.200 in the right

01:00:06.260 way

01:00:06.520 so if you

01:00:07.360 go behind my

01:00:08.100 back

01:00:08.400 and you

01:00:09.040 cheat on me

01:00:09.880 I'm not

01:00:10.620 forgiving it

01:00:11.300 you're done

01:00:12.040 actually I

01:00:12.740 have to say

01:00:13.220 the fact that

01:00:14.700 you distinguish

01:00:15.340 between the

01:00:15.880 two and

01:00:16.280 one is

01:00:16.560 more severe

01:00:16.960 it's a

01:00:17.760 very good

01:00:18.080 thought process

01:00:18.720 to have

01:00:18.980 so yes

01:00:20.000 if arguments

01:00:21.480 say the

01:00:21.920 husband was

01:00:22.300 to cheat

01:00:22.640 as a

01:00:23.480 wife

01:00:24.200 would you

01:00:25.020 be forgiven

01:00:26.420 obviously

01:00:26.720 forgiving doesn't

01:00:27.640 mean okay

01:00:28.200 yeah let's

01:00:28.540 just hold

01:00:28.780 down

01:00:28.940 but

01:00:29.180 eventually

01:00:29.760 like I

01:00:30.280 said it's

01:00:30.660 back to

01:00:31.020 circumstances

01:00:31.860 I mean

01:00:32.380 as women

01:00:33.440 men is

01:00:34.960 about

01:00:35.820 they just

01:00:36.580 need to

01:00:37.020 obviously

01:00:37.340 satisfy

01:00:37.980 themselves

01:00:38.480 but women

01:00:39.040 we are more

01:00:39.620 connected

01:00:40.040 from the

01:00:40.600 heart

01:00:40.980 okay

01:00:41.440 and we

01:00:42.220 take a lot

01:00:42.860 of things

01:00:43.260 into consideration

01:00:44.300 I hate this

01:00:44.920 notion

01:00:45.200 I'm so sorry

01:00:46.400 but it's a

01:00:47.440 reality

01:00:47.720 no I don't

01:00:48.500 think so

01:00:48.980 women are

01:00:49.340 sacrifices

01:00:49.860 not true

01:00:51.240 but would you

01:00:51.680 accept that

01:00:52.120 women are

01:00:52.560 very sacrificial

01:00:53.220 not emotional

01:00:53.780 like that

01:00:54.180 but you guys

01:00:57.180 have been saying

01:00:57.960 that like

01:00:58.420 throughout the

01:00:58.960 thing about

01:00:59.640 you know

01:01:00.320 women are

01:01:01.120 more emotional

01:01:02.040 and if a

01:01:02.980 woman cheats

01:01:03.620 it's an

01:01:03.940 emotional cheater

01:01:04.980 like I

01:01:05.860 don't believe

01:01:06.560 that

01:01:06.880 I know a lot

01:01:07.980 of girls

01:01:08.400 who genuinely

01:01:09.380 do exactly

01:01:10.160 what men

01:01:10.640 do

01:01:10.880 they literally

01:01:11.820 will go

01:01:12.880 with men

01:01:13.440 and it's

01:01:13.880 like nothing

01:01:14.620 to them

01:01:15.000 and there's

01:01:16.500 more and more

01:01:17.340 women that are

01:01:17.980 like this

01:01:18.520 today

01:01:18.920 and I think

01:01:20.640 we're generalising

01:01:21.620 where these

01:01:22.100 women are just

01:01:22.800 emotional

01:01:23.420 I don't think

01:01:24.560 that

01:01:24.780 I think

01:01:25.300 that's

01:01:25.640 the fault

01:01:26.480 I'm going

01:01:27.160 to tell you

01:01:27.940 why

01:01:28.240 this happens

01:01:30.100 I just want

01:01:30.760 a quick question

01:01:31.200 so I can

01:01:31.560 just

01:01:31.700 point something

01:01:32.600 generally

01:01:33.600 would you

01:01:34.100 forgive

01:01:34.380 just quickly

01:01:35.060 generally

01:01:35.820 I think

01:01:36.440 based on my

01:01:37.540 heart

01:01:37.900 I would

01:01:38.280 find it

01:01:38.720 very

01:01:39.060 difficult

01:01:39.580 but I

01:01:40.180 think

01:01:40.400 based on

01:01:40.940 the

01:01:41.100 situations

01:01:41.720 I would

01:01:42.080 take

01:01:42.360 as a

01:01:42.860 mature

01:01:43.400 person

01:01:44.160 I would

01:01:44.940 take

01:01:45.160 everything

01:01:45.620 into

01:01:45.940 consideration

01:01:46.700 but

01:01:47.220 you're more

01:01:47.680 keen on

01:01:48.320 forgiving

01:01:48.800 it depends

01:01:50.680 at the end

01:01:51.380 of the day

01:01:51.760 we are

01:01:52.100 human

01:01:52.420 being

01:01:52.700 every

01:01:53.180 human

01:01:53.620 being

01:01:54.200 does

01:01:54.520 make

01:01:54.760 a

01:01:54.900 mistake

01:01:55.220 in

01:01:55.380 life

01:01:55.680 now

01:01:55.860 it

01:01:55.980 depends

01:01:56.360 how

01:01:57.240 that

01:01:57.580 other

01:01:57.860 person

01:01:58.360 has

01:01:59.100 regretted

01:02:00.600 their

01:02:01.000 mistakes

01:02:01.500 or

01:02:01.900 how many

01:02:02.660 times

01:02:02.940 it

01:02:03.080 has

01:02:03.260 happened

01:02:03.640 so I

01:02:04.100 think

01:02:04.280 it

01:02:04.380 depends

01:02:04.600 so

01:02:04.840 what about

01:02:05.620 yourself

01:02:05.860 just

01:02:06.080 generally

01:02:06.660 I don't

01:02:06.900 want to go

01:02:07.100 into personal

01:02:07.480 details

01:02:07.640 but would you

01:02:07.960 say I

01:02:08.340 believe

01:02:08.560 generally

01:02:08.880 women

01:02:09.140 are

01:02:09.460 forgiven

01:02:09.900 in this

01:02:10.420 aspect

01:02:10.860 they are

01:02:11.560 I have

01:02:12.140 to be

01:02:12.320 honest

01:02:12.500 am I

01:02:13.080 wrong

01:02:13.260 would you

01:02:13.520 say that

01:02:13.800 I know

01:02:20.920 my

01:02:21.260 relationship

01:02:21.780 will be

01:02:22.260 toxic

01:02:22.820 afterwards

01:02:23.340 because

01:02:23.860 I'm

01:02:24.320 going to

01:02:24.600 bring it

01:02:24.920 up

01:02:25.120 every

01:02:25.500 single

01:02:25.880 argument

01:02:26.260 I'm

01:02:26.740 going to

01:02:27.020 bring it

01:02:27.300 up

01:02:27.460 every

01:02:27.720 single

01:02:28.040 second

01:02:28.380 I'll

01:02:29.820 be honest

01:02:34.260 with you

01:02:34.480 bro

01:02:34.680 I genuinely

01:02:35.320 I believe

01:02:39.400 if the

01:02:39.960 instances

01:02:40.440 for example

01:02:41.220 I've seen

01:02:42.780 in Jahiliya

01:02:43.400 these guys

01:02:44.080 get caught

01:02:44.500 etc

01:02:44.820 and they

01:02:45.480 get forgiven

01:02:45.940 from what

01:02:46.400 I know

01:02:46.640 generally

01:02:46.860 women

01:02:47.180 forgive

01:02:47.700 but not

01:02:48.460 to a certain

01:02:48.820 extent

01:02:49.120 if you say

01:02:49.460 a

01:02:50.160 simple

01:02:53.260 question

01:02:53.620 would you

01:02:53.900 ever forgive

01:02:54.300 if your

01:02:54.660 wife

01:02:55.280 would you

01:02:58.340 would you

01:02:59.420 if my

01:03:00.520 wife

01:03:00.960 yes

01:03:01.400 would you

01:03:02.300 would you

01:03:03.700 over my

01:03:04.140 dead body

01:03:04.780 I wouldn't

01:03:05.500 expect my

01:03:06.460 wife to

01:03:06.820 forgive me

01:03:07.320 if I cheated

01:03:07.960 by the way

01:03:08.960 why are you

01:03:09.440 expecting the

01:03:09.920 women to

01:03:10.360 forgive them

01:03:10.840 I wouldn't

01:03:11.320 expect the

01:03:11.780 woman to

01:03:12.060 forgive me

01:03:12.480 if I cheated

01:03:13.020 I'm talking

01:03:14.400 about a

01:03:14.920 psychological

01:03:15.540 issue here

01:03:16.060 now by

01:03:16.860 the way

01:03:17.060 I'm going

01:03:17.360 to say

01:03:17.740 inshallah

01:03:18.480 because Allah

01:03:19.420 can test

01:03:20.440 and can put

01:03:21.220 you in your

01:03:21.540 place

01:03:21.860 if Allah

01:03:22.680 wills as

01:03:23.200 men to

01:03:23.640 us it's

01:03:24.020 like you

01:03:24.420 can hang

01:03:24.820 me is

01:03:25.040 better

01:03:25.300 for women

01:03:26.440 generally

01:03:27.380 no no it's

01:03:27.880 for women

01:03:28.220 that's I'm

01:03:28.720 trying to

01:03:29.040 the reason I'm

01:03:29.760 saying this is

01:03:30.120 to show the

01:03:30.440 disparity to

01:03:31.220 understand each

01:03:31.780 other better

01:03:32.180 for us it's

01:03:33.640 a violation

01:03:34.360 on another

01:03:34.720 level you

01:03:34.980 know why

01:03:35.280 because when

01:03:35.840 it comes to

01:03:36.280 intimacy

01:03:36.780 like I said

01:03:38.480 again we're

01:03:38.840 adults the

01:03:39.600 act is being

01:03:40.260 done on the

01:03:40.660 woman it's

01:03:41.560 a it's like

01:03:42.220 it's like

01:03:42.860 somebody like

01:03:43.340 does it look

01:03:43.760 honourable if

01:03:44.280 I'm there like

01:03:45.100 there's a man

01:03:46.080 and I'm

01:03:46.560 punching his

01:03:47.020 face with a

01:03:47.480 hammer does

01:03:48.300 it look like

01:03:48.700 to his family

01:03:49.120 he's in an

01:03:49.560 honourable state

01:03:50.100 no so the

01:03:51.440 act in itself

01:03:52.120 for us men

01:03:52.860 it's so much

01:03:54.380 more severe in

01:03:55.040 our heads than

01:03:55.700 for you guys

01:03:57.080 I believe that's

01:03:57.840 why you guys

01:03:58.180 are more

01:03:58.460 forgiven

01:03:58.780 now just

01:03:59.500 just to wrap

01:04:00.100 up on

01:04:00.320 something you

01:04:00.800 said a lot

01:04:01.440 of women do

01:04:01.800 it now

01:04:02.100 do you know

01:04:03.400 why a lot

01:04:03.640 of women cheat

01:04:04.020 let me put

01:04:04.900 this

01:04:05.040 a lot of

01:04:06.860 women will be

01:04:08.080 with a man

01:04:08.700 and it feels

01:04:09.280 like nothing

01:04:09.800 now study

01:04:11.300 show a

01:04:12.600 little woman

01:04:13.240 cheat you

01:04:13.480 know why

01:04:13.780 and tell me

01:04:14.940 if I'm wrong

01:04:15.300 sisters yeah

01:04:15.780 if you find

01:04:17.400 a man who

01:04:18.160 is God

01:04:18.480 fearing who

01:04:19.080 has taqwa

01:04:19.580 who prays

01:04:20.440 who's a good

01:04:20.980 man who's a

01:04:21.540 good father

01:04:22.000 who earns

01:04:23.440 he's a go

01:04:23.840 getter he's

01:04:24.300 doing his

01:04:24.620 thing etc

01:04:25.040 would you

01:04:26.160 ever ever

01:04:27.120 ever think

01:04:27.620 of another

01:04:27.840 man ever

01:04:28.780 no no please

01:04:30.940 can you be

01:04:31.300 vocal about it

01:04:31.800 please

01:04:31.960 I'll be

01:04:32.280 I'll be honest

01:04:33.140 even if he

01:04:34.240 didn't have

01:04:34.620 those things

01:04:35.320 I'm too

01:04:36.300 I'm too

01:04:36.920 fearful

01:04:37.360 and loving

01:04:38.480 of Allah

01:04:39.140 that I would

01:04:39.860 never ever do

01:04:40.660 that

01:04:40.680 that's good

01:04:41.600 may Allah

01:04:41.920 bless and

01:04:42.220 preserve all

01:04:42.700 of you

01:04:42.800 I know you

01:04:43.040 guys are

01:04:43.260 all the

01:04:43.480 same

01:04:43.680 but

01:04:44.140 no we're

01:04:44.820 not

01:04:44.980 this is the

01:04:45.740 thing

01:04:45.980 we're humans

01:04:47.440 people make

01:04:48.880 mistakes

01:04:49.340 we're not all

01:04:49.820 stupid things

01:04:51.020 I want to come

01:04:51.480 from a human

01:04:51.940 perspective

01:04:53.040 because I want

01:04:53.660 to prove

01:04:53.920 something for

01:04:54.340 you guys

01:04:54.600 I'm coming

01:04:55.300 from a human

01:04:55.640 perspective

01:04:56.100 a woman

01:04:57.260 is monogamous

01:04:57.980 by nature

01:04:58.460 if she finds

01:04:59.060 a man who

01:04:59.580 is a high

01:05:00.640 value man

01:05:01.140 in the

01:05:01.320 Islamic sense

01:05:01.960 God fearing

01:05:02.560 has taqwa

01:05:03.080 praying

01:05:03.380 and he has

01:05:04.400 a good living

01:05:04.980 he's a good

01:05:05.680 strong man

01:05:06.140 etc

01:05:06.440 a woman

01:05:07.400 would never

01:05:08.300 ever ever

01:05:09.360 think of

01:05:09.860 another man

01:05:10.280 done

01:05:10.820 I want to

01:05:12.220 ask you guys

01:05:12.600 a question

01:05:12.940 now brothers

01:05:13.340 if you was

01:05:14.680 a wealthy

01:05:15.180 man who's

01:05:15.640 God fearing

01:05:16.160 who's a

01:05:17.040 millionaire

01:05:17.640 who's got

01:05:17.940 your resources

01:05:18.480 a man

01:05:19.880 would

01:05:20.800 have

01:05:21.480 would

01:05:22.100 want another

01:05:22.680 woman in

01:05:22.980 his life

01:05:23.300 the difference

01:05:24.480 is this

01:05:25.000 between us

01:05:25.520 if you found

01:05:26.780 your ideal

01:05:27.420 perfect man

01:05:28.400 you would

01:05:29.180 still think

01:05:29.800 you would

01:05:30.280 never think

01:05:30.620 of another

01:05:30.900 would you guys

01:05:31.800 let me tell

01:05:32.700 you very clearly

01:05:33.140 if you find

01:05:34.140 your ideal

01:05:38.780 perfect woman

01:05:39.900 she is

01:05:40.300 drop dead

01:05:40.780 gorgeous

01:05:41.020 beautiful

01:05:41.260 look we know

01:05:41.680 examples of

01:05:42.260 Jay-Z

01:05:42.660 Kim Kardashian

01:05:44.320 Beyonce

01:05:45.660 these are women

01:05:46.640 a lot of men

01:05:47.100 could seem as

01:05:47.720 really good looking

01:05:48.380 they have been

01:05:49.280 cheated on

01:05:49.940 the point is this

01:05:51.040 as men

01:05:51.720 that's the point

01:05:52.880 what we're seeing

01:05:53.300 is when a man

01:05:53.960 does it

01:05:54.540 he's doing it

01:05:55.720 because it's a

01:05:56.520 desire

01:05:57.080 there's no emotional

01:05:57.980 connections etc

01:05:58.840 so one of the

01:06:00.380 reasons why men

01:06:01.000 go and I

01:06:01.780 wouldn't say

01:06:02.080 cheat

01:06:02.400 get another

01:06:03.640 woman or

01:06:04.200 desire another

01:06:04.760 woman is

01:06:05.660 because there's

01:06:06.320 an inbuilt

01:06:06.840 mechanism in

01:06:07.720 place that

01:06:08.160 triggers it

01:06:09.120 it has

01:06:09.780 that's why I

01:06:10.420 say to

01:06:10.660 sisters it

01:06:11.220 has nothing

01:06:12.020 to do with

01:06:12.740 you there's

01:06:13.040 no deficiency

01:06:13.580 it's that

01:06:14.680 primal instinct

01:06:15.540 that happens

01:06:16.220 sometimes

01:06:16.540 so the

01:06:17.840 difference I

01:06:18.740 believe it's

01:06:19.260 that men

01:06:19.960 do it because

01:06:21.340 of it's just

01:06:22.300 an instinct which

01:06:23.320 is not right

01:06:23.800 but we're talking

01:06:25.000 about getting

01:06:25.380 another wife etc

01:06:26.460 that's a different

01:06:26.980 story

01:06:27.320 that's a

01:06:28.400 different story

01:06:29.060 but what we're

01:06:29.900 seeing is do you

01:06:30.480 see the difference

01:06:30.900 between us and

01:06:31.520 you if you got

01:06:32.280 that guy you

01:06:32.900 never think of

01:06:33.480 it and with

01:06:34.340 us men it's

01:06:36.240 not like that

01:06:36.900 but now this

01:06:38.040 is like some

01:06:39.020 story I think

01:06:39.640 it's a biological

01:06:40.360 creation of how

01:06:41.740 they have been

01:06:42.300 brought up

01:06:42.900 that's about

01:06:43.360 it's biological

01:06:44.000 it's just like

01:06:45.040 it's a biological

01:06:45.760 way that Allah

01:06:47.100 has created

01:06:47.580 woman to be

01:06:48.280 next level

01:06:48.960 jealous if a

01:06:49.760 man wants to

01:06:50.360 get married

01:06:50.780 again it's just

01:06:51.680 how you are

01:06:52.740 in your fitrah

01:06:53.620 then it's the

01:06:54.520 issue on how

01:06:55.280 do you control

01:06:56.140 that both

01:06:57.040 people have

01:06:57.600 to control

01:06:58.240 that test

01:06:59.780 that Allah

01:07:00.180 has been put

01:07:00.720 into birth

01:07:01.120 we've talked

01:07:02.120 about solutions

01:07:02.700 yeah okay

01:07:03.260 so any last

01:07:04.100 words because

01:07:04.480 we have talked

01:07:04.820 about solutions

01:07:05.280 pornography

01:07:05.800 bad friends

01:07:06.840 environment

01:07:07.340 also decondition

01:07:08.560 in your mind

01:07:09.380 because a lot

01:07:10.820 of men are

01:07:11.380 conditioned to

01:07:12.160 I've seen this

01:07:13.560 happen where

01:07:14.200 they go for

01:07:14.980 like you mentioned

01:07:15.840 actually Kim

01:07:16.500 Kardashian's the

01:07:17.260 Beyonce's

01:07:17.980 they go for

01:07:18.900 women who

01:07:19.460 to them look

01:07:21.020 good aesthetically

01:07:22.380 but their character

01:07:23.660 is crap

01:07:24.260 that's why

01:07:24.540 marriages fail

01:07:25.280 because they

01:07:25.880 go just for

01:07:26.620 looks

01:07:26.700 exactly because

01:07:26.720 you're just

01:07:27.060 going for the

01:07:27.600 visual

01:07:27.920 the look

01:07:28.760 and then her

01:07:29.800 character's

01:07:30.640 rubbish

01:07:31.220 you know

01:07:32.320 and then a lot

01:07:33.400 of these

01:07:33.720 relationships fail

01:07:34.620 because you've

01:07:35.120 just gone for

01:07:35.720 surface level

01:07:36.640 even if it's not

01:07:37.420 deep

01:07:37.780 it doesn't change

01:07:38.320 it doesn't change

01:07:39.400 you know what

01:07:40.380 he'd do

01:07:40.620 he would

01:07:40.980 he would be

01:07:41.940 treating her like

01:07:42.940 a queen

01:07:43.320 a princess

01:07:43.940 but that deep

01:07:45.260 instinct is still

01:07:46.040 there for him

01:07:46.860 I'm just letting

01:07:47.440 you guys know

01:07:47.980 it is deep

01:07:49.060 built in us

01:07:49.700 we don't ask for it

01:07:50.620 we don't

01:07:51.240 please don't blame us

01:07:52.020 let's ask the same

01:07:53.060 question to

01:07:53.680 brother Sertaj

01:07:54.460 we do have it

01:07:58.360 but we have to

01:07:58.880 control it

01:07:59.400 so when you're

01:08:01.700 able to control

01:08:02.680 it

01:08:02.900 it's a desire

01:08:07.180 for something

01:08:07.660 that you have to

01:08:08.160 control

01:08:08.560 yes it is

01:08:09.560 I'm so sorry

01:08:10.240 on this show

01:08:11.460 I've decided

01:08:11.960 I took an oath

01:08:12.820 that I will speak

01:08:13.740 a bit of truth

01:08:14.540 even if it's

01:08:15.040 against myself

01:08:15.500 speak the truth

01:08:16.840 even if it's

01:08:17.260 against yourself

01:08:17.760 control

01:08:19.180 okay we can talk

01:08:19.860 about controlling

01:08:20.420 but you are not

01:08:21.820 sinful for

01:08:22.680 exercising it

01:08:23.720 and men should

01:08:24.340 not be blameworthy

01:08:25.100 for exercising it

01:08:26.020 it is normal

01:08:27.000 as long as you're

01:08:27.660 given your rights

01:08:28.220 of your wife

01:08:28.920 etc

01:08:29.140 I'm talking about

01:08:29.580 cheating by the way

01:08:30.160 I'm not talking

01:08:30.660 about that

01:08:31.020 I'm saying

01:08:31.820 please brothers

01:08:33.160 stop suffocating

01:08:34.340 yourself

01:08:34.860 because you go

01:08:35.600 and do dumb

01:08:36.180 stuff by going

01:08:36.920 to escorts

01:08:37.520 you violate

01:08:38.420 Allah's laws

01:08:39.180 okay

01:08:39.620 just because

01:08:40.420 the emotions

01:08:41.060 of a woman

01:08:41.720 I don't give a damn

01:08:42.660 with all due respect

01:08:43.480 to any woman

01:08:44.220 and her emotions

01:08:44.800 if you are a good man

01:08:46.420 who practices

01:08:47.080 God fears

01:08:47.600 good father

01:08:48.140 and you are

01:08:49.440 killing yourself

01:08:50.020 internally

01:08:50.500 that you're going

01:08:51.380 to bounce

01:08:52.000 and do

01:08:52.420 some madness

01:08:53.540 committing haram

01:08:54.860 brother go

01:08:55.340 and get married

01:08:55.780 again

01:08:56.120 yeah

01:08:56.520 that woman

01:08:57.620 is going to

01:08:57.980 throw you

01:08:58.280 in the hell

01:08:58.740 fight

01:08:58.900 and you're

01:08:59.280 maqiyama

01:08:59.640 she's going to

01:08:59.980 say you know

01:09:00.280 my husband

01:09:00.600 please throw him

01:09:00.980 in hell

01:09:01.160 fight instead

01:09:01.480 of me

01:09:01.740 please do it

01:09:02.860 in the right

01:09:03.240 way

01:09:03.500 if you are

01:09:04.200 I'm not asking

01:09:04.680 anyone to go

01:09:05.180 and do it

01:09:05.460 I'm saying

01:09:05.700 if you are

01:09:06.480 please

01:09:07.160 this is what

01:09:07.700 we live

01:09:08.060 of this

01:09:08.320 how we're

01:09:08.600 created

01:09:09.060 our sisters

01:09:09.960 I'm only doing

01:09:10.480 this so you

01:09:10.900 guys understand

01:09:11.460 us

01:09:11.720 it's nothing

01:09:12.460 personal

01:09:12.920 we have no

01:09:13.920 problem with

01:09:14.340 you

01:09:14.500 it's the way

01:09:15.280 we are

01:09:15.520 created

01:09:15.900 I know

01:09:16.400 it's hard

01:09:16.700 for you

01:09:16.940 guys

01:09:17.140 but I'm

01:09:17.700 just making

01:09:18.000 it clear

01:09:18.360 can I just

01:09:18.880 say something

01:09:20.040 I'm not

01:09:21.820 saying this

01:09:22.340 but I

01:09:23.400 believe

01:09:24.340 when a

01:09:25.200 woman starts

01:09:25.960 respecting her

01:09:26.880 husband

01:09:27.400 a husband

01:09:28.080 who provides

01:09:28.980 emotionally

01:09:30.180 physically

01:09:30.900 financially

01:09:31.540 she will

01:09:33.560 respect that

01:09:34.140 man so

01:09:34.660 much

01:09:35.100 and trust

01:09:35.980 him so

01:09:36.500 much

01:09:36.840 that she

01:09:37.560 will get

01:09:37.880 to a point

01:09:38.340 where she

01:09:38.740 herself

01:09:39.420 may say

01:09:40.120 to her

01:09:40.460 husband

01:09:40.820 it's okay

01:09:41.380 you can

01:09:41.760 bring a

01:09:42.340 second one

01:09:42.800 but a man

01:09:43.780 has to reach

01:09:44.400 that level

01:09:44.820 not many

01:09:45.640 men reach

01:09:46.680 that level

01:09:47.240 but the

01:09:48.420 perfect example

01:09:49.100 I want to

01:09:49.380 give is

01:09:49.680 Noor

01:09:49.940 he was in

01:09:51.020 that situation

01:09:51.640 wasn't he

01:09:52.400 when the

01:09:54.700 lady was

01:09:55.140 trying to

01:09:55.540 chase him

01:09:56.060 and commit

01:09:57.980 so the

01:10:02.560 thing is

01:10:03.160 fear of

01:10:04.040 Allah

01:10:04.340 and self

01:10:05.880 control

01:10:06.260 prison is

01:10:07.080 more beloved

01:10:07.520 to me

01:10:07.920 man has

01:10:09.320 to learn

01:10:09.700 how to

01:10:10.080 gain the

01:10:10.540 respect

01:10:10.900 you know

01:10:11.520 a lot of

01:10:12.520 people demand

01:10:13.100 respect

01:10:13.640 you cannot

01:10:14.380 demand

01:10:14.860 respect

01:10:15.360 you gain

01:10:16.560 respect

01:10:17.060 now if

01:10:17.860 a husband

01:10:18.400 gains the

01:10:19.060 respect of

01:10:19.700 his wife

01:10:20.380 to the

01:10:21.280 highest level

01:10:22.240 self

01:10:23.080 actualisation

01:10:24.000 is the

01:10:24.400 highest level

01:10:25.820 for a

01:10:26.680 human being

01:10:27.400 when you

01:10:28.020 reach that

01:10:28.500 level

01:10:28.820 whether you're

01:10:29.360 man or

01:10:29.820 woman

01:10:30.160 and you're

01:10:31.220 on your

01:10:31.520 deen

01:10:32.020 you have

01:10:32.480 that soul

01:10:33.020 connection

01:10:33.480 with Allah

01:10:33.980 because

01:10:34.700 if a husband

01:10:36.720 decides to

01:10:37.280 get married

01:10:37.700 and the

01:10:38.080 wife accepts

01:10:38.800 it

01:10:39.080 she gets

01:10:39.840 the value

01:10:40.900 of

01:10:41.080 matai

01:10:41.540 so now

01:10:43.580 if there

01:10:44.960 is a

01:10:45.300 sister

01:10:45.700 whose

01:10:46.140 husband

01:10:46.540 is

01:10:47.000 you know

01:10:48.460 he's

01:10:48.760 gained that

01:10:49.340 respect

01:10:49.660 from her

01:10:50.300 most likely

01:10:51.500 I believe

01:10:52.860 that

01:10:53.600 wife

01:10:54.900 would say

01:10:55.640 because she'll

01:10:56.560 trust him

01:10:57.040 what if a

01:10:57.940 husband says

01:10:58.500 that you have

01:10:59.360 to gain

01:10:59.640 my love

01:11:00.060 why are you

01:11:02.460 guys looking

01:11:02.700 at me like

01:11:02.960 that

01:11:03.080 if a husband

01:11:04.580 says to his

01:11:05.760 wife

01:11:06.080 that don't

01:11:07.700 make sense

01:11:08.200 for example

01:11:09.980 if a husband

01:11:10.340 comes and

01:11:10.820 says you're

01:11:11.100 disrespecting me

01:11:11.580 she said you

01:11:11.920 need to earn

01:11:12.400 my respect

01:11:12.940 okay

01:11:13.560 the husband

01:11:14.600 says you

01:11:15.220 have to earn

01:11:15.760 my respect

01:11:16.200 the husband

01:11:16.400 says I

01:11:17.000 feel like

01:11:17.380 you're

01:11:17.560 disrespecting

01:11:18.240 me

01:11:18.400 as a man

01:11:18.820 and she

01:11:19.120 says well

01:11:19.620 you have

01:11:19.880 to earn

01:11:20.160 my respect

01:11:21.260 imagine

01:11:21.500 the man

01:11:22.540 the woman

01:11:22.960 comes and

01:11:23.240 says I

01:11:23.480 don't feel

01:11:23.740 like you

01:11:24.020 love

01:11:24.220 me

01:11:24.380 you're

01:11:24.480 affectionate

01:11:24.820 well you

01:11:25.080 have to

01:11:25.320 earn

01:11:25.500 my

01:11:25.700 love

01:11:25.960 oh you

01:11:26.960 guys

01:11:27.100 don't

01:11:27.220 like

01:11:27.440 it

01:11:27.600 okay

01:11:28.300 so you

01:11:28.620 guys

01:11:28.740 so

01:11:29.060 why is

01:11:31.740 it that

01:11:31.980 a man

01:11:32.280 has to

01:11:32.560 earn his respect but if the woman is saying look emotionally you're not giving me love yeah and

01:11:37.460 then he says well you have to earn my love okay so how does how do you gain respect thank you so

01:11:42.080 what i'm saying is how does an individual why are people marrying uh their significant other without

01:11:48.320 respect or love okay good but what i'm saying is this but one thing we need to bear in mind

01:11:52.200 a woman wants love a man wants respect if you go to each other and say i want this no as a man we

01:11:59.620 have to take the responsibility and say no matter what arguments i have i have to show the affection

01:12:04.080 and the love that has to be there so for a for a man we want respect there shouldn't be you have to earn

01:12:09.600 what does that mean if you're married to a vile haiwan like an animal who is outright violating

01:12:15.940 you i'm not talking about that but to use the word to your husband like you need to earn my respect

01:12:20.420 is good as me saying you have to earn my love okay gain is different earn is different yeah

01:12:24.660 earn is a in a like a contract you give it's a give and take gaining respect is when you respect

01:12:31.160 others you respect yourself first yeah when you respect yourself you have those boundaries in place

01:12:36.440 what you accept what you don't we do not respect exactly but but i don't i would never marry my

01:12:42.560 husband if i didn't respect him do you see what i mean yeah so the respect foundation wise before

01:12:47.800 we're marrying people that has to be but somewhere along the lines you when you marry someone you're

01:12:53.860 respecting each other okay you're expecting that person to respect you that's why they're marrying

01:12:58.860 you yeah yeah but somewhere along that line through arguments through whatever means he's not he's not

01:13:04.260 providing okay yeah he's changed he's not looking after you he's looking at other women where is that

01:13:09.480 respect going to go are you still going to respect that man no no we need to we need to end but on

01:13:13.200 and not what you said for example and i believe this if a man is a true man who does this stuff

01:13:17.380 wallahi your wife will stick by you even if i'm not talking about cheating because cheating i would say i would say

01:13:22.960 that she has every islamic right to get for divorce immediately that's what islamic right

01:13:27.240 but if you do decide to get married again etc if you are a good man she will stick by you i believe

01:13:32.980 this is in the psychology of a woman because if you treat her well and you're a good man but you have

01:13:37.280 to be that the woman has to also yes on on deen of course of course of course 100% if you don't have

01:13:43.060 that connection with allah subhanahu wa ta'ala there is no way on earth a woman will accept and i guys

01:13:48.640 and i think in society it needs to change as well we need to remind people that committing zina

01:13:53.400 is not good committing cheating and stuff is not good you've always got an alternative option

01:13:58.500 if your wife isn't agreeing to a second marriage then you've got the option of divorce yeah you're a

01:14:03.100 low category man yeah you're i think you're a low category man if you can you have an option

01:14:07.460 allah has given you and you're violating that because you're scared of your wife what a coward you

01:14:10.900 are man you're you're a little i don't want to speak anyways i don't because you're a despicable

01:14:14.720 individual that allah has given you an option but you're like oh no my wife are you

01:14:17.580 worshiping your wife is your wife your lord weird i think it just goes back to what he what you said

01:14:23.840 about they just don't they're too lazy to or they don't or they're cowardly enough to no no men men

01:14:30.560 to take responsibility yeah of a marriage that's really what he's a boy like society they're boys

01:14:37.120 uh to the boys uh who's watching this inshallah you'll be men uh um till next time hope you guys

01:14:41.920 have got an idea why men go down this route uh but yeah that's inshallah we did another episode of

01:14:46.640 why women end up being disloyal which is very insightful by the way we really really disciple

01:14:50.940 certain stuff and understood certain things um again it's i believe cross of the matter is men

01:14:55.740 are leaders and allah's made it most of the times i blame men if their wife is disloyal but you can

01:15:00.500 watch the episode why i say that you might disagree till next time from the bitter trip show assalamualaikum

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01:15:15.500 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us that our books will be given and every little atom weight of good

01:15:20.700 will be there and imagine you see a mountain and you're like what a lucky person which righteous

01:15:27.000 person and allah says this is for you for me yes what did i do you allow people to pray you built

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Ali Dawah - April 14, 2024

WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES？ - EP 26 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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