Ali Dawah - April 14, 2024


WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES? - EP 26 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW


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In this episode, we talk about why a woman cheats on her husband and why men cheat on their wives. We also talk about the reasons why women cheat and why a man cheats and why it is so common in our society.

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00:00:00.000 So today's topic is quite controversial, but it is the topic of why men and women become disloyal.
00:00:06.940 Yeah. So we want to know what causes a woman to go down the route of disloyalty. 1.00
00:00:11.820 I've seen this happen where they go for, like you mentioned, actually, Kim Kardashian's, the Beyonce's.
00:00:16.200 They go for women who, to them, look good aesthetically, but their character is correct. 0.97
00:00:21.840 A man could go and be intimate with another woman and it can mean zero to him.
00:00:26.600 Do you kind of think it's maybe accepted in society?
00:00:29.120 Yes, I was literally going to say that.
00:00:30.320 Women are more frowned upon if they cheat, but men, it's normal. 1.00
00:00:33.940 In certain cultures.
00:00:34.820 He's taking his wife out, he's buying the stuff and she's being ungrateful for it.
00:00:38.340 And that's like a disrespect to how he feels because he would be literally saying, I'm doing as much as I can and it's not being valued.
00:00:43.660 The reason why Allah tells a woman to cover up is so we don't fall in love the wrong way. 0.93
00:00:46.700 Not love, lust the wrong way because it protects you and it protects me.
00:00:49.720 Because when you're covered, I'm speaking to you, not speaking to something else.
00:00:52.120 If a man cheats on his wife, that man is not to be trusted by other men.
00:00:56.340 And you shouldn't go into business with a man that cheats on his wife.
00:00:59.900 They don't want the commitment of a second wife, financial burdens. 0.98
00:01:02.300 They want to have their short-term pleasure.
00:01:04.160 They don't want that commitment.
00:01:05.780 That's what most guys, that's why they cheat.
00:01:07.780 A wife holds high value for a man. 1.00
00:01:10.160 Of course it does.
00:01:10.640 So that's the only woman that can hurt him emotionally.
00:01:13.920 The rest of the women are just... 1.00
00:01:15.520 Don't mean nothing.
00:01:16.460 Exactly.
00:01:17.100 You know what they've mentioned in their head?
00:01:18.220 This is my girl.
00:01:19.460 This is my girlfriend or wife, whatever. 0.82
00:01:20.940 Done.
00:01:21.480 Now, I value her and she's mine.
00:01:24.040 But the rest are nothing.
00:01:25.220 And today, women, they have no khaya. 1.00
00:01:26.620 So they throw their self at you.
00:01:27.440 And these days, women are throwing their self at men. 1.00
00:01:29.300 If there is a sister whose husband is...
00:01:32.220 You know, he's gained that respect from her.
00:01:34.200 Most likely, I believe...
00:01:36.240 What your husband says, that you have to gain my love.
00:01:38.920 I feel like you're disrespecting me as a man.
00:01:40.520 And she said, well, you have to earn my respect.
00:01:42.420 Imagine the man, the woman comes and says, 0.97
00:01:44.220 I don't feel like you love me, you're affectionate.
00:01:45.380 Well, you have to earn my love.
00:01:46.880 Oh, you guys don't like it.
00:01:47.960 Okay, so you guys...
00:01:48.620 Okay, so one second.
00:01:49.500 Why is it that a man has to earn his respect? 0.97
00:01:52.380 But if the woman is saying,
00:01:53.580 look, emotionally, you're not giving me love, yeah?
00:01:55.240 And then he says, well, you have to earn my love.
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00:02:24.680 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
00:02:26.040 brothers and sisters and dear friends.
00:02:27.240 Hope you guys are well inshallah.
00:02:28.080 Welcome to another episode of The Bitter Truth Show.
00:02:30.800 The show has...
00:02:32.600 We started the show,
00:02:33.620 me, my wife,
00:02:35.200 and the team,
00:02:35.920 Anas,
00:02:36.560 Jabi,
00:02:37.420 and the rest of the crew.
00:02:38.460 Alhamdulillah may Allah bless them.
00:02:39.740 Our aim is to preserve the family units.
00:02:41.580 There's an outright attack with divorces,
00:02:43.540 the whole LGBTQT,
00:02:44.780 all that kind of stuff.
00:02:45.680 So we're here to talk about issues
00:02:47.260 that are pertaining to matters
00:02:49.060 that cause divorces. 1.00
00:02:51.440 One of the other aims is
00:02:52.520 to understand opposite gender better,
00:02:54.080 for them to understand us better,
00:02:55.800 and to have a civilised dialogue
00:02:57.340 with akhlaq and adab
00:02:58.340 without backbiting, slandering.
00:03:00.160 And hope this is some kind of a...
00:03:02.460 an example for you guys
00:03:04.680 is how obviously we know
00:03:06.380 when it comes to, you know,
00:03:08.260 interacting with opposite gender,
00:03:09.640 Islam is clear on this matter.
00:03:11.540 But it's to show you guys
00:03:12.980 that Muslim men,
00:03:14.140 practicing Muslim men
00:03:14.820 and practicing sisters, 0.68
00:03:15.700 our honourable sisters,
00:03:16.720 we can come here and talk about issues
00:03:17.960 that are pertaining to our deen,
00:03:20.020 that affect our lives
00:03:21.020 and our families.
00:03:22.440 And hope this is an example
00:03:23.460 how you inshallah to conduct yourselves.
00:03:26.020 So if you want to apply
00:03:26.800 and be a guest,
00:03:27.500 thebittertruthshow at gmail.com,
00:03:28.980 you can apply there inshallah
00:03:29.860 and be a participant.
00:03:31.840 But today's show,
00:03:32.680 we did one...
00:03:34.680 a couple of weeks ago
00:03:35.380 was why women cheat, 1.00
00:03:38.920 why they're disloyal.
00:03:40.360 And we discussed that.
00:03:41.440 We didn't have time to fit this in.
00:03:43.200 But so today we have different guests,
00:03:44.920 different speakers,
00:03:45.960 as you can see.
00:03:46.700 And the topic at hand is
00:03:47.800 why do men cheat?
00:03:49.680 Why are men disloyal?
00:03:50.580 What causes them to go disloyal?
00:03:52.200 They become disloyal.
00:03:53.420 So we're going to start off...
00:03:54.640 I'm assuming...
00:03:55.740 We'll start with the men. 0.86
00:03:56.380 You guys want to get an understanding maybe
00:03:57.700 before we go to you guys,
00:03:58.760 unless you want to say you want to...
00:04:00.240 No?
00:04:00.980 Yeah?
00:04:01.500 We'll start with the men inshallah, yeah?
00:04:03.200 So from our psychology,
00:04:04.900 our perspective,
00:04:06.080 what causes us men
00:04:08.260 to be disloyal?
00:04:10.560 And again,
00:04:12.420 disloyalty,
00:04:13.080 we need to put into some...
00:04:14.420 You know,
00:04:14.840 make some disclaimers here.
00:04:15.880 At the end of the day,
00:04:16.600 it's zina, adultery. 0.90
00:04:18.480 Zina, 0.88
00:04:19.000 if you commit zina,
00:04:20.980 it's not actually disloyalty in that sense
00:04:22.640 because you're,
00:04:23.280 you know,
00:04:23.880 you're not being unfaithful in that sense
00:04:25.740 because you're not married already.
00:04:27.100 So you're basically
00:04:28.020 committing an immoral act,
00:04:29.760 which is a hundred lashes.
00:04:31.980 If you are married,
00:04:33.220 the capital punishment is very clear.
00:04:34.680 I'm sure you guys know.
00:04:35.360 I don't need to go into detail.
00:04:36.900 And it's from Islam and it's the haqq. 1.00
00:04:39.160 So when it comes to this issue,
00:04:40.900 we do still have men,
00:04:41.880 but we just want to understand psychology
00:04:42.940 because we know it's a major sin.
00:04:44.500 It's a major,
00:04:45.280 major sin,
00:04:45.760 which holds a death penalty
00:04:47.800 in that sense,
00:04:48.940 unless that's obviously just
00:04:50.860 talking about hadith
00:04:52.420 of the Prophet Muhammad,
00:04:53.060 peace be upon him,
00:04:53.760 where a woman came 0.80
00:04:54.520 and even a man came
00:04:55.580 and said,
00:04:56.380 I committed adultery.
00:04:58.160 And the Prophet,
00:04:58.860 peace be upon him,
00:04:59.240 moved away from him,
00:05:00.400 moved and just ignored him.
00:05:01.520 And he said,
00:05:01.960 oh, Meshulullah, 0.99
00:05:02.580 I've committed adultery.
00:05:03.940 He moved from him again.
00:05:06.520 And the third time,
00:05:07.460 he was insistent.
00:05:08.580 And he said,
00:05:09.160 maybe you just kissed her.
00:05:10.840 So he was trying to say,
00:05:11.600 listen,
00:05:11.880 what that shows you
00:05:14.600 is the Sharia is not 0.97
00:05:15.460 bloodthirsty looking
00:05:16.280 to apply punishments.
00:05:17.640 It's just averting
00:05:18.780 as much as possible.
00:05:19.580 When he confessed
00:05:20.400 for the third time,
00:05:21.540 he had no choice
00:05:22.880 of the Prophet,
00:05:23.400 peace be upon him,
00:05:23.820 but to apply that punishment
00:05:24.720 at his discretion.
00:05:26.760 So much so
00:05:27.640 that the narration says
00:05:29.120 that when he was
00:05:30.240 obviously being stoned,
00:05:32.280 yes,
00:05:33.200 that at one moment
00:05:34.720 he actually escaped
00:05:35.940 and ran away.
00:05:37.560 And some of the companions
00:05:38.220 chased him
00:05:38.960 to, should we say,
00:05:40.560 to finish the job
00:05:41.160 in that sense.
00:05:41.880 The Prophet peace be upon him
00:05:42.400 was upset.
00:05:43.400 He said,
00:05:43.600 why did you have to chase him?
00:05:44.980 The point is that
00:05:45.820 there was a woman 0.88
00:05:46.500 who came and she was 1.00
00:05:47.240 actually pregnant.
00:05:48.680 And the Prophet peace be upon him
00:05:49.440 again said,
00:05:50.320 look,
00:05:50.840 just maybe,
00:05:52.100 you know,
00:05:52.640 whatever.
00:05:52.940 She was like,
00:05:53.220 no,
00:05:53.800 she was adamant.
00:05:55.560 So much so,
00:05:56.140 the Prophet peace be upon him
00:05:56.800 said,
00:05:57.000 okay,
00:05:57.160 once you give birth,
00:05:58.480 you know,
00:05:58.820 maybe thinking,
00:05:59.360 you know,
00:05:59.480 she might come and give birth 1.00
00:06:00.320 and change her mind 0.98
00:06:00.820 and say,
00:06:01.020 look,
00:06:01.120 I've repented,
00:06:01.680 et cetera,
00:06:02.420 which you can,
00:06:03.000 you can secretly repent
00:06:03.760 for this matter.
00:06:05.240 Again,
00:06:05.700 this is what happened.
00:06:06.280 And when she was,
00:06:07.820 she got the capital punishment,
00:06:09.220 some of the blood
00:06:10.360 went on the shoes
00:06:12.480 of one of the companions.
00:06:13.800 And he actually acted
00:06:15.780 in a way of like,
00:06:17.140 repulsed by it.
00:06:18.320 And the Prophet peace be upon him
00:06:19.100 said something so profound
00:06:20.040 and it gives me shivers
00:06:21.000 to this day,
00:06:21.540 like even saying it right now.
00:06:23.200 He said,
00:06:23.960 because he was repulsed
00:06:24.780 by the blood,
00:06:25.320 like,
00:06:25.480 oh, 0.99
00:06:25.560 this is an adulterous woman. 1.00
00:06:26.820 He said, 0.97
00:06:27.200 by Allah,
00:06:28.060 her repentance,
00:06:28.960 what she did now,
00:06:30.240 willingly,
00:06:31.120 would be sufficient
00:06:31.940 for Medina
00:06:32.540 to show the honorable state.
00:06:35.160 Because we would look
00:06:35.640 at this woman
00:06:36.060 and people would back chat
00:06:37.080 and la la la la la la.
00:06:38.540 In Islam,
00:06:39.460 Islam,
00:06:40.020 the Prophet peace be upon him
00:06:40.960 saying her repentance,
00:06:42.520 that he also repulsed
00:06:43.100 by her blood,
00:06:44.080 Wallahi,
00:06:44.560 it will be enough
00:06:45.360 for her repentance.
00:06:47.320 So we need to understand
00:06:48.340 Islam's views
00:06:48.940 very specific in this manner.
00:06:50.400 Sorry for that lecture
00:06:51.060 in that sense
00:06:51.580 because we need to bring clarity.
00:06:52.820 It is a major sin,
00:06:53.540 but putting that to a side,
00:06:55.020 what causes a man
00:06:56.340 to even think about this?
00:06:58.040 Prophet Sirtaj,
00:06:59.180 you're married.
00:07:00.720 You've got a new brother here,
00:07:01.960 may Allah bless you.
00:07:02.500 Yes, Allah.
00:07:03.180 Prophet Sallam,
00:07:03.640 can you just maybe
00:07:04.120 introduce yourself?
00:07:05.180 Assalamualaikum,
00:07:05.760 my name is Ibrahim.
00:07:07.500 I'm married,
00:07:08.040 I'm 40 years old,
00:07:08.860 41.
00:07:09.560 Mashallah.
00:07:10.100 Come on, bro,
00:07:10.380 you look 33.
00:07:11.380 Alhamdulillah.
00:07:11.940 Mashallah.
00:07:13.000 You're just being nice.
00:07:14.100 Yes, I'm 43.
00:07:14.800 No, no,
00:07:15.040 Wallahi,
00:07:15.180 I'm being very genuine.
00:07:16.920 You look like 33, 34.
00:07:18.080 Jazakallah khair.
00:07:18.900 Mashallah.
00:07:19.240 So, yeah,
00:07:20.060 I'm married with quite a lot of children.
00:07:21.660 Oh, mashallah.
00:07:22.420 Two different marriages.
00:07:23.780 Okay, mashallah.
00:07:24.580 Like,
00:07:24.800 simultaneously or divorce?
00:07:27.360 I tried to go for the simultaneous one,
00:07:29.120 didn't work out.
00:07:29.900 It didn't work out,
00:07:30.460 Alhamdulillah.
00:07:30.840 Okay,
00:07:31.260 no problem,
00:07:31.560 it happens,
00:07:32.040 it doesn't happen.
00:07:32.700 Okay,
00:07:33.440 and you're kind of a regular,
00:07:35.180 you've come before,
00:07:36.020 but again.
00:07:36.700 Yeah.
00:07:38.240 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
00:07:39.240 Oh,
00:07:40.480 two mics.
00:07:41.300 Two mics.
00:07:41.800 Yeah,
00:07:43.960 I was on,
00:07:44.600 I think,
00:07:44.940 three episodes before,
00:07:45.720 wasn't I?
00:07:48.180 See what it's in?
00:07:49.940 Okay.
00:07:50.800 Yeah,
00:07:51.040 so I was on a few episodes before,
00:07:52.320 and this is my fourth one.
00:07:54.940 I'm a university student doing international marketing
00:07:57.840 and consumer psychology,
00:07:59.540 and I can't be bothered to speak about myself,
00:08:01.280 so I'll let everyone else speak now.
00:08:03.340 Okay,
00:08:03.780 so let's get straight into it.
00:08:04.420 Brother Sertaj,
00:08:04.860 you're married.
00:08:05.660 What causes a man to think about this loyalty,
00:08:08.960 act upon it,
00:08:09.600 or pursue it,
00:08:10.900 or whatever,
00:08:11.220 and this loyalty can come in different ways,
00:08:12.420 by the way.
00:08:13.740 The thing is,
00:08:14.960 if we're talking about a real man,
00:08:17.680 you know,
00:08:17.960 we're talking about a real man
00:08:18.940 who looks after his family
00:08:20.020 and takes care of his family,
00:08:22.100 I think is the attention.
00:08:24.920 If he doesn't get that attention at home,
00:08:27.040 he will go do something,
00:08:29.300 but the thing is,
00:08:30.340 if he doesn't have that connection with his wife
00:08:33.040 and not talking to her what the problem is,
00:08:35.380 and that will kind of lead him towards
00:08:37.600 doing something he shouldn't do,
00:08:40.280 but I'm talking about a real man,
00:08:42.160 but some men just cheat
00:08:43.240 because they'll just want to cheat.
00:08:45.560 There's like different kind of thing
00:08:47.880 that you need to look into,
00:08:48.920 but I think a real man
00:08:51.460 that, you know,
00:08:53.660 I think,
00:08:54.340 first of all,
00:08:55.060 if there's a situation like that,
00:08:56.460 he should try his best
00:08:57.320 trying to sort the situation out,
00:08:59.820 but if he's not getting sorted
00:09:00.980 and he's not getting attention at home
00:09:02.460 with his wife,
00:09:03.640 that will lead him towards
00:09:04.820 doing something that he shouldn't do.
00:09:07.440 Okay, so,
00:09:08.900 is that the only reason?
00:09:11.320 Yeah, I'd say,
00:09:12.060 there's multiple reasons, right,
00:09:14.320 but I'd like to open up by saying,
00:09:15.700 I think it was 25% of women 0.99
00:09:17.500 in a marriage cheat,
00:09:19.280 according to Muslim Skeptic,
00:09:20.720 40%,
00:09:21.480 up to 40% of men cheat in a marriage.
00:09:23.520 What's Muslim Skeptic? 0.99
00:09:25.040 It's like a,
00:09:25.740 he's a big YouTuber,
00:09:26.880 I think, you know,
00:09:27.520 Daniel Hakkju, right?
00:09:28.480 According to him,
00:09:29.600 you said that.
00:09:30.080 So he's done his own statistics and stuff,
00:09:31.800 you can look it up yourself,
00:09:33.100 yeah.
00:09:33.280 Oh, okay.
00:09:33.860 Yeah.
00:09:34.440 Yeah, that obviously,
00:09:35.520 I'll need to find out.
00:09:36.520 That's fine,
00:09:37.320 that's why I'm quoting the source.
00:09:38.920 Okay, all right, interesting.
00:09:39.620 Exactly, yeah.
00:09:40.480 So that shows that,
00:09:41.280 obviously,
00:09:41.600 men cheat more than women, right? 0.66
00:09:43.420 And we're sort of going to discuss
00:09:45.060 why they do that.
00:09:46.360 So one of the reasons is
00:09:47.300 because the family home,
00:09:49.040 he doesn't feel like
00:09:49.840 he can get what he needs
00:09:51.560 out of his wife,
00:09:52.540 so he goes looking for it elsewhere.
00:09:53.960 I think a lot of that
00:09:54.980 is to do with sort of sexual desires.
00:09:57.020 So he's not sort of
00:09:58.620 getting what he wants
00:10:00.040 in that department.
00:10:01.060 So he's cheating,
00:10:02.500 he's getting escorts,
00:10:03.340 whatever that may be.
00:10:04.520 I think that's a big
00:10:05.320 contributing factor.
00:10:06.120 Bismillah.
00:10:11.800 I think, like,
00:10:13.020 everybody agrees
00:10:13.860 that we're living in a society today
00:10:15.340 that opens the platform
00:10:17.260 for zina and adultery 0.98
00:10:18.860 to take place
00:10:19.620 from the very young age,
00:10:21.300 from when children
00:10:21.900 are watching things from TV,
00:10:24.680 the whole concept
00:10:25.540 of boyfriend, girlfriend,
00:10:26.640 the loyalty of family
00:10:27.660 has been completely broken down
00:10:29.840 and we are growing up
00:10:30.900 in that environment
00:10:31.660 where parents
00:10:33.400 are not even discussing
00:10:35.280 this idea of the value
00:10:37.000 of a marriage in depth
00:10:38.380 with the children.
00:10:39.860 People are getting married
00:10:41.020 very immaturely
00:10:42.380 and they haven't truly
00:10:44.280 understand the value
00:10:45.320 of what marriage is,
00:10:46.760 what loyalty is,
00:10:48.320 the responsibility
00:10:49.120 that it carries.
00:10:51.520 So when men,
00:10:53.360 for example,
00:10:54.560 some men are immature
00:10:55.520 in the sense
00:10:56.420 they don't know
00:10:56.900 what they want.
00:10:57.980 They walk outside,
00:10:59.580 their tuck was low
00:11:00.560 and they're engaging
00:11:02.360 with women at work,
00:11:04.160 they engage with women,
00:11:05.600 whether you're a taxi driver,
00:11:06.660 you work in an office,
00:11:08.140 they see a lot of fitness
00:11:09.060 around them
00:11:09.820 and the opportunity
00:11:10.980 is very easy
00:11:12.020 and because their understanding
00:11:14.000 of commitment,
00:11:14.780 of marriage,
00:11:15.300 of what it means
00:11:16.180 and they don't think
00:11:17.640 about the repercussion
00:11:19.180 of their actions
00:11:20.900 until later on
00:11:22.000 and sometimes
00:11:22.940 it's a bit too late.
00:11:24.980 So there's lots
00:11:26.100 of different factors
00:11:26.840 for different people.
00:11:27.920 We live in a society
00:11:28.660 where we're people
00:11:29.280 from many different backgrounds
00:11:30.500 so we don't always
00:11:33.300 understand the person
00:11:34.460 that we're married to
00:11:35.420 so everyone's got
00:11:36.100 different values
00:11:37.000 and when you put
00:11:39.600 all of this
00:11:39.960 in context together
00:11:41.040 you're going to see
00:11:43.100 men are cheating
00:11:44.040 for various reasons.
00:11:45.840 Some of it,
00:11:46.380 like I said,
00:11:46.860 is immaturity.
00:11:48.020 They don't understand
00:11:48.720 the value of their partner
00:11:50.080 and that's some
00:11:54.360 of the points.
00:11:56.300 So it's actually similar
00:11:57.760 to what everyone else
00:11:58.420 has just said right now
00:11:59.180 and this is also
00:12:00.800 common with women 0.97
00:12:01.460 as well.
00:12:01.980 It's actually
00:12:02.520 relational neglect.
00:12:07.260 So the husband
00:12:08.280 would literally be,
00:12:09.320 you could say he's
00:12:09.840 doing all of his work,
00:12:11.660 he's taking his wife out,
00:12:12.900 he's buying the stuff
00:12:13.680 and she's being
00:12:14.580 ungrateful for it
00:12:15.300 and that's like a disrespect
00:12:16.980 to how he feels
00:12:17.920 because he would be
00:12:18.580 literally saying
00:12:19.260 I'm doing as much
00:12:20.340 as I can
00:12:20.840 and it's not being valued.
00:12:23.020 So similar to what
00:12:24.020 Brother Surtaj
00:12:24.780 was saying would be that
00:12:25.860 because he's not
00:12:27.040 feeling valued
00:12:27.680 with all the work
00:12:28.440 he's putting in
00:12:28.980 in his own house
00:12:29.660 he's going to try
00:12:31.140 and get that
00:12:31.620 from somebody else.
00:12:33.140 Same thing would
00:12:33.860 happen with a woman 0.99
00:12:34.520 where if she's not
00:12:35.420 feeling valued
00:12:36.620 for the work
00:12:37.060 that she's doing
00:12:37.800 and she's not
00:12:38.760 getting attention
00:12:39.140 from her husband
00:12:39.640 despite doing
00:12:40.460 as much as she can
00:12:41.200 in the house
00:12:41.620 and with the kids
00:12:42.200 she too would
00:12:43.500 also be doing
00:12:44.240 a similar thing
00:12:45.260 where she'd be
00:12:45.560 looking elsewhere
00:12:46.060 for the attention.
00:12:47.900 Then you have
00:12:48.300 more of an
00:12:48.700 immature angle
00:12:49.340 where you have
00:12:50.480 not men
00:12:52.060 but you could say
00:12:52.680 little boys
00:12:53.220 where they have
00:12:54.320 this very
00:12:55.540 very high sex drive
00:12:56.520 and they can't
00:12:58.080 control themselves
00:12:58.700 when they literally
00:12:59.180 leave the house
00:12:59.700 and these are
00:13:00.560 usually people
00:13:00.980 that have
00:13:01.480 the tuck
00:13:03.540 was not very good
00:13:04.300 they can't
00:13:05.500 lower their gaze
00:13:06.240 everything they see
00:13:07.800 with like women 1.00
00:13:08.360 and stuff
00:13:08.680 they seem as like
00:13:09.280 a piece of meat
00:13:10.280 so they'll literally
00:13:11.240 they have the ability
00:13:12.560 to do so
00:13:13.180 they'll hide it
00:13:14.540 from their wife
00:13:15.040 and they'll just
00:13:15.860 do it behind their back
00:13:16.660 but the ones
00:13:17.980 that you would feel
00:13:18.800 that is more complex
00:13:21.180 is are the men
00:13:22.640 that are actual men
00:13:23.760 they're doing as much
00:13:24.680 as they can
00:13:24.980 for their family
00:13:25.600 as much as they can
00:13:26.680 for their wife
00:13:27.280 doing X, Y, Z
00:13:28.840 and going out of
00:13:30.240 what you'd expect
00:13:31.320 from a man 0.83
00:13:31.640 like they're doing
00:13:32.260 so much
00:13:32.800 and when it's not
00:13:34.300 being respected
00:13:35.080 then they feel
00:13:35.760 the wife feels
00:13:37.140 ungrateful
00:13:37.500 for what she has
00:13:38.220 that's when I feel
00:13:39.320 as though the man
00:13:39.920 would want to
00:13:41.240 outsource it
00:13:41.700 somewhere else
00:13:42.140 so he can feel
00:13:42.560 valued and respected
00:13:43.240 I think
00:13:47.080 instead of saying
00:13:47.700 why men cheat
00:13:48.180 because men have
00:13:48.720 permission
00:13:50.220 to get married again
00:13:50.940 so should we say
00:13:51.740 why men seek
00:13:52.500 another woman 0.89
00:13:52.900 because then we can
00:13:53.620 come at it from an angle
00:13:54.760 not just by cheating
00:13:55.700 because sometimes
00:13:57.040 men
00:13:57.460 men desire other women 1.00
00:14:00.280 for a variety
00:14:01.300 of reasons
00:14:01.960 that's another reason
00:14:02.640 as well
00:14:02.980 because that needs
00:14:03.800 to be added in
00:14:04.300 because otherwise
00:14:04.880 it doesn't mean justice
00:14:05.420 why don't we classify
00:14:05.860 what cheating is
00:14:06.840 so in this instance
00:14:07.720 can we say cheating
00:14:08.440 is physically
00:14:09.160 doing something
00:14:10.760 with another woman
00:14:11.440 while she's already
00:14:12.100 in a marriage
00:14:12.580 because if you're
00:14:13.240 seeking another wife 0.95
00:14:14.660 which is halal
00:14:15.740 you're not going
00:14:16.620 to be engaging
00:14:17.100 so should we say
00:14:17.700 why do men seek 0.98
00:14:20.060 another woman 0.89
00:14:20.740 because we have
00:14:21.540 the element
00:14:22.260 of marrying again
00:14:23.260 because then sisters
00:14:24.700 can understand
00:14:25.180 why is he
00:14:26.780 seeking another woman 0.97
00:14:28.560 because when we did
00:14:29.700 why women cheat 1.00
00:14:30.540 we realised that
00:14:31.540 women cheat 1.00
00:14:32.080 in two ways
00:14:32.700 there is one
00:14:33.560 emotional
00:14:34.340 and there's a second
00:14:35.660 which is physical
00:14:36.280 which the man does
00:14:36.940 as well
00:14:37.160 emotional cheating
00:14:38.320 is different
00:14:38.740 because if she feels
00:14:39.460 neglected
00:14:39.900 we discussed that
00:14:40.620 if she feels like
00:14:41.600 she's not being heard
00:14:42.160 etc
00:14:42.440 she will get
00:14:43.720 and crave that attention
00:14:44.460 somewhere else
00:14:44.880 I think we should
00:14:45.640 keep it to why
00:14:46.600 men cheat
00:14:47.360 because we know
00:14:49.260 why men seek
00:14:50.500 other women 0.95
00:14:51.060 because you're
00:14:51.660 polygamous by nature
00:14:52.780 that's why
00:14:53.560 by nature
00:14:55.500 men can go
00:14:56.740 with multiple women
00:14:57.860 we know that already
00:14:58.920 so it's why men cheat
00:15:01.000 but if you want
00:15:02.300 to relate it to that
00:15:03.220 a lot of men
00:15:03.960 I've met
00:15:04.560 I've tried to do
00:15:05.940 help people get married
00:15:07.120 when I was staying
00:15:07.880 in Bradford
00:15:08.300 for a few years
00:15:09.060 and I spoke to brothers
00:15:11.060 who wanted
00:15:11.840 and did speak
00:15:13.000 to the wife
00:15:13.760 about having a second
00:15:14.600 wife
00:15:14.940 when the wife
00:15:16.220 refuses
00:15:16.820 the man doesn't
00:15:18.180 want to break up
00:15:18.760 a family
00:15:19.180 he wants to
00:15:20.120 protect his family
00:15:21.220 carry on looking
00:15:22.220 after the wife
00:15:22.860 but he does
00:15:23.940 have urges
00:15:24.860 or needs
00:15:25.460 or he might
00:15:26.640 want to just
00:15:27.440 for whatever reason
00:15:28.280 have another wife
00:15:29.540 he will then
00:15:30.660 go and look
00:15:31.900 to get another wife 0.66
00:15:33.160 but he doesn't
00:15:33.940 want to destroy
00:15:34.600 the family
00:15:35.080 that he's already got
00:15:36.140 and he might be
00:15:37.380 that risk taker
00:15:38.380 who's going to go
00:15:39.300 and
00:15:40.340 okay so alright
00:15:41.100 that side we've discussed
00:15:42.100 a lot in this topic
00:15:43.000 I don't want to get into that
00:15:43.760 which like I said
00:15:44.620 before it's valid
00:15:45.300 where it's okay
00:15:45.920 we know men sometimes
00:15:47.100 they desire another woman 1.00
00:15:48.300 they just desire another woman 1.00
00:15:49.540 there's nothing to do with you
00:15:51.080 we've discussed that
00:15:51.760 so many times
00:15:52.360 I don't want to get into that
00:15:53.080 okay
00:15:53.260 but why do men
00:15:55.120 want to like
00:15:56.120 let's see if
00:15:56.740 if that factor
00:15:58.240 wasn't there
00:15:58.900 why do they go down
00:16:00.020 the route
00:16:00.400 of being this low cheating
00:16:01.560 like I believe
00:16:02.260 like me
00:16:02.900 I believe
00:16:03.380 number one
00:16:04.100 it is not
00:16:04.720 Lauren the gate
00:16:05.240 who is watching pornography
00:16:06.580 definitely
00:16:07.040 coming from a background
00:16:08.140 especially like
00:16:08.700 if he's a reverse
00:16:09.180 come from a jahiliya 0.96
00:16:10.160 that to get that
00:16:11.360 out of his system
00:16:11.960 is going to take
00:16:12.600 quite a good of a while
00:16:13.380 if he is known
00:16:14.920 to be promiscuous
00:16:15.680 before
00:16:16.020 like I said before
00:16:16.640 that's going to be an element
00:16:17.980 if he is not
00:16:19.360 sexually attracted
00:16:20.220 to his wife anymore
00:16:21.140 argument's sake
00:16:21.820 we discuss this about
00:16:22.600 when tough kids
00:16:23.960 about when the woman 0.99
00:16:25.100 has a child
00:16:25.740 her body changes
00:16:26.880 etc
00:16:27.220 that plays a role
00:16:29.540 from the top of my head
00:16:31.440 that's what I've got
00:16:32.320 I can guarantee you
00:16:32.600 that most men
00:16:33.200 most men
00:16:33.760 do you kind of think
00:16:36.040 it's maybe accepted
00:16:37.280 in society
00:16:38.120 yes I was literally
00:16:39.020 going to say that
00:16:39.600 women are more frowned upon 1.00
00:16:41.120 if they cheat
00:16:42.180 but men
00:16:42.780 it's normal
00:16:43.800 in certain cultures
00:16:44.860 so that's also
00:16:47.200 a reality
00:16:47.900 that is true
00:16:49.260 which is
00:16:49.680 that's the reason
00:16:50.340 why they say
00:16:50.860 women don't cheat 1.00
00:16:51.420 women do cheat 1.00
00:16:52.000 women don't get caught 1.00
00:16:52.780 because men don't expect
00:16:53.520 them to cheat
00:16:53.940 because of their higher
00:16:55.180 so that's the reason
00:16:55.720 why men get caught 0.80
00:16:56.900 because women know 1.00
00:16:57.920 what they're about
00:16:58.940 so they're on a case
00:16:59.820 so men get caught
00:17:00.920 easier
00:17:01.320 because
00:17:01.980 men are known
00:17:03.320 it's like
00:17:03.620 they have a stigma
00:17:04.580 I know for it
00:17:05.160 because women of their higher 0.95
00:17:06.240 and etc
00:17:06.760 a man would never
00:17:07.900 I believe any man
00:17:08.620 who's married
00:17:09.020 would never think
00:17:09.640 my wife will be this loyal
00:17:10.740 it's just
00:17:11.520 they're given
00:17:12.040 an expectation
00:17:13.040 of that
00:17:13.480 will never happen
00:17:14.060 that's why
00:17:14.900 they can usually
00:17:15.780 get away with it
00:17:16.580 easier
00:17:17.100 because you don't expect it
00:17:18.400 but a woman 0.98
00:17:18.960 bro she's on your case
00:17:19.740 she's checking your phone
00:17:20.260 she's doing some
00:17:20.760 MI5 stuff
00:17:21.360 yeah
00:17:21.800 so that's why
00:17:22.720 that stigma is there
00:17:23.560 I think that's why
00:17:24.260 it becomes a norm
00:17:25.540 I think
00:17:26.620 and also I think
00:17:27.600 maybe
00:17:28.020 because
00:17:28.900 if a woman 0.96
00:17:29.560 cheats
00:17:29.900 the consequences
00:17:30.980 are greater
00:17:32.300 because she can
00:17:33.080 by the way
00:17:33.480 in Islam
00:17:33.860 zina is zina 0.96
00:17:34.580 adultery is adultery
00:17:35.520 the punishment is the same
00:17:36.540 I'm not saying
00:17:36.940 they're different
00:17:37.500 but if you look at it
00:17:38.720 a woman can ascribe 0.60
00:17:39.540 a child to that man
00:17:40.660 he doesn't know
00:17:41.220 which can be
00:17:41.700 which is greater
00:17:42.900 and more
00:17:43.360 maybe shunned upon
00:17:44.460 when it shouldn't be
00:17:45.420 I don't know
00:17:46.240 but let's hear from you guys
00:17:47.440 from us
00:17:48.340 I think that's it
00:17:49.680 okay
00:17:50.060 so
00:17:50.840 relationships
00:17:52.440 what are we looking for
00:17:53.800 fulfillment
00:17:54.340 that's the main
00:17:55.760 kind of priority
00:17:57.560 fulfillment
00:17:58.300 in a relationship
00:17:59.220 now when that fulfillment
00:18:00.300 isn't met
00:18:01.280 there's a void
00:18:02.460 a void that we're trying to fill
00:18:04.200 so now some people
00:18:05.820 they'll fill that void
00:18:06.660 with addiction
00:18:07.320 some people will fill
00:18:08.500 that void
00:18:08.960 with going out
00:18:10.100 committing zina
00:18:10.720 so it depends
00:18:12.060 on the individual
00:18:12.940 and where they're at
00:18:15.340 in that relationship
00:18:16.200 so it's not just about
00:18:17.300 okay
00:18:17.620 why do men cheat
00:18:18.480 or why do women cheat 1.00
00:18:19.820 or we know all the answers
00:18:21.160 but it's a void
00:18:22.240 in us
00:18:22.900 now some people
00:18:24.180 they're not connected
00:18:25.120 they don't have that taqwa
00:18:26.220 they're not connected
00:18:26.920 to Allah
00:18:27.360 subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:18:27.880 and like the brothers
00:18:28.640 mentioned
00:18:29.200 those of us
00:18:30.360 you know
00:18:30.800 who are connected
00:18:31.480 to our deen
00:18:32.660 who are connected
00:18:33.320 to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.85
00:18:34.160 I believe
00:18:35.560 is less likely
00:18:36.960 that individual
00:18:38.140 is going to go out
00:18:39.240 and commit zina
00:18:40.200 less likely
00:18:41.520 I'm going to use the word 0.66
00:18:42.540 less likely
00:18:43.840 there may be people
00:18:45.040 out there
00:18:45.400 that portray
00:18:46.120 that they do have
00:18:47.080 that connection
00:18:47.720 and you know
00:18:48.540 like Brother Ali
00:18:49.100 mentioned before
00:18:49.820 the brother with the beard
00:18:51.200 and the Quran
00:18:51.800 and the thawb
00:18:53.080 and everything
00:18:53.600 so yeah
00:18:55.320 that's kind of my take
00:18:56.580 on that
00:18:57.780 there's a void
00:18:58.500 that people try to fill
00:19:00.440 I think
00:19:02.780 it also has a lot
00:19:04.340 to do with the company
00:19:05.420 you're surrounded by
00:19:06.380 if you have
00:19:07.600 if your social circle
00:19:09.120 is you know
00:19:10.300 it has
00:19:11.500 your friends
00:19:12.360 basically around you
00:19:13.500 are within that company
00:19:14.980 and you're influenced
00:19:16.020 by it
00:19:16.580 because it happens
00:19:17.540 there's a lot of people
00:19:18.780 that I know
00:19:19.380 you know
00:19:20.220 personally knew as well
00:19:21.120 that have been in
00:19:22.000 social
00:19:22.600 their friendships
00:19:23.600 have influenced them
00:19:24.660 to do these kind of things
00:19:25.600 they could be
00:19:26.200 the nicest person
00:19:27.220 they could be the most
00:19:28.500 you know
00:19:29.280 the person who's connected
00:19:30.300 who has the fear of Allah
00:19:31.500 who's connected to their deen
00:19:33.060 but because of their company
00:19:34.660 and their social circle
00:19:35.860 they've gone
00:19:36.500 and committed
00:19:37.300 zina
00:19:37.680 or adultery
00:19:38.760 and it's just the impact
00:19:40.540 that their friends
00:19:41.560 have had on them
00:19:42.840 so I think
00:19:43.360 your company
00:19:44.240 matters in those
00:19:45.740 in that aspect
00:19:46.940 too
00:19:47.180 people you hang around with
00:19:48.720 people you work with
00:19:49.840 etc
00:19:50.180 for me
00:19:54.520 for me
00:19:54.540 when men cheat
00:19:56.260 or
00:19:56.780 why men cheat
00:19:58.140 I would say
00:19:58.800 firstly
00:19:59.280 it's a character flaw
00:20:00.640 it's a lack of discipline
00:20:03.600 it's a lack of
00:20:05.880 deen, taqwa
00:20:07.740 all of these things
00:20:08.960 it's a lack of honesty
00:20:11.460 because
00:20:12.680 I feel like
00:20:14.400 men do
00:20:15.980 anything
00:20:16.540 but communicate
00:20:17.760 efficiently
00:20:18.600 and
00:20:19.840 the first thing
00:20:21.380 you go to do
00:20:22.080 is cheat
00:20:22.720 like
00:20:23.460 sometimes
00:20:24.560 have that
00:20:25.400 communication
00:20:26.280 have that conversation
00:20:27.480 with your spouse
00:20:28.360 to say
00:20:29.640 well
00:20:30.140 you know
00:20:30.980 you're not fulfilling
00:20:31.880 or this and this
00:20:33.100 is not going right
00:20:34.160 I need you to step
00:20:38.060 it up
00:20:38.480 or
00:20:38.860 blah blah blah
00:20:39.920 but
00:20:40.380 a lot of men
00:20:41.620 tend not to do that
00:20:42.700 they'll have
00:20:43.140 they'll say it once
00:20:44.160 or they'll speak
00:20:44.860 to their spouse once
00:20:45.960 and then
00:20:46.880 they start to
00:20:48.260 wander with their eyes
00:20:49.760 and things like that
00:20:50.540 but to me
00:20:51.420 it's a character flaw
00:20:52.540 and it definitely
00:20:54.120 shows
00:20:54.680 lack of discipline
00:20:55.660 and
00:20:56.620 for me
00:20:57.460 if a man
00:20:58.500 cheats on his wife
00:20:59.840 that man
00:21:00.900 is not to be
00:21:01.580 trusted by
00:21:02.200 other men
00:21:02.840 and you shouldn't
00:21:04.000 go into business
00:21:05.080 with a man
00:21:05.920 that cheats
00:21:06.460 on his wife
00:21:07.160 because if he has
00:21:08.300 no loyalty
00:21:09.020 to his wife
00:21:10.980 and to God
00:21:13.080 as well
00:21:13.540 because again
00:21:14.580 adultery
00:21:15.180 is a major thing
00:21:16.660 then he will
00:21:18.040 definitely have
00:21:18.860 no loyalty
00:21:19.540 to you
00:21:20.260 as a man
00:21:21.220 or to
00:21:21.780 jump into business
00:21:23.080 with him
00:21:23.620 and
00:21:25.160 to me
00:21:26.180 that's a big
00:21:27.040 red flag
00:21:27.900 big cut off
00:21:29.360 and write off
00:21:30.940 if you're cheating
00:21:31.900 on your wife
00:21:32.880 not even
00:21:33.800 going to get
00:21:34.780 a second wife
00:21:35.460 or whatever
00:21:35.840 you guys mentioned
00:21:36.960 but
00:21:37.200 if you're cheating
00:21:38.100 on your wife
00:21:38.700 committing adultery
00:21:39.660 zinner
00:21:40.060 again
00:21:41.800 I've said this
00:21:42.640 before
00:21:43.120 you're putting
00:21:44.000 firstly
00:21:44.940 the woman's 0.98
00:21:45.980 life at risk
00:21:46.800 because if you
00:21:47.860 bring her 0.79
00:21:48.320 disease
00:21:49.040 now
00:21:50.000 HIV
00:21:51.320 all of the rest
00:21:52.540 of it
00:21:52.980 then it's a big
00:21:53.900 problem
00:21:54.360 it's a big
00:21:55.440 problem
00:21:55.800 and to me
00:21:56.580 you're trying 1.00
00:21:57.000 to kill me 0.99
00:21:57.520 at this point 1.00
00:21:58.380 you've cheated
00:21:59.500 and you want 1.00
00:22:00.300 me to die 0.71
00:22:01.060 that's actually 0.97
00:22:01.540 very valid
00:22:01.900 I was hearing
00:22:02.340 a case of
00:22:02.880 it's actually rude
00:22:03.580 I was hearing
00:22:04.200 a case of
00:22:04.720 talking about
00:22:05.360 sometimes
00:22:05.840 these secret
00:22:07.320 marriages
00:22:07.800 and stuff
00:22:08.320 like that
00:22:08.780 that happen
00:22:09.420 sometimes
00:22:10.420 with brothers
00:22:10.780 who want
00:22:11.020 to get married
00:22:11.420 again
00:22:11.660 and they have
00:22:12.000 these secret
00:22:12.560 marriages
00:22:12.960 and then
00:22:13.660 what happens
00:22:14.060 is
00:22:14.300 this brother
00:22:15.480 if you think
00:22:15.860 he's actually
00:22:16.220 putting the life
00:22:16.800 of your first
00:22:17.520 wife in danger
00:22:18.080 it's actually
00:22:19.340 reality
00:22:19.720 and my teacher
00:22:21.160 he was telling
00:22:21.560 me
00:22:21.680 he was like
00:22:22.000 he's really
00:22:22.440 against this
00:22:23.040 there was one
00:22:24.000 sister
00:22:24.280 she was like
00:22:24.660 she wants to
00:22:25.520 get married
00:22:25.740 I can't remember
00:22:26.720 but she was like
00:22:27.580 you know
00:22:27.960 no
00:22:28.520 he's like
00:22:28.940 it is
00:22:29.220 like that
00:22:29.500 etc
00:22:29.760 oh no
00:22:30.540 no
00:22:30.660 this brother
00:22:31.660 came and
00:22:31.960 he was like
00:22:32.200 can you do
00:22:32.480 the nikah 0.97
00:22:32.840 I've got
00:22:33.140 this sister
00:22:33.580 and he was
00:22:34.620 like yeah
00:22:34.940 but have you
00:22:35.380 checked
00:22:35.760 if there's
00:22:37.400 any
00:22:37.560 and he's like
00:22:38.540 no no
00:22:39.080 but if my
00:22:39.400 wife finds
00:22:39.800 out
00:22:39.900 he's like
00:22:40.060 I don't
00:22:40.260 care
00:22:40.440 I'm putting
00:22:41.160 her life
00:22:41.460 in danger
00:22:41.760 if I
00:22:42.280 allowed
00:22:42.520 he's like
00:22:42.760 I refuse
00:22:43.220 to do
00:22:43.440 the nikah 0.97
00:22:43.780 because you
00:22:44.740 need to
00:22:45.020 make it
00:22:45.300 clear to her
00:22:45.580 but he's
00:22:45.760 like yeah
00:22:45.960 but see
00:22:46.500 this is where
00:22:46.900 men get 0.60
00:22:47.360 stuck a bit
00:22:47.720 they're like
00:22:47.940 yeah but
00:22:48.140 if I tell
00:22:48.540 her it's
00:22:48.760 chaos
00:22:49.120 if I don't
00:22:49.820 tell her
00:22:50.140 her life
00:22:50.620 isn't
00:22:50.860 if I tell
00:22:51.700 her my
00:22:52.000 life is
00:22:52.260 in danger
00:22:52.560 if I don't
00:22:53.340 tell her
00:22:53.540 her life
00:22:53.800 is in
00:22:53.980 danger
00:22:54.220 so the
00:22:55.000 issue is
00:22:55.520 at hand
00:22:55.940 true
00:22:56.480 but I
00:22:57.280 think in a
00:22:58.240 nutshell
00:22:58.520 why do men 0.78
00:23:00.000 cheat man
00:23:00.400 I don't know
00:23:00.680 I come from
00:23:01.240 a jahil background 0.95
00:23:01.980 like friends
00:23:03.700 etc
00:23:04.120 I've known
00:23:05.320 I've known
00:23:05.680 like men 0.69
00:23:06.240 who are
00:23:06.700 in serious
00:23:07.420 let's call
00:23:07.920 them to them
00:23:08.360 marriage is
00:23:08.900 like girlfriend
00:23:09.580 like they've been
00:23:10.080 with this girl
00:23:10.480 for like time
00:23:11.200 and they're just
00:23:12.240 they've got
00:23:12.860 clubbing
00:23:13.180 partying
00:23:13.520 etc
00:23:13.800 you see
00:23:14.660 the guy
00:23:15.120 I don't
00:23:16.480 think I
00:23:16.800 had a
00:23:17.300 friend
00:23:17.680 in
00:23:18.340 that was
00:23:19.560 loyal to
00:23:20.100 like
00:23:20.380 one way
00:23:21.340 or another
00:23:21.660 and I
00:23:22.400 think it
00:23:22.740 boils back
00:23:23.220 down to
00:23:23.680 our society
00:23:24.240 that we
00:23:24.480 live in
00:23:24.820 because as
00:23:25.900 men we
00:23:26.340 are visual
00:23:26.660 creatures
00:23:27.040 that's our
00:23:28.120 weakness
00:23:28.440 that's what
00:23:28.760 Allah
00:23:28.920 tells us
00:23:29.600 in the
00:23:29.740 Quran
00:23:29.860 to lower
00:23:30.140 our gaze
00:23:30.500 it's very
00:23:31.380 important
00:23:31.700 because we
00:23:32.020 consume
00:23:32.340 with our
00:23:32.660 eyes
00:23:32.940 and because
00:23:33.620 the greatest
00:23:34.180 weakness
00:23:34.440 for us
00:23:34.760 is the
00:23:34.940 opposite
00:23:35.120 gender
00:23:35.500 for men
00:23:36.380 I hear
00:23:37.120 certain
00:23:37.620 brothers
00:23:37.960 they're
00:23:38.640 married
00:23:38.940 God
00:23:39.420 fearing
00:23:39.740 and they
00:23:40.420 were like
00:23:40.620 bro I
00:23:40.900 didn't
00:23:41.100 lower my
00:23:41.360 gaze
00:23:43.800 I had
00:23:46.560 to go
00:23:46.780 and speak
00:23:47.040 to her
00:23:47.240 even if
00:23:47.480 it's for
00:23:47.660 second
00:23:47.840 marriage
00:23:48.060 whatever
00:23:48.260 it is
00:23:48.820 and again
00:23:50.220 I'm not
00:23:50.520 saying he
00:23:50.920 has a
00:23:51.140 justification
00:23:51.580 in that
00:23:51.860 matter
00:23:52.100 but there's
00:23:52.900 a strong
00:23:53.640 pull
00:23:54.160 and this
00:23:54.500 study
00:23:54.720 shows this
00:23:55.100 why is
00:23:55.940 there
00:23:56.060 prostitution
00:24:00.720 why is
00:24:01.360 there
00:24:01.560 men's
00:24:02.060 magazines
00:24:02.440 you don't
00:24:03.060 see a
00:24:03.720 woman 0.99
00:24:03.960 going
00:24:04.140 and saying
00:24:04.340 I want
00:24:04.640 to see
00:24:04.840 the
00:24:05.020 calves
00:24:05.260 of
00:24:05.400 this
00:24:05.560 guy
00:24:05.800 it
00:24:06.400 doesn't
00:24:06.620 exist
00:24:06.900 as men
00:24:07.380 we are
00:24:07.620 visual
00:24:07.820 creatures
00:24:08.220 and the
00:24:08.880 society
00:24:09.220 we live
00:24:09.480 in makes
00:24:09.780 it so
00:24:10.160 much
00:24:10.360 harder
00:24:10.720 on us
00:24:11.060 and we
00:24:11.680 have the
00:24:11.940 innate
00:24:12.120 desire
00:24:13.800 so what
00:24:14.620 happens
00:24:14.880 is like
00:24:15.160 you said
00:24:15.460 there are
00:24:15.780 boys 1.00
00:24:16.240 like idiots 1.00
00:24:17.200 who 1.00
00:24:17.440 and I
00:24:19.520 would say
00:24:20.000 when you
00:24:21.000 said I
00:24:21.320 wouldn't do
00:24:21.880 business
00:24:22.120 with them
00:24:22.460 I would
00:24:23.260 say nah
00:24:23.620 if I
00:24:24.140 knew a
00:24:24.520 guy who
00:24:24.880 was
00:24:25.040 disloyal
00:24:25.320 to his
00:24:25.600 wife
00:24:25.840 if he's
00:24:26.840 a
00:24:26.940 Muslim
00:24:27.200 I would
00:24:27.560 say bro
00:24:27.840 the fact
00:24:28.180 I'm not
00:24:28.380 going to
00:24:28.500 do
00:24:28.580 business
00:24:28.800 with you
00:24:29.040 is because
00:24:29.240 you violated
00:24:29.660 Allah's
00:24:30.020 laws
00:24:30.260 you don't
00:24:30.960 care about
00:24:31.160 Allah's
00:24:31.360 laws
00:24:31.460 you're
00:24:31.580 going to
00:24:31.640 care
00:24:31.740 about
00:24:31.860 mine
00:24:32.020 move
00:24:32.300 but if
00:24:33.160 I was
00:24:33.420 a
00:24:33.540 disbeliever
00:24:34.020 I would
00:24:35.560 not see
00:24:35.960 that as
00:24:36.240 a
00:24:36.300 disloyalty
00:24:43.800 I hear
00:24:44.200 that I've
00:24:45.020 been caught
00:24:45.400 with escorts
00:24:46.100 bro
00:24:46.360 literally
00:24:47.200 and I'm
00:24:47.580 thinking to
00:24:47.880 myself
00:24:48.200 like
00:24:49.040 bro why
00:24:50.340 didn't you
00:24:50.640 just go
00:24:50.980 get married
00:24:51.280 again
00:24:51.480 I don't
00:24:51.780 understand
00:24:52.340 psychology
00:24:52.780 I would
00:24:53.120 love to
00:24:53.520 know
00:24:53.740 what's
00:24:54.300 going
00:24:54.440 through
00:24:54.620 the
00:24:54.740 mind
00:24:54.920 of
00:24:55.060 these
00:24:55.200 brothers
00:24:55.460 it's
00:24:55.740 because
00:24:56.000 a lot
00:24:56.320 of men
00:24:56.720 they don't
00:24:57.200 want the 0.55
00:24:57.540 commitment
00:24:57.840 of a
00:24:58.120 second wife
00:24:58.600 financial
00:24:59.120 burdens
00:24:59.580 they want
00:25:00.160 to have
00:25:00.440 their
00:25:00.780 short term
00:25:01.540 pleasure
00:25:01.900 they don't
00:25:02.880 want that
00:25:03.500 commitment
00:25:03.880 that's
00:25:04.420 what
00:25:04.740 most guys
00:25:05.560 that's
00:25:05.880 why they
00:25:06.080 cheat
00:25:06.280 so I
00:25:06.880 don't
00:25:07.020 agree
00:25:07.320 with
00:25:07.600 men
00:25:08.200 want to
00:25:08.600 cheat
00:25:08.800 because
00:25:09.080 they're
00:25:09.240 polygamous 0.61
00:25:09.600 by nature
00:25:10.100 they just
00:25:10.400 want to
00:25:10.640 cheat
00:25:10.820 because
00:25:11.060 it's
00:25:11.240 fun
00:25:11.540 exciting
00:25:12.340 they're
00:25:13.660 hiding
00:25:13.980 escorts
00:25:14.600 are a
00:25:14.820 one time
00:25:15.220 thing
00:25:15.580 gone
00:25:16.140 you're
00:25:16.300 not going
00:25:16.500 to see
00:25:16.680 them
00:25:16.820 again
00:25:17.060 it's
00:25:17.500 easy
00:25:17.740 to do
00:25:18.120 do
00:25:18.640 what
00:25:18.740 I
00:25:18.760 mean
00:25:18.960 so
00:25:19.440 it sort
00:25:20.780 of brings
00:25:21.060 up a
00:25:21.280 question
00:25:21.560 you were
00:25:21.940 mentioning
00:25:22.260 how
00:25:22.500 you wouldn't
00:25:23.340 want to
00:25:23.560 do business
00:25:23.940 with someone
00:25:24.360 who's
00:25:24.580 cheated
00:25:25.020 or done
00:25:25.480 sinar
00:25:25.760 what if
00:25:26.680 he's
00:25:26.800 repented
00:25:27.280 what does
00:25:27.780 Allah say
00:25:29.300 about someone
00:25:29.760 who's
00:25:30.060 cheated
00:25:30.240 I'm talking
00:25:30.740 about somebody
00:25:31.720 who's actively
00:25:32.540 doing that
00:25:33.160 not someone
00:25:38.600 I would
00:25:39.860 firstly
00:25:40.400 it's hard
00:25:41.700 to tell
00:25:42.180 isn't it
00:25:42.640 like
00:25:42.980 if somebody's
00:25:43.820 actively
00:25:44.300 cheating
00:25:44.820 and doing
00:25:45.480 all these
00:25:46.000 bad things
00:25:46.580 but
00:25:46.860 obviously
00:25:47.800 if somebody's
00:25:48.480 repented
00:25:49.000 and has
00:25:49.780 changed
00:25:50.160 their ways
00:25:50.680 then of
00:25:51.100 course
00:25:51.380 it's
00:25:51.860 but again
00:25:52.680 it's still
00:25:53.560 a character
00:25:54.140 flaw
00:25:54.520 because I'll
00:25:55.220 still be
00:25:55.680 like
00:25:56.000 sideways
00:25:56.660 like
00:25:57.140 because
00:25:57.720 what if
00:25:58.100 a better
00:25:58.680 opportunity
00:25:59.320 comes up
00:25:59.900 he's always
00:26:01.860 going to
00:26:02.280 have that
00:26:02.820 inkling
00:26:03.440 to
00:26:03.800 basically
00:26:04.860 snake
00:26:05.320 you off
00:26:05.780 and then
00:26:06.140 go
00:26:06.460 and get
00:26:07.480 that better
00:26:07.980 opportunity
00:26:08.520 at the
00:26:09.020 detriment
00:26:09.380 of you
00:26:09.920 so for
00:26:10.400 me
00:26:10.640 I'm like
00:26:11.300 yeah
00:26:11.980 I would
00:26:12.360 prefer
00:26:12.760 not to
00:26:13.560 deal with
00:26:14.660 that
00:26:14.860 but
00:26:15.180 and I
00:26:15.780 understand
00:26:16.660 that men
00:26:17.380 are humans
00:26:18.480 like we're
00:26:19.000 all humans
00:26:19.640 we're all
00:26:20.080 going to
00:26:20.280 have desires
00:26:20.800 we're all
00:26:21.160 going to
00:26:21.360 have
00:26:21.580 an inkling
00:26:22.780 and I
00:26:23.240 understand
00:26:23.820 it
00:26:24.120 some men
00:26:24.740 genuinely
00:26:25.400 I don't
00:26:26.720 excuse it
00:26:27.300 I don't
00:26:27.580 condone it
00:26:28.240 but some
00:26:29.280 men genuinely
00:26:30.080 have
00:26:31.500 tried
00:26:32.520 with their
00:26:33.040 women 1.00
00:26:33.320 like they
00:26:33.840 will try
00:26:34.420 they'll try
00:26:34.940 they'll try
00:26:35.540 and the
00:26:36.860 woman is 1.00
00:26:37.340 not giving
00:26:37.980 him
00:26:38.280 his rights
00:26:39.040 and then
00:26:39.860 out of a
00:26:40.820 fluke or
00:26:41.520 a one night 1.00
00:26:42.460 stupid mistake 1.00
00:26:43.620 he will go 1.00
00:26:44.160 and make
00:26:44.860 that huge
00:26:45.980 mistake
00:26:46.520 yeah
00:26:46.820 but I also
00:26:47.900 feel like
00:26:48.580 there are
00:26:50.000 a lot of
00:26:50.420 men and
00:26:50.860 maybe you
00:26:51.380 guys can
00:26:51.780 answer this
00:26:52.340 for me
00:26:52.720 who have
00:26:53.760 this
00:26:54.280 um
00:26:55.400 like
00:26:56.780 opposite
00:26:57.760 life
00:26:58.340 where
00:26:58.700 they
00:26:59.580 their wife
00:27:00.460 at home
00:27:01.020 they don't
00:27:01.660 want her 0.81
00:27:01.980 to wear
00:27:02.260 makeup
00:27:02.580 they don't
00:27:03.140 want her 0.81
00:27:03.420 to fix
00:27:03.920 up
00:27:04.140 they want
00:27:04.480 her
00:27:04.640 to look
00:27:04.980 like
00:27:05.280 plain
00:27:05.980 Jane 0.58
00:27:06.520 but yeah
00:27:07.420 the woman 0.98
00:27:08.240 that they're
00:27:08.640 cheating with
00:27:09.320 is all
00:27:10.120 dolled up
00:27:10.620 looks good
00:27:11.320 and like
00:27:12.040 they're like
00:27:12.860 that's
00:27:13.480 how's that
00:27:14.300 meant to
00:27:14.620 make your
00:27:14.940 wife feel
00:27:15.460 when
00:27:15.820 you know
00:27:16.940 she's found
00:27:17.520 out that
00:27:17.980 you've cheated
00:27:18.680 with bloody 0.51
00:27:19.640 Sierra 0.66
00:27:20.320 or somebody
00:27:21.680 who looks
00:27:22.220 absolutely
00:27:22.740 amazing
00:27:23.120 and then you
00:27:23.740 put her 0.96
00:27:24.440 in this cage
00:27:25.120 and you
00:27:25.460 don't want
00:27:25.920 her to wear
00:27:26.320 makeup
00:27:26.600 you don't
00:27:26.980 want her 0.81
00:27:27.260 to look
00:27:27.540 good
00:27:27.800 she barely 0.91
00:27:28.600 does her
00:27:29.080 hair
00:27:29.400 she's
00:27:29.980 just
00:27:30.120 always
00:27:30.480 at home
00:27:30.960 like
00:27:31.280 it's
00:27:32.420 that can
00:27:33.260 also
00:27:33.640 force
00:27:34.460 the woman 0.98
00:27:34.860 to
00:27:35.200 now
00:27:35.920 go the
00:27:36.400 opposite
00:27:36.720 direction
00:27:37.360 that's
00:27:38.240 really
00:27:38.640 difficult
00:27:39.120 for women
00:27:39.680 to handle
00:27:40.260 sometimes
00:27:40.980 but I don't
00:27:41.640 call them
00:27:42.060 real men
00:27:42.560 to be honest
00:27:43.120 if there's
00:27:43.420 a real
00:27:43.680 man
00:27:44.020 I think
00:27:44.460 first of
00:27:44.840 we need
00:27:45.140 to have
00:27:45.520 self-control
00:27:46.280 self-control
00:27:47.440 on yourself
00:27:47.940 and the thing
00:27:48.880 is trying
00:27:49.300 to keep
00:27:49.640 yourself
00:27:50.180 away from
00:27:50.860 but if
00:27:51.660 you've got
00:27:51.940 attraction
00:27:52.440 at home
00:27:52.980 if you've
00:27:53.280 got
00:27:53.460 attraction
00:27:54.580 with your
00:27:55.040 wife
00:27:55.400 and you've
00:27:56.400 got everything
00:27:56.860 there
00:27:57.100 you will
00:27:57.400 never ever
00:27:58.020 think of
00:27:58.900 tune
00:27:59.140 but this
00:27:59.480 is what
00:27:59.680 I'm
00:27:59.760 talking
00:27:59.980 about
00:28:00.160 real
00:28:00.340 men
00:28:00.500 but there
00:28:00.940 are some
00:28:01.300 men
00:28:01.500 out there
00:28:01.880 that just
00:28:02.580 cheat
00:28:02.860 because
00:28:03.180 they can
00:28:03.760 even some
00:28:04.960 women know 1.00
00:28:05.460 about it
00:28:05.900 their wife
00:28:06.320 know about it
00:28:06.840 but they don't
00:28:07.180 do nothing
00:28:07.540 about it
00:28:07.740 I think a lot
00:28:08.160 of people
00:28:08.500 don't understand
00:28:09.280 the rules
00:28:09.800 that we have
00:28:10.500 like beautiful
00:28:11.180 rules that we
00:28:11.860 have like
00:28:12.400 if you like
00:28:13.940 to eat too
00:28:14.560 much
00:28:14.940 fast
00:28:15.600 if you like
00:28:16.860 money too
00:28:17.440 much
00:28:17.760 give from
00:28:18.620 what you
00:28:18.940 love
00:28:19.240 give
00:28:19.580 give
00:28:20.340 zakah 0.70
00:28:20.840 if you
00:28:21.880 and again
00:28:22.920 if you do
00:28:23.780 have those
00:28:24.280 strong desires
00:28:25.040 fast
00:28:25.840 pray
00:28:27.160 fast
00:28:27.840 do ibadah
00:28:28.760 calm yourself
00:28:30.260 down
00:28:30.540 it's not
00:28:30.900 every day
00:28:31.440 like
00:28:31.820 oh my
00:28:32.720 i'm gonna
00:28:33.480 go out
00:28:33.920 there
00:28:34.100 sometimes
00:28:34.720 relax
00:28:35.400 i think
00:28:36.020 sometimes
00:28:36.620 it probably
00:28:37.140 be based
00:28:37.720 on ego
00:28:38.600 as well
00:28:39.360 do you know
00:28:39.920 how you're
00:28:40.220 saying
00:28:40.360 you're
00:28:40.600 questioning
00:28:41.020 why does
00:28:41.700 not a guy
00:28:42.400 marry the other
00:28:43.440 one 0.98
00:28:43.660 maybe it's got
00:28:44.380 this ego
00:28:44.900 behind that
00:28:45.480 if he's
00:28:45.940 got going
00:28:46.440 to leave
00:28:46.940 and get
00:28:47.240 remarried
00:28:47.740 obviously
00:28:48.460 his wife
00:28:49.140 is then
00:28:49.580 gonna get
00:28:49.940 married
00:28:50.160 to someone
00:28:50.580 else
00:28:50.880 and maybe
00:28:51.260 that's
00:28:51.560 something
00:28:51.840 he can't
00:28:52.540 of course
00:28:52.920 like
00:28:53.220 this is
00:28:54.420 where
00:28:54.560 it's
00:28:54.720 the pin
00:28:55.000 line
00:28:55.220 you know
00:28:55.460 at the
00:28:55.900 end of
00:28:56.080 the day
00:28:56.220 as men
00:28:56.900 we have
00:28:57.580 the power
00:28:57.900 of talaq
00:28:58.440 because
00:28:59.500 we don't
00:28:59.940 we don't
00:29:00.180 like
00:29:00.380 no man
00:29:00.960 wants
00:29:01.260 his wife
00:29:02.100 to be
00:29:02.360 unless
00:29:02.720 he's
00:29:03.060 repulsed
00:29:03.560 by her
00:29:03.920 like
00:29:04.060 he's
00:29:04.320 had
00:29:04.720 enough
00:29:04.940 of her
00:29:05.100 that's
00:29:05.340 why
00:29:05.560 the
00:29:05.920 third
00:29:06.120 talaq
00:29:06.540 for a man
00:29:07.000 to give
00:29:07.180 a third
00:29:07.340 talaq
00:29:07.600 he's
00:29:08.140 calculating
00:29:08.600 his head
00:29:09.060 her being
00:29:10.120 with another
00:29:10.400 woman 0.99
00:29:10.600 I don't
00:29:11.220 care
00:29:11.660 move
00:29:12.160 I just
00:29:12.460 do
00:29:12.580 know
00:29:12.680 what
00:29:12.780 enough
00:29:12.920 to do
00:29:13.120 with
00:29:13.220 that
00:29:13.340 that's
00:29:14.040 why
00:29:14.300 that
00:29:14.800 protocol
00:29:15.720 is in
00:29:16.020 place
00:29:16.240 but
00:29:16.800 as
00:29:17.020 men
00:29:17.240 generally
00:29:17.940 just
00:29:18.480 disagreeing
00:29:19.020 with
00:29:19.180 sister
00:29:19.540 Amira
00:29:19.860 and
00:29:20.240 brother
00:29:20.480 sir
00:29:20.640 Taj
00:29:20.860 please
00:29:21.820 don't kill me
00:29:22.180 after
00:29:22.380 yes
00:29:22.880 it's
00:29:25.600 true
00:29:25.780 when it
00:29:26.120 comes to
00:29:26.460 cheating
00:29:26.880 a man 0.98
00:29:27.720 like I said
00:29:28.080 before
00:29:28.280 a Muslim
00:29:28.800 man
00:29:29.020 who
00:29:29.180 cheats
00:29:29.460 to me
00:29:29.960 it's
00:29:30.160 a very
00:29:30.500 low
00:29:30.960 category
00:29:31.360 man
00:29:31.640 in the
00:29:33.620 sight of
00:29:33.880 Allah
00:29:34.040 and in
00:29:34.260 front of
00:29:34.460 my
00:29:34.620 eyes
00:29:34.780 because
00:29:35.000 for
00:29:35.180 you
00:29:35.280 to
00:29:35.400 violate
00:29:35.680 look
00:29:36.140 you can
00:29:36.540 violate
00:29:36.840 a woman's 0.56
00:29:37.260 rights
00:29:37.460 that's
00:29:38.320 wrong
00:29:38.560 you've
00:29:39.020 gone
00:29:39.340 against
00:29:39.580 the
00:29:39.700 haq
00:29:39.880 you
00:29:40.420 can
00:29:40.680 but
00:29:41.300 to
00:29:41.500 violate
00:29:41.920 Allah's
00:29:42.420 law
00:29:42.660 you're
00:29:43.000 tapped
00:29:43.220 in
00:29:43.320 the 0.97
00:29:43.380 head
00:29:43.460 to me
00:29:43.680 you're
00:29:43.880 abnormal 0.81
00:29:44.360 you're
00:29:44.720 on different
00:29:45.040 planets
00:29:45.360 to violate
00:29:45.920 Allah's
00:29:46.560 law
00:29:46.760 to me
00:29:47.500 makes
00:29:47.840 you
00:29:48.000 I will
00:29:48.300 not trust
00:29:48.720 you in
00:29:49.060 anything
00:29:49.620 like you
00:29:50.000 said
00:29:50.180 like
00:29:50.740 anything
00:29:51.380 at all
00:29:51.900 but the
00:29:52.660 thing is
00:29:52.960 we as
00:29:53.620 men
00:29:53.900 we desire
00:29:54.840 multiple
00:29:55.720 women 1.00
00:29:56.060 and I
00:29:57.680 have to
00:29:58.100 say this
00:29:58.640 out
00:29:58.960 to
00:29:59.120 spokenly
00:29:59.700 why
00:29:59.980 because
00:30:00.720 this is
00:30:01.160 the
00:30:01.320 reality
00:30:01.840 the
00:30:02.120 way
00:30:03.400 us
00:30:03.920 men
00:30:04.180 are
00:30:04.520 hardwired
00:30:05.160 so
00:30:05.700 because
00:30:06.040 I
00:30:08.560 these
00:30:10.440 men
00:30:10.680 that I
00:30:10.880 used
00:30:10.980 to be
00:30:11.120 with
00:30:11.340 who
00:30:11.640 would
00:30:11.740 have
00:30:11.880 girlfriends
00:30:12.120 they were
00:30:12.300 in a
00:30:12.440 wrong
00:30:12.560 relationship
00:30:12.940 with
00:30:13.140 and
00:30:13.320 they
00:30:13.660 would
00:30:13.820 want
00:30:14.460 to
00:30:14.560 get
00:30:14.660 married
00:30:14.880 to
00:30:15.020 them
00:30:15.180 but
00:30:16.360 they
00:30:16.840 would
00:30:16.960 go
00:30:17.060 on
00:30:17.180 holiday
00:30:17.540 I'm
00:30:17.880 telling
00:30:18.180 you
00:30:18.480 the
00:30:19.040 moment
00:30:19.240 they
00:30:19.420 land
00:30:19.780 it
00:30:20.240 can't
00:30:20.460 be
00:30:20.580 all
00:30:20.840 of
00:30:20.960 them
00:30:21.140 all
00:30:21.940 of
00:30:22.160 my
00:30:22.340 friends
00:30:22.740 I
00:30:23.040 do
00:30:23.200 not
00:30:23.360 and
00:30:23.540 you
00:30:23.680 might
00:30:23.820 say
00:30:23.960 you
00:30:24.200 had
00:30:24.320 some
00:30:24.460 really
00:30:24.720 bad
00:30:24.940 friends
00:30:25.240 man
00:30:25.760 I've
00:30:26.060 had
00:30:26.160 friends
00:30:26.360 in
00:30:26.480 different
00:30:26.700 places
00:30:27.140 in
00:30:27.420 many
00:30:27.640 years
00:30:27.960 etc
00:30:28.300 there's
00:30:29.080 some
00:30:29.300 consistency
00:30:29.860 that you
00:30:30.180 see
00:30:30.320 even
00:30:30.600 my
00:30:30.800 culture
00:30:31.060 I
00:30:31.180 come
00:30:31.300 from
00:30:31.400 a
00:30:31.520 Kurdish
00:30:31.760 turkish
00:30:32.060 culture
00:30:32.320 a lot
00:30:33.580 of
00:30:33.760 men
00:30:34.280 are
00:30:34.480 distoated
00:30:34.820 their
00:30:34.980 wives
00:30:35.240 I
00:30:36.160 know
00:30:38.000 distance
00:30:38.440 uncles
00:30:38.940 this
00:30:39.160 that
00:30:39.320 bro
00:30:39.680 I'm
00:30:39.940 telling
00:30:40.180 you
00:30:40.440 they
00:30:40.960 will
00:30:41.060 either
00:30:41.220 go
00:30:41.360 to
00:30:41.480 escorts
00:30:41.860 prostitution
00:30:42.500 it's 0.69
00:30:43.480 just
00:30:43.860 and I'm
00:30:44.280 looking
00:30:44.540 that's
00:30:44.940 why
00:30:45.160 when
00:30:45.880 I
00:30:46.140 was
00:30:46.300 looking
00:30:46.520 into
00:30:46.760 Islam
00:30:47.180 and I
00:30:47.780 found
00:30:48.260 out
00:30:48.400 about
00:30:48.540 this
00:30:48.660 whole
00:30:48.800 polygamy
00:30:49.140 thing
00:30:49.460 I said
00:30:50.180 that makes 0.99
00:30:50.480 damn 0.99
00:30:51.040 perfect 0.99
00:30:51.360 sense
00:30:51.660 but to
00:30:52.180 who
00:30:52.360 not
00:30:52.860 to
00:30:53.000 this
00:30:53.200 man
00:30:53.440 who
00:30:53.560 is
00:30:53.680 promiscuous
00:30:54.200 but
00:30:54.680 a
00:30:54.900 man
00:30:55.140 who
00:30:55.280 gives
00:30:55.500 the
00:30:55.680 right
00:30:56.000 to
00:30:56.180 his
00:30:56.300 wife
00:30:56.540 and
00:30:57.060 I
00:30:57.200 see
00:30:57.420 any
00:30:57.740 man
00:30:58.060 for that
00:30:58.360 matter
00:30:58.620 who
00:30:59.140 wants
00:30:59.440 to
00:30:59.580 go get
00:30:59.820 married
00:31:00.000 which is
00:31:00.220 another
00:31:00.380 story
00:31:00.800 his
00:31:01.880 reference
00:31:02.620 and this
00:31:03.320 might be
00:31:03.580 extreme
00:31:03.900 for
00:31:04.040 anyone
00:31:04.240 I
00:31:04.820 believe
00:31:05.120 his
00:31:05.340 reference
00:31:05.700 should
00:31:05.880 be
00:31:05.980 his
00:31:06.100 first
00:31:06.300 wife
00:31:06.520 that's
00:31:07.640 how
00:31:07.860 good
00:31:08.160 your
00:31:08.460 relationship
00:31:08.960 with
00:31:09.160 your
00:31:09.280 wife
00:31:09.480 should
00:31:09.680 be
00:31:10.040 that
00:31:10.560 when
00:31:10.760 you're
00:31:10.940 getting
00:31:11.160 married
00:31:11.440 if
00:31:11.620 your
00:31:11.760 second
00:31:12.020 wife
00:31:12.220 asks
00:31:12.520 who's
00:31:12.840 your
00:31:12.940 reference
00:31:13.240 you say
00:31:13.580 my
00:31:13.760 wife
00:31:14.120 is
00:31:14.440 my
00:31:14.620 reference
00:31:15.020 I
00:31:15.640 believe
00:31:15.880 that
00:31:16.020 kind
00:31:16.260 of
00:31:16.380 men
00:31:16.520 deserve
00:31:16.780 that
00:31:16.920 but
00:31:17.120 since
00:31:17.460 we're
00:31:17.580 talking
00:31:17.740 about
00:31:17.940 cheating
00:31:18.280 men 0.96
00:31:19.020 are
00:31:19.520 just
00:31:19.700 visually
00:31:20.100 attracted
00:31:20.540 and
00:31:21.340 that
00:31:21.900 just
00:31:22.160 and
00:31:22.660 like
00:31:22.900 you said
00:31:23.100 you're
00:31:23.220 talking
00:31:23.340 about
00:31:23.500 fasting
00:31:23.800 let me
00:31:24.600 tell you
00:31:24.780 something
00:31:24.960 I don't
00:31:25.720 know what
00:31:25.980 kind
00:31:26.120 of
00:31:26.200 fasting
00:31:26.440 you
00:31:26.600 can
00:31:26.720 do
00:31:26.900 you'll
00:31:27.200 have
00:31:27.320 to
00:31:27.420 be
00:31:27.520 maybe
00:31:27.680 on
00:31:27.780 the
00:31:27.860 verge
00:31:27.980 of
00:31:28.100 starving
00:31:28.340 to
00:31:28.500 death
00:31:28.680 that 0.99
00:31:28.820 you're
00:31:28.960 like
00:31:29.060 I care
00:31:29.340 more
00:31:29.620 about
00:31:29.740 chicken
00:31:30.000 than
00:31:30.240 something
00:31:30.960 else
00:31:31.220 it
00:31:42.940 person
00:31:43.200 because
00:31:43.520 you
00:31:44.160 haven't
00:31:44.440 had
00:31:44.600 intimacy
00:31:45.060 because
00:31:45.620 if
00:31:45.780 you
00:31:45.900 did
00:31:46.140 you
00:31:46.820 know
00:31:46.940 what's
00:31:47.060 interesting
00:31:47.280 about
00:31:47.420 the
00:31:47.520 sharia 0.97
00:31:47.700 makes
00:31:48.900 sure
00:31:49.080 the
00:31:49.200 society
00:31:49.640 on a
00:31:49.960 macro
00:31:50.160 level
00:31:50.340 is
00:31:51.040 fixed
00:31:51.320 meaning
00:31:51.680 we
00:31:52.200 as
00:31:52.360 men
00:31:52.500 when we
00:31:52.700 go
00:31:52.820 outside
00:31:53.040 we
00:31:53.180 don't
00:31:53.300 see
00:31:53.440 a
00:31:53.580 chocolate
00:31:54.400 bar
00:31:54.600 with
00:31:54.760 a
00:31:54.860 half
00:31:55.040 naked 0.76
00:31:55.240 woman 0.99
00:31:55.460 thinking
00:31:55.680 what
00:31:55.880 has
00:31:56.320 the
00:31:56.460 bag
00:31:56.720 what
00:31:57.360 to do
00:31:57.540 with
00:31:57.620 this
00:31:57.740 woman 0.99
00:31:57.900 we're
00:31:58.600 not
00:31:58.760 exposed
00:31:59.220 to
00:31:59.380 that
00:31:59.520 our
00:31:59.860 sisters
00:32:00.260 are
00:32:00.520 dressed
00:32:00.700 up
00:32:00.860 properly
00:32:01.160 we don't
00:32:01.720 have
00:32:01.900 trigger
00:32:02.220 points
00:32:02.480 you get
00:32:02.780 it
00:32:03.020 and
00:32:03.420 then
00:32:03.740 if
00:32:03.980 a
00:32:04.100 man
00:32:04.200 that's
00:32:04.400 what
00:32:04.480 Allah
00:32:04.620 says
00:32:04.760 in
00:32:04.840 the
00:32:04.920 Quran
00:32:05.080 what
00:32:05.860 Allah
00:32:06.120 has
00:32:06.240 allowed
00:32:06.460 you
00:32:06.660 and
00:32:07.100 what
00:32:07.220 your
00:32:07.340 right
00:32:07.480 hand
00:32:07.580 possesses
00:32:08.060 the concubines 1.00
00:32:08.680 and after
00:32:09.640 that
00:32:09.900 anyone
00:32:10.260 that
00:32:10.520 transgresses
00:32:11.220 you're
00:32:11.540 a
00:32:12.200 transgressor
00:32:13.020 why
00:32:13.280 because
00:32:14.140 Allah
00:32:14.480 is
00:32:14.660 saying
00:32:14.820 there
00:32:15.040 is
00:32:15.180 nothing
00:32:15.520 for you
00:32:15.820 to be
00:32:16.000 triggered
00:32:16.180 off
00:32:16.420 there
00:32:17.220 is
00:32:17.360 nothing
00:32:17.700 out
00:32:17.940 there
00:32:18.060 for you
00:32:18.280 to do
00:32:18.580 now
00:32:19.200 you're
00:32:19.480 going to
00:32:19.660 commit 0.62
00:32:20.080 adultery
00:32:20.580 of course
00:32:21.280 you're
00:32:21.440 going to
00:32:21.520 get
00:32:21.620 capital
00:32:21.940 punishment
00:32:22.340 because
00:32:22.960 there's
00:32:23.240 nothing
00:32:23.580 triggering
00:32:24.000 you get
00:32:24.400 it
00:32:24.540 but
00:32:24.680 this
00:32:24.900 is
00:32:25.040 why
00:32:25.180 I
00:32:25.340 feel
00:32:25.480 like
00:32:25.740 living
00:32:26.060 here
00:32:26.440 in the
00:32:26.680 UK
00:32:27.000 in the
00:32:27.920 West
00:32:28.140 leaves
00:32:29.240 men
00:32:29.580 and
00:32:29.940 women 1.00
00:32:30.200 in a
00:32:30.640 constant
00:32:31.080 state
00:32:31.440 of
00:32:31.660 cognitive
00:32:32.140 dissonance
00:32:32.780 because
00:32:33.220 we
00:32:34.020 are
00:32:34.400 trying
00:32:34.880 to be
00:32:35.300 within
00:32:35.600 the
00:32:35.820 dean
00:32:36.080 we're
00:32:36.320 trying
00:32:36.620 to be
00:32:37.160 you know
00:32:38.080 strict
00:32:38.540 and on
00:32:39.100 the
00:32:39.220 straight 0.70
00:32:39.520 line
00:32:39.840 but yet
00:32:40.440 our
00:32:40.920 surroundings
00:32:41.500 as much
00:32:42.140 as we
00:32:42.420 try to
00:32:42.760 have
00:32:42.940 community
00:32:43.420 it's
00:32:45.280 so hard
00:32:45.700 you just
00:32:46.060 step out
00:32:46.500 your house
00:32:46.920 and
00:32:47.320 you're
00:32:48.160 tempted
00:32:49.000 as
00:32:49.560 men
00:32:51.040 you need
00:32:51.340 to
00:32:51.440 understand
00:32:51.660 the way
00:32:52.200 we are
00:32:53.580 I would
00:32:55.400 love
00:32:55.880 if there
00:32:57.520 was
00:32:57.640 this
00:32:57.920 device
00:32:58.280 where
00:32:58.480 you
00:32:58.620 could
00:32:58.780 be
00:32:59.160 in
00:32:59.360 our
00:32:59.560 shoe
00:32:59.800 for
00:33:00.500 20
00:33:01.120 seconds
00:33:01.620 bruv
00:33:01.840 and
00:33:02.300 look
00:33:02.520 we are
00:33:02.880 men
00:33:03.000 we know
00:33:03.280 yeah
00:33:03.480 look
00:33:04.020 we could
00:33:04.900 brothers can be
00:33:05.500 chilling here
00:33:05.920 a sister
00:33:07.460 can just
00:33:08.140 walk in
00:33:09.000 and say
00:33:09.720 I forgot
00:33:10.060 my bag
00:33:10.560 and walk
00:33:10.960 out
00:33:11.220 our whole
00:33:12.200 body and
00:33:12.600 demeanor
00:33:12.820 will change
00:33:13.260 bruv
00:33:13.860 you look
00:33:14.080 at a
00:33:14.260 brother
00:33:14.400 he's
00:33:14.700 looking
00:33:14.940 a bit
00:33:15.140 his shoulders
00:33:15.620 are going
00:33:15.840 a bit
00:33:16.100 he's like
00:33:16.540 what happened
00:33:16.780 to this
00:33:16.980 brother
00:33:17.120 the impact
00:33:18.580 that you
00:33:19.060 have on
00:33:19.540 us
00:33:19.700 you guys
00:33:20.260 cannot
00:33:20.700 imagine
00:33:21.840 that's
00:33:22.780 why
00:33:23.020 let me
00:33:23.980 tell you
00:33:24.280 that's
00:33:24.860 why
00:33:25.020 with men
00:33:25.520 you guys
00:33:26.280 don't
00:33:26.440 understand
00:33:27.220 the severity
00:33:27.940 I was
00:33:29.100 speaking to
00:33:29.440 one sister
00:33:30.220 she's from
00:33:30.480 Saudi
00:33:30.760 she was
00:33:32.220 laughing
00:33:32.460 she was
00:33:32.880 saying
00:33:34.620 there's
00:33:36.180 men who
00:33:36.580 get
00:33:36.860 aroused
00:33:38.140 by a
00:33:38.560 woman's 0.82
00:33:38.780 uncle
00:33:38.900 she started 0.79
00:33:39.120 laughing
00:33:39.420 and there
00:33:40.120 was
00:33:40.200 brothers
00:33:40.460 and the
00:33:41.520 brothers
00:33:41.840 is she
00:33:44.200 for real
00:33:44.500 she was
00:33:45.040 deluded
00:33:45.640 you have
00:33:47.560 no idea
00:33:47.900 you know
00:33:48.520 how you
00:33:49.620 say in
00:33:49.880 the
00:33:50.000 west
00:33:50.240 we're
00:33:51.100 quite
00:33:51.440 unfortunate
00:33:52.400 in the
00:33:52.660 sense
00:33:52.840 where
00:33:53.020 we
00:33:53.180 see
00:33:53.400 women 1.00
00:33:54.380 naked 0.99
00:33:54.720 everywhere
00:33:55.020 men
00:33:55.240 naked 0.58
00:33:55.480 everywhere
00:33:55.800 whatever
00:33:56.140 but even
00:33:57.140 in
00:33:57.340 Arab
00:33:57.580 countries
00:33:58.060 you hear
00:33:58.520 all these
00:33:58.800 stories
00:33:59.200 about
00:33:59.500 they do
00:34:01.400 it in
00:34:01.580 secret
00:34:01.920 they have
00:34:02.360 these
00:34:02.520 parties
00:34:02.920 crazy
00:34:03.740 parties
00:34:04.180 alcohol
00:34:04.560 the whole
00:34:04.960 lot
00:34:05.140 is there
00:34:05.400 so the
00:34:06.420 west
00:34:06.700 we can't
00:34:07.220 just keep
00:34:07.540 saying
00:34:07.780 the west
00:34:08.160 is bad
00:34:08.540 we can
00:34:08.980 blame
00:34:09.180 on the
00:34:09.420 west
00:34:09.640 etc
00:34:10.020 Arab
00:34:10.640 countries
00:34:11.000 are just
00:34:11.300 as worse
00:34:11.700 if not
00:34:12.160 worse
00:34:12.440 because
00:34:12.580 they're
00:34:12.720 hiding
00:34:12.940 everywhere
00:34:13.380 can I
00:34:14.100 add sister 0.93
00:34:14.860 Farzana
00:34:15.300 but do
00:34:15.840 you know
00:34:15.960 why
00:34:16.120 everywhere
00:34:16.640 yeah exactly
00:34:18.120 let me tell
00:34:20.700 you why
00:34:20.920 when you
00:34:21.980 constrict
00:34:22.500 something to
00:34:23.260 such a
00:34:23.760 level
00:34:24.020 I don't
00:34:25.100 believe
00:34:25.540 I believe
00:34:26.060 for example
00:34:26.700 interaction
00:34:28.200 with the
00:34:28.680 opposite gender
00:34:29.200 if it's
00:34:29.560 necessary
00:34:30.040 that's the
00:34:31.260 reason why
00:34:31.760 for example
00:34:32.180 when certain
00:34:32.540 people accuse
00:34:32.920 us of
00:34:33.140 free mixing
00:34:33.480 there should
00:34:34.460 be a
00:34:34.860 civilised
00:34:35.340 interaction
00:34:36.020 when you
00:34:36.900 turn like
00:34:37.400 sister
00:34:37.760 let me jump
00:34:40.180 through the
00:34:40.480 wall
00:34:40.680 she's a
00:34:42.480 human
00:34:42.720 she's a
00:34:43.580 human being
00:34:44.240 have some
00:34:45.380 adab and
00:34:45.860 akhlaab and
00:34:46.360 uslub
00:34:46.800 yeah
00:34:47.260 if you talk
00:34:48.520 to her
00:34:48.820 with an
00:34:49.080 akhlaq and
00:34:49.540 a mother
00:34:49.740 she says
00:34:50.240 our honourable
00:34:50.780 sister
00:34:51.100 bro there
00:34:52.440 are people
00:34:52.980 who would
00:34:53.280 rather go
00:34:53.740 and speak
00:34:54.140 to a
00:34:54.680 kafir woman 1.00
00:34:55.560 or a
00:34:56.460 kafir man
00:34:56.980 than a
00:34:57.560 muslim
00:34:57.820 I find it
00:34:58.600 weird
00:34:58.900 it's a
00:34:59.660 different topic
00:35:00.120 in itself
00:35:00.580 but this
00:35:01.020 is what
00:35:01.200 happens
00:35:01.460 when you
00:35:02.400 go to
00:35:02.800 extremes
00:35:03.380 bro
00:35:03.600 this is
00:35:03.880 the reason
00:35:04.140 I've
00:35:04.340 heard stuff
00:35:04.720 in
00:35:04.860 Saudi
00:35:05.060 Arabia 1.00
00:35:05.300 crazy 0.96
00:35:06.180 bro 1.00
00:35:06.480 they are
00:35:07.120 more of
00:35:07.520 an 0.98
00:35:07.640 mad 0.99
00:35:07.860 one
00:35:08.020 but anyway
00:35:09.300 what I
00:35:13.480 want to
00:35:13.740 say is
00:35:14.360 men and
00:35:15.080 women 1.00
00:35:15.320 both 0.84
00:35:15.660 cheat
00:35:16.080 we know
00:35:16.600 that
00:35:16.880 now
00:35:17.540 why is
00:35:18.200 this
00:35:18.480 the main
00:35:19.660 reason
00:35:20.300 from my
00:35:20.900 own
00:35:21.280 belief
00:35:21.700 system
00:35:22.100 I believe
00:35:22.700 is because
00:35:23.280 the soul
00:35:23.860 is not
00:35:24.220 connected
00:35:24.640 to Allah
00:35:25.060 the soul
00:35:26.240 cannot
00:35:26.540 connect
00:35:27.120 to another
00:35:27.780 human being
00:35:28.600 on that
00:35:28.980 level
00:35:29.260 what we're
00:35:29.980 looking for
00:35:30.680 you know
00:35:31.000 soulmates
00:35:31.620 and all
00:35:31.940 this
00:35:32.080 I don't
00:35:32.980 believe in
00:35:33.420 that
00:35:33.560 I think
00:35:33.940 the only
00:35:34.360 connection
00:35:34.820 you can
00:35:35.180 have of
00:35:35.500 the soul
00:35:36.020 that we're
00:35:36.700 looking for
00:35:37.180 that fulfillment
00:35:37.840 that feeling
00:35:38.980 of
00:35:39.300 you know
00:35:40.120 that feeling
00:35:41.000 we're looking
00:35:41.420 for
00:35:41.620 you can't
00:35:42.280 have that
00:35:42.700 with a
00:35:43.000 human being
00:35:43.520 you can only
00:35:44.000 have that
00:35:44.480 with Allah
00:35:44.940 subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:35:45.660 so
00:35:46.000 when we have
00:35:47.880 that connection
00:35:48.660 when we're on
00:35:49.740 our deen
00:35:50.360 that forces us
00:35:52.140 to then lower
00:35:52.980 our gaze
00:35:53.460 that forces us
00:35:54.520 to not watch
00:35:55.220 that program
00:35:55.840 that we're going
00:35:56.320 to watch
00:35:56.600 on Netflix
00:35:57.140 you will be
00:35:57.920 repulsed by that
00:35:58.960 you will be
00:35:59.680 repulsed by
00:36:00.260 all these things
00:36:00.860 I think for men
00:36:01.780 it's a very
00:36:02.300 important thing
00:36:02.920 it's self-control
00:36:04.340 and how does
00:36:04.980 that come
00:36:05.400 that comes
00:36:05.860 through that
00:36:06.440 connection
00:36:06.840 with Allah
00:36:07.420 subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:36:07.840 and our deen
00:36:09.680 teaches us
00:36:10.240 discipline
00:36:10.800 our deen is
00:36:12.020 the thing is
00:36:12.480 I work in
00:36:13.200 places that
00:36:14.700 loads of
00:36:15.100 women there 1.00
00:36:15.500 but I have
00:36:16.060 alhamdulillah
00:36:16.500 I have
00:36:16.720 self-control
00:36:17.360 so the thing
00:36:18.740 is that self-control
00:36:19.520 is very very
00:36:20.260 important for a man
00:36:21.120 it's hard to do
00:36:22.000 but we have to
00:36:23.720 self-control
00:36:25.020 and the thing
00:36:26.040 is even
00:36:26.540 when you do
00:36:27.240 something
00:36:27.900 like I'm
00:36:28.560 just saying
00:36:28.880 if I did
00:36:29.940 do something
00:36:30.500 I'll feel
00:36:31.000 guilty
00:36:31.320 because I'm
00:36:31.920 not even
00:36:32.500 just cheating
00:36:33.600 on my wife
00:36:34.100 I'm cheating
00:36:34.460 on my kids
00:36:34.900 as well
00:36:35.280 what else
00:36:36.220 would make
00:36:36.580 you feel
00:36:36.980 guilty
00:36:37.320 what other
00:36:38.620 element of
00:36:39.320 guilt is there
00:36:40.020 in that
00:36:40.260 if you remove
00:36:41.440 the one
00:36:41.760 but the thing
00:36:42.480 is like
00:36:42.940 the thing
00:36:43.540 is of course
00:36:44.400 Allah
00:36:44.740 is watching
00:36:45.200 me all the
00:36:45.640 time
00:36:45.880 but it's
00:36:46.560 that guilt
00:36:46.920 as well
00:36:47.260 that you
00:36:47.500 have to
00:36:47.720 think about
00:36:48.180 as well
00:36:48.460 so trying
00:36:49.260 to find
00:36:49.640 things
00:36:49.860 that will
00:36:50.120 stop you
00:36:50.700 from committing
00:36:51.840 that as in
00:36:52.280 looking away
00:36:53.360 or like
00:36:54.460 making the
00:36:55.020 conversation
00:36:55.440 can I ask
00:36:56.140 you a question
00:36:56.620 at what age
00:36:57.540 did you get
00:36:58.420 to that level
00:36:59.100 where that
00:37:00.180 belief system
00:37:00.920 kicked in
00:37:01.320 or were you
00:37:01.880 always like
00:37:02.580 that
00:37:02.740 well the thing
00:37:04.200 is
00:37:04.460 I think
00:37:05.440 some men
00:37:05.940 have it
00:37:06.300 in their
00:37:06.540 character
00:37:06.900 where they're
00:37:07.500 just actually
00:37:08.220 women and 0.99
00:37:09.440 men
00:37:09.680 some women 1.00
00:37:10.460 are really
00:37:11.260 once they're
00:37:12.620 married
00:37:12.900 that's it
00:37:13.420 everything's
00:37:14.140 locked off
00:37:14.500 some men
00:37:16.320 are the same
00:37:17.000 like they're
00:37:17.860 cool
00:37:18.300 they're not
00:37:18.980 hot in
00:37:20.380 their temper
00:37:20.980 so they're
00:37:22.220 just calm
00:37:22.740 and they
00:37:23.060 have that
00:37:23.520 character
00:37:23.720 it's how
00:37:23.960 they're
00:37:24.200 brought up
00:37:24.640 as well
00:37:25.000 I think
00:37:25.500 the fundamental
00:37:25.980 reason why
00:37:26.620 men cheat
00:37:27.100 is because 0.97
00:37:27.760 of porn
00:37:28.280 like generally 0.76
00:37:29.380 that is the
00:37:30.120 most people
00:37:32.120 who cheat
00:37:32.620 they'll tell
00:37:33.560 you
00:37:33.740 I ask them
00:37:34.680 have you 0.88
00:37:35.540 watched porn 0.90
00:37:35.980 do you 0.70
00:37:36.220 watch porn
00:37:36.580 regularly 0.95
00:37:36.960 they'll be like
00:37:37.560 yeah I do
00:37:37.980 but they can't
00:37:38.340 see a correlation
00:37:38.920 there
00:37:39.280 so the human
00:37:40.820 element is no
00:37:41.740 longer there
00:37:42.220 they don't see
00:37:42.860 your woman
00:37:43.180 but the funny
00:37:43.580 thing is even
00:37:44.220 if someone's
00:37:44.740 praying their
00:37:45.160 undeen
00:37:45.600 all it takes
00:37:46.680 is to look 0.97
00:37:47.080 at porn
00:37:47.400 once
00:37:47.720 and destroy 0.82
00:37:48.480 your mind
00:37:48.940 it's the
00:37:49.460 soul
00:37:49.760 connection
00:37:50.320 with Allah
00:37:51.040 that's different
00:37:52.040 the thing is
00:37:52.520 I've seen it
00:37:53.040 with a lot of
00:37:53.440 men because 0.99
00:37:53.900 they cheat
00:37:54.260 because they
00:37:54.640 can't
00:37:55.620 they can cheat
00:37:56.280 they get away
00:37:56.740 with it
00:37:57.000 some women 1.00
00:37:58.060 know that
00:37:58.500 the men cheat
00:37:59.060 but just let
00:37:59.660 him go
00:37:59.940 but this is
00:38:00.720 another thing
00:38:01.420 that when
00:38:01.840 your man
00:38:02.260 you know
00:38:02.500 your man
00:38:02.840 is cheating
00:38:03.220 you need to
00:38:03.620 put
00:38:03.780 like that's
00:38:04.740 that's it
00:38:04.880 because
00:38:05.100 he knows
00:38:05.560 he can
00:38:05.800 get away
00:38:06.100 with it
00:38:06.360 but before
00:38:07.300 we get
00:38:07.700 to that
00:38:08.060 stage
00:38:08.520 is the
00:38:08.860 communication
00:38:09.480 between the
00:38:10.160 husband and
00:38:10.760 the wife
00:38:11.120 is so important
00:38:11.960 that when
00:38:12.900 there is an
00:38:13.540 issue or
00:38:14.200 there's a
00:38:14.560 problem
00:38:14.960 yeah we
00:38:16.000 have to be
00:38:16.440 able to say
00:38:17.140 and talk to
00:38:18.140 our partner
00:38:18.580 for example
00:38:19.220 if I'm
00:38:20.220 working and
00:38:21.140 I've got a
00:38:22.160 minibus and
00:38:22.740 sometimes I
00:38:24.300 don't know who
00:38:24.660 my passengers are
00:38:25.520 and there could
00:38:25.920 be loads of
00:38:26.520 women it could 1.00
00:38:27.480 be a hot sunny
00:38:28.300 day and I'm in
00:38:29.040 the park
00:38:29.660 we can go
00:38:30.540 out anywhere
00:38:31.300 you would
00:38:32.400 always remind
00:38:33.060 and confidently
00:38:33.620 talk to my
00:38:34.160 wife and say 0.99
00:38:34.760 listen I'm
00:38:35.980 always coming
00:38:36.460 back towards
00:38:37.160 you because
00:38:37.840 you're my
00:38:38.160 wife and
00:38:38.840 you know
00:38:39.260 this is how
00:38:39.760 the reality
00:38:40.240 is I know
00:38:41.520 sometimes you
00:38:42.080 can be tired
00:38:42.780 whatever but
00:38:43.700 you need to be
00:38:44.180 able to talk
00:38:44.800 to your wife
00:38:45.520 because sometimes
00:38:46.360 she's busy 0.92
00:38:46.920 she's got kids
00:38:47.780 she's had a
00:38:48.640 whole busy
00:38:49.160 day doing
00:38:49.600 x y and
00:38:50.220 z she then
00:38:51.120 needs to do
00:38:52.000 you know
00:38:52.500 whatever she
00:38:53.060 needs to cook 0.82
00:38:53.680 and by the
00:38:54.460 time you come
00:38:55.020 home you've
00:38:55.460 got one hour
00:38:55.960 to chill
00:38:56.360 eat food
00:38:56.960 she's knocked
00:38:57.740 out in bed
00:38:58.300 and you're
00:38:58.620 just sitting
00:38:59.020 you need to
00:39:00.880 be able to
00:39:01.420 talk and if
00:39:02.420 you establish
00:39:03.100 that connection
00:39:03.880 with your wife
00:39:04.380 by talking
00:39:04.980 about the
00:39:05.420 things that
00:39:06.100 sometimes people
00:39:06.680 find shyness
00:39:08.220 to talk
00:39:08.780 depends how
00:39:11.600 you talk to
00:39:12.100 your wife
00:39:12.340 because if
00:39:12.700 you say that
00:39:13.140 to your wife
00:39:13.520 your wife
00:39:13.840 will say
00:39:14.080 why do you
00:39:14.680 feel like
00:39:15.060 that
00:39:16.060 no I
00:39:16.700 just say
00:39:17.080 you can only
00:39:17.560 pick up
00:39:17.880 the elderly
00:39:18.040 I think
00:39:18.200 sometimes
00:39:18.520 like I said
00:39:19.060 it's about
00:39:19.400 maturity
00:39:19.800 I'll just
00:39:20.240 say you
00:39:20.520 can only
00:39:20.880 pick up
00:39:21.220 the elderly
00:39:21.760 it could be
00:39:25.280 anything
00:39:25.720 I'm talking
00:39:26.200 about going
00:39:26.500 to the park
00:39:27.100 but whatever
00:39:27.840 it is that
00:39:28.260 you people
00:39:28.600 do
00:39:28.900 you understand
00:39:29.920 some people
00:39:30.580 have professions
00:39:31.420 like taxi
00:39:32.180 drivers
00:39:32.580 and they're
00:39:33.260 one on one
00:39:33.840 in a taxi
00:39:35.020 car for example
00:39:35.620 you're sitting
00:39:36.500 in work
00:39:36.980 in a call
00:39:38.140 centre
00:39:38.540 and there's
00:39:39.280 lots of
00:39:39.620 people
00:39:39.900 I know
00:39:40.340 incidents
00:39:41.040 like my
00:39:41.520 wife
00:39:41.940 when I got
00:39:43.120 married to her
00:39:43.580 I said
00:39:43.780 they ain't
00:39:44.060 no working
00:39:44.500 for you
00:39:44.900 but when she
00:39:45.900 was working
00:39:46.580 she was telling
00:39:47.100 me incidents
00:39:47.740 in her
00:39:48.200 workplace
00:39:48.740 in Tower
00:39:49.600 Hamlets
00:39:49.940 Council
00:39:50.320 where Muslims 1.00
00:39:51.420 are cheating 1.00
00:39:52.480 on their
00:39:53.200 partners
00:39:53.720 with the guy
00:39:54.660 that they're
00:39:55.040 working with
00:39:55.680 you understand
00:39:56.860 so why
00:39:57.820 put yourself
00:39:58.380 in that
00:39:58.780 environment
00:39:59.220 and that's
00:39:59.620 where it
00:39:59.900 boils
00:40:00.060 up
00:40:00.140 you say
00:40:00.400 taco
00:40:00.700 at the
00:40:01.000 same
00:40:01.180 time
00:40:01.580 but at the
00:40:02.300 same time
00:40:02.760 why put
00:40:03.500 people in
00:40:04.580 that situation
00:40:05.560 where cheating
00:40:06.360 can take place
00:40:07.280 so you have
00:40:08.920 to have a
00:40:09.400 balance of
00:40:09.840 everything
00:40:10.200 what would
00:40:12.520 you guys
00:40:12.880 class as
00:40:13.600 so same
00:40:14.900 thing we
00:40:15.260 discussed
00:40:15.640 when we
00:40:16.160 said why
00:40:16.500 women cheat 1.00
00:40:17.060 there's two
00:40:17.920 ways of
00:40:18.700 doing it
00:40:19.080 sort of
00:40:19.840 physical
00:40:20.320 cheating
00:40:20.740 everyone can
00:40:21.660 say that's
00:40:21.960 cheating
00:40:22.180 physically doing
00:40:23.020 something
00:40:23.360 but also
00:40:23.960 emotional
00:40:24.460 and when I
00:40:26.220 say emotional
00:40:26.680 I mean
00:40:26.940 it could be
00:40:27.400 flirting
00:40:27.780 engaging
00:40:28.620 entertaining
00:40:29.140 other women 0.95
00:40:29.720 you only engage
00:40:30.980 women if it's 1.00
00:40:31.540 a necessity
00:40:32.060 anything outside
00:40:33.540 of that
00:40:34.040 if you're
00:40:34.520 flirting with
00:40:34.940 them
00:40:35.100 discussing
00:40:35.640 this and
00:40:36.020 that
00:40:36.200 I feel
00:40:36.920 last
00:40:37.080 cheating
00:40:37.360 I want 0.91
00:40:38.040 to be
00:40:38.240 with
00:40:38.980 a
00:40:39.060 girl's
00:40:41.060 picture
00:40:41.360 is that
00:40:41.660 cheating
00:40:41.940 why would
00:40:43.140 you need
00:40:43.320 to like
00:40:43.560 another
00:40:43.740 girl's
00:40:44.000 picture
00:40:44.120 it doesn't
00:40:44.440 make sense
00:40:44.780 that's a form
00:40:46.460 of disloyalty
00:40:46.940 men don't 0.99
00:40:47.360 cheat
00:40:47.500 emotionally 0.92
00:40:47.880 women cheat 1.00
00:40:48.300 emotionally 0.91
00:40:48.540 as a man
00:40:50.300 I don't have
00:40:50.540 any emotional
00:40:51.020 needs
00:40:51.320 no man says
00:40:52.280 I'm emotional
00:40:52.860 men don't 0.99
00:40:53.600 cheat
00:40:53.800 it's very
00:40:54.980 simple
00:40:55.180 we're very
00:40:55.840 straight to the
00:40:56.560 point
00:40:56.720 we treat
00:40:57.420 because of
00:40:57.720 desires
00:40:58.160 a man
00:40:59.020 is bored
00:40:59.600 of his
00:40:59.800 wife
00:41:00.120 he doesn't
00:41:01.180 like pornography
00:41:02.180 not lowering
00:41:02.980 the gaze
00:41:03.460 fundamental key
00:41:04.560 aspects here
00:41:05.200 that's what
00:41:05.660 they cheat
00:41:06.020 and cheating
00:41:06.500 is for
00:41:07.140 example
00:41:07.480 that a
00:41:07.920 Muslim
00:41:08.440 man
00:41:08.680 who's
00:41:08.860 God
00:41:09.040 fearing
00:41:09.360 that he
00:41:10.680 can have
00:41:10.960 an option
00:41:11.260 of getting
00:41:11.500 married
00:41:11.740 again
00:41:12.020 chooses to
00:41:12.660 go and
00:41:13.520 sleep
00:41:13.920 like
00:41:14.180 commits
00:41:14.540 zinnah 0.72
00:41:15.160 that's
00:41:16.040 cheating
00:41:16.680 he could
00:41:20.600 have had
00:41:20.920 a problem
00:41:21.540 from
00:41:22.020 he needs
00:41:22.420 to fix
00:41:22.680 that
00:41:22.820 problem
00:41:23.080 bro
00:41:23.240 I know
00:41:23.440 that
00:41:24.240 I'm saying
00:41:24.960 sometimes
00:41:25.240 people have
00:41:25.660 to
00:41:25.740 recognize
00:41:26.020 that
00:41:26.260 and that
00:41:26.700 sometimes
00:41:27.220 and it's
00:41:27.700 unfair for
00:41:28.340 the woman 0.98
00:41:29.080 that sometimes
00:41:29.960 we don't
00:41:30.720 know
00:41:31.140 who we've
00:41:32.280 got married
00:41:32.740 to
00:41:32.960 people want
00:41:33.720 to hide
00:41:34.220 the bad
00:41:34.860 and the
00:41:35.240 flaws
00:41:35.560 exactly
00:41:36.080 they might
00:41:36.480 have been
00:41:36.780 addicted to
00:41:37.760 porn
00:41:37.960 they might
00:41:38.320 have been
00:41:38.800 having loads
00:41:39.600 of girls
00:41:39.960 and now
00:41:40.300 they want
00:41:40.620 to change
00:41:41.240 yeah
00:41:41.540 you know
00:41:42.660 now they
00:41:43.000 want to
00:41:43.400 change
00:41:43.780 and they're
00:41:44.860 probably still
00:41:45.600 on that
00:41:45.940 stage of
00:41:46.420 working it
00:41:46.900 out
00:41:46.980 I tell
00:41:48.820 any
00:41:49.020 revert
00:41:49.340 brother
00:41:49.620 specifically
00:41:50.140 brothers
00:41:50.540 when they
00:41:51.260 come to
00:41:51.560 islam
00:41:51.920 you need 0.99
00:41:52.220 to detox
00:41:52.560 forget marriage
00:41:53.060 for a good
00:41:53.400 couple of
00:41:53.740 years
00:41:53.960 because you're
00:41:54.520 coming from
00:41:54.880 mad jahiliya
00:41:55.700 if you live
00:41:56.340 that club
00:41:56.680 in partying
00:41:57.200 bro you
00:41:57.800 are used
00:41:58.240 in your
00:41:58.600 system
00:41:59.040 to be
00:41:59.320 speaking
00:41:59.520 to multiple
00:41:59.900 girls 0.98
00:42:00.120 the left
00:42:00.420 bro lowering
00:42:01.360 the gaze
00:42:01.840 is not even
00:42:02.380 a
00:42:02.540 this concept
00:42:04.860 of lowering
00:42:05.220 the gaze
00:42:05.400 before I came
00:42:05.720 to islam
00:42:06.100 what do you
00:42:06.820 mean lowering
00:42:07.120 the gaze
00:42:07.440 you don't
00:42:08.140 know nothing
00:42:08.420 about it
00:42:08.600 some people
00:42:09.160 got married
00:42:09.960 in that
00:42:10.300 situation
00:42:13.780 there's a
00:42:14.100 slight
00:42:14.360 contradiction
00:42:15.060 because in
00:42:16.040 the previous
00:42:16.520 episode we
00:42:17.260 were talking
00:42:17.580 about men
00:42:18.100 have emotions
00:42:18.840 now I want
00:42:19.920 you to explain
00:42:20.700 okay a man
00:42:21.740 is not
00:42:22.080 emotionally
00:42:22.520 connected
00:42:23.100 to that
00:42:24.140 a man
00:42:24.920 is not
00:42:25.220 emotionally
00:42:25.680 connected
00:42:26.140 to that
00:42:26.480 woman 0.99
00:42:26.700 which I
00:42:27.020 believe so
00:42:27.560 yes
00:42:27.840 yeah a man
00:42:28.360 can have
00:42:28.700 a relationship
00:42:29.160 but there's
00:42:29.620 no emotional
00:42:30.200 connection
00:42:30.700 he's connected
00:42:31.620 emotionally
00:42:32.060 to his wife
00:42:32.820 but then
00:42:33.740 at the same
00:42:34.540 time you're
00:42:35.220 saying that
00:42:35.600 men are
00:42:35.980 emotional
00:42:36.460 so can you
00:42:37.180 answer that
00:42:37.580 question
00:42:37.900 okay so
00:42:38.060 when we
00:42:38.540 talk about
00:42:38.860 now how
00:42:39.800 do we
00:42:40.580 we don't
00:42:40.900 emotionally
00:42:41.280 cheat
00:42:41.540 so
00:42:43.160 when you
00:42:43.980 say
00:42:44.280 emotional
00:42:45.280 obviously
00:42:46.160 I know
00:42:46.820 on a deeper
00:42:47.300 level
00:42:47.560 there's many
00:42:48.700 reasons
00:42:49.260 for it
00:42:49.880 but can
00:42:51.360 you explain
00:42:52.000 to our
00:42:53.040 viewers
00:42:53.540 that what
00:42:55.140 is the
00:42:55.520 difference
00:42:55.820 between not
00:42:56.360 having that
00:42:56.940 emotion
00:42:57.540 can you
00:42:57.960 give your
00:42:58.140 question
00:42:58.360 so I
00:42:58.580 understand
00:42:58.800 sorry if
00:42:59.360 you cheat
00:42:59.840 that's an
00:43:00.240 emotional
00:43:00.660 response
00:43:01.340 that's
00:43:01.960 emotional
00:43:02.420 period
00:43:02.780 that's to
00:43:03.740 you
00:43:03.860 he's talking
00:43:05.700 about emotionally
00:43:06.520 cheating
00:43:07.000 so for
00:43:07.720 example
00:43:08.080 if I'm
00:43:09.260 flirting with
00:43:09.700 a girl on
00:43:10.180 Instagram
00:43:10.460 can I say
00:43:12.440 I know
00:43:13.000 men
00:43:13.700 I know
00:43:14.160 men
00:43:14.380 in Jahiliya 0.95
00:43:14.960 who would
00:43:15.360 go and
00:43:15.880 be with
00:43:16.260 multiple
00:43:16.540 women 1.00
00:43:16.840 and it
00:43:17.600 means
00:43:17.880 it's like
00:43:18.180 you know
00:43:18.320 what it is
00:43:18.560 it's like
00:43:18.760 drinking
00:43:18.960 water
00:43:19.180 you just
00:43:19.940 drink it
00:43:20.360 and it
00:43:20.700 means nothing
00:43:21.160 to you
00:43:21.520 yeah
00:43:21.700 yeah
00:43:22.100 zero
00:43:22.500 I'm not
00:43:25.100 saying a
00:43:25.540 connection
00:43:25.980 but it's
00:43:26.500 still an
00:43:26.880 emotional
00:43:27.240 response
00:43:27.700 yeah
00:43:27.860 exactly
00:43:28.300 to say
00:43:29.920 that you
00:43:30.340 you're
00:43:31.260 now going
00:43:32.000 to cheat
00:43:32.480 even if
00:43:33.040 you have
00:43:33.340 no
00:43:33.540 connection
00:43:33.920 to the
00:43:34.300 woman 0.99
00:43:34.580 yes
00:43:34.920 what
00:43:35.200 you've
00:43:35.460 done
00:43:35.640 is an
00:43:35.980 emotional
00:43:36.460 response
00:43:36.720 no problem
00:43:37.080 if it's
00:43:37.520 an emotional
00:43:37.820 response
00:43:38.280 what I'm
00:43:39.080 seeing is
00:43:39.440 a man
00:43:40.260 let me
00:43:40.700 make this
00:43:40.920 very clear
00:43:41.220 please tell
00:43:41.540 me if
00:43:41.740 I'm wrong
00:43:42.000 a man
00:43:42.980 could go
00:43:43.480 and be
00:43:43.900 intimate
00:43:44.340 with another
00:43:45.000 woman 0.99
00:43:45.280 and it
00:43:46.380 can mean
00:43:47.020 zero
00:43:47.660 to him
00:43:48.020 it's like
00:43:49.080 he went
00:43:49.820 he said
00:43:50.800 yeah I
00:43:51.040 just kicked
00:43:51.400 the ball
00:43:51.740 and I
00:43:52.060 came back
00:43:52.500 it means
00:43:53.340 nothing to
00:43:54.220 him
00:43:54.420 not for
00:43:55.160 a woman 0.57
00:43:55.420 when a
00:43:56.080 woman 0.99
00:43:56.360 does that
00:43:57.000 she's
00:43:57.340 gone
00:43:57.540 past
00:43:57.860 beyond
00:43:58.280 that
00:43:58.480 stage
00:43:58.760 of
00:43:59.000 her
00:43:59.240 husband
00:43:59.460 is
00:43:59.640 dead
00:43:59.820 in
00:43:59.940 her eyes
00:44:00.140 because
00:44:00.400 the
00:44:00.780 respect
00:44:01.140 has been
00:44:01.380 lost
00:44:01.520 in a
00:44:01.940 modest
00:44:02.540 in
00:44:02.680 higher
00:44:02.860 she
00:44:03.320 doesn't
00:44:03.500 even
00:44:03.620 think
00:44:03.840 of
00:44:04.000 that
00:44:04.140 that's
00:44:09.440 for her
00:44:09.820 husband
00:44:10.120 long
00:44:10.480 time
00:44:10.700 ago
00:44:10.880 she
00:44:11.500 left
00:44:11.940 her
00:44:12.620 time
00:44:13.320 ago
00:44:13.600 she's
00:44:14.120 just
00:44:14.260 acting
00:44:14.580 up
00:44:14.840 on
00:44:14.960 that
00:44:15.120 now
00:44:15.420 so
00:44:15.800 the way
00:44:16.220 that's
00:44:16.500 why
00:44:16.620 in the
00:44:16.840 last
00:44:17.020 episode
00:44:17.280 we said
00:44:17.600 women 1.00
00:44:17.820 emotionally
00:44:18.460 when they
00:44:19.060 are
00:44:19.140 neglected
00:44:19.580 they
00:44:20.040 cheat
00:44:20.420 but
00:44:21.000 then it
00:44:21.360 can
00:44:21.520 become
00:44:21.780 physical
00:44:22.160 but it
00:44:22.620 doesn't
00:44:22.760 need to
00:44:22.940 become
00:44:23.120 physical
00:44:23.340 they
00:44:23.500 can
00:44:23.620 say
00:44:23.720 you
00:44:23.840 know
00:44:23.940 what
00:44:24.060 I
00:44:24.140 get
00:44:24.240 my
00:44:24.360 emotional
00:44:24.780 satisfaction
00:44:25.540 from
00:44:25.840 this
00:44:26.020 guy
00:44:26.220 at
00:44:26.360 work
00:44:26.660 and
00:44:27.060 at
00:44:27.200 home
00:44:27.360 I
00:44:27.460 get
00:44:27.560 my
00:44:27.680 intimacy
00:44:27.960 from
00:44:28.200 my
00:44:28.360 husband
00:44:28.640 that's
00:44:29.160 why
00:44:39.440 connected
00:44:40.000 to
00:44:40.540 that
00:44:40.720 woman 0.99
00:44:40.920 that
00:44:41.080 he
00:44:41.240 cheats
00:44:41.440 with
00:44:41.600 so
00:44:43.000 how
00:44:44.160 is that
00:44:44.480 different
00:44:44.800 to a
00:44:45.200 man
00:44:45.360 having
00:44:45.780 emotions
00:44:46.300 so
00:44:46.620 now
00:44:46.860 you're
00:44:47.080 saying
00:44:47.200 a
00:44:47.360 man
00:44:47.500 does
00:44:47.760 have
00:44:47.960 emotions
00:44:48.380 but
00:44:48.640 then
00:44:48.880 when
00:44:49.180 he's
00:44:49.440 connected
00:44:49.840 with
00:44:50.120 that
00:44:50.260 women 1.00
00:44:50.520 how
00:44:50.960 can
00:44:51.160 he
00:44:51.280 just
00:44:51.440 set
00:44:51.640 his
00:44:51.800 emotions
00:44:52.220 aside
00:44:52.680 okay
00:44:53.260 so
00:44:53.480 as
00:44:53.880 men
00:44:54.160 what
00:44:54.600 we
00:44:54.760 say
00:44:54.960 is
00:44:55.080 that
00:44:55.200 for
00:44:55.340 example
00:44:55.640 when
00:44:55.840 we
00:44:55.960 discussed
00:44:56.280 about
00:44:56.500 if
00:44:56.680 our
00:44:56.800 wife
00:44:57.020 has
00:44:57.160 given
00:44:57.340 birth
00:44:57.680 and
00:44:58.200 she
00:44:58.400 says
00:44:58.580 some
00:44:58.720 really
00:44:58.900 harsh
00:44:59.120 stuff
00:44:59.300 to
00:44:59.460 us
00:44:59.600 we
00:44:59.740 say
00:44:59.880 we're
00:45:00.060 mentally
00:45:00.360 weaker
00:45:00.720 that
00:45:01.240 can
00:45:01.400 bother
00:45:01.580 us
00:45:01.740 that
00:45:01.860 can
00:45:02.000 hurt
00:45:02.160 us
00:45:02.280 we're
00:45:02.380 human
00:45:02.580 beings
00:45:02.960 however
00:45:04.020 we
00:45:04.660 are
00:45:04.820 also
00:45:05.080 transformers
00:45:05.740 we
00:45:05.900 transform
00:45:06.240 you know
00:45:06.460 like
00:45:06.600 the
00:45:06.960 machine
00:45:07.480 the car
00:45:07.760 turns
00:45:07.920 into
00:45:08.060 a
00:45:08.160 thing
00:45:08.300 we
00:45:08.920 do
00:45:09.520 not
00:45:09.860 use
00:45:10.400 that
00:45:10.560 or
00:45:10.720 carry
00:45:11.000 that
00:45:11.200 on
00:45:11.440 to
00:45:11.560 like
00:45:11.780 for
00:45:12.120 example
00:45:12.320 if
00:45:12.440 a
00:45:12.540 brother
00:45:12.740 is
00:45:13.320 being
00:45:13.560 like
00:45:13.940 his
00:45:14.300 wife
00:45:14.520 is
00:45:14.620 giving
00:45:14.760 a bit
00:45:14.960 of a
00:45:15.120 slack
00:45:15.280 we 0.91
00:45:15.460 all
00:45:15.660 get
00:45:15.820 that
00:45:16.080 yeah
00:45:16.300 if
00:45:16.780 any
00:45:16.980 man
00:45:17.200 thinks
00:45:17.640 that
00:45:17.760 he's
00:45:17.880 going
00:45:18.000 to
00:45:18.080 go
00:45:18.180 to
00:45:18.320 another
00:45:18.540 woman 0.99
00:45:18.740 it's
00:45:18.940 going
00:45:19.020 to
00:45:19.040 be
00:45:19.140 resolved
00:45:19.380 you're
00:45:19.580 an
00:45:19.700 absolute 1.00
00:45:20.000 idiot 1.00
00:45:20.380 you're 1.00
00:45:21.000 a
00:45:21.120 child
00:45:21.420 we
00:45:21.980 say
00:45:22.280 that
00:45:22.420 when
00:45:22.560 that
00:45:22.760 happens
00:45:23.200 that
00:45:23.480 bothers
00:45:23.780 us
00:45:24.100 but
00:45:24.880 when
00:45:25.420 we
00:45:25.720 are
00:45:26.100 arguing
00:45:26.460 that
00:45:26.600 if
00:45:26.700 a
00:45:26.840 man
00:45:27.000 wants
00:45:27.220 to
00:45:27.380 go
00:45:27.560 and
00:45:27.740 have
00:45:27.880 a
00:45:27.980 second
00:45:28.180 wife
00:45:28.460 and
00:45:29.160 or
00:45:29.300 he
00:45:29.400 wants
00:45:29.580 to
00:45:29.720 go
00:45:29.880 and
00:45:30.060 cheat
00:45:30.340 there's
00:45:33.160 a
00:45:33.200 disconnection
00:45:33.840 in the
00:45:34.040 sense
00:45:34.200 because
00:45:34.400 he's
00:45:34.620 thinking
00:45:34.820 I
00:45:35.360 want
00:45:35.620 intimate
00:45:35.980 for
00:45:36.160 example
00:45:36.600 sorry
00:45:37.900 to
00:45:38.080 get
00:45:38.560 into
00:45:38.700 detail
00:45:39.020 my
00:45:39.580 wife
00:45:39.840 I'm
00:45:40.680 not
00:45:40.780 talking
00:45:40.900 with
00:45:41.000 my
00:45:41.120 wife
00:45:41.260 I'm
00:45:41.400 saying
00:45:41.540 this
00:45:41.680 man
00:45:41.840 imagine
00:45:42.100 him
00:45:42.480 saying
00:45:42.680 I'm
00:45:43.320 happy
00:45:43.460 with
00:45:43.600 my
00:45:43.740 wife
00:45:43.940 but
00:45:44.100 there's
00:45:44.320 this
00:45:44.460 other
00:45:44.680 woman 0.99
00:45:44.980 her
00:45:45.540 eyes
00:45:46.000 or
00:45:46.520 her
00:45:46.780 leg
00:45:47.220 or
00:45:47.460 whatever
00:45:47.800 other
00:45:48.100 body
00:45:48.320 part
00:45:48.620 I
00:46:10.780 that's
00:46:12.420 the
00:46:12.560 reason
00:46:12.820 why
00:46:13.040 Allah
00:46:13.320 tells
00:46:13.600 a
00:46:13.700 woman 0.99
00:46:13.820 to
00:46:14.040 cover
00:46:14.280 up
00:46:14.560 so
00:46:17.120 we
00:46:17.360 don't
00:46:17.580 fall
00:46:17.820 in
00:46:17.960 love
00:46:18.120 the
00:46:18.260 wrong
00:46:18.420 way
00:46:18.600 not
00:46:18.820 love
00:46:19.100 fall
00:46:19.560 in
00:46:19.720 love
00:46:20.020 lust
00:46:20.760 the
00:46:21.020 wrong
00:46:21.460 way
00:46:21.660 because
00:46:22.020 it
00:46:22.180 protects
00:46:22.480 you
00:46:22.600 and
00:46:22.680 it
00:46:22.760 protects
00:46:23.020 me
00:46:23.220 because
00:46:23.540 when
00:46:23.680 you're
00:46:23.820 covered
00:46:23.980 I'm
00:46:24.180 speaking
00:46:24.440 to
00:46:24.700 you
00:46:25.040 not
00:46:25.380 speaking
00:46:25.600 to
00:46:25.740 something
00:46:25.960 else
00:46:26.280 so
00:46:27.440 a
00:46:27.760 man's
00:46:28.120 main
00:46:28.300 drive
00:46:28.540 is
00:46:28.700 primitive
00:46:29.100 brain
00:46:29.540 this
00:46:30.720 is
00:46:30.860 the
00:46:30.940 reason
00:46:31.080 I
00:46:31.240 believe
00:46:31.400 men
00:46:31.600 cheat
00:46:31.740 because
00:46:32.120 to
00:46:32.640 us
00:46:33.000 the
00:46:33.640 way
00:46:33.800 we
00:46:33.960 are
00:46:34.080 programmed
00:46:34.460 and
00:46:35.380 wired
00:46:35.760 is
00:46:36.220 we
00:46:36.460 want
00:46:36.860 its
00:46:37.140 reproduction
00:46:37.780 and
00:46:38.440 also
00:46:38.960 having
00:46:39.260 variety
00:46:39.880 so
00:46:40.420 because
00:46:40.740 of
00:46:41.000 that
00:46:41.260 to
00:46:41.480 us
00:46:41.720 it's
00:46:41.860 very
00:46:42.020 that's
00:46:42.360 why
00:46:42.620 I
00:46:43.180 say
00:46:43.500 polygamy
00:46:44.160 has
00:46:44.640 sent
00:46:44.900 to
00:46:45.100 protect
00:46:45.440 the
00:46:45.700 woman 0.99
00:46:45.960 because
00:46:46.540 a
00:46:46.780 man
00:46:46.920 has
00:46:47.140 this
00:46:47.360 animal
00:46:47.700 instinct
00:46:48.100 where
00:46:48.260 Allah
00:46:48.460 says
00:46:48.740 hold
00:46:49.440 your
00:46:49.580 horses
00:46:49.800 if
00:46:50.780 you
00:46:51.020 are
00:46:51.340 going
00:46:51.580 to
00:46:51.780 do
00:46:51.960 it
00:46:52.180 here's
00:46:52.840 the
00:46:53.060 ask
00:46:53.680 a
00:46:53.840 hand
00:46:54.120 marriage
00:46:54.580 and
00:46:54.760 he's
00:46:54.900 thinking
00:46:55.160 I'm
00:46:55.800 primitive
00:46:56.080 I'm
00:46:56.280 just
00:46:56.420 like
00:46:56.860 an
00:46:56.960 animal
00:46:57.140 then
00:46:58.180 you
00:46:58.340 stay
00:46:58.480 as
00:46:58.580 an
00:46:58.680 animal
00:46:58.920 if
00:46:59.380 you
00:46:59.480 want
00:46:59.640 to
00:46:59.740 do
00:46:59.880 it
00:46:59.980 like
00:47:00.160 a
00:47:00.300 human
00:47:00.520 being
00:47:00.960 here's
00:47:01.680 the
00:47:01.820 protocol
00:47:02.280 so
00:47:02.740 that's
00:47:03.060 why
00:47:03.160 I
00:47:03.300 believe
00:47:03.520 polygamy
00:47:03.940 protects
00:47:04.460 the
00:47:04.640 woman 0.99
00:47:04.840 but
00:47:05.360 because
00:47:05.700 we
00:47:05.860 don't
00:47:05.980 have
00:47:06.120 the
00:47:06.240 element
00:47:06.480 and
00:47:06.640 there's
00:47:06.780 a
00:47:06.880 whole
00:47:07.020 about
00:47:07.480 it
00:47:07.600 it's
00:47:07.700 a
00:47:07.740 different
00:47:07.900 story
00:47:08.220 men
00:47:09.020 go
00:47:09.240 down
00:47:09.400 the
00:47:09.540 route
00:47:09.720 of
00:47:09.860 doing
00:47:10.100 it
00:47:10.200 in
00:47:10.300 an
00:47:10.440 animal
00:47:10.640 instinct
00:47:10.980 so
00:47:11.180 how can
00:47:12.200 they
00:47:12.340 control
00:47:12.700 that
00:47:12.940 okay
00:47:13.200 good
00:47:13.400 so
00:47:13.560 what
00:47:26.080 don't
00:47:26.560 think
00:47:26.720 about
00:47:26.880 marriage
00:47:27.060 for
00:47:27.180 two
00:47:27.400 years
00:47:27.640 you
00:47:28.140 have
00:47:28.400 to
00:47:28.520 go
00:47:28.620 through
00:47:28.800 rehab
00:47:29.160 detox
00:47:29.520 because
00:47:30.100 you
00:47:30.220 don't
00:47:30.320 know
00:47:30.380 what
00:47:30.480 law
00:47:30.580 in
00:47:30.660 the
00:47:30.740 gate
00:47:30.860 is
00:47:31.060 you
00:47:31.420 chat
00:47:31.660 to
00:47:31.840 left
00:47:32.180 right
00:47:32.380 center
00:47:32.600 women 1.00
00:47:33.160 everywhere
00:47:33.540 you
00:47:34.200 have
00:47:34.720 been
00:47:34.980 with
00:47:35.340 multiple
00:47:35.700 women 1.00
00:47:36.020 bro
00:47:36.260 how
00:47:36.820 are you
00:47:36.940 going
00:47:37.060 to
00:47:37.140 come
00:47:37.300 yes
00:47:37.440 in
00:47:37.560 Islam
00:47:37.780 he
00:47:37.900 allows
00:47:38.100 you
00:47:38.220 four
00:47:38.400 wives
00:47:38.660 but
00:47:39.120 I
00:47:39.740 am
00:47:39.860 pro
00:47:40.040 polygamy
00:47:40.500 but I
00:47:41.660 will never
00:47:42.300 ever tell
00:47:42.980 a brother
00:47:43.340 who's
00:47:43.600 come to
00:47:43.880 Islam
00:47:44.220 your
00:47:44.620 solution
00:47:44.940 is
00:47:45.060 four
00:47:45.200 wives
00:47:45.460 I
00:47:45.820 say
00:47:45.940 you
00:47:46.080 got
00:47:46.240 a
00:47:46.380 disease
00:47:46.660 in
00:47:46.840 the
00:47:46.960 heart
00:47:47.200 fix
00:47:47.980 the
00:47:48.160 disease
00:47:48.400 in
00:47:48.560 the
00:47:48.660 heart
00:47:48.840 you
00:47:49.080 need
00:47:49.240 to
00:47:49.340 detox
00:47:49.680 stop
00:47:50.100 watching
00:47:50.260 pornography
00:47:50.680 stop
00:47:51.100 talking
00:47:51.320 to
00:47:51.460 women 1.00
00:47:51.680 once
00:47:52.420 you've
00:47:52.660 done
00:47:52.820 that
00:47:53.080 build
00:47:53.940 a level
00:47:54.260 of
00:47:54.420 taqwa
00:47:54.760 you pray
00:47:55.500 your
00:47:55.700 salah
00:47:55.920 you
00:47:56.120 fast
00:47:56.440 you
00:47:56.660 give
00:47:56.840 your
00:47:56.940 charity
00:47:57.300 then
00:47:58.240 once
00:47:59.220 you
00:47:59.340 do
00:47:59.440 that
00:47:59.620 I
00:47:59.860 know
00:48:00.020 some
00:48:00.180 brothers
00:48:00.380 who say
00:48:00.600 you know
00:48:00.800 what bro
00:48:01.100 I'm
00:48:01.860 okay
00:48:02.020 with one
00:48:02.300 wife
00:48:02.540 because
00:48:03.080 you've
00:48:03.480 cleansed
00:48:04.000 your
00:48:04.140 inner 0.99
00:48:04.340 disease
00:48:04.760 no
00:48:05.400 woman 0.99
00:48:05.740 you
00:48:05.900 could
00:48:06.080 have
00:48:06.280 hundreds
00:48:15.820 looking
00:48:16.300 the
00:48:16.800 heart
00:48:17.680 doesn't
00:48:17.980 desire
00:48:18.240 what
00:48:18.420 the
00:48:18.540 eyes
00:48:18.700 don't
00:48:18.900 see
00:48:19.100 so
00:48:19.520 there's
00:48:19.760 an
00:48:19.900 internal
00:48:20.380 disease
00:48:20.860 that
00:48:21.020 needs
00:48:21.160 to
00:48:21.260 be
00:48:21.400 fixed
00:48:21.680 connection
00:48:22.240 with
00:48:22.420 Allah
00:48:22.580 and
00:48:23.200 believe
00:48:24.020 me
00:48:24.160 after
00:48:24.400 that
00:48:24.560 a
00:48:24.660 brother
00:48:24.780 is
00:48:24.920 second
00:48:25.360 wife
00:48:25.740 that's
00:48:26.560 long
00:48:26.900 but
00:48:28.500 if
00:48:28.680 he
00:48:28.780 still
00:48:28.980 has
00:48:29.180 that
00:48:29.380 whoever
00:48:31.540 for that
00:48:31.840 matter
00:48:32.040 I'll be
00:48:32.260 honest
00:48:32.440 we're
00:48:32.680 all
00:48:32.840 even
00:48:33.960 my
00:48:34.140 brother
00:48:34.340 tried
00:48:34.540 to hear
00:48:34.700 but
00:48:34.860 I'm
00:48:35.700 joking
00:48:35.920 so
00:48:36.880 in
00:48:37.080 a
00:48:37.180 nutshell
00:48:37.440 then
00:48:38.280 if
00:48:38.480 you
00:48:38.600 say
00:48:38.740 you
00:48:38.860 know
00:48:38.980 what
00:48:39.220 I
00:48:39.700 do
00:48:39.860 want
00:48:40.100 because
00:48:41.180 at least
00:48:41.540 your
00:48:41.800 affairs
00:48:42.120 internally
00:48:42.540 are
00:48:42.760 fixed
00:48:42.980 you're
00:48:43.500 not
00:48:43.640 going
00:48:43.760 to
00:48:43.860 oppress
00:48:44.260 her
00:48:44.440 because
00:48:44.940 if
00:48:45.200 you
00:48:45.280 get
00:48:45.400 a
00:48:45.520 second
00:48:45.740 wife
00:48:46.020 it's
00:48:46.220 not
00:48:46.340 going
00:48:46.460 to
00:48:46.520 be
00:48:46.620 enough
00:48:46.820 because
00:48:46.980 you've
00:48:47.140 got
00:48:47.200 what's
00:48:47.380 your
00:48:47.440 pornography 0.98
00:48:47.760 brother
00:48:48.040 third
00:48:48.680 four
00:48:49.000 five
00:48:49.340 hundred
00:48:49.700 wives
00:48:49.940 are
00:48:50.020 not
00:48:50.120 going
00:48:50.220 to
00:48:50.260 be
00:48:50.340 enough
00:48:50.520 so
00:48:50.820 I
00:48:50.960 think
00:48:51.140 what
00:48:54.560 the
00:48:54.700 sister said
00:48:55.100 in the middle
00:48:55.480 about
00:48:55.860 having
00:48:56.580 your
00:48:56.740 social
00:48:57.020 circle
00:48:57.980 having a
00:48:59.260 good
00:48:59.480 social
00:48:59.800 circle
00:49:00.120 is
00:49:00.280 such
00:49:00.460 a
00:49:00.600 big
00:49:00.900 impact
00:49:01.300 on
00:49:01.440 how
00:49:01.560 you're
00:49:01.760 brought
00:49:01.960 up
00:49:02.220 and
00:49:02.580 how
00:49:02.740 you
00:49:02.880 act
00:49:03.220 and
00:49:03.480 hold
00:49:04.320 yourself
00:49:04.700 you've
00:49:05.260 got
00:49:05.400 friends
00:49:05.780 around
00:49:06.040 you
00:49:06.200 that
00:49:06.300 are
00:49:06.380 going
00:49:06.520 clubbing
00:49:07.120 cheating
00:49:07.680 on
00:49:07.920 their
00:49:08.180 wives
00:49:08.580 or
00:49:08.720 girlfriends
00:49:09.040 or
00:49:09.280 whatever
00:49:09.520 right
00:49:09.820 you're
00:49:10.260 100%
00:49:10.820 going to
00:49:11.020 be
00:49:11.120 just
00:49:11.340 as
00:49:11.480 bad
00:49:11.640 as
00:49:11.760 them
00:49:11.900 if
00:49:12.340 not
00:49:12.520 worse
00:49:12.860 and
00:49:13.340 it
00:49:13.440 comes
00:49:13.640 down
00:49:13.840 to
00:49:14.000 what
00:49:14.140 the
00:49:14.260 sister
00:49:14.400 said
00:49:14.540 on
00:49:14.640 the
00:49:14.720 right
00:49:14.860 about
00:49:15.240 culture
00:49:15.700 they
00:49:16.200 kind
00:49:16.380 of
00:49:16.440 go
00:49:16.540 hand
00:49:16.760 in
00:49:16.880 hand
00:49:17.120 if
00:49:17.520 you
00:49:17.600 come
00:49:17.780 from
00:49:17.980 a
00:49:18.100 culture
00:49:18.420 I
00:49:18.620 don't
00:49:18.700 want
00:49:18.800 to
00:49:18.880 mention
00:49:19.180 which
00:49:19.600 culture
00:49:20.040 but
00:49:32.220 you
00:49:32.900 got
00:49:33.100 this
00:49:33.320 thing
00:49:33.560 and
00:49:33.680 they
00:49:33.880 have
00:49:34.900 arranged
00:49:35.240 marriage
00:49:35.740 and
00:49:36.300 if
00:49:37.020 the
00:49:37.180 guy
00:49:37.500 is
00:49:37.960 like
00:49:38.520 they
00:49:38.680 say
00:49:38.880 to
00:49:39.040 marry
00:49:39.500 this 0.61
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00:49:40.060 and
00:49:40.580 she's
00:49:41.160 part
00:49:41.400 of
00:49:41.480 the
00:49:41.600 family
00:49:41.920 marry
00:49:42.220 her
00:49:42.440 but
00:49:42.960 you
00:49:43.140 do
00:49:43.300 whatever
00:49:43.520 you
00:49:43.680 want
00:49:43.800 to
00:49:43.900 do
00:49:44.000 outside
00:49:44.460 the
00:49:44.940 parents
00:49:45.320 tell
00:49:45.600 her
00:49:45.700 and
00:49:46.200 the
00:49:46.360 girl 0.91
00:49:46.540 knows
00:49:46.860 about
00:49:47.120 this
00:49:47.380 and
00:49:47.900 this
00:49:48.140 is
00:49:48.320 how
00:49:48.640 it
00:49:48.860 continues
00:49:49.320 when
00:49:49.580 the
00:49:49.740 kids
00:49:49.920 grow up
00:49:50.340 they
00:49:50.800 think
00:49:51.120 the
00:49:51.300 same
00:49:51.520 as
00:49:51.720 well
00:49:51.880 so
00:49:52.320 that's
00:49:52.540 the
00:49:52.680 first
00:49:52.940 thing
00:49:53.200 but
00:49:53.700 like
00:49:54.080 what
00:49:54.480 I
00:50:02.220 there's
00:50:02.520 a
00:50:02.640 number
00:50:02.880 for
00:50:03.100 them
00:50:03.260 like
00:50:03.560 they're
00:50:04.140 not
00:50:04.300 connecting
00:50:04.720 with
00:50:05.000 no
00:50:05.240 woman 0.99
00:50:05.460 and
00:50:05.580 they
00:50:05.700 go
00:50:05.860 I
00:50:06.060 can't
00:50:06.300 find
00:50:06.480 a
00:50:06.580 woman 0.99
00:50:06.700 the
00:50:08.480 things
00:50:08.840 you
00:50:09.060 do
00:50:09.180 how
00:50:09.400 are you
00:50:09.540 going to
00:50:09.740 find
00:50:10.020 a
00:50:10.160 woman 0.99
00:50:10.380 the
00:50:10.740 things
00:50:11.000 you
00:50:11.140 do
00:50:11.360 because
00:50:11.960 you're
00:50:12.120 not
00:50:12.220 going to
00:50:12.380 find
00:50:12.560 a
00:50:12.660 woman 0.99
00:50:12.840 just
00:50:13.140 taking
00:50:14.240 them
00:50:14.440 as
00:50:14.600 numbers
00:50:14.920 a
00:50:15.700 wife
00:50:16.220 holds
00:50:17.100 high
00:50:17.660 value
00:50:18.060 for a
00:50:18.460 man
00:50:18.560 so
00:50:19.320 that's
00:50:19.800 the
00:50:19.940 only
00:50:20.280 woman 0.99
00:50:20.700 that
00:50:21.380 can
00:50:21.580 hurt
00:50:21.860 emotionally
00:50:22.820 the
00:50:23.380 rest
00:50:23.640 of
00:50:23.820 the
00:50:23.920 women 1.00
00:50:24.180 don't
00:50:25.440 mean
00:50:25.620 nothing
00:50:26.100 exactly
00:50:26.980 I'm
00:50:27.460 so
00:50:27.620 sorry
00:50:27.860 I'm
00:50:28.000 kidding
00:50:28.160 but
00:50:28.640 I
00:50:29.220 would
00:50:29.620 know
00:50:29.800 brothers
00:50:30.220 I keep
00:50:31.700 saying
00:50:31.820 brothers
00:50:32.120 friends
00:50:32.980 they
00:50:33.700 will
00:50:33.780 go to
00:50:34.000 a
00:50:34.120 club
00:50:34.320 they'll
00:50:34.940 meet
00:50:35.240 their
00:50:35.580 wife
00:50:36.000 to be
00:50:36.320 dressed up
00:50:37.220 in a
00:50:37.480 menisker
00:50:37.960 looking
00:50:38.280 mashup
00:50:38.900 the
00:50:39.720 wife
00:50:40.040 and say
00:50:40.600 you're
00:50:40.780 never
00:50:41.020 going to
00:50:41.280 the
00:50:41.380 club
00:50:41.520 again
00:50:41.700 by
00:50:41.840 the
00:50:41.920 way
00:50:42.080 ever
00:50:42.620 in
00:50:42.840 your
00:50:42.960 life
00:50:43.260 yeah
00:50:43.580 and
00:50:44.100 then
00:50:44.220 they'll
00:50:44.360 go to
00:50:44.560 the
00:50:44.700 same
00:50:44.920 clubs
00:50:45.280 and
00:50:45.860 do
00:50:46.120 whatever
00:50:46.320 they
00:50:46.460 want
00:50:46.620 you
00:50:47.100 know
00:50:47.520 what
00:50:48.580 they've
00:50:48.740 registered
00:50:48.900 in
00:50:49.060 their
00:50:49.180 head
00:50:49.360 this
00:50:49.960 is
00:50:50.200 my
00:50:50.420 girl 0.91
00:50:50.680 this
00:50:51.360 is
00:50:51.480 my
00:50:51.680 girlfriend
00:50:52.060 or wife
00:50:52.400 whatever
00:50:52.660 done
00:50:53.260 now
00:50:54.040 I'm
00:50:54.360 gonna
00:50:54.500 I
00:50:55.000 value
00:50:55.360 her
00:50:55.640 and
00:50:56.100 she's
00:50:56.380 mine
00:50:56.600 but
00:50:57.060 the
00:50:57.260 rest
00:50:57.560 are
00:50:57.820 nothing
00:50:58.120 and
00:50:58.400 today
00:50:58.960 women 1.00
00:50:59.240 they
00:50:59.560 are
00:50:59.700 not
00:50:59.820 higher
00:51:00.020 so
00:51:00.260 they
00:51:00.440 throw
00:51:00.640 themselves
00:51:00.880 at
00:51:01.100 men
00:51:02.840 and
00:51:03.360 now
00:51:03.520 men's
00:51:03.820 weakness
00:51:04.060 so it
00:51:04.400 makes
00:51:04.620 the
00:51:04.740 situation
00:51:05.140 more
00:51:05.480 worse
00:51:05.840 so for
00:51:06.580 a
00:51:06.720 man
00:51:06.920 in
00:51:07.180 his
00:51:07.400 mind
00:51:07.680 he's
00:51:07.860 like
00:51:07.980 this
00:51:08.120 is
00:51:08.220 my
00:51:08.380 wife
00:51:08.620 but
00:51:10.780 the
00:51:10.960 other
00:51:11.200 woman 0.99
00:51:11.440 they
00:51:11.640 just
00:51:11.860 nothing
00:51:12.380 it's
00:51:12.640 just
00:51:12.760 literally
00:51:13.040 piece
00:51:13.980 of
00:51:14.120 people
00:51:14.360 that's
00:51:15.100 how
00:51:15.220 it
00:51:15.340 means
00:51:15.540 literally
00:51:15.920 I
00:51:16.120 can
00:51:16.240 give
00:51:16.380 you
00:51:16.460 an
00:51:16.560 example
00:51:16.860 of
00:51:17.040 what
00:51:17.140 you
00:51:17.240 just
00:51:17.400 said
00:51:17.600 there
00:51:17.820 so
00:51:18.100 I
00:51:18.840 used
00:51:19.680 to
00:51:19.760 be
00:51:19.860 a
00:51:19.960 friend
00:51:20.140 but
00:51:20.440 he
00:51:20.900 met
00:51:21.100 someone
00:51:21.320 at
00:51:21.500 she
00:51:21.640 she
00:51:21.700 lounge
00:51:21.980 right
00:51:22.240 and
00:51:23.100 you
00:51:23.780 know
00:51:23.840 they
00:51:23.940 got
00:51:24.060 together
00:51:24.360 discussing
00:51:24.800 marriage
00:51:25.140 whatever
00:51:25.460 she
00:51:26.000 cheats
00:51:26.360 on him
00:51:26.680 all the
00:51:27.180 time
00:51:27.440 yeah
00:51:28.020 I hear
00:51:28.700 about
00:51:28.940 it
00:51:29.440 and
00:51:29.720 I'm
00:51:29.960 thinking
00:51:30.240 what do
00:51:32.880 you
00:51:32.960 expect
00:51:33.400 you
00:51:33.560 met
00:51:33.720 her
00:51:33.800 she
00:51:34.100 she
00:51:34.120 she
00:51:36.020 she
00:51:36.280 ever
00:51:36.620 and
00:51:37.100 you
00:51:37.160 expect
00:51:37.460 to
00:51:37.620 wife
00:51:37.820 her
00:51:37.960 up
00:51:38.060 just
00:51:38.200 like
00:51:38.360 that
00:51:38.560 she
00:51:39.100 got
00:51:39.280 a
00:51:39.420 background
00:51:39.760 of
00:51:40.000 doing
00:51:40.180 this
00:51:40.400 and
00:51:40.540 that
00:51:40.720 so
00:51:41.360 why
00:51:41.540 would
00:51:41.740 you
00:51:41.940 assume
00:51:42.560 that
00:51:42.800 she's
00:51:43.000 going
00:51:43.120 to
00:51:43.160 be
00:51:43.320 yours
00:51:43.760 and
00:51:44.020 just
00:51:44.180 yours
00:51:44.480 doesn't
00:51:44.960 make
00:51:45.100 sense
00:51:45.340 I'm
00:51:45.640 confused
00:51:46.220 sorry
00:51:46.800 so because
00:51:47.800 she went
00:51:48.180 to a
00:51:48.440 shisha
00:51:48.740 lounge
00:51:49.080 that makes
00:51:49.620 no no
00:51:49.960 no
00:51:50.000 so that's
00:51:50.520 why I
00:51:50.680 said
00:51:50.820 the most
00:51:51.220 bait
00:51:51.800 shisha
00:51:52.180 lounge
00:51:52.480 and plus
00:51:53.080 shisha
00:51:53.520 lounge
00:51:53.640 aren't
00:51:55.540 places
00:51:55.800 you're
00:51:55.960 supposed to
00:51:56.280 meet
00:51:56.440 your
00:51:56.580 significant
00:51:56.940 other
00:51:57.200 anyway
00:51:57.560 I
00:51:58.480 believe
00:51:59.080 so
00:51:59.320 if I
00:52:00.120 go to
00:52:00.400 a
00:52:07.820 change
00:52:08.220 but
00:52:08.500 sometimes
00:52:09.020 the
00:52:09.320 atmosphere
00:52:09.780 and the
00:52:10.120 area
00:52:10.460 there is
00:52:11.020 we need
00:52:11.340 to
00:52:11.480 generally
00:52:12.120 specifically
00:52:12.920 people can
00:52:13.440 change
00:52:13.640 100%
00:52:14.040 of
00:52:14.120 a
00:52:14.200 but
00:52:14.900 generally
00:52:15.380 if you're
00:52:15.620 in a
00:52:15.980 specific
00:52:16.240 area
00:52:16.580 where
00:52:16.740 mad
00:52:16.920 stuff
00:52:17.100 are
00:52:17.200 happening
00:52:17.420 and
00:52:17.720 a
00:52:17.940 woman 0.99
00:52:18.100 is
00:52:18.180 coming
00:52:18.340 from
00:52:18.540 there
00:52:18.680 I
00:52:19.020 do
00:52:19.120 not
00:52:19.240 see
00:52:19.360 that
00:52:19.460 as
00:52:19.520 a
00:52:19.560 woman 0.99
00:52:19.700 to
00:52:37.820 I'll
00:52:38.640 give
00:52:38.760 you
00:52:38.840 some
00:52:39.000 context
00:52:39.560 sometimes
00:52:41.700 I should
00:52:43.520 have
00:52:43.680 prefaced
00:52:44.040 it
00:52:44.340 groups
00:52:44.380 of
00:52:44.580 girls 0.98
00:52:45.080 and
00:52:45.520 they're
00:52:46.540 just
00:52:46.720 group
00:52:47.000 of
00:52:47.160 girls 0.98
00:52:47.380 in
00:52:47.900 shisha
00:52:48.180 lounges 0.96
00:52:48.540 it
00:52:48.700 doesn't
00:52:48.980 mean
00:52:49.160 that
00:52:49.360 they're 1.00
00:52:49.820 whores 1.00
00:52:50.820 gonna
00:52:51.200 change
00:52:51.560 so
00:52:52.380 I'll
00:52:54.680 give
00:52:54.780 some
00:52:54.980 context
00:52:55.380 to
00:52:55.540 that
00:52:55.700 like
00:52:56.000 I
00:52:56.120 said
00:52:56.300 this
00:52:56.480 shisha
00:52:56.720 lounge
00:52:56.960 is
00:52:57.120 like
00:52:57.280 a
00:52:57.500 club
00:52:58.320 in
00:52:58.480 there
00:52:58.660 there
00:52:58.680 there's
00:52:58.980 music
00:52:59.260 going
00:52:59.440 people
00:52:59.680 dancing
00:53:00.140 everything
00:53:00.420 like
00:53:00.600 that
00:53:00.740 I
00:53:01.060 should
00:53:01.220 have
00:53:01.360 prefaced
00:53:01.800 that
00:53:02.040 before
00:53:02.560 I
00:53:02.760 said
00:53:03.020 every
00:53:03.340 shisha
00:53:03.620 lounge
00:53:07.820 yes
00:53:12.580 it just
00:53:13.080 struck
00:53:13.280 my head
00:53:13.620 I was
00:53:13.800 just
00:53:13.940 thinking
00:53:14.120 about
00:53:14.320 it
00:53:14.400 for
00:53:14.480 the
00:53:14.520 last
00:53:14.640 10
00:53:14.820 minutes
00:53:15.120 so
00:53:15.540 I
00:53:15.860 was
00:53:15.960 going
00:53:16.060 to
00:53:16.140 start
00:53:16.340 with
00:53:16.620 just
00:53:17.020 taqwa
00:53:17.680 itself
00:53:18.080 you know
00:53:18.920 Allah
00:53:19.400 says
00:53:19.660 Allah
00:53:20.520 won't
00:53:22.880 change
00:53:23.100 the
00:53:23.220 condition
00:53:23.420 of
00:53:23.560 people
00:53:23.820 until
00:53:24.080 they
00:53:24.200 change
00:53:24.380 what
00:53:24.500 themselves
00:53:24.760 so
00:53:25.980 you
00:53:26.060 have
00:53:26.180 to
00:53:26.260 start
00:53:26.480 with
00:53:26.820 your
00:53:27.120 relationship
00:53:27.480 with
00:53:27.720 Allah
00:53:27.920 and
00:53:28.340 you
00:53:28.420 have
00:53:28.520 to
00:53:28.600 build
00:53:28.720 a
00:53:28.820 taqwa
00:53:29.140 and
00:53:30.040 once
00:53:30.200 that's
00:53:30.420 established
00:53:30.920 even
00:53:31.780 if
00:53:32.020 there's
00:53:32.240 wrong
00:53:32.460 things
00:53:32.760 in
00:53:32.900 front
00:53:33.100 of
00:53:33.240 you
00:53:33.380 you
00:53:33.620 will
00:53:33.780 be
00:53:34.260 more
00:53:34.520 equipped
00:53:34.900 knowing
00:53:35.120 Allah
00:53:35.340 is
00:53:35.420 by
00:53:35.540 your
00:53:35.680 side
00:53:35.860 that
00:53:35.980 you
00:53:36.060 will
00:53:36.160 be
00:53:36.240 able
00:53:36.340 to
00:53:36.460 resist
00:53:36.680 it
00:53:36.860 and
00:53:38.160 then
00:53:38.300 I
00:53:38.380 don't
00:53:38.480 know
00:53:38.580 if
00:53:38.640 it's
00:53:38.740 Quran
00:53:39.000 or
00:53:39.140 Hadith
00:53:39.440 because
00:53:39.620 I
00:53:39.680 was
00:53:39.760 just
00:53:39.900 reading
00:53:40.120 it
00:53:40.300 a couple
00:53:40.560 of
00:53:40.660 days
00:53:40.840 ago
00:53:41.080 it's
00:53:42.320 love
00:53:42.620 for
00:53:42.760 your
00:53:42.820 brother
00:53:43.000 what
00:53:43.120 you
00:53:43.180 love
00:53:43.300 for
00:53:43.400 yourself
00:53:43.760 Hadith
00:53:45.000 so
00:53:46.040 then
00:53:46.260 if
00:53:46.540 you're
00:53:46.680 in
00:53:46.800 that
00:53:46.960 state
00:53:47.200 of
00:53:47.380 you
00:53:47.480 have
00:53:47.640 the
00:53:47.780 fear
00:53:48.540 of
00:53:48.720 obviously
00:53:49.100 I'm
00:53:49.700 not
00:53:49.840 going to
00:53:50.020 be
00:53:50.140 that
00:53:50.280 person
00:53:50.560 that's
00:53:50.740 going
00:53:50.840 to
00:53:50.900 go
00:53:51.020 out
00:53:51.120 and
00:53:51.240 cheat
00:53:51.460 if
00:53:52.480 there's
00:53:52.640 someone
00:53:52.780 that
00:53:52.960 you
00:53:53.080 know
00:53:53.260 that's
00:53:53.500 in
00:53:53.580 the
00:53:53.680 process
00:53:53.980 of
00:53:54.160 doing
00:53:54.340 that
00:53:54.580 you
00:53:54.780 would
00:53:54.900 be
00:53:55.020 the
00:53:55.180 first
00:53:55.380 person
00:53:55.700 to
00:53:55.860 say
00:53:56.100 you
00:53:56.700 should
00:53:56.780 not
00:53:56.880 be
00:53:56.980 doing
00:53:57.160 this
00:53:57.400 and
00:53:57.980 then
00:53:58.100 you
00:53:58.180 give
00:53:58.320 the
00:53:58.480 why
00:53:58.720 and
00:53:59.480 obviously
00:53:59.780 what
00:54:00.040 a lot
00:54:00.280 of
00:54:00.400 men
00:54:00.560 they
00:54:00.720 don't
00:54:00.880 like
00:54:01.200 is
00:54:01.600 being
00:54:01.720 told
00:54:01.900 that
00:54:02.020 they're
00:54:02.160 wrong
00:54:02.380 and
00:54:03.440 obviously
00:54:03.840 another
00:54:04.360 thing
00:54:05.220 men
00:54:08.180 have
00:54:08.580 too much
00:54:08.880 pride
00:54:09.200 to admit
00:54:09.700 that
00:54:09.860 they're
00:54:10.020 wrong
00:54:10.200 100%
00:54:10.920 men
00:54:11.320 like
00:54:11.600 to
00:54:11.800 fix
00:54:20.740 no
00:54:21.620 okay
00:54:21.860 before
00:54:22.180 you
00:54:22.720 say
00:54:22.960 anything
00:54:23.300 about
00:54:23.540 that
00:54:23.620 sometimes
00:54:25.700 you
00:54:25.980 see
00:54:26.100 non-Muslim
00:54:26.560 videos
00:54:27.180 they come
00:54:27.620 up
00:54:27.760 and a
00:54:27.920 woman 0.99
00:54:28.040 is 0.98
00:54:28.140 cheating
00:54:28.480 what's
00:54:28.780 the
00:54:28.840 first
00:54:28.980 thing
00:54:29.060 she
00:54:29.160 says
00:54:29.380 it's
00:54:29.980 because
00:54:30.100 of
00:54:30.200 you
00:54:30.300 it's
00:54:31.180 because
00:54:31.300 of
00:54:31.400 you
00:54:31.820 men
00:54:32.420 and
00:54:33.920 women 1.00
00:54:34.120 do
00:54:34.340 that
00:54:34.460 that's
00:54:35.920 your
00:54:36.080 experience
00:54:36.640 people
00:54:41.040 like
00:54:41.320 to
00:54:41.500 put
00:54:42.300 the
00:54:42.500 blame
00:54:42.720 no
00:54:43.440 one
00:54:43.700 likes
00:54:44.040 to
00:54:44.200 take
00:54:44.400 accountability
00:54:44.800 I
00:54:45.240 don't
00:54:45.380 think
00:54:45.560 it's
00:54:45.700 a
00:54:45.840 man
00:54:46.060 or
00:54:46.300 a
00:54:46.400 thing
00:54:46.800 I
00:54:48.760 just
00:54:48.960 want to
00:54:49.200 say
00:54:49.360 something
00:54:49.740 first
00:54:50.420 of
00:54:50.560 all
00:54:50.660 I
00:54:50.780 think
00:54:50.940 before
00:54:51.440 anyone
00:54:52.220 cheats
00:54:52.600 man
00:54:52.920 or
00:54:53.420 woman 0.99
00:54:53.760 then
00:54:54.280 you
00:54:54.400 have
00:54:54.600 to
00:54:54.720 understand
00:54:55.100 how
00:54:55.520 would
00:54:55.820 I
00:54:56.160 feel
00:54:56.620 if
00:54:57.460 my
00:54:57.800 other
00:54:58.020 half
00:54:58.360 did
00:54:58.580 that
00:54:58.800 where
00:54:59.620 would
00:54:59.820 that
00:55:00.020 put
00:55:00.240 me
00:55:00.520 so
00:55:01.220 before
00:55:01.620 you
00:55:02.540 take
00:55:02.760 that
00:55:02.980 step
00:55:03.220 think
00:55:03.440 if
00:55:03.640 someone
00:55:04.160 does
00:55:04.380 that
00:55:04.540 to
00:55:04.680 me
00:55:04.900 how
00:55:05.480 is
00:55:05.620 that
00:55:05.760 going
00:55:05.900 to
00:55:06.000 impact
00:55:06.300 me
00:55:06.540 as
00:55:06.660 an
00:55:06.800 individual
00:55:07.040 the
00:55:07.140 problem
00:55:07.400 with
00:55:07.560 that
00:55:07.680 is
00:55:07.800 a lot
00:55:08.020 of
00:55:08.140 men
00:55:08.300 think
00:55:08.540 it's
00:55:08.740 okay
00:55:09.000 to be
00:55:09.320 cheating
00:55:09.620 but
00:55:10.200 when
00:55:10.360 the
00:55:10.540 sister
00:55:10.920 no
00:55:11.680 then
00:55:11.860 they
00:55:12.080 should
00:55:12.480 have
00:55:12.720 that
00:55:12.960 similar
00:55:14.320 mentality
00:55:15.740 is
00:55:16.140 different
00:55:16.700 I
00:55:17.500 understand
00:55:18.160 the
00:55:18.360 mentality
00:55:18.780 is
00:55:19.040 different
00:55:19.360 but
00:55:19.820 there
00:55:19.980 is
00:55:20.100 such
00:55:20.280 a
00:55:20.380 thing
00:55:20.520 as
00:55:20.660 empathy
00:55:21.020 as
00:55:21.240 well
00:55:21.460 empathize
00:55:22.360 sometimes
00:55:25.700 these
00:55:26.140 are
00:55:26.280 topics
00:55:26.600 that
00:55:26.820 we
00:55:26.980 should
00:55:27.160 be
00:55:27.440 having
00:55:28.080 before
00:55:28.600 marriage
00:55:29.020 at
00:55:29.180 the
00:55:29.300 time
00:55:29.580 and
00:55:30.260 if
00:55:30.580 you're
00:55:30.800 in
00:55:30.900 a
00:55:31.020 situation
00:55:31.560 where
00:55:31.820 we
00:55:31.920 want
00:55:32.040 to
00:55:32.120 start
00:55:32.300 talking
00:55:32.580 about
00:55:32.820 takwa
00:55:33.120 in
00:55:33.320 our
00:55:33.460 relationship
00:55:34.040 then
00:55:34.940 everybody
00:55:35.480 that
00:55:35.960 is
00:55:36.080 listening
00:55:36.300 to
00:55:36.440 this
00:55:36.620 show
00:55:36.860 or
00:55:37.080 in
00:55:37.280 marriage
00:55:37.720 situations
00:55:38.580 need
00:55:39.340 to
00:55:39.460 be
00:55:39.780 changing
00:55:40.280 the
00:55:40.540 whole
00:55:40.800 entire
00:55:41.260 life
00:55:41.660 not
00:55:42.180 just
00:55:42.440 about
00:55:42.700 the
00:55:42.900 takwa
00:55:43.280 of
00:55:43.660 breaking
00:55:44.280 up
00:55:44.480 or
00:55:44.660 cheating
00:55:45.020 but
00:55:45.780 everything
00:55:46.100 else
00:55:46.420 that
00:55:46.620 leads
00:55:46.980 towards
00:55:47.460 it
00:55:47.780 like
00:55:48.600 we were
00:55:48.800 talking
00:55:48.960 about
00:55:49.120 free
00:55:49.340 mixing
00:55:49.660 or
00:55:50.060 your
00:55:50.280 place
00:55:50.600 of
00:55:50.760 work
00:55:51.040 because
00:55:51.680 everything
00:55:52.160 then has
00:55:52.600 to
00:55:52.760 change
00:55:53.180 and
00:55:53.420 the
00:55:53.760 household
00:55:54.220 has
00:55:54.500 to
00:55:54.640 change
00:55:54.960 the
00:55:55.400 dynamics
00:55:55.880 has
00:55:56.160 to
00:55:56.280 change
00:55:56.600 and
00:55:57.060 it
00:55:57.180 can't
00:55:57.360 just
00:55:57.480 be
00:55:57.640 the
00:55:57.820 man
00:55:58.160 it
00:55:58.380 has
00:55:58.540 to
00:55:58.680 be
00:55:58.800 the
00:55:58.980 woman 0.99
00:55:59.200 at
00:55:59.400 the
00:55:59.540 same
00:55:59.720 time
00:55:59.980 working
00:56:00.320 together
00:56:00.980 you know
00:56:01.440 you know why
00:56:01.820 Aki 0.90
00:56:02.020 all of us
00:56:02.720 are prone
00:56:03.260 to cheating
00:56:03.900 all of us
00:56:04.800 it's the
00:56:05.740 environment
00:56:06.240 what protects
00:56:07.000 us
00:56:07.160 if I'm in an
00:56:08.060 environment
00:56:08.400 where there's
00:56:08.780 half naked
00:56:09.160 girls 0.98
00:56:09.580 all the
00:56:10.480 time
00:56:10.840 I'm a
00:56:11.980 human
00:56:12.260 being
00:56:12.620 bro
00:56:12.860 I don't
00:56:19.120 go into
00:56:20.020 areas
00:56:20.280 where you
00:56:20.460 have
00:56:20.540 good
00:56:20.720 friends
00:56:20.960 are
00:56:21.100 fundamental
00:56:21.580 otherwise
00:56:22.140 it's not
00:56:22.620 a religious
00:56:22.960 issue
00:56:23.360 people think
00:56:24.140 it's like
00:56:24.380 a religious
00:56:24.660 issue
00:56:24.840 you can bring
00:56:25.660 the most
00:56:26.000 righteous
00:56:26.560 person
00:56:27.060 if you put
00:56:29.720 him in a
00:56:30.040 certain area
00:56:30.660 he can fall
00:56:31.320 into
00:56:31.540 fitna
00:56:32.580 it's the
00:56:33.360 area
00:56:33.600 it's not
00:56:33.840 just
00:56:33.960 internal
00:56:34.540 it's external
00:56:35.080 as well
00:56:35.400 I believe
00:56:36.140 brothers also
00:56:36.940 have to
00:56:37.460 follow
00:56:37.740 modesty
00:56:38.300 especially
00:56:38.780 nowadays
00:56:39.340 you know
00:56:40.060 brothers
00:56:40.360 flexing
00:56:41.020 and all
00:56:41.340 that
00:56:41.620 and I
00:56:42.040 think
00:56:42.200 sometimes
00:56:42.520 TV
00:56:43.020 I think
00:56:43.400 that's
00:56:45.240 kind of
00:56:45.600 based down
00:56:46.220 to society
00:56:47.000 yet again
00:56:47.720 and as
00:56:48.220 far as
00:56:48.660 you're saying
00:56:49.080 that oh
00:56:49.600 you should
00:56:50.040 feel how
00:56:50.660 the spouse
00:56:51.740 feels
00:56:52.100 if you
00:56:52.580 cheat
00:56:52.920 I think
00:56:53.340 a lot
00:56:53.580 of people
00:56:53.960 the reason
00:56:54.380 why they
00:56:54.780 cheat
00:56:55.040 is they
00:56:55.360 think
00:56:55.540 their spouse
00:56:56.620 deserved it
00:56:57.660 and they
00:56:58.680 should understand
00:56:59.360 that
00:56:59.740 you're talking
00:57:01.400 from a
00:57:03.360 perspective
00:57:03.800 of a woman
00:57:04.760 a man's
00:57:05.340 whole dynamic
00:57:05.760 is different
00:57:06.080 I'm going to
00:57:06.360 let you speak
00:57:06.880 then sister
00:57:07.260 Anamta
00:57:07.620 then you
00:57:08.100 and I'm
00:57:08.380 going to
00:57:08.540 wrap up
00:57:08.800 inshallah
00:57:09.080 if anyone
00:57:10.260 else wants
00:57:10.580 to
00:57:10.680 yeah sure
00:57:11.780 so let's
00:57:12.140 do
00:57:12.380 yourself
00:57:12.920 sister
00:57:13.180 carry on
00:57:13.740 then sister
00:57:14.220 Anamta
00:57:14.580 and then
00:57:15.000 sister
00:57:15.240 Amira
00:57:15.520 and then
00:57:15.840 we're going
00:57:15.980 to
00:57:16.260 yeah so
00:57:18.140 I think
00:57:18.440 there's
00:57:18.680 something
00:57:18.940 called
00:57:19.520 self-respect
00:57:20.420 as well
00:57:21.180 you should
00:57:21.600 have that
00:57:22.360 self-respect
00:57:23.000 in yourself
00:57:23.660 that you're
00:57:24.520 capable of
00:57:25.340 having self-discipline
00:57:26.780 and control
00:57:27.560 and I think
00:57:28.660 that's where
00:57:29.180 it kind of
00:57:29.800 lies
00:57:30.080 just having
00:57:30.540 that belief
00:57:31.040 in yourself
00:57:31.560 that you
00:57:32.280 can respect
00:57:33.200 your values
00:57:34.280 as a Muslim
00:57:35.020 being
00:57:35.440 so when
00:57:39.160 we're talking
00:57:39.580 about our
00:57:40.400 social circle
00:57:41.560 I just want
00:57:42.240 to touch up
00:57:42.620 on that
00:57:43.000 we I think
00:57:44.220 one of the
00:57:44.980 most reasons
00:57:45.460 is also
00:57:46.320 because sometimes
00:57:47.220 when you're
00:57:47.620 around
00:57:48.000 your friends
00:57:48.820 and they're
00:57:49.360 in that
00:57:49.700 environment
00:57:50.200 where they're
00:57:50.940 going clubbing
00:57:51.520 partying
00:57:52.140 what not
00:57:52.620 anything
00:57:53.440 you feel
00:57:54.360 that is a
00:57:55.400 bad influence
00:57:56.200 on you
00:57:56.540 sometimes
00:57:56.900 brothers or
00:57:57.760 sisters don't 1.00
00:57:58.380 remove themselves
00:57:59.240 from that
00:57:59.640 situation
00:58:00.200 and I feel
00:58:01.420 like staying
00:58:02.100 in that
00:58:02.900 environment
00:58:03.500 eventually
00:58:04.620 leads you
00:58:05.440 to go out
00:58:06.540 and cheat
00:58:06.960 I feel
00:58:07.740 once you
00:58:08.720 feel like
00:58:09.360 there's a
00:58:09.840 surrounding
00:58:10.340 which you're
00:58:10.900 in is a
00:58:11.420 bad influence
00:58:12.160 on you
00:58:12.480 just remove
00:58:13.060 yourself
00:58:13.340 from it
00:58:13.760 and that is
00:58:14.340 also what
00:58:14.780 your sister
00:58:15.160 just said
00:58:15.580 self-respect
00:58:16.320 as well
00:58:16.780 you don't
00:58:17.840 have to
00:58:18.260 certainly
00:58:18.740 feel under
00:58:19.700 pressure
00:58:20.020 to go
00:58:20.500 and you
00:58:20.980 know
00:58:21.140 commit
00:58:21.560 you know
00:58:22.080 do cheat
00:58:22.720 on your
00:58:23.060 spouse
00:58:23.420 just to
00:58:23.840 fit in
00:58:24.160 your social
00:58:24.600 circle
00:58:25.020 it doesn't
00:58:26.000 work like
00:58:26.440 that
00:58:26.680 and I
00:58:27.560 understand
00:58:27.900 that there's
00:58:28.240 a lot of
00:58:28.500 people who
00:58:28.840 don't have
00:58:29.280 the ability
00:58:29.820 to understand
00:58:30.600 influences
00:58:31.100 around them
00:58:31.740 but once you
00:58:32.620 feel you're
00:58:33.060 in a circle
00:58:33.560 that's you
00:58:33.960 know leading
00:58:34.280 you down
00:58:34.620 the wrong
00:58:35.020 path
00:58:35.480 then just
00:58:36.300 remove
00:58:36.640 yourself
00:58:36.980 from that
00:58:37.560 situation
00:58:38.180 right there
00:58:38.740 and then
00:58:39.060 because it's
00:58:39.600 eventually
00:58:39.960 gonna you know
00:58:40.760 influence you
00:58:41.960 and impact you
00:58:42.620 in a bad
00:58:42.920 way
00:58:43.160 and that's
00:58:44.780 with everything
00:58:45.340 yeah
00:58:45.680 but I was
00:58:48.400 gonna say
00:58:48.980 so if a
00:58:50.420 man cheats
00:58:51.140 would you
00:58:52.520 guys say
00:58:53.100 that the
00:58:54.180 woman should 1.00
00:58:54.640 forgive him
00:58:55.180 and stay
00:58:55.640 it all
00:58:56.820 depends on
00:58:57.580 that's up
00:58:57.980 to her
00:58:58.320 yeah
00:58:58.880 it all
00:58:59.960 depends on
00:59:00.540 if the
00:59:00.900 man
00:59:01.060 I think
00:59:01.480 it depends
00:59:01.980 on that
00:59:02.400 if he
00:59:03.080 if he
00:59:03.560 cheated
00:59:03.920 and the
00:59:04.660 thing is
00:59:04.900 I think
00:59:05.260 there should
00:59:05.580 be certain
00:59:06.080 type of
00:59:06.500 thing
00:59:06.660 because
00:59:07.020 you want
00:59:07.760 him to
00:59:08.000 know
00:59:08.240 that how
00:59:08.640 serious
00:59:09.000 you are
00:59:09.420 because if
00:59:10.140 you let
00:59:10.360 him go
00:59:10.660 really
00:59:11.080 like
00:59:11.680 quick
00:59:12.120 just like
00:59:12.540 that
00:59:12.700 he's
00:59:13.080 gonna do
00:59:13.380 it again
00:59:13.640 because he
00:59:14.000 thinks he
00:59:14.300 can get
00:59:14.540 away
00:59:14.720 with it
00:59:14.980 it's a
00:59:15.440 human
00:59:15.640 nature
00:59:16.340 I think
00:59:17.100 there's
00:59:17.340 all
00:59:17.540 circumstances
00:59:18.400 as well
00:59:19.000 that you
00:59:19.300 have to
00:59:19.700 take in
00:59:20.160 consideration
00:59:20.860 for example
00:59:21.980 marriage
00:59:22.540 children
00:59:23.100 you know
00:59:24.140 your network
00:59:25.000 you can't
00:59:25.720 just
00:59:25.940 completely
00:59:26.620 say
00:59:27.060 yeah
00:59:27.560 you
00:59:27.740 forgive
00:59:28.120 but you
00:59:28.620 can't
00:59:28.880 completely
00:59:29.240 say
00:59:29.520 yeah
00:59:29.720 you're
00:59:29.940 gonna
00:59:30.040 end
00:59:30.860 okay
00:59:31.160 let me
00:59:31.680 ask
00:59:31.800 an
00:59:31.920 interesting
00:59:32.160 question
00:59:32.460 that will
00:59:32.760 put some
00:59:33.100 dynamics
00:59:33.400 in place
00:59:33.740 let's say
00:59:34.440 for example
00:59:35.040 yourself
00:59:36.180 if your
00:59:36.700 partner
00:59:36.980 I don't
00:59:37.840 want to say
00:59:38.100 cheat
00:59:38.420 let's say
00:59:38.860 another woman's 0.94
00:59:39.600 involved
00:59:39.740 second wife
00:59:40.560 second wife
00:59:41.900 or
00:59:42.120 no cheat
00:59:43.040 cheat
00:59:43.320 cheat
00:59:43.680 cheat
00:59:43.980 because for
00:59:45.180 me
00:59:45.440 if a man
00:59:46.200 cheats on me
00:59:47.040 I'm not
00:59:47.980 forgiving it
00:59:48.740 okay
00:59:49.000 what if his
00:59:49.400 second wife
00:59:50.060 but that's
00:59:50.900 the thing
00:59:51.360 because for
00:59:52.360 me
00:59:52.520 if you
00:59:52.840 cheat
00:59:53.180 I'm not
00:59:54.340 forgiving it
00:59:55.060 because you
00:59:55.480 had the
00:59:55.800 opportunity
00:59:56.980 or the
00:59:57.960 you know
01:00:00.180 you have
01:00:00.600 the delight
01:00:01.700 to actually
01:00:02.340 go and get
01:00:03.440 married to a
01:00:04.040 second wife
01:00:05.200 in the right
01:00:06.260 way
01:00:06.520 so if you
01:00:07.360 go behind my
01:00:08.100 back 0.99
01:00:08.400 and you
01:00:09.040 cheat on me
01:00:09.880 I'm not
01:00:10.620 forgiving it
01:00:11.300 you're done
01:00:12.040 actually I
01:00:12.740 have to say
01:00:13.220 the fact that
01:00:14.700 you distinguish
01:00:15.340 between the
01:00:15.880 two and
01:00:16.280 one is
01:00:16.560 more severe
01:00:16.960 it's a
01:00:17.760 very good
01:00:18.080 thought process
01:00:18.720 to have
01:00:18.980 so yes
01:00:20.000 if arguments
01:00:21.480 say the
01:00:21.920 husband was
01:00:22.300 to cheat
01:00:22.640 as a
01:00:23.480 wife
01:00:24.200 would you
01:00:25.020 be forgiven
01:00:26.420 obviously
01:00:26.720 forgiving doesn't
01:00:27.640 mean okay
01:00:28.200 yeah let's
01:00:28.540 just hold
01:00:28.780 down
01:00:28.940 but
01:00:29.180 eventually
01:00:29.760 like I
01:00:30.280 said it's
01:00:30.660 back to
01:00:31.020 circumstances
01:00:31.860 I mean
01:00:32.380 as women
01:00:33.440 men is
01:00:34.960 about
01:00:35.820 they just
01:00:36.580 need to
01:00:37.020 obviously
01:00:37.340 satisfy
01:00:37.980 themselves
01:00:38.480 but women 1.00
01:00:39.040 we are more
01:00:39.620 connected
01:00:40.040 from the
01:00:40.600 heart
01:00:40.980 okay
01:00:41.440 and we
01:00:42.220 take a lot
01:00:42.860 of things
01:00:43.260 into consideration
01:00:44.300 I hate this
01:00:44.920 notion
01:00:45.200 I'm so sorry
01:00:46.400 but it's a
01:00:47.440 reality
01:00:47.720 no I don't
01:00:48.500 think so
01:00:48.980 women are 1.00
01:00:49.340 sacrifices
01:00:49.860 not true
01:00:51.240 but would you
01:00:51.680 accept that
01:00:52.120 women are 1.00
01:00:52.560 very sacrificial
01:00:53.220 not emotional
01:00:53.780 like that
01:00:54.180 but you guys
01:00:57.180 have been saying
01:00:57.960 that like
01:00:58.420 throughout the
01:00:58.960 thing about
01:00:59.640 you know
01:01:00.320 women are 1.00
01:01:01.120 more emotional
01:01:02.040 and if a
01:01:02.980 woman cheats 1.00
01:01:03.620 it's an
01:01:03.940 emotional cheater
01:01:04.980 like I
01:01:05.860 don't believe
01:01:06.560 that
01:01:06.880 I know a lot
01:01:07.980 of girls
01:01:08.400 who genuinely
01:01:09.380 do exactly
01:01:10.160 what men
01:01:10.640 do
01:01:10.880 they literally
01:01:11.820 will go
01:01:12.880 with men
01:01:13.440 and it's
01:01:13.880 like nothing
01:01:14.620 to them
01:01:15.000 and there's
01:01:16.500 more and more
01:01:17.340 women that are 1.00
01:01:17.980 like this
01:01:18.520 today
01:01:18.920 and I think
01:01:20.640 we're generalising
01:01:21.620 where these
01:01:22.100 women are just 1.00
01:01:22.800 emotional
01:01:23.420 I don't think
01:01:24.560 that
01:01:24.780 I think
01:01:25.300 that's
01:01:25.640 the fault
01:01:26.480 I'm going
01:01:27.160 to tell you
01:01:27.940 why
01:01:28.240 this happens
01:01:30.100 I just want
01:01:30.760 a quick question
01:01:31.200 so I can
01:01:31.560 just
01:01:31.700 point something
01:01:32.600 generally
01:01:33.600 would you
01:01:34.100 forgive
01:01:34.380 just quickly
01:01:35.060 generally
01:01:35.820 I think
01:01:36.440 based on my
01:01:37.540 heart
01:01:37.900 I would
01:01:38.280 find it
01:01:38.720 very
01:01:39.060 difficult
01:01:39.580 but I
01:01:40.180 think
01:01:40.400 based on
01:01:40.940 the
01:01:41.100 situations
01:01:41.720 I would
01:01:42.080 take
01:01:42.360 as a
01:01:42.860 mature
01:01:43.400 person
01:01:44.160 I would
01:01:44.940 take
01:01:45.160 everything
01:01:45.620 into
01:01:45.940 consideration
01:01:46.700 but
01:01:47.220 you're more
01:01:47.680 keen on
01:01:48.320 forgiving
01:01:48.800 it depends
01:01:50.680 at the end
01:01:51.380 of the day
01:01:51.760 we are
01:01:52.100 human
01:01:52.420 being
01:01:52.700 every
01:01:53.180 human
01:01:53.620 being
01:01:54.200 does
01:01:54.520 make
01:01:54.760 a
01:01:54.900 mistake
01:01:55.220 in
01:01:55.380 life
01:01:55.680 now
01:01:55.860 it
01:01:55.980 depends
01:01:56.360 how
01:01:57.240 that
01:01:57.580 other
01:01:57.860 person
01:01:58.360 has
01:01:59.100 regretted
01:02:00.600 their
01:02:01.000 mistakes
01:02:01.500 or
01:02:01.900 how many
01:02:02.660 times
01:02:02.940 it
01:02:03.080 has
01:02:03.260 happened
01:02:03.640 so I
01:02:04.100 think
01:02:04.280 it
01:02:04.380 depends
01:02:04.600 so
01:02:04.840 what about
01:02:05.620 yourself
01:02:05.860 just
01:02:06.080 generally
01:02:06.660 I don't
01:02:06.900 want to go
01:02:07.100 into personal
01:02:07.480 details
01:02:07.640 but would you
01:02:07.960 say I
01:02:08.340 believe
01:02:08.560 generally
01:02:08.880 women 1.00
01:02:09.140 are
01:02:09.460 forgiven
01:02:09.900 in this
01:02:10.420 aspect
01:02:10.860 they are
01:02:11.560 I have
01:02:12.140 to be
01:02:12.320 honest
01:02:12.500 am I
01:02:13.080 wrong
01:02:13.260 would you
01:02:13.520 say that
01:02:13.800 I know
01:02:20.920 my
01:02:21.260 relationship
01:02:21.780 will be
01:02:22.260 toxic
01:02:22.820 afterwards
01:02:23.340 because
01:02:23.860 I'm
01:02:24.320 going to
01:02:24.600 bring it
01:02:24.920 up
01:02:25.120 every
01:02:25.500 single
01:02:25.880 argument
01:02:26.260 I'm
01:02:26.740 going to
01:02:27.020 bring it
01:02:27.300 up
01:02:27.460 every
01:02:27.720 single
01:02:28.040 second
01:02:28.380 I'll
01:02:29.820 be honest
01:02:34.260 with you
01:02:34.480 bro
01:02:34.680 I genuinely
01:02:35.320 I believe
01:02:39.400 if the
01:02:39.960 instances
01:02:40.440 for example
01:02:41.220 I've seen
01:02:42.780 in Jahiliya 0.95
01:02:43.400 these guys
01:02:44.080 get caught
01:02:44.500 etc
01:02:44.820 and they
01:02:45.480 get forgiven
01:02:45.940 from what
01:02:46.400 I know
01:02:46.640 generally
01:02:46.860 women 1.00
01:02:47.180 forgive
01:02:47.700 but not
01:02:48.460 to a certain
01:02:48.820 extent
01:02:49.120 if you say
01:02:49.460 a
01:02:50.160 simple
01:02:53.260 question
01:02:53.620 would you
01:02:53.900 ever forgive
01:02:54.300 if your
01:02:54.660 wife
01:02:55.280 would you
01:02:58.340 would you
01:02:59.420 if my
01:03:00.520 wife
01:03:00.960 yes
01:03:01.400 would you
01:03:02.300 would you
01:03:03.700 over my
01:03:04.140 dead body
01:03:04.780 I wouldn't
01:03:05.500 expect my
01:03:06.460 wife to
01:03:06.820 forgive me
01:03:07.320 if I cheated
01:03:07.960 by the way
01:03:08.960 why are you
01:03:09.440 expecting the
01:03:09.920 women to 1.00
01:03:10.360 forgive them
01:03:10.840 I wouldn't
01:03:11.320 expect the
01:03:11.780 woman to 0.98
01:03:12.060 forgive me
01:03:12.480 if I cheated
01:03:13.020 I'm talking
01:03:14.400 about a
01:03:14.920 psychological
01:03:15.540 issue here
01:03:16.060 now by
01:03:16.860 the way
01:03:17.060 I'm going
01:03:17.360 to say
01:03:17.740 inshallah
01:03:18.480 because Allah
01:03:19.420 can test
01:03:20.440 and can put
01:03:21.220 you in your
01:03:21.540 place
01:03:21.860 if Allah
01:03:22.680 wills as
01:03:23.200 men to
01:03:23.640 us it's
01:03:24.020 like you
01:03:24.420 can hang 0.95
01:03:24.820 me is 0.97
01:03:25.040 better
01:03:25.300 for women
01:03:26.440 generally
01:03:27.380 no no it's
01:03:27.880 for women
01:03:28.220 that's I'm
01:03:28.720 trying to
01:03:29.040 the reason I'm
01:03:29.760 saying this is
01:03:30.120 to show the
01:03:30.440 disparity to
01:03:31.220 understand each
01:03:31.780 other better
01:03:32.180 for us it's
01:03:33.640 a violation
01:03:34.360 on another
01:03:34.720 level you
01:03:34.980 know why
01:03:35.280 because when
01:03:35.840 it comes to
01:03:36.280 intimacy
01:03:36.780 like I said
01:03:38.480 again we're
01:03:38.840 adults the
01:03:39.600 act is being
01:03:40.260 done on the
01:03:40.660 woman it's
01:03:41.560 a it's like
01:03:42.220 it's like
01:03:42.860 somebody like
01:03:43.340 does it look
01:03:43.760 honourable if
01:03:44.280 I'm there like
01:03:45.100 there's a man
01:03:46.080 and I'm 0.99
01:03:46.560 punching his 1.00
01:03:47.020 face with a 1.00
01:03:47.480 hammer does
01:03:48.300 it look like
01:03:48.700 to his family
01:03:49.120 he's in an
01:03:49.560 honourable state
01:03:50.100 no so the
01:03:51.440 act in itself
01:03:52.120 for us men
01:03:52.860 it's so much
01:03:54.380 more severe in
01:03:55.040 our heads than
01:03:55.700 for you guys
01:03:57.080 I believe that's
01:03:57.840 why you guys
01:03:58.180 are more
01:03:58.460 forgiven
01:03:58.780 now just
01:03:59.500 just to wrap
01:04:00.100 up on
01:04:00.320 something you
01:04:00.800 said a lot
01:04:01.440 of women do 0.90
01:04:01.800 it now
01:04:02.100 do you know
01:04:03.400 why a lot
01:04:03.640 of women cheat 0.97
01:04:04.020 let me put
01:04:04.900 this
01:04:05.040 a lot of
01:04:06.860 women will be 1.00
01:04:08.080 with a man
01:04:08.700 and it feels
01:04:09.280 like nothing
01:04:09.800 now study
01:04:11.300 show a
01:04:12.600 little woman 0.86
01:04:13.240 cheat you
01:04:13.480 know why
01:04:13.780 and tell me
01:04:14.940 if I'm wrong
01:04:15.300 sisters yeah
01:04:15.780 if you find
01:04:17.400 a man who
01:04:18.160 is God
01:04:18.480 fearing who
01:04:19.080 has taqwa 0.51
01:04:19.580 who prays
01:04:20.440 who's a good
01:04:20.980 man who's a 0.96
01:04:21.540 good father
01:04:22.000 who earns
01:04:23.440 he's a go
01:04:23.840 getter he's
01:04:24.300 doing his
01:04:24.620 thing etc
01:04:25.040 would you
01:04:26.160 ever ever
01:04:27.120 ever think
01:04:27.620 of another
01:04:27.840 man ever
01:04:28.780 no no please
01:04:30.940 can you be
01:04:31.300 vocal about it
01:04:31.800 please
01:04:31.960 I'll be
01:04:32.280 I'll be honest
01:04:33.140 even if he
01:04:34.240 didn't have
01:04:34.620 those things
01:04:35.320 I'm too
01:04:36.300 I'm too
01:04:36.920 fearful
01:04:37.360 and loving
01:04:38.480 of Allah
01:04:39.140 that I would
01:04:39.860 never ever do
01:04:40.660 that
01:04:40.680 that's good
01:04:41.600 may Allah
01:04:41.920 bless and
01:04:42.220 preserve all
01:04:42.700 of you
01:04:42.800 I know you
01:04:43.040 guys are
01:04:43.260 all the
01:04:43.480 same
01:04:43.680 but
01:04:44.140 no we're
01:04:44.820 not
01:04:44.980 this is the
01:04:45.740 thing
01:04:45.980 we're humans
01:04:47.440 people make
01:04:48.880 mistakes
01:04:49.340 we're not all 0.99
01:04:49.820 stupid things 0.99
01:04:51.020 I want to come 1.00
01:04:51.480 from a human
01:04:51.940 perspective
01:04:53.040 because I want
01:04:53.660 to prove
01:04:53.920 something for
01:04:54.340 you guys
01:04:54.600 I'm coming
01:04:55.300 from a human
01:04:55.640 perspective
01:04:56.100 a woman 0.57
01:04:57.260 is monogamous
01:04:57.980 by nature
01:04:58.460 if she finds
01:04:59.060 a man who
01:04:59.580 is a high
01:05:00.640 value man
01:05:01.140 in the
01:05:01.320 Islamic sense
01:05:01.960 God fearing
01:05:02.560 has taqwa 0.51
01:05:03.080 praying
01:05:03.380 and he has
01:05:04.400 a good living
01:05:04.980 he's a good
01:05:05.680 strong man
01:05:06.140 etc
01:05:06.440 a woman 0.57
01:05:07.400 would never
01:05:08.300 ever ever
01:05:09.360 think of
01:05:09.860 another man
01:05:10.280 done
01:05:10.820 I want to
01:05:12.220 ask you guys
01:05:12.600 a question
01:05:12.940 now brothers
01:05:13.340 if you was
01:05:14.680 a wealthy
01:05:15.180 man who's
01:05:15.640 God fearing
01:05:16.160 who's a
01:05:17.040 millionaire
01:05:17.640 who's got
01:05:17.940 your resources
01:05:18.480 a man
01:05:19.880 would
01:05:20.800 have
01:05:21.480 would
01:05:22.100 want another 0.93
01:05:22.680 woman in
01:05:22.980 his life
01:05:23.300 the difference
01:05:24.480 is this
01:05:25.000 between us
01:05:25.520 if you found
01:05:26.780 your ideal
01:05:27.420 perfect man
01:05:28.400 you would
01:05:29.180 still think
01:05:29.800 you would
01:05:30.280 never think
01:05:30.620 of another
01:05:30.900 would you guys
01:05:31.800 let me tell
01:05:32.700 you very clearly
01:05:33.140 if you find
01:05:34.140 your ideal
01:05:38.780 perfect woman
01:05:39.900 she is 0.95
01:05:40.300 drop dead
01:05:40.780 gorgeous 0.66
01:05:41.020 beautiful
01:05:41.260 look we know
01:05:41.680 examples of
01:05:42.260 Jay-Z
01:05:42.660 Kim Kardashian
01:05:44.320 Beyonce
01:05:45.660 these are women 1.00
01:05:46.640 a lot of men
01:05:47.100 could seem as
01:05:47.720 really good looking
01:05:48.380 they have been
01:05:49.280 cheated on
01:05:49.940 the point is this
01:05:51.040 as men
01:05:51.720 that's the point
01:05:52.880 what we're seeing
01:05:53.300 is when a man 0.65
01:05:53.960 does it
01:05:54.540 he's doing it
01:05:55.720 because it's a
01:05:56.520 desire
01:05:57.080 there's no emotional
01:05:57.980 connections etc
01:05:58.840 so one of the
01:06:00.380 reasons why men
01:06:01.000 go and I
01:06:01.780 wouldn't say
01:06:02.080 cheat
01:06:02.400 get another
01:06:03.640 woman or
01:06:04.200 desire another
01:06:04.760 woman is 1.00
01:06:05.660 because there's
01:06:06.320 an inbuilt
01:06:06.840 mechanism in
01:06:07.720 place that
01:06:08.160 triggers it
01:06:09.120 it has
01:06:09.780 that's why I
01:06:10.420 say to
01:06:10.660 sisters it
01:06:11.220 has nothing
01:06:12.020 to do with
01:06:12.740 you there's
01:06:13.040 no deficiency
01:06:13.580 it's that
01:06:14.680 primal instinct
01:06:15.540 that happens
01:06:16.220 sometimes
01:06:16.540 so the
01:06:17.840 difference I
01:06:18.740 believe it's
01:06:19.260 that men
01:06:19.960 do it because
01:06:21.340 of it's just
01:06:22.300 an instinct which
01:06:23.320 is not right
01:06:23.800 but we're talking
01:06:25.000 about getting
01:06:25.380 another wife etc 0.52
01:06:26.460 that's a different
01:06:26.980 story
01:06:27.320 that's a
01:06:28.400 different story
01:06:29.060 but what we're
01:06:29.900 seeing is do you
01:06:30.480 see the difference
01:06:30.900 between us and
01:06:31.520 you if you got
01:06:32.280 that guy you
01:06:32.900 never think of
01:06:33.480 it and with
01:06:34.340 us men it's
01:06:36.240 not like that
01:06:36.900 but now this
01:06:38.040 is like some
01:06:39.020 story I think
01:06:39.640 it's a biological
01:06:40.360 creation of how
01:06:41.740 they have been
01:06:42.300 brought up
01:06:42.900 that's about
01:06:43.360 it's biological
01:06:44.000 it's just like
01:06:45.040 it's a biological
01:06:45.760 way that Allah
01:06:47.100 has created
01:06:47.580 woman to be 0.92
01:06:48.280 next level
01:06:48.960 jealous if a
01:06:49.760 man wants to
01:06:50.360 get married
01:06:50.780 again it's just
01:06:51.680 how you are
01:06:52.740 in your fitrah
01:06:53.620 then it's the
01:06:54.520 issue on how
01:06:55.280 do you control
01:06:56.140 that both
01:06:57.040 people have
01:06:57.600 to control
01:06:58.240 that test
01:06:59.780 that Allah
01:07:00.180 has been put
01:07:00.720 into birth
01:07:01.120 we've talked
01:07:02.120 about solutions
01:07:02.700 yeah okay
01:07:03.260 so any last
01:07:04.100 words because
01:07:04.480 we have talked
01:07:04.820 about solutions
01:07:05.280 pornography
01:07:05.800 bad friends
01:07:06.840 environment
01:07:07.340 also decondition
01:07:08.560 in your mind
01:07:09.380 because a lot
01:07:10.820 of men are
01:07:11.380 conditioned to
01:07:12.160 I've seen this
01:07:13.560 happen where
01:07:14.200 they go for
01:07:14.980 like you mentioned
01:07:15.840 actually Kim
01:07:16.500 Kardashian's the 0.98
01:07:17.260 Beyonce's
01:07:17.980 they go for
01:07:18.900 women who 0.99
01:07:19.460 to them look
01:07:21.020 good aesthetically
01:07:22.380 but their character 1.00
01:07:23.660 is crap 1.00
01:07:24.260 that's why 1.00
01:07:24.540 marriages fail
01:07:25.280 because they
01:07:25.880 go just for
01:07:26.620 looks
01:07:26.700 exactly because
01:07:26.720 you're just
01:07:27.060 going for the
01:07:27.600 visual
01:07:27.920 the look
01:07:28.760 and then her
01:07:29.800 character's 0.99
01:07:30.640 rubbish 1.00
01:07:31.220 you know 1.00
01:07:32.320 and then a lot
01:07:33.400 of these
01:07:33.720 relationships fail
01:07:34.620 because you've
01:07:35.120 just gone for
01:07:35.720 surface level
01:07:36.640 even if it's not
01:07:37.420 deep
01:07:37.780 it doesn't change
01:07:38.320 it doesn't change
01:07:39.400 you know what
01:07:40.380 he'd do
01:07:40.620 he would
01:07:40.980 he would be
01:07:41.940 treating her like
01:07:42.940 a queen
01:07:43.320 a princess
01:07:43.940 but that deep
01:07:45.260 instinct is still
01:07:46.040 there for him
01:07:46.860 I'm just letting
01:07:47.440 you guys know
01:07:47.980 it is deep
01:07:49.060 built in us
01:07:49.700 we don't ask for it
01:07:50.620 we don't
01:07:51.240 please don't blame us
01:07:52.020 let's ask the same
01:07:53.060 question to
01:07:53.680 brother Sertaj
01:07:54.460 we do have it
01:07:58.360 but we have to
01:07:58.880 control it
01:07:59.400 so when you're
01:08:01.700 able to control
01:08:02.680 it
01:08:02.900 it's a desire
01:08:07.180 for something
01:08:07.660 that you have to
01:08:08.160 control
01:08:08.560 yes it is
01:08:09.560 I'm so sorry
01:08:10.240 on this show
01:08:11.460 I've decided
01:08:11.960 I took an oath
01:08:12.820 that I will speak
01:08:13.740 a bit of truth
01:08:14.540 even if it's
01:08:15.040 against myself
01:08:15.500 speak the truth
01:08:16.840 even if it's
01:08:17.260 against yourself
01:08:17.760 control
01:08:19.180 okay we can talk
01:08:19.860 about controlling
01:08:20.420 but you are not
01:08:21.820 sinful for
01:08:22.680 exercising it
01:08:23.720 and men should
01:08:24.340 not be blameworthy
01:08:25.100 for exercising it
01:08:26.020 it is normal
01:08:27.000 as long as you're
01:08:27.660 given your rights
01:08:28.220 of your wife
01:08:28.920 etc
01:08:29.140 I'm talking about
01:08:29.580 cheating by the way
01:08:30.160 I'm not talking
01:08:30.660 about that
01:08:31.020 I'm saying
01:08:31.820 please brothers
01:08:33.160 stop suffocating
01:08:34.340 yourself
01:08:34.860 because you go 1.00
01:08:35.600 and do dumb 0.99
01:08:36.180 stuff by going 0.99
01:08:36.920 to escorts
01:08:37.520 you violate
01:08:38.420 Allah's laws
01:08:39.180 okay
01:08:39.620 just because
01:08:40.420 the emotions
01:08:41.060 of a woman 0.79
01:08:41.720 I don't give a damn
01:08:42.660 with all due respect
01:08:43.480 to any woman
01:08:44.220 and her emotions
01:08:44.800 if you are a good man
01:08:46.420 who practices
01:08:47.080 God fears
01:08:47.600 good father
01:08:48.140 and you are 1.00
01:08:49.440 killing yourself
01:08:50.020 internally 1.00
01:08:50.500 that you're going
01:08:51.380 to bounce
01:08:52.000 and do
01:08:52.420 some madness
01:08:53.540 committing haram
01:08:54.860 brother go
01:08:55.340 and get married
01:08:55.780 again
01:08:56.120 yeah
01:08:56.520 that woman 1.00
01:08:57.620 is going to
01:08:57.980 throw you 1.00
01:08:58.280 in the hell 1.00
01:08:58.740 fight 0.88
01:08:58.900 and you're
01:08:59.280 maqiyama
01:08:59.640 she's going to
01:08:59.980 say you know
01:09:00.280 my husband
01:09:00.600 please throw him 1.00
01:09:00.980 in hell 1.00
01:09:01.160 fight instead 0.97
01:09:01.480 of me
01:09:01.740 please do it
01:09:02.860 in the right
01:09:03.240 way
01:09:03.500 if you are
01:09:04.200 I'm not asking
01:09:04.680 anyone to go
01:09:05.180 and do it
01:09:05.460 I'm saying
01:09:05.700 if you are
01:09:06.480 please
01:09:07.160 this is what
01:09:07.700 we live
01:09:08.060 of this
01:09:08.320 how we're
01:09:08.600 created
01:09:09.060 our sisters
01:09:09.960 I'm only doing
01:09:10.480 this so you
01:09:10.900 guys understand
01:09:11.460 us
01:09:11.720 it's nothing
01:09:12.460 personal
01:09:12.920 we have no
01:09:13.920 problem with
01:09:14.340 you
01:09:14.500 it's the way
01:09:15.280 we are
01:09:15.520 created
01:09:15.900 I know
01:09:16.400 it's hard
01:09:16.700 for you
01:09:16.940 guys
01:09:17.140 but I'm
01:09:17.700 just making
01:09:18.000 it clear
01:09:18.360 can I just
01:09:18.880 say something
01:09:20.040 I'm not
01:09:21.820 saying this
01:09:22.340 but I
01:09:23.400 believe
01:09:24.340 when a
01:09:25.200 woman starts 0.96
01:09:25.960 respecting her
01:09:26.880 husband
01:09:27.400 a husband
01:09:28.080 who provides
01:09:28.980 emotionally
01:09:30.180 physically
01:09:30.900 financially
01:09:31.540 she will
01:09:33.560 respect that
01:09:34.140 man so
01:09:34.660 much
01:09:35.100 and trust
01:09:35.980 him so
01:09:36.500 much
01:09:36.840 that she
01:09:37.560 will get
01:09:37.880 to a point
01:09:38.340 where she
01:09:38.740 herself
01:09:39.420 may say
01:09:40.120 to her
01:09:40.460 husband
01:09:40.820 it's okay
01:09:41.380 you can
01:09:41.760 bring a
01:09:42.340 second one
01:09:42.800 but a man
01:09:43.780 has to reach
01:09:44.400 that level
01:09:44.820 not many
01:09:45.640 men reach
01:09:46.680 that level
01:09:47.240 but the
01:09:48.420 perfect example
01:09:49.100 I want to
01:09:49.380 give is
01:09:49.680 Noor
01:09:49.940 he was in
01:09:51.020 that situation
01:09:51.640 wasn't he
01:09:52.400 when the
01:09:54.700 lady was
01:09:55.140 trying to
01:09:55.540 chase him 0.89
01:09:56.060 and commit 0.66
01:09:57.980 so the
01:10:02.560 thing is
01:10:03.160 fear of
01:10:04.040 Allah
01:10:04.340 and self
01:10:05.880 control
01:10:06.260 prison is
01:10:07.080 more beloved
01:10:07.520 to me
01:10:07.920 man has
01:10:09.320 to learn
01:10:09.700 how to
01:10:10.080 gain the
01:10:10.540 respect
01:10:10.900 you know
01:10:11.520 a lot of
01:10:12.520 people demand
01:10:13.100 respect
01:10:13.640 you cannot
01:10:14.380 demand
01:10:14.860 respect
01:10:15.360 you gain
01:10:16.560 respect
01:10:17.060 now if
01:10:17.860 a husband
01:10:18.400 gains the
01:10:19.060 respect of
01:10:19.700 his wife
01:10:20.380 to the
01:10:21.280 highest level
01:10:22.240 self
01:10:23.080 actualisation
01:10:24.000 is the
01:10:24.400 highest level
01:10:25.820 for a
01:10:26.680 human being
01:10:27.400 when you
01:10:28.020 reach that
01:10:28.500 level
01:10:28.820 whether you're
01:10:29.360 man or
01:10:29.820 woman 0.99
01:10:30.160 and you're
01:10:31.220 on your
01:10:31.520 deen
01:10:32.020 you have
01:10:32.480 that soul
01:10:33.020 connection
01:10:33.480 with Allah
01:10:33.980 because
01:10:34.700 if a husband
01:10:36.720 decides to
01:10:37.280 get married
01:10:37.700 and the
01:10:38.080 wife accepts
01:10:38.800 it
01:10:39.080 she gets
01:10:39.840 the value
01:10:40.900 of
01:10:41.080 matai
01:10:41.540 so now
01:10:43.580 if there
01:10:44.960 is a
01:10:45.300 sister
01:10:45.700 whose
01:10:46.140 husband
01:10:46.540 is
01:10:47.000 you know
01:10:48.460 he's
01:10:48.760 gained that
01:10:49.340 respect
01:10:49.660 from her
01:10:50.300 most likely
01:10:51.500 I believe
01:10:52.860 that
01:10:53.600 wife
01:10:54.900 would say
01:10:55.640 because she'll
01:10:56.560 trust him
01:10:57.040 what if a
01:10:57.940 husband says
01:10:58.500 that you have
01:10:59.360 to gain
01:10:59.640 my love
01:11:00.060 why are you
01:11:02.460 guys looking
01:11:02.700 at me like
01:11:02.960 that
01:11:03.080 if a husband
01:11:04.580 says to his
01:11:05.760 wife
01:11:06.080 that don't
01:11:07.700 make sense
01:11:08.200 for example
01:11:09.980 if a husband
01:11:10.340 comes and
01:11:10.820 says you're
01:11:11.100 disrespecting me
01:11:11.580 she said you
01:11:11.920 need to earn
01:11:12.400 my respect
01:11:12.940 okay
01:11:13.560 the husband
01:11:14.600 says you
01:11:15.220 have to earn
01:11:15.760 my respect
01:11:16.200 the husband
01:11:16.400 says I
01:11:17.000 feel like
01:11:17.380 you're
01:11:17.560 disrespecting
01:11:18.240 me
01:11:18.400 as a man
01:11:18.820 and she
01:11:19.120 says well
01:11:19.620 you have
01:11:19.880 to earn
01:11:20.160 my respect
01:11:21.260 imagine
01:11:21.500 the man
01:11:22.540 the woman 0.98
01:11:22.960 comes and
01:11:23.240 says I
01:11:23.480 don't feel
01:11:23.740 like you
01:11:24.020 love
01:11:24.220 me
01:11:24.380 you're
01:11:24.480 affectionate
01:11:24.820 well you
01:11:25.080 have to
01:11:25.320 earn
01:11:25.500 my
01:11:25.700 love
01:11:25.960 oh you
01:11:26.960 guys
01:11:27.100 don't
01:11:27.220 like
01:11:27.440 it
01:11:27.600 okay
01:11:28.300 so you
01:11:28.620 guys
01:11:28.740 so
01:11:29.060 why is
01:11:31.740 it that
01:11:31.980 a man
01:11:32.280 has to
01:11:32.560 earn his respect but if the woman is saying look emotionally you're not giving me love yeah and
01:11:37.460 then he says well you have to earn my love okay so how does how do you gain respect thank you so
01:11:42.080 what i'm saying is how does an individual why are people marrying uh their significant other without
01:11:48.320 respect or love okay good but what i'm saying is this but one thing we need to bear in mind
01:11:52.200 a woman wants love a man wants respect if you go to each other and say i want this no as a man we 0.63
01:11:59.620 have to take the responsibility and say no matter what arguments i have i have to show the affection
01:12:04.080 and the love that has to be there so for a for a man we want respect there shouldn't be you have to earn
01:12:09.600 what does that mean if you're married to a vile haiwan like an animal who is outright violating 1.00
01:12:15.940 you i'm not talking about that but to use the word to your husband like you need to earn my respect 0.94
01:12:20.420 is good as me saying you have to earn my love okay gain is different earn is different yeah
01:12:24.660 earn is a in a like a contract you give it's a give and take gaining respect is when you respect
01:12:31.160 others you respect yourself first yeah when you respect yourself you have those boundaries in place
01:12:36.440 what you accept what you don't we do not respect exactly but but i don't i would never marry my
01:12:42.560 husband if i didn't respect him do you see what i mean yeah so the respect foundation wise before
01:12:47.800 we're marrying people that has to be but somewhere along the lines you when you marry someone you're
01:12:53.860 respecting each other okay you're expecting that person to respect you that's why they're marrying
01:12:58.860 you yeah yeah but somewhere along that line through arguments through whatever means he's not he's not
01:13:04.260 providing okay yeah he's changed he's not looking after you he's looking at other women where is that
01:13:09.480 respect going to go are you still going to respect that man no no we need to we need to end but on
01:13:13.200 and not what you said for example and i believe this if a man is a true man who does this stuff
01:13:17.380 wallahi your wife will stick by you even if i'm not talking about cheating because cheating i would say i would say 0.97
01:13:22.960 that she has every islamic right to get for divorce immediately that's what islamic right 0.99
01:13:27.240 but if you do decide to get married again etc if you are a good man she will stick by you i believe
01:13:32.980 this is in the psychology of a woman because if you treat her well and you're a good man but you have 0.98
01:13:37.280 to be that the woman has to also yes on on deen of course of course of course 100% if you don't have 0.99
01:13:43.060 that connection with allah subhanahu wa ta'ala there is no way on earth a woman will accept and i guys
01:13:48.640 and i think in society it needs to change as well we need to remind people that committing zina 0.98
01:13:53.400 is not good committing cheating and stuff is not good you've always got an alternative option
01:13:58.500 if your wife isn't agreeing to a second marriage then you've got the option of divorce yeah you're a
01:14:03.100 low category man yeah you're i think you're a low category man if you can you have an option 1.00
01:14:07.460 allah has given you and you're violating that because you're scared of your wife what a coward you 1.00
01:14:10.900 are man you're you're a little i don't want to speak anyways i don't because you're a despicable 0.99
01:14:14.720 individual that allah has given you an option but you're like oh no my wife are you 0.98
01:14:17.580 worshiping your wife is your wife your lord weird i think it just goes back to what he what you said 0.89
01:14:23.840 about they just don't they're too lazy to or they don't or they're cowardly enough to no no men men
01:14:30.560 to take responsibility yeah of a marriage that's really what he's a boy like society they're boys
01:14:37.120 uh to the boys uh who's watching this inshallah you'll be men uh um till next time hope you guys
01:14:41.920 have got an idea why men go down this route uh but yeah that's inshallah we did another episode of
01:14:46.640 why women end up being disloyal which is very insightful by the way we really really disciple 0.98
01:14:50.940 certain stuff and understood certain things um again it's i believe cross of the matter is men
01:14:55.740 are leaders and allah's made it most of the times i blame men if their wife is disloyal but you can
01:15:00.500 watch the episode why i say that you might disagree till next time from the bitter trip show assalamualaikum
01:15:04.400 wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said whoever builds a masjid for the
01:15:09.260 sake of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allah will build for him a similar house in jannah on that day where
01:15:15.500 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us that our books will be given and every little atom weight of good
01:15:20.700 will be there and imagine you see a mountain and you're like what a lucky person which righteous
01:15:27.000 person and allah says this is for you for me yes what did i do you allow people to pray you built
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