Ali Dawah - YOUR CORRUPT SONS SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE!

00:00:00.000 You see a lot of girls who are well-behaved, they're at home,

00:00:03.960 but then you have the boys out here in the streets smoking weed, having girlfriends.

00:00:10.240 So again, we're talking about honour, but we are maybe as men blameworthy sometimes

00:00:15.540 that our daughters are going and falling into haram because we've made a halal haram.

00:00:20.680 Would you say men and women are different?

00:00:22.140 Absolutely, yeah.

00:00:23.120 Don't you think that it should be applied differently if we are different?

00:00:26.520 Of course we should advise our daughters, etc.

00:00:28.780 But are we doing anything for our sons?

00:00:30.840 I genuinely believe I don't think we're doing anything.

00:00:33.280 Right, so for instance, you see sometimes some mothers or fathers walking out with their children

00:00:37.220 and the daughter is covered from head to toe in abaya and hijab

00:00:40.820 and the boy is wearing shorts and he's wearing vests.

00:00:43.140 Ali said the emphasis has to be the same because the punishment is the same.

00:00:48.160 In the grave, it's no different.

00:00:50.280 And I think that the root of the problem is not the red pill or the gender or the education,

00:00:56.180 is our lack of Islamic knowledge.

00:00:58.320 Red pill is full of degenerate men.

00:01:01.640 They dishonour women.

00:01:03.420 They are not masculine men.

00:01:05.880 Don't think it's just you.

00:01:06.540 Don't think it's just me.

00:01:07.500 I'm the only one.

00:01:08.380 And no, you're doing that, brother.

00:01:10.040 Just know there's somebody else probably doing that to your future wife.

00:01:12.340 And when the day comes and you're marrying and you're like,

00:01:14.420 why did that happen?

00:01:15.220 Because she came across a man like you.

00:01:16.860 So in Islam, modesty is not just looks.

00:01:21.760 Modesty is your tongue, the way you speak, your heart, the way you act, your character.

00:01:27.260 So it's an umbrella.

00:01:28.800 It's not just beauty.

00:01:29.980 I genuinely believe that men and women should be taught slightly different things

00:01:35.280 as they're growing up to conquer different battles that they're going to face in life.

00:01:38.920 And also, you know what I find really funny about the red pill?

00:01:41.240 They're very funny.

00:01:42.080 They complain about, yeah, a woman with their body counts.

00:01:44.420 And they are the ones who are causing their body counts.

00:01:46.360 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:01:46.900 It's so dumb.

00:01:48.380 I like you think about it, yeah?

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00:02:16.940 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends.

00:02:19.840 Hope you guys are well, inshaAllah.

00:02:20.580 Welcome to another episode of the Bitter Truth Show, inshaAllah.

00:02:23.000 We took a bit of a break, alhamdulillah.

00:02:25.000 But yeah, today's topic is actually something that I am very, very passionate about.

00:02:29.100 And I'm sure many of the speakers, the guests here as well are.

00:02:32.620 Before I start, I want to praise Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

00:02:34.500 the most merciful, the most just, or praise His glory and gratitude belong to Him.

00:02:37.840 I want to thank every single honourable guest that's here today,

00:02:41.220 from the brothers and the sisters side, inshaAllah.

00:02:43.140 And I'm not going to waste any time.

00:02:44.320 I'm going to get straight into it.

00:02:45.040 You guys know the rules.

00:02:45.880 If you don't know the rules, bit a buzzer.

00:02:47.600 If you disagree with the sister, the sisters disagree with the sisters.

00:02:50.580 Or vice versa, press the buzzer.

00:02:52.200 You have one and a half minutes where nobody can interrupt.

00:02:54.960 You have your say.

00:02:55.880 You can only press it once, inshaAllah.

00:02:57.300 And just simple rules, less abstain from backbiting, slandering, foul talk.

00:03:02.480 We don't need to do that anyways.

00:03:03.560 We know that.

00:03:04.380 And that's it.

00:03:05.680 So today's topic in a nutshell is, why is there a greater emphasis when it comes to modesty,

00:03:14.220 expectations, or just like a specific way of life when it comes to sisters?

00:03:20.600 So for example, you have households where, and I've seen this, I've come from Jahli, I've come from, you know, not being a Muslim.

00:03:27.140 I see it in my family as well.

00:03:28.940 Where now the tide has kind of shifted a bit.

00:03:31.380 Where the man, the boy, he's fine.

00:03:35.060 He can go have a girlfriend.

00:03:36.500 He can go mess around.

00:03:37.720 He can go clubbing.

00:03:38.460 And he can do whatever he likes.

00:03:40.320 But when it comes to the girl, it's no.

00:03:43.260 And this can be cultural, but does this have any place in Islam?

00:03:48.080 So the discussion at hand is, why is there a greater emphasis on sisters?

00:03:53.500 As if like Islam was only sent down to how a sister should be modest.

00:03:57.860 Is modesty just for a woman?

00:04:00.620 So just, maybe I'll start with Sister Amira, inshaAllah.

00:04:03.780 So Sister Amira, what's your take on it?

00:04:05.180 Have you ever come across this?

00:04:06.800 And why do we have this?

00:04:08.200 Because as Muslims, this is not Islam.

00:04:11.800 Yeah.

00:04:12.700 So for me, the way I see it is, we have like a culture in the UK or the West where we've

00:04:21.300 normalized certain practices.

00:04:23.300 And I think with the red pill ideology, you have a lot of, again, emphasis on, you know,

00:04:31.020 women are the cause of the downfall of men and boys.

00:04:35.680 And women are the reason why, you know, things are not going very well in the household or,

00:04:44.500 you know, they are the cause of divorces.

00:04:46.840 And, you know, they may be initiating it.

00:04:49.880 But for me, the way I see it is, these men and these boys have not been trained enough because, like you said, the emphasis is always on the girls, the girls, the girls, and never so much on the boys.

00:05:09.040 The boys are getting away with murder.

00:05:10.580 They're getting away with God knows what, you know, you see a lot of girls who are well-behaved, they're at home, you know, they're not as bad as people make out.

00:05:22.500 But then you have the boys out here in the streets, smoking weed, having girlfriends, you know, just running riot, not listening to their parents.

00:05:33.600 But there's not been enough, like, actually, what is going on here?

00:05:39.860 Boys are really getting away with a lot out here, to be honest with you.

00:05:44.920 And for me, the way I see it, a kingdom and a nations are led by men.

00:05:52.360 So if a kingdom and a nation falls, you can't now put the blame on women.

00:05:58.040 You have to put the blame on the men who are supposed to lead us, who are supposed to, you know, bring that nation up.

00:06:05.280 It's not the fault of women.

00:06:07.560 Women, OK, we do have to do our part.

00:06:10.680 We have to be, you know, modest and we have to try as well.

00:06:13.960 But this deen is a nasiha to us all.

00:06:17.000 It's not just for women.

00:06:20.100 OK, where do you guys think this is, like, stemming from?

00:06:24.400 Like, I want to know, like, to me, I think, like, for example, one of the reasons that I was reading some tafsir,

00:06:30.240 one of the reasons that the Quraysh, the pagan Arabs used to bury their daughters alive,

00:06:34.460 there's a couple of reasons.

00:06:35.400 One of the reasons was because they said, OK, you know, they can't provide for them.

00:06:39.200 Yeah. And another reason was is this phenomenon, which is basically that if they go to war,

00:06:45.460 their female relatives will be taken of captives and you guys get the gist.

00:06:49.820 Yeah. So they felt that as this is disgraceful to us.

00:06:53.260 So therefore, it's I think this is where it stems from, because if you look at it, we talk about this issue here.

00:06:59.500 And we've mentioned this before.

00:07:01.180 Zina is zina for a man or a woman.

00:07:02.620 Adultery is adultery for a man or a woman.

00:07:04.900 The punishment in the hereafter is the same.

00:07:07.800 However, which I do agree that there are the consequences are different.

00:07:11.680 For example, and I'm just mentioning these examples without being too crude,

00:07:16.860 is that if you get into a fight in school, like with God's school, yeah,

00:07:21.020 usually if you're having a fight with another man,

00:07:24.000 what is the first thing that he could say to you to make your blood boil?

00:07:28.800 Answer to your mom.

00:07:30.240 OK, good. This is very interesting because we really need to understand this deeper.

00:07:33.660 They go straight for your mom, your sister, your daughter.

00:07:37.420 Why?

00:07:38.820 Parison.

00:07:39.220 Parison.

00:07:39.700 Good.

00:07:40.340 So this is what I mean by, in general, in our day-to-day lives, this is a reality.

00:07:47.140 Why?

00:07:47.920 Because it stems to, again, and I talk about these issues,

00:07:50.700 and this is one of the reasons I started the Bitter Truth show,

00:07:52.980 is so our sisters can understand, and also we can understand as well,

00:07:56.560 is that the act of intimacy, just so we understand, inshallah,

00:08:02.800 because it's been done too, forgive me,

00:08:06.120 because of that, they see it as something degrading.

00:08:08.640 Now, I understand that, but again, again,

00:08:12.140 I really don't want to make this show about, it's the sisters,

00:08:15.260 because I'm really passionate about this in the sense where,

00:08:18.040 and I was on a recent podcast with one sister,

00:08:20.500 and I don't blame her, like, you know, I understand where she was coming from,

00:08:23.280 but she gave a bit of emphasis on, like, you know,

00:08:25.040 we need to make sure our daughters, and I was like, why?

00:08:29.180 Why our daughters, why can't we fix our sons?

00:08:30.560 I do, generally, I agree,

00:08:33.700 I do agree partially with both of you,

00:08:43.120 but I would like to emphasize about what you began to say about,

00:08:48.260 zina is the same for male and females,

00:08:51.100 and I think the root of the problem is the lack of Islamic knowledge,

00:08:56.500 and it's more than a gender problem.

00:08:59.900 It's a social problem that you can find in many societies,

00:09:04.040 Mediterranean, Oriental societies,

00:09:07.380 and Islam came to get rid of those preconceptions which are false.

00:09:13.120 It's in our innate nature, I agree with you,

00:09:16.100 that something, the most trigger, insult or offense you can do to someone

00:09:24.280 to go for his female of his household.

00:09:28.100 But our legislation is what Allah sent,

00:09:32.880 and the rule is the same.

00:09:35.120 When Allah said to the believing men to lower the gaze,

00:09:38.100 he said it also for the believing women.

00:09:40.940 And we have the tendency to forget that the da'ura of the males

00:09:47.760 are from the umbilik to the knees,

00:09:50.760 and the brother like to show off.

00:09:53.820 They go to the gym, they get bulked,

00:09:56.000 and they forgot that that was the topic at the first place,

00:10:02.180 that modesty is something which is mandatory for them as well.

00:10:09.340 But I agree that socially, you can bring more fitna,

00:10:14.260 because for basic reason, biology,

00:10:17.840 the bodies of the fetish gender is not that,

00:10:23.860 making that, sorry, I used to my English,

00:10:26.140 it's not my first nor my second language.

00:10:28.160 But I do agree with you,

00:10:30.940 but I just wanted to emphasize that the deep root of the problem

00:10:35.380 was the lack of Islamic knowledge.

00:10:37.740 Allah and Allah.

00:10:39.000 That was a good point.

00:10:40.300 Yeah, that was a really good point.

00:10:41.400 I just want to add to that.

00:10:43.640 Just to kind of go back to the Jahiliyyah time,

00:10:47.180 and also post-Islam time,

00:10:50.600 when we think about the social constructs

00:10:52.920 and the definition of the meaning of honour,

00:10:55.260 that made changes through different times.

00:10:57.980 So in the times of Jahiliyyah,

00:11:00.500 the woman was seen as inferior.

00:11:02.840 So the idea was,

00:11:04.680 this inferior being is therefore an embarrassment.

00:11:08.500 So can't do whatever it was the men were doing at the time.

00:11:12.100 So based off that,

00:11:14.100 that's kind of how it started,

00:11:15.800 where it's an embarrassment to have these humans around.

00:11:21.920 In the time of Islam, when Islam came,

00:11:24.040 Islam came with honour for women.

00:11:26.500 So that real definition,

00:11:29.220 that's when it started.

00:11:30.540 So the sense of honour on women is when Islam arrived.

00:11:34.280 Now, over the course of time,

00:11:35.780 course of history,

00:11:37.240 Islam in its purest form,

00:11:39.100 obviously, has mixed with culture.

00:11:42.180 So where you've had different cultures within the Ummah,

00:11:46.020 with all their own ideas,

00:11:47.220 trying to adapt to Islam,

00:11:49.100 some perhaps more,

00:11:50.420 and this is one's opinion,

00:11:52.180 some more successfully than others

00:11:53.440 in terms of separating Islam culture,

00:11:56.840 the women under different cultures,

00:11:59.860 that definition of honour has been placed on women

00:12:02.760 through using Islam,

00:12:05.300 but at the same time,

00:12:07.660 defying Islam by actually only putting the honour on women.

00:12:12.920 Like we've already established,

00:12:14.320 honour comes from men and women.

00:12:16.340 We all have to be modest.

00:12:18.040 We all have to,

00:12:19.900 you know,

00:12:20.120 we all have the same rules.

00:12:21.260 There's not one rule for men

00:12:22.420 and one rule for women

00:12:23.460 with regards to modesty,

00:12:25.300 and that entails behaviour or dress,

00:12:28.420 like Brother just mentioned, etc.

00:12:30.060 So I think it's just,

00:12:32.100 there's been too much emphasis placed

00:12:33.800 on women,

00:12:35.720 modesty,

00:12:36.100 and I think that is also stemmed from the fact

00:12:38.620 that the biggest difference in modesty

00:12:40.540 between men and women

00:12:42.000 is a hijab,

00:12:43.180 physically.

00:12:44.200 So that's kind of where the starting point is

00:12:47.220 because it's something that we can see

00:12:48.640 and it's something that's obvious.

00:12:50.880 Honour is applied,

00:12:51.620 sorry, by the way,

00:12:52.500 honour is applied differently

00:12:53.740 to men and women.

00:12:56.420 I'd say for women,

00:12:58.000 honour is applied to their looks

00:12:59.220 because it comes down to beauty.

00:13:02.400 So the original question,

00:13:03.620 the original topic is modesty.

00:13:04.880 Why is it applied more to women?

00:13:06.640 It's simply because

00:13:07.660 honour and modesty

00:13:10.040 is something that women should prosper

00:13:12.260 to do more

00:13:12.960 because it's what we look at.

00:13:14.960 Whereas for men,

00:13:16.700 we're not as,

00:13:17.900 for lack of better words,

00:13:19.020 we're not as beautiful.

00:13:20.220 So if I was to walk out into the street

00:13:22.420 and I see a bunch of people

00:13:24.100 and I look over to them

00:13:25.360 and I think they're nice,

00:13:27.160 I might not believe,

00:13:28.060 I might not say so

00:13:29.140 because,

00:13:30.820 I beg your pardon.

00:13:34.020 I beg your pardon.

00:13:34.780 Sorry,

00:13:35.120 I was going to press it.

00:13:35.960 No, no, it's okay.

00:13:38.300 Sometimes I have an issue

00:13:39.180 when I speak

00:13:39.700 and I can't down my heart.

00:13:40.980 No, no, no,

00:13:41.440 that's fine, that's fine.

00:13:42.660 You know,

00:13:43.180 I used to get that.

00:13:43.860 You know what I would say is,

00:13:44.900 do you do it at the car?

00:13:46.320 You know,

00:13:46.780 I'll give it to you.

00:13:49.060 Basically,

00:13:49.500 do it because the thing is,

00:13:50.500 I used to get that.

00:13:51.140 Actually,

00:13:51.320 I can remember in,

00:13:52.180 I was,

00:13:52.660 I went to one university talk.

00:13:54.440 I literally,

00:13:55.020 I was in the talk,

00:13:56.000 there was a university off topic.

00:13:57.160 I literally froze.

00:13:58.500 Exactly what it went for.

00:13:59.240 Wallahi,

00:13:59.740 my mind went blank

00:14:00.780 and I was just,

00:14:01.340 I didn't know what to say.

00:14:03.440 It's happening,

00:14:04.000 man.

00:14:04.060 You know what I realised?

00:14:05.020 It's a car.

00:14:06.400 Like,

00:14:06.620 make sure you do your morning,

00:14:07.440 even a car,

00:14:08.020 bro.

00:14:08.780 And it's very important.

00:14:09.700 So it happens normal,

00:14:10.420 but don't like,

00:14:11.000 you know,

00:14:11.620 you know,

00:14:11.860 if you,

00:14:12.140 let me know when you think,

00:14:13.300 Sha'ala.

00:14:13.560 You know what it is?

00:14:14.300 You know what it is?

00:14:15.420 From when I was younger,

00:14:16.520 from when I was in school

00:14:17.480 and I would speak out

00:14:18.480 into like the class

00:14:19.400 and whatnot,

00:14:19.900 like presentations,

00:14:20.980 because you were forced,

00:14:22.200 you were forced to do it.

00:14:23.720 So you've got a negative connotation

00:14:25.380 of talking.

00:14:26.040 The last,

00:14:26.580 the last two times

00:14:27.280 I was on the show,

00:14:28.200 the last two,

00:14:29.120 two episodes I've done,

00:14:30.060 I was fine.

00:14:30.600 Yes.

00:14:31.140 But I think,

00:14:31.680 I think it's because sometimes

00:14:33.020 you feel the lights on you

00:14:34.160 and that says it.

00:14:35.240 But it's totally normal.

00:14:36.700 My point,

00:14:37.320 the point,

00:14:37.880 I really want to get my point,

00:14:39.240 my point across.

00:14:40.820 Modesty is applied differently

00:14:42.180 to men and women.

00:14:43.260 That's,

00:14:43.680 I think,

00:14:44.000 I believe that is the answer.

00:14:46.420 For women,

00:14:47.320 it's looks.

00:14:47.840 And I think if I'm talking

00:14:48.780 about honour with men,

00:14:50.020 it's to do more with

00:14:50.740 how you handle your business,

00:14:52.040 more to do with handle

00:14:52.720 yourself with other men,

00:14:54.500 whether it's physicality,

00:14:55.800 financially,

00:14:56.880 that's how honour

00:14:57.660 is determined with men.

00:14:58.720 Whereas with women,

00:14:59.500 it's more of their looks.

00:15:00.500 It's beauty.

00:15:00.680 Can I just,

00:15:01.700 can I make a point on that?

00:15:03.060 Sorry.

00:15:03.860 So in Islam,

00:15:06.120 modesty,

00:15:07.160 hijab,

00:15:08.180 is not just looks.

00:15:10.640 Modesty is your tongue,

00:15:12.240 the way you speak,

00:15:13.460 your heart,

00:15:14.960 the way you act,

00:15:15.860 your character.

00:15:16.980 So it's an umbrella.

00:15:18.420 It's not just beauty.

00:15:20.040 Because a lot of women,

00:15:21.660 you know,

00:15:22.400 you would say

00:15:23.220 some women are beautiful,

00:15:25.560 yes.

00:15:26.320 But a lot of women

00:15:27.340 are average.

00:15:28.260 Like,

00:15:28.440 we're just human beings,

00:15:30.480 you know.

00:15:30.800 Not to us,

00:15:31.740 Sister Amira.

00:15:32.220 When it comes to,

00:15:33.280 just to,

00:15:33.960 just I want to cut you.

00:15:35.280 Because it's very important

00:15:36.020 because this is where

00:15:37.220 the misunderstanding happens.

00:15:39.280 We don't think like you do.

00:15:40.540 It's very important

00:15:41.180 for us to understand.

00:15:42.460 Yeah,

00:15:42.580 just so you know,

00:15:43.440 for a brother,

00:15:44.080 like I was speaking

00:15:44.480 to a Saudi sister

00:15:45.500 and I was saying,

00:15:46.520 look,

00:15:46.600 there's some brothers

00:15:47.080 who get excited over Ankur

00:15:48.340 and she start laughing.

00:15:49.420 And there was brothers

00:15:50.720 in the crowd,

00:15:51.100 they were like,

00:15:51.600 yeah.

00:15:52.160 And she was shocked.

00:15:52.720 She was like,

00:15:53.140 really?

00:15:53.500 I was like,

00:15:53.900 yes.

00:15:54.900 No,

00:15:55.260 this is how we are created.

00:15:56.860 The thing is,

00:15:57.800 that's why women like to be seen

00:15:59.520 and men like to see.

00:16:00.760 That's why we're taught

00:16:01.240 to lower our gaze

00:16:01.700 and women are taught

00:16:02.120 to cover up.

00:16:02.800 We should also cover up as well

00:16:03.780 and they are taught

00:16:04.220 to lower their gaze as well.

00:16:05.240 But in the priorities,

00:16:06.560 just because of that,

00:16:07.640 you need to understand,

00:16:08.180 you might think

00:16:08.540 it's just average.

00:16:09.640 Trust me,

00:16:10.060 a average woman

00:16:11.160 could get multiple DMs,

00:16:13.660 left, right, center.

00:16:14.540 And this is the thing,

00:16:15.060 like they do studies,

00:16:16.480 yeah?

00:16:17.040 Women get hundreds of messages.

00:16:19.420 That's why he's average

00:16:20.060 and ask him

00:16:20.480 if he's got one message

00:16:21.160 in his life.

00:16:22.400 But carry on,

00:16:22.960 carry on, yeah.

00:16:23.400 But your point is about

00:16:24.540 modesty is 100% true.

00:16:25.700 The point is,

00:16:25.740 modesty is an umbrella term.

00:16:27.780 It's not just about the beauty,

00:16:29.320 it's about the character.

00:16:30.280 That's why when you say

00:16:32.320 honour is applied

00:16:33.380 to women differently,

00:16:35.060 it shouldn't be placed

00:16:36.180 on women differently.

00:16:37.760 Like the sister said here,

00:16:41.100 you know,

00:16:42.520 of course,

00:16:43.260 the hijab is something physical

00:16:44.820 that people can see

00:16:46.340 because women can,

00:16:47.980 Muslim women can identify

00:16:49.400 as being Muslim

00:16:51.020 by wearing the hijab.

00:16:52.580 However,

00:16:53.540 that emphasis

00:16:54.400 and that,

00:16:55.880 you know,

00:16:57.120 that emphasis on modesty

00:16:58.880 should be placed equally

00:17:00.360 onto men

00:17:01.700 as it is placed

00:17:03.340 onto us as women

00:17:04.780 because even though

00:17:07.040 we may apply

00:17:08.960 and, you know,

00:17:09.740 wear the hijab,

00:17:10.520 you hear it all the time,

00:17:12.120 some women wear hijab

00:17:13.720 but actually they're,

00:17:14.760 they're the biggest backbiters

00:17:16.760 or they do this.

00:17:17.920 So hijab has to be taken care of

00:17:20.420 on all aspects,

00:17:22.340 not just the physical

00:17:23.900 because that's where you have

00:17:25.720 some people

00:17:26.180 who are called hypocrites,

00:17:28.000 you know,

00:17:28.300 and we have a lot of men,

00:17:29.720 unfortunately,

00:17:30.900 who are hypocrites

00:17:33.140 because they take care

00:17:34.320 of one thing

00:17:35.000 but they neglect

00:17:36.160 all the other things

00:17:37.180 that they're supposed

00:17:37.840 to be taken care of.

00:17:39.560 And I do think

00:17:40.880 as the ummah,

00:17:42.640 I'm sorry,

00:17:43.280 in this day and age

00:17:44.400 we're getting weaker and weaker,

00:17:45.860 not the ummah itself

00:17:47.300 but the men

00:17:48.980 are getting weaker and weaker.

00:17:51.180 They're no longer

00:17:51.740 as strong or disciplined

00:17:53.140 as they're supposed to be.

00:17:54.700 You have boys vaping

00:17:56.200 left, right and centre.

00:17:57.240 They buy more vapes

00:17:58.600 than they do sadaqah or zakat.

00:18:00.460 That is wrong.

00:18:01.340 Can I make a point

00:18:02.360 between we hop

00:18:03.240 to another subject

00:18:04.040 because the point

00:18:05.840 the sister

00:18:06.980 and the brother made

00:18:08.220 was maybe

00:18:10.340 the root of the problem.

00:18:11.880 We hopped

00:18:12.900 from honour

00:18:14.140 to modesty

00:18:15.840 and just before

00:18:17.440 we talk about shame

00:18:18.620 and maybe

00:18:20.140 the problem

00:18:20.840 is semantic.

00:18:22.240 What is honour?

00:18:23.740 What is modesty?

00:18:25.980 Can you define it?

00:18:26.940 Because

00:18:27.160 this topic

00:18:29.460 reminds me

00:18:30.240 an advice

00:18:31.540 that a Palestinian brother

00:18:32.880 told me

00:18:34.440 to raise my children.

00:18:36.140 He said

00:18:36.360 one advice

00:18:37.200 I will give you my brother

00:18:38.020 is never say

00:18:39.440 this is shameful,

00:18:40.760 this is not wrong,

00:18:41.540 this is not honourable.

00:18:42.800 Say this is halal,

00:18:43.620 this is haram.

00:18:44.340 Raise your children

00:18:45.180 like that

00:18:45.580 because I grew up

00:18:47.040 in Palestine,

00:18:47.720 I came here

00:18:48.340 and I travelled

00:18:49.320 to Germany

00:18:49.980 and in every society

00:18:51.920 what is shameful

00:18:52.960 could be normal

00:18:53.960 and could be

00:18:55.360 illegal to another

00:18:56.760 and we have

00:18:57.680 our legislation

00:18:58.960 which are

00:19:00.280 the Quran

00:19:00.920 and the Sunnah

00:19:01.540 and maybe

00:19:02.300 we should focus

00:19:03.200 on modesty

00:19:04.180 itself

00:19:04.620 as Allah

00:19:05.360 decreed it

00:19:08.480 and honour

00:19:09.820 and shame

00:19:10.580 maybe should be

00:19:11.700 left.

00:19:12.060 Yeah,

00:19:12.320 we have our own

00:19:13.160 objective principles

00:19:14.540 and morality.

00:19:15.860 Would you say

00:19:16.620 we're different?

00:19:17.660 Would you say

00:19:18.080 men and women

00:19:18.520 are different?

00:19:19.100 Absolutely,

00:19:19.700 yeah.

00:19:20.200 So don't you believe

00:19:21.060 that,

00:19:21.520 not don't you believe,

00:19:22.400 don't you think

00:19:22.980 that it should be

00:19:25.380 applied differently

00:19:26.100 if we are different

00:19:26.780 or do you think

00:19:27.960 it should be the same,

00:19:28.760 applied the same?

00:19:29.320 Well it is the same

00:19:31.420 in Islam

00:19:32.260 it's the same

00:19:33.100 modesty has to be

00:19:34.720 the same

00:19:35.120 it has to be

00:19:35.700 applied the same

00:19:36.960 again

00:19:37.660 it's only different

00:19:38.800 for a woman

00:19:39.800 when it comes

00:19:41.180 to the physical

00:19:41.860 appearance

00:19:42.600 where we have

00:19:43.320 to be more modest

00:19:44.100 in that aspect

00:19:45.040 but men also

00:19:46.840 neglect

00:19:47.460 like the brother

00:19:48.760 said

00:19:49.200 that modesty

00:19:51.120 you see a lot

00:19:52.080 of Muslim men

00:19:52.820 showing that

00:19:53.420 umbilical

00:19:53.980 their belly button

00:19:55.100 all the way

00:19:55.660 to their knees

00:19:56.260 or whatever

00:19:56.640 the case may be

00:19:57.860 that's a modesty

00:19:59.400 that is neglected

00:20:00.280 now it should be

00:20:01.840 applied

00:20:02.240 the same

00:20:03.980 and equally

00:20:04.780 the emphasis

00:20:05.760 I'm talking about

00:20:06.680 the emphasis

00:20:07.120 because that's what

00:20:07.960 Ali said

00:20:08.780 the emphasis

00:20:09.380 has to be the same

00:20:10.600 because

00:20:11.360 the punishment

00:20:12.820 is the same

00:20:13.640 in the grave

00:20:15.120 it's no different

00:20:16.080 that is

00:20:17.240 you know

00:20:17.800 you may feel differently

00:20:19.840 because you're a man

00:20:20.840 which is fine

00:20:21.880 and the way

00:20:22.400 you honour your sister

00:20:23.500 or honour your mother

00:20:24.540 or the way

00:20:25.280 you want her

00:20:25.800 to be out

00:20:26.400 here in the streets

00:20:27.400 might be different

00:20:28.640 of course

00:20:29.600 you have more

00:20:30.220 of that

00:20:30.620 that jealousy

00:20:32.340 over your

00:20:33.800 your wife

00:20:34.520 but

00:20:34.940 when you have

00:20:36.260 two kids

00:20:37.500 a boy and a girl

00:20:38.500 you have to

00:20:39.040 treat them

00:20:39.960 the same

00:20:40.560 and raise them

00:20:41.720 equally

00:20:42.340 so they both

00:20:43.340 have the same

00:20:44.080 principles

00:20:44.740 and morality

00:20:45.640 when they leave

00:20:46.660 your home

00:20:47.260 and go out

00:20:48.080 and conduct

00:20:48.640 themselves out

00:20:49.520 in the public

00:20:50.440 yeah I disagree

00:20:51.400 with that

00:20:51.960 because I think

00:20:53.340 we don't live

00:20:54.840 I mean I agree

00:20:55.420 with what you've

00:20:55.960 all said

00:20:56.300 but we don't

00:20:56.820 live in a perfect

00:20:57.560 world

00:20:57.980 and as much

00:20:59.540 as we want

00:21:00.060 it to be balanced

00:21:00.880 I don't see

00:21:01.960 it ever being

00:21:02.500 balanced

00:21:02.940 so to make sure

00:21:04.240 moving forward

00:21:04.760 if you do have

00:21:05.300 daughters

00:21:05.580 to protect them

00:21:06.320 you do have

00:21:07.300 to focus on them

00:21:07.980 a little bit more

00:21:08.700 in a way of

00:21:09.720 right you've got

00:21:10.240 to protect yourself

00:21:10.800 because she could

00:21:11.440 become a strong

00:21:12.480 independent woman

00:21:13.160 there's no doubt

00:21:14.120 in that

00:21:14.340 but once she's

00:21:15.020 out there

00:21:15.520 she is vulnerable

00:21:16.620 and we can't

00:21:18.160 ignore that

00:21:18.700 we can't overlook

00:21:19.340 that

00:21:19.660 because we can't

00:21:21.320 say well

00:21:21.800 you raise them

00:21:22.680 equally therefore

00:21:23.700 they can be fine

00:21:24.500 once they're out

00:21:25.060 there

00:21:25.220 because men

00:21:25.760 unfortunately

00:21:26.380 are going to

00:21:27.420 have these

00:21:27.720 struggles

00:21:28.020 and I think

00:21:29.620 if we don't

00:21:30.500 protect our

00:21:31.020 daughters in a

00:21:31.580 way where

00:21:32.020 we emphasize

00:21:32.780 protection

00:21:34.060 whether it's

00:21:34.900 modesty

00:21:35.380 honour

00:21:35.760 you know

00:21:36.740 whatever it

00:21:37.260 may be

00:21:37.740 they're more

00:21:38.940 likely to

00:21:39.840 suffer the

00:21:40.800 consequences

00:21:41.300 once they

00:21:41.880 are out

00:21:42.320 there

00:21:42.540 and I think

00:21:43.320 the way

00:21:43.560 that we're

00:21:43.860 going right

00:21:44.360 now

00:21:44.600 we're heading

00:21:45.300 to an

00:21:46.180 environment

00:21:46.520 a place

00:21:47.200 a world

00:21:47.480 where women

00:21:48.140 are hyper

00:21:49.020 independent

00:21:49.640 where they

00:21:50.640 will go

00:21:51.040 they will

00:21:51.380 travel abroad

00:21:52.120 they will

00:21:52.580 live by

00:21:53.400 themselves

00:21:53.880 they are

00:21:54.800 still vulnerable

00:21:55.460 and I think

00:21:56.560 that's

00:21:56.980 as a parent

00:21:57.620 myself

00:21:57.940 I would

00:21:58.460 I wouldn't

00:21:59.520 raise them

00:21:59.920 the same

00:22:00.360 I wouldn't

00:22:01.440 I would always

00:22:02.460 emphasize on my

00:22:03.240 daughter a lot

00:22:03.840 more than I

00:22:04.320 would on my

00:22:04.660 son

00:22:04.860 but when I

00:22:05.700 say emphasize

00:22:06.340 I'm not going

00:22:06.860 to say right

00:22:07.340 son it's okay

00:22:08.220 for you to be

00:22:08.700 out till 10

00:22:09.320 daughter no

00:22:09.880 home at 9

00:22:10.480 don't even

00:22:10.980 think about it

00:22:11.520 not like that

00:22:12.280 in a way

00:22:13.020 where the way

00:22:14.240 that I tailor

00:22:15.520 the upbringing

00:22:16.760 to her is

00:22:17.360 going to be

00:22:17.620 very different

00:22:18.360 and it's

00:22:19.180 going to be

00:22:19.320 very different

00:22:19.680 for the

00:22:19.980 son

00:22:20.180 I'm still

00:22:20.880 emphasizing

00:22:21.520 on both

00:22:22.060 but I'm

00:22:23.080 using very

00:22:23.780 different

00:22:24.140 strategies

00:22:24.560 to help

00:22:25.640 them

00:22:25.980 sort of

00:22:26.880 you know

00:22:27.120 be out

00:22:27.480 there

00:22:27.660 safe and

00:22:28.100 sound

00:22:28.400 so if I

00:22:29.060 understood

00:22:29.320 this correctly

00:22:29.780 I think

00:22:30.040 what you're

00:22:30.320 saying is

00:22:30.700 very valid

00:22:31.200 in the sense

00:22:31.660 where

00:22:31.980 agree and

00:22:33.220 disagree

00:22:33.480 in the sense

00:22:33.900 where

00:22:34.060 we'll actually

00:22:34.740 not agree

00:22:35.120 because you're

00:22:35.880 saying the

00:22:36.880 reality is

00:22:37.720 that of course

00:22:38.500 there should

00:22:38.980 be higher

00:22:39.360 for both

00:22:39.960 and we do

00:22:40.800 acknowledge what

00:22:41.440 you said

00:22:41.640 Michael

00:22:41.840 which is that

00:22:42.380 of course

00:22:42.760 they're different

00:22:43.200 as well

00:22:43.540 but you're

00:22:44.340 saying that

00:22:44.780 because

00:22:45.300 I mean

00:22:45.980 realistically

00:22:47.200 we would

00:22:47.600 want it

00:22:47.960 to be

00:22:48.300 where

00:22:48.660 that's

00:22:49.640 the case

00:22:49.980 but because

00:22:50.340 we live

00:22:50.740 in an

00:22:50.940 environment

00:22:51.220 we're in

00:22:51.500 the west

00:22:51.900 and in

00:22:52.840 the west

00:22:53.180 we know

00:22:54.020 how it is

00:22:54.440 sadly

00:22:54.680 so you're

00:22:55.340 saying because

00:22:55.920 of the

00:22:56.340 threats out

00:22:56.860 there I

00:22:57.220 have to

00:22:57.620 emphasize

00:22:58.020 on my

00:22:58.340 daughters

00:22:58.540 more

00:22:58.860 not because

00:23:00.140 you know

00:23:00.980 Islam says

00:23:01.560 basically

00:23:02.240 modesty

00:23:02.600 is modesty

00:23:03.040 do you get

00:23:03.340 it

00:23:03.480 we need

00:23:03.860 to understand

00:23:04.200 that when

00:23:04.620 it comes

00:23:04.960 to

00:23:05.500 aura

00:23:05.840 a man

00:23:06.800 showing

00:23:07.060 his knee

00:23:07.520 even if

00:23:07.920 it's

00:23:08.020 this much

00:23:08.480 yeah

00:23:09.160 this is

00:23:09.700 what we

00:23:09.920 need to

00:23:10.160 understand

00:23:10.440 when it

00:23:10.680 comes to

00:23:10.900 our

00:23:11.000 religion

00:23:11.200 it's

00:23:11.400 very

00:23:11.600 profound

00:23:11.960 and sorry

00:23:14.160 to give

00:23:14.360 these

00:23:14.480 examples

00:23:14.820 but if

00:23:15.300 a man

00:23:15.520 is showing

00:23:15.780 arguments

00:23:16.340 that's

00:23:16.600 his aura

00:23:16.960 here

00:23:17.220 whatever

00:23:17.880 you define

00:23:18.380 as aura

00:23:18.820 just because

00:23:19.620 this is

00:23:19.960 not a

00:23:20.260 fitna

00:23:21.100 for a

00:23:21.360 sister

00:23:21.580 irrelevant

00:23:22.260 that's

00:23:23.060 an aura

00:23:23.440 an aura

00:23:24.100 is an aura

00:23:24.580 it doesn't

00:23:24.840 matter

00:23:25.000 if a woman

00:23:26.120 is dressed

00:23:26.880 up in that

00:23:27.200 manner

00:23:27.340 so I

00:23:27.580 think you

00:23:27.800 are seeing

00:23:28.020 because

00:23:28.300 the threat

00:23:28.800 is greater

00:23:29.380 for the

00:23:30.120 sisters

00:23:30.540 that's

00:23:31.140 when his

00:23:31.340 emphasis

00:23:31.700 is true

00:23:32.140 but let's

00:23:33.280 come back

00:23:33.540 to a point

00:23:33.860 I'm going

00:23:34.140 to go to

00:23:34.540 the sister

00:23:34.760 inshallah

00:23:35.060 is again

00:23:36.040 I believe

00:23:38.040 genuinely

00:23:38.760 yeah

00:23:39.380 we should

00:23:40.440 of course

00:23:42.120 we should

00:23:42.400 advise

00:23:42.820 our

00:23:43.200 daughters

00:23:43.680 etc

00:23:44.040 but are

00:23:45.160 we doing

00:23:45.480 anything

00:23:45.760 for our

00:23:46.200 sons

00:23:46.460 I genuinely

00:23:47.420 believe

00:23:47.740 I don't

00:23:48.080 think we're

00:23:48.340 doing

00:23:48.500 anything

00:23:48.980 like I

00:23:49.560 feel like

00:23:49.920 I might

00:23:50.160 be wrong

00:23:50.480 who

00:23:51.300 like the

00:23:51.940 Muslim

00:23:52.300 father sitting

00:23:52.780 down and

00:23:53.140 saying

00:23:53.320 listen

00:23:54.020 if you

00:23:54.640 come across

00:23:55.080 a woman

00:23:55.420 she doesn't

00:23:56.920 respect herself

00:23:57.640 you respect

00:23:58.980 her or

00:23:59.400 I don't

00:24:00.120 see it

00:24:00.620 that's my

00:24:01.080 point of

00:24:01.400 this

00:24:01.540 discussion

00:24:01.860 I don't

00:24:02.760 see the

00:24:03.080 great

00:24:03.240 emphasis

00:24:03.560 I know

00:24:04.420 every

00:24:04.980 single

00:24:05.520 sister

00:24:06.020 has definitely

00:24:06.960 been sat

00:24:07.660 in front

00:24:07.880 of a

00:24:08.080 brother

00:24:08.340 or a

00:24:09.000 father

00:24:09.240 and been

00:24:09.600 like

00:24:09.700 listen

00:24:09.940 you're

00:24:10.980 going

00:24:11.120 out

00:24:11.200 the

00:24:11.280 house

00:24:11.400 like

00:24:11.520 that

00:24:11.960 but is

00:24:13.140 that

00:24:13.280 happening

00:24:13.440 to

00:24:13.600 our

00:24:13.760 sons

00:24:14.000 no

00:24:14.640 sister

00:24:15.780 yeah

00:24:16.500 I think

00:24:17.080 to

00:24:17.780 piggyback

00:24:18.260 on that

00:24:18.660 everything

00:24:19.260 stems

00:24:19.600 from

00:24:19.780 childhood

00:24:20.080 right

00:24:20.640 so in

00:24:21.320 the

00:24:21.420 manner

00:24:21.580 that

00:24:21.760 we

00:24:21.980 raise

00:24:22.380 our

00:24:22.620 boys

00:24:22.980 in

00:24:23.220 comparison

00:24:23.540 to the

00:24:23.840 way

00:24:23.940 that

00:24:24.040 we

00:24:24.160 raise

00:24:24.380 our

00:24:24.540 girls

00:24:24.820 right

00:24:25.180 so for

00:24:26.040 those

00:24:26.240 of us

00:24:26.480 that

00:24:26.580 were

00:24:26.700 raised

00:24:26.980 in

00:24:27.200 households

00:24:27.620 where

00:24:27.840 we

00:24:27.960 had

00:24:28.100 brothers

00:24:28.400 we

00:24:29.040 know

00:24:29.220 that

00:24:29.360 we

00:24:29.480 were

00:24:29.640 taught

00:24:29.860 the

00:24:30.040 importance

00:24:30.400 of

00:24:30.700 wearing

00:24:31.320 a

00:24:31.520 hijab

00:24:31.880 in

00:24:32.380 comparison

00:24:32.720 to

00:24:32.940 our

00:24:33.080 brothers

00:24:33.360 they

00:24:33.560 weren't

00:24:33.800 taught

00:24:34.000 that

00:24:34.260 same

00:24:34.620 emphasis

00:24:34.960 wasn't

00:24:35.880 put on

00:24:36.160 them

00:24:36.360 right

00:24:36.680 so for

00:24:36.960 instance

00:24:37.140 you see

00:24:37.520 sometimes

00:24:37.980 some mothers

00:24:38.580 or fathers

00:24:39.140 walking out

00:24:40.140 with their

00:24:40.380 children

00:24:40.680 and the

00:24:41.340 daughter is

00:24:41.720 covered from

00:24:42.140 head to

00:24:42.400 toe

00:24:42.540 and

00:24:42.640 hijab

00:24:44.460 and the

00:24:44.720 boy is

00:24:45.000 wearing

00:24:45.180 shorts

00:24:45.580 and he's

00:24:45.960 wearing

00:24:46.140 vests

00:24:46.480 and he's

00:24:47.180 wearing

00:24:47.940 whatever he

00:24:49.000 wants to

00:24:49.260 wear

00:24:49.380 you know

00:24:49.660 and that

00:24:50.580 is not

00:24:51.100 in accordance

00:24:51.960 to the

00:24:52.220 teachings

00:24:52.540 and the

00:24:52.840 laws of

00:24:53.120 islam

00:24:53.420 we know

00:24:53.660 that

00:24:53.860 right

00:24:54.120 so

00:24:54.760 and like

00:24:55.640 the

00:24:55.760 brother

00:24:55.900 said

00:24:56.160 earlier

00:24:56.480 different

00:24:57.660 cultures

00:24:58.240 define

00:24:58.980 honour

00:24:59.280 differently

00:25:02.940 honour

00:25:03.380 you know

00:25:04.460 majority

00:25:04.860 of the

00:25:05.100 times

00:25:05.360 is placed

00:25:05.940 on the

00:25:06.800 woman

00:25:07.020 so the

00:25:07.460 honour

00:25:07.660 of the

00:25:08.020 family

00:25:08.460 you know

00:25:10.000 most of

00:25:10.780 the times

00:25:11.180 is dependent

00:25:12.560 or contingent

00:25:13.340 upon the

00:25:13.900 way that

00:25:14.140 the woman

00:25:14.420 acts

00:25:14.780 right

00:25:15.320 so the

00:25:15.820 way that

00:25:16.140 the woman

00:25:16.420 is

00:25:16.680 so if

00:25:17.560 the woman

00:25:17.880 is dishonourable

00:25:18.720 say for instance

00:25:19.260 she does

00:25:19.660 things that

00:25:20.140 may dishonour

00:25:21.000 herself

00:25:21.380 now instantly

00:25:22.360 you know

00:25:23.540 this family

00:25:24.080 is deemed

00:25:24.520 to be a

00:25:25.060 dishonourable

00:25:25.500 family

00:25:25.820 she's

00:25:26.160 tarnished

00:25:26.560 the reputation

00:25:27.500 of the

00:25:28.140 family

00:25:28.360 this is why

00:25:28.920 only killings

00:25:29.760 exist

00:25:30.120 right

00:25:30.560 if the

00:25:31.180 woman does

00:25:31.640 something that

00:25:32.260 you know

00:25:32.640 displeases

00:25:33.440 her father

00:25:34.120 or the

00:25:34.540 male relatives

00:25:35.000 in her

00:25:35.260 family

00:25:35.520 they you

00:25:36.440 know

00:25:36.640 they resort

00:25:38.280 to unfortunately

00:25:39.020 taking her

00:25:39.640 life

00:25:39.940 right

00:25:40.200 so this is

00:25:40.640 something that

00:25:41.060 exists

00:25:41.360 so everything

00:25:42.080 stems from

00:25:42.620 childhood

00:25:42.960 this notion

00:25:43.980 of boys

00:25:44.520 will be

00:25:44.760 boys

00:25:45.160 men

00:25:45.760 will be

00:25:46.040 men

00:25:46.360 let him

00:25:47.140 do

00:25:47.500 you know

00:25:47.820 what he

00:25:48.060 please

00:25:48.420 like I

00:25:48.860 remember

00:25:49.100 growing up

00:25:49.600 being raised

00:25:50.200 with this

00:25:50.840 idea that

00:25:51.420 a man

00:25:52.120 has no

00:25:52.460 shame

00:25:52.780 you know

00:25:53.380 a man

00:25:53.820 he can

00:25:54.380 do as

00:25:54.640 he pleases

00:25:55.100 ultimately

00:25:55.880 the shame

00:25:56.360 will fall

00:25:56.820 on his

00:25:57.340 female relatives

00:25:58.060 right

00:25:58.340 whereas a

00:25:59.580 woman

00:25:59.840 right

00:26:00.440 it's

00:26:00.940 entirely

00:26:01.460 different

00:26:01.900 you know

00:26:03.040 she doesn't

00:26:03.720 have

00:26:04.020 that same

00:26:05.100 level of

00:26:05.500 grace

00:26:05.740 isn't given

00:26:06.220 to her

00:26:06.580 right

00:26:07.040 so even

00:26:07.500 say for

00:26:07.880 instance

00:26:08.000 the woman

00:26:08.360 is a good

00:26:08.720 sister

00:26:09.040 you know

00:26:09.740 she's

00:26:10.140 she's

00:26:10.800 practicing

00:26:11.120 islam

00:26:11.420 but she's

00:26:11.680 not wearing

00:26:11.940 hijab

00:26:12.300 she's

00:26:12.760 instantly

00:26:13.080 deemed to

00:26:13.480 be dishonorable

00:26:14.060 whereas the

00:26:14.880 brother

00:26:15.100 he could

00:26:15.720 be a drug

00:26:16.220 dealer

00:26:16.420 he could

00:26:16.620 be

00:26:16.740 whatever

00:26:17.000 he could

00:26:17.280 be

00:26:17.380 incarcerated

00:26:17.880 but that

00:26:19.040 same

00:26:19.480 level of

00:26:20.280 you know

00:26:20.720 the emphasis

00:26:21.240 of you know

00:26:21.920 he's a dishonorable

00:26:23.040 person

00:26:23.560 with this and that

00:26:24.260 is not placed

00:26:25.160 upon this

00:26:25.860 sister

00:26:26.160 him

00:26:26.820 the brother

00:26:27.220 unfortunately

00:26:27.720 can I

00:26:28.240 can I just

00:26:28.720 add to that

00:26:29.260 because you

00:26:29.640 talk

00:26:29.880 just off

00:26:30.760 back what

00:26:31.080 you just

00:26:31.340 said

00:26:31.660 I think

00:26:32.840 to be

00:26:33.380 frank

00:26:33.880 and if

00:26:34.340 we're

00:26:35.320 honest

00:26:35.680 the honour

00:26:36.180 on

00:26:36.860 the reason

00:26:37.820 why we've

00:26:38.540 put the

00:26:39.160 responsibility

00:26:40.180 of honour

00:26:41.000 on the

00:26:41.800 female

00:26:42.160 is to

00:26:43.180 do

00:26:43.540 with

00:26:44.120 virginity

00:26:44.660 and that's

00:26:45.120 kind of

00:26:45.380 where it

00:26:45.720 started

00:26:46.100 and

00:26:47.340 no one

00:26:48.340 questions

00:26:48.860 males

00:26:49.900 with regards

00:26:50.740 to that

00:26:51.160 you know

00:26:51.500 aspect of

00:26:52.140 things

00:26:52.520 and that's

00:26:52.940 not a

00:26:53.240 topic of

00:26:53.640 discussion

00:26:54.120 when sisters

00:26:55.240 come to

00:26:55.620 get married

00:26:56.060 I mean

00:26:56.340 I'm talking

00:26:56.740 about certain

00:26:57.360 cultures

00:26:57.880 or back

00:26:58.440 in the

00:26:58.680 day

00:26:58.920 doesn't

00:26:59.380 happen

00:26:59.620 in every

00:26:59.980 culture

00:27:00.360 but that's

00:27:01.160 actually

00:27:01.420 where it

00:27:01.780 started

00:27:02.120 from

00:27:02.560 so

00:27:03.200 someone

00:27:03.860 that was

00:27:04.520 never

00:27:04.980 married

00:27:05.460 was expected

00:27:06.440 obviously

00:27:07.140 as per

00:27:08.140 islam

00:27:08.580 anyway

00:27:09.060 to

00:27:09.920 you know

00:27:10.660 be a

00:27:11.440 virgin

00:27:11.720 if you

00:27:12.560 were

00:27:12.720 divorced

00:27:13.300 that

00:27:13.860 obviously

00:27:14.240 we all

00:27:14.680 know

00:27:14.940 that

00:27:15.340 that

00:27:15.620 wouldn't

00:27:15.860 be the

00:27:16.140 case

00:27:16.340 necessarily

00:27:16.920 so

00:27:17.500 the

00:27:17.700 honour

00:27:18.080 starts

00:27:18.700 off

00:27:19.020 from

00:27:19.380 there

00:27:19.700 so

00:27:19.980 there's

00:27:20.540 a

00:27:20.680 price

00:27:20.940 was

00:27:21.720 put

00:27:22.000 on

00:27:22.180 that

00:27:22.420 so

00:27:22.760 you know

00:27:23.120 someone

00:27:23.940 would

00:27:24.140 come

00:27:24.440 want

00:27:24.840 to

00:27:25.000 marry

00:27:25.280 someone's

00:27:25.920 daughter

00:27:26.240 I

00:27:26.960 have

00:27:27.320 three

00:27:27.680 daughters

00:27:28.120 who

00:27:28.440 are

00:27:29.440 all

00:27:29.640 unmarried

00:27:30.320 so

00:27:30.840 you

00:27:31.120 have

00:27:31.400 those

00:27:32.080 girls

00:27:32.680 are

00:27:33.620 carrying

00:27:34.220 the

00:27:34.760 honour

00:27:35.040 of the

00:27:35.520 family

00:27:35.940 on

00:27:36.260 that

00:27:36.440 basis

00:27:36.960 of

00:27:37.360 them

00:27:38.620 being

00:27:39.460 moral

00:27:39.980 or

00:27:40.300 immoral

00:27:40.840 and

00:27:41.340 it's

00:27:41.540 to do

00:27:41.780 with

00:27:41.960 that

00:27:42.180 and

00:27:42.460 sister

00:27:42.920 Amira

00:27:43.220 mentioned

00:27:43.720 earlier

00:27:44.440 about

00:27:44.660 red

00:27:44.900 pill

00:27:45.180 and

00:27:45.360 that's

00:27:45.540 why

00:27:45.660 red

00:27:45.880 pill

00:27:46.080 goes

00:27:46.400 on

00:27:46.660 about

00:27:47.040 you

00:27:47.560 know

00:27:47.740 body

00:27:48.220 counts

00:27:48.720 and

00:27:48.980 you

00:27:49.460 know

00:27:49.580 women

00:27:49.960 and

00:27:50.680 you

00:27:50.940 know

00:27:51.020 whatever

00:27:51.280 they're

00:27:51.640 doing

00:27:52.060 and

00:27:52.320 that

00:27:52.880 kind of

00:27:53.400 value

00:27:53.800 and

00:27:54.100 that

00:27:54.240 is

00:27:54.380 where

00:27:54.560 it

00:27:54.740 stems

00:27:55.020 from

00:27:55.480 and

00:27:56.280 also

00:27:57.260 not

00:27:58.220 to

00:27:58.420 conflate

00:27:58.940 in

00:27:59.380 my

00:27:59.540 opinion

00:28:00.000 honour

00:28:00.680 with

00:28:01.100 modesty

00:28:01.780 because

00:28:02.240 you

00:28:02.740 can

00:28:02.960 have

00:28:03.500 someone

00:28:04.980 that

00:28:05.200 appears

00:28:05.560 to be

00:28:05.780 modest

00:28:06.100 like

00:28:06.360 sister

00:28:06.600 Mary

00:28:06.780 said

00:28:07.080 that's

00:28:07.600 really

00:28:07.840 dishonourable

00:28:08.320 and

00:28:08.520 vice

00:28:08.760 versa

00:28:09.140 also

00:28:10.560 I do

00:28:11.140 agree

00:28:11.500 with

00:28:11.740 sister

00:28:12.020 Ira

00:28:12.300 to an

00:28:12.800 extent

00:28:12.980 in

00:28:13.200 the

00:28:13.320 sense

00:28:13.580 where

00:28:13.900 we've

00:28:14.900 got

00:28:15.100 to

00:28:15.500 equip

00:28:16.140 our

00:28:16.420 children

00:28:16.820 with

00:28:17.540 different

00:28:17.880 skill

00:28:18.140 sets

00:28:18.400 based

00:28:19.480 on

00:28:19.640 their

00:28:19.800 gender

00:28:20.140 to

00:28:20.400 survive

00:28:20.860 in

00:28:21.160 society

00:28:21.740 the

00:28:22.920 risks

00:28:23.160 are

00:28:23.320 different

00:28:23.580 for

00:28:23.780 girls

00:28:24.020 than

00:28:24.280 they

00:28:24.440 are

00:28:24.520 for

00:28:24.640 boys

00:28:25.080 yes

00:28:26.640 sometimes

00:28:27.280 modest

00:28:27.940 dress

00:28:28.240 or

00:28:28.440 immodest

00:28:28.840 dress

00:28:29.080 can

00:28:29.380 be

00:28:29.540 a

00:28:29.740 form

00:28:30.040 of

00:28:30.460 creating

00:28:30.900 risk

00:28:31.280 for

00:28:31.480 yourself

00:28:31.900 or

00:28:32.160 immodest

00:28:32.580 dress

00:28:32.840 in

00:28:32.980 a

00:28:33.100 sense

00:28:33.360 but

00:28:33.800 I

00:28:33.900 don't

00:28:34.060 entirely

00:28:34.400 agree

00:28:34.800 with

00:28:35.080 that

00:28:35.340 because

00:28:35.700 there

00:28:35.980 are

00:28:36.180 hijabi

00:28:36.560 sisters

00:28:37.060 that

00:28:37.660 have

00:28:37.900 been

00:28:38.080 attacked

00:28:38.580 most

00:28:39.060 recently

00:28:39.460 there

00:28:39.820 was

00:28:39.940 a

00:28:40.080 case

00:28:40.380 of

00:28:40.820 a

00:28:40.900 hijabi

00:28:41.140 sister

00:28:41.520 not

00:28:41.880 long

00:28:42.060 ago

00:28:42.260 a

00:28:42.400 few

00:28:42.500 weeks

00:28:42.760 ago

00:28:43.120 that

00:28:43.760 was

00:28:43.940 attacked

00:28:44.960 by

00:28:46.500 a

00:28:46.820 male

00:28:47.100 in

00:28:48.020 London

00:28:48.460 and

00:28:49.540 you

00:28:49.820 know

00:28:50.020 how

00:28:50.940 do

00:28:51.120 you

00:28:51.360 define

00:28:52.020 that

00:28:52.280 I

00:28:52.300 wasn't

00:28:52.560 talking

00:28:52.780 about

00:28:53.140 dress

00:28:53.460 it

00:28:54.020 was

00:28:54.840 how

00:28:55.160 we

00:28:55.320 raise

00:28:55.600 them

00:28:55.800 mentally

00:28:56.300 to

00:28:56.840 survive

00:28:57.280 not

00:28:57.680 necessarily

00:28:57.920 to

00:28:58.080 survive

00:28:58.460 that's

00:28:59.920 what

00:29:00.080 we're

00:29:00.240 trying

00:29:00.400 to do

00:29:00.600 on

00:29:00.680 this

00:29:00.800 earth

00:29:00.960 anyways

00:29:01.280 but

00:29:01.480 it's

00:29:01.640 more

00:29:01.760 like

00:29:01.900 when

00:29:02.000 you

00:29:02.080 go

00:29:02.220 out

00:29:02.440 there

00:29:02.700 how

00:29:03.520 to

00:29:03.740 protect

00:29:04.100 yourself

00:29:04.500 how

00:29:04.680 to

00:29:04.800 be

00:29:04.940 cautious

00:29:05.380 and

00:29:05.940 like

00:29:06.580 red

00:29:07.040 flags

00:29:07.480 because

00:29:09.160 they

00:29:09.540 are

00:29:09.800 vulnerable

00:29:10.240 nobody

00:29:11.080 can

00:29:11.380 overlook

00:29:11.760 that

00:29:12.080 so

00:29:12.840 I

00:29:12.960 think

00:29:13.160 a

00:29:14.380 culture

00:29:14.660 plays

00:29:14.960 a

00:29:15.060 big

00:29:15.220 role

00:29:15.460 in

00:29:15.620 this

00:29:15.820 I

00:29:15.960 think

00:29:16.080 once

00:29:16.300 again

00:29:16.500 culture

00:29:16.820 is

00:29:17.000 the

00:29:17.140 issue

00:29:17.480 because

00:29:18.200 it's

00:29:19.000 like

00:29:19.220 as you

00:29:19.540 said

00:29:19.780 like

00:29:20.020 honour

00:29:20.740 killings

00:29:21.320 that

00:29:21.620 happens

00:29:21.960 even

00:29:22.280 in my

00:29:22.640 culture

00:29:22.920 that

00:29:23.100 happens

00:29:23.600 regardless

00:29:24.040 of where

00:29:24.440 it is

00:29:24.740 in the

00:29:24.900 world

00:29:25.100 but

00:29:25.320 I

00:29:25.820 think

00:29:26.100 naturally

00:29:27.440 because

00:29:27.840 a woman

00:29:28.080 has more

00:29:28.460 to lose

00:29:29.060 and

00:29:30.440 you know

00:29:30.740 a small

00:29:31.220 little

00:29:31.420 rumour

00:29:31.800 could

00:29:32.060 destroy

00:29:32.400 her

00:29:32.620 in the

00:29:32.900 entire

00:29:33.120 future

00:29:33.620 yeah

00:29:33.960 that's

00:29:34.420 true

00:29:34.660 why

00:29:34.960 mothers

00:29:35.800 especially

00:29:36.300 focus

00:29:36.680 more

00:29:36.960 on

00:29:37.160 right

00:29:37.440 you

00:29:37.660 know

00:29:37.760 you

00:29:38.180 can't

00:29:38.420 go

00:29:38.540 wow

00:29:38.760 and

00:29:38.960 it's

00:29:39.180 like

00:29:39.360 they

00:29:39.520 imprison

00:29:39.940 them

00:29:40.220 almost

00:29:40.640 and

00:29:40.800 when

00:29:40.900 it

00:29:41.020 comes

00:29:41.220 to

00:29:41.340 the

00:29:41.480 son

00:29:41.660 mothers

00:29:42.440 are

00:29:42.660 more

00:29:42.860 lenient

00:29:43.320 than

00:29:43.520 the

00:29:43.700 fathers

00:29:44.020 are

00:29:44.340 which

00:29:44.540 is

00:29:44.680 shocking

00:29:45.060 can I

00:29:45.280 just say

00:29:46.740 let me

00:29:47.840 just say

00:29:48.220 something

00:29:48.560 in regards

00:29:49.760 to women

00:29:50.280 we are

00:29:50.960 really

00:29:51.320 brought up

00:29:51.860 as these

00:29:52.280 weak

00:29:52.700 fragile

00:29:53.200 things

00:29:54.100 like

00:29:54.480 damsel

00:29:55.500 in

00:29:55.800 distress

00:29:56.200 I'll be

00:29:57.200 honest

00:29:57.520 I was

00:29:58.080 raised

00:29:58.400 quite tough

00:29:59.200 my

00:29:59.920 dad

00:30:00.780 never

00:30:01.440 allowed

00:30:01.920 me

00:30:02.120 to be

00:30:02.560 a

00:30:02.780 victim

00:30:03.040 in

00:30:03.660 this

00:30:03.900 world

00:30:04.260 he

00:30:04.760 obviously

00:30:05.180 taught

00:30:06.120 me

00:30:06.360 that

00:30:06.720 you know

00:30:07.100 you have

00:30:07.480 to be

00:30:07.740 strong

00:30:08.100 be

00:30:08.680 aware

00:30:08.980 don't

00:30:09.300 walk

00:30:09.500 down

00:30:09.720 the

00:30:09.880 alleyway

00:30:10.260 you've

00:30:10.480 got

00:30:10.560 to be

00:30:10.840 street

00:30:11.120 smart

00:30:11.500 as well

00:30:11.860 at the

00:30:12.160 same

00:30:12.360 time

00:30:12.780 but when

00:30:13.360 it

00:30:13.500 comes

00:30:13.760 to the

00:30:14.180 to the

00:30:14.780 thing

00:30:15.200 of raising

00:30:15.820 your

00:30:16.100 kids

00:30:16.480 if I'm

00:30:17.340 raising

00:30:17.620 my

00:30:17.800 if I

00:30:18.080 had

00:30:18.260 a son

00:30:18.620 if Allah

00:30:18.940 blessed

00:30:19.220 me

00:30:19.380 a son

00:30:20.320 I'm

00:30:20.860 raising

00:30:21.180 my daughter

00:30:22.200 just as

00:30:22.760 tough

00:30:23.180 as I'm

00:30:23.720 raising

00:30:23.960 my son

00:30:24.760 because

00:30:25.380 at the

00:30:25.760 end

00:30:25.940 of the

00:30:26.180 day

00:30:26.500 they're

00:30:27.480 not

00:30:27.660 gonna

00:30:27.940 go out

00:30:29.740 in the

00:30:30.000 world

00:30:30.240 with two

00:30:30.760 separate

00:30:31.200 no

00:30:31.500 it is

00:30:32.320 the same

00:30:32.760 thing

00:30:33.280 morals

00:30:34.360 principles

00:30:35.560 character

00:30:36.460 builds

00:30:37.380 a human

00:30:37.920 being

00:30:38.320 so if

00:30:38.960 you're

00:30:39.840 disciplined

00:30:40.740 and you

00:30:41.720 teach your

00:30:42.220 kids to be

00:30:42.660 disciplined

00:30:43.020 in China

00:30:43.840 do you think

00:30:44.280 they're teaching

00:30:44.860 the girls

00:30:45.280 and boys

00:30:45.660 to be

00:30:45.980 completely

00:30:46.360 different

00:30:46.840 they're

00:30:47.880 raising

00:30:48.240 soldiers

00:30:48.800 in China

00:30:49.300 right now

00:30:49.720 whilst here

00:30:50.400 we're

00:30:51.500 literally

00:30:52.220 we don't

00:30:52.900 know if

00:30:53.180 this one's

00:30:53.620 a man

00:30:53.980 or a

00:30:54.640 woman

00:30:54.880 we're

00:30:56.360 too

00:30:56.880 weak

00:30:57.620 we're

00:30:58.480 not

00:30:58.660 disciplined

00:30:59.260 and then

00:31:00.080 you have

00:31:00.380 this red

00:31:00.880 pill

00:31:01.220 ideology

00:31:02.440 and a lot

00:31:02.900 of our

00:31:03.200 Muslim

00:31:03.600 brothers

00:31:04.320 and younger

00:31:05.240 youth

00:31:05.660 who are

00:31:05.980 following

00:31:06.320 this

00:31:06.680 red

00:31:07.500 pill

00:31:07.740 ideology

00:31:08.440 yeah

00:31:09.340 they're

00:31:10.340 following

00:31:10.660 degeneracy

00:31:12.160 with the

00:31:13.160 red

00:31:13.360 pill

00:31:13.600 ideology

00:31:14.160 they're

00:31:14.600 completely

00:31:15.220 degenerate

00:31:16.020 I'm just

00:31:16.040 holding myself

00:31:16.780 for too

00:31:17.460 long

00:31:17.620 so I

00:31:17.940 wanted to

00:31:18.420 make a

00:31:18.900 good comment

00:31:19.340 is it

00:31:20.460 from someone

00:31:20.820 else

00:31:20.980 is it

00:31:21.880 someone

00:31:22.200 you disagree

00:31:22.580 with

00:31:22.760 I disagree

00:31:24.000 with

00:31:24.360 the

00:31:24.760 hopping

00:31:25.640 from

00:31:25.880 subject

00:31:26.180 to

00:31:26.340 another

00:31:26.580 I think

00:31:27.960 that the

00:31:28.320 root

00:31:28.660 of the

00:31:29.280 problem

00:31:29.520 as I

00:31:29.840 said

00:31:30.120 and the

00:31:30.880 sister

00:31:31.200 gave

00:31:31.920 a

00:31:32.600 very

00:31:34.120 good

00:31:34.420 explanation

00:31:35.640 about

00:31:36.100 honor

00:31:36.760 killing

00:31:37.120 you

00:31:37.920 described

00:31:39.160 jahiliyyah

00:31:40.000 straight up

00:31:40.800 and

00:31:41.620 Islam

00:31:42.480 came

00:31:43.320 exactly

00:31:44.220 to find

00:31:45.160 all this

00:31:45.840 nonsense

00:31:46.160 and I

00:31:47.200 think that

00:31:47.560 the root

00:31:47.960 of the

00:31:48.180 problem

00:31:48.460 is not

00:31:49.220 the red

00:31:49.960 pill

00:31:50.180 or the

00:31:50.580 gender

00:31:50.880 or the

00:31:51.780 education

00:31:52.220 is our

00:31:53.300 lack

00:31:53.720 of Islamic

00:31:54.560 knowledge

00:31:54.920 if we

00:31:56.000 want something

00:31:56.500 else

00:31:56.800 go get

00:31:57.560 another

00:31:57.800 religion

00:31:58.320 our religion

00:31:59.260 is Islam

00:31:59.980 and if

00:32:02.840 you want

00:32:03.460 to understand

00:32:04.020 why we

00:32:05.100 don't have

00:32:05.960 the same

00:32:06.880 balance

00:32:07.740 in our

00:32:09.240 education

00:32:09.580 of the

00:32:09.900 youth

00:32:10.200 when

00:32:10.760 regarding

00:32:11.440 to the

00:32:12.080 modesty

00:32:13.600 it's because

00:32:14.100 we didn't

00:32:14.680 understand our

00:32:15.260 jinn

00:32:15.460 that's

00:32:16.620 in a

00:32:17.780 nutshell

00:32:18.060 sorry for

00:32:20.660 interrupting

00:32:20.960 I just wanted

00:32:21.760 to agree

00:32:22.140 with the

00:32:22.400 sister

00:32:22.620 in the

00:32:22.840 end

00:32:22.960 about

00:32:23.280 letting

00:32:24.040 boys

00:32:24.300 be

00:32:24.460 boys

00:32:24.680 and men

00:32:24.980 be

00:32:25.120 men

00:32:25.380 if you

00:32:26.080 let

00:32:26.220 boys

00:32:26.460 be

00:32:26.620 boys

00:32:26.920 a lot

00:32:27.220 of the

00:32:27.360 time

00:32:27.560 they just

00:32:27.860 revert to

00:32:28.360 how they

00:32:28.660 feel

00:32:29.040 more

00:32:30.520 animalistic

00:32:31.340 like the

00:32:32.040 reptile

00:32:32.420 side of

00:32:32.800 your

00:32:32.880 brain

00:32:33.160 if you

00:32:33.440 just

00:32:33.600 let

00:32:33.740 boys

00:32:34.340 be

00:32:34.560 boys

00:32:34.860 they

00:32:35.400 just

00:32:35.620 do

00:32:35.820 however

00:32:36.100 they

00:32:36.320 feel

00:32:36.520 them

00:32:36.760 especially

00:32:37.880 in my

00:32:39.460 culture

00:32:39.880 growing up

00:32:41.560 in England

00:32:42.540 because

00:32:44.040 religion's

00:32:44.940 been forgotten

00:32:45.680 here

00:32:46.120 it's more

00:32:47.160 so

00:32:47.480 you can

00:32:48.600 just go

00:32:48.860 on based

00:32:49.240 on how

00:32:49.500 you feel

00:32:49.840 and that

00:32:50.420 goes for

00:32:50.720 girls as

00:32:51.120 well

00:32:51.280 that's

00:32:52.140 very

00:32:52.340 evident

00:32:52.640 if you

00:32:53.460 look at

00:32:53.780 society

00:32:54.160 if you

00:32:54.420 look at

00:32:54.660 social

00:32:54.880 media

00:32:55.240 that's

00:32:56.060 why

00:32:56.220 I find

00:32:56.680 Islam

00:32:57.020 so

00:32:57.260 important

00:32:57.540 and it's

00:32:57.840 why I

00:32:58.140 picked

00:32:58.320 Islam

00:32:59.040 because

00:32:59.440 I'm

00:32:59.820 personally

00:33:00.140 not a

00:33:00.500 tolerant

00:33:00.720 person

00:33:01.200 and I

00:33:02.040 feel like

00:33:02.600 if you

00:33:03.080 stand for

00:33:03.960 nothing

00:33:04.780 there you

00:33:08.060 go

00:33:08.240 so that's

00:33:09.340 why I

00:33:09.760 was laying

00:33:10.560 in bed

00:33:10.820 and I

00:33:11.040 just thought

00:33:11.480 I actually

00:33:12.320 believe

00:33:12.820 this

00:33:13.640 and so

00:33:14.300 I went

00:33:14.640 to the

00:33:14.880 mosque in

00:33:15.240 Britain

00:33:15.480 and I

00:33:15.900 reverted

00:33:16.400 and I

00:33:16.660 became

00:33:16.860 Muslim

00:33:17.200 and I

00:33:17.980 think

00:33:18.240 if

00:33:18.440 everyone

00:33:18.880 anyone

00:33:20.240 needs to

00:33:20.620 read the

00:33:20.900 Quran

00:33:21.100 and think

00:33:21.660 they only

00:33:22.200 need to

00:33:22.500 read it

00:33:22.840 and they'll

00:33:23.120 know

00:33:23.440 the right

00:33:24.360 way to

00:33:24.680 live

00:33:24.880 and that

00:33:26.060 goes for

00:33:26.420 man or

00:33:26.740 woman

00:33:26.940 and I

00:33:27.540 think after

00:33:27.900 listening to

00:33:28.400 the sisters

00:33:28.860 you're definitely

00:33:29.960 right when it

00:33:30.620 comes to

00:33:31.060 modesty on

00:33:32.220 both

00:33:32.520 when it

00:33:33.180 comes to

00:33:33.560 covering

00:33:33.920 yourself

00:33:34.380 both

00:33:35.280 the only

00:33:36.180 thing I

00:33:36.500 would disagree

00:33:36.960 with though

00:33:37.560 is the

00:33:38.580 problems both

00:33:39.540 men and

00:33:39.860 women are

00:33:40.140 going to

00:33:40.340 face

00:33:40.660 I can't

00:33:43.080 talk on

00:33:44.120 what women

00:33:44.420 are going

00:33:44.600 to face

00:33:44.840 I'm not

00:33:45.020 a woman

00:33:45.240 but for

00:33:47.560 men I

00:33:47.940 can definitely

00:33:48.420 say that

00:33:49.420 there are

00:33:49.620 things that

00:33:50.040 men will

00:33:50.440 face that

00:33:50.820 women want

00:33:51.220 and women

00:33:51.540 will face

00:33:51.980 that men

00:33:52.280 want

00:33:52.540 and I

00:33:53.140 think

00:33:53.340 we can

00:33:55.260 argue

00:33:55.540 back and

00:33:55.920 forth on

00:33:56.260 this all

00:33:56.600 day

00:33:56.800 that I

00:33:57.560 genuinely

00:33:58.200 believe that

00:33:58.860 men and

00:33:59.140 women should

00:33:59.940 be taught

00:34:00.600 slightly

00:34:01.380 different

00:34:01.760 things as

00:34:02.260 they're

00:34:02.440 growing up

00:34:02.860 to conquer

00:34:05.660 different battles

00:34:06.260 that they're

00:34:06.560 going to face

00:34:07.000 in life

00:34:07.320 that's it

00:34:09.140 I agree

00:34:09.600 I will also

00:34:10.780 add that

00:34:11.220 it's not

00:34:11.700 just about

00:34:12.180 covering

00:34:12.580 yourself

00:34:13.040 it's how

00:34:13.740 you behave

00:34:15.120 how you

00:34:15.820 walk

00:34:16.040 modesty is

00:34:19.360 brought down

00:34:19.740 to just

00:34:20.520 your clothing

00:34:21.000 and that's

00:34:22.920 not just

00:34:23.260 it

00:34:23.440 but a few

00:34:23.880 things like

00:34:24.520 for example

00:34:24.960 when it

00:34:25.200 comes to

00:34:25.400 honor killing

00:34:25.700 this is

00:34:25.980 totally against

00:34:26.460 Islam

00:34:26.780 this concept

00:34:27.640 of honor

00:34:27.940 killing

00:34:28.160 it's

00:34:29.300 crazy

00:34:31.660 the fact

00:34:32.220 that people

00:34:32.540 describe this

00:34:33.200 as Islam

00:34:33.600 Islam is

00:34:34.760 totally against

00:34:35.520 it

00:34:35.680 there is

00:34:37.140 nothing

00:34:37.560 this concept

00:34:38.600 of if

00:34:39.320 you're

00:34:39.500 your daughter

00:34:39.720 goes and

00:34:40.080 gets a

00:34:40.360 boyfriend

00:34:40.720 or arguing

00:34:41.800 you found

00:34:42.160 that she

00:34:42.440 committed

00:34:42.760 zina

00:34:43.040 but you

00:34:43.620 kill her

00:34:43.940 there's no

00:34:44.620 text in

00:34:45.260 Islam

00:34:45.640 anywhere

00:34:46.920 even worse

00:34:48.100 it's

00:34:48.720 this is what I'm

00:34:49.120 saying

00:34:49.220 it's culture

00:34:49.540 some parents

00:34:54.780 get so angry

00:34:55.860 they end up

00:34:56.700 killing their

00:34:57.480 child

00:34:57.960 yes

00:34:58.460 that happened

00:34:59.160 years ago

00:34:59.900 didn't it

00:35:00.340 yeah it did

00:35:00.760 there was a

00:35:02.220 Kurdish

00:35:02.680 girl yeah

00:35:03.740 she literally

00:35:04.520 they cut her

00:35:05.460 body up and

00:35:05.860 put it into

00:35:06.220 like literally

00:35:06.840 and this was

00:35:07.620 because she was

00:35:08.060 getting to know

00:35:08.920 someone or

00:35:09.280 something along

00:35:09.640 those lines

00:35:09.980 and people

00:35:10.720 connect this to

00:35:11.280 Islam

00:35:11.560 it's got

00:35:11.840 enough to

00:35:12.100 do with

00:35:12.260 Islam

00:35:12.540 nowhere in

00:35:13.140 Islam

00:35:13.420 the Quran

00:35:13.760 tells you

00:35:14.580 that and

00:35:15.720 not only that

00:35:16.380 it tells you

00:35:16.740 the opposite

00:35:17.220 that if this

00:35:18.200 happens you

00:35:18.560 need to hide

00:35:19.020 it there is

00:35:19.720 some narration

00:35:20.060 that goes

00:35:20.340 where a

00:35:21.420 old man

00:35:21.840 came and

00:35:22.140 said oh my

00:35:22.760 daughter

00:35:23.360 committed

00:35:23.660 zina and

00:35:24.000 he said

00:35:24.260 shh

00:35:25.240 he said

00:35:25.740 shall I

00:35:26.160 go and

00:35:26.380 tell the

00:35:26.740 no why

00:35:28.080 the hell

00:35:28.320 would you

00:35:28.500 do that

00:35:28.880 hide it

00:35:30.140 you get it

00:35:30.820 in Islam

00:35:31.180 you should

00:35:32.440 hide it

00:35:32.800 and forget

00:35:33.900 that bro

00:35:34.300 like for

00:35:34.600 example the

00:35:35.400 responsibilities

00:35:35.920 of course I

00:35:37.120 believe the

00:35:38.220 intimacy the

00:35:39.060 gatekeepers of

00:35:39.520 intimacy are

00:35:40.000 women I

00:35:41.300 believe that

00:35:41.660 that's 100%

00:35:42.280 the case but

00:35:43.100 yes that is

00:35:45.320 the case and

00:35:46.100 that's why for

00:35:46.520 example when it

00:35:47.020 comes to this

00:35:47.400 issue one of the

00:35:47.980 seven major

00:35:48.480 sins and the

00:35:49.060 hadith of the

00:35:49.420 prophet is the

00:35:49.820 one who

00:35:50.920 slanders a

00:35:51.780 chaste woman

00:35:52.280 yeah it's

00:35:53.180 180 lashes

00:35:55.340 80 lashes

00:35:55.880 yeah unless you

00:35:57.280 go to the

00:35:57.800 woman that you

00:35:58.700 slandered and

00:35:59.200 she forgives you

00:35:59.780 but it's 80

00:36:00.500 lashes and your

00:36:01.060 testimony from that

00:36:01.660 there is rejected

00:36:02.200 why because the

00:36:03.360 honor of a woman

00:36:03.960 is so held in

00:36:05.520 esteem in Islam

00:36:06.240 and and and

00:36:07.660 yeah so that's

00:36:08.360 why it gives

00:36:08.840 that emphasis so

00:36:09.400 can we understand

00:36:10.000 maybe from this

00:36:10.580 hadith that there

00:36:11.780 is that

00:36:12.120 responsibility is

00:36:13.800 it stemming from

00:36:14.400 that I don't

00:36:14.820 know because I

00:36:15.720 don't think yes

00:36:16.380 that shows the

00:36:17.500 responsibility is

00:36:18.300 there but it

00:36:18.820 doesn't mean

00:36:19.240 necessarily that

00:36:19.880 you should

00:36:20.160 emphasize on

00:36:20.780 that because I

00:36:21.680 think we should

00:36:22.220 educate our

00:36:23.620 young men and

00:36:24.500 I've mentioned

00:36:24.900 this story like

00:36:25.580 this story before

00:36:26.600 and I'll mention

00:36:26.960 again and I'll

00:36:27.840 be mentioning my

00:36:28.400 marriage documentary

00:36:28.980 as well and I

00:36:30.080 go into detail

00:36:30.580 about this because

00:36:31.260 when I first came

00:36:32.180 to Islam like

00:36:33.340 all this kind

00:36:35.120 of nonsense

00:36:35.480 yeah and I

00:36:36.040 repented and I

00:36:36.640 came alhamdulillah

00:36:37.300 and to me it's

00:36:38.260 like when I

00:36:38.600 came like I

00:36:39.180 just said oh

00:36:39.860 Allah I'm never

00:36:40.600 ever touching a

00:36:41.440 woman al-haram

00:36:41.960 way ever again

00:36:42.820 like just the

00:36:43.800 whole thing just

00:36:44.500 I was like

00:36:44.940 and to my

00:36:47.280 amazement like

00:36:48.020 to me I was

00:36:48.800 like when I

00:36:49.460 came to Islam

00:36:49.860 and I saw

00:36:50.160 sisters in hijab

00:36:50.980 I was like wow

00:36:51.640 I would want to

00:36:52.180 have a wife like

00:36:52.900 that one day you

00:36:53.880 know but I

00:36:54.720 would I didn't

00:36:55.440 have any Muslim

00:36:55.920 friends I didn't

00:36:57.060 know so I was on

00:36:57.500 these websites you

00:36:59.080 know these Muslim

00:36:59.660 yeah yeah I'll

00:37:01.440 give her insight

00:37:02.000 actually actually we

00:37:02.840 actually go undercover

00:37:03.340 on some of them

00:37:03.780 in the documentary

00:37:04.260 we'll find that

00:37:04.700 later no actually

00:37:06.040 we do we actually

00:37:06.560 go full out

00:37:07.100 undercover on them

00:37:08.040 and expose what

00:37:08.680 is this dating or

00:37:09.400 is this what the

00:37:09.900 hell is this so I

00:37:11.620 would go in there

00:37:12.080 and I would meet

00:37:12.700 sisters for marriage

00:37:13.320 and bear in mind I

00:37:14.580 was a new Muslim I

00:37:15.380 didn't know better I

00:37:16.100 didn't know this whole

00:37:16.740 Wally thing I was

00:37:17.320 just thinking you

00:37:17.740 know what my

00:37:18.580 intentions are this

00:37:19.220 and Wallahi but I'm

00:37:20.400 telling you I'm

00:37:21.720 telling you bro the

00:37:22.740 things that I saw I

00:37:23.640 was shocked but my

00:37:24.560 chin dropped like on

00:37:25.380 the floor like it's

00:37:26.500 unbelievable what they

00:37:27.380 were calling to it

00:37:27.960 was unbelievable the

00:37:29.000 way they were

00:37:29.340 operating and I don't

00:37:30.860 want to get into

00:37:31.300 details but to me as

00:37:34.100 a Muslim man I had

00:37:35.980 to know better bro I

00:37:37.400 couldn't be like oh

00:37:38.020 she's moving like

00:37:38.800 this so in jahiliya

00:37:40.460 that's how brothers

00:37:41.020 move do you get it

00:37:41.640 she's moving like

00:37:42.240 that yeah but you

00:37:42.800 treat her like that

00:37:43.420 okay I don't follow

00:37:44.760 this jahiliya anymore

00:37:45.460 I follow Islam and

00:37:46.780 Islam it tells me I

00:37:47.700 do not care if she's

00:37:49.400 there telling me

00:37:50.080 outright let's go and

00:37:51.380 do this the hell with

00:37:52.640 you man get the hell

00:37:53.220 away from me

00:37:53.740 you yeah if you're

00:37:55.800 moving like that

00:37:56.560 salam alaikum I got

00:37:58.380 nothing to do with

00:37:58.900 that I'm not going to

00:37:59.660 say oh Allah yeah we

00:38:00.460 fell into it but it's

00:38:01.260 her fault no man you

00:38:02.680 done it both of you

00:38:03.740 did it so I have to

00:38:05.460 know better so do we

00:38:07.080 train do we educate

00:38:08.400 our sons like I don't

00:38:09.900 have sons I got three

00:38:10.560 daughters alhamdulillah

00:38:11.240 yeah and to me if I

00:38:13.400 had the son I would

00:38:14.820 have to like for

00:38:15.380 example I would have

00:38:16.260 to show my son a

00:38:17.180 the hardship of life

00:38:18.940 because he's got a lot

00:38:20.260 of responsibilities on

00:38:20.900 his shoulder so you

00:38:22.100 know I would say that

00:38:23.020 and I'll speak to my

00:38:23.460 wife sometimes and I

00:38:24.040 go yeah when he's two

00:38:24.640 years old I'm going to

00:38:25.020 stop jabbing his ribs

00:38:25.920 and she's like I'm

00:38:26.920 going to call NSPCC on

00:38:27.960 you yeah and I'm like

00:38:29.440 is it RSPCC I'm like

00:38:31.340 it's NSPCC I woke up

00:38:32.520 that's the animals but

00:38:34.680 you never know some

00:38:35.100 identify as a rabbit

00:38:36.040 these days so the

00:38:37.000 thing is here is that

00:38:38.100 I'm like because as a

00:38:39.000 mother she doesn't

00:38:39.500 understand but to me

00:38:40.320 it's like I'm trying to

00:38:41.400 bring him to the world

00:38:42.660 where these things are

00:38:43.320 going to happen you get

00:38:43.880 it but I would want to

00:38:44.900 sit down with my son

00:38:45.560 and say listen I know

00:38:47.520 for us I know the fitna

00:38:49.140 level yeah may Allah

00:38:51.600 help the brothers who are

00:38:52.680 single

00:38:53.020 the point here is

00:38:54.340 this irrelevant to the

00:38:56.160 point I do not care if

00:38:57.480 the brother is dying

00:38:58.620 yeah there is methods

00:39:00.500 in the Quran and the

00:39:01.180 sunnah we can use

00:39:02.080 yeah get married but the

00:39:03.540 point is no when I

00:39:05.000 would never ever tell my

00:39:06.040 son like yeah you know

00:39:07.200 you get girlfriends

00:39:08.080 what is this you hear

00:39:10.080 this but you hear

00:39:11.620 Muslim fathers telling

00:39:13.700 their sons yeah yeah

00:39:14.520 you go are you link

00:39:15.420 but I'm going to go see

00:39:16.600 my girlfriend that's my

00:39:17.340 boy once again the

00:39:19.180 core of the problem

00:39:20.020 exactly but that's what

00:39:21.700 I'm saying so I do not

00:39:22.940 know where it's stemming

00:39:23.520 from but can we talk

00:39:24.600 about how as men and

00:39:27.100 mothers as well how

00:39:28.420 should we nurture our

00:39:29.340 sons I really want to

00:39:30.220 know because the people

00:39:31.020 that are watching out

00:39:31.620 there if you start this

00:39:33.360 at home of yeah my son

00:39:34.940 you go

00:39:35.340 actually what the hell

00:39:36.740 is this so how do we

00:39:38.580 just move into like

00:39:39.500 solutions

00:39:40.000 to do drugs it's better

00:39:41.580 for women than

00:39:42.520 zina or I don't know

00:39:43.860 subhanallah how can you

00:39:45.240 pronounce this insanity

00:39:47.360 both of them are bad

00:39:48.820 drugs I think but and

00:39:50.660 and also and also you

00:39:51.640 know what I find really

00:39:52.120 funny about the red pill

00:39:52.760 they're very funny they

00:39:53.840 complain about yeah a

00:39:54.640 woman with their body

00:39:55.100 counts body counts and

00:39:56.380 they are the ones who are

00:39:57.040 causing the body counts

00:39:57.660 yeah yeah yeah

00:39:58.640 it's so dumb what I

00:40:00.120 like you think about

00:40:00.620 yeah it's so dumb yeah

00:40:01.920 you make sure a woman

00:40:02.520 isn't untouched yeah it's

00:40:03.260 like bro what are you

00:40:03.700 doing yeah see we're 50

00:40:04.560 women yeah it's like bro

00:40:06.020 are you dumb like you're

00:40:06.980 literally shooting you're

00:40:07.780 cutting your and and I

00:40:09.080 see this to brothers if

00:40:10.600 you start moving like

00:40:11.780 that well let me tell

00:40:13.360 you something you see

00:40:14.260 when you go and try to

00:40:15.320 and I'm not blaming I'm

00:40:16.360 not trying to make the

00:40:16.820 sisters totally innocent

00:40:17.560 out of this let's be

00:40:18.080 real here I'm so sorry

00:40:18.740 yeah these days sisters

00:40:19.680 are on another level

00:40:21.260 bro I see brothers got

00:40:22.080 more higher sadly yeah

00:40:23.000 but the point is this

00:40:24.180 I'm just saying that in

00:40:25.520 a nutshell we should

00:40:26.380 like I just what

00:40:28.380 happened once in a

00:40:28.880 forgot what I was

00:40:29.300 saying I forgot I

00:40:30.720 forgot what I was

00:40:31.000 saying I was going to

00:40:31.380 red pill okay let me

00:40:32.760 remember but in a

00:40:33.720 nutshell the point what I

00:40:34.640 was saying is that how

00:40:36.400 do we nurture our sons

00:40:38.760 like for example for

00:40:40.520 those who are watching

00:40:41.080 this parents that's

00:40:41.640 watching this how do we

00:40:42.720 nurture our sons how they

00:40:44.440 should be towards the

00:40:45.620 opposite gender and if I

00:40:46.720 remember point I'll come

00:40:47.280 back so firstly I just

00:40:50.220 want to say in in regards

00:40:52.360 to sons you can do

00:40:57.480 whatever you want to do

00:40:58.360 to teach your children I

00:41:00.180 think it's important to

00:41:01.380 instill Islamic studies

00:41:04.220 instill you know madrasa

00:41:07.600 learning Quran you know

00:41:09.900 taking them around men

00:41:11.480 who are inspirational you

00:41:14.100 know because right now

00:41:15.460 there is a lack of

00:41:16.520 inspiration and obviously

00:41:18.380 we have the best

00:41:19.440 inspiration which is the

00:41:20.660 Prophet Muhammad

00:41:21.200 sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

00:41:22.480 but even the Prophet

00:41:24.340 Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

00:41:25.140 had a sahaba good friends

00:41:27.280 you know there's there's a

00:41:29.040 lack of inspiration and good

00:41:30.940 quality people for these

00:41:33.240 young boys to look up to

00:41:35.300 so they need to be around

00:41:37.260 men and this is why a lot

00:41:39.160 of Muslim boys are sticking

00:41:40.640 to this red pill ideology

00:41:42.400 I promise you Islam teaches

00:41:45.040 you ultimate discipline

00:41:46.340 control you can be

00:41:48.540 successful you can be a

00:41:50.440 masculine man without the

00:41:52.380 red pill Islam teaches you

00:41:54.020 all of those things you do

00:41:55.840 not need to go to that red

00:41:58.480 pill red pill is full of

00:42:00.000 degenerate men degenerate

00:42:02.760 men they are the lowest of

00:42:04.160 the lowest of men they sit

00:42:06.360 on their computers they

00:42:08.100 type they they insult women

00:42:10.260 they dishonor women they

00:42:12.240 are not masculine men

00:42:14.400 Muslim men who follow the

00:42:16.900 Islam the sunnah the deen

00:42:18.560 properly they are masculine

00:42:20.560 men bring your sons to

00:42:23.020 Islam teach them discipline

00:42:25.220 put them in kickboxing put

00:42:27.300 them in archery whatever

00:42:28.980 take them into something

00:42:31.600 that's going to teach them

00:42:32.580 ultimate discipline and

00:42:33.900 Islam is the number one

00:42:35.120 thing to start that's why I

00:42:36.260 really agree with with the

00:42:37.880 brother here because you

00:42:39.300 know we have everything in

00:42:40.640 the sunnah we have

00:42:41.680 everything that enables us

00:42:44.280 to stay away from societal

00:42:45.980 poisons yeah and for me I

00:42:49.420 think we've we're too weak on

00:42:50.780 our sons we we are we're

00:42:53.120 forgetting that it takes a

00:42:54.540 village the neighbors in

00:42:57.080 Africa and back in the day

00:42:58.440 could slap your son if he's

00:43:01.520 being disrespectful to a

00:43:03.080 woman or doing badness in

00:43:05.180 the street they will slap you

00:43:06.960 until they take you back to

00:43:08.320 your parents and then you'll

00:43:09.080 go back to your parents and

00:43:09.900 your parents yeah and then

00:43:10.920 your parents will deal with you

00:43:12.460 as well now nowadays the the

00:43:16.120 the mum is or the dad is too

00:43:18.400 scared to even say something to

00:43:20.460 their son what's this where's the

00:43:24.040 discipline where's the respect

00:43:26.800 for the parents so I think it

00:43:29.800 comes down to discipline it

00:43:31.520 comes down to what the

00:43:33.620 foundations what we're teaching

00:43:35.420 our sons if you've got a little

00:43:37.160 boy now it's the time now to

00:43:39.200 start really can I share a bit

00:43:42.060 excuse me of my personal

00:43:43.700 experience because I was married

00:43:45.940 as a at 19 years old I'm

00:43:48.780 father of three and during my

00:43:51.400 journey and maybe I was my

00:43:56.360 first year of marriage

00:43:57.180 somebody somebody very wise

00:43:59.060 told me a very good advice

00:44:01.160 she told me that if your body

00:44:04.300 is such she told me in

00:44:06.340 Moroccan

00:44:07.100 if your body is such a cheap

00:44:12.360 merchandise that you can do

00:44:15.480 zina so do it and it

00:44:18.660 raised me so deep subhanallah

00:44:20.620 I all I all I will at the at

00:44:23.780 the time hating zina but

00:44:25.300 because it was a shair that

00:44:27.080 the wonders of Allah and I saw

00:44:28.800 it like something haram but

00:44:30.460 this particular advice I don't

00:44:33.000 know why resonate with me

00:44:34.420 subhanallah if you are ready to

00:44:37.280 to to engage in such filthy

00:44:39.160 something Allah subhanallah

00:44:40.700 called fisk something very I

00:44:44.160 don't know who's okay it's very

00:44:49.140 very filthy yeah and then engage

00:44:51.500 in those fields and being okay

00:44:53.080 with it it's the root of the

00:44:54.820 problem as well I think

00:44:55.740 Allah I'm sorry

00:44:57.160 can I just add just yeah I agree

00:45:01.080 with what you just said but also

00:45:02.200 just to continue from sister

00:45:03.800 Amira

00:45:04.100 it's also the issue you know

00:45:06.940 obviously Islam has taught us

00:45:08.680 everything and everything we need

00:45:10.380 in the dunya but it's also we've

00:45:13.240 also got the societal sorry the

00:45:16.400 cultural norms and the enabling

00:45:18.980 culture in certain cultures so for

00:45:21.940 example you know because you know

00:45:24.680 someone can have a son and a

00:45:25.820 daughter or a son and daughters and

00:45:30.280 the son has a different set of rules

00:45:32.960 so for example you know the the

00:45:35.860 parents or the you know the mum

00:45:37.060 won't bat an eyelid over the son

00:45:38.640 having a girlfriend for example but

00:45:40.400 with the daughters that's like

00:45:42.040 something they can't even you know

00:45:43.860 entertain in their mind because of

00:45:47.220 the culture and the honour aspect of

00:45:48.920 things so it's that enabling

00:45:50.820 culture and I have seen this in you

00:45:54.840 know many Muslim based cultures but

00:45:58.380 in especially in my own as well where

00:46:01.460 it's all right for the boys and people

00:46:04.340 talk about it openly oh yeah my son

00:46:06.520 who's got this girlfriend I'm not

00:46:07.660 really happy about you know her she's

00:46:10.600 from whatever whatever but and they

00:46:12.940 just talk about it casually so there's

00:46:14.340 even casual tap chat between the

00:46:16.240 mothers so as mothers and as a mother

00:46:18.900 myself we have a responsibility to

00:46:21.260 educate our children and that is

00:46:23.140 actually our position in Islam that's

00:46:25.520 our you know what what we're supposed

00:46:28.000 to do as mothers is to educate our

00:46:29.780 children and to give them the moral

00:46:31.620 code but when you've got you know

00:46:33.800 other mothers having a casual

00:46:35.280 discussion about their sons having had

00:46:37.280 x amount of girlfriends or bringing

00:46:39.120 around the house then you kind of you're

00:46:41.680 just normalizing it and you know when

00:46:44.380 this normalization seeps through it's

00:46:46.820 going to affect your dean because you're

00:46:48.480 not going to associate it with you're

00:46:51.000 not going to think about the dean you're

00:46:52.040 just thinking about it as gender based

00:46:53.980 so it's because he's a man we know what

00:46:56.300 men are like and therefore it's

00:46:58.280 justifiable because that's a man's

00:47:00.040 nature whereas it's not a woman's

00:47:02.520 nature to you know feel have feelings

00:47:05.560 for a man or be open um you know about

00:47:08.900 someone that she's interested in because

00:47:10.860 you know she she should have more

00:47:12.760 control over herself than him and and i

00:47:15.560 think unbelievable man well it's unbelievable

00:47:17.020 it's like we treat women like they're

00:47:19.140 aliens like they're these beings where

00:47:21.360 you just program them and go yeah what

00:47:22.860 are you talking about the woman a woman

00:47:24.760 has every right well i would love if my

00:47:26.820 daughter came and said baba i saw this

00:47:29.140 um brother in uni can you come and speak

00:47:31.040 to him all day every day what like one

00:47:33.720 we're going to be like huh you have no

00:47:35.140 haya what kind of nonsense is this

00:47:36.840 i find it so bizarre and it's a lack of

00:47:39.520 like you said islam our dean does not

00:47:41.660 teach this bro this is far from islam

00:47:43.660 and i talk about this people have turned

00:47:45.700 islam as if it's their dad's religion

00:47:47.580 like it has to be this way or that way

00:47:49.360 well it's like even the fact that

00:47:50.880 khatija and her like she proposed to the

00:47:53.240 prophet what are you going to say about

00:47:54.360 that she has no haya what are you talking

00:47:56.440 about she saw a decent honorable the best

00:47:59.180 man to walk this earth and she did and

00:48:01.300 sometimes our sisters come like i'm

00:48:03.160 speaker's corner someone says come for

00:48:04.440 advice oh there's a brother i like but

00:48:06.280 i'm scared to approach i'm like why

00:48:08.580 like i don't understand what is the

00:48:11.880 problem i want my daughters to get

00:48:13.980 married they should be comfortable

00:48:15.800 enough to meet and say and this is what

00:48:17.720 happens when you make the halal haram

00:48:19.740 you open the doors of fitna literally

00:48:22.820 yes in secrecy what's better she goes

00:48:26.300 and does it behind your back come no

00:48:29.040 problem well why even if it means you

00:48:31.080 got nowhere to stay i don't care my

00:48:33.140 concern is to please allah subhanahu

00:48:34.600 ta'ala i'll tell my daughter you can

00:48:36.500 stay here he can stay there no problem

00:48:38.840 yeah facilitating the halal imagine in

00:48:42.000 the sight of allah subhanahu ta'ala you

00:48:43.580 enable that even if they're at uni no

00:48:45.620 problem if that's the case he's a good

00:48:47.760 boy obviously obviously man's gonna grill

00:48:49.260 him a bit still yeah you have to electric

00:48:50.540 him a bit give him some voltages so we

00:48:52.940 know his lungs can open up a bit yeah

00:48:54.660 you're gonna do that after you've done

00:48:56.860 that it's like okay i want to cater for

00:48:58.520 i want it to be halal do you get it but

00:49:00.980 most these days sisters are like and

00:49:04.140 like feeling as if i've got no one to

00:49:06.280 talk to and this is the reason why they

00:49:08.520 get taken advantage of as well so again

00:49:10.760 we're talking about honor but we are

00:49:13.660 maybe as men blameworthy sometimes that

00:49:16.580 our daughters are going and falling into

00:49:18.700 haram because we've made a halal haram so

00:49:21.420 it's ajeeb you want to protect your honor

00:49:23.140 but you're you're pushing away like the

00:49:25.080 red pill yeah it's ajeeb but yeah guys

00:49:28.080 we've got good about 10-15 minutes but

00:49:29.800 um i still again as men can we talk

00:49:32.720 about your you've got how many kids

00:49:33.800 you got three kids three kids all girls

00:49:35.260 no no one girl and two boys okay how

00:49:37.360 old is he the my daughter is not the

00:49:40.000 boy the oldest is six years ago okay

00:49:42.920 mashallah when would you think like you

00:49:44.440 would have a discussion where you sit

00:49:45.560 him in front of you and be like you

00:49:47.380 know what this is do you want to say

00:49:49.380 that when do you think that as a father

00:49:51.500 what would you say to fathers that

00:49:53.100 are watching this how how should that

00:49:54.820 discussion be um yeah first and

00:49:57.480 foremost if you have a good member

00:49:59.360 remember yourself we have the interest

00:50:03.540 of something even if we are not

00:50:05.460 concerned about it even before puberty so

00:50:08.540 don't be candid and naive and think that

00:50:10.940 today's with the internet everything is

00:50:14.980 available so in the can i would say the

00:50:18.180 kingdom of the garden but middle school or

00:50:19.920 primary school things happen so if you

00:50:23.760 don't teach yourself your children some

00:50:26.120 important stuff people someone else would

00:50:28.900 and unfortunately most of the time it

00:50:30.920 would be in the very bad way so i will

00:50:34.520 inshallah try to talk to him even to my

00:50:36.960 daughter or not only let's speak to

00:50:39.220 sons what what would you say to your

00:50:40.700 son like let's let's speak to your son

00:50:42.320 if you find your son 16 or 15 or whatever

00:50:44.520 like the the sister said i will mainly

00:50:47.700 focus on the his islamic education

00:50:50.200 or and sunnah what is how it looks haram

00:50:52.560 need to would this will facilitate things

00:50:55.600 you see you i will sit with him and say

00:50:58.700 you know son now you're growing up and

00:51:01.360 now this is going going to happen but

00:51:04.320 remember this is haram this is why you do

00:51:06.640 but you can do it the halal way something

00:51:09.240 that that kills me is that people can um

00:51:13.440 consider haram we make we met halal haram

00:51:17.980 and i was married at the university i have

00:51:20.820 met long studies i i have went through

00:51:24.180 medical studies so for 10 years i was a

00:51:27.740 student and married in the in my uh in the

00:51:31.280 uni i was called married guy and

00:51:33.720 mashallah

00:51:34.200 now it's totally normal in the marriage

00:51:36.860 documentary season two oh yeah i would

00:51:39.840 like to to know why where is the the

00:51:41.900 second episode okay in a nutshell me many

00:51:46.340 of my friends come how do you how could

00:51:48.200 you do that and i do what to be married

00:51:52.100 as such such a such a there you go you

00:51:54.540 know i guess focus sorry do you have

00:51:56.480 girlfriends say yes how could you do that

00:51:58.900 though and they're all muslim do you see

00:52:01.240 the point i could you know what they're

00:52:02.080 doing this scene is weird you know i

00:52:03.960 i see these men come to me and go i go

00:52:05.480 brother how old are you uh i'm 32

00:52:07.240 have you been married before he says no

00:52:08.960 now obviously i have to assume the best

00:52:10.620 but in my head i'm thinking how the hell

00:52:12.620 as a 31 year old man what the hell like

00:52:15.880 why are you taking some drugs no i want

00:52:18.380 to know what that is the umar said very

00:52:20.300 simple if a man is not married yeah and

00:52:25.480 you know he's he's not fasting yeah

00:52:27.440 there's a few things that's going on

00:52:29.020 brother simple conclusions yeah simple

00:52:30.760 conclusions yeah let's not it's very

00:52:32.400 simple how are you surviving for 30

00:52:35.560 years first up to the age of 30 and

00:52:38.060 you're not married brother there's

00:52:39.300 something going on and most of them i

00:52:41.000 speak bro there's always that yeah there

00:52:42.600 was a relationship like three years

00:52:44.800 relationship uh etc i remembered my point

00:52:46.820 i forgot which was uh very profound as

00:52:48.740 well yeah these men who go around and

00:52:51.920 sleep around just know my brother listen

00:52:55.220 to me carefully yeah i've come from a

00:52:56.540 jahlia i've seen i know my friends when

00:53:00.020 you go and mess around with these girls

00:53:01.540 just know that there is another man out

00:53:04.680 there just like you doing it to your

00:53:06.780 sister i repeat again when you or your

00:53:09.760 daughter when you go around and think

00:53:11.580 yeah i'm having fun left right center

00:53:13.060 and these women are to blame as well

00:53:14.300 but just know my brother that another man

00:53:18.520 is probably doing just like you don't

00:53:21.540 think this is just you don't think it's

00:53:22.500 just me i'm the only one and no

00:53:24.140 you're doing that brother just know

00:53:26.140 there's somebody else probably doing

00:53:27.040 that to your future wife and when the

00:53:28.640 day comes and you're marrying and you're

00:53:29.780 like why did that happen because she

00:53:31.680 came across a man like you just know

00:53:34.320 it so don't cry about it don't rip your

00:53:35.940 head you can bang your head on the wall

00:53:37.120 if you want i think you should you know

00:53:38.600 until you pass out um you could call the

00:53:40.640 ambulance inshallah but the point is this

00:53:42.340 when you violate allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's

00:53:44.540 laws and think as if there's no

00:53:46.180 consequences you know a lot of time

00:53:47.660 people plot as if allah can't hear

00:53:49.060 them yeah man's gonna have a bit of fun

00:53:50.500 excretion i repent as if can you

00:53:52.500 imagine it's an aqidah issue bro well

00:53:54.180 like can you imagine you are literally

00:53:55.980 plotting against allah i'm gonna do

00:53:57.980 yeah i'm gonna go sleep around with

00:53:59.220 this dumb red pill movement or 50

00:54:00.520 women do you think allah doesn't hear

00:54:02.560 you allah is closer to you than your

00:54:04.080 jugular vein allah knows what's going

00:54:05.880 through your head you know and that's

00:54:07.500 what allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in

00:54:08.580 in the quran there's a specific verse

00:54:09.860 allah says we send them signs and then

00:54:11.780 we send them signs again until they

00:54:14.080 persist allah says we open the doors

00:54:16.120 it's very scary bro allah's basically

00:54:19.040 saying you know when you keep

00:54:19.920 persisting persisting and persistent allah

00:54:21.960 sends you signs and signs and signs and

00:54:23.340 you carry allah says we open the doors

00:54:24.500 meaning the doors of the haram that

00:54:26.240 you are allah opens the doors you know

00:54:27.860 allah says in the end of that verse

00:54:29.260 and allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says and

00:54:31.560 when they think they've reached their

00:54:32.760 peak and untouchable we smash their

00:54:34.680 soul can you imagine in that moment

00:54:37.140 where you're thinking yeah i've got the

00:54:38.280 girls and this that and you're in a

00:54:39.620 club and the heart stops and that is

00:54:42.040 how you're going to be resurrected on

00:54:43.220 the yoma qiyam so yeah any last words

00:54:46.960 inshallah we're gonna we're gonna yes

00:54:48.140 can i add on to that please sister please

00:54:49.380 i agree with what you said in the last

00:54:51.840 part mashallah but i strongly disagree

00:54:54.400 with this notion that a woman will have

00:54:58.540 to bear the consequences of the man's

00:55:00.800 wrongdoings or bad actions right this is

00:55:03.160 not an islamic uh you know this this is

00:55:06.540 not based on the teachings of islam this

00:55:08.520 is merely coming from culture this idea

00:55:10.760 that if your brother goes around being a

00:55:13.260 degenerate right one day you you yourself

00:55:15.560 will face a degenerate when you haven't

00:55:16.820 done nothing right so we know that this

00:55:19.440 does not derive from islamic ideology

00:55:21.680 this is not this is not derived from

00:55:23.240 islamic teachings right um but it comes

00:55:26.700 from toxic culture this idea that a man

00:55:28.960 can never be held accountable no matter

00:55:30.840 what he does he will never bear the

00:55:32.620 consequences of his bad doings of his

00:55:34.400 bad actions and his wrongdoings and that

00:55:36.280 the female relatives will always always

00:55:39.060 have to pay for his wrongdoings and that

00:55:40.940 is something i disagree with strongly i just

00:55:42.720 want to clarify if you came across like

00:55:44.340 that i was not saying that sister i'm not

00:55:45.840 saying that for example if you do it

00:55:47.540 that it's going to there's nowhere in the

00:55:49.180 quran sunnah that i know that says that

00:55:51.260 if you do a it will come actually in the

00:55:53.300 quran or hadith it says that nobody bears

00:55:55.260 the sin of someone else so i'm sorry if

00:55:56.920 it came across like that what i meant is

00:55:58.600 when someone has a if somebody's doing

00:56:00.940 certain action there's ripple effects on

00:56:02.300 society there's corruption all that says

00:56:03.560 there's corruption is spread in the land

00:56:05.120 so i don't mean in a way where if you do

00:56:07.720 this therefore it will happen to your

00:56:09.480 sister or daughter etc what i'm saying is

00:56:12.280 that if you're if you as a man are going

00:56:14.000 and sleeping around you just know there

00:56:15.560 are other men like you and imagine there

00:56:16.920 are ten thousand men like you that means

00:56:18.580 they are and if every one of them does

00:56:20.360 that to five women mama matt says right i

00:56:22.500 think that's fifty thousand do you get

00:56:23.720 what i'm trying to say he's talking about

00:56:24.900 the consequences so forgive me if you came

00:56:26.200 across that you're hundred percent right

00:56:27.300 yeah to finish off my point um uh i also

00:56:30.720 wanted to quickly say that i think is

00:56:32.460 important

00:56:32.880 to um everything starts off in childhood

00:56:35.940 like i said earlier right it's extremely

00:56:38.200 important to raise young boys and young

00:56:40.160 girls in a similar manner right we

00:56:42.080 understand that there of course there are

00:56:43.100 biological differences there are

00:56:44.880 differences that we can of course you

00:56:46.660 know we cannot deny right but it's

00:56:49.040 important to the same way you're raising

00:56:50.640 your child your daughter to treat her

00:56:53.200 body sacred to look at to respect

00:56:55.240 herself to honor herself right you know

00:56:58.180 the importance of being gentle to the

00:56:59.840 importance of being kind loving caring

00:57:01.660 nurturing it's also just as important to

00:57:03.920 teach your your sons these same

00:57:06.080 qualities because these are the qualities

00:57:07.360 that we need as a society this idea that

00:57:09.680 is only a woman that you know that is

00:57:11.820 expected to be the natural because she's

00:57:13.300 inherently support apparently born with

00:57:15.040 this no it's it's a lie so everything

00:57:17.080 comes down to socialization i think you

00:57:18.900 know everything comes down to you know

00:57:20.120 um purity culture is or plays a massive

00:57:22.700 part as well right this idea that you know

00:57:25.020 a woman should respect herself but a man

00:57:27.240 can do as he pleases like we touched on

00:57:28.640 earlier so you know it's important to

00:57:31.280 teach this the thing the same the same way

00:57:33.860 that you're raising your little girls is

00:57:35.760 just as important to raise your young boys

00:57:37.260 as well i i will try to emphasize what the

00:57:41.340 brother ali said i think it was more um uh an

00:57:46.060 advice than uh saying that there is some

00:57:48.740 karma there is no karma in islam and i i

00:57:51.440 will i remember uh one story of a young

00:57:55.080 sahabi was very young and went to the

00:57:58.280 prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and

00:57:59.160 tried to negotiate zima literally yeah but

00:58:04.020 is that possible and to see subhanallah the

00:58:07.560 the methodology and the education uh that

00:58:11.560 the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam uh

00:58:12.820 put in place he told him

00:58:15.800 do you will agree on the zina for your mom

00:58:21.340 this is uh uh something that resonates with

00:58:24.760 boys and when you tell you tell them when

00:58:27.540 you mess with someone else uh uh sister or

00:58:30.940 daughter someone would do the same it have

00:58:33.940 an impact even though there is no rules that

00:58:36.360 if you do it it will happen but uh it's a good

00:58:39.020 advice i think maybe and it's maybe that's you

00:58:41.920 wanted to say perhaps yeah

00:58:43.580 yeah no no no no no no hold on

00:58:45.960 i think we've said a lot about how to raise

00:58:48.520 our children but we haven't spoken about actually

00:58:50.540 setting the example

00:58:51.480 so i think it starts from home

00:58:53.080 i've seen so many dads are like imams

00:58:55.500 and they have the hardest time to love the gays.

00:58:59.120 And then you've got their teenage sons watching them

00:59:01.200 and their teenage daughters also seeing it.

00:59:02.860 So it's like, you need to start from home.

00:59:04.960 Be the example that you want your children to become.

00:59:07.580 Like my son's seven years old and I've got him.

00:59:10.280 We have talks about how a woman should dress

00:59:12.360 and what is modest and what it isn't

00:59:14.200 because I know these are the years

00:59:15.800 where he's going to be exposed to so much, you know, corrupt.

00:59:20.060 So it's like, I'm doing my best as a single parent to do that.

00:59:23.580 Obviously, a father has a different impact,

00:59:25.140 but mothers need to do the same when it comes to their son.

00:59:27.780 Like be the woman that you would want your son to marry.

00:59:30.360 Be the father that you would want your son to grow up to become.

00:59:33.540 I agree.

00:59:35.100 I think whatever you teach your kids

00:59:36.700 is likely to be the person they're going to end up with

00:59:39.380 for the rest of their life.

00:59:40.880 You are what you attract.

00:59:43.380 So yeah, I'd say it's definitely important

00:59:44.960 to know what you're teaching your children

00:59:48.100 because whatever they give off in life

00:59:51.560 is usually what they're going to attract.

00:59:53.880 So yeah.

00:59:55.720 Any last words, anyone?

00:59:57.580 No?

00:59:58.680 I think that's it.

00:59:59.860 Yeah?

01:00:01.500 Okay, so I think that's it.

01:00:02.780 We'll wrap it up, brothers and sisters, inshallah.

01:00:04.080 I hope you guys have benefited from this.

01:00:05.420 And yeah, share it.

01:00:06.400 If there's new parents who have got kids, etc.

01:00:09.140 I think it's very important for us to emphasize

01:00:10.940 that it's not just our daughters have that responsibility.

01:00:14.600 Modesty is not just clothing.

01:00:16.100 It's the way you speak, the way you conduct yourself.

01:00:18.600 And you know, look, if you think about it,

01:00:19.720 there's a hadith of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him,

01:00:21.240 where he was sitting down and his shin was showing.

01:00:24.400 And he covered it when Uthman radiallahu alaihi wa sallam walked in.

01:00:26.600 And he said that even the angels,

01:00:29.240 like, you know, they are modest.

01:00:31.460 Or something like that, I can't remember.

01:00:32.800 Shy of him, yeah.

01:00:33.780 So, you know, subhanAllah.

01:00:34.780 And he was someone that he would,

01:00:36.040 even when he's having a shower, he would cover himself.

01:00:38.580 Because he knew Allah subhanAllah.

01:00:39.520 Do you get it?

01:00:40.080 That is the level of modesty he had.

01:00:41.700 So this is a man.

01:00:42.740 Yeah, this is a man.

01:00:43.840 It's a man, yeah.

01:00:45.780 It's a man, yeah.

01:00:46.360 How many of us are like that?

01:00:47.960 How many of us, when it comes to modesty,

01:00:49.680 we even mention that hadith, that narration, or how he was?

01:00:53.120 This is how he was.

01:00:53.900 And this is what we aspire to be.

01:00:55.360 Not the degenerate red pill.

01:00:59.840 Yeah, I don't want to get into detail.

01:01:00.700 These individuals who are absolute hypocrites.

01:01:03.300 Yeah, some of them are Muslims.

01:01:04.320 Absolutely.

01:01:05.120 It makes me sick.

01:01:06.180 But the point is that it's very simple.

01:01:07.720 Our Romans are not these individuals

01:01:09.220 who are corrupt individuals,

01:01:10.740 who have double standards and hypocrisy.

01:01:12.200 We follow Islam.

01:01:13.060 We follow the best of mankind who walked this earth,

01:01:15.260 which was the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.

01:01:16.580 And his companions.

01:01:17.740 So please, please, brothers, understand that.

01:01:19.980 And I emphasize,

01:01:21.020 just because a woman doesn't respect herself,

01:01:22.660 doesn't mean you disrespect her.

01:01:23.660 You be the better person.

01:01:25.220 I know, well, believe me,

01:01:27.140 I know of stories where brothers have been the better person,

01:01:30.160 and wallahi, wallahi, I'm telling you,

01:01:32.920 I've heard this,

01:01:34.460 where the sister would message and say,

01:01:35.820 you know what?

01:01:37.180 You know, I was in a bad place.

01:01:38.740 You knew better.

01:01:40.000 Thank you.

01:01:40.960 Like, I was in a bad place.

01:01:43.060 You, wallahi, it can change somebody.

01:01:45.300 And it's like, well, it's as simple as that, inshallah.

01:01:47.500 Yeah, till next time from The Bitter Truth.

01:01:49.040 As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

01:01:51.060 May Allah bless you guys, inshallah, for watching.

01:01:52.980 Goodbye.

01:01:53.400 The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said,

01:01:56.480 whoever builds a masjid for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,

01:01:59.400 Allah will build for him a similar house in Jannah.

01:02:03.180 On that day where Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us

01:02:05.520 that our books will be given,

01:02:07.100 and every little atom weight of good deed you've done

01:02:09.900 will be there.

01:02:10.980 And imagine you see a mountain,

01:02:13.260 and you're like, what a lucky person.

01:02:14.900 Which righteous person?

01:02:16.960 And Allah says, this is for you.

01:02:18.540 For me?

01:02:19.260 Yes.

01:02:19.920 What did I do?

01:02:21.300 You allowed people to pray.

01:02:23.020 You built a masjid.

01:02:24.080 I never had the money to build a masjid, oh Allah.

01:02:26.060 You helped.

01:02:27.180 You gave towards it,

01:02:28.160 and Allah gives you the reward of as if you've built it.

01:02:31.120 Donate now, guys, and do not delay.

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Ali Dawah - October 02, 2023

YOUR CORRUPT SONS SHOULD BE ACCOUNTABLE! - EP 16 ｜｜ BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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