00:05:32.220She said, I've had some interesting situations.
00:05:35.300For several years, she dated a dad in California who was separated from his wife but dragging his feet on getting divorced.
00:05:42.100On Facebook, she met another separated man in Missouri.
00:05:44.900But their online courtship ended when his wife started harassing her and her friends.
00:05:49.660She reconnected with a college boyfriend on LinkedIn who lived in Tampa, but ultimately decided that long-distance love wasn't for her.
00:05:58.220And of course, I should say also, by the way, this is very representative of dating in this group, which is, I don't understand why you bother to date at all.
00:06:06.880Because so many of these people are still married and like in the middle of getting separated.
00:06:11.840And the family situation that I'm aware of that I've been told about involves a it was like a long term dating relationship trips together, et cetera, with a man who was allegedly going through a divorce.
00:06:23.980And then he just ghosted her out of nowhere and like would not respond to her letters.
00:06:28.820And like she was very attached to him by this point, like they'd become very romantically involved and he just won't talk to her anymore.
00:06:36.360just like ghosted her out of nowhere and probably isn't going to get divorced now maybe because it's
00:06:40.260just financially more expedient for him to like make nice with his was going to be ex-wife or
00:06:44.780whatever so this is very representative she anyway continues saying and of course wait you've got to
00:06:51.100explain this to me again so they were dating and they were still married and what is it no i have
00:06:56.460a family member who's a female boomer whose husband very tragically died um okay like young0.98
00:07:02.260unexpectedly so she this is through no fault of her own that she's on the dating market as a
00:07:07.600boomer woman but at one point i know i mean like i want her to find happiness and companionship
00:07:12.880again it's turning out to be really hard because like this is actually kind of true for boomer
00:07:16.420women she started dating a guy who she really enjoyed spending time with like had a great time
00:07:21.740they went on trips together they spent a lot of time together and he was in the middle of this
00:07:26.500process going through a very contentious divorce which she's hearing all about one-sidedly right
00:07:31.700like but here's the problem if someone's getting a divorce they might be a toxic person it's a
00:07:36.860market of lemons the dating market same as like so please don't die simone because i don't you know
00:07:41.780i don't know how much right well because anyone who's available so like the thing is with the
00:07:44.920job market i was just reading an article about this no one wants to hire anyone who's available
00:07:48.880for a job because they got fired or they're not they don't have enough hustle to get a job
00:07:52.980or like whatever everyone's everyone's very suspicious of anyone who's actively searching
00:07:56.880for a job while not actually holding a job because they assume that there's something wrong with them
00:08:02.240and it is a very similar situation with the relationship market if someone's not in a
00:08:06.440relationship like especially if they're above their 20s yeah i gotta say widows only yeah
00:08:13.020and and and and not widows of more than one man that's suspicious yeah widows and widowers i think
00:08:19.700are like the safe bet there should be some kind of prestige dating market for only widowers and
00:08:25.840only widows but then you get the serial killers and like they just clean up there i you know it
00:08:31.000would be so i don't know man there's there's nothing i just i just like i would look i know
00:08:36.260i'm oh yeah i i i maybe i would like enter some kind of like marriage of convenience with someone
00:08:44.420to pull resources after i married you but i i really she said she'd probably marry a woman0.81
00:08:48.920after me is what we talked about because when you told me which women you were thinking about
00:08:53.880marrying i'm like oh yeah i would probably be most expedient for me to marry them as well
00:08:57.700yeah we were going over with a porter the people they were like well if your wife died like what
00:09:02.720what would you guys do and i was like well you know i have a list and simone was like i have
00:09:06.960the same english same list which makes sense if we get along with somebody right yeah well and like
00:09:13.300it's very similar to the whole mormon situation where like if a mormon wife is terminally ill
00:09:18.260and she knows that her husband's gonna remarry she's like look i gotta pick her out because
00:09:22.040we're going to be in mormon heaven together i can't deal with and i don't i don't have many
00:09:25.940single male friends it's the other thing right like i don't have many yeah i could i could
00:09:31.400deliver her oh yeah i guess oh one but i don't it's too young we're gonna talk offline no we
00:09:41.640have one we have one single male friend that you mention all the time on the show how do you not0.96
00:09:47.700how are you not oh brian chow yes this is an insult to brian chow you're gonna shove a hag
00:09:55.860on brian chow no he did he needs a young i love him but i love him like us oh my god yeah what
00:10:02.000is wrong with i'm not a cougar we're terrible i think he's the only male friend who's single
00:10:08.780that we have in our entire radio brian no you're safe it's okay no we but this shows how much we
00:10:16.620love and respect you brian just shove me off but who else who else do we know who's a single you
00:10:21.580and i have the same list we have the same we've already gone over this we have the same list
00:10:26.200and so note here if you're like well you pro-gay do you think god is pro-gay or whatever it's like
00:10:31.860look i think if you have two women who are widowers and have kids and they can help raise
00:10:38.860them better and they're not getting married because of lust or something like that yeah
00:10:43.760I think that's totally okay. I, I think there are many instances in which two women marrying1.00
00:10:51.820for convenience's sake makes a lot of sense. Okay. It's fine. Anyway. Um, so actually this0.99
00:10:59.740is, this is somewhat thematic. Speaking of cougars, she says, and of course you get the
00:11:04.120younger guys looking for what a sugar mama or whatever. Uh, not that Havert was opposed to
00:11:09.480age gaps. Over the years, she dated several younger men, including a Russian 25 years her
00:11:14.720junior, whom she met in a parking lot of a grocery store when she found him admiring her Porsche
00:11:21.000Boxster. A month into the relationship, he casually mentioned that the last woman he dated
00:11:28.260paid him $1,000 a month. That's when she implemented a new rule. I said from now on,1.00
00:11:35.840They have to be born when they have to have been born when Kennedy was shot.
00:12:01.280This is, this is, this is men only being fair.
00:12:03.520And we've had people, we've had friends write to us, like, actually, as potential podcast episodes being like, look, there's a huge situation, like, especially in Latin America, with, like, older women basically, like, doing this with younger men.0.59