Based Camp - September 04, 2024
Could Oppressing Men Resolve Fertility Collapse?
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss a recent article that argues that men need to be oppressed in order to survive fertility collapse. We discuss the differences between the Amish, the Hutterites, and the Hasidic jews, and why this is a good thing.
Transcript
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hello simone i am excited to be talking to you today i saw an article that changed my view
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recently was sent to us by a fan on the best way to structure a religious or cultural system
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to survive fertility collapse yeah forget handmaid's tale it should be a footman's story
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right specifically the article argues that men need to be oppressed for us to survive
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fertility collapse i read so many articles when i go into an article the article was titled
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oppression of males is the gender oppression of the future and i thought it was going to be you
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know sent to us by a fan some sort of like men's right thing where it's like oh you know these
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days males are being more oppressed than females no males need to be oppressed by a woman a very
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based woman by the way yeah she sounds dreamy need to be oppressed for an idea of some of the other
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content on her blog here her blog's called wood from eden she has stuff like nudists in space
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and then another one the mulberry question this time of year i suppose that the foremost question
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on everyone mind is what to do with all of the mulberries these are our questions and i think
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i think it's the same woman who wrote a book on raising chickens amazing so very very fun very
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based to thank her and she was pointing something out now the first thing is something that most of
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our fans know religiosity and gender discrimination alone like traditional gender discrimination against
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women does not really protect fertility rates that much it has a small amount but not a huge amount
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it is a specific religion and the specific nature of the discrimination which is protective so she writes
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here very interestingly however looking closer into the matter the picture gets more complicated and
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more interesting fertility rates are falling worldwide also in countries infamous for gender
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inequality for example iran has a fertility rate of 1.7 and saudi arabia 2.2 that indicates that gender
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inequality itself is not a magic wand to make people have more children also when people from gender
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unequal countries immigrate to western societies their fertility tends to fall very quickly their children
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often have as low or even lower fertility than the host population but here is where it gets wild was the line
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directly after that because i did not expect this at all for example somalia has a fertility rate of around
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seven somalian women who immigrated to norway in the last half century had a fertility rate of 4.5 more than any
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other immigrant group the daughters of those immigrants however had a fertility rate of less than two
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ah so it only takes two generations from one of these high fertility cultural groups to have it
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completely washed away if they move into a prosperous environment which shows to us that the majority of
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their high fertility is downstream of low prosperity this is why it's so important to talk about prosperity
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induced fertility collapse and to look for cultures that have a high level of fertility despite being in
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prosperous environments then she goes on to note something very interesting so she takes two sort
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of prototypical high fertility cultures that we'll be going over that are high fertility even when they're
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in prosperous environments specifically really three the amish the hutterites and the hasidic jews
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and she points out something that is shared among these communities and there are a few things shared among
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these communities but that are not found in other low-tech high religiosity religious denominations
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specifically she reports on an instance and you and i have experienced this as well where she was at a port
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i think in dubai or something like that and she could see all the migrant laborers and it was fascinating
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because it looked like this huge collection of different cultures and and and traditional dress styles
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when you looked at the women but when you looked at the men everyone was dressed the same they were all
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dressed like westerners in pants jeans and shirts and shirts and in fact generally speaking in islamic
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countries the only environment where simona and i have regularly seen males maintain traditional dress
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is when there is a strong financial incentive for them to be doing that specifically these are upper
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class individuals with like bureaucratic state basically offered jobs in the uae and saudi arabia
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or qatar outside of that it's actually pretty rare especially when they immigrate to other countries
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and and this is another really interesting thing so i'm gonna put pictures on the screen here
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because people might not know this about hasidic jews so with amish both the men and the women look
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different same as hutterites but with hasidic jews the women look very western in the way they dress
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yes they have specific rituals around things like wearing wigs or hats and stuff like that
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but broadly speaking they could pass for a westerner the men could not but we're going to go over
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because this isn't the extent of the additional things being asked of men within these cultures i will
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note here because people might hear about oh i'm saying ultra-orthodox jews males have it hard how could
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you say that they don't have to do anything but study their entire lives like how is that hard women in
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ultra-orthodox communities have to both make a living for the family receive a secular education
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and have and raise a lot of children right the husbands only need to study and people can say
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isn't that like a kusher life and i guess in a way it is but keep in mind that they have even less
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freedom of what they do with their lives than women do really if they want to attain any level of
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community respect and this study lifestyle is incredibly hard like you it is it is not
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a slacker study lifestyle it is one of intense intense long hours and study because it is the
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entire dedication of their cultural system and so if you could imagine that like the only metric you
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were judged on both as a youth and an adult was your knowledge of one particular subject and everyone in
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your culture agreed on that how difficultly you would be working and how stringently you would
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be working within studying that subject yeah it kind of reminds me of the south korean university entrance
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exam system this one measurement that you have there's one job you have and it's like the south korean system
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except for a few things south korean system when you get into college if you did well in the first part of your life
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you basically never have to work again oh and it never ends it never ends with this one that's the
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catch yeah it never ends but two there also isn't the sense of despair because it's a true meritocracy
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you are not being judged by arbitrary examiners but by your peers ability to judge your knowledge of a
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topic yeah well that's also scary so i'm gonna go further here in other words ultra-orthodox jews are
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educating their daughters to become both mothers and breadwinners and their sons to discuss religious texts
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throughout their teens and beyond that way the daughters are encouraged to make closer contact
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with mainstream society at earlier ages than their sons in their early 20s men are encouraged to spend
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their entire days in religious education meanwhile their female peers are either educating themselves
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for the secular labor market or providing for their families for participating in the labor market
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if they are not at home taking care of children ultimately the men also enter the labor market and
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start providing for the families but in many cases they are doing so years later than their wives
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so if if this if we just change the genders here i think people would be like this is abusive
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toward the women this is horrible what do you know their whole lives in religious study yeah people would
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say that and this is the thing right where people don't see oppression when it is facing men sometimes
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even male activists don't yeah instead they're like oh that's too cush for men that was the immediate
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defense you came to which was interesting to an outsider the extreme amount of religious study
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orthodox jewish men go through seems wasteful i think this might be a mistake those graduates from
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religious schools succeed in producing what counts in today's cultural evolution children
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very interesting point here as a side note many of those men are doing remarkably well financially when
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they finally leave their religious schools and set out to work in branches like real estate and
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accounting that if anything should put mainstream education into question in effect graduates of
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religious education are kind of a control group that shows what happens when intelligent young men
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do not attend mainstream university the success of the control group is a strong indication that much of
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the function of the mainstream university system is in fact religious but that's another blog post so
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essentially she's claiming and i agree with this claim that the point of the current educational
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university system is not to educate but to indoctrinate within the urban monoculture cult
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um and that if you go study a different religion if you go dedicate yourself entirely to a different
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system you are not going to be significantly out competed by individuals who went through the urban
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monocultural system now i will add some caveats to this really quickly so one caveat here and i've noticed
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this was in the hariti uh outcome is that individuals who attempt this other mechanism of education
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if they are i'd say like one and a half standard deviations or above average intelligence they
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typically do as well or much better than people with secular educations but if they are below that sort
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of super intelligent group they typically do much worse whereas below average intelligence hariti do
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men specifically do really bad and it's because you need a level of brilliance and self-starterness
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to be able to succeed without these handout jobs i don't think it's that they're less capable than the
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people who are being indoctrinated within the secular system it's just that our society is run by the cult
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right now and for most of the bureaucratic management cash handout positions in our society you need to show
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some level of personal sacrifice for the cult or they won't let you in and so these individuals are
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forced to then go work at businesses that other of their more competent hariti brethren have created
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another thing i note here is a lot of people can hear this and they're like oh well this is religious
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education it's not going to be that useful and i think a lot of people even ourselves sometimes may
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over discount the role that the hariti are going to play in the future we'll get to the amish in a
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second but it's important to note that the amish do not study after the age of 14 really for males
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because pride is a sin and educating yourself too much could lead to pride they don't defend
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themselves or have guns because hurting people is a sin okay that the hariti right now are pacifistic
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and right now specifically they don't do military service like other jews and right now dedicate their
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lives mostly to religious study does not indicate that this is true in the future and we are already
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seeing shifts within this community when i asked hariti people i know or people who are affiliated
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with the hariti community you know where do you see changes already in this community along these lines
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one already lots of groups are doing military practices and everything like that they don't serve
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in the military because they don't have to serve in the military it's not like the amish there's no
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doctrine against serving in the military they just think they could choose to be studying and praying
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that's more important than serving in the military for now so that's what they're going to do for the
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safety of israel from their perspective but if they were ever the majority there would be no doctrinal
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problem with them uh engaging in military exercises and they are already looking at doing it and i can
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guarantee you they would be if you had a israeli idf staffed primarily with hariti the nature of the war that
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they would be carrying out would be much less timid in the current ids uh vision of war yeah well that
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you have to appreciate i mean to to a certain extent i don't like the free litter nature of their
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participation now their pacifism now on the other hand yeah i appreciate the practicality of it yeah
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there's there's a lot of practice it was like well if someone else is going to pay for it and handle that
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i'm not going to get involved right now like obviously and you know this is this is why
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tragedy the commons things play out right i mean well yeah well i think i think when you think of a
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military and idf staffed primarily with hariti which is you know demographically where we're going
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that could also do a lot to instead of putting the jewish population in a weaker position put them in a
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stronger position because they are more likely to show the type of ruthlessness that's going to be needed
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in future conflicts um in addition to that you have when people are like yeah but what about stem
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education what about like advanced sciences and stuff like this this is also something that is
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already becoming common in hariti communities so historically a lot of people may not know this
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yes it would be shamed if you spent your spare time studying western literature and and and and you
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know humanities and and stuff like that like standard hippie nonsense in these communities however
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historically it has always been a medium to high status in these communities to study business and
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law and a lot of them do go into business law real estate just stuff and recently and i'm not even that
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recently i'm talking like past quarter century two decades it's become increasingly popular and
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respected even among senior leaders in the community to consider stem study as a religious form of study
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so they study stem in the natural world as a way of studying god to aid them in their intercommunity
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debates about scripture which obviously has huge externalizing effects uh this is a community that
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i would not write off now amish this is not going to happen with amish but we'll talk about them in a
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second so that's they're all important things to know when you're thinking of this community and where
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are they going to be and also how important and i think that this is another thing where people are always
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like why are you guys so like philly is semitic in which you say like why are you generally err on the
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side of kindness when talking about jewish populations why do you generally assume the
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best of them and it's because i'm not stupid okay anyone who can see where the winds are blowing and
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where the cards are falling fertility collapse wise knows that one of the largest and most powerful
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factions within the future of humanity is going to be jewish much outsides compared to the power
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they hold today just because their fertility rates are so much higher than any technologically
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competent group in the world and they're willing to defend themselves both of which are things that
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other people just aren't willing to do anymore which means that they are really set up well for
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the future that we're heading into so yeah that that is why in addition to i just i just not that
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i don't like them i'm just saying like you individuals who are picking fights with a group
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that seems positioned to become a major power player in the future are stupid stupid in the extreme
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but next let's keep going here well-behaved ultra-orthodox boys and youngest men spend almost
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all the time they have studying amish young men do the opposite they are forbidden from formal
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studying from the age of 14 since that might lead to pride instead they work and work and work and work
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because making a living without electricity cars and varying collection of other modern machines
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takes a lot of work amish and ultra-orthodox jews might not seem to have a very much in common
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which makes it all the more remarkable that both groups managed to produce four times more children
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in the mainstream society um and here i would know amish don't just work because it's hard to live
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without these other things amish work because that is their way of worship and it is the way that they
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build status within their community so amish actually and when i engage with amish communities
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or mennonite communities i feel more cultural kinship with them than just about any living
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cultural group i engage with um even more than jewish groups and i feel a lot of cultural kinship
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with jewish groups but i feel more with amish groups and you'll see this if you watch videos i
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don't know if anyone's watched videos of like amish people talking they'll be like wow they sound a lot
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like malcolm and simone on a number of issues she travels more than i would i'm happy at home my husband
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is very happy at home and he grew up on a farm he we live on a fruit farm and he just likes raising
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fruit and that's what he does he has a really small world coming out here is about as far as
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give him fruit give him pie he's good to go we're offline by ourselves we choose to live that way because
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we enjoy being simple and i don't know see a lot of dangers we see a lot of dangers in having this
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specifically austerity is a thing that brings austerity and hard work in and of themselves a
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form of worship and that is through industry we just don't have the same technological prohibitions
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they have but in regards to the way we relate to worship it is very similar to amish communities
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and in addition to that the work itself sets you apart when i look at communities for communities i
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respect i'm specifically looking towards communities that i see putting in this type of label now
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unfortunately for the amish i also really respect pragmatism so i see the way they work as being
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needlessly difficult at times which is why i have slightly more respect for mennonite communities
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but within mennonite communities you'll see really interesting forms of cultural pragmatism that we've
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talked about before on the show where they will for example they'll have phones so that they can use
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them for like getting clients and stuff like that but they'll be locked and they'll give the locks
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using special apps for mennonites to their friends and their friends will be able to unlock them when
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they need to but they'll have to like tell the friends what they're going to do with the phone
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the phone reports what they were doing with the phone to their friends afterwards
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so you get this element of social shaming i'm like that's a really clever cultural technology that
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likely leads to more like better mental health outcomes for this community now here i would note
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empirically and and this is this is now to the question of do you have any thoughts before i go
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further here's a moment no well i mean i think you should also sorry i do you should point out the the
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lack of of practicality among the amish when it comes to their pacifism and their dependence
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therefore on the oh yeah why you just do not consider them as a mainstream player in human civilization
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when we do consider hereti jews too yeah so the amish live near us right um they are protected and
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they don't see it this way but it's a functional truth they think that their land is protected by god
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and that god is what keeps other people from taking their land from them i don't believe that i have
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seen eminent domain steal their land many times it's happening right now they are protected by the state
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they are protected by the police and the u.s military because if those groups didn't exist
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and my ancestors like if you look at my ancestors and and their ancestors where they scuffled in the
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past the old scotch-irish groups that lived in these areas they were never able to move close to our
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territory because we would just kill them and take their land i'm not saying that's a good thing i'm
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just saying that that was the reality of the way these two groups thought about the world so specifically
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here i'm talking about the cultural group that in the book american nations is called the greater
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appalachian cultural group or in the book albion seed is called the backwoods people cultural group
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and the way that they saw the world was if there's a person living next to me that has a lot of stuff
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and doesn't have the will to defend that stuff then it is my moral obligation to relieve them of it
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this is why there's no historically relevant large settlements of amish in the greater appalachian
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territory and i'll show a map right here of where the amish settlements are so you can see that this
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is very much the case now obviously they don't see the world like this anymore but this is mostly
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because they're living under the pox de romana at the moment and i do not know if there are not people
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in the united states even today who may not still carry remnants of this mindset especially if things
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got desperate i.e their kids would starve if they didn't start stealing from their neighbors
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and here i would note when you look at poverty in the united states right now a lot of people don't
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realize as we go into fertility collapse a lot of the social services that are supporting both the rural
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and urban poor in this country are going to fall apart and as simone pointed out something like
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89 of people on government services today could not handle even an unexpected thousand dollar expense
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if those services disappear which in many cases are making up the majority of their caloric and housing
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needs what do you think those people are going to do and how do you think we're going to keep
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paying for those services as population begins to collapse but what i'm saying is sorry when i say
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the pox de romana people don't know the pox de romana was a piece of rome many of the barbarian
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countries may have hated rome but they also realized that the reason they weren't fighting amongst each
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other is because they were living under rome the urban monoculture has a pox de romana when the united
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states begins to break down in the developed country in the same way south africa has because the
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developed country breaking down enters the state of economic development much worse than a developing
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country at an equal level of economic like gdp a great example of this is you can compare something
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like south africa and and thailand right you know they're about equal gdp but like living in south africa
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is like living in road warrior basically and as we begin to break down as a country
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they will either need to change their ways or they will be extinguished by neighboring groups and
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pacifistic communities have been extinguished many times through history i expect them to be
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extinguished before they defend themselves unless they form some sort of synergistic relationship with
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a warlike people but i don't think that they would do that because they have a quite a level of disgust
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towards people who defend themselves which is i think so that there there are two things that we're
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looking at i mean they're more than two but what we're looking at is one both the amish and heredi
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jews are interesting and that you could argue that they were oppressing men and then are more othered
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their dress is more restrictive and othering and differentiated from that of the normal population
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and they are more socially isolated you could argue than the rest of the population and they have
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higher birth rates and that we should be looking at that from a birth rate perspective but we should also be
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aware of the fact that flexibility when it comes to isolation a part of your population from the rest
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of society is important if you want to maintain relevancy in the future because the future will not
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necessarily protect you or provide amenities you may be depending on now like national security for
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the heredi jews in israel and like sovereignty and land rights that the amish enjoy in the united states
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right yes yes which is actually a really interesting point when you think about the groups that are
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going to survive so when i'm looking around the world i'm not just looking at fertility rates like
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fertility rates are nice but the groups need to generally have a few other things as well they
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need to have fertility rates they need to have a general high level of intergenerational cultural fidelity
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they need to have some degree of technophilia or at least the capacity to perform high-tech stuff
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i.e. ai development ai integration physics engineering if you don't have that you're not
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going to be able to war against people who do have those technologies it's like in civ you can't fight
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against somebody with half their tech tree competed if you're in like the modern age you're just going
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to get stomped in two seconds and as we as technology develops as you get like automated ai drone swarms this
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problem becomes worse but then in addition to that the group needs to have a level of fierceness and
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willingness to defend their people to the death and the amish don't have that and if you don't have
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that it doesn't matter what your fertility rate is you're not going to matter in the future
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variety do have that yeah i've got to keep going with the statistics here and why all right all right
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we've talked about this in a number of other podcasts but i should probably mention it here if
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you're looking for a model of what it looks like when a developed country starts collapsing
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do not look to develop countries for a model of that look to well collapsing developed countries
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a great example for one if you want to predict what the future of the united states may look
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like under fertility collapse is south africa which is a great example of a collapsing developed world
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economy and you just as an amish group would not be able to survive in current south africa somebody
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would just come kill you and take your stuff the country's police infrastructure is not strong
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enough to protect a group that is systemically unwilling to protect itself but did you have a
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thought here before i go further into this well i'm wondering what you think we in our religion
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techno puritanism should do to oppress men more and get to that in a second because first we need to
00:25:55.800
understand why oppressing men helps yeah okay okay so first by the stats because i think this surprises
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people most of these religions that quote unquote oppress women actually have a higher rate of male
00:26:08.600
defection than female defection if you look at something like the vast majority and i'll put a study
00:26:14.280
on here on screen that shows this but take for example mormons or hutterites for example both groups
00:26:20.120
have a higher level of male defection than female defection you know this makes sense because no one wants
00:26:24.760
to be the dom because being the dom takes so much more work you know say that but like if you go to
00:26:30.040
a bdsm club it's like true like huge arbitrage opportunity to be a good dom yeah you can just
00:26:35.000
lap up sex and because there's so few of them both males and females that are like really good at it
00:26:40.120
and so yeah even even among males you know you you you get a and this is i think something i should
00:26:45.320
note while more men on average prefer to be dominant than not dominant the percent of women that
00:26:52.280
prefer a dominant partner and are heterosexual is much higher than the number of men who fall
00:26:57.960
dominant which means that there's always going to be an over selection for for for women looking for
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that also and i also think part of this is when we talk about the discrimination of women we might
00:27:07.320
be underselling how much they may not be being discriminated in these roles and that things like
00:27:12.360
being a stay-at-home wife can be a pretty good gig or these days it's it's a flex these days it's a luxury
00:27:19.160
that is not afforded to most there's something like the haraidi women right like i we did an
00:27:24.920
episode recently that was on the the men's right movement misunderstands what women want
00:27:32.200
and i was like what they really want is to be a service to someone who they think is passionate
00:27:37.800
about what they're doing and living a meaningful life especially when it's a domain that they don't
00:27:41.560
engage with as much and that's why the haraidi's cultural technology and the way that they focus on
00:27:45.800
this is so high utility because these women are actually living very fulfilling lives
00:27:50.600
from the perspective of the way human females are predominantly biologically coded and for
00:27:56.680
people recently i was watching a show and i was like oh this is actually a very good depiction
00:28:01.080
of the way women actually want to relate to men instead of this typical like red pill get in the
00:28:04.520
kitchen way specifically the episode in question here was women prefer submissive roles in relationships
00:28:09.880
but not in the way you think and the core argument that we were making in it was that while it is
00:28:15.560
true that many while obviously not all women prefer a submissive role in a relationship that does not mean
00:28:22.840
that they want to be treated poorly by their partners or that they want their partners to predominantly
00:28:30.600
demonstrate dominance through putting them down and what they're really looking for is just somebody with
00:28:38.520
uh consistent in what individually thought through set of moral values as well as some vision for
00:28:45.960
their role in the world that they are genuinely passionate about and that they can have the
00:28:50.600
opportunity to support and help with which is my hero academia and the characters gentle i believe
00:28:57.000
it's gentleman criminal and labrava you haven't seen it i'll put a little clip on the screen of them
00:29:01.880
because they're a really cute couple but it does a very good job of showing the way that i think that
00:29:07.640
what women mean when they say they want a quote unquote dominant partner they want to partner
00:29:12.360
with a vision that they can assist not to be stomped on by somebody at least outside of the bedroom that's
00:29:18.040
like a different thing that we talked about that really and i think the gentle criminal labrava dynamic
00:29:23.320
works really well with this particular explanation because it curves off some of the excuses that pointing
00:29:29.720
out that girls want to be in service to a guy who has a consistent source of ethics that he has thought
00:29:35.560
through himself and that is trying to achieve something bigger in the world they can hear
00:29:41.800
that and think oh what he means is a really successful big deal guy who everyone out there respects
00:29:48.360
but not necessarily for example gentle criminal is not a well-respected individual but he is somebody
00:29:53.960
with a vision that he believes in passionately and he is trying to achieve passionately he he is
00:30:00.040
somebody with his own aesthetic and ethical sense that he believes in 100 percent and lives for and
00:30:09.800
for those reasons labrava looks up to him as a dominant figure in her life but not a figure who is
00:30:15.640
dominating her i.e uh abusing her or looking down on her or using her
00:30:22.760
i don't even have to hack your heart you're coated your love in an abstract car this dream was so
00:30:34.840
dim but you lit up my day life had no meaning you show me the way i wouldn't expect them to understand
00:30:39.800
frivolous uploads are fruit on the ground we have bigger plans i'm here to equip i think i have fallen
00:30:44.280
but must admit l-o-v-e love lights camera action cut and here are my eyes think what you want we do
00:30:51.160
with purpose not just for the block give me a purpose i give you my love the stronger it is the
00:30:55.480
stronger we are my portals are thin closer than a right hand closer to your heart than a jet stand
00:31:00.440
i'll be here when needed so please need me always dark circles around my eyes and all i see is you
00:31:06.520
engaged you'll be famous for this gentle i'm just a stage hand but i'm here to back you up and
00:31:12.600
terrify those who say you can but i need to go further here because why why is it that oppressing
00:31:19.000
men helps well first you see the the the first part of the hint there the first part of the hint
00:31:25.320
is that it turns out that the audience you're really trying to keep within your religion is
00:31:30.680
the men and not the women first of all right second also in mainstream western society women appear
00:31:37.960
more prone to adopt the dictates of society than men women go to university are de facto houses of
00:31:44.120
worship at significantly higher rates than men women also have adopted woke ideology our modern
00:31:48.920
religion to a much higher degree i think one of the main messages of sarah hardy's mother nature can
00:31:53.960
be summarized into one sentence women get slutty when men are unreliable which is more or less what
00:32:00.840
john berger and marcy guttyag say too when men are in numerically advantageous positions they become
00:32:09.800
unreliable and women respond to men's lack of reliability through competing more intensely for
00:32:15.320
men's attraction think about it a bit what sarah hardy and john bigger and marcy guttyag are actually
00:32:21.400
saying is the males are the variable sex men have two reproductive strategies between which they alternate
00:32:28.680
a high investment female like reproductive strategy and a low investment strategy that reminds us of
00:32:34.200
what most male mammals are up to meanwhile human females only have one reproductive strategy very
00:32:40.200
high investment so i need to note the studies that she's talking about here because they're actually
00:32:45.960
pretty interesting studies so it is it is it is well demonstrated that within college campuses for
00:32:51.720
example the higher the portion of the student body that is female the sluttier the females on that
00:32:58.600
campus will be the more they'll sleep around and the easier it is to get them to sleep with somebody
00:33:03.000
and the less now of course the problem is that our entire bureaucratic world the environments where
00:33:09.160
women are disproportionately finding themselves including the school system is coming hugely
00:33:13.400
overwhelmingly female and there haven't been any real efforts to reverse this because you're
00:33:16.760
which leads to terrible competitive dynamics with relationships and it leads to women beginning to
00:33:22.360
code themselves in this incredibly slutty context
00:33:27.560
and act slutty which then leads it harder to find males blah blah blah the other thing i note here is
00:33:32.920
i really do think they're right about this men are the variable sex culturally speaking so many men
00:33:38.440
they come to me and they're like well when i'm dating these women are so culturally different from me
00:33:42.840
like what am i supposed to do and i'm like well one if you started dating younger like you're supposed to
00:33:47.080
it wouldn't be much of a problem because they adapt much faster and two most women adapt to the male's
00:33:53.480
culture if the male is strong and confident and have a cohesive culture and a cohesive vision
00:33:59.240
and they are not implementing it through some sort of deontological because i told you to mindset
00:34:03.800
especially if they are embodying it themselves simone was far far far progressive when i met her
00:34:09.240
right i think that women are very comfortable changing their cultural context if either the dominant
00:34:16.040
environment they're in and this is why it gets dangerous if you're if your wife is going out
00:34:19.000
and she's not working with you the way me and my wife do you know she could be getting counter
00:34:22.200
brainwashed at work right you know who knows fair point right but both men and women sort of
00:34:27.160
brainwash themselves within relationships and are pre-coded to do this if you are really leaning into the
00:34:33.320
relationship together okay so i mean i would also i i just want to point out that one of the most
00:34:41.240
common things that you and i say in terms of when demographic collapse actually started you know
00:34:46.280
when when the titanic started heading toward the iceberg was when madden left the house it should
00:34:51.880
be no surprise to us going out that this this male oppression theme comes up with a very clever writer
00:34:58.680
who's a sub stack i can't wait to like dive into if it is a sub stack i haven't checked oh that's
00:35:03.000
actually a really interesting thing people often frame it when women started getting those first
00:35:07.320
jobs factory jobs in cities as a form of emancipation and yet we never hear about the
00:35:13.080
male emancipation of the first male job from the household yeah which really came about only about
00:35:17.320
50 to 60 years before the first female jobs became common people don't realize how recent wage labor
00:35:22.840
as a common practice is yeah so expressed in mathematical terms male reproductive strategy is the
00:35:29.400
variable female reproductive strategy is the function of that variable depending on circumstances
00:35:34.040
males will adjust their reproductive strategies females will not do that they will always try to coax
00:35:38.520
men into investing as much as possible in their children their message will follow the behavior of
00:35:43.160
the males but their objective will always be the same to obtain as much investment as possible
00:35:48.760
from as genetically desirable men as possible that seems true to me a woman is the idea of like a
00:35:57.720
monogamous like fully committed man is quite a good deal for women uh humor well it's super rare these
00:36:04.840
days right it's it's it's rare these days and it's it's rare throughout a lot of history unless you're talking
00:36:10.040
about specifically the jewish well really just the christian branch of the judeo-christian tree
00:36:14.680
no i would just i want to add that it this the modern dynamic also uniquely ruins high quality men
00:36:21.160
in other words male empowerment almost sterilizes high quality men because it it it leads them to
00:36:28.440
decision paralysis with women because they they know that they can have any woman they want and a
00:36:34.600
man who knows he can have any woman he wants is never going to want to commit to well if we have
00:36:40.360
seen this with a lot of our friends but i would note here was a caveat and the way we will avoid this
00:36:44.440
with our kids this is the case if and only if they are sorting for partners and value sex
00:36:54.360
yeah but it's most men in mainstream culture i agree but people wonder why we're so against
00:36:59.240
arousal and arousal based systems for choosing a partner and it's because it really ends up screwing
00:37:04.600
because it's dumb guys it's dumb not being so horny when you tell young people look this sex thing is
00:37:12.120
no different from cocaine it's just cocaine you have to do you can better get them to understand
00:37:17.320
that they need to be focused on a spouse who will be a good mother and a good wife and a good worker
00:37:24.680
well here's the crazy thing people intuitively know this people in droves are shooting up with ozempic
00:37:31.480
because they even know that their choice to choose yummy foods is inherently making them sick and unhealthy
00:37:39.160
and unsuccessful in life and so they're choosing to suppress their appetite and their hunger why
00:37:46.280
would people not also see the benefit in suppressing your arousal if it's leading you to make toxic
00:37:52.280
decisions that prevent you from creating a family and finding greater meaning in life like what on earth but
00:37:59.480
there's no industry there's no i guess pharmaceutical industry supporting
00:38:03.080
oh honestly though i feel like endocrine disruptors are doing a good enough job
00:38:09.080
you know screw yeah right so naturally pacifying the quote-unquote male population of gen alpha yeah
00:38:16.040
just keep wearing your synthetic clothing with microplastics keep you know microwaving your you
00:38:20.840
know plastic container dinners and please continue to use you know mainstream shampoos and lotions and
00:38:26.440
soaps go ahead just do it i admire you okay okay you're right and i appreciate all the things you
00:38:31.880
protect our family from so when did i say i was protecting our family from those things we want
00:38:37.240
to suppress arousal in our house bring on the plastic cups malcolm yeah yeah they should only be pursuing
00:38:44.600
partners because it's logical and pragmatic but truly actually no actually speaking of this
00:38:50.120
in that video where everyone was like oh my god you want to get rid of arousal patterns
00:38:54.520
and simone afterwards to me this morning she's like but like you know it's like they know i'm
00:38:59.640
asexual right like i until i met you i had never experienced real arousal before like it's not that
00:39:07.000
bad it's not this guys so be a life that they believe it is it's my life so devoid of happiness do i look like
00:39:15.960
you know i don't know a soulless depressed person maybe maybe maybe yeah the whole thing there
00:39:24.520
all right in other words under primitive circumstances human males oppress human females
00:39:29.000
for the same reason that baboon males oppress baboon females in order to maximize their own
00:39:33.960
reproductive opportunities scaring a woman into being one's wife is simply a way of getting an
00:39:39.720
additional wife or a wife gearing other men into giving up their wives is a well-known way of getting
00:39:45.240
another wife and as i wrote about the post on my post violent enough to stand still this makes
00:39:52.200
cooperation between men difficult whatever society can gather men into an army despite these differences
00:39:58.440
of opinion will win the wars if cloistering the females makes cooperation between men easier
00:40:04.360
then that is the rational way forwards so saying that this is why historically like in islamic societies
00:40:09.960
especially societies where people can take more than one wife you know it's very hard to motivate
00:40:14.280
people to go out to war because other men will take your wives while you're gone as we know from like
00:40:20.200
the tale of basheba right you know this is something that happened historically frequently if another
00:40:25.880
man saw your wife walking around being all sexy they'd be like hey baby i saw you on the roof you
00:40:30.280
were looking pretty fine i could see those ankles why don't you come back to my place but if all women
00:40:36.120
are all constantly covered then women are just traded like assets between families during marriage
00:40:42.920
ceremonies like oh we want to create a bond for our family and nobody's really concerned about what they
00:40:47.400
look like which actually makes things work much better especially when you're removing mate selection
00:40:52.120
choice from men because of arranged marriages and the like at some point however when population
00:40:57.800
increases enough for land to become scarce men will compete less over women and more over resources
00:41:03.480
i wrote about that in the price of a woman women will be increasingly irrelevant to conflicts
00:41:08.120
between men which decreases the infant the incentive to oppress them on the whole classical gender
00:41:13.880
oppression where males control particular females is a remnant from a time when females were one of
00:41:19.640
the most important resources and i actually think that's a really important point an interesting thing
00:41:25.640
that simone asked me as well when i read this the first time she goes well okay if in the old society
00:41:31.720
the way they prevented conflict and created higher trust relationship between males was to hide the value of
00:41:38.280
the female resource that each man controlled right how do people do that in the age of
00:41:45.560
capitalism right and i was like well that is why pretty much are many of the major cultural revolutions
00:41:54.280
in the post-industrial capitalist era happened in areas that were predominantly calvinist because calvinism
00:42:00.520
has more solution to that it is the wealth version of covering your wife in drapes and everything like
00:42:07.640
that and that the early puritan and other calvinist groups believed that allowing anyone else to
00:42:14.040
see your wealth or to show off with your wealth even so far as giving to charity publicly was incredibly
00:42:21.640
sinful and prideful and this is something you were supposed to hide as much as you could then this is
00:42:28.520
where there's a famous old book on capitalism that argues that it came from the communities because they
00:42:34.520
believed that okay you you god shows you how much favors you how much money you make
00:42:40.760
but he's giving you that money at the test and if you spend it on yourself that's a sin you spend it
00:42:47.400
on art that's a sin if you give it to your church you can give a little to your church but remember
00:42:52.120
the churches cannot use any art or gold or organs or pageantry which means the church really doesn't
00:42:59.320
need that much money or you could give it to charity but no you can't do that because that would be
00:43:03.720
prideful so what do you do is that you reinvest it in your company and no one else was really
00:43:07.960
reinvesting or had come up with this idea of money has no value other than to grow the company for god
00:43:13.720
to further prove to me my favor and that led to this loop that unfortunately burned itself out for
00:43:19.320
reasons we get to in other videos like where did the puritans go yeah i feel like your perception that
00:43:24.840
the protection of modern assets led to calvinism is overly optimistic and that what we're seeing today
00:43:32.600
in reality is this obsession we see among wealthy people with privacy where they're like i don't post
00:43:38.840
anything to social media and here's the thing this is totally different really completely and totally
00:43:44.920
different so i'm sorry i i hang out in wealthy culture it within current american wealthy culture
00:43:51.640
within my generation when i was growing up it was considered gauche to show off yeah particularly
00:43:57.240
within old money families we'll do another video on why most of the old money families fell apart
00:44:01.320
because they did fall apart within this last generation i can just quickly explain why it
00:44:05.240
happened the core reason it happened is i grew up with lots of like around lots of blood kids who all
00:44:10.760
expected to take over their families companies and their families sort of expected them to take over
00:44:14.520
their families companies because that is what had happened for four or five generations what they didn't
00:44:19.400
realize is that boards exist now and none of the board because this is what they weren't as common
00:44:25.560
well yeah well yeah these these companies became less privately held and more held by other investors
00:44:31.080
and boards are publicly traded etc too yeah and so little junior can't just take over anymore unless he's
00:44:37.800
got you know a stanford or harvard degree you know you you well and he's performing well it's not even
00:44:44.040
that's not even right yeah and they thought they could another thing i should note here is a lot of people
00:44:48.040
are like my views are really off because you know i have intergenerational wealth i should note i can
00:44:53.880
code switch into blue blood society but my family does not have intergenerational wealth and has not
00:45:01.720
had intergenerational wealth for generations so for example my dad made a lot of money but i didn't
00:45:08.360
inherit any money from him i didn't inherit i got like maybe like 30k when my mom died like i don't know if
00:45:14.520
that's what you consider intergenerational wealth and people would be like well then your dad must
00:45:18.360
have inherited money my dad so didn't inherit money his granddad actually took out millions of dollars
00:45:25.800
of debt in his name without his permission that is how in the whole he started his life
00:45:33.320
and yeah i i was always raised believing and my family always raised every generation believing that
00:45:37.640
you're never going to inherit anything you're not supposed to inherit anything and so i wasn't surprised
00:45:42.520
when i learned i wasn't going to inherit anything it wasn't like a big like oh okay yeah i've been
00:45:46.600
told that since i was a little kid so uh there are different ways that you can relate to
00:45:52.280
intergenerational wealth and i did have advantages knowing how to code switch growing up around those
00:45:56.840
people and having my college paid for which are all very very big things but i i i'd point out you
00:46:01.240
know they didn't even pay for for example simone's college i paid for that right like so going forward
00:46:07.080
so sorry i just need to to to explain to you so right there's been a a shift in wealthy culture
00:46:12.360
in our society where you had the old money when i was growing up which still played a big part in
00:46:16.040
like aristocratic american society and they found big spending very gauche but they had ways to
00:46:23.160
signal wealth to each other so there was still wealth status signaling but they did it stealth
00:46:29.160
wealth yes but they did it in a different way the modern not stealth wealth like what trended when
00:46:34.760
succession was out by the way like the modern super wealthy communities which we also have
00:46:39.640
connections to make no effort at all to hide their wealth why is it then that to your question some
00:46:50.280
of them care about privacy the answer to that is very very obvious i talked about another episode
00:46:57.800
they try to hide their wealth simone because when you have all the money in the world when you're in
00:47:04.520
billionaire club and you can do whatever you want the core thing of value in our existing society
00:47:10.680
because the way a billionaire can live in our society really is like 10 better than the way
00:47:15.720
somebody was like i don't know a million dollars a year can live or somebody was like half a million
00:47:20.840
dollars a year can live it's marginally better yeah probably even half a million is where you start
00:47:26.040
to see like extreme diminishing marginal returns yeah so where do they actually gain power it is through
00:47:31.880
controlling attention and controlling attention can mean either directing additional attention to you
00:47:38.360
or directing it away from you or ensuring that when attention is on you it is the type of attention
00:47:43.800
you want on you in that moment this is why the wealthiest person in the world spent a big chunk of
00:47:48.760
his money buying one of the largest social media platforms as largely a vanity project this is why you're
00:47:54.760
seeing this simone they do it they hide themselves on social media as they flex they scrub themselves
00:48:02.520
as a flex because it's expensive and hard to do that but the point i was making here was is that if you
00:48:11.640
look historically within these old puritan and calvinist traditions it would have been seen as intrinsically
00:48:17.320
low class to look well you needed to always look as if you were constantly living in a state of
00:48:26.440
deprivation this is really elevated and shown this culture very well in scrooge where it shows in the
00:48:32.440
in the scrooge christmas carol if you read it he ate gruel every day he didn't fully heat his house
00:48:38.280
he did he only had one servant he very very very dedicated living an extremely austere lifestyle
00:48:45.160
and in it he also here he never donated to charity because again that was a traditional calvinist
00:48:49.160
thing and ebenezer was considered one of the most it's it's like jewie mc jew face as a calvinist
00:48:54.120
name i don't know it would be called like somebody be called like ellie iser greenfield or something
00:48:59.240
like it's it's a very calvinist-y name so much so that ebenezer yeah having a relative with a name
00:49:05.800
ebenezer is considered a puritan spotting checklist thing so really he was just like a i call it a
00:49:10.920
corrective grape fantasy of the calvinist cultural tradition around the way you should relate to money
00:49:17.160
but to go further here simone why is it that we need to oppress men and we keep getting distracted
00:49:24.440
here well and how would we in our family religion design male oppression since we're going to be
00:49:32.680
intentional about everything that way females take over important parts of society meanwhile we are
00:49:38.520
subservient to men in one important area reproduction in theory women can have children without fathers
00:49:44.280
present technically we can use men as firm donors and raise children cooperatively a bit like female
00:49:50.120
herd animals do the problem is we don't seem to have that mindset the female mind doesn't revolve
00:49:57.880
mainly around raising children it revolves at least equally much around moments and love as long as our
00:50:03.560
mental worlds and our social instincts revolve around men we will be prisoners of men no matter
00:50:09.320
how much we take over society powered by our superior adaptability as long as we adapt to them
00:50:15.160
the men will somehow rule us anyhow but the problem is that the men aren't ruling right now right so
00:50:21.560
they're not able to take on this role because when they don't know how to act like men and then two
00:50:25.720
the urban monoculture creates really bad cultural practices so here is the core point that she's making
00:50:32.200
men leave cultures more easily than women high investment strategies appear to keep men in
00:50:37.960
cultures longer and or women in cultures longer why are we not doing more high in in investment
00:50:44.840
strategies for men so i went to someone i was like simone what can i wear like 24 7 that's gonna
00:50:50.200
ingratiate you with me they would make you happiest to be married to me because i believe i have a religious
00:50:55.640
duty i believe all men do to determine their wives fantasies and do everything they can
00:51:01.800
to help them larp that fantasy so long as it isn't too sinful and indulgent you know so long as it's
00:51:06.520
not distracting us from our industry or our worship then uh whatever larp you want to live i'm doing
00:51:12.360
it for you so i was like i wore a three-piece suit 24 7 like fully tailored you find that i know you
00:51:17.640
find it attractive no i mean yeah no three-piece suits and well tailored formal wear are the lingerie
00:51:23.880
version for for women of what men can wear but i think just the the level of discipline that would
00:51:31.720
make the most sense in a household like ours especially a pronatalist household where there's
00:51:35.560
lots of kids and messes is just to be nicely dressed in practical clothes i like the polo shirts and jeans
00:51:43.480
that you wear but to always be nicely dressed in clean clothes that are you know well maintained that you
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know with with hair that is not messy differentiate me from society so we won't get the differential
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benefit yeah i don't i think the more important element is the othering to you personally and the
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fact that you have a restricted wardrobe like you can't just choose to wear anything it's always going
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to be yeah so people are aware of how my wardrobe rules work and how our religious rules work around
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dress i am only allowed to wear three outfits for three different levels of what's the word here
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formalness because i'm never supposed to like social occasions yeah social occasions so i have one outfit
00:52:28.200
which is a black polo and jeans and yellow boots and a yellow belt i have one outfit which is slightly more
00:52:35.400
formal it's it's jeans nicer shoes black belt and vest and tie and long sleeve shirt so in texas tux
00:52:43.640
basically texas tux really and then they then the last one is a three-piece suit you also have a
00:52:48.520
formal tuxedo which you know most men in western societies need but it's your tuxedo from saint
00:52:53.480
andrews so it's a tuxedo yeah it seems some shit that that thing it has like holes in it but that's fine
00:53:00.040
whatever people shouldn't be making me wear a damn tuxedo anyway it's gauche um you keep pulling
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it out you know look the point i'm making is i i have only one outfit like a cartoon character when
00:53:12.360
i open my wardrobe basically just one outfit is what i have access to and that outfit now what that
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outfit is for an individual from a religious perspective is fairly open for us like we should
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think that you should have one consistent and only outfit that differs based on level of formality
00:53:29.960
however it can be whatever your family thinks is right for you but it shouldn't contain any
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element of designer brand where coolie or lower expensive non-designer brand would be more durable
00:53:41.960
or you know nice to wear yeah like don't wear the north face puffer when you could get an amazon
00:53:46.680
basics puffer that's just as good and literally all of my clothes by the way are amazon basics this is
00:53:50.680
an amazon basic shirt i wear amazon basics jeans everything's amazon basics but then the second thing is is
00:53:55.720
that i wear the same outfits as our male children and our female children all wear proximate of what
00:54:01.800
simone wears which is black dresses black dresses yeah which is really interesting if they're not
00:54:08.600
dressing like malcolm yeah so well sometimes the female children also dress like me and this does other
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us really significantly in both media and in public to the extent where we were in telluride recently
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walking around and we kept getting pulled over on the street by people who would be like oh you're
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the yellow boots family it would happen like multiple times in between blocks well it was
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interesting too is one of the the comments that people had if they weren't just complimenting us
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was they were saying like where are her boots indicating our little indie right here who is not
00:54:40.280
wearing yellow boots people are like they like it so much that it bothers them that not the complete
00:54:45.720
family is in yellow boots despite the fact that she's she can't crawl yet she can barely roll over
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let alone walk so there's no reason i guess you gotta get little yellow booties for her people would
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love that though wouldn't they yeah i'll see how small they get get little yellow socks are for her or
00:55:01.080
something oh yeah um so that is so well yeah like we don't have specific religious rules and and i think
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people would immediately recognize like if this became a large tradition people would immediately be like oh
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it's the people who always dress like their children because even in like hard religious
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cultures it's actually fairly rare for the adults to dress like their children so like for example
00:55:23.080
in haradi communities the adults don't dress like their children in amish communities the adults
00:55:27.080
don't dress like their children yeah and there's there's they can dress a little similarly but i would
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just say that anyone who exists even vaguely on social media understands the impact of a family dressing
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similarly that when you know people are buying all your kids so the reason we do it is because
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every kid we can just move them between ages and it's all the same clothes that's very sustainable
00:55:49.320
yeah and you can just have a basket we have a basket for each kid that is full of their uniform
00:55:55.560
essentially and with your eyes closed you can just pull out from each kid's basket a shirt and pants
00:56:01.720
or a dress and it's just going to work so there is no automatically rotate as the kids get older
00:56:06.920
because it's just the last year's stuff yeah you're just switching over a year which is so easy and
00:56:11.800
nice i'm so glad we moved to the basket system it is amazing and i would say oh this is a fun thing
00:56:18.760
for parents who are implementing this the only area where we use different colored stuff is for socks
00:56:22.680
so that it's easy to tell which sock is which size yeah size of the different color yeah you'll use
00:56:27.880
that but you know people buy matching pajamas for christmas to take family photos because they have
00:56:34.120
such a big impact you could have that same impact on people to be just as noticeable just as as
00:56:40.520
remarkable if you all just dress the same way even when it's in something as mundane as a black polo
00:56:46.440
and jeans which is like it you know kind of cartoonishly plain clothing and i think that's
00:56:51.800
another element of it malcolm is you're like oh you know i need to be wearing something weirder
00:56:56.040
but that is inherently austere it is the sackcloth of the modern era the amazon basics yes so it's you
00:57:05.960
know but it is different from peasant wear like whenever we walk around target or walmart or something
00:57:11.560
and i like look at the clothing now it just looks so much like i now i can't unsee it like all the
00:57:17.080
synthetic fabrics the printed shirts the this these like the whole like disposable clothing thing
00:57:23.640
once you start to recognize that you can't unsee it and you can't unsee that it's like peasant clothes
00:57:27.880
like people are literally wearing rags that fall apart after a couple washes i think it's uh seven
00:57:33.320
days on average seven washes yeah okay so if you look at speaking of why would we do this as like a
00:57:40.360
religious system there's two reasons one is obviously the utility and the cost savings of running
00:57:45.800
things this way and the time savings in terms of my personal thought or anyone's personal thought but
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two it allows for personal customization so each family gets to do it but three it reminds the family
00:57:55.240
that they are a unit and they are like you are a part of the family right like you are not an individual
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really but you live in service to your family and you are a part of that family and finally the family
00:58:07.400
is an intergenerational unit when i talk with my son about what he's going to be when he grows up
00:58:12.680
you know he's going to be like mom and be a daddy like you and i'm gonna find a mommy like money
00:58:16.440
and i and i think when you look at how much a personality is heritable when you look at you
00:58:21.080
know all of this it just seems really clearly humans are an intergenerational entity and drawing
00:58:26.520
focus to that through the way individuals dress and i will note here that we won't have a ban on our
00:58:31.640
kids wearing different clothes if they want to they just need to buy them themselves yeah what the
00:58:36.600
family offers them is the basics this is what they get to wear for free and if they make money beyond
00:58:42.200
that and want to buy clothing anything beyond that is up to them yeah which is great that's good for
00:58:47.160
them i would say so you know clothing is just one pretty small how else are you going to oppress me
00:58:52.680
you really yeah like how well and i think what what ultimately you've highlighted is that it isn't
00:58:58.920
oppression it's buy-in it's investment it's it's really given giving people the opportunity to put
00:59:05.400
roots down and and most cultures these days even you know inherited religious cultures don't give
00:59:13.240
people the opportunity to put roots down and in the urban monoculture misinterprets all these
00:59:20.280
opportunities to dive deep into a religion as oppression when really they're just investment
00:59:25.640
opportunities so i think the bigger question is you know what are the investment opportunities and i
00:59:30.040
think that is you know family businesses is a really big one making those pervasive in our
00:59:35.080
culture and having them start really early like i want our kids to start family businesses super
00:59:39.240
super early our boys and our girls but i think it would make our boys more invested in our culture
00:59:44.600
when your livelihood becomes intertwined with your religion and culture you know things change and
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that i mean many many religions have done this the opposite way right by disempowering their members
00:59:55.560
from an educational standpoint but you could also make people dependent on your culture economically by
01:00:01.560
being so empowering that they want to stay within it to maintain their lifestyle and livelihood i'd also
01:00:07.560
note here a concept that we've talked about that is more othering for men than women is tactical
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honesty oh not more othering it's more costly for men than women because when women practice tactical
01:00:18.040
honesty i.e like being totally transparent about what their goals are with an individual there's much
01:00:22.440
more motivation for men to take advantage of them than there is for women to take advantage of men
01:00:26.200
by that what i mean is men get huge bonuses from signaling that they're interested in longer
01:00:32.120
term relationships and they're really interested in or that they're interested in other types of
01:00:35.400
relationships men are more incentivized to lie because women are more likely to have sex with
01:00:39.160
them if they signal long-term commitment so i think that men have an additional responsibility within our
01:00:45.240
culture to double down on tactical honesty especially in discussions of relationship and business
01:00:50.840
transactions yeah because that is also othering to your point which is great yeah well and in
01:00:54.920
friendships this means focus on a question you should be frequently asking the people that you're
01:00:59.240
interacting with is what are your major problems right now what are your major bottlenecks and
01:01:05.960
where can i help yeah basically am i useful to you and are you useful to me and if that is not mutual
01:01:13.480
we should not be talking right now yeah i love people always like malcolm you're so ruthless in
01:01:18.280
friendships why do you even save humanity if you don't like them and i'm like well i've got my wife you
01:01:21.960
know why would i why would i waste time talking to anyone who's not her you know and then if it's
01:01:26.760
not with her my kids like why bother making a friend you what if they touch me oh my gosh
01:01:36.120
what's wrong i love you i love you too speaking of which anytime now so how are you going to oppress
01:01:41.800
me more i just feel like so unoppressed in a relationship again i i think in the end it's not
01:01:47.640
oppression i think it is it's empowerment it's giving status and it's giving opportunities to
01:01:55.560
invest and that's what you're ultimately looking at when you see these levels of oh you hold on
01:02:01.160
you're right and i just realized what it is we see the difference in the individuals in these communities
01:02:09.000
by the way they dress but what's actually being preserved is the status hierarchy system's unique
01:02:17.080
structure when muslim males meet with other muslim males and i have seen this before
01:02:25.480
their status hierarchy is sorted in huge part based on their wealth and the things they have as it is by
01:02:32.040
mainstream society but uh haraidi jews it's based on their level of religious education yeah and among
01:02:42.200
the amish is based on their level of personal industry and labor and so that's what we need to maintain
01:02:49.560
industry above all and and unflappable happiness you cannot happiness is a choice it does not help the
01:02:57.240
people around you to signal any other emotional state now you can keep talking while i go get octavian
01:03:01.960
into chat with you uh for a little bit okay i'll interview octavian he will be devastated if we do
01:03:08.200
not if we do not ask him his questions octavian buddy be very careful here here sit here i need to
01:03:15.000
interview you okay oh you're wearing just your undershirt now you're outside of our dress why is he
01:03:19.560
in his undershirt anyway go get the hoods i'll interview him do you like your yellow boots yes
01:03:26.120
why do you wear yellow boots i'm taking them off now because i'm in the house you know why i'm taking
01:03:32.520
it off why because no shoes belong in houses that's right buddy good job and octavian what are you going
01:03:41.800
to do when you grow up because i'll be silly you'll be silly no i will not oh what are you going to be when
01:03:52.600
you grow up i'm gonna be nice and i will go many times i'll go to kindergarten many times if i'm big
01:04:08.920
and i'm at kindergarten people will know i'm octavian that's the plan that's that's more short term than we
01:04:16.920
had in mind but that's okay okay daddy and i were talking octavian and we decided that it's really
01:04:23.720
important that boys have to work very hard to become strong what do you think you should do
01:04:30.920
to make your life hard so you can get really really strong well when i get really strong i'll be
01:04:37.640
forward to carry heavy things and also big too and he said and he said that be cracking right there
01:04:48.360
okay so you'll carry heavy things are there other difficult things tricky difficult hard things you
01:04:53.640
can do to become strong nothing so nothing just are too strong for me nothing nothing's too difficult for
01:05:04.920
you no is it your job to do difficult hard things yes yes do you like do you like the outfits that you
01:05:17.080
wear your yellow boots and your jeans and your black shirt is it yes well this is so halloween
01:05:25.160
it's gonna be halloween soon my buddy and what are you going to be for halloween i'm gonna be for
01:05:31.000
halloween is a spooky ghost a spooky ghost it's gonna be so fun right yes yeah i'm excited for that too
01:05:41.240
why you know i know i always um i always know that ghosts are not invisible ghosts are not invisible
01:06:01.000
oh they're not well but octavian there is a type of ghost called a poltergeist that is invisible and
01:06:20.200
how is this you see a baby where's the baby deer you don't know do you want a big pizza for dinner
01:06:31.640
um yes a big pizza okay i'll get so mad at you guys okay i won't give you baby pizzas i will give you a big
01:06:42.440
pizza okay malcolm what do you want i did do you want me to start thawing out the lasagna for you
01:06:48.680
yeah i already ate today i love you malcolm i'll be done in a sec