Based Camp - Every Man (Sexually) is Simultaneously Raider & Homesteader

00:00:00.000 There are two major sexual events or strategies that a male can undertake that can overlap

00:00:06.140 and both be successful within the same individual.

00:00:08.200 And what this means is that there was likely a push for both strategies to develop within

00:00:14.960 men simultaneously.

00:00:16.640 And this leads to my hypothesis that the average man has a raider sexuality and a homesteader

00:00:26.560 sexuality.

00:00:27.200 And so the things that turn them on most when they do with their long-term partner may

00:00:34.740 be actually entirely divorced from the things that turn them on most when what would activate

00:00:41.120 our raider sexuality most within the modern world would be pornography.

00:00:44.700 These are women that you have no emotional connection to, you see as entirely disposable. 1.00

00:00:49.280 This can cause a lot of problems if a man, when he is young, when he's learning what

00:00:54.740 his sexuality is, he begins to think that his sexuality is only comprised of the type of

00:01:00.840 pornography that he's consuming.

00:01:02.820 Yeah.

00:01:03.280 If you can genuinely convince a woman's body that she's sleeping with a bunch of different 1.00

00:01:07.240 people through this sort of role play, you might be actually triggering the same biological

00:01:12.680 change that happens with her actually sleeping with a lot of people. 1.00

00:01:15.660 Would you like to know more?

00:01:17.920 It requires some major mental caliber, which only, only men have. 0.94

00:01:23.400 Simone was pointing out that some of our audience doesn't like when we're on the wrong side.

00:01:27.140 I see the comments.

00:01:28.560 I hear you people.

00:01:29.840 And I made sure that we...

00:01:31.480 This is the problem with attracting a disproportionately autistic audience.

00:01:35.320 Is they get annoyed when we're on the wrong side.

00:01:39.540 Well, you know what?

00:01:40.780 They're right to be annoyed.

00:01:42.460 But I want to talk about a concept that we have developed since writing The Pragmatist

00:01:46.260 Guide to Sexuality.

00:01:47.220 So of all of our theories of human sexuality, this is actually not in the book.

00:01:51.520 And we haven't done a test on this yet.

00:01:53.640 When I am done with important projects I'm working on now, I may one day run a test on

00:01:57.660 it.

00:01:57.820 Or when we have Ayla next on, because we're booking that now, I may try to compel her to include 0.99

00:02:03.500 this in one of her future studies.

00:02:04.880 But it is a concept that I think is really worth discussing on the channel in detail in

00:02:11.540 sort of a dedicated episode as the, what do we call it?

00:02:14.220 The dual sexual strategy hypothesis.

00:02:16.720 Okay, that's a good word for it.

00:02:19.040 To say that humans can have multiple sexual strategies pre-programmed into them that exist

00:02:26.640 alongside each other.

00:02:28.640 So one iteration of this that we do argue for in The Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality is

00:02:33.780 is how this works in women. 1.00

00:02:35.880 So in women, we argue that when a woman goes out there and sleeps with a ton of people, 1.00

00:02:41.980 her body undergoes something called a polymorphic change.

00:02:45.440 So polymorphic changes happen in animals.

00:02:48.340 The quintessential example of this is the grasshopper changing into a locus.

00:02:53.420 If you, so in nature, this happens when it's, when it gets over a certain population density,

00:02:57.920 but it can be simulated in a lab by rubbing its hind leg with a Q-tip and it leads to a behavioral

00:03:03.000 change.

00:03:03.500 It starts this swarming behavior.

00:03:04.640 It also changes its color, shape, and size.

00:03:07.720 So pretty big change.

00:03:09.240 But in primates, we see this in baboons.

00:03:11.520 And depending on like the resources that baboons have versus the troop size, they will change 1.00

00:03:16.480 their social structure.

00:03:17.860 So I think it's like in resource dense areas versus resource scarce areas, they switch between

00:03:24.020 larger social groups that are matriarchal versus smaller social groups that are patriarchal 0.80

00:03:29.020 or some inverse of that.

00:03:30.300 But it's a pretty significant change in how they structure themselves.

00:03:33.780 Well, in humans, a human female specifically, what we argue in the book, and I believe pretty

00:03:38.820 strongly, is that the more a human woman sleeps around, the lower, like there were some studies 0.96

00:03:46.620 done on this, the lower amounts of oxytocin she will produce with every first time new sexual 1.00

00:03:53.300 partner, meaning that she is less likely to have an automatic bond to that sexual partner,

00:03:59.320 which is very useful in a monogamous society, meaning that they basically automatically fall

00:04:04.040 in love with the first person they have sex with to some small extent.

00:04:07.800 And then to a smaller, you know, the second person, third person, but once they're on like

00:04:10.560 person five, this effect no longer happens at all.

00:04:13.400 And this can have a lot of problems in the dating market when women expect men that they 0.99

00:04:17.400 are sleeping with, like on guy 10, to ever be able to recapture the spark they had with

00:04:21.700 their first few romantic partners, which is often just impossible with women. 1.00

00:04:26.340 Not always.

00:04:27.180 I mean, obviously, you know, most men are born being attracted to the female body shape,

00:04:32.020 but some men are born being attracted to the male body shape, you know, as in women.

00:04:35.160 Some women don't have this effect happen to them. 1.00

00:04:36.940 But I think it happens with the majority of women. 1.00

00:04:40.440 And this is actually a very useful thing from a biological context.

00:04:44.280 So it meant that if you were a woman and you were in a monogamous culture, you would be 1.00

00:04:49.320 optimized for the monogamous lifestyle.

00:04:51.220 If you were in a culture where you were being passed around, i.e. your village had been raided,

00:04:55.440 or you were an ex-slave of some sort, then you would be biologically optimized for that

00:05:02.580 circumstance.

00:05:03.600 However, this is a trend I've noticed that we didn't mention in the book with the dual

00:05:07.280 female hypothesis. 1.00

00:05:08.720 I have noticed that women who sleep around more seem to be more in to what I would call 1.00

00:05:15.820 the category of arousal patterns that I call violent submission.

00:05:19.320 This is things like choking, spanking, degradation, stuff like that. 0.79

00:05:25.480 Ella must have data on this because I think she tracks body count, plus, of course, things

00:05:29.780 that turn people on.

00:05:31.740 Yeah.

00:05:32.040 So this is something that we could look at to see if there's a correlation there.

00:05:34.580 But I'm fairly certain you're going to end up finding a correlation there with the more

00:05:39.780 partners a woman is sleeping with, the more they are turned on because they are beginning 0.55

00:05:45.040 to be optimized, like biologically, for being a slave.

00:05:50.000 That's what they think they are.

00:05:51.840 They think they are an ex-slave that is being passed around some group that has raided and

00:05:56.620 captured her village.

00:05:57.540 This is something that happened very, very frequently in a historical context.

00:06:01.080 So frequently that if you read the Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, we talk about all the places

00:06:05.500 you see this in behavioral patterns.

00:06:07.140 So you can see it's pretty deeply carved into our DNA.

00:06:11.000 But, Simone, do you want to speak to this at all?

00:06:12.700 No, well, this is all stuff we've talked about before.

00:06:16.380 So I'm more interested in hearing you go over the male side of this, which is not in the 0.76

00:06:20.320 Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, in which you have come up with recently.

00:06:23.640 Well, no, something we haven't talked about before is the hypothesis that women who sleep

00:06:27.260 around more are going to be more turned on by a violent degradation than women who sleep 1.00

00:06:32.420 around more.

00:06:32.640 I don't predict that with the same confidence that you do.

00:06:37.440 Good.

00:06:37.720 Next hypothesis is, I was thinking, like, if evolution was going to select for something,

00:06:43.660 there are two major sexual events or strategies that a male can undertake.

00:06:48.880 And it's very important to understand that males can undertake both simultaneously.

00:06:54.460 And historically, the successful males almost always undertook both simultaneously.

00:06:59.600 Okay?

00:06:59.880 So a lot of people see, like, okay, so there's two different strategies.

00:07:04.020 You as a guy can go out and do a bunch of graping as a warrior, like going out and conquering

00:07:10.860 areas.

00:07:11.700 Go a Viking in a historic context or in Rome, like go out with legions, right? 1.00

00:07:16.380 And end up impregnating a bunch of people within the areas that you conquer.

00:07:19.820 And that can lead to, you know, famously Genghis Khan, right?

00:07:22.120 Like tons and tons and tons and tons of offspring.

00:07:23.960 But then the other strategy and the often more default, like it's almost sort of like

00:07:29.500 a overlapping K and R selecting strategy.

00:07:32.640 K versus R selecting is, are you investing a lot of time in your offspring?

00:07:35.460 Are you investing a little time in your offspring?

00:07:37.180 Well, the same legionary may have a wife back at home.

00:07:41.660 You know, think about the movie Gladiator or whatever, right?

00:07:43.800 Like he would still have his plot back at home where he had eight kids on the farm and

00:07:48.880 he would be working to help that family.

00:07:51.580 Well, the fact that these two sexual strategies in men can overlap was in the same successful

00:07:57.880 male.

00:07:58.640 And this is true, like going a Viking.

00:08:00.220 Like if I'm going a Viking and I'm out there and I have an impulse, which causes me to impregnate

00:08:05.440 people when I am raiding a village in Northern England, right?

00:08:09.860 I would need a completely different set of impulses to ensure that I both find a high quality

00:08:15.960 partner for who is my stable partner, who's keeping my farm running, who's providing me with

00:08:20.680 food when I get back from a Viking that is taking care of the kids that are going to 1.00

00:08:25.000 inherit my family name and everything like that, right?

00:08:27.380 You have two strategies here that can overlap and both be successful within the same individual.

00:08:33.100 And what this means is that there was likely a push for both strategies to develop within

00:08:39.720 men simultaneously.

00:08:41.220 And this leads to my hypothesis that men have, your average man, obviously, you know, as I 0.96

00:08:49.820 said, some men are gay.

00:08:50.740 So there's all sorts of like a little weird ways a guy can be programmed. 0.73

00:08:54.300 Maybe a guy only has one of these appear in him.

00:08:56.120 But I think that the average man has a raider sexuality and a homesteader sexuality.

00:09:04.640 And so the things that turn them on most when they do with their long-term partner may be

00:09:12.600 actually entirely divorced from the things that turn them on most when what would activate

00:09:18.600 our raider sexuality most within the modern world would be pornography.

00:09:22.180 These are women that you have no emotional connection to, you see as entirely disposable. 1.00

00:09:26.280 And it would explain why in pornography, you see such a violent slash hardcore pornography

00:09:34.560 appearing because that pornography is always, or pornography more generally, is always appealing

00:09:43.440 to the raider side of a male sexuality.

00:09:45.700 Interesting.

00:09:46.300 Now, this can cause a lot of problems if a man, when he is young and is not sexually successful

00:09:53.600 because he doesn't get any, you know, long-term partners, he doesn't get any women who he's

00:09:58.580 sleeping with that he respects and a part of his brain sees as homesteader sexuality.

00:10:02.880 So when he's learning what his sexuality is, he begins to think that his sexuality is only

00:10:09.940 comprised of the type of pornography that he's consuming.

00:10:12.520 And this leads to men beginning to personally identify and build into their personal narrative

00:10:20.960 of who they are as a person, this violent sexual raider personality, instead of what they

00:10:29.080 actually are, which is a bifurcation of two sexual personalities with one sexual personality

00:10:35.080 actually being much more optimized for like the good stay-at-home wife that they should 1.00

00:10:40.260 be looking for.

00:10:41.500 So they're basically like arbitrarily limiting themselves because they see that the thing X turns

00:10:47.520 them on and they're totally not realizing that thing Y can also be like a major source

00:10:52.540 of satisfaction for them, but because it's not really in the material that they consume

00:10:58.060 freely and easily online, they just assume that that's not for them or they don't even

00:11:03.640 know that it's an option.

00:11:06.100 Yeah.

00:11:07.580 Wow.

00:11:08.780 Yeah.

00:11:09.220 I mean, it's a lot harder to market that kind of fantasy to men.

00:11:14.300 I mean, it's, it's certainly not like immediately satisfying, right?

00:11:16.880 It's a slow burn.

00:11:18.220 It's a, it's a different.

00:11:19.240 Yeah.

00:11:19.560 But I think a lot of men who, when they're younger, find themselves turned on by raider

00:11:23.960 sexuality type stuff might be surprised how gross that stuff would feel doing with their

00:11:30.200 long-term partner.

00:11:31.380 No, it is.

00:11:32.380 It is interesting because I think that they just assume, oh, this is all stuff I would

00:11:36.020 always enjoy doing.

00:11:37.560 And, and then they get it.

00:11:38.980 Well, and so men can high simulate raider sexuality with long-term partners through scene changes.

00:11:45.960 And this is an interesting thing that you see within BDSM and stuff like that.

00:11:49.520 So what's happening there is they are learning to think of their partner as somebody disposable

00:11:55.020 was in the context of a micro scene that disconnects them from who they are.

00:12:00.920 So like, you're no longer my wife.

00:12:03.080 If you're now this victim and I'm, you know, you're now like a nurse, you're now a teacher,

00:12:08.640 you know, whatever, but that would actually be an authority mindset.

00:12:11.200 So that's actually the inverse of what I'm talking about here, but this is role play.

00:12:14.500 Like we are role playing a scenario in which you aren't who you are. 0.86

00:12:18.960 And I am not who I am so that we can both carry out something that masturbates this part of 0.65

00:12:25.420 our sexuality that is not being fully masturbated was in the normal sort of sexual relationship

00:12:31.460 I would have with somebody I know that I'm married to. 0.87

00:12:34.220 Right.

00:12:34.580 Yeah.

00:12:35.320 Because like no, no man would really want to see violent and bad things happen to his

00:12:40.400 wife or like, you know, a coercive scenario take place. 1.00

00:12:43.940 I mean, unless he's weird, yeah, but like, but most husbands would be like, no, not my

00:12:50.080 wife, but they may still be turned on by that scenario. 1.00

00:12:52.740 So they would need to like relationship.

00:12:56.460 They're like, how do I simulate both of the women who historically I would have been pillaging 1.00

00:13:00.800 their village and also simulate the loving relationship I have at home?

00:13:04.540 Well, let's do it with scene changes, set changes and pretend because humans can pretend.

00:13:09.900 Right.

00:13:10.160 Yeah.

00:13:10.420 And they can trigger different aspects of their personality by appearing in very different

00:13:15.000 one, like costumes using different words.

00:13:18.140 Like this is something that you often, you know, we talk about humans having different

00:13:21.160 parts of their personality overlaid on each other that are brought out.

00:13:24.280 Like when I'm at work, one aspect of my personality is out when I'm at home, one aspect of my personality

00:13:28.440 is out.

00:13:29.240 And when people go back to their families, I think they often find a more juvenile aspect

00:13:32.440 of their personality is drawn out, even if they don't intend for it to be because

00:13:36.120 it's the scene and the context of the people that are around reactivates this earlier optimization

00:13:43.060 that they had in life.

00:13:44.260 Well, I think within sexuality, we have different ones as well, and that they can be activated

00:13:48.360 by very specific context.

00:13:50.720 The problem is, is that when people begin to internalize, and this is something we constantly

00:13:56.400 emphasize within the Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality.

00:13:58.800 And it's really important to note is that the things that arbitrarily turn you on are

00:14:03.420 not who you are.

00:14:04.820 Like they are not a reflection of your personality or anything like that.

00:14:08.200 They are random.

00:14:09.120 Or your morality or what you want to have happen or what you endorse.

00:14:11.520 Yeah.

00:14:11.800 Anything.

00:14:12.500 Yeah.

00:14:12.980 A woman who gets turned on by, you know, the sort of. 0.99

00:14:16.780 Coercive sex. 1.00

00:14:17.900 Yeah. 0.99

00:14:18.200 Coercive sex. 1.00

00:14:18.880 That doesn't mean that she wants surprise sex, right? 0.97

00:14:23.200 Because there is a difference between something turning you on and you wanting it in the real

00:14:27.800 world, there's also a difference between something randomly turning you on and it being an aspect

00:14:32.200 of your identity.

00:14:33.420 Now, I know that this is a horrifying and offensive thing for me to say was in this world of

00:14:41.440 alphabet soup identities, right?

00:14:45.620 That just because something turns you on doesn't mean you need to incorporate it into your identity

00:14:50.740 or you need to act on it.

00:14:52.540 But I think that actually the rise of the alphabet soup mentality has led to many men who may not

00:15:02.540 agree, like they are otherwise normal straight men, to begin to accidentally incorporate a lot

00:15:10.320 of this raider sexuality into their personality because they're not getting laid when they're

00:15:13.880 developing their sexual identity.

00:15:15.360 And so they're seeing all women in this way.

00:15:17.040 By the way, a clip I really wanted to use about the alphabet soup group because I, you

00:15:22.140 know, going extinct because they're not going to be a long term group like the populations

00:15:25.180 that are really, really accepting of them have incredibly low fertility rates.

00:15:29.100 Mr. Marsh, what exactly are you trying to accomplish?

00:15:32.100 We have to take matters into our own hands. 0.98

00:15:34.480 We're trying to turn everyone gay so that there are no future humans. 1.00

00:15:37.900 Present day America, number one. 0.98

00:15:39.780 And it reminds me that like that's basically what many of the antinatalists are doing is a 0.99

00:15:44.540 a big gay orgy to prevent humanity or at least their sect of humanity from existing in the 1.00

00:15:48.680 future. 0.99

00:15:49.600 And that is historically also why many cultures shame these sorts of relationships is it's

00:15:55.300 not that these relationships are intrinsically immoral.

00:15:57.460 And I believe very strongly that like gay relationships are not intrinsically immoral.

00:16:00.760 But I also believe that groups that are accepting of them have lower fertility rates and thus get 1.00

00:16:05.900 outcompeted by groups that are not.

00:16:07.620 And that is why pretty much wherever you go, if you're looking at a successful, like long lived

00:16:11.680 widespread cultural group, it's going to have some undertone of homophobia.

00:16:14.540 Because those iterations of cultures outcompete other iterations of cultures intergenerationally.

00:16:19.020 And only within our debauched modern context do you see anything else.

00:16:22.840 But I mean, debauched is succumbing to or identifying with this raider sexuality.

00:16:29.380 Just because something turns you on doesn't mean you need to incorporate it into your identity.

00:16:34.400 It's a good thing.

00:16:35.320 Like you have to think about your morals and your values and what you want for society and

00:16:38.960 yourself and others.

00:16:39.760 And then you need to think about what turns you on and maybe parse those out.

00:16:45.540 Well, I know what I mean.

00:16:46.300 Some men, they may think or women may have such a strong desire to exercise this aspect of

00:16:50.960 their sexuality that was hard-coded in Bose.

00:16:52.660 It makes sense to do Bose within a relationship.

00:16:55.240 To have your BDSM play and your regular sexual relationship or vanilla sexual relationship.

00:17:01.840 That may make sense to overlap, to lower incidence of marital dissatisfaction, which might lower

00:17:09.260 the chance of your wife cheating on you with somebody outside of your relationship because

00:17:12.940 you are taking on Bose roles in this artificial context for them.

00:17:17.700 And that is a really interesting phenomenon that that may be a successful way to structure

00:17:24.000 things for some communities.

00:17:25.200 Why I don't think that that works.

00:17:29.900 Why do you think I don't think that that'll work long-term?

00:17:33.940 Because it's an unsustainable power dynamic?

00:17:37.000 No, because I don't see it in any long-lived cultural group in the world.

00:17:42.040 I am aware of no long-lived religious tradition or long-lived cultural tradition that has a bifurcation

00:17:48.580 of how they treat their partners.

00:17:50.860 And i.e. we have both the homestead relationship and the raider relationship.

00:17:57.240 And the reason I think that you don't see this is because I think that once you begin to treat

00:18:02.060 women in this raider fashion, they are likely going to have the same biological reaction that 1.00

00:18:07.160 they have from being passed around between a ton of guys.

00:18:10.500 Okay, so they'll start devaluing the relationship as well.

00:18:16.160 They'll biologically begin to transform.

00:18:18.220 If you can genuinely convince a woman's body that she's sleeping with a bunch of different 1.00

00:18:22.640 people through this sort of role play, you might be actually triggering the same biological

00:18:28.080 change that happens with her actually sleeping with a lot of people. 1.00

00:18:31.380 It could be, yeah.

00:18:32.080 I mean, people get into, like, really into character.

00:18:34.540 Like, totally.

00:18:35.640 Yeah, wow.

00:18:36.880 I wonder if it could, yeah, trigger the sort of hormonal processes that...

00:18:40.220 So that's why I suspect we don't see this in long-lived cultural groups.

00:18:43.520 But that doesn't mean that it doesn't make sense because in a modern relationship,

00:18:46.460 if you are with a woman who has not, who has, sorry, you're with a woman who has slept 0.92

00:18:50.840 around a lot, this might be the only way to maintain her happily was in a long-term monogamous 1.00

00:18:57.660 relationship.

00:18:58.920 Oh.

00:19:00.100 Because she has already undergone this polymorphic transformation.

00:19:03.720 And I don't know if there's a way to transform women back once they've undergone it. 1.00

00:19:06.800 Okay, but here's the thing, and I think this is important to note, is that relationships are not

00:19:11.100 just sex. 0.53

00:19:12.600 Like, true.

00:19:13.480 There's a lot more that's going on.

00:19:15.340 There's economic burden sharing.

00:19:17.700 There's building households.

00:19:19.620 There's raising kids.

00:19:21.060 Yeah, I think a lot of people get married, especially when they're more mature.

00:19:26.360 And, of course, there are many exceptions here.

00:19:28.920 Independent of sex, because they want to do specific things.

00:19:32.440 And there are many, probably totally sexless marriages out there where couples have just

00:19:37.360 come together because they knew that that configuration would help them achieve their

00:19:41.520 lifestyle goals.

00:19:43.740 Well, yeah.

00:19:44.160 I mean, and I think we largely, as a society right now, overvalue sex within marriages.

00:19:48.860 And the reason we overvalue sex within marriages is because when we are thinking about marriage

00:19:54.420 partners within our existing sociotechnological framework, people vet marriage partners through

00:20:01.900 casual sex.

00:20:03.780 And so your quality as a marriage partner is in part seen as your value is in sexual marketplaces.

00:20:11.020 And so people then confuse that as being a core aspect of a marriage.

00:20:16.500 When in reality, I, and I, and I think, you know, we had this video on how girl defined

00:20:21.900 ruined a generation of men.

00:20:23.620 There's a takeoff on the how Scott Pilgrim ruined a generation of men.

00:20:26.440 DVD and ecstasy conceded with no self-esteem.

00:20:32.140 She's a teenage dream.

00:20:33.820 If you hate yourself.

00:20:36.140 The Mona flowers and felt so empowered by a movie made in Hollywood.

00:20:46.180 It's sad to think she's someone's daughter like a lamb to the slaughter.

00:20:51.560 In that they convinced conservatives that the point of marriage was sex, but that the way 0.97

00:20:58.900 you got the very best sex and the very goodest of good sex was through abstinence until marriage.

00:21:04.900 When that missed the point, abstinence until marriage was a value because sex is just not

00:21:11.180 that important at all before a marriage or after a marriage.

00:21:14.900 In terms of our own kids, and you can watch our video on how we would, you know, teach

00:21:20.140 our kids about sexuality.

00:21:20.900 I do think that sex can be used as a tool within a modern context to, you know, get followers

00:21:27.060 and help and stuff like that.

00:21:28.180 I mean, who knows how I would have done in college without all the women who helped me 1.00

00:21:31.000 with my homework and studying that were primarily doing that because I was having sex with them. 0.90

00:21:35.460 Like there, there, there are men and women who use sex as a resource to reach certain 0.95

00:21:41.740 goals that they have.

00:21:43.180 It's just better if our kids grow up understanding the costs and the benefits of that.

00:21:47.500 Now, fortunately was been maybe, or at least for me, fortunately now, not always because

00:21:51.840 you know, you could accidentally get a woman pregnant or something like that, but the costs,

00:21:55.320 at least at a long-term psychological level seem to be lower than the costs to women.

00:21:59.460 A really interesting study I was looking at recently was looking at, and I'll put the statistics

00:22:05.860 on screen here, how many sexual partners a woman had had before she got married and the likelihood

00:22:10.160 that the marriage would end a divorce.

00:22:12.320 And a woman who hadn't had any sexual partners, there was only a 20% chance it would end in 0.92

00:22:17.660 divorce.

00:22:18.160 And a woman who had had, I think over 15 sexual partners or over 12 sexual partners, there

00:22:23.900 was only a 20% chance the marriage would stay.

00:22:26.760 And this is a huge difference.

00:22:29.980 This is a huge difference.

00:22:31.820 I think most women, like when I think about Ayla's live Twitter polls, so like, you know, 1.00

00:22:36.860 we actually had the opportunity to see people sort themselves by number of sexual partners.

00:22:42.340 It seemed like most women in Ayla's live Twitter polls sorted themselves into the three to 0.99

00:22:49.240 eight range.

00:22:51.040 So, you know.

00:22:53.160 Yeah.

00:22:53.580 Well, so in the oxytocin studies, that would be pretty much already near the floor of oxytocin

00:22:57.520 you get from new partners.

00:22:58.420 That seems to happen after three.

00:23:00.640 So once you've done three partners, you're pretty much spent on the oxytocin category,

00:23:04.300 but you would still see a decline in the probability that a marriage continues.

00:23:08.420 And I should note these oxytocin studies, I remember very clearly going over them.

00:23:12.140 I remember them being controversial.

00:23:13.320 Like it was talked about them being controversial, but they were there and I went over them.

00:23:17.000 Now, if you look for them online, you won't find them anywhere.

00:23:19.240 And what's funny is all of the old sex researchers remember them.

00:23:22.680 You know, when we're talking with Diana Fleischman, she remembers these studies existing.

00:23:26.840 You can't find them anywhere anymore.

00:23:28.420 I do not know what happened to them.

00:23:29.780 I think even A-Lev will remember them existing at some point.

00:23:32.040 Just gone now.

00:23:32.800 Scrubbed from the internet.

00:23:33.900 Which I think shows the power of the leftist distortion field when something doesn't agree

00:23:39.340 with their narrative or leads to unpleasant implications.

00:23:42.700 It must be destroyed.

00:23:44.820 Which to me is interesting in that it shows that this war that we have is a war of truth

00:23:51.180 and integrity and fighting for what is real and fighting for this society-wide distortion

00:23:58.260 field that is meant to protect the illusion that everyone can live in this happy world.

00:24:04.800 In fact, it reminds me a lot of this book I read growing up called The Giver.

00:24:09.660 I don't know if you read that one, where basically they'd even removed colors from society and

00:24:14.040 they'd removed everything.

00:24:14.960 So you took a drug that made it so you didn't feel emotions, you didn't see colors, you didn't

00:24:18.680 anything like that.

00:24:19.820 Because all of that stuff could lead to potential discomfort in some individuals and the goal

00:24:23.440 of society is to remove all potential discomfort.

00:24:25.600 And we are beginning to see that, this expanding distortion field.

00:24:29.860 But fortunately, we're also seeing them be incredibly low fertility. 0.96

00:24:32.740 And so they really can only survive by taking children from nearby healthy demographic groups.

00:24:36.980 So, you know, and then people are like, well, why is all this sex?

00:24:39.460 Why do you look so hard at sex?

00:24:41.160 Like, why is this so important to you to understand, right? 0.94

00:24:44.900 Sexuality right now is one of the core ways that the mind virus is utilizing to peel kids 1.00

00:24:53.000 out from your healthy demographic groups.

00:24:54.660 If you ignore human sexual diversity or real human sexuality, then you put your group at

00:25:02.140 risk of having kids peeled out of it. 0.99

00:25:04.360 If you do stupid things like banning pornography was in a modern context, like, of course, pornography 0.99

00:25:09.500 was a good idea to ban in a historic context when, you know, people, the first person they 0.99

00:25:15.080 married, what the first person they had sex with was who they married and porn just lowered 0.90

00:25:18.740 the amount of sex they were having with their partner, right? 0.56

00:25:20.760 Like, yeah, of course that made sense.

00:25:22.400 But if you look within a modern context, there's pretty much a direct correlation geographically

00:25:26.680 with how religious, i.e., how banned porn is in an area and how much porn is consumed.

00:25:31.680 Banning porn has the exact opposite effect at a cultural level that you would expect, which

00:25:36.120 means we need to understand human sexuality to learn how we can adapt our cultures to better

00:25:42.360 prevent sexuality as being a wedge that the left can use or the mind virus can use to take

00:25:50.000 our children from us.

00:25:51.360 And I think being sexually accepting while also being sexually honest, the cool thing

00:25:55.920 about what the left has done is they've created such a distortion field.

00:25:58.820 It's really clear when you talk to people about how human sexuality actually works.

00:26:02.780 And you look at our book, like The Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, which would be very offensive

00:26:07.640 from a leftist perspective, they are getting a truer understanding of sexuality than the

00:26:11.860 left is selling.

00:26:12.380 Because the left, as we talked about in the beginning of that book, it has to sell this

00:26:15.940 iteration of sexuality where gayness is like a meaningful sexual subtype, right?

00:26:21.680 And we point out that if gayness probably doesn't really meaningfully exist, it's better to think 1.00

00:26:26.460 of what specific genital configurations humans are most attracted to, because we point out 0.97

00:26:31.780 that it's actually pretty common for straight men to be repulsed by something like vagina.

00:26:35.840 It's actually pretty common for men to be attracted to like a female body shape, like secondary 1.00

00:26:42.620 sex characteristics, but male primary sex characteristics, which within the online sphere

00:26:46.700 is known as like Buddha.

00:26:47.980 It's within women, you see similar sort of mismatch between like primary and secondary sex 1.00

00:26:52.840 characteristics, first attraction, to the extent where categorizing people into this

00:26:57.920 like holistically, I am attracted to the opposite same category is really only useful in a macro

00:27:02.500 behavioral pattern perspective, i.e.

00:27:04.780 who are they dating, which is useful.

00:27:07.160 Well, almost even more relevant from a cultural standpoint, really.

00:27:10.920 Yeah, they're groups that built an identity because they were communicated from society for a

00:27:17.060 similar rule violation, but this led for something like gay people to be in the same community as

00:27:24.120 trans people, when in reality, they have almost nothing in common in that they, other than that 1.00

00:27:29.300 they were both isolated from mainstream society for violating sexual norms or gender norms.

00:27:34.440 And it really makes no sense for these two communities to be allies at all, other than for a while,

00:27:40.880 their goals overlapped, which I do not think that they do anymore.

00:27:43.680 I guess allied in, you know, oppression or minority status.

00:27:48.120 Well, no, they were allied in how they were separated from society, which led to them,

00:27:51.720 any group that is separated from society in any way is going to begin to develop new cultural norms.

00:27:57.220 And those cultural norms begin to develop an inter-community identity.

00:28:01.000 And so they begin to develop a culture around the reason they were excommunicated from society,

00:28:06.580 which then meant the reason that they were excommunicated from society

00:28:09.280 ended up becoming like their highest order of identity.

00:28:12.300 identity, but it didn't exist in a meaningful, like when you actually look at the data,

00:28:16.520 it's actually like far more nuanced than that. 0.95

00:28:18.880 Like the Kinsey scale is completely garbage. 0.59

00:28:20.540 Read the Pragmented Sky to Sexuality or see our video on this. 0.97

00:28:22.800 Like it, that is not the way human sexuality works at all.

00:28:26.120 But, and again, we're not saying that there aren't a huge portion of men who are also attracted

00:28:29.780 to men or women who are also attracted to women.

00:28:31.680 I would say that within bisexual populations, when you actually look at the data,

00:28:35.860 like on dating platforms, they actually like will overwhelmingly prefer to date just one gender.

00:28:42.860 And this may be a very strong preference you're seeing within the bisexual population,

00:28:45.980 or it may mean that a lot of the attacks on the bisexual population are actually accurate.

00:28:51.260 But typically, for example, within men, only 20% of bisexuals actually like do that.

00:28:55.380 Whereas in women, it's something like 35%. 1.00

00:28:57.120 So it's actually a meaningful.

00:28:58.500 I was actually surprised within women, 0.97

00:28:59.900 so many bisexual women are actually really just only dating one gender or the other gender,

00:29:04.000 which you can see, but apparently they switch up as well, which men don't do as much.

00:29:08.440 Like they're really persistent on which their preferable gender is.

00:29:11.780 Although you do see what's in the bisexual community.

00:29:14.040 Interesting, a lot of them leaving around the age where they might be getting scared

00:29:17.300 that they're not going to be able to have kids.

00:29:20.240 So, so you have all that, but this has led to this leftist distortion field

00:29:23.760 around how they're able to do sexual research,

00:29:25.800 which means that you and me and, and, and within things like the Pragmented Sky to Sexuality,

00:29:30.560 we are able to have discussions that are truer and obviously truer to young people

00:29:37.260 than the discussions that are happening in the left.

00:29:38.760 And when they see that, that completely prevents the left

00:29:42.240 from being able to use sexuality as a wedge to take them out of our cultural groups.

00:29:47.460 But this requires actually engaging with sexuality

00:29:50.840 and understanding why we had some of these historic practices,

00:29:54.580 like the denigration of porn.

00:29:56.140 Asking why we would study this stuff so diligently or spend so much time researching it

00:30:01.360 is like asking a prisoner why they would spend so much time researching the bars of their cage.

00:30:07.100 If we are trapped in these fleshy prisons that enforce emotions and desires upon us

00:30:14.580 we did not ask for, it is in part our duty to study and understand them

00:30:20.140 so that we can better escape them

00:30:22.240 and better prevent them from controlling and influencing our actions.

00:30:25.820 If you are trapped in a room with a wild, dangerous animal,

00:30:29.520 the goal of any righteous individual is to ensure that this wild animal,

00:30:34.200 this lower part of themselves,

00:30:36.240 doesn't become the core focus of their lives and identity.

00:30:39.900 But there are multiple paths towards achieving that.

00:30:42.680 For example, you can spend every waking moment attempting to tame and control the beast,

00:30:47.320 or you can learn to feed it just enough to keep it from bothering you.

00:30:52.500 And through better understanding the beast,

00:30:54.760 we can better understand how to deprioritize it

00:30:58.860 in terms of our daily thoughts and actions.

00:31:02.080 Now that the left, you know, Tracer Butt scandal, Gamergate,

00:31:05.780 has ceded male sexuality,

00:31:08.000 we are insane for not picking that up. 0.61

00:31:11.240 They said anything that turns on males is intrinsically immoral, basically.

00:31:16.320 And now we can go scoop up the remains of that,

00:31:20.380 which is a large part of the male community, right?

00:31:23.060 Because they don't like being denigrated for what turns them on.

00:31:25.660 And incorporate that with more traditional frameworks

00:31:28.700 in a way that these two things can work together.

00:31:31.160 And they can work together.

00:31:33.000 But they work together because it is true

00:31:36.060 that going out and sleeping with a lot of people

00:31:37.460 is probably not in your best interest when you look at the data.

00:31:40.260 And that's the great thing about all of this,

00:31:43.920 is that because what we're fighting for is truth,

00:31:46.820 truth is always on our side.

00:31:49.740 Convenient.

00:31:51.440 Convenient.

00:31:51.900 Very convenient.

00:31:52.420 Well, no, I mean, if they only were fighting with integrity

00:31:55.140 and for actually protecting people,

00:31:56.960 then truth would be on their side as well.

00:31:58.780 But they're not.

00:31:59.080 Yeah, but I mean, it also gives us flexibility

00:32:00.980 that other groups don't have,

00:32:03.040 which is to say, if we get better evidence,

00:32:04.640 we get to just say, oh, sorry, we were wrong.

00:32:07.520 And then pursue what we understand to be right,

00:32:11.140 given the evidence.

00:32:12.000 So I think the greatest thing about the fighting for truth stance

00:32:15.780 is that it's okay to be wrong.

00:32:18.940 It's actually really important to learn when you're wrong

00:32:20.820 so that you can be less wrong and more right going forward.

00:32:24.780 And that no matter how imperfect our knowledge is,

00:32:28.620 we can always try to do a little bit better

00:32:30.640 and get closer to the truth,

00:32:31.900 whereas other groups are just kind of stuck with their stances.

00:32:34.080 But I'm really, really glad you shared this theory with me.

00:32:37.840 I do, I don't know, I wonder like how societies

00:32:41.660 could change culturally in a way that would prepare men

00:32:46.340 to understand this bifurcation,

00:32:48.380 because there's a lot of things like we discussed

00:32:50.760 in another conversation recently,

00:32:52.800 how like both men and women really aren't really taught

00:32:56.920 to bring anything to the table.

00:32:58.360 So is it no wonder that even with all these different

00:33:00.700 government incentives and programs,

00:33:02.060 men and women are still just completely disinterested 0.99

00:33:05.760 in getting married?

00:33:06.980 And it's easy to, you know,

00:33:08.100 sort of through propaganda, education, et cetera,

00:33:10.660 explain again and again,

00:33:12.080 here's what you can bring to the table.

00:33:14.120 Always keep in mind what you need to bring to the table.

00:33:16.260 But how would you train people around this?

00:33:18.480 How would you prepare young men around this?

00:33:21.420 Just make them aware of this truth. 0.66

00:33:23.760 The thing that turns them on with porn

00:33:25.600 is not necessarily what's going to turn them on

00:33:27.680 with a long-term partner.

00:33:28.600 And then they shouldn't incorporate those things

00:33:32.880 into your identity.

00:33:34.140 And also keep in mind that the things

00:33:36.840 that seduce women in bars are not the things 1.00

00:33:40.020 that seduce the good long-term partner

00:33:42.420 that you want to be married to for the rest of your life.

00:33:45.520 These are two different sexual optimization functions.

00:33:48.800 And if you waste a bunch of time optimizing

00:33:50.920 around the wrong one, you will get divorce great. 1.00

00:33:54.960 All right, good, solid advice.

00:33:59.620 I love you, Malcolm.

00:34:01.280 I love you too, Simone.

00:34:02.160 You're an amazing woman.

00:34:03.140 And I am desperately lucky

00:34:05.420 that I married somebody so clear-headed and intelligent

00:34:10.760 and that helps me see the world more clearly every day.

00:34:14.520 And so thank you for that.

00:34:16.220 Hopefully more so when I don't have a fever anymore.

00:34:20.340 I love you though.

00:34:21.300 Thanks for taking care of me.

00:34:22.820 You're the best.

00:34:23.560 Thanks.

00:34:43.560 I love you.

00:34:47.200 Amen.

00:34:47.600 Amen.

00:34:48.060 Amen.

00:34:48.080 Amen.

00:34:48.820 Amen.

00:34:49.140 Amen.

00:34:50.100 Amen.

00:34:50.640 Amen.

00:34:51.200 Amen.

00:34:51.280 Amen.

Based Camp - January 15, 2024

Every Man (Sexually) is Simultaneously Raider & Homesteader

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