Every Man (Sexually) is Simultaneously Raider & Homesteader
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In this episode, we talk about the dual sexual strategy hypothesis, the idea that humans can have multiple sexual strategies pre-programmed into them that exist alongside each other, and how this could explain why women are attracted to a lot of people.
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There are two major sexual events or strategies that a male can undertake that can overlap
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and both be successful within the same individual.
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And what this means is that there was likely a push for both strategies to develop within
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And this leads to my hypothesis that the average man has a raider sexuality and a homesteader
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And so the things that turn them on most when they do with their long-term partner may
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be actually entirely divorced from the things that turn them on most when what would activate
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our raider sexuality most within the modern world would be pornography.
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These are women that you have no emotional connection to, you see as entirely disposable.
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This can cause a lot of problems if a man, when he is young, when he's learning what
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his sexuality is, he begins to think that his sexuality is only comprised of the type of
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If you can genuinely convince a woman's body that she's sleeping with a bunch of different
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people through this sort of role play, you might be actually triggering the same biological
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change that happens with her actually sleeping with a lot of people.
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It requires some major mental caliber, which only, only men have.
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Simone was pointing out that some of our audience doesn't like when we're on the wrong side.
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This is the problem with attracting a disproportionately autistic audience.
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Is they get annoyed when we're on the wrong side.
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But I want to talk about a concept that we have developed since writing The Pragmatist
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So of all of our theories of human sexuality, this is actually not in the book.
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When I am done with important projects I'm working on now, I may one day run a test on
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Or when we have Ayla next on, because we're booking that now, I may try to compel her to include
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But it is a concept that I think is really worth discussing on the channel in detail in
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sort of a dedicated episode as the, what do we call it?
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To say that humans can have multiple sexual strategies pre-programmed into them that exist
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So one iteration of this that we do argue for in The Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality is
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So in women, we argue that when a woman goes out there and sleeps with a ton of people,
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her body undergoes something called a polymorphic change.
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The quintessential example of this is the grasshopper changing into a locus.
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If you, so in nature, this happens when it's, when it gets over a certain population density,
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but it can be simulated in a lab by rubbing its hind leg with a Q-tip and it leads to a behavioral
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And depending on like the resources that baboons have versus the troop size, they will change
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So I think it's like in resource dense areas versus resource scarce areas, they switch between
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larger social groups that are matriarchal versus smaller social groups that are patriarchal
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But it's a pretty significant change in how they structure themselves.
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Well, in humans, a human female specifically, what we argue in the book, and I believe pretty
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strongly, is that the more a human woman sleeps around, the lower, like there were some studies
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done on this, the lower amounts of oxytocin she will produce with every first time new sexual
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partner, meaning that she is less likely to have an automatic bond to that sexual partner,
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which is very useful in a monogamous society, meaning that they basically automatically fall
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in love with the first person they have sex with to some small extent.
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And then to a smaller, you know, the second person, third person, but once they're on like
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person five, this effect no longer happens at all.
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And this can have a lot of problems in the dating market when women expect men that they
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are sleeping with, like on guy 10, to ever be able to recapture the spark they had with
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their first few romantic partners, which is often just impossible with women.
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I mean, obviously, you know, most men are born being attracted to the female body shape,
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but some men are born being attracted to the male body shape, you know, as in women.
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Some women don't have this effect happen to them.
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But I think it happens with the majority of women.
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And this is actually a very useful thing from a biological context.
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So it meant that if you were a woman and you were in a monogamous culture, you would be
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If you were in a culture where you were being passed around, i.e. your village had been raided,
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or you were an ex-slave of some sort, then you would be biologically optimized for that
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However, this is a trend I've noticed that we didn't mention in the book with the dual
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I have noticed that women who sleep around more seem to be more in to what I would call
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the category of arousal patterns that I call violent submission.
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This is things like choking, spanking, degradation, stuff like that.
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Ella must have data on this because I think she tracks body count, plus, of course, things
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So this is something that we could look at to see if there's a correlation there.
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But I'm fairly certain you're going to end up finding a correlation there with the more
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partners a woman is sleeping with, the more they are turned on because they are beginning
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to be optimized, like biologically, for being a slave.
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They think they are an ex-slave that is being passed around some group that has raided and
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This is something that happened very, very frequently in a historical context.
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So frequently that if you read the Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, we talk about all the places
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So you can see it's pretty deeply carved into our DNA.
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But, Simone, do you want to speak to this at all?
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No, well, this is all stuff we've talked about before.
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So I'm more interested in hearing you go over the male side of this, which is not in the
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Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, in which you have come up with recently.
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Well, no, something we haven't talked about before is the hypothesis that women who sleep
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around more are going to be more turned on by a violent degradation than women who sleep
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I don't predict that with the same confidence that you do.
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Next hypothesis is, I was thinking, like, if evolution was going to select for something,
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there are two major sexual events or strategies that a male can undertake.
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And it's very important to understand that males can undertake both simultaneously.
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And historically, the successful males almost always undertook both simultaneously.
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So a lot of people see, like, okay, so there's two different strategies.
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You as a guy can go out and do a bunch of graping as a warrior, like going out and conquering
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Go a Viking in a historic context or in Rome, like go out with legions, right?
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And end up impregnating a bunch of people within the areas that you conquer.
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And that can lead to, you know, famously Genghis Khan, right?
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Like tons and tons and tons and tons of offspring.
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But then the other strategy and the often more default, like it's almost sort of like
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K versus R selecting is, are you investing a lot of time in your offspring?
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Are you investing a little time in your offspring?
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Well, the same legionary may have a wife back at home.
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You know, think about the movie Gladiator or whatever, right?
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Like he would still have his plot back at home where he had eight kids on the farm and
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Well, the fact that these two sexual strategies in men can overlap was in the same successful
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Like if I'm going a Viking and I'm out there and I have an impulse, which causes me to impregnate
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people when I am raiding a village in Northern England, right?
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I would need a completely different set of impulses to ensure that I both find a high quality
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partner for who is my stable partner, who's keeping my farm running, who's providing me with
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food when I get back from a Viking that is taking care of the kids that are going to
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inherit my family name and everything like that, right?
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You have two strategies here that can overlap and both be successful within the same individual.
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And what this means is that there was likely a push for both strategies to develop within
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And this leads to my hypothesis that men have, your average man, obviously, you know, as I
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So there's all sorts of like a little weird ways a guy can be programmed.
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Maybe a guy only has one of these appear in him.
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But I think that the average man has a raider sexuality and a homesteader sexuality.
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And so the things that turn them on most when they do with their long-term partner may be
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actually entirely divorced from the things that turn them on most when what would activate
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our raider sexuality most within the modern world would be pornography.
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These are women that you have no emotional connection to, you see as entirely disposable.
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And it would explain why in pornography, you see such a violent slash hardcore pornography
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appearing because that pornography is always, or pornography more generally, is always appealing
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Now, this can cause a lot of problems if a man, when he is young and is not sexually successful
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because he doesn't get any, you know, long-term partners, he doesn't get any women who he's
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sleeping with that he respects and a part of his brain sees as homesteader sexuality.
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So when he's learning what his sexuality is, he begins to think that his sexuality is only
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comprised of the type of pornography that he's consuming.
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And this leads to men beginning to personally identify and build into their personal narrative
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of who they are as a person, this violent sexual raider personality, instead of what they
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actually are, which is a bifurcation of two sexual personalities with one sexual personality
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actually being much more optimized for like the good stay-at-home wife that they should
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So they're basically like arbitrarily limiting themselves because they see that the thing X turns
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them on and they're totally not realizing that thing Y can also be like a major source
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of satisfaction for them, but because it's not really in the material that they consume
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freely and easily online, they just assume that that's not for them or they don't even
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I mean, it's a lot harder to market that kind of fantasy to men.
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I mean, it's, it's certainly not like immediately satisfying, right?
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But I think a lot of men who, when they're younger, find themselves turned on by raider
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sexuality type stuff might be surprised how gross that stuff would feel doing with their
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It is interesting because I think that they just assume, oh, this is all stuff I would
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Well, and so men can high simulate raider sexuality with long-term partners through scene changes.
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And this is an interesting thing that you see within BDSM and stuff like that.
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So what's happening there is they are learning to think of their partner as somebody disposable
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was in the context of a micro scene that disconnects them from who they are.
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If you're now this victim and I'm, you know, you're now like a nurse, you're now a teacher,
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you know, whatever, but that would actually be an authority mindset.
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So that's actually the inverse of what I'm talking about here, but this is role play.
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Like we are role playing a scenario in which you aren't who you are.
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And I am not who I am so that we can both carry out something that masturbates this part of
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our sexuality that is not being fully masturbated was in the normal sort of sexual relationship
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I would have with somebody I know that I'm married to.
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Because like no, no man would really want to see violent and bad things happen to his
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wife or like, you know, a coercive scenario take place.
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I mean, unless he's weird, yeah, but like, but most husbands would be like, no, not my
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wife, but they may still be turned on by that scenario.
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They're like, how do I simulate both of the women who historically I would have been pillaging
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their village and also simulate the loving relationship I have at home?
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Well, let's do it with scene changes, set changes and pretend because humans can pretend.
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And they can trigger different aspects of their personality by appearing in very different
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Like this is something that you often, you know, we talk about humans having different
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parts of their personality overlaid on each other that are brought out.
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Like when I'm at work, one aspect of my personality is out when I'm at home, one aspect of my personality
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And when people go back to their families, I think they often find a more juvenile aspect
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of their personality is drawn out, even if they don't intend for it to be because
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it's the scene and the context of the people that are around reactivates this earlier optimization
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Well, I think within sexuality, we have different ones as well, and that they can be activated
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The problem is, is that when people begin to internalize, and this is something we constantly
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emphasize within the Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality.
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And it's really important to note is that the things that arbitrarily turn you on are
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Like they are not a reflection of your personality or anything like that.
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Or your morality or what you want to have happen or what you endorse.
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A woman who gets turned on by, you know, the sort of.
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That doesn't mean that she wants surprise sex, right?
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Because there is a difference between something turning you on and you wanting it in the real
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world, there's also a difference between something randomly turning you on and it being an aspect
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Now, I know that this is a horrifying and offensive thing for me to say was in this world of
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That just because something turns you on doesn't mean you need to incorporate it into your identity
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But I think that actually the rise of the alphabet soup mentality has led to many men who may not
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agree, like they are otherwise normal straight men, to begin to accidentally incorporate a lot
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of this raider sexuality into their personality because they're not getting laid when they're
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By the way, a clip I really wanted to use about the alphabet soup group because I, you
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know, going extinct because they're not going to be a long term group like the populations
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that are really, really accepting of them have incredibly low fertility rates.
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Mr. Marsh, what exactly are you trying to accomplish?
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We have to take matters into our own hands.
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We're trying to turn everyone gay so that there are no future humans.
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And it reminds me that like that's basically what many of the antinatalists are doing is a
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a big gay orgy to prevent humanity or at least their sect of humanity from existing in the
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And that is historically also why many cultures shame these sorts of relationships is it's
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not that these relationships are intrinsically immoral.
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And I believe very strongly that like gay relationships are not intrinsically immoral.
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But I also believe that groups that are accepting of them have lower fertility rates and thus get
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And that is why pretty much wherever you go, if you're looking at a successful, like long lived
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widespread cultural group, it's going to have some undertone of homophobia.
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Because those iterations of cultures outcompete other iterations of cultures intergenerationally.
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And only within our debauched modern context do you see anything else.
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But I mean, debauched is succumbing to or identifying with this raider sexuality.
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Just because something turns you on doesn't mean you need to incorporate it into your identity.
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Like you have to think about your morals and your values and what you want for society and
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And then you need to think about what turns you on and maybe parse those out.
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Some men, they may think or women may have such a strong desire to exercise this aspect of
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It makes sense to do Bose within a relationship.
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To have your BDSM play and your regular sexual relationship or vanilla sexual relationship.
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That may make sense to overlap, to lower incidence of marital dissatisfaction, which might lower
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the chance of your wife cheating on you with somebody outside of your relationship because
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you are taking on Bose roles in this artificial context for them.
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And that is a really interesting phenomenon that that may be a successful way to structure
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Why do you think I don't think that that'll work long-term?
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No, because I don't see it in any long-lived cultural group in the world.
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I am aware of no long-lived religious tradition or long-lived cultural tradition that has a bifurcation
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And i.e. we have both the homestead relationship and the raider relationship.
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And the reason I think that you don't see this is because I think that once you begin to treat
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women in this raider fashion, they are likely going to have the same biological reaction that
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they have from being passed around between a ton of guys.
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Okay, so they'll start devaluing the relationship as well.
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If you can genuinely convince a woman's body that she's sleeping with a bunch of different
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people through this sort of role play, you might be actually triggering the same biological
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change that happens with her actually sleeping with a lot of people.
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I mean, people get into, like, really into character.
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I wonder if it could, yeah, trigger the sort of hormonal processes that...
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So that's why I suspect we don't see this in long-lived cultural groups.
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But that doesn't mean that it doesn't make sense because in a modern relationship,
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if you are with a woman who has not, who has, sorry, you're with a woman who has slept
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around a lot, this might be the only way to maintain her happily was in a long-term monogamous
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Because she has already undergone this polymorphic transformation.
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And I don't know if there's a way to transform women back once they've undergone it.
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Okay, but here's the thing, and I think this is important to note, is that relationships are not
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Yeah, I think a lot of people get married, especially when they're more mature.
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And, of course, there are many exceptions here.
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Independent of sex, because they want to do specific things.
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And there are many, probably totally sexless marriages out there where couples have just
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come together because they knew that that configuration would help them achieve their
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I mean, and I think we largely, as a society right now, overvalue sex within marriages.
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And the reason we overvalue sex within marriages is because when we are thinking about marriage
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partners within our existing sociotechnological framework, people vet marriage partners through
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And so your quality as a marriage partner is in part seen as your value is in sexual marketplaces.
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And so people then confuse that as being a core aspect of a marriage.
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When in reality, I, and I, and I think, you know, we had this video on how girl defined
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There's a takeoff on the how Scott Pilgrim ruined a generation of men.
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The Mona flowers and felt so empowered by a movie made in Hollywood.
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It's sad to think she's someone's daughter like a lamb to the slaughter.
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In that they convinced conservatives that the point of marriage was sex, but that the way
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you got the very best sex and the very goodest of good sex was through abstinence until marriage.
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When that missed the point, abstinence until marriage was a value because sex is just not
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that important at all before a marriage or after a marriage.
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In terms of our own kids, and you can watch our video on how we would, you know, teach
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I do think that sex can be used as a tool within a modern context to, you know, get followers
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I mean, who knows how I would have done in college without all the women who helped me
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with my homework and studying that were primarily doing that because I was having sex with them.
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Like there, there, there are men and women who use sex as a resource to reach certain
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It's just better if our kids grow up understanding the costs and the benefits of that.
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Now, fortunately was been maybe, or at least for me, fortunately now, not always because
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you know, you could accidentally get a woman pregnant or something like that, but the costs,
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at least at a long-term psychological level seem to be lower than the costs to women.
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A really interesting study I was looking at recently was looking at, and I'll put the statistics
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on screen here, how many sexual partners a woman had had before she got married and the likelihood
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And a woman who hadn't had any sexual partners, there was only a 20% chance it would end in
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And a woman who had had, I think over 15 sexual partners or over 12 sexual partners, there
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I think most women, like when I think about Ayla's live Twitter polls, so like, you know,
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we actually had the opportunity to see people sort themselves by number of sexual partners.
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It seemed like most women in Ayla's live Twitter polls sorted themselves into the three to
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Well, so in the oxytocin studies, that would be pretty much already near the floor of oxytocin
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So once you've done three partners, you're pretty much spent on the oxytocin category,
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but you would still see a decline in the probability that a marriage continues.
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And I should note these oxytocin studies, I remember very clearly going over them.
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Like it was talked about them being controversial, but they were there and I went over them.
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Now, if you look for them online, you won't find them anywhere.
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And what's funny is all of the old sex researchers remember them.
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You know, when we're talking with Diana Fleischman, she remembers these studies existing.
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I think even A-Lev will remember them existing at some point.
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Which I think shows the power of the leftist distortion field when something doesn't agree
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with their narrative or leads to unpleasant implications.
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Which to me is interesting in that it shows that this war that we have is a war of truth
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and integrity and fighting for what is real and fighting for this society-wide distortion
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field that is meant to protect the illusion that everyone can live in this happy world.
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In fact, it reminds me a lot of this book I read growing up called The Giver.
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I don't know if you read that one, where basically they'd even removed colors from society and
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So you took a drug that made it so you didn't feel emotions, you didn't see colors, you didn't
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Because all of that stuff could lead to potential discomfort in some individuals and the goal
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of society is to remove all potential discomfort.
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And we are beginning to see that, this expanding distortion field.
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But fortunately, we're also seeing them be incredibly low fertility.
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And so they really can only survive by taking children from nearby healthy demographic groups.
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So, you know, and then people are like, well, why is all this sex?
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Like, why is this so important to you to understand, right?
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Sexuality right now is one of the core ways that the mind virus is utilizing to peel kids
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If you ignore human sexual diversity or real human sexuality, then you put your group at
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If you do stupid things like banning pornography was in a modern context, like, of course, pornography
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was a good idea to ban in a historic context when, you know, people, the first person they
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married, what the first person they had sex with was who they married and porn just lowered
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the amount of sex they were having with their partner, right?
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But if you look within a modern context, there's pretty much a direct correlation geographically
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with how religious, i.e., how banned porn is in an area and how much porn is consumed.
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Banning porn has the exact opposite effect at a cultural level that you would expect, which
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means we need to understand human sexuality to learn how we can adapt our cultures to better
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prevent sexuality as being a wedge that the left can use or the mind virus can use to take
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And I think being sexually accepting while also being sexually honest, the cool thing
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about what the left has done is they've created such a distortion field.
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It's really clear when you talk to people about how human sexuality actually works.
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And you look at our book, like The Pragmatist Guide to Sexuality, which would be very offensive
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from a leftist perspective, they are getting a truer understanding of sexuality than the
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Because the left, as we talked about in the beginning of that book, it has to sell this
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iteration of sexuality where gayness is like a meaningful sexual subtype, right?
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And we point out that if gayness probably doesn't really meaningfully exist, it's better to think
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of what specific genital configurations humans are most attracted to, because we point out
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that it's actually pretty common for straight men to be repulsed by something like vagina.
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It's actually pretty common for men to be attracted to like a female body shape, like secondary
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sex characteristics, but male primary sex characteristics, which within the online sphere
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It's within women, you see similar sort of mismatch between like primary and secondary sex
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characteristics, first attraction, to the extent where categorizing people into this
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like holistically, I am attracted to the opposite same category is really only useful in a macro
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Well, almost even more relevant from a cultural standpoint, really.
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Yeah, they're groups that built an identity because they were communicated from society for a
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similar rule violation, but this led for something like gay people to be in the same community as
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trans people, when in reality, they have almost nothing in common in that they, other than that
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they were both isolated from mainstream society for violating sexual norms or gender norms.
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And it really makes no sense for these two communities to be allies at all, other than for a while,
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their goals overlapped, which I do not think that they do anymore.
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I guess allied in, you know, oppression or minority status.
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Well, no, they were allied in how they were separated from society, which led to them,
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any group that is separated from society in any way is going to begin to develop new cultural norms.
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And those cultural norms begin to develop an inter-community identity.
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And so they begin to develop a culture around the reason they were excommunicated from society,
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which then meant the reason that they were excommunicated from society
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ended up becoming like their highest order of identity.
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identity, but it didn't exist in a meaningful, like when you actually look at the data,
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it's actually like far more nuanced than that.
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Like the Kinsey scale is completely garbage.
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Read the Pragmented Sky to Sexuality or see our video on this.
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Like it, that is not the way human sexuality works at all.
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But, and again, we're not saying that there aren't a huge portion of men who are also attracted
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to men or women who are also attracted to women.
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I would say that within bisexual populations, when you actually look at the data,
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like on dating platforms, they actually like will overwhelmingly prefer to date just one gender.
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And this may be a very strong preference you're seeing within the bisexual population,
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or it may mean that a lot of the attacks on the bisexual population are actually accurate.
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But typically, for example, within men, only 20% of bisexuals actually like do that.
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Whereas in women, it's something like 35%.
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so many bisexual women are actually really just only dating one gender or the other gender,
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which you can see, but apparently they switch up as well, which men don't do as much.
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Like they're really persistent on which their preferable gender is.
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Although you do see what's in the bisexual community.
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Interesting, a lot of them leaving around the age where they might be getting scared
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that they're not going to be able to have kids.
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So, so you have all that, but this has led to this leftist distortion field
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which means that you and me and, and, and within things like the Pragmented Sky to Sexuality,
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we are able to have discussions that are truer and obviously truer to young people
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than the discussions that are happening in the left.
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And when they see that, that completely prevents the left
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from being able to use sexuality as a wedge to take them out of our cultural groups.
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But this requires actually engaging with sexuality
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and understanding why we had some of these historic practices,
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Asking why we would study this stuff so diligently or spend so much time researching it
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is like asking a prisoner why they would spend so much time researching the bars of their cage.
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If we are trapped in these fleshy prisons that enforce emotions and desires upon us
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we did not ask for, it is in part our duty to study and understand them
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and better prevent them from controlling and influencing our actions.
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If you are trapped in a room with a wild, dangerous animal,
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the goal of any righteous individual is to ensure that this wild animal,
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doesn't become the core focus of their lives and identity.
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But there are multiple paths towards achieving that.
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For example, you can spend every waking moment attempting to tame and control the beast,
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or you can learn to feed it just enough to keep it from bothering you.
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we can better understand how to deprioritize it
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Now that the left, you know, Tracer Butt scandal, Gamergate,
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They said anything that turns on males is intrinsically immoral, basically.
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And now we can go scoop up the remains of that,
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which is a large part of the male community, right?
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Because they don't like being denigrated for what turns them on.
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And incorporate that with more traditional frameworks
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in a way that these two things can work together.
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that going out and sleeping with a lot of people
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is probably not in your best interest when you look at the data.
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is that because what we're fighting for is truth,
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Well, no, I mean, if they only were fighting with integrity
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And then pursue what we understand to be right,
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So I think the greatest thing about the fighting for truth stance
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It's actually really important to learn when you're wrong
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so that you can be less wrong and more right going forward.
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And that no matter how imperfect our knowledge is,
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whereas other groups are just kind of stuck with their stances.
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But I'm really, really glad you shared this theory with me.
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I do, I don't know, I wonder like how societies
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could change culturally in a way that would prepare men
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because there's a lot of things like we discussed
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how like both men and women really aren't really taught
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So is it no wonder that even with all these different
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men and women are still just completely disinterested
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sort of through propaganda, education, et cetera,
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Always keep in mind what you need to bring to the table.
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is not necessarily what's going to turn them on
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And then they shouldn't incorporate those things
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that seduce women in bars are not the things
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that you want to be married to for the rest of your life.
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These are two different sexual optimization functions.
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around the wrong one, you will get divorce great.
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that I married somebody so clear-headed and intelligent
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and that helps me see the world more clearly every day.
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Hopefully more so when I don't have a fever anymore.