Feminists have won the culture war, but they ve lost it life. Or at least, that's what we think. In this episode, we talk about why this is a problem, and how to fix it.
00:00:09.980I think we undervalue how much humans who live good lives are rewarded within their lives for those decisions.
00:00:20.260And that I think we focus too much on rewards that happen posthumously, like heaven, hell, people who are choosing these ultra progressive life paths.
00:00:30.000You don't need to wait till they're dead to be laughing at them.
00:00:51.780Well, I should have been working through lunch.
00:00:53.420Instead of creating new NDC accounts on Lufthansa's Spark platform for all of our agents, which I did on a delayed basis, I instead read Susie Weiss's new article in the Free Press called-
00:01:08.860Hercule Durkle is the new way to self-care ourselves to death.
00:01:12.740And it is about an ongoing trend predominated by women related to this concept of self-care, also highly related to what is referred to as bed rot or bed rowing or soft living, which is basically quiet quitting as well.
00:01:30.740It's related to that, which is basically just about giving up, indulging in your feelings, not working hard, doing the bare minimum, and in doing whatever you do that makes you feel good is justified and right.
00:02:25.580But I think this is very related to the topic that we're about to discuss, which is that feminists have won the culture war, but they've lost it life.
00:02:33.800And I mean, I'm reading this article and I'm thinking, okay, so-
00:02:37.560I think it's actually wider than that.
00:02:39.380So I'm going to expand the topic of this episode to include another one that I wanted to do.
00:02:44.580Which was really made clear to me about why leftists are so miserable.
00:02:51.020When I was in another recent episode where we were talking about, and I was appreciating you, and I was going through old Facebook posts, you had mentioned that I had made our life like the end scene from Gladiator.
00:03:02.200Where this is their heaven, you know, he goes to a farm where he grows food, and he has beautiful fields, and he has a kid and a wife, and they play together.
00:04:13.460And then you have, like, your great-great-grandparents, like, looking on at horror, and you in this infinitely privileged state, you know, not constantly struggling to survive, being like, well, things are marginally harder than the previous generation.
00:04:31.280And it's shown something to me that really horrifies me about where the left has gone, which is that people who live life in a pursuit of pleasure will never know peace.
00:04:46.020Because they don't have things that really matter in life that they strive for.
00:04:53.340And they can be like, well, the right doesn't either.
00:04:55.500And I'm like, you do not listen to, like, rightist music.
00:04:58.720You know, one of our favorite songs is By Dirt, for example.
00:05:09.700But it's a great example of, like, coalition of rightist values that are being taught to people, which is very similar to these, you know, Roman-like values.
00:05:21.020The goal is to have your plot of land that you get after the military service, and then you spend your life raising a family there, and that time with them.
00:05:31.100Like, in leftist memes, because I love following, I'm following, like, all of the Facebook groups for, like, the antinatalists and stuff like that.
00:05:38.260Here's one of the memes from the group with a stork delivering a guy a baby, and him looking sad and saying, no, I ordered a lifetime of doing whatever I want.
00:05:47.500And it's like, can you imagine any poverty higher than just doing whatever you want whenever you want to do it?
00:05:55.900Any hell greater than a life lived in search of personal indulgence, because in the end, that never satisfies anyone.
00:06:04.880They have literally created Tantalus' punishment for themselves.
00:06:09.360For those who forget Tantalus' punishment, it was whenever he would reach down to sip water, the water would recede from him,
00:06:15.900and whenever he would lift up to grab a fruit, the fruit branches would pull away from him.
00:06:20.540And that's what looking for satisfaction in pleasure is like.
00:06:26.020When you reach from it, it pulls away from you.
00:07:45.860One of my favorites was she had video clips from a game where the character was piling corpses of hookers who he had killed.
00:07:56.740But this wasn't, like, part of the game.
00:07:59.360This was something that was like, it was like a Grand Theft Auto or something.
00:08:02.700This is something she had chosen to do with her character, film, and then whine about.
00:08:09.220And Gamergate 1 was a really interesting moment because it was like when the left fully began to embody, like, what before would have been the extremist, like, Christian parent.
00:08:22.180Like, ah, video games are horrible, they're from the devil, and they're hurting my kids, and we need to get rid of all games, and all sexy tracer butt, and every character who looks remotely arousing to men, and everything, everything must be made clean and nice.
00:08:40.080And she had taken over this perspective, but did it in a very lefty sort of a fashion.
00:08:45.060Well, recently, she had a birthday party where she married herself.
00:08:57.960That I think we undervalue how much humans who strive and successfully live good lives are rewarded within their lives for those decisions.
00:09:09.740And that I think we focus too much on rewards that happen posthumously, like heaven, hell, stuff like that.
00:09:19.840You know, like, the Westboro Baptist Church, apparently, they used to tell, even with glee to reporters, oh, well, you're going to go to hell, and you'll be burning in hell, and I'll be laughing then.
00:09:28.280And I'm like, to those of our young viewers, people who are choosing these ultra-progressive life paths, you don't need to wait until they're dead to be laughing at them.
00:09:41.720This is something that we've seen in the data since Pew started recording statistics on happiness differences between progressives and conservatives, with progressives showing markedly lower rates of happiness on average.
00:09:54.080But what's really interesting is it's something that has become markedly worse recently, specifically as the data relates to mental health.
00:10:01.720So I'm going to quote summarize an article here titled, How to Understand the Wellbeing Gap Between Liberals and Conservatives, by Malsa Al-Ghabri.
00:10:11.940In a recent essay for Social Science and Medicine Mental Health, epidemiologist Catherine Gimbron and her co-authors identified a significant gap in depressive attitudes between liberal and conservative teens.
00:10:26.940The gap was present in all years observed in the study, 2005-18, but it grew significantly starting in 2012.
00:10:35.280However, as depressive affect unilaterally spiked among liberals, three years later, conservatives also began reporting increases in depression, although that rise tapered off relatively quickly, while the increase among liberals continued.
00:10:48.960Liberal girls tended to be significantly more depressed than boys, particularly after 2011.
00:10:57.220Indeed, liberal boys were significantly more likely to report depression than conservatives of either gender.
00:11:02.920The authors also found the more educated a teens family was, and here I should note educated isn't how smart they were, but how long they spent in the ultra-progressive brainwashing institutions,
00:11:13.720the more likely the young people were to be depressed, and the more dramatic their rise in depression was after 2012.
00:11:22.380So, what we're seeing here is the actual and real harm that is being done to people and their children by these progressive brainwashing factories,
00:11:34.980and that this harm is increasing over time.
00:16:05.840But I'd love your thoughts on this because you were in this sort of feminist culture early on when you were younger.
00:16:10.900I think you certainly would have identified as a feminist in college.
00:16:13.160And I was certainly encouraged to engage in self-care and all of it made me mentally weaker and worse.
00:16:21.400So I think the problem people don't think about enough is when you don't have something bigger to worry about, all the tiniest things make you worried.
00:16:32.160So if your focus in life is not on something like your career or running the world or whatever it might be, right, raising a family, then it's going to be on, oh, I don't know if I can take a shower today.
00:16:48.120Or I'm so nervous about leaving the house to go put mail in the mailbox.
00:16:52.740And I think that everyone can relate to the fact that everyone fills up their day with the same general.
00:17:02.180And obviously, like, if you're in a war scene or if you are subject to huge amounts of stress or you're sick, it's different.
00:17:10.100But on average, everyone fills their lives with the same amount of stress and with concern and with thought and work.
00:17:19.680But when you the president of the United States isn't necessarily working that much harder or that much busier or whatever than someone who is at home doing absolutely nothing.
00:17:31.720Like a housewife who's an empty nester who has absolutely nothing to do.
00:17:34.960So both of them are like, oh, man, like, that's just I have to do this and I have to do that and then I have to get this.
00:17:40.040And they're all worrying about things constantly.
00:17:42.140But the housewife empty nester at home is worrying about her own anxiety levels and what she's going to eat next and how she's going to make yoga class work and how she's going to deal with that woman that she hates so much at the checkout line.
00:17:53.380Whereas the president is worried about, oh, gosh, how should I do the drone attack?
00:18:06.980And what I worry so much about this, this female empowerment being turned into self-care is that people are now throwing away these beautiful chalices that have so much potential and just taking these dumb little paper cups and filling them with absolute piss.
00:18:31.500I think the key of what causes this is the mantra of self-care, the mantra that my life should be dedicated to me being comfortable with my existence.
00:18:40.560And when you elevate your own self-acceptance to the highest level of importance within life and then secondarily society's acceptance of you, everything you do matters so little.
00:18:53.320Because you know that everything you do is for personal affirmation as opposed to a thing of higher value.
00:18:59.540You have created an ideological system which is appealing to people in the moment, but that intrinsically cannot provide any meaningful satisfaction.
00:19:10.460Because you always know personally the full amount of satisfaction that has been delivered from your pursuits.
00:19:20.280And we've talked about this in other videos, but it's a very important concept.
00:19:23.040When you dedicate yourself to any form of hedonism, hedonism we don't just mean general, like any form of like maximizing your own emotional subset, you know and experience the full value of everything you do.
00:19:35.620And you realize how trivial that value is and you begin to hate yourself more and more and more and more and more of what you do becomes a delusional hamster wheel of trying to make your life feel like it has value.
00:19:51.000And you end up then as you preach this, destroying the lives around you.
00:19:56.200A great example of this was Anita Sarkeesian is Anthony Dirk.
00:20:00.220You Could Be Anthony Dirk has got to be one of my favorite songs on the internet.
00:20:06.480I'll play a little clip of it here, but you guys really need to check it out.
00:20:09.440It is a great song about a male feminist who was left by his wife after they were in an open marriage for another guy who she was banging instead of him and took his Wii U.
00:20:21.940It could be worse, at least you're not Anthony Burge.
00:20:27.940It could be worse, at least you're not Anthony Burge.
00:20:35.360Be the head radical, a game studio, enjoy an open relationship with your wife.
00:20:42.860End up divorced with her taking your Wii U.
00:20:46.580They don't rhyme, but if those things apply, you might be Anthony Burge.
00:21:02.420And he is one of his prized possessions with a framed letter from Anita Sarkeesian saying something like, you are more tolerable than most men.
00:21:11.480And it's like, gosh, part of me wants to feel pity for him, but I know the toxicity of his ideology and feeling pity for these ultra leftists, I think is equivalent to feeling pity for Nazis and stuff like that.
00:21:28.160Because they believe their cultural beliefs to be superior to other people, and they want to eradicate cultural diversity from this world and diversity from this world and eradicate people who they see as being savages.
00:21:45.400They really are the modern example of imperialist culture.
00:21:49.280And it is sickening to me, anyone who allows this to invade their mind.
00:21:56.020But we are fortunate in that this very ideology, this very toxic ideology ends up destroying them.
00:22:04.200And then when these women hit like 45 and they're no longer able to use their sexuality to get ahead, which is what Gamergate 1 was about.
00:22:11.380It was about women using their sexuality to get ahead in the workplace.
00:22:15.020And then, you know, sleeping with potential people they were interviewing and stuff like that, and then acting as if that was totally okay and they didn't have an unfair advantage.
00:22:23.660But once they can no longer use that, because they blinded themselves to these advantages they had, and that's what Gamergate 1 was, was.
00:22:30.060It was women in the game media community taking soldering iron to their own eyes to not see how much their own sexuality was benefiting them.
00:22:40.520Because they didn't see that, they didn't see how much they would suffer when they lost their attractiveness.
00:22:49.200They didn't see how irrelevant and discarded they would immediately become from the perspective of the very community they thought they were building.
00:22:59.000Because this community was completely built around their sexual value.
00:23:03.940And it's so funny that that is what modern feminism became, is elevating and hiding that women were using their sexual value to cheese their careers.
00:23:15.560And now that they can't do that anymore, they have nothing left.
00:23:19.320And they're living these lives of abject sadness that is so far removed from this, you know, heaven at the end of Gladiator.
00:23:26.300Yeah, but also what's sad about this, and you can deride them all you want, is they were told they were doing the right thing, they were doing the ethical thing, they were very, very deeply misled, and they're ultimately the ones being heard.
00:23:42.160I don't take a, they were told they were doing the right thing, they should have applied critical thought, and they didn't.
00:23:47.640Humans, they, now this is going to be very hard for you to understand, but most humans do not do this naturally, and you do.
00:23:57.200Either, I think it's a mixture, when you look back at your genetic heritage, you come from a long line of people who question norms and the status quo.
00:24:05.940But then on top of that, a lot of things happen to you throughout your life that confirmed the fact that you cannot and should not trust anyone.
00:24:12.480So, you are in a very rare circumstance where both dispositionally and in terms of your education, you have been told to question and to not trust.
00:24:22.100The vast majority of people are not like that, either dispositionally or in terms of how they've been taught to succeed in the world.
00:24:29.640And most people are rewarded for going along with the rest of society and punished severely for not.
00:24:40.500You still even are punished severely for deviating from people's preferred views.
00:25:30.020Yeah, or my parents were abusive to me and were like, okay, well, you might have inherited this, but I hate you in the same way I hate your parents.
00:25:36.100Yeah, and you are still dangerous to society and not doing good things.
00:25:41.020Well, no, but I also think deserving of punishment.
00:25:43.960I think that Anita Sarkeesian is deserving of the terrible life she lives.
00:25:47.980She earned it from her lack of personal industry and she, you know, it's called a bonfire of the vanities for a reason.
00:25:56.800People burn in a bonfire of their own vanity.
00:25:59.900And this is something that we as a society used to communicate and accept and the feminists didn't know this.
00:26:05.400And they did win the short-term culture war, right?
00:26:07.980Like they got the positions of power in society, but they lost themselves.
00:26:12.820They spent their own existences because they were fighting for an ideology that was fundamentally evil.
00:26:20.000It was an ideology that believed itself to be naturally superior to all other ideologies.
00:26:25.160They believed it had a manifest destiny to erase all cultural diversity in the world to be the only ideology.
00:27:29.040It is a movement that comes from the European cultural value sets and sees itself as naturally superior to other groups.
00:27:36.060It is the secular imperialism that drove Europe that has been reformed as what we now call progressivism and wokeism.
00:27:48.240And yeah, it is interesting to me to see this, but it's a little satisfying.
00:27:53.540And I think when you contextualize this, when you show your kids this and you're like, look, these people are like marrying themselves and this is not a happy outcome.
00:28:02.000You know, they are, they're going to die with like 60 cats and then the cats are going to eat their corpse because.
00:28:42.920Oh gosh, but no, I mean, it's, it's sad.
00:28:47.140It's sad, but it is just, and they won the short-term cultural battle, but long-term, I mean, I really think GamerGate's where things begin to turn around as we talked about in the other video.
00:28:59.820And we'll do another video at some point on GamerGate really exposes the left's core weakness and GamerGate 2 does as well.
00:29:08.620It exposes how you can finally beat progressivism.
00:29:12.720Yeah, I mean, I think the important thing is that when our daughters are old enough, we just need to show them that the outcomes are probably not in line with what they want.
00:29:26.640And we have no problem with them adopting whatever values they want after they have weighed and measured the evidence and everything they've learned.
00:29:34.660But I think focusing our kids around outcomes instead of ideologies is key in just making sure that they make better decisions.
00:29:46.480I hope that we're able to protect them because I do worry for them.
00:29:50.440Going into this world, there's going to be a lot of people, especially if we continue to gain public notoriety, who in the same way they did with Elon's kids are going to specifically target our kids.
00:29:59.060Yeah, well, Torsten is just going to scream about rocks to them because that's all he cares about.
00:30:22.820I really want to begin to bring our kids into these podcasts as soon as they're cognizant enough to do it.
00:30:26.960And I think that I'd really love them to troll progressives who are trying to brainwash them, like goad them along, and then we can bring in these conversations into our podcast so people can see it.
00:30:38.420Because I know that this is going to happen.
00:30:39.760As the movement begins to spiral down, as they all realize they've destroyed their lives, they're going to increasingly and aggressively target the children of people like us to try to bring them down as well.
00:30:51.120And the more that we can bring attention to how intentional this action is, and how pathetic these individuals are, and how pathetic their lives are, I think it's really important in terms of framing for the next generation that they shouldn't go this path.
00:31:55.180So that's my final thought, is that it is a misleading term, like so many misleading terms.
00:32:03.100Well, I love you, and I want our daughters to have great lives.
00:32:06.420And I think that couples modeling unhappy and loving relationships where both partners are treated with respect is the true thing that you should be doing if you really care about the future of women.
00:32:22.400And not marrying yourself at a sad birthday party.
00:32:30.840And marrying yourself as a single person is, it makes a lot of sense because when you actually think about weddings and marriages, they're really just for the women.
00:32:38.800So I don't know why women just don't marry themselves when they want something indulgent.
00:32:45.140And then actual marriages are more just about, oh, let's create a favorably positioned strategic alliance.
00:32:50.700That's a very sexist thing to say, Simone.
00:32:53.660How much planning did you do in our wedding?