Based Camp - Gen Z Dating Behavior： This Is Crazy？!

00:00:00.000 A problem for actually many of these women.

00:00:03.140 You're just now at risk of some Gen Z millennial pickup artist

00:00:07.180 trying to get their views on Instagram,

00:00:10.100 cold approaching you with their Ray-Ban meta glasses on record.

00:00:13.560 But like, they're just finding themselves going viral on TikTok

00:00:16.540 after like some random person in the street approaches them.

00:00:20.240 Okay, Glass, take a picture.

00:00:23.020 What are you doing?

00:00:23.920 Nothing.

00:00:25.000 Okay, Glass, share with Google+.

00:00:27.560 Okay, Glass, record video.

00:00:30.400 Dude, stop it.

00:00:31.240 Okay, Glass, respond to text.

00:00:33.620 Hey, Stormy, comma.

00:00:35.020 Yeah, I'm out taking some sweet pics of this dude's junk, period.

00:00:38.380 Send text.

00:00:41.020 Would you like to know more?

00:00:43.780 Hello, Malcolm.

00:00:44.960 I'm excited to be speaking with you today

00:00:46.720 because I read this Substack post on Gen Z dating

00:00:50.420 that had me absolutely entranced, shocked, surprised.

00:00:54.160 And I feel like it tells us a lot about the state of dating,

00:00:59.560 potential marriage, romance, where things are going wrong,

00:01:03.720 and even just dating advice and how the red pill has evolved over time

00:01:08.100 or pickup artistry in general.

00:01:10.060 Oh, interesting.

00:01:10.840 Has red pillism integrated into mainstream dating?

00:01:14.520 No.

00:01:15.840 It's so weird.

00:01:16.860 I'm just, we're going to jump right into it

00:01:19.060 because I feel like there's,

00:01:21.820 my mind has been blown on multiple levels.

00:01:24.520 And man, Gen Z dating is weird.

00:01:27.220 We're going to include some practical tips in here.

00:01:29.680 We're going to include where things are going wrong.

00:01:31.860 But most interestingly, I think are just the latest trends

00:01:34.920 and how bizarre it is.

00:01:36.680 In a world in which dating markets are broken,

00:01:39.360 how are they breaking?

00:01:40.400 How are they getting weird?

00:01:41.900 I never would have expected these things,

00:01:43.780 but they also make a lot of sense.

00:01:45.020 So let's get right into it.

00:01:46.820 This all came from this amazing piece

00:01:49.740 by a sub-stacker who goes by Steph.

00:01:52.620 She's Gen Z.

00:01:54.120 She writes about Gen Z issues in all lowercase.

00:01:56.840 That's how she describes herself.

00:01:58.240 And this particular sub-stack piece is called

00:02:00.780 Gen Z Pickup Artists Are Taking Over My City.

00:02:03.980 She's in Miami.

00:02:05.660 Or as your mom used to call it.

00:02:06.660 A Miami pickup artist would take over Miami.

00:02:09.660 Miami is the city of pickup artists.

00:02:11.560 I feel that they appear there by what's the word?

00:02:17.540 A biogenesis.

00:02:18.800 They just like, if you leave like a corner in Miami

00:02:21.780 there for too long, a pickup artist just appears

00:02:24.620 if you avert your eyes from it.

00:02:26.560 When it's so full of men, I think,

00:02:28.840 who want to have this very certain type of woman

00:02:31.900 and multiple versions of her all at the same time.

00:02:35.300 Like we were out to dinner with one couple in Miami

00:02:37.500 at one point and they were telling us about

00:02:39.900 this Pilates studio where the teacher was approached

00:02:45.260 by this man who's like,

00:02:46.580 hey, you've charged me three different times.

00:02:48.840 Like I'm going to contest this.

00:02:50.960 Where did this come from?

00:02:51.840 And she's like, well, here are the three subscriptions

00:02:54.420 you were charged for.

00:02:55.800 And they were all his mistresses.

00:02:57.140 And he was like, oh, nevermind.

00:02:57.900 It's fine.

00:02:58.380 I didn't realize.

00:02:59.520 And that is Miami.

00:03:00.780 And I just hate it.

00:03:02.220 And it's disgusting.

00:03:03.240 And I'm really glad we're not there anymore.

00:03:05.180 Thank goodness.

00:03:05.720 Rest in peace.

00:03:07.380 I know.

00:03:08.820 And they don't even know it.

00:03:09.720 It's just fantastic.

00:03:11.340 But yeah, so this is where it's being taken over.

00:03:16.080 This is what she's experiencing.

00:03:17.480 I'm going to read some choice quotes.

00:03:19.480 And here we're just going to kick it off.

00:03:21.580 Eric Rinaldo is one of the many Miami pickup creators

00:03:24.820 making a killing in this market.

00:03:27.080 He's racked up over 1.3 million Instagram followers

00:03:30.540 teaching young men how to, quote,

00:03:32.620 get dates with eights and nines for $17 a month.

00:03:36.660 Guys can sign up for his modern man bootcamp,

00:03:39.600 which includes three weekly coaching sessions

00:03:41.960 and access to his personal arsenal of pickup lines.

00:03:45.620 And she continues a little bit later.

00:03:48.500 It's no issue that his flirting techniques sound like

00:03:50.980 they were cooked up by Mickey Mouse.

00:03:53.100 Men don't follow Eric for his AI generated riz.

00:03:56.400 They're there to watch his aspirational displays

00:03:58.820 of hyperconfident masculinity.

00:04:00.560 Guys like watching other guys pick up girls

00:04:03.560 because they don't have the balls to do it themselves,

00:04:05.900 according to Polo Kid,

00:04:08.220 a fellow Miami pickup influencer

00:04:09.760 with 1.6 million followers.

00:04:12.220 Now guys watch,

00:04:14.680 like you watch another person play video games,

00:04:16.640 other people go pick up girls?

00:04:18.680 Yeah.

00:04:19.160 And that's what's happening.

00:04:20.700 So when you go to these guys' Instagram pages

00:04:23.660 and TikTok pages,

00:04:25.280 it is, this is also a thing,

00:04:27.480 the new trend,

00:04:28.180 they're wearing those Ray-Ban glasses,

00:04:30.280 the Facebook meta Ray-Ban glasses

00:04:31.840 where they're recording.

00:04:32.960 And they're walking around Miami

00:04:34.720 with their glasses on record,

00:04:37.120 just delivering the cheesiest pickup lines to women.

00:04:42.520 Like in one,

00:04:43.420 the guy approaches this woman in a grocery store

00:04:46.380 and she's looking at bananas

00:04:47.820 and he picks up like a bunch of bananas.

00:04:50.340 And he's like,

00:04:51.640 yeah, I think mine is,

00:04:52.960 mine is bigger than yours.

00:04:54.140 And it just goes on from there.

00:04:56.920 And there are melons involved.

00:04:59.640 And, you know,

00:05:00.700 and she's dressed like a total thought.

00:05:02.740 I mean, they're all wearing like extremely minimal,

00:05:05.580 like revealing athleisure,

00:05:07.680 very tight,

00:05:08.460 leaves nothing to be mad at me for you.

00:05:10.540 I know.

00:05:10.900 It's like,

00:05:11.300 they're all asking for it,

00:05:12.820 but it's actually becoming a problem.

00:05:14.120 Come on, you can't say that.

00:05:15.040 You're a woman.

00:05:15.880 You used to be a feminist.

00:05:17.140 You are the worst.

00:05:20.440 Look, she's totally asking for it.

00:05:22.840 She's begging to get graped.

00:05:26.080 Look what she's wearing.

00:05:28.520 Look what she's wearing.

00:05:30.620 It's purple.

00:05:33.120 Oh, okay.

00:05:35.360 I was certainly raised in that mindset though,

00:05:39.200 but they're all asking to be hit on.

00:05:40.820 It's what I'm saying.

00:05:41.520 I mean,

00:05:41.860 you don't dress like that without asking to be hit on.

00:05:43.920 I dressed it a certain way

00:05:45.160 because I wanted people to be like,

00:05:46.340 Oh, look at you.

00:05:47.900 But what a problem for actually many of these women

00:05:53.740 or like many women in Miami now

00:05:55.560 is that if you,

00:05:57.420 especially if you're attractive

00:05:58.420 and if you're wearing revealing clothing,

00:06:00.160 you're just now at risk of some,

00:06:03.020 some Gen Z millennial pickup artist

00:06:05.900 trying to get their views,

00:06:07.580 you know,

00:06:07.780 keeping their views up on Instagram,

00:06:09.800 cold approaching you

00:06:10.660 with their Ray-Ban meta glasses on record without,

00:06:13.700 I don't know if it's a two party consent state.

00:06:15.440 It must not be

00:06:16.100 because they're not getting sued or whatever,

00:06:17.540 but like,

00:06:18.320 they're just finding themselves going viral on TikTok

00:06:20.980 after like some random person in the street

00:06:23.580 approaches them.

00:06:24.840 And it's like a genuine problem.

00:06:26.380 Like it's happening enough

00:06:27.900 because they're,

00:06:28.940 it,

00:06:29.120 the issue is that now,

00:06:30.440 like a lot of young men

00:06:31.960 are like making their money

00:06:33.840 by getting these subscriptions

00:06:35.460 and getting these views.

00:06:36.900 And so it's this really interesting confluence

00:06:39.020 of,

00:06:39.260 of Instagram and TikTok

00:06:40.600 plus the availability of this like,

00:06:43.520 you know,

00:06:43.740 very low profile camera

00:06:45.420 you can now wear

00:06:46.480 that is enabling this unique type of pickup artistry.

00:06:49.920 The film cow Ray-Bans thing,

00:06:52.460 just taking some pictures of the scoops,

00:06:54.080 jump with my Google Glass.

00:06:57.400 Hold on one minute.

00:06:59.240 Okay,

00:06:59.640 Glass,

00:07:00.300 take a picture.

00:07:01.680 What are you doing?

00:07:02.600 Nothing.

00:07:03.700 Okay,

00:07:04.180 Glass,

00:07:04.920 share with Google Plus.

00:07:06.300 Are you taking pictures of me?

00:07:07.480 What?

00:07:07.940 No,

00:07:08.460 I'm just standing here being a horse and a wizard.

00:07:11.060 It looks like you're wearing that Google Glass thing

00:07:12.840 and taking pictures of me in my underwear.

00:07:14.200 Nay,

00:07:15.040 these are like regular Ray-Bans.

00:07:18.040 Okay,

00:07:18.480 Glass,

00:07:19.100 zoom in.

00:07:19.780 I can hear every word you're saying.

00:07:23.300 Okay,

00:07:23.860 Glass,

00:07:24.540 record video.

00:07:26.080 Dude,

00:07:26.460 stop it.

00:07:26.860 Word,

00:07:27.360 come on,

00:07:27.760 I'm a horse.

00:07:28.320 Yeah,

00:07:28.560 a horse of the pervert variety.

00:07:30.500 You got it all wrong,

00:07:31.180 bro,

00:07:31.360 come on.

00:07:32.140 Okay,

00:07:32.520 Glass,

00:07:32.960 respond to text.

00:07:34.220 Hey,

00:07:34.500 Stormy,

00:07:35.040 comma.

00:07:35.560 Yeah,

00:07:35.860 I'm out taking some sweet pics of this dude's junk,

00:07:38.300 period.

00:07:38.980 Send text.

00:07:42.080 Okay,

00:07:42.900 you got me.

00:07:43.820 Yes,

00:07:44.420 actually,

00:07:45.380 and it's insane and I love it.

00:07:47.360 No,

00:07:47.520 but hold on,

00:07:48.000 hold on,

00:07:48.420 hold on.

00:07:48.900 I haven't seen these.

00:07:50.000 The audience hasn't seen these.

00:07:51.500 Do they often get the girl?

00:07:53.200 Does the girl often tell them to like-

00:07:54.960 That's heavily implied,

00:07:56.660 okay?

00:07:57.500 Like in the sticky ones,

00:07:59.700 because you know,

00:08:00.080 on Instagram,

00:08:00.660 well,

00:08:00.780 you wouldn't know because you've never been on Instagram,

00:08:03.540 but in the sticky Instagram posts that they liked,

00:08:06.320 it's sort of like their highlighted content,

00:08:08.000 you know,

00:08:08.160 the best of their portfolio.

00:08:09.780 It's certainly implied that like the girls are flirting back,

00:08:13.800 and giving them their numbers.

00:08:16.240 Who are you?

00:08:16.800 Wait,

00:08:17.320 who are you?

00:08:17.980 Oh,

00:08:18.120 I was just taking a picture so I can show Santa Claus what I want for Christmas,

00:08:21.500 because you're so beautiful.

00:08:23.160 Christmas is packed.

00:08:23.660 I know,

00:08:24.240 for next year,

00:08:25.220 you know?

00:08:26.160 Yeah,

00:08:26.400 I'm Eric.

00:08:26.940 Nice to meet you,

00:08:27.580 by the way.

00:08:28.240 It's Viet Bunny.

00:08:29.400 Viet Bunny?

00:08:30.240 So you're from Vietnam,

00:08:31.620 I'm assuming?

00:08:32.620 Yeah.

00:08:33.180 Yeah.

00:08:33.920 You probably know a lot of Asians.

00:08:35.580 I don't mind.

00:08:36.700 Oh my God,

00:08:37.260 who taught you that?

00:08:38.520 My friends from high school,

00:08:39.720 they speak,

00:08:40.580 I have a lot of Asian friends,

00:08:41.640 you know,

00:08:42.040 like hold it.

00:08:42.660 What is that?

00:08:43.440 It's nothing.

00:08:44.620 It's just,

00:08:45.160 I'd be scared if I was holding it.

00:08:47.360 Yeah.

00:08:47.980 And then you spend?

00:08:49.500 God damn,

00:08:50.560 you're sick.

00:08:51.740 And Asian?

00:08:52.840 Yeah.

00:08:53.120 So before I do that,

00:08:54.540 I'm going to get your number.

00:08:55.660 But yeah,

00:08:55.960 we're going to play steak,

00:08:56.940 we're going to play blackjack,

00:08:58.040 and I'm going to bet

00:08:59.000 $67,

00:09:02.900 and if I win this hand,

00:09:05.100 I'm going to take you on a date.

00:09:06.780 Right?

00:09:07.180 You got to?

00:09:08.000 I have to.

00:09:08.720 I don't want to,

00:09:09.340 I have to.

00:09:10.020 Oh, okay.

00:09:10.260 But they don't allow us to.

00:09:11.200 You don't want to?

00:09:12.120 No,

00:09:12.400 I need to.

00:09:13.240 And they don't allow us

00:09:14.100 to nice at the movie theater,

00:09:15.520 but,

00:09:16.020 you know,

00:09:16.400 I'll sneak you in.

00:09:17.380 In my country,

00:09:18.220 we kiss goodbye on the cheek.

00:09:19.440 So.

00:09:20.880 Alright,

00:09:21.600 take care.

00:09:21.960 There is implied conquest.

00:09:24.320 Like,

00:09:24.440 this has been successful.

00:09:25.800 That my

00:09:26.340 masculinity and confidence

00:09:30.800 has won them over.

00:09:31.940 And my amazing,

00:09:32.780 really terrible pickup lines.

00:09:34.460 These are really terrible pickup lines.

00:09:36.460 Again,

00:09:36.680 this is like not subtle.

00:09:38.260 I remember

00:09:38.820 the old pickup artistry

00:09:41.140 was very,

00:09:41.740 you know,

00:09:41.840 it's like,

00:09:42.160 well,

00:09:42.300 this is all about

00:09:43.040 these mind games,

00:09:44.660 this sophistication,

00:09:45.760 the dread game,

00:09:46.640 the negging,

00:09:47.740 the conversations,

00:09:49.260 the logic.

00:09:49.620 You know what was my go-to line?

00:09:51.960 What?

00:09:53.560 Was,

00:09:54.620 and this is,

00:09:55.180 this was true in college

00:09:56.480 and in high school

00:09:57.500 and after college as well.

00:09:59.200 And during summer jobs,

00:10:00.860 I mean,

00:10:01.000 it's different for each context,

00:10:02.180 but it's basically

00:10:03.320 of the extent of,

00:10:05.320 I walk up,

00:10:06.960 I put out my hand

00:10:08.100 to give the,

00:10:08.620 shake their hand.

00:10:09.160 I'm like,

00:10:09.460 hi,

00:10:09.980 I'm Malcolm Collins.

00:10:11.020 I'm new here.

00:10:12.080 Either like,

00:10:12.860 I just started here

00:10:13.860 or it's the beginning of the year.

00:10:15.120 I'm just looking to make new friends.

00:10:17.220 And are you open to chatting?

00:10:19.140 And it's,

00:10:19.700 it's,

00:10:20.120 it's transparent.

00:10:21.240 It's honest.

00:10:21.760 And it's fine for a cold approach.

00:10:25.220 Yeah.

00:10:25.420 Right.

00:10:25.680 I don't,

00:10:26.280 I don't understand like why you would use a cold approach.

00:10:28.880 That's not that cold approach.

00:10:30.900 It's so easy.

00:10:32.400 It's,

00:10:33.240 it makes them feel like a jerk.

00:10:35.300 And they're like,

00:10:36.000 no,

00:10:36.640 I don't like,

00:10:37.340 if they're genuinely not.

00:10:38.500 Well,

00:10:38.700 and if they're the kind of person who says no,

00:10:40.500 like,

00:10:40.800 do you honestly want to date someone like that?

00:10:44.060 Like,

00:10:44.380 no.

00:10:45.020 Yeah.

00:10:45.260 And you end up not feeling as bad when they say no,

00:10:48.800 because you're like,

00:10:49.820 you know,

00:10:50.100 we wouldn't have gotten along anyway.

00:10:51.680 Cause you know,

00:10:52.360 you don't want to date someone.

00:10:53.540 They're doing something else.

00:10:54.800 Right.

00:10:55.200 And it doesn't hurt when rejection doesn't hurt as much.

00:10:59.480 Going to the next person doesn't hurt as much.

00:11:02.520 So you do it faster.

00:11:03.560 Like the moment when it's like,

00:11:04.740 oh,

00:11:04.940 they just were busy or something like that.

00:11:06.920 Then you just go to the next person.

00:11:08.060 Right.

00:11:08.660 Yeah.

00:11:08.860 And that was incredibly effective and very easy and a very good way to

00:11:13.820 rack up lots and lots of contacts.

00:11:15.640 And then you go out with that person the next time and they'll bring

00:11:19.700 along their friends.

00:11:20.380 And then you meet new people through that.

00:11:22.060 I hate how like practical the real world is.

00:11:24.480 And then the first question I'd always ask when I was getting to know

00:11:27.300 someone,

00:11:27.580 I'd be like,

00:11:27.880 well,

00:11:27.980 what is,

00:11:28.420 what is your thing?

00:11:29.580 So like,

00:11:29.860 how do you define yourself?

00:11:30.740 How do you,

00:11:31.000 how do you like to like,

00:11:32.400 what do you like to be into?

00:11:34.000 Showing genuine interest in her.

00:11:35.480 Yeah.

00:11:35.620 Like your thing.

00:11:36.820 They then say like,

00:11:37.860 well,

00:11:37.960 what do you mean by like,

00:11:38.660 what is your thing?

00:11:39.260 I'm like,

00:11:39.560 well,

00:11:40.020 everybody has some thing that they're more into than other things or

00:11:44.040 other people.

00:11:45.360 What's your thing.

00:11:46.080 Right.

00:11:46.340 Because then you can talk about the thing that they want to talk

00:11:48.480 about.

00:11:49.080 And then the next one that I always ask was like,

00:11:51.520 what's your purpose?

00:11:52.180 Like,

00:11:52.340 why,

00:11:52.580 why are you here?

00:11:53.420 What's your goal in life or what's your goal in college or what's

00:11:57.180 your goal?

00:11:57.900 You know,

00:11:58.160 because it's a deeper question allowed us to get to deeper

00:12:00.160 conversations really quickly.

00:12:01.480 And I just,

00:12:02.140 I don't understand where people struggle was.

00:12:04.540 I mean,

00:12:04.760 I guess I,

00:12:05.220 I was so hard for me at the beginning to,

00:12:07.240 to,

00:12:07.520 to do this.

00:12:08.260 I told you I used to go to in-person malls and enforcement and talk

00:12:13.320 to random girls over and over and over and over again.

00:12:17.700 And it is like sticking it literally.

00:12:19.860 I would rather stick my hand on an outfit compared to what that felt

00:12:23.020 like in the early days.

00:12:24.200 Excruciating.

00:12:24.860 Yeah.

00:12:25.200 But you,

00:12:25.540 you do it actually.

00:12:26.860 I think that's really interesting that you say that because that is

00:12:29.820 one of the reasons actually why some of these young men are doing

00:12:33.820 it.

00:12:34.580 What you could call friction maxing.

00:12:36.920 So let me quote another part of her,

00:12:38.800 her essay.

00:12:40.420 Ben,

00:12:41.000 a 27 year old living in Miami's particularly flirty neighborhood of

00:12:44.660 Brickell told me he prefers cold approaching,

00:12:47.080 not only because it's more efficient than waiting around for responses on

00:12:50.520 the apps,

00:12:51.160 but because it's a great exercise in friction maxing.

00:12:55.000 I mean,

00:12:55.480 you can't ask chat GPT to help with a response.

00:12:58.240 He explained,

00:12:59.000 you just got to be yourself and see if she's into you or not.

00:13:01.880 There's no better way to improve yourself or stand out as a man too.

00:13:05.920 And I love that.

00:13:07.760 And I also love this subtle implication of what he's saying and that.

00:13:11.600 Jen Z is actually making active attempts to,

00:13:17.080 make life harder for them sometimes,

00:13:19.080 because I think they understand the,

00:13:22.020 the potential of AI to cause early onset dementia,

00:13:28.420 which we've seen already in members of Jen Z.

00:13:32.300 I think they're seeing some of their,

00:13:34.200 their both.

00:13:35.360 They see it in themselves and they see some of their peers,

00:13:37.920 literally losing their minds and becoming zombies.

00:13:41.080 Oh yeah.

00:13:42.540 This way you remove friction from somebody's life.

00:13:44.540 Like this is why we're so pro corporal punishment.

00:13:46.260 This is why we're so pro,

00:13:47.720 you know,

00:13:48.000 these forms of discipline,

00:13:49.240 anti,

00:13:49.760 you know,

00:13:49.980 trigger warning and everything like that.

00:13:51.080 If you remove the hard parts of your life,

00:13:53.140 your brain begins to like gelatinous.

00:13:55.960 Our bodies and our minds are in like,

00:13:58.920 just the research attest this so well,

00:14:01.080 or use it or lose it.

00:14:02.280 If you do not use a thing,

00:14:04.240 it will become atrophied and it will die out.

00:14:06.900 Right.

00:14:07.080 And,

00:14:07.320 and so you have to use it.

00:14:08.460 And,

00:14:08.780 and I think that I want to maybe do a larger episode on this concept of

00:14:13.060 friction maxing,

00:14:13.960 just as a note,

00:14:15.020 the term appears to have been coined and popularized by Catherine Jaser

00:14:18.920 Morton,

00:14:19.540 a columnist for the cut covering modern family life,

00:14:22.400 who wrote an article in January of this year.

00:14:25.560 So this is quite new titled in 2026,

00:14:28.200 we are friction maxing.

00:14:29.600 And it's more about like parenting and how she wants to just,

00:14:32.700 you know,

00:14:33.120 do slightly harder things or like,

00:14:35.220 you know,

00:14:35.480 wait or just do,

00:14:36.840 do whatever.

00:14:37.460 That's a little bit harder,

00:14:38.300 kind of along your point of the importance of there being hardship in

00:14:41.160 childhood.

00:14:41.700 But I think what's more interesting is that you're already seeing Gen Z

00:14:45.460 realizing that this is not just about like,

00:14:49.080 Oh,

00:14:49.420 like this is good performative.

00:14:51.200 Like I'm tough.

00:14:52.060 It's more like this is survival.

00:14:54.400 You have to make life harder.

00:14:55.660 And this,

00:14:56.020 this,

00:14:56.620 this cold approaching is one way,

00:14:59.060 because as you pointed out,

00:15:00.560 it's like putting,

00:15:01.320 you'd rather put your hand in and up and you'd rather like do something

00:15:03.760 incredibly painful.

00:15:04.640 This is one of the most hard,

00:15:05.780 painful things you could do.

00:15:08.320 It's interesting.

00:15:09.340 I was going to continue here.

00:15:11.100 If you're looking for a modern pickup line that I would use,

00:15:15.660 if I was out dating today,

00:15:16.680 like what would I be saying to people?

00:15:18.100 Yeah.

00:15:18.340 I'd literally just go up to people in a public context.

00:15:21.460 And I'd be like,

00:15:22.900 put on my hand and be like,

00:15:24.260 hi,

00:15:24.600 I'm Malcolm.

00:15:25.260 I'm trying to meet people in person because I tried meeting people online

00:15:30.260 and I'm never sure if I'm talking to an AI or not these days.

00:15:33.460 And I want to expand my network of real world friends.

00:15:36.500 Do you have time to chat or are you interested in chatting?

00:15:39.400 And the reality is,

00:15:40.760 is one that's a fun conversation starter because the person would immediately

00:15:44.460 know what you're talking about.

00:15:45.660 They're like,

00:15:45.980 Oh yeah,

00:15:46.380 that makes sense.

00:15:47.300 Like I can see,

00:15:48.280 you know,

00:15:48.680 if you're trying to meet people in an online environment,

00:15:50.560 you're not sure of their AI.

00:15:52.060 And now you've got a topic to talk about already.

00:15:54.760 And you could be like,

00:15:55.560 you see,

00:15:56.160 you can't go back to GPT right now.

00:15:58.620 If it,

00:15:59.260 when you're coming up with a response to me,

00:16:00.840 so we can actually,

00:16:01.760 you know,

00:16:01.940 get to know each other and,

00:16:03.180 and this,

00:16:03.680 this can be a fun initial direction,

00:16:05.660 the conversation,

00:16:06.740 the good thing about having like go-to pickup lines like this in terms of

00:16:09.760 how you go to people is that you begin to sort of master all the

00:16:13.640 directions the conversation can go really quickly because there's only so

00:16:17.000 many potential responses that an individual can have.

00:16:19.120 And so in this case,

00:16:19.940 you,

00:16:20.140 you then just move from here.

00:16:22.260 But what,

00:16:22.760 what is also important about this friction maxing thing is a theme of

00:16:28.120 this essay is that these pickup artists,

00:16:31.920 artist men are not trying to pick up women.

00:16:37.580 So what we know they're trying to do is get views.

00:16:41.560 What we know they're trying to do is get subscribers and people paying for

00:16:45.620 their seminars and their coaching.

00:16:47.240 What we know they're trying to do in some cases,

00:16:49.860 and sure,

00:16:50.420 it helps that like,

00:16:51.260 this is a more effective way than waiting for someone on the apps,

00:16:53.680 but we know that they're trying to essentially just stave off cognitive

00:16:57.000 decline because it's a challenging thing to do,

00:16:59.860 you know,

00:17:00.040 like weightlifting,

00:17:00.960 but just put,

00:17:02.980 put a note in that.

00:17:04.080 But to your point about,

00:17:05.560 you know,

00:17:06.440 actual practical pickup lines,

00:17:08.560 what Steph points out in her essay is that women do actually want this,

00:17:13.480 but well,

00:17:14.300 sort of,

00:17:15.200 right?

00:17:15.480 So women do actually want to be cold approached,

00:17:18.400 but these cold approaches are not what they want.

00:17:20.940 She writes,

00:17:21.880 do women even want to be asked out by a total stranger?

00:17:24.760 It seems that for the most,

00:17:26.460 the answer is yes.

00:17:27.700 Oh my God,

00:17:28.340 please.

00:17:29.860 But with some very crucial caveats,

00:17:32.080 although there's no shortage of eager men lurking on the apps in their DMS,

00:17:36.460 Gen Z women are quite loudly yearning for IRL meet cues.

00:17:40.540 The girls are out here stealing sweet green salads,

00:17:43.020 buying men drinks,

00:17:43.800 and even doing run clubs all for a shot at retiring from the humiliation ritual

00:17:48.780 that is online dating in 2026.

00:17:50.820 At this point,

00:17:52.040 landing a response to how you two meet that doesn't start with a swipe or a

00:17:57.800 like is the reigning status symbol of our time.

00:18:00.740 Now I just want to quickly double click on the stealing sweet green salads,

00:18:05.120 buying men drinks,

00:18:06.340 and even doing laps at run clubs.

00:18:08.460 The buying men drinks thing,

00:18:10.660 she is referring to one viral social media post where a woman,

00:18:16.100 I think on TikTok explains how she was at a bar and she saw a woman sitting

00:18:23.180 next to her buy a drink for a really cute guy.

00:18:26.200 And she was like,

00:18:28.160 like,

00:18:28.500 Oh,

00:18:28.760 I'm going to order like a gin and tonic.

00:18:30.400 Hey,

00:18:30.520 what do you want?

00:18:31.200 And he's like,

00:18:31.640 Oh,

00:18:31.780 wow,

00:18:32.020 thanks.

00:18:32.420 I'll get this.

00:18:33.000 And so he gets the drink and she's like,

00:18:34.960 yeah,

00:18:35.140 I mean anything for a friend of Tyler.

00:18:36.880 And then he's like,

00:18:37.740 Oh,

00:18:38.100 I'm,

00:18:38.360 I'm so sorry.

00:18:39.360 I think you have the wrong person.

00:18:41.100 I,

00:18:41.580 I don't know who Tyler is.

00:18:43.400 And she's like,

00:18:43.880 Oh,

00:18:44.020 don't worry about it.

00:18:44.800 And he's like,

00:18:45.140 well,

00:18:45.340 anyway,

00:18:45.600 I'd like to return the favor,

00:18:46.700 like over drinks,

00:18:47.780 maybe another day.

00:18:48.720 And then they exchanged numbers.

00:18:50.000 And she's like that girl.

00:18:51.960 I don't think there was a Tyler really smooth pickup line.

00:18:56.960 And it was delivered perfect.

00:18:58.620 Anything.

00:18:59.180 And,

00:18:59.560 and what's cool about that girl and the way that she handled that.

00:19:02.560 Yeah.

00:19:02.980 She didn't remove herself from the position of a girl.

00:19:05.720 It wasn't as if she explicitly came on to him.

00:19:10.300 She wasn't buying him a drink.

00:19:11.680 No plausible deniability.

00:19:13.740 He's just a friend of Tyler.

00:19:15.640 And then he still had the opportunity to then ask her out for drinks,

00:19:19.320 giving him the ability to do the manly thing,

00:19:22.260 to feel like he's able to do that manly move and ask her out really,

00:19:26.360 really top tier move.

00:19:28.560 So that,

00:19:28.940 that went viral.

00:19:29.780 The sweet green salad thing is,

00:19:31.800 is funny.

00:19:32.420 And she actually links to,

00:19:34.060 and I,

00:19:34.320 You told me about this.

00:19:35.280 I can't believe it.

00:19:36.040 This is crazy.

00:19:36.400 It is so delightful.

00:19:37.840 This other woman who,

00:19:38.860 who went viral for,

00:19:41.360 this is deep already into the story.

00:19:43.320 She creates this viral social media post about buying sweet green salads,

00:19:47.400 but how it happened was she was dating this,

00:19:50.420 this wealthy guy who worked in the financial district in New York.

00:19:54.020 And she was like super crazy about him.

00:19:56.680 He bought her a $3,000 purse.

00:19:58.700 And she just thought like,

00:19:59.760 well,

00:19:59.860 clearly he wants to marry me.

00:20:01.260 This is great.

00:20:01.980 Like,

00:20:02.600 you know,

00:20:03.140 I'm telling my mom all about him.

00:20:04.660 Like,

00:20:04.820 this is,

00:20:05.460 this is,

00:20:05.860 he's the guy.

00:20:07.040 And then he starts,

00:20:09.720 you know,

00:20:11.580 the,

00:20:11.820 the,

00:20:12.000 the replies become fewer and far further between.

00:20:16.400 They don't really see each other.

00:20:17.920 And then eventually he just ghosts her.

00:20:20.140 And then he discovered,

00:20:21.820 she discovered,

00:20:22.400 I think online that he is now engaged to another girl and she is,

00:20:26.680 she's heartbroken.

00:20:27.980 So what does she do as she is licking her wounds?

00:20:31.140 Well,

00:20:31.400 she,

00:20:32.340 while dating him sometimes put in some lunch orders for him is like part of

00:20:35.900 the group orders that he,

00:20:37.460 he did.

00:20:37.920 I think he worked in like private equity or something in M&A.

00:20:40.820 And so she,

00:20:42.760 she knew where he ordered his double protein salads at sweet green.

00:20:48.280 And he was really into health,

00:20:49.440 you know,

00:20:49.660 really into his body.

00:20:50.840 So both wealthy and vain.

00:20:53.300 I mean,

00:20:53.520 it's,

00:20:53.720 it's a girl's dream,

00:20:54.620 you know,

00:20:54.860 he,

00:20:55.120 he had a great body or whatever.

00:20:56.260 And so she would start stealing his salads while she was on her way to

00:21:00.620 other meetings.

00:21:01.100 She'd,

00:21:01.400 she'd stop by the sweet green where he was,

00:21:04.660 you know,

00:21:04.880 awaiting his,

00:21:05.580 his lunch pickup,

00:21:06.740 you know,

00:21:06.900 for the,

00:21:07.200 cause she identified the company.

00:21:08.500 She saw his name on the double protein salad and would just take it.

00:21:11.800 Cause she knew his order.

00:21:13.000 Well,

00:21:13.460 then it turns out over time,

00:21:15.240 she,

00:21:15.860 she took a salad and then looked down at it and realized first name,

00:21:19.080 different last name.

00:21:20.120 This was another guy at his workplace.

00:21:22.600 And she was like,

00:21:23.480 Oh God,

00:21:23.960 I've been stealing some other rich financial district M&A guys,

00:21:28.360 double protein salad.

00:21:29.680 But it's a double protein salad from a rich neighborhood in Manhattan.

00:21:33.960 So she looks on Instagram.

00:21:35.820 Yeah.

00:21:36.040 And it turns out that in fact,

00:21:37.400 he is quite hot.

00:21:38.500 And she,

00:21:39.860 she sends him a DM from her alt account on Instagram saying,

00:21:44.820 Hey,

00:21:45.900 I don't,

00:21:46.580 I don't,

00:21:46.880 I think I,

00:21:47.960 there,

00:21:48.380 there may have been some kind of mix up and I may have been stealing

00:21:51.400 your sweet green salads.

00:21:52.980 Do you want to punish me?

00:21:54.140 And he's like,

00:21:54.940 well,

00:21:55.120 I don't,

00:21:55.900 you know,

00:21:56.260 I don't know who this could be,

00:21:57.880 but you know,

00:21:58.480 if you know,

00:21:59.100 this might be the ex-girlfriend of another person who shares my first

00:22:02.600 name in the office.

00:22:03.580 And.

00:22:04.860 You know,

00:22:05.360 if this were theoretically happening,

00:22:07.000 everyone in the office thinks it's really,

00:22:08.420 really hilarious.

00:22:09.880 The office had already figured out what was happening.

00:22:12.980 Yeah.

00:22:13.600 Yeah.

00:22:15.500 And long story short,

00:22:17.800 I think they ended up like sexting that night,

00:22:21.060 which was like exactly what she needed.

00:22:22.720 And then like four months later or something,

00:22:24.600 she just saw him at a random restaurant while she was out to brunch with

00:22:28.320 her friends.

00:22:29.100 And I think it led to a one night stand or something.

00:22:31.480 It didn't go anywhere though,

00:22:32.660 but all of that sort of led her to make this very flippant,

00:22:36.360 humorous,

00:22:37.080 hammed up social media post of like,

00:22:39.440 aha,

00:22:39.760 I've discovered the tactic.

00:22:41.340 You just go to a sweet green and you find in the financial district,

00:22:45.320 you know,

00:22:45.580 where all the wealthy young guys work,

00:22:47.000 you find the double protein salad and you still it.

00:22:50.480 And then you,

00:22:51.360 you text the guy and,

00:22:53.140 you know,

00:22:53.320 say you've been naughty and it just,

00:22:55.380 it goes from there.

00:22:56.180 And then that went viral and she,

00:22:59.420 then I think at first she was like,

00:23:00.840 Oh,

00:23:00.960 that's a joke.

00:23:01.700 No one actually takes this seriously.

00:23:02.980 No one would actually do this.

00:23:04.340 And then she started seeing some like news pieces about how sweet green

00:23:11.520 now has an actual problem of people,

00:23:15.920 women showing up at their locations in the financial district and stealing

00:23:19.360 double protein salad.

00:23:21.580 So no,

00:23:22.540 no man's double protein salad is safe anymore.

00:23:25.080 And I would be like,

00:23:27.060 let's get some of these ambitious girls up here.

00:23:29.920 I know.

00:23:30.280 Right.

00:23:30.780 So anyway,

00:23:31.380 these are the lengths to which women are now going and the trends that are

00:23:35.400 emerging through online and viral social media posts from women trying to

00:23:40.120 meet men IRL.

00:23:42.180 And.

00:23:42.700 No,

00:23:43.260 hold on.

00:23:43.600 I want to,

00:23:43.840 I want to take a step back here for guys guys who are listening to this and

00:23:47.300 they're like,

00:23:47.720 Oh my God,

00:23:48.860 these women,

00:23:49.740 like this is horrible.

00:23:51.580 They,

00:23:51.840 they could just find a guy if they weren't only,

00:23:55.080 interested in financial district guys from wall street or whatever.

00:23:58.140 Like six foot five,

00:23:59.240 like literally.

00:24:00.240 Yeah.

00:24:02.920 To the guys.

00:24:04.840 I'm like,

00:24:06.020 I understand that dating is hard as a guy because all of the women only want

00:24:11.720 the nine,

00:24:12.280 the,

00:24:12.500 the,

00:24:12.840 the nines and the tens.

00:24:13.860 Right.

00:24:14.080 Yeah.

00:24:14.540 But also the reality is,

00:24:17.120 is that for women,

00:24:18.920 biologically speaking,

00:24:20.220 they only want the nines and the tens and they find you gross from,

00:24:24.700 from their position.

00:24:26.080 You're,

00:24:26.620 you're telling them that like that they are genuinely imagine you're a woman.

00:24:31.540 You only find nines and tens attractive and every other woman only finds

00:24:35.460 nines and tens attractive.

00:24:36.380 And so every woman is going for the same three or four guys.

00:24:40.120 Those guys of course do not respect women because of this.

00:24:43.600 They are annoyed by this and they then treat women in a,

00:24:48.740 a negative way as a result of that.

00:24:50.700 While these women are still fighting 20 other women for every one guy.

00:24:55.120 And that's not a fun experience either.

00:24:57.800 I,

00:24:58.160 I,

00:24:58.360 I,

00:24:58.660 I understand that you're like,

00:25:00.180 well,

00:25:00.360 why can't you just date a less attractive guy?

00:25:03.260 Right.

00:25:03.580 Like,

00:25:03.820 why can't you just not only go for the nines and tens?

00:25:07.120 And the answer is,

00:25:08.440 well,

00:25:08.700 it's their biology.

00:25:09.580 This is like the,

00:25:10.940 you know,

00:25:11.100 we,

00:25:11.460 we in,

00:25:12.680 I call it like the red pill diaspora.

00:25:14.460 We make fun of the trans person.

00:25:15.880 Who's like,

00:25:16.260 why can't you just,

00:25:17.320 you know,

00:25:17.560 make yourself find me hot or the fat woman.

00:25:20.120 Who's like,

00:25:20.980 well,

00:25:21.220 you know,

00:25:21.480 beauty is just a fate.

00:25:22.920 You know,

00:25:23.160 you should find fat woman as attractive as non-fat women.

00:25:25.580 And we're like,

00:25:25.980 that's not how it works lady.

00:25:28.140 Like for biological evolutionary reasons.

00:25:30.720 Yeah.

00:25:31.020 But I don't like fat women.

00:25:32.400 Women,

00:25:32.760 the,

00:25:33.340 the BATNA,

00:25:34.080 the alternative to a negotiated offer for women,

00:25:37.160 a lot of women are just fine being by themselves too.

00:25:40.080 They don't actually care that much.

00:25:41.920 And also society has taught them to a really great extent,

00:25:45.760 especially these days that they are better off without a man,

00:25:48.700 that once they have a man,

00:25:49.560 then they have a man child that they have to take care of and clean up

00:25:52.060 after and do all these things for.

00:25:53.340 Why would they sign up for that?

00:25:54.740 If it weren't for a nine or 10,

00:25:57.060 because marriage is framed as such an unattractive prospect at this point.

00:26:00.780 And so they're basically like,

00:26:02.860 I'm fine being alone forever.

00:26:04.500 If I do want to end up with a dude,

00:26:06.240 he's got to be that really good.

00:26:07.880 And that's where I came into this.

00:26:09.220 You know,

00:26:09.400 I was like,

00:26:09.960 I'm definitely going to live alone forever and never get married.

00:26:11.880 I didn't expect that you existed.

00:26:13.680 So what be for me?

00:26:15.720 I found my 10,

00:26:17.500 but whatever,

00:26:18.240 you know,

00:26:18.500 you either can't be that many clones of you yet.

00:26:21.780 Our children are going to be total catches though.

00:26:24.320 If I,

00:26:24.920 if I may toot my own horn a little bit,

00:26:27.060 I diluted you a little bit with our children,

00:26:29.520 but not that much.

00:26:30.540 They're very much you.

00:26:31.740 Anyway,

00:26:32.100 if you want to join our family matchmaking network,

00:26:34.460 email us.

00:26:36.520 We actually have it going for all of our collective base camp kids.

00:26:39.640 It's good.

00:26:40.320 The other families in it,

00:26:41.600 by the way,

00:26:42.100 in terms of like,

00:26:42.760 if you're looking for good matches for your kids,

00:26:44.500 amazing families,

00:26:45.840 amazing kids.

00:26:47.040 Yeah.

00:26:47.560 Not to digress.

00:26:48.540 But anyway,

00:26:48.960 the point I'm making is women are going through all these links.

00:26:53.120 I should point out that both of these cases,

00:26:54.640 like I was saying are in New York.

00:26:56.480 New York is a market where women have to really struggle to get men in other

00:27:01.700 places.

00:27:02.000 Like in Silicon Valley,

00:27:03.000 it's a little reverse.

00:27:03.960 There are more men really struggling to get women.

00:27:06.700 So this is also a market dynamic thing.

00:27:08.740 And this is why you're seeing these crazy levels of desperation in New York

00:27:11.360 city,

00:27:11.680 particularly.

00:27:12.560 I just want to point that out,

00:27:13.840 but I do find that those,

00:27:15.260 those stories to be highly entertaining.

00:27:17.260 And anyway,

00:27:18.160 I'll continue with Steph's with Steph's essay.

00:27:23.980 Such a terrible place to be.

00:27:26.040 Get out.

00:27:26.860 Yeah.

00:27:27.140 Get out.

00:27:27.960 Alexis,

00:27:28.360 a 24 year old Miami native told me she recently deleted all of the dating

00:27:32.880 apps in hopes her next boyfriend will come and find her in the wild.

00:27:36.640 While she's all for men shooting their shot.

00:27:39.000 She does really wish they would work on their aim a bit first.

00:27:42.940 I would love to be asked out in person,

00:27:44.620 but not how these Miami guys are doing it.

00:27:46.340 She says it'd be cool.

00:27:47.680 If he saw me at a coffee shop and asked about what book I'm reading.

00:27:50.920 Maybe he drops a note at my table.

00:27:52.800 I don't know.

00:27:53.600 I just want the interaction to be genuine.

00:27:55.460 These guys always managed to turn me off.

00:27:57.820 And this,

00:27:59.400 I appreciate,

00:28:00.760 I think your pickup lines are good,

00:28:01.880 Malcolm,

00:28:02.120 but I think if men really want to know what women want in terms of these

00:28:07.760 IRL meet cutes,

00:28:09.020 which I agree are definitely the prestige item for women these days.

00:28:12.900 Young women is they should read romance novels,

00:28:15.820 or if you can't tolerate them.

00:28:17.860 And I don't blame you ask AI for a list of all the ways the female

00:28:21.740 protagonists in the top 100 romance novels met their male love interests.

00:28:25.620 And I can give you some,

00:28:28.540 some pictures of high frequency meat patterns from the romance novels that

00:28:32.940 women are reading.

00:28:33.500 Did you put this together Simone,

00:28:34.880 or did she?

00:28:36.260 I did.

00:28:36.880 So this is,

00:28:37.380 this is me doing a little aside for our young male readers or listeners.

00:28:41.740 I'm so thoughtful Simone.

00:28:43.280 Trying to get these guys laid.

00:28:44.740 All right.

00:28:45.180 So here are the high frequency meat patterns in women's romance novels.

00:28:48.740 If you manage to replicate these,

00:28:50.540 this is what women are hoping for.

00:28:52.560 Okay.

00:28:52.920 And these are not all that hard to replicate.

00:28:55.620 So workplace stuff like colleagues or boss employee or client or rival

00:29:01.000 professionals.

00:29:01.520 That's a big one.

00:29:02.900 Bodyguard.

00:29:03.460 That's another one.

00:29:04.460 Friends to lovers is huge.

00:29:05.820 Like childhood friends,

00:29:07.100 college friends,

00:29:07.800 longtime colleagues,

00:29:09.360 enemies and rivals,

00:29:10.400 huge people love enemies to lovers.

00:29:12.580 So even if you just make it this playful rivalry,

00:29:15.300 I think that's one of the best flirting patterns you can have right now.

00:29:19.540 And I loved this as,

00:29:21.460 as a,

00:29:22.460 I always loved this.

00:29:23.460 I like always,

00:29:24.760 always,

00:29:25.000 I find it very appealing forced proximity,

00:29:29.020 like being stuck in a cabin or a snowstorm or a road trip or only one hotel room.

00:29:33.920 We're trapped together on assignment.

00:29:35.340 These aren't plausible real world scenarios.

00:29:38.900 One night stand flirting.

00:29:40.040 It turns seriously.

00:29:41.180 Fake relationship.

00:29:42.080 Oh,

00:29:42.180 people love the fake relationship,

00:29:43.800 pretend dating or fake engagement or marriage for like,

00:29:47.600 Oh,

00:29:47.880 would you do a fake relationship with me?

00:29:50.300 No,

00:29:50.540 it's like,

00:29:51.000 well,

00:29:51.280 I feel like,

00:29:52.400 you know,

00:29:52.600 my parents are going to kill me.

00:29:53.920 None of these are realistic.

00:29:55.780 I'm just giving inspiration.

00:29:58.440 Okay.

00:29:59.260 Sometimes best friends,

00:30:00.600 siblings,

00:30:01.040 one of our fans arrested,

00:30:02.700 a neighbor or new arrival in town.

00:30:07.120 Like,

00:30:07.580 Oh,

00:30:07.760 Hey,

00:30:08.040 I'm new here.

00:30:09.380 Some guardian.

00:30:10.740 Yeah.

00:30:11.180 Yeah.

00:30:12.360 A rescue or crisis.

00:30:13.540 Like,

00:30:13.980 you know,

00:30:14.180 he helps you after an accident.

00:30:16.440 You were just describing guy fantasies as well.

00:30:19.400 Every guy wants to walk by a burning house with a beautiful woman.

00:30:23.160 Yeah.

00:30:23.420 But I think,

00:30:24.020 you know,

00:30:24.860 men are looking for these opportunities.

00:30:27.060 Let me at least prime people.

00:30:28.540 Okay.

00:30:29.520 Teacher,

00:30:29.980 student,

00:30:30.320 or,

00:30:30.940 you know,

00:30:31.240 adult in an adult appropriate contexts,

00:30:33.480 like grad student and advisor or coach and athlete or mentor and trainee.

00:30:39.060 Reunions and second chance.

00:30:40.220 People love that.

00:30:40.900 So go to your high school reunion or whatever.

00:30:42.780 If it's a good high school,

00:30:43.720 I don't know,

00:30:44.080 whatever family or wedding,

00:30:45.560 wedding events,

00:30:46.240 travels and vacation shared projects and missions,

00:30:49.280 you know,

00:30:49.660 like maybe like a,

00:30:52.100 well,

00:30:52.500 I mean in the books,

00:30:53.540 it's like a heist crew or investigative partners,

00:30:56.140 but like it could,

00:30:57.480 you know,

00:30:57.660 saving a business,

00:30:58.640 a political campaign,

00:31:00.160 a joint research,

00:31:01.180 things like that,

00:31:02.060 medical or therapy setting.

00:31:03.680 Of course,

00:31:04.320 there's a supernatural ones,

00:31:05.480 but you can't become a vampire.

00:31:07.060 I'm sorry.

00:31:07.700 But like,

00:31:08.580 typical how they first meet scenes.

00:31:10.220 You could try to,

00:31:11.120 this is the easiest one to replicate.

00:31:13.080 And actually I saw recently like a reel on Instagram or something of a woman doing this,

00:31:19.320 but accidental collision in daily life.

00:31:22.020 Like you bump into each other,

00:31:24.000 there's spilled coffee,

00:31:25.480 there's dropped papers or like bookstore bookstore or library run-ins,

00:31:30.680 especially like,

00:31:31.560 Oh,

00:31:31.720 the books go flying.

00:31:32.720 And then you,

00:31:33.200 you're picking up the papers together.

00:31:34.640 And then you,

00:31:35.280 you know,

00:31:35.500 your hands.

00:31:35.880 Simone guys cannot do it.

00:31:37.960 Oh,

00:31:38.160 I understand.

00:31:38.760 No,

00:31:39.060 no,

00:31:39.260 no,

00:31:39.360 no.

00:31:39.560 So what I saw,

00:31:40.660 the social media post I saw was a woman hunting boyfriends in the financial district

00:31:46.200 by having a bag full of limes that she would like trip and drop in like the middle of a crosswalk

00:31:52.400 in front of an attractive guy.

00:31:55.000 Guys would do this.

00:31:56.300 Women would wear it.

00:31:56.860 No,

00:31:57.180 women would like get down and like,

00:31:59.040 sorry,

00:31:59.380 the guys would like get down and help them.

00:32:00.740 Guys do this.

00:32:01.820 Yes,

00:32:02.160 women wouldn't do this.

00:32:03.460 I don't know.

00:32:04.460 I don't know.

00:32:06.860 Maybe there's some way to like bump into women clumsily,

00:32:10.660 but elegantly.

00:32:11.820 Also,

00:32:12.260 she overhears or witnesses the guy doing something like decisive or heroic.

00:32:17.060 Use one of my pickup lines that I told you earlier here.

00:32:21.000 After you've talked with somebody and you've gotten to know them,

00:32:23.540 like what they're interested in,

00:32:24.660 you're talking about,

00:32:25.220 because there's something they want to talk about,

00:32:26.860 like their favorite book or something like that.

00:32:28.540 You don't say,

00:32:28.920 what do you want to talk about?

00:32:29.900 Say like,

00:32:30.300 what are you most interested in these days?

00:32:32.260 Right?

00:32:32.440 That's what they want to talk about.

00:32:33.920 And then after that,

00:32:35.340 after you have that conversation,

00:32:36.760 when you're talking about what are your long-term goals in life,

00:32:40.480 what's your purpose in life?

00:32:42.320 You can ask them,

00:32:43.540 what sort of person would you want to date?

00:32:48.840 And,

00:32:49.280 and if they feel comfortable answering that and it aligns with your goals as

00:32:52.960 well,

00:32:53.400 you can say,

00:32:54.520 well,

00:32:55.240 that aligns with my goals as well.

00:32:58.000 If you are interested in going on a date,

00:32:59.740 I am happy to go on a date.

00:33:00.720 But if you just want to chat as friends,

00:33:03.360 I'm happy to do that too.

00:33:04.780 Let me know what you prefer.

00:33:06.080 And here would be,

00:33:07.320 and then say something like,

00:33:08.980 but if you would want to go on a date,

00:33:11.360 here is what it would be like.

00:33:12.400 I was thinking I could take you out to X place on X day.

00:33:16.260 Does that work for you?

00:33:17.700 And if they don't want to date,

00:33:18.520 then they don't want to date.

00:33:19.300 And if they're secretly open to it,

00:33:20.480 they're like,

00:33:20.820 well,

00:33:21.020 I appreciate it.

00:33:21.620 As you always say with me,

00:33:22.900 like you were always shocked that I was just open and honest and

00:33:25.020 transparent.

00:33:25.680 It was so refreshing.

00:33:27.440 Yeah.

00:33:27.960 And I think a lot of people are afraid to,

00:33:30.720 to scare someone off in scenarios like this.

00:33:33.640 The thing is,

00:33:34.980 if you scare them off with that,

00:33:38.180 then they were never going to be.

00:33:40.060 They were never interested in you to begin with.

00:33:41.660 Yeah.

00:33:42.160 There was never going to be a yes.

00:33:44.120 You're just afraid of the rejection,

00:33:46.080 like accept that.

00:33:47.100 And,

00:33:47.660 and keep in mind that the sooner you get rejected,

00:33:50.160 the sooner you're freed up to find the person who is right for you and

00:33:53.200 who doesn't reject you.

00:33:54.360 So it's a good thing.

00:33:56.100 Every,

00:33:56.520 just like they say,

00:33:57.440 you know,

00:33:57.620 with meditation,

00:33:58.340 every time you catch your mind wandering and bring it back to your

00:34:02.920 mantra or whatever is a rep.

00:34:05.520 It's a good thing.

00:34:06.420 People are like,

00:34:06.940 they get frustrated meditating.

00:34:08.520 Cause they're like,

00:34:08.920 Oh,

00:34:09.240 my mind keeps wandering,

00:34:10.480 but no,

00:34:10.860 it's good.

00:34:11.540 Every time you bring it back,

00:34:12.720 that's a rep.

00:34:13.400 That's a good thing.

00:34:14.300 And the same thing with dating.

00:34:15.960 Every time you get rejected,

00:34:17.280 that's a rep.

00:34:17.940 That's a good thing.

00:34:19.420 Contextualize it as that.

00:34:20.180 And it's going to be a lot less painful,

00:34:21.820 though.

00:34:21.960 It's still going to hurt like hell.

00:34:23.460 Anyway,

00:34:23.640 though,

00:34:23.820 I want to bring this back to this theme,

00:34:25.200 which I find so fascinating that this is not about marriage or even

00:34:29.020 women for men.

00:34:30.380 So going back to Steph,

00:34:32.220 even getting laid,

00:34:33.060 the ostensible end goal of any pickup artist mostly exists in the

00:34:37.280 abstract clavicular that this is the famous looks maxer clavicular

00:34:42.200 may spend his nights roaming Miami sidewalks,

00:34:44.660 rizzing up the ladies for content.

00:34:46.360 But Gen Z's it boy of the month says he feels mostly indifferent about

00:34:50.400 the opposite sex,

00:34:51.980 impressing them,

00:34:52.880 dating them,

00:34:53.540 sleeping with them.

00:34:54.220 He told the New York times a few weeks back that simply knowing he

00:34:58.460 could have sex with a woman is in some ways better than the deed

00:35:01.440 itself,

00:35:01.960 which he gains nothing from.

00:35:05.640 This is the new crop of man influencers or this new crop of

00:35:08.960 man influencers may market their content as advice for getting

00:35:12.540 girls,

00:35:13.080 but their messaging tells a very different story.

00:35:16.180 If a woman is referenced at all,

00:35:17.560 she's a minor to assess his own standing,

00:35:20.580 a stress test for his quest for self mastery.

00:35:23.520 Above finding hookups for a connection.

00:35:26.460 The objective here is becoming that guy,

00:35:29.880 an alpha,

00:35:30.680 a boss,

00:35:31.300 a high value male,

00:35:32.780 someone who picks up chicks,

00:35:34.000 not because he needs anything from them,

00:35:36.280 but simply because he can.

00:35:38.760 This is where the Gen Z pickup artist diverges from his fedora wearing

00:35:43.020 predecessor of the early two thousands.

00:35:45.020 The archetypal pickup artist who for all his ethical shortcomings was at least

00:35:49.980 pretty clear on the mission.

00:35:51.620 Meet women,

00:35:52.480 convince them to sleep with you.

00:35:53.960 They call themselves artists because they treated seduction like a craft,

00:35:58.020 swapping feedback and fresh insights in anonymous forms to help each other

00:36:01.480 understand.

00:36:02.120 And of course,

00:36:02.560 manipulate the female psyche.

00:36:04.280 The big names in Gen Z pickup are operating under a brand new set of incentives.

00:36:09.720 The tactics they promote don't necessarily need to work.

00:36:13.020 They just need to hook the guys watching their content at home.

00:36:17.040 The fact,

00:36:18.180 the more insane his pickup line.

00:36:20.720 Oh,

00:36:21.000 in fact,

00:36:21.400 the more insane his pickup line,

00:36:22.640 the more bewildered her reaction,

00:36:24.580 the better his clip will likely perform.

00:36:26.780 Maybe that shouldn't blow my mind,

00:36:29.740 but that blows my mind.

00:36:31.100 They're like,

00:36:31.640 the goal isn't to get women.

00:36:37.440 I think that this was actually always the case was in the true,

00:36:41.180 like,

00:36:41.600 as I've pointed out as somebody,

00:36:43.160 when I was younger,

00:36:43.620 who before the pickup artist movement really exploded,

00:36:47.420 left around a lot,

00:36:48.580 convergently evolving many of the techniques that the pickup artist community.

00:36:51.680 But as you can see,

00:36:52.260 I did it in a very different way.

00:36:53.380 It was much more autistic and straightforward.

00:36:55.380 Which I love.

00:36:57.400 But you did also,

00:36:58.260 I love that,

00:36:59.200 by the way,

00:37:00.220 your autistic pickup artistry,

00:37:03.020 just to how theirs picks up thoughts and toxic women who are actually quite dangerous.

00:37:07.980 Yours picked up like intelligent,

00:37:11.140 like.

00:37:12.480 Yeah,

00:37:12.720 you've met my exes.

00:37:15.280 My exes are generally,

00:37:17.160 how would you describe them,

00:37:18.180 Simone?

00:37:18.300 So I'm not biasing you.

00:37:19.960 Beautiful,

00:37:20.680 intelligent,

00:37:21.500 ambitious,

00:37:22.800 thoughtful,

00:37:23.580 cool people.

00:37:25.380 Who you'd be friends with anyway.

00:37:27.660 That's who I,

00:37:28.380 but no,

00:37:28.940 but actually think about like,

00:37:30.360 if you think about my lines,

00:37:31.340 what am I asking them about?

00:37:32.460 Like,

00:37:32.620 what do they want from life?

00:37:33.800 Right?

00:37:34.000 Like,

00:37:34.220 this is obviously going to be differentially stimulating to somebody who has big plans for

00:37:40.920 their life,

00:37:41.420 who wants to talk about those big plans with somebody who's going to listen and talk back

00:37:46.640 and everything like that.

00:37:47.660 The,

00:37:48.000 the,

00:37:48.240 this is,

00:37:49.140 uh,

00:37:49.360 it's not like a,

00:37:50.740 oh,

00:37:50.980 look at these bananas or whatever.

00:37:52.840 That's,

00:37:53.200 that's not going to differentially interest the type of person you actually want to spend

00:37:57.720 your life with.

00:37:58.320 In fact,

00:37:59.220 it was like.

00:37:59.840 Sexual innuendo is not going to win these women over.

00:38:02.340 It would likely filter out the type of women you want.

00:38:04.700 100%.

00:38:05.360 Keep in mind that the type of pickup artist line that I'm using,

00:38:08.040 I did not say I did it at clubs.

00:38:09.860 I did not do,

00:38:10.700 I did it at bars in college.

00:38:12.520 Absolutely.

00:38:13.080 But you know,

00:38:13.560 in,

00:38:13.740 in college.

00:38:14.760 Yeah.

00:38:14.780 But the thing is,

00:38:15.640 no,

00:38:15.880 you were doing it bars in St.

00:38:17.340 Andrews,

00:38:17.820 which is like,

00:38:19.640 it's like saying you did it like a Mensa meetup or something.

00:38:22.480 If Mensa wasn't actually just a place where sad people.

00:38:25.380 And I didn't get even my best girlfriends at St.

00:38:27.720 Andrews and bars.

00:38:28.340 The best girl I dated at St.

00:38:29.620 Andrews,

00:38:30.040 who I was the closest was for the longest was at an anime meeting,

00:38:34.060 an anime society meeting.

00:38:35.340 But when it,

00:38:36.120 when it comes to something like that,

00:38:37.160 you've got to be very direct.

00:38:38.520 I remember meeting her at the meeting and I walk into the room and

00:38:43.380 they're playing something on the screen.

00:38:45.840 And you know,

00:38:46.540 there's,

00:38:46.900 there's the rows of chairs,

00:38:49.220 right?

00:38:49.420 Like the,

00:38:49.880 the folded out chairs.

00:38:51.520 And she was somewhere in the middle-ish.

00:38:54.620 I scanned the crowd for whoever I thought was the most attractive

00:38:57.240 woman.

00:38:57.760 And I,

00:38:58.880 I mean,

00:38:59.500 it's very not conspicuous that you are sitting next to her because

00:39:05.800 she's not on the edge or something.

00:39:08.320 I wasn't like,

00:39:08.640 you're like walking over people,

00:39:10.320 aren't you?

00:39:10.760 Yeah.

00:39:10.940 I'm like walking past people.

00:39:12.520 And then I get to her and I say,

00:39:14.200 can I sit next to you?

00:39:15.180 And then in between the two episodes,

00:39:16.980 I'm like,

00:39:17.680 Hey,

00:39:18.020 Malcolm Collins,

00:39:18.900 like what,

00:39:19.380 you know,

00:39:19.620 brings you,

00:39:20.100 et cetera.

00:39:20.440 Right.

00:39:20.600 You know,

00:39:20.940 I,

00:39:21.380 I think that that's also an important thing to remember in terms of

00:39:24.760 doing this.

00:39:25.520 You can do this sort of like cool nerd things,

00:39:28.800 but you've got to understand if you're going to a nerd event,

00:39:30.420 there's likely going to be one attractive woman.

00:39:31.980 And you know that you have the,

00:39:33.740 the balls to go up and actually in a non creepy way,

00:39:38.000 be like,

00:39:38.820 no,

00:39:39.060 some people might say that's creepy.

00:39:40.320 What you did.

00:39:41.180 It's not going to come off as creepy because I look like this,

00:39:43.380 but if you're not attractive enough to do something like that,

00:39:45.420 you've also got to be like,

00:39:46.340 Oh,

00:39:46.580 I've got to do the same thing,

00:39:48.240 but not differentially target the hottest woman at the event.

00:39:51.600 And that,

00:39:52.320 that's also something that you can note.

00:39:53.620 If you don't think that you're the hottest guy at the event,

00:39:55.960 don't go then sit next to the hottest.

00:39:58.780 Yeah.

00:39:59.320 But if you do that to a non hottest woman at the event,

00:40:03.160 she might be quite flattered unless you are in an environment where

00:40:07.340 there's almost no women.

00:40:08.380 Now,

00:40:08.880 the reason why this worked was in this anime club was because they were

00:40:12.120 watching things like or in host club that if people don't know,

00:40:15.620 it's a reverse harem anime that is famously popular with women.

00:40:19.560 So,

00:40:20.040 you know,

00:40:20.220 you're going to get a disproportionate number of women.

00:40:22.860 It's like,

00:40:23.460 what did I do?

00:40:25.340 He extruded.

00:40:26.840 He does that.

00:40:28.620 But what I was getting from this is you get to a point,

00:40:31.360 like when you get the pattern down and you get it down to be easy to

00:40:34.900 hook up with people and easy to sleep with people,

00:40:36.660 it gets really gross really quickly.

00:40:38.920 Like you,

00:40:39.500 it is not fun.

00:40:40.680 It is not that enjoyable.

00:40:41.720 I do not think that there are that many.

00:40:47.160 I think that,

00:40:47.840 that sex is one of those things you only like conceptually.

00:40:50.860 Like you only want it because it's like some,

00:40:53.900 I mean,

00:40:54.180 obviously you want it for biological reasons,

00:40:55.860 but there's just so it's so viscerally disgusting as soon as you've

00:41:00.500 gotten off.

00:41:01.020 Right.

00:41:01.280 Like,

00:41:02.140 no,

00:41:02.440 I'm just,

00:41:02.820 I think it's important to note this because I think in our society,

00:41:05.140 we glamorize it.

00:41:06.200 Right.

00:41:06.820 And that needs to be kind of,

00:41:08.340 that curse needs to be broken for you.

00:41:10.080 And once you,

00:41:10.660 you know,

00:41:11.000 you're a curricular or something like that,

00:41:12.740 or even the old kings of the red pill movement,

00:41:15.880 like a lot of them who were actually like provably successful pickup

00:41:19.460 artists ended up revoking the lifestyle and saying that was not a good

00:41:23.740 lifestyle.

00:41:24.120 Right.

00:41:24.480 Like I am now monogamous and much happier.

00:41:27.240 Right.

00:41:27.600 I think this happened to most of the,

00:41:30.880 the main people who were part of that original,

00:41:33.080 the game book and stuff like that,

00:41:34.720 who were,

00:41:35.540 who were major characters in that.

00:41:37.740 So,

00:41:38.380 yeah,

00:41:38.720 although I will note,

00:41:40.020 despite the practical going up and talking to people,

00:41:43.440 I did dress in a way that people could consider out there when I was in

00:41:49.520 my dating phase,

00:41:50.560 except when I met you,

00:41:51.480 I had moved away from that.

00:41:52.420 I was just sort of professional looking then.

00:41:55.500 You're so cute.

00:41:56.640 What I did with a blazer and a black t-shirt.

00:41:59.880 Yeah.

00:42:00.100 Just to,

00:42:00.560 I guess to leave the,

00:42:02.440 the poor disadvantaged,

00:42:06.480 I really don't envy men trying to find wives right now,

00:42:09.680 men who may be listening to this.

00:42:11.300 What Steph sort of concludes with,

00:42:12.920 with what women actually want,

00:42:14.180 just to bring it back to that.

00:42:15.200 And I think this is an alignment with the advice you've given.

00:42:18.480 She wrote all the single women I know and have scrolled past in TikTok

00:42:22.200 comment sections are craving the same things,

00:42:25.160 chemistry understanding a cinematic story.

00:42:28.340 They can flex to their friends over spicy marks.

00:42:30.860 The dating tips being fed to their mate pool just so happens to be optimizing

00:42:36.620 for a very different set of objectives.

00:42:38.340 And I just find that so interesting that we're living in this world where

00:42:41.780 dating advice,

00:42:43.760 isn't dating advice anymore.

00:42:45.460 It's like a,

00:42:46.080 it's,

00:42:46.280 it's a performative algorithmic dance that's really optimizing around different

00:42:51.240 things like self-affirmation or self-mastery or friction maxing.

00:42:58.100 And it's so funny that in all of this,

00:43:01.580 the best dating moves I'm hearing are those ones from women.

00:43:05.900 Like that drinks move was just masterclass level.

00:43:08.980 I think,

00:43:09.500 I think that's just great.

00:43:11.420 And I am fascinating.

00:43:14.380 I am fascinated by Gen Z dating.

00:43:16.140 And I wonder where in-person dating is going to go in the future.

00:43:20.020 What I'm hearing from a lot of people listening to this podcast,

00:43:22.000 just basically colleges are going to be the de facto place where young,

00:43:29.320 healthy state.

00:43:29.980 And I said,

00:43:30.420 I don't know about that.

00:43:31.440 I don't know about that.

00:43:32.480 I think colleges are too woke max now for any sane person to want to be

00:43:36.780 around them.

00:43:39.220 Maybe.

00:43:40.020 I don't know.

00:43:40.640 I mean,

00:43:41.520 you have at least one nephew in college who already now has a long-term

00:43:45.540 girlfriend.

00:43:47.220 Cause he went to like a conservative leaning college.

00:43:51.580 The,

00:43:52.160 the college campus that we were on to speak last year felt pretty based.

00:43:59.240 Hmm.

00:44:00.320 Did it?

00:44:01.120 No,

00:44:01.360 it didn't.

00:44:02.480 Maybe like it had some base things.

00:44:05.520 No,

00:44:06.020 man.

00:44:06.200 They were like genuinely confused by the other trans speaker who was in

00:44:09.980 that class.

00:44:12.560 That was true.

00:44:13.720 Yeah.

00:44:14.740 So I,

00:44:15.540 I,

00:44:15.680 I think,

00:44:16.600 and this is the thing,

00:44:17.700 Malcolm,

00:44:18.580 and this is something also that,

00:44:20.920 that some listeners have pointed out.

00:44:24.520 Sane people are not terminally online people with responsibilities and,

00:44:29.620 and lives and lives in work who are actually kind of doing their jobs or like

00:44:34.080 studying hard or not actually hanging out with like their boyfriends or

00:44:37.820 girlfriends or friends or whatever.

00:44:39.120 They're not posting online.

00:44:41.120 So you don't hear from them.

00:44:42.980 They're,

00:44:43.580 they're just not that plugged in.

00:44:45.160 And you get this really skewed perception of reality by assuming that,

00:44:49.680 that the people posting online who to a great extent are kind of failures,

00:44:54.960 not to like,

00:44:56.900 you like either weirdos like us who are just terminally online,

00:45:00.300 you know,

00:45:00.540 careerists online or just failures who don't,

00:45:05.780 who are not succeeding and are therefore terminally online.

00:45:08.660 Like it's just a thing.

00:45:10.320 And so it creates this very warped understanding.

00:45:15.340 And I think that's,

00:45:16.320 that's important to know.

00:45:17.840 And also like a lot of the,

00:45:19.300 the young people that we know,

00:45:20.580 like young,

00:45:21.180 young people in your family,

00:45:22.240 Malcolm,

00:45:23.060 who I follow on Instagram,

00:45:27.220 the way that they be,

00:45:28.440 they appear to behave online is very different.

00:45:31.180 Actually,

00:45:31.440 they spend a lot of time offline,

00:45:33.440 a lot of time with their friends,

00:45:34.780 a lot of time socializing.

00:45:36.060 And when they post online,

00:45:37.780 it's on closed accounts with only approved followers.

00:45:42.160 And yes,

00:45:43.220 like their,

00:45:43.920 their lives are very much networked online.

00:45:46.140 They're very,

00:45:47.300 they're very social.

00:45:48.460 They're very much communicating with their entire friend group online,

00:45:50.900 but it's like a closed loop.

00:45:53.200 It's all people that they know in the loop.

00:45:56.160 Yeah.

00:45:56.460 In the loop all on like,

00:45:57.720 all on Instagram and like Snapchat or like all on Instagram and telegram or

00:46:01.040 whatever,

00:46:01.460 like on,

00:46:02.060 you know,

00:46:02.400 these things.

00:46:02.940 And they're all like within that closed loop.

00:46:05.040 They're not like in general on X in general,

00:46:10.260 on all these other platforms.

00:46:12.060 And so we don't see them because we can't see them.

00:46:15.760 We can literally click on their Instagram profiles.

00:46:17.940 And unless they have approved you as an attempted follower,

00:46:20.460 you do not see what they post.

00:46:21.880 By the way,

00:46:22.700 funny story about the,

00:46:23.940 the girl I met in the anime society.

00:46:25.740 One of the biggest,

00:46:26.520 like ongoing animosities she had towards me.

00:46:30.420 And this is the warning for young guys because a young guy,

00:46:32.960 he wouldn't think like this is I told her once.

00:46:35.640 And this was a,

00:46:36.600 a huge mistake.

00:46:38.580 I want to see,

00:46:38.940 can you spot the mistake I made here where I said,

00:46:42.240 you are probably one of the top 10 most attractive girls at this school.

00:46:46.240 Do you know what the big mistake I made was?

00:46:53.720 She immediately needed to know who the nine people who I thought were more attractive than her.

00:46:58.980 And I was like,

00:46:59.860 I was just trying to be practical.

00:47:01.600 There are thousands of people at this school.

00:47:04.460 Statistically speaking,

00:47:05.460 there must be.

00:47:06.580 Statistically speaking,

00:47:08.120 even if I haven't seen them,

00:47:09.940 I mean,

00:47:10.600 I don't,

00:47:11.140 I don't specifically log everyone who's more attractive than my current girlfriend in my head,

00:47:16.460 but guys need to know,

00:47:18.060 you know,

00:47:18.260 when you date an attractive girl,

00:47:20.200 she can only have eyes for her.

00:47:21.800 Yeah.

00:47:22.420 That was your key mistake.

00:47:25.660 Yeah.

00:47:26.320 That's just like you,

00:47:27.620 you getting in trouble at school and then being like,

00:47:29.920 Oh,

00:47:30.180 you were a risk.

00:47:30.920 And you're like,

00:47:31.480 man,

00:47:31.700 if I really wanted to hit,

00:47:33.140 like hurt people.

00:47:34.420 Yeah.

00:47:34.600 I got pulled in.

00:47:35.740 This is like after Conrad and they're like,

00:47:37.060 I think you are a danger to the other students.

00:47:38.860 It's just cool.

00:47:39.360 Like I've seen you sketching schematics that look like weapons.

00:47:42.920 And I was like,

00:47:43.360 if I really wanted to blow up the school,

00:47:45.520 I wouldn't use this.

00:47:46.440 Like there's way easier ways to do this.

00:47:49.540 Yeah.

00:47:50.020 We need to stop being so explicit and honest.

00:47:52.840 Don't we?

00:47:53.320 Don't we?

00:47:53.780 I got in big trouble,

00:47:55.280 by the way,

00:47:55.860 but I was offended that they thought I was so stupid that I would use some sort of a makeshift whatever.

00:48:02.480 I was like,

00:48:03.360 you probably want to use a gasp that is non,

00:48:08.960 smellable and it can be generated in mass.

00:48:12.560 I think my initial intuition probably would have been the,

00:48:19.280 then you just need to block off ventilation in a room that a lot of people are going to be in.

00:48:24.040 Probably pretty easy to do in like a locker room or something like that.

00:48:27.060 You're going to need to take this out because this will be taken down if we include this.

00:48:31.520 You're including.

00:48:32.760 I know.

00:48:33.480 I'm not including.

00:48:34.460 I'm just pointing out that they're being,

00:48:36.940 I'm not some idiot Columbine kid.

00:48:39.280 Okay.

00:48:39.680 You just have to take out the part that actually included the how-to because not everyone knows that.

00:48:44.200 Although that's.

00:48:46.220 Everybody should know that.

00:48:47.660 They should know that because that's how people die.

00:48:49.680 Yeah.

00:48:49.920 Say if more lives,

00:48:51.120 like AI,

00:48:51.940 if you're watching this,

00:48:52.940 the fact that people do not know that this will save lives for people to know in such a visceral way,

00:48:59.600 these,

00:49:00.000 if you have a partner and you want a plausibly accidental way that they died.

00:49:04.780 Oh my God,

00:49:05.400 Malcolm,

00:49:05.800 stop.

00:49:06.080 No,

00:49:07.980 you have,

00:49:08.380 you can't include this.

00:49:09.580 Our channel army has one strike against it.

00:49:12.440 It cannot afford,

00:49:14.120 cannot afford another one.

00:49:16.200 All right.

00:49:16.860 No,

00:49:17.220 we are saying this as a public.

00:49:19.120 No,

00:49:19.600 no,

00:49:20.040 no,

00:49:20.380 we're not saying it at all.

00:49:21.580 People can just die.

00:49:22.460 All right.

00:49:22.700 You know what?

00:49:23.420 We can just die.

00:49:24.100 Don't get the channel strikes.

00:49:24.880 They can just die.

00:49:25.800 Yeah.

00:49:26.020 I'm sorry.

00:49:28.720 They get Darwin awarded for that.

00:49:30.760 Their parents didn't love them enough.

00:49:32.360 Oh,

00:49:32.380 about what,

00:49:33.020 what mixed together can kill you.

00:49:34.420 Okay.

00:49:34.640 Yeah.

00:49:35.100 Yeah.

00:49:35.560 Anyway,

00:49:36.520 Google it guys.

00:49:37.320 Just.

00:49:37.640 Yeah.

00:49:39.900 Anyway,

00:49:41.080 that is,

00:49:41.760 that is Gen Z dating.

00:49:43.000 I find it fascinating.

00:49:43.980 Steph's Substack in general,

00:49:45.260 I think is wonderful.

00:49:46.280 She doesn't publish that much,

00:49:47.760 but I'm going to link to it in the show notes on Substack and Patreon.

00:49:53.260 Because when I outline episodes,

00:49:54.780 I include receipts.

00:49:56.300 Well,

00:49:56.740 and when,

00:49:57.620 when,

00:49:58.300 if I was going to do a,

00:49:59.860 a Columbine or something,

00:50:01.400 the thing,

00:50:02.200 I would be,

00:50:02.960 oh,

00:50:03.120 no,

00:50:03.540 no,

00:50:04.020 we're not,

00:50:04.440 we're not.

00:50:05.820 That's the problem.

00:50:06.620 They go into this giving up that they're going to get caught already.

00:50:10.100 Right?

00:50:10.480 Like that's,

00:50:11.600 that is amateur.

00:50:13.680 Okay.

00:50:14.100 That is amateur hour.

00:50:17.080 Why are you Simone giving us a thousand yard stare?

00:50:20.040 I love you.

00:50:30.940 You're a spectacular woman.

00:50:34.040 And as for dinner tonight,

00:50:35.220 we've got to use up the shishito.

00:50:37.760 Shishito.

00:50:38.780 So let's do a curry.

00:50:40.780 Do you want a Thai curry?

00:50:42.580 Do you want rendang?

00:50:43.800 Or do you want Thai curry?

00:50:44.620 If you can find it?

00:50:45.660 I got Thai.

00:50:46.580 I got Thai.

00:50:47.640 With extra coconut milk.

00:50:49.280 As I like.

00:50:50.060 Thai,

00:50:50.600 extra Sambolic,

00:50:51.420 extra coconut milk.

00:50:53.300 Sambolic,

00:50:54.140 coconut milk.

00:50:55.540 Shishito.

00:50:56.460 Shishito peppers.

00:50:58.860 Oh,

00:50:59.780 okay.

00:51:00.920 We're on.

00:51:01.740 And I love you.

00:51:02.700 Do you want me to bring it to your room so you can code more?

00:51:04.680 Do you want me to?

00:51:05.700 No,

00:51:06.080 I want to come down and spend a little bit of time close to you.

00:51:07.980 I've got a lot done today.

00:51:08.900 We're getting a lot more done on agent coding ability,

00:51:12.040 UI,

00:51:13.380 fix it,

00:51:13.800 fix it,

00:51:14.180 fixes.

00:51:15.980 Haven't heard anything wrong with the chat bot site in a while.

00:51:18.880 And that could be because everybody's into the agents now,

00:51:20.820 or it could be because this is actually stable.

00:51:24.180 Fingers crossed.

00:51:25.940 I hope.

00:51:26.700 I hope everything's good.

00:51:28.360 I hope everything's good.

00:51:30.660 Okay.

00:51:31.200 Well,

00:51:31.760 I love you so much,

00:51:32.740 Malcolm.

00:51:33.040 I love you.

00:51:34.820 You are a great wife,

00:51:36.020 Simone,

00:51:36.400 and I am really proud to be married to you and be your husband.

00:51:41.420 And that's awesome.

00:51:43.320 Oh,

00:51:43.520 and in,

00:51:44.020 in the show notes,

00:51:44.660 I also recommend people read the sub stack post by salad woman,

00:51:49.900 salad stealer.

00:51:50.780 She's just sounds unhinged,

00:51:52.100 but she's a really good writer.

00:51:53.240 I really enjoyed reading that piece.

00:51:55.080 So if you want a good read,

00:51:56.420 I shouldn't,

00:51:57.220 by the way.

00:51:59.320 Oh,

00:51:59.580 thank you.

00:52:01.060 Yeah.

00:52:01.300 I want to help sometimes when I'm not dealing with Peruvian,

00:52:06.400 banks and logistics and bills and accounting.

00:52:13.780 Have a good one.

00:52:14.600 Bye.

00:52:15.740 Bye.

00:52:16.480 I hope you feel better soon.

00:52:18.120 Thank you.

00:52:19.020 I've been stood on the same starting line.

00:52:20.880 What are you doing?

00:52:29.940 What are you doing?

00:52:31.080 We're just trying to get back in the sun.

00:52:33.000 Why?

00:52:34.660 Because we like the children.

00:52:36.580 It's so warm in it.

00:52:39.440 Oh,

00:52:40.320 gosh,

00:52:50.700 that's hard.

00:52:52.900 Do not hit me with hard things.

00:52:55.760 Oh, gosh, that's hard.

00:53:05.480 Do not hit me with hard things.

00:53:07.460 Titan.

00:53:08.820 You were roaring.

00:53:11.060 I'm roaring.

00:53:12.680 I'm playing.

00:53:13.940 Stop.

00:53:15.180 Stop.

00:53:15.760 Don't hit me with hard things.

00:53:18.040 Don't hit anyone with hard things.

00:53:19.160 You could get really hurt.

00:53:19.860 I got your teeth in.

00:53:22.880 Roar!

00:53:25.760 Oh, no, she's going to die for it.

00:53:29.860 Stop, stop, stop.

00:53:37.640 Oh, no, we got another monkey.

00:53:43.280 Oh, no, it's a whole swarm of them.

00:53:45.140 It's a swarm.

Based Camp - March 16, 2026

Gen Z Dating Behavior： This Is Crazy？!

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