Based Camp - Half of American's Now Born to Single Parents (From 5%)

00:00:00.000 Here's where I, like, just want to push back a little bit, but, like, these children may be exhibiting the antisocial tendencies of the fathers who left the relationship.

00:00:12.020 Let's buy what you just said.

00:00:13.680 Okay.

00:00:14.680 Then I want you to then contextualize the severity of the quote I read earlier, which I will read again.

00:00:22.440 In the 1950s, fewer than 5% of babies born in this country were born to unmarried mothers.

00:00:27.760 To date, nearly half of all babies in America are born to unmarried mothers.

00:00:31.740 A lot of people, when we talk about sort of genetic shifts in the country's, like, sociological profiles, they think that these happen slowly.

00:00:40.680 They do not.

00:00:42.260 And so what we're going to see is across all ethnic groups in this country, whatever genetic correlate there is to this behavioral pattern is going to begin to become dramatically more common in the population.

00:00:56.460 The other traits that it is correlated with, i.e. substance abuse, depression, anxiety, externalizing behavior disorders, those are also going to explode.

00:01:07.420 Also, things like dropping out of college, dropping out of high school, not having a job, those are also going to explode.

00:01:13.700 And it shouldn't be a surprise that these things cross-correlate.

00:01:16.240 I just typically don't point this out due to the offensive nature of admitting that humans have genes and that affects behavior patterns.

00:01:22.020 How dare you?

00:01:23.200 To extreme lefties.

00:01:24.380 But, I mean, it's true, humans have genes.

00:01:26.280 I'm sorry.

00:01:27.340 Would you like to know more?

00:01:28.700 Hello, Simone. 0.69

00:01:30.020 I am so excited to be talking to you because I am so excited to be married to you.

00:01:36.840 So, this episode is going to be done on the statistics of marriage, single parents, and the consequences to children,

00:01:46.320 as well as realistic long-term solutions to the way that people pair bond and stuff like that in the context of having kids.

00:01:58.220 So, the first one I really wanted to go over here, which is a study that I think really flies in the face of what a lot of people intuit about marriage.

00:02:05.920 So, it's important to sort of start with this because I think a lot of people, they go into this being like, well, marriage makes you less happy, right?

00:02:12.280 This is just something you see, especially if you're in these, like, red pill-y circles and stuff like that.

00:02:17.700 Yeah.

00:02:17.920 So, last, I'm quoting here, last month, for example, the University of Chicago economist Sam Paltzman published a study in which he found that marriage was the most important differentiator between happy and unhappy people.

00:02:31.740 Married people are 30 points happier than unmarried. 0.84

00:02:34.840 Income contributes to happiness, too, but not as much.

00:02:37.380 So, just to clarify, if you were going to contrast the amount of happiness that marriage gives the average person when contrasted with a non-married person,

00:02:45.980 that would be the equivalent to the boost in happiness you would get from an additional income of $75,000 to $100,000 a year.

00:02:54.380 So, in other words, if you were to give somebody $50,000 extra a year in salary,

00:03:01.060 that would not correlate with an equivalent happiness boost as marriage does.

00:03:06.160 You would need to offer them $75,000 to $100,000.

00:03:11.500 According to an analyst of recent survey data by the University of Virginia, Professor Brad Wilcox,

00:03:17.500 35% of adults ages 18 to 40 said that making a good living was crucial to fulfillment in life,

00:03:23.060 while only 32% thought that marriage was crucial to fulfillment.

00:03:26.760 In a Pew Research survey, 88% of parents said it was extremely or very important for their kids to be financially independent,

00:03:33.280 while only 21% said it was extremely or very important for their kids to marry.

00:03:37.620 So, the point here is that there is this misperception in society that your most important goal,

00:03:44.040 like even if you're just caring about personal hedonism, should be, and personal happiness and personal contentment,

00:03:49.840 should be to be well-off financially.

00:03:51.900 That is just demonstrably untrue from the data.

00:03:55.920 You are much better off being less happy, less lower income, typically within the income bracket you would expect for yourself,

00:04:02.780 and married and in a good relationship, than you are to be higher income and unmarried.

00:04:08.440 But our society does not imply that.

00:04:10.520 I mean, the data may indicate as such, but if you were to go off mainstream societal norms,

00:04:17.480 you'd think it was crazy to focus on marriage, which could become abusive or substandard or end in divorce,

00:04:26.680 or you grow apart.

00:04:28.720 And also look at how marriages are depicted in media.

00:04:30.840 They're not that fun.

00:04:32.320 And part of that, it's a plot device.

00:04:34.220 I mean, boring, happy marriages are boring.

00:04:36.300 They're not good fodder for a show or a movie or any sort of story plot.

00:04:40.680 But my point is, like, this is not obvious to people.

00:04:46.660 I think it's more than that.

00:04:48.340 I think that there is a concerted effort, to some extent, to paint marriage as not fun.

00:04:53.780 I think, yeah, so I think that there's a few motivations here.

00:04:57.060 I don't think it's like an intentional concerted effort,

00:04:59.440 but I do think it's an emergent property of the way the types of people who end up being showrunners

00:05:04.880 and writers in Hollywood divide from the mainstream population.

00:05:08.600 They're much more likely to be individuals who are deep into the urban monoculture and single themselves.

00:05:15.540 They have not experienced marriage.

00:05:17.680 They paint marriage both with a sour grapes mindset because of this,

00:05:25.320 and within a community and culture that is not good at rewarding stable marriages.

00:05:31.720 So there's just a lot less of them.

00:05:33.680 I mean, you're obviously going to see much more stable marriages within conservative cultural communities,

00:05:38.220 which are going to be much more rural and stuff like that,

00:05:40.860 than the types of people who are writing these shows in L.A.

00:05:43.440 And as society drifts further apart from each other, you know, the left and the right,

00:05:48.160 and as the left begins to dehumanize the right more and more,

00:05:51.180 they have a harder time interacting with or modeling people of the opposite political persuasion.

00:05:58.060 And as such, they cannot write like what these stable marriages look like without making digs.

00:06:05.320 Their culture needs to sort of insert into them that if a marriage is like conservative-ish in some way,

00:06:11.160 that the woman must be being oppressed, for example, or must hate her life.

00:06:15.540 And so I think that that's part of what you have going on in these depictions.

00:06:19.940 But you also have this with teachers and stuff like that.

00:06:21.960 You know, a lot of these people are very unlikely to be married.

00:06:23.720 They're much more likely to be in allegiance with the urban monoculture when contrasted with their local communities.

00:06:29.200 And as such, they teach kids this cultural value system of money matters more than anything.

00:06:37.480 And I remember this is something my mom really pushed against me as a kid,

00:06:40.320 because I thought education mattered more than anything.

00:06:42.640 And she made it very clear that within our family, it did not.

00:06:46.120 The most important thing was who you marry.

00:06:47.900 And everything else is secondary to that.

00:06:50.040 She's like, because I was so stressed about what college I was going to get into.

00:06:52.220 And I was like, it's the most important decision of my life.

00:06:54.520 I said, gee, it's not even close.

00:06:56.700 The most important decision is who you marry and never forget that.

00:07:00.420 But it is very, very true.

00:07:02.300 Because I think that the generation above us, you know, they had all these bad marriages.

00:07:05.720 If you look at the data, and our generation actually has pretty solid marriages. 0.88

00:07:08.620 And it's because they didn't really realize this.

00:07:10.900 And then there was a bit of a sour grapes in how the next generation was made.

00:07:14.960 And, you know, people are just out to get you.

00:07:18.460 But it's having a consequence to kids of the next generation.

00:07:21.360 So as another chilling statistic, in 1950, fewer than 5% of babies in this country were

00:07:28.460 born to unmarried mothers.

00:07:30.260 Today, nearly half of all babies in America are born to unmarried mothers.

00:07:34.180 Most surprising and worrisome is this trend is divided along class lines with children

00:07:41.860 whose mothers don't have a college degree being more than twice as likely compared to children

00:07:48.080 of college-educated mothers to live in a single-parent home.

00:07:52.140 Now, I don't know who that was surprising to.

00:07:54.380 But it is definitely increasing.

00:07:58.680 And this is something we're seeing in society more broadly.

00:08:01.040 And I think that this is something that is hugely missed by the left because they have

00:08:06.100 a complete blindness to a person's cultural and genetic background.

00:08:10.840 And I'm not talking about ethnic background.

00:08:12.140 I'm just talking about individually, genes do have a correlation with earning potential IQ

00:08:19.260 and other sociological traits.

00:08:22.740 And that as we have allowed this to continue, we are disproportionately hurting those individuals

00:08:30.020 in our society who are the least well-off while dramatically increasing their plight.

00:08:37.680 So, you know, if you look at children who are raised in single-parent households, I'm going 0.84

00:08:44.000 to read some quotes here, across a number of studies, children raised in single-mother

00:08:47.680 families are at a heightened risk for substance abuse, depression, anxiety, and externalizing

00:08:53.360 behavior disorders.

00:08:54.860 And then another one says children who grow up with only one of their biological parents,

00:08:58.580 nearly always a mother, are disadvantaged across a broader way of outcomes. 0.90

00:09:02.280 They are twice as likely to drop out of high school, 2.5 times as likely to become teen

00:09:06.880 mothers, and 1.4 times as likely to be idle. 0.94

00:09:11.080 Okay, so here's where I, like, just want to push back a little bit, because I think at

00:09:15.640 least a lot of viewers are going to think this as well, is, okay, right, but, like, these

00:09:21.500 children may be exhibiting the antisocial tendencies of the fathers who left the relationship.

00:09:28.520 They may have been addicted, they may have done something that got them in jail, and that's

00:09:33.100 why these mothers are single mothers. 1.00

00:09:35.580 And these mothers who are single mothers may also be more likely to have been teen moms

00:09:40.600 themselves, because, again, they're single mothers. 0.78

00:09:43.140 They're not like women who are 40 years old and deciding responsibly to, you know, have 1.00

00:09:47.920 a child solo and raise them, typically.

00:09:49.880 Okay, so let's buy what you just said.

00:09:52.200 Okay.

00:09:52.500 Okay.

00:09:52.800 Basically, what you are arguing, and I will actually say, studies have been done on this,

00:09:57.440 and it does show that you're mostly correct.

00:09:59.620 Okay.

00:10:00.140 People who become single parents through factors not of their own, you don't see most of these

00:10:04.140 problems.

00:10:05.060 So this is, you know, the spouse dies or something.

00:10:08.000 So if that's true, okay, if these negative traits that I'm seeing here that are seen at

00:10:13.280 much higher rates among single mothers are happening for genetic reasons and cultural reasons,

00:10:19.780 and that that is the predominant reason why people become single mothers, then I want

00:10:26.700 you to then contextualize the severity of the quote I read earlier, which I will read

00:10:33.140 again.

00:10:34.640 In the 1950s, fewer than 5% of babies born in this country were born to unmarried mothers.

00:10:40.400 To date, nearly half of all babies in America are born to unmarried mothers.

00:10:43.680 That means that I think a lot of people, when we talk about sort of genetic shifts in the

00:10:51.300 countries, like sociological profiles, they think that these happen slowly.

00:10:56.580 They do not.

00:10:58.320 If you go from something like, if you had a population of moths, right?

00:11:03.040 And in one generation, 5% of the moths had spots on their wings.

00:11:08.260 And within, you know, 50 years, you measure the population again, and 50% of the moths have

00:11:17.000 spots on their wings.

00:11:18.360 What do you think the moths are going to look like in another 50 years, in another 30 years,

00:11:24.680 right?

00:11:25.400 And keep in mind, we're talking about sociological profiles here, which exist across ethnic groups

00:11:29.560 and change really quickly.

00:11:30.600 This is partially why I think this whole ethnic grouping idea of genetics that a lot of people

00:11:34.640 do is pointless because it hugely undercounts how quickly a sociological profile can change

00:11:44.160 within an ethnic group due to really strong selective pressures like this.

00:11:48.860 And so what we're going to see is across all ethnic groups in this country, whatever genetic

00:11:54.180 correlate there is to this behavioral pattern is going to begin to become dramatically more

00:12:01.920 common in the population.

00:12:03.600 And the other traits that it is correlated with, i.e. substance abuse, depression, anxiety,

00:12:10.580 externalizing behavior disorders, those are also going to explode.

00:12:14.760 Also things like dropping out of college, dropping out of high school, not having a job, those

00:12:19.060 are also going to explode.

00:12:21.080 And it shouldn't be a surprise that these things cross-correlate.

00:12:23.640 I just typically don't point this out due to the offensive nature of admitting that humans

00:12:27.420 have genes and that affects behavior patterns.

00:12:29.440 How dare you?

00:12:30.360 To extreme lefties.

00:12:31.920 But I mean, it's true.

00:12:32.960 Humans have genes.

00:12:33.700 I'm sorry.

00:12:34.740 But do you have anything you wanted to talk on this or?

00:12:39.400 It's just depressing because, you know, I mean, our goal with prenatalism is to encourage

00:12:45.200 sort of the maximum number of amazing childhoods possible.

00:12:49.560 And I don't think these stats are describing amazing childhoods.

00:12:53.660 Well, no.

00:12:54.400 And you can look at this, this genetic profile that leads to single mothers as a biologically 1.00

00:13:01.960 adaptive genetic profile.

00:13:04.040 Yeah.

00:13:04.580 By that way, I mean, it's working.

00:13:06.180 Whatever environmental pressures are keeping the rest of the population unfertile are not

00:13:12.180 appearing within this subset of the population, or at least they're not affecting the subset

00:13:15.820 of the population as much.

00:13:17.320 And so they are being active and directly selected for, which is going to lead to even more of this

00:13:25.480 behavior in the future.

00:13:26.600 And the paper behavior will be more severe in the future.

00:13:32.320 And I think that this also causes, when I talk about this as being like a biological profile,

00:13:38.300 or sociological profile that is adapted to our current age, one thing we need to consider,

00:13:42.940 and we've mentioned this in another episode, but it's worth reiterating,

00:13:45.500 is the huge costs that the states put on individuals for breeding outside of their population group,

00:13:52.680 if they are in like a economically successful population group, that they're really, really

00:13:58.260 high due to child support.

00:13:59.820 So, you know, you're not going to get the same sort of genetic normalization that you would

00:14:05.620 in historic societies.

00:14:07.620 And so if you do get really differentiated, but also genetically isolated strategies for overcoming

00:14:15.200 fertility collapse, you are going to begin to see some level of speciation within humanity.

00:14:21.560 And we are going to begin to see something that humanity has never had to really deal with,

00:14:26.160 which is genuine human diversity.

00:14:28.580 And, you know, some racists will be like, no, there's big differences between like ethnic groups.

00:14:33.080 Even at the most extreme end, when you're talking about even potential differences between

00:14:38.780 ethnic groups, even claim differences, you're talking like a standard deviation in IQ.

00:14:44.000 We are talking like three standard deviations, four standard deviations in IQ in just 75 to

00:14:51.180 a hundred years between population groups and radically different behavior patterns between

00:14:56.120 population groups.

00:14:57.420 And it will not matter what ethnicity the starting individuals were within these selective pressures,

00:15:03.560 because you are seeing conversion evolution within each ethnic group, individuals who have

00:15:10.120 this apologetic profile that we're talking here overrepresented within them, somehow making

00:15:15.080 it through this genetic crucible that we're going through.

00:15:18.380 I should also add, like to add to this point of selection pressures for having kids, like from

00:15:25.020 a policy standpoint, it's also being reinforced.

00:15:27.800 And we pointed this out in another episode, but it bears repeating that if you look at services

00:15:33.800 for parents provided by the state in the United States, so provided by each state, and that

00:15:38.740 varies from state to state, the vast majority of services that make parenting easy, which

00:15:44.080 is to say free childcare, free healthcare for your kids, free food for your kids, free transportation

00:15:48.800 for your kids, all sorts of services.

00:15:50.800 These are only available to very low income families.

00:15:53.580 So basically there's this huge, like drop in marginal cost to having kids or opportunity

00:16:00.720 cost to having kids for one group of the population, but not for middle and a high income earners.

00:16:08.060 So there, this isn't just like a, something that, that is happening naturally.

00:16:13.700 There's also like a policy mechanism at play.

00:16:17.520 I'm not saying that like low income people should not be having kids, but I am saying that a lot 0.87

00:16:23.500 of middle and high income people are not having kids because for them, the opportunity cost

00:16:27.680 is incredibly high.

00:16:28.720 They're not going to get free childcare.

00:16:30.440 They're not going to get free healthcare for their kids. 0.73

00:16:33.300 And I just went through our tax bill or like in our tax return, I think we might be able

00:16:38.380 to write off some of our healthcare expenses.

00:16:39.860 And oh my God, the amount that we spent on our kids for healthcare, even though we're insured

00:16:44.060 and we pay for insurance.

00:16:46.060 So that's another factor of play that, that exacerbates.

00:16:49.040 And even we, we could not afford regular daycare on our salary.

00:16:53.500 We can't afford it.

00:16:54.620 We, we've had to come up with alternate solutions, but you know, and we're only getting to kid

00:16:58.640 number four now.

00:16:59.720 So it's, it's, it's getting absolutely ridiculous in terms of the way that the government is

00:17:05.360 prioritizing, handling this.

00:17:06.980 And it is exacerbating this speciation event that we might be going through right now because

00:17:12.500 you're getting this degree of behavioral isolation.

00:17:15.060 Another thing that I wanted to talk about here that I think is really interesting in looking

00:17:18.540 for partners.

00:17:19.040 And it's something that we've seen is the difficulty people have in looking for partners

00:17:25.140 because finding partners is a big part.

00:17:26.580 Like the marriage crisis, like nobody getting married or, or thinking that marriage is a

00:17:31.040 good idea is, is, is part of what's contributing to this. 0.76

00:17:34.420 And also people on both sides, men and women becoming just sucky partners.

00:17:39.680 People now have high levels of anxiety, extreme high levels of selfishness and infantilization.

00:17:45.200 Like it's, it is not just that people are having trouble finding partners, it's that people 0.95

00:17:49.480 are shitty partners now. 0.55

00:17:50.920 I'm sorry. 0.97

00:17:51.580 Well, that, and they are unwilling to ideologically compromise as we talked about in another video,

00:17:57.600 the progressive party sort of becomes a party of feminist ideals and the conservative party

00:18:01.140 becomes the party of masculine ideals.

00:18:03.260 You, you are getting more and more women in sort of this liberal bubble and men in a more 0.87

00:18:08.160 conservative bubble and unable to really humanize the other side in a meaningful way or talk

00:18:13.420 across the aisle.

00:18:15.280 And so as a quote here from this one article, liberal women and conservative men who want 0.93

00:18:19.580 to marry face a particular challenge, not enough single partners of the correct political persuasion

00:18:24.960 are available today.

00:18:25.980 In broad terms, there are only 0.6 single liberal young men for each single liberal young woman.

00:18:33.240 Likewise, there are only 0.5 conservative young women that exist for every conservative young 1.00

00:18:38.900 man.

00:18:40.480 And there's, there's less willingness to even befriend people across the aisle now than before,

00:18:45.800 especially among people who are progressive.

00:18:48.220 It's also shown that now, like you can see that there are other graphs for this.

00:18:52.680 Women, young women are much more likely to be progressive and young men are much more likely

00:18:56.860 to be conservative.

00:18:57.600 So between all these things, like not, not only is it that, you know, you, you have people

00:19:02.760 less willing to cross the aisle, you would now have more polarization.

00:19:06.300 So we're in a terrible position.

00:19:07.440 I mean, I really want to highlight the statistics I just went through.

00:19:10.340 That's pretty chilling.

00:19:11.100 If I am a man and I say, I will only date conservative women for every conservative young single woman, 0.97

00:19:17.720 there are two single young conservative men for every, now I'm a woman and I say, I only want

00:19:23.380 to date progressive men for every single progressive young man.

00:19:28.040 There are two progressive women looking to only date these, these. 0.94

00:19:31.820 So, and, and, and people are like, but how can you date across the aisle?

00:19:35.920 Right.

00:19:36.780 And the answer is I did basically, or I didn't even really, I was probably have been considered

00:19:41.220 a progressive when I met you and, and you were a progressive as well, I guess you could

00:19:46.140 say, but yeah.

00:19:47.360 So we, we, you, people change their views.

00:19:51.740 You know, what you are looking for is not somebody who agrees with you, but somebody

00:19:57.080 who is open to logic and debate and discussion and then judges their world perspectives, not

00:20:06.320 on feelings, but on logic.

00:20:08.160 And you can find actually a lot of women on the progressive side that are like that. 1.00

00:20:12.580 Oh, totally.

00:20:13.260 Yeah.

00:20:13.500 Who would absolutely change their views, assuming that they're capable of being open-minded.

00:20:17.920 So the key is to find someone open-minded with whom you can grow together.

00:20:22.260 And that's also with the assumption that you're going to add some nuance to your views as well.

00:20:25.940 What I do really hate though, is actually we, we, we know a lot of men who've just bitten

00:20:31.760 the bullet and married progressive wives that I feel like they'll just never intellectually 0.94

00:20:40.340 respect because their wives are so off the rails, like just delusional in so many ways. 1.00

00:20:48.260 And it's really sad to see that, like, you know, these people are going to have kids together

00:20:52.160 and they are so ideologically at odds.

00:20:55.920 It's almost like, they're just like, well, yeah, I mean, like, I'm going to have to tolerate 0.99

00:21:00.380 her in the way that like, you know, trophy wife, husbands, you know, just tolerate some dumb 1.00

00:21:06.640 woman and buy a bunch of gifts for her, but that's not a real marriage, you know, it really 0.99

00:21:11.700 gets to me.

00:21:13.320 You know, I, yeah, I, I've seen marriages like this myself and it's, it's sad to see,

00:21:17.680 but I, I don't know for, you know, with the guys that we know who do it, they're wealthy

00:21:22.620 enough that they had other options.

00:21:23.800 I think that they just didn't put the effort into sourcing.

00:21:26.380 They were lazy.

00:21:26.880 Then on the women's side, and I think this is a big critique of men now is that there's

00:21:31.220 a pretty big growth in like men, children who just do not take care of themselves.

00:21:36.200 And there's this whole meme online of, I think it's called like single married women who feel

00:21:42.860 like they're living the life of a single mother, but then they have to like clean up for their

00:21:47.720 husband.

00:21:47.960 And basically their husband is like another child that they have to take care of.

00:21:50.800 They have to cook for him, they have to clean up for him, they do everything for him.

00:21:53.380 And he doesn't really pitch in, but he may not even have a job, you know?

00:21:56.740 So he, like men also aren't like you and like, you care for the kids, you take them to the

00:22:02.160 doctor, you do their appointments, you do all the outside house maintenance, you know,

00:22:06.280 like things like that.

00:22:07.540 So, you know, there are many, again, I'm saying like, we're looking, a lot of people are married

00:22:13.040 because everyone's failing.

00:22:13.920 Guys who are out there looking for a domestic, this is why they're not finding a wife because 0.60

00:22:17.920 those aren't like a thing out there anymore, you know?

00:22:22.180 And, or at least not a thing in like the type of woman who you want genetically contributing 1.00

00:22:27.520 to your kids, you know?

00:22:29.440 So I think that it's, it's difficult.

00:22:32.300 It's, it's really difficult.

00:22:33.380 And I understand that, but I think that these stats highlight the difficulty of finding a

00:22:36.960 partner and part of why people aren't getting married.

00:22:38.760 I think it, or a big part, like a small part, I think a pretty big part is this political

00:22:43.820 polarization of the masculine and feminine within the two party structure.

00:22:48.600 It's leading to, uh, in, in the further drift apart of these two parties.

00:22:53.760 And it really isn't sustainable to marry someone that you don't respect or like.

00:22:58.400 And it's another, another reason why this is super not cool.

00:23:01.340 It's, we also know some parents who like very clearly don't have much affection for their

00:23:07.380 children.

00:23:08.200 And our theory for as to why that is the case is they see so much of their, the child's

00:23:14.620 other parent that they really don't like in that child.

00:23:17.560 Yeah, I've seen that a lot.

00:23:19.720 And I think one of the reasons why you and I love our kids so much is we love each other

00:23:26.300 so much.

00:23:26.820 It's like, I, I, I love having a pocket Malcolm.

00:23:30.160 I love more of you in the world.

00:23:32.800 And I see it in them.

00:23:33.380 You don't really have your personality.

00:23:34.980 Uh, well, so this just brings me to another point that I also see with these guys who compromise

00:23:40.440 on personality for looks.

00:23:42.640 And, and a big part of this is as a guy being able to say that looks are dramatically less

00:23:48.640 important and who you marry than who you have sex with. 0.58

00:23:51.880 And a lot of guys just don't get that.

00:23:54.520 Like you do not actually need to find who you marry a particularly attractive.

00:23:57.980 You will find them attractive after a while.

00:24:00.020 Like it's just not that important.

00:24:02.180 It's not like out there dating.

00:24:03.920 Well, in terms of appearance, I think my hot take is that like the, the key thing is like

00:24:08.300 neatness and signs of conscientiousness.

00:24:10.480 Do they dress, you know, in, in a decent and good manner?

00:24:14.340 Are they neat?

00:24:14.920 Is their hair well kept up?

00:24:16.320 Like, is, is their skin maintained?

00:24:17.900 Like, are they showing basic signs of being conscientious?

00:24:21.100 Okay.

00:24:21.380 That is all you need.

00:24:22.780 I really only look at, I, I, I mean, I think the easiest thing for that is obesity rates.

00:24:27.600 Like as, as long as they're not obese, I basically considered them viable when I was out there

00:24:32.120 dating and, and I'm not saying that you're not a beautiful, wonderful woman, Simone.

00:24:36.900 I'm just saying that that didn't.

00:24:37.820 It's okay, Malcolm.

00:24:38.580 We know I'm definitely not even the, I'm not even like probably in the top five and attractiveness

00:24:44.040 of all of your past girlfriends.

00:24:45.580 And I'm not even referring to the women that you slept with. 0.50

00:24:47.820 So don't worry about it.

00:24:49.640 It's fine.

00:24:50.440 I, well, I mean, what I'm saying is.

00:24:56.840 I'm looking, I'm not looking away from you intentionally.

00:24:59.100 There's like a line of deer going by and it's very interesting to watch.

00:25:01.880 There's like a traffic jam.

00:25:03.400 If you compromise on something like narcissism, if you compromise on something like some level

00:25:10.180 of sociopathy and the people you're dating, if you compromise on them being boring people

00:25:14.980 or not that intelligent, that's the compromise you're making in your sons and in your daughters.

00:25:21.380 Oh yeah.

00:25:22.480 And that will affect you potentially as much or more than even the lack of those traits

00:25:28.020 in your spouse.

00:25:29.200 Yeah.

00:25:29.380 You're going to have to live with that for the rest of your life.

00:25:32.080 And that also is you, you know, like you're, it's one thing to like throw in your cards

00:25:38.140 with a spouse, but like to make a version of yourself that is like literally genetically

00:25:43.020 combined with someone you got to choose.

00:25:45.460 Well, yeah, no, I, I really like it.

00:25:48.440 Cause I see all sorts of flaws in myself and I'm like, wow, we're fixing them.

00:25:51.800 And are you just amazed by these deer?

00:25:54.400 What's going on?

00:25:55.200 There are like 16.

00:25:57.440 I've never seen so many.

00:25:59.200 I don't see them.

00:26:00.040 Are they on the other side of the road?

00:26:01.340 Yeah.

00:26:01.620 They're on the other side of the road.

00:26:02.660 There's just so fricking many. 0.90

00:26:03.780 And I'm afraid that they are all about to kill themselves and throw themselves into the 0.92

00:26:07.720 busy road. 0.98

00:26:08.140 And then I have to call the fricking state route people.

00:26:11.980 And they're going to be like, oh no, I think that's a local road.

00:26:14.180 And then I call the local people and they're like, no, it's a state route.

00:26:16.620 And then, and yeah.

00:26:18.720 Remember that time when we had an author at our house and then we heard a gunshot and

00:26:22.520 we were all like, well, I guess we had a guy to come to our house.

00:26:25.940 It was a pretty famous author and his next book is going to be on genius.

00:26:29.060 And so of course he needed to meet with us.

00:26:31.980 Well, Simone, to be honest, within intellectual circles,

00:26:37.100 we are seen as some of the smartest people in the world.

00:26:40.760 He chose us because we're trying to manufacture genius with our children.

00:26:43.620 We're selecting for IQ and we're creating a school that is designed to make genius.

00:26:47.000 I don't think that that's it.

00:26:48.340 I think that you, you also are.

00:26:50.080 I will put good money on this.

00:26:51.160 I will make a good money off of a bet here, but that's beside the point.

00:26:54.460 We hear this gunshot right as we're all about to go to bed.

00:26:57.840 And he's the one who picked it up.

00:26:59.360 You and I were just kind of like herpy derp.

00:27:01.040 And he's like, that was a gunshot.

00:27:02.480 And he gets really nervous.

00:27:03.960 And so we all like sit on the floor in like a core part of our house.

00:27:10.000 Cause we're like, don't worry.

00:27:10.900 We have all these sort of like safe room backups.

00:27:12.940 And also we have a ton of guns.

00:27:14.360 So if anything happens.

00:27:15.860 And then finally we realized that like the police had just shot a deer that had been hit

00:27:20.060 by a car right outside our house and just neglected to tell us.

00:27:22.760 And they just left it there.

00:27:24.500 And then, yeah, then they just left it there.

00:27:25.920 And then I had to spend like the next three weeks trying to call someone to take this rotting

00:27:29.440 deer carcass out of the front of our house.

00:27:32.860 And so that's why I'm watching these deer with great interest because they're like, they

00:27:36.980 look like they really want to just lemming off this, this hill and just right into the

00:27:42.540 increasingly busy traffic.

00:27:44.240 I'm not excited about this.

00:27:47.500 Well, I hope none of the cars veer into our house.

00:27:50.820 Yeah.

00:27:51.240 Again.

00:27:52.760 Anyway, where were we?

00:27:54.120 Sorry.

00:27:54.780 Ugliness.

00:27:56.180 Men choosing attractive.

00:27:57.420 Talking about politics, politics and dating.

00:28:02.120 Dating.

00:28:03.000 Yeah.

00:28:04.540 Yeah.

00:28:04.900 People, dear people and get over yourself.

00:28:06.740 Choose a smart partner who's capable of changing.

00:28:09.440 Basically, if they look conscientious, generally healthy and intellectually curious enough to

00:28:15.320 change their minds, they're probably ideologically aligned as they're ever going to be.

00:28:19.740 Like, don't choose like a default setting.

00:28:22.460 Because also, like, let's say that they determine what's true in the same way that you determine

00:28:27.580 what's true.

00:28:28.660 Oh, that's key.

00:28:30.100 To logic and stuff like that.

00:28:31.500 One of the things that you've been developing this religious system that has really been

00:28:34.880 impressed upon me in my fortune in choosing you as a wife is this sort of inherent, I would

00:28:41.520 almost say genetic in both of us, hostility to mysticism and anything that is, you know,

00:28:49.380 not grounded in sort of hard replicability.

00:28:52.780 Like, science is the wrong word these days, right?

00:28:55.920 But it really colors a lot of, as we are beginning to, because, you know, as we met, we didn't think

00:29:02.160 we would get into religious thought at all.

00:29:03.840 And both of us are pretty staunch atheists.

00:29:06.420 And so this is not something that we anticipated.

00:29:08.660 But as we have, we are incredibly copathetic in terms of how we think about things.

00:29:15.620 In a way, I didn't anticipate at all, you know, because it wasn't something I vetted you for

00:29:21.180 as a spouse.

00:29:22.940 Yeah, no, we're just lucky there.

00:29:25.060 But I think also, if you, on our first date, laid out your life philosophy like you did,

00:29:31.760 and I said something like, well, that's typical for a Capricorn, you'd probably be like, okay,

00:29:37.340 thanks, bye.

00:29:38.220 You know what I mean?

00:29:38.700 Oh, I definitely wouldn't breed with someone. 0.84

00:29:40.140 I probably wouldn't even have sex with someone who said something like that. 0.94

00:29:42.480 I'd find them too.

00:29:42.900 Well, and that's like a fundamental sign that they believe in sort of non-evidence-based

00:29:49.160 spiritual nonsense, and they use that as a basis of truth, and therefore, you would

00:29:53.840 not be compatible.

00:29:55.520 Yeah, well, and this is something I've also said with some men who have been out there

00:29:58.660 looking for partners, is women often follow men in their lives in terms of their religious 0.60

00:30:04.480 stuff.

00:30:05.460 If you really dedicate yourself to it, and you are a paragon within that religious system,

00:30:10.540 not if you're like lazy about it or something like that, and you're using it to get them

00:30:13.460 to do things for you, but if you really embody it, a lot of women are actually pretty happy 1.00

00:30:18.520 to go along with that, even if they appear very secular when you first start engaging

00:30:22.560 with them.

00:30:23.540 Well, and there are some women who are, I would argue, too, like you might both be conservative,

00:30:28.840 but they end up being so rigidly conservative that there's a lot of stuff that you can't do

00:30:33.300 in life.

00:30:33.700 So it's more like, yeah, what are their heuristics for changing their mind and determining truth

00:30:38.480 rather than like how from the get-go aligned are they with me right now?

00:30:44.720 Yeah, I really agree with that.

00:30:47.540 Well, I love you to death, Simone, and this has been a fun adventure and discussion, but

00:30:52.420 what people always, any discussion that involves statistics always does unusually well.

00:30:56.980 Any discussion that involves religion usually does unusually poorly.

00:31:00.480 And those are our two big heuristics with our videos.

00:31:04.700 Other than that, I don't really know.

00:31:08.620 Yeah, I can't predict anymore.

00:31:10.700 It doesn't make sense to me, but audience suggestions are welcome.

00:31:13.640 God, they're lining.

00:31:16.440 Oh, God.

00:31:17.480 Okay, you know what?

00:31:19.520 Maybe if...

00:31:21.560 Oh, I'm sorry.

00:31:23.920 I'm just so scared these deer are going to kill them.

00:31:25.780 Oh, they're playing.

00:31:27.540 They're playing with fire, Malcolm.

00:31:28.700 We've got a bunch of suicidal deer outside, and this is not good.

00:31:32.260 So I guess we're going to sign off with that and hope that we don't have 17 deer carcasses

00:31:37.820 outside our house in five minutes.

00:31:41.980 Oh, they're playing now.

00:31:43.020 They're playing on the cliff.

00:31:43.920 They're...

00:31:44.360 Okay.

00:31:45.820 Okay.

00:31:46.720 I love you.

00:31:47.840 I love you, too.

00:31:50.700 Oh, God.

00:31:51.880 I love you.

00:32:11.000 Okay.

Based Camp - February 29, 2024

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