Based Camp - Some Girls Are Opting Out of Marriage; Others, Sex： What Determines Which？

00:00:00.000 And I feel like women have unironically recreated that society on, like, Tinder and stuff like that. 1.00

00:00:05.140 Ah, you seem to have grown since last you stood before us.

00:00:08.540 Redditor.

00:00:09.160 You've been assigned to the planet Blorch, home of the slaughtering... 1.00

00:00:12.880 Borderline women. 1.00

00:00:14.100 Why would you draw that?

00:00:15.820 However, because of your increased height, we have decided to give you the planet Vort, home of the universe's most comfortable couch.

00:00:23.680 And career women who genuinely believe you're making a major sacrifice by being a stay-at-home husband. 0.99

00:00:30.000 Go to the trash planet where you'll be eaten by rats and no one will sympathize. 0.96

00:00:42.320 Would you like to know more? 0.98

00:00:44.000 Hello, Simone! I'm excited to be here with you today.

00:00:46.540 Today we are going to be going over two articles that are covering two related phenomenon, but entirely distinct phenomenon.

00:00:53.080 One is the large number of women who are dating still, but refuse to get married.

00:00:59.140 And then the other is the large number of women who are choosing to become intentionally celibate. 0.90

00:01:04.100 And what's really interesting about these two populations, and it's cool because I think that our audience will find themselves like,

00:01:11.500 Oh, this population may have a point.

00:01:13.100 This population may not have a point.

00:01:14.400 We'll see, right?

00:01:15.120 Like, civilization.

00:01:17.120 They phenotypically look very distinct.

00:01:20.280 And I will put collections of pictures on the screen here so you, the fans, can try to guess which population is which.

00:01:27.760 So I sent you pictures in two groups.

00:01:30.520 We got group one and group two of women on WhatsApp. 1.00

00:01:35.000 Let's take a look here.

00:01:36.660 Let's see.

00:01:37.640 I'm sure I can.

00:01:38.720 My assumption is that I can guess in what.

00:01:41.720 Whoa.

00:01:42.140 Hmm.

00:01:47.380 Huh.

00:01:49.340 So group two and group one, which one do you think refuses to marry? 1.00

00:01:52.780 And which one do you think is intentionally celibate?

00:01:54.780 And if you're looking at the screen here, the number one thing you're going to note about the two groups is one is fairly attractive and one is quite unattractive.

00:02:05.200 Wait, which ones are the attractive ones?

00:02:08.800 Compared to the other group.

00:02:10.200 I, I don't know.

00:02:12.240 I, I guess all the faces just look like stick figure faces to me.

00:02:15.840 Maybe I'm like face blind.

00:02:17.360 One looks like they have too much makeup on.

00:02:19.980 And I guess I have to associate too much makeup with actually doesn't interact with men.

00:02:24.160 So then, then the second group with the too much makeup, which you would say is the more attractive group is the intentionally celibate doesn't interact with men group.

00:02:33.800 Do I have that right?

00:02:34.800 Yes.

00:02:35.640 So the group that wears more makeup, which is one of the things you're noticing.

00:02:39.600 The group that is celibate is wearing more makeup.

00:02:42.580 Yeah.

00:02:43.080 Which again shows that makeup is largely about.

00:02:45.060 No, when you're wearing drag queen levels of makeup, you are not trying to attract the male gaze.

00:02:52.800 I disagree.

00:02:53.860 I just think that lady is a Latina from Florida and a lot of Latinas from Florida look like that. 1.00

00:02:59.160 No, no.

00:02:59.780 Women wear excessive amounts of makeup for other women, not for themselves. 1.00

00:03:03.760 And it also for like gender euphoria, which I think is negatively correlated with fertility.

00:03:10.480 And, and the other women, specifically for me, the women who are refused to get married, just look like actively unpleasant in a lot of the pictures.

00:03:19.100 Yeah.

00:03:19.280 Yeah.

00:03:19.640 Just like main, like attractive enough, but, but very progressive women who are more maybe disagreeable. 1.00

00:03:28.220 Yeah.

00:03:28.540 I mean, disagreeable is the core sort of look they have to their face.

00:03:32.540 And you can tell a lot about somebody's phenotype, but we've gone over this in a different episode is for an apology, Brack with AI.

00:03:38.800 But we point out that you can actually tell a lot about a person by looking at their face, right?

00:03:43.940 Like looking at their facial structure and people can make guesses with high probability.

00:03:48.400 We go over all the studies in that episode.

00:03:50.040 I'm not going to like cite them all here.

00:03:51.080 What somebody's behavior is an AI can do this exceptionally well.

00:03:55.080 Like an AI can look at your face and tell a ton of, Oh, Oh, Oh, hold on.

00:04:01.240 Simone, take off your glasses for a second. 0.96

00:04:03.600 Take off your glasses so I can get a picture of our face to put into AI while I'm editing this.

00:04:07.060 Oh God.

00:04:07.780 And, and look straight at the camera.

00:04:10.520 And I want to ask an AI what it thinks our personalities are from our face.

00:04:16.160 It can do that.

00:04:17.460 So I put in Simone's face, the image you see right here.

00:04:20.300 And was her rather than me.

00:04:22.340 I asked it to use like not facial expression at all, just based on physiognomy.

00:04:26.820 It says, it says she'd probably come across as intelligent, open-minded, intellectual with strong communication abilities and a diplomatic, harmonious approach to life, likely empathetic and tolerant with a logical bent that makes her organized and idealistic.

00:04:42.580 Well, let's see.

00:04:43.820 But I think if I, if I changed my facial expression, it's going to give a very different response, right?

00:04:54.600 Like if I look happy, I think, I think AI is not sophisticated enough to tell the difference between a resting face and the facial expression.

00:05:00.760 Well, you know what?

00:05:01.980 Let's see right now.

00:05:03.080 I'm going to put this in.

00:05:04.040 I can't even wait.

00:05:04.980 I'm going to put my face in.

00:05:07.100 What would you guess this male's personality is from their face characteristics?

00:05:18.020 Oh no.

00:05:19.580 What?

00:05:20.680 Oh, I'm even getting an AB response here.

00:05:22.840 So.

00:05:23.100 Oh yeah.

00:05:23.840 Grok was doing that for me today too.

00:05:25.160 And I like it.

00:05:26.540 Okay.

00:05:27.620 So it says that I'm a male in his late thirties to early forties, which is accurate.

00:05:34.380 Yes.

00:05:34.680 The other one says late thirties to early forties, which again is accurate.

00:05:38.320 Yes.

00:05:38.900 Okay.

00:05:39.160 So personality traits.

00:05:41.240 Okay.

00:05:41.540 So one says friendly and approachable.

00:05:43.740 The other says warm and approachable.

00:05:45.740 One says kind and empathetic.

00:05:47.340 The other says outgoing and extroverted.

00:05:49.680 It says intellectual and thoughtful.

00:05:52.660 The other says optimistic.

00:05:53.420 And you weren't even wearing your glasses.

00:05:55.240 How did it know?

00:05:56.420 Yeah.

00:05:56.580 The other says optimistic and good humored.

00:05:58.960 A bit playful slash humorous.

00:06:01.920 Creative or expressive.

00:06:04.300 Reliable, steady.

00:06:06.020 Is it true?

00:06:06.820 But is it not just saying flattering things and then we just happen to agree with them?

00:06:10.620 I'm sure it's just, this is too flattering.

00:06:12.440 Like say something negative.

00:06:13.580 Take a picture of Hassan Piker and put it in.

00:06:17.060 I don't want to do that.

00:06:18.300 Brandon Peterson.

00:06:19.360 I don't want to risk saying positive things that could get us demonetized among our fan

00:06:23.640 base.

00:06:24.120 Oh no.

00:06:24.580 You could lose us subscribers here.

00:06:27.800 So I'm going to keep going here.

00:06:28.940 So meet generation.

00:06:30.620 I do not.

00:06:31.260 Young women who refuse to get married and vow to never change their minds about it. 0.96

00:06:35.940 Becoming somebody's wife. 0.98

00:06:37.220 Isn't something New Yorker Carly B 29 ever wanted for herself. 0.98

00:06:41.580 A 29 year old New Yorker.

00:06:43.340 I love we're jumping right into the deep end with this.

00:06:46.120 Okay.

00:06:46.240 Happily in love with her boyfriend of nine years.

00:06:49.060 Check marrying him. 0.99

00:06:50.280 Absolutely not.

00:06:51.260 That's no reflection on Matt H 30, according to Carly, who works for a PR branding agency

00:06:57.380 and asked that the couple's last names not be used.

00:07:00.200 Before the pair met, the 29 year old had always made it a point to avoid romantic involvements

00:07:04.800 with the kind of men who wanted wedding bells and kids.

00:07:07.420 It was a very prominent ground rule for me before entering any sort of relationship.

00:07:12.900 The East village dweller told the post, I don't necessarily need a contract that tells me my

00:07:19.380 status was my partner or tells me that I love him more than I would without one.

00:07:24.420 I know exactly how we feel about each other.

00:07:26.500 And I feel good with just that putting a ring on it, locking things down, heading to a city

00:07:31.300 hall for a piece of paper, not Carly, whose parents divorced and aren't the reason. 0.96

00:07:36.560 And that's not the reason she doesn't want marriage.

00:07:38.180 When the Pennsylvania natives met on Tinder, they are questioned about their plans for

00:07:43.120 getting hitched.

00:07:43.640 29 year old was brutally honest with them.

00:07:45.940 I usually say that's not something I want for myself.

00:07:48.580 We're never going to talk about that, Carly admitted.

00:07:51.600 I think me saying that makes them think there's something wrong with our relationship.

00:07:56.440 But no, I made the decision.

00:07:58.940 I'm going along with it and that's fine.

00:08:01.520 So I find this really interesting so far.

00:08:03.600 So basically you're seeing a new culture emerge, which is almost going to immediately die

00:08:07.080 out because none of these women are having kids, where they are attempting to normalize. 1.00

00:08:11.420 And it makes sense from an urban monoculture perspective.

00:08:14.080 If you're searching for pleasure and self-validation, kids and marriage, even for women, can be quite 0.86

00:08:20.060 bad.

00:08:20.820 But to continue here, I'll skip ahead of it here.

00:08:24.180 There's a wave of women, and this is a quote from one of them, either thinking, rethinking 0.99

00:08:27.860 marriage or skipping it altogether.

00:08:29.260 And it's getting louder every year.

00:08:30.820 It's about autonomy, peace and building lives and what feels right, not about what tradition

00:08:36.340 dictates.

00:08:37.780 Relationship coach Dr. Jaquil Del Rosario told The Post, I'm the one who's pushing this

00:08:43.920 harder than he is, but he knows it has known it since day one.

00:08:47.540 If there's ever a thought that he wants marriage and a family beyond what I can give him, then

00:08:53.000 he would need to break up and figure that out in other ways.

00:08:56.020 I actually find that to be very honest.

00:08:58.080 I appreciate that she was upfront about it from day one.

00:09:01.280 And if you're going to do this, at least be upfront about it.

00:09:03.800 And I think that that's a lot fairer.

00:09:05.520 And I think that women who do this are more likely to be upfront about it than men who

00:09:10.600 do it, because men can get higher quality partners by pretending that they want marriage.

00:09:16.340 And women typically get lower quality partners if they say that they're in this for a long 0.99

00:09:20.440 term relationship and don't just want casual sex.

00:09:22.600 And that's because, well, as anyone who watches this probably knows, women have an advantage 1.00

00:09:25.720 on the sex market.

00:09:26.440 Men have an advantage on the marriage marketplace. 0.60

00:09:28.660 But that advantage is bigger for women on the sex marketplace than it is for men on the

00:09:32.160 marriage marketplace, because it's easier to lie about not being on the marriage marketplace

00:09:35.360 for a man or being on the marriage marketplace.

00:09:37.700 Anyway.

00:09:39.940 Considering today's generation of young, independent women surpassing men in earning college degrees,

00:09:45.380 buying homes on their own, which has nearly doubled over the last 40 years, and achieving

00:09:50.800 sweet street positions at Fortune 500 companies, which has increased from 15% to 29% over the

00:09:56.420 past eight years, the million dollar question remains, do women benefit at all from marriage

00:10:01.820 in 2025?

00:10:02.980 And the question here is, what does benefit mean?

00:10:04.700 You know, if they want a family and they want kids and they want a stable relationship,

00:10:08.100 I mean, obviously, yes, a marriage is very useful in achieving those things and helping

00:10:13.540 be a forcing function in the things that you need to do to live that life path.

00:10:17.560 But if you just want to hang out, you know, it's fine.

00:10:22.020 Like, you don't need to.

00:10:23.920 Actually, I was cued into these.

00:10:26.520 So other people don't know that we did a weekend episode about this, and it has exploded since

00:10:30.540 that weekend episode.

00:10:31.340 It's literally like twice as big as it was when we did the weekend episode is our subreddit

00:10:34.920 is where I learned about this.

00:10:35.880 And the subreddit is frigging huge, like ridiculously large.

00:10:43.100 So an example of what I mean by this is it gets 194k weekly visitors and 43k weekly contributors.

00:10:51.720 So for our VIP fans who heard about this last time, this is more than twice as big as it

00:10:56.420 was when I was shocked by it last time.

00:10:58.320 To give you an idea of like what that means, if you go to Joe Rogan's subreddit, we're at

00:11:05.640 194k weekly visitors, 43k weekly interactions.

00:11:09.260 His is 308k weekly visitors, 8.9k weekly interactions.

00:11:13.360 If you go to the Azimogold subreddit, so we're astronomically bigger than Joe Rogan in terms

00:11:18.080 of weekly interactions and only a bit smaller in terms of weekly visitors.

00:11:21.240 Like he's not even twice as big as us.

00:11:22.740 If you go to Azimogold, 364k, so again, not even twice as big as us and only 11k weekly

00:11:29.920 interactions where we're at 43k weekly interactions.

00:11:32.900 Crazily, we have yet grown again since we filmed this.

00:11:36.360 The subreddit is now at 247k weekly visitors and 58k weekly interactions.

00:11:42.020 So I have an episode where I go into like what could be going on here, but they had this

00:11:45.920 and an interesting thing here where we're talking about, oh, women are doing so well in society. 1.00

00:11:49.460 One of the top posts is, are women more oppressed or do we just not give a damn about men and 0.97

00:11:54.820 boys?

00:11:55.540 And it points out that now college graduates, there might actually be more though on this

00:11:59.580 graph because men drop out of college at a higher rates, two female college graduates

00:12:02.840 over the next five years for every one male college graduates.

00:12:05.780 And then it shows domestic violence victims, more male than female.

00:12:09.540 Homelessness, only 75% are male, 25% are female. 0.97

00:12:13.280 And it's much harder to get homeless shelters.

00:12:15.100 There's been unaliving rates more than 70, it looks like 76, 77% male.

00:12:20.220 Workplace fatalities, you're looking here, it looks like 90% male.

00:12:24.140 Combat deaths since 1991, basically all male.

00:12:27.440 And oh, victims of forced circumcision.

00:12:29.980 They have that as, that's quite a Reddit complaint.

00:12:34.160 We should do an episode on circumcision someday.

00:12:37.400 That would be a lot of fun.

00:12:39.060 We have one episode where I argue that I don't even think that we're doing circumcision right.

00:12:42.220 This is one of our religion episodes, if you will.

00:12:43.920 Oh, you mean in terms of methodology, like the way the cut is done?

00:12:48.240 Yeah, this is the episode called The Question That Breaks Judaism.

00:12:51.280 And we go into, we have archaeological evidence and Jews say they came from Egypt, right?

00:12:56.580 Oh, that it was done differently originally?

00:12:58.720 That circumcision meant something different in the past?

00:13:01.940 Yes, that the word meant something different.

00:13:04.120 What?

00:13:05.040 So we have evidence, if you don't want to go into the full episode on that,

00:13:08.560 because there's like a four hour long episode called, like, good.

00:13:10.220 Yeah, TLDR me, please.

00:13:12.720 And we go over historic evidence, because we have from, like, mummies and stuff,

00:13:16.020 we can see what their circumcisions looked like,

00:13:18.100 which we don't have from ancestral Jewish population. 0.82

00:13:19.920 Mummy dog! 1.00

00:13:20.980 Oh no!

00:13:22.700 But they look like owl pellets. 0.74

00:13:24.820 Gross. 0.96

00:13:26.340 Egyptian priests did dorsolateral circumcision. 0.93

00:13:29.580 So not all the way around, not a circumference, but just, like, up and down.

00:13:32.520 Basically just cutting a slit in it.

00:13:33.880 And the reason why we would have evidence to believe that the early Jews were doing it the same way 0.99

00:13:38.940 is because in the early Jewish communities, they said,

00:13:41.560 we are a community of all priests.

00:13:43.700 Like, every man is a priest.

00:13:45.840 And so it would make sense that they might have living in Egypt at the time

00:13:49.180 and being aware of this purification ritual might have drawn it from a common source,

00:13:54.380 but just as a sign that everyone in the community is of the priest class.

00:13:58.620 Which is, I find to be really fascinating.

00:14:01.000 Like, I don't believe this hard.

00:14:02.660 Like, I think, this is one of those things that I'm not that solid on.

00:14:07.240 I think it's like a 25 to 30% chance.

00:14:09.740 Like, a good chance, but still, like, we don't know.

00:14:12.960 Because we just don't have a lot of evidence.

00:14:14.500 Like, there's like a thousand year gap in what definitionally a circumcision was

00:14:20.140 between it being mentioned for the first time

00:14:22.500 and then us getting any records of this is how it's actually performed.

00:14:26.040 That's so interesting.

00:14:27.860 Right?

00:14:29.140 We could do a circumcision episode. 0.92

00:14:30.600 I don't know how much we can talk about things that are done with sharp objects

00:14:35.740 to private parts on YouTube.

00:14:39.420 Yeah, maybe they won't like that.

00:14:41.160 Maybe not.

00:14:41.820 Maybe that's a Patreon episode.

00:14:44.620 A sub-stack, a paid sub-stack episode, you know?

00:14:47.580 Okay.

00:14:48.360 So there is evidence out there that men do actually gain more health and emotional benefits from marriage.

00:14:54.560 It's one of the women talking.

00:14:55.640 As they usually receive more support than they give out.

00:14:58.740 Mike Kosics, a hormone health expert at Balance My Hormones, told the post.

00:15:02.680 Oh, this was a male who said this.

00:15:04.200 Without balanced responsibility, marriage can feel more beneficial for men. 0.97

00:15:08.180 Jess Illico, 30, couldn't agree more.

00:15:10.760 She and her boyfriend, Ross Antonik, 32, have been dating for five years and are head over heels for each other.

00:15:17.940 She just doesn't see a wedding in their future.

00:15:19.920 As the oldest daughter of three, the New Jersey native who owns her own social media marketing and content creation agency,

00:15:26.420 told the post that growing up, she's always been independent and career-oriented,

00:15:30.740 never giving relationships or marriage much thought, despite being raised by happily married parents.

00:15:36.840 I was never like, oh, I'll wear this wedding dress, or I can't wait to have a big wedding.

00:15:41.740 Instead, I would watch rom-coms and think, I want that career.

00:15:45.580 I want her closet, she shared with the post.

00:15:47.940 And I think that you're getting a lot of information on why these women chose this, right?

00:15:52.420 Like, they were raised in a generation where they did not have aspirational marriages to look at with envy.

00:15:58.940 Well, how many popular films, media, or TV shows depict the hero's journey for a woman, at the very least, 0.84

00:16:09.060 in which marriage is the dream at the end?

00:16:12.440 They're certainly happy ever afters for, like, Disney princesses, but no one really watches those anymore.

00:16:17.100 And the more recent Disney princesses don't get married at the end, for the most part.

00:16:20.300 Yeah, all the recent Disney princesses are not about getting married, but about how your parents are terrible.

00:16:24.820 Like, that's like every reason.

00:16:25.720 What are really popular movies that have come out which depict a woman really trying to get married?

00:16:33.480 If you look at the modern female journey, like modern hero's journey, it is realize you have trauma, face trauma, overcome trauma.

00:16:44.200 And so I think women are, instead of what they used to want, their fairytale ending, right? 1.00

00:16:49.820 Their fairytale ending now requires the trauma.

00:16:52.380 So they invent the trauma, which we pointed out is very easy to do in studies.

00:16:56.780 One of my favorite studies on this that we've talked about before shows that people who say that they were abused at kids,

00:17:01.580 the amount of abuse that they say that they experienced is correlatory with how much effects that they have from that abuse,

00:17:09.740 unlike their daily behavior patterns and everything like that.

00:17:11.800 But it is completely uncorrelated with the amount of abuse they actually experienced when that is searched through, you know,

00:17:18.200 court records and stuff like that, where we have some evidence of whether or not they were abused or not, which is wild.

00:17:24.460 But anyway, so I love that the new hero's journey that they're going down is how do I build my trauma and career and all that.

00:17:30.220 Especially when you consider this, these, these general trends in the context of the trend of women choosing to identify online as divorced women,

00:17:40.340 that it's like a point of pride in something that they want to identify with.

00:17:45.340 So even when you went through the whole process of getting married, then you actually feel enough of a sense of reward and social cachet by very being like being very publicly divorced,

00:17:57.520 that you would go on and be, you know, get a divorce ring for yourself, be prominent about it, post online about it, that kind of thing.

00:18:07.640 Yeah. So, and I think that she actually understands the point of marriage very well in terms of why she's not doing it.

00:18:12.980 I don't think it's a disillusion about the point of marriage.

00:18:15.640 She says now in her thirties,

00:18:17.520 Aikulo shudders at the thought, at the archaic concept saying,

00:18:21.380 I do even to a man she loves because she believes becoming a wife subconsciously forces women to give up a part of themselves. 0.57

00:18:28.620 And men. Yeah. You assume yourself to become part of something bigger than both of you. Absolutely.

00:18:35.560 I mean, I think most people don't want that to be marriage.

00:18:38.740 They think that marriage is like, oh, I can have an unpaid courtesan now. This is great. 0.95

00:18:44.040 Yeah. They think it's about a sex buddy or something, right?

00:18:46.360 Yeah. What on earth? Yeah. 0.71

00:18:47.600 Anyway, I feel like I have such a rooted self-identity.

00:18:51.880 I don't think I have witnessed many marriages where the woman doesn't lose herself in the identity of her marriage.

00:18:57.220 Instead of remaining an I, she becomes a we, which I think is good that she's recognizing that. 1.00

00:19:03.080 That is the point of marriage, as we always say.

00:19:06.000 Becoming we. Losing the I, right? 0.98

00:19:09.200 Life is a journey, I think, when lived fully away from the I, right? 1.00

00:19:14.120 Like when you're a kid, it's all about yourself as an individual and the family and the larger family unit often dotes on the you and the I as the individual.

00:19:22.740 And then as you grow up, you then take full ownership of yourself without the external support.

00:19:28.100 And then you get married and you become a we, and then you have kids and you become sort of the guardian of the family, like even the wider system.

00:19:36.980 And then you die and you become a story to your kids, right? And descendants.

00:19:41.520 And so it's this constant drift away from the individual and they don't want that.

00:19:45.180 And I think that they're making the right choice given what they have been taught to value in life, which is the I.

00:19:50.720 But despite knowing they want to spend the rest of their lives together, Ayukul told the post that she had a musician boyfriend who both currently lived in Pittsburgh, but are in no rush to move in together, have been on the no marriage bandwagon for the duration of their relationship.

00:20:07.300 Or at least Ross has acquiesced to his partner's choices.

00:20:11.400 Marriage appears to be the best when both parties involved really want it and each other, he told the post.

00:20:18.500 Oh, that's sad.

00:20:19.080 But it's necessity and significance always dwindle when that is not the case.

00:20:24.620 Then if you look at pictures of him, I mean, I don't think he was going to get married anyway.

00:20:27.540 But Ayukul explained the conversation that we have around our futures is more about how we see each other's careers and how we see a future together in that sense, which I feel matters more than, okay, do we get engaged and get married?

00:20:40.580 And it's interesting that she does feel that this matters more because it's about enhancing their existing identities as atomized units, which we've been drifting to as a society.

00:20:49.080 As soon as we atomized the family.

00:20:51.040 And it didn't happen anymore recently, like faster recently.

00:20:53.900 But we point out this didn't happen with, you know, women leaving the household to get jobs.

00:20:57.400 It happened with men leaving the household to get jobs.

00:20:59.300 And that's when fertility rates started dropping in like 1850s to like 90s, depending on the country that you're in.

00:21:06.080 Ayukul said that regardless of how far women have come in society, she feels that once a couple enters a husband and wife territory, it's hard for them to avoid falling into stereotypical gender roles. 0.68

00:21:16.520 Some men really want a girl who will cook and clean for them. 1.00

00:21:19.160 So they want to date their mom, question mark.

00:21:21.560 I can't even imagine being with somebody who expected those things.

00:21:24.560 The entrepreneur revealed.

00:21:26.460 Now, what's interesting was that statement is you definitely did that.

00:21:29.760 Did you expect to fall into those roles of cooking and cleaning?

00:21:32.700 I really didn't think about it at all.

00:21:39.920 It was not an existential fear for you.

00:21:42.140 It's not something I thought about or that we planned out.

00:21:47.100 Weirdly.

00:21:48.340 Makes sense.

00:21:49.440 I mean, I think in the end, I do it because I care more about how it's done, which is how a lot of things work in relationships when they work out organically.

00:21:58.040 Yeah.

00:21:59.980 She goes on to say, the emotional labor women saw their mom's shoulder organizing households, managing everyone's happiness, doesn't look appealing if it's not balanced.

00:22:08.760 Nobody wants to lose themselves to unpaid work on somebody else's dreams.

00:22:12.140 If marriage is on the table, it's going to be on equal terms without sacrificing selfhood.

00:22:16.880 And this is an expert, not her.

00:22:18.800 But I find that really interesting because that's how you felt.

00:22:22.260 That's why you didn't want to get married. 0.99

00:22:23.220 When I first talked to you about marriage, you said, no, I don't want to do it because I don't like the way it made my mom live her life.

00:22:29.960 And your parents even lived in a very progressive family and lifestyle, right?

00:22:33.400 Yeah, but I think it's different.

00:22:34.660 They're talking about unpaid labor, et cetera.

00:22:37.460 And what I was really concerned about was losing like a sense of direction that goes beyond being a caretaker for kids.

00:22:49.360 And as much as I've taken on the internal house cooking and cleaning and, I mean, at least infant care, you do older kid care, I still very much like we have our work that we do together, you know?

00:23:07.400 And I think that's not what women are worried about. 1.00

00:23:10.080 They're not worried about losing their work.

00:23:11.840 They're worried about doing unpaid labor. 0.98

00:23:15.680 Or unappreciated labor. 0.97

00:23:19.520 I think it's the bigger thing.

00:23:21.340 Expected labor.

00:23:24.080 Yeah, except men, I think for the most part, are like, they're not unwilling to do it.

00:23:30.180 They just have such a much lower standard that when they do it, like, it's to a level that is still unacceptable.

00:23:40.540 Like, yesterday, you cleaned your room.

00:23:43.280 Am I still terrified to even look inside it?

00:23:46.240 Yes, absolutely.

00:23:47.560 Like, your standard of what is clean is, like, the worst nightmare for me of the dirtiest our house could get if I was, like, on death's door for three months.

00:23:57.920 I took out all of the uncovered food.

00:24:01.460 That's very clean, Simone.

00:24:03.340 There's no reason for mice to come in anymore.

00:24:05.500 Except for the new food from today.

00:24:08.000 I am stabbing in her heart right now.

00:24:10.940 You can look at this. 0.96

00:24:11.780 This is a woman being tortured. 1.00

00:24:14.640 This is why she dissociates, if you saw that video. 1.00

00:24:17.820 She has to, she's dissociating. 0.89

00:24:20.240 No level of dissociation would enable me to enter your room.

00:24:22.580 That's not happening.

00:24:24.020 It's just not going to happen.

00:24:26.240 I love our fan base.

00:24:27.500 It's all like, oh, yeah, I'm constantly dissociated.

00:24:29.100 It's just, like, the way I live my life.

00:24:30.760 I love base campers.

00:24:33.700 They're freaking amazing.

00:24:34.680 Because they get it, Malcolm.

00:24:35.960 You don't understand.

00:24:36.840 They just get it.

00:24:39.420 Whenever I say something, like, in the episode, I'm like, I don't think romantic love is a thing.

00:24:43.140 And I expect that to be, like, really controversial with our audience.

00:24:46.480 And we're like, yeah, no.

00:24:47.580 This is not news.

00:24:48.920 Start reporting news to us again.

00:24:51.600 Did they say that?

00:24:52.700 Like...

00:24:52.900 No, but it's the kind of comments that we get.

00:24:55.840 I want to hear news.

00:24:56.960 Okay, so...

00:24:58.300 No, I don't mean news.

00:24:59.660 Like, interesting new ideas.

00:25:01.500 That's what people like.

00:25:02.340 Ah, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:25:03.500 So, other woman here saying, I think we as women, especially millennial women, have been fed this narrative through movies and the media of the girl and the guy getting together.

00:25:13.140 They get married.

00:25:14.100 They have kids.

00:25:15.120 They get the house.

00:25:16.300 And they live happily ever after, she explained.

00:25:19.800 What I realized was that marriage wasn't really translating to my happiness.

00:25:24.200 And I think it would be more of a hindrance.

00:25:26.860 And this is what's really fascinating.

00:25:29.060 And I think that this is true.

00:25:30.160 Like, she's accurate here.

00:25:31.260 I think they grew up with the remnants within media.

00:25:35.100 Because if she saw this in media, she's an old person, right? 0.99

00:25:37.380 Like, she must be in her 40s.

00:25:38.720 Because you don't see that in media anymore very often.

00:25:41.580 But even during that time period, it was like, do X, Y, and Z to achieve happiness.

00:25:46.480 But then it told you what happiness was, which was individual self-fulfillment.

00:25:49.780 And that's not what a family gives you.

00:25:51.760 That's not like the purpose of a family, right?

00:25:53.500 Like, it's telling you to play a completely different game that's going to have a completely different outcome, right?

00:25:58.500 Like, what's so crazy, though, is that I feel more fulfilled now than I ever did single, which is so ironic.

00:26:08.180 Yeah.

00:26:08.880 Go on, though.

00:26:09.560 I just can't really remember a time when I was consistently happy, comfortable, relaxed, and enjoying life while I was in a relationship or dating.

00:26:19.640 There was always a worry, a stress, or an annoyance, or a frustration, and it just never felt as peaceful as if it was just focusing on me.

00:26:28.700 Sorry, as peaceful as it is.

00:26:31.260 Sorry, as peaceful as it was just focusing on me.

00:26:34.240 I mean, so you can see here, the purpose is focusing on herself.

00:26:36.320 Like, that's the goal in all of this.

00:26:38.040 Which I get, right?

00:26:39.000 Like, if that's what you're into, right?

00:26:40.900 What is that going to do, though?

00:26:42.240 By the way, she has a new puppy, which she took her pictures with, of course.

00:26:47.820 One thing I've been practicing is just radical acceptance of myself.

00:26:53.260 Not having any shame.

00:26:55.080 Not feeling bad about any of my decisions.

00:26:57.320 Just trying to accept myself and enjoy life.

00:26:59.960 And I think that's a perfect statement there.

00:27:03.000 It shows that that is something you should feel deep shame for doing, right?

00:27:08.760 Like, if you are a normal person, to try to live your life without expectations for yourself.

00:27:13.360 Because that's what shame comes from.

00:27:14.560 It's not living up to the expectations you have set for what you should achieve from your life.

00:27:19.140 What you should give back to society.

00:27:21.280 But she's saying that actually her expectation is to have no expectations.

00:27:24.980 To have no shame.

00:27:26.680 To, you know, axiomatically approve of the things she has done.

00:27:30.940 Of the decisions she had made.

00:27:32.140 I think it's worse than that.

00:27:34.040 Because it's not just about expectations.

00:27:37.280 In fact, if anything, expectations are really weak.

00:27:40.840 When you look at scientific data.

00:27:43.440 Like research, academic research around behavior change, for example.

00:27:46.380 And whether people are actually able to do good things that are hard.

00:27:49.800 Really, the consistent thing that changes behavior is if you change the defaults.

00:27:56.380 You know, like if you need to stop eating junk food.

00:27:58.200 You just don't keep junk food in your house anymore, you know?

00:28:01.220 And what's really interesting about having spouses.

00:28:03.400 And especially about having children is that they force responsibility.

00:28:08.060 They force selflessness.

00:28:09.640 I mean, at least assuming that you aren't negligently allowing these people to die.

00:28:12.940 And being an abusive partner or whatever, right?

00:28:14.600 And a lot of people are that, which is really sad.

00:28:17.020 But I think most conscientious, morally non-bankrupt people step up when they are presented with these responsibilities.

00:28:26.380 That cannot be avoided.

00:28:27.980 There are no more sick toys.

00:28:29.740 There is no more sleeping in.

00:28:31.520 You know, there is no more just deciding to phone it in.

00:28:35.840 Because someone else depends on you.

00:28:38.080 Especially if kids are involved.

00:28:39.880 They really depend on you.

00:28:41.660 And it just honestly forces you to be a better person.

00:28:44.480 It doesn't matter whether you're trying to be forgiving or not.

00:28:48.160 You know, you're there anyway.

00:28:50.040 And you may not always be perfect.

00:28:51.400 But, yeah, I don't know.

00:28:52.800 I think it's worse than just being okay with who you are.

00:28:57.540 It's shirking from even forcing functions that would obligate you naturally to be a better, stronger, more conscientious, caring, empathetic, and moral person.

00:29:10.340 Okay, let's go to the second group of women to see what they say and why they're doing it. 1.00

00:29:16.980 The incels.

00:29:17.740 So with the first group, I think—

00:29:18.840 No, no, the intentional celibates, I guess, yeah.

00:29:21.680 The intentional celibates.

00:29:22.880 So with the first group, I think they were incredibly clear and articulate.

00:29:27.540 And I'd even say clear-minded about why they were making this decision.

00:29:31.660 They were making—

00:29:32.320 Well, I think they have to be because they have to tell their partners very explicitly what's going on.

00:29:36.600 Unless they're being really mean about it and misleading them.

00:29:41.140 Yeah.

00:29:41.880 Well, I mean, I think it shows a degree of self-knowledge.

00:29:44.280 They wanted to focus on self-acceptance.

00:29:48.540 They wanted to focus on self-actualization.

00:29:51.140 They did not—like, they do not exist to contribute to society, their people, their country, human civilization.

00:30:00.200 They exist for their own subjective experience of existing.

00:30:05.000 And they saw marriage as being incompatible with that.

00:30:10.560 And I think that that's really powerful, right?

00:30:12.260 Like, I think that they're right about that.

00:30:14.480 They're wrong about why they exist and what they actually will get fulfillment from.

00:30:18.960 Because if you chase fulfillment for its own sake, you'll never get any fulfillment at all.

00:30:22.100 Which is a really sort of sad thing.

00:30:24.440 As to why that happens, we've talked about it in more detail in other episodes.

00:30:28.220 But if you chase self-acceptance, fulfillment, your own subjective emotions for its own state, you're saying that those are the only things that have value in your life.

00:30:36.020 Which means that you are experiencing personally everything that is good about your existence.

00:30:44.180 Because your existence is self-referential, right?

00:30:47.520 And you will realize pretty quickly how trivial all of those emotions and self-acceptance actually feel unless you fry your brain with, like, hokum and crystals and mysticism, right?

00:31:00.340 Yeah, but I think it's not even though, I mean, you're implying that this works and that they are experiencing hedonic pleasure at greater levels.

00:31:08.980 Whereas any hedonic pleasure you get that, you know, is excess due to your being single and totally freed up to focus on yourself.

00:31:16.680 One, you adjust to it.

00:31:18.480 Two, you're left alone with your own demons.

00:31:20.640 And I think more vulnerable to depression and anxiety and other mental health problems.

00:31:26.260 Because there's nothing to fill the void.

00:31:28.240 Only your demons are there.

00:31:29.540 Happiness changes depending on your context in life.

00:31:33.740 So when I say that she is experiencing, let's say, like, more dopaminergic reward pathways than somebody who is dedicating themselves to the family, I mean that in the same way a meth addict lying on the street homeless is experiencing more dopaminergic reward pathways.

00:31:46.960 I don't know.

00:31:47.480 Don't you think we are, like, constantly getting hit by dopamine when our kids do hilarious stuff and make us laugh and do sweet things and make us cry on the inside of happiness?

00:31:56.480 But that's the point I'm making.

00:31:57.920 So if you are doing something like meth on the streets or fentanyl or whatever, right?

00:32:04.840 Like, you are experiencing a level of dopamine.

00:32:07.380 No, but it's like an empty high and then you have the fallout.

00:32:09.980 Like, it's not the slow burn high that you really want to hit.

00:32:12.740 You have the fallout and you hit yourself throughout the entire thing.

00:32:15.960 Or afterwards, before, when you're content, you're still sleeping in the rain being covered in cockroaches.

00:32:23.020 That doesn't mean whatever, you know, the meth addict is to, let's say, her, she is to us, right?

00:32:30.460 Like, she is objectively, like, maybe hitting these pathways harder in the same way the meth addict is hitting in these pathways harder.

00:32:37.820 But I would not wish her lifestyle on my worst enemy, right?

00:32:41.540 Right, of course.

00:32:43.460 Anyway, so to continue here.

00:32:45.360 Does that make sense to you or do you want to pull over that?

00:32:47.380 No, it does.

00:32:47.980 Yeah, I mean, and that was, it's this latter lifestyle that I was personally going for before I met you and everything got derailed because I discovered meaning in life through you.

00:32:57.920 But it, it was really fun.

00:33:01.840 Like, on the surface, it was really fun.

00:33:03.860 But then, yeah, I think what you describe is pretty accurate.

00:33:06.080 Like, at the end of something uniquely fun that I planned for myself, I would feel empty and anxiety would creep in.

00:33:13.240 And, yeah, I felt like I was constantly running from that.

00:33:17.820 It was scary.

00:33:19.380 Okay, so now we're going to go to the next article.

00:33:21.860 Meet the young single women going celibate, but not for the reason you'd expect. 0.99

00:33:27.920 And then it has to start with the title.

00:33:31.400 Many of them find it incredibly hard, which is interesting because, like, just everyone used to live this way.

00:33:36.920 And you'll see that this is, you see it from the title.

00:33:39.340 Donna Zargami, 29, spent a, quote, unquote, good chunk of her 20s being celibate.

00:33:45.280 Now, I find that sentence ridiculous in a historic context.

00:33:53.260 The idea that an unmarried woman spent a good chunk of her 20s not sleeping around is, would be considered the sluttiest thing you could imagine if you go back, let's just say, 50 years ago, right? 0.95

00:34:08.220 You're not supposed to be sleeping around in your 20s.

00:34:11.440 You stay celibate, you get married, then you have a family.

00:34:15.260 Like, why is she sleeping?

00:34:16.600 What does she mean? 0.52

00:34:18.160 It's like the priest who's like, well, you know, I only see prostitutes a couple times a year.

00:34:24.960 Or the nun being like, I'm celibate.

00:34:28.760 I just lapse every, you know, few months.

00:34:31.720 But anyway, to continue here, it's like, it's like, that's not, that's not celibate.

00:34:38.840 In fact, she purposely did not sleep with anyone for four consecutive years.

00:34:45.200 Ooh, so four years of celibacy.

00:34:47.020 The Floridian told the Post, and men have made her decision fairly easy.

00:34:52.840 According to Zargami's generation of young females, hookup culture aided by dating apps ruined intimacy. 0.98

00:34:59.700 Hookup culture, this is a woman saying this, doesn't benefit women in any way. 0.96

00:35:04.080 It totally only benefits the man.

00:35:06.000 I'm not here to judge, but at the same time, hooking up ruins the part where when you actually find the person you want to spend your, the rest of your life with, it takes away from that special intimate moment that you have with them, end quote.

00:35:20.280 Now, I find that to be really fascinating.

00:35:23.060 So basically, they're taking this perspective.

00:35:24.820 I think actually what I'm seeing, and the reason I thought these women were more attractive is, is they're just younger. 0.95

00:35:30.700 Okay.

00:35:31.660 Yeah.

00:35:32.500 And that's the difference.

00:35:33.400 It's a different generation. 0.81

00:35:34.420 So the previous generation isn't going for marriage because they were raised on this sort of mantra of self-actualization, self-involvement, be a career woman.

00:35:43.080 And this generation was raised during the era of pickup apps.

00:35:48.040 And they're just like, these are terrible and create a terrible environment.

00:35:51.600 And again, I don't even try.

00:35:53.840 I think, I mean, you do need to try if you want to find somebody, right?

00:35:58.020 But you're not going to try to find someone though.

00:36:00.620 Yeah.

00:36:00.900 Yeah.

00:36:01.040 So, Kylia Caputo, a 29-year-old New Jersey resident, agrees. 0.95

00:36:05.780 I feel like hookup culture has ruined dating because it almost feels like that's the end goal.

00:36:10.960 It's like people are so trained now to just ask you home with them.

00:36:14.720 It's so bizarre.

00:36:15.880 She admitted to the post, adding that sleeping with someone you are newly seeing, quote, clouds your judgment on how you really feel about the person.

00:36:22.900 It's a very mature thing to say.

00:36:25.340 I agree with that.

00:36:26.240 Zangami is among the slew of Gen Z and millennial women who are fueling America's unprecedented sex recession as they seem to be fine with it. 1.00

00:36:35.940 So, this is actually interesting.

00:36:37.620 And I think I get it.

00:36:38.240 The core difference between these two groups is this group isn't sleeping around because what they really want is a marriage and a dedicated partner.

00:36:50.160 And they don't feel they're getting that from hookup culture.

00:36:52.680 Now, as to why they're not getting that from hookup culture, it's because you've got the, you know, problem where less than 1% of women are sleeping right on the average man, right? 0.89

00:37:00.360 Like, they are definitionally all going after the same few guys, which rewards those guys for bad behavior where they don't really value their relationships, which then creates the perception in these women that men don't really value relationships and treat them poorly.

00:37:13.700 And then you get this, you know, horrible cycle here.

00:37:16.520 Yeah.

00:37:16.820 And it's, and it's also hard.

00:37:18.320 Like when I look at men in this generation, when I look at the, you know, subreddit we have where it's, it's a lot of gender related stuff.

00:37:25.220 You know, so many of them talk about how hard it is dating as a non-white man, which I can totally hear, or how tall it is dating as a short guy.

00:37:34.340 Right.

00:37:35.120 Which again, I, I didn't like, I was in an easier time period for dating and I wasn't dealing with either of those things.

00:37:42.440 Right.

00:37:42.900 So I had it uniquely easy compared to that community.

00:37:47.400 I do like that the community isn't, at least, it doesn't seem like spiteful against like taller guys and stuff like that.

00:37:53.040 I just feel like the tallest from Invader Zim. 0.99

00:37:55.240 Here they are, your all-knowing, all-powerful leaders, the Almighty Towers!

00:38:10.620 Thank you!

00:38:12.320 Like that, that's, that's who we are doing the podcast.

00:38:14.640 That's, that's literally, it's so funny.

00:38:17.140 Invader Zim tried to create like a joke society where everything is based off of how, how tall a male is. 0.97

00:38:23.280 And I feel like women have unironically recreated that society on like Tinder and stuff like that. 1.00

00:38:28.760 Yeah.

00:38:29.860 That is, that is actually our society right now.

00:38:35.660 It's, oh, you're, you're too short.

00:38:37.300 Ah, you seem to have grown since last you stood before us.

00:38:40.680 Redditor.

00:38:41.300 You've been assigned to the planet Blorch, home of the slaughtering- 1.00

00:38:45.020 Borderline women. 1.00

00:38:46.240 Why would you draw that?

00:38:47.040 However, because of your increased height, we have decided to give you the planet Vort,

00:38:53.820 home of the universe's most comfortable couch.

00:38:56.100 And hot career women who genuinely believe you're making a major sacrifice by being a stay-at-home husband. 0.99

00:39:02.300 Yes! 1.00

00:39:06.940 Go to the, the trash planet where you'll be eaten by rats and no one will sympathize. 0.96

00:39:11.320 What in general was the, the sentiment or reaction or discussion on, on the subreddit about this? 0.62

00:39:22.440 Like what was there? 0.98

00:39:23.100 And so, or, and therefore just like women are terrible. 1.00

00:39:27.160 You see? 0.99

00:39:27.680 You see?

00:39:28.380 This is why I'm going to be a passport bro.

00:39:30.300 Like what, what is there and therefore from this?

00:39:33.620 I know, I know.

00:39:34.000 I didn't read all that comments.

00:39:35.540 I find it less fun than the discord, to be honest, but it's, it's, it's active as heck, man.

00:39:41.380 It is, it is incredibly active.

00:39:43.080 I'm just very shocked by this.

00:39:44.840 I do not know.

00:39:46.200 I mean, I know why it's become a place like the podcast itself.

00:39:49.820 Isn't that relevant to the discord?

00:39:51.280 It's become a place for people to have political debates because the podcast itself in the eyes

00:39:55.700 of many people in the discord, they're like, they frame themselves as rightists, but they're

00:39:58.500 actually very centrist, which is probably, I mean, I don't know what political opinion

00:40:03.720 I have, that's not right-leaning of, of center.

00:40:06.540 It might not be as right-leaning as some people, but, but I can understand how a lot of people

00:40:11.240 in like online spaces, if they're like in the gray fur crowd or something like that would 0.92

00:40:14.140 see us as centrist.

00:40:16.460 And, and I think because of that, because we try to air both sides from like a logical

00:40:21.100 and, and, and broken down and I think fair perspective often, even if we let our biases

00:40:25.820 be known very clearly, that attracts the type of people who want to have debates within

00:40:30.920 online communities like Reddit.

00:40:32.140 So you get this big debate, right?

00:40:34.080 Which is why the interaction rate is so high.

00:40:37.540 As much as you want to blame the other species, you also have to take accountability for why

00:40:42.760 you're allowing certain people into your life and why you're okay with letting people basically

00:40:47.180 walk all over you.

00:40:48.440 I love, she calls men, the other species. 0.96

00:40:50.980 The others, goodness gracious lady.

00:40:54.600 And it's to why you're letting men walk all over you.

00:40:57.860 The answer is clear.

00:40:58.640 You are going after the guys who have tons of other options.

00:41:01.820 And so of course they're going to walk all over you.

00:41:03.440 That's just like, think about it from the guy's perspective, right?

00:41:06.740 The problem was all of the men, women sorting to these top few men, which statistically they

00:41:11.580 objectively do on dating apps, right?

00:41:14.700 Is that the, the, those men are going to have like five to 10 women each who will sleep with 1.00

00:41:21.580 them whenever they want.

00:41:22.700 And they don't need to treat you with respect.

00:41:25.520 Like there's, there's no need to treat you with respect because you are literally disposable

00:41:30.660 from their perspective.

00:41:32.240 And I think, I think this makes life worse for those men as well.

00:41:35.200 You know, when they, when they, yeah, they're not happy because also they're not having kids.

00:41:38.620 They don't have a committed partner.

00:41:41.000 I think even men who thought they could make it work where they're billionaires and they

00:41:45.980 have one committed partner who's kind of like raising kids for them or something.

00:41:49.940 And then they're sleeping around.

00:41:50.760 Like there are so many now prominent cases and I might get into some that I'm, I'm working,

00:41:56.280 I'm working on an episode that might get into some of these examples where they just crash

00:42:00.600 and burn.

00:42:00.980 So even that doesn't really work that I just, yeah, no one's winning in this.

00:42:07.320 Who's winning?

00:42:12.960 Actually, who is winning?

00:42:14.160 Someone has to be winning.

00:42:15.700 I feel like even the dating app companies aren't winning because they're, I think they're losing

00:42:20.920 people regardless.

00:42:22.200 If you, if you help people get married, you lose people.

00:42:25.340 But also people are probably, I think, I've even written something on this.

00:42:30.520 Who's winning?

00:42:30.880 RFAB.ai, where you can get yourself a simulated partner of the highest.

00:42:34.640 Oh, the chatbot platforms.

00:42:36.140 Yeah.

00:42:36.500 Honestly, they're, they're way more pleasant to speak with than people.

00:42:41.500 Well, you always create ones of me are like a character import feature.

00:42:46.020 It can create very detailed Malcolms and Simones.

00:42:48.160 I think it's one of the most popular when you, when you go onto the platform, at least

00:42:51.580 is this just because I keep interacting with it, but the Malcolm is, is one of the most

00:42:55.900 popular.

00:42:57.940 Because you like interacting with the Malcolm.

00:42:59.740 We've got a great new audio feature, by the way, now, where you can just like push

00:43:02.880 a button and chat with it.

00:43:04.420 And then it will speak.

00:43:04.960 Oh, I love that feature.

00:43:06.100 And it works in like five different languages, like totally fluently as well, which is really

00:43:09.980 cool.

00:43:10.560 So cool.

00:43:11.220 Anyway, somebody from another language tried it and they go, oh my God, it sounded like a

00:43:14.300 real woman.

00:43:14.700 Like I've never seen a Spanish audio translation.

00:43:17.100 It's very natural.

00:43:17.840 Yeah.

00:43:17.920 There's a lot.

00:43:18.360 And there's different, even within any language, there's, there are different.

00:43:21.580 Now the options and gender options, which is nice.

00:43:24.980 Cause I, I don't know.

00:43:26.180 That's definitely matters.

00:43:27.340 It really does have an impact.

00:43:29.160 So well done, Malcolm.

00:43:31.480 Well done, Bruno.

00:43:32.220 You guys are awesome.

00:43:33.220 Speaking of her celibacy, but then one year turned into two, which turned into three, which

00:43:37.620 turned into four years.

00:43:38.600 I made that promise to myself until I'm in a committed relationship.

00:43:41.600 I want to be celibate.

00:43:44.600 So one, first of all, I want to say to what Simone is saying, we've got the site mostly

00:43:48.260 stable now.

00:43:48.740 I'm sorry.

00:43:49.000 It was like unstable for so long.

00:43:50.420 I got jumped the gun in announcing it because I've never developed software from scratch

00:43:55.220 before like this myself.

00:43:57.180 What could possibly go wrong?

00:43:59.140 You thought, well, you know, it took a really long time to get it, get it as stable as it

00:44:03.080 is now.

00:44:03.460 And that was frustrating, but we're there now.

00:44:05.980 Finally.

00:44:06.820 I'm excited.

00:44:07.520 I'm it.

00:44:08.040 This is awesome.

00:44:09.460 But to what she's talking about here, I found this really interesting that she's not saying

00:44:13.760 she's actually celibate.

00:44:14.880 She says until I'm in a committed relationship, I want to be celibate.

00:44:17.460 Yeah, this is so crazy because at least when I was doing my thing, I was just celibate.

00:44:24.340 But I know also a lot of people have sex drives that probably they have to address, right?

00:44:32.700 Right.

00:44:33.180 And you do not, which is awesome, right?

00:44:37.180 Like, I think that that makes life so much better and easier, especially for the next

00:44:40.960 generation if you're not.

00:44:41.860 I mean, imagine just pretty much anyone can probably relate to having intrusive thoughts

00:44:46.600 about something, be it food or alcohol or gambling or sex or something.

00:44:53.580 And like a life without those intrusive thoughts is an easier life, you know?

00:44:57.420 No, I hated doing through puberty.

00:44:59.560 I hated it.

00:45:00.460 I remember I had these thoughts of like, my ideas were so much more complicated, so much

00:45:05.460 more interesting before I went through puberty.

00:45:07.280 Oh, oh my gosh.

00:45:08.640 So you can even remember back to when you were sane.

00:45:11.580 No, this is like an experience I think a lot of guys have.

00:45:14.480 I mean, I had that.

00:45:15.380 I just, it was with mood swings.

00:45:16.720 Like, oh, suddenly I'm like anguished and angry and embarrassed. 0.72

00:45:20.140 And I can't, I don't understand why, but I didn't have it with like, I need sex.

00:45:23.760 And then you go through puberty and all of a sudden it's like all of your thoughts, all 0.92

00:45:29.500 of your daydreams, they're on like sex and hunting and killing.

00:45:35.480 And it's what all of your doodles are about. 0.84

00:45:38.360 It's Roman soldiers at war, you know, building empires as well, right?

00:45:43.960 But the thoughts are so like bundled.

00:45:47.940 And before that, I remember I was constantly thinking about philosophy and why I exist and

00:45:53.660 everything like that, which is more what I moved to as I've gotten older and my sex

00:45:57.620 drive has died down.

00:45:58.660 But there's a period there where, you know, it was just like.

00:46:02.620 You couldn't get a thought in edgewise. 0.96

00:46:04.940 Sucks. 0.91

00:46:05.560 Oh, doodling, you know, Vikings and soldiers and war. 0.99

00:46:11.780 Every guy, I think, goes through this phase, right?

00:46:15.640 Like.

00:46:17.240 Yeah.

00:46:18.700 Starships.

00:46:19.660 You know, you got to take out the Zenos, of course.

00:46:22.280 As you colonize the universe.

00:46:25.440 I mean, of course.

00:46:27.200 Anyway.

00:46:27.520 After breaking her four-year streak last year with someone who ultimately wasn't worth 0.83

00:46:34.960 it, the 29-year-old is keeping that promise to herself and going back to the no-sex bandwagon. 1.00

00:46:40.500 Zorangi is just one of many women in her age group that are openly discussing the celibacy

00:46:44.560 journey and encouraging others to do the same.

00:46:47.040 So accidentally having sex with somebody like once in a four-year period while you're looking

00:46:52.260 for a husband used to not be called celibate.

00:46:54.960 It used to be called normal.

00:46:57.960 This used to be like, if you're talking like the 1970s, this would have been a normal middle

00:47:03.920 American woman's.

00:47:05.300 Sure, like one night stand while you got a little too tipsy.

00:47:09.140 Like once in four years, right?

00:47:11.220 Like that would have been not celibate.

00:47:13.740 That would have been, it's screwed up, but no one, not everyone's a saint.

00:47:17.360 You know what I mean?

00:47:17.760 Not everyone's a mom.

00:47:18.440 From 2010 to 2024, the percentage of youngsters 18 to 29 who admitted to not having sex doubled

00:47:25.620 from 12% to 24%, according to a general social survey.

00:47:29.780 And to make matters worse, even more shocking, sexlessness for young adult females has risen

00:47:34.300 by roughly 50%, according to IFS.

00:47:37.240 And these strong world women are just adding to that already increasing number. 1.00

00:47:41.660 Quote, typically, if I feel like things are going down a path where I'm like, oh, they might

00:47:45.440 be expecting something from me, I like to be straightforward and be like, I'm not having

00:47:49.240 sex with you. 0.99

00:47:50.200 And I'm like, that, that's normal. 0.99

00:47:53.980 Yeah, that's pretty normal.

00:47:56.000 And I literally say it so bluntly, that kind of allows me to feel not only like I'm in charge,

00:48:02.300 but also if they're just looking for a quick hookup, then they don't have to see me again,

00:48:07.100 which I also think is really good.

00:48:08.420 I think it's really good.

00:48:09.400 Yeah, not waste anyone's time.

00:48:11.260 Yeah, like me, I met you, what did I say on our first date?

00:48:16.300 I'm looking to get married.

00:48:17.320 I was like...

00:48:17.940 Oh, yeah, yes, yeah, sorry.

00:48:19.820 I thought, I was thinking about what you were saying on our second date, which is, oh,

00:48:24.720 yeah, my mom told me when I was a teen that if a girl doesn't go down on you by the second

00:48:28.900 date, she's just playing games. 1.00

00:48:32.480 Third date.

00:48:33.680 Third date.

00:48:34.120 Third date.

00:48:34.540 Is that what she said?

00:48:35.260 I can't remember what her words of wisdom were on that front, because I didn't hear them

00:48:39.400 from her directly.

00:48:41.260 But, I mean, that was in her generation that she grew up learning that, right?

00:48:45.980 You know?

00:48:46.580 Yeah.

00:48:47.100 And I do think that was normalized when we were growing up.

00:48:49.740 It was, yeah.

00:48:50.760 That, like, a woman, you were weird because you didn't sleep with people, right? 1.00

00:48:54.680 Yeah.

00:48:57.740 Yeah.

00:48:58.140 We have the whole diary of The Year You Met Me that's been annotated and turned into

00:49:06.420 a book for it.

00:49:07.040 It was the first book we did, and it's called Into the Heart of Dorkness, and we never published

00:49:11.000 it, and she refuses to give it to, like, our exclusive subscribers because she's, like,

00:49:14.540 too embarrassed.

00:49:15.840 I think it's a good book.

00:49:17.340 I think it's a good book.

00:49:18.340 I'm glad you think it's a good book.

00:49:21.560 It can hide in obscurity.

00:49:24.280 Hide in...

00:49:24.960 I'll make sure that it gets published on your death. 0.60

00:49:28.560 Thanks. 0.78

00:49:29.320 Great.

00:49:30.120 Fantastic.

00:49:30.940 I mean, I'll be dead, so I won't care.

00:49:32.880 I really, you know...

00:49:35.180 Come on, Simone. 1.00

00:49:36.460 I think you're really cute in it, and it's very relatable, and it talks a lot about our

00:49:39.600 time. 0.58

00:49:40.000 We've normalized so much to my death when you die.

00:49:45.280 So is, you know, Octavian, but he will be very mad if we die before we get...

00:49:52.080 What does he call it?

00:49:52.860 The golden subscribe button?

00:49:54.780 It's not even golden.

00:49:56.420 Is there a golden one?

00:49:57.960 Is he putting that on us?

00:49:59.240 No, there is a golden one.

00:50:00.260 There's a silver one and a gold one.

00:50:01.580 What are the...

00:50:02.220 You have to get a million for...

00:50:03.300 Oh, God.

00:50:03.780 So he expects a million from...

00:50:05.140 Well, then I guess anyone, you know, we need to not die until we get the gold one.

00:50:09.900 Okay, so at 100 subscribers, you can create a custom URL.

00:50:13.800 Have we ever done that?

00:50:14.660 I think we have a custom URL.

00:50:16.280 500 subscribers, you become eligible for the expanded YouTube Partner Program, which,

00:50:20.940 of course, we have 1,000 subscribers, a major milestone.

00:50:23.240 You become eligible for the YouTube Partner Program, which allows you to earn money from

00:50:26.740 your videos.

00:50:27.540 Okay.

00:50:28.260 10,000 subscribers, you unlock features like custom thumbnails and access to the YouTube

00:50:32.840 Creator Academy.

00:50:33.660 Wait, you can't make custom thumbnails before you have 10,000?

00:50:37.760 Wait, they cannot be true.

00:50:39.900 It might be.

00:50:40.880 I mean, it's...

00:50:41.360 I mean, that was so long ago for us.

00:50:43.220 When we started, like, you know, dedicatedly making videos again.

00:50:47.580 No, we had custom thumbnails on those videos.

00:50:49.960 So that must be an older thing.

00:50:52.420 So at 100,000 subscribers, you are eligible for the Silver Creator Award, known as the Silver

00:50:58.300 Play Button.

00:50:58.920 And we'll just tell him it's gold.

00:51:00.160 You know, he doesn't know the difference.

00:51:01.240 God, yes, he does.

00:51:02.780 At a million subscribers, you are eligible for the Gold Creator Award.

00:51:08.680 That's what he wants.

00:51:09.640 A million.

00:51:10.560 And then at 10 million, you're eligible for the Diamond Creator Award.

00:51:14.900 And for...

00:51:16.240 Wait.

00:51:17.460 Is this...

00:51:17.800 Is that one just made out of glass?

00:51:18.980 Like, is it...

00:51:19.720 Or does it have a diamond?

00:51:20.620 I've never seen it before.

00:51:25.300 I don't...

00:51:25.620 I don't know if I follow anyone.

00:51:26.920 Here's the thing, though, is I bet all those people just create those...

00:51:29.900 Those slop YouTube videos for kids.

00:51:33.760 Because that's, like...

00:51:34.580 The only time I've ever seen a video that, like...

00:51:36.700 Or a channel that consistently produces videos that are, like, 10 million views.

00:51:40.580 30 million views. 1.00

00:51:41.560 It's always, like, a stupid kid channel. 1.00

00:51:43.800 It's just a crystal award. 1.00

00:51:48.480 And then the...

00:51:49.480 It's just see-through this time.

00:51:50.420 Yeah, it's just see-through crystal.

00:51:51.880 Yeah.

00:51:52.180 It actually looks, I think, worse than the other ones.

00:51:55.060 Yeah.

00:51:55.360 And then there is the red crystal award, which is actually pretty cool looking.

00:51:59.120 It's a black crystal with, like, a red play button in the center of it.

00:52:02.780 Ooh, that sounds good.

00:52:04.900 How many do you name that for?

00:52:07.640 Yeah, that is...

00:52:08.580 Those are our family colors.

00:52:09.860 The black and red.

00:52:10.820 That Calvinist.

00:52:11.920 So is that what we're going for?

00:52:13.320 We're 100 million.

00:52:14.460 We'll never get there.

00:52:15.600 We don't make content that's appealing to a mass audience.

00:52:17.500 Yeah, that is.

00:52:18.620 We can do it if he makes kids slop. 0.99

00:52:21.000 But I think the silver play button is realistic for us within...

00:52:26.020 What are we at now for subscribers?

00:52:28.860 62,000.

00:52:29.920 Our goal for this year, we're like, oh, if we could do it...

00:52:32.620 No, we're at about 64,000.

00:52:34.080 We're at 63.8.

00:52:34.960 Oh, really?

00:52:35.380 Our goal was 70,000.

00:52:37.360 So we didn't make it.

00:52:38.400 But I thought that it was impossible.

00:52:39.580 Like, I was like, let's set a goal of 50,000 subscribers.

00:52:42.120 And you're like, no.

00:52:43.320 It has to be a stretch goal.

00:52:45.440 And we stretched.

00:52:46.560 We didn't stretch far enough, Malcolm.

00:52:48.040 We didn't stretch far enough.

00:52:48.920 But I think this year, resolutions here, people, we can make it to 100,000.

00:52:55.680 So please subscribe.

00:52:57.840 Our channel was hit so hard by the Christmas season.

00:53:00.140 I always hate that that happens.

00:53:02.620 You know, we were getting to a point of like 20,000 per episode.

00:53:04.880 And then...

00:53:05.040 Yeah, don't subscribe for us.

00:53:07.060 Subscribe for our eldest son, Octavian.

00:53:09.940 Who only cares.

00:53:11.980 They're like, literally...

00:53:13.320 Walks around houses, our houses.

00:53:16.040 So he's narrating a YouTube video.

00:53:18.280 Hey guys, just going around my house.

00:53:20.280 Like, he just loves it.

00:53:21.540 He loves YouTube.

00:53:22.520 He was born in the YouTube.

00:53:24.600 He was born in the YouTube.

00:53:26.140 He was born like the guy from that show.

00:53:28.440 Truman Show.

00:53:29.600 No, and like, also, he literally...

00:53:31.720 Because he's autistic. 0.96

00:53:32.360 He has these little things he recites.

00:53:34.440 He will literally recite like the sound bites, the clips that people will use in videos is like, sort of the new version of reaction gift.

00:53:41.780 Like, ew, ew.

00:53:44.300 Like, he keeps saying that one. 0.84

00:53:46.240 And, oh my god, what the hell?

00:53:49.020 Like, all the...

00:53:49.640 Oh my god!

00:53:51.200 He does it all the time.

00:53:53.320 Because he is literally born in YouTube.

00:53:56.300 Like, he is the meme.

00:53:58.040 He is a walking meme.

00:53:59.180 He'll generate his own memes.

00:54:01.100 Like, that spread.

00:54:02.260 Even to like his ABA therapist start doing it.

00:54:04.440 His thing that he coined was...

00:54:06.480 Oh, maybe it didn't.

00:54:07.380 Maybe it did come from YouTube.

00:54:08.520 Yeah, tell me.

00:54:09.260 Chime in the comments if helicopter helicopter was our kid.

00:54:14.240 Or, like, from YouTube.

00:54:15.700 Because maybe this comes from some video, like, I don't know, riffing on whoever made their gender attack helicopter.

00:54:20.640 Though I think Octavian's genuine gender, if he knew it was an option, would be attack helicopter. 0.95

00:54:25.500 Not joking.

00:54:26.340 Attack helicopter would be a cool gender option. 1.00

00:54:28.260 Yeah, if I could choose gender, I would choose attack helicopter. 0.99

00:54:30.840 Shut up, people. 1.00

00:54:32.000 Like, what the heck? 1.00

00:54:33.000 Why don't I get to be...

00:54:34.140 Reminds me when I was a little kid, and my parents said, you can be anything you want when you grow up.

00:54:37.640 So, yeah, why can't I be an attack helicopter?

00:54:39.560 I said, I want to be a Tyrannosaurus rexin.

00:54:41.540 Like, and then I wondered...

00:54:43.100 The Titan would want to be a Tyrannosaurus rexin.

00:54:44.500 Why aren't there more Tyrannosaurus rex?

00:54:46.220 I remember this as a kid.

00:54:47.180 I was like, but if that's true, then why aren't there more Tyrannosaurus rexes around?

00:54:50.580 Like, how do they know if anyone can become one when they grow up?

00:54:54.920 Like, it seems like the obvious thing to want to be when you grow up.

00:54:58.300 Why so many ducks?

00:54:59.620 Why so few Tyrannosauruses?

00:55:01.640 Right?

00:55:02.020 Like...

00:55:02.540 Suspicious.

00:55:03.960 No, we have chickens. 0.98

00:55:05.100 We have dinosaurs.

00:55:07.620 Our kids are so accustomed to the idea of chickens being dinosaurs that this morning when they were playing with toys...

00:55:12.300 I can send you the clip.

00:55:13.420 I even took a video of it.

00:55:14.780 They were just cooking dinosaurs in their play kitchen and then feeding it to each other.

00:55:20.140 Cooking dinosaurs?

00:55:21.240 Yeah, they were cooking dinosaurs.

00:55:23.780 Octavian was shoving it in, setting the oven to 500, broiling it.

00:55:28.060 Makes sense.

00:55:28.780 For dinosaur steak, you'd want it.

00:55:30.800 Of course.

00:55:31.160 No, I mean, they think they eat dinosaurs because we gave them the dinosaur nuggets, right?

00:55:35.740 No, but we tell them that chickens are basically dinosaurs.

00:55:39.440 Which, I mean, they are.

00:55:40.620 Yeah, so they eat dinosaurs.

00:55:42.460 I explained to them.

00:55:43.320 This is what dinosaurs are now.

00:55:45.980 No, no, no.

00:55:47.260 No, no, no.

00:55:47.940 So, I love you to death.

00:55:49.720 I love you, too.

00:55:49.980 For dinner tonight, I am doing something with Pesto, I guess?

00:55:53.220 Yeah.

00:55:54.420 Which I'm excited about.

00:55:55.880 Pesto, pesto, pesto, pesto.

00:55:57.180 I mean, if you want, I could sauté some of the nice steak with it, but I just figure, like, it'd be...

00:56:06.620 Oh, sir!

00:56:09.740 Actually, if I may.

00:56:12.280 We actually do have some of those peppers left.

00:56:14.340 Why don't I just...

00:56:15.180 Well, we have pasta that I need to use, too.

00:56:17.900 Oh, I don't know.

00:56:18.880 If I may.

00:56:19.660 Yeah.

00:56:20.020 If I may.

00:56:20.580 What I'd really like to try with the pesto is the way that we've done the pesto historically is fine, but it's not that good compared to, like, what I would get at a restaurant.

00:56:31.800 Basically, we cook up the pasta, and then we just mix in pesto sauce and cook it a bit more.

00:56:36.600 Sauté it with pesto, yeah.

00:56:37.880 Yeah, what I think would be really nice is to actually, not, like, just...

00:56:43.380 No, we haven't been sautéing it in pesto.

00:56:45.240 We have been cooking it, putting it with pesto in the container where we cooked it in, right?

00:56:52.780 And basically just letting it cook down a bit.

00:56:55.820 Whereas what I think would be really good is if you put the pasta with some pesto and oil in a pan, and you fried it with some pesto.

00:57:05.480 Yeah, that's...

00:57:07.060 I did that the last time we did it, because I discovered that's how restaurants do it.

00:57:10.760 I just...

00:57:11.340 We'll do it again this time, I guess.

00:57:13.280 That sounds fantastic.

00:57:14.320 And if we want to make it really good, could you make it with a fried egg on top?

00:57:22.020 I used up all the eggs we have this morning.

00:57:24.640 Okay, no problem.

00:57:25.240 The chickens aren't laying that much right now.

00:57:26.940 They're not happy.

00:57:27.340 Those eggs you gave me this morning were fantastic, by the way.

00:57:30.180 You did a great job cooking them.

00:57:31.480 I'm glad you liked them.

00:57:32.600 That makes me happy.

00:57:33.340 Well, you really know your stuff.

00:57:34.580 They were seasoned very well, not over-seasoned, not under-seasoned.

00:57:38.840 Hey, I let you know when I'm like, hey, this could do a bit better.

00:57:41.620 That was on point, Simone.

00:57:44.020 Thank you.

00:57:44.740 That makes me glad.

00:57:46.040 Yeah, eggs and homemade banana nut bread with butter.

00:57:49.700 Oh, that was pretty good, too.

00:57:50.740 You really laid on the butter, so that's how you know.

00:57:53.480 Octavian enjoyed it as well.

00:57:54.540 I made the same thing for him, and he's like, I don't want that.

00:57:56.520 That's not going to be good.

00:57:57.340 And I'm like, you just need to try it, and he will discover that you actually like it.

00:58:00.540 And he's like, whoa.

00:58:01.420 And it was just gone.

00:58:03.320 Gone.

00:58:04.180 At least he tried it.

00:58:05.600 Toasty will never try it, because Toasty is me.

00:58:09.460 He is you.

00:58:10.260 You won't try things.

00:58:11.420 I won't.

00:58:11.900 I won't.

00:58:12.280 I'm not putting it in my mouth.

00:58:14.120 Whatever.

00:58:15.200 It's not happening.

00:58:16.260 I'm going to eat five things, and that's it.

00:58:19.700 But I can still make everything for you.

00:58:23.060 And Toasty is just like me, because he's like, Mommy, I want to make waffles for Octavian.

00:58:27.360 And I'm like, no, we're only going to make food that you want to eat.

00:58:30.500 Like, I'm not, because Octavian didn't ask for waffles.

00:58:32.960 He's not going to eat waffles.

00:58:34.600 It's so frustrating.

00:58:35.700 But the solution is you just get a family, and then you make them the food, and they eat

00:58:40.460 the food.

00:58:40.960 And so you get to make the food, and they eat it.

00:58:43.420 Get to make the food.

00:58:44.320 But you used to do this by yourself.

00:58:45.560 You'd bake sweets.

00:58:46.760 Yeah, and then it'd be like, oh, what do I do with this?

00:58:49.000 And I'd have to find someone who would take my baked goods or whatever.

00:58:53.780 Now I have a whole family.

00:58:55.760 It's only going to grow so I can satisfy my fantasies.

00:58:59.520 That's the thing.

00:59:00.500 It's so much better to be married and to have kids and to have people who can, I don't know. 0.91

00:59:05.560 I think one of the greatest sources of happiness is doing kind things for people and making them

00:59:09.680 happy and making their lives good.

00:59:11.420 Because after a certain point, you can't really do more nice things for yourself.

00:59:15.520 And we still do really nice things for ourselves.

00:59:18.640 But that can only go so far.

00:59:20.260 The diminishing marginal returns are real.

00:59:22.940 So then you can only really get further along by doing kind things for other people.

00:59:27.700 Even people we know who are, I would say, professional pleasure maxers.

00:59:33.980 I'm not going to name this one person.

00:59:35.280 But they've discovered that even with no children and even without a spouse, that the only way

00:59:43.400 that they can get additional marginal pleasure is by giving things away to other people.

00:59:52.080 But in this particular case, one person I'm thinking about then just created an ecosystem

00:59:56.640 of scam artists around them because they discovered they could exploit that.

00:59:59.620 You know what I mean?

01:00:01.140 But like, yeah, I think even people who really are seriously taking hedonism, like, will just

01:00:06.400 openly say my life is all about being happy, discover that you have to have other people

01:00:11.160 in your life to max it out after a certain level.

01:00:14.520 So it just shows the folly of this approach.

01:00:18.160 Anyway, I love you, Simone.

01:00:20.240 You are absolutely amazing.

01:00:21.940 So what did you and Octavian do today?

01:00:26.060 Mostly he just got adjusted to the concept of working from a treadmill desk, which he finds

01:00:31.960 delightful.

01:00:33.100 And I think my hypothesis preliminarily is confirmed that especially kids who are more ADHD under

01:00:43.100 the spectrum, and especially young boys who just aren't designed to sit down at a desk and

01:00:50.240 do things work really well with a treadmill desk, especially if they have a secondary screen

01:00:56.780 that's playing stuff that's vaguely interesting to them.

01:00:59.500 So I queued up a playlist on YouTube for a secondary screen that was just the history of helicopters.

01:01:06.560 Then I found really cool old vintage films about the history of helicopters.

01:01:10.480 And so that was playing in the background.

01:01:11.760 And then he was going through his phonics lessons and his math lessons on his other Chromebook,

01:01:21.040 or Torsten's Chromebook, at the same time.

01:01:23.660 And he was really just able, more than ever before, to just actually focus on the work and

01:01:29.360 get it, which was great.

01:01:31.180 That's really cool.

01:01:31.820 You know, watching him work today, I was like, oh, this might really work, right?

01:01:35.360 Like, it might, I don't know.

01:01:38.900 Well, we'll see.

01:01:39.700 I'm probably wrong and terrible at all of this.

01:01:41.840 But like, I know that for me, having a secondary screen playing something that I mostly ignore

01:01:46.500 and walking keeps the demons at bay.

01:01:49.400 It feeds them.

01:01:50.300 It feeds the chaos monkeys.

01:01:51.740 And so you don't have, they don't, they leave you alone.

01:01:54.580 And then all that's left is just you and your focus.

01:01:57.440 It's so nice.

01:01:58.520 Okay.

01:01:59.380 All right.

01:01:59.980 I, I actually make this for your mom.

01:02:05.300 Don't forget I made this for you.

01:02:07.340 I really like it, Octavian.

01:02:08.880 Thank you.

01:02:09.460 Yeah, yeah.

01:02:09.740 You actually tried to work my best to make you.

01:02:13.420 Oh, I'm, I'm, I really like it.

01:02:16.520 I love the American flag and the British flag.

01:02:19.180 What's the, what's the good team?

01:02:21.000 This team.

01:02:21.880 And why is it the best team?

01:02:23.280 Because we love America, because we love America and it's so great that it keeps us safe enough

01:02:35.180 that I really, really, really want to make this for mom because I think it would want to be happy.

01:02:44.120 And I wonder when that remote, the remote for the vortex, for the vortex must be for a future day for us.

01:02:52.980 And I actually, um, tried, yeah, and I actually made this also out of nine nits.

01:03:03.080 Magnet tiles.

01:03:04.100 Yeah, nine nits, yeah, nine nits tiles.

01:03:05.980 I absolutely love it.

01:03:07.680 It looks super awesome.

01:03:09.040 And thank you.

01:03:10.000 High five, buddy.

01:03:10.560 It walks right there, as you can see.

01:03:13.540 Love you.

01:03:14.120 Target blocks right there.

01:03:15.120 Target blocks, oh yeah, there they are.

01:03:16.920 Yeah, there they are.

01:03:17.720 There they are.

01:03:18.320 And here's a dog.

01:03:19.840 A dog?

01:03:20.400 Wait, where?

01:03:21.000 Yeah, you see, see that?

01:03:22.060 Where's the dog?

01:03:23.060 Yeah, see that?

01:03:23.560 Oh, the dog's on the, yeah, there he is.

01:03:25.680 Look at that.

01:03:26.480 Yeah, and a little sniper right there.

01:03:29.540 A sniper, nice.

01:03:31.380 Yeah, nice.

01:03:32.060 The road sign.

01:03:32.700 I made a sniper right here, right here.

01:03:35.160 Yeah.

01:03:35.600 Yeah.

01:03:35.860 There's a death sign on because you made a death sign.

01:03:39.540 A death sign, yeah, where's the death sign?

01:03:41.440 There's a restricted zone right here.

01:03:43.120 Yeah, restricted zone.

01:03:44.120 Yeah.

01:03:45.120 Um, Toasty can help me find it.

01:03:47.000 I, I know there's a death sign somewhere.

01:03:48.520 But there's a camouflage, I mean, right here.

01:03:50.120 This is the medical tent.

01:03:51.460 That's good.

01:03:52.300 Yeah, toasty.

01:03:52.680 We need that in case people get hurt, right?

01:03:55.040 Yeah.

01:03:55.320 Where is the death sign?

01:03:56.320 I don't know.

01:03:57.320 Maybe it's hidden inside, Toasty, which is good.

01:03:59.320 We don't want all the hazardous materials to be available to everyone, right, buddy?

01:04:02.320 Yeah.

01:04:03.320 The death sign?

01:04:04.320 The, you mean?

01:04:05.320 Yeah.

01:04:06.320 Yeah, the death sign.

01:04:07.320 The death sign is inside?

01:04:08.320 Yeah, well, they, you should hide the hazardous materials deep inside the building, right?

01:04:13.320 It's more secure.

01:04:14.320 Because they will not know and they will win because of that.

01:04:19.320 Bye!

01:04:20.700 Bye!

Based Camp - January 02, 2026

Some Girls Are Opting Out of Marriage; Others, Sex： What Determines Which？

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